Her teacher called her fat, now she is starving herself to death saying she detests fat people | LNN
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 ก.ย. 2022
- Nothing hurts a parent more than seeing their child's health deteriorate. Priscilla knows this pain all too well.
Her 13-year-old daughter Kendi hates everything to do with food, water, and being fat.
Just like the majority of us, she added a couple of kilos during the lockdown period but all got worse when her teacher started referring to her and a group of girls as the big five, a thing that reduced her self-esteem to zero
Almost a year later, she has dropped over 25 Kgs from 55 Kg, has been admitted to the hospital multiple times, lacks sleep, struggles to wait, and still feels overweight
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Good morning team LN:)
What myths and misconceptions have you heard about anorexia? Do you think it is about time society stopped bodyshaming?
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Thank you so much for watching:)
1. I'm glad i am learning.
It was my suggestion. It hurts for a parent to undergo that.
@@Barakasfamily heck what 😞😞😔😔 this kind of men still exists oooh noo
Lynn There is more deeper
MOLECULAR PSYCHIATRY!!!!!
y can't she use FP if the she is still with the man bcz he can 4ce her to av sx nd avng all those problems. y can't she report to the nearby authority bcz that man may do something to hurt her 4rever cz he's threatening to kill them,
Your skin isn't paper, don't cut it.
Your face isn't a mask, don't cover it.
Your body isn't a book, don't judge it.
Your life isn't a movie, don't end it.
Your heart isn't a door, don't lock it.
You're beautiful.
Nice
Ukweli.
Let’s first agree some teachers are the biggest bullies we have encountered in our lives. Such a SHAME 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Sorry to this mom ❤
Kwanza my former primary school
Can't agree more.i have been bullied enough
I know I lost my self esteem in high school
But mine worked for me.
I made sure I went to the university.
cant agree less my teacher used to make fun of my ears and worse of all angesema in his vernacular language ju sikua naelewa n the rest of the class would laugh..i used to feel bad untill i work on my self esteem
This is something I kept saying over the years because of the bad experience my girls encounter. A teacher can make you or break you. This illness is no joke. I wish Abigail and her family all the best. Sending love from Jamaica.🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲
I am a teacher and like I often say, in the modern day 21st Century teaching, you have to be extremely tolerant and respectful with your students. This job is noble and way beyond just curriculum implementation. Treat your students with the dignity they deserve, be patient and take care of every word you speak to them because every word spoken within the hearing of children and students for that matter, tends towards the formation of character. If you can't manage or control your emotions as a teacher for whatever reasons, you'll end up being abusive, frustrated and ultimately your students will suffer emotionally, psychologically and worst of all physically. Insults, abuses, body shaming and all that kind of nonsense against students, portray nothing but the picture of a half-baked teacher. Teachers, be tolerant and respectful to children and blessings will come your way.
Mr Baraza.
Tolerance! Love this :)
Wonderful teacher
Mr. Baraza you have summed it up 💯
@@LynnNgugi you need to pin Baraza’s comment
Please. Please pin Mr.Baraza's comment.
I was a Teacher too
Let's not forget the mother, she is also stressed, she needs counseling too. She is so strong. Hugs mummy.
I’m literally crying juu Huyu mama ako depressed
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I have never a heard a well spoken, articular girl like this...at this age...her IQ is quite something else..she is extremely brilliant.
I love how Lynn interviews the kid, gives her time to express herself,goes ahead and gives such good advice..
This girl is so eloquent and so in touch with her emotions,she is so self aware and she articulated it so beautifully. I hope she gets better.
She is so articulate daamn.I hope she gets better for sure
She speaks so well awwww🥰🥰
It's so sad how most people have no idea how damaging body shaming can have on someone long term. Eating disorders are tough!
I was body shamed as a child and I’m 48 years old now and I’m still traumatized by it
@@Not-the-usual-BS it takes time and patience within the family and also others. Please get Help before it gets worse.
