Thank you so much for this video, very informative. My Dad had a direct cremation and we bought his urn on amazon for $20 the fee from the funeral home for the direct cremation which included the death certificates, permits, transport etc came out to $1200. We had a memorial service at our church and the flowers were bought by my cousin and she told me she got a good deal from Costco for the flowers. The pamphlets that had his info and picture I made and had them printed out at Office Depot for about $30. My nieces and nephews made a beautiful collage with the photos we had. In total, everything came out to about $1260. It was an affordable but dignified and beautiful memorial and we were able to focus the time we had with him being together with our friends and family. We were not worried about finances, in fact my Dad had had paid for the direct cremation fee 2 years before he died. We were able to mourn our loss without having that added burden of how our we going to pay for this funeral
These are the subjects that are so relevant. A percentage of the public isn't aware of decent funeral directors, such as you are Kari (because the media focuses on the crooked businesses). Thank You... thank you.. as always. You are a blessing.
Kari, as always, thank you for delivering important information in a caring manner. It's nice to know what rights you have upfront. I hope to take care of my final disposition details in advance, to make it easier on the family. I love watching your channel as well as Caitlin Doughty 's channel, because you two are knowledgeable and very compassionate. Making sure that people have many options available, and they won't be judged by the choices that they ultimately make. I think it is important to have this information beforehand, as it is much easier, your mind is hopefully clearer, and less emotional. It's never easy dealing with death, especially, if it's unexpected. So, having this beforehand, to me, is invaluable! Kudos as always !
Thank you so much for being up front about all the rights. I have had a couple bad experiences with the same funeral home. I expected better because my father worked for one of our cut cemeteries for 22 years so he saw these directors every day. I have never heard you touch on what happens to everything left with or on the body after you finish signing all the paperwork and/or cremation. If you speak on this subject I will then write down my experience.
I can provide an answer if that will help. I have worked in a mortuary for 38 years and I am licensed as a funeral director, embalmer, and crematory manager. At the time a person is removed from the place of death to the mortuary a written inventory of all personal property and items is taken. During the arrangement meeting the funeral director will check the legal next of kin to determine what items are returned to the family, what stays with the decedent, and what is disposed of. It is not uncommon for certain jewelry to stay on and certain clothing to be worn, whereas other items are returned. Right before the casket is closed for the final time and especially before a cremation takes place it is not uncommon for the director to check a second time to verify what items stay and what items are returned.
Your work and willingness to share your knowledge is a huge public service that should not go unnoticed. Thank you for providing your knowledge and experiences to the public for free. You are the type of person that every business owner should be.
Kari, even equipped with all the information. At the time of need. Most or simply to overcome with grief. That's where the Trust in a familiar funeral home comes in. Word of mouth in a small town can make or break a Business. We are Blessed to have many trust worthy funeral homes in my town and surrounding areas. Most funeral directors in my town, were friends with the people they help. But you hear from time to time of shady funeral homes around. They do shade the good ones with trust issues or doubts. Another great video Kair. Thumbs up
Wow; great information and well presented. Thankyou for educating the consumer. Many times in our busy lives we don't think about these things until something happens and we're distraught with emotions. Nicely done!
Our funeral home refused me and my family to view my baby brother 3 times! I WISH I had known of your knowledgeable videos before hand. Thanks to you and other TH-cam morticians I now am writing out my death plan, and encouraging family members to do the same. Thank you for all you do.
You are so helpful. I have come across some of the things that you were staring in this video. It was interesting. When I helped a friend whose husband died and she got Covid so I did some running around for her and was surprised at some of the things that she got changed for. I’m glad I was there for her as she was in no state of mind to do some of the things that were necessary .
Very informative video! I have subscribed to your channel and enjoy as well as learn from each and every video! I’m 75 and know your information will be needed one of these days! Thank you so much!
Thank you for this honest, direct information. I have always assumed that things were just a certain way. It is nice to know there are some options available. BTW, the hairstyle looks pretty on you.
Good video on explaining consumer rights, reasonable explanations for services, and legitimate concerns on the part of F-S Professionals. Where I live in the Northeast, we seldom see wakes/visitations held within a decedent's home. I can only recall being at two, ever. They were part of a large Italian family where old traditions died hard. Both were something out of a Francis Ford Coppola film, surreal yet very loving. Keep up the excellent work!
This is another video I would love to use in my hospice social work pamphlets for my clients families ... I have a link of places they can look at , and I am also in Michigan
Kari Thank you have explained everything,I such wish you were here, close to my town, Thanks you Janis, We sure need someone like you for sure, love to you,
I remember my grandfather telling me about seeing my aunt after she was killed and saying he'd never forget it now that I work part time in a funeral home and working in a care facility I understand both sides of viewing its important to think what are you looking for or need
Oh I wish I saw this earlier!!!! My beautiful lovely grandmother passed away a few days ago and I could have sent this video to my family members who are taking care of the arrangements.
Kari, not that I'm aware of, otherwise I would have heard by now :) My grandma wished to be cremated and really didn't want us making a huge fuss over her death lol
Thank you... again you have answered many questions and concerns. Would you be willing to do a video or make a list available of things people need to have our consider having for a funeral, etc. I know a person who compared it to a wedding with similar items...Clothing, food for guests, flowers, casket/ urn bearers, readings, music,etc. So many things to think about that we don't realize all that it takes.
I love this channel it’s very informative. I just applied to the funeral service program at the community college and I’m going to be starting my apprenticeship soon I’m so excited!
