I’ve heard of people above the age of 50 becoming pregnant, either naturally or through IVF even when they are supposedly in menopause or post-menopausal. Record age of pregnancy is 74 years old.
I've suffered from PCOS for 4 years and yes more awareness of it is so so important because not only do young women like me go undiagnosed for a long time but we prolong our recovery by making mistakes in the treatment when we subscribe to myths around PCOS.
as a 17 that has had it basically for most of the time they have been menstruating i rlly want to know abt some of its myths and just abt it bc its just complex to me
That video would never be made. She’s a fertility PhD and MD (not a gynaecologist) and he’s a urologist. PCOS is definitely not their expertise, so all the lady doc could do is briefly talk about how PCOS can make it harder to get pregnant, and to go to your gynaecologist for treatment.
@@frankiefavero1666 thats not true many women with pcos go to fertility specialist for treatment a common fertility meds prescibed for pcos is clomid a fertility specialist is someone u go to after trying unsuccessfully for a year which happens alot to women with pcos so its very common to get treatment through a fertility specialist
I'm pregnant with my first--it was about 6 months after I turned 36 & he's due this February! Don't get hung up on the numbers; your individual health is what matters way more. And as for the every other day thing, that definitely works: we'd been trying to get our timing right & we did it every other day over the course of 6 days, centered around two weeks out from my period (which is what my doctor said when I asked for advice about timing) and it worked the first time we did it that way! I'm not saying it'll work for *everyone*, especially not the very first time, we clearly were lucky. I'm just saying that that method can be successful.
YES!!! I had 31-35 day cycles my whole life. After three months of not getting pregnant using the traditional 14 day ovulation method (trying days 12-16)the fourth month we instead delayed it by a couple days and tried days 15-19 and got pregnant!!! I tell everyone that it is really very important to customize your attempt at fertility to your own unique, specific cycle. It worked for us!
Oh yes this is a common misconception. Ovulation usually happens 14 (±1) days BEFORE your mentstruation not 14 days after your menstruation, this makes a big difference in people with longer than 28 day cycles.
@@murielwetter7065 No, I didn’t ever start the count after menstruation. I think (or at least I hope) women understand that you start counting your 14 days from the FIRST day of your last period, NOT from the last day of your last period. If women don’t know that, I attribute that to the HUGE problem with the (purposely) severely lacking basic biological and sexual health education 😩
@@murielwetter7065 we have got to do better. HONESTLY. We should collectively demand better from our education system. Unfortunately people’s religious beliefs poison the conversation. In some parts of this country, props like a piece of chewed up gum is used to represent what a young girl becomes if they let a boy touch them before marriage and THAT is all the sexual health education they get. They’re not taught the basic biological process of their own bodies, because that would inform them on how to control their own bodies and lead into the family planning conversation, and there are power that be in some areas that refuse to allow that EDUCATION to be taught. It’s so disgustingly insulting. 🤬🤬🤬 I’m both horrified and heartbroken that is still allowed to happen in this day and age 😢💔🤬
@@NativeNYerChicHK what country are we talking 'bout? But other than that, I too think that religion as an institution is horribly sexist in the worst way
Watching this as a 36 year old who’s had a tubal ligation, ovarian cancer , a unilateral oophorectomy and partial oophorectomy of the remaining ovary who’s pregnant with her fifth child.
I spotted in the first 3 months of each of my pregnancies and I really appreciated my doctors science-backed brutal honesty. I asked if I should immediately slow down or even go on bed rest? The first thing he did was take a look with a Transvaginal ultrasound where he found everything progressing normally and then told me that this early in the pregnancy I’d miscarry whether I standing or sitting, so no. Don’t let it consume you, if it stays light spotting just try to live your life, only if it got heavier should I call him and go to an ER. And I put my trust in him, being he is the expert, and so I did what he said and my pregnancies continued both times.
