I'm on sobriety day 395 and I'll tell you, the title of this video really struck me today, because the truth is even a year after quitting alcohol, temptation will find its way into your day in clever ways. Even though I've completely transformed my body in the last year (lost 60 pounds of fat and gained 30 pounds of muscle), eat well and never slept better, sometimes the grass is, for some reason, greener on the other side. But THEN I think of how many days of my life have been DRAMA FREE, how my heart pains no longer wake me up in the middle of the night and how I feel like I'm in my 20's again in the gym - and everyone of those 395 has been WORTH IT. The journey's WORTH IT, folks.
Proud of you. I'm in my early weeks of sobriety but I can relate with smoking cigarettes. Smoking a pack a day since 16 and after 16 years..I quit...for 8 years..then i had one cigarette...2 days later.. back to smoking a pack a day.
One thing that helps is truly understanding how alcohol effects the brain and body. Reading "this naked mind" " Alcohol explained" and listening to huberman lab podcast on Alcohol solidified its not doing me any favors 😉
Be strong brother do not look back-try this, write down on a piece of paper or a journal, all the good that came of alcohol and partying then in a separate column write down all the bad that came out of alcohol-I think you’ll find the negative will always outweigh the positive when it comes to alcohol consumption…god bless you brother 🙏
I don't like to be told I can't do something. Even if I'm the one saying it. What has helped relieve some pressure from "I'm never drinking or doing drugs again" for me is I tell myself, "Not today. I may drink again one day, but today is not the day." Yesterday was my 4 year mark since I've had drugs or alcohol. Having to quit every day and one day at a time is cliche, yet it can be powerful, too. I don't have to remind myself every day anymore, but when I get the urge, I tell myself, "Not today." Today is not the day. Will that day come eventually? Maybe. But today is not the day.
Alcohol is so normalized that you are seen as an outcast when you don't drink. I am on day 30 today of sobriety, looking forward to the next milestone of day 366🙌
You’re a good speaker. You must prepare a lot. I just bought a T-shirt that says across the chest, “NOT TODAY, Satan.” Almost as if you sent it to me .
Brothers & sisters when this gentleman quoted we learn these toxic behaviors from the world-I wanted to share that 8 years ago I made a conscious decision to remove myself from this world, I am no longer spending my precious time in bars or with loser friends putting powder up my nose or popping pills, in retrospect alcohol and drugs never added to my life & quite honestly it robbed me and my family of years and years of what could’ve been quality, family time-my family was so dysfunctional because of drugs and alcohol, my only regret is that I didn’t stop in my earlier years-now I focus on what this awesome TH-cam channel pushes, good health and a healthy mindset and self improvement-this gentleman is doing Gods work amen & Godbless you brother 🙏
I’m 69 days alcohol free!! I’m a 69 year old woman, 1 month away from my 70th birthday … thank you so much , Jae, for your awesome videos, I was a red wine drinker ( approx 3 glasses a day, sometimes a lot more for 25 years) I can’t tell you how much you’ve inspired me, & so many things have improved already in my life. Thank you again❤
I drink to get away from the emptiness in my life when I’m not at work, distracted. Even just one week off shows me just how simple my life actually is. But it’s also boring and that emptiness can be terrifying to face. But it’s my responsibility to face that and to find ways to fill that time that make me grateful for the day (instead of trying to end it by checking out and going to la la land until I pass out for the night) Drinking makes life more complicated than it needs to be. Day 1… again
@@GettingSoberAgain I needed to hear that, thank you Jae. That’s the message that’s been missing in my social circles-work harder at this. Grateful for the general compassion from friends and family. But shifting the focus to my level of effort is what I need most right now
I'm 71 years old and almost 3 weeks sober after decades of drinking. I'm looking forward to saying I'm a month sober. I went to an afternoon "geezer" jam yesterday. It was a test because I always drink at these events. These guys aren't bad influences they don't drink they just love playing music. I'm the one convinced that I have to drink to calm myself and find energy. I was okay and I'm learning to except my nervous nature and elderly (yuk, I hate that word) aches and pains. This video hit all the right notes. I'm doing 5 minute, low impact stretching everyday and my legs feel more energetic. I'm learning how to embrace my sobriety; love it actually. I know this is the honeymoon period and I'm preparing not to embrace the drunk...again. Good luck all and stay the course.
I was FREE and happy for 30 days but I was weak and I tried a few beers ….. the rest is history. Trying again because I feel miserable and I get stupid again while blacked out specially with my great wife that somehow she still love s me after 17 years together. She told me that I am a WONDERFUL MAN without alcohol. Day 4 today and I hope this will be forever but I am so afraid about getting back to it again and again. I am tired of being tired
I hear you. I was so happy for 30 days, and then decided it would be ok to drink while on vacation. It wasn’t! My sweet husband carried my belligerent drunk self home. Im finding it much easier to be sober…again.
It’ll be 1 year sober for me on March 11 and your videos have helped me along the way . I go back and rewatch some for certain things and enjoy the new ones as well . Thank you for keeping it real .
I want to drink so I slow down, stop running around doing chores and eventually sit on the couch. Without feeling “bad” about sitting still and resting. But it takes A LOT OF ALCOHOL to get me there so....that’s why I follow this channel.
@@GettingSoberAgain Do you create all your own content? Do you have any help? Whatever your formula is, including your personal delivery style, it’s working very well.
Another great video Jae, thank you. Loads of great comments on here so far, truly inspiring people who are working hard everyday. I am 118 days sober today 😊
My old Aunt Bess, who was a drinker, always said that in the bar you don’t have friends, the people you associate with are cronies. It’s a subtle distinction but it was found to be true by a friend of mine who went to the bar his dad drank in to tell his drinking associates that the father had died. He gave them the details of the funeral, but not one showed up. I suppose that is what my old aunt was getting at. So Mark look around your circle and think who here would show up for my funeral. Good luck. 😂😂😂
"None of us want to push the button of social alienation that will lead us to making this major lifestyle change" Take the leap of faith. Everyone who is successful at anything has to step out of their comfort zone. We all KNOW what the move is, but remain paralyzed by the anxiety of the unknown. I actually ha e a video about this topic from a few years ago: "SOBRIETY AND THE GREAT UNKNOWN" th-cam.com/video/1xGpqo-7bV4/w-d-xo.htmlsi=u57QOVkvCM02HcEB
@@patrickwalker-nolan7617 you're correct. They, along with myself, were all part of that group of cronies. However, I made the decision to leave two days ago, and I have no intention of returning. I'm committed to making significant changes now, If I don't, continuing along the same old path will inevitably lead to stagnation.
Drinking has been intwined with the human experience. Thousands of years, in every culture and time period. It has been used to mark rites of passage and in ceremonial rituals as long as humans have lived together in groups before modernity. Thats insane when you think about it. It’s become inescapable. That’s why I am so proud of people who decide to quit and do so in a world where it’s part of our shared experiences.
Day 74 today almost to 100!!! I’ve had some moments where the let’s go have a smoke and a drink…. Ann’s I’m like what?!?!? That’s a crazy thought! But I haven’t done it Let’s goooooo all you amazing people! 🎉
Thoughts are only thoughts, we have thousands of them every day, but remember you definitely do not have to act on them. They always pass. Keep it going, you are doing great!
Look, everybody who wants to see another video from Jae needs to support his channel. Jae is a genuine dude, yeah, he sells merch, but he also dedicates a lot of his time to the videos. If you've been following him he's been in and out the last year+. Put yourself in his shoes, he got sober, his life is better, why should he keep posting? He has a life and I am sure is very busy. Give him incentive. Buy some merch, help him justify spreading the word. Think of all the people who need to hear this. For the record this man doesn't know me from Adam. He just helped me get back on track. And yeah, I have my "dot..dot...dot" mug. Help the man out yeah?!
lol thanks! technically I don't SELL merch, I have merch for sale. One of the best ways to support the channel is through Patreon, because you get. a FREE mug. but in the spirit of not selling, I won't even post the link 😉 honestly, I kinda gave up on asking for support because it kind of hurts my heart to be let down. the channel maybe nets about 2-3 supporters a month 🤷 oh well! THE MISSION CONTINUES (To help people get sober, be sober and stay sober...one video at a time) The best way to honestly support the channel is to spread the word in other sobriety communities and in online forums, blogs and other websites 💜
I feel like for even a casual drinker, "just one drink" is a total throw away line. Its like saying "only a little bit of chocolate" or "only one episode"...its ridiculous. We all know that whole chocolate bar will be gone and a whole season of episodes will be watched before the end of the night. Very similar to the whole 6 pack being drank or the whole wine bottle being empty by midnight. Interestingly enough all those things listed lower the strength of the frontal cortex in your brain. I work in bars with my music performances and i get offered a drink regularly from friends, fans, or patrons of the venue. The best thing to say is "Thank you for offering but Im trying to lose my beer belly." ... No joke used that line tonight with some friends that came out to see me play. They didnt pressure me to drink or anything crazy like that. They're good people too. Only a turd would want to force alcohol on someone.
