I’ve learned the best ‘revenge’ is being rational and looking after yourself. If you’re concerned about revenge then the narc is still controlling you.
Leave and let them keep living. They are their own worst enemy. Being emotionally stunted, broken, constantly envious/jealous, always feeling slighted due to deep buried insecurities and never truly feeling happy because you are unable to accept the advice that could bring you peace due to a permanent blind spot is a curse in itself. The narcissist will age like everyone else and from what I've seen that's when their years of mistreating others catches up with them. They're support becomes limited due to bridges burnt and their old tricks become less effective.
Very very true. Best revenge is no revenge. Don't step onto the battlefields they are opening. They just want this and that we lose our faces and get mad in rage. So they seem to be the victim and we seem crazy to everyone else. Karma will get them!!! Even if it takes some time. They wounded us, but we may and can heal. We learned important lessons. Even when they were very hard. But they save us in the future of this kind of beasts. They will never find real, deep love. Often having drug addictions, which get them down physically. No real friends. No one to rely on in hard times like serious illness. Being unlucky most of the time. Ah, yes...
very true. and in the end. it doesnt matter. they go on in the same way no matter what happens to them. with or without friends and family, they feel exactly the same. something unjust happened to them. people doesnt understand their greatness and so on.
These older videos are very interesting, I'm watching HG's oldest videos from 7 years ago.these are the best as they are purely for education, not entertainment.
These sick individuals come back and beg and cry and make you feel sorry for them. Yet they think they're being clever. What a horrible way to live. Guys no need for revenge they're already suffering while a live. Stay strong and love yourself. Peace and love
@@hgtudor-theultra Sir HG Tudor thank you for everything that you do. Can you please make a video or explain in one of your video "Ask HG" what you mean when you say that Empaths are addicted to Narcs. I consider myself an Empath but in now way shape or form I consider myself addicted to narcs. My path crossed theirs my entire life because I didn't know what I was dealing with. I definitely know that my dad was a narc, my mom seemed like one too. Both dead now. I have siblings that I know are narcs. I was always around them all my life. I was probably attracted to a lot of them because this is all I know. But now that I am educating myself about them I don't want nothing to do with anyone that I feel might be a narc. I cut all friends or family members that I know are narcs. That's why I don't feel that I'm addicted to narcs. Please explain "Empath addiction to Narcissist" when you have a chance. Thanks!!
I want revenge!!........ But I believe the true revenge is that they wake up with themselves without me everyday that must be hell! May she find new supply
Chad - emotional thinking! There is no hell without ”you” ”us” - we/ you were a malfunctioning appliance. Apply logic and you will understand waking up is actually what needs to happen to us/you! I did! Good luck on it! Use logic - always! Listen to HG!
True. You are right. I was the victim of such a man who played mind games with me, encouraged my feelings for him, and married the woman he'd been fooling around with behind my back. I immediately cut him out of my life when I found out. I believed he loved me. He was making a fool out of me all along. I know that he is scum, and his much younger wife is married to a man that was cheating on her. He is a user and a taker.
Yes, and they think that they never done anything wrong even though that’s what they did. Mine told me to woman up and told me I should know how to handle my feelings. So dismissive and no accountability to what they done.
It's great to know that your help is out there. I didn't plan a revenge, but I know for a fact that it ended really badly for my narcissists. I tried to defend myself and what's mine, but somehow it actually turned out to be even worse than I thought it would be. I was provoked and triggered by them... And I did it exactly the way you described. I guess Karma is a real thing! 🙏 Your work is priceless! 👍
Because narcissists are so envious and greedy one of the best revenge if after you have left the narcissist and suceeded at what they wanted you to fail,is to make sure they know about it and about the money they can no longer lay their hands on.
Keeping no contact in place is the way to go. It has been since mid March that the narc is gone, he relocated several hours away from where I live. I am enjoying peace and quiet. No more narc.
I noticed that a good revenge is, (years after the abuse) to treat them like the rest of the neighbours. Say hello, laughing, make a joke, but not accepting being hoovered whatsoever.
Old thread but yes they do smear campaigns. But let them work themselves up into a frenzy...itl drive them...the neighbours...flying monkeys...n.u.t.s...😅
Revenge is mine saith Lord God , I shall repay. It's a horrible thing to fall into the hands of the Living God. No contact is part of God's plan for the narcissist. We must heal ourselves to move forward .
God excommunicated with Lucifer. He literally went no contact with His narcissist immediately and decisively. He also let go of their enablers, and He even let go of any doubters. All scorned damned, and deemed as The eternal Lost
Best advice I’ve read online is, If the narcissist comes to your house, don’t answer the door & if they don’t leave right away, call the police & report a trespassing. I have an older sister who is a narcissist and haven’t spoken to her since my Mom died at 90. It’s been almost 7 years ago now & feels wonderful. All you need to do, is live your best life. They don’t need to know anything about that or you anymore.❤️
The waves of revenge come and go for me. I think, after listening to this that I may very well have attempted 2 and 3 with adverse reactions and he still engaged with me thereafter each time. Of course, it was me reaching out to him all the time but that wasn’t so in the very beginning. I could see and feel the disengagement coming after 12 months of confusion, push, pull, silent treatments and hurt. Not wanting to be one of he’s sporadic groupies, like he wanted me to be, he wouldn’t completely end it and tried to blame me for he’s treatment of me and that he wanted to finally sort he’s life out which I was supportive of and things turned sour rapidly. I bowed out after a heated conversation leading me to hang up on him, he called me back, I hung up on him again and that was that from him. It’s been 4 weeks now of up and down emotional thinking for me. I didn’t get it all down pat in the first few days and I think I’m getting stronger in my logical thinking and NC has been in place since with removal of myself from certain media platforms and blocking him. I want to move on with little to no thoughts of revenge toward him and get back to who I was, I miss her!
I've never wanted revenge so I hope my no contact was more of a mutual walking away. Hopefully by that time he saw I wasn't useful anymore, cut his losses and moved on to a new possession. I'd have more satisfaction by knowing he'd forgotten all about me.
I divorced him .after years of being in an unhappy ,controlling ,gas lighting ,physical and mental abusive ,. Relationship . Getting married to someone else ,and being happy for twenty years so far ,is the best revenge ever ..one can move on no matter how hard . Don’t let life pass you by, get as much help ,and support if you can . Your mental health ,and confidence will improve . And you end up getting you back again ,only wiser and stronger ...this time 🙂
I have attempted and succeeded in all three of these. Justice was served....and I'm not done😂 guess that makes me a pshyco. I am an exeptional fast learner.... don't do to me what u don't want done to you...what a waste of my precious time.
I had almost accepted the covert destruction of my property,the smearing and sets ups with made up complaints to the police.You would have to go someway to upset me.Then they found the button.1 pet poisoned and 1 crushed on the pavement in front of my house.A site I cannot unsee. Fortunately I found HG's channel and it took little to stop my emotional thinking because he made me realise that they were getting fuel from seeing me upset.The family of narcissists didn't see it coming.I was already 7mths in no contact so when dead rats were thrown at me,I contacted the anti social who were on standby to deal with it rather than I break the Nc. I gave them a clear breakdown of all the flying monkeys,the great age of the elderly narcissist who needed them to act for her and over 45 mins I gave her the info from what If had taught me on how they would give themselves away.Whatever she said it worked,9mths no contact.Thank you HG.
