I agree. I don't mind paying for all meals out if my friend is being a true friend to me otherwise and not expecting it. Then relationship ends when it's one sided. And now that I'm older, I can read ppl better so I just only reach out and begin friendships with authentic ppl.
@@cdcd1607I agree completely, the last point especially. I used to feel bad for not wanting to click or not having a liking to someone. It’s just about my preferences and intuition. You might be an alright person, but based on our personalities - it wouldn’t work and that’s fine. I’m starting to feel comfortable with such situations.
@@hannah60000you dont have to click, just keep him close enough to get something of value out of him.. Lets say, like a contract killer.. Just in case if you need his service..
People stay friends because they have history, even though they have nothing in common and bring out the worst in each other. The cost-benefit analysis is a great way to weed out friends youve outgrown
This doesn’t mean monitory or career based or something. If you’re bringing kindness, a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, someone to laugh with, a helping hand, honestly and loyalty you’re bringing something to the table. People are friends to you because you are friends to them. So yes it is a transaction but not in the way you think.
I totally get it, it's not about money, is about what you give to this relationship to stay healthy/wholesome, etc A toxic relationship, especially in a friendship, is just a waste of time
and ironically that is saving money cuz if u both s e there to help as s listener or one day one of u buy the snacks m drinks, go out and have activities that both enjoy n get a great adventures you can experience. like we have become so accustomed, we fell in the "routine" of what having a group there for you that we have become so entitled. just like having a good wife, good husband, and even children. we think the children must see without the parents telling them, teaching them . helping them to come adults . look how our culture , our traditions are the same. we haven't added nothing new compared to our ancestors. there is the old generations and the ancestral generation for we only have the very few things we are rediscovering. we can see how their traditions and stories evolved according to how their society of each kingdom evolved. but now. we have souch from old generations but we don't change to "keep the traditions." who are taking advantage of all that? the ppl in the very top 1%
I get what she means especially in this day and age and it has everything to do with expectations. The people I call my friends have been with me for more than 40 years. You know why, because we don't expect anything more than the other is willing and able to give and are almost always pleasantly surprised when we get more than we expected.
Someone once told me “Friendship is kind of like marriage, in that it’s for better and worse. And if it’s always just for worse, it’s not a friendship. You are just being used.” I think this is pretty much the same sentiment as the one in the clip. And I (with much relief) cut a few people out of my life that day.
as someone who finds that it takes a lot of effort and energy to make a friendship work, she is 100% correct here. cost = energy expended ie what you put in benefit = energy consumed ie how good you feel with your friends and how they make you feel
The currency of friendship is caring, making time for each other, validation, similar values, shared interest(s), good times, good intentions and good humor. If you are being used, dragged down, hurt or gas lit this is the opposite of friendship
Unfortunately that's not how people see friendship. I've lost friends and had problems in social relationships because former friends seem to have a problem with my salary or my net worth, which is less than theirs. At least now I know who my real friends are.
She's not wrong. You DO NOT need money to bring "something" to the friendship. But you need to bring something. Whatever that something is. I had a friend that I've known since high school who got addicted to drugs. Since I've known him for many years, I always helped and helped and helped. I give him cash, place to stay, food, etc etc.... Then one day I asked myself, what does he bring to the table? I could not think of anything. I had to cut him off completely. Because it got to a point where I was basically baby sitting him. It wasn't friendship anymore.
In Finland they have two word for friends- best friend and more of an acquaintance. It helps decide who’s worth my most time and money. At this time my “friend “ group is limited to my kids and husband and sisters. Anyone else take too much of my life
Your presence can be already enough if it means that you are present, you're hearing, you are giving your time and attention Is not about things or something complicated
The problem is that people are rarely honest with each other and what we value in friendship changes as we go through life. Not all of your friends will be in the same economic bracket as you or you them and a lot of the times we don’t talk about how that impacts our relationships on both ends. We run around calling each other haters or financially abusing some not really talking about our real issues or concerns. I wish we could all be comfortable enough to have an honest conversation.