Yes they are it’s the cruelest thing to be cursed with especially when your an innocent child getting tormented by mentally sick adults! I want that teacher to get fired! The damage she caused this girl is lifelong!
Babygirl speaks so well...I love her English and the way she chooses her words carefully...she seems like she knows what she really wants and the type of body she wants. How I pray for her to find healing coz she even sounded hesitant when Lynn tried to convince her to add her portions. I'd really love to see her back in your show a few months later having faced her fears and able to eat so well as in the right portions.
I also noticed she's really affected by what people say how she looks like. Babygirl's self esteem is so low and takes people's comments very seriously. How I wish she'd be taken through a session that makes her learn about her self worth, keep her mental health in check and get a way to bring back her self esteem.
I wish babygirl and her family healing and pray that this storm will be over. Hugs to the family
Hugs to you too... Your comment is so endearing! You are precious. Thank you, and God bless you
Can we just appreciate the parents for being so humane and understanding. Most of us had ruthless parents. So sad that teachers are the big bullies in school. So many cases of teachers shaming children for things they cant change
Kabisa
I've been chubby since childhood and the bullying! I've been called every name in the body shaming book by strangers, teachers, friends, family and even my very own parents. I taught myself self-love and best believe! I LOVE ME.
I too aki nowadays i don't bother
😍
Pole
Self love is very important. Anytime someone Body shame me, I always tell them that mbinguni tutapewa new bodies. And by and by big body to me is no big deal.
As a teacher, I understand how this can affect a child throughout his or her life.Early childhood experiences can break or make a future.
I homeschool my child because of this kind of teachers
Some teachers can
@@stargate356 I don’t blame you
When I was in primary,I use to be a very good artist and my teacher would beat me thoroughly till one time I almost dropped out of school ,it took me two weeks to go back to school by then I was I class 5. This made me get scared of drawings to an extent I would see a nice painting or drawing but would see a demon Behind it and would get so scared that I could spend days without sleeping. Ian left handed and my dad too would beat me thoroughly fo using my left hand. This two insidents brought alot of confusion in my brain till to date .So when my son's teacher stated calling my son scattered brain and telling him to draw his father even when the child told her that he comes from a single parents home, I resulted to homeschooling. Not all teachers are bad but there are those who are like agents of satan who are sent to bring destinies down ,destroy and even kill because we have children who have committed suicide because of some teachers.
I just changed my daughter from private school nikampeleka kwa gover some teachers wanaeza kuulia mtoi na stress
When are we going to stop body shaming others? This is really bad and I hope those calling others fat or thin get to learn that it's uncouth!
True
🤣🤣I had a funny encounter though . A man approached me but unfortunately he couldn't date me since he said " am too slim " of course i didn't expect that but it made me die in laughter . Thank God i got strong self-esteem . That never made me die in the kitchen though . The beautiful lady needs to understand that she's beautifully created and nobody should ever down grade her! Kula mamii hii maisha ni fupi kuskiza watu. Eat, eat and eat
The mother needs therapy too, she is indeed affected.
LYNN you are doing a good job.
"Be careful what you say. You can say something hurtful in ten seconds, but ten years later, the wounds are still there." -Joel Osteen
This is true....
The only waistline I want from my girls in high school is no pregnancy. I'm a principal and all my girls are well fed like their mother. We run once a week ...cross country and you should see us at various stages holding our heads. Just let your girl child know we are built in God's image. I really sympathise with this lady, there are internet sites that encourage girls to be anorexic. They watch and also display their skeletal bodies online. I saw it o n supersize vs superskinny
They should consider seeing a psychiatrist who specialises in food disorders (anorexia nervosa, bulimia, and binge eating) rather than a general mental psychiatrist. There are many mental disorders generalised by psychiatrists but this case is extreme and I think it would be better to find a psychiatrist for this particular disorder.
Also consider therapy, use a therapist that specialises with anorexia nervosa. I hope she gets well, love and prayers to her and family.
This will be much better
Unfortunately being Kenya, I'd think they'll be rare but I hope and pray they find one.
