Exactly!!! It's not even the devastating fact of the cheating that could be the most messed up part even. That's exactly how STDs are Created & Passed smh. Wtf
Aussie girl here. Emma, Emma, Emma... I was 27 when my husband cheated on me at the 7 month mark. She was 17! I quietly sorted out somewhere to stay that week then packed my stuff and left when he went to work on the Saturday morning. Best thing I ever did. I'm 70 next year and have had the most amazing life possible. Don't spend your life looking for a man, just go out there and live yours to the full. If there is someone out there for you he will know you are the right one for him rather than you looking for the right one for you. Don't waste another day, just cut and run and be your true self. I've travelled, had my own businesses, I own my own home and studied a lot. I still work part time and am now studying Fine Arts which I am really good at. To thine own self be true. I hope you see this comment 💙😺🇦🇺
Aussie girl. Love your story. You are truly an inspiration for any woman or man who is in a situation like this poor girl Emma. Keep up the good work and blessings to you.
A nurse?! Baby girl, you have a full blown career!!! Get away from that foul demon and build a life for yourself peacefully until someone worth your time comes alone!!!!
@@benmyers9030 She is not angry at all. She's calling him what he is. She is correct to say that. A MARRIED man, who has the audacity to TELL his wife that he WANTS to cheat ....aaaannd he has cheated ALREADY....yes, has cheated ALREADY? Yes, he absolutely IS a Foul demon. She's right.
@@lorrainesmith.4995I’m sorry he turned out to be o 304. There are so many of them out there. I gave up on dating in my late 20’s, it’s a more peaceful life!
She takes vows like “for as long as you both shall live” literally, huh? 🤔 Smart gal. Wise woman. You’re a lucky man. 🍀 You’d be amazed the filth & disgust she is saving you from. Lucky guy.
Haha, my husband was talking to some coworkers before a virtual meeting. They were both talking about how they control the house because they yell louder than their wives. My husband laughed and said "well, i dont yell. My wife is mexican and owns a shovel, a tarp, and tacoma with the off road package". I was making breakfast, and that man got crepes and bacon that morning.
Uuuhhhmmm, I am with you, but not everybody is as introverted as we are. Some folks get energy, comfort, and shocker - stability - from those they love, like spouses. Heaven forbid ;o)
@@brightpage1020agree but extroverts who don't realize a toxic partner is draining them instead of energizing them is a situation where being alone for a bit is objectively healthier.
My partner tried this said he wanted variety, I went and booked a swingers event to meet others, I didn't tell him where we were going. He done a 180 after I was approached non stop and no one approached him. He said he didn't want to. I continously rambled on about how I didn't care if he slept with women, he didn't want me to sleep with men. He completely changed after that night 😂. I told him I know my power as a woman and if you want to see that come out and play I will go there. He would literally lick my feet now if I asked him to.😂
@@Flower55949 That's not how swinger events work, it would be considered rude not to approach the both of you together. Furthermore, if you husband isn't ugly women will be interested in him. Single women have more options but if you went as a couple that changes the dynamics.
@ThompsonGrant I got separate tickets so we had the option of entering and leaving alone, fab night so pretty standard. He wanted to sleep with other women so when we arrived I told him that he had permission and to go do as he pleases, he ran in guns blazing and left me, I had a drink and went in after, it was a meet and greet with a small community. He spoke to the bar man and the events couple and that was it. I was approached by women, men and couples. He wanted to leave so we left and went to karaoke bar and I told him I understood why he wanted to sleep with others and mabey I could to said i felt powerful( i didnt i was heartbroken). He broke down,cried and said he didn't want to. Am I saying this fixes everything? Definitely not, I still feel hurt and it had a huge effect on myself, I went from being confident to insecure and depressed. We still talk about it it a joke manner, but perhaps as we get older it cud be something on the table. The folks were all super friendly and respectful which we both agreed on. But yea since then he has went from a Chad to mr gentle
My ex-husband (6 year relationship + 11 year marriage) asked me to have an open marriage. When I said no, he straight asked me: are you willing to sacrifice our relationship over this? 😂 I said: of course I am!!!! I thought I was going to fall apart, and I did for a while, but now I am SO thankful I followed my values instead of the comfort of the known.
I’ll bet he still tries to sleep with her too! 🤢 so unsafe. On top of that, what if one of his lovers gets jealous of the woman he goes home to every night-!? She’s in so much danger omg
"Alone with a weight tied to your ankle", more like to your neck! Very well said👏 It's unreal what he's asking to begin with but then to add on top of that that she can't see other men is insane.
It’s not over until it’s over and as much as this guy sucks at the end of the day if she’s the one that files then she’s the one that left. That’s how that works even if it’s justified she will still be the one that divorced him so she’s the one that literally ended the marriage because the cause of 100% of divorces is filing for divorce. I’m not saying she shouldn’t. I’m just saying what the reality is.
I work as a DV advocate, and I highly suspect that caller one is also dealing with issues she's not expressing in the call. That dude sounds controlling, misogynistic, and he obviously objectifies her. I hope she safety plans before formally starting the divorce because the dude is going to freak out when the wife he groomed for cheating suddenly isn't putting up with it anymore. Narcissists hate losing control.
You a hundred percent explained my 19-year relationship. Left with my kids a yr ago. I always thought he was going to kill me if I left him, but little by little, I realized they were just empty threats.
@@stevendavis5095 by your logic, if a woman refuses to date a man who follows redpill content because most of it is derogatory to women, then she probably is single? By your logic are you saying all men are sexist, since any woman who respects herself has to be single? You are indirectly critiquing men, you know.
Your comment is offensive. There is never a good age for this to happen to you. There are multitudes of older women that this happens to. Your age doesn’t make it easier. Whatever age you are you have to start over - all over again.
To the wife, don’t do it!!!!! I haven’t even listened yet and my whole body is screaming no to her. After 9 years of marriage, we opened our marriage. It’s Pandoras box. I now forever will live in the shadow of my husband gf. After 20 years of together, I am broken and the cortisol levels I live with daily will shorten my life. To the wife, run now while you’re still young.
Why are you still with him this is Insanity! What man is worth living in earthly hell and going to eternal hell over?? NONE! He's not worth another night of lost sleep, find your self worth and move on with your life. 17yrs married and been through a lot myself, would Neeever tolerate it again!
Agree. After 5 years I let my partner have a 7 day pass after he kept indicating he wanted to and that door NEVER closes. Cut to: “I want to marry you both and have us all live together and sleep in same bed and have babies together at same time”
My ex was literally the same thing. Watched a lot of alpha male influencers and had an unwavering hatred of women and justified it by saying I was a good one. When he asked for an open relationship but only for him I left and never looked back. I feel bad that she’s already married to him but it will get worse and she needs to leave. The good times don’t outweigh the fact that someone doesn’t respect you for who you are.
No that is not how sexual dynamics work Are women Loyal when they are in their 20s and high value? No, they play the field. Likewise when men are 35+ and have money and gravitas: we play the field.
No, its much much worse. He wants to be married to have someone take care of his dirty underwear, raise his kids, and cook his meals but he wants to also have the perks of being single at the same time.
No, he wants to be married, he just wants to do want he wants. Cause if he didn't want to be married, he'd just divorce her or just not married her in the 1st place. Problem solved easy.
