@@cindy-bw6jw I am not listening to someone waffle on for an hour and a half about what makes a good marriage. I've learned what the Scriptures say on how to love and respect your wife, and that's all that matters. Anyone else's opinion is irrelevant.
@She Coupons This! I don't know how you don't have more views. But, you ma'am have just won yourself a free custom intro theme song created from scratch from yours truly simply by commenting something so on point. I'm truly impressed and thereby want to help.
@@reesemonique No, Thank you for being a real one. I didn't know females like you still exist. You have given me hope once again. You can contact me on IG @beatsbyhitzone so we can discuss your preferences.
No it is about fullfilling a mission and love - romance is a bonus, if you do it well, that is the fruit the reward......out of work .....from both sides......If you did not work for it (both) there is no fruit, but still the marriage can be considered as a success (through Gods eyes) - because you have fullfilled your mission according to the plan from above - and from the weight that you as a person can carry ......It took me a while to understand it......But that is the thing.....You don t step into it ......only going after the fruits alone........Actually both of you are farmers......you wait for the harvest...to come every time and the profits.....but we.....as people in the village --- we get feeded by your farm --- the chicken the egg, the potatoes - the apples.....and sometimes - there is no profit ...romance / love / whatever for a while .....because of the draught......to much rain .....insects ..epidemic eating up.....burglars......your children eat it all up.....whatever reason it is..spiritual and practical reasons --- love / romance / sex is a bonus.....like a sales person - sometimes you get the bonus , sometimes you don t. But you are still in the job....
I was experiencing the feelings of rejection from someone I truly believed I would marry because of the intellectual conversations we shared, similar life goals and the fact he was very vulnerable with me as I was with him. I asked the hard questions & he asked the hard questions. Yet, the relationship dissipated and left me feeling like I had done something wrong. Just to hearing Pastor Franklin say it's a reflection on the other person and what they want for their lives brought so much clarity for me. I understand that I just may not be his person and I'm okay with it. Thanks for such great gems in this segment.
Additional questions: 1. What are your top 3 values? 2. What did you learn from past relationship? 3. How do you heal from past relationship? 4. Who are your relationship role models? 5. What do you want to improve in the next relationship you would be in? 6. If you could write your love story, what could it be? 7. What are you looking for in a partner?
I love him identifying jealousy as insecurities based on past fears and cautioning not to bring your past partners into your current relationships. I also believe manipulation is a form of insecurity and it's saying to people, 'I'm not enough, so I have to play games to attract or keep a person attracted.' There's a difference between manipulation and healthy boundaries.
"The Peace of One's Soul consists in an absolute resignation to the will of God". "The real secret of an unsatisfied life lies too often in an unsurrended will."....otherwise one's judgment is colored from an event of prior victimization, therefore resulting in feelings of feeling helpless. One must be willing to give up on Self Will allowing God to conduct your "spiritual circumcision" to take effect and remedy a New life experienced in the fruit thereof, God's liberation, otherwise Child we live on as weak defeated Souls, unarmed with spiritual wisdom granted Only in Jesus Christ, Our Saviour, Who Is Joined with the Holy Spirit, together As One, And God, The Father.
The serenity prayer says it all.... God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to his will; That I maybe reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him Forever in the next. Amen.
I agree with Joseph, key word surrender our will to God's will, when we don't do this and try to have a relationship with another we're going to run into selfishness, and what about me, my peace comes to me when I let go and let God be the center
Excellent interview. I always learn a lot on this channel. I have been married 15 years and what he says was right. The work begins when you start the marriage. You want to make sure your partner wants to do the work before marrying them. If they don’t do want to, you grow apart. If they are willing to do it, you grow together. I am driven to do personal growth daily. I found out most people are not interested in that. What a huge wake up call. Ask questions before committing fully. The big question before marriage is how do you define greatness with yourself, and with a partner?
If you love yourself then it DOES matter greatly what your partner does. A person who loves themself does not allow themself to be treated like a doormat.
Everything this dude is saying is exactly how I've been viewing marriage for the longest now and I'm glad I'm not the only one. Marriage is a BUSINESS.
So true. Blame disney for how expensive it is. Its not even romantic. Signing contracts zaps all the romance out of it and puts you both into a box. Do we need the law to keep us together? That doesnt seem right.
@Mercy 100 many men would argue otherwise in regard to marriage. The law is used against men and women in different ways. Everyone wants the advantages without the inequalities. They want to eat cake and have cake.
