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I have no internal monologue, so my thoughts look a bit different, but I make an effort to think kindly of other people and assume the best intentions when possible, so I would say I'm an optimist with some effort, since it doesn't always come naturally
This sounds good - I try to do the same. I'm fascinated by the lack of internal monologue thing, I haven't heard of it before. I'm going to do some googling about it now...if you're interested in sharing more I'd love to know whether that's a nice peaceful situation for you...it sounds it!
@Penfriendrocks I mostly hear about inner monologues when people co.plain about negative thoughts patterns, so I don't know if there are nice elements to them, but I don't mind not having negative loops. I still get depressed and anxious, but it comes down largely to feeling it in my body. I also have aphantasia, so I don't see anything in my mind either, so my thoughts would probably be pretty foreign to a lot of people, and are mostly complete ideas mixed with bodily sensations. It takes a fair bit of effort to exist in the world, because it feels like I am always translating to another language... but then again, it's all I have ever known.
I try to be positive and practice a proactive positive mindset. But, I am also realistic and understand the world is a pretty dark place right now and our country seems to be in a weird spiral of hate too. However I cannot control those things, but what I can do is try to bring good vibes to others where I can, I share a lot of photography online and feel blessed to be able to meet people through events I photograph and I love the creative energy of this. Interestingly editing and creating the photos is very therapeutic too. I do not really make money from my photography, probably because I am not business-minded like that. I make a habit of having no news time where I step away from news platforms etc, I do mindfulness and meditate on a semi-regular basis, I find gym with some high-intensity classes as well as yoga/pilates classes that help me relax too, also listening to music is my regular escape. Your music and creativity bring a lot of energy to others, including me and it is Ok and natural that a project can burn you out, but never forget to relax and have downtime too and don't push too hard too fast so to speak. As I see it all emotions are valid for sure and art of any kind is a great outlet for emotions. Lastly, It's a crazy world at a crazy point in history, but there is still good stuff going on too.
Thanks for this thoughtful reply, Martin. It sounds like you're in a good self care routine and you're right, rest is important! Noted - I've been doing a bit too much lately and need to calm down a bit :)
The "I should probably get a "real" job' intrusive thought is the one that keeps getting me, so this was a good reminder to practice letting go of that.
A noisy neighbour (musician, but the noise was more coming home at 2am every night, I never heard him rehearsing …) is the reason I was adamant that I wanted to live in a detached house, which I do albeit a very cheap one when I bought it - although the garden noise can still be a problem… it also means I don’t worry about blasting out music I’m listening to.
Ah yes, we tried to get a detached house but couldn't make it worth unfortunately. Our actual next door neighbours are great, thankfully, it's someone in the next street along who loves the loud music! I do get irritated because musicians get the bad rap for being loud but all the musicians I know are super careful and respectful about noise. It's always been non-musician neighbours who have created problems for me trying to do my quiet music making! *shakes fist at sky etc*
aaaahhh, Daisy looks adorable :) I'd like to think i'm a 'glass half full' as even if things are a bit rubbish, there is always something I can do to move forward - same with 'waves hands' current world news - things are not positive, to say the least, but scale everything down, and me learning something new in my own workshop, or helping out friends, or just picking up litter on my street, hopefully a positive gain somewhere
Yikes. Ed Sheeran blasting out from your neighbour's garden sounds like a form of punishment. Another helpful video Laura. This week has been a rough one for tragic news in the UK. So much awful stuff is happening to make everyone negative and pessimistic. There is not much left other than to try to be optimistic and hope for the best ❤
I really enjoyed this one, Laura - thanks for sharing your outlook. I am a person who clouds their natural pessimism in "realism", or "pragmatism", but in the end I do tend to hope the best but plan for the worst.
Pessimist, realist, optimism....Here I must intervene, as they do with junkies, when they have interventions.....You are not a deluded neurotic, with artistic pretentions.....You are...and must accept...an artist...............................This year and last year....your music was coinciding with major things happening in my own life...things I don't want to post on in detail, on social media....Things that were different but running parallel to things in your life, that were informing your music, things I was unaware of on an important....We're both still alive...but, that was not a given thing.....If everything had been going swimmingly well, you could never have wrote those songs.
