I am a civil engineer. Government Civil Engineer. And the sexism oh my God. Site pe they would rather listen to a supervisor than listen to what me a senior government official with a degree in engineering,having cleared a competition exam for getting the job. First day I went on site( that had around 50+ men) and just a single woman they didn't know how to react. Like how is this 25 year old woman standing here on site. It has taken me 7 years to prove myself. Contrary to that my male counterparts have respect first day on site.
Get a life and a reality check. The world has a lot more important things to do than only planning to make you uncomfortable. Did anyone force you to take up the job that you are into currently? Or didn't you research properly about where you were planning to head in your career? A modern day woman is independent until she commits a mistake and finds a way to blame it on men. Basically those 50 men had nothing to do in their lives before you joined the organization and shifted all their life goals and priorities towards conspiring against you since the day you started your job. Quite believable. Stop giving yourself this much importance and playing a victim card after a decision you took for yourself. Narcissism should also have limits. Honestly, nobody cares whether you exist or not, let aside what you do. Focus on your work and stop blaming men for everything. Just try to ask men working in the private sector about what 'sexism' and partiality based on the same at the workplace means. Working women in the private sector unabashedly misuse policies in their favour and have no morals and character when it comes to framing men. This is surely a lot more lethal than some men just ignoring you at your workplace because of some reason that you may never be able to figure out.
a civil engineering girl student here.. frr!! The industry is soo sexist! Even before choosing this (which I did because I WANTED to), my uncles all told my dad not to let me learn this because how can a girl do civil?? How can she work onsite or do this job?? Bruhhh
on second day they will listen to you if you have merit. Else nature is such that physically weaker animals will have to prove their strength otherwise.
She’s so intelligent and well spoken. I hate how these reaction channels have change her personality on the basis that she’s a women. If she was a man they would’ve respected her so much
These reaction channels can't handle her ambitious nature and how well spoken she is. They are not able to digest how a woman can get succeeded so they are trying to put her down with their own reflection of their insecurity
This interview is the best interview. She hit the nail on head about all the guests that weren't right for the show. You need the underprivileged women and girls to tell their story. We just like to hear stories from the famous. That's just a fact. Kusha is something else. So knowledge, interesting and funny. Pockets is my thing. Why doesn't indian clothes have pockets. I remember asking my cousin to have pockets added to my lengha and low and behold it was delivered to me without pockets.
You didn't watch the whole video Underprivileged or privileged women have face many consequences due to patriarchy She just telling the gist of her life..which many women's have faced But sure thats good idea to heard their pov from Underprivileged and women in village very few women are empowered tbh...and many women think pleasing men is their first priority and those few women are the addition of ongoing patriarchy
@@hauterrfly does not have to be under privileged in my opinion but just regular people. I feel underprivileged is another extreme of over privileged so both are extremes, maybe you could interview just people..middle class?
The interviewer is so good he's so normal, asks the most basic yet important relevant questions, resonates with masses. Love his interviews the car wale and these too.
But why does he always ask all his guests about their eve tease experience or abuse? Useless conversations around who bought you your first bra. How does it enrich the minds of the masses?
Every word is relatable. A common privileged girl has witnessed all of this in Delhi. Every sentence is relatable. Delhi is very unsafe for every girl. Not only is the air polluted, people are thoroughly polluted.
I do agreed 💯 Construction line mein hota hi hai voh.... When my home went under the construction rather my parents home not mine also... The man was explaining everything and dealing everything with my dad when I was standing in front of him for all the decision taken but there, my dad told the man.. jo bhi decision hai voh meri beti degi and from there the view of that man changed ❤
"View of that man changed", lmao. Who was making the payment? Your dad, right? They usually listen to whoever is making the payment to stop wasting their time talking about stuff and later on cancelling when the person making the payment says, "Oh, cancel it, budget won't fit". Be it a man or woman, whomever, I repeat "whomever" is making the payment OR is the authority, they listen to them. Walk it off, stop playing the victim every damn time.
As a Bangalore raised and married in Delhi, who has lived 2 years in Mumbai, I agree that Mumbai is so safe and people are much nicer in comparison to anywhere else
There was a (not sure if it's still there) call centre in Malad west on the same road where inorbit is and it had a food place open 24/7 and I remember walking to that place at 2 or 3 in the morning to enjoy sandwich or vada pav or idli sambar etc and used to meet police guys on the way and sometimes we used to get them the sandwiches too😅
Mumbai does feel safer in comparison to other cities, but there are quite a few cities in India, which are safe. You can check out our 2AM stories, where we go to different cities across India and step out at 2AM to gauge the how safe they are. You can watch them here: th-cam.com/video/tOphKtx1L_4/w-d-xo.html
This is so true about the construction industry. I have been an Architect working for the past 12 years. This is so common to just ignore any women who is instructing/talking to men working on site weather it's contractor, site engineer, vendor.
True there is a response freeze in response to sexual assault where body mind gets freeze while it's happening to you that's why people can't fight back
Exactly. The freeze response is a natural defense mechanism. It's important for everyone to know that this reaction is not a sign of weakness or consent, but a deeply ingrained survival instinct.
There is a difference though. I can understand when one is young and vulnerable that you don't understand or you freeze when you are taken advantage of physically but after a certain level of maturity, it doesn't and shouldn't take you years to share or ask for help or tell the person off.
Amazing conversation. Need to talk more in molestatation, eve teasing, women harassment as that’s the only way to enlighten that issue. Kusha is well spoken and amazing as usual.
