That BF in the last story is the king of fumbling. You're telling me that you've dated someone for SEVEN YEARS and **still** think that there's a chance they're using you for a visa? If they really wanted a visa, they would not have waited in a relationship for 7 years without being more pushy. Yeesh. 7 years is a long time. But apparently for some it's not long enough, nevermind the fact that for a lot of people that will be a 10th of their entire life.
@@fallskjermjeger. While I do understand this and it does happen, I think that the reason the BF gave was completely unfounded. There are plenty of people who would have been desperate and lonely that OP could have tried to get a visa from, but she chose to spend her time with the BF instead. The visa only became a concern because of her losing her job and the idea of getting married was a way for them to both not have to worry about it
I mean, even if she is just using him and is planning to divorce him when her green card is secure, he could get alimony. Money is money, no matter who it comes from.
"You're telling me that you've dated someone for SEVEN YEARS and *still* think that there's a chance they're using you for a visa?" Well, yes actually. Called a long con. Best way to find out is to have them agree to certain documents. Such as a prenup, and another saying that your marriage is not to be considered a factor in their citizenship. Found that one out the fun way.
He’s lyïng. He doesn’t want to marry her and that’s his excuse. He’s only flustered bc he’s gonna lose his sëx bc she’s gonna get deported. He’s dïsgusting.
The OP in Story 1 found the rare company where HR is actually a decent place - not the usual "We will sacrifice you to protect the company" department. I'm actually shocked.
that what I was said that when we heard story like this, it alway the opposite of the women get fired or threat to get fired if she report it and OP it very luck to
HR is only out to protect the company. Today, unlike years ago, HR will take any sexual misconduct claim seriously and usually let go the one accused of it, even with very little evidence. The company risks a lot not doing that and risks an unlawful termination lawsuit if they let the accuser go. Sadly, though, if the allegations are of a homosexual nature, then the accuser isn't believed.
You clearly haven't been paying attention to the world lately. It's so easy to get a man fired on the mere accusation of SA that it's been weaponized. OP in this story was actually a victim.
OP in story 1 is lucky. When my bosses boss sexually assaulted me, HR told me that if I made a formal report I’d be blacklisted from my industry and nothing would happen to him.
@@javaman7199 Unfortunately I think this is more common. HR warned her but they normally don't. Normally the person just does their best to report, sue, press charges, etc and nothing comes of it. Charges get dropped. Lawsuits go nowhere. Then the person who was harmed can't get a job in their own field. It's like being a whistleblower, but more damaging to your professional reputation.
@@tiryaclearsong421yeah my mom can no longer work a specific work site because some guy was harrasing and stalking her. It was so bad that she won a lawsuit against the work site. But for some reason SHE is the black listed one, and her supporting coworkers were fired as well.
Always remember that HR works for the company to protect the company. The reason they "helped" OP on the first story is because they protect the company by preventing OP to file a S harrasment lawsuit against the boss and the company. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING
^^^ THIS THANK YOU 🙏 I keep seeing comments praising the HR like ??? I understand it was somewhat decent of them to warn her of what could happen but also.. they should have f-ing investigated him in the first place.
Story 3: Imagine letting your ego get in the way of being in a relationship with someone who loves you *and* has good job prospects. OP's ex is an idiot.
agreed most of us guys would kill had a girl like OP, she nice got a good heart and best of it of all, she never brought up the fact she made more money then him, and now she going oversea, basic never see her again I have no doubt OP bf going regret that shit years later and even his family want hm to wife her up, and his friends are not his real friends, they sound like they was jealous of him
At least now he can brag to his friends about losing an important figure in their life who not only supported them finacially, but also emotionally (you can be in a relationship for the money, but you will never find true love that way. Unless you literally bang some bucks).
I wouldn't call insecurity the same thing as "ego" in the same way I wouldn't call peer pressure the same as "willingly participating" Yeah, it's dumb that the guys insecurity kinda blinded him, but in a way, it's understandable.
Story 1: Company did everything right. Sadly, it's uncommon. Story 2: "I want to be the provider" = "I want you trapped and dependant on me so you can't leave and NEED me to survive while I can feel better about myself".
Story 2 ex alos reminds me of Andrea's BF in The Devil Wears Prada. The guy wasn't happy at the fact that she was working a really good job at an iconic fashion industry, while he still wasn't promoted from cook to sous-chef yet. Even though he knew that she needed to work that job so she could later on be a journalist, and knew how important this job was to her because of it, him and her so-called friends reaped the benefits all while giving her crap about it. Andrea and BF eventually broke up, and in the book they reconcile but remain friends, whereas in the movie it's implied that they get back together. Also in the movie, at the moment building up to them implied getting back together, the BF is working the promoted position he wanted, and Andrea was somewhat back as basics where she started in terms of her career. So yeah, this came off as the guy mainly being happy to try again with Andrea because he was in a superior postion to her in his field of work. That mentality just sucks.
When I was 18-20 my female manager spoke way too openly about her sex life. She had no shame admitting that her husband cheats on her so she cheats on him, and how she was basically a coke w40*3 because she'd invite guys who she wasn't even that into to have sex it they brought coke, and she couldn't even orgasm because of her antidepressants. It made me uncomfortable, but I never said anything because in my experience that's just how women are. If they're not romantically into you they'll share WAY too much about sex. One time we spent an entire shift in the bathroom together doing blow and talking, but neither of us made a move because I think she saw me as a kid and I saw her as gross lol
As in all things, context is key. And with that in mind, there is very little context in which such a thing is acceptable. Obvious, exaggerated jokes regarding ficticious "sex" involving your opinion of your taxes or the DMV is one thing. I think everyone has made the "I just got screwed by ____ government office" joke, or the "If corporate is gonna @$#% me, at least buy me dinner" joke. But if anyone is talking about their actual love life at work, and I do mean anyone, HR is the first place you go. A lawyer is the second. Even if HR takes action, having legal counsel guide you is always a good thing. You don't have to sue, but having an attorney in your back pocket is a plus, if you have to take that route. Always keep an ace up your sleeve in situations like that.
@@Dog_in_tree "that's just how women are"? .. ick it may be your personal experience, but please know .. that's not normal and that's not how "women" are. needless to say, a coke addiction would let anyone drop inhibitions and ignore boundaries. and you don't have to play along. if it makes you uncomfortable, say so, you got nothing to lose.
Back when I was in my 20s, my boss' boss' boss informed me if I didn't sleep with him I wouldn't get a raise... delivered like he was ordering from a fast food restaurant. I told him I wasn't aware he was authorized to high 6 figure salary increases. His response was "well, now we know your price". I pointed out it must be embarrassing to know he can't afford me. I got the same raise as everyone else. It was a state COLA (cost of living adjustment).
Last story: the guy is a major idiot. Who cares who makes more money than the other? You’re together for the long haul. You’re a team with your partner…simple as that. This is definitely how ego kills relationships.
OP‘s boyfriend is a grown ass man. He could’ve easily stopped talking to those friends After giving him a hard time. If I had friends who talk to me like that, they would stop being my friends.
The whole time I was thinking "I bet this guy's friends got to him," and halfway through the story...yup! It's always the "friend group" that's responsible for dragging you back down. The sooner you get rid of everyone you knew from childhood, the better. They're only gonna keep trying to stay kids forever. The group has to break up.
