Just wanted to let everyone know you are amazing. It's hard being a parent in general but parents of autistic children are beyond strong and amazing. I know it's hard. I know that most of us have no village. I know it's hard. Stay strong 💪🥰
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Get the best remedy to improve your child’s autistic condition from doctor Oyalo as his herbs have helped my child improve in speech and social skill very well.
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
This doc helped my son improve and get over autism with his herbs .His name is Dr Oyalo on channel. My sons speech and behavior/social skill has improved perfectly using his herbs
I'm a foster mom with an adult with autism. The first year there were many melt downs. I learned some melt downs were because I spoke too much which overwhelmed my foster daughter. I learned when I'm upset (teenager in house) my foster daughter absorbed my tension and acted out so I learned to calm myself before interacting with her. I learned that any kind of exercise or motion calms my foster daughter. After a death of a family member - we walked daily. We listened to calming ocean sounds and heart beat sounds - a sound machine helped. When hands were used to hit things - after she was calm Ikissed her hands and gently stroked the top of her hand 1 to 3 times and said "hands are for love- we touch gently" Out of frustration I would also have a short meltdown then say - I need a time out. Or - I need to ... breath I would speak out the feeling - I see you are upset or I see you are sad..
Love this. Thank you. We have a 28 year old non verbal son. It’s astonishing the barriers a simple thing like no communication can build. Don’t have answers yet and sometimes feels hopeless but not giving up. Can’t give up.
@@kriskollmar9728why doesn't he speak? Does he have a voice? If he doesn't speak for such a long time why don't you all study sign language? None verbal deaf and mute people can tell you all kinds of stories and discuss all sorts of topics
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
My autistic adult child (27) is now in his puberty it seems and doesn’t acknowledge his diagnoses anymore, is very agressive and very difficult. Every day a huge tantrum, we are exhausted and don’t know what to do anymore. He doesn’t want to take his pills anymore, makes every room a mess and doesn’t listen to us. Demolish our things and has no empathy. Because he is an adult we can’t do anything. He has to put his signature under everything ( like a home care or guidance or treatment etc) and he refuses, because he thinks he is normal. We don’t know what to do, we are getting older and things are getting worse and we are exhausted 😢
Oh, this is difficult, but he is still a human. If he thinks he is fine, let him go and make it on his own. Be there for him, but tell him if he doesn't want to help himself, then he needs to make a go of it alone. He believes he is a regular, mature adult and wont recognise anything, then tell him to go and live like one. Hes nearly thirty! It's honestly not your responsibility for life. Don't listen to feel good, know nothing idiots who tell you it is. It's NOT.
@@kayhollings1777 how? In the Netherlands there are no houses left for starters with no money, rentals are given to immigrants and there is a huge shortage of housing. And he really can’t live on his own, he won’t eat and can’t handle finances. He needs care and help. Yes, he is nearly 30, but mentally a child of 12 or even younger.
@aruvielevenstar3944 That's tough, hey. I knew an older couple years ago now who were so worried about their daughter and who would care for her when they passed, but they were also really struggling with the day-to-day high level requirements of their daughter at their age. She couldn't live alone, and they didn't want her in care. It was so very sad. Your son sounds very lucky to have you. I wish you all the best.
He doesnt get hungry? Why wouldnt he eat? This kind of behavior is not okay the way you described. Seems rude and inconsiderate. He cannnot go about doing stuff like that in public around other people. There are some crazy people that do stuff like that on the street break things are aggressive towards others but they usually would end up in a prison or psychiatric hospital. Maybe he needs more discipline or some medicine@@aruvielevenstar3944
@@aruvielevenstar3944perhaps arrange a mental hospital stay for him for some months or some special camp. Perhaps who can live on his own. Has that ever been tried or has someone always been taking care of him? If always someone has then it could be a habit to break. You don't know that he wouldn't be able to live alone if the situation in life would so require. People adapt to all sorts of things. Perhaps he would even take care of someone else if there would be such a need in life
You didn't answer the question. You just said it was ok to tell them "no". How do you get them to stop doing a bad behavior? Just tellthem "No" doesn't alway work! Especially when they're tired, hungry or upset for any other reason. A boy in our day care hits other children. He's going to be around loud noises. That not something that can always be avoided. So, how do you stop them from acting out their frustrations on another child?
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
This doc helped my son improve and get over autism with his herbs .His name is Dr Oyalo on channel. My sons speech and behavior/social skill has improved perfectly using his herbs
Being undiagnosed for years and with corporal punishment caused confusion in my young adult life with what was love and what was pain. For anyone who happens to pass by in the comment section, never use corporal punishment on any child.
That depends on the generation you came from i was born in mid 1969 and started school in 1973 and left in 1985 i am autistic but wasn't made aware till years later i was treated like a child that was like any other child it is apparent i also have ADHD since childhooh as i wasn't very good at school in much everything now in my early 50s i struggle with my mental health and have high blood pressure i was bullied at school thats 12 years of being on the threshold of hell.
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
I suggest all parents read "The Reason I Jump" wrote by Naoki Higashida, a 13 year old autistic boy. This book has been invaluable in understanding my son's behaviour and the way his brain works. It reads like an interview where he explains what goes through his mind when he blurts things out in a loud voice or why he stims etc. Its quite sad in parts too as its such a true account of how much work it takes for him to navigate & function in a neurotypical world. I struggle with my son’s behavioural daily but this book has shown me that no matter how tough things are for me, its far tougher for him❤
I have some things to say about this. When you said “it’s ok to tell your kid no” I’m like, Isint that necessary for discipline? I am autistic myself Especially as From an early age I’ve not just been told no, but I’ve been set straight on how I should treat people with respect, and know boundaries and face fears head on, it may take a little longer for me to get to where I am (I’m 21 rn and still learning) but I still am where I’m at to be like my peers/colleagues are. Every child needs discipline to become who they want to be, even if they don’t like it, they need it to grow. Punishments (within reason, yes) need to be set, and depending on the severity of the issue, make sure you are firm with it. I’m saying this cause I’m still learning a lot as a young man. There are some things my parents don’t believe in with punishments but they did believe in things that helped me get to where I am today.
I don't have a village. It's just me. The noting of what time of day, what happened before etc was actually pretty insightful. I'm going to try it when my non verbal autistic son is aggressive. Please do a follow-up vid with more detailed methods on handling aggressive behaviors frm non verbal children. 🙏 Even trial and error suggestions would be appreciated. 🙏
Single mom with 2 kids with Autism. There are resources in many counties, look into your county's board of disabilities. They can help you find respite centers, home helpers, day care centers, and other resources regardless of income.
