My Parents Are Charging Me Rent! (Should They Be?)
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Yeah my mom charged me rent at 18 which made it impossible for me to afford school, beeper bill, insurance and car note. So I ended up joining the military. Now 25 years later she’s old, broke and living in MY house. Yup, I’m charging her rent!!! 😂 She wasn’t happy about it but I told her she taught me nobody lives for free 😆.
You reap what you sow!
In a similar situation this story gives me hope
Ah the beeper bill. Great lesson for all!
yyou are nicer than me I have NO intentions of taking care of my mother
@@liveinms9949what happened between you guys that made you not want to take care of her?
My mom took the reverse. She told me I can live rent-free if I went to college. I paid for all my college with no undergrad loans. Fast forward 4 years I paid my mom's mortgage off.
Great moms usually make great sons. Good job.
My son is at home doing the same. Our home is paid off though. As a parent you can’t forget fiscal training!
Oh my gosh, I'm sure your mother appreciated that tremendously!
I'm sure she has never felt more proud of you and more loved by you in that moment
I hate parents that charge their kids rent to teach them ‘responsibility’. Sorry BUT in THIS CASE this kid IS doing everything correctly, he is being responsible and does not ‘need’ this lesson.
I feel like mom found the perfect happy medium. When I turned 18, it was right when COVID started, so I didn’t end up going to college immediately, and I stayed home for a few years. Through that time, she charged me rent. I was a little upset about it, but it taught me to keep up with my bills. When I finally moved out for college, as it turned out, she had never used a penny of what I gave her, but had instead saved it to return to me to help me when I move out. She still taught me to keep up with my responsibilities, but didn’t really charge me to live with her. I love my mom
My father did something similar, $100 a month for 4 years from age 16 to 20, but he bought me a used car with like no miles on it instead when I moved out.
I was thinking that maybe those parents are doing that: Making him believe that he is paying rent.
If you’re paying rent, then you basically have owners rights to the property you’re renting which means you can do as you please in that space. Personally I moved out and found roommates so I didn’t have to deal with shitty parents at 17.
@@verdatajmorus4308 No, you do not have "owner's rights" to a property you are renting and you can not do as you please in that space. Where did you EVER come up with that ridiculous idea?
@@lucycat4305 if you have a rental agreement/lease your landlord can not barge in because they have the deed. They have legally handed over rights to the renter and saddled their selves with responsibilities like keeping the property habitable.
"I"m going to abuse you because I was abused and turned out.....to be an abuser?" When you hear somebody start a sentence like this, they didn't turn out "just fine". This is a person whose abuse was called "love" or "responsibility" or whatever the con was at the time. They didn't know it and still don't so they continue the cycle. This kid is wiser than his parents. Good man. Outstanding.
Dang that hits home for me.
Abuse? 😂
I worked in drug rehab and some had been abused by their parents and thought they "turned out fine". No, you are not fine! You're in drug rehab!
@@suen5006 that's a lie the brain tells to survive. Really tough lessons to learn and you're an angel for supporting that incredibly painful journey others are faced with.
I did not put in 40 hours of work and school at 16. I respect this kid.
I did at 17. I had 2 jobs. My Moms new boyfriend lived in another state. She moved and left me alone in that state the day after my 17th birthday. It was weird. I didn’t want to go. I didn’t like him then, I don’t like him 44 years later. When I called to tell them my cancer was back and now stage 3 his first words were “suck it up Buttercup, you’re no one special. Don’t think you’re going to call this house and whine about it” I hung up. I never talked to my mom. We’ve never talked about it. OH, She got the same Cancer a few years later! You’d have thought the world was ending 🙄 She’s fine. She’s almost 90. Her Husband is too. Btw, that 2nd Cancer fight came at the same time I’d lost my adult daughter & grandchild. (Only child, only grandchild) When my Husband filed for divorce because he wanted “a real woman not one with cut up, effed up Cancer tits” his words not mine. I went thru several surgeries and all treatments alone. I was the good kid, the good daughter, the good sister too. I put everyone ahead of me. I just left their Mormon church. The “Family Religion” can’t shit on you fast enough when you disagree with them.
@@jenniferd264I think you need a therapist, my friend.
@@tableontheroof5668 what’s a therapist going to do about it? Maybe a church, or just a supportive group like a group of friends would help. But don’t spend your last years paying huge fees just to talk to someone. Unless that’s what YOU want.
At least don’t spend your last days taking unsolicited advice. Do what you want.
It seems like they parents did something right because he seem to work hard. But they are crazy on this one. He is 16 and a income based rent is the most stupid thing to begin with…
He has great parents
My Father charged me 1/3 of my wage in rent for a year before I moved out. I was pretty miffed about it but then after I had secured my own accommodation he gave it all back to me in cash as set up costs and basically said he was proud of me.
My friend did this.
Well done! You don’t give your reaction?
That feels manipulative. He could have offered it as an incentive.
How old were you?
Thats actually loving. He was basically saving it for you.
Report the money you pay them as income to the Canadian tax authorities.
😂😂😂😂
absolutely! If they want to be landlords then they can pay the taxes on the rental income!!!!
Yep, they should be paying tax on it.
I ran away 3,000 miles from one coast to the other to get away form my parents in high school. I eventually came back, but left soon after graduation. My family life was hell on earth. Over 40 years later I'm successful, have a great family. We are helping pay for our sons college. We don't charge him when hes home, he works during the summer and puts half his money towards his tuition. the other half is spending money for the school year. We give him an additional $80.00 a month on top of paying for tuition. He's a super hard worker and always has been. Our home is a safe haven for him.
That sounds like great parenting, to me
As a parent, I would never even consider doing this. Absolutely ridiculous. If you want your kids to absolutely hate you, do crap like this.
You obviously don't have any kids.. when they're older and much more mature, they'll thank you for these hard life lessons.
@@tired_brickmason34 You know, it is the best learning curve to start them realizing that you get nothing for free. If I went on a holiday, didn't have to pay it then, and I remember my mother saying, remember if you lived in a flat or unit, you would still be paying for the time you are away. When you think it covers food, water, phone (old style back then), washing, ironing, etc., it's a pretty good deal. No overheads and you can save as well. We all had to do it, just put it on the shelf on pay day. Kids take advantage of weakness in parents, I see that today.
Take it easy you do not know how well off his parents are they may be struggling to keep a roof over their heads.
