See a lot of people focusing on the part about the wife belonging to the husband but are failing to see the next line of the husband belonging to the wife. It’s more of a mutual care of each others needs. There are times when one partner can only put in 30% and the other must contribute 70% and vice versa. That’s part of the unity
such a good devo, i just found this because i wanted more explanation on this passage. i just got married and am struggling with verses 4&5... really cool perspective and i loved the explanation! God is working through you, thank you for uploading these videos!
Radical Thinking in those days.....Nothing more precious than Husband and Wife submitting themselves, their bodies, and their beings to the Lord. Your right Pastor it's powerful and beautiful to be married as one flesh....
Sexual immorality aside, 1 Cor 7 speaks on the historical issues of marriage of that time, and opens our eyes to the issues of marriage today. Celibacy and singledom is permitted and encouraged because we can focus on our relationship with God, rather than seeking the things of the world to keep a marital partner satisfied. A relationship with God, who is omnipotent, transcends something that is third dimensional like romance, marriage, and sex, all of which are just dust in the wind. Celibacy and singledom is splendid in beauty, and 1 Cor 7 is a great defense against being shamed by Christians that expect other Christians to marry and reproduce.
It's not a shame for someone to stay single their whole life. But if they have the desire to be with someone then they should marry, instead of burning with the desire but not having a partner. Most people do desire intimacy that's why many get married. But single people should not get shamed.
Being single is not bad, but it's not a blessing for those who have sexual desires. We gotta stop acting like it's a gift when it's not for a majority of people.
Paul is saying: Both husband and wife should treat sex as a marital duty. Let's say the man or woman is so filled with sexual desire that sexual sin lays around the corner, he or she should be able to call on one anothers duty. Most importantly, wife or husband should not deprive from conversation about this issue. If this will lead to no solution/consensus, Paul suggests you could try to agree with eachother to pray on it for a certain time and come together after. Man have higher sexual needs in general, but this is not always the case. This is why it's mostly woman who might struggle with this. But it works both ways and sometimes the man has to put in more efforts. The greater purpose is to prevent eachother from committing sexual sin. That could be fornication, but also watching porn, or even as much as lusting on others outside on the streets. An important note! Paul doesn't say there is a free pass here to force yourself on one another. However he does say that it is certainly not oke to just ignore one anothers sexual needs, not take them seriously, or even worse, use sex as a tool for manipulation (unfortunately I hear a lot of stories of woman doing this). Once again he or she should be able to call on one anothers duty. If you are blessed to have full control over your sexual desires or even don't have them, his message is: It could be better not to marry, or stay engaged and celibate. Since that should lead to your highest self closest to the lord. But if you don't have this self control over your sexual desires, it is best to find a spouse and marry. Since all is better than to commit sexual sin.
The part about the wife having authority over her husband’s body and the husband having authority over his wife’s body is not that mind blowing to me. I guess I grew up hearing this. I just wonder why in this chapter Paul differentiates between what he thinks and what God commands. Those parts stood out to me. Thats what I’m wrestling with and studying.
We have to be careful 4-5 being used out of context. Someone with abusive tendencies can extend it out of the context of marriage and into life in order to assert ungodly control and manipulation
I recommend one commentary if you really want to dive into this deeper. PAUL THROUGH MEDITERRANEAN EYES: Cultural Studies in I Corinthians - by Kenneth Bailey.
Well done, and I totally agree that the church is not paying attention to all the sexual immorality going on within by those who profess to be believers. For 1 Corinthians 7 the permanence of marriage verses 10-11 which is a command from the Lord is also being ignored by the church. There is no divorce and remarriage. The husband is not to divorce his wife, and how many men do this even as pastors and then get remarried which Jesus says is ongoing adultery. Pastors of singles should tell them not to even date a divorced person. If a spouse has died, then the widow or widower can marry another whose spouse has died or one who has never been married. All adulterers do not inherit eternal life. Many who get born again and realize they are in adultery with a second or third marriage, end that marriage to prove their repentance. Occasionally the Lord makes a way for them to reconcile with their covenant spouse. I told this truth to a woman and after a month of prayer, her first husband called to ask if she would consider marrying him again. They had been divorced 21 years! Nothing is impossible, and they are wonderfully happy in a reconciled marriage. Jesus is about to return, and the sexually immoral will be left behind.
Finally somebody who understands. That when my husband abandoned me the church told me I could remarry because of adultery from his part but the Holy Spirit reveal to me that only death can set us a part. That we are one flesh and nothing but death can break that covenant. Even if the world accepts remarriage, In Gods eyes it’s adultery.