Hi Kari, going through your videos I have yet to hear you address 2 topics. 1) Are there laws that stipulate the disposition of cremains? I know of persons who have had their ashes scattered in forests, rivers, lakes and in one instance the family garden. A pastor friend goes to great lengths telling his congregation all of these are illegal in MI. What is the truth? 2) If your relative is active duty military killed in battle can the accompanying military officer deny the family the right to inspect/view the body? There was recently a case of this in the news.
As a consumer is there anything I should consider of the funeral home when purchasing a pre-burial plan? Can I ask them about their solvency? What is the best rule to follow with it? Thanks for your videos and information.
I’m 16 from the uk, this is my dream job and I’m doing everything I can to do it! These videos are a huge insight and help keep doing what your doing! X
Incredible video.... Why shouldn't we be well informed as you are doing...We need to be consummers in anything, including our deaths. Ive learned and keep learning... So many small towns either have A, B, or C..Heaven forbid we dare offend, despite that being my our relative.... Ive seen the small town family funeral "recommend". Now I know there are choices. Well Done, as all of them. For me...I like how Indians did, or they show in movies...Take me and lay me out on platform..Let me be...
Thank you so much for this wealth of information. Wish I’d known these things before my dad passed… I would’ve done things a bit differently. I appreciate you!!
Great information. If a family requests to see their loved one and they are in the prep room untouched by the embalmer, do you take a person into the prep room? Have you ever had to do this ?
I appreciate all of the information that you provide to us.😊 May I please ask a question ? My mother-in-law‘s 95 she purchased plan for cremation and burial 25 years ago in California now she’s living with us in Las Vegas , how would I do this ? do I take her policy To a nearby funeral home and see if they will honor it , or do I contact the original funeral home where the pre-Plans were paid and arranged . because she still will be buried in California with her husband. Thank you so much for your time and courtesy concerning this important question. As always with kindness. Lorrie & family
Pick up the body where it may be at Hospital or home and have them do cremation . Then we can take her ashes back to the original funeral home /Memorial park in California and have them placed Her ashes in the grave with her husband.
My mom mentioned wanting us to dig up my cremated step father, creating her, placing both of them in a marble vase she has in her living room & burying them together where he is now (and they're both on the tombstone so I presume they have 2 spots already). We live in west Michigan and this is at Holy Cross & Arsoluwicz - is this something that would be allowed or possible?
It's funny how you said touch Grandma's hand. I used to think one of my aunt's was really weird for touching my grandma in the casket and now I really wish I had held my Grandma's hand in the casket. Thanks for sharing. Love the videos. 🤗🤗
I love how honest you are! What state do you practice in? The only thing different in NY than what you mentioned is about the death certificate. Families do need to use a funeral home to an extent in NY because a funeral director with their license number needs to sign the certificate along with a medical doctor and registrar.
Most NewYorkers are under the assumption that there required to follow the status quo. They don’t know about home visitations there under the assumption they must have everything in a funeral home. Same thing with a death certificate if by chance they wanted to have a “Green funeral”which are more upstate. Not everything is filled out and if the deceased was married the widow must show the marriage certificate. And the doctor who signs the death certificate doesn’t have to be the ER doctor if the deceased died in the emergency room. It can be there own private doctor. Who may sugar coat the cause of death like in my fathers case. He used a fancy term for high blood pressure and he lied about my fathers smoking there was no autopsy even though one was requested. Instead of saying it was declined it was left out. It’s likely that was done because of insurance reasons. Death certificates can cost any where from $10 to $25. New York is a rip off depending on the place you choose it could be $10 thousand and up.
Ridiculous. Fortunately in the UK this is not required and people may act as their own Funeral Director if they so decide and that is becoming increasingly common.
Nice job. Thanks for the information. I go pass spring grove cemetery and they have a funeral home on the property so I can talk to the funeral director and rearrange. And once paid for is that the set price If you live on your own property can you buy law bury your love ones on your property.
I have a question. In some vlogs I see a big cement slab on top of the graves and others don't. What is it, why is it there and why some graves don't have it?
Hi Kari, My name is Ethan, and I’m 16. I recently applied to a local funeral home for a potential internship position, and I got an email back for a face to face interview. Do you have any tips? Also, my mom seems to be okay with it, but my dad, I have a feeling he might not be. How can I convince him should the need arise? Thank you so much, Ethan Nguyen
Thank you for your time in creating such valuable and sensitive information. Are you able to do a video on protocol/info/rights for when you lose a loved one while they are out of the country such as vacation, traveling etc., and what our USA rights are to getting them back home to us without other countries making any arrangements, embalming or cremations etc.. What can we do to have them sent back in one peace for burials? Thank you in advance. 🌻🕊
Thank you kindly for your prompt attention and reply to my inquiry. I look forward to your superb videos with your expertise. Im truly happy I came across your YT. Looking forward to your next video as I will continue to absorb all this valuable information to prepare and be in touch with our loved ones choices and respect their wishes and to help oneself in managing sensitive and difficult times that we endure as part of life. Thank you again for your time, attention and resources you’re bringing to light for me that I had wondered for years and feel blessed I found you. God bless you and your family Ms Kari Northey🥰🌸🦋💗
Hi Kari I love watching your videos I have a question for you for Funeral Home part time and doing the funeral services i’m outside working most the time can you give me advice on saying to the people coming in for the visitation
Thank you for this very informative video. I do have a question. We are both to be cremated after death. Can we choose to have Crematory dispose of ashes? Would they charge more if they do? Thank you!
