Struggle is necessary to achieve anything of value in this world. This is as true for psychological intangibles as it is for material resources. Wrestling with the angel is necessary to secure a life worth living. In this episode, I discuss how we pay the cost of anything by letting go of what is antithetical to that something. This cannot be cheated. However, expensive though it may be, it is worth it. Ultimately, you have to fight for your life. "Roll the Dice" by Charles Bukowski: th-cam.com/video/2lK4LrD8Ii4/w-d-xo.html Join my community: the-captains-quarters.mn.co Buy my book, "The Value of Others" Ebook: amzn.to/460uGrA Audiobook: amzn.to/3YfFwbx Paperback: amzn.to/3xQuIFK Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: oriontarabanpsyd.com Social Media TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@oriontaraban Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: th-cam.com/video/WrXBzQ2HDEQ/w-d-xo.html Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: th-cam.com/channels/SduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXw.htmljoin Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #value #angel
Thanks for this message this specific message is indeed much needed. Still over polarizing, isnt' it? Motivated me to obtain that book from the that one place where the books are and dissect everything in it with the power of yet unreleased AIs and supercomputers costing 1mil/day, just to find how you manipulated the truth 🎯
How would you best definitionally distinguish between all-or-nothing goals that follow the video's principle and those volumetric goals that follow the Pareto Principle? Or would you say they are the same category? Any insight is appreciated.
"If you are struggling with anxiety, then grab onto the angel of courage, if you are struggling with addiction, then grab onto the angel of temperance, if you are struggling with depression, then grab onto the angel of hope and don't let go". These are some of the most inspiring words I've ever heard...
My favourite video of the damn week. Not a coincidence he drops this in the holiday season when men are reflecting on their failures and struggles. Thank you.
My brother. Your videos are all amazing. This one is stupendous. I honestly dont think there’s a psychologist out there in the world today who has a better understanding of the human condition. You’re way more than a headshrinker. This is philosophy, religion, social commentary. So stoked to see your growth. Really incredible stuff Orion.
Love the more virtue/spiritual-focused content you've been doing! The intersexual dynamics content is awesome, but we need more of these - please keep them coming 🙏
"There is ALWAYS a way out my friends, but it is NOT f*cking easy to get there. And you can only leave if you pay the appropriate cost...You will need to wrestle with these angels for quite some time. They will test you up to the last ounce of your strength & endurance. But, let me tell you, it's f*cking worth it!" Thank you for the excellent quote, Dr. Taraban. I'm currently going through some major changes in my life and I will keep this quote & video in mind as I do what I gotta do to get through it.
Most things are actually pointless and meaningless. It’s not a depressing thing, you should actually lighten your load of meaningless things because of it and find more joy
@@gunfugames7430 discernment and generation of resources try this dynamic from inside -out and try eros/thanatos dynamic observation do not get involved. Report back if society became ez or any question.
Stuff received for free has no value. When I got $5 for my birthday (as a kid) I bought candy bars for all my friends! When I spent 2 hours mowing a lawn and pulling weeds in 95 degree weather I AGONIZED over spending ANY of it because I worked so hard to get it.
When I am confronted with an ugly truth about myself that I must turn away from, that is the point I stop growing. Comfort is the cage that keeps me small. Love this one. Great work! Great one!
Life is hard ... yes ... and it's going to be hard forever if you are trying to achieve meaningful things. You need to understand and accept this! Took me years to do so... Work smart - rethink your path if its not working and Never give up! Thank you Dr. Taraban for making this struggle bearable and reminding me of why I keep fighting and that I should never stop!
This breakdown is the most thorough explanation of "everything comes at a cost", and is explained with extremely accurate parallels that anyone listening to it can relate to a great extent. One of your best to date and worthy of a re-listening session. This takes me over the edge in deciding to purchase your book brah
100% correct. And I'll tell you, this episode's message isn't even Psychology, it's just reality. I learned this in my early 20's. "Anything of Value is neither free, cheap, nor easy." People who can internalize this and live it, who embrace the Struggle, who're excited by the challenge (aka difficulty), who have faith in the outcome w/o expecting a guarantee, are the Winners. The top 10% in anything and everything, got there because 90% of everyone else can't do it and that's a fact.
