How to Win Friends and Influence People (EVERY PRINCIPLE)
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Imagine studying this book in high school instead of some next novel that isn't relevant in a teenager's development. 🤯 Cheers for putting the books lessons in your format man.💙
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After i lost my prior job 4 months ago I started to seal a pact with myself to never let myself down, Physically and mentally. Yesterday I was applying to a new Job which actually is too good to be true and after I had a 90 min Interview with 2 Managers of this Business, I enchanted them so badly with the way I talked about my ambitions, principles and my worldviews that both of them became so inviting and wanted me for this job without hessitation and even wanted to support my efforts to reach my own goals. I can't believe how much I changed over the last few months...
"If you change others, you change nothing. If you change yourself, you change the world."
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Thank you guys i really felt like it was a place i belonged to. The entire team matched my vibe and the field offers great opportunities to become a freenlancer in the future.
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You helped alot of young men in a very short timespan. For that I can only respect you.
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10:32 I started smiling to myself when I was slightly not in the mood to speak with friends or family if they call my phone. It instantly increases my mood and allows me to treat them like they deserve, as a priority in my life
I)
1. Any fool can criticize, condemn or complain, but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation. Positive reinforcement.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want. Before you speak: How can I make this person want to do it? Get the other person's point of view. Appel to people's self-interest, never to their mercy or gratitude. What they will get out of it?
II)
4. Become genuinely interested in other people. Everyone has a mistake that I can learn from, they have succes I may be able to replicate. We are interested in others when they are interested in us. Ask more questions
5. Smile. Happiness ≠ outward conditions, Happiness = inner conditions. Fake it till you make it.
6. Remember their name.
7. Be a good listener and encourage others to talk about themself. We love talking about ourself.
8. Talk in terms of their interests. People briefly mention something that they are interested in in the middle of the conversation (ask a question about that).
9. Make them feel important. Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.
III) Win people to your way of thinking
10. The only way to avoid an argument is to avoid it completely. Don't make others feel inferior. Keep your mouth shut. When you argue with someone and they argue their point in retaliation they're just further solidifying their current belief. An argument ends with each of the contestants more firmly convinced than ever that he is absolutely right.
11. Show respect for other's opinions, never say "You're wrong". You cannot teach a man anything, you can only help find it within himself. "I thought otherwise, but I may be wrong, I frequently am and if I'm wrong I want to be put right".
12. Admit your wrongdoings quickly. Say about yourself all of the things you know the other person is thinking/wants to say/intens to say and say them before that person has a chance to say them = a generous forgiving attitude will be taken and your mistakes will be minimized. (They will minimize your wrongdoings if you admit them first)
13. Begin in a friendly way. (Apartament rent too expensive example). Start with a compliment. You are teammated trying to solve the problem rather than putting the other person on the offensive and making it a you vs them situation.
14. Get them to say Yes.
15. Let them do a great deal of the talking. Always say less than necessary. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. Don't interrupt.
16. Let them feel that the idea is theirs, to change someone way of thinking you have to do it subtly, without making it obvious what your intentions are. They can only believe this way of thinking if they reach that point themselves
17. See things from their POV.
18. Be sympathetic to other's ideas and desires. 3/4 of people are hungering and thirsting for sympathy. "I don't blame you one iota for feeling as you do. If I were you I would undoubtedly feel just as you do".
19. Appeal to their nobler motives
20. Dramatise your ideas
21. Throw down a challenge
22. Begin with praise, once whe realised I had confidence in her.
23. Call attention to their mistakes indirectly
24. Talk about your own mistakes first.
25. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders
26. Let them save face
27. Praise every improvement
28. Give them a fine reputation to live up to
29. Use encouragement
30. Make them happy to do what you ask
Thank you for this!
nice, thank you
❤
thanks bruh...for making it easier for us
Thank you so much ☺️
What i also noticed is that when trying to include someone into a group conversation it can help explaining what you were discussing or the context to an inside joke. It makes the person slowly feel like they belong because they’re “in on the joke” and will be much more receptive to opening up about themselves.
