Great information! In a recent experience, I questioned whether he was a narcissist or avoidant. I truly think he is avoidant and not a narcissist, which helped me have empathy as I’ve severed the relationship. The experience has also helped me discover some of my own avoidant coping mechanisms.
Oh wow this helped me understand that the potential “friend” that I was dealing with was in fact not just avoidant, but had high narcissistic traits. I knew that disengaging from that connection was the right move, but I was questioning if how I disengaged was appropriate. I 100% did the right thing and I will definitely never contact her again!
8:15 as you said with narcissists happens with avoidants, and I would add that the empathy developed from the partner makes it harder. So both, provide that devastation.
@@tipsfromatherapist yes they are..but i am glad for the intent, it comes from a different place. I feels more Safe, and he is a katalysator for my life, Which i needed but it gets to the point now i only exist for him , so not healthy..
@grabbelton awareness is a great first step! We all need a purpose in our life. Unhealthy people will impose themselves in that place if we allow it. I wish you well on your journey forward!
Thank you that was very helpfull! Do both narciccist and avoidants generally score lower regarding emotional intelligence or does this not matter? Keep up the good work!
@maikelh5718 Great question! Yes, they typically have lower emotional intelligence as a byproduct of their respective conditions, though avoidants have the capacity to improve over time with support. Thank you for your encouragement and kind words! I'm so glad you're here!
@@tipsfromatherapist Thank you for taking the time to answer my question! Good to know that avoidants could improve over time in that regard. I can relate the topics to myself and other people and it's very helpful. I am glad to be here!
So what if it's a little from colum A and a little from colum B? How do you know where they fall? They just have "tendency" if they aren't all one way or the other?
@LifeLongEnemy Great question! They can get help with this change by seeking therapy where they can learn more about avoidant attachment style, explore the root of their avoidant attachment, and process the relational trauma so it has less of a protective reaction in them. The therapist can also teach body awareness, communication skills, and healthy relationship skills. However, if therapy isn't accessible, there are a lot of great books about attachment styles and how to become more secure, one of them being "Attached" by Levine & Heller
Great information! In a recent experience, I questioned whether he was a narcissist or avoidant. I truly think he is avoidant and not a narcissist, which helped me have empathy as I’ve severed the relationship. The experience has also helped me discover some of my own avoidant coping mechanisms.
@bg370z9 I appreciate your empathy and self-reflection! Wishing you well on your journey forward!
Oh wow this helped me understand that the potential “friend” that I was dealing with was in fact not just avoidant, but had high narcissistic traits. I knew that disengaging from that connection was the right move, but I was questioning if how I disengaged was appropriate. I 100% did the right thing and I will definitely never contact her again!
@nameunknown1519 I'm so glad you found it helpful and did the right thing for you!
8:15 as you said with narcissists happens with avoidants, and I would add that the empathy developed from the partner makes it harder. So both, provide that devastation.
@konkosko5878 interesting observation!
It comes down to being used, one way or the other.
@grabbelton You aren't wrong. Some people believe intent matters to them, however, the consequences are the same.
@@tipsfromatherapist yes they are..but i am glad for the intent, it comes from a different place. I feels more Safe, and he is a katalysator for my life, Which i needed but it gets to the point now i only exist for him , so not healthy..
@grabbelton awareness is a great first step! We all need a purpose in our life. Unhealthy people will impose themselves in that place if we allow it. I wish you well on your journey forward!
Thank you that was very helpfull! Do both narciccist and avoidants generally score lower regarding emotional intelligence or does this not matter? Keep up the good work!
@maikelh5718 Great question! Yes, they typically have lower emotional intelligence as a byproduct of their respective conditions, though avoidants have the capacity to improve over time with support. Thank you for your encouragement and kind words! I'm so glad you're here!
@@tipsfromatherapist Thank you for taking the time to answer my question! Good to know that avoidants could improve over time in that regard. I can relate the topics to myself and other people and it's very helpful. I am glad to be here!
This video was on point. Thsnk you so much?
@remiztical13 I'm so glad you found it helpful! Thanks for watching? :)
@@tipsfromatherapist 😅
I can't thank you enough. I was just asking myself and your video showed up.
@Sunny08me I'm so happy you found this helpful! Thank you for watching!
I agree, I was unsure for a while. Through some tests, the narcissist inside her came through all the way.
@jaredtopilko1313 Yes, it can be hard to tell at first. I wish you well on your journey forward!
@@tipsfromatherapist been a great way forward the last 4 years, I'm able to spot issues that won't be solved earlier than ever.
How should avoidants change and practice healthy love without hurting anyone in the process?
So what if it's a little from colum A and a little from colum B? How do you know where they fall? They just have "tendency" if they aren't all one way or the other?
@LifeLongEnemy Great question! They can get help with this change by seeking therapy where they can learn more about avoidant attachment style, explore the root of their avoidant attachment, and process the relational trauma so it has less of a protective reaction in them. The therapist can also teach body awareness, communication skills, and healthy relationship skills. However, if therapy isn't accessible, there are a lot of great books about attachment styles and how to become more secure, one of them being "Attached" by Levine & Heller
Lol. I har to subscribe after that adorable pitch
@DonaldMeyers-v8c Glad you're hear! Thank you for joining the community!
Good video !!
@ahine2505 I'm so glad you liked it! Thank you for watching!
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If the difference is intent, then they are the same
@cfnaround1585 Same result, yes!
Avoidants are narcissists, just diet narcissists
@cfnaround1585 Great comedic material!