@Francisco Delgado just find a few people you can actually trust to hang around, and otherwise talk to your parents or adults around you that's gonna listen. Hope everything works out for you.
I totally agree with the point you're making but they don't love lesbian or bisexual women, they straight up *fetishise* them. No love or respect, it's just to keep their dicks hard
I’m friends with both gay people and homophobic people I know it sounds crazy but I just told my homophobic friends to keep they shit to themselves I don’t judge people based off of their opinions or who they love cause I think it’s hypocritical
Sometimes when someone says something stupid, I’m not going to say anything because I don’t have to police everyone. Let me give you an example. Let’s say my friend says “I hate vegans, they are annoying”. I’m not going to say anything because I pick my battles. Same if she said she doesn’t like Beyonce. She’s entitled to her opinion, and if no one in the room asks me what I think, I might not say anything. Do you get what I mean? It’s about picking your battles.
Næp Sæck Being vegan and liking Beyoncé are choices. Someone has the right to not agree with someone else choices, it’s okay. Being gay is not a choice. And if you let a derogatory comment about someone slide for something they can’t control, you *are* compliant, %100 of the time.
Homophobic people who say “I don’t have a problem with gay people, but they better not try anything with me” like the absolute nerve you must have. What made you think they wanted you in the first place? Because they’re gay you think they no longer have a type, & if they did, you think you’re it?
My bff dated a homophobic guy and he hated me point blank. Didn't want to leave him... So... I left her..... Thx Tarek for showing me that I did the right thing. 😳😧😌
*Rae* That happend to me 😬 Anyway, now my boy it’s trying to get over that shit with my help. It takes patience, and I’m not completely sure where his homofobia comes from, but luckily now he’s starting to understand. Of course he’s never disrespectful to LGBT people, like myself, because then I would have dumped his ass with no doubt
I’ve defended my friends (straight and gay) plenty in their absence. One of my best friends was gay, Mike (God rest his soul) we’ve been friends since I was in kindergarten. The father of my kids tried it. Mike & I had went out and we went to the gay bar, he would go to the places I wanted to go and I would go to the places he want to go to. The father of my kids said to me “You’re going to stop hanging around Mike, I let out a lil laugh, because I couldn’t believe he even said it, I saw that he was serious, so I looked him in his face straight eye contact and said “I’ve been friends with Mike since kindergarten and I’m not going to stop now, I will hang with him and he will always be welcomed in my house and treated w/respect” he stood there and looked in my eyes for a moment and walked away. Never again was it brought up and never was Mike disrespected in my home or in my presence. I’m not the one. Ain’t no man or anyone going to tell me how or what I should feel or do about anything.
John Kimber, no need to wonder, because unlike you and/or who you have to deal with (I assume because of your comment) I wasn’t insecure. He NEVER had to choose between friends female or male with me, because I know where I stood with him and what I had to offer. And as far as kids go I wish a MF would’ve tried to keep mine from him including me or him. There wasn’t a damn thing child support, courts or whatever other petty situations MF’s go through with theirs, that could’ve done anything for ours. TF!! That wasn’t us and could’ve never been. But best of luck to you.
Men are meant to BE masculine dumbass and females feminine. I'm a teenager and even I know this. There should be no mixing of the two at all. Let our poor men be men without constantly being talked down for it and our women be ladies.
Mimah 101 being masculine is one thing, but making young men bottle up their feelings bc “crying is for girls” leads to serious psychological damage. Crying is not feminine, it’s human. Let men cry when they lose a family member or when they are going through a tough time.
@@mimah1015 I disagree. I'm an asian dude and in our tradition both men and women should have both equal masculine and feminine energies. It's good to have a balance.
@@mimah1015 Take a look at the ever growing gigantic disaster of men vs women in western societies with MGTOW/redpills/incels vs Feminism. It's good to learn from other cultures for once.
An associate of mines has a feminine son, and a conversation about the boy came up. I had to go get a drink. It was disgusting to hear big grown 50+ year old men drag a little boy. Even when I reminded them that he's only 11 years old, they kept making jokes. Just awful!
@Watermelon Ice You're allowed to have an opinion. Just like people are allowed to question your reason for believing in it. And if you can't come up with a good reason, perhaps it's not a logical or mature belief.
those women view gay men as nothing more but GBFs. they want someone to talk boys with them, make sassy comments, go shopping, etc. that can stem from insecurities they feel with their girl friends or other reasons, but either way, they're unknowingly reducing gay men down to something that makes them feel better. that's why whenever i hear a girl talk about wanting a GBF i just walk away.
I don’t have time to date an homophobic man. What if my child is gay wtf are we gonna do if he’s homophobic. Anyway I’m pan so I think it play a part too lol
Lovely_Day that statement was homophobic. you’re straight im guessing. you grew up feeling a certain way about boys. im 500% sure you didn’t think “hey, im going to feel an attraction to males now” also it doesn’t effect you in any way shape or form so keep your negativity to yourself ❤️
@Lovely_Day ma'am you saying you don't agree with homosexuality is the same as you not agreeing with the color of someone's skin. how the hell y'all homophobes think y'all can even disagree with something out of someone's control is beyond me
Lovely_Day “what benefit does it bring humanity???” Homophones love to involve themselves in things that doesn’t affect them. How does someone being someone else being gay affect your life in ANY way??? It has nothing to do with you so why you even have an opposing opinion on it is beyond me. If you actually had more than a few brain cells then you would know that accepting homosexuality doesn’t mean that you are gay or that every person will now be gay.
I’m quick to dismiss a man I’m interested in over homophobia. Especially one that’s not willing to hear other viewpoints, people love being purposefully obtuse. It also makes me think of what if i have a child that’s apart of the LGBTQ community with a man like that 🤢.
I was “talking” to this guy earlier this year and he was the worst. One of my best friends is gay and he used to try to talk about him and I could tell he would get bothered when I’d be like “that’s my friend, stop talking about him.” He would also try to control me and get mad when I didn’t answer my phone or if I didn’t call him. I spend a lot of time with my sisters and he was like “why are you always with your sisters, why don’t you come see me.” He was outta his mind and I blocked his number.
I'm so tired of insecure men. I say that all the time. A man who is secure within himself will not be focused and bothered by things that have absolutely nothing to do with them. It's very simple.
Yo this video made me call up my husband and let him know how much I appreciate him. I be watching hockey and boxing with him and he will go to drag shows or watch drag race with me or remind me when my favorite makeup brand is launching a new thing. He's always been that way since we were platonic friends. Ugh, love him so much 💚
@@joonkorre I thank God every day that the person he picked out for me is really for me. That being said, to have your person want to understand you, You have to understand them! If both y'all ain't doin the work or one of y'all ain't doin the work, it just ain't gonna work.
