I didn't want to go to college either and my parents were cool with it but made me get a job and gave me a timeline to move out and support myself with it. Let's just say a year after working in the precarious fast food industry I figured maybe college isn't that bad, haha. Now I'm a very happy vet tech and make a good living. I'm glad they let me "fail" and I really am proud of the path I have chosen for myself. I wasn't a very driven person, so it helped that I knew that even though my options were open and I wasn't being judged on how I was going to do it, I was expected to be independent. It's hard to be 18, I feel for the kids and the parents going through this! 💕
Lol Mindy staying on her knees as she shuffles away was the best!! Thank you for reminding me of the kind of parent I always wanted to be. I have struggled for the last few years due to illness and huge levels of stress. I strongly believe in treating children as a whole person. And that my job is to always try to do better than yesterday, whatever that may look like.
My mom is a big fan of “taking a year or 2 off” of school to find yourself and what you really want to do for a living. My sister went to school right after graduating and dropped out because she realized that’s not what she wanted then took other classes to find she didn’t want that either. Save the money and figure out what you want to do in life. College/universities aren’t going anywhere. There is no rush It took me 6 years to figure it out. Starting college next week!
how do you not feel like too old in college? i had to take two years off and ive always been (perhaps too) ambitious, and it is making me feel very out of place to be older, even though it's just a few years! to 18 year olds, it feels like a big deal and I do feel like I'm in a different sort of mental stage of life than them, but I really want to be social. Any tips? :)
@@BetteDavis19 age will just be a topic for little headed people in that college.. In reality it really does not matter at what age you did what. The thing that Only matters is the achievements and not the timelines. Knowledge is a power for that. Knowledge and your degrees will define your life and not the age. As rightly said Age is just a number. So just study as hard as you can and gather enough knowledge so that such things for you would hardly matter 💜✌️ Edit- And the 'different sort of mental stage of life' is actually maturity in you and that is what makes you different in that crowd.
I used to be a therapist and before that a CPS and Foster Care Worker. I always taught the kids I worked with feelings are NEVER right or wrong, they just are. I always tell the story, if you were walking down the street with your friends and see a little old lady trip and fall down each one of you might have a different reaction. Someone might laugh and think it's funny. Someone might look away and feel embarrassed for them. Someone might get angry that they weren't looking where they were going. And someone might feel sad and run right over to help them. Usually, the kids can relate and then I remind them everyone feels a situation diffetently.
And don't listen to the haters. Alex will be fine. I feel he's still coming into his own. Some people thrive and do so much without a college education. I know so many people that college didn't even help with careers they finally got into
It also doesn't mean someone won't go to college at a later time. Many people also decide to go a vocational school or program that supports their interest and talents. It can be hard to decide what you want to do when you first graduate from high school.
My son is 26, and he is just now talking about being ready to further his education. Never push, just be there for them and love them unconditionally..
Introduction of our children is a topic we went over in church and how important speaking into each child’s life and claiming the good and speaking it ! Love all these 💗
I loved the last tip. Many times I hug my child because I need that hug just as much as they do. My husband died when they were 4 years old and 2 months old respectively. The younger one, I would just hold him and rock him far longer than he really needed because I needed him and just wanted to hold him. He is 26 now....and he will sit on the arm of a chair and reach over and give me the biggest hugs. I can't stress how awesome that is. He even says, I can't fit on your lap anymore, but I can try. My granddaughter, who is 12, will do the same thing. Another tip......always say I love you when you part ways....you never know that may be your final words to that person. My husband died in his sleep 26 years ago....you never know how long you have with someone. I love this new channel. A hug to each of you.
lol i held up my tears for the whole video and then the hug part just...made me cry 😭😂 I know the past is behind and everything and you can't change it but just to imagine a parent loving me the way you love your kids makes me so emotional
I agree with Crystal. When my son graduated I pushed him to go to college after HS, he dropped out because he felt like it was too much for him. I was devastated, but it was his lfe and his decision. He’s 25 now and has kept a great job, his vehicle and apartment. He’s doing great! Out there just networking. Alex will be fine.
This has to be your best vlog yet. I grew up in a loving home but most of the topics you spoke about today were not utilized. I wanted better for my children. I incorporated some of the things you said but not all of them. I am co-parenting my grandchild now and realize I have another chance!!! His dad left the home recently and I know he needs extra validations. Your vlog helped me identify what I need to be doing with him.
I went to college but I remember my parents telling me that I didn’t have to and they’d support my decision either way. That still stands out in my mind as being a moment where I felt really supported. :)
I actually really needed to see this video today.We are going through a huge transition and just left a very toxic home.Its important to slow down and give them attention.
I'm a hugger too but it's important to always respect what makes the other person comfortable. I can imagine for some kids, especially freshly out of the system, can be overwhelming or just strange if someone wants to hug them.
I thank u so much for mentioning the hand on the shoulder idea…I wasn’t raised like that “when adults are talking u don’t interrupt”..I knew it was wrong and changed a lil when I had my son but not enough..Thank u thank u
My husband and I have been dealing with secondary infertility for over a year now. Thank you for all the information about foster care, adoption, and all the information about doing it with biological children. We are going to start the process soon and it puts my mind at ease seeing all of you do it!
