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I'm so curious: how many of you are social introverts? Do you light up energetically by being alone? I refuel by spending my mornings alone, creating things, taking walks in nature and observing life around me through journaling! How do you refuel?
I’m not that social, but do crave deep, meaningful connections. Especially after a year of pandemic and living in a new area. Love being alone otherwise. Can you make a video about how you approach strangers and spark conversations? I need to make new friends here in the Bay Area. It’s been challenging in current circumstances.
Yes!!! I love your video and it’s 100% me. It’s just tough because I work full time as a teacher, married to a 100% extrovert, and our three year old son is an extrovert. Any tips for me? I’m with humans all day but I just want to read, journal, reflect, and work on personal growth.
I am a social introvert. It is important for me to have some daily alone time and getting outside every day. I do breath work and yoga and meditation every day to start my day. Journaling and painting. We have to spread out social engagement/time with others because too much social stimulation drains me. Too much noise, drains me. For example at home, my husband has the TV on and is watching a video on the phone. He doesn't understand how that is so distracting for me and makes me anxious. He thinks I should just ignore it.
My brother called me a hermit b/c he craves people. Poor dear. lol! My husband of 50 yrs & I are natural *one* people (as I call it). Naturally shy, but I learned thru work & moving a lot as a child, to be able to talk to anyone. Creating energizes us. Quiet refuels us. Nature soothes us. Alone time with God & each other is what we love. Adore you!
@@laurakalinski1286 yikes! Constant background noise would drive me crazy! You might be an HSP ( highly sensitive person) . There are videos and books about it. I hope you can find a way to communicate this to your husband and be more firm about meeting your needs. Best wishes!
I think to be an introvert is to be comfortable with yourself and your life,and to not feel the need to "fit in".
I've being and introvert all of my 63,yrs.but iam socail,ican talk to anyone that I meet in a store,or on a walk with my Yorkie,diamond, i love walking early in the morning, talk to God and enjoy nature. Yes,people sometimes have thought iwas a snob ,nevertheless, they didn't know me,how quickly we are to label each other.I love my teas,my meditation, my family,and most of all my books, reading,and my alone time!with me and my Holy Spirit .can't forget decorating my beautiful 1940ish style bungalow. Isi glad there are so many of us who understand what being a beautiful introvert is being about in this world.
HaHa Absolutely!! Ditto, ditto. I wish we were neighbors. :) We'd pass one another walking our dogs, and either speak, or intuitively understand that today is a quiet day in Nature, or just in thoughts. When I fall into the trap of socializing too much, my connection with Holy Spirit slightly suffers. I sometimes miss having a loving partner, but laying my head on the pillow each night knowing I was true to myself that day, just enriches my connection with Universe/Creator/Higher Spirit, I believe. NAMASTE @VeronicaBoydwash
Veronica Boydwash....I'm 65 years old....I too, love my alone time. I also have a 2 year old puppy, which I love so much!.....I too , can conversate with anyone, but I love my alone time, nature, PRAYER, meditation, ...I do love my spirtuality....My 2 children are grown, and are wonderful adults, parents, etc...I love my time with my 6 grown granddaughters , 11 year old grandson (old soul)....and my 2 great grandchildren...I'm divorced, but not impress about remarrying, lol!....I'm the youngest of 7....4 older siblings deceased....basically a great family, but older ones gone. The rest scattered throughout the country or just busy with their lives...thank God for technology....But I am and have been so blessed!....I so love my solitude, being an Introvert, EMPATH, ....loving nature, animals. ...Being retired these 11 years has been a big blessing....Allowing my gardening, cooking, exercise, decorating, reading, PRAYER, meditating, Maintaining my good health , mind, spirit, happjness, and most importantly PEACE!.....I live a nice, but simple, peaceful, healthy, debtfree, content life.....love knowing other empaths, and introverts are in the world....
Hi Ms Veronica. I am 60, soon to be 61. I so get what you mean. Currently, my husband and I live on several acres of land with no close neighbors. Which I love. A perfect life for introverts. We never have random people stopping by. Our driveway is very long and you can’t see it from the road. So if we are outside, no one knows it. So no interruptions from friendly neighbors. Lol however, due to our age, I am aware of the day soon approaching that we won’t be able to care for this place. So, we are not looking forward to that day. But for now, we do enjoy the solitude and the quietness that is around us. I will say though, that nature can be really noisy at times. So it isn’t always quiet.lol
I LOVE being alone.... I do not need other people's stimulation... life is so interesting on IT'S own...
totally agree!!
Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
True i an introvert also loves nature more than people around
Never a truer word spoken, I can get more out of life sitting on a park bench watching squirrels and pidgeons, then being in a room full of people at a party.
I agree 100%.
I’m a super introvert. I have to have a LOT of alone time. Being around people and having to interact completely drains me.
I’m exactly the same way! I’ve been called an extreme introvert. The worst thing is having an extroverted neighbor that shows up at your house unannounced. Some people just don’t get it.
@@annknower4603 Gotta set boundaries. It's hard. They very well might not understand. But, the alternative is constantly dreading that persistent knock upon the door. Or, in my case, being an outdoor Nature person who feels trapped inside my home, at times. Lovely neighbors! But, they don't understand when someone is out digging around in the dirt, blissfully, planting flowers and humming tunes, it's exactly where they want to be. No drama, please. :)
Ann Knower - I use a, “Shhh! Baby is napping, please don’t knock.” sign on my door to prevent that from happening. Not sure what I’ll do in a few more years when my littlest is too old to nap. 😄
Same here!
Often, when we love being alone, others consider us like very strange , or ill ? ! 😊 anyway I love my time alone...🧡
It's so true. Such a misconception! We aren't anti-people. I looove people and connecting with others! But it's just not how we obtain our energy. We spend our energy that way - still fun and wonderful though! :)
I have experienced others seeing me as stuck up or they think that I think that I am too good for them. Because I seldom attend their invitation to do what ever they are going to do. And I think now that they think these things about me because I am friendly and social when I am with others. I have never had a problem with making friends. But unlike you, I do not feel the need to travel alone. I would not have the confidence for that. Except just placed near where I live. Like shopping, visiting a park or hiking trail for the day. And sometimes a community festival. My roots run deep and being home is my favorite place to be. Having to leave to go to work is a huge struggle and always has been. I can only tolerate it because my jobs have always been in my little town and I am around the people of my community. Which is the next best thing to home.
@@helenawoods what a wonderful observation and truth - we spend our energy with others ! 🌺👌
I looove being alone ✨ I feel like it brings out my true inner self.
so beautiful to hear Andrea!
@@helenawoods "love being alone" - good to hear, now use your alone time wisely and come to the knowledge of truth:
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Hi! I am an introvert. I fuel in nature, journaling, taking walks, with videos like this. When I feel alone I go for a walk. I've been very lonely due to depression and anxiety, but I did discover that I was just missing myself! Now I feel much less alone.
that's so beautifully said, San
@@helenawoods thank you so much! It's complex and simple ate the same time. Our hapiness should and cannot never depend on others rather than on ourselves.
'Missing myself'- love this!
What a wonderful wonderful vlog. Thank you for this.
Missing yourself…that's an interesting concept.
I've learned more about myself during this pandemic for sure. I'm definitely an introvert even though I can appear quite social. I think people can be disappointed in me with hopes of a friendship and then realize I never reach out or initiate activities with friends. I'd rather do something alone if given a choice. I use to struggle with thinking something must be wrong with me, but now I let myself off the hook, never get lonely, and don't worry about acquaintances that might feel rejected.
SUCH KINDRED SPIRITS!!
@@helenawoods thank you
You have just described me! If l met you it would go something like this-"Hello new friend l am pleased to meet you, you sound a very interesting person...two minutes later...hope you have a great life l'm away to do read a book".
@@helens403 lol yep!
you literally described me...wow i've always felt pretty bad about the friendship situation as well and only just recently discovered this. it's so easy for me to make friendships but maintaining them is where I fall short all the time. but looking at the bright side, we can always make little tweaks in our behaviors to our comfort levels if we decide to reach out- we can do it in our own way. (w/o having to always meet up etc.)
I’d just like to ask the world why being extroverted is the desired trait?? Im 💯% introverted and looked at as the quiet one, as if that’s a bad thing. Like it’s just expected that people should be chatty and social. People drain me, and I’m just now at the age of 57 learning to accept this.
Thank you for your videos! 💗
I am a few years older than you and I think when we grew up, at least for me, the school system and then the workplace was always trying to fix us, draw us out, make us contribute more to discussions, force us to work in groups. I have always found this extremely exhausting and suffered anxiety/panic disorder for years because of it. Lucky that young people today are recognizing what and who they are and that they are valuable and have a contribution to make. Maybe this will finally be our time introverts, going forward......
So agree..I'm 49 and for so many years I tried to change my natural desire to do things solo and in quiet places .Now I don't fight it and accept it..I am introverted ,a loner and that's ok,I'm not lonely.