She spoke so eloquently; I could connect with every word. She couldn't have been more accurate. I also believe men, as well as the older generation-like aunties and uncles-should join the conversation. They represent the essence of Indian society, or at least we perceive them to be.
She is my favourite most favourite either chubby or thin looks amazing, her eyes most favourite feature of mine, the way she talk her talent in acting and where she did start like 😲😳
Exactly pockets pockets and pockets. By the way I chose tiles and hardwares of my house, gas connection, light fittings, inverter battery etc. yet I m a small towner. World is different at different places. Another thing is bring the commoners, doctors, teachers, maids, bankers, vender women etc. on this show. I had suggested this earlier also
I have had so many incidents in Delhi that I don't even know where to begin with. One incident which was least expected. At 2 pm in daylight i was walking from a local market to my PG in GK1 with a friend. A guy (previleged looking) driving a Swift (very recognisable car ofc), stops, rolls down window, and asks directions to Lajpat Nagar 1. I show him directions with my hands and he fondles my breast, rolls up the window and leaves. My friend and I freeze. After this incident, I am scared in day light also. Now I live in blr but the trauma never leaves me.
I'm so sorry you went through this. It's heartbreaking that such incidents happen, especially in broad daylight. Our video series - 2AM Stories exposes the dark side of these cities gauging whether it's safe for women or not. Check out our BLR - th-cam.com/video/IJB6JWQQRmU/w-d-xo.html&ab_channel=Hauterrfly
It happened the same when I was in Lucknow after my 12th. It's been 19 years now but Uske baad to mai aaj bhi chalti hu to hath pair itne active rehte hain ki koi chhuwe to aisa rapta lagaungi. It's kind of trauma right!!!
She is quite a sensible, mature, geniune, chill kinda women. Log faltu me bdnam krte hain ise .. achi hai yar conversation karna ata h yr seems intelligent ❤
@@hauterrflyplease sir barun and sanaya ka together interview karay please We want to see them together I shall be very thankful to you I also subscribe your channel and my all friends will be subscribe your channel please 🎉😊barun and sanaya Ka interview together KARAY please Just 1 time
As a female in present world I've heard all sorts of opinions about feminism. Some said what crape is that girls are getting more than boys and at those times I felt that it's not right but I had not much to say about that but today hereby watching kusha It felt so relatable like buddy in every step we get compared and get discriminated yet end up getting used to it. How come we've been given equal opportunities or as you say more than boys. I never felt so in my life as individual and I feel there are millions other like me. Thankyou kusha and all cast and crew of male feminist. Sending all love n light your way ❤️✨
Girls are born with a privilege unlike men who have to create a value for themselves before even being considered by the society. As the saying goes those with privilege never realise that they are so.
Hey, thank you for your kind comment. You are correct, we all related to what Kusha said in this interview. We might be getting more 'equal opportunities' but there's still so much we have to fight for in our daily lives. We've definitely come a long way from where it all began, but we still have miles to cover.
U are right kusha.My real mamaji and real Mausaji touched me badly but I could not react but now i do not allow them to even hug me. Only Namaste from far away. These old uncle's relatives are real bastards
There is the common well educated, centrist, charming and well spoken middle-class Pitampura girl. Her personality is so refreshing in today’s glamorous world of Instagram. Thank you for this interview!
I must say the man interviewer is so so good and we need more men like him who respect women in everyway.. big respect to him salute brother nd thankyou ☺️
The thumbnail on your video was just one line amidst a lot of very interesting and relatable topics. Why use that as clickbait? Love this show, love the questions, the flow of conversation so kind of surprised by that. Kusha is amazing
I was harrased by my own cousin for months and i wasn't even able to figureout anythi g ki ho kya rha h ..he used to laydown by me nd u was stayi g at my relatives house (for studying ghr me problem thii)he was fucking upsc aspirant ...his hand jzt crawled into my t shirts ....he used to rub his legs with me ..nd jzt touching me everywhere ..i jzt could not tell anyone .....i was suffering i was dyi g ..its 3..3.5 yrs nd i still get traumatic flashbacks..
@@Spy777-d1k yeah to my bf ...nd ab mai apne ghr pr rhti hu ..maine uss bnde ki mom who was my mami ....i told her bt she said tumhari glti h yimhe mza ata hoga ..he even ....once forced me to go to his room when no one was home bt thank god i was saved
@@Gappuji22aab kya reaction hota hai ush insan ko dekhke?? Cause mai vi abuse ki sikar huwi hu idk jab vi wo aajkal mujhe dekhta hai to sharam haya sab khake bolta hai and uska face red hota hai and i just ignor him like uski wajah se mai majburi se nana nani se milna kam kar rahi hu cause woh waha hota hai xiiiiii sochkar vi aajeeb feel hota hai
Right!? It'd make everything so much easier. Also, thank you for watching! We are glad you loved the episode. Have you watched our other eps? You can watch them here: th-cam.com/video/KkJ6MZ1YUno/w-d-xo.html
Ladke yeh toh bolenge hi ki this didn’t happen but aajkal sab Indian aadmiyon ka ek hi retort to women speaking about being sexually harassed - We men also get harassed in xyz other way. We also suffer in (completely unrelated and often trivial in comparison) ways
Very sensible and relatable things she discussed. It is so true that we instinctively understand touches but most of us freeze in that moment if something bad happens..
Cystic acne wala pain 🥹😭 worst is it takes month or more to get rid of one! I struggled with it since school days ... Ab bhi completely solve nhi hua h yeh ... N yes I luved this episode ❤
I love her from the beginning... I really don't like delhi im living from last 4 yrs... Neighbors bhi ajeeb hai bina matlab pareshan karenge zagada karenge.. Bakawas city in every aspect.
