Forgiving them & excusing their behavior is ENABLING them to continue those nasty behaviors. ALWAYS HOLD people NO MATTER WHO (grandma, mom, dad brother sister idccccc) ACCOUNTABLE ALWAYS.
It’s crazy knowing how many people go and went through the same thing as far as parents in the black community. The best thing we can do is break the cycle and do better for our kids.
I feel like this is my first time watching the Roses Are Dead podcast, and what a timely episode. Forgiving your parents and seeing them as human beings is hardddd. We tend to view our parents’ actions from the lens of the child who was hurt, which makes it hard to forgive as an adult. Love the transparency in this episode.
when my parents were together my pops never took my side knowing damn well she was often in the wrong. I still have some resentment but when I’d get kicked out the house he’d back me up, so I can’t imagine what you must’ve felt 😔
I’m not go lie I was pissed the whole episode, like literally ready to fight for you. You didn’t deserve that Terry & as a faithful viewer of the podcast your story explains a lot. I pray you find healing & just know your younger self would be very proud of you! ❤
Bro this episode just touched my soul. I’m from 75th and cottage and hearing this while not having a relationship with my pops, this just hit different
This was very dope episode! I appreciate the transparency. Being about to reflect on harsh childhood experiences from a healing, adult perspective takes a lot of courage and maturity most people don’t have.
I appreciate you guy's vulnerability. I am so proud of this generation of black men for finding positive role models to follow and teaching themselves how to be great. Thank you guys for sharing your lessons and points of view. Im certain yall are helping mold the greatness of men who need it. Much love to you both
Wow thank you for sharing because a lot men suffer in silence and never speak up! Yall are a pair of intelligent young men and my heart goes out to yall and navigating this life fr
Loved this episode! Forgiving my parents was a major part of my grieving process. I had to forgive them to grieve them & I had to forgive them in order to honor them. Honoring my mother resulted in the creation of my first business. Life is tricky. Forgiveness is truly for us. If I wouldn’t have forgave my parents for the trauma of their deaths I wouldn’t be who I am & am supposed to be for the collective. Again life is tricky. Thank you for this episode fellas. 💜
great episode! especially navigating adult relationships with parents. its a real transition to go through as a an adult to seeing them as actual people. & terry wild funny for that grandma being in the car migration comment. i was crying!!
I was the only child for 10 years & it was a BIG adjustment but now that I’m 28 and my brother is 18 we get to talk 💩 about our parents together and I love that for me . I couldn’t imagine going though this alone 😂
Appreciate the genuineness gents , in regard to the uneducated parents .I think most of us in Jamaica and the black community in a whole can relate. Big up yourself for a truly sensational podcast. If it’s not too personal I am curious on your parents thoughts about how you’ve developed and there past actions towards you .
I understand the therapist saying that the parents might not want to hear this and that but you also have to hold the parents accountable because they knew they just didn’t want to hear it because they wa straight to just move on without speaking on certain things… but everyone is different!
Omg 🥺🥹 this was another good episode! I appreciate your transparency and vulnerability! Terry you’re an amazing story teller. I’m also an only child so many things you said is how I always felt/still feel. I’m in therapy now it’s often hard for me to accept reality and know my mom doesn’t have the capacity to show up how I need/want her.
I'm even surprised Terry ever set foot at home after what his mum did&his father's reaction.. I'd never go back.. I'm so glad the Lord pulled him thru&out and is now the Man that he is.. congrats Terry for holding on🔥
some things are not worth forgiveness, your momma kicking you out pre 18, not in my mind or heart, my mom kicked me out at 21, which is the best thing she ever did for me.
Terry do you think that your relationship with your woman affects your relationship with woman? A lot of men that don’t have a good relationship with their mother tend to take that anger out on their girlfriends and wives. Just asking 🙂
@@brittanyb5942 not in a sense of anger, no. But in the past it caused me to be too clingy to women I was in relationships with. It also made me question their love for me when they did things I didn’t like. Even tho there was plenty evidence that they loved me. I’d still question it. My therapist told me that I was trying to get women to answer questions that only my mom could answer. Overall that relationship affects my overall personality much more than my romantic life.
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Here from tiktok bro I’m praying for you fam
Came from TikTok , watch the whole video , loved the vid fam
Forgiving them & excusing their behavior is ENABLING them to continue those nasty behaviors. ALWAYS HOLD people NO MATTER WHO (grandma, mom, dad brother sister idccccc) ACCOUNTABLE ALWAYS.
This pod is about to be one of the biggest pods in the world
It’s crazy knowing how many people go and went through the same thing as far as parents in the black community. The best thing we can do is break the cycle and do better for our kids.