@@magalydeleon557 Amen Sister! Listen to the Holy Spirit, not human reasoning. I was in your situation once. I prayed for my husband and trusted God to bring him back, which He did. It took 8 years but was well worth it. God is faithful to His Word.
We are so deeply sorry to hear of the pain that you have dealt with in your marriage. And if the Holy Spirit convicts you to prY and see restoration, that is certainly what you should do. However, we do not believe that all people who experience the adultery of thier spouse are required to remain celibate and not remarry. Matt 5:32 seems clear that there are some contexts where divorce and remarriage was acceptable then. We see no reason why this is not applicable to some extent today.
@@BranchTogether I am not the only one the Holy Spirit has reveal this too, there are many testimonies of believers who have been reveal the truth and have divorce there second partner after been convicted that the only way out of marriage is death. Jesus was clear in his words, if adultery was a way out of marriage and to remarry he would have use the word “moicheia” in these passages, but instead he uses “porneia”. But the word was corrupted by the interpretation of Erasmus when he was looking for a way out of his marriage. We need to be vigilant that the devil is out there to kill, steal and destroy. God bless you!
I bind myself freed of every ownership, authority, unequally yoke and common share on my body, spirit and soul with those defiled, I bind myself freed every man that married me in demonic ways from conjugal rights concerning myself, in accordance with 1 corinthians 7, hebrews 13:4, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 and this word, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
What if while backslidden you make a mistake of marrying a nonbeliever and then life becomes an unbearable, living hell. You hold on for the sake of children and God disproving of divorce but inside you're dying, miserable, living with regret, still feeling guilt even knowing you're now forgiven. Marriage is only held by a piece of a legal document and nothing else. There is no unity, no sacredness, constant verbal persecution, emotional and psychological abuse... I hope I'm not the only one that struggles with this thought. It took a lot of courage to ask and I really hope it will benefit others in the same boat who may have the same fears and questions.
These types of discussions are best held in person with spiritual leaders in your local church community. Perhaps a pastor/elder. It impossible to know the nuances of your situation from a distance. That said, if this describes you, we are so sorry for what you are going through. Praying for you and whomever this describes right now.
Thank you for your response, and I agree - in person is best. However, leaders encourage to seek the Lord's guidance but sometimes people like me need very practical advice. I'll give counseling another chance and hope to breakthrough. Your prayer is greatly appreciated!
@@ninjarogue I dont know how to private message, but I thank you for reaching out. I opened up to my prayer partner who referred me to an incredible counselor and helped me get out of rut and confusion. God showed a way out and today I am free, divorced from dysfunction and on a healing journey. Thank You Lord, my Way Maker!
The verses about how we should sleep with our spouse if he wants to even if we don't to because he owns our bodies confused me a looooot, and I've been praying about it. I think if you marry a man/woman who loves you and loves Christ he/she wouldn't want to have sex if you don't feel 100% comfortable with it.
It’s our husbands duty to love us like Christ loves the church. God has called our men to love and respect us. Yes, husbands do get the final say in their household, BUT they are called to care about our feelings and thoughts. Putting them into consideration accordingly. As a Godly man, he should respect when we don’t want to and be done with it. That’s a true man of God🙏🏼
I think you're letting your modern feminist ideology get in the way of you understanding what the scriptures are teaching. It is clear by the scriptures that MEN have urges. 1 Corinthian 7: 5 "Do not deprive each other except perhaps by MUTUAL consent and FOR A TIME, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." Which means it's not about what YOU want. It's about what keeps your union healthy. And keeps your husband away of outside temptation. Bottom line, you don't just do it when you want. If he wants it, you do it; otherwise he might cheat.
@@alyssacronin4653 It's sad that this man just spent 20 mins explaining how a woman of Christ such as you should carry herself sexually in her marriage, yet you choose to go off of your FEELINGS. Stubborn Women like you wind up cheated on 99 times out of 100.
@@constant1991 Wow... Way to come off in love brother. A1 my guy.... It goes both ways. I'd have sex with my husband to love and please him. Absolutely. But at what point can the other side be held accountable to please then? If I have sex with my husband 6 days of the week but choose not to on the 7th and he decides to cheat, is that my own fault in your mind?? Please elaborate where you believe the line is drawn then.
