It was meant to be disliked. this was supposed to show how the joker has no concept of love and all emotions for him are tied to humor. for him humor is violence death and crazy shit
When did Valentine's day turn into a day where you have to feel bad about being single and need to be in a relationship to celebrate it??? In grade school you bring cards for everyone and hand them out to the class and just enjoy the day with friends and family.
This reminds me of weird tik tok povs like: “pov I’m your abusive boyfriend who’s kidnapping you but you love me too much to call the cops on me” edit: i wanna add that i’ve seen this crop up again with draco malfoy povs and it’s kinda concerning how many people romanticize his toxic traits
@@angieb8885 wait that's a real thing? What's wrong with these kiddos. I was actually almost killed by an abusive boyfriend. It ain't cute. He wasn't cute and wearing dentures for a year while getting my implant teeths made was DEFINITELY not cute
Why is there such a pressure in high school that every boy you talk to is a potential boyfriend? I just want to be able to hang out with a guy friend and be just that--friends. This isn't the 1800s, okay, not every eligible man has to be a possible beau.
THIS. In my experience I’ve had an easier time getting along with dudes, but it’s kinda weird when people always treat it like you HAVE to have romantic interest because you’re two dudes of the opposite sex who get along. Can we not just be friends? Why is it so upsetting to some people, yknow?
@MtnDewStacks This is why you're wrong: Romantic love is a separate entity from platonic love. Many healthy romantic relationships are born from friendships, sure, and that's perfectly fine, but it's not a next step forward, more like a turn. One doesn't necessarily have to see their best friends as possible partners to be comfortable and feel at home in the other's presence. That mindset is in itself unhealthy because it pushes unwanted thoughts in the person's head that, many times, they'd rather live without. Or at least, that's what's happened (and continues to happen, despite my discomfort) in my personal experience.
I know a couple who NEVER really argues. They haven't argued in a year, instead of yelling and being angry with one another, they talk out their problems and come to an understanding (even if they dont agree, they'll agree to disagree), and I honestly aspire to be like them because the constant need to feel right in any argument is whats beating everyone down.
hi, just saying this out of personal experience but teenagers doing this and growing together also needs to be normalized and encouraged. a lot of the time it is made out that we can't be mature in relationships and sort things out and while it's true we aren't as developed as adults, nor as stable, we shouldn't be forced under this label of just : unable to. i've been with my girlfriend for over a year now, almost two, and we're both sixteen. the only time we get into panicky talks ( never even an argument because we refuse to talk to each other in such a tone ) is over our own insecurities which we are striving to help out and reassure.
@@hentaixddsss8965 We're all seniors in high school right now, actually. I didnt necessarily have the best parents growing up, and I've learned a lot from seeing all these great couples at school who actually respect and appreciate one another.
Thank you for pointing out the toxicity of “crazy” couples, because the glorification of it can lead to abusive relationships and that’s dangerous. Mentally, physically, and emotionally. 2020 let’s promote healthy and respectful relationships.
I agree fully with you and a large problem is that for some reason mainstream media (books, movies, songs) can only tell a romance when there's some sort of drama. It's like a story containing two people who genuinely care for and support each other can't be a good story. Like there's so many cute shit you could do with a healthy relationship narrative. Normalizing abuse and toxicity in any relationship has to stop and I refuse to consume any romantic material until then
Reading Taylor Swift lyrics and I see plenty of problematic themes and clichés. Mysterious guys, that passionate fighting then makeup, toxic cycle. Mainstream media can easily feed into unhealthy relationship ideas young people may have.
I know someone who grew up loving series and movies (think of 50 Shades of Grey) that have toxic couples in them. Coupled with her own parents having a toxic relationship, her views on ideal relationships are kind of skewed. As far as I know, she has never once been in a healthy relationship.
Unpopular: Poison Ivy relationship with Harley killed her character. People don't want Ivy to be solo any more. Now she has to be Harley's Girlfriend/gal pal/ emotional support character.
@@Harleyxjokerforever not really, Ivy have been Harley's best friend since Harley's creation (on Batman the original animated series around late 90's) and they ALWAYS been emotional support for each other, they became a couple recently exactly because they already had a close past They already broke up and their relationship returned to it's origins, they still best friends that love each other and are a major example of a healthy relation after romantic evolvement and I've never seen anyone complaining about that
mental illness makes relationships rlly hard and adds a whole other layer to it and it really annoys me when people decide to romanticise it because it makes life so difficult, it’s not a cute personality trait it’s an ILLNESS that people have to live with all the time
This! and those people act like they get but when you’re actually struggling they are the worst because they just expect their romanticized version of it. I had one guy leave me because he didn’t think it was that serious when I told him UP FRONT that I was struggling with an eating disorder. How tf does one casually have an eating disorder?? (Doing well in recovery now and with someone that takes me seriously too.)
indeed. Basically i feel like 80% of my relationship problems come from my brain not working the way it should and it's depressing how people romanticize it. Like, it's not fun or cute at all D:
Yes. Always be careful in relationships where mental illness is involved, whether it's you or the other person (or both). They complicate things and you always need to keep in mind that one person can't fix mental illness. It's not the other person's fault when the mental illness is still there, and many things may come up because of the mental illness. Always keep in mind that a lot of things will come from the mental illness and that it's nobody's fault.
@@sourgreendolly7685 I'm glad you found a relationship that you can be healthy in, and that you're getting healthy ❤️ proud of you for the work you're putting in to get better.
marina k as a person with mental disorders I completely agree. I have no ability to control my emotions and I always end up feeling like I’m always weighting them down because of my inability to handle negative situations, shut up about things I care about, and how clingy I can be. I normally just end up cutting ties because I just feel like I’m a burden on my friends
the one about "cheating on their current partner to be with you" shit got me hard. story time: i had a boyfriend about a year ago who, before we got together, attempted to manipulate me into being in a poly relationship with him and his "other" boyfriend. he eventually "chose" me over the other dude, and i didn't see anything wrong with it until he left me for yet another dude who never even reciprocated his obsessive feelings, and is now dating someone from grindr. tl;dr, wacko-ass, sex-obsessed ex cheated to get with me, then dipped
The shitty thing is there are genuinely people out there who are poly who would be livid at what your ex did. They take all of their partners with as much care and love as any monogamous couple does. Gives them a bad name when people do this. Poly is meant to be agreed upon by all parties because it's what they all want. Same with open relationships too. I'm so sorry you went through that. That guy is just a cheating SOB who used poly as an excuse to do just that.
Hi! I have psychosis and BPD so i have extremely bad mood swings that result in me becoming manic, and im SICK OF PEOPLE FETISHIZING IT. I HAVE NEARLY KILLED MYSELF BECAUSE OF THE MANIC FITS I GET INTO, ITS NOT QUIRKY. ITS CRIPPLING. I cannot stand the new idea that being 'crazy' is cute. its not. its almost killed me and my family and the few friends who haven't left me because of it are under enormous amounts of stress because of me. Im living in hell and its not quirky in ANY WAY. its a TERRIBLE way to live. like, imaging glorifying couples that beat each other. imagine glorifying couples that constantly lie to each other. That'll never happen tho because people seem to realize that these are BAD THINGS. for some reason, the general public cant understand that being a crazy bitch to your boyfriend/girlfriend is borderline EMOTIONAL ABUSE. its just not cute sis
Hey, I don't mean to sound weird or anything but I'm writing a story with the main character who has BPD, type 1 and I want to make it accurate, and not stereotypical, and I was wondering if I and you can talk or something, just to ask you about it, if you're okay with it. I really hate the idea of people making it a trend, when in reality the real thing is so horrid. Thanks please let me know - Remi
My parents are the strongest, most loving couple I've ever known, they rarely give valentines/anniversary gifts except as a joke to catch out the other. If your relationship can be ruined by not getting a gift, it's not a good relationship.
@@FriendshipIsMagic1998 not really, I mean, some people might be a bit hurt if their partner didn’t celebrate Valentine’s Day...but if it RUINS the relationship? Or even causes a few arguments, the relationship just ain’t it - clearly not very healthy.
The idea that you HAVE to post your SO on social media. It's annoying people keep questioning why I don't post my SO. "stop trying to act single" "if you don't post your SO, you're cheating". My SO does not like pictures & I don't have to post every aspect of my life. My relationship is healthier and lasted longer than a lot of couples who keep posting about each other on social media end up breaking up and have to delete everything. Stop judging other's relationships based on social media. The "relationship goals" couple probably isn't relationship goals in real life.
this is exactly what ive always said!! theres no reason your SO NEEDS to post you especially the people who genuinely get mad if their SO doesn’t.. i don’t post my man at all just because people always be saying shit like that 😂🤷🏼♀️ we have an amazing relationship so
amen to that, that's exactly the same as telling a lesbian that they "haven't met the right guy" or a gay person that they "haven't met the right girl".It's fucked up -.-
Opinion: ditching your friends because you get a bf/gf and paying attention to them whenever your significant other is busy is shitty and we shouldn't tolerate it
I disagree. It's not 'ditching', it's having a life. I have friends, I have family, and much more, and I can't exactly have time for all of them, so of course I will have to choose who to spend time with even if I love all of them so much.
@@luwenjun2079 I think you misunderstood my point. A lot of people get bf/gf and then COMPLETELY ignore their friends and only come to them if their significant other is busy or if they broke up
I did this to my 'friends' of 13 years because my boyfriend made me realize how bad they actually treated me. I finally ditched them and my boyfriend and I are still together, 3 years!
5:50 that’s why in Spanish valentine’s day is either “Día de San Valentin”(literal translation) or “Día del amor y la amistad” (Day of love and friendship) 😔🤟 normalize friendship on Valentine’s Day
We learned about this in my Spanish class on Valentine’s Day and it’s like this for many Spanish speaking countries and it kinda made me feel like America is the only country that doesn’t really value relationship as much as we should.
Ok so I’ve actually got a story of a couple like this that I was friends with a few years back First, the guy was very insecure with himself. He basically couldn’t function without having some form of external validation and had a lot of issues because of it. The girl was mostly fine but loyal to a fault and could be crazy in defending the people closest to her. So they got engaged about a month or two after they started dating and they were still in their lovebird phase (already yikes.) They eventually moved in together but they got in frequent screaming matches over very minor issues, and would go back to lovebirds within minutes of it. I saw the worst of it when I went with them and some friends out for a spring break trip. We all went to an amusement park, and he forced her to ride all the rides despite her being very adamant that she didn’t like roller coasters AND her crying when she got off each one. Also, when one of our friends was feeling tired and didn’t want to do anything, he basically started arguing with said friend and his wife got on it with him, which did not help friend/couple relationship in any way and could’ve been avoided. But the worst was when he had the idea to split the men and women in the group and go to clubs (no idea why he thought any of us would enjoy it.) He was sulking the whole night over the idea of his wife being around attractive men (even though it was his idea,) and he made us guys leave early. When the girls got back, he went down to the parking lot to talk to his wife alone in the car. Turns out he spent nearly half an hour screaming at her about who knows what. When two of my friends went down to talk to them, the couple came up, but then he had managed to convince his wife that the friends were in the wrong for “getting into their business” and they started yelling at my friends and I about how bad we were. For trying to make sure wife was safe. So yeah, I don’t talk to them anymore. Sorry it’s so long but felt it was relevant and maybe an interesting read.
