Terrified? WATCH THIS - What is the Source of your FEAR?
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- Terrified? WATCH THIS - What is the Source of your FEAR?
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I think this is a process for all of us. I have days where I believe it, there’s nothing wrong and sometimes I have a moment, or a day and well I can’t stop my mind from ruminating. Underneath it all I still know that I am okay. But sometimes it just takes a while to get back on track.
You can do this.
Same here 🙏🏼
If you are going to doubt anything then doubt the doubt.
Oh, I love the “doubt the doubt!!!👍👍👍❤
This is bang on! I remember hearing a story in someone’s comment about how their mother had dementia. She used to have what’s known as pudendal neuralgia, which is a very painful pelvic condition that makes it very difficult to sit. This had been going on for so long that this lady’s identity was “the lady who never sat“ Anyhow after she fell ill, apparently she started sitting again and her symptoms went away. Also, every once in a while she would sort of hesitate before she sat, but never complained of any pain. I think this just goes to show how much this has to do with our brain and our thoughts and our habits, etc. As soon as her memories were interrupted, her condition went away.
Wow wow wow - thank you for sharing this. Fascinating and just more evidence. Love it.
This is me, I had PN for 4 years. I even had 2 pelvic surgeries trying to fix it. Once I finally understood that this was TMS, and did the work I'm now about 75% better. The pain is so REAL it was very difficult for me to accept that this was not a structural nerve compression. But clearly it's not, because I am getting better. I'm even running again and going out to dinner with my friends. Thanks to Dan and a few other angels I got my life back again 😇
That's what happened to my mum. She had chronic pain for decades. Once she developed dementia the pain went way.
@@stayred77 wow thanks for sharing 💜
Hi Dan...2am here, cant sleep. Ive been doing so much better. My kids are really struggling with anxiety and OCD....and it was an extremely difficult day. Bedtime was not smooth and wound my brain up... so here i am. Awake, but knowing this is a season. Discouraged but not giving up. Hoping listening to your videos helps me fall asleep. It reminds me of my Dad reading to me when i was little...just listening to a calm confident voice❤
Yes if I can't sleep I put his video's on...he has a good voice to lissen ...
praying for your children ! they may or may not understand these videos based on their age, if possible depending on age I recommend therapy ! especially play therapy if they are young ! ❤
what i disseminate from this is whether it's based in actuality or fictive thoughts.
To be abandontment
Very powerful video....I need to hear more than once this wisdom because I tend to forget what brain I am supporting!...Gratitude for taking your precious time to help to heal us.
Awesome video Dan! After struggling with chronic discomfort for about a year now, I’ve come to accept that it’s TMS despite my symptoms being fairly unique in location. Through this journey as I’m starting to have moments where the discomfort disappears (my sensations were pretty constant), I notice I almost get anxious/sad about recovering. My conscious self obviously prefers striving to get my health back, but something subconsciously seems to feel uncomfortable with the thought of symptoms ending. I notice this most during moments when I’m discomfort free. The emotional uncomfort I experience with feeling good usually is what brings the symptoms back. It’s almost like my symptoms have dominated my identity for so long that a life without them feels unnatural. Is this a fairly normal occurrence?
Same! My subconscious mind doesn’t want me to feel better somehow. When I don’t have sensations (rarely but when I don’t think and engage 100% in something else it disappears like magic) my brain send me messages that feeling good is not ok, I have to stay in high alert because these fake sensations are much important thank my life. Haha fu*k off brain, I will teach you that staying without sensations is the goal here.
My gosh, Mikayla, a thousand times yes.
I call it “the resistance.” It’s very difficult. Just know that you are not alone.