@@constant1991 Are you calling loving your wife as christ loved the church "modern feminisim"? What about when Paul says do nothing out of selfish ambition but put others before your self? When I read that I see it to mean it's not about YOU but about others being pur before ones self. Are you saying that a husband isn't responsible for expressing the fruit of the spirit, self control? That if he cheats its not his fault? It's hers? Also you left out vs 6 where he says it is. Ot a command. Not to mention you inaccurate representation of her point, she was paraphrasing ephesians not speaking from her feelings.
My husband doesn’t want to have s3x with me, I have no idea why, sometimes I think he has someone else even though he denies it, I can’t take it anymore.
I think that this chapter is a hard pill to swallow for lots of married, christian men. Paul specifically says that it is better to remain unmarried and to abstain from sexual release. Marriage is God's ordained compromise for those who cannot resist flesh urges. See also proverbs 31:3.
the part about staying where you are confused me. so since i found god while single, i shouldn’t find a spouse even though it is a desire of mine? i’m all about growing, and i don’t want to stay where i’m at. also the staying with an unbeliever made me think that it’s ok to be with one. i really don’t want to twist the scripture tho!
Hi gabbyfaith- Glad you are watching the videos and reading the scriptures. I hope these have been helpful. This is certainly a dense passage and complicated one. I believe Paul is clear that it is ok to pursue marriage (verses 21028). I believe the bigger idea that he is getting at is to be content and seeking Christ in whatever stage/phase of life in which you find yourself. Both single and married people can have a full life in the body of Christ and can live out their God given callings and missions.
Again a beautifully, clear explanation of this Bible reading. Q: Which version Bible are you reading from? i.e NIV .. Q: How could uncircumcision be reversed? I dunno I thought that's what I heard. Lol
We read from a few versions. Today Jared is reading the new Christian Standard Version. Will take a look at the other question later when I have a minute. Thanks!!
Maria - regarding circumcision, Paul isn't saying literally that someone would remove the marks of circumcision but rather he is making a point that this issue of the law just simply doesn't matter. There is no need for you to do back and reverse things to follow a law that doesn't matter. When a gentile becomes a follower of Jesus he doesn't have to go and get circumcised. If the reverse were possible, it would be the same principle.
It can't. It is presented in the hypothetical. He is laying out contrasts in the extreme to make [part] of his point regarding remaining in the calling you were called. Assuming for the moment it would be possible (if it were) to reverse circumcision. Since circumcision is not a rite required to enter the "new covenant" - as it once was for Abram/Abraham and his descendants to "keep". He is saying if you haven't been circumcised in the past; you need not be concerned now in the present time to be so; much less so to reverse it if you have been and are presently circumcised. Slavery...circumcision...in either case (and any other areas or situations wherein you were called into a relationship with the Lord that are not sinful activities on your part), you are not to be anxious concerning such things...the Lord isn't. It is similar to his advise to husbands and wives earlier who have come to faith in Christianity, but whose spouse hasn't. Paul is dealing with immature, "yet carnal", "babes" in Christ. So to make his points more clear to them, he utilizes extremes.
What happened to the fasting in verse 5? Defraud ye not one the other , except it be with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that satan tempt you not for your incontinency. KJV
No kjv? Do you not understand how much is missing from the other translations. This is by no means what I got from the kjv. Kjv was God inspired translated through a king. .. idk if I would believe this or this guy people.
to put it another way..the wife has not the authority to satisfy her sexual desire but the husband and likewise the husband has not have the authority to satisfy his sexual desires but the wife....when i say desire i am meaning we are a sexual being./..and that desire for sex is part of who we are..we can not commit one to the other in marriage and decide to have sex with someone outside the marriage but rather the wife has the right and obligation to satisfy the husband and likewise the husband does so with the wife
I have such a hard time with this passage. It actually makes me angry but I think it’s because I don’t have the right understanding of it. When I hear that I read “ if your husband wants to have sex and you don’t you have to because he owns your body” this is what I’m wrestling with from this passage
Yea. I think a larger study of chapters 5-8 is necessary. I didn't really have time to get into most of the chapter which has a lot more confusing material or at least material that I don't find myself easily agreeing with. And the confusion regarding somethings being "what paul thinks" and somethings that he "has heard from the Lord." These are hard chapters
The picture Paul paints is one of mutual submission. It's a context where the wife and the husband submit themselves to each other and attempt to please each other. Healthy marriages thrive on giving and this includes sexual intimacy. There may be times that one party prefers not to be sexual intimate, but they chose to do so anyway for the health of the relationship. Many marriages today are sex-starved and that's extremely unhealthy. Now, when we look at the bigger picture of Paul's writing we see that husbands, for instance, are supposed to sacrifice themselves for their wives as Christ gave himself for the church. This type of servant heart would certainly make room for times when sexual intimacy is not pursued in light of many potential factors. We can't look at this and assume Paul is saying there is absolutely no case when a man or a women can ever say no to their spouse, but rather see this as a principle that we should look to use our bodies to please each other as much as possible.
