Ep. 6: What Do You Do When You Can’t Save Your Loved One? | Attaching to Allah
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- It can be painful to see someone you love going down the wrong path. It can be worse to realize that all your efforts in saving them aren’t working. There are also times when you may lose yourself in that process and in the feelings of guilt that come with it. But it can be comforting to realize that this is not a new feeling: the Prophet (s) and every Companion had someone they wished they could save but were unable to. This is how they dealt with it.
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After raising a child in the most Islamic of environments in which Allah had placed us, this child turned in a way that made my husband and I feel like we were betrayed. What has gotten us through this trial was knowing that 1) Allah tests us with the "adornments" of this world and we need to have beautiful patience. 2) As parents we can only do our best and ask Allah to forgive us for our shortcomings during the parenting process and that guidance ultimately is in Allah's hands. Our duas for Allah to turn their hearts back to guidance can be powerful. 3) This life is so temporary and the relationships of duniya will be different in the aakhira so keep our trust in Allah knowing that He is capable of all things.
SubhanAllah, may Allah make it easy for you and your family. May Allah strengthen you through this.
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i used be super upset to a point that i would get sick because my father is a disbeliever he would talk bad stuff about islam and then my sister left islam to become an ahmadi .it was really hard .i felt hopeless .i can not imagine how much the prophet saw. must have felt .but now i can understand its not in my hand to guide them .i hope to gain a lots of knowledge to give them proper dawa
I wish the same thing , knowing the best way of doing dua for my late christian father , and my athiest brother and my christian sister, it is so difficult to reach them and all I say is wiped away . I geuss i have to leave ot to Allah , but one is afraid not having done enough efforts in Allahs eyes .
May Allah give us the solution and make us useful to them
Please can u give me more info on ahmadi as someone in my family is and does this mean they are no longer Muslim as they still say shahadah
@@nicenice. Ahmadiyya don’t believe in the seal of the prophethood; they believed Ghulam Ahmed, a student of law who lived during the British Raj in India, was a prophet; and they have a current day prophet living in one of African countries.
I had a close non-Muslim friend who commit suicide. He was a deeply depressed person who was going through an existential crisis. I would pray in his house and explain the prayer to him. I would always think “if only he asked me more about Islam and Allah”.
Allah is Al-Adl The Most Just. He does not do evil to someone even though from our tiny human minds it looks like evil to put someone through depression and allow them to kill themselves. You have to understand that humans don’t see the bigger picture only Allah can. We have not experienced the Unseen thus we are very limited in understanding things like this.
What comforted me was the story of Al Khidr and Musa (AS) in Surah Kahf. Al Khidr (AS) killed a boy and Musa (AS) couldn’t understand why until Khidr (AS) told him, "And as for the boy, his parents were believers, and we feared lest he should oppress them by rebellion and disbelief. So we intended that their Lord should change him for them for one better in righteousness and near to mercy.” (Surah Kahf 80-81).
Assalamu alaikum brother. My condolences for your loss.
@@deedeee6271 Jazak’Allah :)
My father was very close with me and my husband and children. He would ask us about Islam and we would tell him anything he wanted to know. Once we gave him a thobe and khufi to attend our eldest 8th grade graduation. We prayed for him to take his shahaada, but it was not decreed for him. My niece years later approached me about Islam. I asked her what moved her to take her Shahaada, and what she told me shocked me. She said she came across a photo on social media of my father in his gifted thobe and khufi. His image guided her to accept Allah, the Prophet (PBUH) and this deen. Allah is the greatest!
I do have a friend that i love dearly we've been friend for long and when i started learning more about Islam and growing closer to my Deen i realized that they might not be that good of a friend to me, they're really sweet and loving but it's just their actions aren't really aligning with Islam. So we started talking less but i still love them so much and thankfully i realized that i couldn't guide them and only Allah swt could so now I'm praying for them a lot and hopefully they'll come to Islam, i think that's the thing i wish for the most in this life.
"So remind, for you are only a reminder", Al-Ghashiyah:21
We may not have the power to guide people as only Allah can, we certainly can remind them, in fact we are obligated to do so. May Allah grant us the strength to remind our loved ones and enter Jannah together :')
May Allah guide them to the deen! JazakAllahKhair for following along!