This applies to a group as small as you and someone else, letting someone in on what you were discussing can make them feel welcome!
Very nice summary of the book and principles and I really like how you added examples from your own life :)
Don’t talk to much, be positive, learn how to talk to someone, smile when talking, it’s great that you seen this so if you have more keywords that can help everyone then fill in💪
This is most likely the best summary of this book I've seen on TH-cam. It's definitely more detailed. Thanks.
This is the most helpful with making good friends and not talked about yourself make them feel important while listening to them. I would have thank you your hard working putting off helping others inspire to change themselves.
I have trouble making friends and I cannot say how delightful I am to have found such an amazing video. Thank you for making it and posting it on TH-cam. I shared it with my friends and I will rewatch it till I have every word drilled into my brain. Thanks again.
Best 59 minutes I spent on self improvement this masterclass was wonderful I have been using some of the principles and my social skills with people both platonic and romantic relationships improved, can't wait to implement more of this
One of the best self improvement books on the market - I got the audiobook thanks to your recommendation Hamza. My biggest takeaway was to start focusing on what other people want instead of self-centeredly focusing only on what you yourself want to get on track towards huge wealth
your second subscriber here btw
@@MoAliRiyaz Thank you for joining brother I've got more vids coming out soon, hope you stick around for when we hit 1,000,000!
@@ethanoptimized Cant wait for that bro and you better not forget me!
@@ethanoptimized I subscribed too, I'm about to post my first video soon!
@@matthewphilipp6115 looking forward to it brother don’t worry about making it perfect I’m 15 vids in and still have so much to learn
You're phenomenal, bro. You influence me, and I influence others. We're influencing everyone brothers. The world will be a better place the more people go on (true) self improvement. I love you. I love you all❤️
hamza, this summary changed my life, in one day I've gained so much confidence and I'm finally genuinely happy,may Allah bless you
Bro I honestly need this so bad. Thank you so much for coming to me in time of need
I am writing all these in my personal diary and will go through every day till I have imprinted all these points in my mind and actions 👍🏻 thanks man for helping out in every way
Your community is proud of your work
Keep doing what you are doing :)
It's works
I have been very frustrated today to my lack of social skills and how I feel I'm not getting anywhere with my relationships. This is a big help.
My dad gave me this book earlier this year when I turned 14, this book is one of the best I've ever read
Good Father
W dad. Wish my dad let me buy books at all
Watched this video yesterday. Have to say that I really had the determination and really wanted to improve my social skills. My friend group was great at the start of my skl year but things slowly started getting a little boring, repetitive and maybe toxic. I noticed how I would have to chase after them at lunch/break. I was the one initiating I felt worthless in their eyes and started communicating less. They seemed to just ignore me. But today I saw them feeling awkward asked if I could sit with them. Sat down and just was being myself. I was able to bring up our previous/relevant funny discussion topics. By asking questions I found out about their interest. I was able to get them to speak about them. I was able to also share my own interest 2. Convo started and it maybe wasn't the best Convo or where I would like it to be but I felt better making the friendship better than it was going before
That's great. I've been feeling the same lately. I've been in this friend group for a while and i've noticed that their humor and actions are just not what I want to do with my life. So I started going out of my comfort zone and initiated contact with people I want to be better friends with. No joke, it worked so well the first day. I immediately made independent choices, and some people even followed me in them. Such a great feeling
That’s great I had a similar experience and it’s nice to hear that it worked out for you as well
nice bro, i feel as if I’m in a similar situation to you tbh
Thank you for sharing the insight you have come to find
Thank you Hamza for helping so many young men on their mental health journey!
One thing i learned from this book is how self absorbed people are. Showing interest in other people and talking with them about themselves just makes them like you much more.
I'm not sure why but when I specifically watched this video. It genuinely made me happy since I never really see Hamza be so happy and at peace while having minimal editing. This video really helped me tremendously after many Hamza videos. Thank You Hamza for posting this Skillshare video for free in TH-cam
I have been watching a lot of self improvement TH-camrs recently, but no one could change my life like Hamza did. After watching Hamza I started working out, meditating and working harder for my dream. You're a great man Hamza thank you very much.
