I found this interview fascinating. I can't judge his sincerity. But having read many news reports including some by his AP, just left with the paradox dilemma that he still has some major gaps to heal and reconcile those relationships. Last night I attended my cousin's wake. 18 years ago, he had a DDay with his wife at the time which included a love child. He lost his marriage, his relationships with his children, his job. He did not abandon his love child and tried to be a devoted father to her though he did not marry her mother. His wife, sweet woman, made the decision to focus on her 5 children than on saving her marriage. My cousin was devastated and heartbroken. His daughter was 18 at the time of disclosure. Had difficulty with handling her parents divorce and she committed suicide shortly after the divorce. Ronnie took that hard too. He spent his years after the divorce in depression, his health deteriorating and trying to salvage his relationships with his children though he died without achieving that. I honestly think he died from a broken heart paying ultimate price for his unfaithfulness
Thanks for sharing your story Tullian. I guess what I'm always left feeling confused about is why is the unfaithful so caught up in an emotional spiral of guilt and shame when they are the ones who chose the behavior. Do they not have the ability to count the cost before they make the decision to be unfaithful? That is not meant to be a bash, or to cause more shame and guilt it's just a sincere question I have.
@@n.howell980 I'm not sure. My husband tells me he really wasn't thinking clearly. He says now that he's been working recovery for 2 years he looks back and thinks to himself what an idiot he was. I just can't seem to wrap my brain around it all. Maybe I'm trying to make sense of something that will never make sense.
Don't they all think, "THAT won't happen to me. MY situation is completely different. It's not really cheating because....." We all rationalize away the things we really want, in the moment. We all allow our desires to get the best of us.
Derek Tigue Makes me happy to hear that you took proactive measures to begin healing yourself and others by telling on yourself. That seems to be a rare event though. .. Maybe we could understand at least a little bit if someone explained it. If a person continues self reflecting and expressing their periodic new insights that further helps in the recovery of injured parties. God Bless You.
Success is far more dangerous than failure I've been on both sides of these realities. And never put it together so perfectly said ty for the helping testimony.
affairs that produce children are even worse my nephew is that marginalized lonely child nobody in the family wants anything to do with, I’m so grieved over that
I went on the online courses link, and I can only find courses for the betrayed spouse, not the betrayer...can you point me in the right direction to take courses as the unfaithful?
Powerful! Tullian's books have greatly aided my spiritual growth, that's why it broke heart when I heard of his story in 2015. But I always believed God is faithful to forgive. Just as king David was reconciled to God, so will Tullian. Though yes, the consequences could exist for a lifetime.
Typically when a person is truly humbled and repentant, his appearance is usually in line with being humbled. I've followed Tullian situation for some time and between his behavior on Twitter and his flaunting of his biceps in front of an audience I'm not buying his sob story. And the fact that you not only gave him a platform for his pseudo-apology tour but appear to take him seriously, is pathetic and embarrassing for both you and him.
Perhaps it might be wise for the channel to remove this video, it might offend some betrayed spouses...He says he felt suicidal for an entire year but then remarried within months after that, I wonder?...
I think it would really help him to pull away from the spotlight all together. Get some help. Sex Addicts Anonymous would really help this man. I don't hear humility in him. Don't say past tense..... I did this back then. "I am a sex addict", would really help him. Work the steps. Get some help
May I say as a Atheist family it's an little disheartening to hear him say God was the only reason he survived. So should I give up on my husband or can mortal men be forgiven and go through this without God. Because honestly I can't take another blow after losing my mother, and brother in law, betrayed by my sister and best friend and have these two spread rumors tell my hubby's family I didn't really have cancer which I did, calling child protective services with Lies calling the police to say he was beating me and much more within months. I can't imagine a god who would treat me this way when have always been so kind to my friends and others and to be dealing with my husband's affairs during all this. I hell like one cracked. Help for us is so hard to find in Australia. I wish there was more help
My heart breaks for you. So much evil in this world that want to see us fail. I completely understand blameing God for your surcomstances. If he is so powerful then how come he didnt stop this? Why wont he controls other actions and words so i dont get hurt? As a mom i realized that i want to control my kids words and actions but i cant. They are there own and they will make choices and i can only be there to hold them when things fall apart. I believe God lets people make their own choices yet is there to hold us. We are free to live the life we creat and deal with struggle of life that we dont creat. Creat boundaries and know that your worth is great. Im so sorry that your family disregarded your health. Thats so hard to heal when your not being cared for. A great book is "intimate Deception ". Also they do have so many online resources on affair recovery. I completely understand not having enough good resources around me and learing that i was going to work that much harder to find help. Makes the recovery that much more valuable to me. I hope and pray that you find peace and healing. You deserve that and more.