The way I see it, an extrovert person is more desirable and likable by the society bc that person is more approachable. They come off as more friendly, talkative, and more bubbly the moment you meet them whereas an introvert is more quite and more reserved. It takes more time to get to know an introvert. I am one by the way and I am the very last person that get invited to a get together party bc I don't have a fun personality that my new friends or I should say acquaintances have.
@@debbietodd8547 You've just described my experience. Even workplace bosses while I was at the top of my career, doing extremely well, and people who truly loved me would still try to fix me. 'I wish you acted the way you do when we're alone, all the time.' Or vice-versa, 'Why can't you be as energetic, at home, as at work or out in public?'; 'Why can't you be more social?' 'Why don't you participate, more.. it makes you seem uncommitted', 'You need to be more fun and flirtatious with your customers!' Aaargh!! I was the #4 pharmaceutical representative in the entire country, for a top global company when these words were stated to me. I was down-sized 3 months later despite my success. They said...'if you can do this well doing it your way, just imagine how much better you would have done, doing it our way'. What a blow! The pressure to be a bubbly extrovert is immense. I was constantly being administered the watered down workplace version of a Meyers-Briggs personality inventory, as were we all. When my result was so different than colleagues, the whole room would then judge me. I finally asked a manager why I got such weird treatment after these tests. He said because we are trained that we would never see this profile in a successful sales representative. And, that the going joke was this: 'people with my profile are only seen in top management, like CEO positions, or either they're serial killers'. ? Talk about widespread lack of understanding and workplace discrimination! But, we don't talk about this kind of discrimination. Although it's very real!! I'm sure so many of you have lived similar circumstances. And, it's not only draining, it can be truly damaging. As you stated, panic attacks became my reality, over time, dreading walking out the door into that dog eat dog world each day.. then cancer. One doctor I've spoken to, who practices in Russia and specializes in helping people prevent cancer, by detoxifying their subconscious mind of so much negativity and toxicity... he believes, and has written several books on the topic, that cancer is wholly, or in part, triggered by negative trauma in our lives. He said it's usually one catastrophic event, but when I described to him the long term, constant daily deluge of being required to live up to an unreachable standard, plus despite my success, doing it my own natural way, still not being good enough, he got it. Then, after long work day, going home to someone who also requires extroversion. Frequent anti-social comments, and 'are you sick?' or 'what's wrong with you?' or 'you must be depressed' just because I prefer to spend my free time listening to Music, and on quiet hobbies. I sincerely hope the next generation never has to suffer this. Videos like these are SO important and should hopefully, eventually, make it into schools and workplace environments, just like anti-bullying campaigns, etc. Introverts are valid! We're just outnumbered. Thank you so much for bringing this topic to light @SimpleJoys. Thank you!! THANK YOU!
@@lovingsunshine3515 When you find those friends who get you, either through tolerance of diversity or sharing introverted tendencies, it will be magical. :) Took me forever, but finally through some strange work of wonder, I was introduced to a small group of folks who just appreciate one another. No judgement. Introverts & extroverts, alike. Without judgement, plus being a more relaxed group, attract other introverts. I'd never really met any before, so it's been great. We don't feel need to spend every single weekend together, or talk on phone all throughout the day to maintain connections, but we truly love one another, and aren't afraid to express it, once realization hits, it's a safe space. We just get one other. Or, if we don't, we still embrace it. Life is better in it's diversity! It's very refreshing. I sincerely hope you find this in your life. It's hard. I shutter to think if I hadn't met this non-judgemental tribe of beings, I'd still be out their trying to make it in what felt like a rat race to me. Or I'd be where I was when I finally met them... hibernating long periods of time, dreading having to socialize, then drinking to many cocktails just to endure such highly stimulating social environments. 'Friends' making fun of me because all I wanted to do when not working, was yard work & gardening. It was quiet therapy that even extroverts could somewhat understand. Until they didn't. I was unapologetic about it, but still allowed it to stop me from getting out for hikes which I'd always loved. My hiking friends were all very social & wanted to party a lot. Nothing wrong with that, just not my preference. I kind of checked out for a time. Kept saying I would get a large hiking dog for protection on remote hiking trails, but instead allowed people to convince me it would still be unsafe, and 'anyway, that's just weird to go alone.' My hibernation period was blissful but could have become unhealthy in it's lack of balance, plus I missed those deeper connections. I had left my un-understanding partner by then, so these friendships somewhat saved me from a life of hermiting (nothing wrong with that, either, I just need deeper connection & conversation) Perhaps you could find, or start, an online chat group? Or, what worked for me was finding one individual who could plainly see that I had so much in common with this wonderful tribe. He asked me on a date, then introduced me to this group. Sadly, he turned out to be too much like my ex, but what I gained from the experience was a lifelong group of friends who seem to get me. This is now my bliss. :) Long hours painting & reading & writing with no pressure, from others, to sell what I create. Occasional, amazing 'play dates' with other adults who embrace their deeper self and the wonderful diversity of others. I hope you find this, IF you choose. ...Returning your @LovingSunshine. NAMASTE (big time)
I'm an introvert. I love people, but my circle of friends is fairly small....and I'm ok with that. I like being alone for a little while each day. I don't need much social stimulation at all. I've weathered the pandemic and being distanced very well because I don't really want to attend social functions. I certainly don't miss them. I enjoy the company of my family and myself. My alone time recharges my batteries.