But I think it's also kind of understandable that people go through different phases in life or people sometimes just outgrow eachother, and you don't always have to talk about it to understand the circumstance. Lol maybe I'm misunderstanding what you're saying.
Yeah I have rich friends, I will make cakes, buy snack or always have water with me to share with my friends soo I feel like I am useful, I try to read a lot of books soo we can talk and have good discussion, in return, my rich friends pay a lot for me, we share the same hobby muay thai ❤ he is a good guy,
As cold-blooded as it may sound, she's right. Who wants to be on the wrong side of a one-sided "friendship"?? Who wants to be the one reaching out all the time while the other party displays lack of interest?
This is the reason why I have very few friends. I don’t feel most people bring much to the table, and I really don’t become enriched being in their presence. It’s just a waste of time, energy, and money.
Not everything in life needs to be measured as cost and benefit . Next thing we know the lady will start saying the same mother and child, kin. There are many relationships where people are not expected to ‘bring’ anything to the table. There are relationships where one person maybe giving more than the other at times and that’s okay. If we always start looking at life in this lens.. we will never be able to truly love or rely on someone else
This is ridiculous. What happens if you lose it all, get sick, or become handicapped? Then what your no longer useful? This is why people are miserable and relationships suck. People have no morals. How about you bring kindness, loyalty to the table. I don't need shit from my friends
Such an immature and emotional response. The Cost/benefit analysis obviously varies person to person and by scenario. It's up to the user to make that judgment call.
In cases where someone gets sick, hopefully you've built up the history to have someone there for you. And hopefully if you've lost it all you have other attributes that make up for it. I make significantly more money than one of my best friends so I typically cover drinks/ treat him when we go out. But I genuinely enjoy his company and I know he'd have my back in a minute. That's still part of the cost/benefit analysis.
Vast differences in wealth seperates friendship/familyship. When your lifestyle is chasing money or spending big money and your less wealthy relationships dont have as much interest in money your hobbies or time spent together is challenging. You want to go out to eat, travel, shop, work alot, give big gifts while your fruend cant afford any of that or talk about money & business all the time. Know your financial class. Its hard to bridge the gap. Dont roast me as a rich snob. Im actually the poor friend & i had a very wealthy friend. We were close but our interactions were limited.
Whether you say it out loud or not, it is a true thing. If you were to really break it down to your friendships, why people are part of your lives it is cost benefit. it could be a simple simple as they make you laugh. They understand you they you rant… they are wealth of knowledge, or possibly, you might be mentoring them, etc… that statement was definitely taken out of contacts people need to take a moment and understand why they have the relationships they do positive and negative
This is the problem with having a transacrional mindset about realtionships. Everyone does bring something to a friendship. Theyre bringing FRIENDSHIP which is valuable for its own sake. You can choose any reason to know be friends and not work on your relationships with people, but lets not pretend that people need to bring tangible skills or money in order to be worthy of friends.
Best time worth talents busyness time is valuable balancing ❤healthy time management skills of a giftedBFF passionate RESEARCHERS VALUABLE TIMING DIFFERENT EVALUATION CONSUMER BENEFITS PERFECT MINDSET ❤ EDUCATORS STRIVINGS IS HARD WORK OF PUTTING EVERYTHING YOU GOT IN THE PURPOSES OF LIVE,EAT,&BREATHE ETHICS ❤PERFECTIONISM WONDERS ACHIEVERS❤
EVERY RELATIONSHIP. We give to eachother, it might not be the same thing but we both give and receive. As soon as i start noticing that im the one giving more and i have to beg to receive I'm out. If that makes me a bad person or friend then so be it. Some people want to keep their friends in boxes and only take them out when they need something from them.