This is one of the best talks I've ever watched on relationships - after dozens of books, hundreds of hours of videos, etc. DeVon and Mark Manson, likely, are the most eye-opening and life-changing. Thank you for the amazing conversation!
This types of conversations with substance, meaning and intention, are what we’re missing out there in our society. We would all be going in the right direction if we practiced this more. It’s so hard to find someone to connect with in such way, but I’m hopeful. Thank you!
"Do you feel like wedding set us up for failure in marriage?" - thank you, Lewis, for this question. This is the reason why I listen to you. You and your questions... gotta love them.
When two people begin to investigate each other’s character with the possibility of marriage in mind, the must establish between them a level of openness and close communication. They will themselves determine if, when and how they will share past and personal experiences.
So true I was married to a man for 25 years that had the same goals as me. We worked together to create a beautiful life. I have never been so happy. He unfortunately had a reaction to prescription drugs so I lost him 10 years ago . I want that again its simply amazing! I met him at work and was not looking.
Okay last comment … I think. Lol This was such a good interview! Three questions to ask when you are dating … 1. Where are you going? - (what’s your purpose? what are you pursuing?) 2. What do you see? (Do you see yourself: married, with kids, living in a particular city?) 3. What do you think about me? (Save this for last if you no longer think the person is a good fit after the first two answers no need to ask the third. And if you ask and they are not interested in pursuing something serious, it’s okay. You are enough! It just wasn’t a good fit ♥️
This wouldn't push me in the direction of marriage. Good thing I was raised to respect and value marriage and find a partner who feels the same. Married 15 yrs, it's been amazing. 90% of my friends are married 20 + years. My husband's aunt just celebrated 60 years. Awesome. It's not for everyone, but it worked out for us. Trust, respect and like minded goals were a must for us to have a successful marriage to date.
Wow This interview was amazing 👏 As a Christian, I am inspired to see someone who is living according to the faith and so eloquent about relationships. 😌🙏
I learned that the hard way. WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU GET They may change, but only if they want to. Also, if you think it can only get better, lol… I was so stupid. 🤦🏻♀️
1.Where are they going ? (Their values) 2. What do they see ? ( can they see themselves being married ? Living in the same cities) 3. what do they think about yourself ? ( do they think of you only for fun ? ) Hanging out does not mean they want this long term
My mom died when I was 11 and even til this day women say I'm not emotional enough. But not many people know what it's like to grow with pain and anger in your heart.
That’s the thing: most people have anger and pain, most people have trauma of some kind. Take your power back. Heal and move forward. You’re the only one keeping yourself stuck. 💖
If u were emotional enough females will view u as feminine and lose attraction to u. Either way they complain u will lose put. But u lose way less staying emotionless, the only emotion u can share is anger, anger is seen as masculine. I remember a wife complained his husband never shown her love, but he gave her all kinds of gifts and whatever she asked for. Thats the best way to show ur love. The only reason females desire whatever u don't do is bc u won't do it. Once u do. They lose interest, respect or even view u as weak. Idc what girls say. Its built in thier DNA to do this shit. We do what we have to so we can save our asses, keep u in line and stop u from getting into an emotional affair cuz of "I think, i feel, I want, I need," garbage and ultimately destroy a good life u never knew u had till u threw it all away for a fling.
This was extraordinarily awakening! Everyone should listen to this! One of the main ingredients towards the destruction of relationships is ineffective communication and lack of understanding your partner!
I love the 3 questions. I also think that after a divorce and making the mistakes that are mentioned in this interview is one of the reasons that some 2nd marriages work better. A divorced person pursuing relationship is not afraid to ask those questions sooner. Not always but a lot of times.
If you fall in love as individuals, you have to stay true to who that person fell in love with. When people.become co-dependent and lose their individuality, it's doom.
I’ve heard many excellent Devon Franklin interviews but man you pulled out so much more. I do t think you left anything on the table. The best interviewer. GOAT
Toxic masculinity is a rather stupid concept, made up by people that are suffering from one dimensional thinking. Those who accuse others of it, usualy are the toxic persons.
Wow. I absolutely loved this eye-opening discussion. Such emotional intelligence and maturity. By letting go of the “masculine” energy expressed as angst and embracing and infusing the “feminine” energy, expressed as vulnerability, a big step towards balance can occur. A lot of good advice, yes for life in general, is certain.
Lewis what a terrific show/guest you brought to the public. Devon I just want to appreciate your growth spiritually. It is clearly evident that you apply Christ teachings to your life and relationship. I loved listening how deep your heart has been touched by love. Great stuff! I wish we all could be at this level on earth.
