I think she might have autism (the high intelligent kind, formerly known as Aspergers). I'm an aspie myself and something echoos hard. Or it could be she's been forced to think too much about social interactions at such a young age, just like aspies do. Either way she may be helped by some of the tools and approaches that work for us aspies :)
@@7somekindofsomething Autism is very difficult to diagnose in intelligent girls. Whether social interactions come natural and are not thought-out is the determining factor. I do not know this for Ruby. Could be, could be not.
12 years old going on 25. She’s so articulate and well spoken. She has some major authenticity, beauty, depth, and compassion. Sad it’s so rare to find people with a character such as Ruby’s.
Wonderfully written. Ruby is a beautiful young lady, with an amazing personality. I know she's a pleasure to have around. She's going to find her niche and be a success in life. A well balanced young lady ❤ keep up the good work!
She's only 12?! She's SO intelligent and well spoken. Honestly, she understands the language of feelings, which is rare for a 12 yr old. Hold your head up high, Ruby, you're something special :)
Wow, this unknown syndrome certainly hadn't affected her ability to communicate her feelings or her intelligence. What a beautifully spoken young lady.
is she that mature to mention it? i see this as a normal attitude for her age. now i’m just imagining how *immature* children must be is this is “ahead of her years” 😳
I don’t remember myself being as intelligent as Ruby when I was 12. She’s obviously a very bright young girl with a great and promising future. Ruby rocks!
I was. I later found out I have autism and just had to think a lot about friendships and social interactions pre-teens, just like Ruby. It doesn't help her social including, the intelligence. With me social interaction just didn't come natural, because of the autism. With Ruby it's because of how people treat her because of how she looks and probably her diverse daily energy level. Such a pity a good heart or a good brain doesn't help with this. What does help is finding friends over a common interest and also communicating over the internet, where your brain can shine and you can take your time to reply. I find lots of humour on the internet :) I hope Ruby does too.
Honestly can’t believe she’s only twelve. She’s more articulate in expressing herself than many adults I know. And her questions. So clever. Ruby you could really go places in the world!
This has always been the way of the world, long before personal computers and social media. Social pressure to conform, and to be uplifting and pleasant is part of being human. Men especially have long been conditioned to hide their feelings and emotions.
I agree, Ruby may think that she looks different from others, but she is such a deep thinker, that is truely her differentness. She's empathetic and wise beyond her years. It will get better after middle school she is really atrong!
This kid is the type of person I love for my children to be around because her presence produces character. I wish the children around her knew what they have in their midst because this girl should be invited to everything.
Being 12 is such a tough time. Kids are really just starting to truly develop empathy and many haven’t yet. I know Ruby will find people her age that will invite her everywhere soon!
She's only 12 oh my gosh she is so smart and wise beyond her years, she has such a wonderful brain you can tell she is a deep thinker, very introspective, she is going to achieve so much in life, she has so much to offer the world. 😊
ruby is so incredibly charismatic and intelligent, i could listen to her talk for hours. the way she chooses her words so carefully give them such depth, and her ability to make you literally feel what she is feeling when she speaks is simply mesmerizing to me. what an incredible person!
Que pena que por ignorancia la gente evalúe al otro solo por su apariencia ,se pierden de tener un encuentro desde el alma con ruby que es una persona muy especial inteligente, sensible y y con sentido común alguien muy querible
Ruby, I can only imagine wanting to be seen as an “average” 12 yr old girl, as you stated. But Ruby, there is nothing average about your great intelligence (socio-emotional, verbal, etc), the deep and unconditional love your family has for you, and the special relationships you’ve built with your family members. Nothing average at all. All extraordinary.
“What a world we’ve created!” “…It’s a weird one.” 😂😂😂 What a wonderful child. I love her smile. So incredibly smart. Doesn’t speak like any 6th grader I’ve ever met!
She's the kind of child you can have an intelligent conversation with and you have to remind yourself she's just a child. Her abilities definitely overshadows her disabilities
Ruby seems like a deep thinker with a kind heart. I think she should write some of her thoughts, or maybe a book some day. If she is this bright at 12, imagine what she will be like as an adult? I'm so thankful that she is surrounded at home by people who love her.
Ruby needs to do some interviews on your channel Chris. She is so wise, such a great communicator and asks such good questions. You’re right this is a crazy world Ruby, which is why we need grounded, perceptive people like you in it.
One of the most tragic aspects of this story is that because of people's attitudes, this beautiful and intelligent young lady has no idea just how amazing and special she is. Ruby is already an incredible person, and she is going to grow up to be an exceptional adult. Even back when I was her age, I would have gladly been friends with her. And not just because she might be "special" or "different", but because she is an awesome person.
Ruby is FAR more introspective than some full blown adults I've met. That lonely place will heal in time if she continues cultivating that great head on her shoulders and doesn't let the "ideals" of others weigh her down. If those around her can't see her, there are so many other's that will! Don't compromise your roots Ruby! You have some strong roots that will get you far.
When Ruby asked what Chris would say to someone who watched this video just to make fun of her, it really hit me how brave all these interviewees are to let themselves be vulnerable to this sometimes mean world of the internet. You’re an eloquent and wise person, Ruby. I wish this world could have been kinder to you so you didn’t have to grow up so fast. I’ll work hard to try and make that world possible for you and others.
Tara, that was very kind and thoughtful of you to say. I'm right there with you to help pave the path for others like Ruby. This interview really touched me.
Yeah that really bothered me too and the whole feeling of not fitting in, yes it's normal that teenagers feel that way but this poor kid is probably so Amplified by the way people are judging her. Thinking that intellectually she has so many problems when really she's so so intelligent and has such Ducks. I think that kids her age might struggle to relate to her because she's ahead of them not behind I think they're misconstruing this by never giving her a chance and bothers me. I think it's really heartbreaking that so many of these kids bear their emotions and their souls in this interview and they feel like that it is really Brave to come forward and talk about it
I think Ruby should try journaling about her feelings too. She is really intelligent and well spoken. What an awesome girl, I’d be her friend and I think she is super amazing!