This conversation is super important and so triggering at the same time.As someone who was body shamed in my early twenties, I can relate. It took me 3 years to accept my body. I would work out in the morning for an hour and in the evening. And in the two years I was consistent with working out...I never stopped to appreciate my body. I just kept going and with a certain weight goal in mind and body figure. It was the most exhausting journey. So sad to hear what she is going through. I wish her healing and acceptance and that there is no perfect body.
Watching this has made me so emotional because I went through a very similar experience....what worked for me was the change of environment when I went to high school and there was a whole change on the attitude towards food and weight. This definitely needs more awareness .
I understand her, I grew up this big chubby baby till I was around 17 years, so when I was in class 5 my Maths teacher was punishing me because I had dropped in my maths paper that particular exam, she was bitting me telling me that "this's not a fattening zone" and since that day I started wishing I was this slim, I began to hate the fact that I was fat because everytime when I remember my teacher had told me nlkua naskia vibaya, so I stated hating my body and wishing I was slim, so later on in life around 18yrs I finally lost weight up to 40kgs i.e bythetime I was joining campus, so right now I'm around 48 na siezi tamani kugain zaidi ya hapo because nkikumbuka "this's not a fattening zone" makes my esteem go down
Sorry 🥺 gal
So sorry for that. May you heal. You can seek therapy
That little girl is very smart, her English is like that of a college professor, I wish she gets help fast
The part where the mother told us about the sister being worried💔💔just broke my heart 💔
The way Lyn interacted with the girl is on another level ✋
Yeah gold standard. I deleted my other comment saying that it looks like *she* can solve this problem
I admire the courage of this mother, how some of us didn't have. The impact of body shaming in childhood can destroy your self-esteem long-term. For this young girl Anorexia is a small part, rather its an outer manifestation of the root...The psycho-emotional abuse she experienced ancored her soul deep in rejection, self-rejection and resentment.
Body shamind is a nasty form of abuse that people just embrace like its nothing, especial for women. I was body shamed for being fat in school, and bullied/gaslighted at home for not being an active child. For several years I tried loosing weight unsuccessfully. I hated my body, and didn't feel the need to take care of myself. I thought I was really ugly because I was fat and not good enough for not being active enough. It's now in my 30s, I realised I grew up as an "lost child" raised by a narcissistic parents. I had to study to understand what I was unconsciously going through, I spent months studying books on psycho-emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse and complex PTSD.
Thank you for sharing this experience. It's so sad. You have helped other parents going through the same quietly.
This child will recover from this disorder and she will be a testimony/advocate for children and adults struggling with such conditions. Lynn, I must applaud you once again as to how you have interviewed this young lady and her mother wow amazing. You definitely have a calling and I’m glad you are helping people. You are much appreciated
Love from 🇨🇦
I agree with you 💯
My thoughts exactly. This will turn to be a testimony
Wow well done Lynn for covering such important/difficult subjects.💛💙 Prayers to this mama and her daughter and anyone experiencing an eating disorder. 🙏🏽💛💙💛💙🙏🏽
I can relate. I had larger hips as a teenager. I was always getting body shamed. I lost the weight at age 17 because of the teasing and weight shaming. Even after I lost the weight and had a healthy weight of 52 kg, I was still getting called fat. I got anorexic at some point; I used to binge eat and purge for the longest time. At some point my weight dropped down to 45kg. Doctors could not find my blood pressure. One day I met an old friend and he told me he was afraid I was sick with “the disease.” I was like forget this slimming sh*t. I stopped purging. I don’t even exercise that much anymore. I watch what I eat. My colleagues say I’m skinny.
That therapy talk Lynn you had with her I so believe it will do magic❤️❤️❤️, I just love the way you put yourself in her shoes and how you brought her out of it. I really hope she will come out of it ❤️like a star ✨ she is. She also have low self esteemed, her mom is doing a great job , but I think it's high time not just going to the church together, but doing some activities together and also being the number one to appreciate her by boosting her self esteem which seems to be have been affected by all negative talk at school etc
It's so surprising hearing a 13 year old talk about calories.
