I literally cry while watching this video. Nobody blame anybody on this situation, it just happened. Everyone around was being supportive. It’s ok that Sutan’s crying and being grumpy, she is not being called a bad kid. It’s ok that Moe is having a hard time dressing up Sutan, she is not being called a bad mom. It’s ok to wake up the dad and help. It’s ok to let grandparents see the not so perfect situation. Sutan is going to grow into an adult that will allow her own emotions without guilt. Everything in this video is so precious. For me in the end when I see Sutan didn’t wear the kimono, I literally burst into tears. Even that is ok, the event is important but what is more important is Sutan’s feeling. Thank you Moe for sharing your life with us. The demonstration of patience, love and compassion is priceless.
2 year olds always pick the worst day to assert their independence as a person. 🤣 Everyone did a great job of trying to convince Sutan, it's a tough stage.
Yeah they dont know how to deal with stress and so seeing their parents stressed freaks them out and in turn makes the parents more stressed from the tantrum which makes everything worse its a vicious cycle but yeah you gotta try to think of children as not mindless blank puppets but little new people who are basically alien to everything and then add on being tired and the stress and the oversimulation of family members anyone would react like that tbh. I mean just think of wedding days this is the biggest event suchans had to deal with and she has very little concept or understanding of it all because of her age its natural shed try to control what she could about the whole thing to make herself feel less stressed and more tethered and safe in the situation and that was her own body she was asserting dominance over since she coulsnt do so over the situation shes obviously been well raised and given choices and hd them respected in regards to her body clothing hair etc so shes saying no to what she can and wanting to feel confortable in what she knows because everything else she doesnt. And while logically i can understand that in that situation i wouldnt have handled that nearly half as well as moe etc did i genuinely wouldve snapped and lost my cool and not respected her choice or gotten consent i wouldve being raised in a wedtern more traditonal aka opposite of gentle parenting absolutely would hve threatened to take away snacks toys not been affection or nice and ignored her feelings and made her wear and do what i wanted and then if she did probably give her cake or something only afterward and treated her like a person then but by then that broken trust and fear/anger reaction wouldve already badly affected the relationshio and the child themselves all for what a silly outfit for a day she wont even remember that she also has 2 others to come not to mention birthdays etc i mean its silly but like most people were parented and then taught or not taught thats how wwe should handle things and behave even though we absolutely shouldnt. And then youd have to deal with mom guilt on top of all of that like yeah its hard as hell to be a good parent its even harder remembering that every way you react and behave is how your child and likely theres will so making yourself break shitty cycles and instead gentle parent or respectfully parent a child is super hard but super worth it. So seeing moe do such an amazing job even when things are super hard and stressful and with family around i feel so proud of her shes such a great role model. And shes a first time mother so its even more impressive.
Moe, I am really amazed with your patience towards Sutan. I learn a lot form you. I have two kids 6 and 3. And it can be overwhelming sometimes when we have events like that. Things don't always go out as I planned and that upset me. But seeing your video made me realized that what matters the most is that our children are having fun. there's always next time to wear matching clothing and stuff. Thanks for that.
When I was in Japan, I was staying with a couple who had a daughter and they were preparing for her first Shichi-Go-San. It was a nightmare for them! I was woken early that morning by the girl crying, the mum was crying, the dad was trying to console both. She too, did not wear the kimono or have her hair done. But this year she turned 5 and was SO SO excited to celebrate Shichi-Go-San! I saw pictures of her with her hair done and her kimono on and she apparently didn't want to take it off for bed! Sutan will be more understanding when she is older, I am so sure!
Can we just say a huge thank you to nana, for supporting Moe through Geisha training? staying up all night waiting for her daughter to call and then secret home made curry deliveries? Yup, that talk you did stuck in my head
I just wanted to say that you are such wonderful parents. It made me really sad at the same time because I realized how differently I was raised. Had it been me as a tender 2 year old in the same situation my parents would have forced me and if I cried they would have beat my a@@ till they broke my spirit all to get me in the kimono to show what "wonderful" parents they were having such a "well behaved" child. Thank you for respecting Sutan and being so kind and gentle with her. I often wish I would have had parents like you but we deal with the hand that we are dealt.
That's the beauty of being under 5 years old. We learn the essential stuff and forget the trauma. Every wee thing that we don't understand is a trauma for us at that age but being human and growing up means continuous acclimatization. As long as it's a happy family, no "spirit" will be "broken"
@@misterkayy What a load of nonsense - it's very optimistic of you to think that a parent would stop the behaviour that got 'a well-behaved child' when they are over 5 years old. As for a 'happy family' - plenty of family look happy but arent - they are plenty of 'happy-looking' families - with miserable kids itching to leave home- and with parents later wondering 'what have I done?' There is no excuse to beat up a kid - especially over something like this when they dont understand what is going on- and thank goodness the parents here have more sense than to do that.
Moe is such a patient person. Wonderful mom.. and also genuine she also shows the bad not only the good. Also kudos to Moto for being patient with Suchan
I feel so sorry for Moe. She'd been preparing and dreaming of the little kimono since so many months. It's unfortunate that Sutan is too young to understand that. I really thought the final scene will have Sutan in the kimono.
I remember my mom trying to force me into traditional wear when I was younger, though I was quite a bit older than Su-chan. When a kid doesn't feel comfortable being put into a situation - esp this non-essential - then best to just leave it. We'll come around in time. That being said, Moe is a great Mom.
I can understand Sutan's excitement about seeing her nana and grandpa. And also her nerves about doing the big event. It's easy to see how much she adores her grandparents and how much they adore her. One thing with two year olds is you need lots of calmness and patience. You and Moto show a lot of that. Congratulations on getting through this big event with sanity intact. This video rates 👘👘👘👘👘
Moe, I really admire your patience. Not once did anyone yell or admonished Sutan. You all handled the situation beautifully and prioritised what was important. It was lovely to see Sutan with her grandparents. I wish I can meet you and Sutan one day ❤️
It is so hard even as an adult to have a bad night of sleep before a big, different, important day! My earliest memory is refusing to wear a special headband as the flower girl for my aunt's wedding when I was just a little older than Sutan. I really admire how well you adapted and guided her through the day together!
