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- : When it comes to weddings in Germany, broken porcelain is a good thing - and brides should beware of kidnappers. On Meet the Germans, Kate Müser shares the German wedding traditions that surprised her the most.
Every other week, DW's Kate Müser explores the quirks of everyday life and language in Germany. Originally from the United States, Müser has lived in Germany for over 13 years. Follow Meet the Germans on TH-cam or at dw.com/meetthegermans.
The shattering of porcelain is actually meant to scare bad spirits away by the loud noise. Also, the couple is to sweep it up together to learn to be married with each other.
Also, since high quality porcelain is a common wedding gift, you can make space that way. I'd rather give the stuff away instead of destroying it, though. Totally dislike wasting stuff.
so folks save their old and worn out stuff to use at a Polterabend. Cups without handles, bowls with a nick or a crack....
I´ve also seen Toilets getting smashed xD
Very important. Don't shatter glass at a Polterabend. It means bad luck for the couple.
It is also said that breaking the dishes etc. at the Polterabend helps to prevent breaking the dishes in your marriage (because of arguments or anger). The married life should be happy.
She lived 13 years in germany and speaks flawlessly. (Even accent) Thats kinda impressive.
my mum learned it in about 2 to 3 years but well she was 12 (on the other hand my dad even had german in school and after 30 of living here still cant speak it so)
she has a german surname
Im pretty sure that she’s German
She has a slight German accent when she speaks English but no English accent when she speaks German
cacaktuaaa she said in this video that she moved to Germany and married there. I think it’s reasonable to assume she married a German and took that surname.
13 years is more than enough bois
It is also said, that the one whose hand is on top during the cake cut, is the one who wears the pants in the relationship^^
I'm not sure if "wearing the pants" is also said in English 😹
@@Bwans_Art I think it is said
@@Bwans_Art lts understandable
Yes it is @Bwans_Art
Dosen't matter the woman always wears the pants.....
I don't like the kidnapping of the bride. There have been cases where the bride was missing for hours and the entire wedding was ruined because the guests are waiting or even going home already..
I also find that tradition very odd...
Actually it is sort of a role playing game. The groom has to prove his love and that he is looking out for his wife and taking care of her. It also is a reminder of those days when brides either were actually kidnapped or ran off with their true love after an arranged marriage.
My now husband & I were at a wedding where one of the guests was German. She told the bride about the kidnapping tradition and they thought it would be fun to do this, so they sneak off. Since this isn't a tradition in the US the groom wasn't expecting it and had no clue that his new bride was missing. It took quite some time before the groom realized this...even with those of us who knew what was up asking him "Hey! Where's your bride?" Finally he realizes and goes to find her...while the reception is on hold. It took him over an hour to find her and for them to return. So that was a very boring reception. I made sure to not invite the German gal to my wedding. My husband's family is from Frankenmuth Michigan where they have a different tradition... Sie Leben Hoch.
The kidnapping tradition is somewhat outdated. It's just to time-consuming on a day where there's a tight schedule till the evening.
U have to plan it properly and have someone entertaining the guests... Also u can steal her late in the evening when the guests are partying anyways
Kidnapping of the bride is only in a few regions. In others they had to saw a log or cut a heart shape into a bedsheets and climb through. Carrying the wife through the door is also popular. The last wedding I attended, when they wanted to drive out the church gate, we ran in front of it with a laundry line full of baby clothes they had to take off and kept as a gift.
I carried my husband through the door! Also possible! *lol* But yes, usually the man does that.
It's also a tradition that the woman throws the flowers behind her and the woman who catches it will marry next☺️
I know that from the US as well - but has also caught on in Germany.
@Bananarista 1.0 it's a western industrial country tradition
Guess where a lot of Americans have their roots?
@Bananarista 1.0 the question is were did the Americans get it from? Most "American" things are not originaly american but were brought there from somethere in europe during the conquest plus more then 30% of the Americans are actually germans by hermitage.
Fee, my mother's family and my father's family have German bloodlines. Even both families have German last names. Different ancestral bloodlines have been here since the Mayflower, and others more recent, but still pre- 1776.