It’s crazy how much parents affect theirs children’s relationship with food and their body image. And if you think about it, we often model and have the same body insecurities as our parents
100% true as well a self esteem. Growing my mother used to constantly make negative comments about the way I looked which made me insecure and also self conscious about everything
I graduated in 2017 and still haven’t gone back to school. I have found out so much about myself and I changed my major actually so I’m so happy I waited. School burnt my brain out so bad plus I had mental health and adhd. I didn’t get any help with my conditions now I’m not ready for school at all. Alex will find out what he loves to do it just takes time 😊
Out oldest started slow now on college we are okay with him trying to see if college is for him while he concentrates on his mental health for right now. It's so important to be grounded and happy with yourself. My favorite time is when I pick up my kids from school and work or even friends is to hear how it was
Love this! I have always talked positively about my kids to their grandparents. Because of this they developed a very positive view of my children vs their other grandchildren whose parents complain about them! It really does make a difference. The grandparents treat the kids differently and it shows. I am so glad I could give my children this gift. When children are seen and treated as important, respected and their talents and positive aspects are noticed, they own up to it even more!
This video is just AMAZING 😭😍 Because my parents never showed me any affection, one of my biggest fear is that when I have my own kids I won't know how to make them know how much I love them...Your tips are so simple but yet so great ! I wish I had had someone like you in my life
You guys make me smile so much. Positivity is the number one rule in my house and I can’t sit here and say I’m killing it because I’m a Gemini and battling anxiety and depression BUT my intentions are always good and watching your guys’ channels really do help! (Sorry for the run on sentence). Lol. Loving the channel so far!! You ladies should deep dive in to relationship/ marriage issues and solutions even maybe the topic of finding intimate time in a space where it seems impossible ;) sending love!
I struggle a lot being the best parent because I never had a good role model but I absolutely love watching both your channels. You make me wanna be different and I certainly do try. Thank you Crazy’s.
Okay so about that Positive Introduction I will like to say if your kid is introverted they will definitely not want to start a conversation after introduction. Even if you want to introduce them just be like Hey this is abc and that's it. Because being an introvert it is really out of comfort zone. Sorry for bad English haha Loving this channel
OK. So my daughter is only two years old but I do the hellos and goodbyes a lot and I always talk positive about her to anyone and everyone who will listen! Right now her favorite thing is singing, so she is so happy and proud when she can sing along to some of the songs with the word she knows. I always ask her are you proud of yourself and she always claps her hands and says yeah yeah so I am super proud
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS!! I do catch myself not giving 100% attention if busy. I am going to focus more on this one in particular. Life happens ..sometimes we need to slow down and focus on what REALLY matters first! 💕
Also I love how you’re basicallysaying that they are learning from natural consequences. They fail in a way because they’re learning from natural consequences like the cold weather. What age do you recommend starting that? You guys give good tips
My air hug was only 2.5 seconds. 😭 I'm glad I finally made time to watch this video away from the kids. They can't know all my secrets. I do a lot of these already but I think the hand on the shoulder tip is going to help me the most. My 14 year old is always looking for that connection and validation and it isn't always practical to interupt someone speaking when they're sharing something hard or deep because they matter too.
You both are great parent roll models. This is something that should be taught in a high school parenting class. I see so many teen Moms who don’t have any idea about these invaluable principles.
I volunteer for a program in Australia and we teach the people that attend about hugs and how many hugs you need a day so it’s 4 for survival 8 for maintenance and 12 for growth
All of these tips could've been so helpful to my parents, especially my mum. I was never made to feel important, rarely validated or heard. Basically all the negatives of not doing these tips, my childhood. I think watching all these families and parents helps heal my damaged inner child As for Alex with college, you really don't need it these days. There are countless pathways other than college to get to where you want to be nowadays!
You differently hit some that I had not thought about and differently will be doing. Thank you so much for this video. I learned a lot of things thatI have been good at doing some I can definitely improve on and like I said new one that I never thought about. Thank you love this new Channel already ❤️❤️❤️
I just found the channel(after looking forever) I love all the tips and makes so much sense. I would like to say I was a good mom but I see I could have done more of these to make them feel how much I truly love them.
So true on Supporting your kids decisions. When I heard that Alex wasn't going to college right away I was like ok well he is a smart kid and knows what he wants and he will succeed in whatever he decides. College isn't for everyone and that is ok❤️😀
Hugs. I did the hug thing with my grandson at his 12th birthday party. I saw it on Crystal's channel. I usually give him a quick hug and move. He always gets a kiss. He will not let anyone else kiss him. On my goodbye to him I said let me try letting him decide to let go. Well I did not expect what happened next. He held the hug for a few minutes. Than he started quietly crying. I got on his level and ask him if there was something I could do for him. He said no FaFa I just had a really long week. And I was kind of scared turning 12 and you would no longer kiss me nd hug me. I told him for as long as I am breathing a breath hugs and kisses will always be the norm. I do not cry. But my eyes leaked. That is why I love watching all of your channels. I learn something new.🥰🥰
I love everything the both of you said❤️ It is the best feeling in the world to hug your kids. Aww our kids are so hugganle! One more thing I think is really important, is to not forget to tell them that they are so kind, they are so caring, they are so respectful, they care so much about other people. Grrr…it is so hard to explain when English is not my main language… I mean not only say that they are good in school, they are good at cleaning, they are good at sports…but to tell them that they are a great person… nope…I can’t find the right word… Hope you understand how I mean… ❤️ Love your channel
Great tips! I have raised 9 kids, well still raising 2.5 (25 year old still at home and still learning). I learned so much I'm going to implement immediately. My 15 year old is going to think I've lost my mind (when I start hugging OFTEN, I'm sure it's gonna be about 30 seconds) I'm a hugger, he isn't.