Having noisy neighbours is one of the reasons I decided to move my studio, also that I'm very conscious of disturbing them back 😂....which is getting somewhere at last. The rest of my place though.... 🤪😂 I have, at times, described myself as an optimistic pesamist...optimistic that something will go wrong, but I do try to look on the bright side if I can. Tis not always easy though, especially with the state of the world these days and personal 💩 to cope with. Our own inner critics can have very loud and shouty voices at times and never seem to completely leave us. It would be nice if they would just 🤬off permanently. I find motorcycling is good for clearing my mind and going back to what you were doing after 😁 Anyhoo, your bass playing is awesome! I have One in a Thousand in my car at the mo turned up loud and there's not a single track that I want to skip 😁...stops me listening to the news on the radio too, a bonus right there. So with your creativity you are helping with my mental health too, thanks 👍 Creative, caring and giving people must win out over those that just want to destroy everything or what is the point? Keep doing what you're doing and hope you're not melting in the Launchpad. I for one can't wait to hear the results. Have you thought of doing a pre order for your new album? 🤔
Ahoy! Oh yes, there will be a few pre-album things - are you on my mailing list yet? I think you are...if not get on it here and I'll tell you all the things when they're happening penfriend.rocks/hello
If I were to identify I'd probably say I'm an optimist but concerned about toxic positiviity and unrealisitc optimism so I try to stay realistally optimisitic instead of just dreaming.
I have the view which is probably more of a 'realist' view... the glass being half full/empty depends on whether it started full and was half emptied, or started empty and was half filled...
@@Penfriendrocks If it makes sense, I prefer to look at it as has something been taken away/made it worse (half empty), or has something been added/made it better (half full)
Whew, I had just written rhe longest comment I've ever written in response to your question(s)/entire video's topic, and realized that I'm not the Talking Heads and this must not be the place. I can't answer your question because my inner edit button is broken, but the delete key still works. I'll just say I'm in a different season than I've ever been before and it's changed my way of existing. So I'll just say that I appreciated what you said around 3:30 about it not being that you look down or criticize pessimists, but that you didn't want to continue as an individual on a path you didn't feel served you best. (Sorry if the paraphrasing changed the meaning.) Thanks for these teatime videos and giving us things to think about or share. Looking forward to Wednesday's show!
Watching this reminded me of the Cinema Therapy episode where they discuss the film "Everything Everywhere All At Once" where Jonathan Decker offers a great rebuke to Nihilism: "If nothing we do matters, the only thing that matters is what we do". I think I used to think of myself as an optimist, but I've realised that what I actually have been is a pessimistic wishful thinker: someone hoping for the best whilst perpetually expecting the worst. I would REALLY love to find a way to be less like that. Thankfully, I've started therapy and my therapist is really good at lifting me up by pointing out my strengths. I think I might actually start to develop a more positive mindset from it. Thanks for another great video, Laura! P.S. As Frank Turner himself says, "In a world that has decided that it's going to lose it's mind, be more kind, my friends, try to be more kind"
WOW I love those quotes, thanks for sharing them! I hear you on the wishful thinker bit - I only realised very recently after reading a few books on finance and productivity that I needed to update my brain and work on some long-held ideas / beliefs that were limiting me and stopping me from planning for my future. In my twenties I decided to leave all that for later - the wishful thinking that everything would sort itself out bit - but I realise 1) later is now and 2) no-one else is sorting anything out except me! Dan, I may have just become an adult.
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I have no internal monologue, so my thoughts look a bit different, but I make an effort to think kindly of other people and assume the best intentions when possible, so I would say I'm an optimist with some effort, since it doesn't always come naturally
This sounds good - I try to do the same. I'm fascinated by the lack of internal monologue thing, I haven't heard of it before. I'm going to do some googling about it now...if you're interested in sharing more I'd love to know whether that's a nice peaceful situation for you...it sounds it!