It might come off very vain and superficial if you don't look deeper pass the semantics. What it means is all parties in a relationship must provide some sort of contribution, emotional or physical, that can compensate for the time and effort you devote into a relationship. Otherwise it can easily become what we call a "toxic relationship" where one is the sole giver and one only takes.
The only way a difference in income in friendships can become weird is if the person that makes more is constantly want to go and do things that are outside of the lower income friend's budget, and the higher earner doesn't want to monetarily contribute to help the lower earner join on those things, but I see it all the time and the higher earner gets annoyed when the lower earner says no to an outing or cancels because they can't afford it. The higher earner either needs to do outings and things that are within the lower earner's budget or help out monetarily with out requiring to be compensated. And if they can't do that the lower earner should break the friendship. I feel like my opinion is gonna bring higher earners out saying that the lower earner is gonna become a moocher, lol, and that might happen, but I highly doubt it.
in any relationship two questions what do you want? what are you willing to give? cost/benefit analysis... just another word for reciprocity you can even call it risk management
You are right but normally people do not like that comentó because they want to take advantage of the friendship. And besides we will become the persons we get alone with😮
Well to be honest a poor person is not going to want to hang out with you anymore once you get rich because they're going to be jealous. Once you get rich you will have new friends that are rich just like you. All your old friends that you grew up with when you were poor will no longer be your friend. I am writing about a billionaire and the truth is that she didn't want to be around people who were not rich, she hung out with billionaires in the story the characters weren't billionaires she didn't bother to know them. She really didn't even hang out with rich people she was more of a private person that stayed to herself and that's why it was so hard writing her it was also hard writing this character because she was a rich white woman and I am a poor black woman. I let her be herself because as a writer you must let your characters be themselves. I love this character she's amazing.
Yeah, but it’s kind of cold and inhuman to frame your whole perspective of friendship like that. It makes you hyper analyze, quantify, and judge experiences that are better off enjoyed casually. It’s like sex, comedy, intrigue, catharsis, etc. When you constantly frame things like this in the context of a transaction, the pleasure fades away because even if you’re having a good time, you’ll still be questioning whether it was worth whatever the opportunity cost was. It draws you out of the moment and forces you to look down upon your own flattened experience while the good times pass you by. I don’t think it’s inherently anti-social or cold-blooded. I just think that this whole thought process is a kind of intelligent, yet harmfully obsessive behavior. I think it gives active minds a sense of control, especially for people who are used to feeling unsafe, or are otherwise very cynical of human nature for one reason or another.
a friend helps you move, a good friend helps you move a body, people who you know that measure their friendships aren't friends, loyalty, honor, respect aren't readily measured..... and for that Viv doesn't have friends, she has acquaintances.
Tony Robbins said it best, “when you’re in your head, you’re dead.” Most, if not all invaluable friendships started organically and intuitively as well. She’s certainly not wrong with her “cost benefit analysis” statement, but it’s also a perception that area in your life more complicated and stressful than it should be. Beginning a friendship systematically takes away from the essence of a friendship. This all depends on your own philosophy on life anyways, so pick your perception.
I always say if someone doesn't bring value to my life, I don't want them in it. If someone immediately equates "value" with "money", that sounds like a them problem 🤷🏼♀️
I've always got flak for saying that Friendship is like a credit card. There's a credit limit. If you don't pay your debts, no one will trust you with your low credit score. It's going to take a very long time to build that credit.
I agree with this. I used to just be there for people regardless with no expectations until I realized that I was being used and they legit didn't appreciate me or care. No more. We reciprocate effort or I'm out.
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Unfortunately the people who bring nothing to the table will be mad you’re exposing them 😅
I agree. I don't mind paying for all meals out if my friend is being a true friend to me otherwise and not expecting it. Then relationship ends when it's one sided. And now that I'm older, I can read ppl better so I just only reach out and begin friendships with authentic ppl.