I feel so heartbroken for the wife. That's being told you're not enough, you're not loved and not worthy of loyalty. He sounds gross and disgusting to me. I'm so sorry for her. Yeah she can get manipulated into permission. Doesn't mean she will feel good, that she won't hurt or feel sick and sad inside. It's so cruel. I don't like him!
Sadly, for many women, the negatives you present are nothing compared to the feeling of loneliness these women experience. It’s comparable to the battered-wife-syndrome. My wife and I listened to this almost an hour ago and it’s still bothering me.
He listens to Andrew Tate so I’m not shocked that he thinks it’s an ok behavior. Those red pill podcasters are poisoning people and making money off them
@syn707 it's one thing to feel lonely when you're actually alone. Somwthing totally different to feel lonely in a marriage. I think she'll feel better once she gets out of there and doesn't look back.
He must believe he’s a ‘hunkah-hunkah-burnin-love’, and she’s totally bought into it, as she briefly mentioned at the end of her call that if she chooses to leave, she won’t have the “security…that I would need.” He’s got her believing that she’s the ONE he married (she’s HIS wife), that he’s provided a comfortable life for, including a beautiful house, BUT those other women are transitory side chicks, simply distractions that he’s got to share his overflow of ‘burnin-love’ with. After all, he returns to her at his home. Dr. Delony’s suggestions were met with “Mmm hmm, yes, okay, mmm hmm.” There’s something a bit off here….I think she’s willing to trade in the best years of her young life in exchange for a particular lifestyle that’s a transitory facade. He will be searching for a new, younger wife within 5 (maybe 10) years, when her prime reproductive years have passed and he can be assured she won’t be having children with another man. This is more than ‘serious ew!’; it’s actually quite sad.
And this is one of the many reasons majority of women have to file for divorce. He’s happy cheating and coming home to a loving wife. She is not happy with this arrangement. Would the happy person file for divorce?
This! Most of the time when a woman files, it's because the husband has checked out maybe for months or even years, maybe even openly living with a girlfriend or mistress. Divorce takes paper work too it's not easy. Then a lot of men complain that women file for divorce more and that is because he most likely is not bothered with the actual hassle of filing for divorce. By the time a woman files for divorce the woman has been trying and trying beggfing pleading, asking him just come home. And the ñn when the divorce papers are served it ' I never saw that coming'
THIS! EXACTLY THIS!!! Men are happy doing whatever awful thing they want yet expect to stay married. Women go to the effort to actually divorce because they have morals.
He’s probably been emotionally abusing her for years and even telling her she won’t find anyone better than him and no one will love her like he does. Narcs are all the same. Get out while you still can and DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN WITH THIS GUY.
@@GuidofromPuertoRico Wow I'm not sure how much value I'd place on a man who thinks like that. I just remember getting sexually. harassed in my 20s. I didn't feel very valued.
He is demanding the benefits of being married and single at the same time. He is being deliberately very manipulative and will probably try to exploit her vulnerability to try to keep using her after she leaves him too.
He is never going to be anything different than what he is. It may look different to you from the outside but trust me. He will just cheat on the next one too.
My husband cheated on me 20 years ago. We are now into our 34th year marriage. It is hobbled and crippled us. We love each other very much, but that pain never goes away that betrayal never goes away. If you knew what it was gonna be like later down the road you would never do it, trust me I live it every stinking day. It’s not worth it.
being alone is one of most empowering things!!!! waiting until you find the right person! in the meantime pick hobbies, be with good energy friends, family, etc .....better than being with the wrong person, which is the same as "feeling alone"....
When a person wants to cheeeat on you in front of you, this only means that (s)he doesn't respect you & in this case, he literally wants to show you that in front of you. This is the ultimate form of his disrespect. 🙏 Please 🙏 leave 🙏 the 🙏 scene & marriage. 🙏 Especially when kids are involved. I have worked with children & teenagers & some of them suffered even from PTSD due to the animalistic lifestyle of their parents. In my country, there was a mother whose boyfriend said to her he will only marry her when she's willing to open the marriage & guess what happened after she did him the favor? He fell in love with the third person, left the mom & lives now in a monogamous relationship with his new partner. Don't do this pain to yourself. It's not worth your health. 💔
if he wants to openly cheat, i don't know how he respects her or himself. People should be proud of making life with one person and raising a good family.
Calls like the first make me so grateful for my husband. I know many men like my husband; as many horrible men that we hear about there's just as many good ones. Same goes for women too. Don't let the negative people you hear about warp your view of an entire gender.
Yes let’s not forget this isn’t exactly a show where people call in to share their relationship wins. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. Media focuses on where the drama is, not the stability, so it’s biased because the drama is why we all tune in - to remind ourselves how much worse it could be. Phew! 😅
32 years for me. Started over, 4 years ago. I believe it was probably covert narcissism. Almost destroyed me but God was with me and got me out. Now I am thinking about having a healthy relationship in the future God willing.
I've finally adopted, for my own sanity, that if ANYONE becomes destructive or toxic to me, my marriage or family I either limit contact, or if necessary cut contact if they CHOOSE to continually stomp all over my good boundaries! It doesn't matter who they are. I do it respectfully but I GET TO CHOOSE whether I continue with their toxic or destructive behavior in my life or not!
He is 100% letting you know the marriage is over. He wants his cake and eat it too. Doesn't want to lose his assets. Take him for everything and move on.
“Take him for everything” certainly doesn’t perpetuate red pill philosophy at all. Gen z men are starting to see all women like this and see no value in marriage. Too bad this guy wasn’t one of them.
Caller: Husband wants permission to cheat John: Has he cheated before? Caller: Yep Who else had zero surprise there? Cut your losses, divorce him YESTERDAY.
Sit him down, have a conversation, record it. Get him to say how he cheated, that he wants permission to cheat but you can't, etc and send it to his family and keep for divorce court.
Some people need to place blame so it makes them look like the good guy. I say just leave and don’t worry about what he says, he’s a user anyway. Living well is the best revenge.
yup he'll be telling everyone she left him "for no reason" and make her look like the bad guy. i still hope she leaves.. people need to be ok with looking like the villain if it means preserving her sanity and not wasting more time w this loser
When my husband left, wherever I went i.e. to the store, work or to pick up my sweet daughter, there were little blood drops wherever I was - that‘s how it felt. My heart was bleeding and I thought I‘d never, ever get over the separation. But, I did. In retrospect it was one of the most painful things but also the best thing that happened to me. There is no pain free way to get through this but, if one sees every single day like a day closer to healing, it really helps. When he left, I made up my mind to completely sign out which means, I did not call him, did not force him to see our daughter, did not call his family, did not check his social media. I completely started a new life and healed My heart. When people asked about him (sometimes intentionally to hurt me), I’d reply that I really do not know but I hope he is happy. And I said that until I meant it. When his girlfriend broke up with him (the one he left me for), he called me after 5 years crying like a baby; he asked if I could sit with him as he feels unsafe with himself; so I did and I held his hand and told him it‘s going to be okay. Then I left with our daughter and never asked again and continued with my life.
Leave him! My ex tried the same thing while i was pregnant. Guess what hes had multiple woman and hasnt found anybody like me. You are successful young and deserve respect
Emma he has you believing you can't do better than him but he's the undesirable one, he's the one that will never find better. he's a rotting carcass you're dragging around, but the ties and run free!
