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- I quit my job as a dentist
I wanted to share this a while ago, but because I haven't figured everything out yet, I was encouraged not to. I've been living in uncertainty about my career for a while, not knowing what's next and that's super scary for an overplanner like me. All I know is that I've changed and let me tell you, quitting is HARD.
Chapters:
00:00 Intro
01:15 what's changed?
05:35 quitting may be the most difficult thing you do
06:38 3 reasons why quitting is hard
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I'm an overthinker trying to be more mindful. I'm peeling back the layers of social conditioning to realise my own wants and true self. I'm currently loving life at a slower pace, which is actually pretty hard for me given how much productivity and self-improvement content I've consumed, but I'm done with all of that because I've realised slower is sometimes better. Life is for joy and connection, so I'm now working part time as a dentist, rediscovering my creativity through art, doing yoga, sipping on tea watching FRIENDS and sometimes doing nothing at all, which is absolute bliss.
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I quit my job, the great resignation, quitting 9-5, leaving dentistry, career change
I wasn't going to post this until AFTER I had worked things out. I'm still working as a dentist, and I don't know what my next plans are. I had my whole life figured out by the age of 18, so it's nice not knowing for once even though the uncertainty can be difficult. I wanted to be really honest as I navigate this path and hopefully once I've worked things out, I'll be able to share how I've done it :) I jus hope you can quit something if it's not for you anymore, whether that's a career, a relationship or a bad habit! People will think you're crazy, but it's not their life! Let me know if you've ever quit something and what it felt like after :) xxx
This video and your message have really come at the perfect time. I had been feeling the pressure of giving up on my dreams for stability, but not all our paths are the same and we all have to follow what truly fills our heart and soul with passion. Thanks for sharing :)
Thank you for sharing this video with us. I have a degree and worked for so many years in the medical field until I was done. I didn't feel that it was me anymore and I quit. It was hard and it still is when I meet especially family members that ask me why I don't work in the medical field anymore. I worked part time the last few years and then I quit. I thought I would miss it but I don't at all. I'm so happy that I quit and I don't identify myself with that job or degree anymore, it's so freeing. Don't feel bad if you don't know what you're going to do in the future. I know what I want to do but I'm not there yet and that's ok.
Whatever you do , You are a smart person let me tell you that. You never fail to amaze me with the way you articulate your thoughts and perspective. It tells me you understand yourself very deeply. Everytime I watch your video it's a new perspective I encounter, something to add to my knowledge and I very much enjoy these videos.
And thank you for sharing this with all of us, quitting is never easy but if it makes you happy it's worth it! Go you!
Wow thank you so much, this is such a lovely comment to receive I’ve actually saved it to look back on :) I really appreciate this 🙏🙏
You definitely deserve more views, very inspiring, sincere and original content. I relate to the most of the things you say ,glad I found your channel ♥
You are always so authentic and well spoken
Thanks so much Arika that’s so kind of you 🥰🥰 I love this quote thanks so much for sharing it with me 🙏
So much respect for you for doing this! I wish you the best of luck!
Thanks so much Philip 😊🤗
Thank you for sharing your story :) I am in a similiar situation, graduated in dentistry but don't feel like countuining it for the same reasons you mentioned. Also my journey in dentistry has been same, from one clinic to another but never satisfied.
I wish I also find the courage to quit it one day and find my way like you've found yours! Wish you a lot of success✨️✨️
Wow thank you. Definitely i feel so related. I have been struggling with this for quite a while. Right now I'm on my way of the same, figuring out what I want to do later on and trying new things and trying that my identity is not just around what ido for living. So, thank you m feel less lonely 🙂😌🌈✨💚 And yes quitting is SOOOO hard when we have been conditioned to think success is key.
Thank you so much Drea, I’m glad I’m not alone either 🤗 it’s definitely hard figuring things out/having uncertainty and quitting is so hard but ahhh hopefully we both figure it out soon 🙏🙏
Love this video Akta. It can be so hard to quit something and change paths. I have to admit whenever I've taken this step I've always felt an inner peace and I try to follow that.