@@CherryLane-si1yj I'm so glad I am not alone! It really is a counterintuitive feeling. I'm starting my graduate school program this week so between conquering my TMS, trying to accept that I'm allowed to feel good again, and dealing with imposter syndrome, it's just a lot to process. One day at a time :)
Wow I think you just put into words what I go through. I’ve been sick and in pain for most of my life and at age 54 it’s hard to imagine being well. My conscious mind wants that more than anything but yes it’s like deep down I fear the change. Haven’t liked change, ever. So even a good change is daunting. Thank you for pointing this out! I will be more intentional with overcoming that resistance. ❤❤❤
@@NEChristo I'm the exact same way. Since childhood, I never tolerated change well and I guess I never saw that applying to a good change until now. I'm only 22, but all of this insight has allowed me to learn so much about myself. I'm happy to have resources and others sharing their experiences with personal struggles/successes because it makes feelings that feel isolating feel much less lonely. It makes me have hope. Here's to overcoming the resistance!!
So it's the second arrow that causes the hurt.
Down with flu virus actually stayed in bed yesterday! Today I got up, washed hair,showered and dressed. Exhausted .Lasted about two hours then the crash. Anxiety spiked and the what ifs started big time. Felt outside of myself, thought I'd black out, I didn't. Finally calming myself down. Got back under the duvet, think I need sleep. 🙏
I feel u !!!! ❤
get well soon! sometimes I try to enjoy my sick days as days when my body is forcing me for much needed rest ❤
Get well soon sweet friend sending you my special healing angel 😇🧚♀️
Samee man
Definitely a mindset shift is needed. Thanks @@EarCandyAsmr
Neurosis.
Sir,
You haven’t spoken about your journey of pain. One year into the pain and then it took 12 more years. Were you only thinking about rage? Because your perceived danger/fear feels like more sense to me. The disalignment, the pain it gives is immeasurable. But, it’s mind body. I have one question I really request you to answer in any of your videos in the future. When did you realise it was perceived fear predominantly and not just rage which was just the beginning/the source in your 13 years of this experience. It isn’t imaginable. Salute to you sir.
Loved this video. You really spoke from your heart. We can all see how much you care. The strength of your message was powerful today. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much!
Thank you so much, Dan! For laying it out so plain and simple to see! You are so generous! You put so much information out there for all to see. I really appreciate you.
You are so welcome!
My angry thoughts enraged thoughts are creating my symptoms - its tightening all my muscles
How do I get rid of this rage? I don't know how to process it and let it go.
The perception of danger creates pain AND tight muscles.
th-cam.com/video/it5fnIPcpyY/w-d-xo.html
@@PainFreeYouThank you. - Teach the brain I am fine so it can turn off the pain & muscle tension. Brain I am fine these thoughts and emotions are safe. I am safe.
I loved what you said about doubt. I moved far away for the first time and was having all of these new fears and stress about relying on myself fully (caused a panic attack today). I didn’t realize it was “doubt” until you said the word. it clicked for me that I have been feeding myself a lot of negative comments. “Can I do this?” “Will I break?” “Is this too much for me..”
This is a part of my new found independence.
I need to build myself up and start to believe in myself. Encourage myself with “you got this” or “you can handle this”
You do have this and you CAN handle this. My fast start explains more of what is going on and what to do about it: DansFastStart.com
Ty Dan as always ❤❤❤
Scaring the crap out of myself. You got thatvright. You are a godsend.
I personally am more fearful of how much power the mind has. I understand we dont need to believe every thought but its really hard when your symptoms are extremely painful and debilitating (migraines). I have done the assessments and know I am dealing with mind body but I still have fear beacuse I realize I am the only person who can get this pain to stop. Any advice/encouragement for having fear knowing your own mind is producing the symptoms.
I address this very concern in this video about being scared of your brain.
th-cam.com/video/UAavsNcX024/w-d-xo.html
@@PainFreeYou thanks so much I'll watch it!
Yeah I did the assessment, and yes I have doubt, what scares me is that I keep getting new symptoms....i know I'm better than I used to be, this stuff makes so much sense... Thankyou Dan 🙏
I will work on this more....