I definitely learned a lot from your wisdom gentlemen. Self-assessment and self-love as well as self-healing is totally important before having a commitment with anyone. Thank you!
I have never been married and I totally agree with DF. No rush. Fix yourself. Do not put baggage on other people they have their own. Fulfill your ownself first. It is like a business for me. Actions of love are most important ...you guys are heroes. Keep it coming.
This is honestly such a refreshing& real interview. It really resonated with me. No one is perfect and love/marriage does not solve all your issues, neither does it give you the dream life or happiness you imagined, only you can do that for yourself! But if you find that perfect "imperfect" person for you, with love and "putting in the work" as DeVon said, together you can build something that adds to both of your happiness. Thanks Lewis, Thanks DeVon
when he spoke on kissing his father and feeling that cold is the most connected i felt adn truthful comment i heard it literally brought me back to my own memory. he is speaking facts and you never forget that cold feeling ever on your lips
This was a great conversation. God bless both of you men. I ask the questions up front now. Devon is right. I was able to leave people alone when I found out where they were going.
This interview resonated so deeply with me....especially talking about being vulnerable...on the scale of 1 - 10 I'm a 20!!! but I REALLY want healing in this area.
I think it depends on what your definition or understanding of 'love' is. Emotional? Romantic? Or that all compassing self sacrificing love that actually DOES cover everything.
This was soo good on so many levels. Thanks guys for being transparent! The secret fight within me is the toughest battle. It hinders me from truly connecting to people.Thanks guys I realize that others have similar issues and I’m not alone🙏
Oh-oh, what's love got to do, got to do with it? What's love but a second-hand emotion? What's love got to do, got to do with it? Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?
.... laughing bc I used to tell my husband all the time my name is "Tina Turner" 😂😆.... his face when I say it.... 😑...bc he knew EXACTLY what song I was referencing.
I believe - what makes a great podcast is the vulnerability & authenticity of the host. Ur questions and your personal experience responses are wonderfully authentic- great job!
Lewis. Bro. You do such incredible work. Every single episode gives Life. Whyyyy do you not have a daytime talk show??? I know every other celeb has had a talk show - but yours would be such a tsunami of fresh air for so many reasons. Great interview with Devon, who is always shining with insightful wisdom we all need.
Yo this video is so packed I hope married people don’t look at the topic of the video and pass it because they feel I am married and not dating. Maybe something like Love, Marriage vulnerability and 3 questions to ask when dating would draw more people. This message has to be seen by all it’s so good. Thank you for this
I loved listening to the whole interview. Purchased his book within 15 minutes into the video. I’ve been struggling with setting boundaries and living in freedom... molding myself to fit within relationships so this interview hit home for me. Can’t wait to read the book!
Finally got thru the whole conversation 1. Lewis is so cute 😍 great listener & great conversationalist 2. The questions were quite prophetic, wow and 3. His answers speak volumes about how “the end” may have come about. Sad, but true.
Its important to understand what your love language is. Acts of service is one way to express love to others. How you receive love from others may be a different modality. Words of affirmation and acts of service often go hand in hand. Many people know how they show love but are unaware of how they receive love, hence the let down of unfulfilled expectations.
Three questions to ask before you start getting into a serious new relationship (Intimate) 1. Where are you going ? (Purpose) 2. What do you see ? (Vision) 3. What do you think about me ? (First two questions might null question 3) Thank you for this GOLD conversation💛 @lewishowes @devonfranklin
Putting aside ones ego is so helpful in relationships. When you learn to focus on you and the deeper meaning behind why you do things it then allows you to see the humanity in others. In turn, disagreements become less about making someone the enemy and in turn having clear and healthy communication.
It seems that Love brings you together initially. Then how you strategise, plan and work in unison the vision you want, is what strengthens being together. It is the WORK, not the romance and fantasy and nit- picky things that works. Being honest, being responsible, making an effort etc
In a relationship .. two people should worked together to have a successful life with peace and respect .. there's nothing beautiful thing in the world except to love one another .. cheers
I am not gannin to spend an entire hour and a half listening to him tell me what I've already learned from the Scriptures. Edit: I already know how to make a marriage work, I just want the three questions so I can move on with my life. It doesn't look like that will happen so whatever.