Ruby, I know when people judge you for your differences it hurts, but honestly, though no one ever wants to feel that pain, everybody does... for one reason or another. I got picked on because of my name, because I was a bit chubby, kind of quiet, and even because I was smart... some kids are just so insecure they have to bring others down to boost their sad little egos. I had a classmate who was physically beautiful but insecure and unfriendly, so had no real friends. I understand for you it may not feel this way but it isn't just what you look like, it's who you are that will make worthy friends. Your family is right, love yourself for who you are and don't worry about pleasing everybody or your differences ...the people who are worth your time will appreciate you for who you are, not just what your surface is! I just wanted to tell you if I wasn't old enough to be your grandmother I would love to be your friend! When we're young we want to be the clone of our peers, but when we are older, it's our differences that are so beautiful, and you certainly are, I think you are adorable and bright, and you should too!
probably one of my favorite interviews thus far. Ruby is incredible in every way. Very aware, intelligent, well spoken, funny and beautiful inside and out. She is far better than anyone at school i know that's for sure. She deserves so much and more
Protect this girl at all costs, the world needs more people like Ruby. Kids can be horrible, but I'm sure that when she gets a little older she'll make great friendships.
This child has got me crying. Ruby's got more heart, sense and thoughtfullness than people five times her age. What a beautiful person. You're amazing, kid!
Ruby, you are an incredibly wise young lady. Your family and friends love and appreciate you so much. You have a beautiful soul and you've captured what is really important in this life. Thank you for being transparent, I admire your courage and between my many tears I've learned so much from you.
@@sharonjoyce6964 I normally view these videos with detached scientific interest and believe gene editing will eventually reverse all genetic syndromes. But her personality activated my emotion chip.
This precious girl needs to go to a small private school where each child is known and appreciated. My grandchildren go to one and there are many kids with physical differences there. They are accepted and have friends. I hope Ruby finds her group so she can feel how great she is.
Ruby, I thimk you are very beautiful to look at. Your skin is lovely, your eyebrows are perfectly shaped, your hairline around your forehead is very flattering and your eyes are pretty. You are a natural beauty with dark rosy lips and your cheeks have a rosy glow that no make-up could create. I know that these things aren't supposed to be important but I want to tell you them anyway. I was very self conscious about my appearance when I was growing up. I focussed entirely on my differences and flaws. It was only when I was thirty years old that I learnt to love and appreciate the beauty within my appearance. Darling girl, you have so much beauty. Not only on the outside , but inside too. You, as a twelve year old, have more wisdom than I will ever be able to aspire to. I pray God's richest blessings for you and your wonderful mum, dad, brother and grandmother.
When Ruby turns the questions on Chris and Chris knocks it out of the park with the truth! What it looks like when two wise people from different generations have a conversation ☺️
Ruby is just too precious. She's so introspective, emotionally intelligent, funny, and incredibly smart. Anyone would be SO lucky to have Ruby as a friend!
I just sent my email to Ruby. I'm speechless over how deeply this young lady thinks as a 12 year old. The term "old soul" comes to mind. I wish I could go back in time and be Ruby's friend. Chris, please follow up with Ruby with more videos in the future. I'm in love with the whole family.
I had the same thought about “old soul”. I teach 8th grade & for a 6th grader she is so wise & emotionally intelligent. Ruby, you are awesome & beautiful! 💕😊
@@MsGoldenSmiles Yes, even though they were challenged and concerned for Ruby when she was born, they stepped up and stayed positive and committed to her life. It didn't shatter the family, it strengthened it.
If she struggles now, she's going to be the most popular girl in college for sure 🙂 intelligence is particularly valued in higher education, and kids have matured into young adults that see past cosmetic nonsense.
"You have to act not yourself just to make other people happy"- she just said the most poignantly accurate description of social media I have ever heard in my life. I love this girl!!
I hope she knows that she is Not the only young person who is awkward and has issues in school making friends. She's a rock star as far as I think !!! I'd be her friend if I was her age.
This kid won the lottery with her family. I’m so happy she has this support system. If more people did, we’d all be happier. I wish all parents would be this devoted.
Blown away by her intelligence particularly emotional intelligence. She possesses an awareness and an eloquence that most do not, even if they’re “normal” and she is not. She may look different, she may be different, but she is beautiful. I think it’s also worth noting that even a lot of “normal” folks feel the same way she does. It’s perfectly normal to feel insecure, especially as a teenager (especially now a days with the illusory perception of beauty caused by social media and digital editing). Ruby is stronger and more beautiful than they will ever be.
I hope when Ruby turns 18 there will be a follow up because she is going to do amazing things. What a wise young woman. And the love within this family, we could all be so lucky.
She actually kinda took over his interview when she turned the questions back on him! She is such a great kid! Sometimes I wish we lived in a world that was blind. And it is only getting worse with social media. This girl will go far she is a sharp kid!
I think Ruby is smart way beyond her years and I would not be surprised if I would read reports about her 20 years from now that state that she was saving lives as a surgeon, or transforming lives as a motivational speaker. Stay strong, Ruby, you are AWESOME!!!
@@_corona_60 just look at the overall message, it's a great one. We can use "that" for a person physically far from us, internet does make such testimonies available (watching this from Africa) but it doesn't erase the distance.
Such a old soul in this pre teen. She is so compassionate and caring for anyone who has grown up with a disability. Stay the sweet young lady you are now.
I work in some branch of entertainment media and believe me, people in their 40’s, 50’s and even 60’s behave exactly like stupid, judgmental cruel children and they’re so embarrassingly ridiculous but they’re praised and encouraged to keep these dynamics functioning at work. Such hypocrites, they’re despicable and they behave just like spoiled kids being superficial in social media. I wish everyone had even 1% of her humility and maturity.
Ruby is a strong young lady you are all so blessed, She will do wonderful things as she continues to grow I feel her strength and love , she's a blessing. ❤
....No way!!- She's 12?!? Ruby has more maturity in her than I have seen in most 20-something year olds!! I would be ABSOLUTELY honored to sit down and have a conversation with her. She is one lovely little girl who definitely doesn't act so little. She needs to be aware of how beautiful she is with that heart of gold she's got! Definitely sending an email to this precious soul as soon as I finish the video 🤗💞🙏🏼
Ruby has such a great head on her shoulders. We shouldn’t see past our differences, we can acknowledge them but we shouldn’t be excluded for our physical differences. She asked a LOT of great questions. I’d think she would make a great journalist. Edit: as I wrote this as I was watching. Some of what Ruby has I also have, including agenesis of the corpus callosum and a lipoma. I don’t have muscle on my left upper face so my left eye doesn’t really open, I use my cheek to open and close that eye.