Si anawatch TH-cam...my nephew ako twelve or thirteen na anajua almost everything because of phone through TH-cam
I was body shamed for years for being so skinny, called 1gb, questions like "kwani hukuli"had public comments and it messed so much with my mental health and confidence. It's sad to say that even now as confident as I've grown to be when I lose a little weight and I'm not as skinny it really bothers me a lot and I will get so uncomfortable and try to eat and eat or keep weighing myself everyday. Body shaming is something that should stop because it really messes with somebody so so bad.
This is normal to me , I never knew that its body shaming. I have always been 1gb
Its true I'm also skinny and my younger brother is taller /💪💪 .I look like a kid walking together with him,but I'm ok.
My daughter went through this she was very skinny and all you could see was her ears. One of my neighbors kids used to tell her she might be having Aids, she will come home crying and telling me what was going on I remember that particular day I was in a bad mood,I hold her hand we went straight to that girls house met her mum and I explain to her why I'm there and we had a conversation between them two, the girl was told to apologize and the following day I went to school.
I went to the headmaster's office I explain to him my problem and I told him if these kids body shame my daughter I will take care of myself and I don't care going to jail, quess what the headmaster took that case seriously and my daughter started enjoying going to school but then those days parents could do anything.
Story of my life.... I even stopped visiting some relatives coz I hated to be asked why is your sister bigger than you
During my time I also never thought people were body shaming me until I matured. I was very skinny and one student used to tell me to put stones in the pocket to avoid being taken away by wind. Now in my 50s still slim and I care less. I learnt to love myself.
So true,I learnt my lessons after someone told me never tell/call a child something that can affect their own health and mental health too.
Thank you Lynn for what you do!! God bless your work always!! ❤️❤️❤️
This story broke my heart, I feel the pain for her & her family!! People should be careful with what they say especially to young kids who are still trying to figure out who they are.
I’ve always been that skinny girl, part of it being genetics & part being an athlete. I was teased a lot, being told I look like letter “I”, 1gb & I hated it such that when I went to a country that really values size 0/1gb, I was always bitter when people complemented me on my shape!! (Different world). Anyway, big or small body, the comments do affect you!! Stop assuming skinny people are happy with it!! Maybe they are going through something too.
Lastly, Dr. Vundi is absolutely beautiful!!
As a naturally skinny/slim person I have done through body shaming and it affected me for so long until I got to campus when suddenly I'd get compliments about my 'size zero'. At first I'd think they're lying but I started looking at it from a different angle. Unfortunately the damage the bullying did still makes me want to gain weight and I end up eating fatty foods thinking I'll gain weight but i end up with high cholesterol... I wish her well because until we learn to accept ourselves for who we are, it will be a long journey.
Mi ni opposite,,, nko plus siz sahii mi huwaambia as long as the weight haiumi waachane nayo ni yangu 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Size gb but the difference between you and me is that I don't have appetite . I am just underweight
Really sorry this child went through body shaming and it has affected her to this extent. I hope she heals ❤️
Thanks Lynn for these insightful stories ... We need to start calling out those body shaming others weather is social media or in our schools .. It's unacceptable!
One thing I know about early childhood experiences is that their impacts are long term if not permanent. As a teacher, Afadhali nidanganye ama nikosee mtu mzima than a child.
@@teacherfaithdavid that's right ✅️ children do not forget what made them feel sad, and that's how trauma happens.
@@ruthgitum155 still they should be careful evil possessed and majini in schools are there.
This condition is what I am going through since i was young and we took it as a normal condition because sometimes I go two days without eating instead of having tea, thanks for this mom today to open up my mind and eyes. I will work out of this
Mental torture,body shaming and low self esteem kills more quickly than we may imagine.....having encountered such it's just so bad...Lynn you such a gem keep touching lives ❤️
I’ve experienced all three of those things since I was 8 years old… evil and heartless people torment innocent children
I think what kendi needs is also a nutritionist who will explain to her importants of certains foods....Reasons/foods that led her to being big and also what she should avoid and what she really needs for her body at the same time be healthy.
