5 Tough Reasons He Is Not For You | Kingsley Okonkwo

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  • @mirriammutinda7634
    @mirriammutinda7634 ปีที่แล้ว +174

    1.Emotional not practical
    Compatibility
    _Faith
    _Character
    _Companionships
    2.Blinds you from other good options around you.
    3.Neglect due process
    _Building rlships and friendship
    4.Selfish...(one sided love never works)
    _Interests must be there..
    _It must be mutual
    _Desperation doesn't help
    _Engage in conversation with
    other people
    ✓Infatuation is instant.true love takes time
    ✓Wen u see someone in the first time and like the person..its_Attraction
    ✓ Don't confuse attention and intention
    ✓Real time is important to know someone.
    ✓Wen it's infatuation u have an idea of the person not the real person.

    • @bernicebaafi5056
      @bernicebaafi5056 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hello there
      God bless you for the summary❤

    • @adaobifaustina4925
      @adaobifaustina4925 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank God i came on TH-cam today 🥺💔I feel this video was made for me.Thank you pastor.

    • @adaobifaustina4925
      @adaobifaustina4925 ปีที่แล้ว

      Please pastor,how do i get the book who should i marry???

    • @cognitoafricana944
      @cognitoafricana944 ปีที่แล้ว

      😮 25:56 26:12

  • @Jossy_18
    @Jossy_18 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    We're nothing but pencils in the hands of the creator. 😂
    Thank you Sir.

  • @Peacebestill27
    @Peacebestill27 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    PK has scattered this table to pieces 😂

  • @Vheekeey
    @Vheekeey ปีที่แล้ว +49

    I know this video was made for me coz 😂 I can relate to everything. This is my present situationship and I’ve even been praying to God to lemme know if I should go ahead. So thank you Jesus coz it’s a U turn from here onwards 😂

    • @Lifewithoutborders24
      @Lifewithoutborders24 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Congratulations 🎉

    • @Bodisere
      @Bodisere ปีที่แล้ว +5

      😂😂 same here. Did you also do that prayer of "God if he's not the one take him away" 😅

    • @Vheekeey
      @Vheekeey ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yes o. Wow looking back at this comment from just 2 weeks ago and I can say he was never the one 😊

    • @Bodisere
      @Bodisere ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm happy for you😊

    • @PeculiarFerdinard
      @PeculiarFerdinard หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Vheekeeyhmmmmn deeep God will help us make right choices oh😢

  • @paulzerina
    @paulzerina ปีที่แล้ว +12

    INFATUATION is usually instant but TRUE LOVE takes time.
    Don't confuse ATTENTION with INTENTION.

  • @zillahmusungu6074
    @zillahmusungu6074 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    it's selfishness to love someone who doesn't love you back the same way you love them.

  • @chiomaagwuncha801
    @chiomaagwuncha801 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I really pray the hearts of as many single persons will be open to understand this teaching and be guided by it, so they make the right choice.

  • @ngimagafina4955
    @ngimagafina4955 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    What are we? We are pencils😂. Always learning from you and I never get used to the fun sir.

  • @Fortune_Chioma
    @Fortune_Chioma ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Let’s be real, some people actually put their children in a school cuz they like the uniform 😂

  • @favouronagieabu
    @favouronagieabu ปีที่แล้ว +11

    'We are pencils in the hands of the creator'…😂😂😭😂
    Wale Adenuga Productions that year😄

  • @ReginaWealth
    @ReginaWealth ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Single but emotionally occupied..this hit hard.Thank you Pastor❤

  • @sylvabiam1438
    @sylvabiam1438 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Indeed, I've never been bored listening to PK! This man is a gift to the body of Christ! 👌

  • @RICHBECKS_naturals
    @RICHBECKS_naturals ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I just love this man if all youth will have the opportunity to listen to this man before they enter a relationship owwww

  • @glorynoble6274
    @glorynoble6274 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    My flesh is saying I should send the link to a lady that was seriously crushing on my fiance but my spirit just gave me bombastic side eye 😒🤣🤣🤣

  • @abaswejennifer6968
    @abaswejennifer6968 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Everything said in this video is just a photocopy of what 99% of ladies do. Thank you pastor. I'm learning and changing 🙏🙏🙏

  • @kimberlyjereka6818
    @kimberlyjereka6818 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I just want to thank my God, Jehovha for making it possible for me to see this video just on time . I was facing the same challenge and now I have got my answer glory be to God . Thank you pastor Kingsley

  • @AnthoniaEnkchee
    @AnthoniaEnkchee ปีที่แล้ว +30

    PK, i have never been tired of following you right from silverbird and having pastor M also, God bless you sir

    • @jajaambila9775
      @jajaambila9775 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yeah me too... then He was really slim but making irresistible sense even up till now. The Anointing is always fresh and real.💪💪💪

    • @folakeamofleshprincess472
      @folakeamofleshprincess472 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes o. Right from silverbird channel

  • @sylviammesoma1420
    @sylviammesoma1420 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    “Someone can be chasing you to snatch your purse” haha😄

  • @Fortune_Chioma
    @Fortune_Chioma ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Infatuation is instant. Love is a gradual process!