I like what you said about not seeing past differences, but to not exclude based upon those differences, that’s a really good way to put it Penny. Everyone has a story to tell and something to offer, and today you offered me some wisdom ✌🏻👍🏼
I can see myself in Ruby. I also don’t know my diagnosis. I was tested for Down syndrome, Turner syndrome, Noonan syndrome, Sickler syndrome and Osteogenesis imperfecta but no. I’m now 48 and still don’t know my diagnosis. It’s hard not to fit in or have others who have the same diagnosis to share things with. Ruby you are such a clever girl and I hope for you to find lots of friends and I hope the doctors can find a diagnosis. To mom and dad - don’t give up. Keep searching. Lots of love from Denmark 🇩🇰
I think Ruby's beautiful inside and out. She's an extremely smart soul, I feel it would be an honor to know her in person. She's intellectually brilliant!
I’m blown away by Ruby’s intellect, humor, and wisdom at her age. I feel like she could start her own TH-cam channel called “Rubys Ramblings” and all types of people would love to listen to her insights! Mom, dad, and Grandma are doing a phenomenal job raising her, too. ♥️ Beautiful people
I'm totally blown away...she has said some seriously beautiful things that will stick in my mind, like when she was describing how she wants people to understand what it's like to be her "not be inside my body but feel what hatred feels like"...and what an amazing amazing family she has!! ALSO it was so interesting when Ruby was asking Chris such introspective questions
I cried when she said that! What an amazing, mature, person she is, and I feel truly awful that anyone, especially a child, knows what hatred feels like. Ugh. And, I was so impressed with her questions to Chris. So smart!
Everyone is so impressed with her maturity. I am amazed by her composure and attitude but I know sometimes mature kids have just had more life experience and faced hardships that hardened them. I was one of them. Ruby you’re an inspiration and I hope people can get past their prejudices and see you as the amazing person you are.
I really love how Ruby just turned the interview around at one point and just started interviewing Chris. And her questions are really good, well phrased and thought out. Like I am amazed because shes just 12 years old and has a real talent for asking great questions. And I don't mean like the questions in an everyday conversations, but questions in these kind of interview settings, that make the other person give great answers. Like I think she could be a great journalists at one point. I studied Journalism so when I listen to interviews I always pay attention to the way they ask questions, and I think being able to ask great questions is a real talent and not something everybody can do. So if you read this at some point Ruby, I think you could become like a really great journalist one day.
This young woman’s grace and intelligence touched my heart so deeply. Her empathy and depth are so inspiring. Her honesty and self awareness are truly beautiful. Ruby, you are so very lovely ♥️
This is the channel I go to when I need to restore some of my faith in humanity. Just these videos and all these people sharing their perspective, that pure human-to-human interaction and care people can show each other, the kindness that exists in our core despite everything... It's a good reminder to not give up, it's inspiring and I bet all these people you've met have inspired others through your videos.
I really think that the fact of Ruby doesn`t heave any diagnosis yet, it`s because she is perfectly normal. She`s smart, very conscious about herself, with teenagers worries and wishes. That`s it. I really wish you the best Ruby. You heave a fan right here in Brazil.
I wish I was 12 again just to be her friend. I didn't have many friends growing up and 6th grade made it more challenging to find friends, especially at a new school and when kids were picking on me. One or 2 of them went as far as stealing my new jacket I had just bought with my birthday money. Ruby seems awesome, honest, amazing, and smart.
Ruby is amazing! I can’t believe she’s only 12. She is so mature. If I was in 6th grade I’d be proud to be her friend. I hope people wise up and see what they’re missing, a wonderful person. There is soo much love in that family, it’s so heartwarming to see that.
it's astonishing that a twelve-year-old can be so aware of their own emotions. a lot of adults don't even know what they are feeling when they're feeling it
Her family is just straight amazing, the young woman Ruby has become is a reflection of the family members that surround her. And let's not forget her brother. This entire family is just wonderful.♥️
Ruby: what a lovely, witty, well-spoken, intelligent and beautiful girl you are. Watching this interview brightened up my evening. I experienced similar things during my school years, and I deeply know how miserable and soul-crunching it feels. NEVER forget your worth, your foundation, with or without friends. I’ll be thinking of you, and sending you lots of courage and love 🌻 Love, Marie 💝🍀
The emotional maturity that Ruby shows at her young age is exceptional. I was so impressed by how she expresses herself & tells stories. She is extremely wise beyond her years.
I'm so impressed too I feel like we all have a lot to learn from her, she is going to grow into an amazing woman and she is going to do big things, people like her will change the world for the better
A wise heart. A captivating interview. Without Ruby, without this video, we would have much less a sense of what is important and what is the true worth of people. I know I am going to be far less judgemental today. Imagine thousands more who listen to Ruby doing the same thing. You are changing the world for the better.
It's clear to me that Ruby has 'Beautiful Light Syndrome'. She has all those rare traits that come with this condition including the ability to be an amazingly inspiring human being.
Wow. I almost wish I was 12 years old again just to have a friend as wonderful as you. Some of the greatest people have survived difficult years being ostracized. I nearly didn’t survive my own junior high days. If anyone sees the real Ruby, they will find an obviously golden friendship, rare and lasting and beautiful. You are a gift to this world and so appreciate you sharing who you are with the world!
Hi Ruby. My name is Ruby as well. I’m alot older then you . When I grew up I was bullied all through out school or any public places for looking different. You are beautiful and intelligent. I’m so proud to share my name with you. It does get better Ruby. God Bless 🤙
Growing up with a visible disability, I can definitely empathize with her feelings about being left out. In high school I was painfully aware of the things I missed out on because I simply wasn't invited due to my disability. The junior high and high school years are particularly painful I think because it can feel like you are left out and left behind. However, I just wanted Ruby to know that this changes as you get older (at least in my experience). As I got older and more confident, I was able to make life long friends and made up for those lost high school memories with people that truly loved and accepted me. Ruby reminds me so much of me at this age and I hope she finds her "people" as she grows.
You are so right. I just started to write to Ruby and felt I should read the responses to her post first. I had started with “just give it six more years and things will eat better.” Then I read your response. Perfect. I’m happy you found your “people”. I believe Ruby will too.
"I'm just a girl who really just wants someone to understand her" that hit differently. To be understood is the most precious feeling in the world I think. A lot of people, myself included, often feel like they cannot communicate with the world, like there's a barrier there. So I definitely understand what Ruby meant with that. Ruby seems such a well-spoken, intelligent, mature and wise young lady. It is clear she has a lot to give to the world and I have no doubt she will find people who truly listen to her and truly understand her. I wish her all the best.
