I felt alone during years, thanks to my therapist i recognized i always isolated myself from others. I judged everyone badly before i could even know them, this was a defense that helped me ignore i actually didn't know how to connect with others. To me they just weren't enough. But the thing is i couldn't show my value to others also, because you need time and connection to do so. I proposed myself to make an effort to develop relationships, talk with people even if i might not like them, go to meetings if invited, invest time in my relationships, open myself to others. It's been months, and it's been very hard, and full of anxiety. But i've overcome it. Im sooo happy, can't wait to progress with time and became a very social human. Im doing lots of things i was afraid to do before. If anyone needs to talk im here.
I’m actually going through something similar but at the moment I’m working on developing a bedtime routine. I hope I can make new friends this year. (I’m going to be a junior in college.)
I’m doing these things for a year now. 🙏And my C-PTSD Is balanced, consciously aware of itself, and it’s old triggers. I’m laughing now, as I look back at the way I lived a year ago. Thank you for affirming that I’m Already Doing IT😁👍🏼 Your words are supportive, appreciated, and helpful.
Thank you for everything you do and everything you are. I have now written and deleted several comments since I don't know how to express the immense gratitude I have for you. You have helped me so much and I am so looking forward to see how will I evolve in future. I almost never post comments but I do read all of your posts and watch videos. Thank you once more. I am forever grateful for you.
This is so helpful because some of us struggle to be motivated. So basically setting tiny goals not only helps you change habits but it promotes self esteem when you reach your goal no matter how small. I just recently started giving myself credit for reaching tiny goals and I am becoming a happier person.
Thank you so much, Nicole. You’re doing an amazing job by creating these videos. Keep up the good work, you’re literally shifting collective consciousness gurl 👏🏽 I am your #1 fan 😭🥰
I’m so glad I’ve found you to inspire me to focus on improving myself. I too have had to leave toxic family relationships, and it has been hard, but feel I am in a better place. I had an awakening 8 years ago and thank you for your insight.
So good! Thank you!!! I'm definitely going to share this with my peer clients. I'm always saying "take baby steps" but this makes the process so clear. It will help me and my peer clients!
Thank you so much for this, Dr. LePera, this is INCREDIBLY helpful. Being able to understand why we have these discouraging thoughts even as we try to change for the better helps to keep us from beating ourselves up over them and from feeling inadequate and powerless. It’s so freeing to become aware of that self-defeating mechanism... you explain it so clearly and sincerely. Namaste.
Thank you!!!!!! You give me a sense of hope. I would love to hear your thoughts/advice on how to overcome/better deal with major depression, intrusive thoughts, low self worth. I appreciate you and all of your work 🧡
Thank you for creating this video! I've been telling my partner that I get better results by making small changes, so it's great to have some validation for my method!
Liz, you're on point. A lot of times I see people wanting to make so many changes the brain easily becomes overloaded and they "fail" to make the changes part of their lifestyle. Stick with your method. It works.
Ty soooooo much wow . Found u on Instagram when I was going thru a very rough time w my mental health and u have helped me so much from my big panic attacks and ur information and how u speak is so calming and healing to me
Love this!!! Every single sentence ! I also think it’s important to be conscious of the difference when you truly don’t want to do something & when you just don’t want to do it at the moment & at that moment: have self-discipline!
Thank you for personal work and intuition that led you to share this message with others. I am so grateful that you have given such practical tools and inspired a whole community to get out of our subconscious. Much love and gratitude from NorCal!
Wonderful. So simple and yet so challenging. I really appreciate the final part of making changes- I can imagine that step will go a long way as I practice this.
Hi Dr.... So informative and yes its very had to create new habits, the resistance is sooo strong. But what it happened once before in my life is that after I have started believing in myself all crumbled right after the minute I started doubting myself ... The subconscious doesn't leave us in peace. It's almost like quitting nicotine if you know what I mean.
Cheers, Nicole. I've managed to form several habits based on ideas that you've presented. I haven't managed to include the Ego work so far. Perhaps I'll do that when I've managed to consolidate all the other ones. Best wishes.
Hey Juwon! That's great to hear. I like that you're going slow and building the foundation. That really is the path to keeping habits long term. Ego work will come!