Emma, It won't get better. He's decided that he wants his cake and eat it too and you are enabling him. You need to have a good job and trust God to bring you better and if you pray and talk to God this could easily happen. You don't understand the damage he is doing to you. I guess that emotionally you are a wreck. Stay strong and get support and walk away. Good luck! I pray for you!
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've learned that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years back, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to work things out. It was a hard time, but we got past it.
Moving on from someone you hold dear is invariably challenging, but in my experience, I was guided by a spiritual counselor who prevented the breakdown of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
So very true. However asking to cheat while expecting your spouse to just accept it, is way past the point of “doable”. Any man who asks this obviously does not love his wife, respect, or even care for her. If he wants to cheat the only answer is to leave.
Right there with you. After 33+ years of marriage where there were 8 (or more, hard to get truth from someone who lies so easily) long-term affairs and some hook-ups I have said enough! I am worthy of love, respect, and integrity and now I am starting over at the age of 61. It is hard but we can do it. It was never my plan to be divorced, but it was never my plan to be married to a cheater and suffer from that kind of abuse. Hoping you find peace and happiness.
Me terrible first marriage…. So bad spent next 30 years alone and learned to enjoy it…. Then married again, wonderful guy, 24 years extremely happy…. Never too old …..
What is wrong with the women that call in. Do not tolerate any cheating. I would rather be old and lonely than settle for someone that had no respect for me
Blaming hurt women for the downfalls of crappy men is not cool. Denial is real, sunken costs are real, relying on someone financially and feeling lost is real, wanting to repair is real. Leaving is a great choice that many women will make when cheated on, but needing advice and to be talked through the reality of the situation isn’t a bad thing.
Oh my word...I would tell him I'd think about it. Then I would secretly meet with an attorney, prepare and file a divorce, clear out any joint accounts, change the locks and kick him out of the house. Make sure to keep all important paperwork in a separate, secure location. You'll probably have to return half of the joint funds at some point but at least HE won't clear it all out and then YOU have to spend $$ to fight to get it back. Dude doesn't respect you. He's an ass.
@@benmyers9030depends on the state. Our clients did it all the time. Changing locks was put in the temporary orders after the clients gave theirs exes 24 hours or 1 week to clear out their stuff. Although the ex could probably go right back and change the locks after they left since they still had an interest in the property, we never had that happen. They also took out money as well even thoug❤h we didnt tell them to. Judges didn't have a problem with it when they knew they didn't spend all the money either. Had to do more with exes with a history of abusive and controlling behavior where the clients would never see a dime again if they left it in the joint accounts. Either way the amount prior to filing is what is divided so the ex doesn't lose their half, they just can't screw over a vulnerable party after filing.
I met my man at 38. 2 bad marriages and 1 long term in my review. Been married 21 yrs now. We go into marriage for life, but when a partner goes bad, you can go.
Being alone doesn’t compare to the feeling of being disrespected, overlooked, and not appreciated. He wants his cake and eat it too? I don’t know you girl, but here’s a big hug! You are worth so much more than just being a wife. It’s not the ultimate goal. Go out into the world and discover yourself! You are loved. 🥰
Why bother getting married if you want to cheat, omg this is crazy! stay single if you want this lifestyle I have been through this except my ex didn’t tell me and had numerous affairs, when I filed for divorce he said how sorry and would never happen again, hmm yeah too little too late I got rid of him!
You gave great advice again! I was married to that person far too long. Awareness acceptance action.. Stand in your power!! i am remarried to a fantastic man now for 11 beautiful years!!
I am 47 years old, never married and no kids and I’d rather be alone than to be with a husband who has cheated and asks if he can cheat openly. This woman needs to get over the fear of being alone and gain some self respect!!
"That 5 foot 5 man with a balding head and beer belly who makes 40 k a year desrrves someone completely in love with him" see how it doesnt make any sense? I would be laughed at if i made that statement. Its a cruel world we live in
@CrystalBrightz it's a reality. I know many people do not like living in reality and rather live in delusion. No one deserves anything that is the reality of the world. Whether you accept reality is up to you.
Please value yourself and walk away (safely). No one deserves that kind of life. Give him what he wants. He can have all the flings he wants. Without you! I was 46 (also a nurse) when I divorced. I’m with a wonderful, respectful man now and the last 8 years have been wonderful! You’re 30… you can do it. Not to mention this is not SAFE. You’re a nurse and know what can happen.
That man isn't going to suddenly change his tune with another woman. This is his attitude, his core values are hallow. What wrong with him is inside him not because of her.
I am married, in a new country and my husband definitely has the upper hand in everything but i will tell you this i have told him point blank if we don't love each other as we said we would i would put my clothes in a trash bag and be homeless before i allow anyone mistreat me. I don't care who you are. Do not be afraid to leave an abusive spouse no matter the situation. Abuse is worse than homelessness and this man is clearly abusive in more ways than one. Asking you to your face to cheat on you is insanity.
My ex of five years tried the same thing with me three years in. His alternative to "cheating" is he wanted me to lose weight. I lost the weight, and he told me my arms were still "flabby". I kept holding on and hoping he would change back into who he was before that conversation and it just got worse. I held on for almost two years and then he ended things with me before my fake deadline that I created in my head. I'm thankful for the dog that I got out of the relationship but I wish I would have left sooner. I was 28 at the time, around Emma's age, and was single for a long time to just process everything. I grieved the relationship that used to exist, but it hadn't for a while, and once it was over I was just relieved.
30 is still so young, there is still more than one good person out there that you can live a life without always feeling not quite good enough for their partner.
Even if she can explain to him why adding more people into their marriage won't work... It's still not worth it, he must be incredibly immature to think that makes sense, or to think Anfrew Tate is someone to take seriously.
You feel uncomfortable because he is already cheating. Get out now, before he destroys your soul. I married a man who cheated and it took years to restore my self-worth and confidence. Get out now. Do not look back.
It really says a lot about a person's view of themselves when they have to even go to another person to ask for advice if they should let their spouse commit adultery. Yet another piece of evidence of cultural, and social decay.
He will cheat whether she agrees or not and what he is doing is straight out abuse . Not all abuse is physical . Coercive control is now a crime in my State 🦘🐊.
Hi Dr John, I am a Christian woman and a new listener to your show from Queensland, Australia. I have really enjoyed the shows that I have listened to so far. I also watched the Jordan Petersen show that you were on, today. I wish I had someone like you to talk to. Thank you for the counsel you give to your callers and listeners. Kind regards, Gina Mac. 😊❤️🙏🇦🇺
There is no way she was unaware of his bad behavior and beliefs prior to marriage. The older she gets the more toxic and abusive this will get. She needs out now.
No kids and she has a career, no reason to stay. He sounds awful. I understand completely. The thought of someone else having the relationship that we want sometimes keeps us hanging on. That is normal. I hope she get clarity and leaves.
The Kuiper Belt is "a region of the solar system beyond the orbit of Neptune, believed to contain many comets, asteroids, and other small bodies made largely of ice."
I have been in your shoes, and honey, he will never change! RUN! I can tell that you’re not ready yet, but he’s going to blow up your heart again and again. Trust me, he’s got you on a hook , and every time his latest breaks it off, he will reel you back in. I’m so sorry 😢
Only 3 years in. Omg, I feel so bad for her. If my husband came to me with something like that, I’d thank him for asking and then present him with divorce papers. What’s the point of marriage if it’s intimately open to people? What’s the benefit? The risk is way too high. Cut your loses while it early. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO START OVER!