As a teacher and mom, I use all these tricks and way more and it helps a lot ! Tfs ..Keep it up... 🙂 Kids and adults no matter age always need to feel loved! I am a great hugger too. Hugs are good for the soul and mind. 🥰
Great content, Mindy is too cute. It's wonderful that you included her & I hope to see more of her on all your different channels. It "hugs" my heart to see all the love in both your family's. 😘
Love you guys so much! I really admire you both and hope to foster and adopt someday! Thank you for always putting a smile on my face. Your families are incredible.
I'd love for you to give examples of when you believe the kids can make their own decisions (and we accept them even if we don't agree) versus when as a parent we have to step in with them making a decision. As my kids are getting older and are soon going to be adults I want to equip them as best I can with independence but also know sometimes kids need guidance.
Just let Alex have a break from school. He’s probably burned out! Have him work for awhile until he’s ready to go back to school. Since he likes Football & Basketball, maybe he can go into Physical Therapist in sports medicine.
I think the parents have to be at little harder. At the age of 18 if you still live at home, and you dont do nothing you have to pay fpr living home. But if you going to college, that goes away.
This video I’ve thought about every day since you posted it. I thought I was good at making my child feel important but these tips have made me even better.
Love this! I am a single mother of two young boys💙💚 and I can check mark off most of these, which let me tell you makes me feel great! It’s extremely tough playing both roles 24/7. But I know through him I can handle all things! Thank you for your videos 💜 🥰
This is the channel I needed. I’ve learned a lot from you both through your channels, but I needed this in depth help. I have one child, and we are finding resources for his “quirks,” but I really liked all of these ideas because I know I can be better, and want to be better for my son. Thank you so much for this channel. I’m excited to learn some things from you super moms. ❤️
I wish everyone would stop calling them "kids" THEY LAUGH AT US!!!! They are children or lambs, not baby goats to be led to the slaughter. Not mine at least. "Sometimes words have two meanings" one for them one for us. Next time I get myself " liquid sea kelp" for my thyroid I'm gonna get some for Hallie. She's a tender hearted girl and the tears are gonna cause bags under her eyes when she gets older. Baby girl, tears don't help. If you will look at a bright light sometimes you can stop the tears from coming. I cry alot too. Take care crazy fam. Thanks for sharing. I smiled the entire video
Okay I’m not a mum just a teen watching. But at first with the validating one I was like but a fall is a no big deal don’t want them to turn in to a soccer player rolling about on the floor kind of thing. But the it’s just the time of the month is a big one people do but that’s 1/4 of your life when having periods and your feelings still need to be considered in that week. Your explanations are great.
I'm not even a mom yet but I'm for sure gonna save all of these tips and use it for the future😭❤️!! It's lovely to see such a perspective, thank you so much for sharing!!
I just used “9” in a really hard choice. My son and I have invested 3 years to music/band. So I assumed (🤪) he would continue music/band through his high school years. Well that’s not what he wanted . He switched gears and wanted the football life. I struggled with wanting to fight this choice of his, but then there was a moment that I realized this is his highschool time , not mine and I just want him to enjoy highschool. So now I am a football 🏈 mom 😊 and the trumpet is set aside for the moment. And that’s ok ✅
That was such a great video! I learned so much. It is so amazing how you have both taken in sad foster children and managed to change them into happy, healthy children. Most of us wonder how you have both done this. Now we know some of the answers. Please give us more important ideas on how to make life better for children. I can’t think of more important information. Thank you for creating this wonderful life changing channel !!!
Rule number 8 was practiced in house of 8 starting in the 60's. Works well when family members/parents were on the landline too. No screaming from other rooms or yelling just a hand on shoulder and you were on "hold"until they could address you you. Plus touch is a powerful thing. IF my parent would yell upstairs to us/ a group of us the only reply we were taught was"I'm coming" NEVER "WHAT"! Taught my husband it too.
Way to go guys, u did a great thing, discussing how to be a good parent. U guys hit the mark rite on the spot. If more parents were like that this world would be more Loving, I believe. Much love to you guys and ur family
Aww you ladies are my go-to for mama inspiration, so glad you finally got to start your new channel. And I just have to say, Mindy acting like the child made me laugh so hard!! it was adorable. Great acting job Mindy!
I'm glad someone finally brought this up because i'm 13 and when my step mom comes into the house and say hey to everyone except me, it makes me feel some type of way. Now i'm usually always the last one to like show my self, but it still hurts me for me to here her saying heyy to everyone else, but asking me to do something like help her with her bags or clean this or do that instead of actually acknowledging that i'm there first. But i never say anything about it because i always hide my feelings so the family would just be like it doesn't matter or it's not that serious.
Can you not talk to your stepmom and tell her how you feel? I agree hiding feelings and stuff from family, I even do that with my own family if I mention it I get yelled and cussed at.. I just don’t know your situation.
