This is not exactly true. There are races who I have had little interaction with and have never had any negative experiences but I have never found them attractive.
What this tells me is what type of community you grew up around can definitely influence who you are attracted to because that is what people around you find attractive. It can change though!
Agree. When I was in elementary, I moved to a small town in TN & it was a caucasian town. At that time, I liked caucasian boys. When I moved back to my home state, that changed bc I was in a more diverse community. Mostly person of color & caucasian. It definitely has a lot to do with what type of community you grew up in.
not for me. i know how to think for myself. i grew up in an all black and all latin community. never got into black dudes and so my eye went to latin but i was in love with asians the first time i laid eyes on bruce lee as a pre teen it was over for me "i want that in my life" PERFECTION, in my eyes
@@serenityq26 I know how to think for myself. I was a child back then when I moved to a community of mostly caucasians. Heck I liked 2 boys that had the same name, so diversity in that town was slim to nothing 😂 In my opinion, where you grew up has some of a factor in who you choose to like.
It can influence it, but unless you want to say that all sexual attraction comes from nurture not nature (which is utterly false), then it’s entirely possible for someone to not be attracted to certain skin colors, etc. For example, someone may not be attracted to those with ginger hair, that does not mean it’s nurture, it could just be nature. And I know from experience, not really that attracted to certain skin colors physically, and I’m not necessarily even attracted that much to my own race, it’s just what it is, nature.
@@AkonFenty1992 ppl can say it just as much as other ppl can criticize it .. especially since this topic just has a lot of mixed responses basically what i’m saying is that ppl r allowed to answer that question truthfully. not everyone will agree or encourage what they say. for me, i def think there’s a difference between preference and exclusion and i don’t think exclusion is okay. i read another comment abt someone comparing it w fruits. the commenter prefers oranges over apples but that doesn’t mean they’d never eat an apple again or say bad things abt apples. i think the same applies here. it’s okay to be attracted to specific ppl. purposely avoiding other ppl for their race and saying bad things abt them bc of their race is not the same as having a preference
Context is lost when you only look at an answer as either yes or no, so they probably thought it wasn’t productive to support that division. However, from a scientific standpoint it would be interesting- and even more interesting to see statistics on how many people are attracted to those of the race they were exposed to in childhood.
“I like my black men, that contrast of that skin color” So she said “I like black men” and then immediately went into talking about aesthetics and how “erotic” it is
@@eafesaf6934 kinksters are so embarrassing 🤦🏻♀️ if your kink is problematic, it is okay to shame it. You are not exempt from criticism just because something makes your 🍆 hard.
@@quailman how? It's understanding what environment she'd be bringing her POC partner in if they were to be close. Some people need family in their life, whether it's emotionally, financially, having support of some sort. Yt people I know have been disowned for dating outside of their race. So I get it.
Its always white ppl called out for fetishizm. Theres a double standard their for sure. My gf who's black says she loves her vanilla all the time and none of us thought twice about it including me
Yeah... ? Are we pretending your race doesn't affect how you look, and looks aka aesthetics aren't massively important in dating and attraction? Like why is that supposed to be controversial or noteworthy? That's a no shit sherlock.
some peoples dating history is not always reflective of their actual preferences though. depending on where they lived, they could have had limited choices and little variety to pick from. also even if they liked other people from other races, cultures, etc those people would have needed to like them back. for some people different types of trauma can definitely influence their dating choices.
but also if there’s a big mismatch between their dating history & their preference or lack of preference, they might not be introspective enough to realize they have a bias. Ppl aren’t good narrators of their own story, asking them rarely gives you the truth
Exactly! Not the same thing but I prefer to date women and non-binary people but I’ve only ever dated men. They just happen to be the most likely person to approach me in a romantic way because I’m not someone who ever really actively was looking. For someone who has relationships happen organically preferences are less likely to factor in when it’s anything outside your preference is okay too.
Chris evans is attractive ( to say the least) but i'm not attracted to him. you like what you like and basta cozi, if you're straight up in love with somebody and desire them physically and mentally but refuse to date them because they're of a different skin colour then yes, there is a problem.
@@tammy5466 And how does that invalidate the statement? There are people that are attractive regardless of race and height so why is it only weird when people have preference for race and not height? No one should be forced to fuck someone just because society think it's "bad" if you don't like their characteristic including race.
Girl it's the years of internalized racism for me :/. I was the only one of my race growing up, so i had to distance myself from my identity growing up, and it showed up later in life ig
@@Barlibee I hear you. I know this Cameroonian girl who flatout refuses to date anyone from her race. She has a fetish for only white boys and Asian guys. If you black/Latino/Arab/ ETC don't even bother trying to hit on her , Shes gonna shut you down immediately. I've seen my homies get rejected by her and it was bad.
Yes!! I saw another video on racial preferences and really loved it when someone said "preferences are okay as long as you still see the beauty in your own people." That really resonated...
@@roxannek5266 ... OMG IT'S LITERAL. THANK YOU... LOL. ... I really thought there was some other kind of meaning that was going over my head with that one. ... I see now that I over-thought it.
@@nightslasher9384 ... the other person in here who explained it to me seems to have deleted their post... lol. ... basically, he's gay and prefers them to be alive. I guess because there are some out there that are into Necrophilia, though i'm not sure why he felt the need to address all the "living and pulsing" stuff.
as someone in a not so diverse community , i don't think I'm qualified to say i have a preference when there hasn't been much variety of choice to begin with
... I don't think that disqualifies you at all. ... there is little to no variety where I live either, but that never stopped me. In fact, it is the sole reason I desire something different than all of my friends and family around me. ... I have never met asian people in the areas i've lived in for most of my life, but having access to something as powerful as the internet has shown me the many types of races and cultures out there. ... and of them all, I found my preference to be asian. Japanese above all (because of their culture) and even at this point in my life with all my experience and all my travels, I have never once seen and met a Japanese person and they still remain my top preference.
@topknotch basically any race of women and white men lol, White dudes definitely have a weird thing with fetishizing women of color and as a dude of color it’s definitely a big turn off to deal with girls who eat it up
@@heyhandsome9396 because it’s a conscious decision to take it as a whole. You can be sexually attracted to a certain race but when you start attributing those beauty standards to all members of that race in men and women then it becomes a fetish
@@heyhandsome9396 Tbh tho the same thing could be said about pedophilia so..... your point is invalid unless you want to say that pedophilia is completely normal. In which case, you are not normal. Just a thought.
There’s no racism in having preferences. What matters is fetishes are not a preferences and saying “I want to date ___ people” vs “I would never date specifically ___ people” (edit) are 2 completely different statements. Also that woman that explained her dating history and said she doesn’t “deserve” to date non-white is kinda weird.
Yes I am attracted like 3 specific things about a man and the current race of my husband just so happens to match that 100% so idk if I’d say he was my preference but he definitely fit the qualities so I picked him even though I didn’t know why initially🤷🏾♀️
I’d still date any race if I was single but all of those races of men would have to fit the same qualities in order for me to be attracted, ALL of them though
It feels more sad than weird to me. Her family has had problematic behavior surrounding certain groups of people, and she feels responsible for that; so much so that she's limiting herself when what her family does isn't her problem. But on the other had, she may be still associating with said family (it's hard to cut yourself off), however if she did get into a relationship with someone her family had racial hostilities toward, she may have to make that decision: cut her family out or be with the partner without her family.
It isn't weird. She has internalized guilt in relation to her families beliefs. We act on internalized things on a daily basis so I don't fault her for that. It's good that she is aware of it and I hope she can be released of it. Also, I hope in reality she knows that the men she dated weren't crappy cuz they were white. They were just crappy 🤷🏽♀️
@@ztarr was weirded out specifically by how the last thing you mentioned related to her desire to date POC. I would’ve been weirded out regardless cause I’m genuinely sick of hearing about white people feeling guilty for their family/history, but that’s besides the point lol. Just didn’t like her reasoning
Friends have told me it’s not the race that’s a barrier, it’s the culture that comes with it that can be uncomfortable for some, like “will I fit in?” And people tend to avoid uncomfortability. For me I married and currently live in another culture and I do not always fit in and it can be uncomfortable at times, so I get it. No regrets tho
Not really. Physical attraction is a thing. And every race has its unique features. So it is 100% plausible and normal for someone to find a race less attractive than others.
Yeah that's a big part of it, and it also goes the other way. I think you find people more attractive if you are at least interested in their culture than if you're not.
@@connaeris8230 Why? It's perfectly normal to not find someone attractive. Am I saying that it is necessarily an entire race? No. Am I saying that it's only people of an entire race and not other races? Also not. But am I saying that it is certain features a race attributes to you that help deem you not attractive to someone? Yeah absolutely. Someone might not like blond hair at all and thus this can help deem some white people not attractive to them at all - and that's fine. Someone might not like the epicanthic fold and thus deem some Asian people not attractive at all - and that's fine. And other examples too.
@@manueltreill6358 in my opinion, saying all of the people of one race are not attractive is a generalization that does not take into account normal human variation. But if you cannot even think about finding someone with a specific hair color or eye shape attractive, then yeah, that seems pretty superficial to me.
