How I learnt to love being alone (and YOU CAN TOO) ✨
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 พ.ค. 2024
- Here are the mindsets that really helped me enjoy being alone, which is especially important now that it’s easy to feel lonely while in self isolation or quarantine. I hope this video helps you to deal with loneliness and instead appreciate your own company, find joy and peace in solitude, and learn to love being on your own (or being single!). There’s a difference from being alone and being lonely, and I hope you see solitude an opportunity to embark on your personal growth journey and fall in love with yourself.
If you enjoyed this video, let me know if you’d like to see another video where I share actionable tips, steps or habits for you to start enjoying being alone.
Stay safe, sanitized and smiling my friends!
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I respect your time so I usually do timestamps :)
0:00 it's normal to feel this way
1:07 my journey
2:01 2 reasons why I felt a fear of being alone
→ 3:09 getting over FOMO
→ 5:08 getting over the fear of not having others to rely on
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→ How I learnt to be happy single (and YOU CAN TOO) ✨ | tips on overcoming heartbreak & be content alone
• How I learnt to be hap...
→ 8 PRACTICAL tips to TRULY enjoy your own company & find joy being by yourself 🌿
• 8 PRACTICAL tips to tr...
→ Day in a life quarantined ALONE | thoughts on living with gratitude
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Thanks Alot
Fun Fact: This wasnt in your recommendations, you searched this.
Yep
so true !!
Yh skl back again 😐
Nope, recommended T_T
I searched it too.
I’m the one who is just surrounded by fake people so I realised it’s better to be alone
It’s a hard pill to swallow, but once you do oh man is it liberating.
Me too ❤️
Same!
@@Mike-ul7of i hope so. It's tough no cap
Same here. been avoiding people for a month or two and I've not felt better tbh
I deleted my social media apps since August of last year and I’d prefer not to turn back. I love the person I’m getting to know without social media.
Hi
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That’s amazing 💖
@@kararowley13 Hi how are you beauti queen 👑👧❤😍queen😍❤👧👑
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I have never had real friends and people still tell me that the reason for this is that I'm always alone, but what they don't know is that loneliness helped me learn three languages and I'm about to learn my fourth language, it helped me learn how to draw, sing, love to read and play Guitar and piano and create animated videos. in my opinion being alone , it's a gateway to learn more about yourself and your abilities>.thank you so much for the video you're awesome:)
I love that!! you're obviously really taking full advantage of life and you're living proof that being alone doesn't mean you're not living a great one :)
Kinda same story as me😊
I feel that my alone time is a luxury gift, because I have a very busy career and many people/friends to interact with during the day. At night, I just want to spend time with myself, enjoy my own company, and learn some new things, just like you. Thank you for your thoughts!
Beautiful encouraging words for an alone person, thank you.
Can you please share with me how you learn this things? 🥺
Actually i'm a teenager.i'm 16 but i don’t have no friends.In high school all of my friends are fake and no one actually care about me and never helped me when i was in trouble.That things really broke my heart. I was in depressed when i was in my high school.but now i accept that Truth. If i have no friends. I will live alone and be happy. But still some things make me feel insecure and anxieties when i saw people have friends, they enjoyed a lot. Hangout with them etc.
Please help me🥺
How you started and after how many days you learn this?
I want be truly happy and make myself better🙁 and never want to feel anxiety after watching peoples friends and lifestyle🙁
All I want is that one person to love that understands I need space. I meet these people who I would love to date, but then I quickly realize it won't work because they need me everyday.
There is someone.... I really like her energy. But I'm moving soon. I don't want to fall for her and then miss her.
I need to do the next phase of my life alone. Be well everybody 🌹
it's funny sometimes I get lonely but then I remember what its like being around people and I feel better. we all want those perfect people around us but sadly they don't exist. I'm almost 31 and I have no friend and never been in a relationship. Good people are hard to find.
Ahhh well there are no perfect people but we definitely can find good ones!
I feel this
There is no perfect people or person, even you yourself is not perfect. I don't mean you, you. Social skill is also necessary as much as learning to be alone.
A good significant other is worth breaking the loneliness. Especially one that respects your desire to be alone at times. Whatever makes you happy
you just reminded me why it’s okay to be because i’d rather be in my own company then with someone who is fake thank you
I was in the middle of having a breakdown about my life, and I put this video on. Thank you. Thank you so much. You are absolutely right about social media presenting people's best selves and that it's probably better to have a break from this kind of influence for a while.
Thank you for watching and I hope you’re doing okay! It’s definitely a journey :) all the best on yours x
I'm really curious as to how you're doing now!?