Lynn thanks for giving her that hug. She needed it so bad. 🤗 ♥. You're such a blessing.
Lynn you're a gem of a human being.
I can relate to this. I took my daughter to a school in siokimau (camelite sisters) for an interview which she sat and passed very well (This is after the corona long holiday). However , the school head teacher commented that the my girl is too big and actually she would be the biggest girl in school and thats how she declined from joining that school and we left while in tears.Shame on you bully teachers!
Sad
What a shame..how dare a Head teacher, someone expected to be a leader, made such a comment on a prospective student? That Carmalite school head should not be getting a school...what a shame.
Tell your daughter she is beautiful just as she is...you love her just as sge is...and that the carmalite head teacher is simply vain in her thinking.
Anorexia is real, a triggered condition and body shaming is actually one sure way of igniting it. I pray that we all learn...
Mama, and you left without putting that teacher in her place? Sisters are the worst human beings in this earth.
From my primary school, secondary to my nursing school have gone through these human beings called nuns they have no heart.
@@beingkeemie26 heartless beings those ones. I can relate
@@phyljohns7778 wachana tu, aki those women can frustrate you to the core.
I was 16yrs 44kg adi naambiwa nifungiwe Kwa Mawe nisibebwe Na upepo.nilifil vibaya adi Na vaa sweater tatu.now am 22yrs old Na 72kg and am happy now.
I was in form two
This is so heartbreaking! Someone commented on my video today asking if I’m pregnant coz I’ve put on weight 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️. I just told him/her yes!
Oh my, even you our girl? You should have told them it's none of their business 🤦. Why can't people respect others and just mind their damn business?😬😬
@@sonyia7521 Wueh I get lots of comments on my weigh but I’m working on it. I’m not taking carbohydrates I’m on a raw vegan diet for the past 2 weeks! I was persuaded by my friends here in Zambia to taste some beef and just a slice of it made me so guilty! I’ve lost few kilos but it’s too slow coz of my low metabolism rate. Hopefully I lose about 25Kgs.
I'm also trying water fasting I can't wait to see the results hopefully by December!
Sorry dear. Wish local women celebs could do a "No body shaming campaign".
Teachers teachers, children of nowadays are so aware of anything negative said to them. Be cautious what you say to kids pls,thank team Lynn for this.
top 1 😊
I truly think you have an extremely focused kid here....she just need to find how to use her energy positively through understanding herself and her body.
I have never forgotten a teacher who told me I will amount to nothing and that my parents will never manage to educate me...I don't know why some teachers are bullies. That young girl will be fine with therapy..let us watch our words...words are damaging. LYNNE you are such a compassionate interviewer..you didn't judge baby gal at all. You are kind
Lynn is Soo honest and genuine.. much love 🥰🥰🤍
There are many thoughts but today I just want to give you, Lynn, your flowers!!! Best interview yet. Compassionate, inquisitive and attentive.
Someone and students kept telling my daughter she is black as a monkey in school.
Good thing is everyday I had made it my priority to assure her of her beauty and appreciate her beauty.
I used lupita as her inspiration and it has worked wonders these days ot doesnt bother her
I never knew I was black until I relocated to mombasa, and they used my complexion as an example . I just laughed it off, I thank God I have never taken those things seriously 🙏
Tell her black is beautiful, melanin all the way. Some students can be arrogant fools 🙄🙄🙄
Ilm
Mm nliitwa black mamba😭😭
@@moulineakongo8355 the last time I visited tz, people on the streets called me cheusi🤣🤣🤣🤣
Body shaming is such a menace in our society especially having everyone around you making you feel you should be otherwise... Parents and teachers should be very careful
Lynn is such a sweetheart! God bless you for this wonderful job you and your team do. You cover very important matters and I'm so glad we have you!