Note that he didn’t feel free when he was gathering support by telling only part of the story. I believe that betrayers, as well as their victims and other loved ones, will never be fully free until betrayers tell the WHOLE story to your loved ones.. God loves you and is waiting for you to stop lying by omission, false positivity, and failure to self reflect. God is waiting for you to free yourself and to free those whom have been traumatized.
i am the betrayed, i tried to kill myself twice, when i figured out about the affair. and drug it out of him. i think back now, my only friend and confidante, and still is, is GOD. or i prob wouldnt be alive, and where i am now. much better but still struggling.my husband is trying so hard, sometimes i dont make it easy for him. most times. i feel like my husband took me down as low as you can get and GOD is and will always good and bad be there to carry me through it. my husband is trying to build me up, but i dont trust him. prob wont ever again to a point. but GOD I TRUST
God has to be your rock. For better or worse, you married a sinner. He married one as well because we are told in the Bible that we all fall short. I don’t know your situation in particular, but I know a marriage is made with two imperfect people. You work over the years to make a strong bond and something went wrong for you. Forgiveness is a process and this is still working out for both of you. You will, if you work on it, forgive him and rebuild trust. He will forgive you and himself for the suicide attempts and the brokenness that has divided you, but please work together. He chose you. Let God help you both heal and as Rick tells us, this too can pass! Thank God!
I played bass for his new sanctuary church. Wonderful guy, wonderful church. Miss you Tully, -Nick
I found this interview fascinating. I can't judge his sincerity. But having read many news reports including some by his AP, just left with the paradox dilemma that he still has some major gaps to heal and reconcile those relationships.
Last night I attended my cousin's wake. 18 years ago, he had a DDay with his wife at the time which included a love child. He lost his marriage, his relationships with his children, his job. He did not abandon his love child and tried to be a devoted father to her though he did not marry her mother. His wife, sweet woman, made the decision to focus on her 5 children than on saving her marriage. My cousin was devastated and heartbroken. His daughter was 18 at the time of disclosure. Had difficulty with handling her parents divorce and she committed suicide shortly after the divorce. Ronnie took that hard too. He spent his years after the divorce in depression, his health deteriorating and trying to salvage his relationships with his children though he died without achieving that. I honestly think he died from a broken heart paying ultimate price for his unfaithfulness
I do not subscribe to faith but I enjoyed this video. Thank you so much! Samuel, Rick, and Samantha you are our heroes.
Thanks for sharing your story Tullian. I guess what I'm always left feeling confused about is why is the unfaithful so caught up in an emotional spiral of guilt and shame when they are the ones who chose the behavior. Do they not have the ability to count the cost before they make the decision to be unfaithful? That is not meant to be a bash, or to cause more shame and guilt it's just a sincere question I have.
Anna Mary i feel like its more the pain, shame & headache of being caught that they feel.
@@n.howell980 I'm not sure. My husband tells me he really wasn't thinking clearly. He says now that he's been working recovery for 2 years he looks back and thinks to himself what an idiot he was. I just can't seem to wrap my brain around it all. Maybe I'm trying to make sense of something that will never make sense.
Don't they all think, "THAT won't happen to me. MY situation is completely different. It's not really cheating because....." We all rationalize away the things we really want, in the moment. We all allow our desires to get the best of us.
It’s not about being caught. I told on myself. It’s deeper than that an unless you’ve gone through it you won’t understand.
Derek Tigue Makes me happy to hear that you took proactive measures to begin healing yourself and others by telling on yourself. That seems to be a rare event though. .. Maybe we could understand at least a little bit if someone explained it. If a person continues self reflecting and expressing their periodic new insights that further helps in the recovery of injured parties. God Bless You.
I found myself saying “Hallelujah” & “Amen” through the entire interview. This was The Bomb 💣!!!!!!
Success is far more dangerous than failure I've been on both sides of these realities. And never put it together so perfectly said ty for the helping testimony.
This is a great interview. For Tullian to tell the whole story. Blessed. God loves us all.
Powerful video spoke to my heart...thanks for sharing
Congrats on 30k subs
You deserve a million!
This was great. I’m the betrayed and enjoyed this content.
affairs that produce children are even worse my nephew is that marginalized lonely child nobody in the family wants anything to do with, I’m so grieved over that
2 years later and he’s doing it again….