And just like that OP is the one who got away. The beautiful successful woman, who moved all the way to Paris after their breakup. I feel sorry for the next girl that idiot dates
So if Levi had just backed off, stopped the harassment and whatnot, he'd still have his job. 🤣 It sounds like OP wasn't going to say anything due to Levi's previous comments about the boss. Did he narc on himself because he was butthurt over not getting the 'yes'? That's fucking hilarious 🤣
I was under the impression it was another coworker who reported it because they felt OP was only getting the promotion because she slept with the boss. That's a common enough accusation, especially since it was probably obvious they had a close relationship. The anonymous reporter was jealous they didn't get the promotion themselves
3- You’ve been with him for SEVEN YEARS! If a seven-year relationship isn't enough to prove that you love him, then why stay together? No one is putting up with someone for seven years just for a green card!
Sure it does. A friend of mine was in Japan for 13 years after his time in the Navy, and the woman he married (and had kids with) really REALLY sold it that she wanted to stay with him. But within a year of repatriating back to the US with his new family, his wife flipped the switch to cold, cleaned out the bank account, ran off with the kids, filed for divorce thorugh the mail. (I was there when the process server showed up at work to hand him the envelope.) It took a good 10 years to finally track her down (she was working as a hooker at some brothel in Nevada) and get her ass deported back to Japan. But at least he has his kids ack now.
S2: BU-friends: “Mooch isn’t that bad, she just has a hard time going out with people. You’re just saying things to make her look awful. Maybe if you weren’t so mean to her and help her once in a while, she wouldn’t be acting that way towards you.” AU-friends: “That trip was just awful!! Mooch was such a nightmare! She barely paid for anything, and continued to act like a spoiled brat the whole time! Why didn’t you tell us how horrible Mooch was?? You should’ve told us before how much Mooch was going to ruin the whole trip for us!!”
In another story, the group invited a mooch out to dinner and then conveniently all had to either pee or get their purse they conveniently "forgot" in the car and those who had to pee would sneak out to and they all left the mooch alone to pay all by herself. I thought this was a good way to handle the situation.
@@MusketeerGweneth Oh yeah. Ive heard of that. Mooch was raising money to buy a fancy car for her, but she never told anyone. The group of doormats continued to allow her to dine with them and after she orders a pretty expensive meal, she’ll excuse herself to the bathroom and never return. So, once OP found out why she was selfishly stealing their money and not helping in paying for the food, they all got together with Mooch for one last time. Since her birthday was pretty close, they all told her to close her eyes and wait cause the present was super big. Mooch did and they all left, before leaving they saw her run out to stop them only for the group to flip her off before driving away. She had the audacity to scream at them all in text to repay her for the very expensive dinner, and of course, she ordered a very expensive meal for her. OP just told her to get it out of her savings for her car before blocking her.
Story 1: I had an older woman who worked with me and she sexually harassed me for over a year and half until she quit. She would constantly say weird compliments, try and give me sexual advice (when I didn’t even ask for it), she grabbed one of the handheld devices we use to clock in out of my back pocket without asking. I never reported because I’m a male I didn’t think anyone would listen.
@ only had one coworker who genuinely believed me but it was known that that coworker and the bitch who was harassing me hated each other so it wasn’t the BEST person to have in my corner
Story 1. Yes, it's true. HR is there to protect the company... from a Massive lawsuit of sexual harassment, sexual exploitation, discrimination, corruption and likely a few crimes I've not thought of... so getting rid of liabilities is their job. LEVI is the liability, all that's needed is more that word against word. Remember that if you're in OPs shoes... get it in writing/photograpic/video always and document everything. Story 2: Entitled POS "friend" you got the OP, just keep doing what you do OP, if you don't just wanna go and loose the "friend". Personally I'd just go no contact with her, if the others wanna be stupid and ignorant, let them. Never accept toxic/entitled people in your social grp, it's not worth the drama. Story 3: Omg a MAN earning less than a Woman? That's so unacceptable. What a weak pathetic man OPs now Ex is. Now how much you earn is the LEAST important part of a relationship in my view but if the family income is higher it's better than lower. Leads at least to less financial stress.
Story 1. I work in a big international company with 15k employees. There's a zero tolerance against bullying, harassment, fraud and retaliation. It's not only the right thing, it's also about compliance to rules necessary to win government contracts. Also, I would never expect that behavior being accepted by the 30+ ppl in my department. It's simply so incredible unprofessional.
Red pill bros always complain that women "only date guys for their resources". Which, yeah, there are some who are exactly like that, but most women don't actually care as long as the two of them are able to live comfortably. The issue is that a lot of dudes get insecure if they aren't the "breadwinner" of the relationship and either pull crap like this, or they start taking their insecurities out on the woman. It's frustrating! Like most things, we're damned if we do and damned if we don't.
I actually met a guy who was basically a "kept man." He was the second/trophy husband of this rich lady I worked for. His job duties consisted of "servicing" her (she was far from ugly) and beating the snot out of her ex if he ever showed up. In return, he had money for a sports car, ATVs, a fishing boat, hunting gear, all the toys. To make the deal even sweeter, he and his stepson were as thick as thieves, and got along awesome. I remember seeing the two of them messing around under the hood of his modified Corvette. If she hadn't had a Karen-ish streak (but much less entitled than her mom and older brother, who I worked for later) I would have envied his position. She and I actually got along great. She kept me around the whole summer, beyond the painting job I hired on for. She said I was the only worker she ever had who could call her "Ma'am" without her thinking it was snarky or demeaning. OTOH, I would have NEVER wanted her Mom as my MIL. She was an absolute nightmare. She was known throughout two counties as "The {rhymes with ditch} of {road}." Imagine if Ebenezer Scrooge and the Mother of all Karens had had a daughter. That is not an exaggeration.
Last OP: make sure you get French benefits Pay may be a bit less, but if you factor in the 6 weeks vacation, that alone is 10% pay difference (compared to US unpaid leave)
Funny, they are my least favorite ones. Feels like a lot of them are fairly redundant compared to the other videos. Or maybe it's because there is rarely any consequence in them, so it feels frustrating to me.
With story 1, I have seen so many different kinds of HR's. One bent over backwards to save people, another colluded with the union to get a guy fired who was on workmans comp, and then a different HR would bow to what ever the customers that held the companies contract told them to do, even firing employees if the customer didn't like them. Basically, learn who is in the hierarchy of your company and how they interact with each other. Sometimes it's obvious when HR only cares about saving the company.
People's default adversarial attitude towards HR is asinine. Yes, they're there to protect the company, and that includes preventing embarrassing lawsuits. Some HR departments are ass, but that's true of anything in life.
This isn't just "randoms" on the internet. It's not a secret that women have a very hard time doing anything about sexual misconduct at work. What this company did isn't the norm. She had a bigger chance getting fired than he did.
@@Clyde-S-Wilcoxexactly they are there only to protect the company... sometimes that means they take the side of the employee to avoid a 7 figure lawsuit That said there is often a good ole boy crew... and they do get protection a lot of times by burying everything they can.
Yes she might have been fired but if I was her I would have gone directly to HR to report her former manager. OP's former manager pulled a sneaky move and of course tried to blame OP and of course tried to blame her. I'm glad OP was vindicated and got her former managers job... JUSTICE. Story Two: Huh how is OP's money her as well but her friend's money is her's huh. OP's friend has one of the biggest cases of self entitlement I've ever heard of. You tried to want your friends that she was going to sponge money from everyone. They need to cut the toxic friend lose because she isn't just that good of a friend. Final Story: Obviously you did love him if you stayed with him for seven years. It felt something was going on behind the scenes and let his friends worm their way into his brain. Kinda sounds like his friends were jealous that he was happy, he let his friends win. Seriously OP I'm glad you ended things because you didn't deserve what your ex put you through
While it's true that HR is there to protect the company, that means management like Levi are generally a HUGE liability. So long as there is at least some evidence or - more likely - a pattern of behavior that others will come forward to confirm, it almost always is a good idea to report such events.
first story: im sorry op, but the moment you decided to NOT report him is the moment you became the fool; the ONLY reason HR did what they are supposed to do is because her higherups got involved and she had verifiable proof, if she would have gone to HR by herself she would of been sacrificed to keep the company from trouble. in short; document everything and always have backups.