Actually, the witnesses main job is to witness, that a wedding has takem place. They sit next to the couple, hear them both saying yes and the subscribe, that they have witnessed. So you could just bring in two strangers from the street, one witness for each of the couple.
waldfrauke I don't know if you even need a witness anymore. At least not everywhere. A friend of mine got married in NRW last year and it was only her and her husband. And their one year old daughter, but I don't think she is a reliable witness.
Interesting. Where I live, Hessen, you still need them. If you have non, people who work in the Standesamt will do the job.
At my wedding in Germany, we were not required to have a witness. My brother served as my symbolic Trauzeuge, but since he is not a German citizen, he couldn't have signed the wedding license anyways.
It really doesn't matter if those people even remember your wedding as long as you have their signature (or, you know, something that looks like someone's signature). My aunt was so drunk at my parents' wedding that she can't even remember signing, and the other witness somehow disappeared some years later and was never heard of by any of their friends. That doesn't make their marriage any less legit :D
You aren't legally required anymore to have a wedding witness (you were some decades ago, but the administrative ceremony has been simplified. You can still have the sign the document as well, though, and many couples still do it). The wedding witness is also often tasked with organizing the bachelor/bachelorette party.
i love that you go to a typical german wedding dress store and there is a real polish gal
Thanks
Not just Toilets my Cousin had a Bathtub thrown by 5 Men ....that was ONE BIG SHATTER xD
A bathtub??? Bathtubs are usually of either metal or plastic/acryllic. And if you did find a ceramic one, it would be a historic antique or a custom-made modern one, you wouldn´t smash it in either case unless you were out of your mind.
@@vanessas2454 Really? I think it's normal in Germany to have a bathtub made out of porcelain but I'm no expert
@@vanessas2454 No they are standard in Germany. It's mostly ceramic mixed with plastic or acrylic material for new ones. "Old" (from the 1960/70) bathtubes are often made completly of ceramic material. On Ebay you can get "broken" (no physical boken, onl no longer useable) ones for free if you pick them up yourself. ;)
@@Mangafan47 - ceramic tubs certainly do exist but they are also certainly not the standard. The standard used to be metal with an enamel coating (similar to old-fashioned cooking pots), but is now more and more shifting towards acryllic. Acryllic is cheapest and easiest to install due its light weight. Metal ones are still common though, they are quite durable, I would guess that these two materials together make up about 80% of all bathtubs in Germany. Other materials (copper, ceramic, concrete, glass, cast-iron...) are in a different league when it comes to costs, so for that reason alone they cannot possibly be the standard. Also, concrete and ceramic ones in particular are so heavy that they simply cannot be installed everywhere as they require heavier lifting equipment and a strong floor underneath.
@@vanessas2454 I lived in six different flats in three different areas in Germany, all had bathtubs and all were ceramic ones.
That cake lady forgot the most important part. Its also a tradition these days, that when you cut the cake, the couple will fight over who has their hands on top. Who ever has it will be the boss in the marriage. Which is super fun to see! You´re welcome.
The Polterabend also usually serves the purpose to invite all the friends and relatives (usually its the breaking of porcellain, a dinner, and dancing and chatting in a more mundane setting than the actual wedding) who are not quite close enough to be part of the wedding, so that the actual wedding party can be smaller and cheaper. This way every one has some part of the wedding but the people closer to the couple get the actual happening.
I really like this, this makes the couple and the close ones to them, get so free in whatever they wanna do.
Generally, here in India, the bride specially becomes a doll...she can't even turn her body to make the muscles loose, because of the heavy dressing and needs to behave well before never seen relatives😝
In germany there is another custom: The bride has to wear something new, something old, something borrowed and something blue. It can be something not visible, like a garter or a slip.
See, the fact that this rhymes in english and not in german should give ya a hint that it’s not a german thing
@@larakattinger5377 I did not notice that it is a rhyme. I only translated it from German to English. So it is a coincidence that it rhymes in English. ;-)
But you are right, I googled it now, it is not german origin, but a wellknown tradition here too.