I feel like this is my first time watching the Roses Are Dead podcast, and what a timely episode. Forgiving your parents and seeing them as human beings is hardddd. We tend to view our parents’ actions from the lens of the child who was hurt, which makes it hard to forgive as an adult. Love the transparency in this episode.
when my parents were together my pops never took my side knowing damn well she was often in the wrong. I still have some resentment but when I’d get kicked out the house he’d back me up, so I can’t imagine what you must’ve felt 😔
I’m not go lie I was pissed the whole episode, like literally ready to fight for you. You didn’t deserve that Terry & as a faithful viewer of the podcast your story explains a lot. I pray you find healing & just know your younger self would be very proud of you! ❤
This was one of the better episodes. A whole different level of respect for you guys man
Seen a clip on Tik Tok now I’m a subscriber!!
Bro this episode just touched my soul. I’m from 75th and cottage and hearing this while not having a relationship with my pops, this just hit different
This was very dope episode! I appreciate the transparency. Being about to reflect on harsh childhood experiences from a healing, adult perspective takes a lot of courage and maturity most people don’t have.
The fact that we'll cut off anyone that wrongs us but not our parents is a weird concept for me
we should always try to forgive, and it usually takes a long time, but ultimately the decision comes down to you.
I appreciate you guy's vulnerability. I am so proud of this generation of black men for finding positive role models to follow and teaching themselves how to be great. Thank you guys for sharing your lessons and points of view. Im certain yall are helping mold the greatness of men who need it. Much love to you both
Wow thank you for sharing because a lot men suffer in silence and never speak up! Yall are a pair of intelligent young men and my heart goes out to yall and navigating this life fr
Loved this episode! Forgiving my parents was a major part of my grieving process. I had to forgive them to grieve them & I had to forgive them in order to honor them. Honoring my mother resulted in the creation of my first business. Life is tricky. Forgiveness is truly for us. If I wouldn’t have forgave my parents for the trauma of their deaths I wouldn’t be who I am & am supposed to be for the collective. Again life is tricky.
Thank you for this episode fellas. 💜
@@justeb868 🖤🖤🖤
This was DEEP and relatable….subscribed! Wow
As an only child, very grateful to see that many people who are the only child had the same or similar experiences. Great episode 🙏🏾
great episode! especially navigating adult relationships with parents. its a real transition to go through as a an adult to seeing them as actual people. & terry wild funny for that grandma being in the car migration comment. i was crying!!
I was the only child for 10 years & it was a BIG adjustment but now that I’m 28 and my brother is 18 we get to talk 💩 about our parents together and I love that for me . I couldn’t imagine going though this alone 😂
Appreciate the genuineness gents , in regard to the uneducated parents .I think most of us in Jamaica and the black community in a whole can relate. Big up yourself for a truly sensational podcast. If it’s not too personal I am curious on your parents thoughts about how you’ve developed and there past actions towards you .
The therapy i did not know i needed! Subscribed!
My relationship with my mother was very bad. I do not forgive her & never will...
You only hurting yourself
@MrKidori that sounds like some stupid shit My mother used to say.👍🏿
@@MrKidori that sounds like some stupid shit my mama would say
I understand the therapist saying that the parents might not want to hear this and that but you also have to hold the parents accountable because they knew they just didn’t want to hear it because they wa straight to just move on without speaking on certain things… but everyone is different!
Omg 🥺🥹 this was another good episode! I appreciate your transparency and vulnerability! Terry you’re an amazing story teller. I’m also an only child so many things you said is how I always felt/still feel. I’m in therapy now it’s often hard for me to accept reality and know my mom doesn’t have the capacity to show up how I need/want her.
I'm even surprised Terry ever set foot at home after what his mum did&his father's reaction.. I'd never go back.. I'm so glad the Lord pulled him thru&out and is now the Man that he is.. congrats Terry for holding on🔥
@@EdelAmbogo 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I loved everything about this episode very transparent and vulnerable. 👏🏾👏🏾 #definitelyrelatable
This was healing
Man I had siblings 😢feel bad for bro
Thanks brutha
I loved this episode ❤
some things are not worth forgiveness, your momma kicking you out pre 18, not in my mind or heart, my mom kicked me out at 21, which is the best thing she ever did for me.
Never related to something more in my life. Sheesh!
I'm subscribed from Tik Tok
@@Untilhecomes85 thank you 🙏🏾
Therapist was making excuses for the mom.
Terry do you think that your relationship with your woman affects your relationship with woman? A lot of men that don’t have a good relationship with their mother tend to take that anger out on their girlfriends and wives. Just asking 🙂
@@brittanyb5942 not in a sense of anger, no. But in the past it caused me to be too clingy to women I was in relationships with. It also made me question their love for me when they did things I didn’t like. Even tho there was plenty evidence that they loved me. I’d still question it. My therapist told me that I was trying to get women to answer questions that only my mom could answer.
Overall that relationship affects my overall personality much more than my romantic life.
Thanks for responding! 🙏🏾
37:10 during this ENTIRE episode ngl ya moms sound EXACTLY like mine
Appreciate yal
I’m here from tik tok