Are you NEWLY SOBER??? Beware of THESE 10 THINGS in Early Sobriety!!! - (Episode 176 re-release)
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This comment is for anyone who feels alone:
I went on several long sobriety streaks as a subscriber of this channel in 2023. I recently relapsed and felt such immense shame, I avoided this content altogether for a while.
I am now sober… again and don’t ever plan on going back. This community is amazing and the support is fantastic. You are not alone; we all stumble.
Please don’t retreat into yourself when you feel like a failure (like I did). Rely on the people who build you up and lean into their support.
Everyone is welcome sober or otherwise while you're all figuring it out 🫂
My story as well. This time I have an accountability partner.
We can do this.
@keithcampbell7820 We’ve got this, buddy! 💪🏻
Thank you for that. Retreating inward is part of my shame pattern. Gotta learn to relate to a community again, even if it’s fully online. Hitting the sauna tonight to decompress and join my sweaty dude community down at the gym 😆
Thank you for this comment. This is me as well. ❤
*That "just one drink with dinner" lets the demon behind the door BACK IN, even if I didn't recognize it at first.*
SO true. The wolf is always at the door. 🤷🏻♀️ But I won’t live a white knuckle life anymore. 💪🏻
It’s a slippery slope, isn’t it . Truly terrifying . Stay strong, brother . All the best !
Hooray for calmness and peace instead of constant anxiety and dread. @@joko09010
Agree and it goes along with the drunk "thinker" mindset of "why would anyone drink one or two? What is the use?"
I was a heavy daily drinker for many many years I am 34 days sober, things are going pretty good. when I get cravings I like to take my dog for a long walk in nature, by the end of the walk I am no longer thinking about drinking
Walk the dog > Hair of the dog
Did you go to rehab, or did you do it on your own? Go cold turkey, or some other method?
He tapered off. He started with ten drinks a day. Then once a week he drank one less until the number was zero. @@ajbrown5247
Soon I will hit 30 days..proud of you...we don't need our toxic ex back in our lives
Keep up the good work Jason @@jasoncampbell3318
What helps and works for me is taking longer walks, exercising, walking the dogs, training them, playing more guitar, making more hot sauce, growing my own vegetables, learning more about what I am interested in, cooking, doing the dishes, cleaning,writing songs...little by little, find what you really wanna do and do it, and you will never get bored again...2,5 years sober, with all these activities in place, feel great and on the right track to happy and productive life...troubles will come, but will face them sober...focus on the goal, and it is to remain being clean and things should come together.peace
Tell us more about that hot sauce tho 🔥
That’s a great comment. Very inspirational as I am beginning the leg of sobriety. I almost do exactly what you do except for making hot sauce.
thank you, that is great!you got it man!@@LedByGrace
So, long story short, i'm from Croatia and when I traveled to the States for the first time to record an album with my band Voodoo Lizards back in 2010's, I fell in love with the hot sauces haha, so brought home a whole bag of them...And as my folks did gardening and such, i thought, well I can make better hot sauce, fresh and organic...So I did. Started growing chilies and fermenting sauces...People started asking for them...and little by little, i started to sell them...still a small business, but supply a couple of local restaurants and dedicated customers who return to my sauces, made naturally...I call my sauce Jucifer Hot Sauce, cause my name is Jura and they call me Juc...anyone can make great hot saus at home, I can share a couple of recipes for the community! Live long and prosper@@GettingSoberAgain
Thinking about all the stupid things I've said and done while drunk makes me want to stay sober.
10 Things I Do Sober
- Read / Audio Books
- Cook something & eat
- excercise any type
- breath deep
- pray
- sleep
- mix music
-clean up
- write down plans TDL
- walk the dog
- draw
- call family
-plan a trip
So much to do so little time . Blessings to all on this journey
What's the next trip???
Plan a trip! How do you plan trips without alcohol? Trips are one of my biggest triggers
I was sober for 10 years. I moved back to my old neighborhood and was flooded with memories of "I used to drink there" basically every bar, bowling alley, park, lake, recreation area, motorcycle clubhouse, everywhere. I picked up the bottle, and it was okay until it wasn't.
I was 4 days sober until my darling wife hit a deer last night, and that was my excuse to drink... again! So day one, and determined to stop.
Watch videos like this, surround myself with people who don't drink, fly my drone, learn video editing, walk the dog, go for a motorcycle ride, talk to my wife (she is an amazing supportive woman) call my kids.
Thanks for sharing your content.
Thanks for reminding me that I have a drone to fly over my new neighborhood lol!
Keep us updated!
@GettingSoberAgain fly your drone, and you see all your neighbors in their backyard smoking, vaping, drinking, that's all I use to hear, smell. Every recycling pick up day u hearing clink, clink, clink, clink, clink, of empty bottles go into the truck. I walk my pooch. Almost every house recycling can is full of empty beer, wine bottle, wrapped up empty boxes
My 10 activities that keep me sober: 1) working out 6 days a week minimum 2)healthy eating (no junk in the house) 3) journaling 4) art (painting/sketching) 5) Guitar practice 6) cycling 7)Looking at my old pictures of how sad I was when I was binge drinking 8) photography 9)watching/listening to positive podcasts/ TH-cam videos like this and 10) keeping busy with work!
Great list!!!
What podcasts do you like?
@@kaylaperras7885 hi just seeing this! Honestly I listen to a mix of things Mel Robbins have some great things, IN HINDZSIGHT, Jay Shetty, Matthew Hussey, just to name a few.