@@tired_brickmason34they said “as a parent”, implying they are a parent and have children. There are many other ways to teach your kids hard life lessons that doesn’t involve taking money from a 16 year old going to high school full time and still working the amount of hours they work. What an absolutely ridiculously short sighted/oversimplified way of thinking. Imagine how he could utilize that 500 bucks a month by the time he’s 18, especially with his abnormal drive and how mature he already sounds compared to the vast majority of his peers that age. This thread is filled with hard headed numbskulls that think that punishing their teenage kids for doing well is the only way to teach them life lessons, responsibility, and how to work hard. It’s borderline laughable
@@Hawaii567 As a parent myself*
For 500$ a month in rent and buying his own food I would start looking for a room that would be cheaper.
Amen to that I was thinking the same thing
In Alberta, good luck with that!
His home is a guarantee of living and he can stop working if he desires to do so. That will not be an option the moment he leaves.
$500/month for food, water, internet, heat, and shelter? haha I don't know what planet you live on, but it's not earth.
@@localjess838Exactly! I live in Florida, and most rooms for rent are like $900 a month.
My parents charged me rent as soon as i had my first job. I was 15 1/2. I got hit by a car, and they wanted money from that too...... they still don't think they did anything wrong 🙄
I'm sorry to hear that. Being treated like that takes years to unwind the feelings which result from that
@dgpofficial3640 No one has ever said that to me. Thank you.
They are morally skewed.
Same here - I paid rent soon as I graduated high school, and I saw very little of the settlement I got from being the passenger in a car accident. I'm sorry you went through that BS too :(
@queenofcrows I'm sorry you had to go through that too :/
Matthew, in Alberta your parents are legally obligated to provide shelter and the necessities of life until you are 18. Your school counsellor can provide resources, or you can go to legal aid (they will provide you three names that you can seek a bit of free advice/guidance). If you have a favorite uncle or aunt, you can sit down with them and share what you have here and perhaps they can talk some sense into them. Perhaps the gravity of what they are doing to you will hit home.
Yes, but I think they could legally take all your money if they so wished (being a minor), and just not call it "rent". Honestly, probably the route of least resistance is to just pay the "rent". The parents could make his life a lot harder if he pushes back too much.
One of my best friends was charged rent from 16-18 when we were cashiers at a grocery store. Her parents charged her $40/week. We thought it was cruel. When she moved out, she found out that her parents matched the $40 and put the money in an interest bearing account. Gave her the statements and she used the money to get her own apartment. She thought she was rich…we all did! 😂That doesn’t sound like his situation, but my friend’s story turned out well.
Yeah, 40$ is WAY different from 500$
@@FantazomiXroma true but the $40 a week is $160-$200/month vs $500 a month. And how old is the OP to determine how long ago this was and then compare the price.
@@rebeccamcbride1519 true, but hopefully she didn’t have to pay for all of her other bills/needs (eg cellphone and insurance) like this dude is. Plus she did get it back, doubled, at the end of the day.
I think it's tell how responsible this kid sounds. I suppose this could be in spite of poor parenting, but it could be that his parents know what they are doing, and he is just immature. He barrowed money from an older sister to buy a car, so it sounds like these parents have a track record of producing financial responsible kids
Or, how about actually communicating with your child and explain the importance of saving a portion of your paycheck. That's what I did and she did so willingly and joyfully, because she knew and saw her savings get larger and available for future and more important things.
I was making 75k a couple years ago living at my moms. She didn’t let me pay for anything because she wanted me to have a large down payment for my first home purchase. Very much appreciated!
At least you were saving . I tried that and the 26 year old was just blowing the money
You've got a good mom!
That's kinds of gross tbh. I hope ur good to ur mom
@@Nothanks935who are you to judge? some people want to bless their children in the long term.
Chances are you were working full time and had already graduated and already proved to be future forward thinking.
This is absolutely not fair to do to a teenager. I feel so grateful my parents are generous... I don't take it for granted. As a parent, why not encourage your kid to save their money so they can help pay for college, gas for their car, etc.? For the Dad to say "it's not fair he has to provide for his kids..." is honestly sad.
That one statement the dad made sounds like what a man-child would say!
extremely unfair. 500 dollars a month as a 16 year old? who is still in HIGH SCHOOL??? that’s absurd
I'm not sure I think it's unfair to ASK for it, but I would hope if he said no, he didn't want to, that he wouldn't be thrown out. That would change the whole dynamics of my thinking.
Its disgusting
I'm Gen X. My parents did something like this. I worked 7 days a week while in high school. I had also started various jobs as a kid, baby sitting, delivering papers, mowing lawns, detailing cars. I starting working a real job before it was legal but they never asked for paperwork. Never did I have any job challenge the "less than 15 hours a week during the school week" law. I worked over 40 hours. I paid for prescription asthma medication (cash), school clothes, gas, had my own insurance policy for my car, paid outright for my car. They charged rent too. Had an accident for my car and my parents seized the insurance settlement which was under my own insurance policy. Parents do crazy stuff and you can't do a thing about it as a minor. But my younger sister, they didn't do any of this. They bought her a car, and she didn't have to work, she was able to play in school sports. ??? Teaching responsibility is one thing, but treat your kids fairly.
I know exactly how you feel. I was you and my brother was your sister. I can't help but hate my parents over it.
Sounds like you were the scapegoat, and your sister was the golden child in your family dynamic. Narcissistic parents don't treat their kids fairly, they just use you.
I totally get your double standard, was the same for me and my 2 younger siblings. My parents have never bought me a car but they bought my brother 2 and my sister 1. I'm the only one who has paid rent to live in their home. I'm the only one who went to university and I paid my entire way through it. My brother didn't even finish high school and my sister barely did. Her college was paid for. My mom watches their kids full time for free while I had to work with my mom to watch my kids, it wasn't great at all.
Yup, parents have to learn to treat their kids fairly for sure.
How the hell was your insurance company able to give your settlement to your parents. I am sorry you were treated so horribly.
These are the same type of parents that don’t save anything for retirement because “my kids will take care of me”
Better to pour into your kids education and future than into your own retirement.
@@cross-eyedmary6619 should do both
100%. Mine were like this
And I hope no one helps them
Yep.
I grew up in a 3rd world country and life was hard but my parents never charged me rent, they paid for my uni, and helped me when I moved overseas for better career opportunities in medicine. I’m forever grateful to my parents. Now that I’m getting settled abroad, I’m setting money aside to repay them to top up their retirement fund, even though they never asked for anything in return. They took care of me and my 2 brothers. And we will take care of our parents.
This is the way.
You learned how to love and take care of family from your parents. You are so fortunate to have them, and they are fortunate to have you !
This is the way it should be
Good. Only don’t repay them. You don’t owe them. That kind of thinking is what made me “codependent” (code for narcissistic abuse) on my mom. I thought we had an even relationship, but the whole time it was parasitic. She took more than she gave. Now I’m homeless and live in my car about an hour from her house. I used to work then drive the hour to her house before she kicked me out. The only good thing about it is that now I usually don’t have to drive the hour every night. I was basically homeless even back when I was living with her. It’s really not that much different. She never respected me. At least now I can help other homeless people out as well as myself.