6:12 The jewish woman said it would be preferable to marry someone jewish but the caption said profitable. I didn't know ya'll had Kanye doing your captions Cut 🤣🤣🤣
I feel like people don't understand the word "preference". Just cuz you have a preference doesn't mean you only wanna date someone of said preference. That goes with anything else too e.g. I can still love cake even if I prefer ice.
Great point. I think arguing happens when people say they do NOT date a specific race because they do not find that race attractive. That needs a little more analysis of that person's mind because as human beings we are hardwired to be attracted to good-looking humans. When someone says there is not ONE attractive person out of millions of people in a specific race, to me that is interesting.
So here’s some weird science I’ve thought about with reference to interracial dating 🤔 so I believe I read somewhere, research has found that the more times we're shown a face, the more attractive it becomes. I don’t know why but if you believe in that statement, than you can understand why people find the people within there community attractive. To go deeper, I also think that’s why lot of people find white propel attractive. Due to the vast majority of celebrities in America being either white or aim to appear so. Not to say that there not naturally attractive as well. Like if your a kid, you’re going to be attracted to the kids you see on tv and that’s going to translate in real time. Alongside your community preferences.
That is an excellent point and also why representation/diversity in general is SO important. Let's be honest, people in MANY countries all over the world only strive to meet the European beauty standard because thats what has been ingrained into us as as "good" and "like-able/attractive".
nah. Cause in Asian countries, White men are basically worshipped. Asian countries are 99.9% ethnically homogenous. They see more asian faces than white (or any other group). BWC is superior.
@@samanthakossof1790 excuse me samantha what do u think of someone as me who has a jewish dad but non jewish mom? i've been wanting to get people who are jewish their opinion's on this because i really consider myself jewish in some way like ethnically even though your considered jewish if your mom is jewish and not your dad but like i said my mom isn't jewish only my dad.. so may i please have your thoughts on this? thank you samantha even if you don't respond :D
I think the biggest thing with “having a racial preference” is also just keeping in mind the people who live in your area, and of those people, who also like you back. If you’ve only dated POC, then that could mean you have a preference, or it could just be the major demographic that lives near you.
There’s nothing wrong with having a preference but some people don’t understand that having a preference doesn’t mean you get to exclude others having a preference is you prefer something but you’re OK if you get something totally opposite of that
Well if you have a preference, of course you will exclude the person who is not you preference to privilege your preference, what doesn't click with yall ?
@@zedxomzam8980 no. a preference means that if you had to choose between your preference and someone that doesn't fit into that type, you would probably choose the first person, but you could still go for the other person. moreover, it also means that if you would be faced individually with a random person, you wouldn't reject them just because they don't fit into your preference, you'd still give them a chance because the preference is a preference not an exclusion.
@@zedxomzam8980 I pefer oranges over apples, that doesn't mean I hate all apples and I'll never eat an apple again in my life, if i go to the store and see a juicy apple I'll buy it over the orange. And just bc I like oranges doesn't mean I have to say bad things about apples
I feel like it can be rooted in racism, and it could be a fetish. But different races have different qualities that people can be attracted to, so as long as you aren't weird then like who you like.
It's because that race is the majority race in the country and are also responsible for the racism against the other minorities . As you heard what many POC said about it, They said it's because white people be clueless and do not relate to what they experience in their daily lives.
this was filmed in the US so yes context is important. please understand that you should *not* be ashamed to be white, it's just that there is a value in being compassionate to those who have suffered (in)directly from the negative manifestations of a society that has historically neglected non-whiteness. Living, growing, and cooperating together is possible with enough healing.
A fetish is looking at what they are instead of who they are. Preferences are normal and I feel some people lie when they say “I don’t have a preference”
I just know almost everyone here is a sad mf. If you have about other race and you normalize hating on others u have some type of mental problem and I hope u get treated. Who even worries about this stuff? I am legit embarrased for just opening this video, just to roast this nerds
I just know almost everyone here is a sad mf. If you have about other race and you normalize hating on others u have some type of mental problem and I hope u get treated. Who even worries about this stuff? I am legit embarrased for just opening this video, just to roast this nerds
@@thekatvita the term POC is weird to begin with. Whiteness is relative, so what does POC even mean? Jews won't say their white but most people wouldn't call them POC. Many South Americans are white with blond and red hair, despite being Latino who tend to be grouped as POC, they're literally white. Russians have very oriental features to the point of confusion with Chinese or other Eastern Asians, but yet they're not POC? It all doesn't make much sense to me, it does not seem to be consistent with anything.
i love how you can easily tell the difference between those who answered this question honestly and those who just said what they thought they were "supposed" to say
I think preferences are fine. It’s when someone is rude about it, or that there’s a fetish where it may be harmful. But, I would say preferences are completely normal
I have been learning about Asian culture for a long time since I was younger, my dream to settle down in Japan and marry to a wonderful Japanese woman who shares the same energy and values as I have.
I just know almost everyone here is a sad mf. If you have about other race and you normalize hating on others u have some type of mental problem and I hope u get treated. Who even worries about this stuff? I am legit embarrased for just opening this video, just to roast this nerds
@@zafhielKing I'm not hating on anyone. I don't need to date someone outside my preferences to show respect. I respect everyone but it doesn't mean I want to marry everyone.
I love how the guy at 2:53 says that there's a problem with it if you're looking at people's races in a solelly sexual way, and then immediately the woman that comes after him does JUST that... Yikes.
for me it's not so much race but more so cultures and ideals? I don't care what skin tone you have it's just whether we mesh on a personal level and have similar expectations of a partner, similar morals and beliefs. being cute is also a big bonus though.
yaa. I mean i like indian guys..but I'd be worried about the uptight culture. I say this as a child of african immigrant parents. that shit isnt fun at all
Funny thing being a Brazilian guy is that i dont think the "racial preference" is that strong here, i mean, everyone is so diverse that i never saw someone tell they have a racial preference
@@chelseacomps829 wtf? I'm a white brazilian and I have a black gf for almost 3 years now. I know racism exist whenever you go, but comparing with other places, its easier to see mixed couples here
Honestly I feel like a lot of people date to be comfortable and not go out of your comfort zone. Most people date to please their families or friends rather than doing what makes them happy. I went on a date with an Asian guy who wanted to have a relationship with me we both clicked so well and honestly to this day I felt like he was my soulmate, we were just falling so deeply in love with each other but we had to end it because he made it clear to me that his family would not accept me because I’m black. He said they might prefer it better if I was white but they would rather it be Asian. he was literally terrified and would cry because he said he doesn’t have the strength to go against his family so that was that. it’s been over four years and I’m still hurt 😞
Girl my partner is Chinese Korean and I'm Jamaican.. he said the same thing when we started dating, but his mother and family now love and adore me.. it just takes a little understanding of culture, because in someway my culture is similar to his.
My sisters ex was a Japanese man, apparently the first time my sister met her, she said "well at least you didn't bring home a black girl". It's very nice knowing now that he's dating a black woman and isn't in contact with his mother any longer /o/
I have a racial preference. I grew up around black and Hispanic people all my life and all my girlfriends have been either African American, Caribbean, or African. When I got to college I started being around other race and till this day I stick with what I’m used to. I don’t have anything against other race, I just feel more comfortable dating someone that looks like me and grew up like me.
Lol , same here . I tried dating outside my race and then they got comfortable and thought they could use the n-word around me . 🙄😒 lol so im sticking to what I like and know 👌🏾 you’re handsome btw !!!!
People usually lean towards people who look similar to themselves or somebody they know. It's a known phenomena. This isn't ALWAYS true, but it's a pretty baseline way in which humans decide on who attracts them.
Let people date whom they want. There IS a problem with dating someone because you believe certain racial stereotypes about them (e.g. the submissive Asian woman, the well-endowed hyper-masculine Black man, or the hyper-sexual Black woman), but if you are simply attracted to a certain phenotype, I don't see why that would be inherently problematic. A lot of this discourse just devolves into policing people's sexual attractions or dating choices, and that I'm not cool with.
"Caucasian" is NOT the same as "White Europeans". Caucasians are a very real ethnic group from Georgia, Armenia, etc. The only reason people use it to mean White is because of a German anthropologist (Blumenbach) who found a Georgian skull and thought it was the most beautiful one. He then concluded that all Europeans MUST have come from that area bc of their beauty. So I beg of you, as a Georgian to stop using our ethnic group's name to incorrectly refer to yours.
Just because a word has roots in something you don't like, doesn't mean its current use is invalidated. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caucasian_race#Usage_in_the_United_States.