Djazakum Allahu khayran for this powerful talk. I have long yearned for more recognition and validation of this topic. Today, 5th july 1998 my mom suddenly passed away. I would like to share with you all what helped me so much accepting that she died as a non Muslim. I had just become Muslim but hadn't told her yet. I was heartbroken at her passing away, but felt so strong, having Allah with me. In the sometimes difficult years to come I kept on repeating the words "To Allah we belong and to Him we shall return, oh Allah please compensate me in my affliction, recompense my loss and grant me something better in exchange for it". I couldn't think of anything better than my mom, but still kept repeating this dua. Through the years Allah gave me His answer: he granted me a powerful insight that helped me not to get overwhelmed with grief. I learned to understand that He is al-Hakiem, the Most Righteous. So whatever would happen to my mom would be most righteous, and this was a big relief. She will be compensated for her life long struggle with astma, she will be compensated for her kindness and loving caring for others. And now, 24 years later, I know that the real answer of my dua was probably that I received and kept receiving the Guidance of Allah, alhamduilah. May Allah make it easier to all of his servants in pain and grief, ameen.
JazakAllahKhair for following along! SubhanAllah, may Allah make it easy for you and your family. We hope you keep finding strength through Him.
I became a Muslim in 2012, my father passed away on the Friday before Eid in 2013. then I learnt that I cannot ask Allah for forgiveness on his behalf and pray for Jannah for him and safety from the fire. This broke me to the extent that I stopped myself from mourning, I was made to believe that I cannot grieve for him. a few years later, my grandfather falls ill, and then and there I had a nervous breakdown. the pain was indescribable, losing loved ones knowing that you can't guide them to the truth. but Allah made it easy for me this time because I had about 3 years to come to terms with taqdeer while my father was on his sick bed. it's very difficult to loose loved ones that you love with all your heart
What led you into Hell Fire?
They will say: 'We were not of those who prayed.'” (Qur'an 74:42-43)
🌹Don't forget your five daily prayers 🌹
Salam.
As much as I loved my father, I constantly the ways in which he directed his faith. I was very young when all this happened and I was doing hifz at that time, and I didn’t know how severe his actions could be. My father used to believe in peers alot. Some false peers and healers that exists in islam in Pakistan. After recently when I truly studied islam, and specifically when I read the hadith of Abdullah ibn Abbas of the prophet pbuh telling him to only always ask from allah, I realize how big of a sin it could’ve been. Now I didn’t know my father’s heart only Allah knew, but I still pray for him in every prayer. I pray for him and remind Allah that I have witnessed my father crying and weeping infront of Allah in his Isha prayer followed by the nawafil he would pray. And I ask for his mercy for my father.
May Allah forgive his sins, and reward him for his taqwa and tawakkul. May Allah bless him with jannah.
Amin may Allah guide him and guide my father too
May Allah grant him forgiveness for his mistakes and the highest level of Jannah!
Allahumma ameen
Masha allah the sister at the end is very well spoken like she speaks to our heart like she knows how to express our feelings without us even knowing how to express them. She express's them for us in a beautiful way that puts us at ease, subhanu allah. May allah bless her and and Dr Omar and his team and all us muslims, in this world and the next, ameen!
I have a cousin who I am eight years older. He was in trouble from the age of seven with the police. I’m no angel and I was far from the deen at the time. He was sent by his mother across the country to live with his aunt(my mother) and our family. The first time enough was enough and he was sent home. We were both in out twenties then. After being home for a year or so my mother let him come back. Tried as might we couldn’t keep him away from the criminal element. We were all put in dangerous situations trying to rescue someone that didn’t want to be saved. We sent him home and got into trouble. He’s done 13 of 30 years now in prison. I feel like my lack of deen and consequential lack of example is partly to blame. Your talk reminded me that not even a prophet(a.s) can save everyone.
Do you keep making duaa for that person or do you stop and say, "Allah, I leave this to you.?" I have heard many lectures that say keep making duaa no matter how repetitive you are. How do you break away from the person when you are attached to them? And how do you stay there for them without letting anger or any other emotion get in the way. Are there any special duaas? Tasbih to read? Anything? I like that Sr. Sarah said, "its a heavy experience." I feel that in my heart. I feel heaviness in my heart and sorrow, where tears flood outwardly uncontrollably.