@@cheyennehalliger1164 That's actually why i never said anything, because if she thinks it doesn't matter she'll just joke and cuss about it, or even yell. I feel like when i first met her i was so closed off that she a got this bad impression of me that wasn't actually me. So she probably thinks it doesn't hurt me but it does because i'm more sensitive than i act. I just act mean sometimes to protect my feelings, because if i wasn't used to the stuff they say sometimes my feelings would be hurt a lot. I understand whet you mean i just haven't worked up the courage to do so yet.
@@aundriya390 I get where you are coming from, sorta, can I ask you does she (your stepmom) seems like everything is about her, like if people are talking and then she starts talking like “time to be in the spotlight”. I don’t understand why family have to yell and cuss one that doesn’t make you look good
@@cheyennehalliger1164 She kind of does that, but not really. It's more like she pays less attention to me because she feels like i'm the i'm the bigger person in situations between me, my sister, and my 5 year old niece, which is her grandchild, like whenever we argue. So basically it's like they're more sensitive and immature than me. So i think she feel like they need more acknowledgement than me. Like one day she actually told me she liked me being the better person which was a compliment even though sometimes i'm not the bigger person, but most of the time I am. I'm probably making her seem mean, but she's really not i was just addressing the problem that i'm pretty much ignored.
Yes! the hugs!, last week sometime, (at work, quick back story, I'd been the toddler teacher forever there and I switched recently to infants, but my kids are not two yet and are with the best co-teacher I ever had, she is going to be a great tods teacher and I can't wait to see her shine!) but last week I came in, in the morning and one of my toddlers ran over to me after I said "Hi L!" she ran over and I crouched down and she wrapped her arms around my neck and hugged me and kept hugging me and I was like "what a good hug!" I don't know how long it was but she hugged me a long time I stood up and held her. Then she sat back and I asked her how her weekend was....which goes: "did you have a good weekend?" they say yes or no, she replied with "yes daddy!" and so I said "you hung out with daddy! that is so fun! did you go swimming, or no?" and she said "noooo" lol! but yeah, I love talking to the toddlers because even if it's not a straightforward convo and even if it's not always the truth with some of them bc some say yes to everything I say, I still get just as excited bc I love how happy they get when I am like "no way!" lol but yes hugs are a big things to me too.
Love your tips!And definitely going to try doing the one of having them put them put their hand on their dads/my shoulder instead of saying dad dad/mom mom!!And definitely more “real” hugs instead of side hugs!
Great Tips for anyone who has children in their lives! Enjoy your videos/vlogs so much. Keep Up The Awesome work! Love ❤️hugs🥰prayers 🙏and blessings to all.
I am so far behind in your vlogs but not anymore I am catching up . I think kids mental health comes first I remember my daughter was doing Uni and working full time and under so much pressure that she had a break down from it all , in the end I told her that she has to come first and if that meant dropping uni so be it so that’s what she did and she is now 100 times better mentally and I have my daughter back in so many ways .
Hey crazy family I am 8 weeks pregnant and am so excited to welcome the baby into our lives. This is my first pregnancy and I am also kinda nervous about what is it like handling a newborn. I wanna b prepared but I want to enjoy pregnancy time too. Love you guys.
Keep your channel going!! Can you do a vlog on how you handle preteens as they mature n develope....no names need to be mentioned!! Lots parents out there struggle in this area some don't acknowledge these subjects....some won't take the time!
I agree with you about education. My husband always said our daughter would go to college no matter what. I agree that some type of education is necessary even if it is some type of trade. Not all kids are going to be dr. Or lawyers. Love you bothm
am i the only one who doesn’t have kids yet but still watches to show support? 😂 love you both!!!
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No intentions of having a family. 🙊 Yet , I love watching both families
@Maricruz Mejia put yo situation in God's hand...God knew you...
I didn't want to go to college either and my parents were cool with it but made me get a job and gave me a timeline to move out and support myself with it. Let's just say a year after working in the precarious fast food industry I figured maybe college isn't that bad, haha. Now I'm a very happy vet tech and make a good living. I'm glad they let me "fail" and I really am proud of the path I have chosen for myself. I wasn't a very driven person, so it helped that I knew that even though my options were open and I wasn't being judged on how I was going to do it, I was expected to be independent. It's hard to be 18, I feel for the kids and the parents going through this! 💕
Lol Mindy staying on her knees as she shuffles away was the best!!
Thank you for reminding me of the kind of parent I always wanted to be. I have struggled for the last few years due to illness and huge levels of stress. I strongly believe in treating children as a whole person. And that my job is to always try to do better than yesterday, whatever that may look like.
My mom is a big fan of “taking a year or 2 off” of school to find yourself and what you really want to do for a living. My sister went to school right after graduating and dropped out because she realized that’s not what she wanted then took other classes to find she didn’t want that either. Save the money and figure out what you want to do in life. College/universities aren’t going anywhere. There is no rush
It took me 6 years to figure it out. Starting college next week!
how do you not feel like too old in college? i had to take two years off and ive always been (perhaps too) ambitious, and it is making me feel very out of place to be older, even though it's just a few years! to 18 year olds, it feels like a big deal and I do feel like I'm in a different sort of mental stage of life than them, but I really want to be social. Any tips? :)
@@BetteDavis19 age will just be a topic for little headed people in that college.. In reality it really does not matter at what age you did what. The thing that Only matters is the achievements and not the timelines. Knowledge is a power for that. Knowledge and your degrees will define your life and not the age. As rightly said Age is just a number. So just study as hard as you can and gather enough knowledge so that such things for you would hardly matter 💜✌️
Edit- And the 'different sort of mental stage of life' is actually maturity in you and that is what makes you different in that crowd.