@@cdcd1607I agree completely, the last point especially. I used to feel bad for not wanting to click or not having a liking to someone. It’s just about my preferences and intuition. You might be an alright person, but based on our personalities - it wouldn’t work and that’s fine. I’m starting to feel comfortable with such situations.
@@hannah60000you dont have to click, just keep him close enough to get something of value out of him.. Lets say, like a contract killer.. Just in case if you need his service..
People stay friends because they have history, even though they have nothing in common and bring out the worst in each other. The cost-benefit analysis is a great way to weed out friends youve outgrown
Basically pros and cons of the friendship or relationship for that matter.
If cons outweigh the pros then work it out or get out
I agree. I read somewhere that in order for you to have good friends, you have to be a good friend too. So yeah, give and take.
This doesn’t mean monitory or career based or something.
If you’re bringing kindness, a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, someone to laugh with, a helping hand, honestly and loyalty you’re bringing something to the table.
People are friends to you because you are friends to them. So yes it is a transaction but not in the way you think.
Spot on 👌🏾
Not only takers- or givers all the time-- must be shared
I totally get it, it's not about money, is about what you give to this relationship to stay healthy/wholesome, etc
A toxic relationship, especially in a friendship, is just a waste of time
and ironically that is saving money cuz if u both s e there to help as s listener or one day one of u buy the snacks m drinks, go out and have activities that both enjoy n get a great adventures you can experience.
like we have become so accustomed, we fell in the "routine" of what having a group there for you that we have become so entitled.
just like having a good wife, good husband, and even children. we think the children must see without the parents telling them, teaching them . helping them to come adults
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look how our culture , our traditions are the same. we haven't added nothing new compared to our ancestors.
there is the old generations and the ancestral generation for we only have the very few things we are rediscovering. we can see how their traditions and stories evolved according to how their society of each kingdom evolved. but now. we have souch from old generations but we don't change to "keep the traditions."
who are taking advantage of all that? the ppl in the very top 1%
💯, not about money.
She seems like so much fun…
I get what she means especially in this day and age and it has everything to do with expectations. The people I call my friends have been with me for more than 40 years. You know why, because we don't expect anything more than the other is willing and able to give and are almost always pleasantly surprised when we get more than we expected.
Someone once told me “Friendship is kind of like marriage, in that it’s for better and worse. And if it’s always just for worse, it’s not a friendship. You are just being used.”
I think this is pretty much the same sentiment as the one in the clip. And I (with much relief) cut a few people out of my life that day.
she's like a cute puppy that talks very seriously
as someone who finds that it takes a lot of effort and energy to make a friendship work, she is 100% correct here. cost = energy expended ie what you put in benefit = energy consumed ie how good you feel with your friends and how they make you feel
She would absolutely kill running a MLM scam
Absolutely! You’re friends because you chose to be, and you have to enrich each others lives in some way. Networth isnt the only way.
The currency of friendship is caring, making time for each other, validation, similar values, shared interest(s), good times, good intentions and good humor.
If you are being used, dragged down, hurt or gas lit this is the opposite of friendship
I think people who can't understand that are people who are either still naive or are unable to grasp comprehensive contexts, or both.
Unfortunately that's not how people see friendship. I've lost friends and had problems in social relationships because former friends seem to have a problem with my salary or my net worth, which is less than theirs. At least now I know who my real friends are.
She's not wrong. You DO NOT need money to bring "something" to the friendship. But you need to bring something. Whatever that something is.
I had a friend that I've known since high school who got addicted to drugs. Since I've known him for many years, I always helped and helped and helped. I give him cash, place to stay, food, etc etc.... Then one day I asked myself, what does he bring to the table? I could not think of anything. I had to cut him off completely. Because it got to a point where I was basically baby sitting him. It wasn't friendship anymore.
In Finland they have two word for friends- best friend and more of an acquaintance. It helps decide who’s worth my most time and money. At this time my “friend “ group is limited to my kids and husband and sisters. Anyone else take too much of my life
Not just Finland.