I have been sober for 1 year and half, and I am visiting my wifes aunt who quit drinking 6 months ago I just found it. She never drank as much as I did, and when I ask her why she quit drinking she said I just no longer saw any value in it. One drink eould mske her feel sluggish so why bother. You dont have to have a drinking problem to learn thst alcohol has no good use! Sobriety is the best buzz I've had in 30 years!
Thanks Jae...Today I play a garage/pool Canada Day party here in Canada. I'm on day 34. Last year I played this event in 95 degree heat and I started drinking an hour before and by the end of the first set I was in trouble with alcohol and heat exhaustion. It's the first time and the closest I ever came to falling down in front of an audience. I chilled and made it through. This year I WILL...be sober. I admit I was thinking of taking the easy way out but I have tools, I have Jae and these videos and determination. The bad choice voice is much weaker and quieter now so I WILL prevail today...Day 35 Will be mine.
Heat is nothing to play around with. just because other people will be making unwise decisions, doesn't mean anyone should follow them by example. There's no better feeling than being your best, being rested, hydrated and fully present with NO setbacks and NO self sabotage! Happy day 34!!!
I'm 16 months sober and watching your videos reinforces this decision as my lifelong best. Had I watched these videos 16 months ago I would have been annoyed and turned off by them. Now I watch them with gratitude, confidence, humility, self trust, and confirmation. Thank you for making these videos. I've noticed how much my own sobriety is positively influencing those around me. I'm blessed beyond words... This the happiest time in my life because this is the happiest I've ever been with myself...
357 days sober I feel proud of myself because after so many attempts here I am now to celebrate one year thanks to God and to you I learned a lot from your video thanks brother
55 days sober today! I used to go to a lot of punk and hardcore shows in my teens and early 20s. There was always a group of Straight Edge kids at those shows and I never understood why they chose that lifestyle. When I was underage, I dreamed about the day I could be old enough to crush PBR tallboys at a show and crowd surf without fear. Fast forward to today, I realized that those Straight Edge kids knew where it was at, either because of their own issues or because of the trauma they endured from other people's addictions. Next month I'm going to a show and this time I'll be sober, I guess now I'm one of those Straight Edge kids. Funny how things change.
That one used to kick my ass. I'd get a few bucks and find myself down at the bus station on Central looking crazy. Life is so much better 6 years and 5 months today clean. The fact that I'm actually happy now is a miracle. Thanks brother
Because it’s permanently engrained in our subconscious minds. The book ‘Alcohol Explained’ goes into great detail on how our brain reacts to alcohol. A total game changer for me. Helped me more than rehab.
Thankyou Sir for posting yet again another motivating video. Watching your videos has helped me stay on the path of sobriety for 2 weeks now. Your wisdom is clear in abundance and you always seems to hit the nail on the head. Looking forward to your next videos and exploring many other resources you list in the content section.
My family handed me a beer when I was 7 years old...50 years later and I wonder what the hell they were thinking...thank you Jae for opening my eyes...again ❤😊
Wow really??! I originally intended to produce this video before I moved. But I'm glad that I sat on it for a while and thought of more things to say and took my time with it. My personal motto is "it's gonna take as long as it's gonna take". How you do anything is how you do everything. Maintain high standards!
Yes, the messaging is everywhere. Here's another: Since work-from-home began (and is now permanent), I also noticed positive references to alcohol aren't limited to the commercials. They're embedded right into the programming. Daytime TV hosts - both talk and game shows - regularly bring up alcohol in a joking but positive context. Mimosas and wine seem to be favorite references. To me this encourages day drinking! Especially when someone talks about how they could "go for one now."
Hey Jae, FIFTEEN WEEKS today🎉🎉. Just a few days away from my longest dry streak(107), and i’ve no intention of breaking this one just yet. Great run today, 1st one after my infection last week, it was cold, wet & muddy but felt amazing. Being Sober…again is getting better & better every day, it’s like a superpower. Thankyou for another great video, I look forward to them every week.
Knowing that I am worth more than someone can make me feel stops me from drowning my hurt feelings in alcohol. Old habits want to rear their ugly heads, but it's good when you pause and realize drinking doesn't solve problems. I am worth more!
52 days today for me. I still struggle with anxiety occasionally, today especially, but overall things are going much better. I’m in a much better place mentally and physically. The longer I go, the more dreadful the idea of returning to my old ways feels.
I don’t watch every video posted from this channel but gain something every time I check in. The societal pressure (you’re weird if you don’t drink) and the rationalization of drinking when we all know it’s a toxin are probably the best takeaways for me. 104 days sober.
Thanks for another great video, Jae! I've been finding it difficult to go totally sober. I really, really want to but keep falling off the wagon. It’s proving too difficult at this time because I've been drinking so much for an extended period of time. Instead I'm focusing on increasing the number of days between drinks and decreasing the amount I drink when I do. I've also changed what I'm drinking. Instead of craft beer (which has become the "staple"), I've shifted to pinot noir red wine, which I have a lot more "control" over and can stop at one or two glasses. I did that because upon reflection I realised that I DID have limits. Spirits were a hard no (I never drink them). Red wine was a "very rarely" or "winter" drink and I typically would have no more than half a bottle at a time because of the tannins. Now, I'm finding it easier to get to day 4 and day 5, instead of falling off at day 2. Hopefully I'll be able to push it back to day 6 or 7, or longer, next. The plan is to keep pushing the envelope until I can fully step out of the cycle and have a solid 30, 60 or 90 days of sobriety. So far, this approach is helping me to feel a lot more in control. It's pretty much inspired by your "no judgement" and "Asterix" suggests-so thanks for that. It's working for now as a way to cut down and cut back. Hopefully with the re-introduction of healthier habits that I've lost when alcohol took over, it will be a smoother transition. Before I picked up drinking excessively in my late 30s, I was in no way a problem drinker. I only drank socially and could count on one hand the number of times in a year that I would have alcohol. So I guess it’s just one step at a time.... Thanks again for being such a positive influence!
@@jeffreyjohnmann thank you! I picked up drinking after an extremely difficult period of my life. I was a victim of a crime and it was a way to stop the feelings of doom that came with the PTSD that developed. Alcohol was a coping mechanism, but I want my life back.
You'll get there when you're ready, and practicing until you do. Just keep that fire burning inside of you to do more and to BE more. You are not powerless. And I believe that you WILL string together your first 30 days by April 1 💜
@@GettingSoberAgain thanks Jae! That’s a great affirmation. I’d be thrilled if I could get my drinking down to where it used to be… on my birthday, New Year’s Eve, and the odd occasion when I’d go out for dinner. It was never this “let’s get black out drunk” or binge drink three or four times a week because I wasn’t coping with my life (and then couldn’t get through the withdrawals), kind of thing. The no judgement approach was a good thing to hear. And my closest friends have reminded me to not be hard on myself for what I’ve used to get through this time in my life. PTSD is a horrible thing to live with. Alcoholism certainly doesn’t help. But your videos have given me a framework that I can work with and in such a positive manner. Because of what I’ve been through, I didn’t feel safe going to group supports in person like AA. This has been a way to pause and reflect from the privacy of my own home, without that kind of confronting experience, which would have helped nothing.
@@GettingSoberAgain I’d really like it if that 30 days could be something that I feel I could relax into, like exhaling, rather than being a struggle. I think this approach of cutting down and cutting back allows me to go with a more natural flow, than a strict plan of “I’ll have one less drink today, then two less the next”. I don’t think my drinking habits really work like that. So reflecting upon my habits, what led to them, and finding the line of my LIMITS then working with that has been a good, solid step in the right direction for me. I understand that a lot of people don’t have limits, at least not in the same way I do, where they’re repulsed by certain types of alcohol. But maybe they do if they reframe it that way? Asking yourself “where do I say no, or where do I want less” could be a good starting place (and maybe the topic of another video?? Ha ha)
i can't reall explain it but I know for a fact that this man has a gift when he speaks in these videos. I'm curious to know if it has always been that way.