My 10 activities:
1. Exercise
2. Music Production
3. Gaming (never was a big gamer and my ADD tends to prevent me from playing for more than 2 hours)
4. Journaling
5. Listening to music
6. Listening to Podcasts
7. Going to AA meetings
8. Watching ‘Sober Lifestyle’ content (like this)
9. Being more selfless and being of service to others (I.E making more effort to be a helping hand to my elderly parents)
10. Being more mindful of emotions.
Big Tip that helps me: H.A.L.T - Notice and take action to prevent being too Hungry (H), Angry (A), Lonely (L) and Tired (T) - all states which push us towards a more primitive and impulsive state of mind; which is obviously very dangerous.
Also mindful of whenever I have thoughts of taking a pill to curb anxiety or depression. Yes, some people need medications but, as an addict, especially in early recovery, I avoid any sort of ‘quick fix’. I want my brain to repair itself as naturally as possible.
Great tips, great list!! What podcasts do you listen to???
I'm sure your parents appreciate the heck out of you BTW 😀
@@GettingSoberAgain My relationships just get better by the day. Exactly 90 days sober today, and heck, even conversations with my barber are so different.
Podcasts:
- Untangle - Mindfulness for Curious Humans
- The Masonic Roundtable
- Anything to do with history and philosophy
UUhh please drop some history podcasts, i need that in my life @@noksversion2
You’re awesome! And I love the HALT insight! I just added a comment and hunger is the most consistently unpleasant emotional state in early sobriety for me. The meanest SOB I’ve ever met shows up in the mirror. I used to joke about being hangry (when I was a consistent drinker). It’s just not funny now though. It’s kinda terrifying what I start thinking about. A newly unstable brain gets chaotic REAL QUICK. High protein snacks and meals to the rescue! And yes, lots of melatonin at bed time :)
Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for the HALT explanation.. I've never heard that before - and I am someone who definitely get "hangry"
Recently admitted that I am an alcoholic and I am getting sober for the first time. Will keep that in mind to not let my emotions overpower or control me.
I finally got a job offer for a company ive been applying for since my booze days! 4months+ dry now, and the blesssings are multiplying ❤
🤑🤑🤑 BLESSINGS ON BLESSINGS 🤑🤑🤑
Congrats on the new job offer!
5 days sober, this channel has been helping a lot 💯 i binge on your videos to keep my mind occupied
That sounds like a winning formula 🤓
A good answer for people trying to get you to have a drink is to say ‘no, it’s started to make me ill, so I’ve knocked it off’ Would any sane person insist that you make yourself ill and have a drink? If they persist, challenge them with that ‘Why would you want me to be Ill?’
Thanks for being there for us Jae! 45 days 👍
Thanks for this. Indeed “I am allergic to alcohol”.
Happy day 45!! what are you doing this weekend?
@@GettingSoberAgainjust hanging out at home this weekend, got an old friend over for lunch on Sunday. My husband, as a consequence of me quitting, has massively cut down on his intake. As you were saying this can work both ways, we can inspire other people and get them to think about their own habits, I haven’t even suggested that he should he just decided he would. Now we are both feeling fitter and a little sleeker! Susie xx
Great tip thank you so much
Today I'm going to try to get sober again. I'm 55 and have had issues with alcohol on and off (mainly on) since I was 16. So glad I found this channel and community. You are all awesome!
You're always welcome here sober or otherwise! You will most likely have a few Sobriety detours, and a few days that you feel like you let yourself down. but the most important thing is that you don't give up and you keep marching forward!
Look for the video "10 proven ways to prepare for sobriety"
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I am in the same boat, 57yrs old, started drinking as a teenager, been trying to stop drinking for over ten years now. These videos help me a lot, I get on here every morning to watch one... and I listen to them in the car too on the way to work, and on the way home. Lots of good ideas and help to be found here. Stick with it my friend, we can do this.
This might sound quite negative, but I've found that the most helpful thing for me has been literally just spending my time alone. Ive been sober for just over 1 month now and most times I even go out now with my friends and am sober, it costs just as much as if I were drinking. Moreover, I've found that most people don't want to be around me or even contact me given I'm no longer drinking. I've needed to cut out most people in my life and spend most of my time alone outside of work. I will likely be able to make some new friends a few years from now who are in different circles, but for the time being, cutting out the people who truly weren't good for me has been the most helpful thing.
Not negative at all. Setting personal boundaries and doing what's in YOUR best interest is absolutely adviseable!
look for the video titles: "20 ways to set personal boundaries" in the playlist...
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I enjoy fishing alone, it’s peaceful.
After a few days off drinking, I feel so good that I crave a few drinks to “relax”. It’s like I forgot how it felt to feel strong and alert.
We have to be smarter than our impulses! 💪
Resist the evil voices in your head that want to drag you back to the old ruts of despair, laziness, and complacency.
😊9 days being sober again! Very determined to keep going this time. Last year I did March to September which was 7 months.In the end triggers were work stress. Now I have retired I have no excuse. Wish me luck Jae and hope you are having a good relocation.❤
I wish you Preparation, Practice, Patience, Persistence, and Pizza!