I used to be a therapist and before that a CPS and Foster Care Worker. I always taught the kids I worked with feelings are NEVER right or wrong, they just are. I always tell the story, if you were walking down the street with your friends and see a little old lady trip and fall down each one of you might have a different reaction. Someone might laugh and think it's funny. Someone might look away and feel embarrassed for them. Someone might get angry that they weren't looking where they were going. And someone might feel sad and run right over to help them. Usually, the kids can relate and then I remind them everyone feels a situation diffetently.
And don't listen to the haters. Alex will be fine. I feel he's still coming into his own. Some people thrive and do so much without a college education. I know so many people that college didn't even help with careers they finally got into
Especially not to worry because their are soo many Marxist professors, no one needs that
Right, that doesn't help anyone
It also doesn't mean someone won't go to college at a later time. Many people also decide to go a vocational school or program that supports their interest and talents. It can be hard to decide what you want to do when you first graduate from high school.
My son is 26, and he is just now talking about being ready to further his education. Never push, just be there for them and love them unconditionally..
Introduction of our children is a topic we went over in church and how important speaking into each child’s life and claiming the good and speaking it ! Love all these 💗
#10. I feel spoiled. I got hugs and "I love you" every day.
I was poor growing up and that made a huge difference!
I loved the last tip. Many times I hug my child because I need that hug just as much as they do. My husband died when they were 4 years old and 2 months old respectively. The younger one, I would just hold him and rock him far longer than he really needed because I needed him and just wanted to hold him. He is 26 now....and he will sit on the arm of a chair and reach over and give me the biggest hugs. I can't stress how awesome that is. He even says, I can't fit on your lap anymore, but I can try. My granddaughter, who is 12, will do the same thing. Another tip......always say I love you when you part ways....you never know that may be your final words to that person. My husband died in his sleep 26 years ago....you never know how long you have with someone. I love this new channel. A hug to each of you.
lol i held up my tears for the whole video and then the hug part just...made me cry 😭😂 I know the past is behind and everything and you can't change it but just to imagine a parent loving me the way you love your kids makes me so emotional
I loved that tap on the shoulder tip! Also college will always be there if Alex ever chooses to go.
I agree with Crystal. When my son graduated I pushed him to go to college after HS, he dropped out because he felt like it was too much for him. I was devastated, but it was his lfe and his decision. He’s 25 now and has kept a great job, his vehicle and apartment. He’s doing great! Out there just networking. Alex will be fine.
This has to be your best vlog yet. I grew up in a loving home but most of the topics you spoke about today were not utilized. I wanted better for my children. I incorporated some of the things you said but not all of them. I am co-parenting my grandchild now and realize I have another chance!!! His dad left the home recently and I know he needs extra validations. Your vlog helped me identify what I need to be doing with him.
I went to college but I remember my parents telling me that I didn’t have to and they’d support my decision either way. That still stands out in my mind as being a moment where I felt really supported. :)
I actually really needed to see this video today.We are going through a huge transition and just left a very toxic home.Its important to slow down and give them attention.
I'm a hugger too but it's important to always respect what makes the other person comfortable. I can imagine for some kids, especially freshly out of the system, can be overwhelming or just strange if someone wants to hug them.
I thank u so much for mentioning the hand on the shoulder idea…I wasn’t raised like that “when adults are talking u don’t interrupt”..I knew it was wrong and changed a lil when I had my son but not enough..Thank u thank u
My husband and I have been dealing with secondary infertility for over a year now. Thank you for all the information about foster care, adoption, and all the information about doing it with biological children. We are going to start the process soon and it puts my mind at ease seeing all of you do it!
It’s crazy how much parents affect theirs children’s relationship with food and their body image. And if you think about it, we often model and have the same body insecurities as our parents
100% true as well a self esteem. Growing my mother used to constantly make negative comments about the way I looked which made me insecure and also self conscious about everything
I graduated in 2017 and still haven’t gone back to school. I have found out so much about myself and I changed my major actually so I’m so happy I waited. School burnt my brain out so bad plus I had mental health and adhd. I didn’t get any help with my conditions now I’m not ready for school at all. Alex will find out what he loves to do it just takes time 😊
The last one is my favorite too. I love giving and receiving hugs
Out oldest started slow now on college we are okay with him trying to see if college is for him while he concentrates on his mental health for right now. It's so important to be grounded and happy with yourself.
My favorite time is when I pick up my kids from school and work or even friends is to hear how it was
Love this! I have always talked positively about my kids to their grandparents. Because of this they developed a very positive view of my children vs their other grandchildren whose parents complain about them! It really does make a difference. The grandparents treat the kids differently and it shows. I am so glad I could give my children this gift. When children are seen and treated as important, respected and their talents and positive aspects are noticed, they own up to it even more!