In 2020 my mental health worsened and I started relying on other people more and more. It recently hit me that my only happiness comes from talking and hanging out with my friends. I know I found the right people but I also know that I am dependent on them which I don't want to be. I can't even fall asleep without listening to something to distract myself because I really don't like being alone. So yesterday I decided I will take my first ever social media break and also some time away from my friends just so I can learn to appreciate time by myself. I stumbled upon your video and it really helped me be hopeful about being able to do this instead of being scared. thank you
that's a great first step dear! all the best, you can do it :)
i feel like i should get used to being alone, since i feel like im becoming somewhat toxic and really attached to people, i dont want to hurt them so im going to try and isolate from my friends and just enjoy my own company and just improved myself, ive tried doing this before, but as i said, im easily attached and i get scared that i'll be forgotten. this helped a lot, thank you
@Chertsey Nermal hey :)) im doing much better now i believe and im out of that rabbit hole. it was defo lockdown which made me feel isolated and depressed, with too many moments of self reflection to the point where you overthink everything. one thing that helped was that i started journaling and writing down any negative thoughts i had, having them written on paper made me realise how toxic some of it was, but i learnt not to beat myself up since we're human and can never be perfect, acknowledging my thoughts helped with addressing my toxicity, i tried getting into the habit of journaling about good and happy things as well, also just doing things that make you happy such as painting, watching a show, etc.
@Chertsey Nermal im much more used to being in my own company now :) i dont feel so reliant on others, i think what was different back then, and now, is that now i realise that there will be someone there for me even when i think there wont be
This brought so much peace to my mind, I was spiralling 10 minutes ago but this perfectly broke down the steps for me
I’m glad it helped! It’s a process, but I hope you feel better, and give yourself the time to learn how to enjoy your own company :)
I really needed to hear this today :) I often feel as if I'm misunderstood by the world, but I'm starting to realize that I don't need to be understood. I do have close friends, yes, but I'm also realizing that I'm the only person who will ever truly know myself more than anyone else. being alone is something I still struggle with but this video made see that it doesn't have to be a negative thing!
proud of you x
I had a close friend and she broke our friendship one year ago, but now I feel better I started focusing on myself and I feel better 😊💗
i really needed this video. been feeling lonely and isolated lately. ive noticed instagram is a major trigger for me so i decided to delete the app (again) and to work on myself and be my own bestfriend
Proud of you!
Agreed, I’m way too dependant on other people :,) I’d like to work on myself too
I think ill be watching this video more because im really struggling lowkey lol
Remember stay strong love yourself from within ❤ you matter....
Truly resonated with this one ❤ I also didn't belong to a particular group of friends and I've just recently started loving my own company. That's when I started my own channel to share my own journey towards health and self-love. So lovely to have come across a beautiful soul as you :)
Thank you for watching love! 💕
Thank you for sharing :) you make me realize I'm not the one who is feeling this way. and i should be content with myself and not dependent with friends
I absolutely love this video! As a student in university who just finished their first year without having the chance to make new friends because of online school, it was really difficult for me to deal with FOMO especially when I saw my other classmates living in dorms having fun on Instagram and I could not help but think of how lonely I was. It wasn't until I realize being alone isn't so bad after all. Yes, I may not be going to parties and hanging out with friends every day, but I still got a few people that I can trust and talk to. I 100% agree with your point that the right people will come when it's meant to be. Having that kind of mindset is so helpful and will get you a long way in life. ❤️
Proud of you for getting through online classes (hate that bs zzzz) and for having such a healthy mindset about things :) all the best for the next three years - things will look up!
This was amazing, I want to try this but I have the fear of being alone somewhere like a café and other people with their friends especially that I'm only 15 and I used to go out with someone but I like to be alone any advice?
ask yourself: why do you feel being alone? is it the fear of judgement? If it is, I promise, no one is looking at you, because everyone is too busy their own thing! and if it helps, maybe go to a cafe where you know you won't meet anyone you know to try! I think it always starts out feeling a bit uncomfortable, but the more you do it, the more natural it feels. after a while, it will feel like second nature :) speaking from experience! all the best :)
When I was your age I would frequently go out to eat by myself. Just a local McDonalds but I still sat by myself and enjoyed my meal. You have to love yourself enough not to care about others around you. Forty years later, what did it matter? Who even remembers seeing me eating by myself? No one. Just do it and enjoy your own company. You won't regret it.
Make sure the activities you do alone are truly enjoyable for you. If they are something you only find partial enjoyment with then you will be less motivated to go and will back out more often. Even when the activity you are doing is alone it takes a lot of motivation and dedication to yourself that you want to go do the activity despite how uncomfortable or awkward you may feel. It gets more natural over time and you will find more things your interested in doing that you realise if you do it with others it actually makes you upset because if you were alone you wouldnt have to compromise on things you didnt want to compromise on and felt you had to so you could enjoy the person being there. With that in mind though, everything has a balance. Compromise in a relationship is healthy.
Three months ago I found out about the program called Forwago. It is amazing how this program helped me to change my perspective and taught me to think more positively and to be more grateful.
