How to STOP Fear?
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- How to STOP Fear?
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For me, everything comes back to Christ. 2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind.” His Spirit lives in me. So if I am in fear it is either the enemy or self trying to control. Daily surrender, gratitude, practicing awareness of God in everything.
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So beautiful and true! Peace of God be with you all! 🙏
1 thing that has helped me is one of my doctors said distract yourself from your pain by doing an enjoyable activity or even keeping your busy so you don’t have the time to dwell on the pain so you don’t unconsciously magnify the pain. I learned from the curable app that if you focus to much on something the brain creates more of it since it thinks you are focusing on it because you want more of the pain even though that is the last thing you want.
Don’t let your mind hurt you mentally, you deserve peace
I’m getting better and better because of the videos Dan creates. I know for 100% sure that what I have is TMS. But where I get stuck is the secondary fear that he talks about. My heartbeat suddenly goes irregular out of nowhere and my automatic fear shows up. My thoughts are like “people can die from this if they have clots in their blood even if this is a mind body problem.” “If I can’t calm down, it could kill me.” And as Dan says this is when I need to be brave and say to myself “OK, I’m totally scared, but I’m telling stories to myself that is very scary to my brain! I probably won’t die from this because I survived this hundreds of times. This is caused by my brain, and I know this will pass soon or later if I calm down.” And I need to do this every single time it happens.
But....fear isn't always about being broken. Sometimes it's about being unable to get out of the house, or across the road. Knowing the facts doesn't allow you to get out of the door. I sometimes watch a lovely horse trainer (I'm in the UK) online working with troubled horses. There's not a lot of difference between a frightened horse feeling vulnerable and a frightened person feeling vulnerable. One was a horse that had an accident in the field, and as a result lost an eye. This was traumatic enough, but she bore with it bravely. But then, because of her changed ability to perceive distance and depth, she kept hitting herself entering her stall. Eventually she couldn't cope with that, and refused to leave it, because she was safe there. A familiar enough scenario for a lot of people. The trainer worked with her patiently and firmly, until she was able to get just one hoof across the line between stable and yard. When she finally got outside, her poor legs were trembling with terror. But in the end she was running joyfully in the field again. Sometimes it isn't knowledge that does it. Sometimes you have to start with one hoof! xx
Yes, great example. And yes, in this video I spoke about taking brave action in order to move forward. That's the part you are talking about.
@@PainFreeYou I think there must be so many who can identify with this little horse. She had no concept of anything or what the future might hold, only the terror of crossing the line from safety. She didn't know she was being brave, she didn't know she would get her world back. No amount of reassurance could comfort her. I've read all the books and heard all the podcasts and seen all the testimonials. But in the end, nothing touched my heart and broke it open like the sight of that poor creature on her shaking legs stepping into the sunlight.
Yep sometimes we think "better the devil we know"
@@1STBUCKLEY What I learned from watching the little mare and her patient trainer is that thinking is the least of it. Thinking is what got us trapped in the stable for eight months, metaphorically speaking. Putting one hoof over the line is what will get us outside into the sunlight. It took her a long time before she could get both front feet over the line, and she reversed back into the safety of her stable a lot. But eventually she managed it. Healing a frightened spirit isn't as easy as the books and podcasts make it appear. But if we can make one step, that's a start. And if it's one step each day for a month, that's good. It's a beginning. x
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Please never stop doing these videos! 🙏
When I am in fear, I talk to it with compassion. I take action and do what I am afraid of. 💕Thanks Dan, have a fun Sunday. 🥰
For me fear is more unconscious, I often wake up fearful and anxious without having any fearful thoughts. Makes it hard to stop if you don't have anything to grasp. I try to accept it, get into my body and move on with my day but it takes a lot of energy. Bravery is key!
You stop fear by facing it and walking through it.
There is an epidemic of fear in the world presently. Fear creates enormous amounts of stress, anxiety and depression which in turn fuels ill health, chronic pain and dis ease. We are all in a process of overcoming fear and suffering not overcoming chronic pain. The pain is calling us to overcome our fears. That's the way I understand this challenge. I hope we all heal from the fear and the healing of the pain will follow. Thanks Dan❤🙏
Unfortunly untill there Is a Ego, the feeling i am this body that can die and It will One day, then fear Will be there. Only people Who reach the experience " i am eternal", are free from fear.
”If we wait for the fear to go before we can be brave, it doesn’t happen.”
This has been the key understanding on my recovery path. Thanks again for the great video, Dan.