This is one of the best podcasts I've heard in a long while. It's very real. I've found myself on both sides of this spectrum. This is very helpful. Thank you So Much ! Slide
First time listening to Devon Franklin speak! Wow I'm blown away with the practicality, authenticity of this message! I was taking tons of notes! Absolutely incredible, and soo much value!! The questions asked were absolutely fantastic too! Great school of greatness! I'm learning soo much, things I wish I knew years ago but everything happens in the right season, especially when you are intentional about your growth in all areas of your life! Worth listening ! Thank you both 💓God bless🙏
3 Questions are
1) Where are you going?
2) What do you see for your life?
3) What do you think about me? (And you?)
You...are a Godsend. You have no idea how much time you've saved for anyone who reads your comment.
@@angelus_solus There is a lot of info in this long video besides the 3 ?s for those who take the time to listen ! It's quite interesting
@@cindy-bw6jw true comment
Thank you
@@cindy-bw6jw I am not listening to someone waffle on for an hour and a half about what makes a good marriage. I've learned what the Scriptures say on how to love and respect your wife, and that's all that matters. Anyone else's opinion is irrelevant.
Love is not enough. 👏Marriage is about compatibility, collaboration, duty and respect. Love should highlight that.
@She Coupons This! I don't know how you don't have more views. But, you ma'am have just won yourself a free custom intro theme song created from scratch from yours truly simply by commenting something so on point. I'm truly impressed and thereby want to help.
@@hitzoneproductions7858 wow really! Thank you🙏🏼 What do I need to do?
@@reesemonique No, Thank you for being a real one. I didn't know females like you still exist. You have given me hope once again. You can contact me on IG @beatsbyhitzone so we can discuss your preferences.
Respect is first for all men I've asked this question to. Then everything falls behind that.
No it is about fullfilling a mission and love - romance is a bonus, if you do it well, that is the fruit the reward......out of work .....from both sides......If you did not work for it (both) there is no fruit, but still the marriage can be considered as a success (through Gods eyes) - because you have fullfilled your mission according to the plan from above - and from the weight that you as a person can carry ......It took me a while to understand it......But that is the thing.....You don t step into it ......only going after the fruits alone........Actually both of you are farmers......you wait for the harvest...to come every time and the profits.....but we.....as people in the village --- we get feeded by your farm --- the chicken the egg, the potatoes - the apples.....and sometimes - there is no profit ...romance / love / whatever for a while .....because of the draught......to much rain .....insects ..epidemic eating up.....burglars......your children eat it all up.....whatever reason it is..spiritual and practical reasons --- love / romance / sex is a bonus.....like a sales person - sometimes you get the bonus , sometimes you don t. But you are still in the job....
I was experiencing the feelings of rejection from someone I truly believed I would marry because of the intellectual conversations we shared, similar life goals and the fact he was very vulnerable with me as I was with him. I asked the hard questions & he asked the hard questions. Yet, the relationship dissipated and left me feeling like I had done something wrong. Just to hearing Pastor Franklin say it's a reflection on the other person and what they want for their lives brought so much clarity for me. I understand that I just may not be his person and I'm okay with it. Thanks for such great gems in this segment.
I relate to your comment a lot. Thanks for sharing.
I do too
Self worth is so important. If you know you are in a bad marriage or relationship, remember self worth!
Additional questions:
1. What are your top 3 values?
2. What did you learn from past relationship?
3. How do you heal from past relationship?
4. Who are your relationship role models?
5. What do you want to improve in the next relationship you would be in?
6. If you could write your love story, what could it be?
7. What are you looking for in a partner?
Great questions???
Here’s the BEST definition I’ve ever heard for “expectations”.
EXPECTATIONS ARE
PREMEDITATED RESENTMENTS
It’s that simple.
Expectations are source of suffering. It is known for over 2.5k years.
😆 so true!
brilliant!!
I love him identifying jealousy as insecurities based on past fears and cautioning not to bring your past partners into your current relationships. I also believe manipulation is a form of insecurity and it's saying to people, 'I'm not enough, so I have to play games to attract or keep a person attracted.' There's a difference between manipulation and healthy boundaries.
"The Peace of One's Soul consists in an absolute resignation to the will of God". "The real secret of an unsatisfied life lies too often in an unsurrended will."....otherwise one's judgment is colored from an event of prior victimization, therefore resulting in feelings of feeling helpless. One must be willing to give up on Self Will allowing God to conduct your "spiritual circumcision" to take effect and remedy a New life experienced in the fruit thereof, God's liberation, otherwise Child we live on as weak defeated Souls, unarmed with spiritual wisdom granted Only in Jesus Christ, Our Saviour, Who Is Joined with the Holy Spirit, together As One, And God, The Father.