Shouldn't have to pay rent until education is done.
I’m a bit barrel chested and I have scoliosis. My foster dad used to makes jokes and call me things like big bird. Said he was just toughening me up so bullying wouldn’t affect me. He was the only person to ever bully me about it.
I’m sorry that happened to you
So I'm Canadian and this is NOT legal here. I have two sons who still live at home and we only started charging rent when the oldest was 18 and decided not to go to college at 18 and the youngest when he finished college at 21. It's only a couple of hundred a month and it's just to help with food cost. I feel incredibly guilty taking it but I'm disabled and hubby works. They pay for their own phones ete.
nothing to feel guilty about! They are adults and need to pay their way. you are ok. my friend is the reverse. her 23 yo son lives home and she charges nothing but can never go away. I said just charge him 300 a month and there is your travel money. btw, he is immature, weird, offensive and useless.
My mother never charged me rent but I willingly gave her half my pay. She was a divorced mom with 6 kids. I miss her, she passed in 1990.
That is so sweet of you
Bless you.
I gave half my pay to my parents too when I was a teenager working. They never asked me for it. I just took it upon myself to give it to them.
@@God-Love-Freedom Bless you. I hope it came back to you in triple. 🙏
@@plaidpaisley5918
Thank you! It came back to me far, far more than triple. God has been good to me and my family. Thanks for your kind words; may God bless you.
Parents just remember children treat you how you treated them when they needed you! I went through this and now I’m no contact!
Me too. Mine kicked me out at 18 for no reason other than she’s explosive. She never called to see if I was alive or death. I went back pleading for help because ex tried to kill me. She told me go back to your husband. She never cared. Now she’s in her 70s and now she wants a relationship. She only wanted money from me. I went no contact.
exactly
Agree. I know how you feel.
Same.
fyi that's not always true. there are a lot of parents who are very loving & supportive but end up with ungrateful & disrespectful adult children anyway.
My parents were well off, but this happened to me too. I was charged what it cost me to get my own apartment in another country, so that's what I did. I still feel that if parents do this, the message is that they don't love you.
Our father dumped the family. We were dirt poor. Mom worked two jobs as a housekeeper and then came home and took care of four kids and the house. Us kids never realized how hard she worked and the amount of stress she was under to make the bills until one day, my brother handed over his cash from his lawn mowing gigs and she burst into tears. From that point on, as we aged and got summer jobs, the money went to her along with our love.
You and your brother are lovey. You mom is too.
This is an excellent way to never talk to your adult child and never know their grandchildren.
Or, it's an excellent way to force your kid to save and have money to put a down-payment on a house. What makes you think they are keeping it? Maybe they are going to give it back to him when he moves out.
@@millennialmadness5138 at 16?! Obviously, you haven't met parents like this person's child's parents. This is abusive.
@@millennialmadness513816 is a CHILD. Let them enjoy CHILDHOOD. You should never charge a 16 year old anything.
@@millennialmadness5138The fact that the dad says he's charging rent because it's "unfair that he's the only one who pays for the house" tells me that dad spilled the beans and this money is not being used for the kid's future.
My parents made me pay rent from 16-21, health and car insurance, docto and dentist visits, landline phone bill, clothes etc. When I moved out, they stopped speaking to me for months because I wouldn’t pay rent after I moved away. My rent in 2024’s total would be $775/month. Moved out in the early 90’s. They refused to let me go to the college I was accepted to also!
I know this call is from nearly a year ago, but I can see they're from Alberta, Canada. Their parents receive money from both the federal and provincial governments via the CCB and ACFB payments for having a child under 18. There's no reason for them to be charging him money when the government already sends them thousands of dollars a year to take care of him.
Dang..
Where did the govt get the money?
@@lizreyes6577 From the 16 year old's paycheck 😅
taxes, it's called the child benefit. You get more when the kid is a baby and less every year until they are 18. it's paid monthly.@@lizreyes6577
@@lizreyes6577- that’s besides the point. The point is that the parents get money from the government, for having a minor live in their house. Period.
16, works full time, goes to school full time, buys his own things, has his own car, pays insurance, buys gas, and buys his own food. And they charge him rent? At that point those parents are broke and need money but just want to disguise it as parenting.
Or perhaps their good parenting is the reason their son is so responsible and charging rent is part of that good parenting. Impossible to judge if its good parenting or not when you get the tiny snapshot from this kind of interview.
One of the first jobs I ever had as a kid was bagging peoples shit at the grocery store where I had no wage and only made what I was tipped, which I was still taxed by my parents every week, 10 years later I can confirm it did absolutely nothing for me, it only hurt my relationship with my parents
No one can teach anyone anything they don't choose to learn. My parents took my money when they split up. And it taught me not to get divorced.
The dad is a punk. That’s a punk reason to be charging your child “it shouldn’t be fair that I’m the only one that should be paying” nonsense
Unless it is a step dad, they probably loathe you as being a child that is not theirs.
Yeah, what about the mother, what is she doing?
You’re entitled
@@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 Then don't marry a woman that has kids? Easy enough.
Don't insult actual Punks. People who were Punks in the 70s/80s treat their children better than this guy's dad.
My son is 16 and he starts his first job Monday. He was explaining to his dad that he doesn’t want us spending all our money on him, and he knows how tight it is for us at times. His dad simply told him that taking care of him is our job, and we’re going to continue doing so. My husband told our son that his money is his money, and he all expects him to do is save 10 to 15 percent in his savings each paycheck. His 18 year old brother lives at home as well, and he’s saving almost 80% of his income. If I’m honest my husband wouldn’t even accept money from the kids if they offered it to him.
Man of integrity
N give👊🏾
Reminds me of the old Conway Twitty song "Thats my job"
my parents have allowed me to live at home "rent free". Over the years I have helped more and more. Taking a couple of bills under my name, buying food, putting gas in the car and buying essentials. They have never asked me for money, I pay what would be an equivalent to room and board.
@@kristinasullivan9436 then they have taught u well. Most don’t know to do this.
I moved out at 16. Moved into a mobile home for $360 a month, and immediately had my house broken into and had every long-sleeved clothing item I owned stolen. In the following weeks, I saw many of the neighborhood kids wearing my clothes and jackets. After that, it didn't bother me as much. It was crazy, I was a kid myself and I remember thinking, "these kids need it more than me." Meanwhile, I completely overlooked how much I needed them as well. Luckily for me, I worked at a machine shop as a welder making okay money. It's all perspective.
That is so sad that people stole your clothing but then you saw they were using it. You had a very kind-heated reaction at such a young age, bless you.