I’m 100% “typical” and can relate to a lot of what she’s saying and feeling. Friendships are not easy. Lasting connections are even harder. Not being judged is impossible. I’ve been the outcast. I, too, often feel lonely and have pretended to smile for the comfort of others. Dear Ruby, Complete acceptance is a nice idea, but it’s not necessary. Happiness and fulfillment will happen for you, regardless, because no one has control over that except you, and you will learn there’s no one better to give it to you, than yourself. Never dilute yourself down, or sweeten yourself up, to make people comfortable..hoping that’ll get everyone to like and accept you. You are not meant for everyone. Not everyone should have access to you, or the spaces you keep your thoughts and love in. Live and breathe the entire truth that is you; your tribe WILL find you. Accept and love yourself, first and always. You aren’t a mistake, nothing needs to be fixed, or explained. You are the one and only Ruby. People learn faster by example - make sure you’re growing in a way that shows them they need to put some respect on that name. You don’t need to convince anyone of how awesome you are, Miss. Ruby. They damn sure need to prove their worth to you, though. You’re not meant for everybody, or just anybody. Remember that. 🌻❤️
Ruby is such a joy to watch, and such an inspiration. The world is crying out for more sweeties like Ruby. Sending lots of love and best wishes your way Ruby. I'll be cheering you on from a distance.
Ruby is so intelligent and perceptive. She is a remarkable girl. She will do great things in life.
100% she is a normal typical human being and full of great energy.
I can really see her doing amazing things in the world. Such a kind and intelligent mind.
I think she might have autism (the high intelligent kind, formerly known as Aspergers). I'm an aspie myself and something echoos hard. Or it could be she's been forced to think too much about social interactions at such a young age, just like aspies do. Either way she may be helped by some of the tools and approaches that work for us aspies :)
@@bumblebaa2327 she doesn’t show any signs of autism. Just because she’s intelligent. And they would have mentioned that.
@@7somekindofsomething Autism is very difficult to diagnose in intelligent girls. Whether social interactions come natural and are not thought-out is the determining factor. I do not know this for Ruby. Could be, could be not.
12 years old going on 25. She’s so articulate and well spoken. She has some major authenticity, beauty, depth, and compassion. Sad it’s so rare to find people with a character such as Ruby’s.
Absolutely 💞
Wonderfully written. Ruby is a beautiful young lady, with an amazing personality. I know she's a pleasure to have around. She's going to find her niche and be a success in life. A well balanced young lady ❤ keep up the good work!
I want to reach out and give support. So does my 15 yr old daughter too.
Absolutely!
I agree Pilar Boutte!
She's only 12?! She's SO intelligent and well spoken. Honestly, she understands the language of feelings, which is rare for a 12 yr old. Hold your head up high, Ruby, you're something special :)
Uhhhhh every 12 year old is that level of intelligence
Wow, this unknown syndrome certainly hadn't affected her ability to communicate her feelings or her intelligence. What a beautifully spoken young lady.
She talks a lot more maturely than most girls her age. She’s definitely going to go far in life.
is she that mature to mention it? i see this as a normal attitude for her age. now i’m just imagining how *immature* children must be is this is “ahead of her years” 😳
@@BloxyMelonio dawg shes literally 12!!!! when I was 12 I was crying because I got a haircutand people said I was mature for my age
I don’t remember myself being as intelligent as Ruby when I was 12. She’s obviously a very bright young girl with a great and promising future. Ruby rocks!
Agreed. Wow. Good for her!
I agree 💯
I was. I later found out I have autism and just had to think a lot about friendships and social interactions pre-teens, just like Ruby. It doesn't help her social including, the intelligence. With me social interaction just didn't come natural, because of the autism. With Ruby it's because of how people treat her because of how she looks and probably her diverse daily energy level. Such a pity a good heart or a good brain doesn't help with this. What does help is finding friends over a common interest and also communicating over the internet, where your brain can shine and you can take your time to reply. I find lots of humour on the internet :) I hope Ruby does too.
Experiences make people intelligent.
I don't think i'm that intelligent now to be honest and im 32. She is an amazing girl that will achieve great things!
Honestly can’t believe she’s only twelve. She’s more articulate in expressing herself than many adults I know.
And her questions. So clever. Ruby you could really go places in the world!
She's very mature 👏 but she deserves to be a kid
Ruby is sooo smart and charming ♥️🧿♥️🧿♥️🧿♥️🧿♥️🧿
I agree completely !
@@kushking949 Who are you?
@@kushking949 of course he is making money - it is his full time job. However, he gives these kids a platform to speak on.
What a beautiful, eloquent, and caring young girl. She has more personality and depth of character than most adults.
She's so well spoken for her age
Very much so 💜
“You have to act not yourself to make other people happy.” That was a remarkably insightful comment about social media.
ABSOLUTELY! Such profound words !
This girl is wise beyond her years. We can all learn something from her!
I was just thinking the same thing! Definitely incredible insight!!!
This has always been the way of the world, long before personal computers and social media. Social pressure to conform, and to be uplifting and pleasant is part of being human. Men especially have long been conditioned to hide their feelings and emotions.
This girl is a adult stuck in a child’s body! Holy! She’s so smart and wise for her age!
I agree, Ruby may think that she looks different from others, but she is such a deep thinker, that is truely her differentness. She's empathetic and wise beyond her years. It will get better after middle school she is really atrong!
This kid is the type of person I love for my children to be around because her presence produces character. I wish the children around her knew what they have in their midst because this girl should be invited to everything.
Amen to that.
Beautifully said.
Being 12 is such a tough time. Kids are really just starting to truly develop empathy and many haven’t yet. I know Ruby will find people her age that will invite her everywhere soon!
Ruby isn't average, she is mega above average! A beautiful soul! I hope she is interviewed again in 10 years.
When she said “I’m not not an average girl”, I thought “no you’re not Ruby you’re above average”
She's only 12 oh my gosh she is so smart and wise beyond her years, she has such a wonderful brain you can tell she is a deep thinker, very introspective, she is going to achieve so much in life, she has so much to offer the world. 😊
Agreed, she has an amazing aura about her
So well spoken! I agree!
Yes, she's definitely going far in life. And with that family around only sky's the limit!