That's so horrible... Imagine thinking that's what love is :( It must be so exhausting to go every day screaming at someone. Life is too short for that shit.
My high school sweetheart and I were planning on getting married and I didn’t know he was cheating on me with my best friend for months while she would still pretend to be my friend. One day he just stopped talking to me I was so confused, go on face book and see him and my best friend are in a relationship . So he got her pregnant while he was cheating on me, they got married, he cheated on her, they are now divorced. *The end*
Idk why but this was a tradition that I've always been raised by from my family, friends, and teachers that Valentines was a day of love, it doesn't need to be love about couples. I go out with my family every Valentines weekend, give gifts to my friends, and hell I even got a pricey gift for my friend in my newer school even if I also had a bf. I don't see why it's only for couples, love is love.
honestly i really just feel bad for people who think these “crazy!!!!” couples are the ideal for a relationship. it’s both scary and just makes me worry for how they’ve either treated others or been treated by someone else.
You know, I think movies/TV shows really made that a thing. Like for example: twilight, after (the movie and the book) some kdramas some animes and it's just teaching younger people that this is the type of relationship that GOOD which is actually worrying. THIS ALSO INCLUDES WATTPAD. Actually when I was younger Wattpad taught me about bad relationships luckily I was mature enough to see that it was pretty weird but until I got older I saw that there were MANY PROBLEMS. It just sucks that we live in a world where bad relationships are a trend, the ghetto 💀💀
Maybe because they might just have cool costumes that people want to recreate? And they can have a themed couples costume from a comic book franchise they really like... I mean as long as the cosplayers don't think they actually are those characters it's totally fine. People dress up as killers from horror movies or as villains from video games, like Harley Quinn and the joker really isn't that scandalous... there's nothing wrong about just enjoying costuming and doing a paired costume with someone who has similar interests as you 🙃
@@amphithere She romanticizes and says the relationship is ideal. She also calls her relationship crazy and thinks it's "cute". I never said there was anything wrong with dressing up as them..
Here in Mexico, Valentines day is the day for love and friendship so you like give your friends gifts or cards or stuff and that way is less "excluding" for single people
Opinion: I think it’s extremely uncalled for when people say “some people don’t have fathers on Father’s Day” or “don’t have mothers on Mother’s Day” towards people who speak up on wanting a valentines on Valentine’s Day.
SAY. IT. LOUDER. I find it so stupid and annoying, like you aren't entitled to your feelings. To quote Lady Bird; "Different things can be sad. It's not all war".
SAY IT LOUDER PLEASE. Like I have a vivid memory of kindergarten on fathers Day crying because I was the only one in the classroom sitting alone waiting for the day to be over
@@lillisrealm6110 I don't understand your situation obviously because I have a dad, but he doesn't celebrate holidays or anything like that. I can not TELL you how many times I had to stay quiet while everyone else in school made father's day cards or prepared for the daddy-daughter dance. Not to mention all the missed concerts that he went to like, maybe 1/3 of the time? Like dude, those are awful comparisons. I can WANT a valentine and know that it's possible for me to have one. Like please
Respect peoples decision not to date you, they don’t hate you or want to make you feel bad but they will leave if you can’t respect they don’t return your feelings. You’re the one making it awkward. Accept their feelings and treat them like you did before and they will probably do the same, if the reason they can’t like you that they aren’t over their ex? Ask again when a pretty fair amount of time has passed. Some people will just never love you and if you want to keep them as a friend you have to show them platonic love instead of romantic even if you love them.
and if you can't be around them if it's not in the context of a romantic relationship... leave them the fuck alone. I honestly don't know why you couldn't keep a connection with someone over something like that UNLESS your "feelings" were actually just falling in love with the *idea* of a romance, and now that the person isn't reciprocative of that fantasy, they serve no use to you. Which is shallow and you should go.
Platonic love has to be the best kind of love I mean i feel like there is more flexibility I really feel like friendship is stronger than romance Some people don’t see that unfortunately
idk if it's necessarily stronger, like someone who's married or in a serious relationship should probably value their spouse above or equal to most people since they're sharing their lives, but that being said friendship is not as shallow as some people seem to think it is! platonic love is so important and I feel incredibly comfortable with my close friends but imo your romantic partner should also be a friend :)
Sammi J. Yes I agree It’s just from personal experience where I found that even when relationships go wrong you still have friends there with you Not to say that things can go wrong with friends and you can go to your spouse But yes I totally agree
@@laurynr4143 I am a Christian and do believe in Christmas, from my experience most people who spend a ton of money on it are the more privileged ones who can afford to, not always people who believe in it more. The buying-presents aspect is disconnected from the religion aspect as far as I have been raised. This comment is more directed towards that consumerist side of it than the religion side of it. :) edit- accidentally posted before I was finished
The whole normalizing fights thing is right, I was in a TON of toxic relationships that made me think that arguing was healthy (yes I mean screaming and yelling, going to bed angry, FIGHTS) then I met my husband, we have 'fights' but our fights are conversations, expressing each other's viewpoints and whether we agree or not we talk about ways we can meet in the middle...no one is 'right' 80 percent of the time. It's all about conversing and seeing their point of view, that's the key...BOTH of you work it out together, it's not a competition, it's a negotiation, then follow through with your end... You might still have problems arise but yelling and shutting each other out gets you NOW WHERE
I've been with my husband for almost 3 years. And we haven't had a single actual fight. We've had disagreements, but not a single fight. Whereas in previous relationships, fights were just a normal part of the relationship. And I was naive enough to accept that as normal instead of recognizing it for the toxic bullshit it was.
YES YES! Disagreements and arguments are normal. Fighting and not communicating and acting like you want to kill your partner is not! I hate seeing content on the internet with people (I won't lie, it's typically straight people) acting like they don't want to be with their partner. It's like, if you don't want to be with them, leave (I know that's not possible in some situations but I don't think the people who make these "jokes" are in those situations)!
I don't understand why people like these types of relationships. I literally almost cried when JD put out his cigarette on Veronica's hand in Heathers because I couldn't imagine the emotional and physical pain
5:55 This is what japanese valentine’s day is like, they don’t only give out chocolates to their “special someone” they also would give “obligatory chocolates” to their friends or coworkers as a gift.
In response to the arguments in relationships, I had a friend back in high school who thought that if you didn't have arguments and fights in a relationship then everything was going to blow up in your face. she took this as far as to try to instigate fights between myself and the guy I had been dating for about 2 years at the time because we had never had a fight once in our relationship. If we ever disagreed on something or didn't see eye to eye we would talk it out we wouldn't scream or yell or say hurtful things. She thought that was incredibly unhealthy and that our relationship was unstable and would never last. while, yes, it didn't last as after 5 years we broke up, the fact that we did not argue or fight had absolutely nothing to do with it. I've actually never had a relationship where we would start fighting and yelling at each other, I don't see a point in that and I don't understand why people think it's normal and why they think it should happen.
@@moneybxndz161 Hell no, she's continued to be garbage to people we were mutual friends with and never bothered to try to make amends for any of the shitty things she did.
Yeah, no. I've had that experience but with friends. A girl told me if I had more than one best friend (I had three-five at this time during middle school) and since we didn't get into fights we aren't "real friends." All the friends I got into fights with were toxic and when I found friends I didn't argue with on a daily basis it was a healthier relationship.
Wow that sucks but that philosophy may stem from the whole "I fight with you because I love/care for you" which is right up there with "if they bully or are mean to you then they like you". It's a huge problem
I'm ace and i love valentine's day. Giving gifts to my friends, making cards, eating candy, cute hearts everywhere. I love it. I specially use the day as an excuse to treat myself, i spent the day watching cheesy kdramas and eating chocolate.
For the opinion of people who tell others to “love themselves more” to those who are single I feel that’s more directed towards people who want to be in a relationship solely for the validation of love and self esteem. Which I feel is becoming more common nowadays.
I agree, also I think that relationships can be messy and very complicated if you're not mature enough. I believe it's better to work on yourself before jumping to a situation that needs you to have some social and emotional abilities to work out
@@fraumd holy hell yes. People really do not understand how much it takes to actually make a relationship healthy and last. It takes a lot more sacrifice and hard work than media and society leads you to believe. You have to be willing to recognize your toxic traits and work on yourself. You also have to really practice patience and communication. It's really best to get into a relationship when you're well mentally because if things get serious you're now not just taking care of yourself.
Side note, making valentines crafts as a kid at school was really fun. The teachers made us give one to everyone to prevent someone from feeling left out. Which was great because I was treated like subhuman at school :)
Valentines day is literally called friend's day in finland so it's perfectly normal to buy your friends chocolate but that doesn't make it any better for me cuz i don't have any friends :D
Hot take on "if they cheated with you, they'll cheat on you." Cheating to be with the right person still is messy and it hurts. It's the worst route to take. Its more acceptable if the person they're cheating on is abusive or controlling or manipulative, but it still leaves a tinge of guilt. I say this from experience. My bf's ex was extremely manipulative. When he tried to break up with her in the first year of their relationship, she threatened suicide. My bf has a "bleeding heart" and his naivety is easy to take advantage of. He had been so sheltered before her and it was his very first relationship albeit very sexual in nature and devoid of human connection. She cheated on him and would cry about it and then suck him back in. It continued in vicious cycles until another year later, where he was done with her emotionally and he had met me. We were friends and I was fully aware of the relationship. Against my better judgement I let his crush on me flourish and had developed my own feelings. He broke it off with her within 3 months of him confessing his feelings. We never physically cheated, but was 100% emotional cheating. He stayed with me for a week on my birthday and she called him crying and saying that she hopes that he wasnt with me, or she'd kill herself. It was heartbreaking to here (she was on speaker. He told her that they're done, they've been done, and blocked her on everything. Their breakup was messy and I feel guilty a lot, knowing the emotional damage inflicted on both of them, and me (because 2 months before my bday, he asked me to be his gf then recanted 2 days later because his ex threatened self harm/suicide again). Now that she's gone from his life (it's been a year since they split and him and I started dating). Shes now going to marry my bf's best friend out of spite (she still tries to gain his attention, for the first 3 months she posted selfies of herself crying). My bf and I are happy and strong, and there has been no sign that he has or will cheat. He's emotionally stronger than the guy I first met. Seeing his mental health improve gives me happiness, and we've both become better at communicating, and arguments rarely happen, and when they do, there is never insults thrown or harsh words fueled by anger. However, it took 4 months for both of us to heal from the messy drama of emotionally cheating, especially for me. I felt guilt. I felt like it was my fault. So, overall cheating in some situations is more socially acceptable, but it still leaves damage, and the new relationship will have a rocky start.
