3 ways to resolve a conflict | Dorothy Walker | TED Institute

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  • @iceice8327
    @iceice8327 4 ปีที่แล้ว +229

    Step one = 3:50
    Step two = 5:27
    Step three = 7:23

  • @pankajhello
    @pankajhello 3 ปีที่แล้ว +166

    Folks she is my colleague and we worked together for same assignment last year very closely. She is very positive, dude! She mean every bit of what she is speaking here

  • @celinapolos2203
    @celinapolos2203 4 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    Wow she has such a beautiful calming energy, her message is so powerful, in just 8 minutes! Really gave great value to my day! Beautiful woman and personality

    • @teodosiygeorgiev2966
      @teodosiygeorgiev2966 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      stop the cap bruh no wonder why her marriage didnt work out....

  • @khaiahmann9192
    @khaiahmann9192 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This was good. ✨
    And asking if all parties want to actually work the issue out, is key for sure.

  • @pacha_157
    @pacha_157 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Resolve is the fuel to discipline. I just wanted to say this video is granting me the power within myself to start working out, making a name for myself, and strive to be a better person. When I have internal conflicts like if I don't want to do something for example, I observe listen and dissolve the emotion while at an appropriate state of mind in order to come to a resolve. Through this resolving method I thank you.

  • @mikecamacho1934
    @mikecamacho1934 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Most conflicts come from implied expectations. And not having definitive agreements. Seneca(4BC-65AD) Talks about how unmet expectations, is the cause of anger.

    • @iRideuWatch
      @iRideuWatch 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So true. Why do people so often assume both or all parties have understood and agreed to the expectations?

    • @keimaari
      @keimaari 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      oh... this is a word.

    • @colinellesmere
      @colinellesmere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree. Agreements are so important. I am in a situation where agreements have been broken. I am displaying negative energy. Bht its hard to shift that based on things that have happened. But it would be great to shift it with positive energy. My mind state definitely does not help at all.

    • @jp9707
      @jp9707 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@colinellesmere I hope things have gotten better for you since you wrote your comment

    • @colinellesmere
      @colinellesmere ปีที่แล้ว +2

      They got better then worse and I was leaving the situation and got pushed before resigning. But my mental states are better now I am out of that situation. The comment by Seneca about understanding expectations and pinning them down is so important. It is where so much conflict comes from.

  • @spencerleek
    @spencerleek 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This advise truly helped in a mediation that I just facilitated. Thank you!

  • @karenbenjamin7165
    @karenbenjamin7165 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Delivery was on point. The steps are realistic and actionable. Thank you

  • @Etmanuel88
    @Etmanuel88 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I 100% agree with you. I've created my own process that is similar to yours. The "Energy transference" has helped both myself and whoever I'm speaking with to remain calm and focus on the facts AND a realistic solution. When dealing with a company - always ask for formal documentation of XYZ (this makes them soooo much more agreeable)!

  • @chrisshackelford4385
    @chrisshackelford4385 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That was awesome. I took notes the whole time!!!😂

  • @sights3103
    @sights3103 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    who else got this as a English class assignment

    • @YVNG_SHAQUAN
      @YVNG_SHAQUAN 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I got in for a Life Orientation Project

    • @TamTam-bd5qw
      @TamTam-bd5qw 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Management class.

    • @the25thfan58
      @the25thfan58 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Health class

    • @NomsLoots
      @NomsLoots 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@YVNG_SHAQUANyou South African?

    • @YVNG_SHAQUAN
      @YVNG_SHAQUAN 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@NomsLoots yes I am

  • @pepesapo3277
    @pepesapo3277 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    How do i kick all 3 of my roomates butts at once? THEY do not get along ☹

  • @faithjerielmacauley3356
    @faithjerielmacauley3356 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks veryfor that good presentation.

  • @marshall886
    @marshall886 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I don't think how you can talk about conflict without talking about justice. I don't think you can reduce it to energy exchange. Yes, having people in emotional state where they can listen actively to the other party but it is just defines desirable terms to which to hear each other.

  • @habbosim100
    @habbosim100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I love her outfit and make-up btw

    • @josh-sv1hq
      @josh-sv1hq 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Cool story bro

    • @josh-sv1hq
      @josh-sv1hq 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What if something fake is being forced in front of you and you describe why it's not true and people get mad? I am not sure what else to do...

  • @pharmclare
    @pharmclare 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great insights. Thank you 😊

  • @austinthaijam7009
    @austinthaijam7009 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    helpful. thank you Dorothy

  • @foxy19681904
    @foxy19681904 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    All this is well and good, but when your government puts guns in the hands of the population it is clearly not supporting conflict resolution by negotiation. It is clearly supporting violence as the next step after conflict occurs. The government as the acting parent of the country should be doing all it can to help its population to make good decisions by not giving its population guns and making it clear that violence is never the answer to conflict. Then knowledge like this TED Talk might mean something.

