Would you consider posting a separate video clip of the first 17:40 minutes of this livestream that can be more easily shared? It was some of the most profound wisdom anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse should hear. What you said in this came to me directly after finding out my husband squandered our tax refund on porn chats, money which we were supposed to use to file bankruptcy. Thousands of dollars and our last chance to clear up his massive debt mess, just gone. He's been unemployed for seven months, so we're completely broke otherwise. Divorce is in the works, but I'm terrified, having never been on my own before. Being courageous is the only way I'm going to be able to move forward.
Thank u for all that u do I am 62 and I was with my narc husband for 38 years I walked away from everything and I am starting over you are so right when you said be courageous I can add to that no one is coming to save u no one is going to get u out of bed u must be brave I am a warrior now and I will fight for my existence in the crazy world we live in fight on people
@dollybigmomma I'm 50 in July. My porn addicted, mentally handicapped, sassy, snarky, shame-blaming, neglectful and recently developed into a physical abuser control freak that spent all our 30 years of investment and savings on trying to 'FIND A SECOND WIFE! ' YEAH this dude after 30 years I thought I knew him thought madly in love, but he's been talking about his own death (claims he was shown a premature death for himself) for past 7 been dealing with a total stranger now.
BTW I am a codependent and have CPTSD, from the narcissistic family I grew up in. t took me to age 72 to find out why I felt so like the doggie in the window all my life. I am so so glad to be getting free, no matter how small the % is. Keep up the good teaching Richard. You are wonderful. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Me too darlin', me too. Not giving you platitudes or any bs. It's a lonely place to be whether you're alone or not. Something most of us learn on our own is that if you haven't experienced this you cannot understand it. A very few may try, value their efforts if so. Screw the rest, the ones who want the old you back but just want you to shake it off, get over it, move on. They'll be gone anyway, in my lives experience and you'll be better at seeing who is really in your corner and who ain't. I have a couple actual real friends, that's it, 2 actually but still pretty much alone. Richard is a gem for us w 3 pennies in our pockets. He's a good teacher and helps you feel a little less hopeless that's a place to start. He also gives great advice about what real recovery entails. There is nothing easy n breezy here. Some say you're not alone, in a sense you aren't. Since nobody will understand this we are all we have. But I took know what it feels like to be alone in the world. Wishing you peace and strength.
Best message ever "I expect u to be courageous"...we tend to be a victim and want someone else to save us...I agree 100% we need to take action, we need to be courageous.
The love of money is the curse.The love of money comes before people’s health, people’s heart, people’s need. There is no longer a soul in that money lover. Blinded by greed and blinded by power. Be glad you have eyes to see this sickening existence. Be grateful you are more developed than these childish, selfish, creatures.
I live in the US. It’s very disheartening to be here. Your words have helped me. I feel like courage is what saves us from the abyss. I can’t cave to the hopelessness and helplessness. Thank you Richard.
Wow, I am human. I am very much an independent thinker. This session has brought me to tears. Yes, Satin is working overtime. Thank you, Richard God bless you!
Being good and being kind aren't always synonymous. Authentic kindness is best displayed in adversity, but people can forfeit your kindness, with their actions, without compromising your goodness.
Powerful. Yes I tesent my conniving Narc husband. I've been living 42 years In he'll with the verbal abuse. I have to keep telling myself I'm not Who he says I am. It's like living in a nightmare not knowing when the volcano will erupt. I am and will walk the avenue you suggest. It's extremely tuff to rearrange my Crown after every attack of insanity. I appreciate and thank you for your encouragement. Blessings
@caroleminke6116 yep. At least I loved myself at one point ( before meeting him), but the disordered never did. It was my first, and it would be my last relationship.
Thank you. Absolutely. I am very sure of my beliefs as a Christian. That's the truth in me since I gave my life to the Lord age 20 (now 52). And I am not going to be swayed anymore into living outside my identity as a child of God. I'm going to be strong. Courageous. And be kind. Yes clean up code of conduct as a Christian, escape the matrix. If my boyfriend isn't happy with that, yes, I'll be heartbroken if he leaves me, but I cant go on comprising who I am in Christ. Thank you.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻Amen! Prayers for you. I know there are quite a few Christians on Richard’s channel. He has helped us all so much and I pray for him that God makes Himself aware to Richard✝️
@RebeccaLStamm thank you! Yes I started praying for him while listening. Watched all of this just to have a break from all the end time church stuff on You Tube. Thought I'd be brave to listen and it's helped. Thank you Richard.
Wow! The last bit hit me hard. When you described what was done to you. Kicked, spat, punched, belittled,gaslighted was everything i went through, she said it was because she needed me to feel as much pain as her. I tried harder too until one day she exclaimed the she herself might be a narcissist. Not knowing exactly which she meant, i said maybe you are, which made her a wee bit mad. This made me search for narcissistic behaviour traits and found your videos Richard. She's moved out and I'm beginning to heal, thanks a lot to your videos. Keep up the great work. Thank you.
The pandemic helped me so much after seeing how weak and pathetic people were, and how they just fell into line. This made me realise how tough I really was as I stood up and refused to play the game!
You're not a narcissist by any means AND you don't need me to tell you that. You were one of the first narcissistic awareness channels and have helped me and so many others.
I also belange to and listened to Richard since the days his channel started. He is one of the best life Coaches I am grateful for, after a life riddled with narcs
I agree! Keep up you are helping me and others. God Bless you and May the Holy Spirit continue to assist you in freeing God's Chosen from the grasp of Evil!
Same. It's the grief of realizing that person is not who you thought they were. That your interaction with that person wasn't even honest communication.
@@brigitte2217 We need to BECOME in order to silence the narcs God voice and death voice. Learn a skill and become good at it. Become an active person once again. ❤️
I can’t thank you enough Richard for being so blunt open about what to do. Because no one told me what you have told so openly. I am so brainwashed and abused that my thinking itself was confused.