Moto hears he is needed to get up out of bed because Sutan was having a tantrum… is reaction was a smile and he hopped right out of bed to help his daughter and wife… that shows a lot right there.
The whole family showed love, Grace, patience and kindness… what matters most is Sutan felt loved, safe and secure (tantrum and no tantrum). You’re a wonderful mum!!! 🥰💕
I think at this point they should have left her alone not talk to her or let her play with things until she calmed down and realized what she was doing wrong. By distracting her she lost focus and of course she would go right back to screaming and kicking when she realized she was being dressed again. That is what i would have done. Distraction is good but not always the best solution. Kids need to understand that their actions have reprocutions and if left alone or something like timeout, she would have had time to either understand shes wrong or at least realize what it was that she needed to stop doing if she wanted her parents attention and to play with her toys . At that point she would realize that wearing a kimono isnt worth the tantrum and woul have given up on it. By distracting her she kept getting what she wanted which for kids at this age is a no no.
@@pazhallusta1897 She wasn't feeling comfortable wearing the kimono. Is she wrong about this to the point where she needs to "be ignored by her parents to give in"? You must be an adult, do you think that today you would like to be ignored by someone who doesn't agree with what you want to wear or not? Why would this be different with children? Children are not toys to do what you want with them and want them not to feel anything about it. If that's what you want, it's better to buy a doll than have children. They are people with feelings and individuality, it is not because they are children that they should be deprived of that. Moe did the right thing by respecting Sutan's wish. You can set expectations on yourself, but not on others because people aren't always going to act the way you want them to, especially children. We can sum it all up in one word: RESPECT.
@@pazhallusta1897 This approach is suitable for situations when the child is misbehaving, doing something, or acting in a way that is socially unacceptable, rude, selfish, etc. In those cases, you do need to be firm as a parent, otherwise, they might grow into asshole adults. BUT this was not the case at all. A child crying because she isn't comfortable with something is not a reason to punish her. If you assume that every time your child doesn't like something you do to them they must be misbehaving and punish them for it, you might actually create lots of resentment in the child later on.
I love how Moe and Moto parents helped calm and compromised with Sutan to try on her kimono. Knowing how hard it is. No yelled or forced her to put on a kimono they was half way there. It’s okay that parents don’t always win these battles. You guys have two more years to try maybe by age 5 she more understanding and want to do it
@@catchyname5403 I think that that they talked about it in the kimono selection video - Moe wanted it earlier. It's probably fine to try again the next year. Sutan isn't 3 yet anyway.
Seeing the whole family is being patience and considerate toward Sutan,, with this abundant love, she'll grow up to be a fine lady. Congratulation Moe and Moto for raising her well. Stay healthy, Sutan!
I'm sure you and Moto were disappointed, but perhaps you can try again next year when she is 3! In any event, it must have been lovely to celebrate with all of the grandparents.
I think at this point they should have left her alone not talk to her or let her play with thing until she calmed down and realized what she was doing wrong. By distracting her she lost focus and of course she would go right back to screaming and kicking when she realized she was being dressed again. That is what i would have done. Distraction is good but not always the best solution. Kids need to understand that their actions have reprocutions and if left alone or something like timeout, she would have had time to either understand shes wrong or at least realize what it was that she needed to stop doing if she wanted her parents attention and to play with her toys . At that point she would realize that wearing a kimono isnt worth the tantrum and woul have given up on it. By distracting her she kept getting what she wanted which for kids at this age is a no no.
@@pazhallusta1897 wholeheartedly disagree. She was not feeling well because of lack of sleep and on top of that the kimono and hair must be all very uncomfortable. A 2 year old child's world mainly exist out of sensory and if its too much for her, its just to much. The fact that she can put up boundaries is commendable and should be respected. She's not doing anything wrong. Making her feel bad about that or punishing her does not help. Not wearing a kimono is not the end of the world. It's her day after all, so it's lovely to see that they tried their best to make it a good experience for her.
As I'm about to pick up my daughter from university for holiday, this video brings back memories of trying to do her hair while she wanted to go play. It was a struggle. You and Moto were so patient. It's not always easy. Your family is beautiful.
Thank you for showing us the reality of having a toddler and the battles that mothers across the world face every day with no filters ❤️. Love Sultan’s hair here, it’s gorge!!
I marvel at the way you allow Sutan to have her own feelings and validate them by not forcing her to wear the kimono and put the adornments in her hair. You two are truly amazing and supportive parents. I could’ve used your videos when my kids were little. I absolutely love your parenting style.
I love the patience you both show to her while trying to convince her to wear her kimono in a playful way. May your family always be blessed with health and love.
For a 2 y/o to let you touch their hair when they’re not in a mood is already a HUGE achievement. 😮 I enjoyed this video, so raw. 🥺 We appreciate you showing this vulnerable side of having a toddler. Thank you so much Moe-san! ~ ♥️
Can see Moe-san is a bit disappointed that she must be preparing for the 七五三 so hard🥺 really appreciate you didn’t force Sutan to do anything she didn’t want to and お疲れ様でした☺️
i myself wanted to cry in frustration after seeing this. it is really so so tough, because thats just how it is with little kiddos. kudos to moe, you are literally made from steel. i would have gone absolutely nuts with frustration if this happened after all the preparation you guys went through.
Sutan is already sooo cute wearing the red kimono. A glimpse of her wearing it is already very satisfying! Looking forward to seeing her wearing the full kimono set. Mommy Moe and Daddy Moto. You truly show great patience as parents. Thumbs up for you both!