@@larakattinger5377 I guess it's European in general
@4:56 " ...in unterschiedlichen Formen, unterschiedlichen Farben..."
*Shows a bunch of exactly identical rings*
Es waren doch 3 verschiedene Farben
I must say they look pretty similar. Die unterschiedlichen Farben erkennt man gut vor dem ranzoomen, aber danach: Kaum Unterschiede.
Eeeeeh nicht wirklich
Hier in Westfalen gibt's auch die Tradition, dass sich alle Nachbarn (&Freunde) vor der Hochzeit vor der Haustür des Hochzeitspaares treffen um zu kränzen, es wird ein großer grüner Kranz mit Blumen über die Haustür gebunden:)
Theresa A. Und dann laufen die den gemeinsam ab und für jeden Meter gibt's ein Schnaps
Das gibt es an vielen Orten
Eine schöne Tradition. :)
In Niedersachsen auch... Aber eigentlich dann auch zu den Jubiläen...
Ich bin aus OWL aber ich kenne das nicht😂
Also, the ribbons on the cars are not allowed to be taken off, they have to fall off by themselves, otherwise it means bad luck for the married couple. At least that is how I know that :)
How would they fall off ?
@@ruthronnieofficial wind and weather
@@Birkenzwillies lol I highly doubt that would work 😂😂😂
@@ruthronnieofficial depends on the material of the ribbons. They can be made of paper for example
You should have included, that many woman do not receive an engagement ring, which seems to be a big thing in the US.
That's quite unusual. Nearly everyone that plans to marry is engaged with a ring.
@@Nachtelfin0des0Todes but that's a recent development, taken from North-amerikan films. I'm Austrian and none of my older relatives had engagement rings.
yes! my parents didn't even get 'engaged' per se, they just decided they should get married
@@Erdnussbuttertoast Mine to! And my aunts/ uncles, etc
Also, my parents told me that it used to be customary to be engaged for at least 2 years before the actual marriage took place.
My parents cut their cake with a sword
@ Yeah, it's traditional for British army officers!
I've got one to top that:
My brother had a swordfight as part of his wedding.
That was the task his friends made him do after they kidnapped the bride (his opponent was his sparring partner).
Ich kenne auch noch die Tradition, dass die Braut ihren Brautstrauß nicht unbeaufsichtigt liegen lassen darf (wenn sie zum Beispiel auf die Toillete geht), da ihn sonst jemand "stehlen" würde und sie ihn sich, zum Beispiel mit einem Kasten Bier, wieder zurück kaufen muss.
Your opinion is appreciated but please write your comments on the English channel in English. There is a German channel for the German language. \tp
I think its an austrian tradition that the brides brother or the best man has to guard the wedding buquet. If its stolen they have to pay the thief in alcohol.
It's a Bavarian tradition as well and still widely used. On my cousin's wedding my little siblings stole the bouquet. Twice. Once we got a barbecue paid by them and the other time was ice cream. My sisters husband had to do some ridiculous stunts when my brother's stole the bouquet.
I'm German, 15. Sadly I've never been to a German wedding so I don't really know about a lot of traditions. So this has also been really interesting for me!
Hello
In Austria, so I suppose also in Germany, depending on whose hand is on top when cutting the wedding cake, will have the say in the marriage 😂☺️
Yes it is.
I Think that is same in every culture
I‘m German and i literally had no clue about most of these traditions
Josie very traditional countryside marriages I’m guessing. Not that internationalized urban culture.
Wow her German is flawless
Interesting Information, at the beginning, when I arrived from U.S. I was a little confused too because I saw the ring on the right hand! Also, congratulate on the pregnancy to our favourite reporter, Kate!
Farrokh E.L thank you Farrokh! :)
Your German is really good👍👍
Thanks
@@softiejijii4867 ok😂😂 oh hi Army🙋💜💜
@@bangtan_sonyeondan8 hi👋🏻
I am a little confused... Are you german or american or even both? You have no accent at all, which is really nice and got me confused when you said you moved to Germany. Great video by the way!
@@ABC-qz5jh as much as i understand she is an American who has been living in Germany for many years and is also married to a German...