I’m more attracted to and more comfortable with people closer to my own skin tone. Nothing wrong with that at all. People also don’t take into consideration the huge cultural differences that come with dating a different race.
black men are taller, more muscular and have bigger penises compared to white guys. Black men know how to treat women as well. change your mind and be open
Culture and skin tone are two different things. You can be the same colour as someone but very clashing and contrasting cultures. Two people could have different skin tones and very similar cultures so the problem is not skin tone but culture vicinity and similar mindsets
@@saddamhussein2230 You don't know what you're talking about, the average height of a European is 1.80 m and science says that the penis of blacks is not bigger, it's a stereotype created for the adult industry and y'all beat your women and abandon your child. 😂
@@Thatbul in African families it is normal for fathers to abuse their daughters and their wives are aware of that, in fact they end up having children and that is why there are so many genetic diseases, and you are writing for an app, a cell phone and an internet service created by whites so watch your words. 😉
Unless you meet online, your brain is going to automatically decide if they’re attractive or not. You can’t know their personality first. I don’t have a preference but my dating history is majority white straight guys. The play I wanted wasn’t always the play I got 😂
even then superficial people wont take the time to get to know you online "send pictures" at least thats how it is today. in day in the early 2000s i met ryan (korean) online and this is before smart phones so he took me not having a camera as an understanding so we didnt get to see what each other looked like for 2-3 years once i got out of high school, got a job and saved up for a very shitty webcam. so we just talked and connected on a mental level. that and my relationship with my father (which is also long distance) is what formed my basis of how relationships should work and how they work for me: communication communication communication. looks and locations dont matter but i NEED you to be available emotionally and with your time, thats it. thats too much to ask for nowadays. #singleforlife
@@mishlake1 I’m Demi but I still find that physical features and attraction is important. It’s not like being Demi means you don’t care about looks at all, it’s more just that you want a bond with someone before you start to get deeper feelings for them.
@@mishlake1 She said at first. Your brain will decide if it likes the look of “someone’s jib” without us even knowing. It’s not even all about physical features, it’s also the way someone carries themselves and everything. If you don’t like that than you’re not going to put the time in to get to know their personality.
@@parfate1383 I never suggested that looks don’t matter to demi people with regards to attraction. I only objected to the assertion that universally, attraction comes first, from physical looks, because “you can’t know [someone’s] personality first.” My perspective is that for demi people (myself included), very typically, learning someone’s personality actually *precedes* attraction-that in effect, attraction isn’t even a possible or likely event until after a personal bond is created.
When it comes to choosing you intimate partner I think you can be as piky as you want. At the end of the day as long as is two consenting adults who gives a damn. Racism is relevant when working with and dealing with people in the community. Being attracted to someone and choosing who you want to live with is personal choice. If you have to shame someone to like you, you already lost.
Dating itself is about excluding people. You're looking for the person you think it's suitable for you and your needs and as long as you are what they need, everyone is of legal age, consenting and there's mutual feelings and understanding, go for it. Some people feel better and safer dating within their race, while others are more open to dating outside their race and take everything that comes with it. To each their own, really. What we shouldn't do is fetishizing. Other than that, we should stop being so offended if we're not someone's type.
growing up as someone whose been attracted to many shades and shapes of people. It just confuses me when I hear people have preferences. Mainly cause in my mind, you havent met everyone that is white, black, asian, or whatever. But this video has definitely showed me the environment you grew up in/community of/ or family has great influence on what your dating preferences are. At least when it comes to someones race.
What do you even call it a racial preference? I'm black woman and I'm attracted to black men. That's not "racial preference" that's just the natural order of things.
I always have been attracted more to femenine looking men, because of how masculinity was portrayed to me by my dad and how I subconsciouslly related it to negative experiences that I had with him. I didn't even realized it, but always had crushes on lots of asian or half asian men just because a lot of times they have really delicate features and it was something I leaned to with out thinking about it. I also found men like Timothy Shalame really attractive too because of femenine facial features. Only last year I started to analyze my preferences and was really surprised. To clarify things. I never said that I have a "type on asian men" or anything like that and won't date someone because they are asian. I didn't like them because of their race, but because of the way some of them expressed themselves like, style, clothes and make up. My friends were the ones that made me think about it more cause they actually told me about my "preference" and only then I realized it. I hope I didn't say nothing that could offend anyone. Share your opinions about my experience, I would like to know how other people see this kind of situations.
This was great to watch! I’m like the dude who said if I find you attractive I find you attractive. Unfortunately I have been stereotyped by other races and fetishized when trying to date. It’s a turn off.
As someone who doesn't have a racial preference I think it's stupid to get hung up over someone else's dating habits unless it's illegal or hurting someone if not then I don't see why it should be a concern of anyone else when it has zero impact in their own life. You can have as many preferences as you want even if their stupid or fetishes as long as it's not illegal.
Anyone who says they don't have preference is lying if you ask me. Everyone has a sort of preference. It can change by your age or events but saying you have none at all is not very realistic to me. Most of them are probably afraid to be labelled as "fetishizers" or something like that and refrain from giving an honest answer. It is ok to have preferences, there is a major difference between fetishizing a group and simply liking their features. It is about focusing what people are instead of who they are. Also preferences definitely change. I am a Turkish woman and growing up I have been attracted solely to White people (hollywood, youtube, some white friends) or my local Turkish folk. I was not attracted to Asian men at all like it was 0%. After I moved to Japan for my work, a month or two later since I was being surrounded by them, my preference definitely changed and I am attracted to those features a lot now. That doesn't mean I will jump unto anyone with East Asian features though. It all ends in personality and compatibility which is the same standard I put for Turkish or White folk. Also, when I am attracted someone's personality and mannerisms, I start to get attracted to the physical features they have also. Emotional connection turns into physical attraction for me. (Still, has to be with men though...)
@@jean5605 Because just with East Asian people back then I have never been around black people and I had limited exposure to them in media since growing up, American media was very White, seeing it from my country. I wouldn’t eliminate anyone just because they are black if their personality and lifestyle is compatible to mine but I would be lying if I said there aren’t physical features I like a bit better.
I don't think it's fair to say everyone without a preference is lying just because you have them. growing up in a very diverse community has exposed me to so many beautiful women of all different races and I truly don't have any preference as long as we have a connection
Yeah some of us have preferences - tall, broad shoulders, atheletic. That can be fulfilled by any race. We can also have preferences for dark, medium and pale skin tones all at the same time.
@@Ceylin_Kurtbogan it sounds like your preferences are media and surrounding based which actually makes much more sense then just thinking one race is better looking indefinitely, you have a point
@Paarth Sudan No wtf? If I wanna date a white guy and not a black one it's not racism,racism is discrimination against or race or oppression and disrespecting them for they skin and maybe culture If a black person dates another black person because they want black kids is it racism? You're just pressuring people into dating you when they don't want to
@@paarthsudan2982so is it racism when poc do it? 💀 theres alot of poc who just dont date outside their ethnicities cause they wanna feel firmiliar. same culture, same family dynamics
When has it become so acceptable to mock white men? I'm female but I'm so disgusted by people talking trash about them. Why do people think it's ok and seem proud of it
@@teetheluchador Fr they literally say the same things when it comes to addressing topics of race in America . I guarantee you this person is a European
This made me realise that although I don't have a racial preference, I end up with Black men because they are the only ones who approach me to attempt a romantic relationship. Other races don't step up to me which makes me feel like they think we don't stand a chance. 😥💔 and I personally refuse to make the first move because it's against my values so...
Same! If I find someone attractive it doesn't really matter to me. I have no "preference" cute is cute. I have found people from all over the world attractive. The men I have had relationships with are never white because I am almost never approached by white men. Black men always approach me and make their interest known. Black men also seem to pick up on my flirtation easier.
Im black but I gotta say, it's totally cool to step out the expected role of being the one who is approached. You have an eye on someone and want to connect with them strongly enough, take the chance! It's not a law for only men to do the courting. What should be illegal is letting someone who seems really good pass you by and it didnt have to be that way
This is the real reason black women APPEAR “loyal” to black men. At least you are being honest, the truth is that most of y’all just aren’t getting approached by the other guys as much. This is why I don’t take these convos seriously
Different groups of men flirt differently. I’ve realized it since moving to a more diverse place. Black men and Latino men are far more up front when they approach. White men are much more subtle and gentle when they approach. I used to think they were just being friendly until I look back on it and they were clearly flirting LMAO. Never been flirted with by an Asian men but I’ve heard they can be really shy. I’ve dated Latino, black, and white men. Now I wanna try Asian or Arab
To the women who said they dont have any racial preference, you are hope in the dating world. We all know when they have a racial preference, it tends to be majority white guys. Lets not play dumb.
Those who choose the sperm donor route usually pick the white donors. I guess it's the recessive genes, and they want their babies to inherit those features.
I do have a preference for people of color, mostly Mexican or native as im mixed (mexican and native) and grew up around different cultures, but at the end of the day i really dont care. Personality is what makes me stay :]
@@jjhhh2341You meant 7:07? He's Asian guy himself. I get that he might be lying here, but it's not weird to (exclusively) date people of your own race. It's weird if he, for example, only date white women because that's most likely rooted in fetishism.
I’m more attracted to people that speak Spanish. Unfortunately when I try to filter that on dating sites, it just shows me guys that chose “hispanic” as their race (even though it’s not a race). But I’ve talked to guys of every race and some that don’t speak Spanish too. I don’t think there’s something wrong with preferences but it’s tricky because it could be rooted in racism or fetishism. Or ignorance. I’ve had a couple guys tell me they’re not into black women, which I am (black hispanic). One of those guys was black and I was in a relationship with and the other was Korean, someone who I met on a forum and we liked eachother before even seeing eachother or knowing race
@@chrisr393 It's actually VERY realistic for some people. I don't care if you're white, black, brown, purple, yellow or blue. I don't care about race. I love all people. However, you'll never hear me say I love a lying, cheating narcissist with zero moral values. Character matters. Chris.