  • @AbelBlog
    @AbelBlog ปีที่แล้ว +4

    As long a someone is interested in you and wants to be with you, you can only know what the person wants you to know about him/her. Because people act up when they are interested and usually hide their shortcomings and advertise their qualities.
    That's why as much as we can, we shouldn't start with visuals when knowing people. We should conceal the visuals and other external triggers as much as we can. Thus shielding ourselves from any emotional connections.
    There is a way to implement that. It's called inside out courtship.
    People start to know others anonymously inside with all the internal values. And it's after they have found enough people with whom they match inside that they consider seeing themselves outside just to assess external things when they are ready for marriage.
    This approach works very well and it will improve relationships tremendously if it can be implemented at a large scale.

    • @deolaronipede372
      @deolaronipede372 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I really love this.
      Try to know them outside!

  • @lookingforjoan
    @lookingforjoan ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The part you said “go and buy gun” made me laugh out loud😂😂❤️.

  • @akandecynthia4275
    @akandecynthia4275 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    😂😂 Pastor Kingsley, "we are pencils in the hands of the creator"

  • @maxwellkeicha9418
    @maxwellkeicha9418 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Infatuation is usually instant, there's attraction at first sight. True love takes time. Hmmm

  • @sandraezejianyaele
    @sandraezejianyaele ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Love at first sight does not exist but attraction at first sight is very true.Hiw can you love someone you just met and never knew from anywhere? Infatuation is sharp sharp as e dey hot while true love takes time. These are words on marble pst.k

    • @PeculiarFerdinard
      @PeculiarFerdinard หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Likkkkkke????? We have underrated the word ‘love’. How do you meet someone and ‘ love’ immediately

  • @mwambabenny5312
    @mwambabenny5312 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Isn't God so amazing? This is exactly the massage my heart was longing for at this particular moment 🙏 thank you so much man of God for this valid information 🙏....especially about one sided love.

    • @midedayo
      @midedayo ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The actual message I need right now as well and I'm enlightened already. Thank you PK 🙌🏽🙌🏽

    • @ojangpauline6304
      @ojangpauline6304 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah.

  • @eleakoh
    @eleakoh ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Lmao! PK 😂😂! Thank you for this. With these sound teachings, I pray my marriage will be blessed and preserved.

  • @jemimayaa6125
    @jemimayaa6125 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Accepted the proposal of a guy whom i hv known for abt 6 mnths now, started as friends and i fell in love with him with my head, cuz am open to some of his flaws but then he accepts his flaws when confronted, n requests for help to mke it ryt... praying things work out.

    • @sinethembaspelman
      @sinethembaspelman ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Praying over you guys that God is the foundation of you coming together. Take time, unrush yourselves

  • @julianachinyere3176
    @julianachinyere3176 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Don't confuse attention with intention! 😊

  • @brita9067
    @brita9067 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Pastor K coming through with the insight and humor😂😂. Love it. God bless you🙏🏾!!

  • @joanaessuman-mensah6753
    @joanaessuman-mensah6753 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You inherit all assets and liabilities. I like this, no lie in the statement. Absolute truth

  • @osasumwenaiguobarueghian9244
    @osasumwenaiguobarueghian9244 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Now I see my errors, faults, mistakes, selfishness and manipulation. Thank you sir

  • @helenahelen8687
    @helenahelen8687 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    „WHO SHOULD I MARRY „ is actually the book am reading at the moment. I have read it before but it’s worth reading over and over again.

  • @tderahhh
    @tderahhh ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Can a relationship founded on wrong reasons be salvaged after a fallout? 'specially when there are intentions to do it the right way.
    I'm referring to any kind of relationship.

  • @Grow.InFaith
    @Grow.InFaith ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Omo, this is me ooo. i fell for someone and i was just thinking only about how i felt not necessarily about the other party. love this thanks PK and PM

  • @byrnenoel6317
    @byrnenoel6317 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    1. Emotional vs. Practical-- beyond chemistry into compatibility, companionship (friendship), and character.
    a) Compatibility-- faith, purpose in life.
    2. Falling in love blinds you to other good options.
    3. You neglect due process. Building friendship.
    4. Real relationships should be built on more than one person. Requires mutuality.
    5.

  • @toochisunny
    @toochisunny ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I was a victim of the things mentioned here, but thank God for your teachings, I came out of them, especially infatuation. Thank you, Pastor K.