Awesome, awesome, content. The angel actually pulled Jacob's hip/leg out of socket and Jacob still held on. The sun was rising, and in fear of being discovered, the angel made a deal to bless him if he'd let him go. Regardless, your point is spot on brother.
God Bless you Orion , This interpretation of Jacob and The Angel makes lots of senses to me now, despite the facts that I know this Bible story from primary school. Thank You
Well spoken with passion and I felt it, we have to push through no matter what towards our goals. "Your life unfolds in proportion to your courage"- Danielle LaPorte. Happy Holidays Doc!
I have no words, this is exactly how I would describe life. Coming from the very bottom of society, I struggle with complex ptsd and I have high functioning autism (later diagnosed in adulthood). As a woman walking the earth alone particularly a black woman, I have had to understand the world around me, but the most important is how I respond to the world. Raising myself I learned lessons through trial and error. I’m still climbing for financial freedom, but internal freedom I have had to build simultaneously. I have so much peace in my life right now, when done wrong by humans, look at the lesson god wants me to have, I’m stay in control of myself, remove myself and handle whatever needs to be handled, I don’t get down anymore and think of suicide, I find solutions. I dont dwell on it, I even laugh now. I have no one physically, but for the first time in my life I’m safe, I have peace, I paid a high price for it. I broke generational curses but it took everything I had and I’m still growing.
This is a good message for all those out there so upset at the govt for not ultimately solving their personal problems. It is the basis for many many polarizing topics.
What an incredible perspective on life and the challenges inherent in simply existing on this planet. Dr. Taraban’s explanation in this video beautifully captures the shared essence of the Abrahamic religions. These teachings strive to convey a profound message to humanity: that a universal justice by the Creator exists, and to attain true life, one must confront and purify the imperfections that come with living. This journey involves grappling with the events and trials of everyday life until one reaches the gates of divine blessing. To truly enter, it requires complete surrender and ultimate love for the divine. Thank you, Dr. Taraban-your insights deeply resonate with my current circumstances.
Reminds me of hebrews 12:1 - Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us
Wow. One of the best you've done. If i had more money, I'd book a private consult just so that i could pick your brain. Your years of study and self reflection are paying off Orion. In the words of Jung, "A man's life doesn't begin until he's 40, everything before is just practice." Would love for you to talk about Kant's philosophy.
That’s just what people say when they don’t know how to plan or adapt to challenges. Discomfort often comes from unpredictable things caused by others-but that only stays unpredictable if you fail to learn from it. Real strength doesn’t come from pain or discomfort. It comes from facing the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable at first. At the start, you lack the skills and wisdom to deal with unexpected problems, but as you grow, you learn. You adapt. You create habits that make handling challenges second nature. Eventually, discomfort fades, replaced by routine. The real danger isn’t other people-it’s an individual who’s willing to question their own beliefs to uncover the truth. That takes courage. True strength shows up when you take that discomfort and turn it into opportunities. It’s about leadership, compassion, and even a few white lies to help others. When you adapt, the discomfort you feel is nothing compared to what others experience because they didn’t grow the way you did. That’s where strength lies: in growth, not suffering.
Action is what makes a person stronger than before. This must have a stimulating action in order to start the process. Someone can accept many truths and philosophize for all the bad things in his life but he certainly needs to start acting towards this. The stimulus for action in this situation is discomfort and doubt. You can't grow without them.
Love this! Even though i already know what you're saying in this video. Its a great reminder. I 100% agree with everything you've said. Merry Christmas and hope you have a happy new year 🎉
Thank you Orion, I thoroughly enjoyed listening to your wisdom through biblical reference. Picking your hard, struggle or suffering = the greatest meaning in life.
When I red that fight between Jacob and the angel I was very surprised! The popular idea of an angel is almost opposite, so at the beginning I wasn't able to digest the fight paradox. Now it makes more sense and also I like your interpretation on it. Valuable things are not on demand, and sometimes are so difficult to obtain that -some days like today- seem impossible to reach. I'll take your words as energy for the wrestling. Thanks.