Totally agree with her. Ghar agar chota sa cheez ka repair agar karna hai, on repetitive calling the guy to come and fix, he will never come when I call, when my husband calls, immediately it's attended.
New York may not be safe but as a women I know Vancouver is very safe . But yes I have had such experiences in India many moons ago,I have also slipped a guy for shoulder checked me ones..
Wrong is wrong its irrespective of gender. I still remember i was a chubby kid when i was kid i guess 2-3 standard my batchmates and seniors they used to grab my chest. Its fun for them its trust me its not fun. Bcoz i was kid i didnt even understand what was happening to me n i wouldn't even share with my parents bcoz i always thought its something wrong wd me bcoz its only happening to me. It broke my confidence to a level that i started hiding my self i dont meet my friends not even relatives.my studies got hammered. I am 30 now but its still fresh in my mind i still couldn't share with my parents. I still dont want to go out. Bullaying harrassing its not fun. That tender age i do not understand the meaning of bullying harrassing abusing molestation or r*pe but now i do understand the meaning of it now i can say culprit can't be made in single day but the incidences that had happened to me in my childhood now i know where these culprits comes from. To my abusers u r potential rapi*t or u r now. N their family sorry but u didnt raised ur son well u r failed as a parents. Just bcoz u know how to make babies doesnt make u parents, parenting is a huge responsibility. Everbybody can be mom n dad but not every mom n dad is a parents .they might forgot what they have done to me but m 30 still cant get close to anyone.
We are sorry you were bullied as a kid. We cannot even imagine what you had to go through and the pain and fear you've felt. You are absolutely correct - what's wrong is wrong, irrespective of their gender.
I got into an ola. Fir I asked bhaiyya ac badha do, and he started saying itni garmi hai yeh woh.. I was like ha bhaiyaa sahi kaha, and I usually don't engage too much into talking. I like to put my headphones usually. But is din he kept speaking, so I continued. He said yeh papiyo ka jagah hai, isliye esa ho rha hai.. so I stay in 'noida' so I thot he meant all the loot paat and murders. He started saying ladkiya cigrt piti hai, daaru piti hai kapde nahi pehnti hai.. 😢😢😢 I was like.😮😮
I can relate to Kusha Kapila about the safety in New York. I did travel to NY twice in June, July 2024 and that too through metro and subway. I must say it was not as safe as it supposed to be, specifically when we think about a big city like NY we definitely expect it will be the safest. Anyways, I didn’t feel safe at NY alone. .....
Agreed. It differs from region to region. There are some cities which are completely safe, some completely unsafe, while some cities have specific areas which are unsafe. This is exactly what our show 2AM stories is about. It's a social experiment where we step out at 2AM in different cities and try to gauge how safe these cities are at night. You can watch them here: th-cam.com/play/PLSjJByiGR9m5mnX7E1KIZKIEXsAUXOvKZ.html&si=Cp2uD_FEOhFzfbOI
My cousin is 2006 ias batch officer, in Rajasthan at a function they welcomed all her male officials under her but not her. Patriarchy is in the face of most society n most men particularly
Kusha yaar.... Love you loads .... I look forward to your interviews...and pockets ke liye toh at this point I am shopping from the mens section...deep pockets better fitting. Kusha yaar 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽💚💜
I am an Architect and work with contractors all the time. It’s not that the construction business guys look up to men they just look up to authority. I don’t generally raise my volume, it’s just that my presence and talking less to them makes them shit in their pants. Plus I pay the bills and can take their jobs away. Girls need to understand the concept of authority and seriousness if you want power and respect. Stop talking too much .
Samay is an insensitive guy, whow now only knows that bullying using nad words and demeaning others are the only thinga that people love and which eventually got him heavy cheques.
As a mature content consumer I hope u don't understand that it's marketing of Clovia and so mindless questions around who bought your first bra. How does it enrich people's life to know when they bought their bra or the details or the cup size... People don't understand subtle marketing..they just go by halo effect
Bhai sex ko normalise osho bahut acche se kiye hai aur main padha hoon.osho is necessity right now.waise bahut accha interview tha bahut seekhne ko mila.
This is 100% true. My dad has a building matrials shop (construction business) and when i was small in school i mean , sometimes i used to sit in Galla (if you know what it is ) . And most men were reluctant to talk to me. And they used to find weird that how come she is seating at her dad's seat. And all Drivers & staff used to talk to me with full respect. But the customers ,oh boy! They used to bypass me & start talking to the staff.
@kusha you are so good. Loved the eat pray Love vibe you have going on🎉 I would love to see you in the Indian version of the fleebag show.. if anyone in the industry can do it... It's only you. Loved your look in this interview and the story of keeping them pimples calm thanks for being real. ❤
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11:18 - This is so true. When I was about 5-6 years old, I was traveling by bus and took an aisle seat. It was really dark, and we were all sleeping. I woke up to find someone sitting beside me on his suitcase, with his arms folded. His left hand was reaching towards my chest, trying to rub my breasts. I felt uncomfortable but didn’t say anything, thinking it was an accident. My parents were sitting behind me, and my grandmother was by the window. It took me 15-16 years to realize it was a bad touch
this is everywhere , I have faced this in IT industry. Male employees who are in their 40s or plus dont like it when they have to answer a woman. They take it as if I got where I am just like that
This is so true I was getting interior designing for my house. And they were responding only to my dad and if I call them they used to ignore or answer rudely. He used to pause work and my dad had to push him to get it done. I was paying money I had to involve my dad due to his behaviour
So just be yourself and confident whether women or men and judgements..at the end kehte hai na logo ka naam hai kehna log bolenge .. it's one life live honestly to your soul and be strong amd confident .