Self-care is super important for me on this alcohol-free journey. I tend to "beat myself up" and be very critical of myself sometimes. Negative self-talk can be a killer! I have to catch myself and remember to be kind to myself, too, I know one popular technique to check my negative self-talk is to ask if I would talk to someone I care about (like a friend, lover, or family member) the way I am talking to myself. Most of the time I would never in a million years talk to someone else the way I talk to myself. So I have to "reset" and take a breath and start over LOL. Take care of yourself everybody, getting sober is freaking hard and we all deserve some love and self-care.
93 days today! Started my journey with your videos and continue to come back! Thanks!
93 days is a tremendous accomplishment! Keep it going!
👏👏👏 93 days LETS GOOOOOOOOO!!!! You're always welcome back... especially in the comment section 😉
Congrats on 93 days. Keep up the good work
Is it day 100??
Tell me also Did you make it to the triple digit day? What is your latest success?
When I get a craving I go out back and split wood. I have a lot of split wood ready for the wood stove...A LOT😂
That is a great idea! Exercise and work can help take my mind off drinking too. Stick with it!
lol proof of effort is better than proof of money spend at a bar
Winter is cold. Congrats on chopping so much wood.
One month sober. Prayer, going to church more and frequent confession brought me this far and keep me moving forward.
I really can’t see the reason to be sober without examining my soul.
And it’s absolute Hell to be addicted.
I hear your there. Not worth it without going deeper inward and figuring out just who all is in here!
Still scary, but it’s not Hell
Jesus is the way yes !!! 🙏
Read that new testament. Get to know Jesus. Watch out for cult churches that don't teach the real gospel.
Cleaning my house, walking my dog, going to the gym. I also took Turmeric every day. I now drink ginger tea with honey, and i drink flavored sparkling water from a can.
Has the turmeric helped ? I try drinking it in milk tastes like sand
@@markoconnor4380 yes. I take 3 capsules every morning. It has helped me to feel better, and has improved my sense of well being.
Yes. It has helped me alot. It also helped improve my sence of well being. I take 3 capsules every morning. @@markoconnor4380
I love ginger tea. I make my own n/a ginger beer!
I’ve definitely found spicy things to help curb cravings. Break out the Tapatio!
My Activities To Help Stay Sober: 110 Days So Far.
1. Recite to myself the gifts Sobriety is giving me.
2. Ride and Race my bike on Zwift.
3. Document the improvement in my cycling fitness and plan workouts to help me improve.
4. Read business articles and research investment ideas.
5. Plan the Model Railroad I will build in my basement.
6. Learn new computer programs that I can use to help me plan my Model Railroad and use use at work for that matter.
7. Watch Videos that help re enforce my decision to get and remain Sober.
8. Enjoy a sweet treat.
9. Pick a small project to do around the house. Can take as little as 20 mins, Just something to re focus me.
10. Go to bed early if I simply can't shake cravings as any issues I have are in the evening.
Projects around the house works for me, I will tackle a cleaning job like washing the floors or walls, vacuuming, repairing something that's been driving me crazy (LOL) etc.
That #1 IS SO POWEFUL!!!!!!!! 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
Sobriety is definitely about change, beginning a new life if you will. You have to be willing to get rid of your old habits, what you did before obviously wasn't working if you've decided to quit alcohol. But you will feel much better! I'm 50 days sober now and legitimately happier than i ever was drinking.
well said!!! 👏👏👏 50 days let's goooooooo!!!!
I know what you’re saying is spot on. I’m personally terrified to get as far as you because I think I know what I’m going to realize: that I don’t actually like my comfy corporate job nor the city I live in and it’s been long enough that I don’t really know what hobbies speak to me (been getting high or drunk and listening to music with most of my free time the last 11 years). But this just ain’t a life worth living anymore (like Jae says in this video). Eeeeek….
Keep that positive momentum going!
I'm at 5 months clean and sober , here is what works for me
1. Sober Living , I live with like minded friends / house mates that are like minded , we get tested every day.
2. I am of service , I like to cook for my housemates.
3. Attend 12 step program meetings , I get out of my head and listen to others.
4. I workout, I take classes and I bike .
5. I draw, I have strong emotions so I like to draw them out sometimes.
6. I talk to friends and family daily .
7. I pray when I have cravings, I admit that I have the cravings and admit my stress and put out that I don't want to use and drink. ❤
Sounds like you have a good plan, please stick with it! Life is better without alcohol!
What has helped me stay sober for almost 6 months has been improved health, exercise, staying in the moment, Faith, family, picking up an old hobby again (beading), eating better, playing my violin, good supportive friends, finding alternative things to drink (mock tails), reading inspirational things, this channel and a few others for inspiration, improved thinking (memory and cognitive). Thanks Jay
6 months is a great accomplishment, keep it going! I love your list, those are all wonderful activities!
Sounds like you're becoming yourself...again 😉
Craving stoppers: long walks, freewriting sessions, practicing something for the next show, the NYT Mini Crossword, stretching, planning dinner/meal-prepping, crocheting (that's how I quit smoking 22 years ago), painting my nails, any self-care-hygeine process like a bath, facial or hair treatment, meditation.
I thought I was smart, but I'm not NYT crossword smart lol
This is a great list, keep going, you have a good plan and I know you can do this!
@@GettingSoberAgain please note, it's the MINI crossword that eases my stress. The main one drives me NUTS!!! 😸
@@jeffreyjohnmann thanks Mann! Shifting focus to something I actually want or need to do helps a bunch. Slay on!! 🤘🏾
@@catylytica What do you have planned for the weekend?
I needed this. Here are some things i will do to enjoy sobriety again:
Go for a run (even if its cold). Go for a bike ride (even if its cold).