At 16, I was using my money to buy school club t shirts and movie tickets. Hats off to this kid.
I paid for all my school books, lunches, clothes, etc. at 16….my folks were struggling so every little bit helped and it taught me so many things. But they never asked me to help pay their mortgage…..
I paid room and board to my parents. Years later, I discovered that the three boys in my family did NOT pay room and board because, as my mother explained, the boys needed this money for dating, buying a car, and taking care of their personal expenses. What? All of us girls bought our own cars, paid for our personal expenses, often including going Dutch, or paying for our date’s meal. She figured we’d be marrying someone who would take care of us, while the boys would be the ones taking care of their partners. Talk about a double standard! My parents were keeping us girls poor by depriving us of a reasonable part of our incomes for us to build a future. It clearly was a way to keep us home and continue to provide additional funds for household expenses, property taxes, etc. Every single time we got a better job, or a raise, our room and board went up. My mother was extremely angry when one-by-one, her seven daughters found a way to squirrel away money she couldn’t touch, move away from home, and support themselves.
Sorry they treated you this way! Now you know what NOT to do in your family. Wishing you the best❤
That whole concept of babying sons while raising daughters is insane .
That’s horrible
Usually it’s the other way around.
Trust me….
In USA, girls do have it easier. In some countries, its really bad for women, but thats not the case for you. Women date horizontal and up. So, lets not make this all one sided. There's a real crisis developing in young males.
In my personal opinion you shouldn’t be charged rent till you are 18. At 16 you are a minor and your parents have a legal obligation to provide for you. I get the lesson in it I just feel like that lesson can wait till 18.
And at 16 you can't make much money anyway, terrible parents
i don't even think someone can be hired at that age. i think you have to be 18 in order to be hired.
@@commonsense-og1gz Hired? You can work before your 18
@commonsense 200,
In the USA most entry level jobs have an age restriction of 14.
I started a lawn mowing business at 12.
In my town McDonald's pays $18/hr starting plus $2500/semester for college students for at least 15 hours a week.
@user-kb1bi4if9s not true. My girls worked at Subway at 14. 16 is very common to have a job. No, didn't charge them rent. Even paid for their college education. Insisted on STEM degrees though.
my mom forced me and my sisters to save our money, she would have never dreamed of asking us to pay her for the roof or the food. even now if I needed my parents, I would have a place to go and food to eat without charge. My family will take care of their own. She prepared me for life outside of her dome, by taking care of us and showing us how the world is. As a family in today's world we are so separated and conditioned to leave family and create a new one. One of the only places that this happens, in many cultures the family will stick together.
As single mom (HS teacher), I paid for daughter parochial school tuition, summer camps, Disney vacations, cell phone, 6 years private college (PHD), car and ins. Now, daughter engaged to wonderful young man (with good job) and living rent free in basement apartment in my house cuz they want to save up for house. I feel their appreciation in the things they do for me in return. My daughter’s joy is my joy. The lesson I’m teaching them ? I value our relationship and Family takes care of one another. I hope they will pass this on to their children.
My stepdad charged me rent from ages 12-18, in addition to taking the entirety of child support I received from ages 2-18. His reasoning was that he shouldn't have to pay for someone else's kid & had to earn my keep. That in addition to all household chores & full childcare for his daughter. As soon as I turned 18, he kicked me out with no warning (after I'd already paid rent, of course).
I always told myself it was because I wasn't his, so to hear that this caller's bio parents are doing this to him is even more hurtful.
Any adult who has assumed the responsibility of caretaker for a minor, be they biological, adopted, or stepchildren, should not expect the minor to pay for their own care.
Oh he sounds disgusting. You did not deserve that! How cruel!
Your mother didn’t stick up for you? 😢
Where was your mother in this? How did she allow this? Why did your mother not have step in here? Did your bio dad know this was going on?
Child support is supposed to go to the parent and not the children, however the the rest of it sounds like he resented the life responsibilities of marrying a single mother. Goof
@@Love-bo3df- you’ve got something backwards. Child support is not for the parents to keep and use for and on themselves. It’s supposed to be used to pay expenses the child may incur.
How you treat your kids is how you will get treated when you get old!!
My Mom was amazing. I took care of her till she passed. I owed that to her. She took care of me so it was my turn to take care of her.💜
People think them have 401k etc , them don’t need children to take care of them when them are old, rumoured said old people with no visit get bullied in nursing home.
Not necessarily!!!!!
Not always true
@user-qz4ji7dw3b lacking self respect has nothing to do with duty, nobody asked to be born into this world if parents make a child they should be prepared to give that child their everything and they will recieve the same in return.
It’s not about spoiling someone it’s quite litterally one of the first things kids learn from the bible, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you".
Nobody should reward selfish or egotistical behaviour
@user-qz4ji7dw3byou seem like you dont know what you are speaking of. You show not only a blatant lack of self respect but a lack of respect for your parents. In the real world nothing is free. Sometimes parents need to be taught lessons too. This is your instance to stop being and allowing them to be immature. Set the example
Some parents do not deserve to be called parents. Life is a circle, what goes around, comes around. When they are old and need your help, you can charge them for it or let them figure out what they should do.
To be fair, there is a balance that’s needed. I wasn’t really taught about the value of money and it took me to get to 40 to really sort my financial life out. I wish my parents help me accountable more, but they did what they thought was right and they were good people. But 16!? Wow, that’s so young.
Don’t pay the rent and let them take you to court. It will not go well for the parents sitting in front of a judge
Exactly, what are they going to do about it? Tell the judge you aren't feeding or clothing your kid? They'd be screwed.
What if they just change the locks on him and he becomes homeless? Some parents can be pretty shitty.
@miriamstrauss
He’s 16.
@@MuDkipzCHancelLOr I know someone who was kicked out of her home at 16. Parents have done much worse.
@@miriamstraussthey could, but would face the court for child abandonment and neglect
This is disgusting. These are the same kind of parents who will, one day as senior citizens, tell people their children are wicked for never coming around to visit them. 🙄 Gee, I wonder why!!
You nailed it.
Man y’all soft lol
@@reese85 and how so?
@@jill9606 who cares that his parents are making him pay rent! If he’s able and willing to work a full time job and take on adult responsibilities, I don’t see the issue
@@reese85 You and I don’t agree and I have no interest in spending time and effort trying to convince a stranger on the Internet.
At 16, I would have never agreed to this. I would've called their bluff in a second. They legally must feed and house you until 18. If they're not paying for anything else, they have no leverage. Don't pay them and save that money. You will need it to move out at 18. I can't believe the horrible advice John gave of "youre a minor and you live in their house so its their rules"
No, its not just their rules. We live in a society, and society's rules say they have no right to do this. Simply do not pay them. If they make life difficult for you as a result, take your money to a lawyer, not to them.