@@theslitherysylvie4010 i have three kids, all boys, all on the spectrum. In Fl, if its not medically necessary they don't provide respite care. Trust me, i called and called and asked and begged but unless its a medical appointment or physical medical task such as your child is in a wheelchair and needs physical support etc they do not send out their HHAs. (Im also an HHA) Ive tried to explain that its taxxing just to go to the grocery store but it doesn't matter. Mental health for parents like us is completely overlooked. We are overworked and undervalued but we keep going for our kids. It is what it is.
not sure if this will help as my Autistic son is almost 18. I find keeping my appearance and sound of my voice calm and as neutral as I can helps to start. Even with my wife angry and scolding him, he gets upset and says sorry, I'm sorry, a bunch of times. Then I walk in and stay as calm as I can and speak as soft as I can, he tends to calm down VERY Quickly. I'm mostly reassuring him he's o.k. and it's not the end of the world at that moment even if his mother is upset. I do have to explain that she is frustrated as well and he's picking up on the tone of her voice so I explain she's feeling frustrated like he is feeling and that's why she sounds like that to him. Not sure if it's a comparison or not, but once I've got him calmed down, I am able to explain what he has done wrong if he has or explain it's his mother being upset over something the same way he gets upset but she can't explain it to him while she's correcting him for whatever at that moment. Each time it is a process, but worth it after he's calmed and understand what he's done wrong if anything. Or, He's picking up on other peoples frustrations and they aren't angry with him and that they are dealing with their anger or frustration in their way. There's so much to take into account but bottom line with my son, approaching him with a calm appearance and neutral expression on my face helps 100% when first engaging him about anything. Keeping tone of voice as normal as possible helps with the conversation with him. God be with you
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I am a 68 grand mother dealing with an uncooperative daughter in law who is separated from my son and my 5 year old grand author is autistic the mother does not cooperate to help with this child is heart braking to see her have a tantrum and not able to understand what she feels or what she wants most of the time she is with me my son tries to stay home with me and my husband to take care of her but I don’t know what to do, please help us
Please look into your county's board of disabilities. They can help you with many different things, including day care, regardless of income. If you don't already, look into a referral for a behavioral psychiatrist that specializes in Autism. Watch videos on youtube made by people with Autism that explain what it feels like to have Autism. It will help you gain perspective. Also, try to take care of yourselves and give yourself rest when you can. I have a 20 year old and a 3 year old, both with Autism.
This video was no help so I will help! REWARD good behavior dont pay attention to bad behavior stick to routines, speak clearly and slowly even though your toddler may not understand give your child space during a meltdown if your child is self harming clear the environment and make it more peaceful and get rid of anything that might be causing the self harming teach self calming techniques such as counting breathing exercise DONT USE A DEVICE DURING TANTRUM TO GET THEM TO BE QUIET dont give in to bad behavior
So a couple gave me their teen for a specifically “crafty artistic” volunteer session, watched me give step by step instructions, asked if he understood, and he was all embarrassed and wanted them to go away. I’d met him once before in a different setting, but felt comforted that his parents had volunteered him for this, perhaps I was about to witness a wonderful new side to him, they’d seen my instructions and not been daunted by their son’s abilities, and left him. I then went to instruct a female volunteer. He then got demanding about instructions. I went to get a dip of water: “I’m WAITING!” He then asked how he was supposed to do the task. I realized that I should break it down to just the first step. He couldn’t do that. Home Depot kept asking questions for every move he made. Then he started to complain about the music. I dealt with that. He sang bs lyrics to it still in protest, but at least he was keeping the beat and working. Then Aretha Franklin came on and he began whining again. I then told him he wasn’t allowed to voice his opinions on the music and gave him five reasons why Home Depot couldn’t, including the sixth that he could listen to his own music at home. I don’t think anyone had ever spoken like that to him because he was slack jawed and actually shit up. I then went searching for his parents number to send him home Mom comes back serendipitously and I say he’s got to go. He’s got a bad attitude and can’t perform the task. She counters gently “but it’s so easy!” Exactly, and he can’t do it. She tries to take him away and he begins screaming bloody murder about how he wants to stay How do parents blind themselves to their own child’s abilities and set them up for failure? I was her free baby sitter and I would have had no time for myself or other volunteers with his constant demands and complaints
This video was no help so I will help! REWARD good behavior dont pay attention to bad behavior stick to routines, speak clearly and slowly even though your toddler may not understand give your child space during a meltdown if your child is self harming clear the environment and make it more peaceful and get rid of anything that might be causing the self harming teach self calming techniques such as counting breathing exercise DONT USE A DEVICE DURING TANTRUM TO GET THEM TO BE QUIET dont give in to bad behavior
Renfircibg good behaviors does wonders!!! Also i absolutely agree talk slowly. The kuds understand alot more than any1 would think. They need support and love. They also see our tension and our ton of voice and react❤
Get the best remedy to improve your child’s autistic condition from doctor Oyalo as his herbs have helped my child improve in speech and social skill very well.
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
You discipline your child with autism the same way as you do with normal children. Sooner the better. You cannot be afraid of meltdowns. Any child, autism or not, must know basic rules like hands to your self, use your voice properly, clean after yourself etc. And if long lecture does not work, administer discipline manually. A spanking never hurt anyone (it is not the same like beating). Your goal is for a child to be afraid of misbehaving again in same way. If you want your child not to hurt anybody, he or she must be afraid of consequences of such acts.
Thank God you speak commonsense.Autistic children need discipline like any child.My teacher son has 6 autistic children and they cause mayhem daily.The parents do not discipline and say my son causes the problems by demanding a certain level of behaviour from these children.He is preparing to leave teaching because of this.He loves the job and loves seeing children learn,but cannot take the abuse and violence from these children. This is not what he was trained for!
Autism is challenging for both the person affected as well as those who work with them those who have autism sadly don't have the skills to always understand the concept of what is required of them and sometimes behaviours can be a form of communication.
@@elainewhitelock5347 Many people not familiar with the concept of autism simply do not accept biting, kicking, screaming and temper tantrums as a form of nonverbal communication.
Yes, thank you. As an autistic myself I am no different to discipline than anyone else, I may learn things slower but I learn them eventually. I’m an adult now and go through a lot of depressive issues especially with being a young man but, life’s hard! And I just gotta deal with it. Thank you for your comment❤️
I have a 5 year old with autism and he wants everything he’s way or he will not stop to cry , I feel like giving up on him , I have thoughts of having any other child but him, has not receive therapy they are taking forever I dk what to do
This video was no help so I will help! REWARD good behavior dont pay attention to bad behavior stick to routines, speak clearly and slowly even though your toddler may not understand give your child space during a meltdown if your child is self harming clear the environment and make it more peaceful and get rid of anything that might be causing the self harming teach self calming techniques such as counting breathing exercise DONT USE A DEVICE DURING TANTRUM TO GET THEM TO BE QUIET dont give in to bad behavior
@@zeenasaleh7775thanks a lot I wrote this a long time ago everything got better and he has improved a lot, Therapy and school has helped him a lot I had learned a lot of techniques
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
Yes I have a nonverbal, but I do say,no and put her in time out, but can say word she can hear,she 14 years old.she has some chores to do.still working on stuff not running out of the road waiting,
I think that's one of the toughest things considering while raising even normal/average kids. With Autistic kids I feel like there is much more impulsiveness mixed with intense curiosity so their ability to follow orders to keep them safe goes unheard. They get into a trance and just to do it even if they can be injured repeatedly by it. Very strange to watch their eyes and mind try and grasp the experience they're going through
Read the comments then. There is nothing better to raise a child or manage any other person that good, old, fashioned behaviorism. Good behavior reward, bad behavior punishments.