That’s a very capitalistic view of friendship
She sounds like she's got it all figured out.
Many friends are competitive when it comes to money. Love you when you're broke and hate you when you're not.
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The only thing my friends and I bring to the table is our presence
Your presence can be already enough if it means that you are present, you're hearing, you are giving your time and attention
Is not about things or something complicated
@@amy_ambrosio exactly
The problem is that people are rarely honest with each other and what we value in friendship changes as we go through life. Not all of your friends will be in the same economic bracket as you or you them and a lot of the times we don’t talk about how that impacts our relationships on both ends. We run around calling each other haters or financially abusing some not really talking about our real issues or concerns. I wish we could all be comfortable enough to have an honest conversation.
But I think it's also kind of understandable that people go through different phases in life or people sometimes just outgrow eachother, and you don't always have to talk about it to understand the circumstance. Lol maybe I'm misunderstanding what you're saying.
Yeah I have rich friends, I will make cakes, buy snack or always have water with me to share with my friends soo I feel like I am useful, I try to read a lot of books soo we can talk and have good discussion, in return, my rich friends pay a lot for me, we share the same hobby muay thai ❤ he is a good guy,
As cold-blooded as it may sound, she's right. Who wants to be on the wrong side of a one-sided "friendship"?? Who wants to be the one reaching out all the time while the other party displays lack of interest?
I’ve said the same thing about friends and relationships. Funny because I am in finance like she was or is
There are MORE than a few people I know that need to hear that.
This is the reason why I have very few friends. I don’t feel most people bring much to the table, and I really don’t become enriched being in their presence. It’s just a waste of time, energy, and money.
Not everything in life needs to be measured as cost and benefit . Next thing we know the lady will start saying the same mother and child, kin. There are many relationships where people are not expected to ‘bring’ anything to the table. There are relationships where one person maybe giving more than the other at times and that’s okay. If we always start looking at life in this lens.. we will never be able to truly love or rely on someone else
At times, yes. However, if you are always the one giving and they never reciprocate, that is not a friend. That's a user.
This is ridiculous. What happens if you lose it all, get sick, or become handicapped? Then what your no longer useful? This is why people are miserable and relationships suck. People have no morals. How about you bring kindness, loyalty to the table. I don't need shit from my friends
Such an immature and emotional response. The Cost/benefit analysis obviously varies person to person and by scenario. It's up to the user to make that judgment call.
In cases where someone gets sick, hopefully you've built up the history to have someone there for you. And hopefully if you've lost it all you have other attributes that make up for it. I make significantly more money than one of my best friends so I typically cover drinks/ treat him when we go out. But I genuinely enjoy his company and I know he'd have my back in a minute. That's still part of the cost/benefit analysis.
Misinterpretation. Cost-Benefit in economics is measured in utility and not dollar value.
That's awesome to read of yr kindness ❤ @@jcwarner90
Vast differences in wealth seperates friendship/familyship. When your lifestyle is chasing money or spending big money and your less wealthy relationships dont have as much interest in money your hobbies or time spent together is challenging. You want to go out to eat, travel, shop, work alot, give big gifts while your fruend cant afford any of that or talk about money & business all the time. Know your financial class. Its hard to bridge the gap. Dont roast me as a rich snob. Im actually the poor friend & i had a very wealthy friend. We were close but our interactions were limited.
Whether you say it out loud or not, it is a true thing. If you were to really break it down to your friendships, why people are part of your lives it is cost benefit. it could be a simple simple as they make you laugh. They understand you they you rant… they are wealth of knowledge, or possibly, you might be mentoring them, etc… that statement was definitely taken out of contacts people need to take a moment and understand why they have the relationships they do positive and negative
You are you, I am I. Different route, same destination.
I totally agree with this
This is the problem with having a transacrional mindset about realtionships. Everyone does bring something to a friendship. Theyre bringing FRIENDSHIP which is valuable for its own sake. You can choose any reason to know be friends and not work on your relationships with people, but lets not pretend that people need to bring tangible skills or money in order to be worthy of friends.