Am 29years and I still remember what my math teacher told me in primary,,,I was really hurt,,all I can is please teachers and parents be careful what you tell children when growing up.
OMG story of my life... I've been through it all.... anorexia, bulimia wuueh....but I've found a balance between working out and eating right....but that's a struggle too...I remember at one point working out for over 3 hours just so I could be comfortable to have a meal... it's insane...who said thinner is better
Help my cuzo
Love yourself first and foremost.
Tell yourself...I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
God's design...unique.
@@bernardwamai-sermon4203 how can I be of help?
@@jennifermcwhortet7934 I have tried all the affirmations in the world but it's easier said than done
I understand what you are going through
I love Lynn's advice to the girl, I hope she tries to do it for herself and her family.
I can relate am 19 and that also this affected me a lot like body shaming in school by classmates and teachers where I felt i want to be slim like others and anorexia Nervosa also tried to affect me but I personally what I think saved me was my don't care attitude and stopped caring what people said about me and so far so good I came to love my body either 100kg or 40kg I came to love it .All i can say all we be well
Most of us suffer from this condition, with different age gaps but this one is too much... Lets embrace our bodies and keep fit in a healthy way..
Thanks Lynne, its an eye opener
Am 28yrs 95kg and still thriving
Naona tunashindana na wewe
Am praying she gets assistance as soon as possible, can't wait for the healing process testimony
Its so unfortunate to hear such nasty words from a teacher who's supposed to be a mentor. May the Lord heal that girl completely .
Body shaming has been our daily bread...I'm getting it everyday from people around me "aki uko na kitumbo kikubwa na hauna mtoto na ukipata Sasa utakaa aje"those are the words i have been receiving from people around me.... walai hii kitu huniuma and I can't do anything... nowadays I don't even want to wear certain clothes..it is really a painful journey 😭
We should be cautious with the words we utter they may build or demolish a child's life
Hope she will get better soon...she is such a lovely girl... beautiful voice, articulate and eloquent.
Nice topic right there. Teachers filter your comments before you say things to lower your students self esteem. Body shaming is not fun.
Very nice topic, I'm lucky my son tells me how the day was and what the teacher said. One time he asks, mummy are my teeth really bad? Shocked as I was, I composed myself and said no wayyyyyyyyyy, who said they were bad? He said our teacher. I told him you have the most beautiful teeth, I brought a mirror and we were all smiling together and telling him how we were twins, I called the younger brother too and changed the moment into something lovely with selfies while smiling and all, basically did everything to make sure it didn't get to him. Early morning next day, I was in the office of the director. Had never realised I can be a drama queen🙈🙈🙈I turned that office upside down and I'm glad I did it. Lots of visible changes in the school!!!
Eating disorder and personality disorder patient population is the most challenging to treat and care for. I really hope she will get the help she needs as well as her parents and siblings. My heart goes out to this young brilliant girl. So proud of the parents especially the mom for identifying the issue and seeking help for her child.
To anyone watching this, there is hope that is waiting you in the dark. You should know you are beautiful, just the way you are. And you don't have to change a thing. The world could change its heart. We are stars and we are beautiful.
Hugs mamaa,you're very strong keep going it shall be well,may God intervene in your situation
Thankful to good teachers who impacted our lives meaningful. A teacher is akin to a parent ❤️
Big is beautiful Lynn. You don't have to be slim and figure 8 to feel beautiful. It's sad that people make unreasonable comments not knowing what impact it will create on the person you are telling.
Girl needs to see me rocking my 85kg body at 5'2' ignoring everyone's concerns. Peace and appreciating oneself wholly at any point of your life is very vital. Body shaming is bad. And for a child succumbing to such in early childhood could impact greatly extending to other aspects of her life in the long run.
My twin,, im 92 and i love my body,, i dont care how people see or think about me,, i know im wonderful and fearful made
You are better I am heading to a hundred and I so pretty everyone admirers my hips
80kgs...5'1..very proud of my body.. I'm active and I do everything for my self and family.. I'm happy and thriving
Wonderful and fearfully made.