I have CPTSD from childhood and I'm a veteran served 2 tours in the gulf and I'm a survivor of narc abuse. I can't do the reading part of the job because I'm severe dislecsic and I can't see most of the words.. I've tried to adapt and overcome by printing the pages at the library so I can use the red plastic cover but it doesn't go in. So I depend on TH-cam and other media sources. I've come to terms with it now I am a survivor not a victim. I've had my "breakthrough" in the shower this morning, I cried for the first time since the may day weekend. People are telling me who she's moved on with and I'm saying please stop now its like ripping off a scab and letting bleed over and over again. It's like secondary abuse, she's still getting to me although she doesn't know it. Since going no contact she's stopped me from seeing our girls which has really butchered me. I've grieved for the loss of a life I once knew and later grieved for the loss of my daughters. Everyone says they'll come round eventually but she's done a reap number on them, and she lies to them repeatedly until they are blindsided and begin to believe it. The last time this happened I went back because it affected our eldest that much she needed therapy. I went back and became her target again and our daughter got better. I knew it wouldn't last I has gut feelings that it would go belly up again so much so that for the 3 years I was back there I still kept up the child maintenance services payment. Every time I gave her money I would reference it CMS so there is a paper trail and she can't accuse me of not providing for our daughters like she did last time when I was paying her in cash. Together she got £250 per week now I'm unable to work due to mental health getting so bad I had a flashback at work I'm on benefits while I heal and I hope to return to work but she gets just £30 per week and I feel awful about it. But that's what the CMS said to pay her. Going no contact for me was a double edged sword it both made things better but also worse. I miss our daughters so much! But this grief will pass or I'll become numb to it. I need to focus now on the laws of impermanence and I know the sun in my world will rise again. Then when I reach a point I can focus on learning to be on my own and love myself and be happy with who I am. We are all made in the gods meant us to be and that's perfect imperfections in their form. And that's fine, that's simply gleaming. Remember the bad times did out weigh the good times and even though we tend to focus on the positive you have to have perspective and that's how I will get through this.
You are brave. You are not alone. Thank you for sharing your story. One step at a time and forge ahead. Yes it is temporary and yes you are doing great! Sounds like you realize what’s going on and know it wont work Or mak it better if you put your needs on hold. Even for your daughter, its tough bc she will make seperation five times worse then it has to be and all you can do is keep on topic, if you have to communicate about the kids, get some hobbies you can deep dive on youtube, like the temples in india and near and around there is pretty captivating. Do not think about her. Pray for your girls or send them blessing how ever you do when you think of them think of you and them having lunch and laughing. Bc they too have realized why you did what you did and left. Picture them looking at you and saying “i get it dad, its ok. Mom is delusional. Keep your mind occupied with other stuff and keep busy, exercise daily so you will sleep better. Learn to direct your thoughts to stay off of her and one step at a time. You got this.
This is a very powerful video and you speak with such depth of feeling. Thank you so much. I watched one video of yours where you said stop watching videos on narcissists but I am still finding wisdom from you and Sam!
❤Thank you Richard for the superb work in helping create positive awareness. An end to all forms of abuse of power ❤😂 No slavery, no puppetery! You can fall in Love or in Lust with the Devil at your own peril. I survived and I learned about Narcisism 🎉if you are strong enough to maintain your integrity and stay in your quiet happiness/kind/humble with Love for God yourself the universe and others. He/she will enjoy you as a toy in their game of cat and mouse with an end to your demise😮😅
Dear wise Richard- your words are beautiful. People like you should be political and spiritual leaders. You have been my guru for quite a while. Thank you! Keep up the good work!
"A celui qui a, on donnera encore. A celui qui n'en a pas, on otera même ce qu'il a". On prend souvent cela dans le monde évangélique pour justifier le mal qu'ils font aux plus pauvres.
Aw Richard you are such a sensitive soul, we must learn how to guard our hearts ♥️ I don’t know how to do it myself but I am learning everyday. Boundaries are the best and something that I am working on everyday. I do feel the same way malignant psychopathy is rampant. It’s fucking nuts
Funny, my past got me into arms training. For self defense due to threats. Now I educate other women as well. The only reason I got into it was to feel more secure in my life. It is crazy how many women end up arming themselves bcs of being threatened bcs of intimate partner abuse. For me I learned every detail I needed and continue to practice. I found strength I never knew I had, and counseling that was as vital. This is a reality check, stay Calm and Carry on! Forewarned is prepared! Have it before you need it, Training, I mean whatever that is to you!! For me professional arms training it was hard but boy, have I got it!!! Be Courageous Indeed!!!
I really became unkind last night to my x. I was so, so triggered by the toxic relationship and being lied to and disrespected. I couldn't control my emotions, feeling so brutally used and discarded. Social media is a brutal place - he is everywhere. my heart is so hurt, and my ego is so hurt. my bank account is so hurt. all the hopes. promises. but also the simple things that were so nice between us. So I am feeling deep loss, missing him, and also absolute fury.
I see you Richard. Thank you truly for all the work that you are doing. Without your videos I would probably still be ruminating about the narcissist that I have encountered, staying buried alive, yet zombified, living days to no end, waiting for the torture of my mind to cease, although the relationship has long ended. The last reconciliation actually acured, because I couldn't get that person out of my head. Guided with your talks, I am stepping, no worries, closer towards me, I'm not following you blindly. I simply feel encouraged by your mere presence, and the truthness with which you talk and present yourself. Deeply grateful 🙏💙
Very good advice.. Moved me to hear it. I'm trying to not be so giving, he took took n took.. Where was my mind 😢 helping others constantly.. Felt good but waiting for him to say, you've given enough.. Never happened.. 😢 It's my fault, but I was in sm kind of trance I felt at the time..
So on point for me to hear this tonight. As a 74 year old female It would be all too easy to seek the comfortable so called " easy life"and give in to an emotionally abusive relationship.Thank you Richard for this timely reminder!
I just want to say I love your message in this video: YOU ARE A GREAT HUMAN. I think you are saving many lives since you have become a coach and this is no little thing !I listen to all your videos and I see the light. Also, I keep in mind your advice "You dont want us_the survivors spend all the future time in reading and listening about narcissistic and psychopathic abuse. " 100% true....once we fight and find a way to see the light again, we must start living our best lives!Chapeau!