Dating is not about making certain race feel validated, it’s about how 2 adults prefer to live their lives, so it’s only their business who they choose to date. You can only cry about it if you disagree
I am not attracted to fat women and I have no shame saying it. It's just a preference and I cannot change it. It's the same thing as for women who don't find short guys attractive. I don't get why women give so much hate for just being honest. I have all the rights to reject you based on my preferences, just like you do me.
Well next time you see or hear another man shaming, verbally attacking, devaluing, or putting down a fat woman - put that man in his place. And then we will start talking about fairness in expressing of preferences
dating a different race doesnt matter, its the culture they grow up in and how they act that matters. Could be Black, Japanese, Indian...they all could potentially mesh terribly
Can u have a racial preference but date outside of your preference? I think yes. Some ppl's preferences aren't really that deep. That might just stem from true ignorance of the unknown.
I"m a dark skinned Black woman and when I was younger, White young guys would approach me. If I had not moved down South away from my first White Italian boyfriend we probably would have been married with a kid. He was soooo sweet and we just clicked. But I love my Black men and I would consider any race again if my current relationship does not last. I'm older now and I also raised my daughter to be open and date outside of her race and not to box herself in. She is currently in a interracial relationship, he's North Indian, and he is the sweetest young man, like a son to me.
People keep confusing what a preference is. Having a preference is basically saying you have a favorite, most people have a favorite color or food but they still like other colors and other foods. A preference is not supposed to exclude groups, that's called discriminating. We discriminate against things and people for many good and bad reasons in society, but usually when you exclude racial groups from your dating pool or social circle, it's probably based on stereotypes and preconceived notions/attitudes for members of that race, which is why it's a problem.
Dating is discriminatory in its nature that’s the difference between dating/attraction and racism. You can’t control if someone prefers or is naturally attracted to features over a different set of features. Racism is having a negative connotation for someone based on their skin color and how they look not based on if I’m attracted to you or not
I once fell in love with a black girl at church (I'm white). She really liked me too, but I eventually understood it couldn't work: I felt an atheist more and more inside while church was an essential part of her life. That made me realize it's important to prioritize cultural preferences.
The woman who said "if its intentional it may be rooted in some racism" all the snaps and claps for her cuz it's so true.
correct. Having a preference isn't racism unless you treat people based of your preference (outside of dating ofc).
It may, sure. Or it may not.
Then again, a large portion of harmful bias is intrinsic bias.
This is not exactly true. There are races who I have had little interaction with and have never had any negative experiences but I have never found them attractive.
@@theonef570 Question for you, because this is interesting. What race have you never been attracted to?
What this tells me is what type of community you grew up around can definitely influence who you are attracted to because that is what people around you find attractive. It can change though!
Agree. When I was in elementary, I moved to a small town in TN & it was a caucasian town. At that time, I liked caucasian boys. When I moved back to my home state, that changed bc I was in a more diverse community. Mostly person of color & caucasian. It definitely has a lot to do with what type of community you grew up in.
not for me. i know how to think for myself. i grew up in an all black and all latin community. never got into black dudes and so my eye went to latin but i was in love with asians the first time i laid eyes on bruce lee as a pre teen it was over for me "i want that in my life" PERFECTION, in my eyes
@@serenityq26 I know how to think for myself. I was a child back then when I moved to a community of mostly caucasians. Heck I liked 2 boys that had the same name, so diversity in that town was slim to nothing 😂 In my opinion, where you grew up has some of a factor in who you choose to like.
That’s funny because I only want the opposite of what I grew up with because it’s all I ever had, I want something new
It can influence it, but unless you want to say that all sexual attraction comes from nurture not nature (which is utterly false), then it’s entirely possible for someone to not be attracted to certain skin colors, etc. For example, someone may not be attracted to those with ginger hair, that does not mean it’s nurture, it could just be nature. And I know from experience, not really that attracted to certain skin colors physically, and I’m not necessarily even attracted that much to my own race, it’s just what it is, nature.
there is a difference between having a preference and refusing to date someone because of their race
But even if that's the case are they not allowed to say they don't want to date someone because of their race?
@@AkonFenty1992 ppl can say it just as much as other ppl can criticize it .. especially since this topic just has a lot of mixed responses
basically what i’m saying is that ppl r allowed to answer that question truthfully. not everyone will agree or encourage what they say. for me, i def think there’s a difference between preference and exclusion and i don’t think exclusion is okay. i read another comment abt someone comparing it w fruits. the commenter prefers oranges over apples but that doesn’t mean they’d never eat an apple again or say bad things abt apples. i think the same applies here. it’s okay to be attracted to specific ppl. purposely avoiding other ppl for their race and saying bad things abt them bc of their race is not the same as having a preference
@@pancakebears agreed. Free disparaging/hate speech is a virtue up until that person gets called out for it, then they get defensive
I'm black and I refuse to date black women, they are just not attractive. I have a lot of success with white women
Massive difference
You should put the questions up at the end with % values of how many people answered yes/ no (or the most common answers).
Great idea honestly, it shows more insight on the numbers and how their options really differ
they used to do this! not sure why they stopped :/
Context is lost when you only look at an answer as either yes or no, so they probably thought it wasn’t productive to support that division. However, from a scientific standpoint it would be interesting- and even more interesting to see statistics on how many people are attracted to those of the race they were exposed to in childhood.
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they used to do that, but they stopped fro some reason 🤷🏼♀️
Everyone’s invited to the gangbang is the most inclusive thing I’ve ever heard
Heartwarming really
its a potluck
😆
@@frummel403 More than heart warming…
Lol and the grossest
“I like my black men, that contrast of that skin color”
So she said “I like black men” and then immediately went into talking about aesthetics and how “erotic” it is
people who have a fetish and talk about it as if it's normal honestly creep me tf out
@@mavi2643 it baffles me that you say that.
Don't kink shame Bro.
It's not like she likes actuall violence to inflict on others..
@@eafesaf6934 kinkshaming is healthy 🥰
@@7kraska Nice troll m8.
9.5/10 would fall it anytime
@@eafesaf6934 kinksters are so embarrassing 🤦🏻♀️ if your kink is problematic, it is okay to shame it. You are not exempt from criticism just because something makes your 🍆 hard.
I don’t have a preference cause cute is cute but I feel like we all lean toward something 😅
Lol right? Like we all like different foods, but there's always that one restaurant that just hits different 😂🙈
that’s what i always say, cute is cute. i just like cute people
Yepp! I think it is normal.
Right on
Hit the nail on the head. I also think we mostly lean towards our own race but that not always the case.
“I don’t deserve men of colour” what an interesting phrase
Yeah, some weird internalized hatred going on there. Welcome to Seattle
Her elaborating was a necessary part of the context for that statement. I do think she could've worded it better.
@@quailman how? It's understanding what environment she'd be bringing her POC partner in if they were to be close. Some people need family in their life, whether it's emotionally, financially, having support of some sort. Yt people I know have been disowned for dating outside of their race. So I get it.
@@iguessimryan exactly
virtue signalling
“The contrast of black skin is just very erotic”
Perfect example of fetishism right there. Because wtf
You sound mad because a lot of white women date black guys nowadays
shes so sick for that
Its always white ppl called out for fetishizm. Theres a double standard their for sure. My gf who's black says she loves her vanilla all the time and none of us thought twice about it including me
Yeah... ? Are we pretending your race doesn't affect how you look, and looks aka aesthetics aren't massively important in dating and attraction? Like why is that supposed to be controversial or noteworthy? That's a no shit sherlock.
She has a black husband too 😭
some peoples dating history is not always reflective of their actual preferences though. depending on where they lived, they could have had limited choices and little variety to pick from. also even if they liked other people from other races, cultures, etc those people would have needed to like them back. for some people different types of trauma can definitely influence their dating choices.
Yeah
but also if there’s a big mismatch between their dating history & their preference or lack of preference, they might not be introspective enough to realize they have a bias. Ppl aren’t good narrators of their own story, asking them rarely gives you the truth
I'm black and most of white women are attracted to me and they don't live in a black area
Well said. I always prefer chubbier women but I never had the chance of dating one.
Exactly! Not the same thing but I prefer to date women and non-binary people but I’ve only ever dated men. They just happen to be the most likely person to approach me in a romantic way because I’m not someone who ever really actively was looking. For someone who has relationships happen organically preferences are less likely to factor in when it’s anything outside your preference is okay too.
"Everyone's invited to the gangbang! It's a potluck!" Lmao.
Took me out🤣🤣🤣🤣
I’m still laughing😂
All the flavors!!!
What?! How did we get here? 😭😩😩
Hey, who brought the big black c- to the gangbang?
i’ve always said there is attractive people within every race & ethnicity, so refusing to date someone solely because of their race is weird.
Chris evans is attractive ( to say the least) but i'm not attracted to him. you like what you like and basta cozi, if you're straight up in love with somebody and desire them physically and mentally but refuse to date them because they're of a different skin colour then yes, there is a problem.
True I've seen attractive men and women in every race and ethnicity.
But having preference for height isn't weird?
@@Nothing_serious no it's not because there are no social or racial structures around height???? Are you good?
@@tammy5466 And how does that invalidate the statement? There are people that are attractive regardless of race and height so why is it only weird when people have preference for race and not height?