That’s what I was thinking! Like, WOW!!
thats what i was thinking, the word wise perfectly describes
ruby is so incredibly charismatic and intelligent, i could listen to her talk for hours. the way she chooses her words so carefully give them such depth, and her ability to make you literally feel what she is feeling when she speaks is simply mesmerizing to me. what an incredible person!
Que pena que por ignorancia la gente evalúe al otro solo por su apariencia ,se pierden de tener un encuentro desde el alma con ruby que es una persona muy especial inteligente, sensible y y con sentido común alguien muy querible
Ruby, I can only imagine wanting to be seen as an “average” 12 yr old girl, as you stated. But Ruby, there is nothing average about your great intelligence (socio-emotional, verbal, etc), the deep and unconditional love your family has for you, and the special relationships you’ve built with your family members. Nothing average at all. All extraordinary.
That's what I was thinking too - Ruby will never ve average for all of the reasons you describe. She is way above average!
“What a world we’ve created!”
“…It’s a weird one.”
😂😂😂 What a wonderful child. I love her smile. So incredibly smart. Doesn’t speak like any 6th grader I’ve ever met!
Right, she’s delightful to listen to! Like I think I would enjoy a podcast with just her commentary on the world haha
Lol definitely not mine
Definitely, she's more mature and insightful than most people in their 20s nowadays.
She's a child?? She looks like an adult in the way she uses vocabulary. Absolutely lovely and sweet. ❤️
Physically a child, mentally on the verge of an adult
She's the kind of child you can have an intelligent conversation with and you have to remind yourself she's just a child. Her abilities definitely overshadows her disabilities
@@DevJonnyThank you, I have a son who's autistic and he's shown and taught me so much more.
Ruby seems like a deep thinker with a kind heart.
I think she should write some of her thoughts, or maybe a book some day. If she is this bright at 12, imagine what she will be like as an adult?
I'm so thankful that she is surrounded at home by people who love her.
Ruby needs to do some interviews on your channel Chris. She is so wise, such a great communicator and asks such good questions. You’re right this is a crazy world Ruby, which is why we need grounded, perceptive people like you in it.
Awesome idea💡
This is a great idea. Ruby would do fabulous interviewing Chris's guests.
This is a e really cool idea
Yes. She would be great at Interviewing.
I agree...great idea!! She is wise beyond her years.....very intelligent!😁👍
One of the most tragic aspects of this story is that because of people's attitudes, this beautiful and intelligent young lady has no idea just how amazing and special she is. Ruby is already an incredible person, and she is going to grow up to be an exceptional adult. Even back when I was her age, I would have gladly been friends with her. And not just because she might be "special" or "different", but because she is an awesome person.
Perfect. Her nature would have me try and be her friend.
Right there with you on that one!!! I can’t imagine anyone not wanting to be her friend!!!
She knows
Same!
She's strong.
She's going to grow up to be such a great woman.
I was going to write the same thing, then I saw your post. Shes a ray of sunshine and has a wonderful family.
I agree!
The bond within this family is stunning.
But this bond is as it should be for every family and every one
I love how she flipped the interview and asked Chris great questions that lead to a great discussion.
I noticed that too. And it was a very insightful question. Her mind is amazing at her age.
I totally agree!
She really got him with that too?
Absolutely 🤗
Me too that bit was great she's very clever for her years
Ruby is FAR more introspective than some full blown adults I've met. That lonely place will heal in time if she continues cultivating that great head on her shoulders and doesn't let the "ideals" of others weigh her down. If those around her can't see her, there are so many other's that will! Don't compromise your roots Ruby! You have some strong roots that will get you far.
When Ruby asked what Chris would say to someone who watched this video just to make fun of her, it really hit me how brave all these interviewees are to let themselves be vulnerable to this sometimes mean world of the internet.
You’re an eloquent and wise person, Ruby. I wish this world could have been kinder to you so you didn’t have to grow up so fast. I’ll work hard to try and make that world possible for you and others.
Well said, Tara.
Tara, that was very kind and thoughtful of you to say. I'm right there with you to help pave the path for others like Ruby. This interview really touched me.
Yeah that really bothered me too and the whole feeling of not fitting in, yes it's normal that teenagers feel that way but this poor kid is probably so Amplified by the way people are judging her. Thinking that intellectually she has so many problems when really she's so so intelligent and has such Ducks. I think that kids her age might struggle to relate to her because she's ahead of them not behind I think they're misconstruing this by never giving her a chance and bothers me. I think it's really heartbreaking that so many of these kids bear their emotions and their souls in this interview and they feel like that it is really Brave to come forward and talk about it
That was a beautiful sentiment Tara! Do we know if she has social media? Or the mom?
@@MalleableMetal1 I think you are right.
She is way too smart to be 12. Well spoken, great demeanor, and honestly relatable
Absolutely shes sunning for her age
She has so much insight! At 83 I still can’t express myself like she does, an exceptional young lady!
I can’t express how much I agree with your comment.
Ruby is truly exceptional.
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@@ardaoguzhan8181 Disrespectful. Get a life kid.
I think Ruby should try journaling about her feelings too. She is really intelligent and well spoken. What an awesome girl, I’d be her friend and I think she is super amazing!
Your as cute as your name 💕
Ruby, I know when people judge you for your differences it hurts, but honestly, though no one ever wants to feel that pain, everybody does... for one reason or another. I got picked on because of my name, because I was a bit chubby, kind of quiet, and even because I was smart... some kids are just so insecure they have to bring others down to boost their sad little egos. I had a classmate who was physically beautiful but insecure and unfriendly, so had no real friends. I understand for you it may not feel this way but it isn't just what you look like, it's who you are that will make worthy friends. Your family is right, love yourself for who you are and don't worry about pleasing everybody or your differences ...the people who are worth your time will appreciate you for who you are, not just what your surface is! I just wanted to tell you if I wasn't old enough to be your grandmother I would love to be your friend! When we're young we want to be the clone of our peers, but when we are older, it's our differences that are so beautiful, and you certainly are, I think you are adorable and bright, and you should too!
I want to be her friend, too.
probably one of my favorite interviews thus far. Ruby is incredible in every way. Very aware, intelligent, well spoken, funny and beautiful inside and out. She is far better than anyone at school i know that's for sure. She deserves so much and more
Ruby is extremely self aware and a deep thinker. She is loved so deeply and unconditionally.