@Tina Yael Severinova M. not really. As a German I can confirm that her German sounds fluent.
In my area the children of the village would gather outside the church were the wedding takes place and wait for the couple to come. The moment the bride and the groom steps outside the children will try to stop them from leaving while streching a rope in front of the entrance. The married couple has to throw coints or sweets (or other little things the children would go for) on the ground in order to make the children let go of the rope and free the way
I thought cutting the cake together was a universal thing for all european and western countries.
There is another tradition (at least in the south - don't know if in the north as well) which I have always found very touching: at midnight the veil of the bride is taken off and everybody sings "wir binden dir den Jungfernkranz".. a very emotional moment when the light is dimmed and the mother of the bride starts crying.
Ulrich Lehnhardt ich komm aus s-h und davon noch nie gehört. Also ist es vermutlich was nur aus dem Süden
Komme aus Süddeutschland und habe davon noch nie gehört..
Ich habe mal gegoogelt. es heist "wir WINDEN dir den Jungferntanz" und nicht "binden"... es ist ein Lied aus dem Freischütz, was traditionell während des "Schleiertanzes" verwendet wird..
What does the title mean?
@@MeandmySara The lyrics are "Wir winden dir den Jungfernkranz aus veilchenblauer Seide, wir führen dich zu Spiel und Tanz, zu Glück und Lebensfreude.
Schöner grüner Jungfernkranz - veilchenblaue Seide!"
In English: "We wind for thee the virgin's wreath from silk as blue as violets
We're leading thee to play and dance, to mirth and joy of life.
Fair green virgin's wreath! Silk as blue as violets!"
In the opera itself, the song is sung to the bride before the wedding in the bride's bedroom by her bridesmaids while they dress and veil her for the ceremony. The song goes on for four more stanzas which are a bit more entwined with the opera's plot, and also the scene ends in some dire portents for the relevant wedding. The song is very sweet, though.
As far as I know as a south german is that when the bride is kidnapped, the wittness from the groom has to search for the bride an the husband has to dance with a broomstick which is decorated like a bride. Another man could take the broomstick that the groom do not have to dance all the time.
NiciiCake XII
You've got some really... interesting traditions in Southern Germany.^^
Das is so was von ne beschissene Sache 😂 stell dir vor das ist die Nacht deines Lebens mit der Frau deines Lebens und irgend ein Haufen Ottos "Kidnappen" deine Frau und du kannst deine Hochzeit nicht mit ihr verbringen sondern mit irgendnem kack besen 😂
@@user-mk5vj5bf3j also ich weiß nicht was alle hier für Probleme haben, denn der Trauzeuge wird doch eh eingeweiht...
Wow, her not existing accent is impressive! 👍🏻😮 She speaks clearer german than I do! 🙊
In the Philippines, the newly wed will give their first dance as husband and wife and people must pin money (bills) on their clothes.
Also, instead of flower petals, outside the church, people will throw rice grains for the abundance of blessings.
The money pinning to the dress is also very common for Turkish or Moroccan Weddings.
I did the German tradition of getting legally married before having a ceremony. I got married in May, but had the ceremony is November. Not because of German law, but because my husband is military and couldn’t easily request the leave for the wedding unless we were already married.
The wedding in my country Nigeria is once: The traditional wedding where cakes and rings are not important. Tradional meals like kolanut, peanut butter, palmwine and tapioca are cooked to entertain guests. The bride is highly honoured by her parents and bridgroom if she's a virgin and the bride price is pretty high for girls that are virgins.
Es gibt auch noch das Hahn holen, jedenfalls in Niedersachsen.. ich weiß aber nicht ob die Tradition noch weiter verbreitet ist oder eher regional.
Beim Hahn holen trifft man sich am Tag nach der hochzeit noch einmal mit den Gästen und es wird getrunken und gegessen. Das ist fast wie eine eigene Party. Die braut geht mit dem hahn (eine Flasche Schnaps) zu den Gästen und dann wird das “Blut des Hahns“ getrunken. Ich kenne den Hintergrund allerdings nicht..