It says this for good reason. It is not just for the woman but for the man as well. If your spouse wants to have sex, be intimate with them, do not hold back from them so that you do not give the devil a foothold to your spouse. It causes hurt and resentment and rejection and those spirits that enter give the devil a stronghold and can lead to adultery. It creates a deep hurt, resentment and rejection in men and women even if they are tired. Women have said the same thing. Become love.
It as well says that the husband's body does not belong to him, but to his wife. So if the wife wants to have sex and the husband doesn’t, then does the husband have to give in as well? 🤔
There's certainly times when you can say no like when you're sick, or had an extremely exhausting day and just need to fall asleep. In those cases a loving partner would understand. The point is that you are honest to each other and don't just come up with excuses why you wouldn't want to be intimate. It's not healthy for a relationship to deprive each other. You're the only person they have. Why would you not want to be intimate and put their needs first? Unless of course, you're feeling unwell, sick, or just had a baby, etc.
The Bible says we are not "given in marriage" in heaven. In some way, all of the relationships we have had on earth will be meaningful but will all be secondary to how we are united with God in heaven.
@@BranchTogether thank you. So please can you explain a bit more. How will our relationship be secondary when united with God? Can I talk with you or email you? I am seriously learning about the gospel of Jesus Christ. Pls I need help and guidance. Thank you
you have the wrong term, about the unbeliever departing.....it is not enslaved, or not under bondage.....which does not effect the marriage bond.....otherwise he is contradiction himself in the same text.......
Thank you for you video! Is it possible you could explain, in more detailed, the verse 4 of the chapter 7. For instance. What a woman should do if she has no desire for her husband and viseversa, Should one of them must force herself onto herself onto her or onto him, what if there was no attarctiin from the beginning of marriage?? You also did not mention, the repercations as a result of fornication and adultery in our modern society. Why do you say this teachings are difficult?? It seems that Paul has no problem talking about them?? Should we be guessing what the church asked Paul in verse 1, can you please explain??? Thank you
What we don't see is that the whole 1COR.7 is dealing with fornication the wife becoming one flesh/sex with a man before she has become one flesh with a husband. Jesus made it clear in Matt.19:9 that the only reason to divorce is fornication so in 1COR.7:10-11 we know the reason for the divorce, and when we go on to verses 12 to 15 they are still divorcing for the same reason but now they want know what to do if someone in the marriage does not believe. The lord has now asked in the previous verses 1COR 7:10-11 that we stay together, the wife not leave but if she does she should remain unmarried or be reconcile to her husband, and that the man not divorce her. So Paul's advice is if there is an unbeliever and the unbeliever wants to stay married then they should stay together rather than divorce 7:12-13. In verse 14 the children are holy being children of a marriage but if they divorced the children are unclean having come from and unclean act and have no father. In verse 15 the reason the brother or sister is not under bondage is because remember this divorce is due to fornication (this is something she did before marrying her husband) and the unbeliever doesn't believe in Christ asking us to stay together (1COR.7:10-11) so the unbeliever is gonna want to divorce according to the Law in Deut 24:1-4 and go be with someone else. So rather than us being held in bondage in a marriage to and unbeliever who wants to leave then let them leave.
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See a lot of people focusing on the part about the wife belonging to the husband but are failing to see the next line of the husband belonging to the wife. It’s more of a mutual care of each others needs. There are times when one partner can only put in 30% and the other must contribute 70% and vice versa. That’s part of the unity
It's sad to think that marriage this days is just becoming a joke nowadays, divorce and cheaters everywhere
Man! These explanations hurt my heart for who I used to be. I’m grateful for grace today. Have mercy, Father.
such a good devo, i just found this because i wanted more explanation on this passage. i just got married and am struggling with verses 4&5... really cool perspective and i loved the explanation! God is working through you, thank you for uploading these videos!
Radical Thinking in those days.....Nothing more precious than Husband and Wife submitting themselves, their bodies, and their beings to the Lord. Your right Pastor it's powerful and beautiful to be married as one flesh....
That was really good!! I wanted him to keep going and really unpack those scriptures.