Hopefully most families do understand that you do provide services that need to be paid for and they will find a funeral home willing to work with them as long as they are honest upfront ....I helped a friend's family ...made a couple payments toward a small balance on the funeral....the director was great.... So people..just be honest and tell the director what you have to work with upfront ! they will help you if they can....thanks
Kari Northey thank you so much. I have one and wondered how it would be handled. Thank you for the amazing education and for removing the stigma about post mortem treatments. I feel much more empowered to make choices in my planning that will give ease to my family.
Kari could you do a video about transporting bodies by plane? Can you include what you know about international transport, what is required for coffin type? I'd also like to know if those very basic pine coffins made by monks are legal for international body transport?
I live in Texas but want to be buried in Massachusetts. My understanding is that embalming isn't necessary or a casket to transport my body back if my body is in a Ziegler case and that I can be buried directly in the Ziegler case. Do I have the right to insist they use a Ziegler case for me?
Can anyone view a person just because they feel like they need to? We lost my aunt in August last year and there was no public viewing my brothers and dad and I along with her son got to view her before she was buried but if my sister in law or anyone just felt like they needed to see her one last time could they have just gone to see her or does it have to be immediate family only?
Yes. We rented a casket for a viewing and found out later we were charged three times the value of the casket. You can buy caskets online or at Walmart, Costco, for about 75 percent off compared to funeral homes. Save thousands
Can you make a video about tissue gas.... My grandpa passed a month ago and when they picked him up from the hospital the funeral home said he had tissue gas and began to be very strict.... Can you explain and go into depth with that for my understanding
I adore how open you are. I asked you a couple questions before. Here's another. Ethics....I don't think it's ethical for a Funeral Home Director, lives directly next door to my parents...mom died...he is the Funeral Home Director in charge of my mom's burial etc. He is not being open with me....closing me out...sister is manipulating everyone so not to have any knowledge/control of what's being done. F.Home Director not being open. Won't give me any general information. Doesn't sound right????
I asked for a list of services provided thus far and a cost list. He was cutting me off before I even finished asking the question, He eventually said Lynn was in charge ...(my sister)..I should say...I first called to request a copy of all information, signed or otherwise regarding my mothers funeral arrangements. He said he didn't know what I was talking about. Of course he did. This Was Wed. and her Viewing ended up being the upcoming Friday. Eventually, he ended up saying he had nothing in writing stating my sis was in charge, my father supposedly told him and that was good enough for him. Dad Found out about mom on Tuesday as well, in the afternoon. Funeral Home was closed. Dad is not cognitively able to think that clearly and have clear sense of time to ask that of him. He had no documentation that said my sis was to be in charge. I don't fight that at all. Just want oversight on The Funeral Home. I don't like not having access to documents when I don't believe there are legit reasons.
What are the rules in regard to a funeral home telling you that you have to pay for the American flag being put on the casket when the deceased has been in the military is this true? It happened to my aunt when my mother helped her through the arangments, my aunt was told that she would have to pay for the American flag being put on the casket.
Question for you: you say you freelance as a funeral director, how do you know how that funeral home operates, or how they do business? Also, do you mostly work in small funeral homes? Eric
Kari Northey OK forgive me how does this work like I said I live in a small community we have two staple funeral homes that are getting 99.9% of the business so no one else is even going to remotely start up shop on Main the one funeral home does probably 15 to 18 services a week and the other one glass but my question to you is is how does that work you just come in so they don’t have to be there what’s the advantage if that makes sense and number two what is a trade embalmers
Hi Kari...excellent video:)......hey legally could a family who had a loved one die at home transport the deceased to the funeral home or does the deceased have to be pronounced first before the body can be moved..ie. Nurse or ems personnel etc...thanks again
I have been doing my research when it comes to my on death some day. I don't want my family to be in the dark about their rights. I plan to be cremated. I don't want a fancy casket or urn. I got a number of price list and I checked out the business demeanor. If they don't feel right to me they're not for my family. My family don't need added stress. Are you sure you don't want to come to Cincinnati.lol.
Do you know if bringing your loved one home is possible in the state of Texas?Do you know if it is possible to bury loved ones in your own land or Yard?Is it against the law to bury a loved one at home?
@@KaritheMortician Wow!!I had no idea.I'm new to your channel.I'm very grateful for all the information.I lost my daughter of 20 years old in May 2017 to Murder.I saw your video about your niece.I felt every word you said.Because I still wonder WHY?The waiting for the release from medical examiner.Wish I knew then what I know now.Thanks a bunch God Bless you
I have thank you, I want to be there for people better than the creep who was at my fathers funeral. He was awful and he still has a job. I think friendly caring people need to have that job. Thanks for the videos
Could you explain how much a simple/standard cremation should be? I know the funeral home has to retrieve the body, cremate the body, and place it in the urn that my family will provide. The service, urn purchase and internment into a columbarium would be handled separately. I really just want to make sure I’m prepared. I also want to ensure my family isn’t taken advantage of. Thank you and God bless!
Kari Northey thank you! Yes this is a large funeral home with an in house crematorium. They have been around 100 years or more (now owned by Dignity). Thank you for getting back to me so quickly. God bless you for all that you do! 🙏🏼
I wonder how much does an average funeral cost tho? I know it may vary depending on the funeral home, but I been hearing funerals can cost over 70,000 dollars
My mom passed in 2012 it cost $12,000. She had a place to be burried so that was taken care of my son passed in 2014 it cost $15,900 we had to purchase a plot to bury him. I'm in Ga. The furnal home we deal with has burried our families since the 1940's he gave us a discount final cost for my son was $15,000.