Protect this girl at all costs, the world needs more people like Ruby. Kids can be horrible, but I'm sure that when she gets a little older she'll make great friendships.
Ruby is such an amazing person!! Beautiful inside and out!!
This child has got me crying. Ruby's got more heart, sense and thoughtfullness than people five times her age. What a beautiful person. You're amazing, kid!
Amen
Ruby, you are an incredibly wise young lady. Your family and friends love and appreciate you so much. You have a beautiful soul and you've captured what is really important in this life. Thank you for being transparent, I admire your courage and between my many tears I've learned so much from you.
@@sharonjoyce6964 I normally view these videos with detached scientific interest and believe gene editing will eventually reverse all genetic syndromes. But her personality activated my emotion chip.
This precious girl needs to go to a small private school where each child is known and appreciated. My grandchildren go to one and there are many kids with physical differences there. They are accepted and have friends. I hope Ruby finds her group so she can feel how great she is.
@@emdeejay7432 there are scholarships available.
@@emdeejay7432Sometimes you can go for free or very discounted. But yes normally, very expensive.
lol private school like that traumatized me so much.
@@Anotherhumanexisting public school traumatized me so much
I agree. It believe it made all the difference for me as a sick kid.
She has a wonderful personality and intelligence, this is all I’m seeing
I totally agree!
Ruby, I thimk you are very beautiful to look at. Your skin is lovely, your eyebrows are perfectly shaped, your hairline around your forehead is very flattering and your eyes are pretty. You are a natural beauty with dark rosy lips and your cheeks have a rosy glow that no make-up could create. I know that these things aren't supposed to be important but I want to tell you them anyway. I was very self conscious about my appearance when I was growing up. I focussed entirely on my differences and flaws. It was only when I was thirty years old that I learnt to love and appreciate the beauty within my appearance. Darling girl, you have so much beauty. Not only on the outside , but inside too. You, as a twelve year old, have more wisdom than I will ever be able to aspire to. I pray God's richest blessings for you and your wonderful mum, dad, brother and grandmother.
When Ruby turns the questions on Chris and Chris knocks it out of the park with the truth! What it looks like when two wise people from different generations have a conversation ☺️
Seriously. I know adults who aren't half as introspective and emotionally intelligent as Ruby already is.
@@dewilew2137 And many of those who are don't have the tools to even try confronting their problems!
Ruby is just too precious. She's so introspective, emotionally intelligent, funny, and incredibly smart. Anyone would be SO lucky to have Ruby as a friend!
YESS! she’s a gem
Grandmas energy is so lovely! What a fantastic soul
I just sent my email to Ruby. I'm speechless over how deeply this young lady thinks as a 12 year old. The term "old soul" comes to mind. I wish I could go back in time and be Ruby's friend. Chris, please follow up with Ruby with more videos in the future. I'm in love with the whole family.
Same, here. They are really a phenomenal family.
I had the same thought about “old soul”. I teach 8th grade & for a 6th grader she is so wise & emotionally intelligent.
Ruby, you are awesome & beautiful! 💕😊
Same! This is one amazing family.
@@MsGoldenSmiles Yes, even though they were challenged and concerned for Ruby when she was born, they stepped up and stayed positive and committed to her life. It didn't shatter the family, it strengthened it.
Such a beautiful family! Would love to follow them on TikTok or instagram to stay up to date with them
I can’t wait for her to meet all the people who are waiting for such an intelligent and evolved friend.
If she struggles now, she's going to be the most popular girl in college for sure 🙂 intelligence is particularly valued in higher education, and kids have matured into young adults that see past cosmetic nonsense.
She is awesome!
"You have to act not yourself just to make other people happy"- she just said the most poignantly accurate description of social media I have ever heard in my life. I love this girl!!
I hope she knows that she is Not the only young person who is awkward and has issues in school making friends. She's a rock star as far as I think !!! I'd be her friend if I was her age.
This kid won the lottery with her family. I’m so happy she has this support system. If more people did, we’d all be happier. I wish all parents would be this devoted.
Blown away by her intelligence particularly emotional intelligence. She possesses an awareness and an eloquence that most do not, even if they’re “normal” and she is not. She may look different, she may be different, but she is beautiful. I think it’s also worth noting that even a lot of “normal” folks feel the same way she does. It’s perfectly normal to feel insecure, especially as a teenager (especially now a days with the illusory perception of beauty caused by social media and digital editing). Ruby is stronger and more beautiful than they will ever be.
💯💯
Well said ♥️
So well said!!!!
Whatever her "syndrome" is, it certainly includes precocious maturity, intelligence and worldly insight. What a delightful treasure of a girl!
I hope when Ruby turns 18 there will be a follow up because she is going to do amazing things. What a wise young woman. And the love within this family, we could all be so lucky.
Ruby is by far my favorite interview, I relate to her with her social situations even tho I am a abled person. She is definitely a tough chick!
She actually kinda took over his interview when she turned the questions back on him! She is such a great kid! Sometimes I wish we lived in a world that was blind. And it is only getting worse with social media. This girl will go far she is a sharp kid!
I think Ruby is smart way beyond her years and I would not be surprised if I would read reports about her 20 years from now that state that she was saving lives as a surgeon, or transforming lives as a motivational speaker. Stay strong, Ruby, you are AWESOME!!!
my thoughts exactly!!!
My thoughts as well 💗
I would be honored to call that girl my daughter. And when I was her age I had no friends of such quality. God bless her.
What does "that" suppose to mean (not in a mean way)
Wonderful comment. She's a little star 🥰
@@_corona_60 just look at the overall message, it's a great one. We can use "that" for a person physically far from us, internet does make such testimonies available (watching this from Africa) but it doesn't erase the distance.
I’m 48 and if she could be my friend I would be proud. She and her family are amazing. Beautiful people. Hearts of gold.
I hope that the children at her school, in her neighborhood get see this AND their parents watch too!
Yes they all should see this!
Such a old soul in this pre teen. She is so compassionate and caring for anyone who has grown up with a disability. Stay the sweet young lady you are now.
Wow, Ruby is extremely smart for her age. Her conversation with Chris felt like one between two adults.
That’s exactly how I felt watching this. She’s so sincere, articulate and introspective.
She’s awesome!! Kids can be so mean :(
They're just mirroring the adults in their life and society
I work in some branch of entertainment media and believe me, people in their 40’s, 50’s and even 60’s behave exactly like stupid, judgmental cruel children and they’re so embarrassingly ridiculous but they’re praised and encouraged to keep these dynamics functioning at work. Such hypocrites, they’re despicable and they behave just like spoiled kids being superficial in social media. I wish everyone had even 1% of her humility and maturity.