Cheating will always be wrong. But in certain situations, understandable. That’s my take on it. I also feel like in the end you still felt a little guilty. Glad your boyfriend got out that horrible relationship. That’s awful!
What the other girl was doing to him was emotional blackmail, abusive, manipulative, abusive of power, etc. Nothing healthy about that. Sometimes you have to meet the right person to realize how wrong your current relationship is, especially if they are that manipulative. Cheating isn't ok (unless discussed before & agreed with by both partners) but that behaviour is far from ok from my POV. If you have to threaten self harm to stay in the relationship, there is something very wrong & unhealthy. Why would anyone want to stay in a relationship when the other person doesn't want you? Seems like commonsense? Sounds like you are both doing better. I would stay away from the ex, not healthy behavior.
I feel that the once a cheater always a cheater is only ever always true when it's physical cheating. Like a partner hooking up with someone other than their own partner because obviously you have a say when it comes to actions and you consciously choose to do something whereas you can't help falling for someone else. That would be different, which is your case
"baking superiority" I have never felt so seen. I always bake gluten-free desserts & pastries for my step-mom when I visit (I live on the other side of the country from my family) & nothing comes close to that feeling of spending 6 hours working on a beautiful opera hazelnut coffee cake for that one moment of sheer delight in everyones faces. Especially my step-mom since she misses out on so many delicious foods & desserts just because of her celiac. Also, I dont have a problem with lovey dovey couples on Valentine's day, but I do get very uncomfortable when couples post about their relationship CONSTANTLY. Like I'm glad y'all are happy but do you need to be shoving that in peoples throats all the time? My bf & I have been together for almost 3 years, we're very happy & I have been told we are "relationship goals" from multiple people. But we dont go flaunting it everywhere for people to see. I feel like the more you try to show people how happy you are in a relationship, the less happy you ACTUALLY are. (I mean, not always. Some people love to share but a lot of the time, I feel like it's a show)
I agree. My husband and I have been together for ten years, married three in two days (woo🥳) and we’ve not even posted a pictured together for at least two years lol it’s just not necessary. And I can honestly tell you, we’ve never been happier than when we realized we didn’t have to “prove” our relationship to anyone. Now when we go do fun things, taking our phones out to get a picture isn’t even a thought that crosses our minds. We’re able to just be present in the moment, rather than flexing how in love we are. And it’s not like we’re “old” or anything. We’re 24 and 25, respectively. We just stopped caring about the social media nonsense and let me tell you, it’s been a relief.
Yeah it’s the same with insecurities too. If you’re really confident you show it through your actions by wearing what you want and looking how you want and doing what you want on a daily basis despite criticism from your peers. But if you’re constantly shoving it in peoples faces saying “I don’t care what you think” to almost anything people say or just generally shoving your “confidence” in peoples faces, that’s just showing that you lack confidence but what to seem like you don’t care what others think because it makes you admirable.
in finland, valentine's day is literally called friend's day and it's totally ok to appreciate your friendships as well as romantic relationships on that day :)
Omg literally me and my boyfriend moved in together and it wasn't "oh congrats" it was "you're going to argue. Just wait. Idk how you haven't argued yet? You guys are going to hate eachother" but the thing is, if we have a problem we legit just say so and that's that. It's just a normal conversation
THANK YOU. when suicide squad came out everyone was like “HARLEY AND JOKER ARE GOALS 😍😍😍” and i was like NoOoO girl abusive relationships are not goals 😭😭
You shouldn't have to wait until valentines day to confess your love to me, if you truly love me you would confess when your ready and not just on a holiday because you were pressured by your friends, family, society or social media. Also you shouldn't be pressured by social media to post pictures of you and your significant other, unless they know you personally they don't have a right to judge you
I think that most people think of arguments as screaming matches when they’re really just disagreements. There is a way to have disagreements without screaming about them. Couples should disagree on things because they are different people with different opinions on things. The way that each person in a relationship will respond to things is different because they are different. If people are in relationships and never have disagreements, their relationship is probably unhealthy. I’ve been there and trust me, pushing down my thoughts and opinions for the sake of not having disagreements is not healthy.
but then again, some people just don't argue with others. my bestfriend and i never had any arguments even though we're very different people. it's just that we have respect, compassion and understanding between us, so we always think of another persons point of view in the matter. some people just click better together
"Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean your significant other has to get you something for Valentine's Day" 👏 Thank goodness we ain't the only ones, my boi and I don't bother, we just drop gifts on each other whenever we see something the other one would like. And we get chocolate every time we go to the store anyways soooo ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
yeah, mine and I don't bother either. since we're doing ldr, there's nothing much we can do about anniversaries either, and everyday feels like an anniversary anyway (there are a few exceptions, ofc, it's real life after all and not a fairy tale) after an argument, we just make up almost immediately and we both apologize. there are no grudges or anything and he's really the only person whom I've ever done the "forgive and forget" with, because he almost never repeats mistakes. we've never had vicious fights bc cOmMuNiCaTiOn lol.) however we celebrate birthdays and he insists on buying stuff for me on my birthday. he's really sweet :))
@@im_waffles2920 Yes and don’t buy roses on near Valentine’s Day. They are so expensive during this time. I bought five small ones for my classmates two years ago and it cost me like 20€/$24 in total. The bigger roses were about double the price.
I really dislike how romantic relationships are treated as the goal in life because people get so scared they'll end up alone they're willing to stay in toxic relationships and put up with things like constant arguments and shouting matches. And it's all weirdly isolating - you're expected to have one deep, meaningful, romantic relationship with someone and live with and spend all your time with them, and all other relationships are shallow and aren't allowed to truly blossom. That might work for some people - certainly not me, I'm aromantic - but it shouldn't be the expectation. rant over lmao. also, this set of expectations is referred to as amatonormativity I think and it's pretty interesting to read about!
Can we be friends? Every time I try to say this my friends or family look at me like I’m crazy... I don’t think there is a manual that says to be satisfied in life I need to be in a relationship, and I really, genuinely enjoy being alone (btw sorry for you English)
I'm not aromantic but I don't like the idea that a person absolutely has to have a significant other, especially where I am in life right now. I'm a 19 year old in college, and people really ask me about me getting a boyfriend, getting shocked when I don't want one.
D’Angelo Wallace: no one goes out to dinner the day after Me: sick & going out to dinner tomorrow instead Yes, nobody goes out to dinner the day after.
*Creators of Joker and Harley: let's create an extremely abusive couple to make people uncomfortable and realize that toxic relationships are bad *21st century people: They are goals, I want a relationship like this *Creators: listen here you little
So we’re just gonna ignore the fact that D’Angelo basically confirmed that he is in a relationship? And as someone pointed out, might be engaged (ring at 15:50)? Also, if you are engaged...congrats man!!!
"even if you love someone with your whole heart, there's going to be times where you don't like them with your whole heart." I felt that, that's the perfect way to explain it
I think valentines in school is needed. Teaches them to appreciate the people they love the and vice versa. Teaches gift giving. Teaches them to express love.
Honestly I have a good relationship with my boyfriend. He’s my best friend and even though we have been through just terrible stuff we still love each other and are good. What I think I was not prepared for was my friendships being difficult. I feel like so many people talk about romantic relationships like it’s harder to deal with. I personally have it harder with my friends. They are the hardest to maintain and I keep picking jerks or it’s just really hard to keep up with. I don’t know why society as a whole puts SO much emphasis on romantic relationships that I literally can never find friendship advice. Literally have been completely heartbroken by my friends and I’m still going through a “breakup” and it just feels like the world doesn’t think they are important or difficult. Friendships can be just as difficult and heartbreaking as romantic relationships.
Precisely. Plus, I feel like learning how to be a good friend is essential to learning how to maintain a romantic relationship. They both rely on trust, communication, and understanding, after all. I don't know why we make such a big deal out of aiming for romance as a Pillar of Life, when friendships have every right to have that much effort put in.
I once stopped talking to a girl back in highschool because of how obsessed she was with her boyfriend. I hadn't seen her in a few weeks and she came over to see if I wanted to hang out. I told her I had to finish some chores but could hang in an hour. She deadass said that this was the only time she could hang since she was gonna be hanging out with her boyfriend all week and she only came over to kill time before her bf came back from doing something. I told her we're not friends after that.
Just my two cents about the cheating thing: Most of the time I would agree with "They cheated to be with you, they can cheat on you to be with someone else," but my dad had an affair, divorced my mom, married the other woman, and they've been happily married for nearly 16 years. And while that whole situation makes me feel uncomfortable, I'm really glad they separated because their relationship was toxic and they're both so much better in their new marriages. Edit: Just to clarify, my step mom was also married during the affair to an abusive man, and my mom at the time was more mentally unstable (she's fine now). So while they should have gotten divorced before getting together, they both found "an escape" in each other, which led to the affair.
@@imretrodd7120 Exactly. I only have personal experience with my situation so I can't really judge other situations the same. I'm also somewhat biased since I'm really close to my dad.
My ex half way through the relationship was like “I wanna psycho girl, one who’s clingy jealous and will go off on me” I just looked at him and was like “...well that ain’t me” ...then he cheated on me with a psycho chick who knew he was cheating.
At 4:00 thank you! As someone currently in a relationship for 8+ years “everyday should be valentines day” isn’t sustainable or realistic, healthy and equal all the time yes, overly romantic, nope!
my parents are still really lovey dovey...and theyve been married 27 years! so it just depends on the couple. some people in a relationship are less obvious with their love for their SO but that doesnt mean it isnt there
D’Angelo, here’s why *you’re* wrong about having the whole restaurant to yourself day after valentines. As someone who works in the service industry, tomorrow is going to be very busy. Not as busy as Valentine’s Day, you’ve got that right, but the day after is still hectic and crazy. At least in my case.
How to be emotionally mature: Just be in middle school - high school . You think I have time to be jealous of couples when I’m procrastinating on a school project while crying in my bed at 3 in the morning because I lost a match of Tetris? Then I get spammed by my friend telling me what a dumb bitch I am as I am writing an argument to someone on the internet that I already know I will lose? No.