  • @iwuohapatience2445
    @iwuohapatience2445 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes sir

  • @tbjamztv
    @tbjamztv ปีที่แล้ว

    Hmmm that hit me , Father for my children, Partner for my vision

  • @fransinahengari8164
    @fransinahengari8164 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Amen, this was so encouraging thank you sir, may God more wisdom 🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @ochenivictoriaruth2238
    @ochenivictoriaruth2238 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Single but emotionally occupied 😆😆
    That got me pastor K🤓🤓🤓🤓

  • @emelsplendor4569
    @emelsplendor4569 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Imma listen to this again till all of it sinks in. True till u separate the outside with what's inside u might just b doing ut wrong. Cos when u get to see the real inside of this person. N it's contrary with thier outside then u need more known him or her

  • @chituruoji8939
    @chituruoji8939 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Someone can be chasing you to snatch your purse. 😮😮😮Pst Kingsley, you are good at what you are doing.

  • @christabelasantewaa2396
    @christabelasantewaa2396 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Keep listening to you so I also teach others....i pray i can also stand teaching about relationship and marriage

  • @NuelChima
    @NuelChima ปีที่แล้ว +5

    We are PENCILS ✏ in the hand of the creator 14:07 😂🤲🏾

  • @chisomezenobi9079
    @chisomezenobi9079 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love is not enough

  • @oluwatoyinmakanjuola1873
    @oluwatoyinmakanjuola1873 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really wish I could talk about my situation, it’s so daisy.

  • @justcallmebellaTv
    @justcallmebellaTv ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Some persons can actually pretend for a very long time just so they get what they want, o yes

  • @deboraholaogun3744
    @deboraholaogun3744 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is liberating. Wow, just wow!...

  • @Kem_kem24
    @Kem_kem24 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you so much for being a blessing to our generation. I have learnt a lot from your videos.

  • @mawufemoragbenorwosi3757
    @mawufemoragbenorwosi3757 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very real, God bless you Sir

  • @Everythingaesthetics24
    @Everythingaesthetics24 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for this beautiful message, I did learn a lot.

  • @nnonyelugracechidiebere9703
    @nnonyelugracechidiebere9703 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I always enjoy your teachings,God bless you for us,how can I have opportunity to talk with you one on one,I seriously need your cancel

  • @afolagboyejoy
    @afolagboyejoy 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you sir for this

  • @sdowthesteeze
    @sdowthesteeze ปีที่แล้ว

    😂😂😂🔥🔥🔥
    Pastor K always on point

  • @Faith7711
    @Faith7711 ปีที่แล้ว

    😂😂😂😂 you are so hilarious Pastor. I’m afraid of relationship. I’ll stay by myself for now. It’s too much work🤦‍♀️🤣

  • @gift9331
    @gift9331 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you sir
    This is me at the moment

  • @emelsplendor4569
    @emelsplendor4569 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes the last part is rich

  • @Fortune_Chioma
    @Fortune_Chioma ปีที่แล้ว

    Pastor K
    You’re soo funny 😂

  • @Whoisthatgirl2121
    @Whoisthatgirl2121 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Really appreciate this video
    Hope the information can actually enter
    If it’s not infatuation I find it hard to stick around long enough to see the guy for who he is
    Everything they do irritates me but I know it’s not the behaviour
    Because if that same behaviours exhibited from someone I was infatuated with I would embrace it and enjoy it

  • @Stanmath01
    @Stanmath01 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    20:15 - It is asthma; not love. 😂

  • @loischoji2031
    @loischoji2031 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just finished watching. Someone please summarize the points. Thank you 🙏🏿

  • @simply_bisola
    @simply_bisola ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you PK! This video has greatly helped me.

  • @godsloveblessedituen-gbi
    @godsloveblessedituen-gbi ปีที่แล้ว

    So beautiful. This is so nice mama. Kudos to the team. I love you Jite😂

  • @austinevick
    @austinevick ปีที่แล้ว

    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 pastor is awesome. Thank you sir

  • @ThyKingdomCome5
    @ThyKingdomCome5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you sir. I am so blessed sir

  • @nnonyelugracechidiebere9703
    @nnonyelugracechidiebere9703 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have falling in Love at first sight,and I married myself for 15 years,after that I leave the marriage and have peace I concur to all you said,I have experienced it,so frustrating..

  • @sandrasamuel9286
    @sandrasamuel9286 ปีที่แล้ว

    God bless you sir

  • @kimberlyadeoti9256
    @kimberlyadeoti9256 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much for this video sir. Every part was a blessing, even the jokes spoke to me. God bless you real good sir !!!!