I have 2 friends. That's it. They're not introverts, strangely enough. We all just sort of get each other.
One advantage we have is that the Covid19 lockdowns are less stressful for us- because we are happy in our own company, with a cup of tea and a good book.
the covid lockdown was one of the best periods of my life....
I absolutely love being alone. People think I am the opposite and love to be around me. I prefer to do my own thing alone!❤️🌹❤️
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I love being alone too. I feel that I can hear myself better without the distraction of others. Nature is where I get my energy from too. I just love being outdoors. I also love listening to the wind and the smell of rain it's so refreshing to me. The small things matter to my heart. I don't need much to be happy. I am never board. My mind appreciates creation in all forms. The truth is I love being an introvert.
Yes!! In so many years of being judged for not being just like everyone else, I've always maintained that #1 the world would be so boring if everyone were just the same, and #2 perhaps the other kind should try it our way, upon occasion. Because, it's truly WONDERful! Namaste, @April c
@@Tiffany-bk4kz So true. They might end up seeing a new side of this beautiful earth. 😍
Agreed! I am extrovert before when I was younger but now I am enjoying being introvert. I dont like to be in a big groups and I like spending more time to myself like reading books, gardening, cleaning the house, and always longing for nature walk. I love the sound of the wave and humming birds, I was so lucky that I am living in an island. I hope everyone here is safe! takecare
This captures so much of me - I never ever get lonely and good heavens - how would someone ever get bored in this amazing beautiful world? I will never get to all of the books, meditation and craft I want to do?? I love being alone - just revel in it. I love being out in nature or watching birds of watching an old movie or cooking a yummy meal or transplanting a flower
We are in total lock down in England and I LOVE it.. NO more making excuses when being asked to go to this or that function.... My husband and I are both happiest when we are in our house or garden mainly living separately luckily the house is large we come together for meals and a couple of hours in the evening... WE give each other Space without question and quarantine has been a breeze for us we have cat and dog.. Who demand more from us than we demand from each other... You explain being an introvert so well..you should write a book on it 📝📙 My family.... when we do get together think we are the OPPOSITE AND because we are the life and soul of the PARTY.THEY WOULD NOT UNDERSTAND THAT WE REALLY LOVE. BEING ALONE..they would take that as a snub against them... . . But we seem like you said able to do that social thing but in moderation... What a brilliant vlog this was thank you.... ❤️
Yep I’m exactly the same - slightly dreading the expectations of friends again when we are allowed to meet up - longing to see them, but just for a couple of hours - not a full on weekend 😱
@@littlemisssparkle1 just be honest and say NO... THERE'S NO SHAM IN THAT ... I'M OLDER NOW AND IT'S TOOK ME A LONG TIME TO BE ABLE TO SAY "" SORRY BUT I'M NOT FEELING LIKE DOING THAT TODAY I HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND '' 'they either get it or not if not I'm afraid that is their problem... I don't have anyone stay any more nooooo 😱stay safe ❤️🙏🏼❤️
@Pete Muller yes we are but in that we are also SPECIAL ☀️
@Pete Muller Yes, we are. And, it's beautiful!
West Midlands here 🙋🏻♀️ and couldn’t agree more.This life in the uk at the moment ( apart from not being allowed to work) actually suits me better
I’m very comfortable being alone. I always feel scared of being judged when I’m around a big group of people but I enjoy a company of one person or a pet at a time.
As an only child I have learned to be alone most of the time . I enjoy being around people once a week and that’s plenty for me and that’s all I need.
once a week is fabulous!