The world is such a mean place breaks my heart sometimes
@@s0me0ne1se actually very true lol
They're kids
Ruby is a strong young lady you are all so blessed, She will do wonderful things as she continues to grow I feel her strength and love , she's a blessing. ❤
....No way!!- She's 12?!? Ruby has more maturity in her than I have seen in most 20-something year olds!! I would be ABSOLUTELY honored to sit down and have a conversation with her. She is one lovely little girl who definitely doesn't act so little. She needs to be aware of how beautiful she is with that heart of gold she's got! Definitely sending an email to this precious soul as soon as I finish the video 🤗💞🙏🏼
Ruby has such a great head on her shoulders.
We shouldn’t see past our differences, we can acknowledge them but we shouldn’t be excluded for our physical differences.
She asked a LOT of great questions. I’d think she would make a great journalist.
Edit: as I wrote this as I was watching. Some of what Ruby has I also have, including agenesis of the corpus callosum and a lipoma.
I don’t have muscle on my left upper face so my left eye doesn’t really open, I use my cheek to open and close that eye.
I like what you said about not seeing past differences, but to not exclude based upon those differences, that’s a really good way to put it Penny. Everyone has a story to tell and something to offer, and today you offered me some wisdom ✌🏻👍🏼
well said love! ♥️
@@SQUIRTGANG I was reading through the comments, and they are all very good, but yours brought tears to my eyes. It was very touching.
You and Ruby are both lovely, kind and intelligent young ladies ♥️
I can see myself in Ruby. I also don’t know my diagnosis. I was tested for Down syndrome, Turner syndrome, Noonan syndrome, Sickler syndrome and Osteogenesis imperfecta but no. I’m now 48 and still don’t know my diagnosis. It’s hard not to fit in or have others who have the same diagnosis to share things with. Ruby you are such a clever girl and I hope for you to find lots of friends and I hope the doctors can find a diagnosis. To mom and dad - don’t give up. Keep searching. Lots of love from Denmark 🇩🇰
elsamarie..you dont need a diagnosis..you are elsa..by the way i just heard your voice its stunning!
you most likely dont have down syndrome I knew a family friend that had it
You literally don't know anything about them. Not every person with DS is the same. Shame on you.
Diagnosis is needed for government assistance and accomodations in school.
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I think Ruby's beautiful inside and out. She's an extremely smart soul, I feel it would be an honor to know her in person. She's intellectually brilliant!
She's incredibly intelligent and wow is she expressive! Ruby anyone would be lucky to have you for a friend xo.
I’m blown away by Ruby’s intellect, humor, and wisdom at her age. I feel like she could start her own TH-cam channel called “Rubys Ramblings” and all types of people would love to listen to her insights!
Mom, dad, and Grandma are doing a phenomenal job raising her, too. ♥️ Beautiful people
So impressed by this bright young lady. She’s a future writer with such a beautiful way of putting things.
I immediately thought she’ll write a book someday.
I'm totally blown away...she has said some seriously beautiful things that will stick in my mind, like when she was describing how she wants people to understand what it's like to be her "not be inside my body but feel what hatred feels like"...and what an amazing amazing family she has!! ALSO it was so interesting when Ruby was asking Chris such introspective questions
I cried when she said that! What an amazing, mature, person she is, and I feel truly awful that anyone, especially a child, knows what hatred feels like. Ugh.
And, I was so impressed with her questions to Chris. So smart!
OMG! My eyes are sweating! You can just feel the love the family has for Ruby! Her spunk and sense of humor is amazing!!! Ruby you made my day!
Absolutely you can 💞
*Beautiful* family.
Everyone is so impressed with her maturity. I am amazed by her composure and attitude but I know sometimes mature kids have just had more life experience and faced hardships that hardened them. I was one of them. Ruby you’re an inspiration and I hope people can get past their prejudices and see you as the amazing person you are.
yep i feel you on that one!
Ruby is very intellgent. Her grandma is just.. so filled with love.
I know.... the love for ruby just radiated from her grandma. it's beautiful to see.
I don't know why this doesn't have more views. Ruby and her family are truly amazing! She's very mature and her family truly loves her and vice versa.
I really love how Ruby just turned the interview around at one point and just started interviewing Chris. And her questions are really good, well phrased and thought out. Like I am amazed because shes just 12 years old and has a real talent for asking great questions. And I don't mean like the questions in an everyday conversations, but questions in these kind of interview settings, that make the other person give great answers. Like I think she could be a great journalists at one point. I studied Journalism so when I listen to interviews I always pay attention to the way they ask questions, and I think being able to ask great questions is a real talent and not something everybody can do. So if you read this at some point Ruby, I think you could become like a really great journalist one day.
THAT'S what she reminded me of! A favorite journalist of mine :)
@@KE29146 that's really cool. I am happy if I helped you realize this. (: which journalist is it?
I see a writer, an author/journalist/poet, Ruby has a deep soul.
This young woman’s grace and intelligence touched my heart so deeply. Her empathy and depth are so inspiring. Her honesty and self awareness are truly beautiful. Ruby, you are so very lovely ♥️
Amen!
Yes well said! ❤️
You worded my thoughts so well !
This is the channel I go to when I need to restore some of my faith in humanity. Just these videos and all these people sharing their perspective, that pure human-to-human interaction and care people can show each other, the kindness that exists in our core despite everything... It's a good reminder to not give up, it's inspiring and I bet all these people you've met have inspired others through your videos.
@@kushking949 proove to me your data here is correct, if not shut it!
I really think that the fact of Ruby doesn`t heave any diagnosis yet, it`s because she is perfectly normal. She`s smart, very conscious about herself, with teenagers worries and wishes. That`s it.
I really wish you the best Ruby.
You heave a fan right here in Brazil.
I wish I was 12 again just to be her friend. I didn't have many friends growing up and 6th grade made it more challenging to find friends, especially at a new school and when kids were picking on me. One or 2 of them went as far as stealing my new jacket I had just bought with my birthday money. Ruby seems awesome, honest, amazing, and smart.
@Haraz Was Here Nope. Never got it back. The girls never admitted to taking it.