If getting Sutan in the kimono had gone as planned, it would have made for some nice pictures. However, the great kimono battle of 2021 will be a family story that will be told for years,
Awww I was busy for a few months so wasn’t on YT and when I came back I saw Sutan is now eating with her training chopsticks and she’s so expressive. It’s been great seeing her grow since you first did the video with Paolo. The growth and success of your channel is wonderful to watch too! Love from Belfast! 🥰
I have much respect to you, Moe and Moto, for allowing Sutan her own freedom of choice even if her choices sometimes do not match what you both want for her. Over time she will learn that her choices value just as much as everyone else's. Congratulations and may she have a great ceremony
It’s a pitty that you don‘t have other kids in your family so that Sutan can see that other Kids love to wear their Kimono. Imitation is a very important way to learn at this age! The Kimono looks so beautiful!🥰
Sutan is so happy with her grandparents ❤️ I thinks it’s good she was not forced to wear the kimono and hair accessories. It’s cute but I guess consent is also important. ❤️Children doesn’t see things as us. Maybe another time ☺️
bravo Sutan. she knows what she wants or not, and reacts very clearly. it's a important thing that we adults loose that courage bcs of different fears. hope she can keep her self voice for all her life 🙏 traditional things matters when you're ready to accept them.
Moe-san and Sato-san have full respect and love to Sutan-chan, almost admirable. Although I love to see Sutan-chan in her kimono, but the parent’s understanding is equally lovely. With these parents, no doubt Sutan-chan will grow up healthily.
Grandparents are true blessings and they're an integral part of a child's formative years. I grew up knowing my grandparents from both sides, however my kids aren't that lucky since my parents passed away before my kids were born. Sutan's just like any kid her age who did not sleep well - a no is a no, even if you bribe her with cake, cuddles and cartoons. =)
Such a good mama and daddy :) I loved that you respected Sutan’s wishes! Never forcing her and both collaborating to help! Shame she didn’t wear the cute kimono and hair accessories but I’m sure she’ll be more than ready on her next shichi-go-san ! I was lucky enough to be in Asakusa during that festival 🥰 and without realizing it I had scheduled a kimono rental that day as well! My heart melted whenever I would see children and their mama’s wearing beautiful kimonos :) it was such a wonderful day! I cherish that memory a lot! Keep up the good work Moe! I wish you the best!
I'm so glad I found this channel. It feels so calming and cozy to watch your videos it even helps me go to sleep easier maybe it's your beautiful vibe and watching Sutan grow up is amazing. She is a source of joy for more of us now. Thanks for sharing. You are a great mother. God bless your family.
When my children were that age, my mother-in-law told me that you really can't logically reason with children until they are four-years-old. I commend all of you for your patience. I had many times as a mother of toddlers when I was in tears trying to get them ready for special occasions and they would not cooperate. We've had crying meltdowns in church, in restaurants, etc. It's just part of life. You and Moto do so well in raising her. God bless your family.
It made me feel so happy seeing how loving and supportive everyone was to Sutan; Moe and Moto, and all the grandparents were full of understanding and patience the whole time and that’s what true love is. Sutan will have another Shichi-go-san in a few years when she’ll be able to fully understand and have fun with the celebration! Sutan is so lucky to have such a loving family, thank you Moe❤️
I'm SO impressed by how all the adults stayed calm and cheerful! It's okay, there will be many, many other opportunities for Sutan to wear kimono in the future 😊
Moe I really appreciate your patience and the way you all handled the situation. No one yelled nobody just adjusted with Sutan. Learnt a lot from this video❤️
Theres way to many comments on here telling Moe or "advising' Moe on how to raise her daughter Sutan. I love this video its realistic and the whole family showed nothing but love to Sutan and that's all what matters. They did there absoulate best and that's all what parents can do:)
You looked so beautiful Moe. Despite having a rough start to your day, you were patient, poised and elegant. I enjoy your channel so much. Many blessings to you and your family.
It’s so easy for us to forget Sutan is such a little one still. I mean she’s only 2.5 yrs old. She was just super overstimulated. It was sweet to watch you all. And Moe, you learned you can put a kimono on a moving target! Very 上手!
It’s very normal for children to assert their will at this age. It means you are a great parent, even though it’s frustrating you can know she will be able to speak her mind as she gets older because you raised her with confidence.
The level of patience and deep sentimental sensitive love that Moe and Motto have for sutan made me cry.❤ (I suffered from a very turbulent childhood trauma which effected my whole life?
This video had the same impact on me! Had a traumatic childhood. That’s why I’m so happy to see a child with such loving parents, what a blessing to witness such patient and kind parenting skills. May all feel loved
Your patience is unreal. It must have been sad for her to not wear the kimono but hopefully she can wear it somewhere else before she outgrows it for photos :)
This is just beautiful!! You all are a wonderful family and terrific parents. I love how patient and understanding of her her feelings you all were. You literally tried everything to get her to cooperate, but in the end chose to let her be comfortable. That is really impressive!
Sutan is just the cutest! I love how she hugs Grandpa like that after seeing all her presents for Shichi-Go-San! Reminds me of my cousin's baby and how my aunt was carrying the baby in a photo.
Moe, I just want to tell you, that you are an amaxing mom. You and Moto are amazing parents!!! The fact that you listen to Sutan’s opinion, shows how much you love her. And beliebe with this parenting, Sutan will grow into an amazing girl with an amazing open minded personality who def kniws what she wants from life. As she will get all support from beloved ones
It’s so good to see how you respect Sutan’s feelings even when she is only 2. 七五三は三歳になってからお祝いするものだと思っていた。昔娘が3歳になってから着物を着付けした記憶がある。ご家族の暖かい愛情が見れるビデオで，とても素敵です。
Thanks for sharing this video, Moe! I have to put a video on every time I do my daughter's hair too, and this is just for regular hairstyles 😅 It must've been so heartbreaking to not have Sutan wear her kimono, and you are a great example of being respectful of her autonomy and her wishes. Hope you had a good shichi-go-san all the same!