Thank you for the amazing work that you do! I have had true amazing life shifts from creating new habits in my life (I have been working with daily meditation for two years now and occasional breathwork, some journaling and others). I agree, good habits can be life changing and I am grateful for having discovered and applied them in my life. But at this point in my life I feel that habits still are a form of conditional love (I love myself and I have a good opinion of myself only if I check these things off my list daily). I don’t know if this thought is just mental resistance… but sometimes I feel that my habits are a bit of a drag.
I can absolutely resonate with habits being a drag. Check out my new video on mental resistance here: it might benefit you: th-cam.com/video/16PFLVYU2Dg/w-d-xo.html
• our subconscious will try to talk us out • I can do it, • 30 days, 3 months, 6 months. • maintenance -- Pick a habit Set an intention Do it no matter what Build empowerment - notice - don’t minimise - observe changes
I have to say, I made the choice to get out of bed at 9:50 instead of 10. I got up and sought water BEFORE my coffee!! You rock sis. I use the app "toobee" to remind myself every hour "I make the choice to do it anyway." Thanks for this jump start. I often feel it's direction I lack, so I appreciate your gentle guiding spirit. ❤❤
Hello fellow community I manifested breathing through the nose instead the mouth ! It works , I’m working on manifesting sleeping through the night I only wonder how to put it down on the journal for the next 30 days 🤦♂️
Thank you so much for all you offer! I'm finding future journaling hugely beneficial. Two questions, is there a fifth step and which video on mental resistance, please?
Can u please talk about being allot on social media and the effects on mental health and talking breaks from social media to that would be very helpful to allot of people including myself also talking about what u want to gain from social media so u won't be stressed thank u ! 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Do you have any books available to buy I would be very interested I am so grateful for all the help and advice that you graciously give It is all life changing ,Thank you
Thank you for this video, just a quick question though. I struggle with the inner critic a lottt, does it ever go away? Or atleast the resistance go away? I’ve been trying to form a new detrimental habit for years now and just keep starting and stopping. Hope you read this, thanks!
Thank you!!...I am wondering, can you do this with thought patterns? Now that I see my thoughts more, I am almost constantly worrying...I am guessing, I could just telling myself “come back to the present”, when I am worrying, and try to do this at least 5 times a day...? Thank you again! Your prompts are changing my life.
Would you recommended this way, or is there another exercise I could try first , to effectively start training against that inner critic? Mine is fitter than an Olympic gold medalist, lol.
I felt alone during years, thanks to my therapist i recognized i always isolated myself from others. I judged everyone badly before i could even know them, this was a defense that helped me ignore i actually didn't know how to connect with others. To me they just weren't enough. But the thing is i couldn't show my value to others also, because you need time and connection to do so. I proposed myself to make an effort to develop relationships, talk with people even if i might not like them, go to meetings if invited, invest time in my relationships, open myself to others. It's been months, and it's been very hard, and full of anxiety. But i've overcome it. Im sooo happy, can't wait to progress with time and became a very social human. Im doing lots of things i was afraid to do before. If anyone needs to talk im here.
I can truly recommend Marisa Peer!
@s tp tell me when youve read this so i can delete the message with my email
I’m actually going through something similar but at the moment I’m working on developing a bedtime routine. I hope I can make new friends this year. (I’m going to be a junior in college.)
Wow, so awesome. Thanks for sharing your journey. 💖
How sweet you are. Well done.
I’m doing these things for a year now. 🙏And my C-PTSD Is balanced, consciously aware of itself, and it’s old triggers.
I’m laughing now, as I look back at the way I lived a year ago. Thank you for affirming that I’m Already Doing IT😁👍🏼
Your words are supportive, appreciated, and helpful.
Thank you for everything you do and everything you are. I have now written and deleted several comments since I don't know how to express the immense gratitude I have for you. You have helped me so much and I am so looking forward to see how will I evolve in future. I almost never post comments but I do read all of your posts and watch videos. Thank you once more. I am forever grateful for you.
Milica, I am in deep gratitude that you took the time to share this with me. Thank you so much.
Very helpful! Repetition, observation and consistency...repeat! Repetition, repetition, repetition is key! The subconscious loves repetitions.
Yes! April, you got it! The subconscious loves it!
This is so helpful because some of us struggle to be motivated. So basically setting tiny goals not only helps you change habits but it promotes self esteem when you reach your goal no matter how small. I just recently started giving myself credit for reaching tiny goals and I am becoming a happier person.