I went on the online courses link, and I can only find courses for the betrayed spouse, not the betrayer...can you point me in the right direction to take courses as the unfaithful?
sure, here is the course for the unfaithful spouse: www.affairrecovery.com/product/hope-for-healing
I hope you can continue to step back and understand that God is way bigger than the sin. His Will goes beyond our sin.
Powerful! Tullian's books have greatly aided my spiritual growth, that's why it broke heart when I heard of his story in 2015. But I always believed God is faithful to forgive. Just as king David was reconciled to God, so will Tullian. Though yes, the consequences could exist for a lifetime.
I do hope this is true, that he has gotten his life right with God, after reading the testimony of Tullian's affair partner Rachel.
One word ..DYNAMIC! Thank you so very much.
This was awesome!!!
Typically when a person is truly humbled and repentant, his appearance is usually in line with being humbled. I've followed Tullian situation for some time and between his behavior on Twitter and his flaunting of his biceps in front of an audience I'm not buying his sob story. And the fact that you not only gave him a platform for his pseudo-apology tour but appear to take him seriously, is pathetic and embarrassing for both you and him.
Yikes, ✌❤
Wow
Perhaps it might be wise for the channel to remove this video, it might offend some betrayed spouses...He says he felt suicidal for an entire year but then remarried within months after that, I wonder?...
I think it would really help him to pull away from the spotlight all together. Get some help. Sex Addicts Anonymous would really help this man. I don't hear humility in him. Don't say past tense..... I did this back then. "I am a sex addict", would really help him. Work the steps. Get some help
Very helpful
May I say as a Atheist family it's an little disheartening to hear him say God was the only reason he survived. So should I give up on my husband or can mortal men be forgiven and go through this without God. Because honestly I can't take another blow after losing my mother, and brother in law, betrayed by my sister and best friend and have these two spread rumors tell my hubby's family I didn't really have cancer which I did, calling child protective services with Lies calling the police to say he was beating me and much more within months. I can't imagine a god who would treat me this way when have always been so kind to my friends and others and to be dealing with my husband's affairs during all this. I hell like one cracked. Help for us is so hard to find in Australia. I wish there was more help
My heart breaks for you. So much evil in this world that want to see us fail. I completely understand blameing God for your surcomstances. If he is so powerful then how come he didnt stop this? Why wont he controls other actions and words so i dont get hurt? As a mom i realized that i want to control my kids words and actions but i cant. They are there own and they will make choices and i can only be there to hold them when things fall apart. I believe God lets people make their own choices yet is there to hold us. We are free to live the life we creat and deal with struggle of life that we dont creat. Creat boundaries and know that your worth is great. Im so sorry that your family disregarded your health. Thats so hard to heal when your not being cared for. A great book is "intimate Deception ". Also they do have so many online resources on affair recovery. I completely understand not having enough good resources around me and learing that i was going to work that much harder to find help. Makes the recovery that much more valuable to me. I hope and pray that you find peace and healing. You deserve that and more.
There is a truism about faith i.e. it provides hope however real or fake. U would have find some other hope, maybe in a person, or group
I think this is very sad. I'm sorry this happened to you. I think the problem is everybody is always me me me. In the end me-me-me will shatter.
OMG so much time talking about himself. Thought I'd never "get" to the issues.
Never gets boring or irrelevant
Note that he didn’t feel free when he was gathering support by telling only part of the story. I believe that betrayers, as well as their victims and other loved ones, will never be fully free until betrayers tell the WHOLE story to your loved ones.. God loves you and is waiting for you to stop lying by omission, false positivity, and failure to self reflect. God is waiting for you to free yourself and to free those whom have been traumatized.
i am the betrayed, i tried to kill myself twice, when i figured out about the affair. and drug it out of him. i think back now, my only friend and confidante, and still is, is GOD. or i prob wouldnt be alive, and where i am now. much better but still struggling.my husband is trying so hard, sometimes i dont make it easy for him. most times. i feel like my husband took me down as low as you can get and GOD is and will always good and bad be there to carry me through it. my husband is trying to build me up, but i dont trust him. prob wont ever again to a point. but GOD I TRUST
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God has to be your rock. For better or worse, you married a sinner. He married one as well because we are told in the Bible that we all fall short. I don’t know your situation in particular, but I know a marriage is made with two imperfect people. You work over the years to make a strong bond and something went wrong for you. Forgiveness is a process and this is still working out for both of you. You will, if you work on it, forgive him and rebuild trust. He will forgive you and himself for the suicide attempts and the brokenness that has divided you, but please work together. He chose you. Let God help you both heal and as Rick tells us, this too can pass! Thank God!
He just like his grandfather the late billy graham