You Are Chasing The Wrong Goals
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This guys voice goes perfectly with the fact that these are always uploaded at midnight, and of course that’s when I watch them.
it 2 pm for me
Aussie gang let's gooo
Nothing like gettin ready for bed after a few beers and sisyphus uploads for the boys down under.
@@terry2295 same
@@terry2295 same
You talk big for a man whose goal is to push a rock up a hill
You must assume he is happy.
brilliant comment
He may cheat death but he can not cheat the work.
That Rock and Roll
mmmmmm, rolling a boulder up a rock. Yeah it easy to concentrate on a process if you can`t reach a goal
Wrong; if you get famous you instantly become happy. Don't listen to this charlatan.
hi jreg
Just as happy as you are
the same if you start your business and get rich
Look its J Reg
Yes daddy jreg I will always listen to you dispite really having no idea who you are except that you have a chair on your wall
“The surest way to corrupt a youth is to instruct him to hold in higher esteem those who think alike than those who think differently.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
this is why I dont read Nietzsche why is this statement worded the way it is
@@yin8079 I don’t see a problem with the wording. I mean writers and philosophers and scholars naturally write differently as they are exposed to more text and the more text you’re exposed to actually changes your relation to text and how you write. This is why scholarly stuff seems overly verbose. Part of it is definitely a flex. But also when you read that kind of stuff, you start to reflect it. I think if you read more stuff, you’ll have no problem with this kind of wording.
@@yin8079 1. It's translated from the original German. 2. Nietzsche taught language and philology as a profession, so I'm sure it's correct, if a bit flowery.
@@yin8079 i think it’s beautiful really. The way a lot of educated people string words together in the sophisticated way they do is kind of like poetry or music.
“The surest way to corrupt a youth is to instruct him to hold in higher esteem those who think alike than those who think differently.” - Adolf Hitler
“One believes things because one has been conditioned to believe them.”
― Aldous Huxley
Not all people.
cool quote, gonna use it for flat earthing stuff yknow how it is
@@burgernthemomrailer wasn't expecting to meet a fellow truther this side of the firmament today. most excellent.
@@MrShnazer but you especially
Yeah, but what else can we do?
I set myself 4 goals yesterday and this guy names all of them in 20 seconds
Did you achieve them?
Glad you expanded on this!🙌🏼
Who are you?
The guy who did the podcast with sisyphus on this topic
@@huwag9765 that’s not helpful
@@dougf9419 well shit i don't know, do check out his channel or something
@@huwag9765 no
I'm not sure why, but the CuriosityStream ad getting progressively quieter was absolutely hilarious
"I like money"
-Mr. Krabs 1469
Me do
Me too
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I like chromosomes mutation
- sapiens
This video is literally the plot of Kung Fu Panda.
Thank you for saving my time
at some point profound and trivial are just the same thing lol
@@chacubra well said, I will be stealing this quote thank you very much
@@Basedmints You're missing out. Imo one of the best animation movied
@@chacubra In my humble opinion, the topic addressed in the video wasn't trivial if that's what you mean. I think it's very easy to miss the forest for the trees so to speak, and in trying to set goals for our happiness we instead set goals to evade changing or just obtaining something external, that will not really bring us happiness.
i just want me a chocolate bar right now, that's my goal
//edit
i found one in my cupboard
Congrats. I think i want to eat something I'm kinda hungry. Thats my goal.
yay! I'm happy you found your chocolate bar :))
thank you! i wish you both finding your chocolate bar as well :^D
Comment : I want a chocolate
65 people : * L i K e *
Well, life complete
I lost 90lbs in the past year. I had been fat my entire life and thought it was the only thing I needed to be happy.
All Becoming thinner did was make my demons a lot easier to see but now I’ve been working on what really matters.
Love the videos man, Godbless.
Hope it all works out. God Bless!
I lost weight 5 years ago and I can safely say I do not want to nor will I ever go back to the way I was before. Being overweight sucked big fat balls compared to the shape I'm in now. Losing weight and weightlifting changed my life for the better and I'm thankful I made the decision.