The serenity prayer says it all.... God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to his will; That I maybe reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him Forever in the next. Amen.
I agree with Joseph, key word surrender our will to God's will, when we don't do this and try to have a relationship with another we're going to run into selfishness, and what about me, my peace comes to me when I let go and let God be the center
@@josephcampione3294 So true. A life of surrender to the will of God brings true contentment.
Excellent interview. I always learn a lot on this channel. I have been married 15 years and what he says was right. The work begins when you start the marriage. You want to make sure your partner wants to do the work before marrying them. If they don’t do want to, you grow apart. If they are willing to do it, you grow together. I am driven to do personal growth daily. I found out most people are not interested in that. What a huge wake up call. Ask questions before committing fully. The big question before marriage is how do you define greatness with yourself, and with a partner?
"How do we learn to love ourselves so much that it doesn't matter what are partner does and doesn't do? Best question ever.
If you love yourself then it DOES matter greatly what your partner does. A person who loves themself does not allow themself to be treated like a doormat.
His wife is an actress who does certain kinds of movies that I find disturbing for a man who speaks this level of truth, it’s almost contradictory....
@@GillAgainsIsland12 His wife is in movies naked with other guys and he’s a pastor??? Nah Dawg!
@@gutchiespencer2714 it’s her job though and I think since she got married she chose different roles
God is love
Love your Neighbor as your self
With out Jehovah JIREH there is only a false sense of love and it’s called Lust.
Everything this dude is saying is exactly how I've been viewing marriage for the longest now and I'm glad I'm not the only one. Marriage is a BUSINESS.
Damnit man
I would say a covenant. A mutual agreement😊
Definetly a business, you need a liscence for it ! :)
So true. Blame disney for how expensive it is. Its not even romantic. Signing contracts zaps all the romance out of it and puts you both into a box. Do we need the law to keep us together? That doesnt seem right.
@Mercy 100 many men would argue otherwise in regard to marriage. The law is used against men and women in different ways. Everyone wants the advantages without the inequalities. They want to eat cake and have cake.
This is one of the best talks I've ever watched on relationships - after dozens of books, hundreds of hours of videos, etc. DeVon and Mark Manson, likely, are the most eye-opening and life-changing. Thank you for the amazing conversation!
i read mark book today they know what are talking about
💯
This types of conversations with substance, meaning and intention, are what we’re missing out there in our society. We would all be going in the right direction if we practiced this more. It’s so hard to find someone to connect with in such way, but I’m hopeful. Thank you!
"Do you feel like wedding set us up for failure in marriage?" - thank you, Lewis, for this question. This is the reason why I listen to you. You and your questions... gotta love them.
When two people begin to investigate each other’s character with the possibility of marriage in mind, the must establish between them a level of openness and close communication. They will themselves determine if, when and how they will share past and personal experiences.
That part Investigate
Past is important. Hide it at own peril.
DeVon spoke straight to my heart, wow! This should be standard viewing material for pre marital counseling. You the man DeVon, really made my day 👊🏻
Value each other's efforts and choices.
Ha. Ha.
She values you work. Just stop earning and see how unhappy she becomes!
So true I was married to a man for 25 years that had the same goals as me. We worked together to create a beautiful life. I have never been so happy. He unfortunately had a reaction to prescription drugs so I lost him 10 years ago . I want that again its simply amazing! I met him at work and was not looking.
Okay last comment … I think. Lol This was such a good interview! Three questions to ask when you are dating …
1. Where are you going? - (what’s your purpose? what are you pursuing?)
2. What do you see? (Do you see yourself: married, with kids, living in a particular city?)
3. What do you think about me? (Save this for last if you no longer think the person is a good fit after the first two answers no need to ask the third. And if you ask and they are not interested in pursuing something serious, it’s okay. You are enough! It just wasn’t a good fit ♥️
👍
This wouldn't push me in the direction of marriage. Good thing I was raised to respect and value marriage and find a partner who feels the same. Married 15 yrs, it's been amazing. 90% of my friends are married 20 + years. My husband's aunt just celebrated 60 years. Awesome. It's not for everyone, but it worked out for us. Trust, respect and like minded goals were a must for us to have a successful marriage to date.
❤
Lewis does ask the most thoughtful questions from any TH-camr or podcaster I was ever seen by far.