Watching this on my who knows attempt to get sober. A couple years ago i had over a year of sobriety, felt great. Then made the mistake to drink and here i am - overweight, unhappy, unhealthy...and trying to get sober...again
@@skyleec6733 well you're in the right place! Don't forget, a video a day keeps the cravings away! Click here to watch our NEWEST videos on sobriety! th-cam.com/play/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt.html
Thank you for the video. I an close to six months sober, not doing the math right now. When I watch your videos, it seems like everything I am striving to better myself, day by day, is worth it. Thank you for the support. Have a great day.
For me, it was circumstantial in a couple ways: at 1st in late teens it felt different in a more interesting way than I normally felt so it broke the boredom of always feeling the same (good/natural) way ALL the time. But then later I used it to "recover" from the bad feelings of bad stuff happening & stress! And LATER I'd use it to CELEBRATE feeling great & healthy, but not bad/sick believe it or not 🙃!
This is a great video, 100 percent true and factual. The thing that makes me think of drinking is the old idea that it will improve how i feel. But i know it wont, and with time that old idea might go away
Yeah it originates in ancient alchemy and some cultures considered alcohol pure spirit itself to transmute the spirit within elements - something like that. Eventually also the various effects on spirit in living creatures, humans especially - the obvious psychological and physicals effects of drinking certainly transform someone pretty significantly over time - might even seem possessed when blacked out intoxicated and possibly acting anti-social.
What has helped me a lot on this alcohol-free journey was looking honestly and critically at my beliefs about drinking. As long as I kept believing that booze was good for me in some way (like it helped me relax, or it made me more fun, etc) then I struggled with all these back & forth thoughts in my head when I tried to cut back or stop. BUT as soon as I looked at those beliefs and challenged them (OK does drinking REALLY make me more fun? Maybe for 20 minutes but then I start getting stressed out and I need another drink to feel better. Then I end up really fucking drunk and my thoughts are foggy and I start stupid arguments and I spend way too much money and so many other negative things happen to me!) As soon as I challenged those old false beliefs of mine it changed everything and it got a lot easier to make progress. I am 177 days sober today, it feels pretty damn good. I'm so grateful for all the beautiful and inspirational friends I find here. We can do this, let's keep trying together.
I've been drinking since 2010 and my wife within the past few years mentioned how she's noticing I'm drinking more and can't control it (I noticed this too and agreed). Finally decided two Sundays ago (when my 49ers lost) that I was ready to take back control of my own life. I've been sober since and even though it is early on I have no cravings nor fears of not drinking. Literally the first day of sobriety your channel popped up on the sidebar even though I didn't search for sober topics and I've been binging your channel since. Thank you so much for the help man, I seriously get so pumped being sober whenever I watch your stuff. Keep at it!
These videos have been a huge help to me as I leave alcohol behind. I watch one in the morning and I like to listen to the audio in the car on the way home after work, they help keep my mind pointing in the right direction LOL! I was rooting for SF too, I'm sorry they lost. Keep going, stick with it, you are doing great!
10 days alchool free, i've quitted immediately after quitting smoking, now i started going back to the gym. I feel much better, no cravings,even though people still do it around me. I hope I'm free
I recommend everyone reads “This naked mind” by Annie Grace, it’s not some magical cure but it quotes tremendous amounts of research about alcohol, specifically about why the reasons we drink aren’t actually real. It demonstrates how alcohol doesn’t help you relax, or have fun in social situations etcetera. Anyways great video, 6 weeks sober here and your videos are always a great reminder to keep going!
Shout-out to Annie Grace! Thanks for staying up on our videos! New one out today btw 😉 Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes! th-cam.com/play/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt.html
You can be overwhelmed and deathly scared also by success. Is it real, will it last, was i cheating and they will soon catch me and i will fall? Can i manage this pace of work and for how long? Do i enjoy being successful, being in the center? No i'm not, or do i?... Well, i am sooo successful and strong, i can drink differently this time, let us show them, last's grab a drink.... again.... i am just soooooo scared, that is all, that is why i drink again. Out of fear about everything. I really love your way of presenting the information, i was lucky to run across your chanel yesterday, right in time. Thank you🙏
Gets scary when all the gut/liver/pancreas/overall dehydration stress of drinking turns into serious disabling lower back problem -- physical injury literally from poison alone, very possible. It's even scarier when someone gets to this point and still wants to drink, knowing their condition improved (doctor confirmed) with a month+ of sobriety. Perhaps a binary flip of fear and keep that chapter of drinking closed for good. Take care of the entire body but especially be mindful of oral and gut health (connected) and certainly don't let the fear of medical expenses etc hold that back - there's decent credit and plans these days, it's annoying but the health is invaluable to these expenses.
I’ve just started my sobriety journey. I’m on day 5. I have tried quitting before but called it a break from drinking. I would then go back to drinking and push my limits to drinking more every day. I have gained a lot of weight due to bing eating when I drank. I knew I need to change something and so I am quitting not taking a break. Thank you for these videos. I watch one every morning and I text myself my intentions for the day. I started my 100 No list and got quitzilla. I have been telling my close friends about quiting. It’s been hard to have different reactions and these are people who do love me, but this is foreign to most people. I’m still having head aches when I wake up, but I’m hoping this will get better. Thank you Jae for sharing your story. I don’t feel alone in this. ❤
You are being forged in the fire while becoming the Phoenix that rises from the ashes. Remember, you only have to go through this AKWARD phase once. Once it becomes a healthy habit, people will just recognize that this is who you are and this is what you do. Keep going!
I'm only 4 days in and still dealing with some unpleasant withdrawals. I look forward each day passing without drinking and being back to myself. Your videos have been immensely helpful in keeping me motivated, so thank you.
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New sub here. Love the channel, positive message and your suggestive style. Makes people think why they are drinking. It’s not worth it! We live in a fkd up society where drinking is glorified and we need a drink for any and all occasions good Or bad. Approaching 15 months sober and really enjoy like minded people as yourself bro. Also I’m a TH-cam creator so your editing and production value doesn’t go unnoticed!
Well HELLO fellow sober warrior and content creator!!! This is a lovely community if I may say so 😁 You're welcome anytime, so don't be shy and don't be a stranger!
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Thanks for these videos. I just discovered them a couple of months ago. I have been daily for roughly a decade, with a few days off here and there. I recently got some not so great bloodwork results and want to quit drinking for good. I have a beautiful wife and baby girl at home and want to be there for them. I just finished 10 to 1 on Wednesday. Yesterday was my first full day sober and it was challenging. Hard to sleep with cold sweats and just lack of my brain relaxing. Either way, day 2... feel pretty good this morning. I know I have to hold myself accountable over the next few days and push through it. Will be watching more videos for motivation! God is good!
Stick with it. I watch one of these videos every morning, and I will listen in the car on the way home from work too, he has a ton of great videos. They have really helped me stay on track and keep my thoughts going in the right direction.
It's time for extreme accountability my friend! Be a man of your word and work towards restoring your integrity! Message me every morning you wake up sober on one of our videos! Take pride in your sobriety. "SOBRIETY IS MINE AND IM NOT GIVING IT BACK!!!" Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes! th-cam.com/play/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt.html
@@GettingSoberAgain Day 2 complete! Yesterday was the first day in years that I went grocery shopping and didn't purchase alcohol. The day was filled with lots of cravings, but I intentionally went shopping yesterday to set myself up in good position for today. Will be at home with family (no alcohol at home) and have zero excuses to leave the house and do anything other than spend time with family. Praying the anxiety and mental fog reduce asap, but I know it's part of the journey. Have a great weekend!
The reasons I personally want to go out and drink could be many but the net result is always negative, at best lack of productivity the day after to poor health after a while.
designing more of a personal schedule / structure helped me a lot with relieving boredom - having more "go to" constructive personal things to do in free time.
Soooo true. I'm sober 20 days and still get them feelings here and there ,, what I did was picked up some of my old hobbies I would do without it ,,,, but I really understand what u mean. ... please hange in there. ... believe this it does get easier
I'm exactly 8 months sober today! 😄 Although I haven't had any blips in my sobriety journey, I've felt the urge to drink many times, and have even dreamt about having "just one" only to regret it immediately afterward. I've recently started developing a repulsion to alcohol after months free of hangover headaches and nausea, drunken oversharing, alcohol-induced anxiety and depression, and a lot more unfun stuff. Life is so much better without alcohol. ❤🩹
The “hungxiety” (hangover-induced anxiety) is so real. Was the worst part of the next day for me. I also have dreamt about it. I am with friends and I start drinking then get mad at myself in my dream. Great job on 8 months! Do something big for your 1 year mark that isn’t that far away!