I too am an introvert. Love being with friends but need my alone time to recharge. A great book I read is called “The Introvert Advantage”.
ooooh great book recc - thank you Jill! I'll check it out
Hi Jill, may I ask from which writer the introvert advantage is? I seem to find several books/writers with this title. 😁
I'm an introvert, parties kill me inside. I would love a host to provide a quiet place for introverts to just go and take a break. I don't like endless solitude, but just a little with shop owners, co-workers etc.
That's such a great idea. At parties, I always find myself a safe spot. Great when there is a balcony or terrace. But, when all else fails, the ladies room. haha Growing up, I was always accused of being in there primping too much. Gaudy 80's lent itself to such assumptions. When I eventually embraced my own natural looks, and it's obvious I'm not into primping, at all, they just think I'm either ill or on the phone. haha I'm actually just taking a neccessary break in there. If I ever throw a party again, will definitely remember you @papermason. There will definitely be a quiet spot for the introverts. Thanks for the innovative tip. I love it!
I developed horrible migraines when I was mother of the bride and then groom. I love my family and friends, but there can be too many at once! And the mother has to look good! Positively exhausting!
@@Tiffany-bk4kz Thanks Tiffany, the very worst kind of party for me are showers, where you have to stick things on your head, or look at a diaper filled with melted chocolate, (Thanks a lot Duggers!) etc. Party games are torture. Why do showers always have to be so undignified?! So yes, for the sake of introverts, that safe space would be great.
@@cherylwebb8340 OH, I can only imagine and commiserate.
My Mom had to be mother of the groom many times, and she despised it. I guess I know where I get it from.
Even though it's family, it's an art to keep everyone partying, even if they're a happy, social bunch. My brother's wedding had almost 300 people and I didn't know more than maybe 20 out of the whole lot.
My family sat together at a table in a far corner in the back of a very large room at a conference centre. My brother kept coming back to our table, then other people starting coming to the back where we were, looking kind of glazed over.
A friend of mine got married in her apartment kitchen with 2 witnesses and the officiant, everyone else had to zoom. My kind of wedding!!!!
You beautifully captured what I’ve tried to express as the daughter of an extrovert and a 100% introvert.
I feel being a social introvert is a gift.
Without distractions from others, we see & experience what so many overlook.
Walks, animals and children are wonderments.
I live in a continuous state of contemplation, awe and gratitude.
I was a borderline extrovert. I am now 100% introvert. I just didn't understand what it meant to be an introvert. Love it it's me.
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Same! Took me 30 years to realise I was an introvert! Now 37 and the thought of gong to a party filled with random strangers gives me anxiety. I wasted a lot of years trying to be outgoing and attempting to ‘fit in’ with everybody else and constantly seeking validation from other people.
I definitely am a social introvert. Being lonely never really occurs to me, I love spending time with myself. I find such peace and contentment in my life. I think contentment is a choice. I love to learn and do hobbies, hike, be in nature. I don't need someone to go shopping with me or entertain me. I don't look to other people or celebrities to tell me how to make my life more exciting. My husband is also an introvert more so than me, we can be in the same house and not see each other for hours and have no offense or problem with it. Another person can't fulfill your life you have to do it yourself.
*Since last year in spring I've felt blessed to be an introvert* ✨ *It's easier to stay in good mental health during the pandemic when being by yourself is your favorite activity* 💚 *Before I always felt bad for needing so much time alone...*
oh it's so true Alina! I think being quarantined at home has been a bit easier for introverts overall. It's still hard for everyone - I have my days where I feel intense cabin fever and miss making plans with others. But overall its' been a lot easier for me than I would've thought
I can relate to that :) blessings
me too
Agree...
Alina ♥︎ As always, you are finding the perfect words 😊 I am feeling the same 😊
I have always been an introvert and a home body. I truly enjoy my own company and I keep myself busy at home. I have a friend who is so opposite of me. She loves the busy lifestyle and can't stand spending time in her own home bc it's too boring she said. Last weekend, our kids had a playdate last Friday, took them to Dave&Busters to celebrate my son's birthday Saturday, then they came here again and spent the night on Sunday. I love her as a friend but let me tell you, spending too much time with her and her kid took all the energy out of me. She wanted to hang out with me again this weekend and I was brave enough to say not at this time. I find it so exhausting to socialize several times a week. I recharge when I'm alone.
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YES! I'M NOT ALONE
I'd call myself a social introvert. I love meeting up with friends and having deep conversations. But I do love spending time alone. I love hiking or going on walks by myself. It allows me to get grounded and get reconnected with myself. 😊 Btw, your videos are so lovely. Thank you. 🙏🏼
so glad to hear it Sandy!! :)
Thank you for the comfort of assuring that it is ok to be happy being alone.We have been brainwashed for to long to believe otherwise
yes! brainwashed - absolutely!