That said I still have a lot to work on personally. I love this quote by Alexis Carrell - “ Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and sculptor.” I think it sums up our existence quite well.
@@franciscoferraz6788 that’s a great quote. The suffering aspect is interesting. I feel that people with an addictive personality have a high capacity for greatness. The void they need to fill is much bigger then others and you can either fill it with things that help you or things that hurt you. I used to eat 4K calories a day and drink a pint of whiskey everyday. Now I’m training for a marathon. It’s weird how life works.
Congrats on the lost weight and new lifestyle. I've been a heavy drinker for 20 years and recently quit. Like you, this was the beginning to becoming a better person rather than the goal. I think these bad habits are an attempt to solve the problem of existence, rather than being the problem itself.
@@mikea5612 absolutely.
I used to sometimes feel bad about not having goals or ambition, recently I realised my goal is just to be. Now I'm achieving my goal every second of every day and I gotta tell you, it feels good. :D
Indeee😮
cant chase the wrong goals if I don't have any in the first place
Just means you don't have get rid of the wrong one's and can focus on finding the right one's straight away
@@TheFirekidrs how do i find them if i have no idea what i am and what i want
@@loat2477 Still trying to figure the same out man. I think the best way so far is through a process of elimination. Sometimes you just gotta pick something to do and say fuck it. If it doesn't work and you don't enjoy it just drop it and do something else. You'll eventually find something you prefer over everything else.
@@loat2477 what are you? That's easy. What are you not.
@@TheFirekidrs @ThisMans This Mans just trolling i think
My goal is to follow Epicuru's advices: study stuff (critically) and educate yourself, go to countryside and live self reliant life outside of busy life of cities, and gather around friends to live, eat and have fun with you.
But if everyone does this, we won't evolve as a especies. No one will be motivated to make vaccines, technology and other stuff because we will only have this simple lifestyle
@@im70water93 There are plenty of ambitious sods with the motivation to change the world. And personal opinion here but the human race can go f itself.
@@Sofiaode18 bingo
I'm 70% water “my goal in life is to contribute to the evolution of our species”. Lmao
@@frankguan5044 So what? If I want to make others people's lives better, what is the problem? Imagine if everyone thought like you, depending in your age, you would be dead because of a disease. Lmao
I really appreciate this video. It really hit close to home and hit really hard.
I cried
Same here, I feel enlightened
If Sisyphus55 says that I'm an idiot, then I'm an idiot.
that profile pic too xD
So, I am still listening to the video as I write this. I want to start a business because I want to work for myself. I want to work for myself because I want to be my own boss. I want to be my own boss because I want to be in full control of my work ethic. I want to be in control of my work ethic because I have very often been frustrated by the utter lack of them in my career environment up to now. My career has never been about what I wanted to do, but rather what I could do to earn my keep. I am now studying programming at a polytechnic, I also reduced my living costs by a whole lot, at the same time I plan on creating different streams of revenue, by possibly creating things that I care about, profits don't need to be big, just sized enough to survive and keep learning and creating. After a lot of introspection, and having reached the end of this video as I write, I think I am *not* chasing the wrong goals :)
I hope it works out. Very nice 👍👍
Hm...saw "You Idiot" and immediately clicked.
Hey it's me !
"Take that _Obama_ ! You *IDIOT!* "
Same, I found it refreshing to find some genuine honesty presented to me in the form of a thumbnail.
Read it in Flowey's voice by jacksepticeye.
@@nukiradio “I’m pissing on the MOON!”
so glad to see sisyphus gaining, i remember when the 7k views this has gotten in an hour was the total views a video had gained over a few years. keep it up! :)
“We see the world, not as it is, but as we are──or, as we are conditioned to see it.”
― Stephen R. Covey
@@skunko1871 books
Who’s we. Speak for yourself.
@@MrShnazer dude its a quote use your brain
@@lukesacct SILENCE SHEEPLE DO YOU NOT SEE THE TRUTH OR ARE YOU SIMPLY BLIND!!!! /s lol
@@lukesacct maybe he's a pantheist or something.
