Guys are afraid to approach girls because they are afraid of being considered toxic |
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As a woman who is a therapist, survival of sexual abuse and a Christian… There is a lot to unpack here. It’s OK for guys to feel fear of rejection. What we should do as a culture is teach guys how to properly interact with young women and humanity, and the distinction between real life and the Internet. We should also teach young women how to distinguish between humanity and toxicity. This man comes off as if it is the woman’s responsibility to make men feel comfortable enough to approach them instead of saying, both parties should be, careful and respectful and they engage one another.
Yes. This.
I saw this clip a few days ago and just cannot get it out of my head.
I think it bothered me so much because it places women who don't want to be approached as the villian and the men doing the approaching as the victim.
I think the word "approach" is problematic. And you're right, many women do NOT want to be approached- like your shopping for a piece of art at IKEA.
And we're not villains because of that.
Perhaps, instead of men approaching women- choose a hobby, join a club or group, focus on being a friend first and work to become the type of person a woman would want a relationship with.
I recognize this is only a short clip of a whole conversation, but that's even worse... this is the bit chosen to advertise this conversation?
That's a bummer.
Maybe this will be an unpopular statement, but young men should have some fear around this, in the sense of they shouldn't think they are entitled to a the attention of a female just because they want it, or that talking to females is innately a sexual activity. We do have brains. And personalities.
That's the flip side of the state of affairs. It is not something that young men are imagining. Because young women have been conditioned to perceive "toxic masculinity." To immediately assume that boys only have interest in sex... that they arent motivated by need for companionship, love, or eventually a family. Guess what, men have brains and personalities too...they arent just walking hard-ons as you effortlessly depicted them. That if they approach a girl, it is out of "entitlement." Well congratulations, you are getting your wish. Good luck not dying alone. Men here are now looking overseas for wives.
Word. Instead of 2 dudes workshopping why we should feel sorry for men who are afraid to "approach a girl", maybe gentlemen could have a respectful conversation with women about what would work better for women...
Just a thought... from a woman who hates being approached.