Best time worth talents busyness time is valuable balancing ❤healthy time management skills of a giftedBFF passionate RESEARCHERS VALUABLE TIMING DIFFERENT EVALUATION CONSUMER BENEFITS PERFECT MINDSET ❤ EDUCATORS STRIVINGS IS HARD WORK OF PUTTING EVERYTHING YOU GOT IN THE PURPOSES OF LIVE,EAT,&BREATHE ETHICS ❤PERFECTIONISM WONDERS ACHIEVERS❤
Yes! I have friends who fill my tank, and I hope I fill theirs, and then I have friends who suck me dry and I only plan to see them every other month.
This is true, you need to cut out toxic friends sooner rather then later
Every relationship, period, is a cost benefit analysis. It’s just not measured in money.
"There is no persisting behavior without specific benefit"--evolutionary biologist David Sloan Wilson. It's ALL quid pro quo
Imagine being married to this person ! What a nightmare.
Saying it’s true doing it it’s totally a different story ☮️ out.
EVERY RELATIONSHIP.
We give to eachother, it might not be the same thing but we both give and receive. As soon as i start noticing that im the one giving more and i have to beg to receive I'm out. If that makes me a bad person or friend then so be it. Some people want to keep their friends in boxes and only take them out when they need something from them.
You just got Friend Zoned my man
It might come off very vain and superficial if you don't look deeper pass the semantics. What it means is all parties in a relationship must provide some sort of contribution, emotional or physical, that can compensate for the time and effort you devote into a relationship. Otherwise it can easily become what we call a "toxic relationship" where one is the sole giver and one only takes.
I don't have much. I can only really offer help moving or take the 2am to help.
My best friend just cut someone off for this reason, this person was always taking but never willing to give anything. Thats not a friend, is a leech
SHE IS ABSOLUTELY ON POINT
Every relationship is transactional
The only way a difference in income in friendships can become weird is if the person that makes more is constantly want to go and do things that are outside of the lower income friend's budget, and the higher earner doesn't want to monetarily contribute to help the lower earner join on those things, but I see it all the time and the higher earner gets annoyed when the lower earner says no to an outing or cancels because they can't afford it. The higher earner either needs to do outings and things that are within the lower earner's budget or help out monetarily with out requiring to be compensated. And if they can't do that the lower earner should break the friendship. I feel like my opinion is gonna bring higher earners out saying that the lower earner is gonna become a moocher, lol, and that might happen, but I highly doubt it.
if you aren't bringing something to the table it's a toxic relationship bc you're giving when they are just receiving
What she's saying isn't necessarily about money...
My good God. Wisdom at its finest.
So true.
in any relationship
two questions
what do you want?
what are you willing to give?
cost/benefit analysis...
just another word for reciprocity
you can even call it risk management
Nice i always say this, every relationship too
Wow, this chick could never be a TRUE friend.
You are right but normally people do not like that comentó because they want to take advantage of the friendship.
And besides we will become the persons we get alone with😮
How about just being a friend and not seeing it as a financial investment it’s not business, it’s personal
if you watched the whole video, you'd see she said she does not mean it in a financial sense
Facts!!
That's a very brute force way to analyze it but if u boil it down yea that's basically it
You got roasted because people that use business terms for interpersonal relationships are exhausting
It happened when you are being in finance for way too long. 😅😅
Thank you 🙏🏽
I agree. However say it as you explained it.
true 100%
When the mind only thinks in a myopic manner based on one’s occupation. No, not healthy and a bit boring.
that’s not what she’s saying but I think her critics did automatically jump to that
Nothing wrong with what she shared. Only takers would see an issue with this.