I've been single for almost a year now, and I'm really happy being single. I have freedom, and can go where I want, and not worry about someone else wondering what I'm doing all the time. All my friends are in relationships, and I'm always "the single friend'. But I'm always happy for my friends while they're in relationships because I know that I chose to be on my own to focus on my career, and passion for art and travel.
I love my girlfriend, been together for five years, but both of us have to navigate if we want to move for our careers, when we want a house, marriage etc. The topics are nice, but also a financial stress point. So I'm rooting for you to have that independence in figuring out your life. In fact, I highly recommend it. I'd also travel as much as you can - you know, whenever 2020 stops being terrible - because you won't feel guilty if you want to travel somewhere alone to just /experience/ it. Good luck!
I mean, on Christmas you're at least supposed to be thinking of others and trying to give them stuff that suits them. Like yeah, it's a holiday with gifts, but they're intended to be personal. Valentine's day is way worse because it's just couples doing the exact same social ritual as everyone else just so they can look good to the general public. It's inherently a pretty insincere holiday, while Christmas is at least intended to be a day where people actually try to make each other happy.
@@engelberthovel8566 I guess that would depend on where you live. In my home country Valentine’s Day is called ”friend’s day”. It’s not a big deal here and while couples do celebrate it, it’s more about appreaciating your friends as the name suggests.
About the arguments stuff, when I was with my ex, we never had serious arguments ever, it was usually minor, normal squabbles like where to eat or who changed my laptop background and such. Literally our first fight was after we broke up. So I say the arguments in relationships really depend on communication with each other and how you and your partner treat each other.
10:05 this is so true relationships are built on TRUST, not suspicion and or worry. someone I was with did this twice and it pissed me off so much. It's my phone and it's my life. this person would also say stuff along the lines of "I wouldn't be mad if you cheated" and "I'm not good enough you should just leave me" LIKE NO THATS NOT OK who told you it was?? that's straight up manipulation right there I'm single now and I like it that way
People say "You should love your partner everyday not just Valentines day!" The energy on Valentines day is so high. It's good to have one day, to express as much love as possible, but if it was everyday, not only would it devalue the holiday but it would also be emotionally draining.
Totally. I don't really give a shit about it. If you're not making some kind of effort all year with your partner then why even celebrate it at all. Lack of effort all year should by be rewarded that one day of the year 🤣
I have deadass kept up a long distance best friendship since I was 13 (We’re 20 now) with a girl who lives in Iowa (I live in MN). it’s one of the best relationships I have. I have not had a better relationship with anyone from school. And that is because of social media, we met at a camp and just exchanged phone numbers and I love her so much. PLATONICALLY.
what should the theme of next week's hwyw be?
toxic stan culture?
idk, like the art community?
Movie media?
Water being wet
If you stack a lasagne on top of another lasagne is it one lasagne or two
D'Angelo: Who told you being insane was cute
Wattpad writers : 👁👄👁
Lmao I was bouta comment the same thingg
I love you for this
Yup xD
My first thought😭
*my first fanfiction about the lorax and mr ohare is typing...*
Even Margot Robbie the actress who played Harley Quinn, said she disliked Harley and Joker's toxic relationship.
It was meant to be disliked. this was supposed to show how the joker has no concept of love and all emotions for him are tied to humor. for him humor is violence death and crazy shit
@@ishanafondekar6334 im aware, im talking about the people that idolized their relationship.
@@mirameh3038 i wasnt addressing you directly my guy, i meant to tell what the intentions of the writers are when they write about the joker's love
Robbie also wants to explore Harley and Ivy, so double W
@@katsisvi8097 it’s already canon though. It was there in the comics
When did Valentine's day turn into a day where you have to feel bad about being single and need to be in a relationship to celebrate it??? In grade school you bring cards for everyone and hand them out to the class and just enjoy the day with friends and family.
Blondiescakeface exactly! Some times we just want candy 🥺
naomi j same thing can be said about Halloween. Why celebrate Halloween when you can just buy candy. Let people have fun
this!!
because bitches are mad and lonely and jealous. no one is trying to make you feel bad, that's all on you.
brian may PERIOD!!!!
That was so cute when he said he found someone who changed his perspective in dating
Honestly thought he meant his reflection
@@monroe7532 sounds about right
This reminds me of weird tik tok povs like: “pov I’m your abusive boyfriend who’s kidnapping you but you love me too much to call the cops on me”
edit: i wanna add that i’ve seen this crop up again with draco malfoy povs and it’s kinda concerning how many people romanticize his toxic traits
This sounds like a chernobyl mutation of ASMR
Erika Daniels those are so damn uncomfortable ew
I watch a lot of tiktok povs and those ones just creep me out, why would anyone make something like that?
I hate those so much, sometimes it’s even triggering me.
@@angieb8885 wait that's a real thing? What's wrong with these kiddos. I was actually almost killed by an abusive boyfriend. It ain't cute. He wasn't cute and wearing dentures for a year while getting my implant teeths made was DEFINITELY not cute
Why is there such a pressure in high school that every boy you talk to is a potential boyfriend? I just want to be able to hang out with a guy friend and be just that--friends. This isn't the 1800s, okay, not every eligible man has to be a possible beau.
THIS. In my experience I’ve had an easier time getting along with dudes, but it’s kinda weird when people always treat it like you HAVE to have romantic interest because you’re two dudes of the opposite sex who get along. Can we not just be friends? Why is it so upsetting to some people, yknow?
MtnDewStacks Ehm, I mean it just makes it kinda weird, in my experience. Also your use of the word “mate” doesn’t really do you any favors, by the by.
I agree totally. Can we just normalize platonic relationships with the opposite sex? Please?
@MtnDewStacks This is why you're wrong:
Romantic love is a separate entity from platonic love. Many healthy romantic relationships are born from friendships, sure, and that's perfectly fine, but it's not a next step forward, more like a turn. One doesn't necessarily have to see their best friends as possible partners to be comfortable and feel at home in the other's presence.
That mindset is in itself unhealthy because it pushes unwanted thoughts in the person's head that, many times, they'd rather live without.
Or at least, that's what's happened (and continues to happen, despite my discomfort) in my personal experience.
Marts Gamer G Very well put, “more like a turn instead of the next step” is an excellent way to describe that progression.
man, daneglo using that picture of sh*ne with his dog when the "opinion" of "dating your animals" came up is some case of prediction
nah we just been knew
Why did you censor Shane?
Pamber 13 he who must not be named
@@frackingfluidinjection ah kk
plus when he used the camilla and the prince together hahaha
I mean, I don’t find Harley Quinn cute because she’s insane. I think she’s cute because... Margot Robbie
🙌
Same bro, same 😂
R. S. why?
I find her cuter because she is crazy, though judging my relationship history that makes sense. It's also why I'm now VoCel
😐....𝒀𝒆𝒔
I know a couple who NEVER really argues. They haven't argued in a year, instead of yelling and being angry with one another, they talk out their problems and come to an understanding (even if they dont agree, they'll agree to disagree), and I honestly aspire to be like them because the constant need to feel right in any argument is whats beating everyone down.
That sheet must get tired real quick!
Yea this is where my relationship is at rn. Ive been very calm in disagreements
hi, just saying this out of personal experience but teenagers doing this and growing together also needs to be normalized and encouraged. a lot of the time it is made out that we can't be mature in relationships and sort things out and while it's true we aren't as developed as adults, nor as stable, we shouldn't be forced under this label of just : unable to. i've been with my girlfriend for over a year now, almost two, and we're both sixteen. the only time we get into panicky talks ( never even an argument because we refuse to talk to each other in such a tone ) is over our own insecurities which we are striving to help out and reassure.
@@hentaixddsss8965 We're all seniors in high school right now, actually. I didnt necessarily have the best parents growing up, and I've learned a lot from seeing all these great couples at school who actually respect and appreciate one another.
@@michaelbooker3321 dude!! yes!! that's so fucking valid!! i love that for ya'll. good luck on keeping that going :] 💕💕💕
if he doesn't review sonic in his monotone voice my whole year will be ruined.
LOL
Jade :0
Not to be mean but its kind of already ruined with all this shit that happened and is still happening.
Jade uhh big oof cuz it already is
Hah
Thank you for pointing out the toxicity of “crazy” couples, because the glorification of it can lead to abusive relationships and that’s dangerous. Mentally, physically, and emotionally. 2020 let’s promote healthy and respectful relationships.
I agree fully with you and a large problem is that for some reason mainstream media (books, movies, songs) can only tell a romance when there's some sort of drama. It's like a story containing two people who genuinely care for and support each other can't be a good story. Like there's so many cute shit you could do with a healthy relationship narrative. Normalizing abuse and toxicity in any relationship has to stop and I refuse to consume any romantic material until then
Reading Taylor Swift lyrics and I see plenty of problematic themes and clichés. Mysterious guys, that passionate fighting then makeup, toxic cycle. Mainstream media can easily feed into unhealthy relationship ideas young people may have.
eh, i still like the growth
I know someone who grew up loving series and movies (think of 50 Shades of Grey) that have toxic couples in them. Coupled with her own parents having a toxic relationship, her views on ideal relationships are kind of skewed. As far as I know, she has never once been in a healthy relationship.
"My question is will you be my valentine"
D'Angelo: *nervous laugh*NO
I laughed at that
Reminds me of Alastor.
HA! No!
Fact: Harley Quinn and Poison Ivy have a better, healthier relationship than Harley Quinn and Joker.
*fact
Everything is a healthier relationship then Harley Quinn and the joker
Unpopular: Poison Ivy relationship with Harley killed her character.
People don't want Ivy to be solo any more. Now she has to be Harley's Girlfriend/gal pal/ emotional support character.
HarleyxJoker FOREVER true! They’re cute as roommates or whatever you want them to be but now it’s like she’s Harley’s accessory
@@Harleyxjokerforever not really, Ivy have been Harley's best friend since Harley's creation (on Batman the original animated series around late 90's) and they ALWAYS been emotional support for each other, they became a couple recently exactly because they already had a close past
They already broke up and their relationship returned to it's origins, they still best friends that love each other and are a major example of a healthy relation after romantic evolvement and I've never seen anyone complaining about that
mental illness makes relationships rlly hard and adds a whole other layer to it and it really annoys me when people decide to romanticise it because it makes life so difficult, it’s not a cute personality trait it’s an ILLNESS that people have to live with all the time
This! and those people act like they get but when you’re actually struggling they are the worst because they just expect their romanticized version of it. I had one guy leave me because he didn’t think it was that serious when I told him UP FRONT that I was struggling with an eating disorder. How tf does one casually have an eating disorder?? (Doing well in recovery now and with someone that takes me seriously too.)
indeed. Basically i feel like 80% of my relationship problems come from my brain not working the way it should and it's depressing how people romanticize it. Like, it's not fun or cute at all D:
Yes. Always be careful in relationships where mental illness is involved, whether it's you or the other person (or both). They complicate things and you always need to keep in mind that one person can't fix mental illness. It's not the other person's fault when the mental illness is still there, and many things may come up because of the mental illness. Always keep in mind that a lot of things will come from the mental illness and that it's nobody's fault.