I have a question about a loved one’s ashes. A friend of mine decided to move out of state after her husband died. He had been cremated. I’m not sure how the subject came up or whatever, but she was told in order to take his ashes she would have to get a special permit, that cost a bundle, to take him with her. If she didn’t she would have to have a transport service take them. Have you ever heard of a law like this? I’ve never heard of it before then. I’m afraid it was the funeral home taking advantage. It was that business who told her of the law and helped her out by getting the permit for her. And taking the money for the permit. We were all quite confused. But she did it because she had to move.
Do i have the right to have any personal items or the box with my cats cremains interred or buried with me? I have been told no on my pets cremains being placed with me either in a casket or interred in an urn with mine.
We had a funeral director here in Minneapolis many years ago tell us that we needed to buy a very expensive vault because Ft Snelling National Cemetery was filled with gophers and they would eat the body if we didn't buy a vault.
Kari Northey yep....most of em ...and I pass on this info....I have 60 first cousins left and as baby boomers we have many funerals ahead so I'll be helpin when I can with this info :)
Kari Northey good morning:) yes it is and quite a few have passed on already....Italian/ Irish...moms side and dads had big families...oldest aunt 103....oldest cousin 83....the majority use the same funeral home and with a lot of trends changing nice to have honest information ...also a lot of us are using pre planning along with different inputs from each other as to what would make more meaningful celebrations of life....shame is I only see a lot of them at funerals now.....thanks)
I feel my mom was ripped off when my dad died. He commited suicide and he wanted to be cremated. They embalmed him, not really a reason to.. He didn't look right either, he looked like he had a beer belly, but he didn't when he was alive. Then they put him on a stainless steel table with no blanket or pillow on or under him, which i found weird..it was uncomfortable for me to see him like that, and i was 16. And it looked like he was smiling/smirking and the director said that he died with a smile thats why. But I don't think hed have a smile, he was dead
He told her that that's what they have to do even if cremated and I don't think she knew any better. And im not sure, we went into the basement of the funeral home and into a little room in the corner, and that's the table they had him on for a viewing for just my mother and my sisters and i
To me it is so impersonal to call it removal makes me feel like that love one is less of a person was told that when my dad passed and was told to dump him in a ditch and we did not continue with that funeral home
Monique Stephens NOPE! You'd need one for a viewing situation but even then you dont HAVE to buy one. You can rent it. Then just buy a cheaper cardboard type casket for the body to go into for the actual cremation. If there's no viewing then you can just do direct cremation. Just need the cardboard thing(sorry idk if theres a technical term) to put the body in.
Oh so just to be clear, the body dpes have to be in a container when it goes into the retort. So i guess its a yes/no answer. A typical casket though is absolutely not required but can be used.
Your peers aren't gonna love this video lol. Doing the right thing takes courage 👏👏👏
We need more directors like Kari !! I would absolutely entrust her to the full care of any of my loved ones....
Thank you so much for this video, very informative. My Dad had a direct cremation and we bought his urn on amazon for $20 the fee from the funeral home for the direct cremation which included the death certificates, permits, transport etc came out to $1200. We had a memorial service at our church and the flowers were bought by my cousin and she told me she got a good deal from Costco for the flowers. The pamphlets that had his info and picture I made and had them printed out at Office Depot for about $30. My nieces and nephews made a beautiful collage with the photos we had. In total, everything came out to about $1260. It was an affordable but dignified and beautiful memorial and we were able to focus the time we had with him being together with our friends and family. We were not worried about finances, in fact my Dad had had paid for the direct cremation fee 2 years before he died. We were able to mourn our loss without having that added burden of how our we going to pay for this funeral
Woooh straight excellent
These are the subjects that are so relevant. A percentage of the public isn't aware of decent funeral directors, such as you are Kari (because the media focuses on the crooked businesses). Thank You... thank you.. as always. You are a blessing.
Kari, as always, thank you for delivering important information in a caring manner. It's nice to know what rights you have upfront. I hope to take care of my final disposition details in advance, to make it easier on the family.
I love watching your channel as well as Caitlin Doughty 's channel, because you two are knowledgeable and very compassionate. Making sure that people have many options available, and they won't be judged by the choices that they ultimately make.
I think it is important to have this information beforehand, as it is much easier, your mind is hopefully clearer, and less emotional.
It's never easy dealing with death, especially, if it's unexpected. So, having this beforehand, to me, is invaluable! Kudos as always !
Thank you so much for being up front about all the rights. I have had a couple bad experiences with the same funeral home. I expected better because my father worked for one of our cut cemeteries for 22 years so he saw these directors every day.
I have never heard you touch on what happens to everything left with or on the body after you finish signing all the paperwork and/or cremation. If you speak on this subject I will then write down my experience.
I can provide an answer if that will help. I have worked in a mortuary for 38 years and I am licensed as a funeral director, embalmer, and crematory manager. At the time a person is removed from the place of death to the mortuary a written inventory of all personal property and items is taken. During the arrangement meeting the funeral director will check the legal next of kin to determine what items are returned to the family, what stays with the decedent, and what is disposed of. It is not uncommon for certain jewelry to stay on and certain clothing to be worn, whereas other items are returned. Right before the casket is closed for the final time and especially before a cremation takes place it is not uncommon for the director to check a second time to verify what items stay and what items are returned.