Sounds horrendous but same as what I have endured for 13 years. The biggest blow to my cabal narcs was me healing and releasing a psych team that in a way helped...and writing a formal letter to the police apologising to then on behalf of my nearest neighbour wasting police time. Unknowingly I was tricked into contact with a further neighbour under false pretences. What a surprise how she gave herself away dropping many pennies into place. Suddenly everything ...as they say...became crystal clear...I must have narc tendencies as I used the encounter with humour knowing my comments would be repeated to the cabal...and the cabal.s head black widow spider...I said...Well I hold no hate towards hbws...in fact I pity her...if shes really so unhappy then maybe she should consider moving far far away you see...despite her wish for me to...I'm not going anywhere...despite the campaigns I'm happy enough have good longevity genes..and my great grandad was Churchill s body guard and a nazi hunter when ww2 ended so I guess I was born for warfare...should've seen her jaw fall....oh I added...and I've got a lovely barristervwhobwants to make a test case in this area against a certain south London cult misusing the Christian word...and thankyou for offering to mow my verge...but I love wildflowers so will do it when I'm ready...I think your verges look lovely..but isn't it nice we are all different...and not all suburbanized...I have to say I even threw in a few smiles of joy as I extricated myself from their hoover nozzle...and another phone number to block. Yes. The animals. As a result of this telegraph...someone applied fair to my old mares fail and all her hair came out as I washed the smelly white cream off. It had been applied then polo bandaged into place. Animals are a way their flying monkeys reply. Sadly. Sorry your animal hurt. I had a cat shot by this group once...and attempted shooting of my dog...they're cowards...but enduring them forges a character of steel in us over time. Just an unpleasant experience as we wait for karma to visit them...........
Lol, I'm a revenge expert from way back. I'm an empath with narc traits and a VERY strong sense of justice. If someone is OK to me, I reciprocate. If not, I will move heaven and earth to pay them back with interest, and I don't care how long I wait. I waited 20 years to get back at a slimebag, patiently waiting for the right moment to strike, and when I did, the results were most enjoyable. For me, not for him. I hit him at his status pillar, one blow after another, in one smooth action. Of course, he knew it was from me, but he could never prove it. I heard about his raging and cursing, and rejoiced. Even better, after years of no contact, quite by chance, he was driving through my suburb and spotted me having a walk. As I always wear hats and sunglasses, I'm able to look at people without them knowing it. He stopped the car and almost fell out of it. Total loss of control . Face purple with fury, hanging out of his car with head nearly touching the tarmac, his screaming so high pitched with mortal agony that I couldn't understand a word. That didn't matter. It was the hurt behind it that was important. On and on he went, 100% ballistic, and to me, it was a symphony orchestra. It wasn't even a human noise, not that I considered him human. It was the howl of a damned soul writhing in the bowels of Hell. But not once did I acknowledge that I knew of his presence. Just kept gliding along as though he wasn't there. Didn't alter my pace or posture by one iota. Eventually, his screaming made him so hoarse that he had to shut up, and, with a tremendous slamming of the door and foot hard on the accelerator, he took off like a bat from hell, narrowly missing a passing train. That's many years ago, and his life has been steadily going down the drain. I don't want him dead. I want him to live with the knowledge that you should never, ever make enemies of the wrong people.
That's beautiful. I'm quite impressed! Well done! There aren't many people I want revenge on--for me, revenge tends to be a passing fancy, marked by much wild (and for me, highly cathartic) fantasizing with no internal need for actual fulfillment. However, I can think of one individual I've encountered in my life whom I will never forgive and whom I still wish to exact revenge on several years after being harmed by him. At this point, it's not possible for me to attempt to seek any form of vengeance against him. Someday, that will change. It's heartening to know that, should I still feel the desire to serve him a little slice of hell some years down the line, revenge may well still be possible. Thank you for that! A dish best served cold, indeed.
As bad as I want revenge right now, I’d probably end up not caring after 6 months like you said. But, let’s just wait this one out. The thought brings me joy. Probably emotional thinking though lol
EMPATHS!! take this for what it is knowledge, period. Don't intentionally seek revenge on the Narcissist if it's ment to be it will come as naturally as your no contact came.
Thanks HG... as always. Listening to and reading your work has given me logical thinking for the first time in my life. Once you helped me understand narcissism, I actually developed a mix of pity, disgust and admiration for them... depending on what they do. As you have said, it's a very helpful and sometimes necessary trait for those in leadership, executive, medical, etc. positions. I recognize narcissistic traits now and know that I should never let myself become emotionally invested in them. As long as I continue to refresh my logic with your work, I can navigate the world around narcissists now. Although I personally don't want any type of revenge, I can't help but smile when I think about how you would handle a "meally-mouthed mid-ranger"!
I don't want to play revenge on narcissist. I wanted to be prepared for the revenge a narcissist might seek on me for escaping him, with our 3 young children. .
I want revenge! He cost me everything but I can deal with that. I can deal with the 20 years of hell and torment he skillfully applied until I was a broken human being, but what he has done to our sons, I can't get past! The put downs making them feel like they are worthless, telling them they are worthless. I hate him and I want my revenge.
Good book to read is The Art of War by Sun Tzu. "The first principal of war is deception." Implement the shot once you know yourself and you know your enemy.
HG Tudor. He came to my house and wanted to speak to me. When I ignored him, he wrote me a letter, telling me he had a ring made for me. I burned the letter. He is blocked on my phone even on Fb
Well done on ignoring the direct physical hoover. Don't read the letter, once you know it is from him, stop any reading and bin it. Well done on blocking, consider changing your number to improve your NCR.
I have No family, few acquaintances, son abandoned me because of ex husband smearing me since my son was little. I have a seasonal job in another state. This is my third year. I still haven't gone back home. My name is on certificate of title to his mobile home. ( he is a compulsive gambler) Decided to pull away from narc boyfriend and not go back. He is giving me silent treatment because I didn't come home for the holidays. He usually buys me. He just stopped paying my phone bill and next I bet he will stop helping me with car payment. He told me I can't come home. I am staying in a not so safe hotel. I blocked him in July cos he kept criticizing me and giving me silent treatments when I use to text him/head games. I feel like I am not going to make it so I am afraid to block him. I did email him about half of the car payments and how it will be sometime before I continue paying my share. I receive my unemployment benefits soon. He knows I always pay him back. He never answered my question about the payments. Don't know if I should totally block him from email and my phone? I did block him on FB in July 2020. That must have pissed him off. I am planning on moving to a different state with my cat but first I have to find cheap housing or stay at a domestic violence shelter. Still looking for full-time work.
No contact is not just cutting the narcissist off, but also cutting off anyone connected to them. Being born in a narcisstic family, even if you keep one family member in your circle, it will not work. I was only talking to one family member who was my cousin, and all the narcissist family members will contact her to contact me for something. They only knew me when they needed something from me. Anytime I said no to something they wanted, my cousin got blamed. They will tell her it's her fault that I don't want to help them. These people never cared to find out how I was doing, it was always about them and their needs. Just this year I had to cut my last family member off. I thought I could have a relationship with her without the family, because of her they knew all my business I did not want them knowing. I had enough and had to let her go. Many people find it hard to do this, but if they don't no contact will be unsuccessful.
Sounds amazing HG please consider making more of the knowledge vault material in audiobook format, to circumvent severely diminished capacity to properly concentrate on books due to PTSD..
Thank you for clarifying. No, they are not currently available as Audiobooks. Currently, the only books of mine which are audiobooks are Narc Tales Volume One and Two. I will add to this and there is a wealth of audio material addressing lots of different aspects of dealing with narcissism, in The Knowledge Vault.
@@honoryourself2098 it will be good to have fuel and be bow to go back to some highlights. I love audios as well but this book is a precious to have in your hands.
Yes!! I have now maintained no contact for just over six months and I am now in assassin mode. He lives across the street from me and regularly his his ex before me, of about three years ago, over for long visits. I think it would be healthy and effective for him to see me with someone new, or even with a new car. What ever it is, it should be something that makes him feel like he was truly left in the dust, because he has been.
I have become a super empath after escaping a narcissistic marriage. I always attract narcissist because of my empathetic ways. The only difference is now I understand how they work and tick after years of studying them. Also being raised by narcissistic families I have narcissistic ways. I use all of these forms of revenge when I encounter them although I didn’t consider it revenge. I just like playing the game and always staying 2 steps ahead. My bleeding heart used to get me into lots of trouble and heartbreak always being thoughtful and kind. Now I’m just happy that I’ve learned how to defend myself against these bottom feeders.