It totally fits my own experience and experience of people around me. Make sure you let go these sacrifices wilfully. Doing something with resentment rarely last.
Great video!! Perfect length. On point message. Use of biblical and secular references. At a meta level great message. I equate this to Marsha Linehan’s metaphor of the fiery ladder. Or 12 step. The struggle of getting out of the basement of whatever issue we are dealing with is a struggle and visualization or the fall to failure is motivating to climb that fiery ladder. Or struggle with the angle for the blessing of ascending beyond out limitations. I hope more people explore 12 step programs because of this video.
this reminds me of the poem "The Man Watching" by Rainer Maria Rilke "When we win it's with small things, and the triumph itself makes us small. What is extraordinary and eternal does not want to be bent by us. I mean the Angel who appeared to the wrestlers of the Old Testament: when the wrestlers' sinews grew long like metal strings, he felt them under his fingers like chords of deep music. Whoever was beaten by this Angel (who often simply declined the fight) went away proud and strengthened and great from that harsh hand, that kneaded him as if to change his shape. Winning does not tempt that man. This is how he grows: by being defeated, decisively, by constantly greater beings."
Thank you for this inspirational post and thank you for the Bukowski link! I’m thinking of you this holiday season, and I’m just so grateful for the wisdom, knowledge and insight you have provided. They are truly priceless. You once accurately noted that wisdom is the gift that nobody wants well, I want it, and I want as much as I can get. I’m downright greedy that way. Again, have a great Christmas and New Year, and thank you for all you do❤❤
Chas Bowski can turn a phrase, When the Devil comes knocking, and your girlfriend is having ‘one of those days’, Look to he, between the lines, for whom the bell tolls, on Devil’s sharp tines.
Jacob was blessed by the Angel with a name, Isreal. Also he very much earned that blessing. Wrestling the angel was the end of a long redemption and building arc for Jacob. Even then he had to wressle the angel through the night and suffered a broken hip that he lived with the rest of his life.
The best preachers story tellers. The best story tellers are poets. The best poets are philosophers. And the best philosophers are preachers. You sir, are an excellent philosopher.
Intangible traits cannot be stolen like tangible goods. That’s the biggest message I got from this video. I completely agree the only way to get intangible traits is to work for them. No shortcuts.
"Struggle to achieve anything of value in this world". Agree completely. Assets = valuable goods. Real estate, precious metals, stocks. Hard assets increase in value over time. Modern women. Lose value over time. Liability.
Thanks Orion, though it will not relate to the video above but I wanna appreciate your content that they having given alight bulb to my head.its like your my mentor without actually meeting.loadz from Malawi, africa
Yes, I like the image of fight with an angel. That’s how life is. In life, you have to fight for everything you want. Nothing worth having comes easy. Everything important requires hard work. However, I don’t think this concept works well in a romantic relationship or any other type of relationship. Very often, when one person chases another, it creates instability. It creates a kind of imbalance where the other person loses interest. Personally, I find myself in a similar situation, where I’m putting in all the effort to win someone over. At some point, I get tired and feel like I want to stop chasing this person. The fact that I’m the one doing all the chasing shows that their interest in me is minimal, if not nonexistent. I’m the one running after them, dancing for them like a clown, just to entertain them and hope they might accept me. That’s not the kind of dynamic I want in a relationship. That’s why I believe this approach doesn’t apply to love. If the other person doesn’t love you, why fight for them? If they truly loved you, they wouldn’t let you fight or humiliate yourself to earn their affection.
The angel in this case. You want to claim your victim. The more you want to claim your victim, the more power you yield to them. Set aside your desire for them and ask yourself what it would take for you to desire you. Furthermore, men are masters and women are servants. No servant can be greater than their master. Would your interest have room to thrive under your rule? Indifference is power. Love is weakness. Your love has value in perportion to the amount of indifference you could otherwise display. There is a time and a place for everything under the sun. Hope this helps.