Love the way you've included more "professional" animation in this one. Glad you don't seem to be looking to rid of your homebrew animation style
I love this animation style
"for gaining public attention, 6 figures salary, show off on social media, prove the people wrong, cars, house and so on" the definition of success for millions of people in this generation
Having been diagnosed with cancer as a young adult. This puts me into a sudden shift of my goals. And cant even fathom how to have goals. Knowing death is at my side. I should make a friend out of it
Keep your head up, you can defeat cancer
Are you still alive now? if you don't mind a curious ice cream asking
@Just XAiver Dog She ded
R.i.p
This one was scary, I've been watching your video's for a couple of months now. Only yesterday I realised how by setting the wrong goals I've been swimming against the current for the past 16 years. I feel so dumb for doing so, but i guess also glad
what current were you swimming against?
On the one hand, I feel a sense of relief to realize that I have been working on many intrinsic goals--I just never considered them as goals before. On the other hand, I've been shaming myself for over a decade at my apparent lack of extrinsic goals and that has had a corrosive effect on many aspects of my life.
I'd say if you really feel like lacking, focus on that part first. Have a nice apartment, living a comfortable life without having to worry about monetary issues and having a decent living conditions is a must first. Pursuing intrinsic goals is important, but only if all your basic needs are covered much like Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.
Woah! The editing is next level in this one!
Been crying for 2 weeks bcs I feel old at 25 and if I don't kms now I'll become even older
I don't even know why I want to be young to begin with
To back into childhood
Because kid have nothing to worry about, you eat and play and that's it
you’re still holding onto the past, let go, because this elevator only goes up.
make the most out of each level in your life and you won’t even feel like this anymore.
Youth complex. United States has the worst youth complex
Coming from a 19 year old, I think 25 is still pretty young. Many people don’t have their true takeoff until their 30’s or maybe even later anyway
You say "The dangerous trouble behind what is called need-thwarting in which we fail to experience these basic needs is that we can end up with corrupted goals" but what if need-thwarting doesn't result in corrupted goals? What if loneliness leads you to want close meaningful friendships instead of superficial popularity for example? Would that still be outcome based? What if your passionate about something for its own sake but still feel a sense of incompetency when you don't do it perfectly? What if people who are more likely to pursue intrinsic goals grew up in an environment that met their needs and so are less likely to be bogged down by a distorted view of what a sense of fulfilment would look like? The study in the citations looks at what motivates people to exercise and labels those motivations as intrinsic or extrinsic but it doesn't ask the people motivated by extrinsic goals to change their motivations to intrinsic and examine if that would improve their outcomes. I suspect that people with intrinsic goals are more likely to have had their needs met in childhood and so are more likely to be healthier as a result, and that having intrinsic goals in it of itself is not necessarily a marker of positive outcomes but a natural response to having their needs met. I also suspect that transitioning between having extrinsic goals to intrinsic goals is very difficult and would not necessarily lead to our needs being met.
You're right, having your needs met in childhood makes you more likely to adopt intrinsic goals. But having your needs met at any point in time gives you more meaning and happiness, and over time you'll adopt more intrinsic goals even if you are driven by extrinsic goals right now. There's literally hundreds of papers on this in over 40 years of research, their findings are rock-solid!
@@SuperMrMuh can you link or tell how to find them. Examples I mean
Tldr but you should only chase outcomes if you're prepared to fail when things don't materialize the way you expect. Processes are tangible every step of the way. For example, do leg day, not to have buff legs, but because they need exercise, or to challenge yourself. You could lose your legs tomorrow and all your effort to have buff legs would be lost. But you won't lose yourself until you die, and a fulfilling life will make that not matter.
My goals: Ride a horse, go to a drive in movie, bounce a golf ball off a frozen river, play a video game outside on a projector.
Me before this video: Yeah, these goals are dumb; I'm probably doing something wrong.
Me after this video: I was right all along. ☺️
You could get all that done in a few days.