Do yoga.
Learn spanish.
Play chess.
Crochet.
Learn some more guitar.
Read my book (lately, the alchemist)
Journal out my thoughts.
Cook a healthy meal.
Call a friend i havent spoken to in a while.
Ive just started again after relapsing over and over for a year now. I want to get back to those two years. And the idle hands issue is definitely a major factor in my slipping back into old patterns.
I'm glad that you have that kind of awareness! 👏👏👏
I love your list of safe alcohol-free activities!
I’m 3 months California sober. I use these videos when I have cravings to validate my choices.i appreciate the time you spent making these.
I appreciate the support and recognition! Thank you for updating us on your three successful months, and I wish you continued success in all of yourself improvement endeavors!
1. Waking up thankful.
2. Writing a to-do list.
3. Shadowboxing/workout.
4. Basketball.
5. Hanging out with my GF.
6. Playing Pokemon Go.
7. Listening to horror stories.
8. Plan something cool for next month.
9. Do the things on my to-do list.
10. Make a meal in my crockpot that I'll wake up thankful for.
I see a lot of gratitude and preparation in this list, kudos!!!
Dude you are killing it! I love to practice Muay Thai (I have a heavy bag on my patio) and that helps me get some of my frustrations out when I am feeling that way. And I love doing meal prep, I wish I had a crock pot, that sounds great! Stick with it man, you are killing it. Life is so much better without alcohol, please don't give up on yourself.
@@jeffreyjohnmann 🙏 Thank you. I appreciate the kind words from when I recently relapsed. I definitely need a Heavy Bag. I did Muay Thai for 3 months and I just don't have the pivoting down. Lol. The crock pot is a total game changer.
Tomorrow is my Day 1. What a perfectly timed video! Thank you, Jae! Anyone else start Day 1...again?!
Can't wait to hear your sober weekend progress report! Set a calendar reminder for Monday morning to come back and comment your victory!
@@GettingSoberAgain ❤️❤️
I’m just two days ahead of ya. We got this
Congrats on embracing sobriety. It gets easier day by day.
Every day is day 1. Every day we make a decision to take alcohol, or not.Stick to the present, decide each day if you will turn down alcohol, or not. Is a choice, every day.We can’t know the future, it’s impossible to know exactly what will happen, including with alcohol,and each day we have the freedom to turn it down.And the benefits of doing so make that A BIT easier but each day is a new day.
Crochet, singing, listening to music, talking to a friend on phone, calling my mum for no reason, playing with kids, cooking, drawing, meditation wheight trenning, running, swimming
I'm sure mum approves 🧓♥️
I like that line. "Because I am not drinking tonight, I will have more money for the tip."
I WILL NOT FAIL!!!
I’m a month and three days sober today and really needed to hear this. Recently I opted to try speed dating which is hosted at a pub near me. Was thinking about just having a few drinks at the event to fit in and my friend was encouraging me to do so. Since watching this video I’ve decided not to give in and if people comment on it they can just eat a bag of dicks lol. Also I can’t thank you enough for this channel it’s really helped me out, I worked out a lot before I quit drinking but when I gave up this year I decided to do the 75 hard challenge along with it and I’m looking fitter and healthier than I ever have. Much love to everyone here and god bless you all :)
Every time you try an activity without booze and succeed you get stronger, and you teach your old boozy brain that you CAN have fun sober, you CAN do things without a beer in your hand, and you CAN have a good life without alcohol. Keep it going!
I'm always fascinated when people want to jump into new relationships so fast when it's our job to work on the most important relationship which is... The relationship that we have with ourselves 🫂
My 10 activities 1. Hiking with my husband and dog. 2.Doing art. 3. Watching your videos.4.biking 5. Cooking a special meal. 6. Talking with my Daughters. 7.Reading 8. Dancing. 9 going site seeing. 10 Hanging out with people who don't drink.
I will read Quit Lit, exercise, write in my journal, hit the punching bag, walk the dogs, and watch sober TH-cam videos!
Side gig, walking, talking on the ph, online shopping 😂, tv,studying ,
How many nights must we punch a hole in the drywall, throw all the liquor bottles over the fence into the neighbors driveway and yell “Tmorros gonna be day ONE!!!”
As many as it takes.
You have good energy. You merely have to get that energy flowing in a productive direction.
@@gwillis01 Thank you
I am always willing to give a word of encouragement or support @@mattc825
Still sober baby and I love it !!! Best thing I ever did. I joined a boxing gym and since I quit weed I can wake up at 4am with EASE.
It's great that you WANT to wake up that early, rather than going to bed that late! Major upgrade!
I decided to quit cold turkey which i did 7 month ago(best decision I've ever made in my life) I'm 42 now, o started when 18, for me giving up the drinking buddies were the ultimate support, i since replaced those friends with Jae(which I'm grateful for) thise aren't your friends, every now and then i used to go through my contact list on my phone and delete couple, also having stronger faith helped me big time, i now feel much better, making more sensible decisions, talk less, calmer for sure, more present in the house with my family of 2 children, making progress in every aspect really and not to mention the amount of money i have saved in just 7 months is unreal! Jae i just want to say you make so much sense thank you.
A proud and present parent is the best gift you can give the next generation 👏👏👏
107 days Alcohol free! Your channel has helped a lot.. omgoodness this is exactly the head space I'm in
From my brain to your eyeballs. Yaaaaaay technology 🤓
Congrats on. 107 days. Keep striving for sobriety.