Your work and willingness to share your knowledge is a huge public service that should not go unnoticed. Thank you for providing your knowledge and experiences to the public for free. You are the type of person that every business owner should be.
Kari, even equipped with all the information. At the time of need. Most or simply to overcome with grief. That's where the Trust in a familiar funeral home comes in. Word of mouth in a small town can make or break a Business. We are Blessed to have many trust worthy funeral homes in my town and surrounding areas. Most funeral directors in my town, were friends with the people they help. But you hear from time to time of shady funeral homes around. They do shade the good ones with trust issues or doubts. Another great video Kair. Thumbs up
Wow; great information and well presented. Thankyou for educating the consumer. Many times in our busy lives we don't think about these things until something happens and we're distraught with emotions. Nicely done!
Our funeral home refused me and my family to view my baby brother 3 times! I WISH I had known of your knowledgeable videos before hand. Thanks to you and other TH-cam morticians I now am writing out my death plan, and encouraging family members to do the same. Thank you for all you do.
Thank you so much, I just lost my mother and this was very helpful information. I feel confident now in the choices I will be making for her service.
You are so helpful. I have come across some of the things that you were staring in this video. It was interesting. When I helped a friend whose husband died and she got Covid so I did some running around for her and was surprised at some of the things that she got changed for. I’m glad I was there for her as she was in no state of mind to do some of the things that were necessary .
Thank you
Good afternoon good to see you again
Hey there!
@@KaritheMortician I like the video that you did with the lady
Very informative video! I have subscribed to your channel and enjoy as well as learn from each and every video! I’m 75 and know your information will be needed one of these days! Thank you so much!
Thank you!
Thank you for this honest, direct information. I have always assumed that things were just a certain way. It is nice to know there are some options available. BTW, the hairstyle looks pretty on you.
Good video on explaining consumer rights, reasonable explanations for services, and legitimate concerns on the part of F-S Professionals.
Where I live in the Northeast, we seldom see wakes/visitations held within a decedent's home. I can only recall being at two, ever. They were part of a large Italian family where old traditions died hard. Both were something out of a Francis Ford Coppola film, surreal yet very loving.
Keep up the excellent work!
This is another video I would love to use in my hospice social work pamphlets for my clients families ...
I have a link of places they can look at , and I am also in Michigan
Kari Thank you have explained everything,I such wish you were here, close to my town, Thanks you Janis, We sure need someone like you for sure, love to you,
Thanks so much!
I remember my grandfather telling me about seeing my aunt after she was killed and saying he'd never forget it now that I work part time in a funeral home and working in a care facility I understand both sides of viewing its important to think what are you looking for or need
Thank you for sharing that!
I greatly appreciate your videos, they’re very informative and honest. Thank you!
Oh I wish I saw this earlier!!!! My beautiful lovely grandmother passed away a few days ago and I could have sent this video to my family members who are taking care of the arrangements.
Kari, not that I'm aware of, otherwise I would have heard by now :) My grandma wished to be cremated and really didn't want us making a huge fuss over her death lol
Thank you... again you have answered many questions and concerns. Would you be willing to do a video or make a list available of things people need to have our consider having for a funeral, etc. I know a person who compared it to a wedding with similar items...Clothing, food for guests, flowers, casket/ urn bearers, readings, music,etc. So many things to think about that we don't realize all that it takes.
I love this channel it’s very informative. I just applied to the funeral service program at the community college and I’m going to be starting my apprenticeship soon I’m so excited!
Thank you!!
Hi Kari, going through your videos I have yet to hear you address 2 topics. 1) Are there laws that stipulate the disposition of cremains? I know of persons who have had their ashes scattered in forests, rivers, lakes and in one instance the family garden. A pastor friend goes to great lengths telling his congregation all of these are illegal in MI. What is the truth? 2) If your relative is active duty military killed in battle can the accompanying military officer deny the family the right to inspect/view the body? There was recently a case of this in the news.
As a consumer is there anything I should consider of the funeral home when purchasing a pre-burial plan? Can I ask them about their solvency? What is the best rule to follow with it? Thanks for your videos and information.
Your so honest, i love that!!
Out of all of your videos, THIS hair style is my favorite. Just thought I would share... :-)
I’m 16 from the uk, this is my dream job and I’m doing everything I can to do it! These videos are a huge insight and help keep doing what your doing! X
Kari Northey no problem is there any tips you can recommended to me?
Incredible video....
Why shouldn't we be well informed as you are doing...We need to be consummers in anything, including our deaths.
Ive learned and keep learning...
So many small towns either have A, B, or C..Heaven forbid we dare offend, despite that being my our relative....
Ive seen the small town family funeral "recommend". Now I know there are choices.
Well Done, as all of them.
For me...I like how Indians did, or they show in movies...Take me and lay me out on platform..Let me be...
Kari, your videos should be copywrited and marketed to funeral homes. Your advice is priceless.🙏🏻❤️
Great information,,so needed for most of us ....
Thank you again for your videos. Also my daughter Zoe wanted me to tell you how much she loves your eye shadow in all your vids 😀
Thank you so much for this wealth of information. Wish I’d known these things before my dad passed… I would’ve done things a bit differently. I appreciate you!!
Really informative, as are all of your videos that I have watched so thank you very much for doing them!