I did the last thing in summer, it’s great fun with friends! We made a fire and played smash and mario kart
did you ever ride a horse? it's pretty sick dude
@@florpyjohnson9531 Last time I did that, the horse tried to push me off with the help of trees. Scared the hell out of me, I'm never doing that again!! I'm glad I did it though, it was mostly a positive experience I guess.
random tip for anyone thinking about fitness goals: do calisthenics, its really fun to do because you learn handstands an what not and in the mean time you reach fitness goals like building muscle amd losing weight. i pesonally do it because i just like learning in general and i am training for the military.
I started calistenics when the pandemic hit and i fucking loved it, now i go to the gym to do weighted calistenics and i cant wait for my next workout! Do what brings you joy
Yeah, until you fuck up all of your joints
@@okplay9446 y do you say that?
@@okplay9446 I do joint workouts within my calisthenics to fuel joint growth. Stronger joints take about 6 months to develop as opposed to quick muscle growth. I used to have consistent knee pain but switched to calisthenics and did knee lifts and raises before leg exercises. This strengthened them overtime and I don't have knee pain anymore. Plus calisthenics is cheap and u can go at your own pace.
@@totallegend2480 Weighted calisthenics = not calisthenics
My goals of being a youtuber shall not be tamed.
Great video man i love ur channel a pure jam
I'm three years into college for a job I seriously don't want, I'm out of energy to pursue even my hobbies, and too scared to change my major. (I have no safety net.) This video told me I'm doing the wrong thing, but what is the right thing to do?
What are you working with? What are your other skills?
i really dont know, we are all kind of spitballing but maybe take a step back to see where you are, where you wanna be, how you feel about the things you do and the things you dont. then reconsider what you can change, the risks, and at the end of the day just make decisions
Hey Alexia, even if Sisyphus did say that you should pursue intrinsic rather than extrinsic goals, this doesn’t mean that you should be giving up something that would potentially save you from poverty (I’m guessing that’s what you don’t have a safety net against). Even in the research that Sisyphus cites it also says “extrinsic aspirations are not necessarily detrimental but may even contribute to well-being”. In your case if you cannot afford to pursue your intrinsic goals, your best option might just be to ride it out and establish a net for yourself so that you have the option to quit whatever you are doing to pursue other things.
We can also do a thought experiment: what would happen if you did give up school and things that you don’t want to do?
What would you have to do if you gave up school to keep living the way you are? Would you have enough time to spend on your hobbies then?
Is there a foreseeable future where you don’t give up school, and still be able to pursue your hobbies?
You could also see if there’s some other career that you do want to pursue without getting into too much student debt. Maybe another program that’d have you take a lot of the same prerequisites that you had for your current degree; something that wouldn’t put you in a lot of debt or take too many extra years.
We’re often encouraged to “follow our dreams” with regards to our careers. As kids we get asked what we want to “be” when we grow up. As though your work “is” you. It implies that your dream should be something that sustains you financially. This is frustrating to me because most of the jobs that society requires to be filled in order to function are not “dream jobs”, however surely someone has to do them. These people are not failures. What if the thing that makes you happy is unprofitable. As a society we need to accept that your career doesn’t define you or the happiness you can get out of your life.
You don’t have to love your career to be happy.
Maybe it’s wise to finish your degree and get that job for the sake of stability seeing as your almost there. And in the meantime keeping your eyes open to anything along the way that makes you happy, profitable or not.
Lol. Philosophy isn't about solutions, it's about compounding problems.
All of this applies to me and its scary, no this is not a frequency illusion, legit this man knows his audience. I went through a crisis like this during the pandemic basically all my goals were extrinsically based. When I was removed from the world I had nobody to motivate me. I lost all my drive to continue, I have had to build from almost nothing my intrinsic motivation. It was like someone pulled the rug out from under me but instead of hitting the mahogany floor I just kept falling into black. I'm not sure if I hit rock bottom or if I'm still falling, all I know is that it feels like I'm trying to build a helicopter out of scraps that are falling with me in the dark. People really help when I get to talk to them, I am naturally extraverted so I suppose that makes sense. I was going to write," I've got it all figured out and I don't need a soul to affirm me", but that would be a lie. However, it would not be a lie to leave you, the reader, with the notion that I am improving and taking joy in the most minuet of positive inclinations in my progress.
yours truly, Mr. Ponty
Never had such a big reality check.Thank you man
I hope you know your lil stick videos are an absolute godsend.