  • @YetundeThompson
    @YetundeThompson ปีที่แล้ว

    Grace

  • @mojisolafolorunso9922
    @mojisolafolorunso9922 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    We need a list of questions to ask a prospective Spouse to help us know if he is a right partner 😄

  • @oluwatoyinmakanjuola1873
    @oluwatoyinmakanjuola1873 ปีที่แล้ว

    This spoke to me

  • @ministerchee_
    @ministerchee_ ปีที่แล้ว

    Pastor K🔥🔥🔥🔥
    God bless and keep you.

  • @temiloluwaomotoso1257
    @temiloluwaomotoso1257 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you PK for spilling the truth. This is pure truth

  • @elizabethisiadinsoc7843
    @elizabethisiadinsoc7843 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you very much for this wonderful message. I know I am guilty of most of the things you talked about. I have a question: How can someone distance themselves from becoming attached or falling for someone even without knowing the person? Because I realized that even subconsciously it still happens.

  • @anitaokologo645
    @anitaokologo645 ปีที่แล้ว

    Pastor K has a great sense of humour 😂 always a blessing to listen

  • @Jhessbrowny
    @Jhessbrowny ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great teaching mixed with comedy, thank you PK 😂😂😂😂

  • @gracevictorarchibong2696
    @gracevictorarchibong2696 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you, pastor Kingsley for the eye-opener message. You can be single and emotionally occupied. This has been my story for 2 years now. This helped, GOD BLESS.

  • @Ukhti_Sady
    @Ukhti_Sady ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for this Pastor K. Its so me, walai. This is indeed timely

  • @Simpleinsightspodcasts
    @Simpleinsightspodcasts ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing PK. Thank you Sir. If you agree you need at least one dose of PK'S messages 😉 🤚

  • @thankgodsunday8461
    @thankgodsunday8461 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omo! PK it went really south o 😂😂😂😂
    Thank you so much for this eye opener🤍

  • @abelmalama6114
    @abelmalama6114 ปีที่แล้ว

    Learning

  • @agbortambeferinhoo2807
    @agbortambeferinhoo2807 ปีที่แล้ว

    One sided love is dangerous.
    I can't proceed if I'm not love and also if I don't love as well.
    If it's not mutual, Im off

  • @rejoiceahaiwe1501
    @rejoiceahaiwe1501 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    God bless you sir

  • @urebhorehizogie2792
    @urebhorehizogie2792 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    PK GOD bless you richly. Your teachings have drastically changed my life.

  • @bernicebaafi5056
    @bernicebaafi5056 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Okay 😂it’s Asthma OO
    PK said that in one of his videos 😂😂

  • @princessbarbie1944
    @princessbarbie1944 ปีที่แล้ว

    You have really opened up my eyes 👀 God bless you abundantly

  • @akosuayeboah9217
    @akosuayeboah9217 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    thank you pastor K for this message, very short but fully loaded with wisdom. I hope to learn more.

  • @teshajonas4465
    @teshajonas4465 ปีที่แล้ว

    Blessed God for you pastor K thank you for this message 🙏

  • @Lifewithoutborders24
    @Lifewithoutborders24 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Don’t confuse attention for intention

  • @damilolaolalere
    @damilolaolalere ปีที่แล้ว

    Chaiiii
    God bless you Pastor K!
    🙏🔥🔥♥️

  • @favourchizoba2516
    @favourchizoba2516 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    PK this so insightful, I learn a lot from you daily..actually I just got out of that kind of relationship two months ago...

  • @goodnessime6723
    @goodnessime6723 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was very helpful thank you pk

  • @silverm1743
    @silverm1743 ปีที่แล้ว

    Pastor K. You the the Jesus of our dating & marriage. Thank God for sending you to save us.
    Sir, seeing the girl and being attracted by her then how do i follow and study her to say that I love heeeeer!

  • @sukejimodi4345
    @sukejimodi4345 ปีที่แล้ว

    At most all we just need is sense thank you so much sir!
    Emotions dey blind even the great .

  • @johntraverssali3848
    @johntraverssali3848 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    God bless you Sir... You two and your ministry are such a gift ❤❤❤❤

  • @nwabuogorraphael4600
    @nwabuogorraphael4600 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Someone can be CHASING YOU to snatch your purse😂😂

  • @FaustinaAssibi
    @FaustinaAssibi ปีที่แล้ว

    God bless 🙏

  • @alasiayomide322
    @alasiayomide322 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You're a wonderful teacher, thank you sir ❤

  • @dorcasiyanujesu6954
    @dorcasiyanujesu6954 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you PK

  • @emelsplendor4569
    @emelsplendor4569 ปีที่แล้ว

    This actually opened my eyes . Thank u PK. Now I understand why some of these relationships didn't last. Sometimes it's just all mixed up. I mean