I got my male cook a little gift from my recent trip and he thanked my husband for it instead of me 😂 The common assumption - paise to husband ne hi diye honge
Puberty hit me when I was 8years old.... didn't know anything about it.....mistook it to be blood cancer....so there's nothing like too soon or early....girls need to be educated since 3-4 yrs of age.....and atleast in today's era.... it's very very necessary.....my mum would always ask me to refrain from sitting on the laps of relatives too.... familiar faces....at the tender age of 7....back then couldn't understand why, but gradually it was clear....
Don't even ask about the sexism that persists in the construction industry. I am an architect, and my own industry doesn't take me seriously. I am currently in the process of designing the interiors for my own house. The irony is, my husband has to repeat my exact words to the vendors, to make them understand ki mujhe kya chahiye or kya nahi. Unhe meri baat shayad sunai to deti hai, but they instinctively think ki arey isko kya aata hai and brush me off. And they would happily comply, when my husband repeats my words. This is such an agitating process.
Contractors chhodo yahan normal log bhi serious nhi lete in small towns and cities.They don't even entertain you ,directly ask to call some male, father or brother to talk. It feels that you have no existence and if you question it ppl are like you're being unreasonable. A few days back my father asked me to sell something and when the buyer came who happened to be my age asked me to send my father so in turn I asked him also to call his father and didn't sell it till he actually called his father. I ain't gonna entertain it, unreasonable or what.
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I Still Can't Believe It, That After NIRBHAYA, DELHI, IS STILL THE SAME? 😮WOW 😳
Delhi Aunties To Blame ?
@@jacquemartinue
@hauterfly where can I find the list of gynacs that you'll refer to in this video?
I am a civil engineer. Government Civil Engineer. And the sexism oh my God. Site pe they would rather listen to a supervisor than listen to what me a senior government official with a degree in engineering,having cleared a competition exam for getting the job. First day I went on site( that had around 50+ men) and just a single woman they didn't know how to react. Like how is this 25 year old woman standing here on site. It has taken me 7 years to prove myself. Contrary to that my male counterparts have respect first day on site.
Get a life and a reality check. The world has a lot more important things to do than only planning to make you uncomfortable. Did anyone force you to take up the job that you are into currently? Or didn't you research properly about where you were planning to head in your career? A modern day woman is independent until she commits a mistake and finds a way to blame it on men. Basically those 50 men had nothing to do in their lives before you joined the organization and shifted all their life goals and priorities towards conspiring against you since the day you started your job. Quite believable. Stop giving yourself this much importance and playing a victim card after a decision you took for yourself. Narcissism should also have limits. Honestly, nobody cares whether you exist or not, let aside what you do. Focus on your work and stop blaming men for everything. Just try to ask men working in the private sector about what 'sexism' and partiality based on the same at the workplace means. Working women in the private sector unabashedly misuse policies in their favour and have no morals and character when it comes to framing men. This is surely a lot more lethal than some men just ignoring you at your workplace because of some reason that you may never be able to figure out.
yepp male nurses , caretakeras, teachers sympathise with you...😅😢
a civil engineering girl student here.. frr!! The industry is soo sexist! Even before choosing this (which I did because I WANTED to), my uncles all told my dad not to let me learn this because how can a girl do civil?? How can she work onsite or do this job?? Bruhhh
on second day they will listen to you if you have merit. Else nature is such that physically weaker animals will have to prove their strength otherwise.
Where r u posted
She’s so intelligent and well spoken. I hate how these reaction channels have change her personality on the basis that she’s a women. If she was a man they would’ve respected her so much
So true! It's unfair how women are often judged more harshly.
Trust me.
Had she been a male no one wudve given her two hoots
These reaction channels can't handle her ambitious nature and how well spoken she is. They are not able to digest how a woman can get succeeded so they are trying to put her down with their own reflection of their insecurity
@@sargamsharma372 A woman who knows her worth is not accepted by the society easily. They try every way to belittle her, demean her.
Be straight don't make nnnnatak ur only talks, but u r fooool.
This interview is the best interview. She hit the nail on head about all the guests that weren't right for the show. You need the underprivileged women and girls to tell their story. We just like to hear stories from the famous. That's just a fact. Kusha is something else. So knowledge, interesting and funny. Pockets is my thing. Why doesn't indian clothes have pockets. I remember asking my cousin to have pockets added to my lengha and low and behold it was delivered to me without pockets.
Yes, we'll surely get more underprivileged guests on the show, drop some reccos if you have! Rahi baat pockets ki, it's a necessity ab!
@@hauterrflyi want to do a session with u sidharth ...and i can tell u the reality ..being a young girl studying....used to travel
@@hauterrflywomen solo travellers in India now. They go everywhere in India. Please call them. They have more experience about people places etc.
You didn't watch the whole video
Underprivileged or privileged women have face many consequences due to patriarchy
She just telling the gist of her life..which many women's have faced
But sure thats good idea to heard their pov from Underprivileged and women in village very few women are empowered tbh...and many women think pleasing men is their first priority and those few women are the addition of ongoing patriarchy
@@hauterrfly does not have to be under privileged in my opinion but just regular people. I feel underprivileged is another extreme of over privileged so both are extremes, maybe you could interview just people..middle class?
The interviewer is so good he's so normal, asks the most basic yet important relevant questions, resonates with masses. Love his interviews the car wale and these too.
