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What is sarcasm and why do we use it?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ส.ค. 2024
- Sarcasm is one of the approaches we use to communicate with people. Even though it is commonly used, most people don't know why we choose it and what consequences it creates. Learn more about sarcasm!
Thank you. This is the first time I ever heard the truth about sarcasm. I grew up in an environment where I didn't feel safe speaking from the heart, so I learned to be cynical, passive-aggressive in my behavior patterns and speak in ways I thought were creative, yet we're sarcastic as a means of personal survival. This is all I knew until now.
Thank you for not only watching the video, but leaving this honest comment. Awakening is a beautiful process. At the right time, the right moment, words resonate like never before and one becomes wiser :) I wish you well on your journey.
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Well damn, that got dark quick. I thought my sarcasm was innocent fun. Now I feel like I need therapy LOL.
Ha! You're not alone, Omar. Well, now you know so in a way, you are already doing the work, becoming more self-aware.
Not very dark man
I'm going to risk disagreeing with Vita Jans. Sarcasm isn't simply a dark force that exists to dimenish covertly. Like any other form of humor sarcasm can be lighthearted and fun. When used inappropriately, it can be hurtful, create conflict, and mock people. Used in the right way, however, sarcasm can spark creative thinking in yourself and others . Sarcasm requires abstract thinking, which makes it a catalyst for innovation.
I used to be one of those sarcastic people. I thought it was a sign of wit and, as you alluded to, intelligence though only now, some 10 years later, do I realize that it was a facade I made while trying to disguise inner pain, and this is how I see those who still practice this sort of communication. Sometimes I communicate with them with compassion while other times I just don't at all as I have no time for bitter people. The biggest lesson I've realized in this regard is not to be reactive to these kind of people. In fact, it helps a lot not to be reactive at all.
Thanl you for this comment, I am dealing with sarcastic people more often and when I react I am the one who is wrong. I will learn not to react at all.
I experienced sarcasm as cultural shock for the first time in NorthAmerica, I couldn't really understand it. Sarcasm is a form of intimidation, and you are totally right it is used to hide personal issues that the people who use it may not even know they have. Great video, thanks!
"Say what you mean. Mean what you say. But don't say it mean." I love that. 😊
Beautifully explained , mostly sarcastic people try to mock others.
Hi!
Sarcasm is a very important communicative tool. If it would have been solely counterproductive than evolution would have driven into extinction many thousands of years ago.
I use sarcasm many many times each day. In my experience it makes people trust me and feel comfortably in my personal space. It's true that my comments also have a tendency to make people feel uncomfortable. But in my experience it mostly makes either people lacking self confidence or close minded people people feel uncomfortable. I do not care about people like that to become uncomfortable because these types of people will often turn out to be bad (social) investments. So the harsh truth is also that sarcasm is a great social tool to prevent you from investing in people that are not worth investing in.
Besides...
It is my right as a human being to make people feel uncomfortable. Or otherwise... I am under no obligation to make people feel comfortable. If people would have the obligation to make people feel comfortable the police or military could not function for example. Bad idea!
I will choose myself when to be kind and when not to be. That's not your choice to make for me.
Thank You ... I took notes from your video and wonder if I can ever remove "Sarcasm" from my Social Tools ... I am learning difficult lessons and want to become a better person ...
Very informative ....full of learning
That was a lovely brief lesson on the topic. Thank you. I find it sad and unpleasant. For a foreigner, it takes an effort to understand the word or phrase then having to realise that it is not what it meant to be.
Thank you Minh! I can relate to not understanding a word or a phrase too. I found myself in so many situations when I couldn't understand if people were being direct or sarcastic because english is not my first language. It just creates more tension for no reason.
Perfect explanation. Sarcasm is hurtful and rude and it doesn't happen by accident. Cruelty is the point.
So, it’s always important to consider how you use it in a certain situations?
Being conscious of your reasons why you want to use it in the first place, is what matters the most. x
U are doing great keeep it up ❤️💯
Thanks for the support!
Really helpful..would like you learn more from you.
I like your videos!
That all sounds Rosily wonderful,but low self esteem is only one condition in which sarcasm might be used . But, it is also used in circumstances where the outright opinion would be immediately shut down , where as sarcasm allows your opinion to float under the radar to allow it to possibly be mulled over for a longer period ( before the inevitable rejection of the opinion, lol)
Am a Jamaican in Atlanta yu got such a great soul I felt it keep doing the work an it coming from tamar Palmer
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I have a question for you. Can I share my story about _if_ a person was using it to me? You might understand whether they were being g eunine
People have a right to use sarcasm, and they’re not necessarily mean-spirited for doing so
I'm all hands for free speech, even hateful as I don't believe any single person or a body of people own the moral standard above others. That being said, don't be surprised if you find yourself at old age - bitter, sad and alone. Have a nice day!