God said so.
Let us be grateful for great Health first and foremost
@@gracemuriuki6305 Amen.Amen.
Yes. Keep it tgat way Grace gracious.
Hello I am from Australia. I was very impressed with your attempt to help the young girl with Anorexia-& her family.I suffered from Anorexia nervosa for many years.Please get her mother to go online & find medical help. Also,there are plans the family can follow in the home.Please get psychological support as well as dietary advice.My love & best wishes to this young girl.She needs help quickly.Her brain is starving.She can't think rationally.Also,her heart is a muscle; it's being damaged.She is at risk of a heart attack.💞💟
Lynn, you're so good😍😍
Nakupenda bure....
I understand how she's feeling.Personally I've been body shamed since I was in primary school by teachers and it really messed my self esteem till date.My mum has always supported me.My man encourages me, he's really God sent.
Went through it especially in school...also teachers can be mean
Firstly,Lynn you are such a good interviewer. Keep up the good work.
Secondly, as a teacher, we need to pray for the spirit of discernment. Sometimes we might say things that as adults mean nothing but for a teenager it means so much. We know better we should do better.
Thirdly, as a plus plus size woman, I feel for this girl. I have fought with my weight and it affected my self-esteem, my relationships and my well being. Every day is a choice to live positively and fucus on the beauty of being big.
Good job Lynn for covering this story...We must watch it with our teens
😭😭😭😭body disphoria is a cancer ,mm I may have a few iss about my weight but I would never love myself any less , Wacha nisikize story and guys let's learn to love ourself in whatever shape we are in .
Body shaming is common in our schools.My daughter is undergoing the same problem and now planning to transfer her to another school after counselling.Its not easy for the parents.
True
I also went through it I can imajine
Woiyeeee
which school?
Also planning to transfer my sister it really sucks
My heart is breaking for the mum…throughout the interview she was trying not to cry…may her daughter get back her good health. God please 🙏🏽 Thank you Lynn for highlighting this very important condition..thanks to the expert on the information. God please take care of our children
Very insightful conversations. Thank you Lynn and Dr Vundi for enlightening many people on this important topic.
Nobody is going to talk about how Lynn was good at engaging the conversation with the little one. I hope she keeps close in touch with her, I believe she can challenge her on a deeper level .Just see how she changed her mind, positively in a short while .@Lynn👏👏
Thank you, God, for Lynn for bringing up this Topic. Let's also talk about us thin, slim people who can eat anything and not gain weight, I was bullied, and people commented on how thin I was; some even said I was HIV, and my parents gave it to me. I never fitted in, especially in Africa, where big behinds and breasts are considered beautiful; at a young age p,eople would say " na uje tu kuwa na muzungu", in school students would compete on who is strong by lifting me; they would take my arm and put it between their index and thumb finger to see how small I was. i will never forget this teacher he said " you eat like an ant, every break-time you are eating but where is the weight? huo utumbo umeanza on your toes? so i started starving myself, remember I was already underweight, my parents stood on their toes and called him out. fast forward, I finished high school, and in 6 months, I moved to the USA, I have always dated Caucasians I have never imagined my life with a black man, never even gave them a chance, even though I find them attractive ( i find any race beautiful). I am happily married to a caucasian. I think God decided to give me a muzungu; he saw how bullied and broken I was. I don't have to worry about big breasts and behinds. 39 years with 47kg and very happy and healthy, my doctors said so, i enjoy food l to the maximum and still no weight gains, you know what I am healthy and beautiful. Someone's weight isn't your concern unless they ask for your opinion; be cautious about what you answer, ask why they are asking if you are unsure, help them find professional help.
I relate so much to this😭 Being asked whether I am Hiv positive and that thing for holding your wrists and the way I have always had slim wrists. I had really low self esteem as a child but thank God it didn't affect me in the long run but slim shaming is a very real thing.
