Life Lessons : Mistakes I Made In My 20s - How to Live a Happy Life
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- We are sharing some life lessons we have learned by reflecting on some of the mistakes we made our 20s. If you want to live a happy life, one of the best things that you can do is to take time to reflect on the past and learn from your mistakes.
Sometimes knowing what didn't work is the first step to figuring out what you actually want out of your life. Now that we are in our 30s we can look back on our 20s and be grateful for the lessons to live by that we learned along the way.
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Can you two make a video about your divorces if it's not too personal? Like how marriage affected your time in school, financially, the red flags you were speaking of, and the pressures that lead to getting married earlier than you were ready for. I'm 21 and getting married soon so I have cold feet about it
Blessed and Favored they were both previous married to other people.
As a 22yr old getting married in like 2 weeks (wow, time flies), I'd say *focus on having similar values, principles & good conflict resolution.* We do and that's 80%. When you don't like him/her still love them, and visa versa 😅
We do and have had 2 big disagreements/fights that showed we both don't tend to get dimoralizing or unkind even when we're angry. *The love & respect persisted and that's what matters most to me.* 💕
That's the reason I don't have cold feet, but it's worth exploring why you do. Since i take you're already married, I hope it's good well.
*Take care* 🌴🍸🍇🌴
*edit/sn:* we're having a court wedding then splashing on an anniversary for a wedding (5-10yrs). So there's no "friends & family" or "we spent $$$" pressure...if that makes sense 😬
How are you guys doing? I was getting married at 20 and although I thought I knew it all, it was a bad decision. He changed so much 3-4 years after the marriage. I am 30 an divorced now.
😂 Joseph following up your first two regrets like "well damn. I don't wanna follow those up"
But honestly, I really loved how he acknowledged your hardships and didn't try to one-up them, and instead, he gave an honest list. That was a really great video, you guys.
Tasha I have watched your videos for months. I love the content, but always felt distant from you personally. But this video made me SEE you! I feel so much more connected to you and understand you better. Thank you for being so vulnerable, open, honest. You are AMAZING. Thank you for the reminder about spending time with your kids. I needed to hear this so bad.
I honestly, honestly love you both so much. This is an absolutely inspiring, wonderfully motivating video about a fantastic relationship. Tasha - thank you. Joseph - thank you. I hope my (new!) husband and I grow to be as honest and graceful as you two.
That's probably the nicest comment we've ever received. Thank you so much.-Joseph
Oh wow...I did not sign a permission slip for this feels trip
Thank you for your great comment. I can agree that toxic friendships are difficult. I've read somewhere that if you're friends with someone for 7 years, you'll be friends for life. I think that only applies to good friends, so don't be afraid to move on.-Joseph
It's so hard to see them grow up so fast. You have a wonderful daughter who adores you and you gained memories with your husband that you might not have had. Every one has regrets when it comes to their children. Maybe someday she'll build another with you for her own children.
I love and appreciate how honest you both are, especially as a young person about to enter the "real world." Thank you for sharing even the most personal parts of your lives (and go Tasha for posting that on Facebook today!) Xx
Thank you guys for sharing your stories. There is nothing wrong with reflecting especially somethings that you regret and the fact that you guys talk about it is a plus. Strength through adversity and that you guys pulled through. ✌🏾❤️and good vibes from the west coast.
I didn’t know I would’ve been crying on this video
This was a really great video, as someone in my 20s I truly appreciate content like this. I would be thrilled if I turned out as self aware, stable and happy as you guys.
Great video! I absolutely Love your transparency. Everything that has taken place in your lives. Has shaped your journey. Be blessed you two.
Enjoyed this video... the only mistakes that keep us down are the ones we don't learn from. Once learning, expansion and improvements are taking place, we're doing just fine - keep on keeping on...
Although this was done almost a year ago but I appreciate the vulnerability that you guys put fourth and spoke about things that we all suffer in silence with in our 20's and even 30's but the dollhouse thing I get it... We think we have so much time and our kids are just blossoming. I have a blanket I began crocheting for my daughter 4 months before her 1st birthday and here she is 5 and I haven't completed it yet...smh You had me in tears with you on that 1
Yes, I agree I can relate with the dollhouse I went through the same thing with my son. My mom watched him so that I was able to work and attend school I was gone from 6AM up until 10 -11PM and I cried so many times just like you did. Now, I am successful in my career and blessed to only work full time with an amazing income I am able to participate in every school function every soccer practice and game and even now I cry because I am so thankful that he doesn't think I was a bad or neglecting mother. I love this video you guys you all are amazing.