Your Bible teaching is so on point and underrated. Thank you for these videos.
Sexual immorality aside, 1 Cor 7 speaks on the historical issues of marriage of that time, and opens our eyes to the issues of marriage today. Celibacy and singledom is permitted and encouraged because we can focus on our relationship with God, rather than seeking the things of the world to keep a marital partner satisfied. A relationship with God, who is omnipotent, transcends something that is third dimensional like romance, marriage, and sex, all of which are just dust in the wind. Celibacy and singledom is splendid in beauty, and 1 Cor 7 is a great defense against being shamed by Christians that expect other Christians to marry and reproduce.
Unless it is his/her calling
But being single is not bad
It's not a shame for someone to stay single their whole life. But if they have the desire to be with someone then they should marry, instead of burning with the desire but not having a partner. Most people do desire intimacy that's why many get married. But single people should not get shamed.
Being single is not bad, but it's not a blessing for those who have sexual desires. We gotta stop acting like it's a gift when it's not for a majority of people.
Amazing! The Word of God is so sacred and beautiful ❤️
How do you guys a few months back when I started reading the New Testament. Thank you so much for being there is truly a blessing to me in my journey
Thank you for these videos.
Wow very good and thank you for helping me understand this better because I definitely had questions. God bless 🙌 🙏
Paul is saying: Both husband and wife should treat sex as a marital duty. Let's say the man or woman is so filled with sexual desire that sexual sin lays around the corner, he or she should be able to call on one anothers duty. Most importantly, wife or husband should not deprive from conversation about this issue. If this will lead to no solution/consensus, Paul suggests you could try to agree with eachother to pray on it for a certain time and come together after.
Man have higher sexual needs in general, but this is not always the case. This is why it's mostly woman who might struggle with this. But it works both ways and sometimes the man has to put in more efforts. The greater purpose is to prevent eachother from committing sexual sin. That could be fornication, but also watching porn, or even as much as lusting on others outside on the streets.
An important note!
Paul doesn't say there is a free pass here to force yourself on one another. However he does say that it is certainly not oke to just ignore one anothers sexual needs, not take them seriously, or even worse, use sex as a tool for manipulation (unfortunately I hear a lot of stories of woman doing this). Once again he or she should be able to call on one anothers duty. If you are blessed to have full control over your sexual desires or even don't have them, his message is: It could be better not to marry, or stay engaged and celibate. Since that should lead to your highest self closest to the lord.
But if you don't have this self control over your sexual desires, it is best to find a spouse and marry. Since all is better than to commit sexual sin.
Thank You for this more than You could know in 2023
The part about the wife having authority over her husband’s body and the husband having authority over his wife’s body is not that mind blowing to me. I guess I grew up hearing this. I just wonder why in this chapter Paul differentiates between what he thinks and what God commands. Those parts stood out to me. Thats what I’m wrestling with and studying.
We have to be careful 4-5 being used out of context. Someone with abusive tendencies can extend it out of the context of marriage and into life in order to assert ungodly control and manipulation
I recommend one commentary if you really want to dive into this deeper. PAUL THROUGH MEDITERRANEAN EYES: Cultural Studies in I Corinthians - by Kenneth Bailey.
Well done, and I totally agree that the church is not paying attention to all the sexual immorality going on within by those who profess to be believers. For 1 Corinthians 7 the permanence of marriage verses 10-11 which is a command from the Lord is also being ignored by the church. There is no divorce and remarriage. The husband is not to divorce his wife, and how many men do this even as pastors and then get remarried which Jesus says is ongoing adultery. Pastors of singles should tell them not to even date a divorced person. If a spouse has died, then the widow or widower can marry another whose spouse has died or one who has never been married. All adulterers do not inherit eternal life. Many who get born again and realize they are in adultery with a second or third marriage, end that marriage to prove their repentance. Occasionally the Lord makes a way for them to reconcile with their covenant spouse. I told this truth to a woman and after a month of prayer, her first husband called to ask if she would consider marrying him again. They had been divorced 21 years! Nothing is impossible, and they are wonderfully happy in a reconciled marriage. Jesus is about to return, and the sexually immoral will be left behind.
Finally somebody who understands. That when my husband abandoned me the church told me I could remarry because of adultery from his part but the Holy Spirit reveal to me that only death can set us a part. That we are one flesh and nothing but death can break that covenant. Even if the world accepts remarriage, In Gods eyes it’s adultery.