It's a familiar feeling for me
..wanting those I love to follow Allah's guidance...we had arguments and struggles about it .but in the end it's only Allah who guides and I've come to these same realizations... May our loved ones be guided Ameen
I tell them I'm afraid for them they say don't be afraid
Beautiful advise. Yes, there are loved ones I was grieving and killing myself over for, over 5 years now. It was when I was forced to detach mentally and emotionally for health reasons that I truely realized how much damage I was doing to myself when I should have left it in Allah's hands whole heartedly from the start and stopped grieving for so long.
I make constant duas still but do not feel the intense "grief" anymore, just hopefulness.
Things changed this year. Intuitively I did do what was adviced regarding keeping good relationships, patience, overlooking and being available etc. Alhamdulillah. It is very hard to bear when you see wrong and cannot stop it but Allah Knows Whats Best so I seek His Guidance at every such junction.
My dua is for Allah NOT to allow me to do anything that displeases Him due to my love for them, to die in the state of Emaan and for them to return to Islam (before I die hopefully). InshaAllah.
Placing your trust in Allah even when things are not going how you "expect or want", and still being thankful, grateful and happy with His Decree is crucial.
Alhamdulilah. May Allah strengthen you and increase you in your attachment to Him. JazakAllahKhair for following along! We hope you benefit from the rest of the episodes inshaAllah.
@@yaqeeninstituteofficial Ameen. Jazak Allah Khairan. May Allah Give you limitless rewards. Ameen.
I've been trying to save my in-laws and still I'm trying. May Allah swt guide them to the straight path.
I am a single mother of 6 kids, two are autistic and one is struggling with depression and refuses to get help and one does not want to study and smokes, vapes. I tries so hard to save them and I got autoimmune dideases,
I am in a point where I don't know what to do please brothers and siaters make dua for my kids and I😇
May Allah swt bring u comfort and joy through ur kids, may they be the coolness of ur eyes. May Allah swt ease ur difficulties. Ameen
Al Salamu 'alaykom wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatuh, May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala help you go thru every single trial of this dunya and envelop you with His mercy in this dunya and akhira , Ameen ya rabb al 'alamin ya Rahman ya Rahim
May Allah be sufficient for u and dem and may he guide dem and make dem d coolness of ur eyez Amin
@@NumMyr Ameen JazaakAllah
@@Youbettersaysubhanallah Ameen jazaakAllah
O Allah help us to become a good muslim and a good person towards our parents and people that we love. Ameen
As-Salaam-Alaikum
I have 5 daughters and 1 of them as a teen has turned away from Allah.
I pray Allah to help us all to continue to believe. The pain of this is more than I could have Imagined.
May Allah bless you ten thousand fold for the good messages to the people and for knowing the truth. May you never lose ways of the right path of Divine and May Jannah come to you and your people.
I have someone very dear to my heart that I pray for them to come back to true Islam. It is physically painful for me when I think about this person's detachment from Islam. I feel physical pain and difficulty breathing. It's been many years and now I still ache but I just make duaa and put the whole thing in God's hand. Please make duaa to this person.
Jazakallah for this. This series means a lot ❤
If my words are of any comfort to someone... I guess one can gather all the love and care for that person and put it on one side and imagine AR Rahman who loves us more than 70 mothers love and care for this person ...n assure ourselves that His love for them is faaaar bigger than ours can ever be ...n He will open their heart and forgive them and enter them to His mercy... as He says 'my mercy is bigger than my wrath'. So we continue making dua for them and being kind so they may be saved. Bi iznillah
Ameen and Insha Allah
Lost my mom to cancer just last week. Her last few days were extremely painful. My uncle, her brother, was going above and beyond to make things easy for her. He started helping my siblings and I in any way possibly. It felt like he was losing himself in the process, but his firmness with his faith in Allah prevented him from falling apart. I wish everyone has an uncle like mine, and a brother like him.
