Does Physical Attraction Really Matter? | Kingsley Okonkwo & Mildred Kingsley-Okonkwo

[@bloosomojo6237]

I support Pastor Mildred because I wasn't attracted to my husband when I first saw him, but he has other attributes that swept me off my feet and today to God's glory we are 27 years together and our marriage is sweeter by the day.

[@blandinamyinga9489]

Glory to God

[@nursemgbachiamarachi]

I’m so happy for you….. congratulations to you

[@thywillolufunkeolayemi7075]

I tap from this

[@ponijada3697]

Awesome I Tap in this marriage, my portion the same in Jesus name Amen.

[@johnokonkwo9729]

Other attributes like his pocket?? Na question oooo .. lol, just kidding, but seriously, a man's pocket compensates for his physically short comings o, look at akpororo and his wife, I mean

[@chizynweze4165]

This is so true, I married someone who is not really phisically attractive to me. I did because he's so respectful, understanding, caring, tolerant & cool headed ( honestly, I'm short tempered and he can manage my temperament) . I'm so free with him like he's my biological brother. I had to cut off my female circle / friends back then because they kept mocking me that I must be blind to be dating him ( sincerely, he wasn't really that handsome / cute looking like I wanted back then but we just connect so well). We are now married for 12 years ( with 2 kids) and I'm very happy till date I chose him because I have rest of mind ooo and best Father to our children. Thank God, I didn't let my friends talk me out of the relationship 14 years ago. Funny enough, I no longer see him anymore as being unattractive physically as time progresses, I just love him so much despite our once in a while couple little little querrel which I think it's normal.

[@blessingOlu-A]

This comment right here ❤❤

[@sakerlyfri5182]

Such a beautiful comment

[@newgenerationmanwithsegunbash]

Wise woman 😊

[@krayonnesilva390]

Sometimes all these qualities you mentioned are what makes a man to marry late because of the way girls reason and perceive things

[@fabulousswag6683]

The misunderstanding often stems from women misconceiving what the concept of Physical or Natural attraction really is, in the context of a female,in contrast to a male and being naturally attracted to the male.
Attraction is asymmetrical in male and female.
What a man desires in woman in terms of physical attraction is not same with a woman in man.
It is due to the reason that what she needs and desires is the nature and structure of his mind,in terms of his ability to provide her security,freedom and leadership.
Can't be measured, and she do not have the tools to see and talk about it,ie articulate it. So on a norm,we do default to using what we can see and talk about, which is where the physical or material comes into play.
Naturally a female that prioritizes beauty/looks,ie physical beauty in
a mate for marriage,is operating out of her feminine nature and energy,thus she is out of her natural order.
And overtime will likely get stuck or loose the interest in it, and also will not likely have a deep rooted and seated sense of purpose,self and reason for the relationship.
The marriage will overtime change from a state of excitement and happiness out of the excitement of her sexual desire and interest (fun and pleasure), that drives her to prioritize and choose a man based on physical attraction of Beauty/Looks.

[@emmanuelsamuel2283]

Getting along is better than getting aroused...so powerful

[@momentwithdupsy887]

Physical attraction is important in marriage but not the most important thing to put in with…marry someone that trigger your hormones, marry someone that tickles your fancy, someone you like to some extents bcos you can’t grow what is absent

[@debbieforareason364]

amen to that!

[@mrbennett]

Getting along is more important than getting aroused. Bars!!!

[@hernandezebot1887]

😂 it’s the facial expression for me 😂😂😂

[@charmy_sikhondze]

Be rigid with internals but be flexible with externals 🙌🏾

[@apatavictoria557]

Can we take a minute to appreciate Pastor M’s beautyyyyy🥹

[@Ceciliasjourney]

She’s even more beautiful in person 😫🥺❤️

[@anuoluwapoademuyiwa]

"There's hope for you Mr. Short. Someone is going to marry you after this message."
Preach it pastor!