It's actually so nice to see how they all dealt with the situation and didn't force Sutan to wear the kimono. When I was a kid my mum made us wear traditional clothing to temples but I really hated it and refusing to wear it mean she'll just yells at me. So being forced to wear something when I didn't want to left a bad memory of the day. So I really praise them all for understanding Sutan and not forcing her to do anything she didn't want. It must have been hard but you're doing a great job Moe! ❤
No doubt, they deserve each other :) And you can tell Sutan is very very smart, the way she understands and responds with facial expressions, a variety of emotions, awesome family, I hope Japan will prosper and will keep building families like yours !
Beautiful V-log, great to see and understand a bit about the beautiful Japanese Culture. That was some challenge indeed to make Sutan ready to wear Kimono. Sutan was grumpy maybe because lack of sleep and excitement with all the people around her. She looks so pretty in the Kimono, great to see the Grand Parents in the V-log also. Superb indeed!
Handsome family 💖 We've all been there with our toddlers, when they are tired and overwhelmed with excitement in the built up to special occasions. I hope you all had a lovely celebration, regardless 💖
Even though I live miles and miles away from you in the United States, it was interesting to see that I had the same problems and frustrations when my kids were Sutan’s age. It doesn’t matter where you live, kids act the same way. You both handled it perfectly. Thanks for making your videos. I love them❣️
Hello from Thailand 🇹🇭 Thank you for uploading! I’m recently just becoming a fan of your lovely family 🥰 I hope one day I could have a cute family like yours
I am literally speechless with your level of patience and love. Absolutely love this video. I am doing self-check on myself and the example you show, I'm truly grateful. Thank you Moe. ❤❤❤
I literally cry while watching this video. Nobody blame anybody on this situation, it just happened. Everyone around was being supportive. It’s ok that Sutan’s crying and being grumpy, she is not being called a bad kid. It’s ok that Moe is having a hard time dressing up Sutan, she is not being called a bad mom. It’s ok to wake up the dad and help. It’s ok to let grandparents see the not so perfect situation. Sutan is going to grow into an adult that will allow her own emotions without guilt. Everything in this video is so precious. For me in the end when I see Sutan didn’t wear the kimono, I literally burst into tears. Even that is ok, the event is important but what is more important is Sutan’s feeling. Thank you Moe for sharing your life with us. The demonstration of patience, love and compassion is priceless.
I love your outlook.
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Perhaps I’m reading too much into your comment, but I’m sorry you didn’t have a childhood like this. Every child deserves what Sutan has.
@@Ciccigreen you are right, every child does :)
Que precioso o que escreveste
2 year olds always pick the worst day to assert their independence as a person. 🤣 Everyone did a great job of trying to convince Sutan, it's a tough stage.
Yeah they dont know how to deal with stress and so seeing their parents stressed freaks them out and in turn makes the parents more stressed from the tantrum which makes everything worse its a vicious cycle but yeah you gotta try to think of children as not mindless blank puppets but little new people who are basically alien to everything and then add on being tired and the stress and the oversimulation of family members anyone would react like that tbh. I mean just think of wedding days this is the biggest event suchans had to deal with and she has very little concept or understanding of it all because of her age its natural shed try to control what she could about the whole thing to make herself feel less stressed and more tethered and safe in the situation and that was her own body she was asserting dominance over since she coulsnt do so over the situation shes obviously been well raised and given choices and hd them respected in regards to her body clothing hair etc so shes saying no to what she can and wanting to feel confortable in what she knows because everything else she doesnt. And while logically i can understand that in that situation i wouldnt have handled that nearly half as well as moe etc did i genuinely wouldve snapped and lost my cool and not respected her choice or gotten consent i wouldve being raised in a wedtern more traditonal aka opposite of gentle parenting absolutely would hve threatened to take away snacks toys not been affection or nice and ignored her feelings and made her wear and do what i wanted and then if she did probably give her cake or something only afterward and treated her like a person then but by then that broken trust and fear/anger reaction wouldve already badly affected the relationshio and the child themselves all for what a silly outfit for a day she wont even remember that she also has 2 others to come not to mention birthdays etc i mean its silly but like most people were parented and then taught or not taught thats how wwe should handle things and behave even though we absolutely shouldnt. And then youd have to deal with mom guilt on top of all of that like yeah its hard as hell to be a good parent its even harder remembering that every way you react and behave is how your child and likely theres will so making yourself break shitty cycles and instead gentle parent or respectfully parent a child is super hard but super worth it. So seeing moe do such an amazing job even when things are super hard and stressful and with family around i feel so proud of her shes such a great role model. And shes a first time mother so its even more impressive.
Moe, I am really amazed with your patience towards Sutan. I learn a lot form you. I have two kids 6 and 3. And it can be overwhelming sometimes when we have events like that. Things don't always go out as I planned and that upset me. But seeing your video made me realized that what matters the most is that our children are having fun. there's always next time to wear matching clothing and stuff. Thanks for that.
When I was in Japan, I was staying with a couple who had a daughter and they were preparing for her first Shichi-Go-San.
It was a nightmare for them!
I was woken early that morning by the girl crying, the mum was crying, the dad was trying to console both. She too, did not wear the kimono or have her hair done. But this year she turned 5 and was SO SO excited to celebrate Shichi-Go-San!
I saw pictures of her with her hair done and her kimono on and she apparently didn't want to take it off for bed!
Sutan will be more understanding when she is older, I am so sure!
So true! Thank u for sharing that!
It’s so heart-warming to see Sutan interacting with her grandparents .. all the hugs .. so cute >.
it is so nice to see them! The resemblance is very strong ❤
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無理やり着せるのではなく、すーちゃんの気持ちを1番に尊重していらっしゃるのがとても感じました。
私も将来、家族を持ったらモエさんのようなお母さんになりたいです！
Can we just say a huge thank you to nana, for supporting Moe through Geisha training? staying up all night waiting for her daughter to call and then secret home made curry deliveries?