Being gay and having your best-friends as girls is hard sometimes because they don't understand the importance and danger that we have to go through, I am not speaking on all females, but, I was at a party one time and this guy thought I was a girl and my friends didn't want to be there when he found I was not a girl. I told him I didn't want to dance with him and he kept insisting so I just danced on him. But, when he found out - it was the scariest moment of my life, seeing my friends that are girls just leave and not see what danger they were leaving me in. I stopped trusting females after that because they sometimes never understand what people will end up doing to gay people and they take those matters lightly and females have so many gay friends but don't act as advocates for them. We are nothing but, the friend that gives them life, compliments, confidence, their fashion stylists, their hair stylists, we are looked at as a thing to keep them looking their best and feeling their best. Having a gay friend has become a trend, a must have, something cool ... I mean honestly I could go on forever about this a female and a gay best friend. The conversation can go so far with this!
I think the true issue here, is that those women were never your friends. Had you been an actual female, they'd have ditched you the same way. Some people are assholes regardless of gender. Edit: let me also state that that unsafe feeling you experienced (this is aside from the assholes you were with), is a feeling women deal with every day. I do hear a lot of talk about how straight women should help the LGBTQIA community deal with homophobia and other related forms of discrimination. That's all well and good, but I'm not sure I hear much about supporting straight women, we get raped and killed by men at alarming levels and honestly, it's hard for me to name a community that has our backs in our struggle. Yet it seems everyone expects us to help them in their quest for acceptance and safe spaces when we don't have much of either ourselves. I'd like for this to open dialogue, I'm not put here to start an arguement. It just seems that from where I sit, all I hear is what straight women aren't doing to help (in particular, but probably not limited to) gay and trans individuals, but I don't get the sense that the support that's being demanded (and given in many cases) is reciprocated.
@@ForteFaiey This is some thoughts I had related to the topic at hand. I addressed the post in the initial comment. The edit referred to the actual video and my own thoughts.
@@genevieve571 I must say that I am very appreciative of the way you responded and how we have separate views and you didn't maliciously attack me for it. I definitely think that this should be an open discussion as women do go through a lot. You do in fact have a point when you say who does women have in their corner and I feel like we do often get stuck in this game of well who struggles the most and we want to focus on who has it the hardest... this is a very deep conversation with a lot of layers and I think this would make for a great discussion. In response to the comment I made and your response to it I believe they were most likely not my friends. I want to say more, but, also I can't speak on the struggles of a women as I am not one. Feel free to ask me any questions to continue this conversation if you are interested. I would like to ask you, how could we support women more?
I don't have a problem with you wanting gay friends because they have the relatability aspect that women just can't have. But those women don't speak for the majority of women. Women are told, even by other women that "we're fake and only care about gossip or boys". I think it's rooted in misogynist views, though I don't think you're a misogynist. I hope you find women in your life that love you and will defend you because we're not all bad.
So true! My ex was super controlling, super homophobic, would make me feel so bad about myself, and literally told me he DID NOT want me to go to school before he did because he didn't want me to get ahead of him. And guess what? Caught his ass Dm'ing a trans woman who indeed still had a penis and was asking if she was dtf. Also he turned out to be a pedo. Needless to say, he had a lot of things to unpack...my life should be a featured Lifetime movie. Anyway, yeah. No lies detected in this video😌
Creative Film Real men aren’t scared of woman’s rights. If you’re intimidated by other people having the same rights/respect as you then you need to crawl back into the womb because you’re not done cooking yet.
I dated a guy for a little while and I thought he was a pretty cool and fun guy at first. One day I was scrolling through my Instagram and was liking the pics of my fav trans and gay Icons and he got UPSET! He actually yelled at me and said I was weird and I need to change my ways 😂 LMFAO long story short we stopped dating right after that. blocked and BLOCKED.
aLiMaBeAn it’s a hateful opinion and people who have different viewpoints stop being friends all the time . and don’t dismiss that he yelled at her & said there was something wrong with her, so clearly he wasn’t respecting her viewpoint either.
@@alima872 LMFAO. That is not an "opinion". An opinion is like whether you like pineapples on pizza. Not whether you want gay people to die or not. brushing it off as an opiniom dismisses that person of ever having consequences for their hateful bigotry just because you called it an opinion. This is the problem with the world.
I feel that men individually and as a group need to heal there insecurity’s and notice the difference between masculinity and toxic masculinity BUT I also feel that women have a huge role in this. I talked to girls who say they’d never date a guy who they consider feminine. I think this reinforces the IDEA that men need to be ‘hyper masculine’ not only to be considered straight but also to be liked by women.
Agreed! I've seen a lot of other women who say that men who are feminine are automatically gay or when certain hobbies were brought up say that the only men who would like those things are gay, etc. I think this causes a lot of insecurity and esteem issues in straight/bi/pan men because it kinda gatekeeps heterosexuality and to an extent masculinity as well (or at least the perception of masculinity). I've also seen this manifest as Biphobia too. When I was in my GENDER STUDIES class- one of the classes that you would expect to be really accepting, my teacher asked the girls (specifically) in the class whether bisexuality existed. SO many of them raised their hands and was defending bisexuality until the teacher asked if they would date a man who told them they were bisexual. Immediately like 85-90% percent of them was unsure and several of them flat out said no.
@@magicalgirl4 I was heavily against it before and after the relationship. And now I don't see why I wanted to get back to it. Self respect and support for other minority groups is important
Why? Because of some stupid video on the TH-cam? 😂😂Bruh, I'm a strong independent woman who should not be told who to like, matter of fact I think I need a homophobic bf in my life.🤔
So true. Had a guy trying to hit me up and he was talking about his opinions or whatever and he said “gay people are fine BUT” that’s when I knew sis 😔
It's shady as hell that you even HAVE to convince ppl that opressive ideologies have to affect them for them to be against it 🙄 ppl be crazy. But thank you for your service Tarek, always informing and holding ppl accountable. Also - some people posit that homophobia stems from misogyny, because it's an extension of hating femininity, but in men i.e. feminine men. Not to say that all gay men are feminine, but there are definite links between homophobia and perceived femininity in men. Some philosphers centuries ago used to believe women were literally less human than men, and men were the peak of humanity, so for a man to actively take on an 'inferior' disposition and 'act like a woman' garners a violent response.
As a European who lived in the us for 4 years, I felt it. European women in general are a bit more masculine and European men are more feminine, (lets just say that our femininity and masculinity is more equal) and in the us I saw like half the men I was dating feeling threatened by that
me nd my brother we listening to music nd he started saying the n word when the rapper was saying it... at fist i really threw me off bc i was like... what did he just say...did i hear that right?? so i waited to see if he would do it again and he did, like u said he felt like i was a safe space, like she’s my white sister it’s all cool, so i had to stop him right there and tell him he shouldn’t say that, that it made me uncomfortable and he would not be saying it around me OR my friends bc that’s just embarrassing to have someone that arrogant related to me
It's sad that this HAS to affect straight women for them to actually stand up against it. It should be stood up for even if you think it has nothing to do with you just because it's wrong
idc what anyone says, if you’re cool with/in a relationship with someone who is homophobic/racist/bigoted, then you’re almost as bad as them because you’re saying that those qualities of a person are acceptable.
@@monalisa9636 rather discriminate against people who CHOOSE to hate and punish others, or discriminate against those who can't help who they are attracted to and are punished by society with no reasoning? i think the answer to your question is pretty fucking clear.
