I would just break up with him nice & kindly....he's already being dishonesty so what do you have to loose. Keep it moving hunny or you're gonna get hurt, he's clearly not the one.
Yep exactly no trust no relationship. I would apologize for snooping and just let him date the other girl. She was meant to find out about it... that's the way I see it.
He’s establishing a bond with that other girl & once he’s emotionally involved, that’s worse than physical intimacy. Now, if I bring it to his attention & he start to defend her then I will leave him alone & give him space to do whatever he need to do. That way I won’t be investing any more of my time. A man can be replaced but, my time...I can’t get that back.
This same scenario happened to me... I never packed up and found a new roof over my head so fast! I’m glad I did. he’s not the one and I’m really not the one, I’m too hood! But I’m doing good ⭐️
Dont take him on. Lying now WITHOUT a ring. He will do it BIGTIME when married. Let go of your comfort with him and move the He!! on! I know from experience!
She wasn't a secret. Sometimes, I just like to see how far a person will go with their lies lol. Then I come with straight facts and exit the situation.
Robin D. Women are leaving. It’s happening. Bye 👋 bad boys. No warning just disappear. Silence is powerful. Zero tolerance for lying, cheating, drugs. Gone.
It's a sad situation. You've been with him for a year. A lot of your emotions, finances, hopes and dreams are now being devastated. It is so easy at this time to hide from the truth because the truth hurts toooo much. Do your best to protect yourself. Thats all I can say.
I like the advice and think you've given her some good ideas as to how to address the situation. I understand the part about approaching him about the female friend if he still doesn't mention her in the next couple of months, and seeing if they can talk through it and make it work, based on the experience you had with your wife when she called you out. However, personally, I might just drop him like a bad habit. It's not an easy thing to lack trust in a relationship and have to go through the motions that come along with snooping around. He may like her, but the fact that he is still keeping an eye out for other women and potentially someone to replace her suggests that he has not made up in his mind that she is the one for him. Even if the writer addresses the situation, sets boundaries, and tries to make it work, he might stop talking to the female friend, but continue to be on the lookout for a "better" woman and engage in the same behavior with someone else somewhere down the line. The writer needs to be very careful. And as Tony said, if you are not already doing so, protect yourself by abstaining. God bless and good luck to her.
I saw my friend had a bunch of female friends and he was very defensive, I had him take me home and haven't spoken to him since. I don't think I can ever be free and trusting around him again so I wont go back as much as I miss him, he's to stubborn to take responsibility/accountability. His anger in the face of my hurting, compounded the injury. I will live and get over it
I'm so proud of the wisdom being offered from these other ladies. Immediately after closing her legs this woman needs to close her mind to this man. He's already gone. I would pull the slow fade on homes, never uttering a single word about the intel I discovered. However, behind his back I would be preparing a new life apart from him. When all my ducks were in a row he would return to an empty home and no means of discovering where I had disappeared to. There's no need for her to stick around for the end of the drama when she's been given a sneak preview from the beginning.
That’s childish af Carol…& I’m in my 20’s…. Why not just tell him what you found, tell him you not interested in the relationship if you’re not, stand on that and just leave his ass right then 🤷🏽♀️ Says more about your character to be able to stick around and pretend……he could tell you not the one by doing something like that ☕️ By leaving and showing him you are on grown woman shit, you could potentially help him grow into the man you’re about to go fishing for…only to be taking another gamble with another random 🥴
Women have heard their whole life if you don't do some other woman will when in reality men keep a stable. Be SLOW to SEX ladies and be quick to STUDY -T.D. Smith
Lets not put a fear in the woman because she was "snooping". She found something. Anything that he can say to deflect from the fact that she found something damaging (esp because she's given him opprotunity time and time again to tell the truth) is null and void. His wrong trumps hers. I do agree with the notion of how she approaches him can help him cheat "better" in the future. Esp if he's a grown boy. What i would do if i was her is just flat out say "this is your opportunity to come clean to me. Do not assume what i know or do not know..and im only going to ask you once. Whats going on with you and so and so" and if he uses that opportunity to play stupid, that should be her cue to go because he's a grown boy.. and in the very least if she's not ready to leave him, create a serious distance. Dont see him, answer calls, texts etc. Until he's ready to tell what she already knows. Also, there isn't a question about whether or not he and this woman have been intimate. He is. Going out to eat. Taking walks. Being there for her is already very intimate. Imo, this is cheating. And its a very deliberate act.
I went through something like this before. I was snooping and never told him. He had me on the Facebook messenger and said if he lost his phone it was to keep in contact with me if he lost my number. I played the fool too long because when I did text his number he never responded back. So I had to learn the hard way and it’s been 3 years since. Now, he barely sees me and making excuses and hearing from him every once a week. I told I am done and he still tries to hit me up. No more games for me. Thank you Tony for this message.