Yes, you have my permission to cheat. And that gives me your permission to get a divorce. Gross. He listens to Andrew Taint. He’s irredeemable. Throw that man in the trash.
When a spouse - man or woman, I have the same answer - "asks" to open the relationship, they already have. 100% already cheating on his wife like a scumbag.
This means he's already cheated & probably many times. Get an attorney right now then get checked for sexually transmitted diseases. RUN!!!
Bingo!
Exactly!!! It's not even the devastating fact of the cheating that could be the most messed up part even. That's exactly how STDs are Created & Passed smh. Wtf
Yep. Whenever a woman wants an open-relationship, you know she has already been on a bunch of meat. It's brought up, END IT.
She did say he has cheated before
Right. And, what if he impregnates one, or more, of these women?
Aussie girl here. Emma, Emma, Emma... I was 27 when my husband cheated on me at the 7 month mark. She was 17! I quietly sorted out somewhere to stay that week then packed my stuff and left when he went to work on the Saturday morning. Best thing I ever did. I'm 70 next year and have had the most amazing life possible. Don't spend your life looking for a man, just go out there and live yours to the full. If there is someone out there for you he will know you are the right one for him rather than you looking for the right one for you. Don't waste another day, just cut and run and be your true self. I've travelled, had my own businesses, I own my own home and studied a lot. I still work part time and am now studying Fine Arts which I am really good at. To thine own self be true. I hope you see this comment 💙😺🇦🇺
Very impressive Aussie girl
He should have been arrested,that's pedophilia!!
Aussie girl. Love your story. You are truly an inspiration for any woman or man who is in a situation like this poor girl Emma. Keep up the good work and blessings to you.
A nurse?! Baby girl, you have a full blown career!!! Get away from that foul demon and build a life for yourself peacefully until someone worth your time comes alone!!!!
Foul demon? Why are you so angry?
@@benmyers9030 She is not angry at all. She's calling him what he is. She is correct to say that. A MARRIED man, who has the audacity to TELL his wife that he WANTS to cheat ....aaaannd he has cheated ALREADY....yes, has cheated ALREADY? Yes, he absolutely IS a Foul demon. She's right.
@girlygirl1890 why all the CAPITALS? are you also ANGRY? It seems like it from all the CAPITALS YOU ARE USING!!!!
@@girlygirl1890 It's like women rejecting their husbands for years. No better than cheating.
@@benmyers9030 lol 🤣🤣😂😂😁
I can't stress this enough... Leave before you fall pregnant to someone like this.
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Absolutely. Stop sleeping with this man right now
Shut up
I can't agree more with this statement!!! ❤❤❤
Stop sleeping in marital bed,don't give him nothing
My cousin divorced at 30, remarried at 35, gave birth to 4 children and they have a super happy big family! 30 is a perfect age to run away!
It is better to have a life without kids than live in misery with them . Tell him to “ Hit the Road Jack and don’t you come back “
You've no idea how well timed your post is - gives me hope, thank you!
Well that’s great !!! But she better hope something doesn’t happen in their marriage because no other man would want all that baggage!!!
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I got a divorce at 22. I'm 25 now with 2 beautiful girls, a wonderful husband, and another baby on the way.
Don't give him an answer. Just quietly find a lawyer - quick.
THIS he sounds dangerous.
@@lorrainesmith.4995I’m sorry he turned out to be o 304. There are so many of them out there. I gave up on dating in my late 20’s, it’s a more peaceful life!
You don’t need a lawyer. Just go to the courthouse and get a divorce.
I told my wife don’t you ever give me a reason to cheat or you’re gonna regret it.
For safety and so that he doesn't have time to hide any marital assets
My wife is Spanish. I wouldn't leave that conversation alive.
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She takes vows like “for as long as you both shall live” literally, huh? 🤔 Smart gal. Wise woman. You’re a lucky man. 🍀 You’d be amazed the filth & disgust she is saving you from. Lucky guy.
You sure freaking wouldn’t.
- a Latina
Haha, my husband was talking to some coworkers before a virtual meeting. They were both talking about how they control the house because they yell louder than their wives. My husband laughed and said "well, i dont yell. My wife is mexican and owns a shovel, a tarp, and tacoma with the off road package". I was making breakfast, and that man got crepes and bacon that morning.
@carolallison9685 love it! Thats awesome.
Yes, my wife might run hot....but she always provides a good meal even in the heat of an argument.
He's asking to no longer be your husband
@dabd8175 that's a dumb ass take
That is a asinine comment. This is a little boy that wants his cake and ear it to. Take your cake and let a real man eat it.
@@dabd8175wtf are you talking about, he wants to cheat on her and already has
Say What!? That's got to be the most selfish comment Ive seen yet.@dabd8175
@@dabd8175he want to f around and when it goes sour she is his back up
I don’t understand why women think being alone is the worst thing in the world.
Uuuhhhmmm, I am with you, but not everybody is as introverted as we are.
Some folks get energy, comfort, and shocker - stability - from those they love, like spouses.
Heaven forbid ;o)
@@brightpage1020I am introvert but I can't be alone in my life I just need people to love what is wrong with me? Introvert is not helping me
@@brightpage1020agree but extroverts who don't realize a toxic partner is draining them instead of energizing them is a situation where being alone for a bit is objectively healthier.
@@brightpage1020I love this comment
Extroverts like people. Like being around them
When she eventually gains her self respect and leaves him he’s going to go around telling everyone, “she divorced me for no reason”.
So true!
Yup, he's probably a narcissist, and of course they are always the victims
Who cares what other people think? You will find it liberating to ditch this unworthy person.
@@KathleenWeber-p6n This is what mn often tell people after they divorce, so surely mn care what people think.
@@KathleenWeber-p6n this is what m 3n often tell people after their marriage dissolves so surely they care what people think.
When they want permission... they've already done it.
My partner tried this said he wanted variety, I went and booked a swingers event to meet others, I didn't tell him where we were going. He done a 180 after I was approached non stop and no one approached him. He said he didn't want to. I continously rambled on about how I didn't care if he slept with women, he didn't want me to sleep with men. He completely changed after that night 😂. I told him I know my power as a woman and if you want to see that come out and play I will go there. He would literally lick my feet now if I asked him to.😂
@@Flower55949 That's not how swinger events work, it would be considered rude not to approach the both of you together. Furthermore, if you husband isn't ugly women will be interested in him. Single women have more options but if you went as a couple that changes the dynamics.
@ThompsonGrant I got separate tickets so we had the option of entering and leaving alone, fab night so pretty standard. He wanted to sleep with other women so when we arrived I told him that he had permission and to go do as he pleases, he ran in guns blazing and left me, I had a drink and went in after, it was a meet and greet with a small community. He spoke to the bar man and the events couple and that was it. I was approached by women, men and couples. He wanted to leave so we left and went to karaoke bar and I told him I understood why he wanted to sleep with others and mabey I could to said i felt powerful( i didnt i was heartbroken). He broke down,cried and said he didn't want to. Am I saying this fixes everything? Definitely not, I still feel hurt and it had a huge effect on myself, I went from being confident to insecure and depressed. We still talk about it it a joke manner, but perhaps as we get older it cud be something on the table. The folks were all super friendly and respectful which we both agreed on. But yea since then he has went from a Chad to mr gentle
@@ThompsonGrantare you actually trying to say there is honor among swingers?😂😂😂
Ok. ...