Not looking for approval. Or someone to rely on. Want to share and connect with someone. The problem with being alone is for those who don’t have family, friends or loved ones. Too much aloneness is not healthy! This is the issue everyone bypasses when addressing this issue! It’s not easy making friends or gaining family for many
You’re right!
im afraid to be seen alone. i have a small amount of friends but since quarantine, i wasn’t ever able to hang out with them so they all hung out but me. now i feel left out and unwanted. i know it’s better to be alone than to be left out in a friend group but i don’t want to be alone. idk
That's actually sad when the only freinds you have are busy or prefer there best freind over you.
Thank you for this . I hate being alone especially while single or not having many friends especially being shy . I feel like I mainly had a lot aquantinces . I’am slowly enjoying being a lone with out being needy or wanting to talk to someone all the time and want to know what everyone is doing .
Totally normal you be in room full of people and still feel alone. Which is oke and totally normal. Having a brighter destiny comes with cost of that as I’m hearing your story. Totally similar of here.☺️
Deleting social media apps is the best thing i did btw thank you so much❤ and lots of love to you ❤❤
#loveyourself ❤🌈🌻
I decided to take a social media break & focus on myself more. I won’t lie, it becomes a habit opening up the apps & I found myself instinctively reaching for the phone when bored. 2 months later & I’ve had time to learn new habits, read more & enjoy the outdoors. Even forgot my phone at home one day when I went to work 😂 I think we all need to disconnect sometimes to be able to reconnect with ourselves.
Really needed this video!! Im someone who has constantly felt the need for validation and acceptance in group of people. Since going to college, I’ve been often by myself and without a ton of people to lean on. This video has helped a ton, still learning how to really embrace riding solo ❤️❤️ and enjoying it!! Patience is key, there’s still some lows but I’ve come a long way!! Have a beautiful day :))
yay! it's a journey but sounds like you're taking it in your stride :) proud of you dear!!
Thank you so so much for this. I have recently been put in a situation where I have had to be alone all of the time, and its just like you said. I feel unwanted and unloved. I want to get over this so much. I've decided the first step is to cut off social media and go from there
Proud of you Natasha! you can do it, I hope you learn to learn being on your own x
I'm going trough break up, and this video made me realize that I was the wrong person for someone and they chose to be alone instead of being with me. I'm so miserable.
I'm happier to live alone. I have God and although he is not someone physically around I have someone to talk to without having someone back to shout at me for not doing things their way or doing it at all. or have any form of negative feedback. If I live alone I can make my own plans feel the way I feel and certainly not negative to do my own thing and not worry of others. Go out meet a friend twice a week or do something to leave my environment other than going for a walk. Your advice is perfect. Thank you for sharing that.
You’re inspiring - many people take a long time to get to your level of peace. Great job ✨😌
Definitely needed this love the video ✨🤗
I needed to hear this. Thank you 💛
Aww thankyou for this!! Loveyouu😢❤
thanks Victoria. I needed this.
Awesome
I needed this!!
Aww man I needed this
Thank you, I have had trouble with friendships from my childhood. I can see why. I've always been independent and I'm meant to be that way. Thank you for helping me realise that. ❤️
This was really relatable thank you!
Thank you so much for this video 🥰
Thank you babe. ❤️ I needed to hear this !
Thank you so much for this. i love you
This was amazing:) great tips/transparency
Wow. I was feeling so low tonight. This video truly helped. Thank you ✨
I’ve had a rough year. I needed this. Thank you💕
Wow. Ur so strong! Thank u for this video💫🤸🏻♀️
Really Loved this video!! Just subscribed. I definitely struggle with being alone and have had to manage with it almost my entire life. I'm hoping that with time I can learn to enjoy it.
I think this Is one of the videos that really help me a lot!
Thank you for Made this.
Beautiful Queen!
Thank you for this! Made me feel better.
Thank you so much for this ❤️❤️❤️ resonate with everything that you have experienced and you are saying
I absolutely loved watching this now knowing how people actually went through on what im going through and give great advice. Thank you :)
I've been having a hard time lately, thank you for this :))
Awesome video!!!! We need more people doing such genuine videos on topics like these
Great advise!
Btw! You’re so pretty!!
Thank you for this advice
I feel happy to go outside and be alone so I feel good
This video was such a warming feeling.Thank you for making this !!
Damn it Victoria, on point!!
Every single thing that you said, resonated with me :)
Thanks a lot for this video, good luck
Love you amazing!! So clear honest and helpful. Beautiful
i agree with the comments! u are amazing!!! happy for uu!
This video resonates so much with my inner thoughts. Thanks for making them more iron clad with your video.