@@magalydeleon557 Amen Sister! Listen to the Holy Spirit, not human reasoning. I was in your situation once. I prayed for my husband and trusted God to bring him back, which He did. It took 8 years but was well worth it. God is faithful to His Word.
We are so deeply sorry to hear of the pain that you have dealt with in your marriage. And if the Holy Spirit convicts you to prY and see restoration, that is certainly what you should do. However, we do not believe that all people who experience the adultery of thier spouse are required to remain celibate and not remarry. Matt 5:32 seems clear that there are some contexts where divorce and remarriage was acceptable then. We see no reason why this is not applicable to some extent today.
@@savedbygrace791 Glory to God you are a real soldier of God. May God continue blessing your marriage 🙌🏼
@@BranchTogether I am not the only one the Holy Spirit has reveal this too, there are many testimonies of believers who have been reveal the truth and have divorce there second partner after been convicted that the only way out of marriage is death. Jesus was clear in his words, if adultery was a way out of marriage and to remarry he would have use the word “moicheia” in these passages, but instead he uses “porneia”. But the word was corrupted by the interpretation of Erasmus when he was looking for a way out of his marriage. We need to be vigilant that the devil is out there to kill, steal and destroy. God bless you!
Great lesson!
I bind myself freed of every ownership, authority, unequally yoke and common share on my body, spirit and soul with those defiled, I bind myself freed every man that married me in demonic ways from conjugal rights concerning myself, in accordance with 1 corinthians 7, hebrews 13:4, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 and this word, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
Thank you
Woah how’d he know that it was Monday today😮. It’s 3/29/21 today
it’s Monday for me too 9/6/2021
Monday 3-7-2022
Haha, this is fun. Originally we went through the new testament in a year and everyone was following on the same day.
What if while backslidden you make a mistake of marrying a nonbeliever and then life becomes an unbearable, living hell. You hold on for the sake of children and God disproving of divorce but inside you're dying, miserable, living with regret, still feeling guilt even knowing you're now forgiven. Marriage is only held by a piece of a legal document and nothing else. There is no unity, no sacredness, constant verbal persecution, emotional and psychological abuse... I hope I'm not the only one that struggles with this thought. It took a lot of courage to ask and I really hope it will benefit others in the same boat who may have the same fears and questions.
These types of discussions are best held in person with spiritual leaders in your local church community. Perhaps a pastor/elder. It impossible to know the nuances of your situation from a distance. That said, if this describes you, we are so sorry for what you are going through. Praying for you and whomever this describes right now.
Thank you for your response, and I agree - in person is best. However, leaders encourage to seek the Lord's guidance but sometimes people like me need very practical advice. I'll give counseling another chance and hope to breakthrough. Your prayer is greatly appreciated!
@Cherish Adore have you been given an answer yet? If you have would you send me a private message?
@@ninjarogue I dont know how to private message, but I thank you for reaching out. I opened up to my prayer partner who referred me to an incredible counselor and helped me get out of rut and confusion. God showed a way out and today I am free, divorced from dysfunction and on a healing journey. Thank You Lord, my Way Maker!
this is me right now 😢
The verses about how we should sleep with our spouse if he wants to even if we don't to because he owns our bodies confused me a looooot, and I've been praying about it. I think if you marry a man/woman who loves you and loves Christ he/she wouldn't want to have sex if you don't feel 100% comfortable with it.
It’s our husbands duty to love us like Christ loves the church. God has called our men to love and respect us. Yes, husbands do get the final say in their household, BUT they are called to care about our feelings and thoughts. Putting them into consideration accordingly.
As a Godly man, he should respect when we don’t want to and be done with it. That’s a true man of God🙏🏼
I think you're letting your modern feminist ideology get in the way of you understanding what the scriptures are teaching. It is clear by the scriptures that MEN have urges. 1 Corinthian 7: 5 "Do not deprive each other except perhaps by MUTUAL consent and FOR A TIME, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." Which means it's not about what YOU want.
It's about what keeps your union healthy. And keeps your husband away of outside temptation. Bottom line, you don't just do it when you want. If he wants it, you do it; otherwise he might cheat.
@@alyssacronin4653 It's sad that this man just spent 20 mins explaining how a woman of Christ such as you should carry herself sexually in her marriage, yet you choose to go off of your FEELINGS. Stubborn Women like you wind up cheated on 99 times out of 100.
@@constant1991 Wow... Way to come off in love brother. A1 my guy.... It goes both ways. I'd have sex with my husband to love and please him. Absolutely. But at what point can the other side be held accountable to please then? If I have sex with my husband 6 days of the week but choose not to on the 7th and he decides to cheat, is that my own fault in your mind?? Please elaborate where you believe the line is drawn then.