Rabea B
Ein Bekannter hat es mir so erklärt: damals wurde ein richtiger Hahn von den Nachbarn versteckt, welcher vom Brautpaar gesucht werden musste. In dieser Zeit war das neu bezogene Haus der beiden unbeaufsichtigt und die Aussteuer (Mit in die Ehe gebrachter Hausrat) des Brautpaares konnte in Ruhe von den neugierigen Nachbarn begutachtet werden.
the diamond ring is when you get engaged. then there is the « allianz » ring (diamonds around one half of the ring or completely around it. used to be worn on sunday for church. not so much tradition anymore)
There are even more tradidions in Germany! Usually friends and/or family also put up some obstacles on the way to the reception! Usually bride and groom have to saw through a log together (or even multiple times) and depending how 'mean' the friends are the saw might be pretty dull ;)
Then there is cutting and walking through a bedsheet. I'm not sure though if the groom carries the bride through at the end. ^^
And finally children may hold up the whole procedure. The bring (colored) bands to block the street to force the procession to stop. For these cases the bride carries around loose change, mostly five to fifty cents but some even have one Euro and two Euro coins in there, in the purses that they usually have and they throw the coins out for the children to pick them up and let them pass.
Thanks for sharing! There are definitely enough traditions for multiple videos!
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Kate Müser never heard of the last one
the bedsheet cutting is not too common I think, though I've heard about it a few times, I've never been to a wedding where they actually do that
@@Obstgeist7 I have been to 2 weddings so far (I live a bit south from Hamburg) and both of them had the bedsheet cutting. We were painting a big red heart onto the bedsheet and the couple later had to cut out that heart with (as it looked) extremly dull scissors, took them quite a while.
Sawing the log is always such fun to watch! A bride with a saw is just a hilarious image xD
About wedding rings ... In Germany it´s a very common thing, that the rings are very simply in the beginning, but one diamond is added to the wife´s ring after giving birth to a child. Not a big one, but if you see a wedding ring with several stones, the lady is probably mother of several children.
In Brazil we have many traditions for example :
1. The groom can't see the wedding dress before the wedding;
2. A moment at the end of the party when the single ladies try to get the bouquet this is quite funny;
3. Other nice is the shower of rose petals or rice ( actually it is from China I guess lol) but nowadays shower of rose is more common;
4. After get married the ring change to the left hand - because the left side is the side of the heart;
5. And of course, "Bem casados" (which means "happily married or well married" in Portuguese) is a traditional "small cake" served at Brazilian weddings. Two mini sponge cakes are joined together by a creamy middle made of dulce de leche (caramel sauce). Each one is individually wrapped, tied with a bow and given as a favor( gift) to guests at the end of the celebration. :)
Der Ehering symbolisiert die Ewigkeit, wobei das Wort Ehe selbst von Ewge, also Ewige kommt. Der Ring Tröpfler oder Draupnir aus der Germanischen Mythologie lässt alle neun Tage acht weitere Ringe von sich tropfen, als Zeichen der Vermehrung und des Bestandes.
Hungarian trafitions are pretty similar, but there are some additional things we have here. For example before the weddig, before the actual ceremony we have a tradition where the groom and the guests of the groom go to birde's parent's house where the bride and her guests are waiting to ask for her hand in marriage. There are even traditional songs they sing to get the bride come outside. We also have an additional member to the wedding party called the "vőfély" who acts like a kind of director during the wedding. His job is to tell the guest what happens next, where to go and what to do, and usually does so in a kind of ceremonial, rhyming, archaic way. We also have a tradition that during the reception the bride and sometimes the groom too leave for a short period of time to change into their "married outfits" and from then on they are reffered to as the husband and the wife. Around this time, either before or after that (I've seen both happen) there's the tradition of the "bride dance". It usually starts with the vőfély shouting "Bride for sale" and what happens is that the guests give some money to the newly weded and in exchange they take turns dancing with the bride. (Note that it's not traditional to give actual wedding gifts in Hungary, we rather give some money to the couple to start their new life together.) These traditions are mostly still in practice, though in the past couple of decades more and more couples, especially in the bigger cities tend to leave them out from their wedding. I've mostly attended weddings in the countryside and with one our two exceptions they followed these traditions.