I know a few.😂😂😂
Men are stupid.
@@Flower55949sounds like a healthy marriage 😞
My ex-husband (6 year relationship + 11 year marriage) asked me to have an open marriage. When I said no, he straight asked me: are you willing to sacrifice our relationship over this? 😂 I said: of course I am!!!! I thought I was going to fall apart, and I did for a while, but now I am SO thankful I followed my values instead of the comfort of the known.
Your response should have been the same "are you willing to sacrifice our relationship over this?" Because clearly he was, and did!
Strong lady.
“No, you are!” Is the correct answer.
The right answer to him sould have been "what relationship?"
It’s just a gentle way of a man wanting to cheat on you to get your permission.
Lady just file for divorce this marriage is very very very over!! You are already alone but with a weight tied to your ankle!
I’ll bet he still tries to sleep with her too! 🤢 so unsafe. On top of that, what if one of his lovers gets jealous of the woman he goes home to every night-!? She’s in so much danger omg
@@lorrainesmith.4995your comment is ridiculous. To you it’s about house cleaning. Ok I guess
"Alone with a weight tied to your ankle", more like to your neck! Very well said👏 It's unreal what he's asking to begin with but then to add on top of that that she can't see other men is insane.
It’s not over until it’s over and as much as this guy sucks at the end of the day if she’s the one that files then she’s the one that left. That’s how that works even if it’s justified she will still be the one that divorced him so she’s the one that literally ended the marriage because the cause of 100% of divorces is filing for divorce. I’m not saying she shouldn’t. I’m just saying what the reality is.
I work as a DV advocate, and I highly suspect that caller one is also dealing with issues she's not expressing in the call. That dude sounds controlling, misogynistic, and he obviously objectifies her. I hope she safety plans before formally starting the divorce because the dude is going to freak out when the wife he groomed for cheating suddenly isn't putting up with it anymore. Narcissists hate losing control.
You a hundred percent explained my 19-year relationship. Left with my kids a yr ago. I always thought he was going to kill me if I left him, but little by little, I realized they were just empty threats.
Yes. Definite narc. They're 😈 evil.
@@jamiepentz4682Sometimes they are not empty threats ,so she needs to be safe and organised .
Yeah, he’s gonna freak out when he loses control
I'm surprised he didn't baby trap her before asking permission to cheat.
Hes already cheating, he just doesn't want to do the extra work to have to hide it and have guilt on top.
🤮🤮🤬
When she said Andrew Tate that should have given an immediate answer to leave him
Any guy who listens to or looks up to Tate automatically goes into the loser/incel bin!
Exactly.
Yaw both single huh? Lmao
100%
@@stevendavis5095 by your logic, if a woman refuses to date a man who follows redpill content because most of it is derogatory to women, then she probably is single?
By your logic are you saying all men are sexist, since any woman who respects herself has to be single?
You are indirectly critiquing men, you know.
You're young enough to start over again. He has no respect for you. He will never change. Leave and dont look back.
Your comment is offensive. There is never a good age for this to happen to you. There are multitudes of older women that this happens to. Your age doesn’t make it easier. Whatever age you are you have to start over - all over again.
@@user-hr1ql2fu3fyou need to get a hobby quickly
@@user-hr1ql2fu3f I think you need to get a grip! Theres' nothing offensive about my comment, Karen!
@@user-hr1ql2fu3f nothing offensive about my comment at all.
30 young ? LOL Men don’t think that’s young… only women
To the wife, don’t do it!!!!! I haven’t even listened yet and my whole body is screaming no to her. After 9 years of marriage, we opened our marriage. It’s Pandoras box. I now forever will live in the shadow of my husband gf. After 20 years of together, I am broken and the cortisol levels I live with daily will shorten my life. To the wife, run now while you’re still young.
I hope that you have left the marriage!!!
Why are you still with him this is Insanity! What man is worth living in earthly hell and going to eternal hell over?? NONE! He's not worth another night of lost sleep, find your self worth and move on with your life. 17yrs married and been through a lot myself, would Neeever tolerate it again!
You can still run. Do it. You are still worth everything.
Agree. After 5 years I let my partner have a 7 day pass after he kept indicating he wanted to and that door NEVER closes. Cut to: “I want to marry you both and have us all live together and sleep in same bed and have babies together at same time”
Run now. Even if you can barely walk.
My ex was literally the same thing. Watched a lot of alpha male influencers and had an unwavering hatred of women and justified it by saying I was a good one. When he asked for an open relationship but only for him I left and never looked back. I feel bad that she’s already married to him but it will get worse and she needs to leave. The good times don’t outweigh the fact that someone doesn’t respect you for who you are.
It's such a strange trend. I genuinely don't understand why it became so popular.
If he would have allowed you to do the same would have you stayed? I thought women do not crave that sort of thing like some men do
Sad. It’s weird. I’m guessing boys without good role models looking for a good man but find these alpha oddballs.
Have you ever tried it though?
@@Gotoworkkk tried what?
A “high value” man as they would put it is loyal and practices self control.
Exactly. There was a debate where Lila Rose said that to J. Waller (a friend of Andrew Tate)
No that is not how sexual dynamics work
Are women Loyal when they are in their 20s and high value? No, they play the field.
Likewise when men are 35+ and have money and gravitas: we play the field.
@@hia5235 not when you’re in a marriage. Argument invalid.
@@hia5235 you dont get to "play the field" when you're married you sociopath
Which is why most high value men aren't married which would invalidate your point. Marriage is more realistic for average men and average women.
He doesn't want to cheat. He wants to be non-married LOL
He wants to be an "alpha male" where his ego and ability to dominate comes first.
😂😂🙌 nailed it
No, its much much worse. He wants to be married to have someone take care of his dirty underwear, raise his kids, and cook his meals but he wants to also have the perks of being single at the same time.
Nailed it
No, he wants to be married, he just wants to do want he wants.
Cause if he didn't want to be married, he'd just divorce her or just not married her in the 1st place. Problem solved easy.
I feel so heartbroken for the wife. That's being told you're not enough, you're not loved and not worthy of loyalty. He sounds gross and disgusting to me. I'm so sorry for her. Yeah she can get manipulated into permission. Doesn't mean she will feel good, that she won't hurt or feel sick and sad inside. It's so cruel. I don't like him!
Sadly, for many women, the negatives you present are nothing compared to the feeling of loneliness these women experience. It’s comparable to the battered-wife-syndrome. My wife and I listened to this almost an hour ago and it’s still bothering me.
He listens to Andrew Tate so I’m not shocked that he thinks it’s an ok behavior. Those red pill podcasters are poisoning people and making money off them
Unfortunately, this seems to be the vast majority of men today.
He’s a pig, I promise there are still good men out there.
@syn707 it's one thing to feel lonely when you're actually alone. Somwthing totally different to feel lonely in a marriage. I think she'll feel better once she gets out of there and doesn't look back.
He thinks he’s such a prize that he wants to share himself with other women. Ew.
Serious Ew!!!