Yup, that talk you did stuck in my head
Well said 🙏🙏🙏💕🇦🇺
Woah what secret curry deliveries!???!! That's super bold 🤣
Sutan is a normal child and we all know lack of sleep is so hard on little ones. Even I need my sleep. Love from New Zealand.
I just wanted to say that you are such wonderful parents. It made me really sad at the same time because I realized how differently I was raised. Had it been me as a tender 2 year old in the same situation my parents would have forced me and if I cried they would have beat my a@@ till they broke my spirit all to get me in the kimono to show what "wonderful" parents they were having such a "well behaved" child. Thank you for respecting Sutan and being so kind and gentle with her. I often wish I would have had parents like you but we deal with the hand that we are dealt.
That's the beauty of being under 5 years old. We learn the essential stuff and forget the trauma. Every wee thing that we don't understand is a trauma for us at that age but being human and growing up means continuous acclimatization. As long as it's a happy family, no "spirit" will be "broken"
@@misterkayy What a load of nonsense - it's very optimistic of you to think that a parent would stop the behaviour that got 'a well-behaved child' when they are over 5 years old. As for a 'happy family' - plenty of family look happy but arent - they are plenty of 'happy-looking' families - with miserable kids itching to leave home- and with parents later wondering 'what have I done?' There is no excuse to beat up a kid - especially over something like this when they dont understand what is going on- and thank goodness the parents here have more sense than to do that.
So sweet to see grandparents with their grandbabies. Brings back lots of memory.
Moe is such a patient person. Wonderful mom.. and also genuine she also shows the bad not only the good. Also kudos to Moto for being patient with Suchan
I feel so sorry for Moe. She'd been preparing and dreaming of the little kimono since so many months. It's unfortunate that Sutan is too young to understand that. I really thought the final scene will have Sutan in the kimono.
I remember my mom trying to force me into traditional wear when I was younger, though I was quite a bit older than Su-chan. When a kid doesn't feel comfortable being put into a situation - esp this non-essential - then best to just leave it. We'll come around in time. That being said, Moe is a great Mom.
I can understand Sutan's excitement about seeing her nana and grandpa. And also her nerves about doing the big event. It's easy to see how much she adores her grandparents and how much they adore her. One thing with two year olds is you need lots of calmness and patience. You and Moto show a lot of that. Congratulations on getting through this big event with sanity intact. This video rates 👘👘👘👘👘
As an early childhood educator, I believe in respecting children’s ideas and wishes. It a way to gain respect from them.
I’m so glad your family gets the chance to enjoy being with Sutan in person. They must miss her so much 💕 She is so fun to be around.
Moe, I really admire your patience. Not once did anyone yell or admonished Sutan. You all handled the situation beautifully and prioritised what was important. It was lovely to see Sutan with her grandparents. I wish I can meet you and Sutan one day ❤️
she always seems to handle everything with such grace:)
It is so hard even as an adult to have a bad night of sleep before a big, different, important day! My earliest memory is refusing to wear a special headband as the flower girl for my aunt's wedding when I was just a little older than Sutan. I really admire how well you adapted and guided her through the day together!
Moto hears he is needed to get up out of bed because Sutan was having a tantrum… is reaction was a smile and he hopped right out of bed to help his daughter and wife… that shows a lot right there.
The whole family showed love, Grace, patience and kindness… what matters most is Sutan felt loved, safe and secure (tantrum and no tantrum). You’re a wonderful mum!!! 🥰💕
The level of cuteness is off the chart. Look at MO grinning ear to ear when she is doing Sutan's hair.
寝不足で機嫌が悪かった＋お爺さまお婆さまがいらっしゃるいつもと違う環境でみんなが着物着物と言うのがなんだかプレッシャーに感じたのかもしれませんね。
式典にお着物で参加できなかったのは残念ではありますが
7歳の少しお姉さんになったお着物姿もきっとすごく可愛いですよ❤️
ちらっと映った子供達も可愛いです😍
はい、とても悲しかったです。しかし、うまくいけばすべてがうまくいった
Terrible 2's. I feel you. Don't worry, it does get better, slow, but it does.
haha, that is good advice!
Yes. But it gets better when child grows.
I think at this point they should have left her alone not talk to her or let her play with things until she calmed down and realized what she was doing wrong. By distracting her she lost focus and of course she would go right back to screaming and kicking when she realized she was being dressed again. That is what i would have done. Distraction is good but not always the best solution. Kids need to understand that their actions have reprocutions and if left alone or something like timeout, she would have had time to either understand shes wrong or at least realize what it was that she needed to stop doing if she wanted her parents attention and to play with her toys . At that point she would realize that wearing a kimono isnt worth the tantrum and woul have given up on it. By distracting her she kept getting what she wanted which for kids at this age is a no no.
@@pazhallusta1897 She wasn't feeling comfortable wearing the kimono. Is she wrong about this to the point where she needs to "be ignored by her parents to give in"? You must be an adult, do you think that today you would like to be ignored by someone who doesn't agree with what you want to wear or not? Why would this be different with children? Children are not toys to do what you want with them and want them not to feel anything about it. If that's what you want, it's better to buy a doll than have children. They are people with feelings and individuality, it is not because they are children that they should be deprived of that. Moe did the right thing by respecting Sutan's wish. You can set expectations on yourself, but not on others because people aren't always going to act the way you want them to, especially children. We can sum it all up in one word: RESPECT.
@@pazhallusta1897 This approach is suitable for situations when the child is misbehaving, doing something, or acting in a way that is socially unacceptable, rude, selfish, etc. In those cases, you do need to be firm as a parent, otherwise, they might grow into asshole adults. BUT this was not the case at all. A child crying because she isn't comfortable with something is not a reason to punish her. If you assume that every time your child doesn't like something you do to them they must be misbehaving and punish them for it, you might actually create lots of resentment in the child later on.