"Im cooked but I'll fight for my freedom" I like that liberating mindset that zones you into what is essentially rebellion against grounded dissatisfaction, self-imposed belief that I should fold to this more "mature" worldview that is informed by pain, when it's really just desentization that leads to frigid heart and represses your authentic self, opening the door for GRANDIOSE addiction potential at one point along the path if you don't have religious faith. It's alright, I prefer to be dead and free than physically alive and a prisoner to my own mind.
Its not like people don’t enjoy achieving goals, it is that the goal posts keep getting moved! Very few young people can afford a house, or can keep serious long term relationships, etc. It almost is making a lack of inspiration crisis. The average man can’t win any more.
Enough Americans believe their house will make them wealthy and this sentiment works with anti-development crowd to make it harder to build homes. And that is why home prices keep going up. When home prices fall, many American home owners feel poorer, but this reflects the flaw in our thinking. Our homes are to live in and not to make us feel “paper” rich. All that does is to impoverish the younger generation. As fewer children are born the demand for homes could get reduced if not offset by immigration. This could eventually cause home prices to fall. But the better quicker way would be to vote out politicians that purport to be compassionate to the less fortunate but do everything possible for the less wealthy to buy a home. These so called “environmentalists” and anti-development advocates are actually just protecting the paper wealth of their homes. Like in many parts of California and areas dominated by democratic voters that think well of themselves are actually hypocrites of the worst kind.
The lesson is Jacob didn't find his purpose while he was running from God, it was when he fought to persevere in supplication toward God that he received his new name and came to realize his destiny. If you just try to fight for what you want,, you're missing the point. You need to grapple with GOD and only then will you receive His blessing
Struggle is necessary to achieve anything of value in this world. This is as true for psychological intangibles as it is for material resources. Wrestling with the angel is necessary to secure a life worth living. In this episode, I discuss how we pay the cost of anything by letting go of what is antithetical to that something. This cannot be cheated. However, expensive though it may be, it is worth it. Ultimately, you have to fight for your life.
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#psychology #value #angel
Thanks for this message this specific message is indeed much needed. Still over polarizing, isnt' it? Motivated me to obtain that book from the that one place where the books are and dissect everything in it with the power of yet unreleased AIs and supercomputers costing 1mil/day, just to find how you manipulated the truth 🎯
@@psychacks the moral isn't just to struggle for what you want, it's that you need to struggle with God instead of running from him
Alchemy 101 😁
How would you best definitionally distinguish between all-or-nothing goals that follow the video's principle and those volumetric goals that follow the Pareto Principle? Or would you say they are the same category? Any insight is appreciated.
Chas Bowski is my favorite rhyme maker.
“The truth is gonna set you free. But first its gonna make you miserable.” - Mike Tyson
Know the Truth, and it shall eat thine soul.
Orion-the pastor we did not know we needed.
Perfectly said
😂😂
@@adventurer2395 the cool pastor who uses the F word. 😄
The more I read the Bible, especially the New Testament, the more it seems that it and psychology closely aligns.
He's not exactly right though, because the lesson is that you need to grapple with God.
"If you are struggling with anxiety, then grab onto the angel of courage, if you are struggling with addiction, then grab onto the angel of temperance, if you are struggling with depression, then grab onto the angel of hope and don't let go". These are some of the most inspiring words I've ever heard...
My favourite video of the damn week.
Not a coincidence he drops this in the holiday season when men are reflecting on their failures and struggles. Thank you.
Truth.
This man's videos are always worth the time.
"Defeating 1000 men in battle is inferior to conquering oneself."
My brother. Your videos are all amazing. This one is stupendous. I honestly dont think there’s a psychologist out there in the world today who has a better understanding of the human condition. You’re way more than a headshrinker. This is philosophy, religion, social commentary. So stoked to see your growth. Really incredible stuff Orion.
Love the more virtue/spiritual-focused content you've been doing! The intersexual dynamics content is awesome, but we need more of these - please keep them coming 🙏
"There is ALWAYS a way out my friends, but it is NOT f*cking easy to get there. And you can only leave if you pay the appropriate cost...You will need to wrestle with these angels for quite some time. They will test you up to the last ounce of your strength & endurance. But, let me tell you, it's f*cking worth it!"