He's a simp nothing more.
Usko nahi patha ki woh nahi deg!
@@ShivaniSharma-vt5bx effin Simp hai woh
But why does he always ask all his guests about their eve tease experience or abuse? Useless conversations around who bought you your first bra. How does it enrich the minds of the masses?
Well,loved when khusha said ask a normal person who travels in public transport daily.We are not the right person to ask.Girl,You nailed it ❤️
Every word is relatable. A common privileged girl has witnessed all of this in Delhi. Every sentence is relatable. Delhi is very unsafe for every girl. Not only is the air polluted, people are thoroughly polluted.
Kusha is talking with so much sense ❤
Agreed! Which was your favorite part from the episode?
@@hauterrfly she was 💯 true in every single topic.. damn true.. mine best was late reacting to an abuse and the freezing moment
I do agreed 💯
Construction line mein hota hi hai voh.... When my home went under the construction rather my parents home not mine also... The man was explaining everything and dealing everything with my dad when I was standing in front of him for all the decision taken but there, my dad told the man.. jo bhi decision hai voh meri beti degi and from there the view of that man changed ❤
"View of that man changed", lmao.
Who was making the payment? Your dad, right? They usually listen to whoever is making the payment to stop wasting their time talking about stuff and later on cancelling when the person making the payment says, "Oh, cancel it, budget won't fit". Be it a man or woman, whomever, I repeat "whomever" is making the payment OR is the authority, they listen to them. Walk it off, stop playing the victim every damn time.
@@SumitSharma-hh9wwhey
As a Bangalore raised and married in Delhi, who has lived 2 years in Mumbai, I agree that Mumbai is so safe and people are much nicer in comparison to anywhere else
There was a (not sure if it's still there) call centre in Malad west on the same road where inorbit is and it had a food place open 24/7 and I remember walking to that place at 2 or 3 in the morning to enjoy sandwich or vada pav or idli sambar etc and used to meet police guys on the way and sometimes we used to get them the sandwiches too😅
Mumbai does feel safer in comparison to other cities, but there are quite a few cities in India, which are safe.
You can check out our 2AM stories, where we go to different cities across India and step out at 2AM to gauge the how safe they are. You can watch them here: th-cam.com/video/tOphKtx1L_4/w-d-xo.html
Aww, that's so sweet!
This is so true about the construction industry. I have been an Architect working for the past 12 years. This is so common to just ignore any women who is instructing/talking to men working on site weather it's contractor, site engineer, vendor.
True there is a response freeze in response to sexual assault where body mind gets freeze while it's happening to you that's why people can't fight back
Exactly. The freeze response is a natural defense mechanism. It's important for everyone to know that this reaction is not a sign of weakness or consent, but a deeply ingrained survival instinct.
There is a difference though. I can understand when one is young and vulnerable that you don't understand or you freeze when you are taken advantage of physically but after a certain level of maturity, it doesn't and shouldn't take you years to share or ask for help or tell the person off.
@@HKS286"it was confusing and our of blue" said one of my friend in her first romance.
Amazing conversation. Need to talk more in molestatation, eve teasing, women harassment as that’s the only way to enlighten that issue. Kusha is well spoken and amazing as usual.
Couldn't agree more. Addressing these issues head-on through conversations is key to making a difference. Kusha really nailed it with her perspective!
She spoke so eloquently; I could connect with every word. She couldn't have been more accurate. I also believe men, as well as the older generation-like aunties and uncles-should join the conversation. They represent the essence of Indian society, or at least we perceive them to be.
Totally agree! It's so important for everyone, including men and older people, to join these conversations.
The freeze delayed response is true for many things.. hard relate
I never get bored watching her interviews. 😂
There is always something new ❤
Absolutely! She's a quite interesting personality, haina?
@@hauterrfly truely. Very entertaining 😂
She is my favourite most favourite either chubby or thin looks amazing, her eyes most favourite feature of mine, the way she talk her talent in acting and where she did start like 😲😳
Need more women like kusha who can uplift society with so much courage❤❤❤
Exactly pockets pockets and pockets.
By the way I chose tiles and hardwares of my house, gas connection, light fittings, inverter battery etc. yet I m a small towner.
World is different at different places.
Another thing is bring the commoners, doctors, teachers, maids, bankers, vender women etc. on this show. I had suggested this earlier also
I have had so many incidents in Delhi that I don't even know where to begin with. One incident which was least expected. At 2 pm in daylight i was walking from a local market to my PG in GK1 with a friend. A guy (previleged looking) driving a Swift (very recognisable car ofc), stops, rolls down window, and asks directions to Lajpat Nagar 1. I show him directions with my hands and he fondles my breast, rolls up the window and leaves. My friend and I freeze. After this incident, I am scared in day light also. Now I live in blr but the trauma never leaves me.
I'm so sorry you went through this. It's heartbreaking that such incidents happen, especially in broad daylight. Our video series - 2AM Stories exposes the dark side of these cities gauging whether it's safe for women or not. Check out our BLR - th-cam.com/video/IJB6JWQQRmU/w-d-xo.html&ab_channel=Hauterrfly
Same happened with me from a middle aged man from my village and I knew that man but I was tooo scared to do anything. Can never forget these
I mean why, haven't they seen boobs of their mother sister? Or they are mentally sick of boobs look😢😢?? Sick male
It happened the same when I was in Lucknow after my 12th. It's been 19 years now but Uske baad to mai aaj bhi chalti hu to hath pair itne active rehte hain ki koi chhuwe to aisa rapta lagaungi. It's kind of trauma right!!!