Personally I thought this was a very interesting topic because I usually don’t hear about it often. I think you explained everything and was able to touch up on every detail. This should be more talked about! Love you Tarek
I’ve had an experience where a feminine guy claimed he wanted to pursue me I was skeptical at first but we talked for about two months(no intimacy, my choice)and the whole time I felt like he was undercover he tried so hard to prove his masculinity through conversation putting down gay men, trying to prove that was he into sports and specifically stated that only a “man man” cares about sports. Needless to say I cut him off because I could see right through him he needs to live his truth I would encourage anyone to do so!
i see where that idea come from but there are men who are straight, bi, or pan who have stereotypical feminine tendencies. it has to do with attraction. i can see why down playing someones attraction to you when it might be genuine would put them in a position to where they would want to come off as a super manly man to get a date. that just adds to the issue. Just sayin.
I used to fight so hard with my ex because of the dumb shit he would say about the gay community, race, etc.. I finally left him after realizing that even though I was arguing with him, by still standing by his side, I was standing with his views
I really love and appreciate how you address homophobia and queer folk in the black community bc when we go to college and we are only learning about these things through a white lense. And then stuck trying to put two and two together, but your videos help recognize these issues in our own community !
Wow. I didn’t think of it like this. Majority of my ex’s loved when I stroked their ego. Constantly pointing out my insecurities and thinking their perfect. Checking my phone even though they were the ones cheating. They didn’t take interest in what I wanted to do. They constantly told me what I could and couldn’t wear or couldn’t do. Now that i have a real man. He treats me so well and there is a balance between my femininity and his masculinity.
Hollyhood TV the collective conscious does see this and because we are collectively recognizing it our collective energy’s thought starts the change.....Everything starts from thought. It is one of the first ingredients of manifestation...
Hi tarek can you please make a video about how woman not wanting to date a bisexual man because of the fact they are bisexual is inherently homophobic I saw this on Twitter and soo many straight woman got up and arms about it talking about "it's a preference"
it's the same with gays they don't want to date bisexual guys. I think because gays see that they are not too gay because the concept of liking more than one gender is difficult to accept by people who only like one gender.
Wow! Those are both very good topics. Bisexual people get it from everyone... I think that we are the most misunderstood. For some of us brought into creation “gender” is secondary to spirit....some of us have evolved differently in multiple ways...gender does not matter to a true bisexual individual. “We focus more on the spirit connection. We see beyond all of the programming forced upon everyone and the result of it as it continues to unfold right to this very moment.
I wish I had found this video sooner because when I had my first boyfriend, I didn’t realize how “masculine” he wanted to be. A lot of my closet friends aren’t straight. He even tried to convince me to leave them, and I told him that I would never do it because they’re the kindest people. My friends treat me right. I remember him telling me how “masculine” he was for playing sports. Everyday he would put my friends down behind their backs and I felt so uncomfortable. I didn’t know why he would put my friends down when he didn’t know them. Watching this video made me realize why we were never compatible. I’m so happy I broke up with him.
With me being Haitian-American, Haitians don’t like gays. It hurts me because whether you’re apart of the LGBTQ+ community or not, you’re still human and I love you 💕 Just thought I’d spread some love 💜💜
At a young age, Ive been pointing this out to my friends and the ppl I talk to. So glad that now smart and respectable people like you are exposing this horrible behaviour 🙌🏼🙌🏼🕊️
This has legit been a challenge in a lot of relationships I have been a part of... Both friendships and romantic relationships. I must say that I used to be the girl that would be silent, but being in a university where we have conversations about it, I have definitely grown on my knowledge about being an Ally... And I swear to you TO THIS DAY!! No Man, not even my family can come to me with that energy!! you are absolutely right on this video... We Stan A whole ass Queen baby! Keep educating us!
All facts! At least i believe the same things. You already had me at the part when you said, "If my friends are dating a homophobic person we cant be friends", and that's PERIOD! Sorry not sorry
Thank you for all your videos!! They are so important for our society and mostly for us lgtb black ppl who doesn't have any representation❤️ love you king!
Story time about me and my brainwashed homophobic boyfriend: (Posted this comment on another video in case anyone recognizes it) I tried so hard to at least convince my bf that him “not agreeing” with gay people makes him a homophobe. It was our first argument he even said “I’m not scared of them” I was seriously considering breaking up despite him being the only person I dated that I loved. I yelled at him after he tried to hug me. I apologized later and he said that he was sorry we have different beliefs. Here goes a little bit of how our conversation went. Me: “I hate when people use that bible to justify prejudice against others”. Him: “noo I don’t hate them, I don’t agree with them” Me: “that’s like me saying I don’t agree with your brown skin, I don’t hate brown skin people I just don’t like that lifestyle, brown people are sinful and go to hell” Him: “I didn’t say they go to hell” Me: “what ever the rest of the stuff I said still applies” Him: “I would eat dinner with a gay person. I paid for Alex to come from Texas to hang out and he’s bi. I just think it’s wrong and Alex understands that. (Alex is his friend) Me: “okay whatever” Him: “if there was an anti-gay parade I wouldn’t go to hate or support I would just let them be” Me: “what if there was a bill to make being gay illegal would you vote for it or against it” Him: “I only ever voted for the president once” Me: “okay but if you had to what would you choose” Him: “what if I voted for it?” Me: “then our country would be isis” *later after silence and playing Mario* Me: “okay the tension is high wanna go back to calling each other boomers every 5 mins and raging over Mario” Him: “nah we should talk about this because it might comeback up again” Me: “okay......you go first” Him: “I have nothing against him I just think it’s wrong” Me: “ *people don’t choose to be like that* ” Him: “ *you know they do* ” (This part made me the most mad especially because I’ve been in the closet as bi forever so I know it’s not a choice) Me: “no it’s not.” Him: “it’s not natural” Me: “then why does it occur in *nature* ” Him: “you can’t produce kids from it” Me: “SO PEOPLE WHO CANT HAVE KIDS ARE SINNERS even if they’re StrAight. Also you said you’re into anal THat UnAtUral. By your definition any form of sex that don’t make babies is unatural.” Him: “can we just accept we have different opinions on this, and we both feel strongly. So we probably won’t change our minds.” Me: “I guess” Him: “I can go if you want” (Cause he was at my house) Me: “no it’s fine but maybe well find more middle ground tomorrow” Then we ended up talking about politics like abortion, guns, death penalty. But it wasnt as heated since my opinion on these stuff aren’t as strong and I don’t even understand how supporting gay people is “political” but what ever
I fucking love this channel. I love this video. This is so so so so so true. Just got out of an abusive relationship and he is in jail now. And everything he said is so true. This is exactly how my ex was. From the homophobia to the controlling,,,,, just everything
My biggest problem with this issue is that every straight girl wants a gay best friend but then they see a lesbian and are absolutely appalled by it somehow????
I've never met girls like this irl but omg the amount of people I see online that think this way. Also those men that hate gay men but accept lesbians and bi women because they're "hot".