I used to be a really shy kid when I read this book over 15 years ago. The first self-help book I read and changed my life completely! A timeless treasure!
Man bro, I appreciate your videos so much I have been following them for about 3 months and you have helped me a lot
I'm a dental student and i work at my university's medical clinic,i've been using these tactics with patients, especially little kids who are usually very scared to go to the dentist, and it just totally changes their behaviour with me, they are calmer than usual and sometimes even are excited to come, and if it works with kids with scares, it can work with adults too and more than anyone thinks.
Thank you hamza, for changing my life to the better.
yoo!! My mom's a dentist too and I'm planning on being one aswell, any suggestions bro
@@Mqn1_Sh honestly i'd say go for it. Its such a good job and i rate it as maybe the 2nd best medical specialty. Just keep in mind that you'll have to study really, but like really hard to be a good dentist ( but if you have work ethic you wouldn't feel the hard work tbh ) and that its more application than theory, and keep stretching so that your back doesnt hurt you after working all day lol.
Good luck to you bro.
@@Aymenzegguir Thanks man, same to u
Hamza, this is one of the most powerful videos on TH-cam. Thank you
Lets appreciate hamza!
He shares all skill share classes for free!
Keep it up bro.
Lots of love
Great video, love it's calm and informative style with no bullshit plugins for products! At the end I think it's about working and urself, ultimately people will see the results of ur work.
Read the book already and this class is a great way to revisit
Nicely compiled Hamza ❤️
Eventhough I have once read this book I couldn't make out everything. Your description made it crystal clear. ..love you HAMZA
Very infuelcial Hamza I appreciate the hard work you put into this video, and I have something to say about principle 21. Challanges are great against yourself but never really have this burning desire to win. It is only when you compare to others who are more successful than you or catching on to you fast that you start getting momentum. The chalk expiriment worked because they saw that "oh are they doing a 6 on productivity? we can do better than that yeah", then it happend again with the other team then again then again. it is only when you see that you worked hard, won, and now that they are winning that you get another boost into more work and winning. Honestly, I tell me close friends not to "compete against themselfs" and compete with me and other people in our close friend group because it just feels so much better and natural. Bro imagine a tribe and you got your first kill, you'd probobly be so proud of yourself "yay food" whatever. But the real alphas are packing hords of animals to feed their tribe, their women who are pregnant who need food most, not just themselfs. If you don't compare yourself to them you might be an outstanding success right now and feel like you don't need to work anymore (EGO), comparing in a good way to your tribe drives you mad not being a success it makes you obssessed with hunting and until you catch 5 animals you're not returning, day in day out without quitting. When you succeed, you show it to the tribe, they are happy, you are stoic, you went there and didn't come back until you cought those animals. You are strong and a step closer to being an alpha.
This is my honest review of the principle, because it is correct and I agree but to my knowlege you shouldn't just compete against yourself (and let's be real Hamza Ahmed. You're not competing only against yourself your competing against Iman Gadzhi but in a manly and respectful way)
P.S. It does give a huge boost though seeing how successful you are right now compered to your past, I do not neglect that in any way but I don't think that should be your main focus, set it as a role model, imagine yourself 10 years from now and let that be your guide, and when you look back 10 years in the future oh man it'll probobly be unbelievable (I'm only a few years into improving yourself and only recently went in hardcore)
I looked at TH-cam again after a while and it's literally the same stuff happening, that's hilarious. I really appreciate what you do.
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No one else would simply give away Skillshare classes like this for free if their account was banned. Shows that Hamza just wants to help as many men as he can.
Dude, I litteraly just watched this video today, take notes, and use it to convince my friend to go to the gy. who I've been struggling to convince to go to the gym for a while now. We just made a deal for him to stay consistent for 3 month and we'll see where it takes him, but i just wanna say damn, this is some real powerfull stuff.