Thank you for the excellent quote, Dr. Taraban. I'm currently going through some major changes in my life and I will keep this quote & video in mind as I do what I gotta do to get through it.
Life is hard. That's why life has meaning.
Most things are actually pointless and meaningless. It’s not a depressing thing, you should actually lighten your load of meaningless things because of it and find more joy
@@doyoueatrocksAll things are but you create and choose meaning. There's no inherent meaning outside your immediate experience.
Incorrect.
Life is easy. Living in society is hard.
@@gunfugames7430 discernment and generation of resources try this dynamic from inside -out and try eros/thanatos dynamic observation do not get involved. Report back if society became ez or any question.
Stuff received for free has no value. When I got $5 for my birthday (as a kid) I bought candy bars for all my friends! When I spent 2 hours mowing a lawn and pulling weeds in 95 degree weather I AGONIZED over spending ANY of it because I worked so hard to get it.
Only if one is a fool.
When I am confronted with an ugly truth about myself that I must turn away from, that is the point I stop growing.
Comfort is the cage that keeps me small.
Love this one. Great work!
Great one!
My growth has been so noticeable , I think I need a surgeon to remove it.
Life is hard ... yes ... and it's going to be hard forever if you are trying to achieve meaningful things.
You need to understand and accept this! Took me years to do so...
Work smart - rethink your path if its not working and Never give up!
Thank you Dr. Taraban for making this struggle bearable and reminding me of why I keep fighting and that I should never stop!
Rethink your path if it's not working and never give up... 💯
This breakdown is the most thorough explanation of "everything comes at a cost", and is explained with extremely accurate parallels that anyone listening to it can relate to a great extent. One of your best to date and worthy of a re-listening session. This takes me over the edge in deciding to purchase your book brah
This is your best video yet. Thank you.
Jordan Peterson’s new book is on a similar topic!! We who wrestle with God.
Love this channel
100% correct. And I'll tell you, this episode's message isn't even Psychology, it's just reality. I learned this in my early 20's. "Anything of Value is neither free, cheap, nor easy." People who can internalize this and live it, who embrace the Struggle, who're excited by the challenge (aka difficulty), who have faith in the outcome w/o expecting a guarantee, are the Winners. The top 10% in anything and everything, got there because 90% of everyone else can't do it and that's a fact.
Awesome, awesome, content. The angel actually pulled Jacob's hip/leg out of socket and Jacob still held on. The sun was rising, and in fear of being discovered, the angel made a deal to bless him if he'd let him go. Regardless, your point is spot on brother.
Well done. That is solid advice in a world obsessed with instant gratification.
...and a society that is based in individualism/egoism.
@@detroitvcwAre you saying that capitalism is killing us?
@@kevinhornbuckle Socially, not economically.
@@detroitvcw a distinction made by angels dancing on the tip of a needle
Struggles help make you stronger and more resilient, as life will always throw challenges to test you, and every time you push through, you grow.
Not unless in the struggle you struggle with God. If you're fighting in your own flesh you will only reap according to the flesh
This is exactly what i needed to hear. Thank you so much. God bless.
God Bless you Orion , This interpretation of Jacob and The Angel makes lots of senses to me now, despite the facts that I know this Bible story from primary school. Thank You
I needed to hear this. Thanks, Orion
Well spoken with passion and I felt it, we have to push through no matter what towards our goals. "Your life unfolds in proportion to your courage"- Danielle LaPorte. Happy Holidays Doc!
I have no words, this is exactly how I would describe life. Coming from the very bottom of society, I struggle with complex ptsd and I have high functioning autism (later diagnosed in adulthood). As a woman walking the earth alone particularly a black woman, I have had to understand the world around me, but the most important is how I respond to the world. Raising myself I learned lessons through trial and error. I’m still climbing for financial freedom, but internal freedom I have had to build simultaneously. I have so much peace in my life right now, when done wrong by humans, look at the lesson god wants me to have, I’m stay in control of myself, remove myself and handle whatever needs to be handled, I don’t get down anymore and think of suicide, I find solutions. I dont dwell on it, I even laugh now. I have no one physically, but for the first time in my life I’m safe, I have peace, I paid a high price for it. I broke generational curses but it took everything I had and I’m still growing.