Thank you so much. You don't how much i needed this one. I'm new to this whole thing and this video gave me some 😳😱🤯 moments
Thank you for sharing this :)
Can relate, great words! I´ve been dealing with solitude much better after some years and just discovered how much potential this has. You used the right word. Freedom! We should learn how to feel comfortable with being alone and take this as an opportunity for growth to happen :)
thank you!
I always feel I don't get a lot of people who understand me. Your videos are calling and soothing. Loving them
very nice video
rn I'm in the position that I don't want to deal with anyone anymore so basically this video is really helpful
You are just reading my mind
honestly in my opinion, being alone is just peace and it’s so lovely. if i could i would live on an island myself
Wow ! So much positive vibes watching this video amazing ❤😊
I love this video and really needed to hear it. I really enjoyed your humility and great spirit 💜
Glad you enjoyed it!
Not being CODEPENDENT has been my best attribute!! I don’t do Facebook or any social media. I don’t like the word “alone”, I prefer “SOLO”! Life is fabulous when you know that you control your life. ZERO DRAMA!
Love this 🤩
Love this video. I’ve increasingly found it hard to spend time alone and with my boyfriend and friends not being available as much it’s been a perfect storm. I’ve been trying to find new hobbies and value the time i have with others rather than constantly wanting more and more. Definitely been hard for me but will keep I’m trying
I can relate to that, I like being alone, I don't like people in general, not necessarily because they are bad, I just find them very predictable, shallow, and borining
Time to find yourself a new crowd 😄
So happy for you ! Victoria😍
Im going to like try to enjoy my own company. im always around people and i have been realizing that i dont know much about myself. Im also quite nervous to make new friends irl which is common but you know.. and since im alone often then i feel like this is an advantage to enjoy being by myself. and learn new hobbies and things. im definitely gonna be doing that and deleting social medias and keep myself busy and just enjoy being alone. doing fun things alone. it really is peaceful being by yourself and its actually fun tbh !!
Thank you for this video. you dont know how much people you've motivated and helped
Thank you so much for sharing this positive message. Sending you love! ♥️✨
Thank you for watching! :) Sending love to you too x
Exactly what I'm feeling right now. Good thing that everyone feels this way. New subcriber here you're trulyy amazing! ❤
Thank you -- so glad it resonated x
Sending love and strength to everyone who had to search for this
Victoria, with your video you made my mood from 😪 to 🤗🥰...
Thank you for reminding me that it is perfectly fine to be who I truly am
Thank you so much Victoria I just love you
i’ve needed to hear this for years, thank you
thank you for watching and hope it helps 💜
worth watching 💓
Thank you so much! I loved your video, it can sound simple but it's pretty deep, and it felt very sincere.
Glad you enjoyed it! ☺️
Thann you for this 🥺 , some time i feel happy of being alone and some other time i don't like it so 🤷♀️
I feel happy because it makes me feeling free
But some times i don't like it cause..
Idk i just feel lonely
I love my solitude and I dont feel lonely at all. When I am on my own I am at peace. when I am around people I find myself angry all the time.
Watching this made my heart feel warm. Thank you
Thanks for watching!
Sometimes I feel like I'm not enough for anyone because my old friends are leaving me or ignoring me lmao.
And this pandemic makes the thing worse. I can't leave my house and I'm a mess talking to strangers on internet.
Oh well, your video made me feel hopeful again. Maybe I should use this time to improve and heal myself. Thanks
I know it can be hard :( it's okay to feel sad, but remember that you ARE enough and that this time at home can also be seen as an opportunity for you to rediscover yourself / your interests / try new things :) you can and will get out of this! big hugs x
first of all sorry for my bad english i just wanted to thank you for all the unique videos you make. I've been feeling pretty lonely these past weeks my friends stopped looking for me. the feeling of loneliness was terrible, but then I found your channel. you helped me a lot and motivated me and showed me that being alone is not a bad thing. thank you so much❤
this is so beautiful. thank you for this :)
thank you for watching allan :)
love it Yale 😘
Thank you so much for the video, it helped me come over my sadness at this current moment. The video was simple and that simplicity just did its job perfectly!
happy to hear
The one thing that really made me feel better, energized, and determined to reach my goals was Forwago. Thank you so much !!!
well I'm trying to become less clingy so my first step is to enjoy being with myself, I've watched this before but when I did back then I couldn't really implement in my life because now I understand I didn't know what I was doing it for, tysm for this!!!
Wonderful video as usual! Would love to hear about that video on those practical tips on learning to be alone! Very apt for this quarantine period, and just in general for learning how to be comfortable on one's own presence :)
Ahh thanks for your comment and for watching Nat
Thank you I like your video. I'm doing isolation I need to be with my self for a while.and I'm learning things..
Thank you so much for this video. Every second taught me so much. Thank you.
Glad it helped! ✨
I already love u in a friend friendly way
Enjoyed this video. Let's me see I am not alone. There are others just like me.
I do agree with you!