@@raneylee9617 Yes, it sucked! Good to know I'm not the only one who's had stress dreams about drinking, too. Thank you so much! Will do, and I hope your sobriety journey continues to go well too ☺
The pandemic really put me to drinking because I was so isolated. I’m looking at three years in about two more months sober.., it’s not a matter if you quit drinking, but it when you quit drinking.
I started drinking 5 years ago when I found my 30 year old son dead in his bed and 10 months earlier his only child died at 12 months 9 days old which was my only grand child. I'm tired of drinking so I stopped 2 days ago.
Havent had a drink in over a year and a half. I ate some mushrooms, came to the conclusion that i am only drinking because im bored with my life and that i need to start building and growing. A week later i had my last drink.
Also, I believe that a lot of alcoholics drink because they have underlying anxiety issues. Work on managing and internalizing your anxiety and I promise not drinking will become a lot easier.
I think I want to drink for exactly what you said "to escape a long hard slightly stressful day" I slipped last night and had wine I didn't finish the bottle which is a positive and I poured it away. I hope to get there. I have went from drinking 5 days to now 1, and I go 1 week to a week 1/2 before slipping I know im improving its this last hurdle 😢
just watched one of ur videos from two years ago then clicked on your page and wantes to see a recent one. you look 5 years younger from the last vid..... nice! subscribed
Good video! I'd like to think my story is unique, but I'm sure it's not! Today is Day 3 of counting the days not drinking. Which is not a big deal for me, I am a 1-2 day a week drinker, and not even every week. I keep myself in good shape with exercise and good nutrition, I can easily not drink for a month or more, I do that often. BUT... when I do drink I definitely drink for effect!!! I'd say I'll have A drink, or A "cocktail" but who am I kidding,, I want several. So here I go trying... AGAIN...
I'm 55, Im told I don't look it...? Though inside I'm beat up ! My son is doing well 30yrs. The best thing I can do for him is to take care of me!!;he speaks as though he'll have to care for me. HELL no! If there's anyway to make up for being buzzed his whole life ,it's do best so he won't be burdened in adulthood too. Especially as he wanting babies! Im burnt out with b.s. alcohol! I divorce you, f#@& your lies, cheating,beating,lieing, laughing. It's never too late to be whom I'm meant to be🎉❤
Thanks for the prompt response to my previous, inappropriate comment. It was presumptive and silly of me to think this channel would bring politics into something so serious. But I do appreciate your content. It is up to the individual to reach out for help, but the channel has a plethora of great advice and insight. Keep up the good work!
Why do i want to drink ? I am sick health. My friends all gone. I lost a fortune in money. I married and divorced 3 times. Saved by sobriety. Lost ot all from A DRINK 15YRS. now sober 4 months. I am insane about alcohol.
Hi Jae , thanks for another amazing vid ! Could relate to many of the points you made , especially about using drinking as a coping mechanism , story of my life right there ! . To answer your question about why I think I need to drink alcohol , the answer is simple. I drank as a temporary escape to my problems , to run away instead of facing them like an adult . For a very long time i couldn’t admit that , but I can today. Thanks for all the inspiration , mate . I’m currently 134 days into my sobriety journey and your content has been invaluable ! Thank you and all the best , from your pal in Bonnie Scotland :)
I'm on sobriety day 395 and I'll tell you, the title of this video really struck me today, because the truth is even a year after quitting alcohol, temptation will find its way into your day in clever ways. Even though I've completely transformed my body in the last year (lost 60 pounds of fat and gained 30 pounds of muscle), eat well and never slept better, sometimes the grass is, for some reason, greener on the other side. But THEN I think of how many days of my life have been DRAMA FREE, how my heart pains no longer wake me up in the middle of the night and how I feel like I'm in my 20's again in the gym - and everyone of those 395 has been WORTH IT. The journey's WORTH IT, folks.
You're a NEW MAN!!! The grass is always greener where you water it 😉💪
That's what's up! The fitness gains are so real and the relationship improvements are all so worth it.
Proud of you. I'm in my early weeks of sobriety but I can relate with smoking cigarettes. Smoking a pack a day since 16 and after 16 years..I quit...for 8 years..then i had one cigarette...2 days later.. back to smoking a pack a day.
Thanks! That’s really good to read!
One thing that helps is truly understanding how alcohol effects the brain and body.
Reading "this naked mind" " Alcohol explained" and listening to huberman lab podcast on Alcohol solidified its not doing me any favors 😉
30 days sober today!
🎶THIS IS HOW WE DO IT!! 🎶
Well done!!
Welldone keep up the good work👍🏻
Awesome!
31 days now 🫡
157 days sober, not a day has past that I don't think about it. But, then I also remember what my life was like. Not Sorry At All....
Right?! I’ll always remember the first time I heard “No one ever regrets getting sober, they only wish they’d done it sooner.”
Sorry not sorry 😉
179 days sober today. This video hits hard and well 🙌🏻
Be strong brother do not look back-try this, write down on a piece of paper or a journal, all the good that came of alcohol and partying then in a separate column write down all the bad that came out of alcohol-I think you’ll find the negative will always outweigh the positive when it comes to alcohol consumption…god bless you brother 🙏
I don't like to be told I can't do something. Even if I'm the one saying it.
What has helped relieve some pressure from "I'm never drinking or doing drugs again" for me is I tell myself, "Not today. I may drink again one day, but today is not the day."
Yesterday was my 4 year mark since I've had drugs or alcohol.
Having to quit every day and one day at a time is cliche, yet it can be powerful, too.
I don't have to remind myself every day anymore, but when I get the urge, I tell myself, "Not today." Today is not the day.
Will that day come eventually? Maybe. But today is not the day.
Alcohol is so normalized that you are seen as an outcast when you don't drink.
I am on day 30 today of sobriety, looking forward to the next milestone of day 366🙌
30 days Let's GOOOOOOO!!!! 🔥🔥🔥
You and I are pretty close in our journeys. Hope you stay strong too! We will be at one year in no time👌🏼
I'm at 53 days, never felt better after 27 years of it, I'm planning forever to stay sober🔥💪
Usually when I go somewhere to sit for two hours or so, I'm usually the only one not drinking ethanol.
Me too!💪
I'm 7 months sober and never felt better. Don't be afraid to ask for God's help. If I can do it, so can you 😊
Dear God, may everyone in this community who needs help, be open to the idea of receiving your blessings.
Amen!
Amen 🙏🏼
Amen 🙏🏾
Amen!!
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You’re a good speaker. You must prepare a lot.
I just bought a T-shirt that says across the chest, “NOT TODAY, Satan.”
Almost as if you sent it to me .
Keep it going, you do NOT have to drink today.
lolololol. I WISH I had a shirt like that
Brothers & sisters when this gentleman quoted we learn these toxic behaviors from the world-I wanted to share that 8 years ago I made a conscious decision to remove myself from this world, I am no longer spending my precious time in bars or with loser friends putting powder up my nose or popping pills, in retrospect alcohol and drugs never added to my life & quite honestly it robbed me and my family of years and years of what could’ve been quality, family time-my family was so dysfunctional because of drugs and alcohol, my only regret is that I didn’t stop in my earlier years-now I focus on what this awesome TH-cam channel pushes, good health and a healthy mindset and self improvement-this gentleman is doing Gods work amen & Godbless you brother 🙏
Welcome back to the light my friend! May God continue to bless us all 🙏🙏🙏
4 months sober. After 15 yrs drunk. Was sober before 6yrs + 6yrs. So im sober again. New sober.
The world loves a great comeback story! And 4 months is a GREAT launch into the next chapter of your life!
I’m 69 days alcohol free!! I’m a 69 year old woman, 1 month away from my 70th birthday … thank you so much , Jae, for your awesome videos, I was a red wine drinker ( approx 3 glasses a day, sometimes a lot more for 25 years) I can’t tell you how much you’ve inspired me, & so many things have improved already in my life. Thank you again❤
Thanks for the update! 69 days...NICE! 😎
I am a whopping 18 days free of social drinking (no alcohol at all). I am almost 60 and am GRATEFUL for your comment.
You’re doing fantastic; thanks for the update and encouragement! I was there at 65 but never overcame … now I’m 85 and 4 days sober … 🫶
@@joyconnell1318 I am cheering you on!