The endgame is that the partner ends up stranded in a mobile home in the absolute middle of nowhere, with no car, no phone, and no support system. Whereupon the partner is used as a maid, cook, punching bag and s*x doll.
A different sort of guy would have told his so-called friends "Heck yeah, she makes really good money. I am SO lucky. That's how we can drive nice cars and take cool vacations. If I ever decide to quit my job and look for something else, she's got my back."
I have a friend who was a reverse mouch . Most our friend group would share fries if they had any. Nobody took advantage over others . He would put pepper on his fries so nobody else would eat them
Story 1: OP totally was into it, probably up until he started acting weird and calling her a Ferrari. A 31 yr old woman NOT noticing what's happening when he asks her for weekend OT on the first week? C'mon girl. What he did was still pretty gross, but you don't gotta make stuff up
@ZikedY it doesn't count as "more" consistent. He's at best equally consistent. But even then, he's WAY more likely to skip a day for any reason than RSlash. I mean, it makes sense. One requires a lot more production than the other. But saying he's more consistent is silly.
lol that last op ended up making less in the end… 😂the irony. I can tell you this, that provider thing matters 0% to me. If I find a hot girl that makes 5-10x my salary… I’m hers lol
OP in the 1st story is lucky her boss wasn't recording her discussing her intercourse experiences with him. That complain she made might have backfired. I hope she learned that she should be careful about socializing in her home in situations like that. Especially since it could 'appear" as though they were having a relationship. The woman always loses in these situations (of ambiguity that is).
Story 3: Imagine telling someone “I need you to earn less money so that you can’t afford to pay *my* bills so I look cooler for the boys with late bills”
Don’t Shit where you eat. It’s a risky business dating a coworker everyone thinks it’s going to be like Pam and Jim from the office but no it’s not always like that
In story 3, blud says he wants equality then ends up spitting sexist stuff at the end, we all know what being "the provider" usually entails, that guy did not respect his gf at all. Heartbreaking.
first story: i have a feeling if OP had tried to report it first, then it probably would have ended much worse for OP, since the guy who got fired would easily be able to dodge that bullet and get her fired instead
@@danielhounshell2526 unless she had cameras in her house or some sort of recording nothing can truly be proven in court and most likely the court would side with the dude and the company in this case
It always seems strange to me how men can be so insecure while being shown that their insecurities are wrong and unfounded. I get it, I'm a guy and sometimes I feel the need to brandish myself and shoulder every responsibility, but at some point the light is far too bright to simply ignore without actively ignoring it. And ruining a really good relationship with a girl you clearly love just because she makes more money than you is so insane to me. She deserves better and he needs some therapy and a very real reality check, else he's gonna have terrible luck with women.
11:49 if I noticed that she was going to use the coupon on herself and not me I would as the wait staff to go back and put the meals on two separate checks.
Yeah, I at first assumed that it would be a split situation but then I realized. It's her birthday! Give her the free meal 😂. I would do the same if that happened
Last story: OP's boyfriend wants to be the provider, but he does not want to get married cause he doesn't want to help his gf get visa? What? Wouldn't that be a provider thing to do to help your gf get a residency in your home country? What is he on?
My wife is about to make more than me which will allow me to stay home. I'm scared of not working, but I'm excited that at least she can move up in her workplace where I'm forced to stagnate. Dude was lucky to have both full time partners and could have had life made. He is a loser in several ways.
The last story is a good example of why living together based on some vague promise of marriage and kids is a fools relationship. Seven years OP wasted strung along by an insecure boy whose friends were teasing him over her earning more money. I am not taking the puritanical view against "living in sin" if you want to live together, fine, just dont rely on promises that never are fulfilled.
For the last story- I’m honestly conflicted about this, because I can completely understand both sides. On one hand, I was an immigrant in the US since before I was even in elementary school. Growing up (in a hispanic family) there were many jokes and side remarks about me and other kids in the family marrying a “Guero” so we could get papers, and this stuck with me throughout my life. I told myself that I would never marry someone for any reason outside of love. If I was going to marry, it was because I had found my life partner and not someone who I saw as an easy way to get a better life. But I also have been in a couple serious relationships in which I considered marriage and proposing, tying into my last comment and relating to OP’s situation. I can understand the ex’s point of view, because as I said, this was a fear for me thinking that my partner would think I was only using them. But also, OP is completely valid in feeling that her relationship was ultimately distrustful. I’m leaning towards OP because we know that she actually put in the work and the effort and love to maintain a relationship for almost a decade. But the ex’s side is also valid, outside of the influence from the friends that he was not the “breadwinner”. I agree with OP here, but I can’t help but to think that the ex had some valid reasons for his opinion. Maybe I’m biased because of my past, but I just can’t bring myself to think negatively about the ex’s feelings… Thoughts?
I’m Hispanic too and my mom was from Mexico who married a Mexican American but he was more of a guero, almost immediately. Like I get it but I do feel you’re being a bit biased as remember he asking her to quit her job and get a less paying one to heal his ego, he taking his friends words over OP words and love, he insecure that he’s not a provider when he should support her, also remember he refuse to take couples therapy as he doesn’t think his reasons is unreasonable. He said he never expect OP to make more money right off the bat meaning he held these feelings for a long time and feels embarrassed by his friends, even after OP said she loved him and was paying him back he told her he still felt insecure and wanted her to quit so he can be the provider. Plus you think after 7 years he finally trusts her especially when she was paying him back as usually people who want green card marry as soon as possible (at least from my experience as several of my family members from Mexico did marry for cards or fell victim to a green card marriage), it showed at least to me he never fully trusted her all long as what else does she have to do and how long would it be enough for him to trust her? Plus it seem his family adores her, yet he still always had doubts of OP. I think he finally showed his true face of being a insecure boy who’s more concerned about his self and image, as that thought is a red flag and misogynistic, especially since he’s not willing to change or meet OP the middle (remember, she offered him to go back to Indonesia with her and he refuse). His reasons could’ve been valid, but only in the first few years of the relationship, not one in many years especially since they discussed about marriage and kids before which is worsening his character as it could mean, he was leading her on despite knowing what she truly wanted in a relationship. He just a selfish idiot and should’ve been happy for OP and not get insecure over her making more money and asking her to quit to get a less paying job. Which in itself is dumb since apparently OP pays for everything so I don’t know why he thought the one who makes the most money should quit when they probably won’t have it easier on his lesser salary which would make them struggle . Again worsening his character showing he’d rather make them struggle just so his ego is fixed instead of thinking of the future.
What the shit was that fumble in the last story! This guy's poor little ego couldn't take not being the primary earner so much that he... Lost a honest chance at love, with a woman who seemed to like him for him. What a waste of oxygen.
I disagree with the visa mule in the last story. Clearly, if that woman got upset about not getting married before she got her visa, then she wanted to get her visa from the marriage so she didn’t have so much difficulty. That point of not wanting to get married until she gets her own visa is entirely as that’s often what happens and even if it wouldn’t be her intent, it could very well end up like that. Good for him for being with the woman.