I watched this as I was waking up and getting ready for my backwards ass day (night work). Helping me get over this sense of failure due to dropping out is something I'm eternally grateful for.
I recently asked myself the question of why am I chasing my goals? For most of my goals I was happy with the reasoning, however the one goal whose answer didn't satisfy me led me down a rabbit hole of self discovery. That goal was working out to get bigger.
I wanted to be the physical embodiment of masculinity so I could be like those I idolise, or rather, those I thought I idolised. There was no clear answer at first apart from "it's what you've always wanted". This answer triggered me to ask if I had actually always wanted this. I thought back as far as I could and while I don't remember the very first time I wanted to get bigger, I was able to identify what point in my life that desire started.
It started when an older friend of mine attempted to sexually assault me. I froze up, a feeling I still despise to this day, and I was barely able to escape. Upon thinking about it more and more over the next few days I could no longer deny my motivation. I wanted to be terrifying. I must have thought if I was no one would ever hurt me again.
After this revelation I then asked what I did want and it's taken a couple months to figure out, but its pretty much the exact opposite. I want to be skinnier, more approachable, in many ways more feminine. I've made people scared before and I hated it, but those encounters weren't enough for me to realise this.
I plan to continue working out, but I'm restructuring it. I'm going to have a focus on health, strength and flexibility as opposed to muscle mass. I'm also going to be a lot less obsessive, focusing on doing exercises I enjoy.
Bro I don’t even think I have any goals at all... I just feel like I’m moving in the right direction.
@@baranobama5375 best aproach to life tbh
@@mammutbrot9230 you think so? I don’t believe in drowning in plans for the go go go hamster wheel but I don’t believe in movie through life without a purpose
Just had to say THANK YOU. I LOVE this video. Has been topics that I have bounced around in my head and it was mind boggling to have it professionally written into a video what before was only in my head.
I also personally believe that a good reason to strive for intrinsic goals vs extrinsic goals is that at the end of the day extrinsic goals rely on achieving accomplishments that a certain amount of the population haven't achieved. To use the example that you used towards the end of the video, if I am wanting to lose weight in order to look good for other people then I am reliant on the idea that a certain amount of people aren't at the weight I am at. If everyone was at the weight that I wanted to be at then it wouldn't be a goal. Everyone looks like that so nobody would say I look good because everyone looks good. And if everyone looks good then nobody looks good.
But if you want to lose weight in order to be healthy in general. What other people are doing doesn't matter! The whole world could be obese. The whole world could be a bunch of Arnold Schwarzenegger's. Your goal has nothing to do with other people. And there is something beautiful about that. You aren't trying to get the attention of other people.
Really at the end of the day extrinsic goals rely on NOT accomplishing something but more on getting a reaction from people. Meanwhile intrinsic is all you (hence the name). You don't need people to react a certain way in order to become a healthy weight. BUT in order to look good for other people you need other people to think you look good.
And I believe that's a big reason for why the intrinsic goals make you so much happier than the extrinsic goals. I apologize for the rant but watching this video felt like Sisyphus reached into my head and grabbed this topic that I haven't heard anyone else mention and expand upon it in ways that I have only thought in my head but never said out loud.
At first I thought "not one of these videos again" but it really did something unexpected and made me think about it.
I love how you can see the improvement in animation throughout every video
Sisyphus 55, boosting our confidence one video at a time
Nothing really matters, and that's okay.
Absurdism at its finest
Or rather anything can matter it depends on your values
@@DrSimpp Not necessarily, could be a mix between existentialism and absurdism
I like nothing really matters, and that's amazing
@@DrSimpp lmaooo
As always, great video XD
I think everyone likes to think that having lots of money or being successful will make them happy. But if we cannot find happiness within ourselves, then we will continue to remain unfulfilled even if we achieve these extrinsic goals.