Yeah true. For me it was the understanding: change your life, change your symptoms! if you wait for your symptoms to disappear and then change your life, you gonna wait forever. Change your life = symptoms gonna change/disappear!
@@jakutz exactly!! I’m curious, what changes did it take in your life and circumstances?
That’s so true, another one for me is when a thought comes to do something, it could be as simple as tidy your room I get up and do as much as possible even if I don’t complete it , the fact I’m not believing I can’t
Before Dan I mostly wouldn’t bother, he’s just changed my thinking a lot and other things have slotted into place ❤
@@claresmith9261 so resonating! Thanks for sharing. I feel that as soon as I learned I’m not actually sick, life started to give me little things to do, getting greater in scope as I’ve become more capable. Sometimes it’s a thought, like yours, sometimes it’s a suggestion from someone or something else. But without this ”support” I could have never dared to come back to life as quickly!
@@mirelgoi7855 Absolutely delighted for you and agree totally 👍🏻 this morning I thought I’ll clean all the inside of my windows but of course ego kicks in “why bother , you’re not able to at your age etc but I got up started and to my surprise did them all
Even if I got half done or none it’s still okay as I believe I’m whole exactly as I am
Keep going as you’re doing amazing ❤️
Bravery eliminates fear as light eliminates darkness ☀️
Bravery overcomes fear, doesn't eliminate it
This is the one that's gonna get me bk to Free of pain life. YES
Needed to hear this today. Beautiful morning here in London ☀️.
Rough night, little sleep. Was actually thinking at 3am I am stuck in fear.
Pushed myself out my bed and drove to church (between masses cos it's quieter)& just sat, listening to the choir practice. Very peaceful. Then drove to the new river, walked and then sat. In way home I stopped at train station & sat on the platform (have a real fear of travel, agoraphobia ,but am desperate to get back out and about). Partner arrived back after he'd been out and about in London, I so miss the little mooches around London town on a Sunday morning. Another little drive n stopped to listen. Am proud & grateful I was able move forward.
Thanks for the video reminder, re fear.
Amazing to read about your Day and what you’re working with my friend. Sometimes i forgot I am not alone :)
So pleased you are addressing this Dan. Fear is the psychological reaction that appears in the body. I am learning to accept the fear as resistance to it keeps it stuck....in accepting it teaches my brain it's not real. It's a very "challenging|" teacher!! I truly wish love & courage to all those who are also understanding their fear.❤
Hi Josie, yes embracing (accepting) everything even fear helps us become more peaceful inside. Then we can relax and enjoy our lives more.
Sending love ❤️ and hugs 🫂.
@@SusieV59 ...But challenging for sure!! Sending you love.💝
Very challenging and sparkling ❤❤❤
I always say to myself now: okay the symptoms are crazy but I don’t let THEM drive ME crazy..😄
Hope you had a great evening out Dan!
Especially for people working in these challenging mindbody - experiences, it’s very necessary to have lots of relaxing moments yourself to keep your system going😜!
Have a fearless Sunday Dan and friends ❤
Hi Inge hope you are ok.. sending lots of summer love and healing ❤️🩹 ❤ I find the sun and brighter days help us feel better. 💐 I am sure you have lovely flowers 🌺 🌸💐 in your garden. Wishing you a relaxing peaceful day.
@@LilyOscar333 hi Lily!! So nice to read you again! Yes ,finally the weather gets better … so hoping for the pains too😜the garden is so beautiful.. hope you are ok, and enjoying a peaceful Sunday 🥰☀️🙋♀️❤️
Hi Inge, I hope you are having a peaceful day. Sending love ❤️ and hugs 🫂 your way.
@@SusieV59 thanks dear Susie! Very peaceful here.. sending you a lovely hug 🤗 back!🌺🌸🌼
@@Inge508 I am feeling good thanks 🙏 I get the odd flare mostly when anxious 😬 You will heal too.. and ensure you do what’s best for you, you know best how to heal. ❤️🌺 and you will 🙏
Dan, thank you for all your work for FREE! I LOVE the reminder about not being difficult to visualize or think good thoughts because we OFTEN, or at least I do, visualize the worst. Blessings to you.
THE BIBLE CALLS THAT FAITH..INSPITE OF WHAT YOU FEEL OR SEE…ACT ON WHAT YOU ARE BELIEVING
I like perceived danger response better because every time I say perceived and pain together it sounds like I’m just imagining pain and it’s not really there. Perceived danger is really the situation causing the pain.