May Allah grant her the highest level of Jannah! We have another series by Dr. Omar Suleiman called ‘For Those Left Behind’ which you might benefit from at this emotional time. May Allah make it easy on your and your family.
Daily Dhikr Reminder for all ,
•SUBHAN ALLAH سبحان الله
•ALHUMDULLILAH ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰهِ
•LA ILAHA ILLALLAH لا اله الا الله
•ALLAHU AKBAR الله أكبر
•ASTAGHFIRULLAH أَسْتَغْفِرُ اللّٰهَ
•LA HAWLA WALA QUWATTA ILLA BILLAH
لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِٱللَّٰهِ
•SUBHAN ALLAHI WA BI HAMDIHI
سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَبِحَمْدِهِ
•SUBHAN ALLAHIL AZEEM
سُبْحَانَ اللّهِ الْعَظِيمِ.
Jazakallah and Jazakillah!
I tried to save my husband from Shaitan but he stopped making Salat. He blamed me for him not praying. He was angry during Ramadan which was the second Ramadan I had to deal with his anger. I felt beat down. I started making sure my Salats were on time and not miss any no matter where I was, in the car, the store etc. I’m still praying that Shaitan will let him go but he has to want better for himself. I have to let him go because he’s done so much harm but I will forgive him because he’s ill.
oh ALLAH lead us to you, and our to love you more than anything.
Ameen. A beautiful and very simple dua. Jazak Allahu Khayran for the reminder.
Ameen! JazakAllahu khairan
Assalamu walaikum..... I lost my most dearest and most loving brother due to corona he was younger than us just 23 years I still feels badly like he want us back can't control that emotion if I talk about him anywhere I can't control my tears 😞😭..... But a lots thanx to yaqeen Institute wich really helps to feel better through this beautiful videos which calms me that i vil meet my brother afterlife for sure ameen sumameen it's a hope of light which I gained it through ur videos yaqeen Institute and u all doing a very good job loved it.... And iam a big fan of dr omar Suleiman.... Please all d team remember my brother danish pasha in ur prayers.
May Allah grant him the highest level of Jannah!
Ameen sumameen
Shukriya for the reply
Turning hearts towards the path of Allah SWT, is only done by the will of Allah SWT. He the almighty SWT own the control of our hearts. So I guess the possible thing we can do for our disbeliever family members, relatives and friends is constantly making Du'a to Allah SWT by seeking Hidayaah for them....
So so many people. A lot of Muslims in Germany inherited their deen. They dont practice. I have/had several people in my life who i begged so they pray at least fajr or at least the fardh of Maghrib..
My entire family, even the bigger family...i just dont know anymore. At one point i stopped caring and said to myself ,,If Allah wills it, they shall be guided. If not, then so be it"
I lost people in my life due to their lack of faith and many beloved ones at that
Same problem in my country, Muslim majority but have no connection with Islam.
Al Salamu 'alaykom wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatuh
Still hoping that they'll open their hearts to guidance
Subhan Allah wa bihamdihi , Subhan Allah Al 'Adim
Astaghfiru-الله
Alhamduliالله
Allah-u Akbar
اللهم صل وسلم على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين وسلم تسليما كثيرا إلى يوم الدين
Walakum salaam wa rahmatuallah hira barakatuhu. My parents
Ameen 🤲🏾
Salam,
I would like to know how do you save someone who believes in Allah swt, his prophet (pbuh) as the last prophet, hell & heaven, the angels and everything but chooses to follow a darbaar. The person buried at this darbaar is a family relative. I am genuinely seeking help so I can help this person in my life. I would really appreciate a response. I can provide more details in a private message if you'd like.
Thank you brother.
Assalamualaikum
Where can I find the dua that was recited in the beginning of video ?