Thanks Mark 😊 I felt a lot of relief even going part time so I can imagine how much inner peace there will be quitting altogether 😊
Thanks so much for sharing this!! I love how you talked about quitting like something that isn't just for people who don't succeed at something. Sometimes we just outgrow things or have different needs.
Yes exactly!! 🙌🙌thank you so much for watching ❤️
Oh goodness, Akta this video is so so good!! I really appreciate your honestly and authenticity. Thank you for sharing - and you are not alone! At 31, I recently quit my job as well to pivot a bit and make time to pursue things that make me happy. It is so so scary! But even more scary, is the thought of doing the exact same thing unhappily for the rest of our lives.
Thank you sooo much Bex!!! Really appreciate you making me feel less alone too and reassured 🙏🙏 I agree, I can’t think of anything more scary!
Sunk cost bias is an interesting concept that you talked about and one i hadn't thought about!! Thanks for sharing this!
Thanks for watching Niraj 🤗
Thank you so much for making and sharing this video. I’m in my mid 20s and the things you say really resonate with me. So much so that I’ve watched 4 of your videos within one 12 hours of finding your channel.
I hope I can be like you when I’m 28 or 29, being more aware of myself, slowing down, appreciating all the other things that life has to offer. Maybe I’ll even start a TH-cam channel (something I’ve wanted for years now), LOL.
Thanks again.
Awww thank you for watching Samuel and for leaving such a kind comment ❤️ self-awareness and being present it something you can start any day, you just have to choose it :) xxx
Great video Akta. I remember dropping out of my masters degree was the first time I'd really "quit something". You're right it takes strength!
Thanks Jac and well done to you for dropping out your masters degree! I have so much more respect and admiration now for people who take control of their path 👏
Another brilliant video, Akta 👏 I've had a very similar experience with my medical career and choosing to go part time /locum. I'm asked constantly by my medical colleagues why I'm not doing the traditional training path, so I get where you're coming from. I'm so happy for you that you've chosen to live life on YOUR terms x
Ahhh thank you so much Sarah!! It’s so liberating even going part time isn’t it? Glad I’m not alone 🤗🤗 thanks for watching ❤️
This was amazing! Super awesome perspective how quitting actually can help us figure out what’s best for us. Btw, HUGE props for sharing the dentistry comment and the whole story online.
Thanks so much Mike!!! I remember asking Ali when I started the course whether I should share it on my channel and his answer made me think I shouldn’t but it became sort of inevitable for me to share because I feel like it’s such a big part of my journey! Really appreciate you watching 🥰
I feel this SO much! I did not know what my dreams were at 18, and at 25 imho where near where I thought I would be
I think everyone thinks they’ll have life worked out before they turn 30 but I’m meeting more and more people who don’t, even after 30! Glad you relate to this, thank you so much for watching🤗
You make such good content, you're on the cusp of blowing up on TH-cam!
😭😭😭😭😭 thank you so much Jubair I appreciate the vote of confidence ❤️
Wow this was a great video. I was planning to go into dentistry too, and I am senior and have been having these same exact feelings. Kind of scary since I am in my last year of undergrad and not sure on what’s next to come but I have faith something will come to me
Something will definitely come Imani!! No one was born knowing what they want to do!
It's quitting season baby! Yet another BEAUTIFULLY curated video - you manage to convey the most perfect message through a perfect combination of words. Let's normalise quitting something that isn't for us, our minds or our bodies!!!
Yessssss to quitting ❤️ thank you my lovely ❤️😘
One thing that makes this video so great is that it emphasizes that we are forever changing even when we are 30, 40 shoot even 60 years old. Great Vid.