Watching this in 2019, in England my sister married a Scotsman and they moved to Germany, now her daughter is getting married to a lovely man from Germany, they had the civil wedding already so tomorrow , or should I say today 3rd August 2019 they'll be having a bigger wedding. Unfortunately I and my family cannot go ,but hope to see the wedding online , and thanks to this video ,I have an idea of what their wedding will be like. Really excited for them both.💒💐💏💑😅💞
In my region there is the old tradition of the Hochzeitsbitter. These are people in tuxedos with colorful ribbons who ride on colorful decorated bicycles to future guests of the wedding to deliver the invitations. During this they also ask for money for the couple who get the collected money after the wedding ceremony.
She left one mean out, in Frisia, my home area in the northwest of Germany, the guest hid bride and groom with thorny rods - it is supposed to bring luck -, unfortunately they don't do it as often anymore.
The kidnapping is very regional. Also I have not heard of cutting the cake at midnight. But I missed all the fun games like sawing a log, cutting a bed sheet etc. I am not sure if there are traditions that are observed throughout Germany.
Sometimes it is still custom to throw rice at the groom and bride when they leave the church. It is a symbol of fertility. To avoid food waste you can also throw white confetti.
That throwing rice thing is a jewish tradition not a German tradition.
Fee in my experience it is pretty much adapted as a german tradition nowadays
@@user-nu3uc9gd4i isn't it illegal to do that now? Because birds will eat it and die from the rice swelling up in their stomach.
I heard couples saw a log together, but it's not really popular then?
Yes, that is a tradition too, but only in some regions, so I would say it's not particularly widespread.
rosecolouredglasses
I'm from northern Germany and I've never even heard of that.
So far I haven't heard of a wedding where that wasn't done 😅 Right after that you get some bread and salt and drink a glass of water. Then you throw the glass over your shoulder but you're not allowed to look back at it!
rosecolouredglasses I know many who still do that but more and more people dont, its more popular on the countryside
Chocolettino I am also from northern Germany and we have that tradition here (lower Saxony) at least in the villages.
I haven't been to many marriages but when my parents got married (i'm from austria btw) they only had a few people (basically parents, siblings, other close family members and my dad had his best friend there) invited to the actually wedding. Other friends or family meanwhile prepaired something at the place where my parents were going to for dinner. We call this "absperren" here.
The people getting married have to complete certain tasks that were prepaired for them. My dad for example used to be a skiing teacher and so was his groomsman. His grandpa also was the owner of a cooperage i think so they both had to "ski" around a parkour with barral staves as ski and and bottles as obstacles.
My mom on the other hand is a nures and had to give my aunt an injection and just care for her in generall. My aunt and the people around would try to sabotage her of course.
After that everyone whow as at the actall marriage ceremony is let into the place where they go to eat and celebrate. The others go in as well but normally stay in a different area i think... I don't remember that one very well since i was really young when my parents got married...
In Hindu Indian wedding , after done with the ceremonies the bride’s sister (unmarried one) secretly steals grooms shoes and demands a hefty price to give it back ... its a custom..
There is one tradition that tells you what you should wear as a bride on your wedding day: you have to wear something blue, something borrowed and something new :)
Usually a fight at the reception..lol
Es gibt auch noch die Tradition, dass das Brautpaar ein großes Herz aus einem Laken ausscheiden muss. Jeder schneidet eine Seite und wer schneller fertig ist, der ist der Bestimmer in der Beziehung. Danach muss der Bräutigam seine Frau durch das Loch im Laken tragen
How many guests typically come to a German wedding? Of course I understand there will be a very wide range, but for example: in America, a small family wedding would have around 50 guests; a medium wedding is between 50-150 guests; a large wedding could be up to 400. And the average US wedding has 150 guests.
Also, if a couple has a church wedding and a reception, do guests come to both?