Accepting yourself allows you to find those intrinsic goals and feel fulfillment in your life. As long as I am doing that, then I know whatever happens I can continue to move forward 😊
Are you a time traveler?
wtf
@@yoavco99 prob an unlisted video
this shit 's freaking me out
@@yoavco99 i guess the video wasn't public and the guy got the link or sum
Thank you for this we can get trapped very easily in goals like being rich and attractive etc, when we should have goals that span over a large portion of time and that make us enjoy the process 🙏🏻
This video is like a big slap to me. Thank you. I'm so greateful for this channel. This video came to my feed out of nowhere.
I feel like a lot of the things we strive for are motivated by both. For example a dream job that we find fascinating, but at the same time socially rewarding with appreciation and money. In my experience a purely extrinsic goal is never reached, but intrinsic goals rarely pop up on their own. Maybe it's because we are socially somewhat chained to base our goals on social norms rather than the goals that actually make us happy.
I think that traveling really helps with gaining a sense of perspective outside of oneself and embracing a calmer and more freeing life. Especially for those of us in cities in the united states, which seems to be the most self absorbed areas. And i don’t mean just speeding through hotspots as a tourist, I think really taking the time and relaxing is the way to go (if you can afford it)
Thanks. I've been having those thoughts of me in a position of fame since i've been diagnosed with depression. It's been 3 and a half year now and i'm doing way better than when i was at rock bottom, but i'm still living at my parents house at 21 with no job and i still have social anxiety or whatever it's called in english. I now understand somewhat why i was daydreaming about those things even if i at some point try to stop having those thoughts and that one-liner made me realise that so thank you. I'll try not to focus on these daydreams and just do what's best for me and do my best, not the other's best.
Great video but didn't mention the biproduct/positive intrinsic outcomes of superficially "extrinsic" goals. Examples:
- Making significantly more money than your peers - not to feel validation from your peers that you "made it", but rather to have financial freedom to relieve most human restrictions. You can spend a lot more time/try different intrinsic goals when you don't have to keep a job because you need the money nor theoretically work at all.
- Getting into phenomenal, statistically significant better shape than your peers. Extrinsically, everyone thinks you're hot and disciplined. However, you should be motivated by being able to retain your youth and not have to suffer as much from aging as others.
Yeah, I think this video was lazily and poorly made actually and your comment explains it in a way that I thought of myself
"Why" is such an important question.
I want to realize I am worth the love my wife has for me. That's been my goal for the last 7 years and I don't feel any closer.
Maybe you don't have to be worth anything you get. Simply accepting that you have it is enough. I'm not saying to take things for granted, but "worth" is a somewhat subjective concept. How would you determine that you're worth someone's love? By your income? By the time you dedicate to them? By your status and therefore difficulty in attaining your attention and companionship? Objectively and over a large number of people maybe (statistically these people may be more likely to succeed if you will), but the answer is really not there I'd say.
If your partner loves you, then they find that you're the right person for them somehow. You can just accept that, then you won't need a reason.
Love is immeasurable and worth has nothing to do with emotions. just keep doing what your doing I’m sure she sees you for you
That is beautiful
I feel that. My girlfriend loves me so much, but I can't for the life of me figure out why.
You are worthy of it man. Don't think this way. She loves you for you which means you ARE good enough for her.
Alright, now it's time for our bimonthly existential crisis, thank you for that
I'm someone on the opposite side. I have been indulging in the question of why for so long now that I see people with my potential reach heights while I'm still stuck with the same question. You never get an answer, it's good to ask and be self aware and weigh your options but don't go into this rabbit whole because the answer doesn't exist. You are given a life and just live. Be authentic, be real and live. Keep moving.
Thank you for providing this high quality content for free, your videos really helped me see life in another perspective.
Holy fuck that comment "constant state of feeling like we can't do anything right" hit close to home. Thank you for this video, all your videos are interesting and amazing. Makes me as a STEM student very interested in philosophy, I've picked up a few books from Camus that I'm going to read after watching your video on him.
Just wanted to let you know that this channel and also exurb1a are part of the reason I've been able to find some sort of meaning in my life. Thank you for providing a tool for self examination.
Jokes on you! If I don't have a goal, I can't be chasing the wrong goal!