@@sourgreendolly7685 I'm glad you found a relationship that you can be healthy in, and that you're getting healthy ❤️ proud of you for the work you're putting in to get better.
marina k as a person with mental disorders I completely agree. I have no ability to control my emotions and I always end up feeling like I’m always weighting them down because of my inability to handle negative situations, shut up about things I care about, and how clingy I can be. I normally just end up cutting ties because I just feel like I’m a burden on my friends
the one about "cheating on their current partner to be with you" shit got me hard. story time:
i had a boyfriend about a year ago who, before we got together, attempted to manipulate me into being in a poly relationship with him and his "other" boyfriend. he eventually "chose" me over the other dude, and i didn't see anything wrong with it until he left me for yet another dude who never even reciprocated his obsessive feelings, and is now dating someone from grindr.
tl;dr, wacko-ass, sex-obsessed ex cheated to get with me, then dipped
"They way you get them is the way you'll lose them" - Dad
Wait... so this isn't just some shitty YA novel trope?
The shitty thing is there are genuinely people out there who are poly who would be livid at what your ex did. They take all of their partners with as much care and love as any monogamous couple does. Gives them a bad name when people do this. Poly is meant to be agreed upon by all parties because it's what they all want. Same with open relationships too.
I'm so sorry you went through that. That guy is just a cheating SOB who used poly as an excuse to do just that.
“Just go the day after, you’ll basically have the restaurant to yourself” *all of humanity takes his advice*
go in march
@10KO I will.... just cuz
Hi! I have psychosis and BPD so i have extremely bad mood swings that result in me becoming manic, and im SICK OF PEOPLE FETISHIZING IT. I HAVE NEARLY KILLED MYSELF BECAUSE OF THE MANIC FITS I GET INTO, ITS NOT QUIRKY. ITS CRIPPLING. I cannot stand the new idea that being 'crazy' is cute. its not. its almost killed me and my family and the few friends who haven't left me because of it are under enormous amounts of stress because of me. Im living in hell and its not quirky in ANY WAY. its a TERRIBLE way to live. like, imaging glorifying couples that beat each other. imagine glorifying couples that constantly lie to each other. That'll never happen tho because people seem to realize that these are BAD THINGS. for some reason, the general public cant understand that being a crazy bitch to your boyfriend/girlfriend is borderline EMOTIONAL ABUSE. its just not cute sis
Hey, I don't mean to sound weird or anything but I'm writing a story with the main character who has BPD, type 1 and I want to make it accurate, and not stereotypical, and I was wondering if I and you can talk or something, just to ask you about it, if you're okay with it. I really hate the idea of people making it a trend, when in reality the real thing is so horrid. Thanks please let me know - Remi
Hey, I have bpd (diagnosed) happy to consult if you're still looking.
@@euphoricblueart7816 omg i didnt see this reply. Id be more than happy to help lol, I love to talk and ive got a lot to say
@@koishikomeiji445 it really is, but the people like you who are sympathetic make a huge difference
Hope you’re ok. :)
That small pause where you’re wondering if he’s gonna say right or wrong, is so anxiety provoking.
tfw youre wrong 😔
I agree with the title so much. Crazy isn’t cute. Crazy relationships are usually toxic. “Cute but psycho” isn’t cute either
Cuteness is subjective.
@@vcxz4009 And crazy relationships are objectively harmful, regardless of how you subjectively view them.
@Lizzie X Did I ever say they weren't?
My parents are the strongest, most loving couple I've ever known, they rarely give valentines/anniversary gifts except as a joke to catch out the other. If your relationship can be ruined by not getting a gift, it's not a good relationship.
You're so lucky.
Amen
Depends on your love language.
@@FriendshipIsMagic1998 not really, I mean, some people might be a bit hurt if their partner didn’t celebrate Valentine’s Day...but if it RUINS the relationship? Or even causes a few arguments, the relationship just ain’t it - clearly not very healthy.
@@FriendshipIsMagic1998 but of course this is just me opinion :)
The idea that you HAVE to post your SO on social media. It's annoying people keep questioning why I don't post my SO. "stop trying to act single" "if you don't post your SO, you're cheating". My SO does not like pictures & I don't have to post every aspect of my life. My relationship is healthier and lasted longer than a lot of couples who keep posting about each other on social media end up breaking up and have to delete everything. Stop judging other's relationships based on social media. The "relationship goals" couple probably isn't relationship goals in real life.
this is exactly what ive always said!! theres no reason your SO NEEDS to post you especially the people who genuinely get mad if their SO doesn’t.. i don’t post my man at all just because people always be saying shit like that 😂🤷🏼♀️ we have an amazing relationship so
They're just being nosy. That's called they spend too much time on social media judging other peoples lives instead of their own.
Agreed!
What does SO mean?
I'm a dumbass it means significant other
My all-girl's school celebrates Galentine's instead. We're just gals being gals (with the occasional real love confession).
Aww I love that
Yaassss miraculous 🐞😍💜
@@xxalxysiaxx lol army miraculer
My all girls school doesn’t celebrate ANY holidays 😭
@@emily..... 😋✌
the more d’angelo is disappointed by humanity, the stronger he becomes. we have not yet witnessed his true power
Of course we haven't seen his true power hes not even in his final form
He's only at 30% of his full potential
He’s gonna nerf of us all...I pray that day comes soon
@@7eartcat248 he's still in a intense 24 hours 6 months training process for the other 70% to manifest. We must be patient
How about: Stop telling asexual or aromatic people that “they just haven’t met the right person.” What the heck.
agreed, it's really annoying and invalidating
amen to that, that's exactly the same as telling a lesbian that they "haven't met the right guy" or a gay person that they "haven't met the right girl".It's fucked up -.-
UNUS ANNUS
@@lilyking6320 Death comes for us all. Momento Mori. Unus Annus.
@@mayochupenjoyer Memento Mori, friend.
Opinion: ditching your friends because you get a bf/gf and paying attention to them whenever your significant other is busy is shitty and we shouldn't tolerate it
I disagree. It's not 'ditching', it's having a life. I have friends, I have family, and much more, and I can't exactly have time for all of them, so of course I will have to choose who to spend time with even if I love all of them so much.
@@luwenjun2079 I think you misunderstood my point. A lot of people get bf/gf and then COMPLETELY ignore their friends and only come to them if their significant other is busy or if they broke up
@@sofi53801 what person?
Athena Jaxon as someone who is ditched and constantly left out because my best friends are all finding SO’s now, I have to agree it sucks lol
I did this to my 'friends' of 13 years because my boyfriend made me realize how bad they actually treated me. I finally ditched them and my boyfriend and I are still together, 3 years!
5:50 that’s why in Spanish valentine’s day is either “Día de San Valentin”(literal translation) or “Día del amor y la amistad” (Day of love and friendship) 😔🤟 normalize friendship on Valentine’s Day
la amistad importa las relaciones poco saludables me vuelven loca
We learned about this in my Spanish class on Valentine’s Day and it’s like this for many Spanish speaking countries and it kinda made me feel like America is the only country that doesn’t really value relationship as much as we should.
Yeah in Estonia and Finland it's called firendship day and it's even unusual for some people there to make in about romance
KamiNouille i was just about to comment this too
Ok so I’ve actually got a story of a couple like this that I was friends with a few years back
First, the guy was very insecure with himself. He basically couldn’t function without having some form of external validation and had a lot of issues because of it. The girl was mostly fine but loyal to a fault and could be crazy in defending the people closest to her.
So they got engaged about a month or two after they started dating and they were still in their lovebird phase (already yikes.) They eventually moved in together but they got in frequent screaming matches over very minor issues, and would go back to lovebirds within minutes of it.
I saw the worst of it when I went with them and some friends out for a spring break trip. We all went to an amusement park, and he forced her to ride all the rides despite her being very adamant that she didn’t like roller coasters AND her crying when she got off each one.
Also, when one of our friends was feeling tired and didn’t want to do anything, he basically started arguing with said friend and his wife got on it with him, which did not help friend/couple relationship in any way and could’ve been avoided.
But the worst was when he had the idea to split the men and women in the group and go to clubs (no idea why he thought any of us would enjoy it.) He was sulking the whole night over the idea of his wife being around attractive men (even though it was his idea,) and he made us guys leave early.
When the girls got back, he went down to the parking lot to talk to his wife alone in the car. Turns out he spent nearly half an hour screaming at her about who knows what. When two of my friends went down to talk to them, the couple came up, but then he had managed to convince his wife that the friends were in the wrong for “getting into their business” and they started yelling at my friends and I about how bad we were. For trying to make sure wife was safe.
So yeah, I don’t talk to them anymore. Sorry it’s so long but felt it was relevant and maybe an interesting read.
That's so horrible... Imagine thinking that's what love is :( It must be so exhausting to go every day screaming at someone. Life is too short for that shit.
Damn I came here for a youtube video not this piping hot tea.
@Graciela Montano except the 68 ppl who liked the post, the 3 who left comments, and me. Yeah, no one. 😅
@Graciela Montano omg, ppl overuse wooosh so much and it doesn't even apply here. 🤦
@Graciela Montano just because u have the attention span of a goldfish doesn't mean everyone else does
My high school sweetheart and I were planning on getting married and I didn’t know he was cheating on me with my best friend for months while she would still pretend to be my friend. One day he just stopped talking to me I was so confused, go on face book and see him and my best friend are in a relationship . So he got her pregnant while he was cheating on me, they got married, he cheated on her, they are now divorced.
*The end*
what a story...i'm really sorry that happened to you
Geeeeeeshhhhhh...
I’m speechless 😶
At least you got rid of him on time
Jesus, what a scumbag.
I know this sounds bad but like if that happened to me I would probably show up at their house with guns and kill em
Opinion: Valentine's day isnt just about romantic relationships, it can also be about friendships. All you have to do is show your love to people.
yeah i agree. every year my friends and i buy each other gifts and go out to show that we still appreciate each other
Idk why but this was a tradition that I've always been raised by from my family, friends, and teachers that Valentines was a day of love, it doesn't need to be love about couples. I go out with my family every Valentines weekend, give gifts to my friends, and hell I even got a pricey gift for my friend in my newer school even if I also had a bf. I don't see why it's only for couples, love is love.