No one should be forced to fuck someone just because society think it's "bad" if you don't like their characteristic including race.
The only thing I find weird is when people just will not date their own race.
Girl it's the years of internalized racism for me :/. I was the only one of my race growing up, so i had to distance myself from my identity growing up, and it showed up later in life ig
@@ldinh4446 i get you and at least you’re honest! People change too and shouldn’t be prosecuted for their beliefs.
@@Barlibee I hear you. I know this Cameroonian girl who flatout refuses to date anyone from her race. She has a fetish for only white boys and Asian guys. If you black/Latino/Arab/ ETC don't even bother trying to hit on her , Shes gonna shut you down immediately. I've seen my homies get rejected by her and it was bad.
Yes!! I saw another video on racial preferences and really loved it when someone said "preferences are okay as long as you still see the beauty in your own people." That really resonated...
@@Unknowncommon I agree with you
oh I’m sure the comments on this one will be civil
@@cocoon418 No cuz fr☠
😂😂😂😂
fuck yes.
Agreed. I haven't figured out how yet, but I'm kinda pretty sure that your comment on this one offends me...prolly
Lmfao fingers crossed
i think racial preferences become bad when you bring a race you wouldnt date down while trying to bring races you like up.
Hence this race bait video... cut loves to push prejudice towards white especially, as weve seen in multiple videos...
It’s also bad when your preferences come from racism and colorism
@@anythingchannel9326 i agree
For sure
White women that are into black men definitely do this
6:30 "Male, Breathing, Penis, Pulse" This is a mood sometimes.
... i'm having a hard time understanding this. Please explain... lol.
@@Haku15Mitarashi they're looking for someone alive who breathes with a penis 🤣
@@roxannek5266
... OMG IT'S LITERAL. THANK YOU... LOL.
... I really thought there was some other kind of meaning that was going over my head with that one.
... I see now that I over-thought it.
@@Haku15Mitarashi What does he man by that?
@@nightslasher9384
... the other person in here who explained it to me seems to have deleted their post... lol.
... basically, he's gay and prefers them to be alive. I guess because there are some out there that are into Necrophilia, though i'm not sure why he felt the need to address all the "living and pulsing" stuff.
as someone in a not so diverse community , i don't think I'm qualified to say i have a preference when there hasn't been much variety of choice to begin with
Lol good point
... I don't think that disqualifies you at all.
... there is little to no variety where I live either, but that never stopped me. In fact, it is the sole reason I desire something different than all of my friends and family around me.
... I have never met asian people in the areas i've lived in for most of my life, but having access to something as powerful as the internet has shown me the many types of races and cultures out there.
... and of them all, I found my preference to be asian. Japanese above all (because of their culture) and even at this point in my life with all my experience and all my travels, I have never once seen and met a Japanese person and they still remain my top preference.
@@Haku15Mitarashi damn lol
@@Haku15Mitarashi but your preference is sorta based on a façade you’ve never been in contact with these people only internet
@@iexistsomehow5718 they've never once seen or even met a japanese person, so their preference is like a fantasy 🥴
My only problem with 'racial preferences' is the fetishization and derogation that almost always comes with it.
That's just black females
@topknotch basically any race of women and white men lol, White dudes definitely have a weird thing with fetishizing women of color and as a dude of color it’s definitely a big turn off to deal with girls who eat it up
Fetishization is a sexual desire that people dont control, so how can it be wrong?
@@heyhandsome9396 because it’s a conscious decision to take it as a whole. You can be sexually attracted to a certain race but when you start attributing those beauty standards to all members of that race in men and women then it becomes a fetish
@@heyhandsome9396 Tbh tho the same thing could be said about pedophilia so..... your point is invalid unless you want to say that pedophilia is completely normal. In which case, you are not normal. Just a thought.
There’s no racism in having preferences.
What matters is fetishes are not a preferences and saying “I want to date ___ people” vs “I would never date specifically ___ people” (edit) are 2 completely different statements.
Also that woman that explained her dating history and said she doesn’t “deserve” to date non-white is kinda weird.
Yes I am attracted like 3 specific things about a man and the current race of my husband just so happens to match that 100% so idk if I’d say he was my preference but he definitely fit the qualities so I picked him even though I didn’t know why initially🤷🏾♀️
I’d still date any race if I was single but all of those races of men would have to fit the same qualities in order for me to be attracted, ALL of them though
It feels more sad than weird to me. Her family has had problematic behavior surrounding certain groups of people, and she feels responsible for that; so much so that she's limiting herself when what her family does isn't her problem. But on the other had, she may be still associating with said family (it's hard to cut yourself off), however if she did get into a relationship with someone her family had racial hostilities toward, she may have to make that decision: cut her family out or be with the partner without her family.
It isn't weird. She has internalized guilt in relation to her families beliefs. We act on internalized things on a daily basis so I don't fault her for that. It's good that she is aware of it and I hope she can be released of it. Also, I hope in reality she knows that the men she dated weren't crappy cuz they were white. They were just crappy 🤷🏽♀️
@@ztarr was weirded out specifically by how the last thing you mentioned related to her desire to date POC. I would’ve been weirded out regardless cause I’m genuinely sick of hearing about white people feeling guilty for their family/history, but that’s besides the point lol. Just didn’t like her reasoning
Friends have told me it’s not the race that’s a barrier, it’s the culture that comes with it that can be uncomfortable for some, like “will I fit in?” And people tend to avoid uncomfortability. For me I married and currently live in another culture and I do not always fit in and it can be uncomfortable at times, so I get it. No regrets tho
Not really. Physical attraction is a thing. And every race has its unique features. So it is 100% plausible and normal for someone to find a race less attractive than others.
@@manueltreill6358 yeah but "less attractive" is not the same as "not attractive". I can understand the former, not the latter.
Yeah that's a big part of it, and it also goes the other way. I think you find people more attractive if you are at least interested in their culture than if you're not.
@@connaeris8230 Why? It's perfectly normal to not find someone attractive. Am I saying that it is necessarily an entire race? No. Am I saying that it's only people of an entire race and not other races? Also not. But am I saying that it is certain features a race attributes to you that help deem you not attractive to someone? Yeah absolutely. Someone might not like blond hair at all and thus this can help deem some white people not attractive to them at all - and that's fine. Someone might not like the epicanthic fold and thus deem some Asian people not attractive at all - and that's fine. And other examples too.
@@manueltreill6358 in my opinion, saying all of the people of one race are not attractive is a generalization that does not take into account normal human variation. But if you cannot even think about finding someone with a specific hair color or eye shape attractive, then yeah, that seems pretty superficial to me.
6:12 The jewish woman said it would be preferable to marry someone jewish but the caption said profitable. I didn't know ya'll had Kanye doing your captions Cut 🤣🤣🤣
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“everyone’s invited to the potluck” that SENT me
sounded so nasty
I feel like people don't understand the word "preference". Just cuz you have a preference doesn't mean you only wanna date someone of said preference. That goes with anything else too e.g. I can still love cake even if I prefer ice.
Great point. I think arguing happens when people say they do NOT date a specific race because they do not find that race attractive. That needs a little more analysis of that person's mind because as human beings we are hardwired to be attracted to good-looking humans. When someone says there is not ONE attractive person out of millions of people in a specific race, to me that is interesting.
This! Some people mistake a deal-breaker for a preference.
Also, did you mean ice as in ice cream? 💀
wdyem u prefer ice bro 😭
Yes!
What an odd comparison...
Do you mean icing, like icing on a cake?
So here’s some weird science I’ve thought about with reference to interracial dating 🤔 so I believe I read somewhere, research has found that the more times we're shown a face, the more attractive it becomes. I don’t know why but if you believe in that statement, than you can understand why people find the people within there community attractive. To go deeper, I also think that’s why lot of people find white propel attractive. Due to the vast majority of celebrities in America being either white or aim to appear so. Not to say that there not naturally attractive as well. Like if your a kid, you’re going to be attracted to the kids you see on tv and that’s going to translate in real time. Alongside your community preferences.
That is an excellent point and also why representation/diversity in general is SO important. Let's be honest, people in MANY countries all over the world only strive to meet the European beauty standard because thats what has been ingrained into us as as "good" and "like-able/attractive".
nah. Cause in Asian countries, White men are basically worshipped.
Asian countries are 99.9% ethnically homogenous. They see more asian faces than white (or any other group).
BWC is superior.
Black also usually it's black and white
I’m late but great point
@@TC4loveandlife BWC is superior
It's okay to have preferences
Absolutely true!
Very true
Unless it's a fetish
@@Yellow-Banana yes!!
I'm black and I prefer white women, I have a lot of success with them
it’s very odd what that women said about seeing black skin as erotic…so you see black peoples as sexual objects??
Exactly , a fetish 🤢
Saying you're aroused by certain body features of someone isnt calling them sexual objects
That my friend is called FETISHIZATION which is pretty bad
@@Nvggs when it’s about race, it does become fetishizing.
@@tophat7735 attraction and arousal come hand in hand, it is just as much fetishizing as the girl who said about tall men
The Jewish woman said “it would be so much more PREFERABLE”, but the captions put it as “profitable”, TH-cam did you do this on purpose wth 😅😂
Lmfao they did me dirty ;)
Thinking the same thing 😂😂 someone making jokes
i read it and was like profitable??? what does that mean. Lol, glad you clarified.