Great information. If a family requests to see their loved one and they are in the prep room untouched by the embalmer, do you take a person into the prep room? Have you ever had to do this ?
Such an informative video! You answered so many questions I had, thank you so much.
I appreciate all of the information that you provide to us.😊 May I please ask a question ? My mother-in-law‘s 95 she purchased plan for cremation and burial 25 years ago in California now she’s living with us in Las Vegas , how would I do this ? do I take her policy To a nearby funeral home and see if they will honor it , or do I contact the original funeral home where the pre-Plans were paid and arranged . because she still will be buried in California with her husband. Thank you so much for your time and courtesy concerning this important question. As always with kindness. Lorrie & family
Pick up the body where it may be at Hospital or home and have them do cremation . Then we can take her ashes back to the original funeral home /Memorial park in California and have them placed Her ashes in the grave with her husband.
Hnnmm I didn't know you can get a price list without giving them information good to know
If you take the body home for a viewing what about refrigeration. How long can the body be unrefridgerated ?
There is no time limit
My mom mentioned wanting us to dig up my cremated step father, creating her, placing both of them in a marble vase she has in her living room & burying them together where he is now (and they're both on the tombstone so I presume they have 2 spots already). We live in west Michigan and this is at Holy Cross & Arsoluwicz - is this something that would be allowed or possible?
It's funny how you said touch Grandma's hand. I used to think one of my aunt's was really weird for touching my grandma in the casket and now I really wish I had held my Grandma's hand in the casket. Thanks for sharing. Love the videos.
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I love how honest you are! What state do you practice in? The only thing different in NY than what you mentioned is about the death certificate. Families do need to use a funeral home to an extent in NY because a funeral director with their license number needs to sign the certificate along with a medical doctor and registrar.
Little Miss Funeral ... Michigan
Most NewYorkers are under the assumption that there required to follow the status quo. They don’t know about home visitations there under the assumption they must have everything in a funeral home. Same thing with a death certificate if by chance they wanted to have a “Green funeral”which are more upstate. Not everything is filled out and if the deceased was married the widow must show the marriage certificate. And the doctor who signs the death certificate doesn’t have to be the ER doctor if the deceased died in the emergency room. It can be there own private doctor. Who may sugar coat the cause of death like in my fathers case. He used a fancy term for high blood pressure and he lied about my fathers smoking there was no autopsy even though one was requested. Instead of saying it was declined it was left out. It’s likely that was done because of insurance reasons. Death certificates can cost any where from $10 to $25. New York is a rip off depending on the place you choose it could be $10 thousand and up.
Kari Northey I know! Could we do a comparison video per our states maybe? Or a day in our lives? I want to do something!
That would be fun!
Ridiculous. Fortunately in the UK this is not required and people may act as their own Funeral Director if they so decide and that is becoming increasingly common.
Good informative video, Kari!
Nice job. Thanks for the information. I go pass spring grove cemetery and they have a funeral home on the property so I can talk to the funeral director and rearrange.
And once paid for is that the set price
If you live on your own property can you buy law bury your love ones on your property.
Who do i contact in KY to get the information you are talking about in this video! Regarding embalming and casket and refrigeration. Please help!
You can call any funeral home or the state board.
HI KARI,HAPPY EASTER TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.I HAVE A QUESTION,IF YOU WERNT IN THE DEATH CARE INDUSTRERY. WHATS DO YOU THINK YOU WOULD BE DOING?
Kari which funeral home did you visit here in Cincinnati?
Thank you! For stating that embalming isn't mandatory by law
I have a question. In some vlogs I see a big cement slab on top of the graves and others don't. What is it, why is it there and why some graves don't have it?
Hi Kari,
My name is Ethan, and I’m 16. I recently applied to a local funeral home for a potential internship position, and I got an email back for a face to face interview. Do you have any tips? Also, my mom seems to be okay with it, but my dad, I have a feeling he might not be. How can I convince him should the need arise?
Thank you so much,
Ethan Nguyen
This statement is fear driven, without proper reasoning and research. Thank you Kari❤️
you are welcome
Thank you for your time in creating such valuable and sensitive information.
Are you able to do a video on protocol/info/rights for when you lose a loved one while they are out of the country such as vacation, traveling etc., and what our USA rights are to getting them back home to us without other countries making any arrangements, embalming or cremations etc.. What can we do to have them sent back in one peace for burials? Thank you in advance. 🌻🕊
I will be doing a video about repatriation but it is different with every country so it is hard to cover it all.
Thank you kindly for your prompt attention and reply to my inquiry. I look forward to your superb videos with your expertise. Im truly happy I came across your YT.
Looking forward to your next video as I will continue to absorb all this valuable information to prepare and be in touch with our loved ones choices and respect their wishes and to help oneself in managing sensitive and difficult times that we endure as part of life. Thank you again for your time, attention and resources you’re bringing to light for me that I had wondered for years and feel blessed I found you.
God bless you and your family Ms Kari Northey🥰🌸🦋💗
Thank you for the information you put out
Hi Kari I love watching your videos I have a question for you for Funeral Home part time and doing the funeral services i’m outside working most the time can you give me advice on saying to the people coming in for the visitation
Thank you for this very informative video. I do have a question. We are both to be cremated after death. Can we choose to have Crematory dispose of ashes? Would they charge more if they do? Thank you!
Some will not because of the legal backlash. You may find a place that does a scattering service though.