This video is just AMAZING 😭😍 Because my parents never showed me any affection, one of my biggest fear is that when I have my own kids I won't know how to make them know how much I love them...Your tips are so simple but yet so great ! I wish I had had someone like you in my life
You guys make me smile so much. Positivity is the number one rule in my house and I can’t sit here and say I’m killing it because I’m a Gemini and battling anxiety and depression BUT my intentions are always good and watching your guys’ channels really do help! (Sorry for the run on sentence). Lol. Loving the channel so far!! You ladies should deep dive in to relationship/ marriage issues and solutions even maybe the topic of finding intimate time in a space where it seems impossible ;) sending love!
This channel is absolute gold. Thank you for opening your family up to us : )
I struggle a lot being the best parent because I never had a good role model but I absolutely love watching both your channels. You make me wanna be different and I certainly do try. Thank you Crazy’s.
Okay so about that Positive Introduction I will like to say if your kid is introverted they will definitely not want to start a conversation after introduction. Even if you want to introduce them just be like Hey this is abc and that's it. Because being an introvert it is really out of comfort zone.
Sorry for bad English haha
Loving this channel
So true! Neither of my girls will start up a conversation.
So true!
I would give anything to this day and I am 70 to have heard one of these things from my mother. You both are so amazing.
OK. So my daughter is only two years old but I do the hellos and goodbyes a lot and I always talk positive about her to anyone and everyone who will listen! Right now her favorite thing is singing, so she is so happy and proud when she can sing along to some of the songs with the word she knows. I always ask her are you proud of yourself and she always claps her hands and says yeah yeah so I am super proud
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS!! I do catch myself not giving 100% attention if busy. I am going to focus more on this one in particular. Life happens ..sometimes we need to slow down and focus on what REALLY matters first! 💕
Also I love how you’re basicallysaying that they are learning from natural consequences. They fail in a way because they’re learning from natural consequences like the cold weather. What age do you recommend starting that? You guys give good tips
My air hug was only 2.5 seconds. 😭
I'm glad I finally made time to watch this video away from the kids. They can't know all my secrets. I do a lot of these already but I think the hand on the shoulder tip is going to help me the most. My 14 year old is always looking for that connection and validation and it isn't always practical to interupt someone speaking when they're sharing something hard or deep because they matter too.
You both are great parent roll models. This is something that should be taught in a high school parenting class. I see so many teen Moms who don’t have any idea about these invaluable principles.
I volunteer for a program in Australia and we teach the people that attend about hugs and how many hugs you need a day so it’s 4 for survival 8 for maintenance and 12 for growth
All of these tips could've been so helpful to my parents, especially my mum. I was never made to feel important, rarely validated or heard. Basically all the negatives of not doing these tips, my childhood. I think watching all these families and parents helps heal my damaged inner child
As for Alex with college, you really don't need it these days. There are countless pathways other than college to get to where you want to be nowadays!
You differently hit some that I had not thought about and differently will be doing. Thank you so much for this video. I learned a lot of things thatI have been good at doing some I can definitely improve on and like I said new one that I never thought about. Thank you love this new Channel already ❤️❤️❤️
Love yall!! Would love to learn more about the love and logic course that you teach Crystal!
Yes please!!!!
I just found the channel(after looking forever) I love all the tips and makes so much sense. I would like to say I was a good mom but I see I could have done more of these to make them feel how much I truly love them.
So true on Supporting your kids decisions. When I heard that Alex wasn't going to college right away I was like ok well he is a smart kid and knows what he wants and he will succeed in whatever he decides. College isn't for everyone and that is ok❤️😀
Yay ladies! This was so much fun! Tyvm. Hugs from Kentucky 💞
Hugs. I did the hug thing with my grandson at his 12th birthday party. I saw it on Crystal's channel. I usually give him a quick hug and move. He always gets a kiss. He will not let anyone else kiss him. On my goodbye to him I said let me try letting him decide to let go. Well I did not expect what happened next. He held the hug for a few minutes. Than he started quietly crying. I got on his level and ask him if there was something I could do for him. He said no FaFa I just had a really long week. And I was kind of scared turning 12 and you would no longer kiss me nd hug me. I told him for as long as I am breathing a breath hugs and kisses will always be the norm. I do not cry. But my eyes leaked. That is why I love watching all of your channels. I learn something new.🥰🥰
That’s all great advice! My littles are all grown and in their 30’s now.
I love the hand on the shoulder. That is so helpful. Thank you ladies.
I love everything the both of you said❤️ It is the best feeling in the world to hug your kids. Aww our kids are so hugganle!
One more thing I think is really important, is to not forget to tell them that they are so kind, they are so caring, they are so respectful, they care so much about other people. Grrr…it is so hard to explain when English is not my main language… I mean not only say that they are good in school, they are good at cleaning, they are good at sports…but to tell them that they are a great person… nope…I can’t find the right word… Hope you understand how I mean… ❤️ Love your channel
Great tips! I have raised 9 kids, well still raising 2.5 (25 year old still at home and still learning). I learned so much I'm going to implement immediately. My 15 year old is going to think I've lost my mind (when I start hugging OFTEN, I'm sure it's gonna be about 30 seconds) I'm a hugger, he isn't.
As a teacher and mom, I use all these tricks and way more and it helps a lot !
Tfs ..Keep it up... 🙂
Kids and adults no matter age always need to feel loved! I am a great hugger too.
Hugs are good for the soul and mind. 🥰
I’m a class A hugger, but this pandemic has been so hard! Love you guys so much! Thanks for this!!