It depends on how much money you want to/are able to spend: We only could afford a "small" wedding with indeed 50 persons. The day before, at the official wedding (Standesamt), there were only our brothers and sisters and our parents. 🎉
Since 1998 you don't need any witnesses anymore. Bride and Groom are totally enough - if you want to keep a low profile at your wedding.
My brother is still mad at my dad because he found a pretty dove figure on a Polterabend (that was not shattered) and wanted to keep it. But when he showed it to my dad he just took it and threw it on the ground. Dove dead.
Sad story 🕊
No, it's custom. Everything they throw has to be shattered. It's for good luck and to ward of bad spirits. Nobody realy belives it, but I think the dad didn't do it to irk him.
In my country
1. U must have "loud"est dj and Soundsystem on wheels. As loud that Atleast 10blocks must know that there is a marriage going going on.
2. Parents of bride and groom spend their life savings in their kids marriage.
3. Everyone wears lot of gold jewelry.
4. Indian marriage are legendary.
6. They spend around €60000.
In our part of the state, the wedding guests kidnap the bride and the groom has to fight the crowd to get to her.
In Poland we have polterabend too.😊
I've been on three weddings (parents, aunt, cousine) and nobody got married in the church.
Fun and culturally enriching video!
Wow respect... you are speaking german without any accent...I wouldn't notice you aren't german
When the bride is kidnapped during the wedding it is the duty of the witness of the groom to search for her and to pay the bill. The Husband has to dance with a broomstick which is dressed up as a bride.
When the couple is cutting the cake, the person whose hand is on top of the knife is the dominant one in the relationship.
For some reason the background makes me extremely nervous lmao
I am german and most of these traditions were new to me (or I've heard of them and that's all)
I'm surprised how quite a few Germans here didn't know these traditions. I never experienced one myself but most of this stuff I knew already (just the flower was unknown to me)
but I believe it's bc Germany can be very different depending on the region and whether you lived your life in one of the bigger cities or mor towards the country side. And, of course, whether your parents tell you about traditions n stuff
Ruuze I am also very surprised about that.I knew every single tradition she described, although to be fair, it has to be said that a few of them only happen in northern Germany
"Der typische Ring ist der Klassiker! => LOL
The state not recognizing the church marriage is true here in Brazil too, I thought in every country was like this...
Myrtle is also traditional because it means ''Family luck'' or ''Fertility'' So having myrtle in the bouquet is a lucky charm for having children
Fiend has a German wife. When they were dating, she remarked how UA flags seemed to be everywhere. They attended a wedding, and she mentioned there was even a US flag in the church. He told her that during the wedding, at some point the pledge of allegiance must be said or the wedding isn’t legally recognized.
She fretted throughout the wedding and on the way home. Wasn’t amused when she learned she had been had.
Traditions resemble alot to even Pakistani weddings. I sang for my wife to take her with me. Normally they ask to do something difficult
lovely tradation
If you have a typical german church wedding the bride and groom arrive and Go into the church together.
Kathi Kühn Ert no! The groom isn't supposed to see the bride before she enters the church
Clarry Berry You have to see, in Germany you have to get married by an official representative of the state in the Standesamt. So you are married before there is a church service. In Germany the bride and groom arrive together in a car or carriage. The pastor, or priest greets them and they go into the church. It was done like that in all weddings I attended. The church wedding is inconsequential before the law in Germany.
i mean, i'm german as well and yes, they go to the "standesamt" together but in church, the groom goes in first so that he doesn't see the bride before the actual wedding ceremony. that's how it's been on all weddings i have attended. though i have to admit, i have only been to a handful of weddings :D
Well, if they arrive at the church together or not is up to the couple. But what I've never seen in Germany is the groom waiting at the altar and the bride going in with her father. The priest/pastor goes down the aisle first, and the bride and groom follow together. That's the german tradition. Nowadays some couples want to do it like they see it in films, but normally the church doesn't allow it. Of course there can be congregations that make exceptions.
gepee 365 yeah, I wonderd myself, why there is No giving away of the bride. I asked my sister about it. She is at university to become a pastor/Pfarrer. And she said it is because of the already being married by the state, already being husband and wife. So no need to give the bride away.