What's been working for me lately when symptoms are high is asking for more. I'm guessing it sends some sort of signal to my brain that I'm not afraid and can handle whatever it wants to give me. Kind of like how you were talking about bravery. Standing up and saying, is that all you got brain? Let's go. Give me more. And just like that, the fear diffuses and the symptoms quiet down. Definitely have to keep practicing moment to moment but am hopeful one day soon this brave response to any symptom will be my default!
Jesus, really? 😮
I don't think I'd dare try that!
Works for me too, instantly. Used in brain retraining program too.
Same, it's part of what they teach in the DARE program to run towards and ask for more, I tried it the other day when the anxiety was insanely high and to my surprise it actually went away lol it was the anxiety got scared of me lol.
Need to make notes on this one, Dan. Especially good for me. I'm doing things based on an old program with what is my ancient default expectation. It's become so automatic, such a learned response, it feels normal and I don't know how to not see that expected future. So this is good awareness and I'm so grateful to spot this. Daily practice. This is my own brain, the patterns are not permanent, things are pliable, malleable.
Yeah this was especially resonating. *Listened twice & I’m going again
It's eerie how well this cross applies to symptoms of ptsd, not just pain symptoms.
We also need to be mindful of "Actions" we may do that stoke the fear. Realised I must've took my temperature over six times and checked my tonsils to see if they're still inflamed (recovered from ear infection but it's still not feeling right(PDP). I must remember all I'm doing is feeding the "fear".
Love all your work. I 100% support your message to the people of the world who are suffering from any dis ease.
It’s so true about the bravery of facing and overcoming fear, and implementation of what you’re telling us - it’s what has taken me to my recovery♥️
Keep up the good work and looking forward to your book... thanks for all your positive advice....
Phil”s success story is great ‘nn
I agree, the best ever. Happy Sunday
It's when new symptoms crop up that scares me and then I worry more. One thing goes away and a new one starts
Hi Dan really trying to heal my brain . From symptoms for five years suffering . Trying to talk to my brain . In th uk 🇬🇧 wish I could hv yr coaching but yr in USA so il listen hear thank u i
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Thank you so much for this. The fear is so big. Especially in the morning when the pain feels so real. The forever loop. I really miss morning so much. I’ve taken the test and it seems like my journey has so much to do with TMS but I am questioning it a little bit because some of the pain started after an adjustment from a DO who thought they could fix me but just made things worse with chronic sit bone/hamstring/perineum nerve issues. Everyday now. On top of what I had…. Really grateful for your videos. It really helps even when I’m still try to figure all this out
Years ago every time I had a treatment from my Do I was worse off. So we both agreed to stop. Have not had Chiro or DO for years.
Nothing to figure out. Remember that.
When you look at the experience under the umbrella of perceived danger, it makes more sense. Perhaps the adjustment did hurt. But the story since then has been that he damaged you. Remember, the body heals. Any injury - if there was any - has already healed. The perception of danger, misinformation and fear is what is keeping the symptoms going. The test is your proof that your pain is behaving like it's perceived danger pain and not some structural injury that hasn't healed.
@@PainFreeYouthanks Dan. Really ready to move forward from all this. It’s been a nightmare.
Matt. 17: 20-21 "Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” it starts with a little and grows....
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Dan you are still the man! Folks Dan is all you will ever need to get back to living. Listen to every word and as many times a day as you need to. Thank you Dan for sticking with helping people and never giving up.
Thank you Ryan.
Not saying it's the best, but I'm literally doing pushups and just letting go on things that made me angry.... remembering whatever anger I feel I repressed and finally letting go....lol cussing out people under my breath as I'm working out, and forgiving them while doing crunches and sit ups and stretches....it works for me at tge moment
you recovered beautifully when Finn put you off your stride
My Man, you provide awesome advice & reassurance helping plenty out there.
*You’re kind of like a more practical , ‘everyday’ E. Tolle. (keep it up bro)
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You are fantastic Dan. Very supportive.
Wow Dan, this is a very signficant revelation, that the repressed emotions, which must be hurtful emotions drive the fear cycle in your brain and this is what results in symptoms. I have tried to work out for a long time how or why Dr Sarno would say repressed emotions bring on symptoms, why would the brain want you to have symptoms. I used to think that maybe its because the brain thinks physical symptoms are easier to cope with compared to repressed emotions, especially because these past emotions cannot be resolved. What you just said connects the dots and makes perfect sense. Thank you, you are amazing.
You are so calming and relaxing to me! Thank you so much for this video-perfecting timing for me. I have felt so wired and like I can’t get past the thoughts that I “should be” doing this or that or that I won’t recover. Because I can’t do things. Yesterday I had a wonderful day relaxing with some friends and I actually felt calm in spite of all of the symptoms. I’m reflecting on that this morning-for the first time in years I felt some peace and calm. It was amazing and I’m trying to hold on to that mindset.