You're right. Alcohol is an escape but in to what?! Hell! I hate myself after a binge. I feel so stupid after! 😢
I drink to get away from the emptiness in my life when I’m not at work, distracted. Even just one week off shows me just how simple my life actually is. But it’s also boring and that emptiness can be terrifying to face. But it’s my responsibility to face that and to find ways to fill that time that make me grateful for the day (instead of trying to end it by checking out and going to la la land until I pass out for the night)
Drinking makes life more complicated than it needs to be. Day 1… again
You certainly are a collector of truth aren't you? Now apply yourself 🫂
@@GettingSoberAgain I needed to hear that, thank you Jae. That’s the message that’s been missing in my social circles-work harder at this. Grateful for the general compassion from friends and family. But shifting the focus to my level of effort is what I need most right now
I'm 71 years old and almost 3 weeks sober after decades of drinking. I'm looking forward to saying I'm a month sober. I went to an afternoon "geezer" jam yesterday. It was a test because I always drink at these events. These guys aren't bad influences they don't drink they just love playing music. I'm the one convinced that I have to drink to calm myself and find energy. I was okay and I'm learning to except my nervous nature and elderly (yuk, I hate that word) aches and pains. This video hit all the right notes. I'm doing 5 minute, low impact stretching everyday and my legs feel more energetic. I'm learning how to embrace my sobriety; love it actually. I know this is the honeymoon period and I'm preparing not to embrace the drunk...again. Good luck all and stay the course.
I was FREE and happy for 30 days but I was weak and I tried a few beers ….. the rest is history. Trying again because I feel miserable and I get stupid again while blacked out specially with my great wife that somehow she still love s me after 17 years together. She told me that I am a WONDERFUL MAN without alcohol. Day 4 today and I hope this will be forever but I am so afraid about getting back to it again and again. I am tired of being tired
You are not alone. Surround yourself with sober people and give yourself some time to relax and realize how amazing your life has become ❤
Keep us posted man. You got a whole new goal ahead of you. Just today, that's the goal.
I hear you. I was so happy for 30 days, and then decided it would be ok to drink while on vacation. It wasn’t! My sweet husband carried my belligerent drunk self home. Im finding it much easier to be sober…again.
25 days! Didn't drink hard stuff, just beer it's not as bad as I thought after 30yrs of abuse. Thank you Jay
You already know! Happy day 25!!! have a great SOBER weekend 🌞
It’ll be 1 year sober for me on March 11 and your videos have helped me along the way . I go back and rewatch some for certain things and enjoy the new ones as well . Thank you for keeping it real .
March 11 here we come!!! Thank you for always stopping by to fill the comments with positivity 🫂
I want to drink so I slow down, stop running around doing chores and eventually sit on the couch. Without feeling “bad” about sitting still and resting.
But it takes A LOT OF ALCOHOL to get me there so....that’s why I follow this channel.
I can relate to THAT! It also borrows from the credit card of tomorrow's energy. What a waste getting wasted!
I only like to drink alone and I always convince myself "this would fun with a drink!" And then end up making drinking the main activity lol
Been there!
@@GettingSoberAgain appreciate your support and videos 💕
This!! I’ve been guilty of this as well 😞
Can totally relate!
Guilty as well! Also sneaking to the freezer bottle during pretty casual gatherings (the only one sneaking too).
52 days sober today and going to the gym more and have far more energy. Enjoying it immensely. Great video
Let's go Pippa!!
Jae, you truly have the BEST insight, input and advice. it’s like no other sobriety resource I’ve come across. It’s really very special. 💪🏻🎯
Awwwwww 🥰 I didn't have much expectation for this video. Apparently people are really liking it 🫂
@@GettingSoberAgain
Do you create all your own content? Do you have any help? Whatever your formula is, including your personal delivery style, it’s working very well.
Thank you. Seems like when ever I need a to hear something, up pop a the perfect video from you. You sure get it. Thanks for passing it on ❣️
Another great video Jae, thank you.
Loads of great comments on here so far, truly inspiring people who are working hard everyday.
I am 118 days sober today 😊
Sober FAM in the building!!!
Man, i keep relapsing due to social events. I have to leave my circle.
Yeah that's been my problem too and also I need to deeply reprogram healthier ways to truly celebrate big wins.
My old Aunt Bess, who was a drinker, always said that in the bar you don’t have friends, the people you associate with are cronies. It’s a subtle distinction but it was found to be true by a friend of mine who went to the bar his dad drank in to tell his drinking associates that the father had died. He gave them the details of the funeral, but not one showed up. I suppose that is what my old aunt was getting at. So Mark look around your circle and think who here would show up for my funeral. Good luck. 😂😂😂
"None of us want to push the button of social alienation that will lead us to making this major lifestyle change"
Take the leap of faith. Everyone who is successful at anything has to step out of their comfort zone. We all KNOW what the move is, but remain paralyzed by the anxiety of the unknown.
I actually ha e a video about this topic from a few years ago: "SOBRIETY AND THE GREAT UNKNOWN"
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@@patrickwalker-nolan7617 you're correct. They, along with myself, were all part of that group of cronies. However, I made the decision to leave two days ago, and I have no intention of returning. I'm committed to making significant changes now, If I don't, continuing along the same old path will inevitably lead to stagnation.
I wish I had come across your videos years ago.
I thank God I'm now here.
TY.
Drinking has been intwined with the human experience. Thousands of years, in every culture and time period. It has been used to mark rites of passage and in ceremonial rituals as long as humans have lived together in groups before modernity. Thats insane when you think about it. It’s become inescapable. That’s why I am so proud of people who decide to quit and do so in a world where it’s part of our shared experiences.
Did you catch the couple of Easter eggs I put in this video for you? 🤫😉
@@GettingSoberAgain YES! 🙌🏼
Day 74 today almost to 100!!! I’ve had some moments where the let’s go have a smoke and a drink…. Ann’s I’m like what?!?!? That’s a crazy thought! But I haven’t done it
Let’s goooooo all you amazing people! 🎉
Thoughts are only thoughts, we have thousands of them every day, but remember you definitely do not have to act on them. They always pass. Keep it going, you are doing great!
HAPPY DAY 74!! GOING INTO THE WEEKEND STRONG 💪💪💪
Look, everybody who wants to see another video from Jae needs to support his channel. Jae is a genuine dude, yeah, he sells merch, but he also dedicates a lot of his time to the videos. If you've been following him he's been in and out the last year+. Put yourself in his shoes, he got sober, his life is better, why should he keep posting? He has a life and I am sure is very busy. Give him incentive. Buy some merch, help him justify spreading the word. Think of all the people who need to hear this.
For the record this man doesn't know me from Adam. He just helped me get back on track. And yeah, I have my "dot..dot...dot" mug.
Help the man out yeah?!
lol thanks! technically I don't SELL merch, I have merch for sale. One of the best ways to support the channel is through Patreon, because you get. a FREE mug.
but in the spirit of not selling, I won't even post the link 😉
honestly, I kinda gave up on asking for support because it kind of hurts my heart to be let down. the channel maybe nets about 2-3 supporters a month 🤷
oh well! THE MISSION CONTINUES (To help people get sober, be sober and stay sober...one video at a time)
The best way to honestly support the channel is to spread the word in other sobriety communities and in online forums, blogs and other websites 💜
I feel like for even a casual drinker, "just one drink" is a total throw away line. Its like saying "only a little bit of chocolate" or "only one episode"...its ridiculous. We all know that whole chocolate bar will be gone and a whole season of episodes will be watched before the end of the night. Very similar to the whole 6 pack being drank or the whole wine bottle being empty by midnight. Interestingly enough all those things listed lower the strength of the frontal cortex in your brain. I work in bars with my music performances and i get offered a drink regularly from friends, fans, or patrons of the venue. The best thing to say is "Thank you for offering but Im trying to lose my beer belly." ... No joke used that line tonight with some friends that came out to see me play. They didnt pressure me to drink or anything crazy like that. They're good people too. Only a turd would want to force alcohol on someone.
I have been sober for 1 year and half, and I am visiting my wifes aunt who quit drinking 6 months ago I just found it. She never drank as much as I did, and when I ask her why she quit drinking she said I just no longer saw any value in it. One drink eould mske her feel sluggish so why bother. You dont have to have a drinking problem to learn thst alcohol has no good use! Sobriety is the best buzz I've had in 30 years!