That's massive well done and keep going.
You are a golden nugget, Dr OT, thank you.
Chrismas Eve, Eve, church at its finest… well done brother Orion! Cheers!
What a timing. This must a gift/sign from the universe. Thank you!
Increíble content Orion, thank you and god bless you
This is a good message for all those out there so upset at the govt for not ultimately solving their personal problems. It is the basis for many many polarizing topics.
By far the best video this week mr orion
Orion the Angel of Hope
Needed this one.
What an incredible perspective on life and the challenges inherent in simply existing on this planet. Dr. Taraban’s explanation in this video beautifully captures the shared essence of the Abrahamic religions. These teachings strive to convey a profound message to humanity: that a universal justice by the Creator exists, and to attain true life, one must confront and purify the imperfections that come with living. This journey involves grappling with the events and trials of everyday life until one reaches the gates of divine blessing. To truly enter, it requires complete surrender and ultimate love for the divine. Thank you, Dr. Taraban-your insights deeply resonate with my current circumstances.
Reminds me of hebrews 12:1 -
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us
I'm 24, today i just joined as a new professor with lot of ambition. Orion, This video is perfect timing for me❤
Wow. One of the best you've done. If i had more money, I'd book a private consult just so that i could pick your brain. Your years of study and self reflection are paying off Orion. In the words of Jung, "A man's life doesn't begin until he's 40, everything before is just practice." Would love for you to talk about Kant's philosophy.
I’ll do it for you for $1.53 per pound. Salvation ain’t cheap!
Best advice you’ve given me this far, Dr Orion. Thank you
This is a good one, a true message that rings true throughout the universe.
You must constantly dive yourself into the lake of discomfort in order to rise and come out as a better and stronger version of yourself
That’s just what people say when they don’t know how to plan or adapt to challenges. Discomfort often comes from unpredictable things caused by others-but that only stays unpredictable if you fail to learn from it.
Real strength doesn’t come from pain or discomfort. It comes from facing the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable at first. At the start, you lack the skills and wisdom to deal with unexpected problems, but as you grow, you learn. You adapt. You create habits that make handling challenges second nature.
Eventually, discomfort fades, replaced by routine. The real danger isn’t other people-it’s an individual who’s willing to question their own beliefs to uncover the truth. That takes courage.
True strength shows up when you take that discomfort and turn it into opportunities. It’s about leadership, compassion, and even a few white lies to help others. When you adapt, the discomfort you feel is nothing compared to what others experience because they didn’t grow the way you did.
That’s where strength lies: in growth, not suffering.
Action is what makes a person stronger than before.
This must have a stimulating action in order to start the process. Someone can accept many truths and philosophize for all the bad things in his life but he certainly needs to start acting towards this.
The stimulus for action in this situation is discomfort and doubt.
You can't grow without them.
I tried that once. But when I came out, a girl on the beach shrieked, “It’s the creature from the dark lagoon! Run for your lives!”
Thank you!!! Paying for strength and muscle with flab seems to be a small price to pay!! You opened my eyes AGAIN!
This man has opened my eyes to whole new horizons. Love you brother.
The is always a way out but it's not easy you must pay the price. And remember your peace of mind is everything.
Peace is Priceless
Alright Dad. Your best one. Brilliantly done and executed and spot on.
Thank you for this, I think every man needs this presently, I hope there will be more follow up with this,
You quote Bukowski, you have my upvote.
Love this! Even though i already know what you're saying in this video. Its a great reminder. I 100% agree with everything you've said. Merry Christmas and hope you have a happy new year 🎉
Thank you Orion, I thoroughly enjoyed listening to your wisdom through biblical reference. Picking your hard, struggle or suffering = the greatest meaning in life.