🙏🙏🙏
I AGREE with Your Observation of Lewis' BOMB Interviewing SKILLS
Thank you Rashaad! 🙏❤️
What about Thanking Your Biggest Fan?😇🤩🗽
@@lewishowes you're welcome Lewis. Keep up the good work.
Wow This interview was amazing 👏 As a Christian, I am inspired to see someone who is living according to the faith and so eloquent about relationships. 😌🙏
Everything amplifies in a marriage, so if u getting married to a person who stuck in their bad habits, it will only get worse
That is true.
I learned that the hard way.
WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU GET
They may change, but only if they want to.
Also, if you think it can only get better, lol…
I was so stupid. 🤦🏻♀️
@@Teal_Seal smh I'm sorry u had to endure that
@@kirkhugginsjr9317 That’s nice of you to say. Thank you 😊 Hey we all make mistakes, I just try not to make the same ones twice 👍
I went 8 years in a bad relationship thinking it was going to get better only to get worse.
1.Where are they going ? (Their values)
2. What do they see ? ( can they see themselves being married ? Living in the same cities)
3. what do they think about yourself ? ( do they think of you only for fun ? )
Hanging out does not mean they want this long term
My mom died when I was 11 and even til this day women say I'm not emotional enough. But not many people know what it's like to grow with pain and anger in your heart.
That’s the thing: most people have anger and pain, most people have trauma of some kind. Take your power back. Heal and move forward. You’re the only one keeping yourself stuck. 💖
If u were emotional enough females will view u as feminine and lose attraction to u. Either way they complain u will lose put. But u lose way less staying emotionless, the only emotion u can share is anger, anger is seen as masculine.
I remember a wife complained his husband never shown her love, but he gave her all kinds of gifts and whatever she asked for. Thats the best way to show ur love. The only reason females desire whatever u don't do is bc u won't do it. Once u do. They lose interest, respect or even view u as weak. Idc what girls say. Its built in thier DNA to do this shit. We do what we have to so we can save our asses, keep u in line and stop u from getting into an emotional affair cuz of "I think, i feel, I want, I need," garbage and ultimately destroy a good life u never knew u had till u threw it all away for a fling.
I just love this man’s soul to pieces ! Devon’s delivery always comes off so genuine and intentional ! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
This was extraordinarily awakening! Everyone should listen to this! One of the main ingredients towards the destruction of relationships is ineffective communication and lack of understanding your partner!
This is some good shit and i dont even want to get married.... I love how honest Devin is being, more ppl should speak the truth about marriage
Until some laws change no man should get married again it just not worth the risk.
I love the 3 questions. I also think that after a divorce and making the mistakes that are mentioned in this interview is one of the reasons that some 2nd marriages work better. A divorced person pursuing relationship is not afraid to ask those questions sooner. Not always but a lot of times.
If you fall in love as individuals, you have to stay true to who that person fell in love with. When people.become co-dependent and lose their individuality, it's doom.
I’ve heard many excellent Devon Franklin interviews but man you pulled out so much more. I do t think you left anything on the table. The best interviewer. GOAT
Thank you, your kind words are very much appreciated. 🙏❤️
This guy is brilliant! Thank you Lewis for bringing him! Helped me to look differently about certain things that I have analyzed for so long...
P pool
Done
We're not just telling stories, we're changing lives
This is so refreshing...no toxic masculinity...no filter 👏👏👏👏
Here's the key for maturity and growth.
You toxic female
Toxic masculinity is a rather stupid concept, made up by people that are suffering from one dimensional thinking. Those who accuse others of it, usualy are the toxic persons.
Wow. I absolutely loved this eye-opening discussion. Such emotional intelligence and maturity. By letting go of the “masculine” energy expressed as angst and embracing and infusing the “feminine” energy, expressed as vulnerability, a big step towards balance can occur. A lot of good advice, yes for life in general, is certain.
Devon is a incredible guest.
This guy quotes the Bible and speaks some truths. Good one.
Always love when Devon F. Is back on your show , this young man shares so much wisdom.
..Lewis taking notes👌👌👌🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Agreed. DeVon is the man! 🔥
Lewis what a terrific show/guest you brought to the public. Devon I just want to appreciate your growth spiritually. It is clearly evident that you apply Christ teachings to your life and relationship. I loved listening how deep your heart has been touched by love. Great stuff! I wish we all could be at this level on earth.
Damn at the part around 35mins , when expectations become control, they act out of fear instead. all that just hit me.