As far as I know (not a specialist, just someone who was curious about it at some point) the birth control itself should have no effect - regardless of how long you take it. However, birth control may be masking other problems, which may go undetected until you get off birth control and then have an impact when you attempt to get pregnant. PCOS is a pretty common example - about 1 in 4 or 5 women have PCOS to varying degrees and may show no symptoms at a younger age, especially when they are slimmer. Symptoms tend to worsen when we gain weight, which tends to happen past our teenage years. Many hormonal birth control methods also lessen the symptoms of PCOS (and are thus often prescribed for specifically that), which may then become increasingly apparent once birth control is gone. People with PCOS tend to have longer cycles, fewer ovulation periods, and just overall a bunch of issues that can make getting pregnant more challenging. Basically, what I learned is that as long as you keep getting annual OBGYN checkups (as recommended on birth control) and keep an eye on your family's health history, e.g. history of PCOS and other pregnancy-affecting issues, which your doctor can check you for (like perform an ultrasound check on your ovaries to check for cysts - which most women have, for various reasons, most being absolutely harmless) - you should be fine.
This is just my experience, but I was put on birth control at 13... just a few months after getting my first period. I was able to stop taking the pill at 34 and got pregnant with no issue whatsoever.
Not true for me. I was on the pill from 14 to 22, then again from 22 to 25. Stopped taking it and fell pregnant within two months with both of my kiddos.
I scheduled an appointment with my GYN 4 months before my husband and I were going to start trying. I HIGHLY recommend it for anyone thinking about becoming pregnant. I learned what medications I could and could not take and when. Was shocked when my doctor said I should be taking pre-natal vitamins already. Also, she scheduled several tests for me. These included my immunity levels to chicken pox, measles, mumps, and rubella. Apparently your immunity can dip and she wanted to make sure if I needed to be vaccinated again, I could be before pregnancy.
I wish they addressed the myth that parents can only have a child with Down syndrome if the couple is middle aged. Parents in their 20s and 30s can also have children with Down syndrome. It’s just more likely when you get older.
At [14:10] they talk about "You can't get pregnant right after stopping birth control" and she mentions that when you remove your IUD you can start working on getting pregnant the following month, but I feel like she only mentions this about the hormonal IUDs, and not the copper one (Paragard). I had my Paragard taken out Feb 27, 2020, I was ovulating on March 13-14, and I was testing positive on my pregnancy test March 31. You can work on getting pregnant after removing your copper IUD. Always ask your healthcare provider if you have questions about your personal birth control choice! :)
I got pregnant 4 weeks after stopping the pill. I also got pregnant after having sex daily for 2 weeks (husband came home on r&r). Then I got pregnant on a mirena. No I'm not super fertile. I had 5 years of infertility.
She just said iuds, didn't specify. But it's true that most information out there is about the hormonal ones. I was told when I got my copper one put in that fertility should return immediately, which makes sense with how it works!
It's good know this type of information. It can help you make well informed decisions about your life or you can even pass on what you learned to friends/family who may not know 😊
I do have a mostly 28 day cycle but that myth of highest fertility 14 days after period still doesn't apply to me. I ovulate late and I've been that way for years. Ovulation somewhere between 7-10 days before my next period is more typical than Day 14 for me, that's usually when I feel ovulation pain if I get it.
Thank you! I find it very misleading that this doctor says "if your cycle is X days long you ovulate on day Y" - it doesn't work that way, we are not programmed robots. Cycle length and ovulation day are variing every month, for some more, for some less, but no one has always the same length.
plumquake So true. I trust my own pains more than any doctor as to when I ovulate in relation to my period. It’s how come I know that I am a late ovulator.
I was thought that after ovulation it takes 2 weeks till you have your menstruation. It has to do with the time it takes for the uterus linings coming off (and start the menstruation). 7 days is quite a short time to get from "there is no fertilized egg nesting in the linings" to the actual menstruation.... maybe you are feeling PMS 🤷🏼♀️. (I know I DO 10 to 7 days prior to my menstruation)
technically you're right, but it is not possible to "know" the length beforehand. You can only track if your ovulation already happened (temperature and cervical mucus) and after that you can't get pregnant until the next period. If you're interested in this topic, just google "natural family planning" = NFP
Yes. I also wish they had covered more. There’s more to it than “your cycle is this long, so you ovulate on this day”. It’s not that simple. That’s making the assumption that the woman’s follicular phase (the time between ovulation and the next period) is 14 days, when it isn’t always, depending on health status. Mine is only 9 days (which means I will lose a pregnancy if I achieve it). So if my cycle is 28 days, I actually ovulate on day 20. My cycles are all over the place though. I only know how long my phase is because I use NFP.