One thing that helped me, was when I saw what happens when a heavy person pushes a lighter person, then having it explained that cars don't always stop, and it is like being pushed really hard by a very, very heavy creature that's far more powerful than a whole group of horses! (And learning that it can be fatal, or even if survivable, can lead to losing legs or arms, or even paralysis.) Also, seeing it modeled multiple times, and explained repeatedly: Look both ways. If there is one car, it can run over me. Wait until the coast is clear, then look each way one more time before crossing. Being punished wouldn't work for me, because I could not innately tell the difference; I saw adults as fickle. I did not understand why it was ok to cross the street sometimes, then others people freaked out about cars that I did not see as I was looking straight ahead, where I was going, as I was usually instructed that I must do (instead of my eyes "wandering" to the side).
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Im having issues with my 3year old hes non vebal level 3but he never used to do this jinda thing its very outta character for him but recently has had servere seperation anxiety issues like to the point where he wont go to aleep now without me and his dad in the room not to mention the frequent tantrums now whenever he is told no litterly all day long any advice would be appreciated
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
Im a babysitter. I raised 7 neurotypical children and have 4 grandchildren now. I do not know what to do with this 2 year old?!? Here looking for help. He is smart but non verbal. He is constantly doing what he knows not to...i know he knows because he stops and runs as soon as i catch him. How do you punish an autistic toddler?!? I have tried the time out but as soon as i turn my back for literally one second, hes dumping the dog food, playing in the toilet, pulling a plant over...he destroyed a 10 year old aloe today after multiple times being told dont touch and redirected. I was 5 feet from him pouring a cup of coffee and he darted and grabbed it off the plant stand. He has done many, many things like this in the past two weeks... I dont want to tell his mom that I cant help her because God knows she needa help but she doesnt discipline him at all. She just has a completely empty house so he has no access to anything but toys at her place.
Ma'am, if his parents do not discipline, it is limited what you can do. You cannot put him in a padded room all day. I WOULD say I cannot help you anymore. The problem in this case is not autism.
@@Ayverie4 I just don't watch him at my home anymore. If she needs me, to go to her house. He seems bored at home so he is actually more into playing with me there rather than my household items. 😊
I love my daughter (Kala) to death will do everything possible to keep her safe and to teach her as much as possible, but as a parent I don’t know how to properly get across a point or to teach her the way she would get taught. She’s getting mean making verbal threats she keeps going on and on we get her to stop eventually but as she grows she won’t always be with us she’s at school or wherever she needs to learn the consequence of her actions and the reactions of others if she keeps doing what she’s doing. As she grows she’s getting more daring, I hate to hover around her when we go to public because I want her to feel free and comfortable but she either makes a super nice comment or very very rude one or puts a person in a cliche stereotype (we don’t do in our family we treat everyone equally with respect). She’s a very smart girl but she’s held back because her behavior issues, she has a teacher with 3 helpers she gets the attention her days are usually mid not perfect but decent she acts good either in the mornings or afternoons, she gets easily frustrated, the teacher and helpers are doing their good well she’s come a long way but again it’s her behavior that brings her back. We tried medications but they won’t work properly or get her in a zombie state which is not ok, we are a low income family I can only do so much and told where to go for her treatments but they ( professionals) don’t listen to me or my daughter and they have us out the door in ten minutes after waiting 1 hour no input just a prescription, long story short we stopped the medications she did a great job for three years but now it’s getting worse week by week and might have to seek a professional again but we had many bad interactions with them I’m scared for her. She’s 11 she’s very very emotional and I think people are getting to her so she tends to act, we can’t do everything or be everywhere and people don’t understand her they think she’s being loud, rude or annoying but again we can’t always be there to explain, her behavior is the main thing holding her back. She will be in our care as long as she needs to our doors and heart will always be with her. I have nightmares about her future if I’m not around, when I see homeless people most have mental illness and I do what I can but at one point that was someone’s kid and it frights me because I love her so much.
She could have another disability like ADHD or mental disorder that would be helped by medication. Autism is such a broad term. We found out that my son has autism and ADHD and anxiety disorder. Lithium or something to balance her mood may be helpful. It’s ok to try the same medicine again. It might work better this time. Prayer, exercise that they like, and clear expectations with consequences like - you know that the punishment for yelling is no iPad or you get some candy from the jar because you did well in school today. It’s tough. I fail miserably all the time. She won’t be homeless because she has you and you will keep fighting to make sure she has what she needs. ❤❤❤ stay strong. and it’s ok to not have it figured out.
Hell, if someone tries to do the “discipline” on you, then why don’t you tell them this: “Discipline my ass and go fuck yoself” They can’t change you, you can!
I really need a free therapist to just spend 6 months with my 13 year old son. And just teach him things are his fault. And the need to learn from consequences. He can stumb his own toe, seek out one of his sisters he doesn't like from another room. And try to hit them because to him It was their fault for his toe hurting. This is his mindset with homework, school work. I just want him to care and be successful.
I have a concern that you want a FREE therapist. I don't see you finding a degree holding. thesis writing therapis to spend 6 months with your child totally free. You're asking for someone to be your slave. You should have insurance for him. If not, your state welfare office can get him medicaid or refer you to your area's mental health department but a few therapist is completely unfair considering said therapist paid hundreds of thousands of dollars just to become the therapies s/he is.
@@georgewhiplemyerjr.9165 why is your wife (or you) with a PhD in Psychology looking at these videos if you both know so much? Also when does "elusive" mean using a shock belt? Just point to the part of the video where she recommends that.
@@joecommie4890 Boredom, and there is life outside of work you know. You seem like something is bothering you on the subject? Would you like to talk about it.
Excellent Video clip! Forgive me for chiming in, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you researched - Ponubraat Phrenic Prevalence (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is a good one off product for parenting children with Asperger's or high-functioning Autism minus the headache. Ive heard some super things about it and my old buddy Taylor at last got cool results with it.
I got alot out of the video. Made good sense to.me. say no and don't tolerate intolerable behavior. Yes its like basic baby steps 101. But that's a good starting point especially for those who.have had very little experience. We all want our kids to be safe and respond to us so we can avoid unsafe dangerous situations.
@@titusmaximus7278 common sense. none of this advice helps with actually dealing with the situation she just states the obvious. For example I want to know how to calm my kid down being told to be patient isn't an answer it's not helpful it's like if I said could you pass me a spoon and you answered yes I can but didn't pass it.
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
This video was no help so I will help! REWARD good behavior dont pay attention to bad behavior stick to routines, speak clearly and slowly even though your toddler may not understand give your child space during a meltdown if your child is self harming clear the environment and make it more peaceful and get rid of anything that might be causing the self harming teach self calming techniques such as counting breathing exercise DONT USE A DEVICE DURING TANTRUM TO GET THEM TO BE QUIET dont give in to bad behavior
Autistic children need to learn about expected and unexpected behaviours and the resultant consequences. In the case of a child running off into a road, it can be significantly challenging to teach some children what is expected especially if they are pre/non- verbal or like many, have limited or no sense of danger. They need to have access to a range of tools to support their learning; most importantly visual tools. You could use red/green card to correlate with the red/green man at the traffic light; to physically, visually and verbally teach them. For others, you could combine this with drama or short videos on road safety. As exhausting as it can be for many parents, finding the right approach may involve a lot of trial and error. Reward them when they've made even the smallest of attempts at the expected behaviour. Simply saying no isn't enough. Tell them what to do, not what not to do.