He must believe he’s a ‘hunkah-hunkah-burnin-love’, and she’s totally bought into it, as she briefly mentioned at the end of her call that if she chooses to leave, she won’t have the “security…that I would need.” He’s got her believing that she’s the ONE he married (she’s HIS wife), that he’s provided a comfortable life for, including a beautiful house, BUT those other women are transitory side chicks, simply distractions that he’s got to share his overflow of ‘burnin-love’ with. After all, he returns to her at his home. Dr. Delony’s suggestions were met with “Mmm hmm, yes, okay, mmm hmm.” There’s something a bit off here….I think she’s willing to trade in the best years of her young life in exchange for a particular lifestyle that’s a transitory facade. He will be searching for a new, younger wife within 5 (maybe 10) years, when her prime reproductive years have passed and he can be assured she won’t be having children with another man. This is more than ‘serious ew!’; it’s actually quite sad.
@@dabd8175 Bless your little heart. You poor soul (lol).
@@girlygirl1890this user comments on so many videos on this channel and it’s clear he hates women. I knew I would see a comment from him on this video
@@dabd8175buahhaha no 😂
And this is one of the many reasons majority of women have to file for divorce. He’s happy cheating and coming home to a loving wife. She is not happy with this arrangement. Would the happy person file for divorce?
Exactly. This is because the majority of men today are incapable of real connection or love.
EXACTLY and then Men talk about women not being aCCoUnTabLe 🤡
Facts on facts on facts
This! Most of the time when a woman files, it's because the husband has checked out maybe for months or even years, maybe even openly living with a girlfriend or mistress. Divorce takes paper work too it's not easy. Then a lot of men complain that women file for divorce more and that is because he most likely is not bothered with the actual hassle of filing for divorce. By the time a woman files for divorce the woman has been trying and trying beggfing pleading, asking him just come home. And the ñn when the divorce papers are served it ' I never saw that coming'
THIS! EXACTLY THIS!!! Men are happy doing whatever awful thing they want yet expect to stay married. Women go to the effort to actually divorce because they have morals.
He’s probably been emotionally abusing her for years and even telling her she won’t find anyone better than him and no one will love her like he does. Narcs are all the same. Get out while you still can and DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN WITH THIS GUY.
How do you know he’s a narc?
I laughed SO LOUD when she said “he watches a lot of Andrew Tate” 🤣
Delony and Tate are two sides of the same coin lmao
😂😂😂😂
@@KufLMAOhow?
I know right,I loudly said "and THERE it is,why am I not surprised!"
@@AvaEFF 🐑🤣
As John would say, he should be asking his wife how can I love you more, not can I cheat & stay married to you!!
I know what an absolute turd.
Maybe she needs to say that… you guys got it all backwards. A man at 30 has more value than a declining woman at 30. ✌️
@@GuidofromPuertoRico Wow I'm not sure how much value I'd place on a man who thinks like that. I just remember getting sexually. harassed in my 20s. I didn't feel very valued.
@@GuidofromPuertoRico Oh, here we go, we got a bitter red pill guy 🤡 here who thinks he's God's gift to women. 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂?🤡?@@GuidofromPuertoRico
You're right Emma, his behaviour is definitely Narcissistic.
Good God, the “N” word. 🙄. Take a shot every time that word is said on this show.
@@miketheyunggod2534Sorry, if the truth hurts. But, that's exactly what he is
@@miketheyunggod2534on the show itself? I don’t think I heard it even once ON the show.
@@peterlee584💯
@@miketheyunggod2534Yeah, “N.gga” is getting old, I agree 😂😂
He is demanding the benefits of being married and single at the same time. He is being deliberately very manipulative and will probably try to exploit her vulnerability to try to keep using her after she leaves him too.
For the singles, It's like a friend with benefits who texts daily but won't commit.
Women ask for the same all the time and get the “you go girl” “she so empowered” the hypocrisy is crazy.
She should get some therapy, a divorce and open herself to meeting several of the men Dr. John mentioned. Go For It!
Never compromise your moral for a man, he can leave but your moral stay and nobody can't take that from you.
He is never going to be anything different than what he is. It may look different to you from the outside but trust me. He will just cheat on the next one too.
My husband cheated on me 20 years ago. We are now into our 34th year marriage. It is hobbled and crippled us. We love each other very much, but that pain never goes away that betrayal never goes away. If you knew what it was gonna be like later down the road you would never do it, trust me I live it every stinking day. It’s not worth it.
Why did you not divorce him?
sorry if he cheated on you he doesnt love you or respect you enough to be in a monogamous relationship
Just wasting your life
I am sorry . Have you taken time out to discuss how you feel with him ?
Honestly, you have chosen this for 20 years. At this points it's on you.
Girl get that divorce attorney immediately.
Just go to the courthouse. It takes a few minutes.
IMMEDIATELY!!!!
If he's asking, then he's still doing it and hasn't stopped.
Compartmentalizing at its best.
Yep. He’s just tired of hiding it. So ……he’s also lazy.
being alone is one of most empowering things!!!! waiting until you find the right person! in the meantime pick hobbies, be with good energy friends, family, etc .....better than being with the wrong person, which is the same as "feeling alone"....
When a person wants to cheeeat on you in front of you, this only means that (s)he doesn't respect you & in this case, he literally wants to show you that in front of you. This is the ultimate form of his disrespect. 🙏 Please 🙏 leave 🙏 the 🙏 scene & marriage. 🙏 Especially when kids are involved. I have worked with children & teenagers & some of them suffered even from PTSD due to the animalistic lifestyle of their parents. In my country, there was a mother whose boyfriend said to her he will only marry her when she's willing to open the marriage & guess what happened after she did him the favor? He fell in love with the third person, left the mom & lives now in a monogamous relationship with his new partner. Don't do this pain to yourself. It's not worth your health. 💔
if he wants to openly cheat, i don't know how he respects her or himself. People should be proud of making life with one person and raising a good family.
Calls like the first make me so grateful for my husband. I know many men like my husband; as many horrible men that we hear about there's just as many good ones. Same goes for women too. Don't let the negative people you hear about warp your view of an entire gender.
Exactly...my husband was wonderful...we only hear about the bad ones. But there are A LOT of good ones out there.
YESSS Agreed🧐
Yes let’s not forget this isn’t exactly a show where people call in to share their relationship wins. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. Media focuses on where the drama is, not the stability, so it’s biased because the drama is why we all tune in - to remind ourselves how much worse it could be. Phew! 😅
After 45 plus years foundout it was a lie . 62 starting over
Good luck!
How devastating!
You got this!
Remember..."Footprints in the sand"!
Praying for you...
32 years for me. Started over, 4 years ago. I believe it was probably covert narcissism. Almost destroyed me but God was with me and got me out. Now I am thinking about having a healthy relationship in the future God willing.
@@dynamisshalom Well done : )
Way to go, Beautiful! Your strength deserves the best! Not a mess of a nest.
I've finally adopted, for my own sanity, that if ANYONE becomes destructive or toxic to me, my marriage or family I either limit contact, or if necessary cut contact if they CHOOSE to continually stomp all over my good boundaries! It doesn't matter who they are. I do it respectfully but I GET TO CHOOSE whether I continue with their toxic or destructive behavior in my life or not!
He is 100% letting you know the marriage is over. He wants his cake and eat it too. Doesn't want to lose his assets. Take him for everything and move on.
She should take what she can and get out , even if it is nothing .
She will get a little it’s only been 3 years. Thank god they don’t have kids.
