Are You Too Attractive to have Friends?

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  • @matthelion
    @matthelion 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    This is so me. It’s hard to make friends when I’m so attractive.

    • @Stoic290
      @Stoic290 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same man

    • @janicehill7134
      @janicehill7134 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s true …. For me it’s true ..!!!
      But I still sometimes try !!!
      I feel like a Godess compared to everyone else ..!!!
      Like I’m gods wife ..!!!
      So yes it’s hard ..!!!

    • @Lord_ofGods
      @Lord_ofGods 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @janicehill7134
      I think your Social Skills are under developed. Just look at the text you wrote…

    • @MiguelFernandez-xy3vf
      @MiguelFernandez-xy3vf 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      hot girls have many male friends that are not real friends

  • @yeetyeetyeet1967
    @yeetyeetyeet1967 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    if you are attractive but you fail to attract people there is something wrong

  • @becomingauthentic
    @becomingauthentic 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    I can tell you from personal experience that being attractive absolutely takes it toll on having male friends. Countless times ive had friends get into relationships and then distance themselves and ESPECIALLY their partners from me. Just recently I had a friend hit on someone I was seeing, he eventually admitted that it was due to his insecurities around me and wanted to know if he could pull the attractive women that I do. The problem with being an attractive man and inviting attractive women to a group of non attractive men is that those women are out of those mens league.
    I was overseas with a friend and hooked up with a few women on the trip, I tried to wingman him but he had no game. I could see him grow jealous of me and it tarnished our trip and friendship.
    Many other times ive had guys admit that they find it hard to warm up to me as a friend because they see me as a threat and have pre conceived ideas about what im like when in reality I just want to connect with people and do not care about competing and would never degrade myself to try and 'steal' a friends partner.

    • @PAULOSOPHICAL
      @PAULOSOPHICAL  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Without a doubt, men aren't immune to jealousy. But that sucks... I'm not just going to just tell you, "well, it's your choice of friends, choose more secure ones next time." coz that doesn’t help really.
      The dating landscape is undoubtedly changing. Dating apps have placed a stronger emphasis on physical appearance, particularly for men, considering that women swipe left 93% of the time. So, having you as a good-looking friend can make things more competitive for your buddies. I still don’t think the competition is as intense as it is among women, but it's still a sucky situation.
      I read a study suggesting that attractive people tend to group together. This isn't by choice but happens "naturally." I wonder if subconsciously they find these friendships less stressful. Hmmm...

    • @sheldonlukemackey
      @sheldonlukemackey 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Feel you bro, same here. Lost 1/3 of my guy friends because of their own insecurities and jealousy while I just wanted to connect with people. I didn't even tease them or else about that because I never wanted to hurt their feelings while we were "friends".

  • @JackLuong
    @JackLuong 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    me after looksmaxxing while not socializing at all be like:

  • @PAULOSOPHICAL
    @PAULOSOPHICAL  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    While it's not impossible to be friends with attractive people (coz duh it happens lol), but it does present its own set of challenges.
    Personal insecurity’s one…

  • @arposkraft3616
    @arposkraft3616 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Nah i doubt thats my issue

  • @JohnNick1309
    @JohnNick1309 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I typically just turn all my friends gay because of how I look :/

  • @janicehill7134
    @janicehill7134 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    But I’m still a nice person and can get along with my friends well
    Fried ends

  • @hib5446
    @hib5446 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love this channel so much omg

  • @gamerdudejake3092
    @gamerdudejake3092 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    W bros. We don't give a f*ck who's the best looking. If your a homie your a homie lol.

  • @wheresthelambsauce8273
    @wheresthelambsauce8273 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I 100% agree. You should have more subscribers.

    • @PAULOSOPHICAL
      @PAULOSOPHICAL  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I just started and I’m still learning as I grow. Thanks so much for this. Means a lot! 🙏

  • @Willy_Do_It
    @Willy_Do_It 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I don't have this problem lol

    • @PAULOSOPHICAL
      @PAULOSOPHICAL  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      lol we have enough problems

  • @l6e6i6n
    @l6e6i6n 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    interesting topic and great presentation

  • @gaaragirlgo98
    @gaaragirlgo98 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    you had a point until u said women compete with other women. thats just untrue especially if they're lesbians lol
    we dont see other women as threat, in actuality (like yourself) men pit women against women CONSTANTLY. catfights are entertaining, and men think women do this all the time when moreso we dont have this issue.
    real issues with women vs women isnt competition but rather a sense of belonging. we crave our interests being seen as not weak, and we seek out groups thatll comfort that. women that compete adopt the behavior from products of men wanting women to fight eachother (social media, gossip magazines which are largely written by men, movies etc etc)

    • @PAULOSOPHICAL
      @PAULOSOPHICAL  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Assuming that men dictate women's behavior, especially in today's age, is a far-reaching assumption. It implies that women lack free will, are entirely controlled, and easily manipulated. Competition among women exists. To completely deny this and attribute it solely to men doesn't add up.
      When it comes to "entertainment," both genders may find "cattiness" engaging, but women tend to engage more. If we consider your argument, most viewers of the Kardashians would be men, which is clearly not the case.

    • @gaaragirlgo98
      @gaaragirlgo98 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@PAULOSOPHICAL its not an assumption that men dictate womens lives, but its the reality that media written by men follow a falsified narrative of what femininity and womanhood is.
      for example, the trope where male writers hyper focus on woman adjacent to their periods, or overly written breast development scenes. Women dont write stuff like this, but this oversaturation of the idea of womanhood and womans issues creates points such as your own, and i mean no disrespect just an observation.
      additionally tons of gay men (and before we enter ideas of feminine men, bears exist and love it) watch the kardashians, so again its not so simple. theres only one article that claims its women 18-24, but several others note its simply college aged students 18-24, gender nonspecific. and that too theres not the greatest credit to that point
      if we want to talk about who writes it though, which is what i meant--again its men. Ryan Seacrest and Eliot Goldberg.
      case in point
      and obviously not all women exclusively consume "womens media" thus there is no idea of women en masse being controlled or without autonomy here, but what you're describing doesnt seem to be realistic to general girls. we dont compete with one another, we actively try to remedy those things the same way men do. those that DO act as you describe, with internalized issues of femininity and assume women exist to compete for male attention like femcels and justpearlythings for example would be shunned for being assholes to other girls--not because of competition. most modern women actively revoke that idea (id even go as so far as to say traditional women do too if youve ever read manners for ladies books, so its why this is such a huge misconception on mens part)

    • @gaaragirlgo98
      @gaaragirlgo98 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@PAULOSOPHICAL woah whered my reply go?

    • @PAULOSOPHICAL
      @PAULOSOPHICAL  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@gaaragirlgo98 TH-cam has been blocking comments that are considered controversial or hateful. Personally, I'm not a fan of this approach. Healthy debates should be encouraged (like what we were having). If someone is merely being hateful, I believe it's better to leave the comment visible. If they're bold enough to post it, then let the world see it lol
      I checked if your reply was hidden somewhere. I don’t see it anywhere 🤦‍♂

    • @tcggggg
      @tcggggg 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@gaaragirlgo98women most certainly and definitely compete with each other lmao.