Just today I had a wave of really wanting revenge, or at least be able to see justice being served for what he did and is currently doing to me. But much more than that I just wanna stop thinking about him altogether. 😫😫
Amazing videos HG. Been helping me so much. My mind does go to revenge on occasion; I'm fighting the internal urge to do so, then losten to a video or meditate to try and find that peace and compassion i once had. For me, I'm not sure he is suffering right now. He lied to me the whole time, cheated, dumpster dived, made every excuse in the book to "not be ready for a deep committed relationship " because of his newly divorced/separated ststus. I later found out a abut 6 months after no contact ( he still kept me hoovered in via fb) i found out he was living with a woman 10 years younger, ( that part wasn't even as hurtful as the rest, I'm incredible at 55) corraled her into his life, as she needed a place to live, and found someone to share his rent and buy a house with. Clearly, he needs her as much as she needed him. Trauma bonding relationship. His true Narc leeching traits and that he can't be alone. So for me, no contact is helping little by little. But Assassin revenge is definitely appealing. 💔
5-6 months total silence is right: I returned to my flat after 4 months total silence and the way he stalked & pounced was so menacing before I’d even got back into the house I’ll never forget it. I did go straight to the police to get a restraining order, which I made sure he heard about, & which did work. Not on the character assassinations & lies which continue to this day 12 years later, but) the stalking/violence & theft/focus of me as a physical target, did cease.
I was too emotionally involved several years after the disengagement, the cognitive dissonance was overwhelming , I only managed to avoid a small hoover attempt 3 years later, but year after that he got his surprise party..and I didn't even have to do much. But it's true....at the end of it, few hours later, I was physicaly tired of keeping the wall of ignoring up and felt sorry for him when I saw the devastation.
@@alannaconnolly7224 Hi, Alanna....no, no...god forbid!... But he got himself a slap on the face. And another one last year at the mass and a drink before and after the mass for our friend who died of suicide. I just had to ignore the shit out of him.
I confess that a couple of days ago I inflicted a ‘jam tomoro ‘ type revenge which spectacularly backfired when I eventually gave in to him again out of soft hearted ness . He asked for a birthday gift 🎁 of some 500 quid motorbike tyres . But I said I didn’t want to make his new girlfriend jealous and suspicious (he was in the hoovering me back stage) so I bought him a gift that was different and half the price . When he started screaming abuse that my gift was stupid and worthless I took great pleasure in laughing at him and telling him that he had ‘failed the test’ and that I had intended to buy him the tyres as well but only if he had passed the test and been grateful for the lesser gift first . “But you failed the test so now you get nothing “ I said as I laughed calmly in his face . I enjoyed my revenge and I enjoyed his anger . However the barrage of insults and ball breaking and pressure and tears and promises afterwards led me to be exsasperated and fall for another of his tricks ..... not because I believed him but because I was exasperated and wanted to be rid of him .... I ended up giving in and helping to buy the tyres ... angry at myself . I’m still not sure weather the brief high and sense of satisfaction whilst he was horrified at his mistake was worth it !! Sometimes the game is fun and unfortunately sone of us are so insecure and have such low self esteem we become addicted to the type of extreme compliments we recieve during the golden period and any normal level of compliments and attention becomes unsatisfactory to fuel US !!!
The Queen said: "Two pence a week, and jam every other day." Alice couldn't help laughing as she said, "I don't want you to hire me, and I don't care for jam." "It's very good jam," said the Queen.
My revenge is walking away and going no contact, for myself not them, just for me, educate myself so the bs won't happen again, me just not caring about them really helps out, everyday she wakes up in looks at the ageing Narcissist is the only revenge,no revenge is the best revenge.and one thing about it karma has there address 🤣 believe that.
Diabolical HG. I’m just filling my boots ...expected to hear about the narc being spiteful. I know I’ve wanted revenge previously. Your work has helped me get perspective. Thanks again.
Reminds me of a video I watched of Resident Evil, the player kept getting attacked because he wanted to hit the vampire on the butt with a fly swatter.
Best revenge is doing nothing toward the narcissist and such person and doing better in life. Once getting to know the person is a narcissist a gram of energy wasted on such person is too much gift it is beyond what he/she is worth and deserve. Life is short walk away let life and time do it’s job and no body does it better .
Great video HG Tudor thanks for sharing all your your krafts in the ways of your kind really dig your new revamped channel in how you put the pictures in the video lot of digital art themed with each topic and I really love that countdown meter!🤟😎💯
I've actually thought about the Jam Tomorrow - Give them what they want n then take it away- technique before I heard of it. And I agree, the right dosage is tricky. These people, Narcissists, are evil robots who are always one step ahead.
The assassination is by text messages. Its cool and entirely logical from an arms length after six months to year and a half of no contact. I aim and fire again and again and again. Also, I threatened a change of puppy custody, but with no follow through...as yet... I have no desire to make him suffer without providing him a way to save face. I hope to eventually reform him toward his eternal salvation, but from a distance.
By the way I laughed my a** off through this whole video I loved the way you You say "there will be an adverse effect" lol I laughed 😃 and laughed when you say that HG!
After no contact for many years he is now testing the waters by texting me.... and is managing to to push himself into my thoughts where he is not welcome.........I am still not comfortable revisiting this unhealthy part of my life on any level.........
The day after the children and I left him, he contacted us, by mistake my mother let him in. As usual he promised things would be better, all the same as usual and bla bla bla if we just would come back, I simply said NO. He stared at me and asked if I stopped loving him and started hate him, so I said that in fact I didn't love him neither hate him, because he was not worthy that kind of strong feelings. He left and after that I haven't talked to him face to face, I changed my phone number and blocked him every where, even changed my bank account. People are telling me he looks like a shadow of his former self, but every time I feel a nick of pity for him, I just remind myself of the night he woke me up by kicking me in the side as hard as he could, breaking one of my ribs and benting two others.
I’m going to buy your book Revenge. No contact since July 2020 after 3 years of intimacy. I believe he falls on the mid-greater category based on all the videos I’ve watched, knowing how he calculates and reacts in a calm demeanor. Not caring that I know of his other women. I know what I’ve done “wrong” in his eyes, I used him for sex and constantly whiplashed the attention I felt like giving him afterwords, only reached out when I wanted more sex and ignored his in between attempts to get more out of me. His devaluation matched your explanation precisely, had me waiting for him at specific locations for hours several times, then acted like it was my fault that we didn’t end up meeting up. My question is, does the no contact have to go both ways? He still reaches out to me 1-2x a month, I love watching his failed attempts and still not a word or anything else from me. I am even more emotionally unavailable than I ever was to begin with, I feel it is nearly impossible for me to fall into his trap again especially with all the knowledge I now have and dont/won’t believe a single word or act he does. Knowledge is power and I want that, excited to read your book.
Been there… the charm, the kindness, the whole range. After some time, the charade started… BUT , having a narcissistic mother, I have a very fine tuned BS meter. I know who I am, what my worth is and do NOT attempt to cross my bounderies. At a certain point in time and that was rather a short period, Just like that, I took a 180 degrees turn inside my own head and gave him mentally, the middle finger. Thanks to my abusive mother, my tolerance for bullshit became very close to zero. So one evening, at a party, I had the honest to God uncontrollable giggles as a result of him trying to put me down in public. I hiccuped: nice - hic - try. He ran for the hills. May he have had a good workout. I get it that most of us want to take revenge. It is a natural reaction to abuse. Trust me, being an only child with a mother like mine, I’ve been there, done that. It backfires and you will end up being more hurt than you already are. Don’t. Instead, know yourself, take pride in it. Know your worth… for that, take a good, long look in the mirror. Why do you accept being treated like this? Admit that you have issues if you do, no shame in that. Then, take a long and good look at the person in front of you and most importantly, how hé/she makes yóu feel. There is nothing wrong in having a sane amount of self care. If the scales are tipped the wrong way, well… Granted, those of you being married to the sucker, with children, are in a real jam. Maybe you should consider getting HG Tudor’s active assistance to protect your children and get and kéép them out. For the rest of us: well… why not try to do the following excercice: try to look at your narc through another pair of glasses. Walk mentally around the moron. What makes him/her powerful? Could it be the importance that you yourself grant him/her? Now imagine that that same person is boring, predictable, uninteresting to you and your inner life… while you’re at it, why not explore that inner life further? Have you honestly tried to crawl into your own head to reconnect to what you used to truely find interesting and what used to make you happy? Repeat after me: my narc is boring. Predictable (in his unpredictzbility). Uninteresting. Laughable. Small. A fly! -swat- Repeat again Repeat again Keep on repeting until you’re finally convinced of that simple truth. Then let your laughter bubble to the surface. 😂 And slam the door. Or the other way around. Whatever. Come on people, come oooooon, try. It works, you know. Let me finish with a kiss to you 😘 Here you go. And a big smile 😃 I’m off now. I watched the whole series except the ones about the celebrities since I don’t give a fig want they do or not do. It was mighty interesting to hear the other side. Confirmed what I already knew too. Thanks Hg
The Universe’s Vengeance is what I received. This was a man who ruined my young life, & who because he had influence, took my two children, whose lives he warped. This poor excuse for a human being insulted me EVERY TIME he saw me, on every occasion where we had to show up together. For 50 years this went on, & then it happened... I heard that he had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. On the next occasion where we had to both attend, I was sitting down when he came over & sat down beside me. And he looked at me, & said those magical words... “I know who you are” But he clearly couldn’t put a name to my face! The heavens opened up, as I looked at him & said, “Yes, you do”. And I got up, & walked away, never to see him again. This selfish narcissist could not insult me, BECAUSE HE NO LONGER KNEW WHO I WAS. It was wonderful! And 5 years on, he died last week, & now is where he can do no more damage.