There’s ways to confront him! Someone seen him in the park with a woman! Better yet try to find out when and where they plan to meet up again and show up! Personally I don’t have a problem with snooping! You give me red flags and you better bet I’m going to be snooping! If your my significant other or my child your business is my business!
Your videos are of now and your information is so true I have been through a lot and I am now working on myself for the next grown man who has hisself together in all aspects thank you you are extraordinarily
it really needs to be out of bounds, even with mutual friends. my parents of mutual couple friends and one of the men from one marriage and one of the women from the other marriage ended up going to far as "friends" and ended up hooking up so the texting even if its mutual friends and you all hang out is out of bounds only group texting with the spouse if anything needs to be said
I heard you say if he was serious he should’ve proposed at month 12 but me along with a lot of others don’t feel like a year is long enough to get married. These are just my personal feelings. I don’t feel like it’s that serious. 2 years, yes but definitely not one. Everyone is different though!
Yeah but during all that time that "It's gonna take." Sex should be OFF LIMITS. That's gonna speed up the process to see where a man really is in his mind.
Yes it's cheating. "If a person can't go home and tell their significant other, they went to dinner with the opposite sex friend. Then it's cheating." And this quote, i heard from a man!
It’s really sickening that us females have to snoop if u feel it in ya bones , it’s going On
I would just break up with him nice & kindly....he's already being dishonesty so what do you have to loose. Keep it moving hunny or you're gonna get hurt, he's clearly not the one.
Yep exactly no trust no relationship. I would apologize for snooping and just let him date the other girl. She was meant to find out about it... that's the way I see it.
@@BritBrat444 ...I agree.
He’s establishing a bond with that other girl & once he’s emotionally involved, that’s worse than physical intimacy. Now, if I bring it to his attention & he start to defend her then I will leave him alone & give him space to do whatever he need to do. That way I won’t be investing any more of my time. A man can be replaced but, my time...I can’t get that back.
Sho u right. 21.5 years and he still walked. I'm trying heal right now behind this.
Nitoshia McDaniel girl I looked at your picture the man had to be crazy to leave a beautiful woman like you!
@@phyllisdickerson9071 yes, I look too. She is gorgeous!
I would leave alone. I’d be gone. Not dealing with that. He’s being dishonest.
That was actually the woman thst he really wanted to be with. He is providing and nurturing her!
This same scenario happened to me... I never packed up and found a new roof over my head so fast! I’m glad I did. he’s not the one and I’m really not the one, I’m too hood! But I’m doing good ⭐️
Dont take him on. Lying now WITHOUT a ring. He will do it BIGTIME when married. Let go of your comfort with him and move the He!! on! I know from experience!
Emotional attachment is just as harmful as physical. Just because they may have not connected , he’s becoming emotional attached
Luevon Easley yep, but they are connected, He is not revealing this betrayal.
Exactly. They already have an intimate relationship. What he is doing is very intimate.
@@Elle.Webb11 ..that's true but most men don't see it that way.
@@lyndapeoples8127 So true! " We didn't do anything" We are just friends" But there is a soul tie!
Yes. It is a sexless soultie where they make love with their conversation and flirtation.
She wasn't a secret. Sometimes, I just like to see how far a person will go with their lies lol. Then I come with straight facts and exit the situation.
Katoria Queendom that’s Me! My ppl be like girl fuck that don’t go Tic Tic, just go 💥 BOOM! On his Ass but I be wanting facts alla info......🙄
I don’t like feeling stupid I want to have receipts when I come at ur ass but if u not gonna use the receipts just don’t say shit
Katoria Queendom Ditto
Get yourself some male friends and then ghost him.
Robin D. Women are leaving. It’s happening. Bye 👋 bad boys. No warning just disappear. Silence is powerful. Zero tolerance for lying, cheating, drugs. Gone.
@@redpillqueen8888 yep ..talk less...listen more ...as they say "actions speak louder than words"
Yea my husband had a secret female friend and they were sleeping together. Yup "secret friend".
It's a sad situation. You've been with him for a year. A lot of your emotions, finances, hopes and dreams are now being devastated. It is so easy at this time to hide from the truth because the truth hurts toooo much. Do your best to protect yourself. Thats all I can say.
I like the advice and think you've given her some good ideas as to how to address the situation. I understand the part about approaching him about the female friend if he still doesn't mention her in the next couple of months, and seeing if they can talk through it and make it work, based on the experience you had with your wife when she called you out. However, personally, I might just drop him like a bad habit. It's not an easy thing to lack trust in a relationship and have to go through the motions that come along with snooping around. He may like her, but the fact that he is still keeping an eye out for other women and potentially someone to replace her suggests that he has not made up in his mind that she is the one for him. Even if the writer addresses the situation, sets boundaries, and tries to make it work, he might stop talking to the female friend, but continue to be on the lookout for a "better" woman and engage in the same behavior with someone else somewhere down the line. The writer needs to be very careful. And as Tony said, if you are not already doing so, protect yourself by abstaining. God bless and good luck to her.