Thank you so so much!! 🙏🙏
“Jack of all trades, master of none” but oftentimes better than a master of one! Go for it Akta, best of luck xxx
Thank you so much lovely ❤️❤️
I'm starting a TH-cam channel and I'm planning on addressing the complexities of quitting a professional career. I'm American so I'm sure it's different than in the UK, but I think quitting a professional career really depends on a lot of factors. If you've invested a significant amount of money and don't have family or spousal support (including emotional support and/or a place to live), then quitting in the short term may not be the best option. In the U.S., I've known people that easily have $200K USD worth of debt from dentistry school. Yes, perhaps you can get out of that, but it's not easy. Plus, you've made a contract to pay back the debt. If you're graduating debt free, courtesy of your family or a free education, then you're going to have more options. I feel like there are a lot of complexities to these decisions that are never discussed and I hate to say it, but a lot is based on how much financial and familial support a person has. I say this as a person who stayed in a medical profession for 20 years - the last 8 years was extremely challenging but I stuck it out for a variety of complex reasons. I don't regret my decision, but there also wasn't an easy, immediate fix. Not everyone has the same financial or familial situation and that makes a huge difference. I think we have to acknowledge these varying factors when making these decisions as to whether to stick it out in something we don't like or whether it is indeed possible to do something we love in the immediate short term. With that said, I'm glad you were able to (ultimately) leave dentistry if it's something you don't like.
You seem to be wise beyond your years. Most people, particularly men, experience similar revelations around mid-life. It's not pretty to spend 20-30 yrs on a profession/commitment that you come to eventually despise. As long as you're progressing through change, then you're likely on the right track no matter what it is that you really want to do. Best of luck on your journey!
Thank you so much :) I agree, I really don’t want to spend 30 years on something and then have regrets! I really appreciate your good wishes 😊😊
Love this!
Thank you so much Rabeea 🤗
girl, i havent even watched the video yet, i have to say this. i found your channel today and im so happy for that !!! you are inspiring, your house looks lovely as well. so many great things))) and now i'll watch the video)))
so, now that i'm done with the video:
I have studied 5 years for engineering degree. and guess what i do right now? im a digital artist and i sell stickers on Etsy 😅😅 my parents were engineers too, so i studied that, not knowing what i really wanted. and i'm sure i'll never get back to that field ever again.
also, trying different skillsets but nt being a master of one is scary, but it's too good to not try. so I think it's okay too))
I hope you do well in your life, i wish you all the success 🤗🤗🤗
Hey Zarina! You are sooo lovely! Thank you so much for checking my channel out it’s sooo appreciated! And I can’t believe you, like me, spent 5 years on something and went on to do something creative instead- thank you for showing me I’m not alone and that it’s possible!! Feel free to reply with your Etsy page too id love to check it out :)
Thank you so much for your lovely wishes 🥰🥰❤️
Really loved this one, also learning and growing to stop defining myself based on my career!
28YO and still unsure where I want to be in the next 5/10 years! 😆
Omg we’re the same age!!! I feel like we are on a very similar journey/are on the same wavelength!! ❤️
I've been a hygienist for 12 years. Over the past 3 years I feel so burnt out and unhappy with my job, the direction of dentistry(production production production) and I just wanna get out but I feel stuck bc the money is pretty good and i cant afford to just leave but i cant stand it anymore. The thought of going to work just depresses me
I’m so sorry you’re in this position! It’s so tough when you’re trapped by a golden handcuff. Have you ever considered part time and use the other days to explore what else you may want to do? It’s what I did and although it meant that I had to be a lot better at saving than my peers, it did help a lot in the long run
@@Akta yes. That's exactly what I'm doing. I want to work 3 days only and explore something else on other days. I'm quitting my current full time job bc that place is kicking my butt bc I'm seeing 10-11 a day and it's a 2 hr back n forth commute. Same here. I have to learn how to save.
Obsessed with your videos
Love you ❤️
That’s so well put. Totally relate to being risk adverse from a young age due to the immigrant background. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much for watching Lana 😊😊
Many people don't realize there is more to that quote than just, "jack of all trades master of none." It's not bad to have skills in many things. Here is the full quote, “a jack of all trades is a master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one.” Thanks for sharing with us your story. Blessings in your endeavors.