Probably going to watch all your videos as they come out, the positivity you have sure is helping.
One month down, a whole lifetime to go.
one month? ME TOO!!! Congrats!
OME MONTH LETS GOOOOOOO!!!!
Don't forget, a video a day keeps the cravings away!
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That’s great! 💪🏻💡💖
Go you!! I have yet to reach 1 month. That’s what Feb is for
@@thesweetprince
And February is the shortest month…so YOU CAN DO IT! 💪🏻💙 ✨
❤❤❤ Hmmm...my 10 things: cleaning, cooking, taking walks, watching self improvement videos, playing board games, drawing/painting, reading the bible, watching my rabbis teachings, listening to music and I think Ill try meditation soon too
Things that help me are video games, drawing, playing guitar, cooking, time with family, fishing, camping, sports, going to the movies.
Nice, those are some great alcohol-free activities!
1.) Spiritual alone time with the Lord
2.) clean diet
3.) exercises
4.) Bible studies
5.) jogging during the time I normally drank (evening)
6.) clean my house completely
7.) cook meals at home for family
8.) Bible studies/ prayers
9.) Reminding myself how my toxic ex had to leave forever and how bad it broke me down
10.) early bedtime - rinse and repeat
Well since you mentioned the bible twice, whats stuck with ya lately?
10 would take a long time to come up with but here are my big 3:
1. Cleaning the house. There's always something to do, there's always a pile of unsorted mail, or a drawer, pantry, or closet in your own home that you know can be made tidy. You know which drawer I'm talking about. Get to it. ;)
2. Exercise/Bike riding.
3. Writing code.
TIDY UP YOUR DRAWERS EVERYONE!! 🩲
1. Exercise. I bought a treadmill and walk for one hour and try to complete 4 miles every day. I also spin on my stationary bike. I ride my road bike when the weather allows. I bought a ski pass and ski several days each week. I swim laps and have lost 20lbs of beer gut.
2. Cancelled several "friends" who drink and drug and have made new sober friends.
3. Started focusing on my job again while laying the groundwork for post-retirement business ownership and travel plans.
4. Chanelling energy and attention into the people I love.
5. Journalling and creative writing. Photography and playing music.
6. Meditating about the trauma and attachments that led me to self-medicate with drugs and alcohol, and joining a sangha to practice the Dharma and to build a new community of sober and loving friends.
7. Watching videos like ... and reading really eye-opening books like "Hungry Ghosts" by Dr. Gabor Mate.
Gabor Mate is the MAN!!!!! What a strong list you have, keep up the powerful work my friend!
I’ve been sober for 3 weeks this video really helped thank you
That's what it's all about!!!
Click here to BINGE watch another one of our videos 😀
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best channel. gym, artwork, writing, walks, calling friends, meetings, planning a good meal, cooking, seeing a good movie, reading.
Couldn't agree more! What are your favorite meals to make?
Somehow you know my story. Thank you for your videos. 🙂
Many if us are on the same path. Stick with it.
I'm so sad , I feel like giving up my 11 months and getting blasted😭😭😭
There is something to be said about making yourself feel even worse to appreciate what you're taking for granted.
HOWEVER, know that you are loved, and we all care and I'm pinning your comment to show you how supportive this community is!
@@GettingSoberAgain thanks 🥲
Depression is an insidious malady. This I know well. For me the inspiration I’m leaning on is a friend who has agreed to be my accountability partner.
Stick with this, the journey is worth it. Oh yeah, I’m starting day 3 ….. Again.
i felt that way the other day and it’s only been a month sober for me. i did what you did…watched youtube channels about sobriety to inspire me. thankfully that worked
Wow 11 months! Way to go, I made it 2 months and some change and got blasted last Friday.. It’s not worth it, doesn’t feel good and won’t solve any problems. As Jae mentioned, we have to feel out the sadness so that we can grow, drinking it away only compounds our struggle and pain
Thank you so much for these videos. I'm 4 days sober and am really getting a lot from your videos. You seem genuinely happy. That's very inspiring
I'm happy to be here with you 😉 So much good happens when you get your drunken self out of your own way!
Congrats on finding our lovely, positive, online sober community. Congrats on starting your sobriety journey.
@@gwillis01 Thank you so much. I can't tell you how much I appreciate you all.
Hi Jae , No 3 was spot on for me , that’s the mistake I made last time , lol ! Seriously though, all 10 are things to be wary of . Thanks again for all the inspirational content , all the best !
My List
1 - Spend more time with my daughter
2- Creative writing
3- Walking
4 - Catching up with family
5- Cooking
6 -Learn a new language
7- Checkin out books I missed
8- teaching my daughter to swim
9 - Work out more
10- Get my coaching badges for Rugby ( I’m Scottish, lol) 🏴
I think you're the first person I've heard mention Rugby! I love that you're spending More time with your daughter 🥰
Day 51 today… the brain fog is horrible! My husband decided to start smoking again after about a week and a half… he never quit drinking… 😢 so on my own again…
You ain’t alone! You got us all here. Inspire him with your sobriety. Best of luck!
We are with you! you've already gotten 2 comments from me today 😉
Well done Shelly. Keep going honey, this is your life and your health. You do you xx Susie xx
@@Faginreview ty!!
@@GettingSoberAgain whoa !! Well you get a good Star 💫 for today!!! Woot!!