The guy in The last story fumbled the bag HARD. She chose the words of his friends, and his fragile masculine ego over having a loving, supportive woman. He's pathetic.
Guarantee that guy in the last story will resent becoming the "provider" and regret breaking up with OP. He'll feel used & hate having to pay for everything.
Mooch friends are the worst especially when they know you earn more. My friends now aren’t like that but in the past it was always “you should book the Uber” “you should pay the tab” “you should put your card down” which was fine at first but no one wants to be that friend that says “hey you never paid me back” when it’s what they should do
I'm yet another woman who is surprised things turned out well for OP#1 - when my boss SAed me, a fellow supervisor reported it to HR without my knowledge, and HR fired BOTH of us. I brought it to the EEOC, and after a 2+ year investigation, they ruled that the company hadn't violated any laws.
Story 3: Who cares if one earns more than the other, and I mean who REALLY cares? He basically screwed himself out of a pretty nice relationship because he is not the one with more money
Food sharing story: could anyone explain to me why someone would remain friends with someone they seemingly don’t like? Like this friend is obviously very entitled and OP even outright called them manipulative. Why still hang out with them? They’ve been having problems since high school? Why keep talking? Why keep that person around? I legitimately don’t understand.
@@Arylwren1 but like if someone is really making your life that difficult, why torture yourself? And that can’t be the reason in every single case ever and even in OP’s case here, why keep them if they’d prefer someone like that over OP? Sure, they came around, but they were so ready to sacrifice them for this shitty person. Is it like a neurotypical thing to be able to put up with the worse kinds of people just for the sake of “well other people would put up with it”? Like if it was me here I would’ve said “fuck you then” when they preferred keeping AP (annoying person) around even at the cost of OP not being there (I wouldn’t be friends with a single one of them after this tbfh) and then when they did the group message I’d be like “yeah I know I told you this would happen” and remove myself from the group and then block them lol
there are cases, where employees go to HR and are not believed. and then there are cases, where the victim is strong enough to not even report the creep but once its reported, the company acts rapidly. refreshing.
Last story: OP's ex is what they call in Indonesia, orang bodoh. Trust is what builds relationships. My wife is Indonesian, and honestly, I could not have asked for someone better. I don't care what she earns or what she does. We cheer up each other's day.
*Story 1:* YES HR only protects the company, from major Lawsuits! The minute he fired her, she could've sued! And with all that evidence the company would've been in trouble! Which is WHY they did what they did! *Story 2:* Okay, time to start writing about my Ex-Friend and why we are no longer friends! This really hits home with me paying for so much and not seeing the damn Red Flags! YES! I know I'm the Idiot! Please don't rub it in when I do post it! *Story 3:* Okay, this DUDE is an absolute imbecile! Seriously?! You know those are the same friends that will laugh him outta the room when he says that he and OP broke up and that she's now in Paris, France living her life!
Yeeeah, because a person would waste 7 entire years of their life with a person they didn't love just to get a greencard, even though they literally have a job and many other options. That dude needs to learn that he's not worth that effort and she would've chosen someone else if it was just for a quick greencard 😂
HR is there to protect the company, you just have to make them see that protecting you IS protecting the company. Always walk into those situations with a (or the threat of a) lawyer. Let the company know you're not only going to sue Tham, but blast them on any and every social/traditional media that you can get your hands on. That you'll be a thorn in their side forever.
Last story: I had a bf like that who said that me being the only employed one between the two of us made him feel “like less of a man”. His solution? That I should quit my job, not that he should get a job. I did end up quitting for unrelated reasons but stayed with him (I was 22 and stupid), and a few months later, he WAS the sole earner. Guess what he did? Held that fact over my head, used it to manipulate me, and put a heavy guilt trip on me for not “paying my own way”. At one point, I was eating leftover baked potatoes and corn on the cob from the restaurant he worked at for EVERY MEAL. Yeah that’s about when I took off lol.
That BF in the last story is the king of fumbling. You're telling me that you've dated someone for SEVEN YEARS and **still** think that there's a chance they're using you for a visa? If they really wanted a visa, they would not have waited in a relationship for 7 years without being more pushy. Yeesh. 7 years is a long time. But apparently for some it's not long enough, nevermind the fact that for a lot of people that will be a 10th of their entire life.
Dude, you can be married for 10, and she still leaves because she doesn't feel the "butterflies" anymore. Side note, at least I have the kids.
@@fallskjermjeger. While I do understand this and it does happen, I think that the reason the BF gave was completely unfounded. There are plenty of people who would have been desperate and lonely that OP could have tried to get a visa from, but she chose to spend her time with the BF instead. The visa only became a concern because of her losing her job and the idea of getting married was a way for them to both not have to worry about it
I mean, even if she is just using him and is planning to divorce him when her green card is secure, he could get alimony. Money is money, no matter who it comes from.
"You're telling me that you've dated someone for SEVEN YEARS and *still* think that there's a chance they're using you for a visa?"
Well, yes actually. Called a long con. Best way to find out is to have them agree to certain documents. Such as a prenup, and another saying that your marriage is not to be considered a factor in their citizenship. Found that one out the fun way.
He’s lyïng. He doesn’t want to marry her and that’s his excuse. He’s only flustered bc he’s gonna lose his sëx bc she’s gonna get deported. He’s dïsgusting.
The OP in Story 1 found the rare company where HR is actually a decent place - not the usual "We will sacrifice you to protect the company" department. I'm actually shocked.
A lot of the companies I worked for would have taken that very seriously. And taking it seriously is how you protect the company.
that what I was said that when we heard story like this, it alway the opposite of the women get fired or threat to get fired if she report it and OP it very luck to
HR is only out to protect the company. Today, unlike years ago, HR will take any sexual misconduct claim seriously and usually let go the one accused of it, even with very little evidence. The company risks a lot not doing that and risks an unlawful termination lawsuit if they let the accuser go. Sadly, though, if the allegations are of a homosexual nature, then the accuser isn't believed.
You clearly haven't been paying attention to the world lately. It's so easy to get a man fired on the mere accusation of SA that it's been weaponized. OP in this story was actually a victim.
@@dl200010 Though now thankfully they also have to worry about the same if the man is innocent.
OP in story 1 is lucky. When my bosses boss sexually assaulted me, HR told me that if I made a formal report I’d be blacklisted from my industry and nothing would happen to him.
That's when you get a lawyer and sue them
Yeah. He *told* you. Shockingly sometimes people take sexual assault seriously.
It is unfortunate that happened to you and you were treated that way. A lot of companies that I have worked for would have taken that very seriously.
@@javaman7199 Unfortunately I think this is more common. HR warned her but they normally don't. Normally the person just does their best to report, sue, press charges, etc and nothing comes of it. Charges get dropped. Lawsuits go nowhere. Then the person who was harmed can't get a job in their own field.
It's like being a whistleblower, but more damaging to your professional reputation.
@@tiryaclearsong421yeah my mom can no longer work a specific work site because some guy was harrasing and stalking her. It was so bad that she won a lawsuit against the work site. But for some reason SHE is the black listed one, and her supporting coworkers were fired as well.
Always remember that HR works for the company to protect the company.
The reason they "helped" OP on the first story is because they protect the company by preventing OP to file a S harrasment lawsuit against the boss and the company.
DOCUMENT EVERYTHING
^^^ THIS THANK YOU 🙏 I keep seeing comments praising the HR like ??? I understand it was somewhat decent of them to warn her of what could happen but also.. they should have f-ing investigated him in the first place.