Wow, this is deep and resonates with me wholly, in thought and spirit. I cannot hold back standing back from immoral bullies and then being scapegoated by those with no desire to hear the blatant truth. I am betrayed and disrespected but ascyou said, we must be courageous and go alone if necessary. I refuse to be cowardly despite the blows and negation of fairness, it disappoints me with family and disgusts me when the collective follow controlling,arrogant bullies,as with one ancient scripture "with such people do not even eat", id add, even if it means eating alone.
Incredible. Started listening with intention of “Sharing” with a particular friend. While passively listening, you went silent. That got my attention. Thought something was wrong with my device. Realized you were still rolling and nothing was wrong with the sound. From that point, you had my full attention. One of the best videos I’ve listened to. Absolutely incredible. Inspirational. Never laughed, cried, feared and finally inspired by any other movie/video/seminar/webinar/etc. I have saved this video and plan on listening to It again and again. Thank you.
Google Scholar lol 😆 🤣 fantastic. I enjoy listening to your voice. Very calming and empowering. YOUR videos are full of wonderful information for anyone who is or has been subjected to narcissistic abuse. Healing is hard but the payoff is priceless. thank you for sharing 🙏
Thank you, brother! You are a true gentleman and a scholar. you are a wonderful human being Richard. We appreciate you so much! literally brings a tear to my eye watching this, you tell it so true and it hits home hard man. You are one of the good ones mate!
Retired my classification as scapegoat 5 months ago. It was very tough. But I focused all I had on me and loads of self love. Walking .. letting go for 5 months. Listening to my intuition my body and what it needs. Total focus. The anxiety came and I breathed through it until it had no power. The more I said I was happy the more my family pulled away. I got it...I saw it for what it was. Truth. I placed my boundaries. There they are grounded daily. Was it tough .. hell yes. But I pulled back my power. I am better than their fears. No medication. I decided that years ago. Incorporated the shadow. I feel free! I feel light. Things are coming into my life now more than I could imagine. I am grateful! I am me. I found me again. When things come up and people try to pull me into their drama I stand in my power and walk away. If they cannot respect me than I don't want that in my life. Thank you Richard. Your videos have truly helped to set my mind straight. ❤
Thank you for existing Richard. Thank you for your efforts. I believe God Allah helps us through his Good people. And in sha Allah you are one of them. Yes if we don't bring a positive change for ourselves no one can help us. As believers we need reminders and I was in need of these reminders that you have given us. May Allah bless you and protect you. Ameen ❤
Thank you Richard you are right. Need to remove myself from my narcissist husband, he has a narcissistic mistress bullshit has been going on for 8 months. I know i need to get help. Thank you for your empowerment without explanation…. Have already seen what you are saying. Do not want to hurt husband…I just want peace
Parentification, which you mention as being positioned into the fathering role, is a huge and profound issue in toxic relationships. And it goes beyond playing a parenting role. Being the "bigger person," or being some kind of steward of a child, or being the responsible adult to a mentally deranged person, all of these are types of parentification. They play on guilt, they play on pity, they play on a sense of moral duty, and we always end up "carrying" the toxic person, spiritually and psychologically. Additionally, being put into a father/mother role also means that you cannot access your anger fully, just as one can't get totally angry at a child, because it's a child. You wouldn't go to full on war with your own child. Similarly, the more you're psychologically in that "parent" position, the more compassion you have for the toxic person as something of lesser agency, the less you're able to access the kind of real anger, blame, pain, and hatred, that the abuse inflicted. Compassion in this case, compassion for them, becomes a kind of bypass that prevents healing.
You can go further and see that the parental role they pressure you into is also a perversion of what a parent is, because a parent has power - the power to discipline, the power to instruct, the power over resources. But in the parentification position, we are powerless, because they can't be taught anything. They want a perverted form of parenting, unconditional love, unconditional approval, unconditional enabling, etc. So that role of parent can't even be embodied anyway.
I feel the same. I’ve realized what I’ve felt all along that my parents are narcissists and so are my siblings. They lie and gaslight and connive and force their agendas. And then they talk about God and forgiveness.
Unplug From the Matrix was a little bit depressing. I really enjoyed the discussions, but the people in the group were so sad. I didn't feel that way because I knew I was getting at the truth. I found it liberating, and have moved on to sign up with Lisa A. Romano. It is not an easy course either. Your new course sounds like it is inviting me back to take your new course. I love confronting these truths. It's delightful getting free👏👏👏
beautifully put richard with true spiritual perspective. i heard between your lines the depth of perception and knowing what's really going on thankyou take care my friend
I needed to hear this. Thank you for being so brutally honest. You are the only one who has the courage to speak the truth. I dont want to be stuck anymore. I have been telling myself to endure the pain dont give in. I will get off my ass and stop feeling for myself. I appreciate you very much. I may have let this whole experience consume me. Iay have lived in a poor me attitude and never healed. I want to be free. I am ready to be free of all this. There is no pain ads staying the same. Thank you.
I love your videos and your understanding of the topic. Only people who have survived narcs understand how damaging and devastating they are, but what I love the most about your insights is that you focus on the personal growth of the survivor instead of on the narcissist. There's plenty of videos, books, information about the disorder we can have access to educate ourselves but we need to get our energy and attention back to what matters the most: our healing, protecting ourselves from those types of behaviors/ people and growing stronger. Thank you for accomplishing it in a smart and empathetic way 🎉❤👌💪🤩. Big hug from Virginia, USA!
I’ve dreamed of that quiet place too. I am going to manifest it, and turn my property into “that quiet place” one day soon….or at least my version of that dream place 😉☯️💪🔥🥰🦋 Excellent video…wish I was able to make it to the live earlier. You always speak so much wisdom…I had to send this one to BOTH my sons. Thank you for your time and thoughts ❤️☯️💪🔥🖖☮️🦋
DAMIT!!..thought I was doing good, and was healing and I’m being tough by not crying or getting mad during this one….almost cracked and cried when you did, but was strong……then you said good night, and I broke 🤷🏻♀️🤯😭😭😭😭🤷🏻♀️idk wtf!??!! 🤦♀️🤷🏻♀️
Ur presence is so congruent with ur message & i respect & greatly appreciate all ur efforts, thanku for giving me inspiration & hope that i can live with integrity ❤
Thank you dear man...the battle of nobody wins and everyone that matters loses has broken my heart as well...for what it's worth I'll not stay here any longer, you are a good man❤❤❤
Please do a vid on people who disown the humanity in them. In light of recent events its not just world leaders its also people in comments sections that are saying things soo easily leaves u thinking there's nothing inside them.