@@Inanimate22 just because a child is autistic doesnt mean they shouldnt be punished like a normal child. if they do wrong they need to be told. i dont put up with crap and i tell you what my autistic lad i can control hes non verbal but he listens and understands if a parent doesnt spend the time helping them learn they will run riot
My son keeps breaking all the screens in my house. He finds a cord swings it on the screen until it cracks. He broke his tv, mine and now he broke my phone. Each time I explain to him that he shouldn’t do that , limit screen time and send him to his room for a few minutes. He just laughs. He is nonverbal but he understands clearly.
You literally said it’s okay to tell them no and if you need help with a non verbal child you should speak to your language therapist ? So what’ help did you really offer here?
This video was no help so I will help! REWARD good behavior dont pay attention to bad behavior stick to routines, speak clearly and slowly even though your toddler may not understand give your child space during a meltdown if your child is self harming clear the environment and make it more peaceful and get rid of anything that might be causing the self harming teach self calming techniques such as counting breathing exercise DONT USE A DEVICE DURING TANTRUM TO GET THEM TO BE QUIET dont give in to bad behavior
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
@@ZNCOMEDIA-TV for me it's mostly just being to overloaded with everything and bad anxiety around people. I've managed to work through it somewhat now but if I get too stressed I can't speak. It's not so much I don't want to but I physically cannot speak. My throat becomes super dry and tight and I just can't make a noise. I hope this helped you both:)
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
You obviously don’t know what you’re talking about you don’t discipline a kid with severe autism there’s different ways to handle things for example don’t give them something in the first place if you don’t want them to have it you don’t know what you’re talking about you’re uneducated and if they didn’t earn it don’t give it to them
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
This is just an invitation for parents and other adults to damage their kids. You use safety as a justification for all the other stuff you want to do, guess what? Traumatizing autistic kids doesn’t make them safe. The vast majority of things parents and others think aren’t “normal” are completely harmless and its the “normal” adult like you who has the problem, not the kid.
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
Searching for a solution for my child 4years old and couldn't talk I felt really said and doctor's said it's autism disorder but glory be to God I finally found something that worked for him on TH-cam Dr Isibor Alternative Herbal Healing .
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
Try nutrients the likelihood of neurological damage due to the preservatives in the vaccine is what is causing your child to act in the way he is. Look up all the vitamins and what their functions are hypocrite this was an ancient Greek Doctor Who focussed on prevention rather than waiting for the disease to form and then addressing the symptom when it's too late. However I would look into sunflower lecithin, sunflower lecithin is responsible for empowering the brain in cognitive development memory retention this can also be found in eggs in the meantime. Stay away from the soil based lecithins as those are loaded with estrogen. Nutrition nutrition nutrition. Supplements. Techniques that you can try to develop yourself for calming purposes. Perhaps lights. Christmas lights or a very slow-moving gentle strobe of blue red yellow types of Lights that project on the ceiling, that's very pretty. We understand that magnesium vitamin B's they help calm the nerves. Stay away from sugars. Stay away from carbohydrates, unless all the carbohydrates are being utilized as energy otherwise it turns into sugar. Skip to the meat proteins very important, you can blend meet the proteins with lentil proteins. Not all proteins are equal, and not one single protein has the necessary amino acids, hence the reason why we have fish we have beans lentils red meat. And we diversify that way. Massages are very nice to. Experiment with the heel of the foot, to see if there's a spot what triggers a good reaction, search all on the body also look up some of the Chinese papers on the different parts of the bodies and what those parts of the body activates in the brain because this is all about the brain. It is about an injury due to the vaccine chemicals on specific areas of the brains neurological makeup. Soft toxin removers, such as iodine drops, concentrate one tiny little drop under the tongue watch for reaction with a skin because when it's working and the toxins are leaving they are causing agitation in the form of redness on parts of the body, that's an effect of the iodine working. Again nutrition nutrition nutrition all those things that help the brain repair itself and may maintain itself at optimal capacity, and most importantly for a growing brain which doesn't complete growth until well into adolescence. Good luck,
Depends on how you discipline. Discipline is merely correction, to show correct ways of behaving and living your life in a functional and constructive way so you can be a contributive and valued member of society.
Just wanted to let everyone know you are amazing. It's hard being a parent in general but parents of autistic children are beyond strong and amazing. I know it's hard. I know that most of us have no village. I know it's hard. Stay strong 💪🥰
Thank you. I needed that.
Thank you :(
Thank you ❤
Thanks 😊
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Thank you. This video was what I needed to hear. I struggle saying no to my non verbal autistic son but i needed a reminder that sometimes it’s okay.
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@@joemoon1943ok snake oil
Those herbs, are 1,200.
I'm a foster mom with an adult with autism. The first year there were many melt downs. I learned some melt downs were because I spoke too much which overwhelmed my foster daughter. I learned when I'm upset (teenager in house) my foster daughter absorbed my tension and acted out so I learned to calm myself before interacting with her. I learned that any kind of exercise or motion calms my foster daughter. After a death of a family member - we walked daily. We listened to calming ocean sounds and heart beat sounds - a sound machine helped. When hands were used to hit things - after she was calm Ikissed her hands and gently stroked the top of her hand 1 to 3 times and said "hands are for love- we touch gently"
Out of frustration I would also have a short meltdown then say - I need a time out.
Or - I need to ... breath
I would speak out the feeling - I see you are upset or I see you are sad..
Love this. Thank you. We have a 28 year old non verbal son. It’s astonishing the barriers a simple thing like no communication can build. Don’t have answers yet and sometimes feels hopeless but not giving up. Can’t give up.
dont agree with kissing the hands bit thats pretty much telling them thats ok to hit not gonna get anywhere with that...
@@kriskollmar9728why doesn't he speak? Does he have a voice? If he doesn't speak for such a long time why don't you all study sign language? None verbal deaf and mute people can tell you all kinds of stories and discuss all sorts of topics
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My autistic adult child (27) is now in his puberty it seems and doesn’t acknowledge his diagnoses anymore, is very agressive and very difficult. Every day a huge tantrum, we are exhausted and don’t know what to do anymore. He doesn’t want to take his pills anymore, makes every room a mess and doesn’t listen to us. Demolish our things and has no empathy. Because he is an adult we can’t do anything. He has to put his signature under everything ( like a home care or guidance or treatment etc) and he refuses, because he thinks he is normal.
We don’t know what to do, we are getting older and things are getting worse and we are exhausted 😢
Oh, this is difficult, but he is still a human. If he thinks he is fine, let him go and make it on his own. Be there for him, but tell him if he doesn't want to help himself, then he needs to make a go of it alone. He believes he is a regular, mature adult and wont recognise anything, then tell him to go and live like one. Hes nearly thirty! It's honestly not your responsibility for life. Don't listen to feel good, know nothing idiots who tell you it is. It's NOT.
@@kayhollings1777 how? In the Netherlands there are no houses left for starters with no money, rentals are given to immigrants and there is a huge shortage of housing.
And he really can’t live on his own, he won’t eat and can’t handle finances. He needs care and help. Yes, he is nearly 30, but mentally a child of 12 or even younger.
@aruvielevenstar3944 That's tough, hey. I knew an older couple years ago now who were so worried about their daughter and who would care for her when they passed, but they were also really struggling with the day-to-day high level requirements of their daughter at their age. She couldn't live alone, and they didn't want her in care. It was so very sad. Your son sounds very lucky to have you. I wish you all the best.