@@samanthakossof1790 excuse me samantha what do u think of someone as me who has a jewish dad but non jewish mom? i've been wanting to get people who are jewish their opinion's on this because i really consider myself jewish in some way like ethnically even though your considered jewish if your mom is jewish and not your dad but like i said my mom isn't jewish only my dad.. so may i please have your thoughts on this? thank you samantha even if you don't respond :D
Sounds like she said tht 😂
5:00 imagine stopping to date a whole ethnicity of people because one mixed the words up from "person of color" to "colored person".
Ikkkk just correct the poor dude, he probably didn't do it to insult you
I searched for a comment about this because I had a similar thought. If he didn't have any hate attached to the phrase, it just seems like semantics.
I don’t think you understand lol
who cares
Lol Americans and their first world problems.
I think the biggest thing with “having a racial preference” is also just keeping in mind the people who live in your area, and of those people, who also like you back. If you’ve only dated POC, then that could mean you have a preference, or it could just be the major demographic that lives near you.
There’s nothing wrong with having a preference but some people don’t understand that having a preference doesn’t mean you get to exclude others having a preference is you prefer something but you’re OK if you get something totally opposite of that
Well if you have a preference, of course you will exclude the person who is not you preference to privilege your preference, what doesn't click with yall ?
@@zedxomzam8980 no. a preference means that if you had to choose between your preference and someone that doesn't fit into that type, you would probably choose the first person, but you could still go for the other person. moreover, it also means that if you would be faced individually with a random person, you wouldn't reject them just because they don't fit into your preference, you'd still give them a chance because the preference is a preference not an exclusion.
@@zedxomzam8980 bitch you sound dumb af
@@zedxomzam8980 in the same way that preferring pizza for dinner means you always eat pizza for dinner.
You could do that, but not necessarily.
@@zedxomzam8980 I pefer oranges over apples, that doesn't mean I hate all apples and I'll never eat an apple again in my life, if i go to the store and see a juicy apple I'll buy it over the orange. And just bc I like oranges doesn't mean I have to say bad things about apples
I feel like it can be rooted in racism, and it could be a fetish. But different races have different qualities that people can be attracted to, so as long as you aren't weird then like who you like.
I find it interesting that there is only one race that people feel comfortable publicly denouncing wholeheartedly.
That show how humble that one race to accept criticism without any rules or barriers.
It's because that race is the majority race in the country and are also responsible for the racism against the other minorities . As you heard what many POC said about it, They said it's because white people be clueless and do not relate to what they experience in their daily lives.
@@unknown-unknown69 How humble ?? It's not like they have the choice to accept it or not. The criticism is more than warranted and they know that.
@@lawtraf8008 and what race are you? Why is it only warranted for them? I'm interested to hear your hypocritical opinion
this was filmed in the US so yes context is important. please understand that you should *not* be ashamed to be white, it's just that there is a value in being compassionate to those who have suffered (in)directly from the negative manifestations of a society that has historically neglected non-whiteness. Living, growing, and cooperating together is possible with enough healing.
A fetish is looking at what they are instead of who they are. Preferences are normal and I feel some people lie when they say “I don’t have a preference”
I just know almost everyone here is a sad mf. If you have about other race and you normalize hating on others u have some type of mental problem and I hope u get treated. Who even worries about this stuff? I am legit embarrased for just opening this video, just to roast this nerds
The same could be said about any physical characteristic/ beauty. It's natural and completely ok
Some people just don’t have a racial preference
@@TC4loveandlifeесть)
"There's a blessing in difference" that's the most beautiful thing I heard today, more people should adopt this mentality.
I just know almost everyone here is a sad mf. If you have about other race and you normalize hating on others u have some type of mental problem and I hope u get treated. Who even worries about this stuff? I am legit embarrased for just opening this video, just to roast this nerds
Homogeneous communities tend to be better but ok
exactly!
"If it ain't foreign it's boring" rapped by Sir Michael Rocks of the Cool Kids 😌. That dude who almost got the lyrics right is a man of culture lol
@@thekatvita he didnt say "poc" he just said foreign aka he dont do americans...........
@@thekatvita Foreign does not only mean outside of the country. It can mean anything that you are not regularly exposed to.
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@@thekatvita the term POC is weird to begin with. Whiteness is relative, so what does POC even mean? Jews won't say their white but most people wouldn't call them POC. Many South Americans are white with blond and red hair, despite being Latino who tend to be grouped as POC, they're literally white. Russians have very oriental features to the point of confusion with Chinese or other Eastern Asians, but yet they're not POC?
It all doesn't make much sense to me, it does not seem to be consistent with anything.
@@treeve13 true, it's a retard concept.
5:20
"Anything but white and blonde"
Meanwhile, you can see her roots 😂
i love how you can easily tell the difference between those who answered this question honestly and those who just said what they thought they were "supposed" to say
“Do you have a certain type of guy?”
“I don’t like young guys. I like daddies.”
Same, girl.
Same here as well
Same except I like guys my age too
Samee. Daddies >>
I like them until they act even younger than you to "prove they're not old." That gets old fast.
@@ke3516 yeah men have worse internalized ageism than women I've noticed.
I think preferences are fine. It’s when someone is rude about it, or that there’s a fetish where it may be harmful. But, I would say preferences are completely normal
I have been learning about Asian culture for a long time since I was younger, my dream to settle down in Japan and marry to a wonderful Japanese woman who shares the same energy and values as I have.
Exactly what some people aren't understanding
I just know almost everyone here is a sad mf. If you have about other race and you normalize hating on others u have some type of mental problem and I hope u get treated. Who even worries about this stuff? I am legit embarrased for just opening this video, just to roast this nerds
@@zafhielKing I'm not hating on anyone. I don't need to date someone outside my preferences to show respect. I respect everyone but it doesn't mean I want to marry everyone.
I have a foot fetish and it's a fetish I'm not ashamed of. It's called sexual attraction.
I love how the guy at 2:53 says that there's a problem with it if you're looking at people's races in a solelly sexual way, and then immediately the woman that comes after him does JUST that... Yikes.
they always look like her too 😭
Yeah she was gross lmao
for me it's not so much race but more so cultures and ideals? I don't care what skin tone you have it's just whether we mesh on a personal level and have similar expectations of a partner, similar morals and beliefs. being cute is also a big bonus though.
yaa. I mean i like indian guys..but I'd be worried about the uptight culture. I say this as a child of african immigrant parents. that shit isnt fun at all
So true. People seem to forget about the major cultural differences that come with dating a different race
Same for me too! It’s more about culture and ideals for me as well as an Indian girl.
Funny thing being a Brazilian guy is that i dont think the "racial preference" is that strong here, i mean, everyone is so diverse that i never saw someone tell they have a racial preference
probably just colorism then
Colorism is strong as hell in Latam
Lol no. White brazilians will never mix with black brazilians, even some mulatto/mestizo families stay far away from black brazilians too
@@chelseacomps829 wtf? I'm a white brazilian and I have a black gf for almost 3 years now. I know racism exist whenever you go, but comparing with other places, its easier to see mixed couples here
@@avainspired What does colorism means?
Honestly I feel like a lot of people date to be comfortable and not go out of your comfort zone. Most people date to please their families or friends rather than doing what makes them happy. I went on a date with an Asian guy who wanted to have a relationship with me we both clicked so well and honestly to this day I felt like he was my soulmate, we were just falling so deeply in love with each other but we had to end it because he made it clear to me that his family would not accept me because I’m black. He said they might prefer it better if I was white but they would rather it be Asian. he was literally terrified and would cry because he said he doesn’t have the strength to go against his family so that was that. it’s been over four years and I’m still hurt 😞
Damn babe I feel for you. Hate that that was the way it ended up being. Hope you find happiness love!
Girl my partner is Chinese Korean and I'm Jamaican.. he said the same thing when we started dating, but his mother and family now love and adore me.. it just takes a little understanding of culture, because in someway my culture is similar to his.
Oh my
My sisters ex was a Japanese man, apparently the first time my sister met her, she said "well at least you didn't bring home a black girl".
It's very nice knowing now that he's dating a black woman and isn't in contact with his mother any longer /o/
6:48 she’s so real for that
3:01 Babygirl, i have something to tell you and you're not gonna like it...
Fetishizing for 100 please Alex
That was so gross.
I have a racial preference. I grew up around black and Hispanic people all my life and all my girlfriends have been either African American, Caribbean, or African. When I got to college I started being around other race and till this day I stick with what I’m used to. I don’t have anything against other race, I just feel more comfortable dating someone that looks like me and grew up like me.
it's rare to see a black guy who prefer black women nowadays
@@saddamhussein2230 it’s definitely not rare. Most people spend to much time on social media and they don’t go outside enough.
Lol , same here . I tried dating outside my race and then they got comfortable and thought they could use the n-word around me . 🙄😒 lol so im sticking to what I like and know 👌🏾 you’re handsome btw !!!!
@@saddamhussein2230 speak on your own women and stay out of our business Saddam.
Vast majority of us prefer black women, just leave us alone
@@themarathoncontinues4211 no y’all don’t.