Search Allahumma rabba jibraeela wa meekaeela wa isrofeela dua..
you will find it in sha allah
السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالأَرْضِ. عَالِمَ الْغَيْبِ وَالشَّهَادَةِ. أَنْتَ تَحْكُمُ بَيْنَ عِبَادِكَ فِيمَا كَانُوا فِيهِ يَخْتَلِفُونَ. اهْدِنِي لِمَا اخْتُلِفَ فِيهِ مِنَ الْحَقِّ بِإِذْنِكَ إِنَّكَ تَهْدِي مَنْ تَشَاءُ إِلَى صِرَاطٍ مُسْتَقِيمٍ
Transliteration
Allaahumma Rabba Jibreela wa Mikaa’eela wa Israafeel, faatir al-samawaati wa’l-ard, ‘aalim al-ghaybi wa’l-shahaadah, anta tahkumu bayna ‘ibaadika fima kaanu fihi yukhtalifoon, ihdini lima’khtulifa fihi min al-haqq bi idhnika, innaka tahdi man tasha’ ila siraatin mustaqeem.
Allahumma Rabba Jibril Wa Mikail Wa Israfil Meaning
Allahumma Rabba Jibril means O Allaah, Lord of Jibraeel, Mikael and Israfeel, You are the Originator of the heavens and the earth, the One who has all knowledge of the unseen and what is visible. You judge between Your worshippers in what they differ, guide me to the truth by Your permission in what they differ, indeed You are the One who guides whom You want to the straight path.
السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالأَرْضِ. عَالِمَ الْغَيْبِ وَالشَّهَادَةِ. أَنْتَ تَحْكُمُ بَيْنَ عِبَادِكَ فِيمَا كَانُوا فِيهِ يَخْتَلِفُونَ. اهْدِنِي لِمَا اخْتُلِفَ فِيهِ مِنَ الْحَقِّ بِإِذْنِكَ إِنَّكَ تَهْدِي مَنْ تَشَاءُ إِلَى صِرَاطٍ مُسْتَقِيمٍ
Transliteration
Allaahumma Rabba Jibreela wa Mikaa’eela wa Israafeel, faatir al-samawaati wa’l-ard, ‘aalim al-ghaybi wa’l-shahaadah, anta tahkumu bayna ‘ibaadika fima kaanu fihi yukhtalifoon, ihdini lima’khtulifa fihi min al-haqq bi idhnika, innaka tahdi man tasha’ ila siraatin mustaqeem.
Allahumma Rabba Jibril Wa Mikail Wa Israfil Meaning
Allahumma Rabba Jibril means O Allaah, Lord of Jibraeel, Mikael and Israfeel, You are the Originator of the heavens and the earth, the One who has all knowledge of the unseen and what is visible. You judge between Your worshippers in what they differ, guide me to the truth by Your permission in what they differ, indeed You are the One who guides whom You want to the straight path.
Abu Talib (as) raised and supported the Prophet (sawa) until his death, not to mention conducting his marriage. In need of saving?
Only belief in Allah is The saving . No matter how one is acquainted to someone even a prophet , cant b saved except for his deeds
.....فيسبق عليه الكتاب، فيعمل بعمل أهل الجنة، فيدخلها.
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Subxanallah
1 - Whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi (Glory be to Allah and Praise Him) a hundred times during the day, his sins are wiped away, even if they are like the foam of the sea [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:168, Sahih Muslim; #4:2071]
2 - whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi, Subhan-Allahi 'l-`adheem (Glory be to Allah, and Praise, Glory be to Allah, the Supreme)
Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Two words are light on the tongue, weigh heavily in the balance, they are loved by the Most Merciful One " [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:67, Sahih Muslim, #4:2071]
3. La Hawla wa la Quwatta illa Billah (There is no Might or Power except with Allah)
[the above is] a treasure from the treasures of Paradise.[Sahih al-Bukhari; al-Fath al-Bari #11:213, Sahih Muslim #4:2076]
4.SubhanAllah, walHamdulilah, wa La illaha ilAllahu, waAllahu Akbar (Glory be to Allah, All Praise is for Allah, There is No God but Allah, Allah is the Greatest)
The above are mentioned as the four most beloved words to Allah. It does not matter with which one of them is begun.[Sahih Muslim; #3:1685]
Abu Sa`id (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said, "Perform the enduring goods deeds (al-baaqiyaat al-SaliHaat) more frequently." They asked, "What are these enduring good deeds?" The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) replied: Takbir [Allahu Akbar], Tahlil [la ilaha illallah], Tasbih [Subhan'Allah], alhamdulillah, and la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah.
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