Mindblowing, heartwarming, thrilling. Thoroughly enjoyed
I definitely learned a lot from your wisdom gentlemen. Self-assessment and self-love as well as self-healing is totally important before having a commitment with anyone. Thank you!
I didn't want this interview to end!
Me either so good
I feel like I need to watch this podcast every day on repeat for the rest of my life. Respect bro!
This made me so happy to see! ❤️
What a powerful interview, just ordered the book and audio. Can't wait to jump into it and start working on bettering myself. Thanks for this gem.
Fantastic! So pumped for you! 🙏
Man...... I love this channel! As always Lewis- fantastic content! Thank you! 🙏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻💪🏻
So glad you are enjoying the channel! Anything you think we can do better? 😇
I have never been married and I totally agree with DF. No rush. Fix yourself. Do not put baggage on other people they have their own. Fulfill your ownself first. It is like a business for me. Actions of love are most important ...you guys are heroes. Keep it coming.
This is honestly such a refreshing& real interview. It really resonated with me. No one is perfect and love/marriage does not solve all your issues, neither does it give you the dream life or happiness you imagined, only you can do that for yourself! But if you find that perfect "imperfect" person for you, with love and "putting in the work" as DeVon said, together you can build something that adds to both of your happiness. Thanks Lewis, Thanks DeVon
Love Yourself so much no matter what ur partner is doing. No Ego.
Giving to get something in Return.
Give Freely cause thats in ea heart to do.
This was timed SO WELLLLL for me in my life rn
when he spoke on kissing his father and feeling that cold is the most connected i felt adn truthful comment i heard it literally brought me back to my own memory. he is speaking facts and you never forget that cold feeling ever on your lips
This was a great conversation. God bless both of you men. I ask the questions up front now. Devon is right. I was able to leave people alone when I found out where they were going.
"It's easy to love someone when they fit your narrow definition of what you want them to do " WOW
In other words: it may not even be love but convenient at the time and might be disposed easily at a different time bc it wasn't love to begin with
@@realtruth3762Yes, and that's exactly what many people do
This interview resonated so deeply with me....especially talking about being vulnerable...on the scale of 1 - 10 I'm a 20!!! but I REALLY want healing in this area.
Keep going girl 💪🏽😘
This conversation is GOLD 👏🏽💯
I think it depends on what your definition or understanding of 'love' is. Emotional? Romantic? Or that all compassing self sacrificing love that actually DOES cover everything.
Who is here after hearing about Devon filing for divorce? This interview explains so much.🍿
Possibly, they were not equally “yoked”. Ironically, they wrote a book the” Wait”. Maybe they should have, although it’s easier said than done.
@@bryn850 Yes. It seems so. But we all make mistakes in life. And even then, God can turn it all around for good. Wishing them both the best.
This was soo good on so many levels. Thanks guys for being transparent! The secret fight within me is the toughest battle. It hinders me from truly connecting to people.Thanks guys I realize that others have similar issues and I’m not alone🙏
DeVon I love those 3 things, they are so real and full of truth.
Ohh I like that.. When your giving in order to get. You’re on thin ice and the sun is coming out.
My marriage of 22 years doesn't seem like the past 22 years, time goes by so fast
Do you love it?
Oh-oh, what's love got to do, got to do with it?
What's love but a second-hand emotion?
What's love got to do, got to do with it?
Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?
What's love, but a second-hand emulsion?
Here's more lyrics for you. "It's times like these, I wish I were the Tin Man...Then I wouldn't have a heart, and I wouldn't need a soul."
.... laughing bc I used to tell my husband all the time my name is "Tina Turner" 😂😆....
his face when I say it.... 😑...bc he knew EXACTLY what song I was referencing.
I believe - what makes a great podcast is the vulnerability & authenticity of the host. Ur questions and your personal experience responses are wonderfully authentic- great job!
Ohh it’s always a delight listening to Devon Franklin and his message ❤️
Awesome guys, thank you so much for your vulnerable transparency...
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Lewis. Bro. You do such incredible work. Every single episode gives Life. Whyyyy do you not have a daytime talk show??? I know every other celeb has had a talk show - but yours would be such a tsunami of fresh air for so many reasons. Great interview with Devon, who is always shining with insightful wisdom we all need.
I hope this too🙏🏽😊
Its refreshing to hear men talk about relationship sensibly and with such depth.
Wow I learned so much from this🔥🔥🙌Praise God🙌
It's crazy how much I learn about myself through other people
Thank you for this insightful episode 🙏🏽💖
Me too! What was your biggest takeaway from this episode Stephanie?