Thanks Jae...Today I play a garage/pool Canada Day party here in Canada. I'm on day 34. Last year I played this event in 95 degree heat and I started drinking an hour before and by the end of the first set I was in trouble with alcohol and heat exhaustion. It's the first time and the closest I ever came to falling down in front of an audience. I chilled and made it through. This year I WILL...be sober. I admit I was thinking of taking the easy way out but I have tools, I have Jae and these videos and determination. The bad choice voice is much weaker and quieter now so I WILL prevail today...Day 35 Will be mine.
Heat is nothing to play around with. just because other people will be making unwise decisions, doesn't mean anyone should follow them by example.
There's no better feeling than being your best, being rested, hydrated and fully present with NO setbacks and NO self sabotage!
Happy day 34!!!
Systematic cultural brainwashing exactly the problem! Wow, Jae, you covered everything in this one! Much to think about.
THEY WILL NOT REPLACE US 🔥
For you instead of against you!! ❤❤
I'm 16 months sober and watching your videos reinforces this decision as my lifelong best. Had I watched these videos 16 months ago I would have been annoyed and turned off by them. Now I watch them with gratitude, confidence, humility, self trust, and confirmation. Thank you for making these videos. I've noticed how much my own sobriety is positively influencing those around me. I'm blessed beyond words... This the happiest time in my life because this is the happiest I've ever been with myself...
That's exactly it! Everyone gets to benefit from your sobriety! 🎯
Exactly 💯 😊
357 days sober I feel proud of myself because after so many attempts here I am now to celebrate one year thanks to God and to you I learned a lot from your video thanks brother
ALMOST 1 YEAR THIS IS INCREDIBLE!!!!
This video gave me so much to think about! I’m 164 days alcohol free and every day I need to remind myself of this stuff.
Days can feel pretty long when we are using all of our brains 🧠
55 days sober today!
I used to go to a lot of punk and hardcore shows in my teens and early 20s. There was always a group of Straight Edge kids at those shows and I never understood why they chose that lifestyle. When I was underage, I dreamed about the day I could be old enough to crush PBR tallboys at a show and crowd surf without fear. Fast forward to today, I realized that those Straight Edge kids knew where it was at, either because of their own issues or because of the trauma they endured from other people's addictions. Next month I'm going to a show and this time I'll be sober, I guess now I'm one of those Straight Edge kids. Funny how things change.
Full ⭕
It's incredible such a powerful lifestyle arose in the scene - a new way to focus on the art and personal expression without the toxicity.
absolutely, the SxE people I know are kind, creative, and the least problematic people at shows. Glad to join that community. @@JimmyJaxJellyStax
I quit alcohol and cigarettes a month and 2 weeks ago and I'm felling better everyday ☺️
Really not missing it
Be done with that chapter! Here's to the new adventures up ahead!
That one used to kick my ass. I'd get a few bucks and find myself down at the bus station on Central looking crazy. Life is so much better 6 years and 5 months today clean. The fact that I'm actually happy now is a miracle. Thanks brother
Are you still in the area? I was just there back in July. I couldn't even recognize it.
I always enjoy St.Johns Pass 💜
@@GettingSoberAgain No I left in 2017 and was back in 2019. I heard it's so different from the crazies in the early 2000s.
Buddy, I had a stroke as a baby and decided to abstain after self medicating at college. Three funerals of alcohol abusers between 1992 and 2022.
Waking up sober today sure was a hellofa blessing. I know I can do it again tomorrow with some help.
Amen to that!
Because it’s permanently engrained in our subconscious minds. The book ‘Alcohol Explained’ goes into great detail on how our brain reacts to alcohol. A total game changer for me. Helped me more than rehab.
Thankyou Sir for posting yet again another motivating video.
Watching your videos has helped me stay on the path of sobriety for 2 weeks now.
Your wisdom is clear in abundance and you always seems to hit the nail on the head.
Looking forward to your next videos and exploring many other resources you list in the content section.
Earn rewards or pay the price, make this your motto 😉
Prayer, Practice and Patience! Thank you Jae!
PRAYER 🙏🙏🙏 Thank you Lord
4.5 months and feeling awesome! Thanks for this
My family handed me a beer when I was 7 years old...50 years later and I wonder what the hell they were thinking...thank you Jae for opening my eyes...again ❤😊
That's what its all about. Helping each other to see in the darkness!
Boy, this is your best video yet. Everything you said is spot on. Thanks for all you do.
Wow really??! I originally intended to produce this video before I moved. But I'm glad that I sat on it for a while and thought of more things to say and took my time with it.
My personal motto is "it's gonna take as long as it's gonna take".
How you do anything is how you do everything. Maintain high standards!
Yes, the messaging is everywhere. Here's another: Since work-from-home began (and is now permanent), I also noticed positive references to alcohol aren't limited to the commercials. They're embedded right into the programming. Daytime TV hosts - both talk and game shows - regularly bring up alcohol in a joking but positive context. Mimosas and wine seem to be favorite references. To me this encourages day drinking! Especially when someone talks about how they could "go for one now."
Absolutely right!
Great video 😊❤
Thanks for the positive support 🫂
Hey Jae,
FIFTEEN WEEKS today🎉🎉.
Just a few days away from my longest dry streak(107), and i’ve no intention of breaking this one just yet.
Great run today, 1st one after my infection last week, it was cold, wet & muddy but felt amazing.
Being Sober…again is getting better & better every day, it’s like a superpower.
Thankyou for another great video, I look forward to them every week.
I LOVE THIS!!! Thank you for the awesome update!!!! Keep on runnin my friend!
Wow, you are doing great!!! 107 days is a huge accomplishment. Keep it going, you are on your way to a better life without alcohol!!!
Knowing that I am worth more than someone can make me feel stops me from drowning my hurt feelings in alcohol. Old habits want to rear their ugly heads, but it's good when you pause and realize drinking doesn't solve problems. I am worth more!
Well said!
6 months sober for me tried alcohol free drinks helps transition all you say is so true well explained thank you!!
Officially half way to 90. Seems like a big milestone on the way to an even bigger one.
And we will be cheering you on all the way!!!
Keep it going buddy, you are doing great! Stick with it.
52 days today for me. I still struggle with anxiety occasionally, today especially, but overall things are going much better. I’m in a much better place mentally and physically. The longer I go, the more dreadful the idea of returning to my old ways feels.
That's a wonderful feeling isn't it? to know that you are IN FACT on t e right path 🌞
These are one of the best life lessons we can learn from you. Thanks for your amazing video and wise words. Keep it up!
I don’t watch every video posted from this channel but gain something every time I check in. The societal pressure (you’re weird if you don’t drink) and the rationalization of drinking when we all know it’s a toxin are probably the best takeaways for me. 104 days sober.
Keep going, you are doing great! 104 days is a huge accomplishent!
104 is a great head start to the weekend!!!
@@jeffreyjohnmann Thanks! I feel better and better each day. I hope your journey is going well too
18 days sober. I actually put it all down 4/20/24 😊 I haven't touched anything to this day. ,,,, this channel is my influence 😊
I'm glad you're under the influence of our sobriety content 😉
Thanks for another great video, Jae!
I've been finding it difficult to go totally sober. I really, really want to but keep falling off the wagon. It’s proving too difficult at this time because I've been drinking so much for an extended period of time. Instead I'm focusing on increasing the number of days between drinks and decreasing the amount I drink when I do.
I've also changed what I'm drinking. Instead of craft beer (which has become the "staple"), I've shifted to pinot noir red wine, which I have a lot more "control" over and can stop at one or two glasses. I did that because upon reflection I realised that I DID have limits. Spirits were a hard no (I never drink them). Red wine was a "very rarely" or "winter" drink and I typically would have no more than half a bottle at a time because of the tannins.
Now, I'm finding it easier to get to day 4 and day 5, instead of falling off at day 2. Hopefully I'll be able to push it back to day 6 or 7, or longer, next. The plan is to keep pushing the envelope until I can fully step out of the cycle and have a solid 30, 60 or 90 days of sobriety.
So far, this approach is helping me to feel a lot more in control. It's pretty much inspired by your "no judgement" and "Asterix" suggests-so thanks for that. It's working for now as a way to cut down and cut back. Hopefully with the re-introduction of healthier habits that I've lost when alcohol took over, it will be a smoother transition. Before I picked up drinking excessively in my late 30s, I was in no way a problem drinker. I only drank socially and could count on one hand the number of times in a year that I would have alcohol.
So I guess it’s just one step at a time....
Thanks again for being such a positive influence!
Please don't give up on yourself. Life is better without alcohol, stick with it, you will get there!