He doesnt get hungry? Why wouldnt he eat? This kind of behavior is not okay the way you described. Seems rude and inconsiderate. He cannnot go about doing stuff like that in public around other people. There are some crazy people that do stuff like that on the street break things are aggressive towards others but they usually would end up in a prison or psychiatric hospital. Maybe he needs more discipline or some medicine@@aruvielevenstar3944
@@aruvielevenstar3944perhaps arrange a mental hospital stay for him for some months or some special camp. Perhaps who can live on his own. Has that ever been tried or has someone always been taking care of him? If always someone has then it could be a habit to break. You don't know that he wouldn't be able to live alone if the situation in life would so require. People adapt to all sorts of things. Perhaps he would even take care of someone else if there would be such a need in life
You didn't answer the question. You just said it was ok to tell them "no". How do you get them to stop doing a bad behavior? Just tellthem "No" doesn't alway work! Especially when they're tired, hungry or upset for any other reason. A boy in our day care hits other children. He's going to be around loud noises. That not something that can always be avoided. So, how do you stop them from acting out their frustrations on another child?
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@joemoon where can we get that from ?
@@kiransyed8758 use #droyalo
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@@kiransyed8758search Dr Oyalo to get his channel
Being undiagnosed for years and with corporal punishment caused confusion in my young adult life with what was love and what was pain. For anyone who happens to pass by in the comment section, never use corporal punishment on any child.
That depends on the generation you came from i was born in mid 1969 and started school in 1973 and left in 1985 i am autistic but wasn't made aware till years later i was treated like a child that was like any other child it is apparent i also have ADHD since childhooh as i wasn't very good at school in much everything now in my early 50s i struggle with my mental health and have high blood pressure i was bullied at school thats 12 years of being on the threshold of hell.
Thank you. It’s been really difficult, but I will follow your advice.
Corporal punishment just need to be illegal everywhere, it just makes things worse to be honest.
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
Hope all is good as it can be for you now 🙏🏼
I suggest all parents read "The Reason I Jump" wrote by Naoki Higashida, a 13 year old autistic boy. This book has been invaluable in understanding my son's behaviour and the way his brain works. It reads like an interview where he explains what goes through his mind when he blurts things out in a loud voice or why he stims etc. Its quite sad in parts too as its such a true account of how much work it takes for him to navigate & function in a neurotypical world. I struggle with my son’s behavioural daily but this book has shown me that no matter how tough things are for me, its far tougher for him❤
Thank you for the suggestion for parents to read “The Reason I Jump”.
I have some things to say about this.
When you said “it’s ok to tell your kid no” I’m like, Isint that necessary for discipline? I am autistic myself Especially as From an early age I’ve not just been told no, but I’ve been set straight on how I should treat people with respect, and know boundaries and face fears head on, it may take a little longer for me to get to where I am (I’m 21 rn and still learning) but I still am where I’m at to be like my peers/colleagues are. Every child needs discipline to become who they want to be, even if they don’t like it, they need it to grow. Punishments (within reason, yes) need to be set, and depending on the severity of the issue, make sure you are firm with it. I’m saying this cause I’m still learning a lot as a young man. There are some things my parents don’t believe in with punishments but they did believe in things that helped me get to where I am today.
Umm, click bait if I've ever seen it! You gave no advice whatsoever!
What she is saying is sometimes its ok to whoop the kids ass, it's pretty good advice if you ask anyone that has kids
@@yourname20n9ne you can’t just beat an autistic child, they have no control over how they act. That’s not teaching them anything but fear
@@mialynn5046 yeah i have autism and my dad used to use beat me to discipline me and it never worked and i just became afraid and distant
@@jonnyjon2283 I’m so sorry that happened to you
@@mialynn5046 its aight
I don't have a village. It's just me. The noting of what time of day, what happened before etc was actually pretty insightful. I'm going to try it when my non verbal autistic son is aggressive. Please do a follow-up vid with more detailed methods on handling aggressive behaviors frm non verbal children. 🙏 Even trial and error suggestions would be appreciated. 🙏
I don't have a village either and it's so hard
Single mom with 2 kids with Autism. There are resources in many counties, look into your county's board of disabilities. They can help you find respite centers, home helpers, day care centers, and other resources regardless of income.
@@theslitherysylvie4010 i have three kids, all boys, all on the spectrum. In Fl, if its not medically necessary they don't provide respite care. Trust me, i called and called and asked and begged but unless its a medical appointment or physical medical task such as your child is in a wheelchair and needs physical support etc they do not send out their HHAs. (Im also an HHA) Ive tried to explain that its taxxing just to go to the grocery store but it doesn't matter. Mental health for parents like us is completely overlooked. We are overworked and undervalued but we keep going for our kids. It is what it is.
not sure if this will help as my Autistic son is almost 18. I find keeping my appearance and sound of my voice calm and as neutral as I can helps to start. Even with my wife angry and scolding him, he gets upset and says sorry, I'm sorry, a bunch of times. Then I walk in and stay as calm as I can and speak as soft as I can, he tends to calm down VERY Quickly. I'm mostly reassuring him he's o.k. and it's not the end of the world at that moment even if his mother is upset. I do have to explain that she is frustrated as well and he's picking up on the tone of her voice so I explain she's feeling frustrated like he is feeling and that's why she sounds like that to him.
Not sure if it's a comparison or not, but once I've got him calmed down, I am able to explain what he has done wrong if he has or explain it's his mother being upset over something the same way he gets upset but she can't explain it to him while she's correcting him for whatever at that moment.
Each time it is a process, but worth it after he's calmed and understand what he's done wrong if anything. Or, He's picking up on other peoples frustrations and they aren't angry with him and that they are dealing with their anger or frustration in their way. There's so much to take into account but bottom line with my son, approaching him with a calm appearance and neutral expression on my face helps 100% when first engaging him about anything. Keeping tone of voice as normal as possible helps with the conversation with him.
God be with you
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Thanks I didn't learn a thing from this
Are you sure? There are great pointers just not in depth. Are you a parent?
@@justrelaxeye discipline is meant for those who did terrible things, not for those who has struggles
@@Myfavoritecuties elaborate
@@justrelaxeye I don’t have to
@@Myfavoritecuties Discipline: training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character.
I am a 68 grand mother dealing with an uncooperative daughter in law who is separated from my son and my 5 year old grand author is autistic the mother does not cooperate to help with this child is heart braking to see her have a tantrum and not able to understand what she feels or what she wants most of the time she is with me my son tries to stay home with me and my husband to take care of her but I don’t know what to do, please help us
Please look into your county's board of disabilities. They can help you with many different things, including day care, regardless of income. If you don't already, look into a referral for a behavioral psychiatrist that specializes in Autism. Watch videos on youtube made by people with Autism that explain what it feels like to have Autism. It will help you gain perspective. Also, try to take care of yourselves and give yourself rest when you can. I have a 20 year old and a 3 year old, both with Autism.