I think current society where women have to work 24/7 is built thinking like women are physically men. Because men only have day-night cycle in their body. But women also have menstrational cycle, and it has periods when woman needs to relax more and is more tired, when she has more energy and when she is more emotional and so on... And if she doesnt respect that cycle her body has it will mess her hormones and health up. Its same if a person never sleeped enought and stayed up every night. There is a reason why in current day and age women have 80% of autoimmune disases. Work force needs to be changed in a way that it respects females menstrational cycles. Same way it respects peoples day and night cycles. And also obiously women should be allowed to be stay at home wifes and mothers if they want to do so.
Wow this was a breath of fresh air too read, this is 100% true! Women need to honour their body and cycles and should be warranted and respected and understood imperatively! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This was a great video Richard! Especially the last part. So so good. 💛 Thank you. I also love it when you talk about religion, faith, spirituality. I love that you get what the intention of the religions are, yet understand that it still falls short. I haven’t met many people who can see the good, recognize the bad, and still know that we need our spirituality/faith to survive and be healthy. ❤️much love
Thank you so much 👍 I just started reading the book about CPTSD you recommended and it's so eye-opening 😮 you're right it's important to educate ourselves and therapy helps a great deal too. I will survive and thrive 💪 but watching your video is also a good inspiration and often a good laugh. Thank you for your sense of humor. Life is not easy but thank God we can laugh about it.
Thank you. I’ve got court to extend a protective order tomorrow and I’m feeling unbelievably stressed and unsure. I know I made the right decision and I know my children want peace and safety with some much needed stability mixed in. I know fighting this monster head on is the only way I’m going to be able to give that to them. I know they depend on me to be strong and protect them from the psychotic world we live in, but they/we also lived in a home with a psychotic up until he abandoned us almost five months ago. He came back trying to fight his way back into this home but it was too late. They felt peace and love and joy everyday for four months instead of fear anxiety and sadness and they said no! We all said no. But now the real war has begun and I’ve got nothing to fight with except the truth. I’m not a sick mess anymore and he knows it, but now he’s turned me into a supervillain with powers like manipulation and forcing movements with my mind or some nonsense 😂. He’s truly lost it. He’s a felon for attacking me so many times and I’m the abuser, he’s the victim? Wow! You’ve got to do some crazy mental gymnastics to come up with a scenario where that makes sense. His mother is the one who’s tired since it’s her mythology. I just need to make it through this week and I’ll keep on taking one day at a time taking one step at a time as they go by. Please keep me in your prayers and wish me luck. To all of you victims out there, remember you’re not a victim. You were victimized but when it’s over it’s over. Be something more and stop letting your victimhood be what defines you as a human being. We’re complex and the best thing about being complex is you can grow in anything and from anywhere. I’m growing and I’m learning, you can too. I married a monster who promised he’d never hurt me and he’d be the best husband and father he could. He obviously lied about all of it since paying a bill or buying food is too much for him.
Be Courageous, Be Grateful, Be Humble, Be Kind, Be God Fearing 🙏
Please do not take this down.I may be listening to this every day of 2024.
I am so amazed at how much Richard Grannon gives to an audience that like myself is desperate for truth.
Would you consider posting a separate video clip of the first 17:40 minutes of this livestream that can be more easily shared? It was some of the most profound wisdom anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse should hear. What you said in this came to me directly after finding out my husband squandered our tax refund on porn chats, money which we were supposed to use to file bankruptcy. Thousands of dollars and our last chance to clear up his massive debt mess, just gone. He's been unemployed for seven months, so we're completely broke otherwise. Divorce is in the works, but I'm terrified, having never been on my own before. Being courageous is the only way I'm going to be able to move forward.
Oh, my soul. They are selfish people.
Starting over is exciting but scary. You can do it !!! Hang in there. You are not alone.
Thank u for all that u do I am 62 and I was with my narc husband for 38 years I walked away from everything and I am starting over you are so right when you said be courageous I can add to that no one is coming to save u no one is going to get u out of bed u must be brave I am a warrior now and I will fight for my existence in the crazy world we live in fight on people
I'm 62 as well, married 35 years to a narc husband who is a porn addict and financial abuser and controller. Getting ready to hit the road myself.
Get out of there!
@dollybigmomma I'm 50 in July. My porn addicted, mentally handicapped, sassy, snarky, shame-blaming, neglectful and recently developed into a physical abuser control freak that spent all our 30 years of investment and savings on trying to 'FIND A SECOND WIFE! ' YEAH this dude after 30 years I thought I knew him thought madly in love, but he's been talking about his own death (claims he was shown a premature death for himself) for past 7 been dealing with a total stranger now.
BTW I am a codependent and have CPTSD, from the narcissistic family I grew up in. t took me to age 72 to find out why I felt so like the doggie in the window all my life. I am so so glad to be getting free, no matter how small the % is. Keep up the good teaching Richard. You are wonderful. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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@@bethetruth6428 Thank you.
@@Marie-mg7zp Thank you.
So what you're saying is "it's never too late"? Thank God 🙏🙏🏿🙏🏽🙏🏻
I'm alone in this world Richard... Thank you for everything ❤️
You are not alone! ❤
You are not alone, only very careful.
I hope you know there are people out here who care about what you are going through.
Me too darlin', me too. Not giving you platitudes or any bs. It's a lonely place to be whether you're alone or not. Something most of us learn on our own is that if you haven't experienced this you cannot understand it. A very few may try, value their efforts if so. Screw the rest, the ones who want the old you back but just want you to shake it off, get over it, move on. They'll be gone anyway, in my lives experience and you'll be better at seeing who is really in your corner and who ain't. I have a couple actual real friends, that's it, 2 actually but still pretty much alone. Richard is a gem for us w 3 pennies in our pockets. He's a good teacher and helps you feel a little less hopeless that's a place to start. He also gives great advice about what real recovery entails. There is nothing easy n breezy here. Some say you're not alone, in a sense you aren't. Since nobody will understand this we are all we have. But I took know what it feels like to be alone in the world. Wishing you peace and strength.