This is so damn good. Thank you
Thanks for coming back to the great content like the ones u used to make
I really do appreciate your view on these deeper topics, Orion. So valuable. 😊
When I red that fight between Jacob and the angel I was very surprised! The popular idea of an angel is almost opposite, so at the beginning I wasn't able to digest the fight paradox. Now it makes more sense and also I like your interpretation on it. Valuable things are not on demand, and sometimes are so difficult to obtain that -some days like today- seem impossible to reach. I'll take your words as energy for the wrestling. Thanks.
It totally fits my own experience and experience of people around me.
Make sure you let go these sacrifices wilfully. Doing something with resentment rarely last.
Great video!! Perfect length. On point message. Use of biblical and secular references. At a meta level great message. I equate this to Marsha Linehan’s metaphor of the fiery ladder. Or 12 step. The struggle of getting out of the basement of whatever issue we are dealing with is a struggle and visualization or the fall to failure is motivating to climb that fiery ladder. Or struggle with the angle for the blessing of ascending beyond out limitations. I hope more people explore 12 step programs because of this video.
this reminds me of the poem "The Man Watching" by Rainer Maria Rilke
"When we win it's with small things,
and the triumph itself makes us small.
What is extraordinary and eternal
does not want to be bent by us.
I mean the Angel who appeared
to the wrestlers of the Old Testament:
when the wrestlers' sinews
grew long like metal strings,
he felt them under his fingers
like chords of deep music.
Whoever was beaten by this Angel
(who often simply declined the fight)
went away proud and strengthened
and great from that harsh hand,
that kneaded him as if to change his shape.
Winning does not tempt that man.
This is how he grows: by being defeated, decisively,
by constantly greater beings."
Reading your book now. The beginning was a little bit intimidating, but it got easier further in. Highly recommend so far. 👌
Thank you Orion for the great message !
Initiation into blessings and enlightenment takes lifetimes.
Thank you for this inspirational post and thank you for the Bukowski link! I’m thinking of you this holiday season, and I’m just so grateful for the wisdom, knowledge and insight you have provided. They are truly priceless. You once accurately noted that wisdom is the gift that nobody wants well, I want it, and I want as much as I can get. I’m downright greedy that way. Again, have a great Christmas and New Year, and thank you for all you do❤❤
Chas Bowski can turn a phrase,
When the Devil comes knocking,
and your girlfriend is having ‘one of those days’,
Look to he, between the lines,
for whom the bell tolls,
on Devil’s sharp tines.
Excellent one, Dr.Taraban : inspired and inspiring. Thank you!
Benjamin Franklin
"Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterwards".
Stupid. No matter how wide the young keep the eyes open they are still young. There's no shortcut to experience based wisdom
What is a gold digger willing to let go? Nothing, it's a fraud.
I regularily tell my pupils: I'm not saying it's going to be easy. I'm saying it's going to be worth it.
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Thank you! Instant classic!
Love the allegory and the title!
Amazing message. Thank you!
Jacob was blessed by the Angel with a name, Isreal. Also he very much earned that blessing. Wrestling the angel was the end of a long redemption and building arc for Jacob. Even then he had to wressle the angel through the night and suffered a broken hip that he lived with the rest of his life.
The best preachers story tellers. The best story tellers are poets. The best poets are philosophers. And the best philosophers are preachers. You sir, are an excellent philosopher.
What I needed to hear in relation to my weight loss journey
How's it going? Have you sacrificed your old self and being fat?
The sense of accomplishment you experience far outweighs the pain of mild hunger or physical fatigue.
So many of Orion’s videos are stand alone graduate level classes. He’s a gift to all of us.
Excellent video. Thanks for sharing.
One of your best ones yet, Orion.
Intangible traits cannot be stolen like tangible goods. That’s the biggest message I got from this video. I completely agree the only way to get intangible traits is to work for them. No shortcuts.
"Struggle to achieve anything of value in this world". Agree completely. Assets = valuable goods. Real estate, precious metals, stocks. Hard assets increase in value over time. Modern women. Lose value over time. Liability.
Great video today. Just what I needed to hear today
Thanks Orion, though it will not relate to the video above but I wanna appreciate your content that they having given alight bulb to my head.its like your my mentor without actually meeting.loadz from Malawi, africa
Beautifully said!