So true!!!
My husband is an extrovert. I am an introvert. We(He!) had a Christmas party for 39 people in our 2 bedroom apartment. Luckily, we had a large living room. I was so overwhelmed by it all, that I ended up sitting behind an open french door. I sat there for quite a while before someone noticed me and laughingly asked what i was doing. I was perfectly happy. I could see the party but I was distanced by the glass. A wall, if you will, between me and them. Later, we adopted 4 children. Our biological daughter was 15. There was NO place for me to be alone. I took my dinner plate and went into my bedroom, sat on the floor behind my bedroom door and ate. My husband, looking for me, poked his head around the door, quietly backed out and said, “Kids, leave Mama alone for a little bit! She’s not feeling well.” The only way he knew how to phrase it. Sorry this is so long but your article really touched a chord in me! I LIKE being alone. I really do NEED my space. I don’t get bored. There is always SOMETHING interesting to do.
Many people are bored by Peace. Blessed are those who love Peace.
I definitely am an introvert. Ever since I was a child, my happiest moments were walking alone in the woods next to my Aunt's house. The hours spent there helped foster my imagination and creativity. Nothing is more frustrating than people who when they see me alone think I'm depressed and need cheering up. The wonderful thing about introverts is that we are comfortable with ourselves, constantly getting in touch with our feelings and have learned to appreciate nature. We take the time to smell the roses.
oh gosh totally can relate to this Mary. I remember as a teenager, I would go to movies or to cafes alone sometimes - just because I've always loved doing those things alone sometimes! - and I would run into people from high school who would feel soooo bad for me! and treat me as if I didn't have any friends or that I was lonely! Could not be farther from the truth. It's silly! I'm so inspired and passionate about sharing the messages of cultivating compassion, acceptance and non-judgement in my videos....the world needs it.
@@helenawoods Thank you for your kind words. Your videos are a joy to those of us who enjoy our simple lives.♥️
Another social introvert here. I have done lots of social things in my life but as time goes by (early 50s now), I find I am becoming more and more introverted, or simply finding my old self again, i.e. embracing my introversion rather than letting myself be dragged by the expectations of others. Or it might partly be that I feel life is speeding up with each passing decade. I love to be alone, love nature, love my books, love photography and love being creative.
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I can soooo relate to this❤️
This is 100% me. In fact, I think I understand myself a little better after this video. So spot on. Thank you!
oh i agree. i'm an introvert. i need time to reflect or i will over stimulated.
Yes! We feel drained from that stimulation! so nice to connect with you Alisa :)
You nailed it! I am very high energy, loud and love to talk to anyone and everyone, BUT I need my alone time too. I need to have my quiet down time where I can read, write, pray, and connect with silence.
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I just thought of something! People (dog people) accuse cats of being stuck up and other mean things, but what they really are is introverts! They have all kinds of kitty thoughts in their heads and they just want to be left alone to think them. When they are ready, they will happily snuggle up with their human companions.
awww!!! What a beautiful cat analogy! we speak the same language Kathy
So true! I love it. Friends who truly know me have often said I'm a cat person living a dog life. I just say I'm me. Loving all animals. Your analogy is spot on, though, I believe.
I've always thought this too. Also I've noticed out of the people I know most introverts have cats and the extroverts have dogs. Not all, but alot.
Thank you. I feel more normal now that you’ve explained introverts in such a lovely and complete way.
Alone time is gold....even as a mom my kids allow me to be alone
You're not alone, I love being alone too. I'm not even sad, it actually makes me happy, free when I'm alone in my room.
Thank you for making me feel good. I am proud to say that I am a social introvert
aw I'm so glad to bring you good vibes Dee :)
I am so greatfull to have found your channel. Its strange to listen to someone I dont know, but it feels like I’m seeing and listening to my self.
I did not know how to explane my need to be on my own, because I love people, but you say It so clear and to the point. Thank you 🙏🏻
Ahh thank you Else
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It would be awesome if we could normalize being an introvert.. because for me it’s just my nature, it’s who I am. But it feels mortifying when you tell other people and the first answer you get is “oh, I’m sorry” -as if you suffered from a mysterious and incurable disease.
We might look at life a bit differently but in the end we’re all humans 😌
You are a younger version of me... enjoy life on your own terms, thank you for reminding me that I love being the way that I am.