This is the first of your videos that popped up for me. How to stop fear and I saw your cat in the thumbnail, both made me want to watch. I am so glad I did ❤
Oh my word, I SO appreciate your thoughts on how we combat fear. Made bullet point notes, plan to review, ponder and ACTION! HUGE thanks
You are so welcome.
Thanks so much for your videos. I’ve been chronically ill for many years and TMS is what I have 100%
What chronic conditions did you have? And how did you resolve them exactly?❤️
Thank You for your video. In my case, faith can be helpful. God bless You.
Hi boy fear is a big one for me ! Finn is beautiful,my son had a beautiful cat named Finn . Thank you Dan
What if I am still doubting the information? I know I have a lot of fear but I cannot defeat it. I have 50/50 belief that the problem is either physical or due to TMS and that’s causing a lot of fear for body movements, etc., because i am always thinking: “what if?”
🙏🏽 thank you 🙏🏽
I try to imagine 'fear' if it was sat in front of me (in my mind's eye)... Whatever representation wants to come forward is fine.. Though I do try to visualise it as a blob of wobbly colour - a bit like a Jelly Baby sweet.. After all who is afraid to sit and look at a Jelly Baby !
Then I just talk to it - whatever comes into my mind.. No judgement and no censoring... Often times a particular person / incident / situation or memory does come up within my mind at the same time, so I try to stay neutral (- not always easy) and just ask questions or say whatever I'm driven to say ...
After a short while I feel a shift within that is like diffusing whatever I was feeling fearful about - which I guess is my brain calming down...
I personally find when I don't run from my fear emotions but try to do this sequence it helps me rationalise / understand what's been driving my fear emotion in the first place.. Not always - but sometimes..... ❤
Absolute Gold!!
Wonderful Dan!
Experiencing alcohol abuse and drug abuse + manipulation abuse from my family really changed me and made me fearful in a way. i lie to myself and hide behind sticking to my goal which is finishing uni and getting a job then move out to somewhere better but deep down I know they are my parents and they will always be part of me and my wounds that cannot be healed. Im good at masking it though and smiling to people so that’s good i guess but i become so closed off and feeling shameful for things that weren’t in my control to handle and became too stressed to even go out be social or even being seen by other people
What an excellent video. Havent come across such a great video which explains so simply and clearly why we fell into this trap, why are we failing to recover and what has to be done to get out of it amd live a normal life.
Thankyou
Thanks Dan. Hope you had a wonderful evening 🎶
So much Useful Information in one video, Have to watch it several times to let it sink in. Thank You, Dan. 🙏
My conscious mind is generally brave but my subconscious is very fearful but you've made me realise that it also gets mixed up with excitement and reacts the same as if I was in fear. If I'm living with fear I get a migraine, if I'm very excited about something I get a migraine - so many trips to the theatre/exciting days out had to be cancelled - even when my son went to college and I was so excited for him not fearful or worried as it was perceived by my family - thank you, I've had a eureka moment and I have something tangible to work on here!
what a wonderful video. thank you dan. this was all so confusing to me. i will listen to this over and over.
I've always as a Christian sad l dont have fear. This vid made me know l do. I dread occasions. See myself struggling with a crutch. Even my church that l love. I see myself sitting in agony while other people sing & dance. I think lve been in pain 24 years what makes u think it can stop now? So l will see myself dancing, running even sitting without agony. I see myself WHOLE
I like the cat in the back, offering support ;)
Finn! He's a good roommate.
Recently I saw the post that was telling that saying to our brain that we are safe is not enough because our nervous system doesn’t speak a cognitive language so it can’t actually understand the words that we are saying and the key to shifting what is happening internally is learning how to work with the nervous system which is what regulation nervous system is all about. Because when we regulate we are communicating safety to our nervous system in a way that it actually understands. We are showing and not telling ourselves that here and now is safe. And that there are various examples of regulation as yoga, humming, swaying, walking meditations ecc.
What do you think about it Dan?
You said in one of the video that nervous system regulation techniques that are now so famous are not so helpful and that we need to teach our brain to feel safety, but don’t we teach our brain safety through nervous system regulation? It can’t fixed itself by just repeating over and over again that we are safe, we have to take some actions to actually prove that it really is.
I will appreciate your answer I am a bit confused about it.
TY 🙏
Great question. I don't know myself but I heard that deep breathing from the diaphragm can signal this to the brain.