[@nahambohilma8598]

😂😂😂😂

[@elizabethadebimpe2240]

😂😂😂

[@88niteowl88]

There is a man pursuing me who is shorter, but very handsome nonetheless. Despite his height, he makes me feel safe emotionally, spiritually, and physically. I will consider being in a relationship with him if he makes his intensions clear.

[@dollarzakua6198]

​@@88niteowl88I pray he does soon

[@heritageojo7214]

@@88niteowl88pastor Kay said something like this will happen😅

[@esenamawudey1619]

I agree with Pastor M. Physical attraction matters but it shouldn't be the only factor.

[@chinesewithsarah8761]

My prayer is that God should make my husband my spec so when he comes i won’t struggle too much, Amen 🙏

[@kimadiggs237]

Amen 🙏🙏🙏

[@debbieforareason364]

amen!

[@fehlicitah]

I truly truly do love the honesty in pastor Mildred. Makes this more lively and authentic .

[@oghenerounuame4976]

The friendship between the both of you is undeniable … I tap from this grace 😊

[@consistanceplace8031]

There's hope for the short. All short people gather here. There's hope for us. PK and PM thanks for sharing

[@enugumabel6419]

😅😅😅 your comment got me laughing. Congratulations to your renew HOPE oo

[@slimpilot920]

😹😹😹

[@musahanny4187]

There is hope for us o 😂 let’s gather here 😂

[@neemajohnson7508]

😂😂😂😂

[@obiemmanuel2782]

This is just too powerful. Every single young person in the world needs to watch and listen to this. I am in that stage of my life where I have to make the decision of a life partner, and this video just confirms everything that has been going on in my head. Thank you so much for putting this out here. God bless you both tremendously.❤❤❤

[@ritakane2010]

For sure physical attraction is important, you should like who you want to spend your life with, it's one of many factors to put in mind when preparing to get married.

[@geegarleck2131]

I so much love this couple❤, Thank you so much. I've been married for 12yrs and I don't bother about the physical look rather the inward. And I must say God blessed me with a good man that that i wasn't really attracted to at the beginning I thought he was fat and I was scared he will grow bigger later in life. But to the glory of God my son looks so much like him and I always get alot of compliment whenever I go out with him. To crown it all God had also bless us with so much wealth. I thank God I look beyond the physical when we first met

[@asherchukwurah]

From this conversation you can tell thatching pastor Kingsley-okonkwo and pastor Mildred really love each other and they're GENUINELY enjoying their marriage ❤

[@mrbennett]

Be rigid on the internals, and flexible on the externals.

[@kashopatishikongo3110]

Pastor K's point of view is so loving and inclusive, and it's a nice compliment to Pastor Mildred who always keeps it real. I appreciate the two of you.😇😇😇😇

[@paparazicreations]

How do you not love Pastor Kingsley and Mildred ?
They are simply beautiful 😍 ❤
They are such a blessing to our generation and generations to come.
The testimony of their Marriage is a blessing to the body of Christ.
The friendship, the love, the compatibility, the peace, joy amongst them is excellent !!
Many thanks,
God bless you more Sir/Ma.

[@emmanuelogbe6809]

As in. So beautiful

[@FunmiOdedoyin]

Very sound and balanced teaching. Thank you! We love your love!

[@agnes-judith4230]

Amen!!! Thank you PK and Pastor Mildred. Such a blessing. 🎉❤

[@ellae3685]

I love this video 💗 It’s like being a fly on the wall watching 2 best friends just gossip “in the Lord”. Love it ❤ Thank you PK and PM for sharing 🙏🏾

[@ajuadanielangefac411]

“A lot of things people think are their spec are not their spec. They were specked into us”😂😂😂
Loved this conversation😍
Pastor K was sha winning this on this
“He brings the light out of darkness”🤣 God is indeed a merciful God

[@preciousdree9732]