Bro I need a friend like you tbh. My dedication to the gym rn is terrible. I’m 18 and I’ve rarely worked out besides laborious jobs. Stg I feel like a stick sometimes.
@@ForxgedI'm 16, but started working out at 14. It's just a small, good habit in the big scope of things. However, small as it may seem to me, it is what started everything for me and for many other men. Once you start working out, it will take about 2-3 months to get "addicted to it". Once you start liking going to the gym, you just won't have to worry about it anymore. Other than working out, you should probably read good books (good books make you feel accomplished after reading them), stop eating processed sugar and junk food, stop watching inappropriate pixels and start meditating. Once all of these are taken care of, you will attain heaven on earth. You will also become a little bit arrogant and have trouble finding women and friends that suit you. Time is running dry, you need start taking care of yourself. If you can't take care of yourself, how can others trust you to take care of them or some important business? Good luck, Lynx. I hope you make it into the top 10%. Take care, bro.
@@kaideos7558 I appreciate the insight homie. Thank you 💯 I’ve been reading more as of lately and I’m finding that it’s easier to figure things out. Definitely improving my mental fortitude.
How has this been going my friend ?😊
Great 👍
I have read this book like 6 times back when i was 14 and this book totally changed my life.Highly recommend .
honestly all i’m really hearing from in this video is just to be a nice person. Not in a way that comes off as fake just being an actual nice and genuine person
And all these ppl who say he is a evil, misogynist, toxic masculine man have no idea wut they are taking abt. He is a great role model who has inspired many ppl to improve their lives
This Video is Golden. Far better than the book as every point is covered and its faster than reading the book.
Its kinda suprising seeing Hamza look this Happy. His other videos where more serious which I was used to so it was just suprising but I am not complaining.
thank you hamza i really appreciate what you are making
all love from egypt keep going hamza we all love you
Out of all the books I've ever read, I think this one has genuinely been the most important for me. More important than The Way of The Superior Man, more important than Meditations. Everything that I know, feel, and have learned links back to the principles in this book.
One of the best videos I've watched this year, great advice, keep it up ☺️👍
Hamza thank you for your advice, thanks to you I have now signed up at my local gym and started working out, just wanted you to know that and hope you have a great day
Bro honestly you deserve more. This is exactly what society needs
Hamza the fun part is that i have read the book. But forgot some of the things and thanks to your explanation I understood it better. Thanks !
Hamza thank you so much for making these guide videos and uploading them so we can watch them for free your the top G💪
Thank you Hamza!
You're truly a life saver and life changer. We truly appreciate your efforts. Thanks again 🙏🏻
Great video, your are so good at delivering this information. The way you talk is really captivating. Thank you Hamza, keep up the good work😘
I was just reading this book. Wow these video posts are always relevant to what I’m doing
Bro by just hearing the intro of this video you can hear and see he is good at this shit just the confidence this man has is insane
it is so unusal that hamza smiles at me with a happy voice. It is like he would teach a little kid something. But great job Hamza
Just bought this book 2 days ago and here's hamza's video about it. Gonna get the best of both worlds.
Read this book half a year ago, good to listen to the principles again.
Started reading this book in 8th grade.. made many great friends since
this was a beautiful video. I will be using all principles to help improve my social life
Damn you've been cranking out contant like crazy! Keep it up king and don't forget to take the time to focus on yourself aswell!
Just checked up on the Discord Server, gonna watch this video to the end. Hope everyone else who does the same learns helpful things as well. 🙌
Hamza i really like this. I feel like its difficult to apply the principles without having the full knowledge. So this is very useful i can now take my time to study each of the principles
Road to a million subs, congrats in advance Hamza
Thank you Hamza to humbled myself again, you are a true warrior of our generation 🙂
I’m using this video to influence people in my high school NJROTC class and it’s working! I will watch this video multiple times to master the art of influencing people around me and hope one day to be put in a position of authority and to be well liked.
This book changed my life. Once you apply the principles properly you’ll see results.