@@jeffreyjohnmann thank you! I picked up drinking after an extremely difficult period of my life. I was a victim of a crime and it was a way to stop the feelings of doom that came with the PTSD that developed. Alcohol was a coping mechanism, but I want my life back.
You'll get there when you're ready, and practicing until you do. Just keep that fire burning inside of you to do more and to BE more. You are not powerless. And I believe that you WILL string together your first 30 days by April 1 💜
@@GettingSoberAgain thanks Jae! That’s a great affirmation.
I’d be thrilled if I could get my drinking down to where it used to be… on my birthday, New Year’s Eve, and the odd occasion when I’d go out for dinner. It was never this “let’s get black out drunk” or binge drink three or four times a week because I wasn’t coping with my life (and then couldn’t get through the withdrawals), kind of thing.
The no judgement approach was a good thing to hear. And my closest friends have reminded me to not be hard on myself for what I’ve used to get through this time in my life.
PTSD is a horrible thing to live with. Alcoholism certainly doesn’t help.
But your videos have given me a framework that I can work with and in such a positive manner.
Because of what I’ve been through, I didn’t feel safe going to group supports in person like AA. This has been a way to pause and reflect from the privacy of my own home, without that kind of confronting experience, which would have helped nothing.
@@GettingSoberAgain I’d really like it if that 30 days could be something that I feel I could relax into, like exhaling, rather than being a struggle.
I think this approach of cutting down and cutting back allows me to go with a more natural flow, than a strict plan of “I’ll have one less drink today, then two less the next”. I don’t think my drinking habits really work like that.
So reflecting upon my habits, what led to them, and finding the line of my LIMITS then working with that has been a good, solid step in the right direction for me.
I understand that a lot of people don’t have limits, at least not in the same way I do, where they’re repulsed by certain types of alcohol. But maybe they do if they reframe it that way?
Asking yourself “where do I say no, or where do I want less” could be a good starting place (and maybe the topic of another video?? Ha ha)
i can't reall explain it but I know for a fact that this man has a gift when he speaks in these videos. I'm curious to know if it has always been that way.
Wellllllllll you can go back 5 years and watch my first videos and let me know how different I was lol
Watching this on my who knows attempt to get sober. A couple years ago i had over a year of sobriety, felt great. Then made the mistake to drink and here i am - overweight, unhappy, unhealthy...and trying to get sober...again
@@skyleec6733 well you're in the right place!
Don't forget, a video a day keeps the cravings away!
Click here to watch our NEWEST videos on sobriety!
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“Normalize toxic behaviors “. - great quote.
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Thank you for the video. I an close to six months sober, not doing the math right now. When I watch your videos, it seems like everything I am striving to better myself, day by day, is worth it. Thank you for the support. Have a great day.
That's what I am to do! Thank you for holding up your end of the bargain! 6 months is SOLID 💪💪💪
I love watching these videos, I watch one every morning, it helps me get the day going in a good direction.
For me, it was circumstantial in a couple ways: at 1st in late teens it felt different in a more interesting way than I normally felt so it broke the boredom of always feeling the same (good/natural) way ALL the time. But then later I used it to "recover" from the bad feelings of bad stuff happening & stress! And LATER I'd use it to CELEBRATE feeling great & healthy, but not bad/sick believe it or not 🙃!
A whole EVOLUTION of drinking 🧬
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This is a great video, 100 percent true and factual. The thing that makes me think of drinking is the old idea that it will improve how i feel. But i know it wont, and with time that old idea might go away
Remember how you thought the only way to have fun was to lay with Legos and action figures? This too shall pass!
TRUTH!!
POW!!!! I can't wait til I ruin my pipes again next time. I'm totally going to get that hacksaw lol
Alcohol is also known in some cultures to open your soul up for possession by evil spirits
Lord help us
Yeah it originates in ancient alchemy and some cultures considered alcohol pure spirit itself to transmute the spirit within elements - something like that. Eventually also the various effects on spirit in living creatures, humans especially - the obvious psychological and physicals effects of drinking certainly transform someone pretty significantly over time - might even seem possessed when blacked out intoxicated and possibly acting anti-social.
What has helped me a lot on this alcohol-free journey was looking honestly and critically at my beliefs about drinking. As long as I kept believing that booze was good for me in some way (like it helped me relax, or it made me more fun, etc) then I struggled with all these back & forth thoughts in my head when I tried to cut back or stop. BUT as soon as I looked at those beliefs and challenged them (OK does drinking REALLY make me more fun? Maybe for 20 minutes but then I start getting stressed out and I need another drink to feel better. Then I end up really fucking drunk and my thoughts are foggy and I start stupid arguments and I spend way too much money and so many other negative things happen to me!) As soon as I challenged those old false beliefs of mine it changed everything and it got a lot easier to make progress. I am 177 days sober today, it feels pretty damn good. I'm so grateful for all the beautiful and inspirational friends I find here. We can do this, let's keep trying together.
Old ways of thinking do not open new doors! Wonderful revelations Jeff! Keep the great comments coming, these are GOLD!!!
I've been drinking since 2010 and my wife within the past few years mentioned how she's noticing I'm drinking more and can't control it (I noticed this too and agreed). Finally decided two Sundays ago (when my 49ers lost) that I was ready to take back control of my own life. I've been sober since and even though it is early on I have no cravings nor fears of not drinking. Literally the first day of sobriety your channel popped up on the sidebar even though I didn't search for sober topics and I've been binging your channel since. Thank you so much for the help man, I seriously get so pumped being sober whenever I watch your stuff. Keep at it!
LETS DO THIS!!!!!!!! It's great that you have in home support and of course you always have us 🥰
These videos have been a huge help to me as I leave alcohol behind. I watch one in the morning and I like to listen to the audio in the car on the way home after work, they help keep my mind pointing in the right direction LOL! I was rooting for SF too, I'm sorry they lost. Keep going, stick with it, you are doing great!
Keep up the good work.
10 days alchool free, i've quitted immediately after quitting smoking, now i started going back to the gym. I feel much better, no cravings,even though people still do it around me. I hope I'm free
You don't need to hope as long as you're doing something about it 😉
I recommend everyone reads “This naked mind” by Annie Grace, it’s not some magical cure but it quotes tremendous amounts of research about alcohol, specifically about why the reasons we drink aren’t actually real. It demonstrates how alcohol doesn’t help you relax, or have fun in social situations etcetera. Anyways great video, 6 weeks sober here and your videos are always a great reminder to keep going!
Shout-out to Annie Grace! Thanks for staying up on our videos! New one out today btw 😉
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You can be overwhelmed and deathly scared also by success. Is it real, will it last, was i cheating and they will soon catch me and i will fall? Can i manage this pace of work and for how long? Do i enjoy being successful, being in the center? No i'm not, or do i?... Well, i am sooo successful and strong, i can drink differently this time, let us show them, last's grab a drink.... again....
i am just soooooo scared, that is all, that is why i drink again. Out of fear about everything.
I really love your way of presenting the information, i was lucky to run across your chanel yesterday, right in time. Thank you🙏
Gets scary when all the gut/liver/pancreas/overall dehydration stress of drinking turns into serious disabling lower back problem -- physical injury literally from poison alone, very possible. It's even scarier when someone gets to this point and still wants to drink, knowing their condition improved (doctor confirmed) with a month+ of sobriety. Perhaps a binary flip of fear and keep that chapter of drinking closed for good. Take care of the entire body but especially be mindful of oral and gut health (connected) and certainly don't let the fear of medical expenses etc hold that back - there's decent credit and plans these days, it's annoying but the health is invaluable to these expenses.
And if folks are willing to look, there are many sliding scale fee services for medical, dental, mental health, etc!
Your the man keep uploading these videos
I’ve just started my sobriety journey. I’m on day 5. I have tried quitting before but called it a break from drinking. I would then go back to drinking and push my limits to drinking more every day. I have gained a lot of weight due to bing eating when I drank. I knew I need to change something and so I am quitting not taking a break. Thank you for these videos. I watch one every morning and I text myself my intentions for the day. I started my 100 No list and got quitzilla. I have been telling my close friends about quiting. It’s been hard to have different reactions and these are people who do love me, but this is foreign to most people. I’m still having head aches when I wake up, but I’m hoping this will get better. Thank you Jae for sharing your story. I don’t feel alone in this. ❤
You are being forged in the fire while becoming the Phoenix that rises from the ashes. Remember, you only have to go through this AKWARD phase once.
Once it becomes a healthy habit, people will just recognize that this is who you are and this is what you do.
Keep going!