This is one of the most enjoyable relationship talk sessions of your programs that I've come across. I like the fact that you were being really human and honest, this is a crucial topic and a biggie in relationships today. Thank you for the clearity ❤

[@patienceabugu1744]

Thank you Pastor sir and ma, this is very timely insight. God bless you

[@missconnieabiaw1921]

Watching from Ghana. God bless you pastor &Mrs

[@maureenonwutuebe6102]

God bypass my emotion and do what's best for me 🙏

[@eddyeddy7931]

AMEN 🙏

[@Oluseyi_TMG]

This is really an amazing topic and i enjoyed it. One thing i am grateful for is the fact that i am yet to make a decision on this area. thanks for sharing your experience, thanks for being real, thanks for being genuine sir and ma. GOD bless you.

[@jaypower2859]

Thank you so much Pastors Kay & Mildred. This is so timely. God bless you more

[@graceokoh1]

I am blessed by this video thank you pastor K and pastor M

[@user-oy2gj8wf9g]

Wao! This is a great message. God bless you pastor and pastor (mrs) K

[@chituruwoke451]

Really leant a lot. Thanks to pst K n M. You're God sent. More wisdom and knowledge I pray so you will b a blessing to your generation.

[@beebeefierceable]

This is a very good share Pastors. Every single should see this, I've learnt a lot. God bless you both.

[@adaanyagwa1376]

Lovely message. This messages are very helpful but I am more grateful for having access to such truths about life. I’m glad I found Pastor Kingsley and Mildred

[@StellaObasi-bv9rc]

Thank you very much pastor🙌 this really blessed me. And that prayer is actually for me.

[@testimonyunique7964]

Thank you so much pastor K and pastor M. This is so timely,I was so confused but after this video I am affirmative. Thank you for blessing many lives including mine

[@eniolamary5579]

I learnt a lot from this. I've not always run by physical attraction (I've always felt there were other internal qualities to look out for) and this message justifies my views in every way! Love you both, God bless you sir and ma!

[@sallykabukuru1638]

Amen! Thank you for the bold, enlightening, blessed message!😊🙏

[@mamellomphahlele6965]

Oh wow! ❤ Pastor K is the real deal! 👌🏾 So so insightful! 🙌🏾

[@g.o_5527]

I agree with pastor mildred especially in the first 1/3 of the video. While you shouldn’t choose based on physical looks mainly, it’s necessarily to be attracted to your partner. I find that sex can seem like a gift or chore if you’re not at all attracted to your partner. At least have a certain level of attraction to work with. If it’s at zero and you’ve searched your mind and prayed about it and it doesn’t change, please free that person to go find who will like them as they are. God cannot give us what we can’t handle biko.

[@g.o_5527]

I’m emphasizing on making sure that you’re not led by what has been programmed into you. Sometimes there are just people that we don’t feel that physical pull towards at all. I don’t think we’re meant to be attracted to every kind of look there is. Attraction is necessary, it’s the first thing you have when you see someone but it’s not what should be a leading factor when making a choice of a partner BUT at least have some level of attraction to start with. Shalom.

[@nahambohilma8598]

I 💯💯 agreed with all u have said 🙌🙌

[@kokolyonga3135]

Thank you for this Pastors KINGSLEY & MILDRED

[@aminatozohu6156]

Thank you pst and pst Mrs Kingsley for this clarity. God bless your ministry in Jesus name

[@daphnekaburara9663]

Thank you. I have been saying this to our young people! I'm so glad to hear you sharing all these beautiful nuggets! So heart warming. Kind regards from Uganda!🥂🤝👏👏👏👏👏👏 And yes, let people get married! 🎉

[@onyediekepaschaline7183]

All these stunning qualities for pastor mildred.I go love ooo🥰🥰🥰.
Thank you so much for this pastor K and pastor M.I'm always inspired by you.God really sent you to help our generation .I pray for more of God's wisdom for you🥰🥰 I love youuuuuu

[@Naga_Evy]

Must be rigid on the internals and flexible on the externals❤... What an enlightenment!