Thank you Richard.
Good man.
Im 2 years out of that hellish relationship and still have panic attacks.
Best message ever "I expect u to be courageous"...we tend to be a victim and want someone else to save us...I agree 100% we need to take action, we need to be courageous.
The one big thing I have learned in my life is that money are not everything. There are most important things in life. THE SOUL.
Amen 🙏
Amen to that Amen 🙏🏼
The love of money is the curse.The love of money comes before people’s health, people’s heart, people’s need. There is no longer a soul in that money lover. Blinded by greed and blinded by power. Be glad you have eyes to see this sickening existence. Be grateful you are more developed than these childish, selfish, creatures.
Nothing but love to you and Everyone!
”Kindness has no enemys” ❤️😍❤️
I live in the US. It’s very disheartening to be here. Your words have helped me. I feel like courage is what saves us from the abyss. I can’t cave to the hopelessness and helplessness. Thank you Richard.
"If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you..."
eyoo cant just quote the best piece of art without warning like that damnnn
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, this line goes so hard with narcissism and smear campaign.
"If you're good at something never do it for free" the joker
Wow, I am human. I am very much an independent thinker. This session has brought me to tears. Yes, Satin is working overtime. Thank you, Richard
God bless you!
Being good and being kind aren't always synonymous. Authentic kindness is best displayed in adversity, but people can forfeit your kindness, with their actions, without compromising your goodness.
..very well said
Powerful. Yes I tesent my conniving Narc husband. I've been living 42 years
In he'll with the verbal abuse. I have to keep telling myself I'm not Who he says I am. It's like living in a nightmare not knowing when the volcano will erupt. I am and will walk the avenue you suggest. It's extremely tuff to rearrange my Crown after every attack of insanity. I appreciate and thank you for your encouragement. Blessings
They are at war with themselves. It has nothing to do with us. It's self - loating directed outwards. We need to remember this going forward.
Why can't everybody just get together and love one another right now?!!!!!!!!
Because they don’t love themselves ❤️🩹
Don't be surprised my dear
Stop it.
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@caroleminke6116 yep. At least I loved myself at one point ( before meeting him), but the disordered never did. It was my first, and it would be my last relationship.
Thank you. Absolutely. I am very sure of my beliefs as a Christian. That's the truth in me since I gave my life to the Lord age 20 (now 52). And I am not going to be swayed anymore into living outside my identity as a child of God. I'm going to be strong. Courageous. And be kind. Yes clean up code of conduct as a Christian, escape the matrix. If my boyfriend isn't happy with that, yes, I'll be heartbroken if he leaves me, but I cant go on comprising who I am in Christ. Thank you.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻Amen! Prayers for you. I know there are quite a few Christians on Richard’s channel. He has helped us all so much and I pray for him that God makes Himself aware to Richard✝️
@RebeccaLStamm thank you!
Yes I started praying for him while listening. Watched all of this just to have a break from all the end time church stuff on You Tube. Thought I'd be brave to listen and it's helped.
Thank you Richard.
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Friend at work once was possessed by a higher power to write a note to me “help yourself first” and that was the beginning of my story….
Wow! The last bit hit me hard. When you described what was done to you. Kicked, spat, punched, belittled,gaslighted was everything i went through, she said it was because she needed me to feel as much pain as her. I tried harder too until one day she exclaimed the she herself might be a narcissist. Not knowing exactly which she meant, i said maybe you are, which made her a wee bit mad. This made me search for narcissistic behaviour traits and found your videos Richard. She's moved out and I'm beginning to heal, thanks a lot to your videos. Keep up the great work. Thank you.
Thank you. Sacrifice. "The strongest steel is forged by the hottest fire."
The pandemic helped me so much after seeing how weak and pathetic people were, and how they just fell into line. This made me realise how tough I really was as I stood up and refused to play the game!
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God bless you
Right
What game????
Courageous !!
You're not a narcissist by any means AND you don't need me to tell you that. You were one of the first narcissistic awareness channels and have helped me and so many others.
I also belange to and listened to Richard since the days his channel started. He is one of the best life Coaches I am grateful for, after a life riddled with narcs
I agree! Keep up you are helping me and others. God Bless you and May the Holy Spirit continue to assist you in freeing God's Chosen from the grasp of Evil!
Dear Richard I can feel you so much. I'm so deeply sad after experiencing a toxic relationship. Can't stop crying. Much love from Germany ❤
Same. It's the grief of realizing that person is not who you thought they were. That your interaction with that person wasn't even honest communication.
@@melisentiapheiffer3034 so very very true and sad dear friend 😭❤👏
@@brigitte2217 We will heal from severe abuse 🙏
@@brigitte2217 We need to BECOME in order to silence the narcs God voice and death voice. Learn a skill and become good at it. Become an active person once again. ❤️
@@melisentiapheiffer3034 👏❤
Ritchie,
You’ve given me solace in this crazy world for 10 years now.
Grateful, thank you for you 😇🙏
Same here since 2015🙂
I can’t thank you enough Richard for being so blunt open about what to do. Because no one told me what you have told so openly. I am so brainwashed and abused that my thinking itself was confused.
I'm new here I am from idaho Thank you.
I Needed to hear this.Thank you, Richard.
I have a lot of behind me
I have CPTSD from childhood and I'm a veteran served 2 tours in the gulf and I'm a survivor of narc abuse. I can't do the reading part of the job because I'm severe dislecsic and I can't see most of the words.. I've tried to adapt and overcome by printing the pages at the library so I can use the red plastic cover but it doesn't go in. So I depend on TH-cam and other media sources. I've come to terms with it now I am a survivor not a victim. I've had my "breakthrough" in the shower this morning, I cried for the first time since the may day weekend.
People are telling me who she's moved on with and I'm saying please stop now its like ripping off a scab and letting bleed over and over again. It's like secondary abuse, she's still getting to me although she doesn't know it.