I experienced the Universe’s revenge in an amazing way. He crushed me and then the pandemic came in and crushed him. There were coincidences within that which were uncanny.
I don't know if I would have the guts but I would be doing it for my sister and that is a very strong driving force. Getting the book and thinking of becoming an assassin.
All I can say is if you seek revenge, don't expect you can win. Don't even expect the old adage that revenge is digging 2 graves. If you seek revenge w these types, dig your own grave. One grave. And ull regret it. Ull punish urself AND ull be punished by them. You can't beat the narcissist. Ur emotional thinking is making you feel that way. Learn everything you can about these people. Because once you know, you go. You GOSO. Then you can finally "GOWYL" :(get on with your life), because you've been educated, and you want nothing to do with these exes ever again. Because that's the best "revenge" . Life - love - and happiness is your priority. Pursuing your goals or dreams and having healthy relationships that are realistic are your priority.
The Hoovers. It sounds like an illness . " You look a bit under the weather. Is there anything I can do for you? " "I've got a case of the Hoovers for which there is no cure except not to take the medication". HG, you are somewhat of a comedian
No contact is a healthy strategy for preserving your own sanity, but there is no justice, no solution, no progress, no nothing other than you yourself getting away. . I understand that starving the narcissist from at least my fuel feels horrible to the narcissist, but it doesn’t stop them from spreading their virus. I want to quarantine that virus rather than take revenge.
My god yes he sees me as an object. When we were married he said he owned me. Now two yrs after divorce he just said he feels like he still owns me. How crazy. I have minimal contact cause we share a daughter unfortunately.
HI HG Tudor, Can a narcissist become obsessed with an appliance? And what is it about this particular appliance that causes the narcissist to become obsessed? Thanks
I'm not a narcissist but I believe they can. My ex narcissistic psychopath has came back 3 or 4 times since the first ending. They pick us for a reason. They believe they own us. They don't just pick any person they normally go after an empath and I believe they can smell us from a mile away and maybe by just out profile picture on a dating site. Who knows, only HG himself would and hopefully he will eventually answer your question. I know my ex narcissistic psychopath very well. Probably more so then he knows. Just like when I'm painted black he never blocks me from texting or calling him. He might not answer or reply but I know he listens if I leave a voice mail or reads the texts that I sent. Just like I knew when I wished him and his family a Happy Thanksgiving that I would probably get one back. And he did. I just don't quite know which type of narcissistic psychopath he is. Im pretty sure a dangerous one, but there is some reason I am still here. He did say I reminded him of his mother right before he kissed me and were to be intimate which I thought was pretty weird, but there is a reason I'm still here but maybe one day I will disappear, who knows, only HG would know. God bless 🙏💞😉
HG I’m physically wounded after a physical assault. Pushed on concrete. 4 years later I’m suffering. Please help me. I’m only a 53 yr old with 2 bulging discs , and spinal stenosis. He had my autistic son. Bringing him to trial. Xo
Omg how are you now? 🙏🏻🌸 I hope you’re okay I found this channel after realising that I was dating a narcissist I didn’t even know what a narcissist was till I was actually in a relationship with one and I’ve got no contact for five weeks now he’s been round three times and I’ve got a letter yesterday I just tore it up I didn’t even read it but he hit me and I think that the beatings were gonna get a lot worse, I hope you are okay and you reply 🤗
Empath’s best revenge: Doing better.
For me no contact isnt revenge, its doing whats right! Leaving someone who never was real or wanted love
Total facts !
❤
Because he’s not capable of loving anyone except himself
It’s a 2-sided sword. Saving your life AND in doing so revenge (wounding) to the narcissist.
@Gemma Dann Yep, I was told that I was on my high horse.
I’ve learned the best ‘revenge’ is being rational and looking after yourself. If you’re concerned about revenge then the narc is still controlling you.
Leave and let them keep living. They are their own worst enemy. Being emotionally stunted, broken, constantly envious/jealous, always feeling slighted due to deep buried insecurities and never truly feeling happy because you are unable to accept the advice that could bring you peace due to a permanent blind spot is a curse in itself. The narcissist will age like everyone else and from what I've seen that's when their years of mistreating others catches up with them. They're support becomes limited due to bridges burnt and their old tricks become less effective.
Very very true.
Best revenge is no revenge.
Don't step onto the battlefields they are opening. They just want this and that we lose our faces and get mad in rage. So they seem to be the victim and we seem crazy to everyone else.
Karma will get them!!! Even if it takes some time.
They wounded us, but we may and can heal. We learned important lessons. Even when they were very hard. But they save us in the future of this kind of beasts.
They will never find real, deep love. Often having drug addictions, which get them down physically. No real friends. No one to rely on in hard times like serious illness. Being unlucky most of the time. Ah, yes...
Yes
very true. and in the end. it doesnt matter. they go on in the same way no matter what happens to them. with or without friends and family, they feel exactly the same. something unjust happened to them. people doesnt understand their greatness and so on.
Yes
Time is the best revenge
These older videos are very interesting, I'm watching HG's oldest videos from 7 years ago.these are the best as they are purely for education, not entertainment.
These sick individuals come back and beg and cry and make you feel sorry for them. Yet they think they're being clever. What a horrible way to live. Guys no need for revenge they're already suffering while a live. Stay strong and love yourself. Peace and love
The spell has worn off. Thank You HG for another great video and helping me to move on what a long road it was
Glad it helped
@@hgtudor-theultra Sir HG Tudor thank you for everything that you do. Can you please make a video or explain in one of your video "Ask HG" what you mean when you say that Empaths are addicted to Narcs. I consider myself an Empath but in now way shape or form I consider myself addicted to narcs. My path crossed theirs my entire life because I didn't know what I was dealing with. I definitely know that my dad was a narc, my mom seemed like one too. Both dead now. I have siblings that I know are narcs. I was always around them all my life. I was probably attracted to a lot of them because this is all I know. But now that I am educating myself about them I don't want nothing to do with anyone that I feel might be a narc. I cut all friends or family members that I know are narcs. That's why I don't feel that I'm addicted to narcs. Please explain "Empath addiction to Narcissist" when you have a chance. Thanks!!
See The Addiction Triple Package in the Knowledge Vault
@@hgtudor-theultra triple addiction
Same girl, same !!
Never give some one who betrayed you the time of day. Theirs will come. Live your life. To never return.
I see no contact as freedom not as revenge.
I want revenge!!........ But I believe the true revenge is that they wake up with themselves without me everyday
that must be hell!
May she find new supply
Yep
She might have already been waking up with someone else lolz.
That was exactly what I thought and what happened to me
Chad - emotional thinking! There is no hell without ”you” ”us” - we/ you were a malfunctioning appliance. Apply logic and you will understand waking up is actually what needs to happen to us/you! I did! Good luck on it! Use logic - always! Listen to HG!