It's very true
Am highly agreed with her
Sorry i don t know what that means i don t get friends like that 😅
Well to be honest a poor person is not going to want to hang out with you anymore once you get rich because they're going to be jealous. Once you get rich you will have new friends that are rich just like you. All your old friends that you grew up with when you were poor will no longer be your friend. I am writing about a billionaire and the truth is that she didn't want to be around people who were not rich, she hung out with billionaires in the story the characters weren't billionaires she didn't bother to know them. She really didn't even hang out with rich people she was more of a private person that stayed to herself and that's why it was so hard writing her it was also hard writing this character because she was a rich white woman and I am a poor black woman. I let her be herself because as a writer you must let your characters be themselves. I love this character she's amazing.
Most friendships are already like that. You know your friend is financially better off or vice versa, but that’s not what the friendship is based on.
Yeah, but it’s kind of cold and inhuman to frame your whole perspective of friendship like that. It makes you hyper analyze, quantify, and judge experiences that are better off enjoyed casually. It’s like sex, comedy, intrigue, catharsis, etc. When you constantly frame things like this in the context of a transaction, the pleasure fades away because even if you’re having a good time, you’ll still be questioning whether it was worth whatever the opportunity cost was. It draws you out of the moment and forces you to look down upon your own flattened experience while the good times pass you by.
I don’t think it’s inherently anti-social or cold-blooded. I just think that this whole thought process is a kind of intelligent, yet harmfully obsessive behavior. I think it gives active minds a sense of control, especially for people who are used to feeling unsafe, or are otherwise very cynical of human nature for one reason or another.
a friend helps you move, a good friend helps you move a body, people who you know that measure their friendships aren't friends, loyalty, honor, respect aren't readily measured..... and for that Viv doesn't have friends, she has acquaintances.
GREAT quote, Vivian!!!!
Tony Robbins said it best, “when you’re in your head, you’re dead.” Most, if not all invaluable friendships started organically and intuitively as well.
She’s certainly not wrong with her “cost benefit analysis” statement, but it’s also a perception that area in your life more complicated and stressful than it should be. Beginning a friendship systematically takes away from the essence of a friendship.
This all depends on your own philosophy on life anyways, so pick your perception.
Facts
I always say if someone doesn't bring value to my life, I don't want them in it. If someone immediately equates "value" with "money", that sounds like a them problem 🤷🏼♀️
I've always got flak for saying that Friendship is like a credit card. There's a credit limit. If you don't pay your debts, no one will trust you with your low credit score. It's going to take a very long time to build that credit.
She is a cold-hearted lady
I love that quote!
I love this woman!! ❤
The love you’ll ever have for free in this world is the love your parents give to you no other
I agree with this. I used to just be there for people regardless with no expectations until I realized that I was being used and they legit didn't appreciate me or care. No more. We reciprocate effort or I'm out.
I think the issue here is limiting it to friendships. Every relationship (personal, work, business, etc.) has a cost benefit analysis implicit.
This is not true but rather an opinion. It’s often easy to agree with ourselves.
Well I Lost A Friend Over A $50 debt... Its Sad... But It Is What It Is...
Why does she bring up " bring the same dollar amount to the friendship"? I am double her age and never think of friendship in terms of money.
Yeah she says it's not really monetary or transaction based but it's brought up in monetary terms, just feels kinda weird to me
She could have just said "value" but she said "dollar value"
You got roasted by people who don't have anything to give or at least not anything most people want.
It's true 🎉
Why would net worth have anything to do with friendship...
And if this was her "clarifying the context" then she failed.
TH-cam is a wasteland.
Don’t get friendzone for the fellas out there.
Shes right every relationship should be looked at that way, she was roasted be the leeches in the world
The ones who roasted her are the freeloaders who take more than they give in friendships
Meanwhile Jeff Bezos said “Life’s too short to hang out with unresourceful people.” And nothing happened 😂
Who is sheeee? I want to follow her
Vivian your rich BFF
What about love and mutual respect?
She’s right tho
She is absolutely right!