@Penfriendrocks I mostly hear about inner monologues when people co.plain about negative thoughts patterns, so I don't know if there are nice elements to them, but I don't mind not having negative loops. I still get depressed and anxious, but it comes down largely to feeling it in my body. I also have aphantasia, so I don't see anything in my mind either, so my thoughts would probably be pretty foreign to a lot of people, and are mostly complete ideas mixed with bodily sensations. It takes a fair bit of effort to exist in the world, because it feels like I am always translating to another language... but then again, it's all I have ever known.
I try to be positive and practice a proactive positive mindset. But, I am also realistic and understand the world is a pretty dark place right now and our country seems to be in a weird spiral of hate too. However I cannot control those things, but what I can do is try to bring good vibes to others where I can, I share a lot of photography online and feel blessed to be able to meet people through events I photograph and I love the creative energy of this. Interestingly editing and creating the photos is very therapeutic too. I do not really make money from my photography, probably because I am not business-minded like that.
I make a habit of having no news time where I step away from news platforms etc, I do mindfulness and meditate on a semi-regular basis, I find gym with some high-intensity classes as well as yoga/pilates classes that help me relax too, also listening to music is my regular escape.
Your music and creativity bring a lot of energy to others, including me and it is Ok and natural that a project can burn you out, but never forget to relax and have downtime too and don't push too hard too fast so to speak.
As I see it all emotions are valid for sure and art of any kind is a great outlet for emotions. Lastly, It's a crazy world at a crazy point in history, but there is still good stuff going on too.
Thanks for this thoughtful reply, Martin. It sounds like you're in a good self care routine and you're right, rest is important! Noted - I've been doing a bit too much lately and need to calm down a bit :)
After giving us bangers like Exit Strategy and Scared to Capsize you should drink from Champagne bottles and forget about the silly glasses.
@@Clementineclimate 🥂
The "I should probably get a "real" job' intrusive thought is the one that keeps getting me, so this was a good reminder to practice letting go of that.
@@revdancatt it’s insidious isn’t it!!
You nailed it!
A noisy neighbour (musician, but the noise was more coming home at 2am every night, I never heard him rehearsing …) is the reason I was adamant that I wanted to live in a detached house, which I do albeit a very cheap one when I bought it - although the garden noise can still be a problem… it also means I don’t worry about blasting out music I’m listening to.
Ah yes, we tried to get a detached house but couldn't make it worth unfortunately. Our actual next door neighbours are great, thankfully, it's someone in the next street along who loves the loud music! I do get irritated because musicians get the bad rap for being loud but all the musicians I know are super careful and respectful about noise. It's always been non-musician neighbours who have created problems for me trying to do my quiet music making! *shakes fist at sky etc*
aaaahhh, Daisy looks adorable :) I'd like to think i'm a 'glass half full' as even if things are a bit rubbish, there is always something I can do to move forward - same with 'waves hands' current world news - things are not positive, to say the least, but scale everything down, and me learning something new in my own workshop, or helping out friends, or just picking up litter on my street, hopefully a positive gain somewhere
@@spinyuk yes 100%!
Yikes. Ed Sheeran blasting out from your neighbour's garden sounds like a form of punishment. Another helpful video Laura. This week has been a rough one for tragic news in the UK. So much awful stuff is happening to make everyone negative and pessimistic. There is not much left other than to try to be optimistic and hope for the best ❤
Absolutely, George. It's a sickening time. Unsolicited Ed Sheeran doesn't help tbh.
I really enjoyed this one, Laura - thanks for sharing your outlook. I am a person who clouds their natural pessimism in "realism", or "pragmatism", but in the end I do tend to hope the best but plan for the worst.
That sounds smart. I realised I wasn't ever planning for the best - it does occasionally happen :)
Pessimist, realist, optimism....Here I must intervene, as they do with junkies, when they have interventions.....You are not a deluded neurotic, with artistic pretentions.....You are...and must accept...an artist...............................This year and last year....your music was coinciding with major things happening in my own life...things I don't want to post on in detail, on social media....Things that were different but running parallel to things in your life, that were informing your music, things I was unaware of on an important....We're both still alive...but, that was not a given thing.....If everything had been going swimmingly well, you could never have wrote those songs.