From HG once they find a another supply there fine they do not miss you like you think just miss the fuel
She’s likely woking up
to someone else, mate.
This is giving me much needed mental comfort. Been listening to HG for a few days straight now. And Im naturally applying no contact with ease.
A COWARD is a man who awakens a woman's love never loving her back. In the end you will see what a coward a Narc truly is.
A narcissist's revenge is his own existence. I pity these people. They are a walking scar. Their primary style of interaction is manipulation.
True. You are right. I was the victim of such a man who played mind games with me, encouraged my feelings for him, and married the woman he'd been fooling around with behind my back. I immediately cut him out of my life when I found out. I believed he loved me. He was making a fool out of me all along. I know that he is scum, and his much younger wife is married to a man that was cheating on her. He is a user and a taker.
They’re like 13 year old little girls.
Yes, and they think that they never done anything wrong even though that’s what they did. Mine told me to woman up and told me I should know how to handle my feelings. So dismissive and no accountability to what they done.
"To use the technical phrase you will only fuck it up."
British understatement at its finest HG.
😂😂❤️❤️👍👍
Quite. 😆👌
lol 😂
It's great to know that your help is out there. I didn't plan a revenge, but I know for a fact that it ended really badly for my narcissists. I tried to defend myself and what's mine, but somehow it actually turned out to be even worse than I thought it would be. I was provoked and triggered by them... And I did it exactly the way you described. I guess Karma is a real thing! 🙏 Your work is priceless! 👍
Because narcissists are so envious and greedy one of the best revenge if after you have left the narcissist and suceeded at what they wanted you to fail,is to make sure they know about it and about the money they can no longer lay their hands on.
Keeping no contact in place is the way to go. It has been since mid March that the narc is gone, he relocated several hours away from where I live. I am enjoying peace and quiet. No more narc.
I am so jealous. I want that
Narc free and No Contact Since March 2021.
They still lose . They play checkers on chess board while a educated empath slaughters them
I noticed that a good revenge is, (years after the abuse) to treat them like the rest of the neighbours. Say hello, laughing, make a joke, but not accepting being hoovered whatsoever.
They will smear campaign
Old thread but yes they do smear campaigns. But let them work themselves up into a frenzy...itl drive them...the neighbours...flying monkeys...n.u.t.s...😅
Revenge is mine saith Lord God , I shall repay. It's a horrible thing to fall into the hands of the Living God. No contact is part of God's plan for the narcissist. We must heal ourselves to move forward .
YES GOD IS IN CONTROL
God excommunicated with Lucifer.
He literally went no contact with His
narcissist immediately and decisively.
He also let go of their enablers, and He
even let go of any doubters. All scorned
damned, and deemed as The eternal Lost
I sometimes think God we t no contact with his creation...
I waited a full year to implement the shot from a distance. A letter of about 10 words. Just logic. ☀️🔥🔥🔥🔥
Best advice I’ve read online is, If the narcissist comes to your house, don’t answer the door & if they don’t leave right away, call the police & report a trespassing. I have an older sister who is a narcissist and haven’t spoken to her since my Mom died at 90. It’s been almost 7 years ago now & feels wonderful. All you need to do, is live your best life. They don’t need to know anything about that or you anymore.❤️
The waves of revenge come and go for me. I think, after listening to this that I may very well have attempted 2 and 3 with adverse reactions and he still engaged with me thereafter each time. Of course, it was me reaching out to him all the time but that wasn’t so in the very beginning.
I could see and feel the disengagement coming after 12 months of confusion, push, pull, silent treatments and hurt.
Not wanting to be one of he’s sporadic groupies, like he wanted me to be, he wouldn’t completely end it and tried to blame me for he’s treatment of me and that he wanted to finally sort he’s life out which I was supportive of and things turned sour rapidly.
I bowed out after a heated conversation leading me to hang up on him, he called me back, I hung up on him again and that was that from him.
It’s been 4 weeks now of up and down emotional thinking for me. I didn’t get it all down pat in the first few days and I think I’m getting stronger in my logical thinking and NC has been in place since with removal of myself from certain media platforms and blocking him.
I want to move on with little to no thoughts of revenge toward him and get back to who I was, I miss her!
My goodness I’d PAY to hear Jam Tomorrow implemented against an unsuspecting narc 🔥😁
I've never wanted revenge so I hope my no contact was more of a mutual walking away. Hopefully by that time he saw I wasn't useful anymore, cut his losses and moved on to a new possession. I'd have more satisfaction by knowing he'd forgotten all about me.
HG is Brilliant! He has the best sense of humor during consultation!
I cannot disagree.
@@hgtudor-theultra Literally.
That’s good to know I could use a bit of humor with all this shit I’ve been through. That’s for letting us know. I figured he is a cheeky one. 🙂
Language included 👍
No contact- give them nothing to hold on to or feed on. No, hate, love or concern of any kind. Let the narc know that it’s over and walk away.
This. Absolutely.
Yep! Thank God I am finally there and healing very nicely 😊
I divorced him .after years of being in an unhappy ,controlling ,gas lighting ,physical and mental abusive ,. Relationship . Getting married to someone else ,and being happy for twenty years so far ,is the best revenge ever ..one can move on no matter how hard . Don’t let life pass you by, get as much help ,and support if you can . Your mental health ,and confidence will improve . And you end up getting you back again ,only wiser and stronger ...this time 🙂
By virtue of "mirroring", the narcissist can and will be adopt a "no contact" of their own, on their own terms if it suits their purposes
Mine has gone no contact. I hope he stays no contact
Usually when they are well fueled
I have attempted and succeeded in all three of these. Justice was served....and I'm not done😂 guess that makes me a pshyco. I am an exeptional fast learner.... don't do to me what u don't want done to you...what a waste of my precious time.
Living well is the best revenge. GOSO and deprive them of you.
The technical phrase “you will fuck it up” 😂 Love your droll witticisms H.G 👏👏👏👏
This is the jackpot, HG! Thank you.
Indeed.
@@hgtudor-theultra All the best to you, HG,
I had almost accepted the covert destruction of my property,the smearing and sets ups with made up complaints to the police.You would have to go someway to upset me.Then they found the button.1 pet poisoned and 1 crushed on the pavement in front of my house.A site I cannot unsee. Fortunately I found HG's channel and it took little to stop my emotional thinking because he made me realise that they were getting fuel from seeing me upset.The family of narcissists didn't see it coming.I was already 7mths in no contact so when dead rats were thrown at me,I contacted the anti social who were on standby to deal with it rather than I break the Nc. I gave them a clear breakdown of all the flying monkeys,the great age of the elderly narcissist who needed them to act for her and over 45 mins I gave her the info from what If had taught me on how they would give themselves away.Whatever she said it worked,9mths no contact.Thank you HG.
Sounds horrendous but same as what I have endured for 13 years. The biggest blow to my cabal narcs was me healing and releasing a psych team that in a way helped...and writing a formal letter to the police apologising to then on behalf of my nearest neighbour wasting police time.
Unknowingly I was tricked into contact with a further neighbour under false pretences. What a surprise how she gave herself away dropping many pennies into place. Suddenly everything ...as they say...became crystal clear...I must have narc tendencies as I used the encounter with humour knowing my comments would be repeated to the cabal...and the cabal.s head black widow spider...I said...Well I hold no hate towards hbws...in fact I pity her...if shes really so unhappy then maybe she should consider moving far far away you see...despite her wish for me to...I'm not going anywhere...despite the campaigns I'm happy enough have good longevity genes..and my great grandad was Churchill s body guard and a nazi hunter when ww2 ended so I guess I was born for warfare...should've seen her jaw fall....oh I added...and I've got a lovely barristervwhobwants to make a test case in this area against a certain south London cult misusing the Christian word...and thankyou for offering to mow my verge...but I love wildflowers so will do it when I'm ready...I think your verges look lovely..but isn't it nice we are all different...and not all suburbanized...I have to say I even threw in a few smiles of joy as I extricated myself from their hoover nozzle...and another phone number to block.