I'm at around 140 + days. What works for me is pretty much staying home. Not going to bars. And keeping alcohol out of my house. Not easy, but it is the beginning for me. Good luck everyone.
Great strategy! make your home your palace! 🏰
Make your private residence a safe, healthy place.
22:45 day 3 of sobriety and 2 days before my 54th birthday. Been in bed for 3 days scared to come out as I don’t want to drink. 40
years of disaster and I hope this time I can do it. I have been blessed to find this channel. And my heartfelt gratitude to Jae.
To conquer boredom, I'm trying to optimize my gym routine, definitely a better high from that now! I also read, play video games, and spoil my two cats!!
I LOVE CATS!!! How old? names? breed? color? favorite snacks????
They are about 1 year old! My brother named the black one Vader and the creamsicle coloured one Loki :) Loki will eat any meat, Vader is more particular but they both love prosciutto.@GettingSoberAgain
10 days sober, kind of! I’ve been smoking pot most nights to cope but know I’m using it as a crutch. I’m almost out and won’t be getting more. Pinky promise to myself:-)
10 Things to Keep Me Sober: (there’s many more but these came to the forefront)
1. Hiking 2. Reading 3.yoga/working out 4. Meditation 5. Thrift Shopping 6. Healthy Cooking 7. Declutter your home 8. Art Project 9. Journaling 10. Get In Nature
oOOOoOn what kind of art???
Almost at a month i think now...dont know if i 10 things...but here is what i do
Pray every day for god to help me break my drinking habit
Keep sparkling mineral water in my fridge to replace beer.
Focus on improving the house and gardens.
Watch positive TH-cam channels
Keep imagining the man i wish to be.
Cooking food instead of takeaways.
Talking openly about where it am at.
👏👏👏 Great start!
This sobriety journey has been one of the most humbling things I have ever experienced. For me, it has been so crucial to be open and honest with myself... and look closely at everything in my life with no filters or candy-coating at all. That is not always easy! I give so much love and admiration and credit to anyone who has the courage to try and get free from alcohol and improve their lives. If you are here and trying to get free from booze or drugs I think you are a badass! Please don't give up on yourself, I am 140+ days sober and I don't want to go back to living the way I used to. We can do this together!
We can do this together 🫂
Inspiration: at 63 Im looking at the back half of my life. Stopped alcohol and decided I wanted to be a better me for me, so I: am going back to school for my AA degree, studying TaiChi, learning drumming, taking painting to non toxic oils, picking up my camera again, and gaming for my brain. I still crochet, sew, and want to figure out how to sell my art and creations. I have the time now. Can't really change the places where my husband wants to hang out, but I can be very creative with Mocktails. Kinda fun. Bloody Mary with all the trimmings sans Vodka, anyone?
Trimmings YES!
Thanks dude.... really struggling today 3 weeks sober , this really helped
Bam! Another craving bites the dust!
Keep striving to improve yourself
@@gwillis01 thanks....how are you getting on with soberiy ?
The only reason I haven't had a drink is I feel so much better, binge drinking was my game
I get sparkling water and take a drive
Anywhere scenic?
Well, I'm only 5 days in since last Friday and I think it was pre-Covid since I've had a dry weekend so a big few days coming up. Video paused for the 10 activities I feel may help:
1. Reading
2. Swimming
3. Going for a walk
4. Visiting family
5. Housework
6. Keeping a diary / journal
7. Cooking
8. Playing musical instrumnet
9. Writing a letter
10. Gardening
Thanks for the great work on your channel.
Those are all great tactics for staying away from alcohol, I do several of them myself (I love writing in my sober journal- getting the anxious thoughts out of my head and down on paper makes my worries and fears seem more manageable somehow!). Pease don't give up on yourself!
What's in the garden this year??? I have some lovely Iris' that Ive planted over the years. but now I won't get to see them bloom for the second year in a row now that I've moved 🥹
@@GettingSoberAgain Oh not a great deal at present. Just to keep it tidy is enough for me at presnt.
Hi Jae…12 weeks yesterday 👍👍👍
My list of 10
1. Running
2. Cooking
3. Healthy eating, and drinking
4. Watching your videos
5. Getting plenty of sleep
6. Meditate on the reasons I’ve quit.
7. Driving without fear of being over the limit.
8. Cleaning
9. Treating myself with the money saved.
10. Visualise what I could achieve if sober long term.
Another great video Jae👍
This list is awesome, I love that you are looking ahead to an alcohol-free future and all that you could accomplish! Keep it going, keep dreaming, shoot for the stars! Life is better without booze!
lol #7 When I was like 2 years sober I went to the bar to play pool and had a paranoia flashback.... I started scanning the parking lot for cops and had to remind myself that I'm sober lol
~ walk and walk my Dog
~ build muscle (weights)
~ put time aside to work on finances
~ library time
~planning meals
~learning to cook healthy recipe
~clean my apartment
~rec center activity’s
~self help book
~organized something
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The hardest part of this is my favorite hobby is making wine, beer, mead and cider and i think i have to give it up. So maybe fermenting other things will be helpful.
Your videos have helped me big time ... your drinking habits were very similar to mine, about 3-4 times a week while holding down a job and family. The amount of alchol ive drank over the past 10 years is more than other people's lifetimes, and then some ... I recently accepted the job of my dreams, and i immediately realized I needed to clean myself up ... heres to almost a month sober !!