Yes , don’t feed the inner critic 🔝
That's right!
Thank you so much, Nicole. You’re doing an amazing job by creating these videos. Keep up the good work, you’re literally shifting collective consciousness gurl 👏🏽 I am your #1 fan 😭🥰
Khyati, I can't thank you enough for this comment. Much love to you!
I’m so glad I’ve found you to inspire me to focus on improving myself. I too have had to leave toxic family relationships, and it has been hard, but feel I am in a better place. I had an awakening 8 years ago and thank you for your insight.
Hi Diana, as you know I resonate with this. Much love to you!
It starts with as simple at 5 deep breathes ! I love it !!
So good! Thank you!!! I'm definitely going to share this with my peer clients. I'm always saying "take baby steps" but this makes the process so clear. It will help me and my peer clients!
An Excellent and much needed presentation. Thank-you👏👏👏 Consistency is key especially if you never had it outwardly you have to create it yourself.
Thank you so much for this, Dr. LePera, this is INCREDIBLY helpful. Being able to understand why we have these discouraging thoughts even as we try to change for the better helps to keep us from beating ourselves up over them and from feeling inadequate and powerless. It’s so freeing to become aware of that self-defeating mechanism... you explain it so clearly and sincerely. Namaste.
This is such a great reminder. Thank you! It's so powerful to move past the resistance.
Thank you!!!!!! You give me a sense of hope. I would love to hear your thoughts/advice on how to overcome/better deal with major depression, intrusive thoughts, low self worth. I appreciate you and all of your work 🧡
Amazing video! Wishing everyone success in creating whatever positive habits they desire!
Saturday night - Binging on Holistic psychologist videos!! 😊😍😘
"Motivation gets you started, Habit keeps you going."
I wish that were true for me. Lol
It seems so incredibly simple. And it is. Ish. Thank you for breaking this down.
So incredibly simple, and yet so very difficult.
Thank you for creating this video! I've been telling my partner that I get better results by making small changes, so it's great to have some validation for my method!
Liz, you're on point. A lot of times I see people wanting to make so many changes the brain easily becomes overloaded and they "fail" to make the changes part of their lifestyle. Stick with your method. It works.
Ty soooooo much wow . Found u on Instagram when I was going thru a very rough time w my mental health and u have helped me so much from my big panic attacks and ur information and how u speak is so calming and healing to me
Love this!!! Every single sentence ! I also think it’s important to be conscious of the difference when you truly don’t want to do something & when you just don’t want to do it at the moment & at that moment: have self-discipline!
Thank you for changing my life. Warm hugs and blessings for you and your mission.
This is really excellent! You are a good presenter and trainer! 🙂
Thank you for personal work and intuition that led you to share this message with others. I am so grateful that you have given such practical tools and inspired a whole community to get out of our subconscious. Much love and gratitude from NorCal!
Hi! Thank you so much for your videos! Found them recently and I really enjoy the small tidbits of help. THANK YOU!
I have learned so much from you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤️
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the support. I appreciate you, Gina.
Wonderful. So simple and yet so challenging. I really appreciate the final part of making changes- I can imagine that step will go a long way as I practice this.
Kristen- isn't it interesting that the most simple practices are always the most challenging?!
I am so in Love with this video.
I really appreciate you and this video. Thank you for sharing your light. As I needed it ! 🙏🏾
Hi Dr.... So informative and yes its very had to create new habits, the resistance is sooo strong. But what it happened once before in my life is that after I have started believing in myself all crumbled right after the minute I started doubting myself ... The subconscious doesn't leave us in peace. It's almost like quitting nicotine if you know what I mean.
Again, thank you. I want to learn to have patience with myself....x
Cheers, Nicole. I've managed to form several habits based on ideas that you've presented. I haven't managed to include the Ego work so far. Perhaps I'll do that when I've managed to consolidate all the other ones. Best wishes.
Hey Juwon! That's great to hear. I like that you're going slow and building the foundation. That really is the path to keeping habits long term. Ego work will come!
so simply put, wow. love it thank you
Marina, I'm so glad the simplicity resonated.
Great video. Great advice. Thank you.