“Take him for everything” certainly doesn’t perpetuate red pill philosophy at all. Gen z men are starting to see all women like this and see no value in marriage. Too bad this guy wasn’t one of them.
Exactly. (Also that cake saying doesn't make any sense)
@opinionbytriz Yes! I always think well, why have a cake if you're not going to eat it!😂
Caller: Husband wants permission to cheat
John: Has he cheated before?
Caller: Yep
Who else had zero surprise there?
Cut your losses, divorce him YESTERDAY.
So he just wants permission to continue to disrespect you? Run, girl! 🏃♀️
First case: The guy doesn’t respect the lady. There is no way to salvage the marriage.
Sit him down, have a conversation, record it. Get him to say how he cheated, that he wants permission to cheat but you can't, etc and send it to his family and keep for divorce court.
This!!!!! ❤
No because she could get in legal trouble for non authorized recording.
@@matinaki1644doesn’t work like that. They are married.
@@matinaki1644depends if she’s in a two party consent state or one.
@@matinaki1644actually only one party needs to be aware in most places. There are only a few hell hole states that do not allow it.😉
You can just tell the first caller is for sure going to stick it out for another 3-5 years. 😢She sadly just isn’t done with the BS. Girl run!
If he's asking, it's because he's tired of hiding it.
He’s trying to force her out…a month after she leaves
“Idk dude…she left me” 🤡
Some people need to place blame so it makes them look like the good guy. I say just leave and don’t worry about what he says, he’s a user anyway. Living well is the best revenge.
yup he'll be telling everyone she left him "for no reason" and make her look like the bad guy. i still hope she leaves.. people need to be ok with looking like the villain if it means preserving her sanity and not wasting more time w this loser
Yep. "Dude, she blindsided me." Muhh child support.
This! My ex did the same thing
OP) the SOP of men
If anyone ask to cheat I would say it's already over
Red Pill out her breaking up homes they claim to be so concered about saving
So many of them. Its poison
What? I can't understand the grammar ...
And remind me again what gave birth to "red pill" Community?
@@theredstar6493 fragility
@@theredstar6493 Broken men who refuse to heal from past trauma and blame everyone but themselves for their hurt.
When my husband left, wherever I went i.e. to the store, work or to pick up my sweet daughter, there were little blood drops wherever I was - that‘s how it felt. My heart was bleeding and I thought I‘d never, ever get over the separation. But, I did. In retrospect it was one of the most painful things but also the best thing that happened to me. There is no pain free way to get through this but, if one sees every single day like a day closer to healing, it really helps. When he left, I made up my mind to completely sign out which means, I did not call him, did not force him to see our daughter, did not call his family, did not check his social media. I completely started a new life and healed My heart. When people asked about him (sometimes intentionally to hurt me), I’d reply that I really do not know but I hope he is happy. And I said that until I meant it. When his girlfriend broke up with him (the one he left me for), he called me after 5 years crying like a baby; he asked if I could sit with him as he feels unsafe with himself; so I did and I held his hand and told him it‘s going to be okay. Then I left with our daughter and never asked again and continued with my life.
Thank you. Going through this right now. It's so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel so I appreciate this.
Leave him! My ex tried the same thing while i was pregnant. Guess what hes had multiple woman and hasnt found anybody like me. You are successful young and deserve respect
It is amazing how quickly and completely our spouse can freeze us in spot, poor girl.
If he's asking, he probably already was. Now, he just wants to openly bring his new partner around without the hassle.
She said he has before. So yeah. He was.
She already said he has cheated on her before this.
Emma he has you believing you can't do better than him but he's the undesirable one, he's the one that will never find better. he's a rotting carcass you're dragging around, but the ties and run free!
Yo I got serious Deja vu reading your comment. The "but" typo and all. 😮
Emma, It won't get better. He's decided that he wants his cake and eat it too and you are enabling him. You need to have a good job and trust God to bring you better and if you pray and talk to God this could easily happen. You don't understand the damage he is doing to you. I guess that emotionally you are a wreck. Stay strong and get support and walk away. Good luck! I pray for you!
Basically, “I’m asking for permission to cheat, but you’re not allowed to cheat though.”
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've learned that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years back, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to work things out. It was a hard time, but we got past it.
Moving on from someone you hold dear is invariably challenging, but in my experience, I was guided by a spiritual counselor who prevented the breakdown of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
welcome
So very true. However asking to cheat while expecting your spouse to just accept it, is way past the point of “doable”. Any man who asks this obviously does not love his wife, respect, or even care for her. If he wants to cheat the only answer is to leave.
A huge no no. Everyone deserves better.
45 years and now at my age I facing a cheater and have chose I not doing this . 62 n starting over
🙏😢 so sorry Pat, you will make it.
All the best for the next 20 or 30 years of a free happy life . There is a lot to enjoy .
You are one smart Lady. I'm also 62. I'm a Widow, but there is NO WAY I would allow someone to treat me that way.
Right there with you. After 33+ years of marriage where there were 8 (or more, hard to get truth from someone who lies so easily) long-term affairs and some hook-ups I have said enough! I am worthy of love, respect, and integrity and now I am starting over at the age of 61. It is hard but we can do it. It was never my plan to be divorced, but it was never my plan to be married to a cheater and suffer from that kind of abuse. Hoping you find peace and happiness.
You will have your self respect. That's worth more than a cheater.
He is asking for divorce. Which means he’s cheating already.
He is not asking for divorce. He just wants to have the sure thing and get his kinks with others.
Me terrible first marriage…. So bad spent next 30 years alone and learned to enjoy it…. Then married again, wonderful guy, 24 years extremely happy…. Never too old …..
💕
What is wrong with the women that call in. Do not tolerate any cheating. I would rather be old and lonely than settle for someone that had no respect for me
Blaming hurt women for the downfalls of crappy men is not cool. Denial is real, sunken costs are real, relying on someone financially and feeling lost is real, wanting to repair is real. Leaving is a great choice that many women will make when cheated on, but needing advice and to be talked through the reality of the situation isn’t a bad thing.
Oh my word...I would tell him I'd think about it. Then I would secretly meet with an attorney, prepare and file a divorce, clear out any joint accounts, change the locks and kick him out of the house. Make sure to keep all important paperwork in a separate, secure location. You'll probably have to return half of the joint funds at some point but at least HE won't clear it all out and then YOU have to spend $$ to fight to get it back. Dude doesn't respect you. He's an ass.
Changing the locks on a house with his name on it is not a good idea. At all. Your hypothetical divorce attorney could explain it in more detail
Also clearing out joint accounts, courts don't look kindly on that sort of stuff
@@benmyers9030depends on the state. Our clients did it all the time. Changing locks was put in the temporary orders after the clients gave theirs exes 24 hours or 1 week to clear out their stuff. Although the ex could probably go right back and change the locks after they left since they still had an interest in the property, we never had that happen. They also took out money as well even thoug❤h we didnt tell them to. Judges didn't have a problem with it when they knew they didn't spend all the money either. Had to do more with exes with a history of abusive and controlling behavior where the clients would never see a dime again if they left it in the joint accounts. Either way the amount prior to filing is what is divided so the ex doesn't lose their half, they just can't screw over a vulnerable party after filing.
@@benmyers9030did all the above all the time, had no issues. Depends on the state and what you draft in the temporary orders.
Did it all the time where I worked. No problem. But yes anybody in this heinous situation needs to consult a family law attorney.