@@constant1991 Are you calling loving your wife as christ loved the church "modern feminisim"? What about when Paul says do nothing out of selfish ambition but put others before your self? When I read that I see it to mean it's not about YOU but about others being pur before ones self. Are you saying that a husband isn't responsible for expressing the fruit of the spirit, self control? That if he cheats its not his fault? It's hers? Also you left out vs 6 where he says it is. Ot a command. Not to mention you inaccurate representation of her point, she was paraphrasing ephesians not speaking from her feelings.
Amen!
My husband doesn’t want to have s3x with me, I have no idea why, sometimes I think he has someone else even though he denies it, I can’t take it anymore.
Amazing video! Thanks for the new perspective on this subject!:)
I think that this chapter is a hard pill to swallow for lots of married, christian men. Paul specifically says that it is better to remain unmarried and to abstain from sexual release. Marriage is God's ordained compromise for those who cannot resist flesh urges. See also proverbs 31:3.
the idea that shunning, for a Christian living in sin, is a Biblical teaching....
the part about staying where you are confused me. so since i found god while single, i shouldn’t find a spouse even though it is a desire of mine? i’m all about growing, and i don’t want to stay where i’m at. also the staying with an unbeliever made me think that it’s ok to be with one. i really don’t want to twist the scripture tho!
Hi gabbyfaith- Glad you are watching the videos and reading the scriptures. I hope these have been helpful.
This is certainly a dense passage and complicated one. I believe Paul is clear that it is ok to pursue marriage (verses 21028). I believe the bigger idea that he is getting at is to be content and seeking Christ in whatever stage/phase of life in which you find yourself. Both single and married people can have a full life in the body of Christ and can live out their God given callings and missions.
Again a beautifully, clear explanation of this Bible reading.
Q: Which version Bible are you reading from? i.e NIV ..
Q: How could uncircumcision be reversed? I dunno I thought that's what I heard. Lol
We read from a few versions. Today Jared is reading the new Christian Standard Version. Will take a look at the other question later when I have a minute. Thanks!!
Maria - regarding circumcision, Paul isn't saying literally that someone would remove the marks of circumcision but rather he is making a point that this issue of the law just simply doesn't matter. There is no need for you to do back and reverse things to follow a law that doesn't matter. When a gentile becomes a follower of Jesus he doesn't have to go and get circumcised. If the reverse were possible, it would be the same principle.
It can't.
It is presented in the hypothetical.
He is laying out contrasts in the extreme to make [part] of his point regarding remaining in the calling you were called.
Assuming for the moment it would be possible (if it were) to reverse circumcision. Since circumcision is not a rite required to enter the "new covenant" - as it once was for Abram/Abraham and his descendants to "keep". He is saying if you haven't been circumcised in the past; you need not be concerned now in the present time to be so; much less so to reverse it if you have been and are presently circumcised.
Slavery...circumcision...in either case (and any other areas or situations wherein you were called into a relationship with the Lord that are not sinful activities on your part), you are not to be anxious concerning such things...the Lord isn't.
It is similar to his advise to husbands and wives earlier who have come to faith in Christianity, but whose spouse hasn't.
Paul is dealing with immature, "yet carnal", "babes" in Christ. So to make his points more clear to them, he utilizes extremes.
Greetings 🫖☕ good morning 🌄🙏 Amen
What Bible is this? Does anyone know?
Amen
What happened to the fasting in verse 5?
Defraud ye not one the other , except it be with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that satan tempt you not for your incontinency. KJV
No kjv? Do you not understand how much is missing from the other translations. This is by no means what I got from the kjv. Kjv was God inspired translated through a king. .. idk if I would believe this or this guy people.
Most could care less. They can't use the KJV because it sounds too much like the word of God....smh
14:05 this dude is funny😂🤣 but he’s right
to put it another way..the wife has not the authority to satisfy her sexual desire but the husband and likewise the husband has not have the authority to satisfy his sexual desires but the wife....when i say desire i am meaning we are a sexual being./..and that desire for sex is part of who we are..we can not commit one to the other in marriage and decide to have sex with someone outside the marriage but rather the wife has the right and obligation to satisfy the husband and likewise the husband does so with the wife
I have such a hard time with this passage. It actually makes me angry but I think it’s because I don’t have the right understanding of it. When I hear that I read “ if your husband wants to have sex and you don’t you have to because he owns your body” this is what I’m wrestling with from this passage
Yea. I think a larger study of chapters 5-8 is necessary. I didn't really have time to get into most of the chapter which has a lot more confusing material or at least material that I don't find myself easily agreeing with. And the confusion regarding somethings being "what paul thinks" and somethings that he "has heard from the Lord."