Thanks so much! Miss hugging so much!🤗🤗
I feel this!!! It literally has broken me bc all i want is a hug most days.
Great content, Mindy is too cute. It's wonderful that you included her & I hope to see more of her on all your different channels. It "hugs" my heart to see all the love in both your family's. 😘
Love you guys so much! I really admire you both and hope to foster and adopt someday! Thank you for always putting a smile on my face. Your families are incredible.
Thank you Ally!
I hope you guys can foster one day. We adopted children are wonderful . I just love watching there blogs.
I'd love for you to give examples of when you believe the kids can make their own decisions (and we accept them even if we don't agree) versus when as a parent we have to step in with them making a decision. As my kids are getting older and are soon going to be adults I want to equip them as best I can with independence but also know sometimes kids need guidance.
Just let Alex have a break from school. He’s probably burned out! Have him work for awhile until he’s ready to go back to school. Since he likes Football & Basketball, maybe he can go into Physical Therapist in sports medicine.
I think the parents have to be at little harder. At the age of 18 if you still live at home, and you dont do nothing you have to pay fpr living home. But if you going to college, that goes away.
This video I’ve thought about every day since you posted it. I thought I was good at making my child feel important but these tips have made me even better.
Love this! I am a single mother of two young boys💙💚 and I can check mark off most of these, which let me tell you makes me feel great! It’s extremely tough playing both roles 24/7. But I know through him I can handle all things! Thank you for your videos 💜 🥰
I really appreciate sincerity and I love that you let us see behind the scenes❤️
I’ve been waiting for another video! I look up to you both as mothers and love learning how you do things!
Thank you for your support, Erin!
Thank you for those very precious tips. I would love to see more videos with mom tips. 🌹❤️
This is the channel I needed. I’ve learned a lot from you both through your channels, but I needed this in depth help. I have one child, and we are finding resources for his “quirks,” but I really liked all of these ideas because I know I can be better, and want to be better for my son. Thank you so much for this channel. I’m excited to learn some things from you super moms. ❤️
So happy to find y’all!!!! I really appreciate your wisdom and insights 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I wish everyone would stop calling them "kids" THEY LAUGH AT US!!!!
They are children or lambs, not baby goats to be led to the slaughter. Not mine at least.
"Sometimes words have two meanings" one for them one for us.
Next time I get myself " liquid sea kelp" for my thyroid I'm gonna get some for Hallie. She's a tender hearted girl and the tears are gonna cause bags under her eyes when she gets older.
Baby girl, tears don't help. If you will look at a bright light sometimes you can stop the tears from coming. I cry alot too.
Take care crazy fam. Thanks for sharing. I smiled the entire video
Okay I’m not a mum just a teen watching. But at first with the validating one I was like but a fall is a no big deal don’t want them to turn in to a soccer player rolling about on the floor kind of thing. But the it’s just the time of the month is a big one people do but that’s 1/4 of your life when having periods and your feelings still need to be considered in that week. Your explanations are great.
I'm not even a mom yet but I'm for sure gonna save all of these tips and use it for the future😭❤️!! It's lovely to see such a perspective, thank you so much for sharing!!
I just used “9” in a really hard choice. My son and I have invested 3 years to music/band. So I assumed (🤪) he would continue music/band through his high school years. Well that’s not what he wanted . He switched gears and wanted the football life. I struggled with wanting to fight this choice of his, but then there was a moment that I realized this is his highschool time , not mine and I just want him to enjoy highschool. So now I am a football 🏈 mom 😊 and the trumpet is set aside for the moment. And that’s ok ✅
That was such a great video!
I learned so much. It is so amazing how you have both taken in sad foster children and managed to change them into happy, healthy children. Most of us wonder how you have both done this. Now we know some of the answers. Please give us more important ideas on how to make life better for children. I can’t think of more important information. Thank you for creating this wonderful life changing channel !!!
Hugs are the best I give them to my grandkids and my family all the time!
Good ideas, even for any kind of relationships/friendships!! Thank you!
I died laughing at the sequence with Mindy 😭
Rule number 8 was practiced in house of 8 starting in the 60's. Works well when family members/parents were on the landline too. No screaming from other rooms or yelling just a hand on shoulder and you were on "hold"until they could address you you. Plus touch is a powerful thing. IF my parent would yell upstairs to us/ a group of us the only reply we were taught was"I'm coming" NEVER "WHAT"! Taught my husband it too.
Way to go guys, u did a great thing, discussing how to be a good parent. U guys hit the mark rite on the spot. If more parents were like that this world would be more Loving, I believe. Much love to you guys and ur family
So true!
Shelly & Crystal you 2 are amazing mother's! I love both families as if they were mine. Have a safe Labor Day Weekend!!!
Aww you ladies are my go-to for mama inspiration, so glad you finally got to start your new channel. And I just have to say, Mindy acting like the child made me laugh so hard!! it was adorable. Great acting job Mindy!
I'm glad someone finally brought this up because i'm 13 and when my step mom comes into the house and say hey to everyone except me, it makes me feel some type of way. Now i'm usually always the last one to like show my self, but it still hurts me for me to here her saying heyy to everyone else, but asking me to do something like help her with her bags or clean this or do that instead of actually acknowledging that i'm there first. But i never say anything about it because i always hide my feelings so the family would just be like it doesn't matter or it's not that serious.