Since going no contact she's stopped me from seeing our girls which has really butchered me. I've grieved for the loss of a life I once knew and later grieved for the loss of my daughters. Everyone says they'll come round eventually but she's done a reap number on them, and she lies to them repeatedly until they are blindsided and begin to believe it. The last time this happened I went back because it affected our eldest that much she needed therapy. I went back and became her target again and our daughter got better. I knew it wouldn't last I has gut feelings that it would go belly up again so much so that for the 3 years I was back there I still kept up the child maintenance services payment. Every time I gave her money I would reference it CMS so there is a paper trail and she can't accuse me of not providing for our daughters like she did last time when I was paying her in cash. Together she got £250 per week now I'm unable to work due to mental health getting so bad I had a flashback at work I'm on benefits while I heal and I hope to return to work but she gets just £30 per week and I feel awful about it. But that's what the CMS said to pay her.
Going no contact for me was a double edged sword it both made things better but also worse. I miss our daughters so much! But this grief will pass or I'll become numb to it.
I need to focus now on the laws of impermanence and I know the sun in my world will rise again.
Then when I reach a point I can focus on learning to be on my own and love myself and be happy with who I am.
We are all made in the gods meant us to be and that's perfect imperfections in their form. And that's fine, that's simply gleaming.
Remember the bad times did out weigh the good times and even though we tend to focus on the positive you have to have perspective and that's how I will get through this.
You are brave. You are not alone. Thank you for sharing your story. One step at a time and forge ahead. Yes it is temporary and yes you are doing great! Sounds like you realize what’s going on and know it wont work
Or mak it better if you put your needs on hold. Even for your daughter, its tough bc she will make seperation five times worse then it has to be and all you can do is keep on topic, if you have to communicate about the kids, get some hobbies you can deep dive on youtube, like the temples in india and near and around there is pretty captivating. Do not think about her. Pray for your girls or send them blessing how ever you do when you think of them think of you and them having lunch and laughing. Bc they too have realized why you did what you did and left. Picture them looking at you and saying “i get it dad, its ok. Mom is delusional.
Keep your mind occupied with other stuff and keep busy, exercise daily so you will sleep better. Learn to direct your thoughts to stay off of her and one step at a time. You got this.
Stay strong. I feel you. God bless.
This is a very powerful video and you speak with such depth of feeling. Thank you so much. I watched one video of yours where you said stop watching videos on narcissists but I am still finding wisdom from you and Sam!
❤Thank you Richard for the superb work in helping create positive awareness. An end to all forms of abuse of power ❤😂 No slavery, no puppetery! You can fall in Love or in Lust with the Devil at your own peril. I survived and I learned about Narcisism 🎉if you are strong enough to maintain your integrity and stay in your quiet happiness/kind/humble with Love for God yourself the universe and others. He/she will enjoy you as a toy in their game of cat and mouse with an end to your demise😮😅
Your a very kind person with a loving heart you've helped lots of peeps you've been emotionally put through the stainer and your not a bad guy..
Tell that to the homeless person sitting on the street in bad weather. Money is needed and makes life better. 🧡🎃🍁
Dear wise Richard- your words are beautiful. People like you should be political and spiritual leaders. You have been my guru for quite a while. Thank you! Keep up the good work!
4 chapters into your book. Loving it so far! It's helping my recovery. Thanks Richard.
You're very welcome!
I really respect and admire you. God bless you.
"A celui qui a, on donnera encore. A celui qui n'en a pas, on otera même ce qu'il a". On prend souvent cela dans le monde évangélique pour justifier le mal qu'ils font aux plus pauvres.
Powerful speech. Be courageous. Courage marks a true leader.
Aw Richard you are such a sensitive soul, we must learn how to guard our hearts ♥️ I don’t know how to do it myself but I am learning everyday. Boundaries are the best and something that I am working on everyday. I do feel the same way malignant psychopathy is rampant. It’s fucking nuts
♥️. I hope you are feeling better N. ♥️. W. 😊
So true…silence the best mantra
Funny, my past got me into arms training. For self defense due to threats. Now I educate other women as well. The only reason I got into it was to feel more secure in my life. It is crazy how many women end up arming themselves bcs of being threatened bcs of intimate partner abuse. For me I learned every detail I needed and continue to practice. I found strength I never knew I had, and counseling that was as vital. This is a reality check, stay Calm and Carry on! Forewarned is prepared! Have it before you need it, Training, I mean whatever that is to you!! For me professional arms training it was hard but boy, have I got it!!! Be Courageous Indeed!!!
I really became unkind last night to my x. I was so, so triggered by the toxic relationship and being lied to and disrespected. I couldn't control my emotions, feeling so brutally used and discarded. Social media is a brutal place - he is everywhere. my heart is so hurt, and my ego is so hurt. my bank account is so hurt. all the hopes. promises. but also the simple things that were so nice between us. So I am feeling deep loss, missing him, and also absolute fury.
You are not alone… i do some breathing and relaxation to get through the tough spots then forge forward one step at a time.
This was fantastic. Thank you. Strong and straight forward . Brilliant and real. Bravo.
Burdened by self awareness. Felt that. Thank you for all that you share its been tremendous help and great value.
I see you Richard. Thank you truly for all the work that you are doing. Without your videos I would probably still be ruminating about the narcissist that I have encountered, staying buried alive, yet zombified, living days to no end, waiting for the torture of my mind to cease, although the relationship has long ended. The last reconciliation actually acured, because I couldn't get that person out of my head. Guided with your talks, I am stepping, no worries, closer towards me, I'm not following you blindly. I simply feel encouraged by your mere presence, and the truthness with which you talk and present yourself.
Deeply grateful 🙏💙
Speechless!❤Thank you for taking about spirituality and searching inward! It really resonated with me xx
Watching this on x2 is even more impactful!!
Very good advice.. Moved me to hear it. I'm trying to not be so giving, he took took n took.. Where was my mind 😢 helping others constantly.. Felt good but waiting for him to say, you've given enough.. Never happened.. 😢 It's my fault, but I was in sm kind of trance I felt at the time..
This!!! Thank you 🙏
AM GRATEFUL TO YOU FOR YOUR ENLIGHTENMENT IN THIS TOPIC. Thsnk uou and Godbless.