My experience : My best friend was dating this guy and they where talking otp all night while she was spending the night at my house . Me and him eventually started interacting and then he said something along the lines of calling me a guy , (i dont really remember what he said but im a transgirl just to clarify) , and my friend was like .. “thats not a guy” and then he went , “oh sorry she just kinda sounded like a boy” and my friend said , “shes a trans girl” . And immediately his whole attitude changed and he started saying abunch of transphobic shit towards me and my friend didnt stick up for me . Basically that ruined the whole sleepover . Btw i subscribed 💗
I hate when people are like "I don't have a problem with gay people but I don't agree with them" like tf agree with what?? They're not a politician, it's their life, there's nothing to agree or not agree with
I love how you mentioned that being silent with friends who are homophobic is giving them a safe place to be that way. I'm sure there are a lot of homophobes, racists, sexists, etc who might be afraid to openly say horrible things in public and when we make it seem like its okay cause we're in private and they are our friend, it only allows them to think these attitudes and thoughts are okay as long as you're not out there screaming them at minorities
My dad was homophobic, abusive to my mom than me. When I was 12 his friend burned our home and beat him. Months later he finally told my mom he is gay. Which you'd think would make him not be abusive since he is finally being himself,but nope.
I love watching gay love stories because I love men. I remember telling a guy this he said he cant even imagine gay love he said its disgusting. I was so shocked and upset. I told him I understand that he is straight but he doesn't need to insult something because he doesn't understand it or cant comprehend it. He apologized but I just dont respect him anymore.
I feel like plain and simple if you're in a serious relationship with someone who's homophobic then some part of you is tolerating that belief in yourself. If you really wanted to defend your friends you would do it. Homophobic men often are toxic to women and believe they're superior.
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I barely even listened to be honest, you’re so beautiful!
Tarek Ali I’m bisexual and one of my ex’s was homophobic and man did that fuck me up
@Francisco Delgado just find a few people you can actually trust to hang around, and otherwise talk to your parents or adults around you that's gonna listen. Hope everything works out for you.
Funny straight men hate gay man but loooooove bisexual women!🤔
And lesbians.
Juliana Cheriza Maybe they don’t care unless it’s a man
They assume these women will be down with threesomes...with another woman of course. Some think they can arrange a polygamous type thing.
I totally agree with the point you're making but they don't love lesbian or bisexual women, they straight up *fetishise* them. No love or respect, it's just to keep their dicks hard
Keep us bisexuals outta this bullshit. We have enough to deal with. Thanks
A lot of homophobic men seem to only be open minded about lesbianism. In their perspective, homosexuality is ok as long as it exists to serve them.
Cause they are weird little men
Because they are turned on by lesbians cause they think they will make a threesome with them.
You read my mind!
They fetishize lesbians and it's disgusting
Maya Morrow vice versa
I can’t be friends w/ homophobic people, I don’t understand how you dislike someone because of who they love.
Jazzy F homophobic, racist, transphobic, xenophobic, ANYTHING i can’t be around you if you have hatred in your heart towards anyone
kaylena d. period it’s simple as that
kaylena d. What’s xenophobia
I’m friends with both gay people and homophobic people I know it sounds crazy but I just told my homophobic friends to keep they shit to themselves I don’t judge people based off of their opinions or who they love cause I think it’s hypocritical
Amani j
xen·o·pho·bi·a
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dislike of or prejudice against people from other countries.
silence = compliance. I agree with this 100 PERCENT.
Not necessarily. It depends on the situation. When it comes to homophobic behavior, then yes. It’s not okay to let someone treat other people badly.
Næp Sæck when doesn’t it apply? just curious
Sometimes when someone says something stupid, I’m not going to say anything because I don’t have to police everyone. Let me give you an example. Let’s say my friend says “I hate vegans, they are annoying”. I’m not going to say anything because I pick my battles. Same if she said she doesn’t like Beyonce. She’s entitled to her opinion, and if no one in the room asks me what I think, I might not say anything. Do you get what I mean? It’s about picking your battles.
Queen Zey I agree. Everyone knows that they cannot be comfortable being hateful around me
Næp Sæck Being vegan and liking Beyoncé are choices. Someone has the right to not agree with someone else choices, it’s okay. Being gay is not a choice. And if you let a derogatory comment about someone slide for something they can’t control, you *are* compliant, %100 of the time.
Homophobic people who say “I don’t have a problem with gay people, but they better not try anything with me” like the absolute nerve you must have. What made you think they wanted you in the first place? Because they’re gay you think they no longer have a type, & if they did, you think you’re it?
Preach
thier insecurity SHINES through when they say that
Ooh delicious burn!
And you know if straight women said that about them, they would get offended “what so I can’t ask anyone out anymore?” “#NotAllMen”
Chloe Cesar LMAOO
My bff dated a homophobic guy and he hated me point blank. Didn't want to leave him... So... I left her..... Thx Tarek for showing me that I did the right thing. 😳😧😌
Damn I felt that
That's so sad. I'm sorry that happened to you.
Good for you for standing up for yourself and knowing you deserve better. Proud of you!
wow that’s so sad! you’re better off without her! she clearly wasn’t a real friend to you. proud of you for removing yourself from that situation.
thats really sad. i feel sorry for you :(
So happy you talked about this as a straight woman I don’t date homophobic men
kayla = queen
Same sis
same is the way it must be
What if u don’t know ? Will u ask if they r curious
*Rae* That happend to me 😬 Anyway, now my boy it’s trying to get over that shit with my help. It takes patience, and I’m not completely sure where his homofobia comes from, but luckily now he’s starting to understand. Of course he’s never disrespectful to LGBT people, like myself, because then I would have dumped his ass with no doubt
I’ve defended my friends (straight and gay) plenty in their absence. One of my best friends was gay, Mike (God rest his soul) we’ve been friends since I was in kindergarten. The father of my kids tried it. Mike & I had went out and we went to the gay bar, he would go to the places I wanted to go and I would go to the places he want to go to. The father of my kids said to me “You’re going to stop hanging around Mike, I let out a lil laugh, because I couldn’t believe he even said it, I saw that he was serious, so I looked him in his face straight eye contact and said “I’ve been friends with Mike since kindergarten and I’m not going to stop now, I will hang with him and he will always be welcomed in my house and treated w/respect” he stood there and looked in my eyes for a moment and walked away. Never again was it brought up and never was Mike disrespected in my home or in my presence. I’m not the one. Ain’t no man or anyone going to tell me how or what I should feel or do about anything.
Amen to that 💪🏾 women’s
blaccat PERIODDDDDD
periodtttttttt 💁🏾♀️
SIS U DID THAT 👏👏👏
John Kimber, no need to wonder, because unlike you and/or who you have to deal with (I assume because of your comment) I wasn’t insecure. He NEVER had to choose between friends female or male with me, because I know where I stood with him and what I had to offer.
And as far as kids go I wish a MF would’ve tried to keep mine from him including me or him. There wasn’t a damn thing child support, courts or whatever other petty situations MF’s go through with theirs, that could’ve done anything for ours. TF!! That wasn’t us and could’ve never been.