[@funmiolaiya2203]

As a fat person,not everyone likes me and that's ok. From your teachings,i know why i love tall men,my dad and uncles were tall,mu brothers are taller too,so i guess that's where that came from. It actually doesn't matter if the inner qualities match. I'm big on friendship too and being able to have meaningful discussions.

[@odijieeghonghon2014]

I love that ma'am,"meaningful discussions".

[@omiwolebukunmi4299]

God continually renews you, bringing out the freshness you never saw in each other at first. Thank you for making the right choice of each other and for making this real to us Sir and Ma.

[@chiiinazaa]

Most gainful youtube video ever❤️
God bless you Mr & Mrs Okonkwo

[@eleojodorcas8192]

I must confess , I came up here confused on what to do next.
Thank you Pst and Pst . Mrs Kingsley Okonkwo. You guys answered all my questions and even added Jara on it. This is exactly what I needed to hear for the next phase of my life. Thanks for being so much a blessing. I love you guys. May God continue to keep your marriage.

[@kimadiggs237]

Awwwww☺️☺️☺️
I already admire the way the Pastor and his wife are playful with each other before going into the video.❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@valerieamoni574]

This was a very helpful and blessed message..thank you so much pastor k and pastor M

[@oluchiokafor8798]

This was beautiful to watch and most importantly educative..❤❤❤❤

[@sarahiliya-sw9qy]

Omo I love this video 💯 thank you Pastor K and Pastor M .... I have learned alot and ready to apply it by the help of the holy spirit.

[@jeslordischus-wealthkwarte2833]

Thanks so much Esteemed Pastor Kingsley and Pastor Mildred❣

[@melissakahari3913]

This was really helpful and enlightening. Have been wanting a 'picture-perfect' man but I know now that that's not what God values and that's not what will make the marriage last. Thank you and bless you both for shedding light on this topic.

[@priscillaoforiwaa7290]

I m glad I came across this video, God bless you both for sharing this and being real🙏🏾👏🏾

[@chisom5601]

I cannot grow tired of this heaven-made couple...you have everything to offer. I pray to be with the man God has panned for me...Amen
Thanks for sharing

[@melody_tioluwa]

Very insightful. Thank you Sir and Ma,

[@henrymelchizedek]

Thanks to pst K and Mildred.
Mental attraction is what defines me. Renewing your mind 🙌🙌

[@oluchiukwuagu1472]

I agree with Pastor K and I understand clearly what he means. People are so focused on the Physical attraction that they leave out on the other kinds of attraction that are. Also, be rigid on the inward and flexible on the outward. Also get to look finer when you connect a whole lot more on the inward. ❤

[@patricefakorede785]

This was hilarious and yet very informative! Great video!

[@emekus2048]

Thank you pastor k and pastor M. And God bless you both.

[@chiomaokoro5037]

Thank you for this Pastor K and M

[@nhadi7]

God bless you for the work you are doing. I hope people are learning. I wish i had heard this years ago then i wouldn’t be going through what I am going through.

[@HelenUloko-sc5sl]

Wow, watching this at the very right time,God bless you ma'am, God bless you Sir

[@aropmaureen7898]

I love watching u both... It gives me butterflies 🤣🥰🤭. God bless u my mentors for always sending out words of wisdom 💯

[@miracledamian]

Thank you PK and PM. This really helped me.

[@shadesofefe14]

I hoped for you guys to make this video, like I literally have been waiting cause I’ve been searching for Godly wisdom on this…and to my surprise you did. Thank you so much, I’ve gotten my answer

[@charlottepauline3013]

I just love this couple. Match made in heaven. Very good teaching which no doubt helps alot of us who listen to the both of you. I pray that God continues to impart more wisdom into your ministry. Pastor Kingsley you are a handsome man and pastor mildred you are so so beautiful❤❤❤ you both.