Oh what a wonderful video!! I can recognize myself so much in this. I love the word social introverts! That is spot on ❤️ Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Big Hug C
aw thank you Christine!!! :) Kindred spirits
I'm an ambivert, but the older I get, and the more I see of the world, I am leaning more towards being an introvert. Being alone is so calming, so freeing! My social battery is like a phone's battery; the intensity of what its being used on dictates how quickly it will die. I get very overwhelmed in loud, chaotic situations and I will often shut down and seek solitude. At one point I was so curious about anyone and everyone, but now, only once in a while do I get a pull towards someone new. I love it. My inner child is not clawing out for attention anymore and I can finally get some peace.
I was feeling lonely for being alone. But, since years ago, I really enjoy and love every moment I spend alone. Thank you for this amazing content, Helena. You are wonderful.
That's so wonderful that you found that joy and inner peace in being alone Verena
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I'm a massive extrovert. But boy do I love being alone. And I'm known for cutting everyone off abruptly to literally heal and zone out
Your editing and narration is incredible!
Thank you! 😊
I am an extroverted person that LOVES to stay alone! People take so much vital energy! Loneliness is regenerating ❣️
You've made a description of me! Jesus! Thanks
so insightful and wise!
it's taken me a good 50 years of my life to understand and accept this about my self 💕
Helena you feel it and speak solitude so well! Being alone is filling my cup to the brim. My solo life at 66 is a blessing and a huge gratitude, a prize! Thank you for speaking my language, our language! Happiness in your solo moments! Much love!
Glad there's other introverts in this world. I too love having my alone days, that's the time that I reflect, imagine, and become more creative. Thank you.
I think the introvert/extravert concept is an interesting one... I've kind of come to a point where I've realized these are just human concepts to try to describe and explain (and possibly box?) other human beings. A useful tool to a degree but not when it starts to make you feel constrained. I definitely wouldn't have placed you as an introvert, and I think that's exactly illustrates the point that these are imperfect terms 😌
I feel drained when I spend an entire day in a busy and stimulating environment, but I also feel drained if I spend the entire day by myself. I need a balance of both to refuel - something like 1/3 of the day social and 2/3 day alone is perfect for me, as I need and love people but am also sensitive and creative so need time in solitude 🤗
Oh I love and relate so much to this Kat!
I agree about the labels. It’s a way for us to make sense of who we are. I am such a mixed bag of introvert/ extrovert that even I can’t pin down exactly what I would define myself as. So I have learned to just go with it. I can talk to virtual strangers but I enjoy and recharge in my alone time. I like being alone but I don’t like feeling lonely. My relationship with my Creator really helps in those times when loneliness hits. I know I am never truly alone which helps ground me and provides that foundation from which I can connect with people. I have a lot of acquaintances but only 2 really deep friendships and that seems to satisfy me. I am not married but not opposed to being married. I find it curious that in marriage this dynamic of “being an introvert” exists as marriage has always seemed to me to be a life of compromise -of laying down your life for your spouse and also that opposites attract. To have two introverts in a marriage and that it can be successful is a revelation to me. As a single I need human connection but I don’t need to constantly surround myself with people. I am empathetic by nature and have a deep need to contribute to the betterment of society but I get easily drained by people making too many demands on me. So there you go- I am a big jumbled bag of seemingly contradictory approaches. Accepting this is me is contentment and constantly realizing I am always growing and changing is strangely enough contentment as well.
This speaks volumes to my soul, I am definitely introverted but my wife is an extrovert. My 2 children are shy at first and seem introverted until they feel secure, then their extroverted nature comes out. As much as I love my wife and children, I cherish every moment I can get alone to myself, which isn't very often. Like you, I need time alone to recharge and focus before going about my day. Thank you for making this video.
"I have never found a companion as companionable as solitude." Henry David Thoreau
Being alone is my happy place!
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I resonate with this so much. Am transitioning to a quieter and solitary job and making much more art. I would love to be alone 90% of my days.
What a beautiful and meaningful video. I am much as you describe and an old Vietnam War retired vet. I was brought up in the country and loved it. Thank you for this reflective work of art. May you have a blessed and full life.
I’ve been like this my whole life. Thanks for a great explanation💝
After viewing your video. I finally know who I am. Thank you for showing me I was not abnormal. And to say to the ones that put me down cause of who I am. I am Norma and this is Why......Thank you ......thank you
Yes, I've embraced and respected my need for alone time my whole life, living life at my own pace. People time in small doses can be fun, but too much of it doesn't fit in what makes me happy. Love your beautiful photography. Yes, I'm a very happy social introvert :)
Love, love, love this!