I'm only 4 days in and still dealing with some unpleasant withdrawals. I look forward each day passing without drinking and being back to myself. Your videos have been immensely helpful in keeping me motivated, so thank you.
Don't forget, a video a day keeps the cravings away!
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Love the channel, positive message and your suggestive style. Makes people think why they are drinking. It’s not worth it!
We live in a fkd up society where drinking is glorified and we need a drink for any and all occasions good
Or bad.
Approaching 15 months sober and really enjoy like minded people as yourself bro.
Also I’m a TH-cam creator so your editing and production value doesn’t go unnoticed!
Well HELLO fellow sober warrior and content creator!!! This is a lovely community if I may say so 😁
You're welcome anytime, so don't be shy and don't be a stranger!
15 months is amazing, keep up the good work! I am only 168 days in, I am dreaming of being where you are!
WILL BE WATCHING THIS VIDEO ON A VERY REGULAR BASIS
NICE!!
Don't forget, a video a day keeps the cravings away!
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. . . as always, Thank you Mr. Jae. Sounds like truth to me, myself, and i . . .
🎶 Mirror mirror on the wall 🎶
Thanks for these videos. I just discovered them a couple of months ago.
I have been daily for roughly a decade, with a few days off here and there.
I recently got some not so great bloodwork results and want to quit drinking for good. I have a beautiful wife and baby girl at home and want to be there for them.
I just finished 10 to 1 on Wednesday. Yesterday was my first full day sober and it was challenging. Hard to sleep with cold sweats and just lack of my brain relaxing.
Either way, day 2... feel pretty good this morning. I know I have to hold myself accountable over the next few days and push through it. Will be watching more videos for motivation!
God is good!
Stick with it. I watch one of these videos every morning, and I will listen in the car on the way home from work too, he has a ton of great videos. They have really helped me stay on track and keep my thoughts going in the right direction.
It's time for extreme accountability my friend! Be a man of your word and work towards restoring your integrity! Message me every morning you wake up sober on one of our videos!
Take pride in your sobriety. "SOBRIETY IS MINE AND IM NOT GIVING IT BACK!!!"
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@@GettingSoberAgain Day 2 complete! Yesterday was the first day in years that I went grocery shopping and didn't purchase alcohol. The day was filled with lots of cravings, but I intentionally went shopping yesterday to set myself up in good position for today.
Will be at home with family (no alcohol at home) and have zero excuses to leave the house and do anything other than spend time with family.
Praying the anxiety and mental fog reduce asap, but I know it's part of the journey.
Have a great weekend!
Wise words, Thanks!
The reasons I personally want to go out and drink could be many but the net result is always negative, at best lack of productivity the day after to poor health after a while.
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I usually want a drink bc I’m bored
designing more of a personal schedule / structure helped me a lot with relieving boredom - having more "go to" constructive personal things to do in free time.
Soooo true. I'm sober 20 days and still get them feelings here and there ,, what I did was picked up some of my old hobbies I would do without it ,,,, but I really understand what u mean. ... please hange in there. ... believe this it does get easier
Very good video. Pretty much sums up how I feel about having a drink. And why I choose not to these days.
I'm exactly 8 months sober today! 😄 Although I haven't had any blips in my sobriety journey, I've felt the urge to drink many times, and have even dreamt about having "just one" only to regret it immediately afterward. I've recently started developing a repulsion to alcohol after months free of hangover headaches and nausea, drunken oversharing, alcohol-induced anxiety and depression, and a lot more unfun stuff. Life is so much better without alcohol. ❤🩹
Enjoy your big day today, YOU'VE EARNED IT!
The “hungxiety” (hangover-induced anxiety) is so real. Was the worst part of the next day for me. I also have dreamt about it. I am with friends and I start drinking then get mad at myself in my dream. Great job on 8 months! Do something big for your 1 year mark that isn’t that far away!
@@GettingSoberAgain Thank you!!! I treated myself to some ice cream haha :)
@@raneylee9617 Yes, it sucked! Good to know I'm not the only one who's had stress dreams about drinking, too. Thank you so much! Will do, and I hope your sobriety journey continues to go well too ☺
The pandemic really put me to drinking because I was so isolated. I’m looking at three years in about two more months sober.., it’s not a matter if you quit drinking, but it when you quit drinking.
4/20 here we come!!! Look out crops, Lucy Loose is planting seeds for the FUTURE!!!
@@GettingSoberAgain just around the corner.. making good use of the time . Not nursing a hangover or wasted day👍👌
I started drinking 5 years ago when I found my 30 year old son dead in his bed and 10 months earlier his only child died at 12 months 9 days old which was my only grand child. I'm tired of drinking so I stopped 2 days ago.
Day 87. I don't want to do this anymore. I'm not sure i want to be drunk either. All i know is when i wake up, I'm glad i picked sober the day before.
I love that analogy 2:12
I used to drink because I like the way it change my personality
You and everyone else lol
Havent had a drink in over a year and a half. I ate some mushrooms, came to the conclusion that i am only drinking because im bored with my life and that i need to start building and growing. A week later i had my last drink.
Also, I believe that a lot of alcoholics drink because they have underlying anxiety issues. Work on managing and internalizing your anxiety and I promise not drinking will become a lot easier.
Well said!
I think I want to drink for exactly what you said "to escape a long hard slightly stressful day" I slipped last night and had wine I didn't finish the bottle which is a positive and I poured it away. I hope to get there. I have went from drinking 5 days to now 1, and I go 1 week to a week 1/2 before slipping I know im improving its this last hurdle 😢
Practice makes progress!
@@GettingSoberAgain thank you. Your videos are a blessing x
Day 35 sober!
Let's go Hawk!!!
You’re the man Jae! You’re really great at what you do. Thank you for this content!
I'M SOMEBODY 😭💜😁
Having a particularly rough time of it today. This video helped so much. I'm contemplating tattooing "It Only Makes It Worse!" on my forehead. 🤔😅
Maybe "WYD?" On your drinking hand 😉
just watched one of ur videos from two years ago then clicked on your page and wantes to see a recent one. you look 5 years younger from the last vid..... nice! subscribed
haha awesome! my mother also approves 🥰
Good video! I'd like to think my story is unique, but I'm sure it's not! Today is Day 3 of counting the days not drinking. Which is not a big deal for me, I am a 1-2 day a week drinker, and not even every week. I keep myself in good shape with exercise and good nutrition, I can easily not drink for a month or more, I do that often. BUT... when I do drink I definitely drink for effect!!! I'd say I'll have A drink, or A "cocktail" but who am I kidding,, I want several. So here I go trying... AGAIN...
I'm 55, Im told I don't look it...? Though inside I'm beat up ! My son is doing well 30yrs. The best thing I can do for him is to take care of me!!;he speaks as though he'll have to care for me. HELL no! If there's anyway to make up for being buzzed his whole life ,it's do best so he won't be burdened in adulthood too. Especially as he wanting babies! Im burnt out with b.s. alcohol! I divorce you, f#@& your lies, cheating,beating,lieing, laughing. It's never too late to be whom I'm meant to be🎉❤
It's never too late!!!
hello Jae
Thanks for the prompt response to my previous, inappropriate comment. It was presumptive and silly of me to think this channel would bring politics into something so serious. But I do appreciate your content. It is up to the individual to reach out for help, but the channel has a plethora of great advice and insight. Keep up the good work!
And a caring host who actually takes time out of his day to respond to comments, regardless of how silly they may be!
Why do i want to drink ? I am sick health. My friends all gone. I lost a fortune in money. I married and divorced 3 times. Saved by sobriety. Lost ot all from A DRINK 15YRS. now sober 4 months. I am insane about alcohol.
Dear God, may all those here who need your support be open to the idea of being helped and meeting you halfway to receive their blessings.
Amen
i commented on a different video 10 days ago. idk how im doing it but hopefully I continue to keep following God
Comment on all the videos all the time, there's NO LIMIT! 💪💪💪
Mahalo
Hi Jae , thanks for another amazing vid ! Could relate to many of the points you made , especially about using drinking as a coping mechanism , story of my life right there ! . To answer your question about why I think I need to drink alcohol , the answer is simple. I drank as a temporary escape to my problems , to run away instead of facing them like an adult . For a very long time i couldn’t admit that , but I can today.
Thanks for all the inspiration , mate . I’m currently 134 days into my sobriety journey and your content has been invaluable ! Thank you and all the best , from your pal in Bonnie Scotland :)
Happy to hear from you on day 134 Bonnie!! Accountability is sooooooo important and you're doing it RIGHT!