Congratulations to this young man for working hard and for having the good sense to call in to the program to get validation for his feeling mistreated. He is being mistreated. Your advice is right on when you said that the resentment the parents are creating is damaging their relationship with their son. Definitely! Families should be a place where children learn the life skills they'll need to function in the world while making sure the children are given love and support to cope emotionally with functioning in the world. This young man is being forced to handle more than any child his age should have to handle.
Ask for the tax credit that they receive for having him under the roof.
This. If he's paying rent then he's not a dependent.
Yup!!
And if they say no he can let the CRA know they’re committing tax fraud for claiming a dependent when he’s clearly not
@@harveythepookaso take him off their medical as well then?
Wait can someone please explain this tax credit to me, I wonder if this is happening to me?
I was buying my own toiletries at 13. I was working through the entire summer break and on Saturday all day in a bakery while full time at school. My mum wanted me to contribute. I left home at a very young age and encountered a ton of problems I shouldn't have. Parents need to stop looking at their children as assets that owe them and are there to fulfill their needs.
I agree. Child abuse.
Yes, my stepmom did this to me too and I was out and gone ASAP! Broke my dad's heart but I never looked back!
Same. When I hit 14 my mother told me that I wasn’t staying home all summer and I needed to get a job. I worked in a deli part time during high school and never stopped working since. I paid my own tuition for college and had to work full time all through the summers and had two part time jobs at night to support my schooling. Originally my mother wanted room and board during my college years too, but it was my father that didn’t agree with it.
Exactly. I was paying rent at 15. From my very first job. My parents are money hungry
By the same token, children should stop seeing their parents as slaves whose only purpose is to provide a loving home until the child decides what to do with their life. Family is a team effort, children who refuse to contribute to the house they're living in are not much better than parents who demand it when they don't actually need it. And some parents DO actually need help, and it's not wrong to ask for help from adult children.
Different countries, different times. Decades ago in Europe my brother left school at age 14 and I left at age 16. We both went to work full time and had no problem contributing to my parents for room and board. In fact it was considered normal. My parents had been through a war and struggled financially through no fault of their own. My brother went on to become a successful business man, in fact, we have both done well for ourselves. It taught us responsibility with money.
The difference is that you left school to work. This kid still goes to school, works basically full time outside of that, comes home and is still expected to pay all of his bills. I would understand if he dropped out like you and your brother did, but he didn't and is still getting an education on top of working.
@user-yx2ft3by6i - the difference was living in Europe with slightly different education requirements. My brother and I did not drop out of school, we both graduated and did choose to work because our parents had survived a war but were broke. We chose not to burden them financially but rather contribute to the home. My brother and I both took evening courses at our local community colleges while working full time. Look outside the US, life is different for many people.
@@Elizabeth-qy3zkthe difference is the Canadian government is giving these parents thousands a year to raise their kid. These parents do not need his money. What they are doing is illegal
I charged rent once my girls graduated HS. It wasn't a lot, but enough to help encourage them to launch. They all did within a few months and have been very responsible and out there figuring it out. They are 23, 24, and 25 and I'm so proud of them!
the only way this makes sense is if they take the 15% of his income, put it into a savings account, and then give it back to him when he turns 18 or graduates high school. if theyre just taking it to help with their own bills that is ludicrous and they are in the wrong.
I thought the same thing. My daughter is 17 and pays for her own cell, bought her own car, pays for her insurance, etc. She also puts a large % of her earnings into savings. She doesn’t love it, but has said herself that it has taught her the value of money and has provides her the opportunities that her friend’s don’t have-like travelling, a down payment etc. I feel that there may be a second side to this story.
I agree with you! Seems like there may be more to this story than face value.
I don't even like that he has to buy his own food. Sure, when we were teenagers, my mom would buy groceries, and if we wanted something that she didn't normally buy, we had to buy it ourselves, but that's different.
@@AndrielleHillis I don’t remember him saying that his parents don’t buy food for the house-he just said he needs to buy his food. Meaning he very well doesn’t want to make a lunch at home, so buys it. We are hearing a small snippet of a situation, and therefore can’t really pass any judgments.
@@unapologeticallyreal If you listened, he said he is having 12 - 14 hours days....that means he may eat breakfast at home, but lunch and dinner would be at school and at work. *That* is why he would have to buy his own food for those meals.
The circle of abuse will only end if a parent is legitimately happy that their child has an easier life than they did.
This
15% is far easer than 50% smooth brain
Fat chance with these Boomers lol
Easy lives make weak people. Weak people give their children hard lives. That's what the boomers did; they had it easy so we can have it hard.
Having lived as a slave to my parents, under their roof; I left at 18. They never changed after I left. It’s been twenty four years.
The problem with this is that, the boy should be SAVING that $500 to one day purchase his own house while living there. These parents WANT TO SEE HIM FAIL. Why would you rob that of him?
After I graduated high school, my mom charged me $200 a month for rent. At the time, I was working full-time and going to school full-time. She was a single mother of 4 on a fixed income and needed the help. I was happy to contribute.
yeah but that was after you graduated - bit of a difference there...
But your situation is different from his.
He's sixteen. Totally different story. He's still in high school.
When I was 17, I graduated high school & got a good job making $80 per week in 1964. Dad said now you need to pay room & board. $20 per week...I am very thankful he did that. I had to learn to budget & be careful with my money, which prepared me to live debt free all my life.
The difference is you were an ADULT. A 16 year old is still a minor who needs to have his expenses paid until he turns 18.
This young man is going to grow up a winner. He way ahead of his time. You can hear it in his voice.
He's probably also not having any kids :)
He has great parents
My daughter has a part time job but she’s in high school no I don’t charge her rent that is awful. But if she decides not to go to college she needs to work full time and pay rent but probably like $200 a month nothing crazy.
No he’s not my parents charged w rent at that age I left I got money true indeed but the wrong way…. Fast forward I been prison the last 16 years smh 6 more to go thanks mom
no, their is a bigger change your kids will be negatively affected by this.
my ex boyfriends parents were very wealthy but did not pay for anything for their kids, 3 out of 4 kids did illegal things to make money as teenagers/early 20s or stole from their parents. Also 3 out of 4 grew up very greedy themselves and even though they made a lot more then peers they were complaining a lot about money (just like their parents were greedy) which is a trait a lot of people dont enjoy being around.
Actually now that I think about it a lot of kids with parents who made them pay for everything at a young age had questionable morals around money and stole or scammed, two even got arrested for that. That is what happens when you put a lot of stress on a kid who has to do 40 hours of highschool/college and also 40 hours of work, you increase the changes by a lot for them to get money/stuff illegally.