@@pallavichaudhary3884 I kno right this is India’s fate. Women will always struggle in every possible way
She is quite a sensible, mature, geniune, chill kinda women. Log faltu me bdnam krte hain ise .. achi hai yar conversation karna ata h yr seems intelligent ❤
I love her aura ❤. For me; Kusha is a gem💎. She is The Star✨
All hearts for KK!🥰🥰
i always since kid wated pocket in all my dress i am 46 now
We want, we want POCKETS!
@@hauterrflyplease sir barun and sanaya ka together interview karay please
We want to see them together
I shall be very thankful to you
I also subscribe your channel and my all friends will be subscribe your channel please 🎉😊barun and sanaya Ka interview together KARAY please
Just 1 time
Nd u hv complained fr 46 yrs...y u want men to solve ur every problems...
49 and wanting
hello mommy
As a female in present world I've heard all sorts of opinions about feminism.
Some said what crape is that girls are getting more than boys and at those times I felt that it's not right but I had not much to say about that but today hereby watching kusha It felt so relatable like buddy in every step we get compared and get discriminated yet end up getting used to it.
How come we've been given equal opportunities or as you say more than boys. I never felt so in my life as individual and I feel there are millions other like me.
Thankyou kusha and all cast and crew of male feminist.
Sending all love n light your way ❤️✨
Girls are born with a privilege unlike men who have to create a value for themselves before even being considered by the society.
As the saying goes those with privilege never realise that they are so.
Hey, thank you for your kind comment.
You are correct, we all related to what Kusha said in this interview. We might be getting more 'equal opportunities' but there's still so much we have to fight for in our daily lives. We've definitely come a long way from where it all began, but we still have miles to cover.
U are right kusha.My real mamaji and real Mausaji touched me badly but I could not react but now i do not allow them to even hug me. Only Namaste from far away. These old uncle's relatives are real bastards
She’s absolutely legendary in her space ❤❤❤ Love this powerhouse of woman
I really want to see Prashasthi Singh in your show ..
I love Kusha. I extremely love confident women.
We've often heard that men get intimidated by confident women, so glad you're not one of them!
The person commenting is a woman@@hauterrfly :3
There is the common well educated, centrist, charming and well spoken middle-class Pitampura girl. Her personality is so refreshing in today’s glamorous world of Instagram. Thank you for this interview!
I just love kusha man
She is gorgeous and so smart
Everything made perfect sense
Yes, we want pockets even in lehengas!!☺️
I wear jeans/pants mostly for this reason only. 😂
Right? It’s about time we get pockets in all our outfits, including lehengas. Let's hope the designers are hearing!
I must say the man interviewer is so so good and we need more men like him who respect women in everyway.. big respect to him salute brother nd thankyou ☺️
The thumbnail on your video was just one line amidst a lot of very interesting and relatable topics. Why use that as clickbait? Love this show, love the questions, the flow of conversation so kind of surprised by that. Kusha is amazing
I was harrased by my own cousin for months and i wasn't even able to figureout anythi g ki ho kya rha h ..he used to laydown by me nd u was stayi g at my relatives house (for studying ghr me problem thii)he was fucking upsc aspirant ...his hand jzt crawled into my t shirts ....he used to rub his legs with me ..nd jzt touching me everywhere ..i jzt could not tell anyone .....i was suffering i was dyi g ..its 3..3.5 yrs nd i still get traumatic flashbacks..
Did you talk about this to your mother or any siblings?
@@Spy777-d1k yeah to my bf ...nd ab mai apne ghr pr rhti hu ..maine uss bnde ki mom who was my mami ....i told her bt she said tumhari glti h yimhe mza ata hoga ..he even ....once forced me to go to his room when no one was home bt thank god i was saved
@@Gappuji22thuu hai aise insaan par...Sister I hope and wish you are leading a fulfilled life now 🙏
@@chandankumargantayat8926 ji bhai
@@Gappuji22aab kya reaction hota hai ush insan ko dekhke?? Cause mai vi abuse ki sikar huwi hu idk jab vi wo aajkal mujhe dekhta hai to sharam haya sab khake bolta hai and uska face red hota hai and i just ignor him like uski wajah se mai majburi se nana nani se milna kam kar rahi hu cause woh waha hota hai xiiiiii sochkar vi aajeeb feel hota hai
Happens all the time in construction industry.! That's why I left this field even after being an architect.
Ever wondered why only women have to change their way of living because other's can't learn?
What a real real interview. So freaking important. A list of women approved contractors!! What a genius thought.
Right!? It'd make everything so much easier. Also, thank you for watching! We are glad you loved the episode. Have you watched our other eps? You can watch them here: th-cam.com/video/KkJ6MZ1YUno/w-d-xo.html
Ladke yeh toh bolenge hi ki this didn’t happen but aajkal sab Indian aadmiyon ka ek hi retort to women speaking about being sexually harassed - We men also get harassed in xyz other way. We also suffer in (completely unrelated and often trivial in comparison) ways
I always felt thix girl talk sense most of d time as her reflexes are sharp , fab interview
She is amaze!
Thanks for the kind comment. Do check out some of our other episodes here too - th-cam.com/play/PLSjJByiGR9m7CmJGulIU_EJ3ltkYJHJfT.html
Very sensible and relatable things she discussed. It is so true that we instinctively understand touches but most of us freeze in that moment if something bad happens..