The good message: You are growing, yet it is uncomfortable. The bad message: You may be uncomfortable, but you are GROWING uncomfortably. Pain is temporary, the feeling of greatness creates memories that are forever. Do the hard work, especially if you don't feel like it. Thank you Hamza for sharing this skillshare class for free and guys it is all about the consistency. Stay strong brothers and sisters. :)
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hamza is a gift from god you cannot change my mind.
Just got this book but can’t seem to enjoy reading it like the way of the superior man, Hamza coming in clutch again.
I just cant tell how much u have helped me dude ......i rarely watch ur vids these days but bro......hope we meet soon :)
I appreciate your work and I thank you for getting me to that book. I downloaded it as a Audiobook and instead of listening to music, I like to listen to it to get in to a positive mindset.
I swear I was planing to get this book and read it myself and then hamza drops this video. What a coincedence 🤷💯
HAMZA...Love u dude 🥺♥️...gotta appreciate the time you put in to help many individuals like myself...♥️
Hamza literally posting a video about every book i just finished reading ahah GOAT
I’m pretty young teen so I decided to start watching hamzas vids and by far he has helped me alot
I listened to these videos during my boxing training it’s the best part of my day
I read this book a year ago and it changed my entire life!!
I vow to not let so much of hamza's efforts and hard work to improve young men and their life go to waste Thank you so much Hamza You changed my life from a Video games addict to Getting As in all my test going to gym consistently and meditating every morning reading books and gratitude journaling these habits made me the Rank 1 student in class Yes I scored the best grades in all of my classes everyone respects me and Life is Awesome Now Bcz of you I cannot thank you enough! "Do the Hardwork Especially when you dont feel like it"
It’s great to see how hamzas videos is are improving people’s lives
I'm only halfway through and I just realised that I have seen many of these principles being used before in a book i've been reading, the republic, or the politea, by the ancient greek philosopher Plato. In summary, the book is written as a play, where the main character, Socrates, Plato's mentor, talks with the other characters and convinces them of the political and philosophical viewpoints plato holds. Principle 15 of getting them to say yes-yes can be found on every page and socrates makes the other feel like the conclusion reached is their own for example.
I am truly grateful for hamza giving free skillshare classes.
This book is amazing, I can't wait to here hamzas recap on it
Thank you for making this.
I find it best to balance positivity between teaching someone by criticizing them and being forgiving
Thank you, Hamza.
Thanks for the class
Thanks for dropping the skillshare class Hamza!
Listening to this video and taking notes is amazing
THANK YOU HAMZA! I watched this on skillshare! I'm glad you shared it here after getting banned from that site. Thanks for everything!
The clip has 58min but it took me 1h and a half because i been writing everything i understand from it and what i need to improve. Thanks Hamza
Just finished this book last month, what a great review !
This lesson is wayyy wayy too good when applied and practiced at the same time 🔥☝️
I bought this book and 3 others u recommended but u really givin out the sauce rn
You are the best Hamza I am 12 , I changed my whole life, you are killing the shit out of my life , thank you so so much
big up for doing this video summary. Much love
Hamza dropping the early gems 💎
This reminds me of a boss I had who used many of these principles to keep me loyal. However, I later got diagnosed with a condition that requires regular treatment. Through no fault of their own, their complete lack of knowledge on this condition and how it affected my life meant that they could not relate to me, and I eventually quit 2 months later.
I am only learning these principles now, but it's amazing to think that if they made a bit of extra effort to understand what I was going through at the time, I would have still stayed loyal and never left.
Love the book overviews keep them coming
Awesome content. Thank you, my leader.
Grateful for this massive quality content.
Great video, gonna start trying to use these steps more often in conversation
This was one of the first books that i bought, using this principles helped me get back in touch with mine friends.
Mine relationship with them has grown even stronger thanks to this principles and im greatful to have such great friends.
I truly feel blessed and this book helped me a lot.
Moppppooiioo
I definitely like the smiling you’ve been doing in your videos lately.