This is just what I needed
Idk if this will get lost in the comments, but thank u for this, this is something I really needed, life’s been pretty shitty recently and I don’t know why, but I think this has helped me finally understand how to make it not so shitty, thx
This is what I needed.
Exactly what I needed and at the right time
Holy shit, another banger.
My goal(s) are to harness the power of attention and focus, to better understand how my mind works so I don't miss out on what is right in front of me or miss opportunities. Improving my ability to apply critical thinking and improving my thinking in general is also of great importance.
Wow, the timing! I just noted down something similar to the title in my journal earlier today. From where I'm from, academic pressure is pretty high. For the same reason, I've found myself frequently giving into my addictions. But today I just had enough. The addiction was draining me and I realised it was caused by my unnecessarily exaggerating ideals of academic performance. I decided to fix psychological well being as my ultimate goal
Im in a similar boat. Haven't kicked the addiction yet though
I relate to this comment i've decided to focus on small wins than big academic progress
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I think everybody has to figure it out for themselves through trial and error but to offer insight from somebody that has obsessed over goal setting for a couple years and managed to find happiness and stability in it here's my approach. This is how I approach every goal. I write down 3 purposes for the goal. I make sure the purposes are primarily intrinsic. I use the SMARTER acronym. Specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, time-bound, evaluated, and recorded. I make sure to understand the process that will achieve the goal and find ways to make it enjoyable through gamification, attaching rewards to it, and/or ensuring a strong purpose, routine, and encouragement. The process is likely to change over time until I find something that is stable and enjoyable. Eventually, this process becomes a habit which can be a good thing but without regular reevaluation can become a rut. Once it has a purpose, is SMARTER, and the process of achieving it is well understood and enjoyable you will achieve that goal!
Also, I have found that goals being related to a dimension or multiple dimensions of wellness are very helpful. If you are unfamiliar just google "Dimensions of wellness".
these videos always come up on my explore page at the right time
I really need this right now
The Bill Gates quote of "loving to make code" really got me off-guard.
I believe Nietzsche advocated 6 hours of walking a day. Broken up between his studies I would presume. Mind, body and nature connection is the breeding ground for creativity. “All truly great thoughts are conceived while walking” -Nietzsche
I clicked on it because I literally read it "You Are Chasing The Wrong Girls". But didn't leave because I loved listening to u.
I aspire to be the one who watches all good tv-shows, movies and especially videogames.
Synchronicity! I was thinking about this yesterday and then today this video pops up! Thanks!
Learn the bare minimum to keep living
Learn what you can do to that you consider meaningful
Learn that climbing the economic or social hierarchy is a byproduct, and not a good end goal to aim to infinitely approach
Letting yourself be Naive is okay if you know you’re Naive
and if you know how to and make sure
that you and everyone you care about
will still be okay
even if it blows up in your face
Or don’t
It’s 6AM and I can’t really be sure that I’m conscious right now
Thank you. I was feeling down about not achieving my extrinsic goals and needed that realignment from you.
This video shortened: Lower your goals and rethink why
No, rethink your goals and determine whether or not you should lower or change them. Just saying your goals suck now figure out why is bad advice. Absolutism for people you don't even know is dangerous
Competence, relatedness, autonomy. That's a really goddamn powerful model in explaining a LOT about me
Damn you for this! Very good, I must eat food.
The preview and naming is just outstanding! Never ever have I seen a combination this good! Best/10
This feels like a personal attack
I fr can’t thank you enough. You’ve literally described me in the video and this made me realize so many things. Just THANK YOU. You might have just made my whole life better.
Try to put more emphasis on the relationships part. We're a social species, it's a group effort. All this focus on the individual is outshining the fact that we can do and improve much more as a team.
I have absolutely no idea where I wanna be, where to go, what to live for. "what the hell am I doing here" this sums it up.
dude, consider to moderate the volume of your promotions, it is not as loud as the voice of the video exposition
that's good, why would you ever complain about it?
@@Illlium It is to me at least sort of annoying, and since he wants to promote something maybe it is best to do it properly so he gets to expose the product or service better I think. And messing up with the volume of the video is not fun.