So on point for me to hear this tonight. As a 74 year old female
It would be all too easy to seek the comfortable so called " easy life"and give in to an emotionally abusive relationship.Thank you Richard for this timely reminder!
You are the most informative, spot on about NPD. And you always give analysis for all your statements.
I adored today's live. Thank you very much. Good night and stay safe.
It was brilliant and almost like the best father figure we all need , to advise us and support us .
I just want to say I love your message in this video: YOU ARE A GREAT HUMAN. I think you are saving many lives since you have become a coach and this is no little thing !I listen to all your videos and I see the light. Also, I keep in mind your advice "You dont want us_the survivors spend all the future time in reading and listening about narcissistic and psychopathic abuse. " 100% true....once we fight and find a way to see the light again, we must start living our best lives!Chapeau!
Dearest Richard, Thank you!!!
I couldn’t agree more with your msn , spiritual strength is the key to move on for better things to come !
I'm still on the first part. This was so deep. Thank you for sharing your true self, Richard
He took everything! I did it all!!! He took it all!!!
Wow, this is deep and resonates with me wholly, in thought and spirit. I cannot hold back standing back from immoral bullies and then being scapegoated by those with no desire to hear the blatant truth. I am betrayed and disrespected but ascyou said, we must be courageous and go alone if necessary. I refuse to be cowardly despite the blows and negation of fairness, it disappoints me with family and disgusts me when the collective follow controlling,arrogant bullies,as with one ancient scripture "with such people do not even eat", id add, even if it means eating alone.
Incredible. Started listening with intention of “Sharing” with a particular friend. While passively listening, you went silent. That got my attention. Thought something was wrong with my device. Realized you were still rolling and nothing was wrong with the sound. From that point, you had my full attention. One of the best videos I’ve listened to. Absolutely incredible. Inspirational. Never laughed, cried, feared and finally inspired by any other movie/video/seminar/webinar/etc. I have saved this video and plan on listening to It again and again. Thank you.
Thank you. I needed this today.
Thank you for your time, knowlage and presence. Best wishes to you!
Heartfelt! And very deep. Ive been following him for years. He has helped me yet times i feel like my head is in a bucket
Google Scholar lol 😆 🤣 fantastic. I enjoy listening to your voice. Very calming and empowering. YOUR videos are full of wonderful information for anyone who is or has been subjected to narcissistic abuse. Healing is hard but the payoff is priceless. thank you for sharing 🙏
Thank you, brother! You are a true gentleman and a scholar. you are a wonderful human being Richard. We appreciate you so much! literally brings a tear to my eye watching this, you tell it so true and it hits home hard man. You are one of the good ones mate!
Retired my classification as scapegoat 5 months ago. It was very tough. But I focused all I had on me and loads of self love. Walking .. letting go for 5 months. Listening to my intuition my body and what it needs. Total focus. The anxiety came and I breathed through it until it had no power. The more I said I was happy the more my family pulled away. I got it...I saw it for what it was. Truth. I placed my boundaries. There they are grounded daily. Was it tough .. hell yes. But I pulled back my power. I am better than their fears. No medication. I decided that years ago. Incorporated the shadow. I feel free! I feel light. Things are coming into my life now more than I could imagine. I am grateful! I am me. I found me again. When things come up and people try to pull me into their drama I stand in my power and walk away. If they cannot respect me than I don't want that in my life. Thank you Richard. Your videos have truly helped to set my mind straight. ❤
Thank you for existing Richard.
Thank you for your efforts.
I believe God Allah helps us through his Good people. And in sha Allah you are one of them.
Yes if we don't bring a positive change for ourselves no one can help us. As believers we need reminders and I was in need of these reminders that you have given us. May Allah bless you and protect you. Ameen ❤
Thank you, Richard.
Thank you Richard you are right. Need to remove myself from my narcissist husband, he has a narcissistic mistress bullshit has been going on for 8 months. I know i need to get help. Thank you for your empowerment without explanation…. Have already seen what you are saying. Do not want to hurt husband…I just want peace
Yes Indeed.
Hearing this today , gave Creedence and Clarification , to what I have been sensing , needing to hear ,,, pass It on, pay It forward
Parentification, which you mention as being positioned into the fathering role, is a huge and profound issue in toxic relationships. And it goes beyond playing a parenting role. Being the "bigger person," or being some kind of steward of a child, or being the responsible adult to a mentally deranged person, all of these are types of parentification. They play on guilt, they play on pity, they play on a sense of moral duty, and we always end up "carrying" the toxic person, spiritually and psychologically. Additionally, being put into a father/mother role also means that you cannot access your anger fully, just as one can't get totally angry at a child, because it's a child. You wouldn't go to full on war with your own child. Similarly, the more you're psychologically in that "parent" position, the more compassion you have for the toxic person as something of lesser agency, the less you're able to access the kind of real anger, blame, pain, and hatred, that the abuse inflicted. Compassion in this case, compassion for them, becomes a kind of bypass that prevents healing.
You can go further and see that the parental role they pressure you into is also a perversion of what a parent is, because a parent has power - the power to discipline, the power to instruct, the power over resources. But in the parentification position, we are powerless, because they can't be taught anything. They want a perverted form of parenting, unconditional love, unconditional approval, unconditional enabling, etc. So that role of parent can't even be embodied anyway.
at a pretty low point with the state of everything.this voice of truth and reason helps.thank you Richard.
You are like the father I never had but I need. Thank you.
That’s a very nice complement.
I feel the same. I’ve realized what I’ve felt all along that my parents are narcissists and so are my siblings. They lie and gaslight and connive and force their agendas. And then they talk about God and forgiveness.
Thank you , sir, for all the good things you have shared with me.God bless.
Once upon a time, a wise man said he was tasked to fight the archons of the Armageddon. I am grateful that the man still guides and teaches us how.
A fine reminder. We must stand for something.