    • @sachinks229
      @sachinks229 ปีที่แล้ว

      Not everyone lives in America
      So it's still helpful
      And honestly I don't think guns is the reason
      It's just that people who can be easily provoked shouldn't have a gun in the first place
      Just like any other countries u can get a knife in pretty much everywhere it's deadly too
      But sure not as convenient but the root cause isn't the gun it's the mentality to not listen and run on the rail directly
      It happens in everywhere so no need to say that 5jis isn't useful this is highly useful where u can actually stop people

    • @foxy19681904
      @foxy19681904 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sachinks229 That is what I am saying. The second amendments advice that guns and violence are the solution to a problem leads the population to use that same reasoning for any conflict or problem they have.
      Basically though "Guns don't kill people. People kill people. So don't give people guns.".

  • @VioletBlue98
    @VioletBlue98 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This was great and helpful 👍🏻❤️

  • @shawnaT456
    @shawnaT456 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wanted to do this with my partner but he thought it was stupid and basically the same as just hashing it out in the moment...

  • @lucian1607
    @lucian1607 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Solid walkthrough. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us!

  • @nathaliem9597
    @nathaliem9597 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Brilliant!

  • @mohamedismailmohamedazath6944
    @mohamedismailmohamedazath6944 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Nice points

  • @willmen08
    @willmen08 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What happened to the bungee jumping girl? How was that resolved? Wish she would have walked us through one situation instead of 3 different half stories.

  • @patchesohoulihan2009
    @patchesohoulihan2009 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Is TH-cam just filtering out all the negative comments?

  • @Birdman117
    @Birdman117 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I agree with 95 percent of this

  • @ccwalker050
    @ccwalker050 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Nice! Very Nice!!

  • @sukumarbarman6905
    @sukumarbarman6905 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    সত্য সুন্দর প্রকৃতির শক্তি সৃষ্টির সেরা বীজ মন্ত্র জীবন তৈরির মহামূল্যবান সূত্র চিন্তা চেতনার বিকাশ সাধন।সব সত্য প্রকাশে স্বাধীনতা ইতিহাস সৃষ্টি সত্য প্রকাশে দশন শান্তি আলোচনা মূল্যবান সম্পদ অনুসন্ধানে কর্মকর্তা।

  • @ianlondon2888
    @ianlondon2888 ปีที่แล้ว

    There is no where to go except court when a side has contempt for the other side.

  • @varunbarma2067
    @varunbarma2067 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Nice

  • @mirandarandolph8240
    @mirandarandolph8240 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    5:08 ain’t nobody about to do that

  • @mikecamacho1934
    @mikecamacho1934 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Step one is actually, do you want to work it out lol

  • @k.8521
    @k.8521 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lmao my teacher mad at me now the whole class hates me :')

  • @vatsaj
    @vatsaj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    someone: its fine, but what you said is wrong
    speaker: i think you did not understand what I said
    someone: no you did not understand other than talking smooth
    ........conflict starts..............PhD gone to streets

  • @Єлизавета-Міщук
    @Єлизавета-Міщук 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Слава Україні! 🇺🇦)

  • @JustinBurns-xw7cd
    @JustinBurns-xw7cd ปีที่แล้ว

    This was uploaded on april 1st, therefore it must not be true

  • @heikika6078
    @heikika6078 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    ♥️

  • @theviewschor919
    @theviewschor919 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Aur lalit.. Comment mat pdh

  • @br2266
    @br2266 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Speaking of energy, where is hers? lol nice speech though

    • @LiljanaWood
      @LiljanaWood 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Lol the speech was perfect

    • @OGAngie
      @OGAngie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Calm and thoughtful energy is still energy.

    • @jameelahkelly995
      @jameelahkelly995 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      The energy she means doesn’t actually mean fully charged and bouncing off walls. She just means what she says positive and negative energy.

  • @teodosiygeorgiev2966
    @teodosiygeorgiev2966 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Use me as dislike button

  • @Birdman117
    @Birdman117 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    U lost me at give some time to allow emotions to settle, such a female comment

    • @zapatalasvegas
      @zapatalasvegas 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      such a male response

    • @lalaheart76
      @lalaheart76 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@zapatalasvegas I concur

    • @thesandman8669
      @thesandman8669 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@zapatalasvegas @birdman5684 now that y’all have had some time for emotions to settle, let’s grab a glass of cold water and meditate before we move onto the next step

  • @shasha6982
    @shasha6982 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was great information. Thank you