Yep, this wasn't HR protecting OP, it was "damage control" to protect the company. 😮
@@lancerevell5979 It just happened in this case to work out well for OP
Story 3: Imagine letting your ego get in the way of being in a relationship with someone who loves you *and* has good job prospects. OP's ex is an idiot.
agreed most of us guys would kill had a girl like OP, she nice got a good heart and best of it of all, she never brought up the fact she made more money then him, and now she going oversea, basic never see her again I have no doubt OP bf going regret that shit years later and even his family want hm to wife her up, and his friends are not his real friends, they sound like they was jealous of him
At least now he can brag to his friends about losing an important figure in their life who not only supported them finacially, but also emotionally (you can be in a relationship for the money, but you will never find true love that way. Unless you literally bang some bucks).
thats what fragile masculinity does to a man.
@@SoldierSpiderx
I agree with the jealousy on the friends part
I wouldn't call insecurity the same thing as "ego" in the same way I wouldn't call peer pressure the same as "willingly participating"
Yeah, it's dumb that the guys insecurity kinda blinded him, but in a way, it's understandable.
Story 1: Company did everything right. Sadly, it's uncommon.
Story 2: "I want to be the provider" = "I want you trapped and dependant on me so you can't leave and NEED me to survive while I can feel better about myself".
You mean 3?
Story 2 ex alos reminds me of Andrea's BF in The Devil Wears Prada. The guy wasn't happy at the fact that she was working a really good job at an iconic fashion industry, while he still wasn't promoted from cook to sous-chef yet. Even though he knew that she needed to work that job so she could later on be a journalist, and knew how important this job was to her because of it, him and her so-called friends reaped the benefits all while giving her crap about it. Andrea and BF eventually broke up, and in the book they reconcile but remain friends, whereas in the movie it's implied that they get back together. Also in the movie, at the moment building up to them implied getting back together, the BF is working the promoted position he wanted, and Andrea was somewhat back as basics where she started in terms of her career. So yeah, this came off as the guy mainly being happy to try again with Andrea because he was in a superior postion to her in his field of work. That mentality just sucks.
Ladies and gentlemen, as soon as your boss brings up their sex life, report them.
And never let them invite themselves to your place.
When I was 18-20 my female manager spoke way too openly about her sex life. She had no shame admitting that her husband cheats on her so she cheats on him, and how she was basically a coke w40*3 because she'd invite guys who she wasn't even that into to have sex it they brought coke, and she couldn't even orgasm because of her antidepressants. It made me uncomfortable, but I never said anything because in my experience that's just how women are. If they're not romantically into you they'll share WAY too much about sex. One time we spent an entire shift in the bathroom together doing blow and talking, but neither of us made a move because I think she saw me as a kid and I saw her as gross lol
As in all things, context is key. And with that in mind, there is very little context in which such a thing is acceptable. Obvious, exaggerated jokes regarding ficticious "sex" involving your opinion of your taxes or the DMV is one thing. I think everyone has made the "I just got screwed by ____ government office" joke, or the "If corporate is gonna @$#% me, at least buy me dinner" joke.
But if anyone is talking about their actual love life at work, and I do mean anyone, HR is the first place you go. A lawyer is the second. Even if HR takes action, having legal counsel guide you is always a good thing. You don't have to sue, but having an attorney in your back pocket is a plus, if you have to take that route. Always keep an ace up your sleeve in situations like that.
@@Dog_in_tree "that's just how women are"? .. ick
it may be your personal experience, but please know .. that's not normal and that's not how "women" are. needless to say, a coke addiction would let anyone drop inhibitions and ignore boundaries. and you don't have to play along. if it makes you uncomfortable, say so, you got nothing to lose.
Yes. Work shouldn't be mixed with sex and relationships. NEVER.
Back when I was in my 20s, my boss' boss' boss informed me if I didn't sleep with him I wouldn't get a raise... delivered like he was ordering from a fast food restaurant. I told him I wasn't aware he was authorized to high 6 figure salary increases. His response was "well, now we know your price". I pointed out it must be embarrassing to know he can't afford me.
I got the same raise as everyone else. It was a state COLA (cost of living adjustment).
Last story: the guy is a major idiot. Who cares who makes more money than the other? You’re together for the long haul. You’re a team with your partner…simple as that. This is definitely how ego kills relationships.
His friends did.
Sadly a lot of toxic manly men 'friendships' are all about MAN! and MASCULINITY! so there is social bullying there :-(
@@RealCoolstriker64 His friend he could just lie to.
OP‘s boyfriend is a grown ass man. He could’ve easily stopped talking to those friends After giving him a hard time.
If I had friends who talk to me like that, they would stop being my friends.
The whole time I was thinking "I bet this guy's friends got to him," and halfway through the story...yup! It's always the "friend group" that's responsible for dragging you back down. The sooner you get rid of everyone you knew from childhood, the better. They're only gonna keep trying to stay kids forever. The group has to break up.
Last story: "hey babe, you are to much of a catch, mind being a bit worse so I look good."
And just like that OP is the one who got away. The beautiful successful woman, who moved all the way to Paris after their breakup. I feel sorry for the next girl that idiot dates
his friends are not his real friends that I bet they was jealous of OP bf, who make alot money, that I have no doubt OP bf going regret it years later
So if Levi had just backed off, stopped the harassment and whatnot, he'd still have his job. 🤣 It sounds like OP wasn't going to say anything due to Levi's previous comments about the boss. Did he narc on himself because he was butthurt over not getting the 'yes'? That's fucking hilarious 🤣
Of course he could have just paid for such in Nevada. Definitely cheaper than losing a 150k job over it.
I was under the impression it was another coworker who reported it because they felt OP was only getting the promotion because she slept with the boss. That's a common enough accusation, especially since it was probably obvious they had a close relationship. The anonymous reporter was jealous they didn't get the promotion themselves
@@gwenyvierel2098 That would've been likely if the details weren't so close. Another employee wouldn't have that knowledge.
@black1917 yeah. Its anonymous too. Probably levi.
3- You’ve been with him for SEVEN YEARS! If a seven-year relationship isn't enough to prove that you love him, then why stay together? No one is putting up with someone for seven years just for a green card!
LOL Right! If she really wanted "just a green card" there are plenty of desperate people willing to do that for her.
Sure it does. A friend of mine was in Japan for 13 years after his time in the Navy, and the woman he married (and had kids with) really REALLY sold it that she wanted to stay with him. But within a year of repatriating back to the US with his new family, his wife flipped the switch to cold, cleaned out the bank account, ran off with the kids, filed for divorce thorugh the mail. (I was there when the process server showed up at work to hand him the envelope.) It took a good 10 years to finally track her down (she was working as a hooker at some brothel in Nevada) and get her ass deported back to Japan. But at least he has his kids ack now.
You would be surprised what people can do for a green card.
@@adamb89that sounds like the wife had a mental breakdown more so than her plotting for 13 years.
Whats a green card??
Those same friends in story 3 I guarantee that they will laugh the bf out of the room when he tells them that he and OP broke up
He probably just told his friends she was with him for the green card
S2: BU-friends: “Mooch isn’t that bad, she just has a hard time going out with people. You’re just saying things to make her look awful. Maybe if you weren’t so mean to her and help her once in a while, she wouldn’t be acting that way towards you.”
AU-friends: “That trip was just awful!! Mooch was such a nightmare! She barely paid for anything, and continued to act like a spoiled brat the whole time! Why didn’t you tell us how horrible Mooch was?? You should’ve told us before how much Mooch was going to ruin the whole trip for us!!”