In Bavaria there is a tradition where people of the village go to the houses where the couple sleeps(always in separate houses) in the early morning (4am or 5am) on the day of the wedding and wake them up by shooting into the air with guns, riffles or canons repeatedly
That sounds way too American lol
Its weird for me that every line has to begin with A FORCED BUT HELD OUTBURST OF LAUGHTER. Why ?
What do you mean?
They are so cute
I think i need to adopt this since I am marrying german and I am filipino 😁😁♥️
Friends of the groom kidnap the bride, take her to the next place in the pub. The groom has to trigger his bride with a round of alcoholic drinks.
But there are some unwritten rules to make sure that you don't spoil the fun.
1, Everyone must know that something like this happens. Otherwise the bride disappears and everyone puzzles.
2, the search may not last longer than 1 hour... the guests wait!
3, the bride must be in a place the groom really knows.
What unfortunately disappears more and more are the "Polterabende". Today there are these bachelors farewell parties.
Which actually only means to get drunk separately and to behave completely misbehaving.
I just watched all of the wedding traditions in Hungary...😁 except for the porcelain part...Interesting, that we have quite similar rituals....no wonder there are quite a lot of Hungarian-German couples ;)
Surprised of how many commons traditions with Bulgarian wedding in Germany
OK I'm starting to fall in love with Germany
Why is that?
the law actually allows you to marry in church first and then at the town hall, they are however already considering switching back because it means that some cultural groups can get into marrying underaged girls away
My mom was kidnapped at my parents wedding, my dad was annoyed and was pissed the whole time
So many similarities to the Romanian weddings 😄. But we wear the ring on the left hand.
Wow i am married but the way that you explain it, it was amazing you are quite perfect.
i like the way she talks lmao
In india its 3-5 days of wedding ceremony
wedding tradition is pakistan are quite different. it takes complete three days to complete.
About where married people wear the rings you can say that it depends, Catholics wear their wedding ring always on the right hand while Protestants tend to wear it on the left
I’m German and didn’t even know that Germans have like traditions in marriage 😂😭
Lebst du hinterm Mond?☠️
the same in Romania,same traditions. and i think in most Europe there are 2 weeding legal and religious one.
Romania and Germany share a lot of lore, history and even fairytales ♥️ so it does not suprise me
I love the german wedding 💕❤️
I didn't even know those traditions until now as a german...😂😂
Hab noch nie gehört dass die Braut entführt wurde und der Mann sie dann suchen muss haha
Interesting! Ican't bare though the State in Germany not recognising Church wedding ceremonies.
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Hey it's Kate. Long time no see! 👍
So a typical German wedding would be simpler than an American one.
Stefan Unson they often are - but the higher the budget, the more elaborate they can get.
depends on... like having a 6 Spänner, which means 6 horses in front of an open Kutsche or heart shaped red balloons for each guest for mass start on a blue sky
I love how in Germany we don't have engagement rings or any crazy expectations for super expensive ones either.
but.. what? we do have engagement rings here
@@emi-ji8tv no we don't. I don't know which part of Germany you come from but traditionally we've never had engagement rings. That may be a modern thing some people have adapted from the US but there have never been engagement rings.
Pers Godiva i know many people that have engagement rings. Also why is this important?
if someone wants to have an engagement ring.. who are you to judge ?
We do have engagement rings. It's the same ring we use for our wedding - it only changes hands. Depending on the region you live in from the right to the left or the left to the right hand.
Hi Kate, lang nicht mehr gesehen.
The Polterabend isn't necessarily (and I would actually say rarely) the night before the wedding, but rather a few weeks or months prior.. It's just too much work to clean up all the porcelain and then have a wedding right after!
Another tradition that comes to mind? Stealing the bouquet: if the bride and groom ever leave the bouquet unattended during the wedding, guests may steal and hide it.. In order to get it back, the young married couple has to make a promise in return, for example to throw a BBQ party some time.
Dont they also put some herb into the brides shoe for goodluck?
Got married to my wife German there...they cut a hole in a white sheet we had to walk through in Kiel