These are hard chapters
The picture Paul paints is one of mutual submission. It's a context where the wife and the husband submit themselves to each other and attempt to please each other. Healthy marriages thrive on giving and this includes sexual intimacy. There may be times that one party prefers not to be sexual intimate, but they chose to do so anyway for the health of the relationship. Many marriages today are sex-starved and that's extremely unhealthy.
Now, when we look at the bigger picture of Paul's writing we see that husbands, for instance, are supposed to sacrifice themselves for their wives as Christ gave himself for the church. This type of servant heart would certainly make room for times when sexual intimacy is not pursued in light of many potential factors. We can't look at this and assume Paul is saying there is absolutely no case when a man or a women can ever say no to their spouse, but rather see this as a principle that we should look to use our bodies to please each other as much as possible.
It says this for good reason. It is not just for the woman but for the man as well. If your spouse wants to have sex, be intimate with them, do not hold back from them so that you do not give the devil a foothold to your spouse. It causes hurt and resentment and rejection and those spirits that enter give the devil a stronghold and can lead to adultery. It creates a deep hurt, resentment and rejection in men and women even if they are tired. Women have said the same thing. Become love.
It as well says that the husband's body does not belong to him, but to his wife.
So if the wife wants to have sex and the husband doesn’t, then does the husband have to give in as well? 🤔
There's certainly times when you can say no like when you're sick, or had an extremely exhausting day and just need to fall asleep. In those cases a loving partner would understand. The point is that you are honest to each other and don't just come up with excuses why you wouldn't want to be intimate. It's not healthy for a relationship to deprive each other. You're the only person they have. Why would you not want to be intimate and put their needs first? Unless of course, you're feeling unwell, sick, or just had a baby, etc.
okay so, what do you think marriage in heaven ?
The Bible says we are not "given in marriage" in heaven. In some way, all of the relationships we have had on earth will be meaningful but will all be secondary to how we are united with God in heaven.
@@BranchTogether thank you. So please can you explain a bit more. How will our relationship be secondary when united with God? Can I talk with you or email you? I am seriously learning about the gospel of Jesus Christ. Pls I need help and guidance. Thank you
you have the wrong term, about the unbeliever departing.....it is not enslaved, or not under bondage.....which does not effect the marriage bond.....otherwise he is contradiction himself in the same text.......
and the idea that anyone leaving is, or is to be treated as, an unbeliever......another .....loophole, eh.....
Thank you for you video!
Is it possible you could explain, in more detailed, the verse 4 of the chapter 7.
For instance.
What a woman should do if she has no desire for her husband and viseversa,
Should one of them must force herself onto herself onto her or onto him, what if there was no attarctiin from the beginning of marriage??
You also did not mention, the repercations as a result of fornication and adultery in our modern society.
Why do you say this teachings are difficult??
It seems that Paul has no problem talking about them??
Should we be guessing what the church asked Paul in verse 1, can you please explain???
Thank you
What we don't see is that the whole 1COR.7 is dealing with fornication the wife becoming one flesh/sex with a man before she has become one flesh with a husband. Jesus made it clear in Matt.19:9 that the only reason to divorce is fornication so in 1COR.7:10-11 we know the reason for the divorce, and when we go on to verses 12 to 15 they are still divorcing for the same reason but now they want know what to do if someone in the marriage does not believe. The lord has now asked in the previous verses 1COR 7:10-11 that we stay together, the wife not leave but if she does she should remain unmarried or be reconcile to her husband, and that the man not divorce her. So Paul's advice is if there is an unbeliever and the unbeliever wants to stay married then they should stay together rather than divorce 7:12-13.
In verse 14 the children are holy being children of a marriage but if they divorced the children are unclean having come from and unclean act and have no father.
In verse 15 the reason the brother or sister is not under bondage is because remember this divorce is due to fornication (this is something she did before marrying her husband) and the unbeliever doesn't believe in Christ asking us to stay together (1COR.7:10-11) so the unbeliever is gonna want to divorce according to the Law in Deut 24:1-4 and go be with someone else. So rather than us being held in bondage in a marriage to and unbeliever who wants to leave then let them leave.