Exactly!! I give valentines day gifs to all my friends every year and I'm not in a relationship.
honestly i really just feel bad for people who think these “crazy!!!!” couples are the ideal for a relationship. it’s both scary and just makes me worry for how they’ve either treated others or been treated by someone else.
You know, I think movies/TV shows really made that a thing. Like for example: twilight, after (the movie and the book) some kdramas some animes and it's just teaching younger people that this is the type of relationship that GOOD which is actually worrying. THIS ALSO INCLUDES WATTPAD. Actually when I was younger Wattpad taught me about bad relationships luckily I was mature enough to see that it was pretty weird but until I got older I saw that there were MANY PROBLEMS. It just sucks that we live in a world where bad relationships are a trend, the ghetto 💀💀
For real. I know this one chick who likes they whole harley quinn and joker dynamic... they dress up like them every year for Halloween.
Maybe because they might just have cool costumes that people want to recreate? And they can have a themed couples costume from a comic book franchise they really like... I mean as long as the cosplayers don't think they actually are those characters it's totally fine. People dress up as killers from horror movies or as villains from video games, like Harley Quinn and the joker really isn't that scandalous... there's nothing wrong about just enjoying costuming and doing a paired costume with someone who has similar interests as you 🙃
@@amphithere She romanticizes and says the relationship is ideal. She also calls her relationship crazy and thinks it's "cute". I never said there was anything wrong with dressing up as them..
@@achingsoul7149 so
Here in Mexico, Valentines day is the day for love and friendship so you like give your friends gifts or cards or stuff and that way is less "excluding" for single people
It’s a friends day in Europe :’)
@@issumusi Here in Italy is only for couples-
@@namikotv8562 not in germany
@@issumusi neither here in Austria..
@@issumusi Friends day sounds cuter, I'd celebrate that. I just asked 5 of my best girl friends if theyd be my Valentines
Opinion:
I think it’s extremely uncalled for when people say “some people don’t have fathers on Father’s Day” or “don’t have mothers on Mother’s Day” towards people who speak up on wanting a valentines on Valentine’s Day.
SAY. IT. LOUDER. I find it so stupid and annoying, like you aren't entitled to your feelings. To quote Lady Bird; "Different things can be sad. It's not all war".
What kind of point is that even going for though? Like, some people don’t have valentines for Valentine’s Day lmao
SAY IT LOUDER PLEASE. Like I have a vivid memory of kindergarten on fathers Day crying because I was the only one in the classroom sitting alone waiting for the day to be over
LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BAACK
@@lillisrealm6110 I don't understand your situation obviously because I have a dad, but he doesn't celebrate holidays or anything like that. I can not TELL you how many times I had to stay quiet while everyone else in school made father's day cards or prepared for the daddy-daughter dance. Not to mention all the missed concerts that he went to like, maybe 1/3 of the time? Like dude, those are awful comparisons. I can WANT a valentine and know that it's possible for me to have one. Like please
if even Margot Robbie, harley quinn herself, doesn't like the harley-joker romanticism then you def wrong
Christine Gee Harley Quinn/Poison Ivy is where it’s at
Celeste Allen-Davenport Oh yeah,definitely. Much less toxic.
joker has eyes for batman in his own ways, id prefer it if they brought poison ivy in for harley like in the comics
I mean Birds of Prey is literally about Harley seperating herself from the Joker and becoming her own antihero (no spoilers)
skipsbruh yessss I loved the movie
Respect peoples decision not to date you, they don’t hate you or want to make you feel bad but they will leave if you can’t respect they don’t return your feelings.
You’re the one making it awkward. Accept their feelings and treat them like you did before and they will probably do the same, if the reason they can’t like you that they aren’t over their ex? Ask again when a pretty fair amount of time has passed. Some people will just never love you and if you want to keep them as a friend you have to show them platonic love instead of romantic even if you love them.
and if you can't be around them if it's not in the context of a romantic relationship... leave them the fuck alone. I honestly don't know why you couldn't keep a connection with someone over something like that UNLESS your "feelings" were actually just falling in love with the *idea* of a romance, and now that the person isn't reciprocative of that fantasy, they serve no use to you. Which is shallow and you should go.
@@hayleyblanch5895 Agreed
imagine actually thinking d'angelo is real-
2k likes? i guess y'all agree
BluBrry absolute clownery
well the universe is a hologram and all of us are in it...
_are we even real?_
I could never
Teasila Nagaram I know I’m not a hologram because thinking in depth for a full minute about your comment made my brain hurt lol
@@audreyii8845 I'll raise you one:
"Can holograms feel pain?"
so he IS admitting the he’s in a relationship? i’m just curious at this point
Yeah I’m wondering the same THING!!!
@@madelynsargent4620 Definitely got that vibe
If he is I hope he’s really happy
@@allisonovo me too
@@allisonovo it seems he is, since he says he’d have to fake being unhappy to not pay taxes
Platonic love has to be the best kind of love
I mean i feel like there is more flexibility
I really feel like friendship is stronger than romance
Some people don’t see that unfortunately
idk if it's necessarily stronger, like someone who's married or in a serious relationship should probably value their spouse above or equal to most people since they're sharing their lives, but that being said friendship is not as shallow as some people seem to think it is! platonic love is so important and I feel incredibly comfortable with my close friends but imo your romantic partner should also be a friend :)
Sammi J. Yes I agree
It’s just from personal experience where I found that even when relationships go wrong you still have friends there with you
Not to say that things can go wrong with friends and you can go to your spouse
But yes I totally agree
I agree with you so so so much
I totally agree! While i think all types of love is acceptable, except the toxic ones, i would say that friendship is my first choice!
Octavia SW don’t forget pedophilia and beastiality mate
(I had to look up the spelling 😰 don’t look up that word please)
Dangelo: "valentine's day is the height of consumerism" Christmas: "do I mean nothing to you?"
I do agree, but many Christians really do believe in christmas, so i guess thats why they spend so much money. idk tho🤷♀️
@Tommy The Turtle Artis Still, in that time a lot of people spend money on a lot of unnecessary things.
@@laurynr4143 I am a Christian and do believe in Christmas, from my experience most people who spend a ton of money on it are the more privileged ones who can afford to, not always people who believe in it more. The buying-presents aspect is disconnected from the religion aspect as far as I have been raised. This comment is more directed towards that consumerist side of it than the religion side of it. :) edit- accidentally posted before I was finished
@@karisap yea, my family, even though we aren't really Christian still celebrate it and spend money. no hate to Christians by the way :)
The whole normalizing fights thing is right, I was in a TON of toxic relationships that made me think that arguing was healthy (yes I mean screaming and yelling, going to bed angry, FIGHTS) then I met my husband, we have 'fights' but our fights are conversations, expressing each other's viewpoints and whether we agree or not we talk about ways we can meet in the middle...no one is 'right' 80 percent of the time. It's all about conversing and seeing their point of view, that's the key...BOTH of you work it out together, it's not a competition, it's a negotiation, then follow through with your end...
You might still have problems arise but yelling and shutting each other out gets you NOW WHERE
That’s not fighting. That’s having a conversation with someone with a different perspective. Which is what we should all be striving for.
@@Blah948 Yeah, it’s not fighting it’s arguing
Beautiful
I've been with my husband for almost 3 years. And we haven't had a single actual fight. We've had disagreements, but not a single fight. Whereas in previous relationships, fights were just a normal part of the relationship. And I was naive enough to accept that as normal instead of recognizing it for the toxic bullshit it was.
YES YES! Disagreements and arguments are normal. Fighting and not communicating and acting like you want to kill your partner is not! I hate seeing content on the internet with people (I won't lie, it's typically straight people) acting like they don't want to be with their partner. It's like, if you don't want to be with them, leave (I know that's not possible in some situations but I don't think the people who make these "jokes" are in those situations)!
I don't understand why people like these types of relationships. I literally almost cried when JD put out his cigarette on Veronica's hand in Heathers because I couldn't imagine the emotional and physical pain
Right??? Exactly
I didn’t commit suicide the day before Valentine’s Day. So honestly this Valentine’s Day was the best be I’ve had yet 😃
:)
I’m glad you are still here!! 😁
Sorry if this late but please tell me your doing okay now,
Clown H0urz Yes I’m doing much better now :)
@@kathrynvincent1563 progress :) I hope you only ever have more of that
5:55 This is what japanese valentine’s day is like, they don’t only give out chocolates to their “special someone” they also would give “obligatory chocolates” to their friends or coworkers as a gift.
Even though it's tradition to give gifts to your special someone, Americans have adopted the habit of giving gifts to everyone they love
@@lc-do5eo yesss. I'm not American but I intend to do this with my family and stuff.
In response to the arguments in relationships, I had a friend back in high school who thought that if you didn't have arguments and fights in a relationship then everything was going to blow up in your face. she took this as far as to try to instigate fights between myself and the guy I had been dating for about 2 years at the time because we had never had a fight once in our relationship. If we ever disagreed on something or didn't see eye to eye we would talk it out we wouldn't scream or yell or say hurtful things. She thought that was incredibly unhealthy and that our relationship was unstable and would never last. while, yes, it didn't last as after 5 years we broke up, the fact that we did not argue or fight had absolutely nothing to do with it. I've actually never had a relationship where we would start fighting and yelling at each other, I don't see a point in that and I don't understand why people think it's normal and why they think it should happen.
do you still talk to that person
@@moneybxndz161 Hell no, she's continued to be garbage to people we were mutual friends with and never bothered to try to make amends for any of the shitty things she did.
Yeah, no. I've had that experience but with friends. A girl told me if I had more than one best friend (I had three-five at this time during middle school) and since we didn't get into fights we aren't "real friends." All the friends I got into fights with were toxic and when I found friends I didn't argue with on a daily basis it was a healthier relationship.
Wow that sucks but that philosophy may stem from the whole "I fight with you because I love/care for you" which is right up there with "if they bully or are mean to you then they like you". It's a huge problem
@@auraw2262 Most likely tbh, and yeah it's an incredibly toxic mindset.
I just realized this dude would be amazing in arguments.
if hes on the right he already wins
Kinda random but... Name twins?!
@@leilahwilcox802 ayyy!! madd
When he says “Here’s why you’re right/wrong” and pauses right after “you’re” it gives me lowkey anxiety XD
I like to guess what he’s gonna say.
I'm ace and i love valentine's day. Giving gifts to my friends, making cards, eating candy, cute hearts everywhere. I love it.