4:51 this is sad but also rlly kind of her
There's a difference between having a natural preference & bashing people who aren't your specific preference. The later is where the issue comes in.
Yes u get it
My first friend was black. My first crush was black. My wife is white. Race had nothing to do with it. Personality did.
The way the girl at 2:01 talks and her facial expression is like the female version of Aba from Aba&Preach :)
Ahh, I can’t unsee it!
"IT IS A SICKNESS" 😂🤣🤣
Truuuue ! Funny thing is Im pretty she's also east african.
@@abigailno6127 yeah she is somali and aba is ethiopian literally right next to each other
Lool she’s hilarious
Thanks CUT, I got enough cringe of the month!
People usually lean towards people who look similar to themselves or somebody they know. It's a known phenomena. This isn't ALWAYS true, but it's a pretty baseline way in which humans decide on who attracts them.
It's not a phenomena lol, humans are tribal and have always been that way.
I believe this but as a bi woman, I am attracted to women that look the least like me 😅
@@7kraska Nobody cares that you're bi.
Majority of people are going to prefer their own race when it comes to dating , that's actually very common.
@@7kraska so what is that then? You don't feel that way about men though?
"I do tend to date white men more, which is probably why all the relationships have been awful..."
Imagine saying this about any other race
Let people date whom they want. There IS a problem with dating someone because you believe certain racial stereotypes about them (e.g. the submissive Asian woman, the well-endowed hyper-masculine Black man, or the hyper-sexual Black woman), but if you are simply attracted to a certain phenotype, I don't see why that would be inherently problematic. A lot of this discourse just devolves into policing people's sexual attractions or dating choices, and that I'm not cool with.
There’s literally not a problem w having a PREFERENCE.. smh. People have their reasons as to why they prefer a certain race.
I think this topic is incredibly complex and important.
"Caucasian" is NOT the same as "White Europeans". Caucasians are a very real ethnic group from Georgia, Armenia, etc. The only reason people use it to mean White is because of a German anthropologist (Blumenbach) who found a Georgian skull and thought it was the most beautiful one. He then concluded that all Europeans MUST have come from that area bc of their beauty. So I beg of you, as a Georgian to stop using our ethnic group's name to incorrectly refer to yours.
The fact that so few people know about this enrages me.
Thanks for informing me 🤝
@@roland1655 ❤
@@thekatvita sure there is Caucasian DNA out there, especially in Turkey. But that goes for nearly every race these days.
Just because a word has roots in something you don't like, doesn't mean its current use is invalidated.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caucasian_race#Usage_in_the_United_States.
So what if someone called her a coloured person , I say this as a coloured man , these people who are always offended should get a life
I’m more attracted to and more comfortable with people closer to my own skin tone. Nothing wrong with that at all. People also don’t take into consideration the huge cultural differences that come with dating a different race.
black men are taller, more muscular and have bigger penises compared to white guys. Black men know how to treat women as well.
change your mind and be open
Culture and skin tone are two different things. You can be the same colour as someone but very clashing and contrasting cultures. Two people could have different skin tones and very similar cultures so the problem is not skin tone but culture vicinity and similar mindsets
@@saddamhussein2230 You don't know what you're talking about, the average height of a European is 1.80 m and science says that the penis of blacks is not bigger, it's a stereotype created for the adult industry and y'all beat your women and abandon your child. 😂
@@neee-_-6643 y’all sleep with y’all siblings and don’t use wash cloth
@@Thatbul in African families it is normal for fathers to abuse their daughters and their wives are aware of that, in fact they end up having children and that is why there are so many genetic diseases, and you are writing for an app, a cell phone and an internet service created by whites so watch your words. 😉
Unless you meet online, your brain is going to automatically decide if they’re attractive or not. You can’t know their personality first. I don’t have a preference but my dating history is majority white straight guys. The play I wanted wasn’t always the play I got 😂
I don’t think this is everyone’s experience. Maybe you’ve met or heard of demi people before?
even then superficial people wont take the time to get to know you online "send pictures" at least thats how it is today. in day in the early 2000s i met ryan (korean) online and this is before smart phones so he took me not having a camera as an understanding so we didnt get to see what each other looked like for 2-3 years once i got out of high school, got a job and saved up for a very shitty webcam. so we just talked and connected on a mental level. that and my relationship with my father (which is also long distance) is what formed my basis of how relationships should work and how they work for me: communication communication communication. looks and locations dont matter but i NEED you to be available emotionally and with your time, thats it. thats too much to ask for nowadays. #singleforlife
@@mishlake1 I’m Demi but I still find that physical features and attraction is important. It’s not like being Demi means you don’t care about looks at all, it’s more just that you want a bond with someone before you start to get deeper feelings for them.
@@mishlake1 She said at first. Your brain will decide if it likes the look of “someone’s jib” without us even knowing. It’s not even all about physical features, it’s also the way someone carries themselves and everything. If you don’t like that than you’re not going to put the time in to get to know their personality.
@@parfate1383 I never suggested that looks don’t matter to demi people with regards to attraction. I only objected to the assertion that universally, attraction comes first, from physical looks, because “you can’t know [someone’s] personality first.” My perspective is that for demi people (myself included), very typically, learning someone’s personality actually *precedes* attraction-that in effect, attraction isn’t even a possible or likely event until after a personal bond is created.
5:14 if she would have said anything but black, everyone would be tryna cancel her
Person of color and colored person is litteraly the same.
Umm whattt
When it comes to choosing you intimate partner I think you can be as piky as you want. At the end of the day as long as is two consenting adults who gives a damn. Racism is relevant when working with and dealing with people in the community. Being attracted to someone and choosing who you want to live with is personal choice. If you have to shame someone to like you, you already lost.
Sing it! You're absolutely right.
I hope i never meet any of the people in this video
are u planning to never go outside?
@@celsaauriel2744 shut up
@@celsaauriel2744Nah they just gotta stay out of LA
Question idea: “Would you date someone that supports a different political party as you?”
i second this!
this would be cool
Fuck politics 😂
Yess
I’ve never been so early to a CUT video before feels wrong lol
@@Cristiano_km I already lost. Im laughing at your shameless attempt to get free views.
Dating itself is about excluding people. You're looking for the person you think it's suitable for you and your needs and as long as you are what they need, everyone is of legal age, consenting and there's mutual feelings and understanding, go for it.
Some people feel better and safer dating within their race, while others are more open to dating outside their race and take everything that comes with it. To each their own, really. What we shouldn't do is fetishizing. Other than that, we should stop being so offended if we're not someone's type.
RIGHT
The woman at 6:46 is always so hilarious. I love her 😂
She's so funny 😂😂 she likes DADDIES
growing up as someone whose been attracted to many shades and shapes of people. It just confuses me when I hear people have preferences. Mainly cause in my mind, you havent met everyone that is white, black, asian, or whatever. But this video has definitely showed me the environment you grew up in/community of/ or family has great influence on what your dating preferences are. At least when it comes to someones race.
And society can have an influence
"Male, breathing, penis, pulse"🤣
"If she ain't foreign
She's boring"
😂
But how foreign? there's levels of how foreign :)
3:05 is the textbook definition of fetishization.
My skin crawled
so what? who cares, why it is a problem
What do you even call it a racial preference? I'm black woman and I'm attracted to black men. That's not "racial preference" that's just the natural order of things.
“Everyone’s invited to the gangbang. It’s a potluck” my new favorite phrase
what's your preferences in a guy ?
That hijabi girl giving me homie vibe ...
2:02
Homie vibes?
Yesss
Just listening to her voice and speech pattern, someone tell me she doesn't remind you of Aba from Aba&Preach
@@lawjones1 aba and preach?
@@missisto3908 they're a youtube commentary duo
I always have been attracted more to femenine looking men, because of how masculinity was portrayed to me by my dad and how I subconsciouslly related it to negative experiences that I had with him. I didn't even realized it, but always had crushes on lots of asian or half asian men just because a lot of times they have really delicate features and it was something I leaned to with out thinking about it. I also found men like Timothy Shalame really attractive too because of femenine facial features. Only last year I started to analyze my preferences and was really surprised.
To clarify things. I never said that I have a "type on asian men" or anything like that and won't date someone because they are asian. I didn't like them because of their race, but because of the way some of them expressed themselves like, style, clothes and make up. My friends were the ones that made me think about it more cause they actually told me about my "preference" and only then I realized it. I hope I didn't say nothing that could offend anyone. Share your opinions about my experience, I would like to know how other people see this kind of situations.
"one part of a spectrum of many flavors" love that
This was great to watch! I’m like the dude who said if I find you attractive I find you attractive. Unfortunately I have been stereotyped by other races and fetishized when trying to date. It’s a turn off.
What?
@@gummydrops8622 what does that mean?
You’re really cute, I’m glad to know i could have a (small) chance
@@SuperZamForever thank you! 😏
Are you on about women?
As someone who doesn't have a racial preference I think it's stupid to get hung up over someone else's dating habits unless it's illegal or hurting someone if not then I don't see why it should be a concern of anyone else when it has zero impact in their own life. You can have as many preferences as you want even if their stupid or fetishes as long as it's not illegal.