@@OXOjunkie you’re absolutely right. And I do accept I’m an artist :) thanks for saying hi!
Having noisy neighbours is one of the reasons I decided to move my studio, also that I'm very conscious of disturbing them back 😂....which is getting somewhere at last. The rest of my place though.... 🤪😂
I have, at times, described myself as an optimistic pesamist...optimistic that something will go wrong, but I do try to look on the bright side if I can. Tis not always easy though, especially with the state of the world these days and personal 💩 to cope with.
Our own inner critics can have very loud and shouty voices at times and never seem to completely leave us. It would be nice if they would just 🤬off permanently. I find motorcycling is good for clearing my mind and going back to what you were doing after 😁
Anyhoo, your bass playing is awesome! I have One in a Thousand in my car at the mo turned up loud and there's not a single track that I want to skip 😁...stops me listening to the news on the radio too, a bonus right there. So with your creativity you are helping with my mental health too, thanks 👍 Creative, caring and giving people must win out over those that just want to destroy everything or what is the point?
Keep doing what you're doing and hope you're not melting in the Launchpad. I for one can't wait to hear the results. Have you thought of doing a pre order for your new album? 🤔
Ahoy! Oh yes, there will be a few pre-album things - are you on my mailing list yet? I think you are...if not get on it here and I'll tell you all the things when they're happening penfriend.rocks/hello
@@Penfriendrocks splendid 😁 Yes, I am all mail listed up ta 😊
Hopefully it's cooled down up there in the Launch Pad and things are proceeded well ☕
I’d say I’m a sarcastic optimist which is hard to explain 😂
@@douglasrobertson0 🤣
If I were to identify I'd probably say I'm an optimist but concerned about toxic positiviity and unrealisitc optimism so I try to stay realistally optimisitic instead of just dreaming.
Makes sense!
I have the view which is probably more of a 'realist' view... the glass being half full/empty depends on whether it started full and was half emptied, or started empty and was half filled...
That is a very good point!
@@Penfriendrocks If it makes sense, I prefer to look at it as has something been taken away/made it worse (half empty), or has something been added/made it better (half full)
Whew, I had just written rhe longest comment I've ever written in response to your question(s)/entire video's topic, and realized that I'm not the Talking Heads and this must not be the place. I can't answer your question because my inner edit button is broken, but the delete key still works. I'll just say I'm in a different season than I've ever been before and it's changed my way of existing.
So I'll just say that I appreciated what you said around 3:30 about it not being that you look down or criticize pessimists, but that you didn't want to continue as an individual on a path you didn't feel served you best. (Sorry if the paraphrasing changed the meaning.)
Thanks for these teatime videos and giving us things to think about or share. Looking forward to Wednesday's show!
Bring on the longest comment ever, I'm here for it! I hope your current season is a positive one. See you tonight! xo
Watching this reminded me of the Cinema Therapy episode where they discuss the film "Everything Everywhere All At Once" where Jonathan Decker offers a great rebuke to Nihilism: "If nothing we do matters, the only thing that matters is what we do".
I think I used to think of myself as an optimist, but I've realised that what I actually have been is a pessimistic wishful thinker: someone hoping for the best whilst perpetually expecting the worst. I would REALLY love to find a way to be less like that.
Thankfully, I've started therapy and my therapist is really good at lifting me up by pointing out my strengths. I think I might actually start to develop a more positive mindset from it.
Thanks for another great video, Laura!
P.S. As Frank Turner himself says, "In a world that has decided that it's going to lose it's mind, be more kind, my friends, try to be more kind"
WOW I love those quotes, thanks for sharing them! I hear you on the wishful thinker bit - I only realised very recently after reading a few books on finance and productivity that I needed to update my brain and work on some long-held ideas / beliefs that were limiting me and stopping me from planning for my future. In my twenties I decided to leave all that for later - the wishful thinking that everything would sort itself out bit - but I realise 1) later is now and 2) no-one else is sorting anything out except me! Dan, I may have just become an adult.
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