New symptoms are just more proof of TMS / Perceived Danger causing the symptoms.
I'm getting new symptoms too!! My brain is like "old symptoms don't scare you anymore??" OK let's make new symptoms to see if that scares you. Anyway I lost my voice. It started a week-ish after I found out I have TMS/PDP. It has been the most consistent symptom I have had but every test comes back normal. The doctors keep sending me back home and saying everything is fine. Even though I can't speak at all & I have trouble swallowing.
@@imperfectly_megan It's so hard to handle sometimes, I know Dan is right, and to kick arse sometimes makes it stick, I went without pain to anxiety, now different pains, nausea even, headaches.... 😬 It's like having an alien living inside you! I want to get rid of this for good! 👽
Our brain is trying to keep us safe. It knows we are afraid of something and is unaware we are afraid of the symptoms it's producing.
Ur right on....thank you thank you....keep on with your influence
Thank you, I will
I took the test three times and got 38, 44 and 45 and yet I still feel a pudendal nerve on my right side and I say it's the cause of the pain and symptoms. What's more, when I calm down the pain stops and then I sing in the evening and the next day I wake up to fear waiting for my guest to come which is definitely pain
The fact that you can feel the pain in the nerve is not proof it's a physical problem. Your symptoms behave like TMS/PDP. Why would a nerve pain stop when you calm down if it wasn't the brains perception of danger. DansFastStart.com - is the roadmap.
❤@@PainFreeYou
Wow, youre Godsend, thankyou sir for you service to himanity
Wow, thank you
My grandmother had back pain for decades. Was even morphine addicted for a time. She went into Asst Livivg then Skilled Nursing. When I spoke to Chief Admin about this she said nobody complains of back pain. Grandma said her back was fine. Only took a baby aspirin for preventative measures. She lived to be 104 TOTALLY pain free for twenty or 30 years. Think I’ll stick around Dan as I don’t want to wait til I’m 104. And, yes she did have dementia. So when all else fails……just kidding folks.
Haha - thanks for sharing your experience.
that it will always be like this just to tell the truth
Decide that it IS temporary. DansFastStart.com is the roadmap.
Thanks! Makes total sense! You are AWESOME!
I keep anticipating pain from sports, before, during and after…..as if I am actually waiting for it to happen….. I can’t control it…: what can I do???
Change your expectation. Learn the real cause of pain. Perceived danger, not athletic movement. DansFastStart.com - watch, take notes, implement, repeat.
Dear Dan its...i just dont
understand how the brain creates pppd symptoms just because i feel anxiety because of it. Its so difficult to understand why i feel dizzy/ unbalance, why the brain is misinterpreting all information thats coming in, only because of stress/ fear thoughts...i dont understand the "technical" / fysical result after scared thinking...that makes it so hard to believe it is just because of wrong/ scared brain that thinks scared...could you help me understand what/ why/ how the brain does that?❤
The brains primary job is safety and survival. If it perceives danger, it can turn on a symptom to warn us of that danger. With fear and attention, the brain learns to keep the symptom going. This isn't just conscious thinking that causes this. The subconscious is running the show. This video explains: th-cam.com/video/oMOh_IewXUw/w-d-xo.html
And my fast start playlist is a great place to begin understanding what is going on and what to do about it. DansFastStart.com
And if you would like to see if this concept applies to you and your dizziness, take the assessments: IsThisPDP.com
Lastly, if you search my channel for dizziness, you will find a number of videos and successes. www.youtube.com/@PainFreeYou/search?query=dizziness
With these resources, hopefully you will get some answers and make a decision to proceed with this approach.
The symptoms are not the source of my fear, at all. The fear is caused by the position my daughter is in, and I am her carer. It’s an upsetting situation. I’m fine when she’s fine. I’m also trying to do an awful lot for my elderly uncle who has no children. It’s hard! DAN, the fear doesn’t have to always come from fear of the symptoms - that’s not the whole picture.