Anyone who says they don't have preference is lying if you ask me. Everyone has a sort of preference. It can change by your age or events but saying you have none at all is not very realistic to me. Most of them are probably afraid to be labelled as "fetishizers" or something like that and refrain from giving an honest answer. It is ok to have preferences, there is a major difference between fetishizing a group and simply liking their features. It is about focusing what people are instead of who they are.
Also preferences definitely change. I am a Turkish woman and growing up I have been attracted solely to White people (hollywood, youtube, some white friends) or my local Turkish folk. I was not attracted to Asian men at all like it was 0%. After I moved to Japan for my work, a month or two later since I was being surrounded by them, my preference definitely changed and I am attracted to those features a lot now. That doesn't mean I will jump unto anyone with East Asian features though. It all ends in personality and compatibility which is the same standard I put for Turkish or White folk.
Also, when I am attracted someone's personality and mannerisms, I start to get attracted to the physical features they have also. Emotional connection turns into physical attraction for me. (Still, has to be with men though...)
why are you not attracted to black guys ?
@@jean5605 Because just with East Asian people back then I have never been around black people and I had limited exposure to them in media since growing up, American media was very White, seeing it from my country. I wouldn’t eliminate anyone just because they are black if their personality and lifestyle is compatible to mine but I would be lying if I said there aren’t physical features I like a bit better.
I don't think it's fair to say everyone without a preference is lying just because you have them. growing up in a very diverse community has exposed me to so many beautiful women of all different races and I truly don't have any preference as long as we have a connection
Yeah some of us have preferences - tall, broad shoulders, atheletic. That can be fulfilled by any race.
We can also have preferences for dark, medium and pale skin tones all at the same time.
@@Ceylin_Kurtbogan it sounds like your preferences are media and surrounding based which actually makes much more sense then just thinking one race is better looking indefinitely, you have a point
There's difference between "oh I'm more attracted to this group of people more than the others" vs "I wouldn't date this specific group of people"
this is literally it
There's nothing wrong with either at all
@Paarth Sudan No wtf? If I wanna date a white guy and not a black one it's not racism,racism is discrimination against or race or oppression and disrespecting them for they skin and maybe culture
If a black person dates another black person because they want black kids is it racism? You're just pressuring people into dating you when they don't want to
@@paarthsudan2982so is it racism when poc do it? 💀 theres alot of poc who just dont date outside their ethnicities cause they wanna feel firmiliar. same culture, same family dynamics
When has it become so acceptable to mock white men? I'm female but I'm so disgusted by people talking trash about them. Why do people think it's ok and seem proud of it
Most people don't do that.
Internalized jealousy lmao
@@kybbr are you one by any chance? 🤣
They are jealous because they are the most preferred race according to statistics
Im a girl im half latina and i also dont understand that im not attracted to most men but white european men are the most attractive to me
Americans are so obsessed with race, it’s getting sickening in my opinion. Just date who you want to date, end of discussion.
Stop paying attention to what we do then
Please be quiet
@@teetheluchador Fr they literally say the same things when it comes to addressing topics of race in America . I guarantee you this person is a European
@@iexistsomehow5718 they swear just cause they ignore issues with race that it don’t exist lmao
do you prefer black guys, jennifer ?
This made me realise that although I don't have a racial preference, I end up with Black men because they are the only ones who approach me to attempt a romantic relationship. Other races don't step up to me which makes me feel like they think we don't stand a chance. 😥💔 and I personally refuse to make the first move because it's against my values so...
What race are you ?
Same! If I find someone attractive it doesn't really matter to me. I have no "preference" cute is cute. I have found people from all over the world attractive. The men I have had relationships with are never white because I am almost never approached by white men. Black men always approach me and make their interest known. Black men also seem to pick up on my flirtation easier.
Im black but I gotta say, it's totally cool to step out the expected role of being the one who is approached. You have an eye on someone and want to connect with them strongly enough, take the chance! It's not a law for only men to do the courting. What should be illegal is letting someone who seems really good pass you by and it didnt have to be that way
This is the real reason black women APPEAR “loyal” to black men. At least you are being honest, the truth is that most of y’all just aren’t getting approached by the other guys as much. This is why I don’t take these convos seriously
Different groups of men flirt differently. I’ve realized it since moving to a more diverse place. Black men and Latino men are far more up front when they approach. White men are much more subtle and gentle when they approach. I used to think they were just being friendly until I look back on it and they were clearly flirting LMAO. Never been flirted with by an Asian men but I’ve heard they can be really shy. I’ve dated Latino, black, and white men. Now I wanna try Asian or Arab
To the women who said they dont have any racial preference, you are hope in the dating world. We all know when they have a racial preference, it tends to be majority white guys. Lets not play dumb.
Those who choose the sperm donor route usually pick the white donors. I guess it's the recessive genes, and they want their babies to inherit those features.
Especially for the AF AND HAPA!!!!
Everyone has a slight racial preference. Some just lie to seem virtuous. The asian incels shouldn't get too much hope.
I do have a preference for people of color, mostly Mexican or native as im mixed (mexican and native) and grew up around different cultures, but at the end of the day i really dont care. Personality is what makes me stay :]
It is ok to have preference... don't need to force yourself to be "politically correct"
7:05 He just needs to hug you to check first 🙃
Wait is she from the red button
@@jjhhh2341 yep
@@sarutaii bruh *he* lying "im attracted im attracted to you" dude literally admited to only dating asian girl's
@@jjhhh2341You meant 7:07? He's Asian guy himself. I get that he might be lying here, but it's not weird to (exclusively) date people of your own race. It's weird if he, for example, only date white women because that's most likely rooted in fetishism.
I’m more attracted to people that speak Spanish. Unfortunately when I try to filter that on dating sites, it just shows me guys that chose “hispanic” as their race (even though it’s not a race). But I’ve talked to guys of every race and some that don’t speak Spanish too.
I don’t think there’s something wrong with preferences but it’s tricky because it could be rooted in racism or fetishism. Or ignorance. I’ve had a couple guys tell me they’re not into black women, which I am (black hispanic). One of those guys was black and I was in a relationship with and the other was Korean, someone who I met on a forum and we liked eachother before even seeing eachother or knowing race
THE ONLY PREFERENCE I HAVE IS : BE A DECENT HUMAN BEING 👏 👏
Too unrealistic; just pick an ethnicity like the rest of us
@@chrisr393 It's actually VERY realistic for some people. I don't care if you're white, black, brown, purple, yellow or blue. I don't care about race. I love all people. However, you'll never hear me say I love a lying, cheating narcissist with zero moral values.
Character matters. Chris.
@@QueensNYgirlie1988 I think they were joking / being sarcastic
Dating is not about making certain race feel validated, it’s about how 2 adults prefer to live their lives, so it’s only their business who they choose to date. You can only cry about it if you disagree
4:44 this woman is a ridiculous person
yeah just say white men are bad lol
I am not attracted to fat women and I have no shame saying it. It's just a preference and I cannot change it. It's the same thing as for women who don't find short guys attractive. I don't get why women give so much hate for just being honest. I have all the rights to reject you based on my preferences, just like you do me.
Well next time you see or hear another man shaming, verbally attacking, devaluing, or putting down a fat woman - put that man in his place.
And then we will start talking about fairness in expressing of preferences
U GET IT!
dating a different race doesnt matter, its the culture they grow up in and how they act that matters. Could be Black, Japanese, Indian...they all could potentially mesh terribly
Can u have a racial preference but date outside of your preference? I think yes. Some ppl's preferences aren't really that deep. That might just stem from true ignorance of the unknown.
I"m a dark skinned Black woman and when I was younger, White young guys would approach me. If I had not moved down South away from my first White Italian boyfriend we probably would have been married with a kid. He was soooo sweet and we just clicked. But I love my Black men and I would consider any race again if my current relationship does not last. I'm older now and I also raised my daughter to be open and date outside of her race and not to box herself in. She is currently in a interracial relationship, he's North Indian, and he is the sweetest young man, like a son to me.
People keep confusing what a preference is. Having a preference is basically saying you have a favorite, most people have a favorite color or food but they still like other colors and other foods. A preference is not supposed to exclude groups, that's called discriminating. We discriminate against things and people for many good and bad reasons in society, but usually when you exclude racial groups from your dating pool or social circle, it's probably based on stereotypes and preconceived notions/attitudes for members of that race, which is why it's a problem.
Dating is discriminatory in its nature that’s the difference between dating/attraction and racism. You can’t control if someone prefers or is naturally attracted to features over a different set of features. Racism is having a negative connotation for someone based on their skin color and how they look not based on if I’m attracted to you or not
What?!😂
Preferring one isn't bad, avoiding one is the problem
What problem? Why are you avoiding drug houses instead of going in and cleaning them?
@@PROVOCATEURSK What the fuck does this reply mean
@@PROVOCATEURSK what’re you even on about?
@@ruefulri222 they are trolling, I'm not giving them my attention
@@bigtig23 ah...
I once fell in love with a black girl at church (I'm white). She really liked me too, but I eventually understood it couldn't work: I felt an atheist more and more inside while church was an essential part of her life. That made me realize it's important to prioritize cultural preferences.
Uhm you couldn't have loved her that much.
I will now be referring to to a GangBang as a “Potluck”.