Great video
Hopefully most families do understand that you do provide services that need to be paid for and they will find a funeral home willing to work with them as long as they are honest upfront ....I helped a friend's family ...made a couple payments toward a small balance on the funeral....the director was great.... So people..just be honest and tell the director what you have to work with upfront ! they will help you if they can....thanks
Kari Northey you are correct:) thanks....that's why your advice on pre planning excellent:) I have it set up so my costs won't be a burden to no one:)
Kari, I’m wondering what is done for a person with an ostomy during embalming to prevent leakage?
Kari Northey thank you so much. I have one and wondered how it would be handled. Thank you for the amazing education and for removing the stigma about post mortem treatments. I feel much more empowered to make choices in my planning that will give ease to my family.
Kari could you do a video about transporting bodies by plane? Can you include what you know about international transport, what is required for coffin type? I'd also like to know if those very basic pine coffins made by monks are legal for international body transport?
Yes I can!
I was allowed to see my mother after signing the paper. But we was denied seeing Dad at Herald Stewart & Halsey funeral home.
Why did they tell you that you couldn’t see your Dad? Was he disfigured during death?
sis this like always is great news
I live in Texas but want to be buried in Massachusetts. My understanding is that embalming isn't necessary or a casket to transport my body back if my body is in a Ziegler case and that I can be buried directly in the Ziegler case. Do I have the right to insist they use a Ziegler case for me?
It depends on the laws and religious beliefs.
You are a very honest person
Can anyone view a person just because they feel like they need to? We lost my aunt in August last year and there was no public viewing my brothers and dad and I along with her son got to view her before she was buried but if my sister in law or anyone just felt like they needed to see her one last time could they have just gone to see her or does it have to be immediate family only?
Is it possible to rent a casket? I read somewhere that funeral homes don’t bring it up but you are entitled to rent a casket. So is this true?
Yes. We rented a casket for a viewing and found out later we were charged three times the value of the casket. You can buy caskets online or at Walmart, Costco, for about 75 percent off compared to funeral homes. Save thousands
Can you make a video about tissue gas.... My grandpa passed a month ago and when they picked him up from the hospital the funeral home said he had tissue gas and began to be very strict.... Can you explain and go into depth with that for my understanding
I adore how open you are. I asked you a couple questions before. Here's another. Ethics....I don't think it's ethical for a Funeral Home Director, lives directly next door to my parents...mom died...he is the Funeral Home Director in charge of my mom's burial etc. He is not being open with me....closing me out...sister is manipulating everyone so not to have any knowledge/control of what's being done. F.Home Director not being open. Won't give me any general information. Doesn't sound right????
Also, I don't think he should have been this close to my mom's deceased body considering they were neighbors. Just doesn't feel right to me.
I asked for a list of services provided thus far and a cost list. He was cutting me off before I even finished asking the question, He eventually said Lynn was in charge ...(my sister)..I should say...I first called to request a copy of all information, signed or otherwise regarding my mothers funeral arrangements. He said he didn't know what I was talking about. Of course he did. This Was Wed. and her Viewing ended up being the upcoming Friday. Eventually, he ended up saying he had nothing in writing stating my sis was in charge, my father supposedly told him and that was good enough for him. Dad Found out about mom on Tuesday as well, in the afternoon. Funeral Home was closed. Dad is not cognitively able to think that clearly and have clear sense of time to ask that of him. He had no documentation that said my sis was to be in charge. I don't fight that at all. Just want oversight on The Funeral Home. I don't like not having access to documents when I don't believe there are legit reasons.
Thanks for clarifying things. That's all I was needing from the beginning. :) Your videos are very helpful. Thanks for being so open and helpful.
What are the rules in regard to a funeral home telling you that you have to pay for the American flag being put on the casket when the deceased has been in the military is this true? It happened to my aunt when my mother helped her through the arangments, my aunt was told that she would have to pay for the American flag being put on the casket.
Question for you: you say you freelance as a funeral director, how do you know how that funeral home operates, or how they do business?
Also, do you mostly work in small funeral homes?
Eric
Kari Northey OK forgive me how does this work like I said I live in a small community we have two staple funeral homes that are getting 99.9% of the business so no one else is even going to remotely start up shop on Main the one funeral home does probably 15 to 18 services a week and the other one glass but my question to you is is how does that work you just come in so they don’t have to be there what’s the advantage if that makes sense and number two what is a trade embalmers
Hi Kari...excellent video:)......hey legally could a family who had a loved one die at home transport the deceased to the funeral home or does the deceased have to be pronounced first before the body can be moved..ie. Nurse or ems personnel etc...thanks again
Kari Northey thank you...
do you have a Crematorium?
Very informative thank you
Awesome
Thank you!
Great video Kari! Very educational. I didn’t know you can bring a loved one home for a funeral. Is this an option here in West Michigan?
Kari Northey : Oh yes! I forgot. My memory is not that great. I remember now. Sorry about your niece.
I have been doing my research when it comes to my on death some day. I don't want my family to be in the dark about their rights. I plan to be cremated. I don't want a fancy casket or urn. I got a number of price list and I checked out the business demeanor. If they don't feel right to me they're not for my family. My family don't need added stress. Are you sure you don't want to come to Cincinnati.lol.
Kari when it comes to a person's rights can you request to be cared for by a female funeral director. Cheers Craig
Do you know if bringing your loved one home is possible in the state of Texas?Do you know if it is possible to bury loved ones in your own land or Yard?Is it against the law to bury a loved one at home?