But best of luck to you.
Training men to be hypermasculine is constantly reinforcing that women are less than and anything associated with women is less than
Men are meant to BE masculine dumbass and females feminine. I'm a teenager and even I know this. There should be no mixing of the two at all. Let our poor men be men without constantly being talked down for it and our women be ladies.
Mimah 101 being masculine is one thing, but making young men bottle up their feelings bc “crying is for girls” leads to serious psychological damage. Crying is not feminine, it’s human. Let men cry when they lose a family member or when they are going through a tough time.
@@mimah1015 I disagree. I'm an asian dude and in our tradition both men and women should have both equal masculine and feminine energies. It's good to have a balance.
@@Chadmeleon Well your tradition is your tradition, it doesn't mean it's right.
@@mimah1015 Take a look at the ever growing gigantic disaster of men vs women in western societies with MGTOW/redpills/incels vs Feminism. It's good to learn from other cultures for once.
An associate of mines has a feminine son, and a conversation about the boy came up. I had to go get a drink. It was disgusting to hear big grown 50+ year old men drag a little boy. Even when I reminded them that he's only 11 years old, they kept making jokes.
Just awful!
Weirdos
Gross
AyeshéIsAlwaysLovely that’s fucking sick
@Watermelon Ice You're allowed to have an opinion. Just like people are allowed to question your reason for believing in it. And if you can't come up with a good reason, perhaps it's not a logical or mature belief.
The same women that will go out of their way to befriend gay men do this and it so disgusts me.
Exactly, At a certain point, you have to come to the conclusion that they just want the drama. Disgraceful
Extra points when she befriends gay men but feels "uncomfortable" around lesbians
@@zazeej LMFAO!
those women view gay men as nothing more but GBFs. they want someone to talk boys with them, make sassy comments, go shopping, etc. that can stem from insecurities they feel with their girl friends or other reasons, but either way, they're unknowingly reducing gay men down to something that makes them feel better. that's why whenever i hear a girl talk about wanting a GBF i just walk away.
I don’t have time to date an homophobic man.
What if my child is gay wtf are we gonna do if he’s homophobic.
Anyway I’m pan so I think it play a part too lol
Omg I'm always so scared men will fetishize me so at times I don't pursue relationships with men
Lunatic Blues so you are a pan
I lose brain cells every time someone says they don’t agree with gay people like- sis idek how to explain
Lovely_Day being gay is not a choice like stealing, cheating, etc or even COMPARABLE to murder omg 🤧 please just say you’re homophobic and go
Lovely_Day that statement was homophobic. you’re straight im guessing. you grew up feeling a certain way about boys. im 500% sure you didn’t think “hey, im going to feel an attraction to males now” also it doesn’t effect you in any way shape or form so keep your negativity to yourself ❤️
Kiki Ayudo period sis
@Lovely_Day ma'am you saying you don't agree with homosexuality is the same as you not agreeing with the color of someone's skin. how the hell y'all homophobes think y'all can even disagree with something out of someone's control is beyond me
Lovely_Day “what benefit does it bring humanity???” Homophones love to involve themselves in things that doesn’t affect them. How does someone being someone else being gay affect your life in ANY way??? It has nothing to do with you so why you even have an opposing opinion on it is beyond me. If you actually had more than a few brain cells then you would know that accepting homosexuality doesn’t mean that you are gay or that every person will now be gay.
I’m quick to dismiss a man I’m interested in over homophobia. Especially one that’s not willing to hear other viewpoints, people love being purposefully obtuse. It also makes me think of what if i have a child that’s apart of the LGBTQ community with a man like that 🤢.
Who wanna hangs out with haters lol.
Gay rights are human rights!
@@sierrasouthwell9237 nah
@Hawa Fuseini are you delusional?
@@victoriaumukoro116 what makes you think so?
I was “talking” to this guy earlier this year and he was the worst. One of my best friends is gay and he used to try to talk about him and I could tell he would get bothered when I’d be like “that’s my friend, stop talking about him.” He would also try to control me and get mad when I didn’t answer my phone or if I didn’t call him. I spend a lot of time with my sisters and he was like “why are you always with your sisters, why don’t you come see me.” He was outta his mind and I blocked his number.
reajean robinson Lord how Mercy that's crazy for anyone act like that.
reajean robinson I think you dodged a bullet there. I hope he never hurt you.
He sounds so stupid "why are always with your sisters?" 🙄
Well done, he didn't deserve your time
I'm so tired of insecure men. I say that all the time. A man who is secure within himself will not be focused and bothered by things that have absolutely nothing to do with them. It's very simple.
Yo this video made me call up my husband and let him know how much I appreciate him. I be watching hockey and boxing with him and he will go to drag shows or watch drag race with me or remind me when my favorite makeup brand is launching a new thing. He's always been that way since we were platonic friends. Ugh, love him so much 💚
Kennyzkoilz that’s a special relationship you have there. I’m so happy for you! (and also lowkey jealous 😂)
not all men are bad, but not all good men would do this with the ladies in their lives either! you're very lucky
@@AuntAgatha0fullmoon I wish this kind of person for people everywhere 🖤🖤🖤
@@joonkorre I thank God every day that the person he picked out for me is really for me. That being said, to have your person want to understand you, You have to understand them! If both y'all ain't doin the work or one of y'all ain't doin the work, it just ain't gonna work.
@@xsodapopxko preach!
Tarek needs his own podcast
I agree with you! He really should invest into that... it would allow him to reach a broader audience. Hence the ability to spread more LIGHT!
R. M Manning, Jr my point exactly It Should be called “Late Nights With Tarek”
Micaiah Wanza Generic But thats okay
Being gay and having your best-friends as girls is hard sometimes because they don't understand the importance and danger that we have to go through, I am not speaking on all females, but, I was at a party one time and this guy thought I was a girl and my friends didn't want to be there when he found I was not a girl. I told him I didn't want to dance with him and he kept insisting so I just danced on him. But, when he found out - it was the scariest moment of my life, seeing my friends that are girls just leave and not see what danger they were leaving me in. I stopped trusting females after that because they sometimes never understand what people will end up doing to gay people and they take those matters lightly and females have so many gay friends but don't act as advocates for them. We are nothing but, the friend that gives them life, compliments, confidence, their fashion stylists, their hair stylists, we are looked at as a thing to keep them looking their best and feeling their best. Having a gay friend has become a trend, a must have, something cool ... I mean honestly I could go on forever about this a female and a gay best friend. The conversation can go so far with this!
I think the true issue here, is that those women were never your friends. Had you been an actual female, they'd have ditched you the same way. Some people are assholes regardless of gender. Edit: let me also state that that unsafe feeling you experienced (this is aside from the assholes you were with), is a feeling women deal with every day. I do hear a lot of talk about how straight women should help the LGBTQIA community deal with homophobia and other related forms of discrimination. That's all well and good, but I'm not sure I hear much about supporting straight women, we get raped and killed by men at alarming levels and honestly, it's hard for me to name a community that has our backs in our struggle. Yet it seems everyone expects us to help them in their quest for acceptance and safe spaces when we don't have much of either ourselves. I'd like for this to open dialogue, I'm not put here to start an arguement. It just seems that from where I sit, all I hear is what straight women aren't doing to help (in particular, but probably not limited to) gay and trans individuals, but I don't get the sense that the support that's being demanded (and given in many cases) is reciprocated.