I try to maintain. Attitude of gratitude❤
Thanks for sharing Richard! Pease is our work
Unplug From the Matrix was a little bit depressing. I really enjoyed the discussions, but the people in the group were so sad. I didn't feel that way because I knew I was getting at the truth. I found it liberating, and have moved on to sign up with Lisa A. Romano. It is not an easy course either. Your new course sounds like it is inviting me back to take your new course. I love confronting these truths. It's delightful getting free👏👏👏
beautifully put richard with true spiritual perspective. i heard between your lines the depth of perception and knowing what's really going on thankyou take care my friend
I needed to hear this. Thank you for being so brutally honest. You are the only one who has the courage to speak the truth. I dont want to be stuck anymore. I have been telling myself to endure the pain dont give in. I will get off my ass and stop feeling for myself. I appreciate you very much. I may have let this whole experience consume me. Iay have lived in a poor me attitude and never healed. I want to be free. I am ready to be free of all this. There is no pain ads staying the same. Thank you.
A battle speech to remind us that we will, more than likely, fight to the last day, the last cartridge, and the last man.
I want to hug you so tight , R. Sending good energy and love.
Thank you sooo much for your teachings they have helped so many❤❤❤
You are amazing Richard❤️ Your videos have helped me so many Time, to process things! Im so THANKFULL for you❤️🙏😊
I love your videos and your understanding of the topic. Only people who have survived narcs understand how damaging and devastating they are, but what I love the most about your insights is that you focus on the personal growth of the survivor instead of on the narcissist. There's plenty of videos, books, information about the disorder we can have access to educate ourselves but we need to get our energy and attention back to what matters the most: our healing, protecting ourselves from those types of behaviors/ people and growing stronger. Thank you for accomplishing it in a smart and empathetic way
🎉❤👌💪🤩. Big hug from Virginia, USA!
Richard thank you for everything. I really have no words to convey my sincere thanks ❤
Thank you for this strong reminder to go within and be courageous, grateful and humble. 💪 (Ps. Your point about vanity and idolatry is spot on.)
Love hearing all this today! I so agree. Thank you so much.
I’ve dreamed of that quiet place too. I am going to manifest it, and turn my property into “that quiet place” one day soon….or at least my version of that dream place 😉☯️💪🔥🥰🦋
Excellent video…wish I was able to make it to the live earlier. You always speak so much wisdom…I had to send this one to BOTH my sons.
Thank you for your time and thoughts ❤️☯️💪🔥🖖☮️🦋
DAMIT!!..thought I was doing good, and was healing and I’m being tough by not crying or getting mad during this one….almost cracked and cried when you did, but was strong……then you said good night, and I broke 🤷🏻♀️🤯😭😭😭😭🤷🏻♀️idk wtf!??!! 🤦♀️🤷🏻♀️
Thanks for sharing this message.
Ur presence is so congruent with ur message & i respect & greatly appreciate all ur efforts, thanku for giving me inspiration & hope that i can live with integrity ❤
Thank you dear man...the battle of nobody wins and everyone that matters loses has broken my heart as well...for what it's worth I'll not stay here any longer, you are a good man❤❤❤
Please do a vid on people who disown the humanity in them. In light of recent events its not just world leaders its also people in comments sections that are saying things soo easily leaves u thinking there's nothing inside them.
Richard thank you,you have been a a big help in my struggle to get out of a toxic situation.👍👍❤️
I think current society where women have to work 24/7 is built thinking like women are physically men.
Because men only have day-night cycle in their body. But women also have menstrational cycle, and it has periods when woman needs to relax more and is more tired, when she has more energy and when she is more emotional and so on... And if she doesnt respect that cycle her body has it will mess her hormones and health up. Its same if a person never sleeped enought and stayed up every night. There is a reason why in current day and age women have 80% of autoimmune disases.
Work force needs to be changed in a way that it respects females menstrational cycles. Same way it respects peoples day and night cycles.
And also obiously women should be allowed to be stay at home wifes and mothers if they want to do so.
Wow this was a breath of fresh air too read, this is 100% true! Women need to honour their body and cycles and should be warranted and respected and understood imperatively! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is the best comment I’ve seen in 2 years.
This was a great video Richard! Especially the last part. So so good. 💛 Thank you. I also love it when you talk about religion, faith, spirituality. I love that you get what the intention of the religions are, yet understand that it still falls short. I haven’t met many people who can see the good, recognize the bad, and still know that we need our spirituality/faith to survive and be healthy. ❤️much love
Thank you so much 👍 I just started reading the book about CPTSD you recommended and it's so eye-opening 😮 you're right it's important to educate ourselves and therapy helps a great deal too. I will survive and thrive 💪 but watching your video is also a good inspiration and often a good laugh. Thank you for your sense of humor. Life is not easy but thank God we can laugh about it.
Thank you. I’ve got court to extend a protective order tomorrow and I’m feeling unbelievably stressed and unsure. I know I made the right decision and I know my children want peace and safety with some much needed stability mixed in. I know fighting this monster head on is the only way I’m going to be able to give that to them. I know they depend on me to be strong and protect them from the psychotic world we live in, but they/we also lived in a home with a psychotic up until he abandoned us almost five months ago. He came back trying to fight his way back into this home but it was too late. They felt peace and love and joy everyday for four months instead of fear anxiety and sadness and they said no! We all said no. But now the real war has begun and I’ve got nothing to fight with except the truth. I’m not a sick mess anymore and he knows it, but now he’s turned me into a supervillain with powers like manipulation and forcing movements with my mind or some nonsense 😂. He’s truly lost it. He’s a felon for attacking me so many times and I’m the abuser, he’s the victim? Wow! You’ve got to do some crazy mental gymnastics to come up with a scenario where that makes sense. His mother is the one who’s tired since it’s her mythology. I just need to make it through this week and I’ll keep on taking one day at a time taking one step at a time as they go by. Please keep me in your prayers and wish me luck. To all of you victims out there, remember you’re not a victim. You were victimized but when it’s over it’s over. Be something more and stop letting your victimhood be what defines you as a human being. We’re complex and the best thing about being complex is you can grow in anything and from anywhere. I’m growing and I’m learning, you can too. I married a monster who promised he’d never hurt me and he’d be the best husband and father he could. He obviously lied about all of it since paying a bill or buying food is too much for him.
Wow, I so needed to hear this today. Thank you!
Obrigado, meu irmão, por oferecer esse conhecimento gratuitamente. Muito obrigado! Cheers from 🇧🇷.
This si not only usefull and direct but also beautiful. Thank You so much ❤