[@songbird2365]

Sending love to the both of you from America 🇺🇸.

[@igwechikodi8910]

Wow! I love this. I have learnt a lot. God help me to make the best choice. Amen

[@user-mn5fo1rl5f]

This message is so great, I love it

[@nalugwaalexandra3631]

I have had this question for a while and you have answered it perfectly❤…..God bless you so much

[@inuolabenjamin3520]

Pastor K & Pastor M your relationship story is so similar to that of my husband and i. I celebrate the grace of God on you both. Your contents are always educative and a blessing. Thank you for all you do😍

[@patriciaiyawe1202]

I really look forward to meeting you in person, attend your church services, seminars conferences and have access to your books to buy them for myself, my children and many others.

[@funkejames4223]

You are doing what you know how to do best..God bless you more and more and your minustry in Jesus mighty name 🙏 ❤️ 🙌

[@judesamson7452]

Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo... God bless you so so so so much... Young people both ladies and gentlemen please take this seriously...
As I type this I'm at verge of marrying someone that is a bliss yet I almost lost her because of the physical limitations as it concerns physiques... 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️
Thank you sir... I follow you both Pastor and Pastor Mrs Kingsley Okonkwo for life as you follow... ❤❤

[@ojoabigailvictory9529]

Thoroughly enjoying watching this

[@anniecielto6858]

Pastor Mildread is saying how she felt. I do agree with her. As time passes you get into each other in the relationship. You cannot be close minded🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼❤️

[@adepa1212]

Powerful message and advice

[@maryarden4865]

Wow wow. Really insightful. Thank you sir and ma

[@blessingugwu6759]

God bless you guys for us. More love🙏🙏🙏

[@okpoeiavuablessed5595]

Be rigid with the internal qualities (godliness, kindness, gentle) and flexibke with the external (height, complexion, skin colour)

[@taiwoadeyinka9505]

I am blessed watching 🎉❤God bless your family

[@speciozakabukire131]

Thank you for renewing our minds

[@miracleogechi1030]

Wow am blessed.Thank God i
bumped into this video on time,i now have a renewed mind set.love you both,such a lovely couple

[@goodnessonwuachu4271]

With this flow between PK & PM, why won't I believe them? 😍

[@littlemiss6366]

I really enjoyed this. Been battling with this for a while

[@parfaitfurnishing4007]

Woww ❤❤❤❤ this is extremly helpful. God bless you both always in Jesus Christ's name.

[@ehieigbe3929]

Perfect conversation 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@susannwagiri3564]

I am so blessed and enlightened

[@sarahbangura8709]

Thank you sir and ma your teaching bless my heart

[@porshalateria]

I’m so excited to be there next weekend!

[@sisi_vaio]

I can absolutely relate to what Pastor Mildred said about God leading her to Pastor K beyond her feelings

[@Kayodeaiyedun]

Thank you so much Pastor Mr and Mrs, You will not understand what you've done for me with this video. Would love to share my story but this is in the public domain, wouldn't want her to know my struggle before I share it with her.😉 But yes this was all I needed. Thank you, thank you. God bless this ministry more❤❤❤

[@chikaibe4293]

May God continue to bless you for this video. As PST Mildred asked the question" what if someone decide to wait it out?
I was about saying depends on your age o before PST K answered it.
The issue of spec is always an issue..let us be truthful

[@patriciaiyawe1202]

Thank you Pastor Kingsley and Pastor Mildred. Loads of Love to both of you. I listened with rapt attention and gained a whole lot of right info. You were both funny and witty. Loved your sense of humor. You made us laugh a lot. This was so insightful. Cannot thank you enough for all God is using you to do in the whole world. Jesus Christ is Lord, Amen

[@sharonotiende7134]

Pastor Kingsley was still so 🔥🔥🔥🔥....I love the throwbacks

[@blessingukamaka1583]

I didn't see get the notification of this 😢but happy I still see this. Much love from Uromi Edo state