I love kusha's intelligence, i don't understand why people like to hate her..🎉
Cystic acne wala pain 🥹😭 worst is it takes month or more to get rid of one! I struggled with it since school days ... Ab bhi completely solve nhi hua h yeh ... N yes I luved this episode ❤
दिल्ली वाले लडको शर्म आनी चाहिए की लडकिया तुम्हारे होने से घबराते है। ये किसी भी मर्द के लिए सबसे शर्म की बात है कि कोई लड़की आप से डर रही है ।
That south delhi side of kusha is so fun❤
Omg! It’s like Kusha is narrating my story which I faced in my earlier working days📌I am from Delhi and ek ek baat 💯 😢❤
She spoke what I feel, felt or have been through. I can relate to everything she said. Respect
Khusha is always enlightening ❤
I am hearing her for the first time and I love it.
she is super cute...so raw and real...a big fat yes to pockets...
I love her from the beginning... I really don't like delhi im living from last 4 yrs... Neighbors bhi ajeeb hai bina matlab pareshan karenge zagada karenge.. Bakawas city in every aspect.
I love Kusha Kapila interviews ❤
As a 21YO Boy, i am happy thay I've never been involved in any kind of harassment or teasing a female, instead I've always respected them.
Always be like that.
@sonyasonya8513 sure😁
@@mauing always.
@ 19:24 situationship 😂😂damn can’t express my inner voice 😂which is quite relatable the things she is explaining
Totally agree with her. Ghar agar chota sa cheez ka repair agar karna hai, on repetitive calling the guy to come and fix, he will never come when I call, when my husband calls, immediately it's attended.
SO FRUSTRATING!
Yeah but i think the tone is imp. sometimes..
clear, transparent and relatable
Right? Also, what part of the interview did you connect with the most?
And and and at least koi to bolaaa @kushaa you’re totally right, being an architect I go through the situations you’re talking about.
New York may not be safe but as a women I know Vancouver is very safe . But yes I have had such experiences in India many moons ago,I have also slipped a guy for shoulder checked me ones..
Wrong is wrong its irrespective of gender. I still remember i was a chubby kid when i was kid i guess 2-3 standard my batchmates and seniors they used to grab my chest. Its fun for them its trust me its not fun. Bcoz i was kid i didnt even understand what was happening to me n i wouldn't even share with my parents bcoz i always thought its something wrong wd me bcoz its only happening to me. It broke my confidence to a level that i started hiding my self i dont meet my friends not even relatives.my studies got hammered. I am 30 now but its still fresh in my mind i still couldn't share with my parents. I still dont want to go out.
Bullaying harrassing its not fun.
That tender age i do not understand the meaning of bullying harrassing abusing molestation or r*pe but now i do understand the meaning of it now i can say culprit can't be made in single day but the incidences that had happened to me in my childhood now i know where these culprits comes from.
To my abusers u r potential rapi*t or u r now. N their family sorry but u didnt raised ur son well u r failed as a parents. Just bcoz u know how to make babies doesnt make u parents, parenting is a huge responsibility. Everbybody can be mom n dad but not every mom n dad is a parents .they might forgot what they have done to me but m 30 still cant get close to anyone.
We are sorry you were bullied as a kid. We cannot even imagine what you had to go through and the pain and fear you've felt. You are absolutely correct - what's wrong is wrong, irrespective of their gender.
Oh my God I love kusha she is so well spoken and absolutely correct ,
I got into an ola. Fir I asked bhaiyya ac badha do, and he started saying itni garmi hai yeh woh.. I was like ha bhaiyaa sahi kaha, and I usually don't engage too much into talking. I like to put my headphones usually. But is din he kept speaking, so I continued. He said yeh papiyo ka jagah hai, isliye esa ho rha hai.. so I stay in 'noida' so I thot he meant all the loot paat and murders. He started saying ladkiya cigrt piti hai, daaru piti hai kapde nahi pehnti hai.. 😢😢😢 I was like.😮😮
It’s frustrating when people jump to conclusions about others based on stereotypes! How did you respond to him?
I can relate to Kusha Kapila about the safety in New York. I did travel to NY twice in June, July 2024 and that too through metro and subway. I must say it was not as safe as it supposed to be, specifically when we think about a big city like NY we definitely expect it will be the safest. Anyways, I didn’t feel safe at NY alone. .....
India is way safe as compared to some western countries know rape and eve teasing happens in India but we need to change as a guy
I feel so luckey to live in Ahmedabad. Heaven on Earth.
What a woman!! What a conversation ❤❤ Love every bit of it ❤️❤️
This is so much categorization. I have lived in new york for 27yrs never herd of a story of women feeling unsafe at 2 or 3am any time of the week.
Agreed. It differs from region to region. There are some cities which are completely safe, some completely unsafe, while some cities have specific areas which are unsafe.
This is exactly what our show 2AM stories is about. It's a social experiment where we step out at 2AM in different cities and try to gauge how safe these cities are at night.
You can watch them here: th-cam.com/play/PLSjJByiGR9m5mnX7E1KIZKIEXsAUXOvKZ.html&si=Cp2uD_FEOhFzfbOI
Excellent Initiative, Sidharth. Kusha is articulate and touch some raw nerves for us as girls
Right? She really raised some great points in the interview and we agree!
She is amazing!!!!❤
Absolutely true..100% true...I faced the similar challenges while getting my home construction done.
My cousin is 2006 ias batch officer, in Rajasthan at a function they welcomed all her male officials under her but not her. Patriarchy is in the face of most society n most men particularly
One of her best interviews by far ✌🏼🌟
Kusha yaar.... Love you loads .... I look forward to your interviews...and pockets ke liye toh at this point I am shopping from the mens section...deep pockets better fitting. Kusha yaar 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽💚💜
This is a woman's century and this interview shows it!