They say that Luck is when preparation meets opportunity. You made your own luck, so now it's time to move onto maintaining what you've got and continuously protecting this gift!
My current Go To's are 1) Video Games 2) Walking my 3 Pups more and playing Pokemon Go 3) Gym visits w/ family.
Just completed my first Dry January in 6 years! I nearly failed, especially on Fridays. I haven't quit vaping or sugar yet, and I'm anxious about February, but 32 days is still 32 days clear! I wasnt even sure i could do that, but i did. Whatever happens next at least i know 1 month clear IS possible.
Now let's find out how far you can really make it!
This is an awesome list! Maybe add journaling or blogging/online journaling about your sober journey? I find that writing down my worries, fears, victories and just blabbing about my efforts to get sober helps me so much. It gets it out of my head and down on paper and somehow that makes it all a lot easier to handle and put into some sort of perspective. Keep it going, 32 days is a huge accomplishment!
Congrats! Keep that positive momentum going!
50 days so far and never going back. Appreciate the videos bro.
Thanks so much for this it’s nice to know someone cares, no matter who I might be.
God Bless❤
Blessings come in many forms! Sometimes it looks like a guy who's between haircuts lol
Thank you so much!!! These are the best! Crush the week everyone, don’t worry about perfection just try to get a little better.
Learning to play the guitar, playing with my dogs, training my dogs, riding my motorcycle more, growing my own vegetables, camping, doing a jigsaw puzzle with my wife, cooking/grilling, sitting around a campfire in the evening with my wife and sober friends just yakking, kayaking with friends and my wife, day hiking.
Better yakking with sober friends than yakking because of drunk friends lol 🤮
Keep studying and watching movies help me to stay at home. I also workout and started running. I love videogames, so It really helps me.
Watch anything good lately? I just started riding my bike again now that I'm living somewhere warm!
These videos and the comment sections are actively helping me at my 4th attempt to get sober in the past 3 years or so. Thanks for being awesome ❤
Instead of drinking, go outside and walk. Find a walking stick in the woods. Then find a better one. Then go home and sand it and stain it.
Then walk with it every day.
Hi guys, I knew I needed healthier habits, hobbies and people in my life. After a 30 year break I got back into Warhammer. It has a good supportive community and stops me getting bored wondering where the fun is at. Running clubs are great also, but you can only run an hour a day. Tabletop gaming literally goes on forever:)
Which games do you play?
@@GettingSoberAgain thanks:) a load of them. Old world, 40k, kill team, blood bowl. I played in punk and metal bands before and I really needed the brotherhood, creativity and community with out the endless pub scene. I'm still totally metal;)
🤘bangs head gently
Loving playing with my cat and reading and getting back into drawing. Day 32 sober now
32 days is a huge accomplishment!
Congrats on 32 days sober
I LOVE CATS
Better than a drink for me, is visiting and playing with grandsons! They are 8 and 3, and way more fun than a glass of wine!
I agree that idle hands are the Devil's tools. Keep yourself busy with old hobbies, new hobbies, or cleaning the house.
What are your latest hobbies?
@@GettingSoberAgain I am experimenting with using digital streaming for television content instead of using DirecTV
Who knew there were so many dozens of streaming services?
So far, my favorites are Discover + , Pluto TV, and Tubi tv.
I also read novels.
I am experimenting with free streaming services for television content instead of sattellite or cable tv.
So far, Pluto tv and Tubi tv are my favorites.
Who knew there were so many dozens of digital streaming services? Some require an expensive subscription, some require a small price subscription, and some are free.
Pluto tv and Tubi tv are free streaming services.
I like to read novels and watch tv
Great video Jae, I really enjoyed 4 and 10. I am in that early sobriety phase although nearly 100 days sober 🎉 I do feel so much better not drinking and I love telling the truth about my sobriety journey to my friends and colleagues when some say I am not right for not drinking on a night out! 😂
Mass hypnosis is real! Stay strong 💪
You are making positive choices to make positive impact on your life!
Some people want to keep you in that same old slot that you were in when they first met you. They are surprised and shocked when you start to change for the better.
Sober fun is more quiet and subtle but it lasts longer. Sober friends are the best friends.
When i get sober (done this many times and relapse) )10 are
Walking my dog
Playing the xbox
Bush walking
Skateboarding (even tho im scared coz i havent done it in years and usually stack it 😂)
Seeing my family more
Keeping my house spot less
Trying to dance more
Learn guitar
Gym
Not really 10 but trying to find new hobbies
Pretty rad list 😎
Hi again guys:) full month! Made the mistake nr 1 the first time, now I dont drink, period:)
1 Month LETS GOOOOOOO!!
Keep striving to improve yourself phunkracy
@@gwillis01 Thanks! Cheers and good luck to you too!
@@GettingSoberAgain 🥳
@@phunkracy 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
I have actually gotten sober multiple times and I did well going to classes but now actually having a one on one with you is making me feel inspired again and so therefore I am taking that step back into healthy living away from alcohol period thank you jae
My pleasure! Maybe we will cross paths in real life someday. Where do you think it would be? I think maybe at the botanical gardens, or on a nature hike.
All of these things aree more helpful to hear than months of therapy. Thank you
Yeah but you gotta do the work. Stick with it, please don't give up on yourself!
@@jeffreyjohnmann Hey man I really appreciate it. I am really glad I discovered this community; it has really inspired me. I have been drinking around 30-40 drinks every night for the last 3 years and I am starting to realize this is not the life I want to live. Thank you again for the support
For the low low price of $0 🫡
Dude, this is a GREAT video. Packed full of good tips. Nicely done!