Yes. The animals. As a result of this telegraph...someone applied fair to my old mares fail and all her hair came out as I washed the smelly white cream off. It had been applied then polo bandaged into place. Animals are a way their flying monkeys reply.
Sadly. Sorry your animal hurt. I had a cat shot by this group once...and attempted shooting of my dog...they're cowards...but enduring them forges a character of steel in us over time. Just an unpleasant experience as we wait for karma to visit them...........
And in the end it does.
Lol, I'm a revenge expert from way back. I'm an empath with narc traits and a VERY strong sense of justice. If someone is OK to me, I reciprocate. If not, I will move heaven and earth to pay them back with interest, and I don't care how long I wait. I waited 20 years to get back at a slimebag, patiently waiting for the right moment to strike, and when I did, the results were most enjoyable. For me, not for him.
I hit him at his status pillar, one blow after another, in one smooth action.
Of course, he knew it was from me, but he could never prove it. I heard about his raging and cursing, and rejoiced.
Even better, after years of no contact, quite by chance, he was driving through my suburb and spotted me having a walk. As I always wear hats and sunglasses, I'm able to look at people without them knowing it. He stopped the car and almost fell out of it. Total loss of control . Face purple with fury, hanging out of his car with head nearly touching the tarmac, his screaming so high pitched with mortal agony that I couldn't understand a word. That didn't matter. It was the hurt behind it that was important. On and on he went, 100% ballistic, and to me, it was a symphony orchestra. It wasn't even a human noise, not that I considered him human. It was the howl of a damned soul writhing in the bowels of Hell.
But not once did I acknowledge that I knew of his presence. Just kept gliding along as though he wasn't there. Didn't alter my pace or posture by one iota.
Eventually, his screaming made him so hoarse that he had to shut up, and, with a tremendous slamming of the door and foot hard on the accelerator, he took off like a bat from hell, narrowly missing a passing train.
That's many years ago, and his life has been steadily going down the drain. I don't want him dead. I want him to live with the knowledge that you should never, ever make enemies of the wrong people.
Brutal.
The Plataf best comment here. Love it. They continue to destroy and hurt others anyways.
That's beautiful. I'm quite impressed! Well done!
There aren't many people I want revenge on--for me, revenge tends to be a passing fancy, marked by much wild (and for me, highly cathartic) fantasizing with no internal need for actual fulfillment. However, I can think of one individual I've encountered in my life whom I will never forgive and whom I still wish to exact revenge on several years after being harmed by him.
At this point, it's not possible for me to attempt to seek any form of vengeance against him. Someday, that will change. It's heartening to know that, should I still feel the desire to serve him a little slice of hell some years down the line, revenge may well still be possible. Thank you for that!
A dish best served cold, indeed.
Sometimes I've just waited and revenge comes from the universe.
As bad as I want revenge right now, I’d probably end up not caring after 6 months like you said. But, let’s just wait this one out. The thought brings me joy. Probably emotional thinking though lol
How are you feeling towards the narc now? It's been 6 months. I just saw your comment
My sentiments exactly. I'm 2 months NC and I feel that I don't care enough to ever want revenge . so insignificant .
EMPATHS!! take this for what it is knowledge, period. Don't intentionally seek revenge on the Narcissist if it's ment to be it will come as naturally as your no contact came.
You being happy ... without them... is it’s own revenge!!!
The way you say "revenge" gives me a shiver....
Thanks HG... as always. Listening to and reading your work has given me logical thinking for the first time in my life. Once you helped me understand narcissism, I actually developed a mix of pity, disgust and admiration for them... depending on what they do. As you have said, it's a very helpful and sometimes necessary trait for those in leadership, executive, medical, etc. positions. I recognize narcissistic traits now and know that I should never let myself become emotionally invested in them. As long as I continue to refresh my logic with your work, I can navigate the world around narcissists now.
Although I personally don't want any type of revenge, I can't help but smile when I think about how you would handle a "meally-mouthed mid-ranger"!
I don't want to play revenge on narcissist. I wanted to be prepared for the revenge a narcissist might seek on me for escaping him, with our 3 young children. .
How did you do it?
I want revenge! He cost me everything but I can deal with that. I can deal with the 20 years of hell and torment he skillfully applied until I was a broken human being, but what he has done to our sons, I can't get past! The put downs making them feel like they are worthless, telling them they are worthless. I hate him and I want my revenge.
Good book to read is The Art of War by Sun Tzu. "The first principal of war is deception." Implement the shot once you know yourself and you know your enemy.
He had it and I have it, too.
No no no , no revenge .. leaving is good enough. That does not mean the police cant know xxx
God bless you HG. You’re helping people.🙂
Me first, others next.
@@hgtudor-theultra inspite of the tragedy i have to laugh out loud ...
No contact since 10 July 2020. Divorced him on 16 Oct 2020. He tried to hoover me a mont ago, just ignored him
How did he try to hoover you?
HG Tudor. He came to my house and wanted to speak to me. When I ignored him, he wrote me a letter, telling me he had a ring made for me. I burned the letter. He is blocked on my phone even on Fb
Well done on ignoring the direct physical hoover. Don't read the letter, once you know it is from him, stop any reading and bin it. Well done on blocking, consider changing your number to improve your NCR.
Every now and than he will trow a small rock at House we totally ignore him he doesn't hit window not talking a year totally block 3 monthes
I have No family, few acquaintances, son abandoned me because of ex husband smearing me since my son was little. I have a seasonal job in another state. This is my third year. I still haven't gone back home. My name is on certificate of title to his mobile home. ( he is a compulsive gambler) Decided to pull away from narc boyfriend and not go back. He is giving me silent treatment because I didn't come home for the holidays. He usually buys me. He just stopped paying my phone bill and next I bet he will stop helping me with car payment. He told me I can't come home. I am staying in a not so safe hotel. I blocked him in July cos he kept criticizing me and giving me silent treatments when I use to text him/head games. I feel like I am not going to make it so I am afraid to block him. I did email him about half of the car payments and how it will be sometime before I continue paying my share. I receive my unemployment benefits soon. He knows I always pay him back. He never answered my question about the payments. Don't know if I should totally block him from email and my phone? I did block him on FB in July 2020. That must have pissed him off. I am planning on moving to a different state with my cat but first I have to find cheap housing or stay at a domestic violence shelter. Still looking for full-time work.
No contact is not just cutting the narcissist off, but also cutting off anyone connected to them. Being born in a narcisstic family, even if you keep one family member in your circle, it will not work. I was only talking to one family member who was my cousin, and all the narcissist family members will contact her to contact me for something. They only knew me when they needed something from me. Anytime I said no to something they wanted, my cousin got blamed. They will tell her it's her fault that I don't want to help them. These people never cared to find out how I was doing, it was always about them and their needs. Just this year I had to cut my last family member off. I thought I could have a relationship with her without the family, because of her they knew all my business I did not want them knowing. I had enough and had to let her go. Many people find it hard to do this, but if they don't no contact will be unsuccessful.
Sounds amazing HG
please consider making more of the knowledge vault material in audiobook format, to circumvent severely diminished capacity to properly concentrate on books due to PTSD..
Is there something specific you want in audio format as a lot of the material there is in audio format.
Yes, the book you refer to here Revenge. Also the book Fuel. I’ll go back on narcsite, and have a closer look, Thank you
Thank you for clarifying. No, they are not currently available as Audiobooks. Currently, the only books of mine which are audiobooks are Narc Tales Volume One and Two. I will add to this and there is a wealth of audio material addressing lots of different aspects of dealing with narcissism, in The Knowledge Vault.
@@honoryourself2098 it will be good to have fuel and be bow to go back to some highlights. I love audios as well but this book is a precious to have in your hands.
@@hgtudor-theultra Yes Fuel and Revenge should be in audio. On Amazon those 2 books have a lot of great reviews, almost 5 stars.
Yes!! I have now maintained no contact for just over six months and I am now in assassin mode. He lives across the street from me and regularly his his ex before me, of about three years ago, over for long visits. I think it would be healthy and effective for him to see me with someone new, or even with a new car. What ever it is, it should be something that makes him feel like he was truly left in the dust, because he has been.