Ok, very very true. But why does the stress of caring for your daughter and uncle need to make you have symptoms? It doesn't. This video explains: th-cam.com/video/UtKtic-3_cM/w-d-xo.html
Oh wow went right now and did the tests! Hahaha oh yea right on and I had no problem accepting it. Cos I figured it after the first video I watched..
You got this!
In my opinion this is your best video. This is spot on. I was in your group coaching a few years ago but wasn't fully convinced yet that this was TMS. The quicker you decide to commit fully to this being TMS, the quicker you will get better. I have pudendal neuralgia and I was once fully convinced it was structural nerve compression the pain was so severe. I work in the medical field so I think it was extra difficult for me to accept, because we are trained to look for a physical cause. I am now about 75% better and living my life fully again. This experience has changed my entire outlook and how I relate to the patients. I try and talk to them when I see that this could apply to them as well. I word it very carefully because I do know that not everything is always TMS. But I ask them about their lives and the stress in it. And I tell them to rule out the physical, but to also be open to the possibility of mind body because there is a very direct connection.
That is wonderful. I'm thrilled you are starting to introduce people to these ideas. You are doing a wonderful service for your patients. DansFastStart.com is a great introduction set of videos to explain what is going on and what to do.
Need tremendous effort to overcome the fear. Especially with symptoms are colourful 😅😅
Clarity certainly helps.
I’m learning that there is definitely effort involved but the word effort is stress inducing to a lot of us so think of …. Intention. Intentionally reminding yourself that this is TMS, this is temporary… I understand colorful. Very colorful but the more I focus on the truth that I am not going to be like this forever and I KNOW what is causing it (even if I’m still struggling at times with doubt) the more progress I make. For me it’s been 1 step forward and 2 steps back but I’m happy to be making those steps forward at all. God bless you we can do this. ❤
You said bless me weal bless you 😊
Thank you Dan I don't doubt anymore I know for a fact this is TMS I also suffer with insomnia so I'm up all through the night and i feel Sensations and it can be a vicious cycle between not sleeping and feeling Sensations and I do get nightmares a few times a week I pray and listen to a meditation to try to calm myself down I know this is temporary and I am hopeful one day I will get better
I have insomnia too. It's so hard when you don't get a break from your brain 😢
@@joannerowell4410I'm sorry. Thats why I have to meditate and do some breathing work to calm my mind and relax the body signals of safety for me
Dan has a couple of really helpful videos on sleep - just do a search "Pain Free You - sleep"
Sir,
You haven’t spoken about your journey of pain. One year into the pain and then it took 12 more years. Were you only thinking about rage? Because your perceived danger/fear feels like more sense to me. The disalignment, the pain it gives is immeasurable. But, it’s mind body. I have one question I really request you to answer in any of your videos in the future. When did you realise it was perceived fear predominantly and not just rage which was just the beginning/the source in your 13 years of this experience. It isn’t imaginable. Salute to you sir.
Once you make the derisionthat your safe, I’m okay, how long does it take?
If i am unsafe , trauma inside my body shut down , my Family take me away ! How to heal
What is TMS?
A cause of pain and symptoms. Fully described in the first video here: DansFastStart.com
1130 I get it but how about intrusive thoughts. I can’t control those. I try to have positivity thoughts but idk what else to try 😂
You don't have to control the intrusive thoughts. But you also don't have to BELIEVE them.
th-cam.com/video/A6Z6KO7b0lE/w-d-xo.html
Hi Dan, Thank you for another great video. Sadly, I can't find the video you were referring to about speaking and breathing slower. Is there a way to link it at all??!
Here you go. Think and talk slower: th-cam.com/video/W7G2hUNYzYw/w-d-xo.html
Doubt is my no 1 issue. I can get confident but its fleeting. Symptoms override it. My numb feet are now leg & feet burning. I did get worse in deep therapy. CPTSD he said with confidence , ive been the Dr & Neurologist route too
So, if the brain wasn't in charge, how come therapy for CPTSD made things worse? That's classic TMS / Perceived Danger in action.