I specially use the day as an excuse to treat myself, i spent the day watching cheesy kdramas and eating chocolate.
For the opinion of people who tell others to “love themselves more” to those who are single I feel that’s more directed towards people who want to be in a relationship solely for the validation of love and self esteem. Which I feel is becoming more common nowadays.
I agree, also I think that relationships can be messy and very complicated if you're not mature enough. I believe it's better to work on yourself before jumping to a situation that needs you to have some social and emotional abilities to work out
@@fraumd holy hell yes. People really do not understand how much it takes to actually make a relationship healthy and last. It takes a lot more sacrifice and hard work than media and society leads you to believe. You have to be willing to recognize your toxic traits and work on yourself. You also have to really practice patience and communication. It's really best to get into a relationship when you're well mentally because if things get serious you're now not just taking care of yourself.
@@gxthgremlin preach!
Side note, making valentines crafts as a kid at school was really fun. The teachers made us give one to everyone to prevent someone from feeling left out. Which was great because I was treated like subhuman at school :)
Valentines day is literally called friend's day in finland so it's perfectly normal to buy your friends chocolate but that doesn't make it any better for me cuz i don't have any friends :D
Hey wanna be TH-cam friends then? 👉🏻👈🏻
@@asylnn how does that work? 👉👈
@ya boi I have no idea :(
man, Finland is just awesome
ya boi uijjuma suomalaine :D
"because heart-shaped glasses are where it's at. look at this cat!" hi yes how am I supposed to live after hearing this top commentary thnx
Hot take on "if they cheated with you, they'll cheat on you."
Cheating to be with the right person still is messy and it hurts. It's the worst route to take. Its more acceptable if the person they're cheating on is abusive or controlling or manipulative, but it still leaves a tinge of guilt.
I say this from experience. My bf's ex was extremely manipulative. When he tried to break up with her in the first year of their relationship, she threatened suicide. My bf has a "bleeding heart" and his naivety is easy to take advantage of. He had been so sheltered before her and it was his very first relationship albeit very sexual in nature and devoid of human connection. She cheated on him and would cry about it and then suck him back in. It continued in vicious cycles until another year later, where he was done with her emotionally and he had met me.
We were friends and I was fully aware of the relationship. Against my better judgement I let his crush on me flourish and had developed my own feelings. He broke it off with her within 3 months of him confessing his feelings.
We never physically cheated, but was 100% emotional cheating. He stayed with me for a week on my birthday and she called him crying and saying that she hopes that he wasnt with me, or she'd kill herself. It was heartbreaking to here (she was on speaker. He told her that they're done, they've been done, and blocked her on everything. Their breakup was messy and I feel guilty a lot, knowing the emotional damage inflicted on both of them, and me (because 2 months before my bday, he asked me to be his gf then recanted 2 days later because his ex threatened self harm/suicide again).
Now that she's gone from his life (it's been a year since they split and him and I started dating). Shes now going to marry my bf's best friend out of spite (she still tries to gain his attention, for the first 3 months she posted selfies of herself crying). My bf and I are happy and strong, and there has been no sign that he has or will cheat. He's emotionally stronger than the guy I first met.
Seeing his mental health improve gives me happiness, and we've both become better at communicating, and arguments rarely happen, and when they do, there is never insults thrown or harsh words fueled by anger.
However, it took 4 months for both of us to heal from the messy drama of emotionally cheating, especially for me. I felt guilt. I felt like it was my fault. So, overall cheating in some situations is more socially acceptable, but it still leaves damage, and the new relationship will have a rocky start.
I feel like if he didn’t cheat, he wouldn’t have been able to get out of that toxic relationship
Cheating will always be wrong. But in certain situations, understandable. That’s my take on it. I also feel like in the end you still felt a little guilty. Glad your boyfriend got out that horrible relationship. That’s awful!
What the other girl was doing to him was emotional blackmail, abusive, manipulative, abusive of power, etc. Nothing healthy about that. Sometimes you have to meet the right person to realize how wrong your current relationship is, especially if they are that manipulative. Cheating isn't ok (unless discussed before & agreed with by both partners) but that behaviour is far from ok from my POV. If you have to threaten self harm to stay in the relationship, there is something very wrong & unhealthy. Why would anyone want to stay in a relationship when the other person doesn't want you? Seems like commonsense? Sounds like you are both doing better. I would stay away from the ex, not healthy behavior.
Hope his best friend know he's a rebound and he's signing up for a life of abuse and possibly infidelity
I feel that the once a cheater always a cheater is only ever always true when it's physical cheating. Like a partner hooking up with someone other than their own partner because obviously you have a say when it comes to actions and you consciously choose to do something whereas you can't help falling for someone else. That would be different, which is your case
"Dangelo Wallace hinting that he is in a relationship for 21 minutes"
heres why you’re.........*long ass pause to make us wait in suspense for his opinion*
Lmao underrated comment
"baking superiority"
I have never felt so seen. I always bake gluten-free desserts & pastries for my step-mom when I visit (I live on the other side of the country from my family) & nothing comes close to that feeling of spending 6 hours working on a beautiful opera hazelnut coffee cake for that one moment of sheer delight in everyones faces. Especially my step-mom since she misses out on so many delicious foods & desserts just because of her celiac.
Also, I dont have a problem with lovey dovey couples on Valentine's day, but I do get very uncomfortable when couples post about their relationship CONSTANTLY. Like I'm glad y'all are happy but do you need to be shoving that in peoples throats all the time? My bf & I have been together for almost 3 years, we're very happy & I have been told we are "relationship goals" from multiple people. But we dont go flaunting it everywhere for people to see. I feel like the more you try to show people how happy you are in a relationship, the less happy you ACTUALLY are. (I mean, not always. Some people love to share but a lot of the time, I feel like it's a show)
I agree. My husband and I have been together for ten years, married three in two days (woo🥳) and we’ve not even posted a pictured together for at least two years lol it’s just not necessary. And I can honestly tell you, we’ve never been happier than when we realized we didn’t have to “prove” our relationship to anyone. Now when we go do fun things, taking our phones out to get a picture isn’t even a thought that crosses our minds. We’re able to just be present in the moment, rather than flexing how in love we are. And it’s not like we’re “old” or anything. We’re 24 and 25, respectively. We just stopped caring about the social media nonsense and let me tell you, it’s been a relief.
Ever considered carnivore diet? Celiak is just a natural reaction of human body to shit food.
Yeah it’s the same with insecurities too. If you’re really confident you show it through your actions by wearing what you want and looking how you want and doing what you want on a daily basis despite criticism from your peers. But if you’re constantly shoving it in peoples faces saying “I don’t care what you think” to almost anything people say or just generally shoving your “confidence” in peoples faces, that’s just showing that you lack confidence but what to seem like you don’t care what others think because it makes you admirable.
@@CyanideOwl celiac* & again, my stepmom has it, not me
“What kind of school is that?”
**shows Promised Neverland in the background**
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in finland, valentine's day is literally called friend's day and it's totally ok to appreciate your friendships as well as romantic relationships on that day :)
that's pretty wholesome (:
Omg literally me and my boyfriend moved in together and it wasn't "oh congrats" it was "you're going to argue. Just wait. Idk how you haven't argued yet? You guys are going to hate eachother" but the thing is, if we have a problem we legit just say so and that's that. It's just a normal conversation
THANK YOU. when suicide squad came out everyone was like “HARLEY AND JOKER ARE GOALS 😍😍😍” and i was like NoOoO girl abusive relationships are not goals 😭😭
Valentine’s Day aesthetic is adorable you guys just aren’t ready for that conversation
Red and pink are like my two least favorite colors :/
It:s only ruined with the ghastly mixture of red and pink ew
@@ocelotlesbian yes! Its like either choose one or get out of my face
guys they’re just colors :(
@@mayalambert1678 but they don't mix well :(
"At this point, just kidnap someone"
What is this, an Ancient Greek myth?
Ideally?
*yes*
You shouldn't have to wait until valentines day to confess your love to me, if you truly love me you would confess when your ready and not just on a holiday because you were pressured by your friends, family, society or social media. Also you shouldn't be pressured by social media to post pictures of you and your significant other, unless they know you personally they don't have a right to judge you
I love you, bro.. but.. I love you more than a bro..
I feel like you’re the type of person who either falls too quickly or expects a lot from the get go just an observation cause you kept saying love
Well I feel the point is that they love you and valentines is almost like an excuse, like a way to make it easier to confess
I think that most people think of arguments as screaming matches when they’re really just disagreements. There is a way to have disagreements without screaming about them. Couples should disagree on things because they are different people with different opinions on things. The way that each person in a relationship will respond to things is different because they are different. If people are in relationships and never have disagreements, their relationship is probably unhealthy. I’ve been there and trust me, pushing down my thoughts and opinions for the sake of not having disagreements is not healthy.
but then again, some people just don't argue with others. my bestfriend and i never had any arguments even though we're very different people. it's just that we have respect, compassion and understanding between us, so we always think of another persons point of view in the matter. some people just click better together
my friend and i went to the store on valentine’s day and i got starbucks and chocolates and he was like “ooo who’s that for” i said: “pfft me.”
Same.
Mood
Self love: 100
As you should
You is all you need...
"Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean your significant other has to get you something for Valentine's Day" 👏 Thank goodness we ain't the only ones, my boi and I don't bother, we just drop gifts on each other whenever we see something the other one would like. And we get chocolate every time we go to the store anyways soooo ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Nah fam just get extra chocolate on valentines day. Take advantage of them valentines day discounts.
yeah, mine and I don't bother either. since we're doing ldr, there's nothing much we can do about anniversaries either, and everyday feels like an anniversary anyway (there are a few exceptions, ofc, it's real life after all and not a fairy tale) after an argument, we just make up almost immediately and we both apologize. there are no grudges or anything and he's really the only person whom I've ever done the "forgive and forget" with, because he almost never repeats mistakes. we've never had vicious fights bc cOmMuNiCaTiOn lol.)
however we celebrate birthdays and he insists on buying stuff for me on my birthday. he's really sweet :))
THE FACT THAT YOU REFER TO YOU S/O BY YOUR BOY IS SO GREAT
@@im_waffles2920 big brain energy lol
@@im_waffles2920
Yes and don’t buy roses on near Valentine’s Day. They are so expensive during this time. I bought five small ones for my classmates two years ago and it cost me like 20€/$24 in total. The bigger roses were about double the price.
I really dislike how romantic relationships are treated as the goal in life because people get so scared they'll end up alone they're willing to stay in toxic relationships and put up with things like constant arguments and shouting matches. And it's all weirdly isolating - you're expected to have one deep, meaningful, romantic relationship with someone and live with and spend all your time with them, and all other relationships are shallow and aren't allowed to truly blossom. That might work for some people - certainly not me, I'm aromantic - but it shouldn't be the expectation.
rant over lmao. also, this set of expectations is referred to as amatonormativity I think and it's pretty interesting to read about!