Ruby is amazing! I can’t believe she’s only 12. She is so mature. If I was in 6th grade I’d be proud to be her friend. I hope people wise up and see what they’re missing, a wonderful person. There is soo much love in that family, it’s so heartwarming to see that.
it's astonishing that a twelve-year-old can be so aware of their own emotions. a lot of adults don't even know what they are feeling when they're feeling it
Her family is just straight amazing, the young woman Ruby has become is a reflection of the family members that surround her. And let's not forget her brother. This entire family is just wonderful.♥️
U r amazing
Ruby: what a lovely, witty, well-spoken, intelligent and beautiful girl you are. Watching this interview brightened up my evening. I experienced similar things during my school years, and I deeply know how miserable and soul-crunching it feels. NEVER forget your worth, your foundation, with or without friends. I’ll be thinking of you, and sending you lots of courage and love 🌻 Love, Marie 💝🍀
"soul-crunching"
What a perfect description of that feeling. I'm sorry that you suffered that, and I feel true empathy. Isn't Ruby an inspiration?!
The emotional maturity that Ruby shows at her young age is exceptional. I was so impressed by how she expresses herself & tells stories. She is extremely wise beyond her years.
I'm so impressed too I feel like we all have a lot to learn from her, she is going to grow into an amazing woman and she is going to do big things, people like her will change the world for the better
6th grade is tough, making friends during middle school can be hard. You are so smart, loving and wise - wishing you all the best Ruby!
What an awesome, intelligent, and insightful young lady! And, such a wonderful family! This story touched my heart and soul!
This grandmother and granddaughter relationship is so beautiful. I'm not _not_ crying 😭
A wise heart. A captivating interview. Without Ruby, without this video, we would have much less a sense of what is important and what is the true worth of people. I know I am going to be far less judgemental today. Imagine thousands more who listen to Ruby doing the same thing. You are changing the world for the better.
It's clear to me that Ruby has 'Beautiful Light Syndrome'. She has all those rare traits that come with this condition including the ability to be an amazingly inspiring human being.
I love grandparents. Bringing the wisdom in full force! Thanks for sharing everything. Prayers for you, and your family.
Wow. I almost wish I was 12 years old again just to have a friend as wonderful as you. Some of the greatest people have survived difficult years being ostracized. I nearly didn’t survive my own junior high days. If anyone sees the real Ruby, they will find an obviously golden friendship, rare and lasting and beautiful. You are a gift to this world and so appreciate you sharing who you are with the world!
I felt the same way thinking I wish I was 12 and her friend lol
well said and so true. She is someone I would like to know.
I was thinking the same thing :)
Hi Ruby. My name is Ruby as well. I’m alot older then you . When I grew up I was bullied all through out school or any public places for looking different. You are beautiful and intelligent. I’m so proud to share my name with you. It does get better Ruby. God Bless 🤙
Ruby's unite! Haha
We need a Ruby podcast. Such a sweet, intelligent voice from a kind and loving human.
YES!
She has a great personality and some seriously solid parents and grandparents.
"takes away a little part of my soul"
that cut deep.. we all think you're amazing Ruby n we all love you ❤
The part with her grandmom, omg. The bond between them is beautiful.
Growing up with a visible disability, I can definitely empathize with her feelings about being left out. In high school I was painfully aware of the things I missed out on because I simply wasn't invited due to my disability. The junior high and high school years are particularly painful I think because it can feel like you are left out and left behind. However, I just wanted Ruby to know that this changes as you get older (at least in my experience). As I got older and more confident, I was able to make life long friends and made up for those lost high school memories with people that truly loved and accepted me. Ruby reminds me so much of me at this age and I hope she finds her "people" as she grows.
You are so right. I just started to write to Ruby and felt I should read the responses to her post first. I had started with “just give it six more years and things will eat better.” Then I read your response. Perfect. I’m happy you found your “people”. I believe Ruby will too.
God bless you forever!
very sweet Ruby, I send you a big hug from Italy. The world would be better if there were more people like you. Never change!!!
"I'm just a girl who really just wants someone to understand her" that hit differently. To be understood is the most precious feeling in the world I think. A lot of people, myself included, often feel like they cannot communicate with the world, like there's a barrier there. So I definitely understand what Ruby meant with that.
Ruby seems such a well-spoken, intelligent, mature and wise young lady. It is clear she has a lot to give to the world and I have no doubt she will find people who truly listen to her and truly understand her. I wish her all the best.
I’m 100% “typical” and can relate to a lot of what she’s saying and feeling. Friendships are not easy. Lasting connections are even harder. Not being judged is impossible. I’ve been the outcast. I, too, often feel lonely and have pretended to smile for the comfort of others.
Dear Ruby,
Complete acceptance is a nice idea, but it’s not necessary. Happiness and fulfillment will happen for you, regardless, because no one has control over that except you, and you will learn there’s no one better to give it to you, than yourself.
Never dilute yourself down, or sweeten yourself up, to make people comfortable..hoping that’ll get everyone to like and accept you.
You are not meant for everyone.
Not everyone should have access to you, or the spaces you keep your thoughts and love in.
Live and breathe the entire truth that is you; your tribe WILL find you.
Accept and love yourself, first and always.
You aren’t a mistake, nothing needs to be fixed, or explained. You are the one and only Ruby.
People learn faster by example - make sure you’re growing in a way that shows them they need to put some respect on that name.
You don’t need to convince anyone of how awesome you are, Miss. Ruby.
They damn sure need to prove their worth to you, though. You’re not meant for everybody, or just anybody.
Remember that.
🌻❤️
Thank you for the letter,I'm 54 and wish I would have had that letter when young. I'm a recluse. Your letter is just as important to me now thank you
That was beautiful and so well written. I hope she sees it. ❤
@@tammywilliams5312
Hang in there Tammy! 😘😘😘
She's right. Teenage boys smell like goats. LOL Amazing girl, may she have a long, blessed, and _stress free_ life!
Ruby is such a joy to watch, and such an inspiration. The world is crying out for more sweeties like Ruby. Sending lots of love and best wishes your way Ruby. I'll be cheering you on from a distance.
“I just accept people.” What a beautiful way to approach life. I wish it were more common.
welcome to Asperger's people, we just accept people.
This interview is my favorite of all of them. This child is gold! She is 100% awesome, and will go on to do amazing things. I just know it.
I love how this young lady turned it around and interviewed you!!! Priceless.
Lovely girl, lovely family. I'm sure she will have an amazing future