I think #3 is the most important step
I really appreciate your efforts in this channel and video ,it helps a lot thank you 😊
GReat stuff. THankyou. Im gonna use this. Yes its so hard to not want to do a million ambitious things but just small and steady and affirming.
Thank you for the amazing work that you do!
I have had true amazing life shifts from creating new habits in my life (I have been working with daily meditation for two years now and occasional breathwork, some journaling and others). I agree, good habits can be life changing and I am grateful for having discovered and applied them in my life.
But at this point in my life I feel that habits still are a form of conditional love (I love myself and I have a good opinion of myself only if I check these things off my list daily). I don’t know if this thought is just mental resistance… but sometimes I feel that my habits are a bit of a drag.
I can absolutely resonate with habits being a drag. Check out my new video on mental resistance here: it might benefit you:
th-cam.com/video/16PFLVYU2Dg/w-d-xo.html
So helpful, thank you!
Habits are qualities of the soul - Ibn Khaldun
• our subconscious will try to talk us out
• I can do it,
• 30 days, 3 months, 6 months.
• maintenance
--
Pick a habit
Set an intention
Do it no matter what
Build empowerment
- notice
- don’t minimise
- observe changes
This is so insightful. Thank you.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch.
I have to say, I made the choice to get out of bed at 9:50 instead of 10. I got up and sought water BEFORE my coffee!! You rock sis.
I use the app "toobee" to remind myself every hour "I make the choice to do it anyway." Thanks for this jump start.
I often feel it's direction I lack, so I appreciate your gentle guiding spirit. ❤❤
@@shyannehemphill this is beautiful! I SEE YOU!
Thank you 😊
Thanks so much Nicole🙂
Exactly what I needed to watch/hear !! ❤❤🙏🙏
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch.
Hello fellow community
I manifested breathing through the nose instead the mouth ! It works , I’m working on manifesting sleeping through the night I only wonder how to put it down on the journal for the next 30 days 🤦♂️
yeees! thank you i love this!!
Thank you so much for all you offer! I'm finding future journaling hugely beneficial.
Two questions, is there a fifth step and which video on mental resistance, please?
Hi its my pleasure! I realize I had referenced a video that I had not yet posted. My apologies on that. I will post it next week.
Amazing video thanks
How could this not have more likes?
😾🙄 wt!?
Can u please talk about being allot on social media and the effects on mental health and talking breaks from social media to that would be very helpful to allot of people including myself also talking about what u want to gain from social media so u won't be stressed thank u ! 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Finally!! I let go of everything even the good habits! After becoming a parent!! Lol
Do you have any books available to buy I would be very interested I am so grateful for all the help and advice that you graciously give It is all life changing ,Thank you
Thankyou.
Thank you - this is really good. I always want to do waaaayyyyyy too much. How long do you take till you add a new small habit after the first one?
So when it comes to mental chatter and mental resistance, will it ever go away if the new habit becomes a part of you life for a while?
Thank you for this video, just a quick question though. I struggle with the inner critic a lottt, does it ever go away? Or atleast the resistance go away? I’ve been trying to form a new detrimental habit for years now and just keep starting and stopping. Hope you read this, thanks!
According to this , we are working against our thoughts , but in previous video , you said work with your thoughts ??
Thank you!!...I am wondering, can you do this with thought patterns? Now that I see my thoughts more, I am almost constantly worrying...I am guessing, I could just telling myself “come back to the present”, when I am worrying, and try to do this at least 5 times a day...? Thank you again! Your prompts are changing my life.
Yes, you can! What you're doing is a very beneficial practice.
Thank you!!
Is this a good process to thoughts too, the nagging, constant anxious thoughts?
Can the daily future self journaling be this new habit as well or fors it have to be something additionally?
Hi Nietzsche... Is this you doing the presentation?
Merci🥰🥰🥰🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
vous etes les bienvenus
Hi, where can I find the video on mental resistance?
Hi Jeanette! Apologies- I uploaded these in the wrong order. Here is the mental resistance video:
th-cam.com/video/16PFLVYU2Dg/w-d-xo.html
Would you recommended this way, or is there another exercise I could try first , to effectively start training against that inner critic? Mine is fitter than an Olympic gold medalist, lol.
Has any of these methods actually worked for you?
Hopeless, helpless and disempowered. Yh. That's exactly what it feels like
Learn the skill of showing up.