Can you not talk to your stepmom and tell her how you feel? I agree hiding feelings and stuff from family, I even do that with my own family if I mention it I get yelled and cussed at.. I just don’t know your situation.
@@cheyennehalliger1164 That's actually why i never said anything, because if she thinks it doesn't matter she'll just joke and cuss about it, or even yell. I feel like when i first met her i was so closed off that she a got this bad impression of me that wasn't actually me. So she probably thinks it doesn't hurt me but it does because i'm more sensitive than i act. I just act mean sometimes to protect my feelings, because if i wasn't used to the stuff they say sometimes my feelings would be hurt a lot. I understand whet you mean i just haven't worked up the courage to do so yet.
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I get where you are coming from, sorta, can I ask you does she (your stepmom) seems like everything is about her, like if people are talking and then she starts talking like “time to be in the spotlight”. I don’t understand why family have to yell and cuss one that doesn’t make you look good
@@cheyennehalliger1164 She kind of does that, but not really. It's more like she pays less attention to me because she feels like i'm the i'm the bigger person in situations between me, my sister, and my 5 year old niece, which is her grandchild, like whenever we argue. So basically it's like they're more sensitive and immature than me. So i think she feel like they need more acknowledgement than me. Like one day she actually told me she liked me being the better person which was a compliment even though sometimes i'm not the bigger person, but most of the time I am. I'm probably making her seem mean, but she's really not i was just addressing the problem that i'm pretty much ignored.
Yes! the hugs!, last week sometime, (at work, quick back story, I'd been the toddler teacher forever there and I switched recently to infants, but my kids are not two yet and are with the best co-teacher I ever had, she is going to be a great tods teacher and I can't wait to see her shine!) but last week I came in, in the morning and one of my toddlers ran over to me after I said "Hi L!" she ran over and I crouched down and she wrapped her arms around my neck and hugged me and kept hugging me and I was like "what a good hug!" I don't know how long it was but she hugged me a long time I stood up and held her. Then she sat back and I asked her how her weekend was....which goes: "did you have a good weekend?" they say yes or no, she replied with "yes daddy!" and so I said "you hung out with daddy! that is so fun! did you go swimming, or no?" and she said "noooo" lol! but yeah, I love talking to the toddlers because even if it's not a straightforward convo and even if it's not always the truth with some of them bc some say yes to everything I say, I still get just as excited bc I love how happy they get when I am like "no way!" lol but yes hugs are a big things to me too.
Love your tips!And definitely going to try doing the one of having them put them put their hand on their dads/my shoulder instead of saying dad dad/mom mom!!And definitely more “real” hugs instead of side hugs!
Keep them coming. Your doing awesome ladies . Hugs are very important 🤗❤
Great Tips for anyone who has children in their lives! Enjoy your videos/vlogs so much. Keep Up The Awesome work! Love ❤️hugs🥰prayers 🙏and blessings to all.
I am so far behind in your vlogs but not anymore I am catching up . I think kids mental health comes first I remember my daughter was doing Uni and working full time and under so much pressure that she had a break down from it all , in the end I told her that she has to come first and if that meant dropping uni so be it so that’s what she did and she is now 100 times better mentally and I have my daughter back in so many ways .
Ima save this video for when I have kids someday. But use the advise in other relationships in my life right now. Love you guys
I really like this. You both are great mums 🤗 Hugs from Kenya!
Great advice, thanks for sharing
Your videos literally warm up my heart, I can feel love from afar :D
Thanks for all the tips. I love to make my daughters feel love and that they know that they are important. I’m loving this channel.
I love you guys. You are amazing women, moms, wives, friends, etc. Love your outlook on life.
I love watching your family videos so much and I love crazy pieces and crazy middles too
Hey crazy family
I am 8 weeks pregnant and am so excited to welcome the baby into our lives. This is my first pregnancy and I am also kinda nervous about what is it like handling a newborn. I wanna b prepared but I want to enjoy pregnancy time too. Love you guys.
Love the both channels of yours , and you both together are just wonderful
Love this new chanel!! Thank you!!
Keep your channel going!! Can you do a vlog on how you handle preteens as they mature n develope....no names need to be mentioned!! Lots parents out there struggle in this area some don't acknowledge these subjects....some won't take the time!
Awwe. Thank you for you two being so real.
You both are such awesome Mom's and definitely don't listen to the haters you get that everywhere you go in life
I’m nearing 30 and have never experienced any of these things from my parents or family. lol…
I agree with you about education. My husband always said our daughter would go to college no matter what. I agree that some type of education is necessary even if it is some type of trade. Not all kids are going to be dr. Or lawyers. Love you bothm
My mom would always say “it hurts cuz you are alive” and it annoyed me but it made me not complain when it was something small
Air hugs back!!!
I can tell I’m going to absolutely love this channel!! Thank you ladies for be honest and sharing the things you’ve learned. 💜
I loved these so much! It gave me ideas for my kids. 💕 love this channel so much.
Love this! Love the entire Crazy Fam!
It's hard now days for kids to understand that it's ok to fail and accept that it's ok.😊❤
Awesome video, so excited for the next one!! Loving u guys🤗🤗🤗❤️🇿🇦
Love this 🥰
I work in child care and this is so important! You are both amazing!!!
Crazy fan from Australia 🇦🇺🥰