I saw my friend had a bunch of female friends and he was very defensive, I had him take me home and haven't spoken to him since. I don't think I can ever be free and trusting around him again so I wont go back as much as I miss him, he's to stubborn to take responsibility/accountability. His anger in the face of my hurting, compounded the injury. I will live and get over it
I wish there were some updates to the letters ..LOL!!!
I'm so proud of the wisdom being offered from these other ladies. Immediately after closing her legs this woman needs to close her mind to this man. He's already gone. I would pull the slow fade on homes, never uttering a single word about the intel I discovered. However, behind his back I would be preparing a new life apart from him. When all my ducks were in a row he would return to an empty home and no means of discovering where I had disappeared to. There's no need for her to stick around for the end of the drama when she's been given a sneak preview from the beginning.
That’s childish af Carol…& I’m in my 20’s…. Why not just tell him what you found, tell him you not interested in the relationship if you’re not, stand on that and just leave his ass right then 🤷🏽♀️
Says more about your character to be able to stick around and pretend……he could tell you not the one by doing something like that ☕️
By leaving and showing him you are on grown woman shit, you could potentially help him grow into the man you’re about to go fishing for…only to be taking another gamble with another random 🥴
Women have heard their whole life if you don't do some other woman will when in reality men keep a stable. Be SLOW to SEX ladies and be quick to STUDY -T.D. Smith
Tony you are truly an angel! Thanks for taking the time to make these videos.
When he said “what da message was, what it said” I screamed ! 😂😂😂
That's exactly how men be!!!! Lol high pitched voice and all.
Lets not put a fear in the woman because she was "snooping". She found something. Anything that he can say to deflect from the fact that she found something damaging (esp because she's given him opprotunity time and time again to tell the truth) is null and void. His wrong trumps hers. I do agree with the notion of how she approaches him can help him cheat "better" in the future. Esp if he's a grown boy. What i would do if i was her is just flat out say "this is your opportunity to come clean to me. Do not assume what i know or do not know..and im only going to ask you once. Whats going on with you and so and so" and if he uses that opportunity to play stupid, that should be her cue to go because he's a grown boy.. and in the very least if she's not ready to leave him, create a serious distance. Dont see him, answer calls, texts etc. Until he's ready to tell what she already knows. Also, there isn't a question about whether or not he and this woman have been intimate. He is. Going out to eat. Taking walks. Being there for her is already very intimate. Imo, this is cheating. And its a very deliberate act.
I agree with you. Emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating.
I went through something like this before. I was snooping and never told him. He had me on the Facebook messenger and said if he lost his phone it was to keep in contact with me if he lost my number. I played the fool too long because when I did text his number he never responded back. So I had to learn the hard way and it’s been 3 years since. Now, he barely sees me and making excuses and hearing from him every once a week. I told I am done and he still tries to hit me up. No more games for me. Thank you Tony for this message.
There’s ways to confront him! Someone seen him in the park with a woman! Better yet try to find out when and where they plan to meet up again and show up! Personally I don’t have a problem with snooping! You give me red flags and you better bet I’m going to be snooping! If your my significant other or my child your business is my business!
Your videos are of now and your information is so true I have been through a lot and I am now working on myself for the next grown man who has hisself together in all aspects thank you you are extraordinarily
Advice was on point
Keep your eyes open alright👀 while I’m checking that phone on the regular.
Thanks alot tony i have learned alot for just 5 days i have known your channel.
Never trust her again!!!! She shouldn’t care confront his tail NOW!!!!
Be Blessed!!!😊
Truth Knowledge!!!
it really needs to be out of bounds, even with mutual friends. my parents of mutual couple friends and one of the men from one marriage and one of the women from the other marriage ended up going to far as "friends" and ended up hooking up so the texting even if its mutual friends and you all hang out is out of bounds only group texting with the spouse if anything needs to be said
For one she was okay with female friends sooo what comes next well case in point!
How can we consult you in person?
I heard you say if he was serious he should’ve proposed at month 12 but me along with a lot of others don’t feel like a year is long enough to get married. These are just my personal feelings. I don’t feel like it’s that serious. 2 years, yes but definitely not one. Everyone is different though!
Yeah but during all that time that "It's gonna take." Sex should be OFF LIMITS. That's gonna speed up the process to see where a man really is in his mind.
This video came at the perfect time.!! I hope you will answer my email next.
Wow that's was silly! The FB message.
Hahahaha she almost choked on her slob! So funny
where can I request time to speak to you or one of your love coaches?
Tony is right
Is that considered cheating??
This happened to me
Yes it's cheating. "If a person can't go home and tell their significant other, they went to dinner with the opposite sex friend. Then it's cheating." And this quote, i heard from a man!
Well why are you going on his messages.. She more than a friend.. He should be doing those things with you.
To me that mean she need or he need go bout there business no feeling for u bye
Might be a dude...… ijs
😇😇😇🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️👍
Instead of congratulating this lady on her success, you say send you money, please Tony, not funny at all.