👏🏼 Amazing topic and great advice, doc! 👏🏼
Yes, I like the image of fight with an angel. That’s how life is. In life, you have to fight for everything you want. Nothing worth having comes easy. Everything important requires hard work. However, I don’t think this concept works well in a romantic relationship or any other type of relationship. Very often, when one person chases another, it creates instability. It creates a kind of imbalance where the other person loses interest. Personally, I find myself in a similar situation, where I’m putting in all the effort to win someone over. At some point, I get tired and feel like I want to stop chasing this person.
The fact that I’m the one doing all the chasing shows that their interest in me is minimal, if not nonexistent. I’m the one running after them, dancing for them like a clown, just to entertain them and hope they might accept me. That’s not the kind of dynamic I want in a relationship. That’s why I believe this approach doesn’t apply to love. If the other person doesn’t love you, why fight for them? If they truly loved you, they wouldn’t let you fight or humiliate yourself to earn their affection.
The angel in this case. You want to claim your victim. The more you want to claim your victim, the more power you yield to them. Set aside your desire for them and ask yourself what it would take for you to desire you.
Furthermore, men are masters and women are servants. No servant can be greater than their master. Would your interest have room to thrive under your rule?
Indifference is power. Love is weakness. Your love has value in perportion to the amount of indifference you could otherwise display. There is a time and a place for everything under the sun.
Hope this helps.
"Im cooked but I'll fight for my freedom" I like that liberating mindset that zones you into what is essentially rebellion against grounded dissatisfaction, self-imposed belief that I should fold to this more "mature" worldview that is informed by pain, when it's really just desentization that leads to frigid heart and represses your authentic self, opening the door for GRANDIOSE addiction potential at one point along the path if you don't have religious faith. It's alright, I prefer to be dead and free than physically alive and a prisoner to my own mind.
Its not like people don’t enjoy achieving goals, it is that the goal posts keep getting moved! Very few young people can afford a house, or can keep serious long term relationships, etc. It almost is making a lack of inspiration crisis. The average man can’t win any more.
Don't be average then? Why'd you wanna be average anyway - rise to the challenge and overcome!
Any foe will adapt. That is why football teams have half time adjustments.
Easier said than done. A world full of deceive people. Man some of us can't be bad but bad people meet us.@@edheldude
@@edheldudeEasier said than done. A world full of deceive people. Man some of us can't be bad but bad people meet us.@edheldude
Enough Americans believe their house will make them wealthy and this sentiment works with anti-development crowd to make it harder to build homes. And that is why home prices keep going up. When home prices fall, many American home owners feel poorer, but this reflects the flaw in our thinking. Our homes are to live in and not to make us feel “paper” rich. All that does is to impoverish the younger generation.
As fewer children are born the demand for homes could get reduced if not offset by immigration. This could eventually cause home prices to fall.
But the better quicker way would be to vote out politicians that purport to be compassionate to the less fortunate but do everything possible for the less wealthy to buy a home. These so called “environmentalists” and anti-development advocates are actually just protecting the paper wealth of their homes. Like in many parts of California and areas dominated by democratic voters that think well of themselves are actually hypocrites of the worst kind.
Another nugget of gold.
An absolute banger of a video!
Thanks Orion...I needed that
Great talk doctor.
Great book. Smart man. Thank you!
Being an engineer-inventor I know well the importance of persistence.
🔥 Absolute fire, doc.
Another excellent video, Dr. Orion. Anyone reading this comment - read his book!
"Do or do not, there is no try."
- Yoda
Makes perfect sense. Thank you!
❤❤❤ this message!
Loved this! Thank you!
Thank you sir so much for the information
I'm still thinking about the cherry on top😂. My Angel always stares at it. What a wrestle.
woooow this is so helpful.
thank you my brother
The lesson is Jacob didn't find his purpose while he was running from God, it was when he fought to persevere in supplication toward God that he received his new name and came to realize his destiny. If you just try to fight for what you want,, you're missing the point. You need to grapple with GOD and only then will you receive His blessing
great as always
Orion tarrabizzle with another one! This guy is incredible!
I like this guy