It's certainly a fan favorite! We actually uploaded it for the first time over the summer. I decided it should be rereleased for those out there who haven't seen it yet. Unfortunately the TH-cam algorithm really only cares about pushing new content, so valuable videos like this just get left to rot after awhile 🤷
Vacuuming the house, doing laundry, watching you tube to learn Spanish and learn more about history/psychology/nutrition, planning travel, planning to meet up with family members
Eating SMALL amounts what we call sweets, you call candies, I know that is not ideal but better than a big glass of wine for now..
Look for the video "10 reasons why we crave sugar after getting sober" in the playlist
Here's the main playlist of episodes so you can check out more when you're ready 👍
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Thank you Jae! Hope getting settled into your new space is going well.
All is well! 75 and sunny here. rode my bike 10 miles each of the last 3 days 🚴
The thought of going back to hospital.
Step one alllll dayyyy
We gotta do what we gotta do. But here's the challenge: do what you gotta do to not go back to where you were.
We're either learning from our mistakes, or destined to repeat the lessons over and over again.
On day 27 today, I'm about to get the first milestone of one month. I got this covered. Im done alcohol. I treat alcohol as my toxic ex. I must say it does come with triggers and challenges and cravings. I recently had a work stress challenge which ordinarily would have been relieved by alcohol which i resisted. I once a month have a meeting with my drinking friends for a good gesture money saving venture, so far not tempted to drink even though they do, i am an adult and can not be persisted by others to do what i don't want to.
Ten things to keep me busy.
1. Clean my swimming pool.
2. Swim frequently.
3. Jogging
4. Cycling
5. Fix service inspection of my cars.
6. Handy work fix stuff and gadgets around the house
7. Cleaning housekeeping my garage.
8. Do projects repair work.
9. Spend time with wife and kids.
10. Play my soduku.
11. Register course in engineering Study and improve myself.
Many more to keep me busy, away from alcohol 🤞
This is a beautiful list my friend!! Way to be a great representation of sobriety!
I feel like even though I’m a little over 2 months sober it’s always something!! I already had a bad sweet tooth and man has it gotten out of control. I feel like it always something I’m having to tackle but the fight continues! Wish all of you luck on your road to sobriety.
Tough times don't last, tough people do! Stick with it, you are doing great. Drinking will not make your situation better, it will only make it worse, so please don't give up on yourself!
Look for the video "10 reasons why we crave sugar after getting sober"
Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes!
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@@GettingSoberAgain thanks! I did check that out.
Making change is easy! It’s maintenance that is the hardest 👍
MAINTAIN, MAINTAIN, MAINTAIN!!!
Education, Relationships, health, your home, your car, your business...sobriety! It's ALL maintenance!!!
Stick with it my friend!
My 10 activities:
Cycling
Home workout
Cooking healthy meals & trying new recipes.
Mediation
Watching videos here & elsewhere
Listening to Podcasts
Spending more time in nature.( long walks)
Reading.
Making new homemade electrolytes drinks.
Swim, cold therapy & sauna.
Going on 6 straight days and have very little thought of going back...I made myself so sick of that routine that the feeling better has an increasing affect already that I don't want to go backwards....great helpful videos
Cooking a great meal, taking a long Hot Shower, Exercise, Popping some Popcorn and watching a movie, all these help me overcome a craving.
I'm a sucker for those long showers!! sometimes they skip a day just so I can justify staying in the shower longer lol
1. 6:25 Walking the dogs (just wait until I get back from the walk to decide to have a beer or not). By that time, craving is gone. 2. Club soda or water first. 3. Tea/coffee before a beer. 4. Go surf. 5. Eat something, then see if I still want a beer. 6. Fake beer. 7. Anything with sugar, generally yoghurt, and see if I still crave the alcohol. 8. Watch one of these videos, then see if I still want a beer. 9. Call a sober friend, and 10. Reflect on all the past damage and ask if it’s really worth it! Bonus trick: look at my number of sober days, and realize that I don’t want to blow that streak . . .
I started this journey in March 2021. Stayed sober for 8 months and then...made the mistake to "controlled" drinking. I ended up drinking again. Believed that I could control it. I have been on and off the alcohol but alcohol is winning this battle. Even thou I drink WAY less than what I used to drink...I still drink and some days even get wasted only to feel bad about myself. I need help...but my insurance doesn't cover 100% substance abuse counselling. I need help...I want to quit 100% and never look back.
Thanks for the help
You got it Tim!
I have heard of the dreaded "pink cloud" a few days after quitting. You feel great both mentally and physically and this leads you to think you can have a few cold ones. It is a trap and do not fall for it!
THE MORE YOU KNOW! 🌈 ✨
Exercise taking my dogs for longer walks playing my guitar dieting studying my Bible new job
OoOOOOh what's the new job??
@@GettingSoberAgain security guard at a college campus
Today is 34 days for me no alcohol. I have increased anxiety and thinking about drinking so I came to the gym to run. I hope it gets better but I won’t find out if I don’t keep trying ❤️
34 days is awesome! Stick with it, getting out and going to the gym is a great plan! Keep busy, you can do this!
Every inventer has to head back to the drawing board to figure out what's missing. You are in a period of reinvention! exercise is 100% part of a successful program. use that body! lower your stressing anxiety, and increase your longevity twofold!