Watching again bc brain vs me...zero trust in each other. It laughs at me when I talk nice to it. Doesn't believe a word. How do I know? Bc it hasn't stopped symptoms yet...hoping 1 day the perception chills bc its been a roller coaster. Sure wish I knew what it is so fearful over so i could help correct the inaccuracies in perception . And mostly at night..so weird lol..Thx Dan🎉
Thank you Dan
Something you said resonated within me.
Choose not to believe my own fear stories in my mind.
Look / research facts on the situations .
Thank you 🙏🏻
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Inge just shows how many people out there need healing.. ❤
@@LilyOscar333yes unfortunately..
Why do I wake up in the middle of the night from pain? I’m not thinking consciously while I’m sleeping. The pain is there before I have a conscious thought, it is what is waking me up.
Every Flippin night on and on..have no idea what it wants anymore
Good video, thanks.
The trigger to my bladder pain is emptying it. I'm not avoiding it - that would be impossible - so it's not a question of overcoming avoidance. However, I realise that, when the pain's bad, I do have a subconscious fear of emptying my bladder but it's not within my control to alter that. I don't know how to control my subconscious.
I've had several months of it being really good and during that time I wasn't even thinking about it except sometimes to feel very grateful. But in the past few weeks the pain's returned and I have no idea why. Now it's been like that for quite a while, HOW is my subconscious not going to be fearful? 😢
Finn is cute 😊🐈⬛❤
You look great with eyeglasses
I have fear of being made redundant and my arthritic knees have been soooo painful over the past few weeks. 😢
Hi Dan-- i find that when i have fear thoughts(i'll never get better, etc.), i'll sometimes have an emotional release(a good cry), then i feel a bit better and find myself having more positive thoughts about healing. What are your thoughts about that?
Could you explain how to deal with phobias, please.
Ok my fears & launch triggers: doubt = fear, adverse child trauma, then 2021 afib 2 ablations ER trips ct scans trips to Austin etc etc. then covid (the match) aug 2023 wife open heart valve replacement, father died Dec & i got way worse after bieng so close. Back to brain talk! Its that symptoms override logic
Are derealisation or depersonalisation feelings the same as TMS? Do these videos still apply? Do symptoms go when you stop fearing it?
They are symptoms of anxiety, and yes will go when you stop fearing them.
@@joannerowell4410 thank you so much 🙏
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Does it work if you still have some doubts?
Is it normal for the symptoms to take time to disappear after you stopped fearing the symptoms? Does it happen overnight or does it take time because even though I stopped fearing the symptoms I still experience them. It’s only when I distract myself do they reduce
Mind and body will heal itself like a broken leg.when our leg is broken, do we go itno our mind how to heal it?.its our inbuilt healing system heals it... we r in fight and flight mode,more we worry about our symtomps, more our mind perceive danger and more symtomps...so its a cycle we create by us...if we stop worry and dont engage with negative thoughts and just let the symtomps be there..body will start healing and will come back to balance..just dont worry about it .dont analyse your symtomps...and just know that we are design to come back to balance. Get out of the way of your body...and your body will do the rest..
It can be so hard to stop fear when you know people have pain and they let it go and then end up having a horrible infection doctors can't find and then they die. Sorry.. a little downer, but it's real. I have horrible pain in teeth, jaw and ears. Nothing is found, but so worried it is something bigger they can't find.
I used to have a panic disorder and with it came super tight jaw muscles. This in turn caused all sorts of other problems. Worry might just be the root of your pain. But whatever the cause, I wish you so much relaxation and joy!
Hey dan can weight loss be TMS I'm losing weight stomach issues etc
Stress can suppress digestion which can affect the stomach. So, yes.
Yeah. I broke my ankle. After i got out of cast and got muscle back i was still fearful that if i walked to fast or hard i would break it again 😂
What if the fear is based on past experiences? Is like your brain telling you, chances are this or worse will happen statistically based on your past record 😞
Why is it that you like the FIT more than the pain test?
What about anxiety?
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How does this speak to post exertional malaise in ME?
Why do we do this to ourselves
who's feeling scared right now?
Meee 🙋♂️
Me
@@carimerlina5730 sorry to hear this Cari....sending best wishes
The symptoms that seem to be confirned by MRI created the fear..
Bulge got bigger, etc, etc.losing disc height.
Symptoms increased after the MRI.
The herniation is on the left side says the MRI.
So now , i feel the pain there.
How can that be not structural? Says my brain.
So need to focus on not thinking about the MRI.
Getting MRI was biggest mistake...
Afraid of a fast resting heart rate 🥹.. super thankful for your videos 🙏🏻♥️