I've always been a big girl.....and I let so many people point that out ....till I got to campus and decided to embrace my big self....I put some serious boundaries when it comes to my body..... Anorexia is a very scary mental condition,I hope she gets all the help she can get,but more important that she will embrace her body and start healing from the inside.
True
may God speak to her in a special way..healing to be her portion.
Thanks so much Lyn for reaching out to so many people
Woi this is so sad. I have always been a chubby girl since childhood and I understand the trolls being called "kanono" all the time, I recall an aunty once came up to me during a party and she bashed me for just sitting at the dining table saying i eat a lot I remember as a small girl I was shattered 💔 thank God my dad stood up for me. People can be so mean, it takes knowing yourself after God...i was told I lose weight so that I get a husband 😂😂 let me just laugh, I walked down the aisle with my chubby self. May God reassure this precious soul, You are beautiful and God designed you the way you are for a reason don't kill yourself please ❤️❤️❤️
Lots of love
The girl is so well spoken and eloquent. She will be a great person in future…she will overcome this in Jesus name. God don’t let this girl fail to accomplish her dreams because of this condition.
I was almost traumatized by this kind of body shaming from classmates and teachers
I feel the mother, I went through such an experience like 15yrs ago, a female teacher once told my daughter "So and So you are fat yet your mother is so petite! He'll broke loose. ..........the teacher todate has lived to tell a story. I'm glad the official's in Ministry of education took action.
Take heart and support you daughter.
She is fine/ok with her weight.
"my life with a big body was very tough for me..." 😭😭 This broke my heart. Please let's STOP BODY SHAMING. Quick recovery Kendi 🙏 hugs mama Kendi
Eating disorders are real. They may not be so common in Kenya and Africa generally but they are there and it is good that we are finally talking about it. Kendi needs intensive psychotherapy and the continued love and care from the parents. She will be okay. Hugs. 😊
Amazing interview Lynn may God bless you and your team
As a teacher, who gave us the right to demoralise our clients? Can we be kind to them, they are human beings with feelings. We are crushing them with our words. Tukate midomo yetu. Kama sisi ni vielelezo, je uwanja huu twautumiaje? This has to stop
I work a lot with children in this condition and I can tell you for sure it's not easy for the parents. One thing I notice though these kids are very intelligent, stubborn and artistic in a way.
I will always say being a teacher is a calling..one must be loving, kind, understanding etc. The good teachers that we know or remember in a good way,are not even there for the money, it has to come from your heart..look at those who are doing it for a job, they are messing with other people's children's life.
She is such a wondeful and intelligent mother, May God be with her daughter
Prayers can change that situation too...
Whueh this was me in high school a teacher even referred to me as baby elephant, another one told me ningoje ni none nona yangu nikimaliza form four this really affected my self-esteem am glad I got out of that "Does anyone know how being the biggest child in the whole school look feels like I couldn't run PE was a nightmare was always scared when the teacher said go round the field, movement was by running I couldn't do it I was always in class..
During the holidays I would always lick the ndimu sold in sachets I would take like five in the morning at lunch I would skip meals but the funny things is when schools open my mum would always make me new skirts I did not understand why my body kept growing but I kept growing anyway. Nobody noticed my body changes were affecting me be it family or at school.Family friends were always making coments to my mum like "Na huyu mtoto wako unampea nini" Am glad I nolonger view myself through other people's eyes.I out came it am better am healed.
So sorry mamii
l went through the same for six months and it really affected everyone around me coz l was taken to 4 hospitals without anyone knowing what's wrong with me but deep down l knew l'm going through depression and bad body shaming but now l'm well
l hope she gets well soon lots of love ❤️
Very mature and good question to Abigail that make her feel relaxed such a good counsellor I have never noticed that may be a condition that really affect to that extent,,, learning really a lot and how to do with it,, wow
I feel so sad for her but mostly the parents it hurts when you feel helpless. That girl is also very intelligent may God see her through.