@@lmclrain to me it's much more annoying when content creators crank up the volume during ads, but point taken
@@Illlium well it is not about keeping volume balanced, more like how it is presented, If the creator can make something appealing and unique it works just fine. Probably we can compare it with how jumpscares work. They can be fun and they can be annoying.
If you are lost, find a group and do the things you’ve always wanted to do. Remember you rather regret the thing you’ve done then regret the things you haven’t done.
As a 21 years old calisthenics athlete, basketball player, entrepreneur, arm wrestler, drawer, singer, yugioh duelist, part time engineer I can tell you that I’m glad I’m living my life to the fullest. Our mind is so powerful it really can dictate how we live our life if we don’t control it. Early in my teen I thought I was a dump introverted teen who skinny and un-athletic. But going out of my comfort zone to joining group to groups have made me realise I’m so much more than just a dweep sitting at home all day watch anime (I still do sometimes).
Process >> Outcome, when it comes to intrinsic goals.
I recently just moved to a new country, and its crazy how once you know that there is an end date, you start appreciate the things and friends you have. It all just felt good because i didnt know how things were going to be like. Now I ve been living in this completely new enviorment for me, and though things arent bad, I find myself just craving to have some of the things I had in my home country, its almost tangible to me. For once i can see clearly what my soul asks me, and that is to find a deep and meaningful relationship. And i know it isnt easy, but the void it leaves in ones body to feel that you dont belong where you are right now is to big. But i have to try to make something out of this.
Not gonna lie, I'm more into "discover a new philosopher/ philosophy" type video than the self help ones.
That's the kind of self help advice I've already heard on multiple chanel. But the ones about contemporary figures, I don't know another chanel who does them.
Try "Philosophy Overdose", a Channel-like Archive of Speeches, Readings and such of a lot of philosophers. Or try getting into the material first-hand, by getting some books about philosophy
To think of it, your request reminds me of Pursuit of Wonder. That channel is exactly what you're looking for. Please, do watch some of their videos, especially the more recent ones. I really enjoy them.
@@schlaubischlumpf211 I've already read philosophy books, just I only know the dead one, I want to know whi's hot topic right know!
@@myeyesaredrymylove I know this chanel, very good indeed but more focused on concepts.
@@missScarlatine I see, do you know exurb1a? His videos are very entertaining to watch, and have alot of replay value.
I wish i had a video like this 5 years ago. I'm glad I have one now. Thanks dude
Thank you. You've inspired me to pursue my goal of becoming a cult leader and live off of the work of other people.
So you’re going to start a corporation, aye?
I recently put a goal. I'm just planning it for now. When I saw the beginning of the video, I paused it and wrote my reasons for that goal. Now after seeing the video, I found that it is an intrinsic goal and I have very good reasons to have it, I'm on the right track. I'm writing this because I wanted to thank you. I've been toxically sceptical for a while and I found competence by this video approving that I'm on right track, in a depressive situation where I question everything I think, every decision I make, where I lost hope and belief in myself, my ideas and my efforts. This was not the aim of the video (bcs I didnt have the wrong goal, it is like the perfect healthy goal) but it helped me gain some belief and determination on my goal, thank you.
But Sisyphus 55, I need to complete my entire living shiny Pokedex!
3:20 congrats, it's the fisrt time I see someone with a resonable understanting of why ppl have these types of goals
I just have exams as my only goal right now 🦀.
Not the first time I've been called an idiot today. Been a long one , keep on keeping on. Love the content, thanks
I feel like my goals have been the same for a while now, but the driving impulses behind them change from time to time
Every single video of yours that I've ever watched has been exactly what i needed to hear from another persons mouth. Thank you.
Does anyone have a copy of StickMen's Health that i can borrow? I need something to read while i poop
Bruh
Yesss I've been writing about exactly this recently. We focus so much on the outcome when really it should only be a metric for what process is being used. I think it's the same in ethics and why I feel religions were so singular minded in their conclusions. So many religious stories were about people who really acknowledged the darkness both in themselves and in the world and they kept struggling through it with faith, honesty and humility and they reach enlightenment, so we put enlightenment on a pedestal when really it's the struggle that is the most important factor