+Genevieve Campbell What is this?
@@ForteFaiey This is some thoughts I had related to the topic at hand. I addressed the post in the initial comment. The edit referred to the actual video and my own thoughts.
@@genevieve571 I must say that I am very appreciative of the way you responded and how we have separate views and you didn't maliciously attack me for it. I definitely think that this should be an open discussion as women do go through a lot. You do in fact have a point when you say who does women have in their corner and I feel like we do often get stuck in this game of well who struggles the most and we want to focus on who has it the hardest... this is a very deep conversation with a lot of layers and I think this would make for a great discussion. In response to the comment I made and your response to it I believe they were most likely not my friends. I want to say more, but, also I can't speak on the struggles of a women as I am not one. Feel free to ask me any questions to continue this conversation if you are interested. I would like to ask you, how could we support women more?
I don't have a problem with you wanting gay friends because they have the relatability aspect that women just can't have. But those women don't speak for the majority of women. Women are told, even by other women that "we're fake and only care about gossip or boys". I think it's rooted in misogynist views, though I don't think you're a misogynist. I hope you find women in your life that love you and will defend you because we're not all bad.
So true! My ex was super controlling, super homophobic, would make me feel so bad about myself, and literally told me he DID NOT want me to go to school before he did because he didn't want me to get ahead of him. And guess what? Caught his ass Dm'ing a trans woman who indeed still had a penis and was asking if she was dtf. Also he turned out to be a pedo. Needless to say, he had a lot of things to unpack...my life should be a featured Lifetime movie. Anyway, yeah. No lies detected in this video😌
Wow you dodged a bullet
Homophobic man are closet gay.
A real straight person won’t have a problem with gay men dating because he doesn’t see them as part of competition of the dating market.
It’s kind of embarrassing if you’re dating someone who’s homophobic. Like girl in which century do you live ?
K L why should people change their lifestyle for you tho. If a girl dumps her BF, what are you going to do for her?
K L people have opinions if you don’t like real man you can date a feminist men
@@monalisa9636 yes and no. Bc men like that will hurt you in the end- i promise.
Creative Film Real men aren’t scared of woman’s rights. If you’re intimidated by other people having the same rights/respect as you then you need to crawl back into the womb because you’re not done cooking yet.
Can I have one! Seriously. I'm a girl but I want a homophobic best friend so bad!😭😭 Like a legit one.
I dated a guy for a little while and I thought he was a pretty cool and fun guy at first. One day I was scrolling through my Instagram and was liking the pics of my fav trans and gay Icons and he got UPSET! He actually yelled at me and said I was weird and I need to change my ways 😂 LMFAO long story short we stopped dating right after that. blocked and BLOCKED.
K thank u for being an ally❤️❤️
phantom diaries always and forever 😩❤️
I canceled one of my cousin for years because of homophobia.
aLiMaBeAn it’s a hateful opinion and people who have different viewpoints stop being friends all the time . and don’t dismiss that he yelled at her & said there was something wrong with her, so clearly he wasn’t respecting her viewpoint either.
@@alima872 LMFAO. That is not an "opinion". An opinion is like whether you like pineapples on pizza. Not whether you want gay people to die or not. brushing it off as an opiniom dismisses that person of ever having consequences for their hateful bigotry just because you called it an opinion. This is the problem with the world.
I feel that men individually and as a group need to heal there insecurity’s and notice the difference between masculinity and toxic masculinity BUT I also feel that women have a huge role in this. I talked to girls who say they’d never date a guy who they consider feminine. I think this reinforces the IDEA that men need to be ‘hyper masculine’ not only to be considered straight but also to be liked by women.
Agreed! I've seen a lot of other women who say that men who are feminine are automatically gay or when certain hobbies were brought up say that the only men who would like those things are gay, etc. I think this causes a lot of insecurity and esteem issues in straight/bi/pan men because it kinda gatekeeps heterosexuality and to an extent masculinity as well (or at least the perception of masculinity).
I've also seen this manifest as Biphobia too. When I was in my GENDER STUDIES class- one of the classes that you would expect to be really accepting, my teacher asked the girls (specifically) in the class whether bisexuality existed. SO many of them raised their hands and was defending bisexuality until the teacher asked if they would date a man who told them they were bisexual. Immediately like 85-90% percent of them was unsure and several of them flat out said no.
i hope some of y’all are dropping boyfriends rn..
Lis Daniela no.
So fucking glad me and my ex aren't together anymore. He said "transgender bullshit" once and I wanted to nope outta there
@@magicalgirl4 I was heavily against it before and after the relationship. And now I don't see why I wanted to get back to it. Self respect and support for other minority groups is important
Why? Because of some stupid video on the TH-cam? 😂😂Bruh, I'm a strong independent woman who should not be told who to like, matter of fact I think I need a homophobic bf in my life.🤔
@@mimah1015 Why are you watching this '' stupid'' video?
The minute you say ”i don't have a problem with gay people BUT” I've checked out of the conversation
HiltonPosts and that’s perriad
period luv
Yes because what is there rationally to say after that? Anything after is just pure ignorance and excuse to be homophobic.
So true. Had a guy trying to hit me up and he was talking about his opinions or whatever and he said “gay people are fine BUT” that’s when I knew sis 😔
too TOO many Christians won't accept their homophobia... my mum don't even believe in homophobia makes me sick
It's shady as hell that you even HAVE to convince ppl that opressive ideologies have to affect them for them to be against it 🙄 ppl be crazy. But thank you for your service Tarek, always informing and holding ppl accountable.
Also - some people posit that homophobia stems from misogyny, because it's an extension of hating femininity, but in men i.e. feminine men. Not to say that all gay men are feminine, but there are definite links between homophobia and perceived femininity in men. Some philosphers centuries ago used to believe women were literally less human than men, and men were the peak of humanity, so for a man to actively take on an 'inferior' disposition and 'act like a woman' garners a violent response.
Rocknalldatime99 wow, you are so intelligent . Well said 💕💕💕💕
The Beyoncé analogy was very spot on !
As a European who lived in the us for 4 years, I felt it.
European women in general are a bit more masculine and European men are more feminine, (lets just say that our femininity and masculinity is more equal) and in the us I saw like half the men I was dating feeling threatened by that
In USA black males and samoans males are considered to be the most masculine
Honestly I’m very turned off by boyfriends being homophobic
You look so beautiful on your profile picture
me nd my brother we listening to music nd he started saying the n word when the rapper was saying it... at fist i really threw me off bc i was like... what did he just say...did i hear that right?? so i waited to see if he would do it again and he did, like u said he felt like i was a safe space, like she’s my white sister it’s all cool, so i had to stop him right there and tell him he shouldn’t say that, that it made me uncomfortable and he would not be saying it around me OR my friends bc that’s just embarrassing to have someone that arrogant related to me
Ok then...this has nothing to do with the video but that's crazy
BlackSkyBoii regardless, applaud and move on...