I love how Moe and Moto parents helped calm and compromised with Sutan to try on her kimono. Knowing how hard it is. No yelled or forced her to put on a kimono they was half way there. It’s okay that parents don’t always win these battles. You guys have two more years to try maybe by age 5 she more understanding and want to do it
Or next year when she's 3,5!
@@ms.chievouz789 Shichi-Go-San is 7-5-3 so they can try at Kimono when they celebrate 5 year Shichi-Go-San.
I’m so amazed by Moe’s patience and love.
@@catchyname5403 Why they can do it when she is 2 and a half but not if she passes from 3?
@@LittleSweettt In Japanese age system Sutan is 3.
@@catchyname5403 I think that that they talked about it in the kimono selection video - Moe wanted it earlier. It's probably fine to try again the next year. Sutan isn't 3 yet anyway.
Sutan is always so clever and smart for her age, sometimes it’s nice to see her have normal toddler meltdowns 🥰
Seeing the whole family is being patience and considerate toward Sutan,, with this abundant love, she'll grow up to be a fine lady. Congratulation Moe and Moto for raising her well. Stay healthy, Sutan!
I'm sure you and Moto were disappointed, but perhaps you can try again next year when she is 3! In any event, it must have been lovely to celebrate with all of the grandparents.
She's considered 3 now, so maybe on 5 and 7 yo? She's growing so fast!
I think at this point they should have left her alone not talk to her or let her play with thing until she calmed down and realized what she was doing wrong. By distracting her she lost focus and of course she would go right back to screaming and kicking when she realized she was being dressed again. That is what i would have done. Distraction is good but not always the best solution. Kids need to understand that their actions have reprocutions and if left alone or something like timeout, she would have had time to either understand shes wrong or at least realize what it was that she needed to stop doing if she wanted her parents attention and to play with her toys . At that point she would realize that wearing a kimono isnt worth the tantrum and woul have given up on it. By distracting her she kept getting what she wanted which for kids at this age is a no no.
@@pazhallusta1897 wholeheartedly disagree. She was not feeling well because of lack of sleep and on top of that the kimono and hair must be all very uncomfortable. A 2 year old child's world mainly exist out of sensory and if its too much for her, its just to much. The fact that she can put up boundaries is commendable and should be respected. She's not doing anything wrong. Making her feel bad about that or punishing her does not help. Not wearing a kimono is not the end of the world. It's her day after all, so it's lovely to see that they tried their best to make it a good experience for her.
@@pazhallusta1897 and the patients is also very impressive. If anything, shes at least got great rolmodels in her life.
@@pazhallusta1897 do you realize this is a two year old
We are happy Sutan is 3 years old and she is healthy and well with or without kimono! Congratulations for rasing such a good child.
As I'm about to pick up my daughter from university for holiday, this video brings back memories of trying to do her hair while she wanted to go play. It was a struggle. You and Moto were so patient. It's not always easy. Your family is beautiful.
Thank you for showing us the reality of having a toddler and the battles that mothers across the world face every day with no filters ❤️. Love Sultan’s hair here, it’s gorge!!
I marvel at the way you allow Sutan to have her own feelings and validate them by not forcing her to wear the kimono and put the adornments in her hair. You two are truly amazing and supportive parents. I could’ve used your videos when my kids were little. I absolutely love your parenting style.
Moe that smile on your face in any situation is truly inspiring. The way you handle sutan is soo perfect to watch
I love the patience you both show to her while trying to convince her to wear her kimono in a playful way. May your family always be blessed with health and love.
It's okay Moe-san, Moto-san and grand parents. We'll try again with kimono when Sutan is 5 years old! 頑張って！
sadly it's 3 and 7 for girls lol
For a 2 y/o to let you touch their hair when they’re not in a mood is already a HUGE achievement. 😮 I enjoyed this video, so raw. 🥺 We appreciate you showing this vulnerable side of having a toddler. Thank you so much Moe-san! ~ ♥️
Can see Moe-san is a bit disappointed that she must be preparing for the 七五三 so hard🥺 really appreciate you didn’t force Sutan to do anything she didn’t want to and お疲れ様でした☺️
i myself wanted to cry in frustration after seeing this. it is really so so tough, because thats just how it is with little kiddos. kudos to moe, you are literally made from steel. i would have gone absolutely nuts with frustration if this happened after all the preparation you guys went through.
Sutan is already sooo cute wearing the red kimono. A glimpse of her wearing it is already very satisfying! Looking forward to seeing her wearing the full kimono set. Mommy Moe and Daddy Moto. You truly show great patience as parents. Thumbs up for you both!
振り返ったとき、これもいい思い出となりますね😃
数えでなく満３歳の来年やり直すのも、７歳まで着物姿を待つのも、どちらであってもご家族皆さんにとって素晴らしい記念。
すーちゃんももえさんも、お疲れ様です😌💓
If getting Sutan in the kimono had gone as planned, it would have made for some nice pictures. However, the great kimono battle of 2021 will be a family story that will be told for years,
Sutan had a tough day from no sleep. I must applaud her parents for their patience and understanding! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love how patient your whole family is with Sutan. It really pays off in the long run.