Wish others would be as forthcoming as yourself, it's easier to know whom to avoid.
Vita, what do you use to make your videos, they are very beautiful and pleasant to watch, thank you
I had a contractor building my house and the one next door. He used child labour. I told him not to do it on my site n at least build a toilet for them, he never listened. One day he asked me "How are you" . I said I am glad, I really enjoyed ripping off these stupid kids by making them work for food and shelter.
Another example. I had a lazy colleague always getting late with deadlines. Telling him straight facts never worked. Telling him "We celebrating your hardwork at lunch, we all know that you work very hard" after he was stirring coffee like a zombie.
Statistically, sarcasm has more negative examples (implicit and explicit) as compared to violence. In fact, violence even gets away with positive examples in online content.
Sarcasm can be a tool to diffuse tension, resolve conflicts and discover blindspots in awareness. Kitchen knives are dangerous but they are useful too. In 24 hours of a day, a couple of minutes of sarcasm can be useful.
Good anecdotes that reveal the other side, thanks for those. I guess it would be prudent to differentiate somehow where and how this would be appropriate which you've proved it can be. Perhaps Vita would like to make a follow-up video with this in mind?
sarcasm is a persuasion tool and has infinite potential to get to the big P
this is like saying that humor is meant to hurt people & put people down (which is true sometimes, but not always)...i.e. what you're describing can apply to sarcasm in some contexts, but it's not an inherent trait of sarcasm.
My question then is why do we find it funny when joke hurts someone? What part of us enjoys seeing someone in emotional pain? Irony is funny, because we can laugh at the situation, life itself, perhaps our human nature, common threads, but sarcasm is mean to tease a person indirectly, but offensively. I don't know why we continue to do it when there is much suffering already. No need to add more bullying just because it is wrapped up in humor. And personally, I find it much funnier when joke is direct, honest, bold, instead of snarky and manipulative.
May be at times the intention is not to hurt....but it is very risky to use sarcasm as humor for its very nature is subtle form of violence & aggression clothed in pleasantness & pleasing others & the user of sarcasm takes a safe harbour as he can't be adjudged incorrect directly. It's always wise to see the seriousness of humor
Sarcasm isn't always mocking.
Maybe in the world outside the UK it has these connotations. But sarcasm is just Normal everyday language in the UK.
I had so-called friends who I don't bother with anymore used to be sarcastic towards me because they thought it was funny. And also. Because they were jealous of me and didn't want to let me know . Life is too short for pathetic people like that .
Cassandra west that’s right, sister, we gotta liberate ourselves from the opinions of others! 🙌 Life’s too short.
I agree with you in most of what you talked about
I'd agree with you too but then we would both be wrong -)
Sarcasm?@@felixyoghurt3291
This was really helpful Not gonna lie though the little ellen quote at the end got me laughing.
I love your videos 💞😍 love from India ❤️
Thank you so much! Sending love back from Lithuania
Yep
Wow , 😍😍
This is great information, but the final quote, from Ellen, didn't age well.
Thank you and you are so right… 🙈
B in subtle is silent.
:))) Thank. you!
I'm never being sarcastic ever again because when I saw this video I found out I was being sarcastic
My parent does this everyday
(Gnut by Eminem) a pinned comment led me here... I didn't understand how some people totally missed the sarcasm... Hmm hmm hmm Now I do... Thank you
Happy to hear my content reaches those who want to learn! x
Don't you see that sarcasm can be used in certain ways in a good way? Or in that way, it's called Irony?
Can you give a kind, compassionate example of sarcasm?
Sometimes sarcasm is better than blatantly insulting someone. The person can possibly receive it well. Especially in workplace/school settings where we have to interact by default.
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That’s me
This woman does not know what sarcasm is.
Explain, i'm not against your opinion.
@@mr.incredible9647 In the first minute, she says the intention of sarcasm is to be hurtful. It's like saying the intention to drive a car is to hurt the environment.
@@razortagk1 Better be congratulating my grandma diagnose with Cancer. LOL.
@@mr.incredible9647 You're hilarious! (Sarcasm)
@@razortagk1 For real, congratulating to a person that diagnosed with Cancer is quite crucial. Better becareful with our minds and mouths.
Are stand up comedians sarcastic 🤔🤔🤔🤔🙄
Most comedian have had a rough upbringing,. They usually use self deprecating humor or sarcastically put other people down, to what the lady was saying.
hi... are u married? 😍😍😍😍
What does it have to do with my content?
@@vitajanas they probably want to know because they like you
Are you a Christian?
No, I do not follow any religion.
Now i like you even more..
@@jepsipepsi5692 Who cares if someone is religious or not? Never understood that... o_0
@Hugh Ropp interesting theory . Are you saying hottest men, women worship their partners rather than chosen god?
You don't understand British sarcasm
I think I do having lived there for 6 years, but that's not the point. The point is that I don't see value of it.