Thanks, I have a reason to keep repeating to myself I’m perfectly fine being single. My opinion, it makes people go crazy for it sometimes.
Can we be friends? Every time I try to say this my friends or family look at me like I’m crazy... I don’t think there is a manual that says to be satisfied in life I need to be in a relationship, and I really, genuinely enjoy being alone (btw sorry for you English)
its a story bruh. dont take it seriously jeez
As an aromantic i agree
I'm not aromantic but I don't like the idea that a person absolutely has to have a significant other, especially where I am in life right now. I'm a 19 year old in college, and people really ask me about me getting a boyfriend, getting shocked when I don't want one.
D’Angelo Wallace: no one goes out to dinner the day after
Me: sick & going out to dinner tomorrow instead
Yes, nobody goes out to dinner the day after.
I'm going out to lunch haha
*Creators of Joker and Harley: let's create an extremely abusive couple to make people uncomfortable and realize that toxic relationships are bad
*21st century people: They are goals, I want a relationship like this
*Creators: listen here you little
"At this point, just kidnap somebody." -D'Angelo Wallace on the topic of relationships, 2020.
So we’re just gonna ignore the fact that D’Angelo basically confirmed that he is in a relationship? And as someone pointed out, might be engaged (ring at 15:50)?
Also, if you are engaged...congrats man!!!
i think no one is commenting on it because it's a private thing and not the point of the video :)
@Thea Audine well I didn’t because I did not noticed he did that 👀
@@asylnn tbh me neither hahah
I mean, he kinda hinted at it during the whole video
oof I didn’t notice but that’s so sweet
"even if you love someone with your whole heart, there's going to be times where you don't like them with your whole heart." I felt that, that's the perfect way to explain it
the way dangelo is not romantic at all but he’s in a relationship lmfao
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You were talking about how gross the heart candies are.. while I’m eating them. Bro leave me alone.
At first I thought this said candles and I was concerned that you were eating candles lmao
conspiracy theory Do you think different scented candles have different flavors?
@@metallicmikus
Maybe, I will test it...
That pfp is FANTASTIC
HylianExpected I’m assuming ur talking about me and my zuko pride pfp. Thank you 😌😌😌 made it myself.
I actually shrilled out a 1 sec laugh at "i'm so sorry you haven't been with anybody in 16 years that's-that's rough"
I think valentines in school is needed. Teaches them to appreciate the people they love the and vice versa. Teaches gift giving. Teaches them to express love.
You can do that anytime you want you know lol doesn’t have to be in Valentines Day.
Yes I'm aware. Thank you very much.
Honestly I have a good relationship with my boyfriend. He’s my best friend and even though we have been through just terrible stuff we still love each other and are good. What I think I was not prepared for was my friendships being difficult. I feel like so many people talk about romantic relationships like it’s harder to deal with. I personally have it harder with my friends. They are the hardest to maintain and I keep picking jerks or it’s just really hard to keep up with. I don’t know why society as a whole puts SO much emphasis on romantic relationships that I literally can never find friendship advice. Literally have been completely heartbroken by my friends and I’m still going through a “breakup” and it just feels like the world doesn’t think they are important or difficult. Friendships can be just as difficult and heartbreaking as romantic relationships.
Precisely. Plus, I feel like learning how to be a good friend is essential to learning how to maintain a romantic relationship. They both rely on trust, communication, and understanding, after all.
I don't know why we make such a big deal out of aiming for romance as a Pillar of Life, when friendships have every right to have that much effort put in.
I once stopped talking to a girl back in highschool because of how obsessed she was with her boyfriend. I hadn't seen her in a few weeks and she came over to see if I wanted to hang out. I told her I had to finish some chores but could hang in an hour. She deadass said that this was the only time she could hang since she was gonna be hanging out with her boyfriend all week and she only came over to kill time before her bf came back from doing something. I told her we're not friends after that.
T1DOtaku yikes 😬
Just my two cents about the cheating thing:
Most of the time I would agree with "They cheated to be with you, they can cheat on you to be with someone else," but my dad had an affair, divorced my mom, married the other woman, and they've been happily married for nearly 16 years.
And while that whole situation makes me feel uncomfortable, I'm really glad they separated because their relationship was toxic and they're both so much better in their new marriages.
Edit: Just to clarify, my step mom was also married during the affair to an abusive man, and my mom at the time was more mentally unstable (she's fine now). So while they should have gotten divorced before getting together, they both found "an escape" in each other, which led to the affair.
Anja Smith it honestly depends on the circumstances.
@@imretrodd7120 Exactly. I only have personal experience with my situation so I can't really judge other situations the same. I'm also somewhat biased since I'm really close to my dad.
Cheating is wrong. Nuff said
D’angelo really got us all on the edge of our seats every time he says “here’s why you’re...”
Person: "will you be my valentine?"
Dangelo: "Aww! No."
He makes me proud to be a gen z
zame ;;
How? He's a millennial bro.
@@pyromaniacalmagpie3198 how old is he?
I think he’s 21, so he is gen z
@@natalie589 then he is gen z
Crazy couples only work in anime, not in real life.
Grow up and get a mustache you nerd lol
hayZmation idk man seems kind of nerdy to saaaayyy
Don't insult anime, insult yandere simulator. It's the thing that _started_ the whole thing.
ghoulmaster 866 true bro true
ghoulmaster 866 yandere simulator is my sleep paralysis demon
it never gets out of my damn recommendations
My theory: I think this is DeAngelo’s main channel and his other one just grew faster.
That’s not a theory it’s truth it’s fact
My ex half way through the relationship was like “I wanna psycho girl, one who’s clingy jealous and will go off on me” I just looked at him and was like “...well that ain’t me” ...then he cheated on me with a psycho chick who knew he was cheating.
wtf
wtf
here to tell you that you dodged a bullet
bruh
At 4:00 thank you! As someone currently in a relationship for 8+ years “everyday should be valentines day” isn’t sustainable or realistic, healthy and equal all the time yes, overly romantic, nope!
D'angelo flexing having a significant other and baking skills
In that order
my parents are still really lovey dovey...and theyve been married 27 years! so it just depends on the couple. some people in a relationship are less obvious with their love for their SO but that doesnt mean it isnt there
My parents divorced after five years when I was 4
Either way, hope y'all are doing okay hehe
I feel like it’s weird and kinda funny to think about D’angelo having a partner
D’Angelo, here’s why *you’re* wrong about having the whole restaurant to yourself day after valentines. As someone who works in the service industry, tomorrow is going to be very busy. Not as busy as Valentine’s Day, you’ve got that right, but the day after is still hectic and crazy. At least in my case.
The fact that we celebrate a dead guy by loving each other is pretty cool.
yh p scute might i say
“Valentine’s day colours should be grey and green” ironic because that is LITERALLY the aromantic flag colours....
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How to be emotionally mature: Just be in middle school - high school . You think I have time to be jealous of couples when I’m procrastinating on a school project while crying in my bed at 3 in the morning because I lost a match of Tetris? Then I get spammed by my friend telling me what a dumb bitch I am as I am writing an argument to someone on the internet that I already know I will lose? No.
Damn thats facts and I relate to this so much
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I've been single for almost a year now, and I'm really happy being single. I have freedom, and can go where I want, and not worry about someone else wondering what I'm doing all the time. All my friends are in relationships, and I'm always "the single friend'. But I'm always happy for my friends while they're in relationships because I know that I chose to be on my own to focus on my career, and passion for art and travel.
I love my girlfriend, been together for five years, but both of us have to navigate if we want to move for our careers, when we want a house, marriage etc. The topics are nice, but also a financial stress point. So I'm rooting for you to have that independence in figuring out your life. In fact, I highly recommend it. I'd also travel as much as you can - you know, whenever 2020 stops being terrible - because you won't feel guilty if you want to travel somewhere alone to just /experience/ it. Good luck!
You also don’t have to share everything or have to compromise and get permission from them for everything
Dangelo: The hEiGhT of consumerism!
Christmas: Am I a Joke to you?
Don't you mean every single holiday?
I mean, on Christmas you're at least supposed to be thinking of others and trying to give them stuff that suits them. Like yeah, it's a holiday with gifts, but they're intended to be personal. Valentine's day is way worse because it's just couples doing the exact same social ritual as everyone else just so they can look good to the general public. It's inherently a pretty insincere holiday, while Christmas is at least intended to be a day where people actually try to make each other happy.
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I guess that would depend on where you live. In my home country Valentine’s Day is called ”friend’s day”. It’s not a big deal here and while couples do celebrate it, it’s more about appreaciating your friends as the name suggests.
When he pulled up Shane with his dog 💀💀
About the arguments stuff, when I was with my ex, we never had serious arguments ever, it was usually minor, normal squabbles like where to eat or who changed my laptop background and such. Literally our first fight was after we broke up. So I say the arguments in relationships really depend on communication with each other and how you and your partner treat each other.
10:05
this is so true
relationships are built on TRUST, not suspicion and or worry.
someone I was with did this twice and it pissed me off so much. It's my phone and it's my life.
this person would also say stuff along the lines of "I wouldn't be mad if you cheated" and "I'm not good enough you should just leave me" LIKE NO THATS NOT OK who told you it was??
that's straight up manipulation right there
I'm single now and I like it that way
People say "You should love your partner everyday not just Valentines day!" The energy on Valentines day is so high. It's good to have one day, to express as much love as possible, but if it was everyday, not only would it devalue the holiday but it would also be emotionally draining.
Totally. I don't really give a shit about it. If you're not making some kind of effort all year with your partner then why even celebrate it at all. Lack of effort all year should by be rewarded that one day of the year 🤣
This dude really just casually said that he genuinely thought he was too good for a partner, well shit
but then he said he met someone who proved him wrong and im lowkey wondering who it is
@@bulgygrey5469 I'm guessing it's some dashing young lad with enough ego of his own to contest with dlo
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He thought he was, he said that he was proved wrong. He's young and was probably a litteral child when he thought that.
@@bulgygrey5469 he has a gf who does art. on d’angelo’s 2nd account (his art account )his bio literally states “read my gf’s comic” so yeah
I have deadass kept up a long distance best friendship since I was 13 (We’re 20 now) with a girl who lives in Iowa (I live in MN). it’s one of the best relationships I have. I have not had a better relationship with anyone from school. And that is because of social media, we met at a camp and just exchanged phone numbers and I love her so much. PLATONICALLY.