Awww I was busy for a few months so wasn’t on YT and when I came back I saw Sutan is now eating with her training chopsticks and she’s so expressive. It’s been great seeing her grow since you first did the video with Paolo. The growth and success of your channel is wonderful to watch too! Love from Belfast! 🥰
最後のシ-ンで感動しました🥲 親の欲目より子供のコンディションを大切にすること 難しいことですが もえさん尊敬します😍
はい、私も彼女をとても尊敬しています。なんてすごいお母さん ❤
Seeing the human side of this family is what makes this video perfect. I love this video so much! MayGod always bless your family moe :’)
I have much respect to you, Moe and Moto, for allowing Sutan her own freedom of choice even if her choices sometimes do not match what you both want for her. Over time she will learn that her choices value just as much as everyone else's. Congratulations and may she have a great ceremony
It’s a pitty that you don‘t have other kids in your family so that Sutan can see that other Kids love to wear their Kimono. Imitation is a very important way to learn at this age! The Kimono looks so beautiful!🥰
Sutan is so happy with her grandparents ❤️ I thinks it’s good she was not forced to wear the kimono and hair accessories. It’s cute but I guess consent is also important. ❤️Children doesn’t see things as us. Maybe another time ☺️
bravo Sutan. she knows what she wants or not, and reacts very clearly. it's a important thing that we adults loose that courage bcs of different fears. hope she can keep her self voice for all her life 🙏
traditional things matters when you're ready to accept them.
Thank you for also showing challenging situations with a two year old. I love how authentic this is.
７歳なら理解出来ても、３歳ではその日の気分が優先されるので、なかなか親の思い通りにはいきませんね。親の愛情と苦労がわかるビデオでした。続きがどうなるか？みんなが笑顔で終わってくれたらいいな。
Moe-san and Sato-san have full respect and love to Sutan-chan, almost admirable. Although I love to see Sutan-chan in her kimono, but the parent’s understanding is equally lovely. With these parents, no doubt Sutan-chan will grow up healthily.
Grandparents are true blessings and they're an integral part of a child's formative years. I grew up knowing my grandparents from both sides, however my kids aren't that lucky since my parents passed away before my kids were born.
Sutan's just like any kid her age who did not sleep well - a no is a no, even if you bribe her with cake, cuddles and cartoons. =)
My grandparents were a huge anchor in my life. They took care of us while my parents went to work in the city.
Such a good mama and daddy :) I loved that you respected Sutan’s wishes! Never forcing her and both collaborating to help! Shame she didn’t wear the cute kimono and hair accessories but I’m sure she’ll be more than ready on her next shichi-go-san ! I was lucky enough to be in Asakusa during that festival 🥰 and without realizing it I had scheduled a kimono rental that day as well! My heart melted whenever I would see children and their mama’s wearing beautiful kimonos :) it was such a wonderful day! I cherish that memory a lot!
Keep up the good work Moe! I wish you the best!
Moe you are so fortunate to have such a wonderful family.
Sutan looks extra happy ….she is so loving with her grandparents even though hardly get to see them physical… grandparents are good camera man 😆
I'm so glad I found this channel. It feels so calming and cozy to watch your videos it even helps me go to sleep easier maybe it's your beautiful vibe and watching Sutan grow up is amazing. She is a source of joy for more of us now. Thanks for sharing. You are a great mother. God bless your family.
wow, this is such a sweet message!
When my children were that age, my mother-in-law told me that you really can't logically reason with children until they are four-years-old. I commend all of you for your patience. I had many times as a mother of toddlers when I was in tears trying to get them ready for special occasions and they would not cooperate. We've had crying meltdowns in church, in restaurants, etc. It's just part of life. You and Moto do so well in raising her. God bless your family.
It made me feel so happy seeing how loving and supportive everyone was to Sutan; Moe and Moto, and all the grandparents were full of understanding and patience the whole time and that’s what true love is. Sutan will have another Shichi-go-san in a few years when she’ll be able to fully understand and have fun with the celebration! Sutan is so lucky to have such a loving family, thank you Moe❤️
I'm SO impressed by how all the adults stayed calm and cheerful! It's okay, there will be many, many other opportunities for Sutan to wear kimono in the future 😊
Your daughter looks beautiful in traditional clothing : ) she’s beautiful just like her parents
Everytime Su-chan started crying I felt like crying myself, it’s really amazing how you can stay calm and smile throughout and after that
Moe I really appreciate your patience and the way you all handled the situation. No one yelled nobody just adjusted with Sutan. Learnt a lot from this video❤️
Your videos always cheer me up. You two are such amazing parents! You handled grumpy Sutan with grace and kindness. Sutan is one lucky girl!
Theres way to many comments on here telling Moe or "advising' Moe on how to raise her daughter Sutan. I love this video its realistic and the whole family showed nothing but love to Sutan and that's all what matters. They did there absoulate best and that's all what parents can do:)
She doesn't have to read the comments. I think she's doing a great job! I love how she's raising her child.
You looked so beautiful Moe. Despite having a rough start to your day, you were patient, poised and elegant. I enjoy your channel so much. Many blessings to you and your family.
It's so nice how you guy's communicate and you each have a loving spirit,Also a warm vibe.I love it thank you for making videos and your hard work
😊
It’s so easy for us to forget Sutan is such a little one still. I mean she’s only 2.5 yrs old. She was just super overstimulated. It was sweet to watch you all.
And Moe, you learned you can put a kimono on a moving target!
Very 上手!
It’s very normal for children to assert their will at this age. It means you are a great parent, even though it’s frustrating you can know she will be able to speak her mind as she gets older because you raised her with confidence.
No, is not self confidence is just bad behavior
@@ernakruger1112 she’s being taught to obey but it’s not good to squash independent thought.
@@ernakruger1112 kids aren't supposed to be obedient puppets :D they're developing people with their own agencies.
👍👍👍🇧🇷🇧🇷
@@ernakruger1112 this is not 1900's old lady
Oh my! Bless her. What a big day and on very little sleep! Can't wait to see the second half of this story!