In another story, the group invited a mooch out to dinner and then conveniently all had to either pee or get their purse they conveniently "forgot" in the car and those who had to pee would sneak out to and they all left the mooch alone to pay all by herself. I thought this was a good way to handle the situation.
@@MusketeerGweneth Oh yeah. Ive heard of that. Mooch was raising money to buy a fancy car for her, but she never told anyone. The group of doormats continued to allow her to dine with them and after she orders a pretty expensive meal, she’ll excuse herself to the bathroom and never return.
So, once OP found out why she was selfishly stealing their money and not helping in paying for the food, they all got together with Mooch for one last time. Since her birthday was pretty close, they all told her to close her eyes and wait cause the present was super big. Mooch did and they all left, before leaving they saw her run out to stop them only for the group to flip her off before driving away.
She had the audacity to scream at them all in text to repay her for the very expensive dinner, and of course, she ordered a very expensive meal for her. OP just told her to get it out of her savings for her car before blocking her.
@@poohbear4515 Wow, you remembered more of the details than I did. 👍
Story 1: I had an older woman who worked with me and she sexually harassed me for over a year and half until she quit. She would constantly say weird compliments, try and give me sexual advice (when I didn’t even ask for it), she grabbed one of the handheld devices we use to clock in out of my back pocket without asking. I never reported because I’m a male I didn’t think anyone would listen.
You definitely shouldve. Document, document, document. Its always a good idea.
@ only had one coworker who genuinely believed me but it was known that that coworker and the bitch who was harassing me hated each other so it wasn’t the BEST person to have in my corner
Story 1. Yes, it's true. HR is there to protect the company... from a Massive lawsuit of sexual harassment, sexual exploitation, discrimination, corruption and likely a few crimes I've not thought of... so getting rid of liabilities is their job. LEVI is the liability, all that's needed is more that word against word. Remember that if you're in OPs shoes... get it in writing/photograpic/video always and document everything.
Story 2: Entitled POS "friend" you got the OP, just keep doing what you do OP, if you don't just wanna go and loose the "friend". Personally I'd just go no contact with her, if the others wanna be stupid and ignorant, let them. Never accept toxic/entitled people in your social grp, it's not worth the drama.
Story 3: Omg a MAN earning less than a Woman? That's so unacceptable. What a weak pathetic man OPs now Ex is. Now how much you earn is the LEAST important part of a relationship in my view but if the family income is higher it's better than lower. Leads at least to less financial stress.
Story 1, the other part of it was that he was sharing information about his sex life to groom her for such.
Story 1. I work in a big international company with 15k employees. There's a zero tolerance against bullying, harassment, fraud and retaliation. It's not only the right thing, it's also about compliance to rules necessary to win government contracts. Also, I would never expect that behavior being accepted by the 30+ ppl in my department. It's simply so incredible unprofessional.
*Story 2:* Reminds me of my Ex-Friend. Glad I'm done with him!
@@javaman7199Oh, yeah. I didnt even notice that.
Red pill bros always complain that women "only date guys for their resources". Which, yeah, there are some who are exactly like that, but most women don't actually care as long as the two of them are able to live comfortably. The issue is that a lot of dudes get insecure if they aren't the "breadwinner" of the relationship and either pull crap like this, or they start taking their insecurities out on the woman. It's frustrating! Like most things, we're damned if we do and damned if we don't.
I actually met a guy who was basically a "kept man." He was the second/trophy husband of this rich lady I worked for. His job duties consisted of "servicing" her (she was far from ugly) and beating the snot out of her ex if he ever showed up. In return, he had money for a sports car, ATVs, a fishing boat, hunting gear, all the toys. To make the deal even sweeter, he and his stepson were as thick as thieves, and got along awesome. I remember seeing the two of them messing around under the hood of his modified Corvette.
If she hadn't had a Karen-ish streak (but much less entitled than her mom and older brother, who I worked for later) I would have envied his position. She and I actually got along great. She kept me around the whole summer, beyond the painting job I hired on for. She said I was the only worker she ever had who could call her "Ma'am" without her thinking it was snarky or demeaning.
OTOH, I would have NEVER wanted her Mom as my MIL. She was an absolute nightmare. She was known throughout two counties as "The {rhymes with ditch} of {road}." Imagine if Ebenezer Scrooge and the Mother of all Karens had had a daughter. That is not an exaggeration.
Story 1: op got lucky that she didn’t report Levi and that Levi basically reported himself always keep records of harassment
Self report, basic noob tactic.
Last OP: make sure you get French benefits Pay may be a bit less, but if you factor in the 6 weeks vacation, that alone is 10% pay difference (compared to US unpaid leave)
Story one. Uhh you might want to see about having that Chair and Desk replaced, just you know, for the implications.
Man I feel bad for sorry 1. This story just reinforces my opinion that I shouldn't buddy up with anyone at work, male or female
I still miss Choosingbeggars, those were really funny.
Choosingbeggars is why I subscribed to fSlash a couple of years ago.
@linuxuser4895 it was that and entitled parents for me lol
Funny, they are my least favorite ones.
Feels like a lot of them are fairly redundant compared to the other videos.
Or maybe it's because there is rarely any consequence in them, so it feels frustrating to me.
@lanychabot-laroche135 he has something for everyone lol I watch all of them though 😂
no one cares
In the last story, you just know that if she did quit and got a lower paying job, that her boyfriend would then call her a gold digger
Story 1: Anyone experiencing this, please report ASAP!
He covered the last story ages ago. His narration style has gotten so much better
Rslash you should do the funny subreddits again
Agreed definitely some feel good stories
Me still lingering on the Malicious Compliance playlist
Am I the only one who cringes hard hearing “cue malicious compliance”
Me who is still waiting for more nuclear revenge stories 💀
@@319hiroyuki Why stop there? Confidently Incorrect is ripe for the taking!
You know Levi is an anagram of Evil
OMG that means ppl are walking around with Evil's pants all over the world.
He risked a 150k job to get laid. Um, you probably could have purchased that for a lot less in Nevada.
Also Veil
And Vile
And Live
With story 1, I have seen so many different kinds of HR's. One bent over backwards to save people, another colluded with the union to get a guy fired who was on workmans comp, and then a different HR would bow to what ever the customers that held the companies contract told them to do, even firing employees if the customer didn't like them.
Basically, learn who is in the hierarchy of your company and how they interact with each other. Sometimes it's obvious when HR only cares about saving the company.
14:00 It's sad to think that it was her who didn't know what kind of pathetic he is.
6:43 this is why you dont listen to randoms online who don't know how things work. He could have been fired much sooner.
People's default adversarial attitude towards HR is asinine. Yes, they're there to protect the company, and that includes preventing embarrassing lawsuits. Some HR departments are ass, but that's true of anything in life.
This isn't just "randoms" on the internet. It's not a secret that women have a very hard time doing anything about sexual misconduct at work. What this company did isn't the norm. She had a bigger chance getting fired than he did.
...said the random online
Her boss wasn’t a random or on the internet???
@@Clyde-S-Wilcoxexactly they are there only to protect the company... sometimes that means they take the side of the employee to avoid a 7 figure lawsuit
That said there is often a good ole boy crew... and they do get protection a lot of times by burying everything they can.
Final story is one of the hardest fumbles I have ever heard.