I think the main source for many has to do with the "what if" this is something else or what if this is cancer etc.
I think that's their main fear..but if we got more educated on cancer instead of googling every symtom that says cancer people would stop fearing so much. What are your thought on this? Steve ozanich also said cancer has alot to do with mind body.
cancer is no different from any other "disease", it is probably the most prevalent which is why it was chosen by modern medicine to bring in the most money! ooooh controversial I know. The main thing that kills us is fear and they certainly have created a lot of fear around cancer
Yep - and what if is doubt. Clarity is job #1. Acceptance is job #2. Safety is job #3.
Awesome video dan 🙏🦄🙌 im moving from just fear to fear + fustration 😂 i genuinely do believe i 100% have tms but know some of the stories, predictions and fear fustration loops are keeping it going, although have improved ALOT 👍 a reallly interest thing i heard once was someone asked the question "how would you feel about the symptoms if you knew that next week/next month they would be gone. Thats it."-so interesting because i feel like no matter how colourful they got, if i KNEW in a certain amount of days or weeks they wud be gone, the present experience would be sooo much easier to handle. Like the fustration and everything would completely go down to like 5% 😅 i feel like that highlights for me alot of the fear and fustration is about how to navigate day to day stuff, feel reliable, trust that i could work more, like negative future predictions. I find it really hard to feel reliable and commit to more stuff as its so up and down.i guess that means i need to work on trust and belief that that ill be through this soon and im on track . Really trying to work on self kindness and trust that im doing this recovery stuff "well enough " 🦄
Good talk. I needed it. Thanks. Glad to be back listening daily.
right yeah if i comfort myself but believe i'm in danger that is not not not gonna work the system will not calm down love mikayla
So you’re saying if you’re working in the kitchen and cut your finger half off you wouldn’t feel any pain until or unless you looked at it and were consciously aware of it? Idk about that Dan.. 🤔 maybe?
What I am saying is that sometimes there is an injury that until conscious awareness occurs, the brain does not create the pain. There are stories of people in the ocean, they feel a bump. When they see the blood they realize they were bitten by a shark. The pain begins then.
All pain comes from the brain.
My fear is losing my mind 🧠 because of what someone said to me and I have been having that in my thoughts 💭 and it’s really making me fear anytime .. My thoughts 💭 are scaring me
remember you are not your thoughts. just let them pass ❤
Michael - having TMS does not mean you are losing your mind. Your brain is doing it's job. Have you watched my fast start playlist? DansFastStart.com
I'm curious what someone said to you if you are willing to share that.
I have raging angry thoughts about people I don't even know - talking heads on social media political commentaries - wealthy fuck faces who tell other people how to live think believe. I can't stand these people
Fears of the pain. I know how much its going to hurt so I avoid standing for a period of time along with sitting too. Nothing to do with thinking, is it something else, I know it's tms.
It does make sense, Dan! I've had a setback and your reassuring words today have calmed me. I've done the assessment and I know that this is PDP. I just have to get my brain on the same page.
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Sir,
You haven’t spoken about your journey of pain. One year into the pain and then it took 12 more years. Were you only thinking about rage? Because your perceived danger/fear feels like more sense to me. The disalignment, the pain it gives is immeasurable. But, it’s mind body. I have one question I really request you to answer in any of your videos in the future. When did you realise it was perceived fear predominantly and not just rage which was just the beginning/the source in your 13 years of this experience. It isn’t imaginable. Salute to you sir.
My story is less important than what I have learned since I got better. Perceived danger and how I currently teach it has only come together in my mind in the past few years. I made every mistake possible during MY experience with pain. I'll try to do an updated video with my story in it soon.