We are so glad that everything worked out for you. It is just a travesty that all jobs do not afford workers time to see their kids enough. Thank you for the comment.-Joseph
Tasha, I really admire how courageous you are. I'm learning a lot from you.
This video was so, so, so good; thank you for sharing! I was tearing up w/Tasha talking about the dollhouse, then laughed out loud when Joseph followed w/"I wish I'd had a budget". :) Yes, many of us were still figuring things out in our 20's, but as a father of 11 I'm trying to figure out how to help my kids get there sooner. I recently watched a sermon by Dr. S.M. Davis here on YT called "What to expect from your 12-year-old" that I felt had many good insights; the list of great people in history who had epic achievements at early ages was fascinating. Rick Warren's book "The Purpose-Driven Life" is another great resource that's helped in this area.
You two are amazing! Thanks for being so honest and inspirational :)
It's so refreshing to see a much "softer" side of the two of you 😙 You guys ARE human like the rest of us😊 I thought your lives were perfect 😀 Seriously, thanks for being so open and real with us. Tasha, please don't beat yourself up about the dollhouse. You are a phenomenal woman 👏👏👏 who has her stuff together, and at the end of the day, your family loves you, not for " things" but for the loving person that you are 😘😘 Joseph, I see how you are with your beautiful family, so whatever you went through pales in comparison to the life you have chosen today, so keep moving forward guys. You're doing great 👌 Don't sweat the small stuff 😝 and know that you have made new TH-cam friends who support you 💯 percent - we don't judge or harrass you- well maybe we'll bother you every now and then for another great video 👍😊 but that's it.😀 I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say that you guys are brilliant, bold and beautiful people who are loved by many and judged by none, so there are no regrets here.😙👊 Stay strong 💪 and take care 👍👍👍
Thank you for all your dependable information, inspiration coupled with teaching to help my voyage to turning into more consciously cognizant moreover spiritually connected.
You guys are so real in this video!!! I love this and your videos. Keep it up!!
I really appreciate your realness and honesty in your videos!
You all have great and very important information that people need to know. I really enjoy them. Thank u so much for taking the time to teach. God bless you both. You are a very nice couple.
I love your channel so much! Thanks for this honest video. Really appreciate it :)
You both are amazing. The advice certainly hit home, and Tasha you had me crying with you! I'm grateful for your insight.
Aw, Thank you for you comment.--Tasha
What an excellent video!!! I really love the personalities of you two! Not to mention the stellar content!
You two should start podcasting! Thank you for your advice :)
Thank you. Your videos are so insightful and inspiring.
Congrats on 25k! Thank you for this video! As someone in their 20's I really appreciate this video!
Thank you. We're glad you enjoyed it.-Joseph
Thank you for sharing! Always appreciate your honesty 👍🏽
Thank you for watching and commenting.-Joseph
I'm gonna comment again because I love you guys so much. I watch your videos and I just want you guys to be so happy and successful. I'm wishing you the best so hard right now
"...well... I wished I'd had a budget" I love you guys so much
I love how authentic your stories are, not the usual this is what you shouldn't do in your 20's, but rather you lived it, and experienced it. Great advice.
Thank you for watching and commenting. - Joseph
Congrats on reaching 25k subscribers already!
I love the how real you two are! I can truly relate to the ambitious mom trying to complete school and be the best mom you can at the same time. Caring about what people think is another challenge for me. Blessings to you family!
Thank you for watching and commenting. We have the same types of issues that everyone does. It's good to open up the dialogue about it. - Joseph
Y’all are couples goals, I can’t 💕😭 Joseph helping you finish the dollhouse, him supporting you reflecting on a difficult time, pushing you to pursue passions you’re discouraged about, dis tew much 🤧
Thank you guys. I’m in my EARLY twenties and I feel so much pressure from everyone to excel in everything and have it all together. Thank you for your honesty, advice and guidance. Love you fam!
Thank you for watching. Life just takes time and it's important to enjoy where you are as much as figuring out the next steps.-Joseph
This was beautiful. Thanks for sharing your journey. I'm sure Alexis appreciated how hard you work. Sounds to me like you kicked butt and raised a queen 👌🏽
I loved this video. Thank you for sharing with us.