That was one helluva gorgeous video - thank you! 💜
Wow!! did this ever speak to me...you put into words those things I could never explain! thank you for this! ♥ ♥
This is so true Helena, pretty much what you have said in the video is the way I am too. Great video.
What a beautiful area you live! Thank you for this post - i’m an introvert and it’s difficult to get margin to have alone time sometimes. But what a huge difference it makes in me!
This message is so spot on. Thank you for creating how you do 🖤
PERFECT!!! Exactly what I want people to know. Absolutely could not Express this more! Thank you!
So true, thank You ! 🧡
Your videos are an oasis in this chaotic world. I’m an introvert myself and I totally connect with each one of your videos. Thank you so much for putting so much love and passion into creating this space. With love from Switzerland 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤗❤️
Beautiful video....so nice to have my introvertedness validated. Thank you so much!
I am in between - I like socializing, but do not allow to touch somebody my privacy. So maybe I am a social introvert too. I love the time by myself. I have a full inside life, so this I would say about the introverts. It is a big plus. Enjoying the little things and being thoughtful a lot. The life of an introvert is very rich, emphatic, filled by thoughts, emotions, memories and plans. We gain energy in this way...that we can then give away to our loved ones, or whoever needs it.
ah yes
Incredible! I felt so identified with your thoughts and feelings. I refuel almost in the same way you do it: reading, writing, painting, cooking, traveling, spending time with my beloved ones, pets included, of course. It was wonderful to find your channel and videos! :)
It's to all of that. I never seen such a good description. I don't feel shy, i need people. But I need me time.thank you
This was like watching a film about myself. It resonated SO much for me. Thank you 🙏👍🥰
You speak out so well ❣️
Wow. So many books red on a subject and years trying to understand myself and in such short video you’ve managed to make me feel understood and not alone with my introvert personality 😍
Beautiful! Thank you for this video. Alone together!
i have never related to a video as much as this one… you perfectly articulated what i’ve been trying to put into words for years. thank you for this
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Thank you so much. This was like hearing a description of myself. I love being alone yet I can enjoy the company of others once in awhile.
Thank you for this video. it was quite alluring and it resonated with my introverted self. I absolutely love being alone and being in my own universe. Reading, journaling, listening/connecting to nature, going for walks, sitting through quiet introspection, taking pictures of street life, creating, lighting up a candle or listening to music are very soothing to me. I love to socialize as well but i tremendously value my energy and boundaries. I used to feel super guilty when I rather be by myself instead of hanging with friends or social events. Socializing a lot can make me feel so drained. I still get anxious and awkward around others but i try not to beat myself up. Take that energy and turn it into charisma. Again, awesome vid have a great day!
Fantastic video, Helena!
I absolutely loved this!!! You’ve managed to explain that which I have never been able to put into words. You have given credence to my need to be alone which I have often felt selfish for feeling. Thank you. A wise soul indeed and certainly not a young one!!
This was such a blessing and comfort to me. Thank you!!
While watching ur video, I felt like I was watching myself! This is me, my story, my feelings & energy. It's beautiful to hear & see my story told by someone else!
Hi there! Your video on slow living is judt whst i needed today.. as i am stuck in a job i dislike.. the universe led me to your channel.. as am witting this.. the energy radiating out from you and your video to me all the way here in the seychelles islands.. a calm peace is over me.. and its like the universe giving me a big hug saying " its going to be ok"
Thank you!
I so resonate with you😊What a beautiful soul you are!🌟 Thank you for sharing your light. Much love and blessings💖✨💖
Wow! Love it! thanks so much for creating this beautiful video. It helps me understand so much about why I am so different to many people around me and others don’t get my burning need to enjoy my own company alone.
I’m so glad to have found your channel 🥰
Your reflections have given me comfort im so glad i experienced this video today. Beautifully put.
Amazing video with a deep message. Thank you for your work. I subscribed within the first minute of the video :)
All well said. I relate perfectly to your thoughts on being an introvert.
Great description. Social introvert here. ❤️
You contextualized social introversion so well! Reflection is impossible in noise.
Wow! so on point! Me too! Thanks for this video!
It's the 'silence' / the space and not having to fill it with thoughtless stuff just to be sociable.
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Love it! As I finding my true self being alone and enjoying my loneliness, now I can call my self a social introvert 😊. Beautiful video
This explains me better than I can. Thank you.
Wow, I feel totally identified with your description of an introvert. Very beautiful and soothing. Thank you for the great content❤️
Thank you so much 🙏🏼 your words could be mine. This is exactly who I am. I feel great 🙏🏼