@@theslitherysylvie4010God bless you. you are in my prayers
This video was no help so I will help! REWARD good behavior dont pay attention to bad behavior stick to routines, speak clearly and slowly even though your toddler may not understand give your child space during a meltdown if your child is self harming clear the environment and make it more peaceful and get rid of anything that might be causing the self harming teach self calming techniques such as counting breathing exercise DONT USE A DEVICE DURING TANTRUM TO GET THEM TO BE QUIET dont give in to bad behavior
@Mp-wc2ch thanks so much god bless you
may god bless you Thank you so much❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻
So a couple gave me their teen for a specifically “crafty artistic” volunteer session, watched me give step by step instructions, asked if he understood, and he was all embarrassed and wanted them to go away. I’d met him once before in a different setting, but felt comforted that his parents had volunteered him for this, perhaps I was about to witness a wonderful new side to him, they’d seen my instructions and not been daunted by their son’s abilities, and left him. I then went to instruct a female volunteer.
He then got demanding about instructions. I went to get a dip of water: “I’m WAITING!” He then asked how he was supposed to do the task. I realized that I should break it down to just the first step. He couldn’t do that. Home Depot kept asking questions for every move he made. Then he started to complain about the music. I dealt with that. He sang bs lyrics to it still in protest, but at least he was keeping the beat and working. Then Aretha Franklin came on and he began whining again. I then told him he wasn’t allowed to voice his opinions on the music and gave him five reasons why Home Depot couldn’t, including the sixth that he could listen to his own music at home. I don’t think anyone had ever spoken like that to him because he was slack jawed and actually shit up.
I then went searching for his parents number to send him home
Mom comes back serendipitously and I say he’s got to go. He’s got a bad attitude and can’t perform the task. She counters gently “but it’s so easy!” Exactly, and he can’t do it. She tries to take him away and he begins screaming bloody murder about how he wants to stay
How do parents blind themselves to their own child’s abilities and set them up for failure? I was her free baby sitter and I would have had no time for myself or other volunteers with his constant demands and complaints
This video was no help so I will help! REWARD good behavior dont pay attention to bad behavior stick to routines, speak clearly and slowly even though your toddler may not understand give your child space during a meltdown if your child is self harming clear the environment and make it more peaceful and get rid of anything that might be causing the self harming teach self calming techniques such as counting breathing exercise DONT USE A DEVICE DURING TANTRUM TO GET THEM TO BE QUIET dont give in to bad behavior
Renfircibg good behaviors does wonders!!! Also i absolutely agree talk slowly. The kuds understand alot more than any1 would think. They need support and love. They also see our tension and our ton of voice and react❤
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My daughter broke her ipad and she bended it and cracked the screen. And now I’m having. A hard time to discipline her
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You discipline your child with autism the same way as you do with normal children. Sooner the better. You cannot be afraid of meltdowns. Any child, autism or not, must know basic rules like hands to your self, use your voice properly, clean after yourself etc. And if long lecture does not work, administer discipline manually. A spanking never hurt anyone (it is not the same like beating). Your goal is for a child to be afraid of misbehaving again in same way. If you want your child not to hurt anybody, he or she must be afraid of consequences of such acts.
Thank God you speak commonsense.Autistic children need discipline like any child.My teacher son has 6 autistic children and they cause mayhem daily.The parents do not discipline and say my son causes the problems by demanding a certain level of behaviour from these children.He is preparing to leave teaching because of this.He loves the job and loves seeing children learn,but cannot take the abuse and violence from these children. This is not what he was trained for!
Autism is challenging for both the person affected as well as those who work with them those who have autism sadly don't have the skills to always understand the concept of what is required of them and sometimes behaviours can be a form of communication.
@@elainewhitelock5347 Many people not familiar with the concept of autism simply do not accept biting, kicking, screaming and temper tantrums as a form of nonverbal communication.
You’re spot on.
Yes, thank you. As an autistic myself I am no different to discipline than anyone else, I may learn things slower but I learn them eventually. I’m an adult now and go through a lot of depressive issues especially with being a young man but, life’s hard! And I just gotta deal with it. Thank you for your comment❤️
I have a 5 year old with autism and he wants everything he’s way or he will not stop to cry , I feel like giving up on him , I have thoughts of having any other child but him, has not receive therapy they are taking forever I dk what to do
This video was no help so I will help! REWARD good behavior dont pay attention to bad behavior stick to routines, speak clearly and slowly even though your toddler may not understand give your child space during a meltdown if your child is self harming clear the environment and make it more peaceful and get rid of anything that might be causing the self harming teach self calming techniques such as counting breathing exercise DONT USE A DEVICE DURING TANTRUM TO GET THEM TO BE QUIET dont give in to bad behavior
@@zeenasaleh7775 teach self calming techniques to kids that cant even understand to go to the toilet yeah thats gonna work...
@@zeenasaleh7775thanks a lot I wrote this a long time ago everything got better and he has improved a lot, Therapy and school has helped him a lot I had learned a lot of techniques
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
Yes I have a nonverbal, but I do say,no and put her in time out, but can say word she can hear,she 14 years old.she has some chores to do.still working on stuff not running out of the road waiting,
The school has started to police parenting and it's very disconcerting to some parents who are trying their best
If you’re hitting your child especially if they don’t understand what’s going on like really young children or autistic children that’s wrong.
And no resident will say: “I am sick.”
YOU DONT KNOW ANYTHING YOU NEVER KNEW WHAT WE GO THROUGH
That's actually really insightful
@@Dbjjr26 ok
I think that's one of the toughest things considering while raising even normal/average kids. With Autistic kids I feel like there is much more impulsiveness mixed with intense curiosity so their ability to follow orders to keep them safe goes unheard. They get into a trance and just to do it even if they can be injured repeatedly by it. Very strange to watch their eyes and mind try and grasp the experience they're going through
@@Dbjjr26 yeah also I have extremely sensitive hearing
@@mayathecollie1299 he seems to as well. Holds his hands over his ears frequently
It doesn't answer the question mentioned in title
Read the comments then. There is nothing better to raise a child or manage any other person that good, old, fashioned behaviorism. Good behavior reward, bad behavior punishments.
One thing that helped me, was when I saw what happens when a heavy person pushes a lighter person, then having it explained that cars don't always stop, and it is like being pushed really hard by a very, very heavy creature that's far more powerful than a whole group of horses!
(And learning that it can be fatal, or even if survivable, can lead to losing legs or arms, or even paralysis.)
Also, seeing it modeled multiple times, and explained repeatedly: Look both ways. If there is one car, it can run over me. Wait until the coast is clear, then look each way one more time before crossing.
Being punished wouldn't work for me, because I could not innately tell the difference; I saw adults as fickle.
I did not understand why it was ok to cross the street sometimes, then others people freaked out about cars that I did not see as I was looking straight ahead, where I was going, as I was usually instructed that I must do (instead of my eyes "wandering" to the side).
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I have autistic son and thank you for this video.
Im having issues with my 3year old hes non vebal level 3but he never used to do this jinda thing its very outta character for him but recently has had servere seperation anxiety issues like to the point where he wont go to aleep now without me and his dad in the room not to mention the frequent tantrums now whenever he is told no litterly all day long any advice would be appreciated
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
Im a babysitter. I raised 7 neurotypical children and have 4 grandchildren now. I do not know what to do with this 2 year old?!? Here looking for help. He is smart but non verbal. He is constantly doing what he knows not to...i know he knows because he stops and runs as soon as i catch him. How do you punish an autistic toddler?!? I have tried the time out but as soon as i turn my back for literally one second, hes dumping the dog food, playing in the toilet, pulling a plant over...he destroyed a 10 year old aloe today after multiple times being told dont touch and redirected. I was 5 feet from him pouring a cup of coffee and he darted and grabbed it off the plant stand. He has done many, many things like this in the past two weeks...