I have become a super empath after escaping a narcissistic marriage. I always attract narcissist because of my empathetic ways. The only difference is now I understand how they work and tick after years of studying them. Also being raised by narcissistic families I have narcissistic ways. I use all of these forms of revenge when I encounter them although I didn’t consider it revenge. I just like playing the game and always staying 2 steps ahead. My bleeding heart used to get me into lots of trouble and heartbreak always being thoughtful and kind. Now I’m just happy that I’ve learned how to defend myself against these bottom feeders.
You crack me up. I love the way you think, you are dead on. Thank you
Oh love your voice ioo.
Just today I had a wave of really wanting revenge, or at least be able to see justice being served for what he did and is currently doing to me. But much more than that I just wanna stop thinking about him altogether. 😫😫
Amen!!!
Thats the point, dont give those individuals your energy. Better than your revenge is indifference. No energy at all.
If he's engaging in criminal behavior, hold him legally accountable to the fullest extent of the law.
Amazing videos HG. Been helping me so much. My mind does go to revenge on occasion; I'm fighting the internal urge to do so, then losten to a video or meditate to try and find that peace and compassion i once had. For me, I'm not sure he is suffering right now. He lied to me the whole time, cheated, dumpster dived, made every excuse in the book to "not be ready for a deep committed relationship " because of his newly divorced/separated ststus. I later found out a abut 6 months after no contact ( he still kept me hoovered in via fb) i found out he was living with a woman 10 years younger, ( that part wasn't even as hurtful as the rest, I'm incredible at 55) corraled her into his life, as she needed a place to live, and found someone to share his rent and buy a house with. Clearly, he needs her as much as she needed him. Trauma bonding relationship. His true Narc leeching traits and that he can't be alone.
So for me, no contact is helping little by little. But Assassin revenge is definitely appealing. 💔
NO! NOT EVER! Is the biggest revenge ever. Nothing makes them madder. Then moving on and never looking back ever!
"If you kill a human it is like you kill the whole world, if you rescue a human it is like you rescue the whole world" be good
HG, thank you for helping me understand me
Do you ever say anything else?
@@redsquirrel1086 😂
5-6 months total silence is right:
I returned to my flat after 4 months total silence and the way he stalked & pounced was so menacing before I’d even got back into the house I’ll never forget it.
I did go straight to the police to get a restraining order, which I made sure he heard about, & which did work. Not on the character assassinations & lies which continue to this day 12 years later, but) the stalking/violence & theft/focus of me as a physical target, did cease.
“I’m a psychopath I don’t get effected by the emotional thing cuz I’m cold” yooooo your had me rolling on the ground when I heard that
Bravo..... HG. Great job as always ❤
I was too emotionally involved several years after the disengagement, the cognitive dissonance was overwhelming , I only managed to avoid a small hoover attempt 3 years later, but year after that he got his surprise party..and I didn't even have to do much. But it's true....at the end of it, few hours later, I was physicaly tired of keeping the wall of ignoring up and felt sorry for him when I saw the devastation.
So did you go back??
@@alannaconnolly7224 Hi, Alanna....no, no...god forbid!... But he got himself a slap on the face. And another one last year at the mass and a drink before and after the mass for our friend who died of suicide. I just had to ignore the shit out of him.
I did all 3 without knowing
It is just common sense
It like controlling fire
Keep a distance then
Snuff it out
I kept myself exposed to get wounded over and over until my emotional thinking was erased
Wow very insightful thanks for educating us HG 😉🤐
I confess that a couple of days ago I inflicted a ‘jam tomoro ‘ type revenge which spectacularly backfired when I eventually gave in to him again out of soft hearted ness . He asked for a birthday gift 🎁 of some 500 quid motorbike tyres . But I said I didn’t want to make his new girlfriend jealous and suspicious (he was in the hoovering me back stage) so I bought him a gift that was different and half the price . When he started screaming abuse that my gift was stupid and worthless I took great pleasure in laughing at him and telling him that he had ‘failed the test’ and that I had intended to buy him the tyres as well but only if he had passed the test and been grateful for the lesser gift first . “But you failed the test so now you get nothing “ I said as I laughed calmly in his face . I enjoyed my revenge and I enjoyed his anger . However the barrage of insults and ball breaking and pressure and tears and promises afterwards led me to be exsasperated and fall for another of his tricks ..... not because I believed him but because I was exasperated and wanted to be rid of him .... I ended up giving in and helping to buy the tyres ... angry at myself . I’m still not sure weather the brief high and sense of satisfaction whilst he was horrified at his mistake was worth it !! Sometimes the game is fun and unfortunately sone of us are so insecure and have such low self esteem we become addicted to the type of extreme compliments we recieve during the golden period and any normal level of compliments and attention becomes unsatisfactory to fuel US !!!
The Queen said: "Two pence a week, and jam every other day."
Alice couldn't help laughing as she said, "I don't want you to hire me, and I don't care for jam."
"It's very good jam," said the Queen.
My revenge is walking away and going no contact, for myself not them, just for me, educate myself so the bs won't happen again, me just not caring about them really helps out, everyday she wakes up in looks at the ageing Narcissist is the only revenge,no revenge is the best revenge.and one thing about it karma has there address 🤣 believe that.
Diabolical HG. I’m just filling my boots ...expected to hear about the narc being spiteful. I know I’ve wanted revenge previously. Your work has helped me get perspective.
Thanks again.
Thank you for this helpful information.
Now I’m really curious so I need to get the book.
I wouldn’t do it but I had a good laugh fantasizing you manipulating him through me lol it would be hilarious.... it gave me thought fuel lol 😂
Reminds me of a video I watched of Resident Evil, the player kept getting attacked because he wanted to hit the vampire on the butt with a fly swatter.
Best revenge is doing nothing toward the narcissist and such person and doing better in life. Once getting to know the person is a narcissist a gram of energy wasted on such person is too much gift it is beyond what he/she is worth and deserve. Life is short walk away let life and time do it’s job and no body does it better .
Give them focused attention indifference , aloofness followed by brilliant thinking
Great video HG Tudor thanks for sharing all your your krafts in the ways of your kind really dig your new revamped channel in how you put the pictures in the video lot of digital art themed with each topic and I really love that countdown meter!🤟😎💯
You are welcome.
I've actually thought about the Jam Tomorrow - Give them what they want n then take it away- technique before I heard of it. And I agree, the right dosage is tricky. These people, Narcissists, are evil robots who are always one step ahead.
The assassination is by text messages. Its cool and entirely logical from an arms length after six months to year and a half of no contact. I aim and fire again and again and again. Also, I threatened a change of puppy custody, but with no follow through...as yet... I have no desire to make him suffer without providing him a way to save face. I hope to eventually reform him toward his eternal salvation, but from a distance.
Sounds a little like Spy vs Spy from Mad magazine!
By the way I laughed my a** off through this whole video I loved the way you You say "there will be an adverse effect" lol
I laughed 😃 and laughed when you say that HG!
He came damn close to getting a TRUE assassin's revenge...😈 too close.
I almost drove 3hrs to get mine. I know me so I immediately dropped to my knees. When I get like that , Only God can stop me.
I know I am capable of this so no recent narcissist has ever seen me at my worse.
The best revenge in these cases, is our happiness.
It is, so long as it originates from a no contact regime.
Living well is the best revenge
Great advice great content!!! Hg Tudor 🥇👏🏾
Thank you.
Time to heal the gift of no contact
H.G 👤 Thank you
You are welcome.
I have never been a vengeful person, two months no contact already though. And the various hoover attempts are not working.
You are just a guru......
What is an example of assassin's revenge?
After no contact for many years he is now testing the waters by texting me.... and is managing to to push himself into my thoughts where he is not welcome.........I am still not comfortable revisiting this unhealthy part of my life on any level.........