Thanks for watching!--Tasha
Crying and laughing through this whole thing. You guys are awesome!
I’m totally crying! My kids are growing up really fast too and I need to slow down and focus in on them more.
Crying watching this! Sending you lots of love from Canada xoxo
You two are amazing! Thank you for always being so real :)
Thank you! We do try to always be honest and real because no one's life is perfect.--Tasha
Fear of failing, fear of success, fear of what other people would say...thank you for pointing those out. Its like...obvious, but also nobody wants to talk about those fears, because nobody wants to be seen as "fragile", "insecure" or "a cry baby".
Thank you for your kindness in sharing yourselves with us, who are not so brave yet to admit ti out loud. :)
You two have so much love for each other and your family. I adore you both
Thank you for your wonderful comment. We do have lots of love for each other.-Joseph
I really love and appreciate your honesty. Especially you, Tasha
Thanks Kristina!--Tasha
I'm debt free thanks to youtubers like you!!!!
Yall are my favorite educational ,life tool'ish youtubers. Thanks for these videos
We're honored to be call your favorite. -Joseph
I enjoyed this video and appreciate your frank discussion about your life regrets. Keep making videos like you do!
Thank you for the comment. We definitely plan to keep going.-Joseph
Such refreshing point of views!!!
Thanks for watching!-Joseph
You guys are awesome. Best Wishes to you both
Thank you guys so very much💛
Great video, I can totally relate, that's how I felt in my 20's too, thank you for sharing xx
Thanks for the comment!-Joseph
Tasha I can relate as women especially ambitious women we have to somehow try to balance it all something always gets neglected....but we just maximize the small moments .....great video!!
Yes! We women are pulled in every direction at once aren't we? Finding balance is a constant effort.--Tasha
This was really nice insight into the people you are. You guys seem to have a lovely relationship!! All the best 😊
Thank you so much!-Joseph
Thanks for your honesty
Thank you for watching and commenting-Joseph
Omg you were a Marine Corps too ! That is so cool !! I served from 2009-2014.
Thank you for sharing
Thanks for watching!--Tasha
You are an inspiration Girl ..... I am your new subbie. Love your family dynamic
Thank you! And welcome!--Tasha
Needed this ❤
We're glad you enjoyed it.-Joseph
LOVED this video. Thank you for doing this!
You guys are amazing! You give me so much to look up to. I very much enjoy your videos! Hello financial goals! School goals! And relationship goals! Thank you so so much for your videos! p.s. funny story, my name is Heather, my son Kyler changed the name and picture on my account and I can’t change it back for 90 days! Lol gotta love kids!
Hi Tasha and Joseph,
Love the content. Apologize if you've already covered this, have you made a video about how you two met?
We mentioned it in the Husband Tag video, but we can shoot something else about it.-Joseph
Yay! Love your videos! ❤️
Thanks!-Joseph
Lol. It’s not funny when Tasha cries, but I love when she gets super vulnerable and then it’s lingering for a second and she’s like: JOSEPH NOW YOU BE VULNERABLE SO PEOPLE STOP LOOKING AT ME.
Love this video, i just turned 23 and i kinda just constantly live in a state of uncertainty. I am senior in college but basically have another year [so undergrad for 6 yrs instead of 4] haven't done the best with my GPA, and i compare myself to others so much. 20's is hard and i have been through an emotional world wind for like the past 3 years. I wanted to be a physicians assistant but the money and the requirements scare me. I don't want to go to school for 2-3 more years and cant even afford either. Senior in biological sciences and have no idea what i'm doing after graduation. I never really took depression seriously, but you just struggle so much its almost like crying is at the back of my head at all times. Ik itll get better but im so tired of struggling.
Dont give up! NPs and PAs have very similar jobs, basically identical. Maybe consider a 1 year 2nd degree BSN program and then work as a nurse as you do NP school. The debt for 1 year in nursing school is way less that PA school and much easier to get into than PA school. Hope this helps :)
Maria I feel the same exact way. I worry myself all the time but I have to remember the bigger picture, we’ll be just fine. We can get through this girlie. Sending love and positive vibes your way.