I dont want to tell his mom that I cant help her because God knows she needa help but she doesnt discipline him at all. She just has a completely empty house so he has no access to anything but toys at her place.
Ma'am, if his parents do not discipline, it is limited what you can do. You cannot put him in a padded room all day. I WOULD say I cannot help you anymore. The problem in this case is not autism.
@@Ayverie4 I just don't watch him at my home anymore. If she needs me, to go to her house. He seems bored at home so he is actually more into playing with me there rather than my household items. 😊
Me nearly 25 I have autism,having bounderies helps me overcome that.
What about when the Mother enables their Autistic child that is high functioning verbal teen.
I love my daughter (Kala) to death will do everything possible to keep her safe and to teach her as much as possible, but as a parent I don’t know how to properly get across a point or to teach her the way she would get taught. She’s getting mean making verbal threats she keeps going on and on we get her to stop eventually but as she grows she won’t always be with us she’s at school or wherever she needs to learn the consequence of her actions and the reactions of others if she keeps doing what she’s doing. As she grows she’s getting more daring, I hate to hover around her when we go to public because I want her to feel free and comfortable but she either makes a super nice comment or very very rude one or puts a person in a cliche stereotype (we don’t do in our family we treat everyone equally with respect). She’s a very smart girl but she’s held back because her behavior issues, she has a teacher with 3 helpers she gets the attention her days are usually mid not perfect but decent she acts good either in the mornings or afternoons, she gets easily frustrated, the teacher and helpers are doing their good well she’s come a long way but again it’s her behavior that brings her back. We tried medications but they won’t work properly or get her in a zombie state which is not ok, we are a low income family I can only do so much and told where to go for her treatments but they ( professionals) don’t listen to me or my daughter and they have us out the door in ten minutes after waiting 1 hour no input just a prescription, long story short we stopped the medications she did a great job for three years but now it’s getting worse week by week and might have to seek a professional again but we had many bad interactions with them I’m scared for her. She’s 11 she’s very very emotional and I think people are getting to her so she tends to act, we can’t do everything or be everywhere and people don’t understand her they think she’s being loud, rude or annoying but again we can’t always be there to explain, her behavior is the main thing holding her back. She will be in our care as long as she needs to our doors and heart will always be with her. I have nightmares about her future if I’m not around, when I see homeless people most have mental illness and I do what I can but at one point that was someone’s kid and it frights me because I love her so much.
Belt would do it
@@jessemitchell8816 I’m honestly scared about your future.
She could have another disability like ADHD or mental disorder that would be helped by medication. Autism is such a broad term. We found out that my son has autism and ADHD and anxiety disorder. Lithium or something to balance her mood may be helpful. It’s ok to try the same medicine again. It might work better this time. Prayer, exercise that they like, and clear expectations with consequences like - you know that the punishment for yelling is no iPad or you get some candy from the jar because you did well in school today. It’s tough. I fail miserably all the time.
She won’t be homeless because she has you and you will keep fighting to make sure she has what she needs. ❤❤❤ stay strong. and it’s ok to not have it figured out.
@@jessemitchell8816 Absolutely right!
@@SF-jn1hp Don't be scared, she will be fine and will have nice kids. Be scared for your future.
I'M SO DONE WITH THIS!!!! I JUST WANT TO DIE SOMETIMES!!!!!
It’s definitely hard..
Hell, if someone tries to do the “discipline” on you, then why don’t you tell them this: “Discipline my ass and go fuck yoself” They can’t change you, you can!
@@Myfavoritecuties holy hell what in the world is your problem?
@@itsmebeech1771 I’m protesting, that’s what I’m doing
@@Myfavoritecuties So if you have an autistic person with SIB, you let them harm themselves till hospital is needed?
What a Lovely lady with a great explanation!
Can’t get my level 3 grandson back in the car? 90 lbs and stronger than me. It’s if he likes what we were doing
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I really need a free therapist to just spend 6 months with my 13 year old son. And just teach him things are his fault. And the need to learn from consequences. He can stumb his own toe, seek out one of his sisters he doesn't like from another room. And try to hit them because to him
It was their fault for his toe hurting.
This is his mindset with homework, school work. I just want him to care and be successful.
I have a concern that you want a FREE therapist. I don't see you finding a degree holding. thesis writing therapis to spend 6 months with your child totally free. You're asking for someone to be your slave. You should have insurance for him. If not, your state welfare office can get him medicaid or refer you to your area's mental health department but a few therapist is completely unfair considering said therapist paid hundreds of thousands of dollars just to become the therapies s/he is.
Belt costs nothing
@@jessemitchell8816 you're an uneducated punk. Clearly you know nothing about any of this so please just shut it down
@@jessemitchell8816 we’ve evolved from the barbarian age of belts
@@jessemitchell8816 belts cause a lifetime of trauma and high cost of therapy bills.
So you're saying it is ok to use a shock belt to stop them from doing dangerous things? Since you really didn't say anything.
You better step up your comprehension skills then.
@@joecommie4890 you did listen right? Even my wife who has a PhD in Psychology said she was very open on what she stated.
And so you understand open can also mean elusive. Have a Great Sunday.
@@georgewhiplemyerjr.9165 why is your wife (or you) with a PhD in Psychology looking at these videos if you both know so much? Also when does "elusive" mean using a shock belt? Just point to the part of the video where she recommends that.
@@joecommie4890 Boredom, and there is life outside of work you know. You seem like something is bothering you on the subject? Would you like to talk about it.
What was the point of this video? You talked a lot but said nothing - just pointless....
Excellent Video clip! Forgive me for chiming in, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you researched - Ponubraat Phrenic Prevalence (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is a good one off product for parenting children with Asperger's or high-functioning Autism minus the headache. Ive heard some super things about it and my old buddy Taylor at last got cool results with it.
I got alot out of the video. Made good sense to.me. say no and don't tolerate intolerable behavior. Yes its like basic baby steps 101. But that's a good starting point especially for those who.have had very little experience. We all want our kids to be safe and respond to us so we can avoid unsafe dangerous situations.
@@titusmaximus7278 common sense. none of this advice helps with actually dealing with the situation she just states the obvious. For example I want to know how to calm my kid down being told to be patient isn't an answer it's not helpful it's like if I said could you pass me a spoon and you answered yes I can but didn't pass it.
Everytime I said NO to my 4 year old daughter she gets angrier 😡
I learnt nothing 😐
Always words! No actual help!
Of course it's ok to say no to things. The fact you even have to mention that shows that parenting totally is out of control.
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
Great advice. Thanks
This video was no help so I will help! REWARD good behavior dont pay attention to bad behavior stick to routines, speak clearly and slowly even though your toddler may not understand give your child space during a meltdown if your child is self harming clear the environment and make it more peaceful and get rid of anything that might be causing the self harming teach self calming techniques such as counting breathing exercise DONT USE A DEVICE DURING TANTRUM TO GET THEM TO BE QUIET dont give in to bad behavior
@@zeenasaleh7775 Thank you.