Don't Fuck it up people LOL
The day after the children and I left him, he contacted us, by mistake my mother let him in. As usual he promised things would be better, all the same as usual and bla bla bla if we just would come back, I simply said NO. He stared at me and asked if I stopped loving him and started hate him, so I said that in fact I didn't love him neither hate him, because he was not worthy that kind of strong feelings. He left and after that I haven't talked to him face to face, I changed my phone number and blocked him every where, even changed my bank account. People are telling me he looks like a shadow of his former self, but every time I feel a nick of pity for him, I just remind myself of the night he woke me up by kicking me in the side as hard as he could, breaking one of my ribs and benting two others.
Wow! I want to affect “assassins revenge”. I need this to stick a fork in it.
I’m going to buy your book Revenge. No contact since July 2020 after 3 years of intimacy. I believe he falls on the mid-greater category based on all the videos I’ve watched, knowing how he calculates and reacts in a calm demeanor. Not caring that I know of his other women. I know what I’ve done “wrong” in his eyes, I used him for sex and constantly whiplashed the attention I felt like giving him afterwords, only reached out when I wanted more sex and ignored his in between attempts to get more out of me. His devaluation matched your explanation precisely, had me waiting for him at specific locations for hours several times, then acted like it was my fault that we didn’t end up meeting up. My question is, does the no contact have to go both ways? He still reaches out to me 1-2x a month, I love watching his failed attempts and still not a word or anything else from me. I am even more emotionally unavailable than I ever was to begin with, I feel it is nearly impossible for me to fall into his trap again especially with all the knowledge I now have and dont/won’t believe a single word or act he does. Knowledge is power and I want that, excited to read your book.
Been there… the charm, the kindness, the whole range. After some time, the charade started… BUT , having a narcissistic mother, I have a very fine tuned BS meter. I know who I am, what my worth is and do NOT attempt to cross my bounderies. At a certain point in time and that was rather a short period, Just like that, I took a 180 degrees turn inside my own head and gave him mentally, the middle finger. Thanks to my abusive mother, my tolerance for bullshit became very close to zero. So one evening, at a party, I had the honest to God uncontrollable giggles as a result of him trying to put me down in public. I hiccuped: nice - hic - try.
He ran for the hills. May he have had a good workout.
I get it that most of us want to take revenge. It is a natural reaction to abuse. Trust me, being an only child with a mother like mine, I’ve been there, done that. It backfires and you will end up being more hurt than you already are. Don’t. Instead, know yourself, take pride in it. Know your worth… for that, take a good, long look in the mirror. Why do you accept being treated like this? Admit that you have issues if you do, no shame in that. Then, take a long and good look at the person in front of you and most importantly, how hé/she makes yóu feel. There is nothing wrong in having a sane amount of self care. If the scales are tipped the wrong way, well…
Granted, those of you being married to the sucker, with children, are in a real jam. Maybe you should consider getting HG Tudor’s active assistance to protect your children and get and kéép them out.
For the rest of us: well… why not try to do the following excercice: try to look at your narc through another pair of glasses. Walk mentally around the moron. What makes him/her powerful? Could it be the importance that you yourself grant him/her?
Now imagine that that same person is boring, predictable, uninteresting to you and your inner life… while you’re at it, why not explore that inner life further? Have you honestly tried to crawl into your own head to reconnect to what you used to truely find interesting and what used to make you happy?
Repeat after me: my narc is boring. Predictable (in his unpredictzbility). Uninteresting. Laughable. Small. A fly! -swat-
Repeat again
Repeat again
Keep on repeting until you’re finally convinced of that simple truth.
Then let your laughter bubble to the surface. 😂 And slam the door. Or the other way around. Whatever.
Come on people, come oooooon, try. It works, you know.
Let me finish with a kiss to you 😘 Here you go. And a big smile 😃
I’m off now. I watched the whole series except the ones about the celebrities since I don’t give a fig want they do or not do. It was mighty interesting to hear the other side. Confirmed what I already knew too. Thanks Hg
The Universe’s Vengeance is what I received. This was a man who ruined my young life, & who because he had influence, took my two children, whose lives he warped. This poor excuse for a human being insulted me EVERY TIME he saw me, on every occasion where we had to show up together. For 50 years this went on, & then it happened... I heard that he had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s.
On the next occasion where we had to both attend, I was sitting down when he came over & sat down beside me. And he looked at me, & said those magical words... “I know who you are” But he clearly couldn’t put a name to my face!
The heavens opened up, as I looked at him & said, “Yes, you do”. And I got up, & walked away, never to see him again. This selfish narcissist could not insult me, BECAUSE HE NO LONGER KNEW WHO I WAS. It was wonderful!
And 5 years on, he died last week, & now is where he can do no more damage.
I experienced the Universe’s revenge in an amazing way. He crushed me and then the pandemic came in and crushed him. There were coincidences within that which were uncanny.
I don't know if I would have the guts but I would be doing it for my sister and that is a very strong driving force. Getting the book and thinking of becoming an assassin.
All I can say is if you seek revenge, don't expect you can win.
Don't even expect the old adage that revenge is digging 2 graves.
If you seek revenge w these types, dig your own grave. One grave. And ull regret it. Ull punish urself AND ull be punished by them.
You can't beat the narcissist.
Ur emotional thinking is making you feel that way.
Learn everything you can about these people.
Because once you know, you go. You GOSO.
Then you can finally "GOWYL" :(get on with your life), because you've been educated, and you want nothing to do with these exes ever again.
Because that's the best "revenge" .
Life - love - and happiness is your priority. Pursuing your goals or dreams and having healthy relationships that are realistic are your priority.
I try to do 💯 percent no contact, but they always have people around, thank you!!
The Hoovers. It sounds like an illness . " You look a bit under the weather. Is there anything I can do for you? " "I've got a case of the Hoovers for which there is no cure except not to take the medication". HG, you are somewhat of a comedian
Your description of the sniper was delicious, HG
No contact is a healthy strategy for preserving your own sanity, but there is no justice, no solution, no progress, no nothing other than you yourself getting away. . I understand that starving the narcissist from at least my fuel feels horrible to the narcissist, but it doesn’t stop them from spreading their virus. I want to quarantine that virus rather than take revenge.
My god yes he sees me as an object. When we were married he said he owned me. Now two yrs after divorce he just said he feels like he still owns me. How crazy. I have minimal contact cause we share a daughter unfortunately.
HI HG Tudor,
Can a narcissist become obsessed with an appliance? And what is it about this particular appliance that causes the narcissist to become obsessed? Thanks
I believe you will find that the appliance has an association to something (someone) else that gives this narc fuel.
I'm not a narcissist but I believe they can. My ex narcissistic psychopath has came back 3 or 4 times since the first ending.
They pick us for a reason. They believe they own us. They don't just pick any person they normally go after an empath and I believe they can smell us from a mile away and maybe by just out profile picture on a dating site.
Who knows, only HG himself would and hopefully he will eventually answer your question.
I know my ex narcissistic psychopath very well. Probably more so then he knows.
Just like when I'm painted black he never blocks me from texting or calling him. He might not answer or reply but I know he listens if I leave a voice mail or reads the texts that I sent.
Just like I knew when I wished him and his family a Happy Thanksgiving that I would probably get one back. And he did. I just don't quite know which type of narcissistic psychopath he is. Im pretty sure a dangerous one, but there is some reason I am still here. He did say I reminded him of his mother right before he kissed me and were to be intimate which I thought was pretty weird, but there is a reason I'm still here but maybe one day I will disappear, who knows, only HG would know.
God bless 🙏💞😉
like a computer?
Revenge.. front & center!! I can dream can’t I??
HG I’m physically wounded after a physical assault. Pushed on concrete. 4 years later I’m suffering. Please help me. I’m only a 53 yr old with 2 bulging discs , and spinal stenosis. He had my autistic son. Bringing him to trial. Xo
Omg how are you now? 🙏🏻🌸 I hope you’re okay I found this channel after realising that I was dating a narcissist I didn’t even know what a narcissist was till I was actually in a relationship with one and I’ve got no contact for five weeks now he’s been round three times and I’ve got a letter yesterday I just tore it up I didn’t even read it but he hit me and I think that the beatings were gonna get a lot worse, I hope you are okay and you reply 🤗
imagine if we had video footage on youtube of jam tomorrow that would be so interesting