Dan! In my mind, we're friends so I know we are on a first name basis! Lol
Do you have any thoughts on EFT Tapping to help w anxiety and symptoms? I have successfully eliminated 99% of my 15 years pain within 1 month by listening to your videos, now my anxiety is a lot "louder" 😂
I'm new to tapping but it seems to help. Thank you for posting these daily videos because they are a lifeline for me and many others I'm sure. Thanks so much!
Heather - from south Florida
I'm all for things that help your anxiety. I don't see a lot of people using EFT to help with their pain or symptoms. But I guess if it helps you feel safer, go for it.
Ty Dan!
Another wonderful reminder Dan thank you. I would like to share this piece written by.Katrjn van Oudheusen in the hope it might help someone...Thought is powerless…
"The mind (brain?) translates energetic vibration into thought...something like that! We don’t really know how it works. But it’s clear hat a thought is never what it refers to.
The thought of a tree is not the tree
The thought of kindness is not kindness.
A thought of the future is not the future
The thought of me is not the self.
A thought has no power on its own. It cant DO anything.
What gives a thought power is attention to it & belief in it.
And what ultimately gives importance & power to thinking is belief in the I-thought: There’s a someone/person here doing the thinking.
Thoughts seem serious & vital because they pertain to “me”
Ignore them (they say) & risk your self!
When it’s clear that this “self” is just another thought, we do risk the self - we risk realising it’s illusory!!
Then thoughts have NO power."
Love this. I may share this with my community. Thank you.
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This got very repetitive but point taken. Note: that was the most country western sneeze ive heard in awhile.
Haha - thank you.
Excellent video! Thanks Dan!
My pleasure!
so true
I love your videos, you are truly such a blessing to people going through this whole fear cycle. So thankful for you and all the others who take the time to help change peoples lives. ❤❤
One of your Best teaching videos thank you 🙏
Thanks Diane. Hope you are well.
Yes 👏 x
This one!! 🔥
Thanks so much Dan, your videos literally are changing my life! Quick question… if we are progressing well and we had a good day, does rewarding our brain help it to keep motivated to keep improving? Like “ Great job today brain.. today we had a stressful day but you didn’t turn on one symptom! I’m so proud of you!” Is that silly or can that help as well? Thanks again!
I wouldn't remind the brain of not showing symptoms it'll trigger a " he/she fearful"
I do that all the time! You’re doing great brain! I do it with a positive mindset, and I’m making great progress.
I believe so but also letting your brain and body know it’s ok if you do end up having symptoms and your brain won’t be “in trouble” “ thank you for trying to keep me safe .. see we are ok ? ❤️❤️ this is safe “ or if pain returns digging deeper and being compassionate instead of getting frustrated
I don’t have doubts about the cause of symptoms. I’ve seen this in action by pushing thru the symptoms and eventually they cool off. However, implementing the process can be highly difficult due to symptom severity. My GAD doesn’t help since I can quickly go into a panic attack when symptoms get wild. I try different distractions like placing my face in cold water. I hit a punching bag with a baseball ball bat. I lift weights and use a slam ball. Physical exertion seems to help with symptoms.
Distractions may help in the moment. But a focus on teaching yourself and your over-protective brain that you are SAFE is the key to long term success. DansFastStart.com
@@PainFreeYou thanks Dan. In a few words teach myself, how? I keep saying to myself over and over, I am safe, my brain is safe. I’m teaching my brain that all light is safe. Etc. Etc.
@@mark5368 It can't be taught in a few words. Spend the time and watch the videos in the fast start playlist. DansFastStart.com - it's all laid out in there. Saying "i'm safe is not the cure. Creating credible evidence of safety is not uttering a few words over and over. If I had to sum it up, it's in this one brand new video. th-cam.com/video/OtXfBAygbgo/w-d-xo.html
@@PainFreeYou thanks Dan. This says it all. A difficult challenge yes, but simpler to navigate. From the beginning I subscribed, 100%, to the TMS idea, plus I’ve experienced too many examples that confirmed this. Thank you