Likewise!
PS - Lewis, you know the BEST people! If we are who we hang with, man, you are blessed!
Best men conversation that I've ever heard !
Yo this video is so packed I hope married people don’t look at the topic of the video and pass it because they feel I am married and not dating. Maybe something like Love, Marriage vulnerability and 3 questions to ask when dating would draw more people. This message has to be seen by all it’s so good.
Thank you for this
Yes, dying to self, Kingdom assignments.
I loved listening to the whole interview. Purchased his book within 15 minutes into the video. I’ve been struggling with setting boundaries and living in freedom... molding myself to fit within relationships so this interview hit home for me. Can’t wait to read the book!
This is such a wonderful and sincere talk from which I learned so much, again...
Thank you.
Relationship are the greatest teachers of who we are.
This conversation felt like therapy to me
Exactly!
Finally got thru the whole conversation 1. Lewis is so cute 😍 great listener & great conversationalist 2. The questions were quite prophetic, wow and 3. His answers speak volumes about how “the end” may have come about. Sad, but true.
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
Its important to understand what your love language is. Acts of service is one way to express love to others. How you receive love from others may be a different modality. Words of affirmation and acts of service often go hand in hand. Many people know how they show love but are unaware of how they receive love, hence the let down of unfulfilled expectations.
Three questions to ask before you start getting into a serious new relationship (Intimate)
1. Where are you going ? (Purpose)
2. What do you see ? (Vision)
3. What do you think about me ? (First two questions might null question 3)
Thank you for this GOLD conversation💛 @lewishowes @devonfranklin
Putting aside ones ego is so helpful in relationships. When you learn to focus on you and the deeper meaning behind why you do things it then allows you to see the humanity in others. In turn, disagreements become less about making someone the enemy and in turn having clear and healthy communication.
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It seems that Love brings you together initially.
Then how you strategise, plan and work in unison the vision you want, is what strengthens being together.
It is the WORK, not the romance and fantasy and nit- picky things that works.
Being honest, being responsible, making an effort etc
This is great.. A very productive and inspirational conversation. I love DeVons' magnetic, bright and captivating personality🤺
Devon's story about the lack of vulnerability and how it all started is for sure one of the most vulnerable stories i ever heard.
Thank you. I clicked this by accident. Wow I jeedednto hear this message.
This is so good! Love the deep conversations with somebody so real as DeVon Franklin. Great interview @LewisHowes
"All You Need is Love" - NOT!
Let's start a list...
Kindness
Trust and Trustworthiness
Accountability...let's keep the list going!
You are so right alot of poeple don't understand about the meaning of love
Thank you so much for this educational and entertaining discussion between these two wonderful men. They both did a magnificent job.
This conversation changed my life.
Thank you #DeVonFranklin for always being open and honest. #LewisHowes you are improving so many lives. Covid is not over people.
In a relationship .. two people should worked together to have a successful life with peace and respect .. there's nothing beautiful thing in the world except to love one another .. cheers
You’re right on point Donna!! 😃🙏🏼💕
@@lauri0301 Thanks for your comments on my post... Have a blessed day Laura and your family. Cheers
You need to watch this in it's entirety! WOW.
I am not gannin to spend an entire hour and a half listening to him tell me what I've already learned from the Scriptures. Edit: I already know how to make a marriage work, I just want the three questions so I can move on with my life. It doesn't look like that will happen so whatever.
@@angelus_solus Go to 1:22:00 for the 3 ?s 👍
Love is the fulfillment of the law. Excellent teaching, awesome video.
Powerful stuff! Let someone go in love ❤️
we will all have to work always on our relationships, every day
Do NOT ask these questions. Date slow and find out through actions
Agree
I agree. What I realize is that people will alway tell you what they think you want to hear, watch there actions.
Yes 👏🏻
This is one of the best podcasts I've heard in a long while. It's very real. I've found myself on both sides of this spectrum. This is very helpful. Thank you So Much ! Slide
This is a masterpiece, I'm a fan
Great attitude! And he fosters great attitudes!
First time listening to Devon Franklin speak! Wow I'm blown away with the practicality, authenticity of this message! I was taking tons of notes! Absolutely incredible, and soo much value!! The questions asked were absolutely fantastic too! Great school of greatness! I'm learning soo much, things I wish I knew years ago but everything happens in the right season, especially when you are intentional about your growth in all areas of your life! Worth listening ! Thank you both 💓God bless🙏