Yes she might have been fired but if I was her I would have gone directly to HR to report her former manager. OP's former manager pulled a sneaky move and of course tried to blame OP and of course tried to blame her. I'm glad OP was vindicated and got her former managers job... JUSTICE. Story Two: Huh how is OP's money her as well but her friend's money is her's huh. OP's friend has one of the biggest cases of self entitlement I've ever heard of. You tried to want your friends that she was going to sponge money from everyone. They need to cut the toxic friend lose because she isn't just that good of a friend. Final Story: Obviously you did love him if you stayed with him for seven years. It felt something was going on behind the scenes and let his friends worm their way into his brain. Kinda sounds like his friends were jealous that he was happy, he let his friends win. Seriously OP I'm glad you ended things because you didn't deserve what your ex put you through
Do you really want to keep working for a company that tolerates s*xual harassment?
Aw I love when R slash talks about his wife and/or his daughter. You can tell he is crazy about them. So wholesome. ❤
While it's true that HR is there to protect the company, that means management like Levi are generally a HUGE liability. So long as there is at least some evidence or - more likely - a pattern of behavior that others will come forward to confirm, it almost always is a good idea to report such events.
If i was sitting in Levi's chair I would have to burn the chair sanitize the area and get me a new chair
Remember HR is there to protect the company NOT THE MANAGER.
first story: im sorry op, but the moment you decided to NOT report him is the moment you became the fool; the ONLY reason HR did what they are supposed to do is because her higherups got involved and she had verifiable proof, if she would have gone to HR by herself she would of been sacrificed to keep the company from trouble.
in short; document everything and always have backups.
why all of those provider bros always try to make their partner quit their jobs, instead of just getting a better job
The endgame is that the partner ends up stranded in a mobile home in the absolute middle of nowhere, with no car, no phone, and no support system. Whereupon the partner is used as a maid, cook, punching bag and s*x doll.
16:00 Ahh, the manosphere brain rot strikes again!
Last story: BF was a total dumb @ss.
A different sort of guy would have told his so-called friends "Heck yeah, she makes really good money. I am SO lucky. That's how we can drive nice cars and take cool vacations. If I ever decide to quit my job and look for something else, she's got my back."
I have a friend who was a reverse mouch . Most our friend group would share fries if they had any. Nobody took advantage over others . He would put pepper on his fries so nobody else would eat them
Story 1: all I can think is requesting a new chair and hazmat scrubbing the computer and desk
Story 1: OP totally was into it, probably up until he started acting weird and calling her a Ferrari. A 31 yr old woman NOT noticing what's happening when he asks her for weekend OT on the first week? C'mon girl. What he did was still pretty gross, but you don't gotta make stuff up
2:09 obv this should not happen HOWEVER: There's no way this lady didn't see this one coming, I refuse to believe this came as a genuine shock to her.
She mentioned he uncomfortably talked about sex before inviting him over. She knew 100% what this was.
Rslash the most consistent youtuber
Philip DeFranco is definitely more consistent
@@destinedtogamenah. Phil takes a 3 day break from posting every week.
@@juliachatwin3907i mean, that does count as consistent
@ZikedY it doesn't count as "more" consistent. He's at best equally consistent. But even then, he's WAY more likely to skip a day for any reason than RSlash. I mean, it makes sense. One requires a lot more production than the other. But saying he's more consistent is silly.
because no one else uploads daily. nope. not a single other channel. uh huh
lol that last op ended up making less in the end… 😂the irony. I can tell you this, that provider thing matters 0% to me. If I find a hot girl that makes 5-10x my salary… I’m hers lol
Story 3 sounds like OP's bf wants to be a passport bro, but is too lazy to actually get a passport. Op deserves a man, not a gooner.
OP in the 1st story is lucky her boss wasn't recording her discussing her intercourse experiences with him. That complain she made might have backfired. I hope she learned that she should be careful about socializing in her home in situations like that. Especially since it could 'appear" as though they were having a relationship. The woman always loses in these situations (of ambiguity that is).
Op, you better sleep with me or you are fired!!😡. Benson if he was an utter creep
Oh god this reminds me of that meat cannon parody of regular show 😭🤮
@@NerveWrecordsPro I never saw the actual video but I guess it was horrific
Story 3: Imagine telling someone “I need you to earn less money so that you can’t afford to pay *my* bills so I look cooler for the boys with late bills”
Don’t Shit where you eat. It’s a risky business dating a coworker everyone thinks it’s going to be like Pam and Jim from the office but no it’s not always like that
Story 1- by not reporting sexual predators you are allowing them to hurt others after you, please speak up
In story 3, blud says he wants equality then ends up spitting sexist stuff at the end, we all know what being "the provider" usually entails, that guy did not respect his gf at all. Heartbreaking.
first story: i have a feeling if OP had tried to report it first, then it probably would have ended much worse for OP, since the guy who got fired would easily be able to dodge that bullet and get her fired instead
And if that happened, and she had evidence of her interactions with him, that company would be in for an embarrassingly massive lawsuit.
@@danielhounshell2526 unless she had cameras in her house or some sort of recording nothing can truly be proven in court and most likely the court would side with the dude and the company in this case
It always seems strange to me how men can be so insecure while being shown that their insecurities are wrong and unfounded. I get it, I'm a guy and sometimes I feel the need to brandish myself and shoulder every responsibility, but at some point the light is far too bright to simply ignore without actively ignoring it. And ruining a really good relationship with a girl you clearly love just because she makes more money than you is so insane to me. She deserves better and he needs some therapy and a very real reality check, else he's gonna have terrible luck with women.
11:49 if I noticed that she was going to use the coupon on herself and not me I would as the wait staff to go back and put the meals on two separate checks.
Yeah, I at first assumed that it would be a split situation but then I realized. It's her birthday! Give her the free meal 😂. I would do the same if that happened
Last story: OP's boyfriend wants to be the provider, but he does not want to get married cause he doesn't want to help his gf get visa? What? Wouldn't that be a provider thing to do to help your gf get a residency in your home country? What is he on?
Nobody hangs out for seven years in a relationship to get a green card
7 years cold feet. Dude never planned on it.
Happy Saturday, Slashers!
I thought slashers were movies, but is that what we Rslash fans are calling ourselves now? Ok...
It's trauma city on this episode of rslash
More like the ASEAN edition
The girl in the last story dodged a HUGE bullet!!
My wife is about to make more than me which will allow me to stay home. I'm scared of not working, but I'm excited that at least she can move up in her workplace where I'm forced to stagnate. Dude was lucky to have both full time partners and could have had life made. He is a loser in several ways.
11:04 that person would’ve never gone on a trip with me
Story 3: So... the boyfriend is misogynistic. The trash took itself out.
The last story is a good example of why living together based on some vague promise of marriage and kids is a fools relationship. Seven years OP wasted strung along by an insecure boy whose friends were teasing him over her earning more money. I am not taking the puritanical view against "living in sin" if you want to live together, fine, just dont rely on promises that never are fulfilled.
For the last story- I’m honestly conflicted about this, because I can completely understand both sides. On one hand, I was an immigrant in the US since before I was even in elementary school. Growing up (in a hispanic family) there were many jokes and side remarks about me and other kids in the family marrying a “Guero” so we could get papers, and this stuck with me throughout my life. I told myself that I would never marry someone for any reason outside of love. If I was going to marry, it was because I had found my life partner and not someone who I saw as an easy way to get a better life. But I also have been in a couple serious relationships in which I considered marriage and proposing, tying into my last comment and relating to OP’s situation. I can understand the ex’s point of view, because as I said, this was a fear for me thinking that my partner would think I was only using them. But also, OP is completely valid in feeling that her relationship was ultimately distrustful. I’m leaning towards OP because we know that she actually put in the work and the effort and love to maintain a relationship for almost a decade. But the ex’s side is also valid, outside of the influence from the friends that he was not the “breadwinner”. I agree with OP here, but I can’t help but to think that the ex had some valid reasons for his opinion. Maybe I’m biased because of my past, but I just can’t bring myself to think negatively about the ex’s feelings… Thoughts?