こんなきれいな和服を着れるって、日本人に羨まし限りです。はたちも超えてる外国人、いつか日本へ旅行する時是非着てみたいと思っています。
3:09 I saw Moe's soul leaving her body in that moment 😭
かわいい小さいモンスターに、大人がみんなあわあわしていて、皆の気持ちが伝わりました笑 お着物着れたビデオから先に見たので余計笑い泣きしました。良い思い出ですね。。本当にもえさんも皆さんもPatientだし素晴らしい。
初心者ママとして、もえさんの映像からいつもたくさん勉強になります。尊敬します🧡
これからも応援します🌻
The level of patience and deep sentimental sensitive love that Moe and Motto have for sutan made me cry.❤
(I suffered from a very turbulent childhood trauma which effected my whole life?
This video had the same impact on me! Had a traumatic childhood. That’s why I’m so happy to see a child with such loving parents, what a blessing to witness such patient and kind parenting skills. May all feel loved
@@Kaylyc makes me happy & sad at the same time tho
My mom would have been yelling and yanking my hair.
This is probably the best vlog that I ever seen specially Sutan getting ready to wear her first traditional Kimono..😊❤️
Your patience is unreal. It must have been sad for her to not wear the kimono but hopefully she can wear it somewhere else before she outgrows it for photos :)
We lost a very good opportunity to put "Kimono or Kimo-NO"
This is just beautiful!!
You all are a wonderful family and terrific parents. I love how patient and understanding of her her feelings you all were. You literally tried everything to get her to cooperate, but in the end chose to let her be comfortable.
That is really impressive!
Sutan is just the cutest! I love how she hugs Grandpa like that after seeing all her presents for Shichi-Go-San! Reminds me of my cousin's baby and how my aunt was carrying the baby in a photo.
Moe, I just want to tell you, that you are an amaxing mom. You and Moto are amazing parents!!! The fact that you listen to Sutan’s opinion, shows how much you love her. And beliebe with this parenting, Sutan will grow into an amazing girl with an amazing open minded personality who def kniws what she wants from life. As she will get all support from beloved ones
Quanto respeito e sensibilidade na educacão de Sutan.
Verdade! Eles tiveram uma paciência inexplicável!!! Uma pena a Sutan não vestir kimono que é uma data tão especial para os japoneses.
@@r1245 só um update: no segundo vídeo mais recente deles, a suchan finalmente vestiu o kimono! e por vontade própria, ela mesma quis provar!
I am so impressed with your patience Moe...
Sutan's hair looked so pretty with the bows & flowers!!🎀💐 When she put on kimono, her hair looked even more beautiful!👘💕
It’s so good to see how you respect Sutan’s feelings even when she is only 2. 七五三は三歳になってからお祝いするものだと思っていた。昔娘が3歳になってから着物を着付けした記憶がある。ご家族の暖かい愛情が見れるビデオで，とても素敵です。
yes, Kimono Mom always has the most amazing grace and calm in any situation
Thanks for sharing this video, Moe! I have to put a video on every time I do my daughter's hair too, and this is just for regular hairstyles 😅 It must've been so heartbreaking to not have Sutan wear her kimono, and you are a great example of being respectful of her autonomy and her wishes. Hope you had a good shichi-go-san all the same!
You were both super patient Sutan. I was praying for the kimono in the end the dress she chose looked beautiful. X❤
Wow, excellent teamwork between you and Moto! You guys really are incredible parents.
You guys do so well with her when she gets upset, such great parents and grandparents!
It's actually so nice to see how they all dealt with the situation and didn't force Sutan to wear the kimono. When I was a kid my mum made us wear traditional clothing to temples but I really hated it and refusing to wear it mean she'll just yells at me. So being forced to wear something when I didn't want to left a bad memory of the day. So I really praise them all for understanding Sutan and not forcing her to do anything she didn't want. It must have been hard but you're doing a great job Moe! ❤
すーちゃんが髪飾りで泣いて、着物をやっぱり「イヤ！」と言ってまた泣いてのグズってるシーンがとにかく可愛い！！😂💕💕本来子育てで「大変」なシーンって外からみるとその年齢の特別な一瞬の切取りで愛おしく感じる。上の子の時こんな感じだったなぁっと懐かしく思うし、今下の子がイヤイヤ期に入って、我が家と全く一緒だなぁとか。泣いてる泣き顔がとにかく可愛いなぁっと😂❤️親は大変なんですけどね〜！でもだからこそ「前撮り」というサービスがありますね🤣🤣✋✨
My absolute favorite photographs from childhood are the ones of me in a kimono that my aunt gave me. Sutan will love looking back on this time.
that is soooo cute!! do you still have that Kimono to give your future family members?
No doubt, they deserve each other :) And you can tell Sutan is very very smart, the way she understands and responds with facial expressions, a variety of emotions, awesome family, I hope Japan will prosper and will keep building families like yours !
Beautiful V-log, great to see and understand a bit about the beautiful Japanese Culture. That was some challenge indeed to make Sutan ready to wear Kimono. Sutan was grumpy maybe because lack of sleep and excitement with all the people around her. She looks so pretty in the Kimono, great to see the Grand Parents in the V-log also. Superb indeed!
Little Sutan already knows how to get it her way while being cute all the way ♥ precious moments none the less! Enjoy every second!
Handsome family 💖 We've all been there with our toddlers, when they are tired and overwhelmed with excitement in the built up to special occasions. I hope you all had a lovely celebration, regardless 💖
Even though I live miles and miles away from you in the United States, it was interesting to see that I had the same problems and frustrations when my kids were Sutan’s age. It doesn’t matter where you live, kids act the same way. You both handled it perfectly. Thanks for making your videos. I love them❣️
If there's a word we all learned today...YADDAA!!!
I appreciate you always showing your transparency in parenting with your family.
Hello from Thailand 🇹🇭
Thank you for uploading! I’m recently just becoming a fan of your lovely family 🥰
I hope one day I could have a cute family like yours
Sutan's growing up so quick ! she's so adorable even when she's cranky haha :)
I am literally speechless with your level of patience and love. Absolutely love this video. I am doing self-check on myself and the example you show, I'm truly grateful. Thank you Moe. ❤❤❤