I feel the same way, graduate in something, grew up and changed. 😔 but for the better of course.
I love this brutal honesty with you. I wish the world was more honest. We're past the age of doing one thing for 50 years and then dying. We have e-commerce now! new tech everywhere! TH-cam, writing, and so many different industries! And you're allowed to take time off... the notion of work and keeping your head down and stopping being curious about other things is an extant philosophy. I resonate with this because I have soo many interests: drumming, building my youtube channel, healthcare, writing, comedy, travel, and fitness. I have so many interests and cant imagine tunneling myself into one thing my entire life. I want to keep learning. And I want to be okay with quitting and growing past something if I need to.
Wow… amazing video
Thank you so much ❤️
Yep I’m 54 now it’s not too late for me to change things in life. I just need to do it. It takes time and money, that’s what a lot of people think all the time. Takes time and money to change. But for me there a better way to do with out think about time and money. Just think about you like to do of what enjoy to do. 😎😎😎🔥🔥🔥❤️❤️❤️
100% it’s never too late to change! I really hope in my 50s I still have the self awareness to follow joy and change things up if I need to 🙏
I feel like I can relate to this so much. I’m in my DFT year and just feel like this career isn’t for me. I’ve stuck around literally since first year. Uni was great but I just didn’t see myself as a dentist. I love socialising and helping people, but working as a dentist is just not what I am. I’m looking to work 3 days next year and try to use those two days to learn some skills to maybe move into tech. I’ve always wanted to do computer science. I just don’t know because all my friends majority who are dentists are progressing and moving forwards with dentistry and it seems amazing and the money looks good, but I feel as if I’m going backwards. Everyone just keeps telling me keep going and wait it out, but I don’t see any interest in dentistry itself. I don’t know, I feel like I’d be pushing my life back and I need to make money as I’d be the man and responsible to make money etc. Idk, I just wish I wasn’t the only one like this, I know others hate it but they’re sticking to it. I feel like I need someone to talk to regarding it, everyone just tells me to keep going and it’ll probably get better but idk. Dentistry especially in the NHS is just toxic and you’re like a conveyor belt stuck in one room with one person trying to get UDAs. It’s definitely an amazing privilege and I’m grateful but idk
Hey Mohammed, I’m sorry you’re feeling this way! Everything you said is what I felt tbh, and it is tough when you see everyone else around you progressing. I felt this for 5 years- I went part time and everyone else was earning loads, doing courses etc whilst I felt like I was back at square 1, but I don’t regret it for a second. Ultimately you have to make choices for yourself that will lead you to greater happiness, and sometimes those choices will come with sacrifice whether it’s money or time. I hope you work it out but also you’re not alone, I know many dentists who hate it but are too scared to leave or too pulled in by the stability/money. Sending you good vibes
Quitting sure has a negative connotation. But it could be necessary to do to get out of something making you miserable, and to pursue something you actually want to do. Social pressure sure is a big reason people are hesitant to quit.
About the "jack of all trades, master of none" quote, I think it's best to do different things since the world keeps changing, and the one thing you are a master at may become obsolete. By being a "jack of all trades", you can keep up with the changes in the world.
I agree I think quitters are actually winners because of it! You’re so right about the jack of trades, I did feel that way as a dentist- the rest of the world felt it was advancing so much with tech and creativity online and I felt like I wasn’t able to take opportunity of it! I prefer now having a few others skills
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what did you end up doing then?
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I’m 28 and i feel the same way about what i want compare to being 18
Love that I’m not alone ❤️
You have beautiful teeth 😁
Akta love you so much💋💋💋👌😍
Awww thank you so much lovely ❤️❤️ sending you so much love back ❤️
Never send ur daughter abroad without marriage they end as angry cat womans
Shame sounds like dentistry isn't very rewarding
I think it definitely is for some people and can be in some ways, it’s the reason I’m able to work part time for example :)