I’m Hispanic too and my mom was from Mexico who married a Mexican American but he was more of a guero, almost immediately. Like I get it but I do feel you’re being a bit biased as remember he asking her to quit her job and get a less paying one to heal his ego, he taking his friends words over OP words and love, he insecure that he’s not a provider when he should support her, also remember he refuse to take couples therapy as he doesn’t think his reasons is unreasonable. He said he never expect OP to make more money right off the bat meaning he held these feelings for a long time and feels embarrassed by his friends, even after OP said she loved him and was paying him back he told her he still felt insecure and wanted her to quit so he can be the provider. Plus you think after 7 years he finally trusts her especially when she was paying him back as usually people who want green card marry as soon as possible (at least from my experience as several of my family members from Mexico did marry for cards or fell victim to a green card marriage), it showed at least to me he never fully trusted her all long as what else does she have to do and how long would it be enough for him to trust her?
Plus it seem his family adores her, yet he still always had doubts of OP. I think he finally showed his true face of being a insecure boy who’s more concerned about his self and image, as that thought is a red flag and misogynistic, especially since he’s not willing to change or meet OP the middle (remember, she offered him to go back to Indonesia with her and he refuse). His reasons could’ve been valid, but only in the first few years of the relationship, not one in many years especially since they discussed about marriage and kids before which is worsening his character as it could mean, he was leading her on despite knowing what she truly wanted in a relationship. He just a selfish idiot and should’ve been happy for OP and not get insecure over her making more money and asking her to quit to get a less paying job. Which in itself is dumb since apparently OP pays for everything so I don’t know why he thought the one who makes the most money should quit when they probably won’t have it easier on his lesser salary which would make them struggle . Again worsening his character showing he’d rather make them struggle just so his ego is fixed instead of thinking of the future.
Last story: He’s an idiot and either looking for an out or watching too many alpha bro podcasts
Probably both.
HR is there to protect the company. If HR did its job, levy would be fired because that opens the company to a lawsuit otherwise.
What the shit was that fumble in the last story! This guy's poor little ego couldn't take not being the primary earner so much that he... Lost a honest chance at love, with a woman who seemed to like him for him. What a waste of oxygen.
People like the boyfriend in story 3 irk me in a way I can’t even explain.
I disagree with the visa mule in the last story. Clearly, if that woman got upset about not getting married before she got her visa, then she wanted to get her visa from the marriage so she didn’t have so much difficulty. That point of not wanting to get married until she gets her own visa is entirely as that’s often what happens and even if it wouldn’t be her intent, it could very well end up like that. Good for him for being with the woman.
The guy in The last story fumbled the bag HARD. She chose the words of his friends, and his fragile masculine ego over having a loving, supportive woman. He's pathetic.
First story- Disinfect every corner of the office!!!
Legendary fumble holy smokes.
Whatever company OP 1 works for, every company needs to strive to be more like that company
Guarantee that guy in the last story will resent becoming the "provider" and regret breaking up with OP. He'll feel used & hate having to pay for everything.
>Be me
>Be named Levi
>Watch this and panic
"I could never bus tables" if the only available job is cleaning toilets, you roll up your sleeves and get scrubbing.
Mooch friends are the worst especially when they know you earn more. My friends now aren’t like that but in the past it was always “you should book the Uber” “you should pay the tab” “you should put your card down” which was fine at first but no one wants to be that friend that says “hey you never paid me back” when it’s what they should do
That pee pee comment at the end slayed me. 😂😂😂
I'm yet another woman who is surprised things turned out well for OP#1 - when my boss SAed me, a fellow supervisor reported it to HR without my knowledge, and HR fired BOTH of us. I brought it to the EEOC, and after a 2+ year investigation, they ruled that the company hadn't violated any laws.
Story 3: Who cares if one earns more than the other, and I mean who REALLY cares? He basically screwed himself out of a pretty nice relationship because he is not the one with more money
goooooood morning rSlash fam!
Food sharing story: could anyone explain to me why someone would remain friends with someone they seemingly don’t like? Like this friend is obviously very entitled and OP even outright called them manipulative. Why still hang out with them? They’ve been having problems since high school? Why keep talking? Why keep that person around? I legitimately don’t understand.
Not wanting to leave a freind group.
@@Arylwren1 but like if someone is really making your life that difficult, why torture yourself? And that can’t be the reason in every single case ever and even in OP’s case here, why keep them if they’d prefer someone like that over OP? Sure, they came around, but they were so ready to sacrifice them for this shitty person. Is it like a neurotypical thing to be able to put up with the worse kinds of people just for the sake of “well other people would put up with it”? Like if it was me here I would’ve said “fuck you then” when they preferred keeping AP (annoying person) around even at the cost of OP not being there (I wouldn’t be friends with a single one of them after this tbfh) and then when they did the group message I’d be like “yeah I know I told you this would happen” and remove myself from the group and then block them lol
there are cases, where employees go to HR and are not believed. and then there are cases, where the victim is strong enough to not even report the creep but once its reported, the company acts rapidly. refreshing.
Last story: OP's ex is what they call in Indonesia, orang bodoh. Trust is what builds relationships. My wife is Indonesian, and honestly, I could not have asked for someone better. I don't care what she earns or what she does. We cheer up each other's day.
*Story 1:* YES HR only protects the company, from major Lawsuits! The minute he fired her, she could've sued! And with all that evidence the company would've been in trouble! Which is WHY they did what they did!
*Story 2:* Okay, time to start writing about my Ex-Friend and why we are no longer friends! This really hits home with me paying for so much and not seeing the damn Red Flags! YES! I know I'm the Idiot! Please don't rub it in when I do post it!
*Story 3:* Okay, this DUDE is an absolute imbecile! Seriously?! You know those are the same friends that will laugh him outta the room when he says that he and OP broke up and that she's now in Paris, France living her life!
Ah, toxic masculinity. The only thing shocking about the last story is that it took 7 years for him to pull the man card.
Yeeeah, because a person would waste 7 entire years of their life with a person they didn't love just to get a greencard, even though they literally have a job and many other options. That dude needs to learn that he's not worth that effort and she would've chosen someone else if it was just for a quick greencard 😂
HR is there to protect the company, you just have to make them see that protecting you IS protecting the company. Always walk into those situations with a (or the threat of a) lawyer. Let the company know you're not only going to sue Tham, but blast them on any and every social/traditional media that you can get your hands on. That you'll be a thorn in their side forever.
13:24 wth? You have been Together for 7 years. Why would he think like that?
Because racism and people telling him she is a gold digger.
Last story: I had a bf like that who said that me being the only employed one between the two of us made him feel “like less of a man”. His solution? That I should quit my job, not that he should get a job.
I did end up quitting for unrelated reasons but stayed with him (I was 22 and stupid), and a few months later, he WAS the sole earner. Guess what he did? Held that fact over my head, used it to manipulate me, and put a heavy guilt trip on me for not “paying my own way”. At one point, I was eating leftover baked potatoes and corn on the cob from the restaurant he worked at for EVERY MEAL.
Yeah that’s about when I took off lol.
BF in last story is going to feel so dumb when he realizes what he's thrown away, will probably blame his friends for his own stupidity as well.
The Ferrari comment at the end of that story made me giggle like a little girl lol
The title sounds like something Benson would say
The thing about “provider” role, is that they always want their significant others to do less, instead of them wanting to do more
The job: OP did the right thing! You go girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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