It's sad that this HAS to affect straight women for them to actually stand up against it. It should be stood up for even if you think it has nothing to do with you just because it's wrong
Facts upon facts. By the way u look so cool on your profile picture
Is it wrong for gay men to sexually harrass straight men?
@@renealexander2703 yes
the part when you said they’ll be like “stop...stop..” is so true omg like sis
As a man-leaning bisexual, THANK YOU FOR HITTING ON THIS!!!!!!!!
idc what anyone says, if you’re cool with/in a relationship with someone who is homophobic/racist/bigoted, then you’re almost as bad as them because you’re saying that those qualities of a person are acceptable.
Some gay people call men "homophobic" if they don't want to date men. That is not comparable at all to a racist.
This is about insecure men.
Nobody I associate myself with is homophobic.
Thank you
Dakota C so you discriminate also? Cool
@@monalisa9636 rather discriminate against people who CHOOSE to hate and punish others, or discriminate against those who can't help who they are attracted to and are punished by society with no reasoning? i think the answer to your question is pretty fucking clear.
Mona Lisa are you fucking dumb?
@@monalisa9636 not spending time with people who you think have hurtful viewpoints is discrimination?
I like to go back to the old Shakespeare :
“You protest too much good sir, thus I know you are”🤔🤨
Waves on swim
You are so important. Thanks for being on the internet !!!
Ummm so are you!! I have seen several of your videos!! I love your style and positive light!!
“Whenever you’re silent, you’re compliant.” Love that! Truth!
Good video topic! Kym from For Harriet said something like, “a distain for femininity is the root of homophobia” And I ain’t ever forgot that 👀
Yes!
Which video
Personally I thought this was a very interesting topic because I usually don’t hear about it often. I think you explained everything and was able to touch up on every detail. This should be more talked about! Love you Tarek
I agree with you 💯 that no other TH-camrs (even in the gay community) will never make an video like this
I’ve had an experience where a feminine guy claimed he wanted to pursue me I was skeptical at first but we talked for about two months(no intimacy, my choice)and the whole time I felt like he was undercover he tried so hard to prove his masculinity through conversation putting down gay men, trying to prove that was he into sports and specifically stated that only a “man man” cares about sports. Needless to say I cut him off because I could see right through him he needs to live his truth I would encourage anyone to do so!
i see where that idea come from but there are men who are straight, bi, or pan who have stereotypical feminine tendencies. it has to do with attraction. i can see why down playing someones attraction to you when it might be genuine would put them in a position to where they would want to come off as a super manly man to get a date. that just adds to the issue. Just sayin.
I used to fight so hard with my ex because of the dumb shit he would say about the gay community, race, etc.. I finally left him after realizing that even though I was arguing with him, by still standing by his side, I was standing with his views
I really love and appreciate how you address homophobia and queer folk in the black community bc when we go to college and we are only learning about these things through a white lense. And then stuck trying to put two and two together, but your videos help recognize these issues in our own community !
Wow. I didn’t think of it like this. Majority of my ex’s loved when I stroked their ego. Constantly pointing out my insecurities and thinking their perfect. Checking my phone even though they were the ones cheating. They didn’t take interest in what I wanted to do. They constantly told me what I could and couldn’t wear or couldn’t do.
Now that i have a real man. He treats me so well and there is a balance between my femininity and his masculinity.
let’s dive into this topic right now!
this is something that needed to be said !!! people deadass don’t see this
Hollyhood TV the collective conscious does see this and because we are collectively recognizing it our collective energy’s thought starts the change.....Everything starts from thought. It is one of the first ingredients of manifestation...
i love when you talk about topics like this
I agree with everything you said and stating in your discussion. You have a strong mind, I love you 💕
thankyou so much!! love you too!
imagine looking this good
I used to know few people that fit the description, I'm glad I got tf away
Hi tarek can you please make a video about how woman not wanting to date a bisexual man because of the fact they are bisexual is inherently homophobic I saw this on Twitter and soo many straight woman got up and arms about it talking about "it's a preference"
it's the same with gays they don't want to date bisexual guys. I think because gays see that they are not too gay because the concept of liking more than one gender is difficult to accept by people who only like one gender.
Wow! Those are both very good topics. Bisexual people get it from everyone... I think that we are the most misunderstood. For some of us brought into creation “gender” is secondary to spirit....some of us have evolved differently in multiple ways...gender does not matter to a true bisexual individual. “We focus more on the spirit connection. We see beyond all of the programming forced upon everyone and the result of it as it continues to unfold right to this very moment.
This is a really interesting perspective. I never thought of how straight women would be affected by homophobia, thanks for bringing it into light
I wish I had found this video sooner because when I had my first boyfriend, I didn’t realize how “masculine” he wanted to be. A lot of my closet friends aren’t straight. He even tried to convince me to leave them, and I told him that I would never do it because they’re the kindest people. My friends treat me right. I remember him telling me how “masculine” he was for playing sports. Everyday he would put my friends down behind their backs and I felt so uncomfortable. I didn’t know why he would put my friends down when he didn’t know them. Watching this video made me realize why we were never compatible. I’m so happy I broke up with him.
"I don't agree with the blue sky" I'm dyingggg 😂😂😂😂💀
PREACH TAREK !!❤️ & degrading anyone is point blank WRONG.
With me being Haitian-American, Haitians don’t like gays. It hurts me because whether you’re apart of the LGBTQ+ community or not, you’re still human and I love you 💕 Just thought I’d spread some love 💜💜
This video should have more views..it should be watched by every single person on this planet
At a young age, Ive been pointing this out to my friends and the ppl I talk to. So glad that now smart and respectable people like you are exposing this horrible behaviour 🙌🏼🙌🏼🕊️
This has legit been a challenge in a lot of relationships I have been a part of... Both friendships and romantic relationships. I must say that I used to be the girl that would be silent, but being in a university where we have conversations about it, I have definitely grown on my knowledge about being an Ally... And I swear to you TO THIS DAY!! No Man, not even my family can come to me with that energy!!
you are absolutely right on this video... We Stan A whole ass Queen baby! Keep educating us!
I love these videos because they really open people's mind (mine included) about relevant topics in society and gain a different perspective
Sending this to my sister cause she literally cannot see anything wrong with him 😒
You know a man is comfortable with his sexuality and masculinity when HE is the one that has a gay best friend
A man can be very comfortable with his masculinity and sexuality and not have a gay friend. What about gay men who sexually harrass straight men?