As a young man who worked 40 hours a week through high school and did online schooling to obtain my highschool diploma, and jumped right into a career after, i cannot stress enough how thankful i am for my supporting parents who taught me and still teach me. i didnt need to do that, i was just driven and my parents never quenched that fire, they fanned it. It took a long time convincing them to let me pay rent to help them out with expenses i was causing. If i were in his situation i would run as far and as fast as i could from those parents. All that to say, my goal as a future parent is to do what mine did, teach what i learned, encourage good work ethic and not burden them with my responsibility.
This story is what happened to me. Except at age 15. As soon as I turned 18, I enlisted in the Army and never looked back.
How old are you now?
Fort Knox
@@DistopiaKosaki 19 😂
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@@2023Red seventy five? 50 years ago ? ? people were charging their own children rent money ?
My eight year old son brought home some of his completed school work recently and one of the assignments was a writing prompt that said, “If I had a hundred dollars I would…”. He wrote that he would use it to pay for groceries for his parents. I felt terrible because while I know it was coming from the kindness of his little heart, I didn’t want him to think that he was responsible for us. We are financially stable but not wealthy but even if we were financially unstable I would never expect my children to pay household expenses like this. I’m sad for this 16 year old😞
That is fantastic that he did that. You should be extremely proud that he did that. This was a common theme in traditional families and their households. Something in the post modern world has broke that bond.
Too many people in this comment section do not realize that working children should pay a contribution to the household and they should be aware of why they are doing it.
Most children today are living a life that is disconnected from reality and they also develop their world views through electronic communications that are not part of the real world.
It was normal in my day to pay 30% of your earnings towards the household and you would actually go out of your way to do this. And you would save 50 to 60% of your earnings as you would be aware that living in your parents house enabled you to do this but if you lived in the real world you would not have that luxury.
What traditional families? @@bighands69
My oldest son is now 19, he doesn’t pay rent yet. He doesn’t have a stable job, at the moment. He is going experiencing different jobs. We live with my parents, as I am a recovering drug addict, who was abused mentally and physically by my ex’s. I have ptsd, depression, schizophrenia, anxiety. My parents wanted him to start paying at 18, I asked them to wait a few more years, which they agreed to. I just want him to be in a stable job, before he starts paying rent. I pay rent and I definitely think at 20 he should either move out or pay rent. So I’m very happy that my mum, his grandmother, has given him more time. Love ❤️ from Australia 🇦🇺 P.S. Your children sounds very like a lovely boy. You have done a wonderful job raising him. He cares about his family more than anything. That’s so cute 🥰
To charge anyone in my family for staying with me is such an absurd notion that this is beyond me.
Family values seem to mean different things to different people.
My parents charged me and my siblings rent too. However, on the day we moved out, they quietly surprised each of us by returning every penny to us. They’d been putting it into a savings account so we’d have something to leave the house with. So not only did we learn to budget around rent to set us up for life later, we walked away with a little nest egg for an apartment deposit, furnishings, and everything else we might need. I can only hope his parents will do the same thing for him.
My parents treated me the same way purchased all my other siblings cars and helped them. I was riding public transportation to my job 2 hours away. I turned 18 and never looked back. They see my accomplishments but never been there to support me along the way.
Sadly my parents are similar for different reasonings. My dad has paid for all my sisters credit card debts and travel around the world. My mother is cheap and wont help even if you dont have food money.
I've blood sweat tears labored for my travel experiences and because RARELY my dad gives me like $100 a decade ago, he thinks he paid for my travels and likes to boast about it to others ehich is fkn embarassing because it comes to the impression im a spoiled arse child that dad pays all. When this is not the case at all.
My sister got SOME money. A meager amount from the parents for her wedding and my dad gave like $3k to her now ex for his teeth cause he didnt take care of them brush them go to dentist. But her ex comes from money while my dad lives like a homeless pauper saving his coins...
Regardless to say, i am eloping soon and its 100% paid by me. My father doesnt know but he doesnt approve anyway because hes old and not with it and lives like 70 years ago in the past. Nothing from my parents
Meanwhile after sister divorce dad pays everything for sister to be af home.
And he wants to charge me money for things.
"Take from one child go give to the other (spoiled) child."
Ive accepted my fate still shocking... The worst is sister is a martyr and lives by "no one helps her" ....
And I bet your siblings that they helped, don't even call them more than twice a year to check in on them. Keep shining, and dont give them a single red cent.
This is just sad. He sounds like a good young man. I wish his parents will invest the money for him and hand it over when he goes to college or for his future. I’m very impressed by his maturity and worth ethics. We are all rooting for you 💙💙💙
I’ve heard of some doing that.
However the ones that do that… the rent is usually low to start with, like 50, 100, maybe 200, and often the parents like that will even match it for the kids.
However the parents here are asking for like 500$ I think they plan on simply keeping the money….
He’s probably been enrolled in extracurriculars his whole life. His parents probably buy him computers and amazing gifts.
You do not know how entitled this young man might be…parents know what their kids need based on the temperament of that individual child.
They might even be saving that rent to give to him when he’s 18!
Teens are always making the wrong assumptions and misunderstanding parents. They are in a very awkward frustrating developmental stage.
Absolutely ridiculous so called “parents”. This breaks my heart, I just want to hug this kid. I didn’t want my son to work because I wanted him to focus on school. This is why so many kids struggle to get started in the world.
We charged our daughter “rent” when she got a job, but we gave her all that money when she went to college, and we paid for college. I would never ask my kid for money under my roof. Even when she was 20 living with us, she paid “rent” but she got the money in the end to set herself up.
I don't get people that have kids that are minors and then make them responsible to this extreme. My mom let me drop out to pay our bills as she sat at home and slept all day when I was 16. Situation is different but still this is abuse.
Most definitely dysfunctional when parents expect financial support from minor children when they do nothing to support themself. Children should not bear the burden for lazy parents.
Man at 21 I was paying bills. When I was a kid my dad would tell me stories of him working as a teenager paying bills too lol
@@Austenfan177 Good. Because if he had gone to the exclusive high school, he would’ve been admitted to a better college, had better career opportunities, and earned more money during his life. Her selfishness negatively affected him for a lifetime.
I’m sorry this happened to you. I hope you go and earn your GED..
😭😭😭
I started charging my son rent when he turned 20. He lost his cool about it because he couldn't splurge the way he wanted. My response to him was 'I have to make you realize that the amount you are making seems like a great deal, but it is not.'
Sometimes kids get to comfortable and need perspective.
@@getinthespace7715 Yep. Look at all the loser young adults traveling and buying expensive cars and designer clothes while living at home.
No offence but I’m pretty sure comfortable families do not charge their children to live with them
@@watermelon2223 Not if they’re going to school full-time.