I am an Architect and work with contractors all the time. It’s not that the construction business guys look up to men they just look up to authority. I don’t generally raise my volume, it’s just that my presence and talking less to them makes them shit in their pants. Plus I pay the bills and can take their jobs away. Girls need to understand the concept of authority and seriousness if you want power and respect. Stop talking too much .
Construction industry is same in Canada as well - we need some movement here as well.
So mature interview. I did not like when samay a cheapo made fun of her.
Yes, the roast was really insensitive!
Samay is an insensitive guy, whow now only knows that bullying using nad words and demeaning others are the only thinga that people love and which eventually got him heavy cheques.
As a mature content consumer I hope u don't understand that it's marketing of Clovia and so mindless questions around who bought your first bra. How does it enrich people's life to know when they bought their bra or the details or the cup size... People don't understand subtle marketing..they just go by halo effect
Bhai sex ko normalise osho bahut acche se kiye hai aur main padha hoon.osho is necessity right now.waise bahut accha interview tha bahut seekhne ko mila.
This is 100% true.
My dad has a building matrials shop (construction business) and when i was small in school i mean , sometimes i used to sit in Galla (if you know what it is ) .
And most men were reluctant to talk to me. And they used to find weird that how come she is seating at her dad's seat. And all Drivers & staff used to talk to me with full respect. But the customers ,oh boy! They used to bypass me & start talking to the staff.
I totally agree with Kusha about construction buisness being sexiest
Best interviewer comes so far on youtube.
Hehehe, thanks! We are glad you loved the interview, baaki hamare Sid toh hai hi best! 😎
Such an intellectual, wonderful girl❤❤❤, great anchor too
Hey, thank you! We totally agree about Kusha. She's a gem! 🥰 Also, Siddharth really is the best! 😎
@kusha you are so good. Loved the eat pray Love vibe you have going on🎉
I would love to see you in the Indian version of the fleebag show.. if anyone in the industry can do it... It's only you.
Loved your look in this interview and the story of keeping them pimples calm thanks for being real. ❤
She is right ek reel hai inki
Comments me logo ne bola h ye jhut bol rhi h
I dnt remember the name of girl
She came in big boss also
Unfortunately, we live in a world where it's always easy to invalidate a woman's experience.
I love Her thoughts on Mumbai
Love watching her always ❤
Great one
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I am Edica Choudhary i am six month old...
and i love so much watching phone🫣
She spoke the most important
Muscle training for the women 👍👍
Right!!!
She is true heroine ❤️
11:18 - This is so true. When I was about 5-6 years old, I was traveling by bus and took an aisle seat. It was really dark, and we were all sleeping. I woke up to find someone sitting beside me on his suitcase, with his arms folded. His left hand was reaching towards my chest, trying to rub my breasts. I felt uncomfortable but didn’t say anything, thinking it was an accident. My parents were sitting behind me, and my grandmother was by the window. It took me 15-16 years to realize it was a bad touch
TRUE. While buying a house in bangalore, builders never took me seriously. I was also very frustrated
Why are these men so intimidated by female home owners?
this is everywhere , I have faced this in IT industry. Male employees who are in their 40s or plus dont like it when they have to answer a woman. They take it as if I got where I am just like that
Best interview ever saw..love you kusha🤗❤️
Hey, thank you! We are glad you loved the interview. Have you watched our other episodes?
Hey, thank you. We are glad you liked the interview. Have you watched our other episodes?
Must say wonderful interview ❤ But Kushu n Siddhu spoke so well
Ayee, thank you! We are glad you loved the interview. What was your favourite part of it?
This is so true I was getting interior designing for my house. And they were responding only to my dad and if I call them they used to ignore or answer rudely. He used to pause work and my dad had to push him to get it done. I was paying money I had to involve my dad due to his behaviour
I just Always love kusha's energy, so raw!✨
So just be yourself and confident whether women or men and judgements..at the end kehte hai na logo ka naam hai kehna log bolenge .. it's one life live honestly to your soul and be strong amd confident .
I got my male cook a little gift from my recent trip and he thanked my husband for it instead of me 😂
The common assumption - paise to husband ne hi diye honge
Puberty hit me when I was 8years old.... didn't know anything about it.....mistook it to be blood cancer....so there's nothing like too soon or early....girls need to be educated since 3-4 yrs of age.....and atleast in today's era.... it's very very necessary.....my mum would always ask me to refrain from sitting on the laps of relatives too.... familiar faces....at the tender age of 7....back then couldn't understand why, but gradually it was clear....
Don't even ask about the sexism that persists in the construction industry. I am an architect, and my own industry doesn't take me seriously. I am currently in the process of designing the interiors for my own house. The irony is, my husband has to repeat my exact words to the vendors, to make them understand ki mujhe kya chahiye or kya nahi. Unhe meri baat shayad sunai to deti hai, but they instinctively think ki arey isko kya aata hai and brush me off. And they would happily comply, when my husband repeats my words. This is such an agitating process.
Kusha had just the right amount of 'stuff' for this interview 😂 loved her energy, it was different
Contractors chhodo yahan normal log bhi serious nhi lete in small towns and cities.They don't even entertain you ,directly ask to call some male, father or brother to talk. It feels that you have no existence and if you question it ppl are like you're being unreasonable. A few days back my father asked me to sell something and when the buyer came who happened to be my age asked me to send my father so in turn I asked him also to call his father and didn't sell it till he actually called his father. I ain't gonna entertain it, unreasonable or what.
I agree with her about that construction industry wala thing.