All facts! At least i believe the same things. You already had me at the part when you said, "If my friends are dating a homophobic person we cant be friends", and that's PERIOD! Sorry not sorry
Thank you for all your videos!! They are so important for our society and mostly for us lgtb black ppl who doesn't have any representation❤️ love you king!
talk about it tarek!!!!! toxic masculinity! a conversation that needs to be had
Hey Tarek! I'm tuned in!
hey baby!!
i had to subscribe not only are you speaking facts but you have the BEST ATTITUDE more people need to be like you dude
Story time about me and my brainwashed homophobic boyfriend:
(Posted this comment on another video in case anyone recognizes it)
I tried so hard to at least convince my bf that him “not agreeing” with gay people makes him a homophobe. It was our first argument he even said “I’m not scared of them” I was seriously considering breaking up despite him being the only person I dated that I loved. I yelled at him after he tried to hug me. I apologized later and he said that he was sorry we have different beliefs.
Here goes a little bit of how our conversation went.
Me: “I hate when people use that bible to justify prejudice against others”.
Him: “noo I don’t hate them, I don’t agree with them”
Me: “that’s like me saying I don’t agree with your brown skin, I don’t hate brown skin people I just don’t like that lifestyle, brown people are sinful and go to hell”
Him: “I didn’t say they go to hell”
Me: “what ever the rest of the stuff I said still applies”
Him: “I would eat dinner with a gay person. I paid for Alex to come from Texas to hang out and he’s bi. I just think it’s wrong and Alex understands that.
(Alex is his friend)
Me: “okay whatever”
Him: “if there was an anti-gay parade I wouldn’t go to hate or support I would just let them be”
Me: “what if there was a bill to make being gay illegal would you vote for it or against it”
Him: “I only ever voted for the president once”
Me: “okay but if you had to what would you choose”
Him: “what if I voted for it?”
Me: “then our country would be isis”
*later after silence and playing Mario*
Me: “okay the tension is high wanna go back to calling each other boomers every 5 mins and raging over Mario”
Him: “nah we should talk about this because it might comeback up again”
Me: “okay......you go first”
Him: “I have nothing against him I just think it’s wrong”
Me: “ *people don’t choose to be like that* ”
Him: “ *you know they do* ”
(This part made me the most mad especially because I’ve been in the closet as bi forever so I know it’s not a choice)
Me: “no it’s not.”
Him: “it’s not natural”
Me: “then why does it occur in *nature* ”
Him: “you can’t produce kids from it”
Me: “SO PEOPLE WHO CANT HAVE KIDS ARE SINNERS even if they’re StrAight. Also you said you’re into anal THat UnAtUral. By your definition any form of sex that don’t make babies is unatural.”
Him: “can we just accept we have different opinions on this, and we both feel strongly. So we probably won’t change our minds.”
Me: “I guess”
Him: “I can go if you want”
(Cause he was at my house)
Me: “no it’s fine but maybe well find more middle ground tomorrow”
Then we ended up talking about politics like abortion, guns, death penalty. But it wasnt as heated since my opinion on these stuff aren’t as strong and I don’t even understand how supporting gay people is “political” but what ever
I hope you understand its wrong
@Watermelon Ice Bitch you so homophobic. Don't even say im not homophobic that defeats the purpose. Political or not it's still homophobic period
Victoria Umukoro how is it wrong?
Watermelon Ice lol why are you getting mad? Did she ever say he doesn’t have the right to have a different view?
THANK YOUUUU I don’t understand how ppl don’t understand this!!!
This really brought my insecurities to the light. I'm gonna do better. Thank you Tarek
I fucking love this channel. I love this video. This is so so so so so true. Just got out of an abusive relationship and he is in jail now. And everything he said is so true. This is exactly how my ex was. From the homophobia to the controlling,,,,, just everything
My biggest problem with this issue is that every straight girl wants a gay best friend but then they see a lesbian and are absolutely appalled by it somehow????
I've never met girls like this irl but omg the amount of people I see online that think this way. Also those men that hate gay men but accept lesbians and bi women because they're "hot".
That's because they do not want a woman to hit on them.
They are more comfortable with gay men because gay men don't view them in a romantic light.
My experience :
My best friend was dating this guy and they where talking otp all night while she was spending the night at my house . Me and him eventually started interacting and then he said something along the lines of calling me a guy , (i dont really remember what he said but im a transgirl just to clarify) , and my friend was like .. “thats not a guy” and then he went , “oh sorry she just kinda sounded like a boy” and my friend said , “shes a trans girl” . And immediately his whole attitude changed and he started saying abunch of transphobic shit towards me and my friend didnt stick up for me . Basically that ruined the whole sleepover . Btw i subscribed 💗
I love these types of videos you’ve been doing. You use your platform in such a great way.
tarek always coming through with great content
I just found your channel and let me tell you I love and enjoy all your content! You are helping me feel better and positive ❤️
This whole topic and discussion deserves a standing ovation 👏👏👏!
I've dated men that were blatantly homophobic. This video made me realize that I need to speak up more.
They not ready for this 🔥 you spitting! Guaranteed it will go over the majority's head. Your thinking is on another level. I comprehend.
Tarek, I honestly appreciate you so much. The topics you address are so thought-provoking and I really enjoy listening to you. You're amazing. ❤️
thats the goal!! thankyou!!
finally someone talking about this. thank you!
I like the term heterosexist for some individuals, it’s a better definition than homophobic in some cases.
U just promted me to have this conversation with my 2 younger brothers !!
I want more than anything for them to turn out okay so thanks ✊
I like that everyone is wearing the youtubeBlack shirts in their videos
ur actually the sweetest. 100 percent agree with u
“i like to drink wine” *pulls out the biggest bottle ever*
I subscribed the second you said silence equals compliance. I agree completely 💗
Oh! this is tea I need to hear
I think there's a huge difference between believing homosexuality is wrong vs being homophobic and being negative or hostile.
I hate when people are like "I don't have a problem with gay people but I don't agree with them" like tf agree with what?? They're not a politician, it's their life, there's nothing to agree or not agree with
I love how you mentioned that being silent with friends who are homophobic is giving them a safe place to be that way. I'm sure there are a lot of homophobes, racists, sexists, etc who might be afraid to openly say horrible things in public and when we make it seem like its okay cause we're in private and they are our friend, it only allows them to think these attitudes and thoughts are okay as long as you're not out there screaming them at minorities
My dad was homophobic, abusive to my mom than me. When I was 12 his friend burned our home and beat him. Months later he finally told my mom he is gay. Which you'd think would make him not be abusive since he is finally being himself,but nope.
omg
I am so happy I found this channel. Your views align with mine so well. You are so well spoken💜💜💜
I love watching gay love stories because I love men. I remember telling a guy this he said he cant even imagine gay love he said its disgusting. I was so shocked and upset. I told him I understand that he is straight but he doesn't need to insult something because he doesn't understand it or cant comprehend it. He apologized but I just dont respect him anymore.
@gowon’s wife yeah i am a bisexual woman myself so lol
You are so well spoken and open minded, thank you for putting your opinion out there.
3 minutes in and Im screaming yes!
where was this video 2 years ago lol? this wouldve saved me a lot of time. glad to have bumped into this Tarek! thank you for looking out for us
I feel like plain and simple if you're in a serious relationship with someone who's homophobic then some part of you is tolerating that belief in yourself. If you really wanted to defend your friends you would do it. Homophobic men often are toxic to women and believe they're superior.
Not true. Gay men think they are superior.