@@watermelon2223 No offence. You didn't read my comment.
I had a customer tell me an incredibly story living at home. While living at home and working his fathers rule was he would take his full pay check and give him just to cover his expenses. Another rule was if you ever want your full cheque you can just not under his roof. At 29 he decided that it was time for to leave the house and get back his paycheque. Unbeknownst to him his father had being taking the balance of his paycheques and investing and gave him the money when leaving to purchase a house.
i’m 18 and when i was 17 i asked for a tattoo. my parents said that if i wanted to be an adult i would have to start paying for my own stuff. i told them i would move out and they never mentioned it again. i pay for my college without any help so then asking me to pay for anything really irritates me because a lot of the times a compensate financially.
I worked since I was 14. My parents never took a dime from me. In turn I got to buy whatever I wanted. One summer they struggled with money and I volunteered to buy my younger brother his school clothes.
That’s a great story and lesson to be learned. Your parents supported you and treated you with generosity. When the time came you did the same for them. Love and respect breed love and respect. You sound like a great family. 😊
I grew up with a kid on my street who's father was semi-employed and his mother ran a paper route. They made him pay rent. When were 5 years old I remember going door to door because she would send him out with yesterdays "extra" newspapers to sell to people who didn't have a subscription. I moved away and when I came back to visit him when we were 7, I had to walk door to door with him just like when we were 5. As i would run into him in our town over the years he would always mention whatever job he had to pay rent and to pay for sports. Makes my heart break to this day. When he got married he took his wife's last name.
glad he took his wife last name
Poor baby, makes me sad, wth is wrong with some of these selfish women, uggg
My parents taught me to work from age 6, & save money & pay some to contribute to those that have provided for me. My father died when I was eleven & him having me do all that I was doing, helped our family. Now my Mother was a widow with 4 working children (non of us were teens yet) & a toddler.
It was so helpful for my Mother & us kids that we learned these ethics. We loved our Father & Mother.
Just because someone is required to pay part of their wages to those that provide, doesn't mean they aren't loved or the parents are taking advantage of those under their care.
There is more to the young man's story. That's why he works & goes to school & does everything he is doing. He will be a hard working, provider for his own family when he chooses his mate. ❤ it's all about perspective...
when I was 16, I was working, buying my own clothes, meals, car, insurance. But my parents did not charge me rent. They thought they were doing well by not having to give me money. I stayed at home for about 3 months after I graduated High School and went into the Army. (By the way, My parents were dirt broke - they still did not take advantage of my working)
16 and this kid is making over 3k a month. Definitely has a good head on his shoulder and his parents are definitely taking advantage of him. Sad to hear
You think 16yr olds make that kind of money without amazing parents? Smh
In 1980, my mom made me pay 150 dollars rent each month -- I was 17 years old, working full time and going to school full time. Their mortgage was only 119 dollars. One time she took my 1,600 dollar income tax refund check out of the mailbox, cashed it and kept 1/4 of it. I didn't think that was fair at all.
Not only was it unfair, it was also illegal!! Shame on her.
It was not only unfair, it is a Felony.
Wow. Sounds like she used you. What was your relationship like afterwards?
Take that up with the bank. They shouldn't have cashed the check,unless she forged your
@a.humphries8678 , Our relationship wasn't the best. She made things extremely difficult for me, so I had to try harder than most kids. The positive that came out of it is that I grew up working hard, I became stronger, and believed in myself. I succeeded in almost everything I tried. 💪
Life is great. We are blessed.
My parents charged me rent from 16-18. What I didn't know is they saved it the whole time. When I moved out they handed me $20,000.
Kid deserves better parents. He’ll be gone at 18 & will be better for it. Shame on them.
Parents should realize that what comes around goes around. Someday when a child is grown and the parents need help, the kid is going to say "sorry dad" (or mom). Reminds me of that old Harry Chapin song "Cat's in the Cradle".
Definitely, parents show greed and poor parenting and then they wonder why they avoid you and want to help you out minimally, if not at all.
All the old people in the convalescent hospitals, nursing homes and assisted living facilities where their children and or grandchildren never visit? Now you know why. They sucked as parents and the kids feel no obligation to care for them because of how the kids were treated growing up.
@@naomiemoore5725don’t think you can generalize all elderly in the senior homes as such. That’s not a fair statement
@@OP-mz3hrYes, you are correct, should not lump the good in with the bad, thank you. I have first hand knowledge and the stories I hear are heart breaking. There are always two sides of any story. Thanks again.
If he’s wondering if it’s legal, he can report this to his guidance counselor. He/ she can decide if CPS needs to get involved. This child needs a new support system.
ah yes, "we are the government and are here to help"
Not sure about the US or Canada but in my country it would be legal from 16. Child neglect is only a legal concept that applies to those under 16. You could also leave and rent somewhere else if you want. Not sure you can say 15% of your income rather than an amount. And whether it is right or moral is a totally different to if it is legal.
It's technically not illegal for a parent to charge the 16 year old rent but it is illegal to deprive a minor of shelter and things they need to survive. Once they reach age of majority which depends on the state then the kid is no longer a kid in the eyes of the law.
If the child was in any of the 50 states he does not own nothing including money!!
It's not a CPS issue. He's not being abused. Most of us spend over 50% of our income on rent. Also, the caller is lying. He's not making $3500 per month
I work on average 8-10 hours a week on top of school and that is extremely exhausting. I couldn’t imagine this poor kids situation.
Compromise. If you have to pay rent they no longer can set rules for you . by charging you rent.They are determining your an adult. Therefore, no longer in need of their guidance or rules
I worked from age 15 and my parents would drop me off and pick me up at work. They were hard workers, so that's what I learned. I wanted to work, no one pushed me to. They never asked for a dime or stopped paying for my things. They let me keep my money to do with as I wished. Thanks to their good example I became a good provider. This is unfair to that young man.
this is exactly how you build up a kid. Back in the days I had to pay rent bs makes no sense. It's just abuse. Worse is not the money, is how the child remember there parents. The kid feels like an atm machine
As long my kids are in school, respectful, and helping around the house I wouldn’t charge them rent. I would never charge a 16 year old rent
This is horrible and heartbreaking. No 16 year old with 2 living parents should have to endure this. Our jobs as parents is to foster an environment for our children to become successful adults. My son is 21 goes to school and works. He is responsible for his car payment, 1/2 of the car insurance, the internet, and whatever he chooses to eat and do leisurely. That is it! We don't ask him to contribute anything towards the home. We would do it if he wasn't home. My sister is 29 and still lives with my parents rent free. Family is family..its not about money. If you have it, just do it. This is cruel and makes me understand when people say they haven't spoken to their parents in years.