@@KaritheMortician Wow!!I had no idea.I'm new to your channel.I'm very grateful for all the information.I lost my daughter of 20 years old in May 2017 to Murder.I saw your video about your niece.I felt every word you said.Because I still wonder WHY?The waiting for the release from medical examiner.Wish I knew then what I know now.Thanks a bunch God Bless you
What tips do you have for someone (First time ) who would like to be hired as a funeral home greeter/hostess?
I have thank you, I want to be there for people better than the creep who was at my fathers funeral. He was awful and he still has a job. I think friendly caring people need to have that job. Thanks for the videos
Could you explain how much a simple/standard cremation should be? I know the funeral home has to retrieve the body, cremate the body, and place it in the urn that my family will provide. The service, urn purchase and internment into a columbarium would be handled separately. I really just want to make sure I’m prepared. I also want to ensure my family isn’t taken advantage of. Thank you and God bless!
Kari Northey thank you! Yes this is a large funeral home with an in house crematorium. They have been around 100 years or more (now owned by Dignity). Thank you for getting back to me so quickly. God bless you for all that you do! 🙏🏼
THANKS YOU GOODNESS 🌟❤️🖤💚🤎 FAMILY DAPHNE COTTON ALWAYS 💜,
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I wonder how much does an average funeral cost tho? I know it may vary depending on the funeral home, but I been hearing funerals can cost over 70,000 dollars
Mike Crews hi...my brothers was full traditional with ground burial...$9500.00 ...you can go well under that depending on your preferences....
My mom passed in 2012 it cost $12,000. She had a place to be burried so that was taken care of my son passed in 2014 it cost $15,900 we had to purchase a plot to bury him. I'm in Ga. The furnal home we deal with has burried our families since the 1940's he gave us a discount final cost for my son was $15,000.
Do they generally have a value menu?
Sorry, I just couldn't help myself =p
I have a question about a loved one’s ashes. A friend of mine decided to move out of state after her husband died. He had been cremated. I’m not sure how the subject came up or whatever, but she was told in order to take his ashes she would have to get a special permit, that cost a bundle, to take him with her. If she didn’t she would have to have a transport service take them. Have you ever heard of a law like this? I’ve never heard of it before then. I’m afraid it was the funeral home taking advantage. It was that business who told her of the law and helped her out by getting the permit for her. And taking the money for the permit. We were all quite confused. But she did it because she had to move.
Do i have the right to have any personal items or the box with my cats cremains interred or buried with me? I have been told no on my pets cremains being placed with me either in a casket or interred in an urn with mine.
We had a funeral director here in Minneapolis many years ago tell us that we needed to buy a very expensive vault because Ft Snelling National Cemetery was filled with gophers and they would eat the body if we didn't buy a vault.
lol oh my
Hi Kari....now I've seen everything:)
Kari Northey yep....most of em ...and I pass on this info....I have 60 first cousins left and as baby boomers we have many funerals ahead so I'll be helpin when I can with this info :)
Kari Northey good morning:) yes it is and quite a few have passed on already....Italian/ Irish...moms side and dads had big families...oldest aunt 103....oldest cousin 83....the majority use the same funeral home and with a lot of trends changing nice to have honest information ...also a lot of us are using pre planning along with different inputs from each other as to what would make more meaningful celebrations of life....shame is I only see a lot of them at funerals now.....thanks)
Kari Northey a joyful and blessed Easter to you and your family +
I feel my mom was ripped off when my dad died. He commited suicide and he wanted to be cremated. They embalmed him, not really a reason to.. He didn't look right either, he looked like he had a beer belly, but he didn't when he was alive. Then they put him on a stainless steel table with no blanket or pillow on or under him, which i found weird..it was uncomfortable for me to see him like that, and i was 16. And it looked like he was smiling/smirking and the director said that he died with a smile thats why. But I don't think hed have a smile, he was dead
He told her that that's what they have to do even if cremated and I don't think she knew any better. And im not sure, we went into the basement of the funeral home and into a little room in the corner, and that's the table they had him on for a viewing for just my mother and my sisters and i
To me it is so impersonal to call it removal makes me feel like that love one is less of a person was told that when my dad passed and was told to dump him in a ditch and we did not continue with that funeral home
WV has GPL if someone wants it
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You do such a great job, answering questions and helping people in a very hard time in their lives.
Kari... Now new videos in a while. Your fans miss you!
Kari Northey sorry to hear. Feel better!!
No price list herw tgey work with your budget ok
THere has to be a price list
I am scared! They may take advantage of me.
Just know your rights and have a price list before you do anything
They know how to make money at most homes here
Its a business which needs to make money to continue
Can you go into the funeral home amd dress and casket your loved one by yourself without the funeral director
Where were you when my grandma passed away
Not to compare the Funeral Home to McDonald's LOL oh I'm dead looool
I just started watching and have to say you have a nice haircut.
I vote yes on a collab with little miss funeral :-)
Is a casket required for cremation??
Monique Stephens NOPE! You'd need one for a viewing situation but even then you dont HAVE to buy one. You can rent it. Then just buy a cheaper cardboard type casket for the body to go into for the actual cremation. If there's no viewing then you can just do direct cremation. Just need the cardboard thing(sorry idk if theres a technical term) to put the body in.
Oh so just to be clear, the body dpes have to be in a container when it goes into the retort. So i guess its a yes/no answer. A typical casket though is absolutely not required but can be used.
Monique Stephens she answered that question. Pay attention please.
Why do you need a vault?