@@zeenasaleh7775 This is with autism. Some Individuals with autism may never speak so making noise is their only communication.
I want my 2:38 mins of my life back.
Lol rude
She really didn't give an explanation on how to discipline them she just says don't tell them it was a good job which is common sense.
@@itsmebeech1771 lol yes
@@SittingPRETTY727 not really. Rewatch, listen and learn
Same
Why do these people record video when they have some serious audio problem !
So we shouldn’t let our children run into traffic… thanks for that!
Autistic children need to learn about expected and unexpected behaviours and the resultant consequences. In the case of a child running off into a road, it can be significantly challenging to teach some children what is expected especially if they are pre/non- verbal or like many, have limited or no sense of danger. They need to have access to a range of tools to support their learning; most importantly visual tools. You could use red/green card to correlate with the red/green man at the traffic light; to physically, visually and verbally teach them. For others, you could combine this with drama or short videos on road safety. As exhausting as it can be for many parents, finding the right approach may involve a lot of trial and error. Reward them when they've made even the smallest of attempts at the expected behaviour. Simply saying no isn't enough. Tell them what to do, not what not to do.
Autistic people can’t exactly control it
I am autistic but was disciplined like any other child
You do realize that we autistics are smart enough to realize how digusting, shitty, and ableist what you just wrote is, right?
@@robertholden12 and what are your thoughts about that?
@@Inanimate22 just because a child is autistic doesnt mean they shouldnt be punished like a normal child. if they do wrong they need to be told. i dont put up with crap and i tell you what my autistic lad i can control hes non verbal but he listens and understands if a parent doesnt spend the time helping them learn they will run riot
My son keeps breaking all the screens in my house. He finds a cord swings it on the screen until it cracks. He broke his tv, mine and now he broke my phone. Each time I explain to him that he shouldn’t do that , limit screen time and send him to his room for a few minutes. He just laughs. He is nonverbal but he understands clearly.
My child has improved in speech and social skills since using Dr Oyalo supplement. Highly recommended
My child is 10 and was like that too.
Now his improvement is good to talk about
You literally said it’s okay to tell them no and if you need help with a non verbal child you should speak to your language therapist ? So what’ help did you really offer here?
This video was no help so I will help! REWARD good behavior dont pay attention to bad behavior stick to routines, speak clearly and slowly even though your toddler may not understand give your child space during a meltdown if your child is self harming clear the environment and make it more peaceful and get rid of anything that might be causing the self harming teach self calming techniques such as counting breathing exercise DONT USE A DEVICE DURING TANTRUM TO GET THEM TO BE QUIET dont give in to bad behavior
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
More extreme punishment but also more extreme praise and encouragement. Be a drill sergeant and be the polar opposite when they behave
That was helpful
Just keep digging in the net but kinda get what your saying stay calm and deal calming about it.
My son has autism , thank you
Wrong you do walk across the street when it's Red 🤔. When it's green you don't walk across.
I’m mute in public, not stupid... I can understand you perfectly fine.
Ikr. Like, I can't talk, but I can still hear u and understand u.
@@destryedbyhippiepwrs yas like just let me type on my phone or something and you will see I’m probably way smarter than you lol.
But can you please explain the feeling that makes you not want to talk . I’m trying to understand for my son
@@ZNCOMEDIA-TV for me it's mostly just being to overloaded with everything and bad anxiety around people. I've managed to work through it somewhat now but if I get too stressed I can't speak. It's not so much I don't want to but I physically cannot speak. My throat becomes super dry and tight and I just can't make a noise. I hope this helped you both:)
Bunch of talk. No information.
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I think people don't appreciate the camera-person of this video. They fulfilled their job of holding the camera, very well.
Helen Keller all i need to say
Just say you don't know and save us time.
a better answer is to stop ignoring your doctor when they tell you your scans aren't normal. #YOURbodyMYcommunity
They can’t see autism on a scan! Who’s told you that?
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
Autistic children like I was need therapy and a loving environment.
You obviously don’t know what you’re talking about you don’t discipline a kid with severe autism there’s different ways to handle things for example don’t give them something in the first place if you don’t want them to have it you don’t know what you’re talking about you’re uneducated and if they didn’t earn it don’t give it to them
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
This is just an invitation for parents and other adults to damage their kids. You use safety as a justification for all the other stuff you want to do, guess what? Traumatizing autistic kids doesn’t make them safe. The vast majority of things parents and others think aren’t “normal” are completely harmless and its the “normal” adult like you who has the problem, not the kid.
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
Bs
Discipline should only be used for those who are ignorant, such as karens. And not for those who have autism or other conditions
@@Myfavoritecuties you're right
Searching for a solution for my child 4years old and couldn't talk I felt really said and doctor's said it's autism disorder but glory be to God I finally found something that worked for him on TH-cam Dr Isibor Alternative Herbal Healing .
1. god doesn’t exist
2. that name is bullshit
3. we don’t need to be cured
4. you’re a worthless scumbag
Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely
Where was the help....video not helpful...just to tell the kid no...hmmm what a waste of time
My child is on the floor screaming help
Try nutrients the likelihood of neurological damage due to the preservatives in the vaccine is what is causing your child to act in the way he is. Look up all the vitamins and what their functions are hypocrite this was an ancient Greek Doctor Who focussed on prevention rather than waiting for the disease to form and then addressing the symptom when it's too late. However I would look into sunflower lecithin, sunflower lecithin is responsible for empowering the brain in cognitive development memory retention this can also be found in eggs in the meantime. Stay away from the soil based lecithins as those are loaded with estrogen. Nutrition nutrition nutrition. Supplements. Techniques that you can try to develop yourself for calming purposes. Perhaps lights. Christmas lights or a very slow-moving gentle strobe of blue red yellow types of Lights that project on the ceiling, that's very pretty. We understand that magnesium vitamin B's they help calm the nerves. Stay away from sugars. Stay away from carbohydrates, unless all the carbohydrates are being utilized as energy otherwise it turns into sugar. Skip to the meat proteins very important, you can blend meet the proteins with lentil proteins. Not all proteins are equal, and not one single protein has the necessary amino acids, hence the reason why we have fish we have beans lentils red meat. And we diversify that way. Massages are very nice to. Experiment with the heel of the foot, to see if there's a spot what triggers a good reaction, search all on the body also look up some of the Chinese papers on the different parts of the bodies and what those parts of the body activates in the brain because this is all about the brain. It is about an injury due to the vaccine chemicals on specific areas of the brains neurological makeup. Soft toxin removers, such as iodine drops, concentrate one tiny little drop under the tongue watch for reaction with a skin because when it's working and the toxins are leaving they are causing agitation in the form of redness on parts of the body, that's an effect of the iodine working. Again nutrition nutrition nutrition all those things that help the brain repair itself and may maintain itself at optimal capacity, and most importantly for a growing brain which doesn't complete growth until well into adolescence. Good luck,
Don’t spank
Gentle parenting is a joke.
Discipline is NOT how you cure people, it’s how you torment people
Depends on how you discipline. Discipline is merely correction, to show correct ways of behaving and living your life in a functional and constructive way so you can be a contributive and valued member of society.
you keep pretending that we aren’t smart enough to realize that we are aware of what you’re trying to make us seem like