Almost kind of my story. I just turned 24 and I graduate Saturday. Although my GPA is pretty good, I'll finish with a teaching degree. Which is what I wanted to do. I'm just like damn it took me 6 years! My classmates I started college with are finishing Law school and have the whole world at their feet. Meanwhile I'm 65,000 in student loan debt from a teaching degree. I want to peruse Nursing, but I can't help but think I'm only doing it for the financial gain. Comparison is definitely a thief of Joy. Your 20's are no walk in the park, I pray we both figure it all out, well before 30.
Great video :) I am in my 20's and sometimes a bit lost with my life.
Take some time to really focus on figuring out what you're passionate about. There's no better time than the present. - Joseph
This was really inspirational. Thank you for sharing. Tasha re: your writing, I recommend you read "Art & Fear: Observations On the Perils (and Rewards) of Artmaking" by David Bayles and Ted Orland. It's quite insightful.
What Joseph said about Tasha's editing skills... True! 👏❤️
I know right?!-Joseph
I had to reply that part! so cute!
Thank you for sharing xoxoxo
You're welcome-Joseph
You guys r amazing. Hope u guys have a third baby to whom you will be gr8 parents.
Tasha don’t be so hard on urself. I am sure your daughter is really inspired by your achievements and will try to follow ur role model.
hahhaha you guys are so funny when it comes to taking turns hahaha
love you guys
Love this video I have been sexually harassed twice while working and those are two major regrets of mine especially now that I am a specializes employment lawyer. I agree especially now that I am in my first years of my law career that I have been able to tackle my issues as a very conscientious.
i love watching you two
We love that you're watching. Thank you!-Joseph
Good job guys! 💪 couple
Thanks!-Joseph
OK new sub here! Such great chemistry between you guys ! What zodiac sign are you guys? LOL Blessings!! ☺
Cancers.😊--Tasha
Tasha, what do you think about teen moms being trendy/trying to be on reality TV? What would you say to those young women?
I would never recommend that anyone get pregnant when they are teens because it just makes life a lot harder and you'll miss out on a lot of life experiences. Having said that, I also so that it is entirely possible to live a full life and follow your dreams even as a teen mom as long as you are willing to put in the work.--Tasha
Tasha, don't beat yourself up about the dollhouse! My mom was in school when my sister and I were young and then she started her career. I don't remember what she didn't have time for with me but I do I remember that she was just a loving mom period. That's what matters. I'm positive that your daughter would say the same thing!
For me, the biggest thing was that I should have left my first engineering job way earlier. I had to fight for everything they had promised, because I never got it in writing. Lesson learned. I was never sexually harrassed per se, but it was a very male-dominated environment and I certainly wasn't respected as I should have been. My next regret is that my husband and I lived it up in our early 20's...on credit cards! Oh boy did we live to regret that!
Thanks, I appreciate it. And I'm sure that you are right. I lived it up in my 20s too. And while I do wish I'd saved more, I also feel like by the time I'm in my 40s I won't care that I wasn't great with money in my 20s because it will all be a wash by then.--Tasha
Wow i felt your tears
awe 😢
I'm glad you enjoyed it.-Joseph
Tasha, I think it'll be really nice to write your own memoir. I'm sure people will read it and connect with your story. :)
You both have some great genes
Thanks! Our parents will be pleased to hear that.-Joseph
😍😍😍
I have to be honest and say part of the reason I got married was because it felt like everyone else was getting married. I am still married, but I was not mature enough. ( We went to college to get out MRS. Degree. ) He he
We're glad it worked out. - Joseph
Well, I have a lot of regrets from my twenties. Deep regrets too anything trivial. My only advice is as much as you can do things in terms of your education getting it done then do so. Btw, Tasha you should not feel regrets about sexual harassment in your twenties. I experienced the same and I did not speak up because I was basically well poor and needed my job. I also believe that young women are placed in such tricky situations where along with naivety we have to deal with people labeling us as uncooperative or not a part of the team or being ostracized because we speak up. I can see why you hesitated. The good thing is that you are an excellent mom. Alexis can turn to you if you keep being open to her and she can come to you for advice. I have to say that most young ladies also do not report sexual harassment etc because they are fearful of what their own family reaction or lack of support will be.
Ingot married when I turn 23 and we are even more in love now. Age does not matter in my opinion.
Congratulations! You are right. What matters is finding the right person and getting married for the right reasons. --Tasha
I was in the Navy and ecperienced the same thing as you, and know other women who did also. Seems like the military as a whole just has a culture of sexual harrassnent and violence.