He tested the water to see what you'd allow. Run and never look back!
I hope she doesn’t spend 5 years leaving this relationship - especially if she wants kids.
I met my man at 38. 2 bad marriages and 1 long term in my review. Been married 21 yrs now. We go into marriage for life, but when a partner goes bad, you can go.
Being alone doesn’t compare to the feeling of being disrespected, overlooked, and not appreciated. He wants his cake and eat it too? I don’t know you girl, but here’s a big hug! You are worth so much more than just being a wife. It’s not the ultimate goal. Go out into the world and discover yourself! You are loved. 🥰
It's better to be alone by yourself than alone with someone else.
Why bother getting married if you want to cheat, omg this is crazy! stay single if you want this lifestyle I have been through this except my ex didn’t tell me and had numerous affairs, when I filed for divorce he said how sorry and would never happen again, hmm yeah too little too late I got rid of him!
He wants to play and have a bed at the same time. Its so crazy
@@joec696
It really is wants his cake and eat it too, what a jerk!
He wants the benefits of marriage but the freedom to still be single.
Yup crazy, why bother
They want their base
You gave great advice again! I was married to that person far too long. Awareness acceptance action.. Stand in your power!!
i am remarried to a fantastic man now for 11 beautiful years!!
Being single is not the worst thing in the world
You get what you allowed. Being single is so amazing…embrace it!!
"Should I still hold out hope for.."
"NO!" 🤣
I am 47 years old, never married and no kids and I’d rather be alone than to be with a husband who has cheated and asks if he can cheat openly. This woman needs to get over the fear of being alone and gain some self respect!!
This woman deserves someone who is completely in love with her- completely IN- with her. 🖤
No. Everybody doesn’t deserve that. You have to earn it.
Sadly many people will not be loved and no one deserves anything. Thats why people stay in toxic relationships in fear of not finding anyone
"That 5 foot 5 man with a balding head and beer belly who makes 40 k a year desrrves someone completely in love with him" see how it doesnt make any sense? I would be laughed at if i made that statement. Its a cruel world we live in
@@unknown-vo3di Bitter, much?
@CrystalBrightz it's a reality. I know many people do not like living in reality and rather live in delusion. No one deserves anything that is the reality of the world. Whether you accept reality is up to you.
Please value yourself and walk away (safely). No one deserves that kind of life. Give him what he wants. He can have all the flings he wants. Without you! I was 46 (also a nurse) when I divorced. I’m with a wonderful, respectful man now and the last 8 years have been wonderful! You’re 30… you can do it. Not to mention this is not SAFE. You’re a nurse and know what can happen.
You would see the value in being alone or single after he gives you an std you can’t get rid of. There is no way I could entertain this conversation
People never emphasize this aspect (STDs) enough!!!!!
That man isn't going to suddenly change his tune with another woman. This is his attitude, his core values are hallow. What wrong with him is inside him not because of her.
She sounds numb & down. This relationship has done nothing but take from her. She needs to get out & get to therapy ❤
I am married, in a new country and my husband definitely has the upper hand in everything but i will tell you this i have told him point blank if we don't love each other as we said we would i would put my clothes in a trash bag and be homeless before i allow anyone mistreat me. I don't care who you are.
Do not be afraid to leave an abusive spouse no matter the situation. Abuse is worse than homelessness and this man is clearly abusive in more ways than one. Asking you to your face to cheat on you is insanity.
My ex of five years tried the same thing with me three years in. His alternative to "cheating" is he wanted me to lose weight. I lost the weight, and he told me my arms were still "flabby". I kept holding on and hoping he would change back into who he was before that conversation and it just got worse. I held on for almost two years and then he ended things with me before my fake deadline that I created in my head. I'm thankful for the dog that I got out of the relationship but I wish I would have left sooner. I was 28 at the time, around Emma's age, and was single for a long time to just process everything. I grieved the relationship that used to exist, but it hadn't for a while, and once it was over I was just relieved.
30 is still so young, there is still more than one good person out there that you can live a life without always feeling not quite good enough for their partner.
Even if she can explain to him why adding more people into their marriage won't work... It's still not worth it, he must be incredibly immature to think that makes sense, or to think Anfrew Tate is someone to take seriously.
So sad how people can treat people they say they love like they don’t matter 😢
You feel uncomfortable because he is already cheating. Get out now, before he destroys your soul. I married a man who cheated and it took years to restore my self-worth and confidence. Get out now. Do not look back.
It really says a lot about a person's view of themselves when they have to even go to another person to ask for advice if they should let their spouse commit adultery. Yet another piece of evidence of cultural, and social decay.
He will cheat whether she agrees or not and what he is doing is straight out abuse . Not all abuse is physical . Coercive control is now a crime in my State 🦘🐊.
Hi Dr John, I am a Christian woman and a new listener to your show from Queensland, Australia. I have really enjoyed the shows that I have listened to so far. I also watched the Jordan Petersen show that you were on, today. I wish I had someone like you to talk to. Thank you for the counsel you give to your callers and listeners. Kind regards, Gina Mac. 😊❤️🙏🇦🇺
There is no way she was unaware of his bad behavior and beliefs prior to marriage. The older she gets the more toxic and abusive this will get. She needs out now.
The best thing I ever did was throw out my normal dating criteria after realizing I was in a ten year relationship with a jerk
No kids and she has a career, no reason to stay. He sounds awful. I understand completely. The thought of someone else having the relationship that we want sometimes keeps us hanging on. That is normal. I hope she get clarity and leaves.
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I have been in your shoes, and honey, he will never change! RUN! I can tell that you’re not ready yet, but he’s going to blow up your heart again and again. Trust me, he’s got you on a hook , and every time his latest breaks it off, he will reel you back in. I’m so sorry 😢
Great podcast today. You're as amazing on the radio as you are in real life. Thanks for spreading hope!
The fact that she is considering it and calling in says a lot about her lack of self love . Dump him yesterday take care of yourself .
Love is not for yourself. She called in because she's worried she can't do better. Adults have to consider this stuff when making decisions
@@benmyers9030what does that even mean?
@@benmyers9030she can do waaaayyyy better sound like you are of those men
@@benmyers9030 she can be single and safe from STDs! That is doing better!
My heart breaks for this lady. Life is so unfair.
And then you die. Welcome to life.
He’s with her because she’s “good” to him, not because he loves her. She knows what she should do, but it’s a hard decision and step to take.
Protect yourself. If he's sleeping around, (it's sounds like he is and he's lying;) there's way too much stuff out there.
0:22 Oh God is right! Run lady Run!
Only 3 years in. Omg, I feel so bad for her. If my husband came to me with something like that, I’d thank him for asking and then present him with divorce papers. What’s the point of marriage if it’s intimately open to people? What’s the benefit? The risk is way too high. Cut your loses while it early. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO START OVER!
Yes, you have my permission to cheat.
And that gives me your permission to get a divorce. Gross. He listens to Andrew Taint. He’s irredeemable. Throw that man in the trash.
When a spouse - man or woman, I have the same answer - "asks" to open the relationship, they already have. 100% already cheating on his wife like a scumbag.
She seems so sad and lost 🥲girl you have this! You’re so worthy of way more than his bread crumbs 🙏🙏💯💯💯❤️
Broke my heart. Gosh, I’m sorry this happened to you. It truly is heartbreaking and cruel.