As soon as I finished up college, my brother convinced my parents to started charging me $250 a month for groceries and rent
I'm crying after hearing this story. So, so sad. I had terrible parents too. You can never recover from love lost.
Making them pay their own phone bill or own gas money for running around with their friends are fine things to have them be responsible. Rent for your house isn't one of those things while they are young. Also even if they are 18 it could make a lot of sense to let them live rent free to help save up some money as long as you get along well with your kid and they are paying for all their other stuff.
Yeah, I could see making a deal at 18. Like, you can stay here for free, but you will take 15% of every check and put it in a savings account for later.
I started being charged at 16 too! They kept going up on the rent so i went and found out what the cheapest apartment in the town was and negotiated them down. 😂😅
My mum charged me board when I was 16 years old and had left school and was working full time.
She was a solo mum so didn't have much money - I had no problem paying the board.
But she need the money and you have dropped school.
I was a great student and I was in sports all year. My parents told me I could NOT get a job (outside of summer work) because they wanted my focus on school, sports, and being a kid. I very clearly remember my dad saying, "you have the rest of your life to work. Right now, be a kid". They gave me a weekly allowance (wasn't much, but I didn't need a lot) for gas and spending money so long as my chores we done and my grades stayed high. I have awesome parents.
this is the way it should be
@@fearless6947 Agreed. Don't have kids if you aren't prepared to financially support them.
What kind of parents are these? It's bad enough they are not providing necessities for the kid, and they still want to charge rent? Some people just can't help but be shameless.
I would never charge my child rent no matter what age
You are doing amazing for your age and miles ahead of so many people your age.
My best friend got this. He moved out at 18. Moved back in at 20, paid rent and a quarter of utilities. Mom added up the gas, water, phone, etc, divided by four and he paid that every two weeks. It took him a couple months to figure out that he was paying over half. His mom played it off as a mistake, but she wouldn't repay the over payment or allow it to be applied to subsequent bills. He got out ASAP.
good for your best friend. Hope he's doing well on his own, and hope he cuts off all contact with his mother.
My heart goes out to this boy. My husband’s mom kicked him out at 14 so went to live with his dad in a different state. (Parents had divorced when he was 5.) The mom had a good job but was in and out of marriages and was always prioritizing her social life and the men in her life. His dad was no better - partying, etc. and he made my husband work while going to school and took more than 1/2 his pay though he had had a middle class job. After 2 years, aged 16, my husband ran back to his mom, taking a greyhound bus. Arrived late in the night, called mom, but she only arrived in the morning, only to take drop him off at a homeless shelter. Soon after, the homeless shelter put him in a group home for homeless or unwanted youth where he got his GED, got a menial job, then moved into an apartment at 17. At 18, he had reconciled with his mom and they moved in together with his 17 year old sister, splitting rent 3 ways, but a year later, his mom moved out to live with her boyfriend, and the siblings couldn’t afford to live there anymore and had to move to a run down apartment in a bad part of town.
Needless to say, my husband and his 2 siblings went through a lot of trauma - neglect, bullying at school, abuse (including sexual by other people)because extreme neglect makes kids very vulnerable. Now in her mid-80’s, the mom is lonely (none of the men lasted), and surprisingly, my husband and his sister go see her now and then and include her in holidays but they’re not that close with her. Her other son who is 1 year older than my husband would have nothing to do with her Now, but their father (now very fragile) lives with him and his family.
The father wasnt any better i wouldnt contact him either disgusting
"I was raise this way and so I'm going to raise you the same, because I turned out to be an angry man who seemingly needs or wants to rely on his child for money, so why wouldn't I want you to be that miserable too?!" Dan's logic translated
Once I got a full time job my parents took 50% of my pay. This was in 1973. When I moved out ....against their consent ... I ended up saving so much money while taking care of myself ..... I did end up going back home when I was going to get married and my mother charged me $25.00 a week .... I was so happy when I left their home ....
The day I turned sixteen my father told me he had a birthday present for me: he found me a job and I would be working every weekend and in school on the weekdays. Subsequent to my earning money, my parents charged me rent. The rest of my paycheck was put into a "college fund" to pay tuition. You are absolutely right that almost the day I turned eighteen I was out of there and to this day I still resent it because I missed out on school activities and time with my friends during the only time in my life that I could have been care-free.
Do you still talk to your parents?
@@th3azscorpio I always had a difficult relationship with my parents, but yes.
As a teacher, I can tell you that most kids at his age are not even remotely close to be this responsible. I would say it is fair game to charge him rent after he turns 18, you know, when he is not a minor anymore 😏
That is a fair point...
My son is 19 and lives with me I wouldn’t even consider charging him rent.
Charging rent to a 16 year old is not only unfair, but extremely selfish. Why charge your own child rent for a house they already live in?
You most be adopted . Lol 😅 (just kidding)
My parents charge me rent when i was 16 but i know im adopted thats why they treat me wrong
It wouldn’t even be fair as soon he turns 18. Many people turn 18 in high school. You should never be paying rent until your like well into college aged years, if still at home. But no kid should be paying rent as finishing up high school and planning what to do with higher education.
My parents did this to me since 15… I don’t speak to them much now a days and they rarely get to see their grandkid because I never go to see them.
My dad did the same, not charge me rent but decided he was no longer financially responsible for me when I started working
This is so wrong on every level. I lived with my folks until I got married. Never did they ask me to contribute to the house since I worked full time and took care of my own bills and in college. My parents always said to my sister and I focus on school, dont worry about anything and just be responsible. I'd never do this to my children.
There is nothing wrong about it.
It used to be normal for those working to contribute to the household. Imagine the father out busting himself to be working and the son is running around buying cars, phones and god knows what else.
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Well family dynamic context definitely matter, yes, used too kids did often work to contribute to the family, even as a minor, if the family was poor, or especially if they were farmers, where farming was important, and you had like 3-8 kids to help manage a farm.
The kid sounded like a hard worker, and responsible, and made no mention of his family struggling to get by though. If it is a case of greedy parents, that relationship is going to be dead when that kid hits 18.
The parents will grow up old wondering why their kids dont love them.
There is a big difference though, between your family being on the verge of starvation, despite every member that can work, is working, and taking money from your kid, just because you can.
The parents that were wealthy enough to not need their kids to work out, the kids could save up money, and buy their own place a lot faster.
There are people though, that try to keep their kids so broke they cant move out, and just manipulate, and abuse them financially.
Sometimes the lines can get blurry, especially when things happen to you, because you love your family, and you’d never think they would take advantage of you, despite them… literally taking advantage of you.
I can understand people that dont see the signs right away, I’ll admit I dont always see the signs to things in my own life, and I hate it. It is much much easier to judge something as an outsider, and say, well duh this is unfair, or that is dumb.