I think the simplest answer would be instead of trying to figure out when you ovulate is just to be on birth control and give it time to work (abstain from sex till birth control is effective)🤷♀️ Trying to pinpoint ovulation is obviously a lot more complicated than just being diligent and taking BC(and taking it correctly)
Thanks for an informative video. I bet few people would want to ask a doctor in person and looking all these up would be a pain. So many comments here are so Trash.
Key to much of this is to talk to your specialist and/or doctor. We learned that my husband had motility issues before we got pregnant the first time (and he'd had a child before with his first marriage) and a for a bit after that pregnancy ended. We got help starting before the first pregnancy and now thanks to the help we've received we not only got pregnant the first time, but we're pregnant again. The only way to know if there is or isn't hope for you and/or your partner's fertility is to go find out about your body from a specialist and find out what you're options are. Videos like this can be helpful, but self diagnosis through the Internet usually isn't.
Yes, everyone's body and circumstances are different. A lot of these myths are untrue because they are supposed to apply to everyone. Almost no advice or wisdom could apply to everyone!
I am not a doctor but I do know a few women who have had babies in their 40s. It’s definitely possible. From what I have heard, there’s just more risks and it’s harder for the egg to be fertilized.
If you look at statistics, chances are decreased, but it is not impossible. Depends... Does she still have regular menstrual cycles for example? Regarding her age, there is also higher risk of certain birth defects, but a perfectly healthy baby can be born. Nobody is guaranteed a pregnancy or a healthy baby in the end. Luckily there is prenatal care.
I had my first at 37, conceived at 36, and it was almost right away. Easy pregnancy, easy and quick birth, healthy, happy child 🙂. Trying for our 2nd, I'm now 42 and it's taking some time... I feel your anxiety, but at the same time I'm still very hopeful! Sending baby dust your way 🥰
@@DaddysBoyOtis excellent question. I personally grew up with both parents and I know I would really benefit from a partner who would be a father figure to the children. Maybe it shall happen in the next decade, InshaAllah.
Having sex every other day for 7-8 months didn’t help me, once we started doing it everyday i got pregnant right away. Not sure if its a coincident but thats what happened with my story.
My period always skips a month so I have about a 50 day cycle. I was on medication for a month bc a doctor told me my prolactin hormone was very high. And while I was on that medication for a month my cycle was shorter. But I couldn't afford the refills so I stopped taking it and they went back to skipping a month. Is having a 50 day cycle considered abnormal even thought it still comes and goes like normal? I'm not a particularly heavy or light bleeder and it lasts for 5 days. Cramps have gotten better with age. And I do notice that I ovulate and have discharge. Should I be worried about being infertile?
If what you doctor prescribed improved your periods to 1 month, it means the prolactin hormone is responsible, Better to consult doctor before stopping meds., ask. For. Generic / cheaper alternatives from. Reputed brands. Will work, also 50 days period won't prevent pregnancy (if your eggs are ovulating normally ) but it's bad to have over 30.days periods, as your cycle maintains the body by flushing the materials over 30 days cycle, but better consult your doc. For anything as this should not be serious in future.
Normally upto 45 days period is considered max ok, but I would suggest try yoga (for periods) from 30 days, it might happen early by 35 - 40 days with yoga hopefully. Also do consult your gyanec. For generic medics (if money is issue).Also do follicle test to check your ovulation cycle & if you can have pregnancy. (Ask your gyanec. Doc.)
Pretty sure if it's regular you're fine. Mine are highly irregular with long cycles. My mom had 5 kids with a cycle similar to mine. Get different opinions, but I think you're fine.
3:45 - "Stress Causes Pregnancy Loss" I had a Miscarriage/Early Pregnancy Loss (This being the first time I heard the term EPL). I still wonder if me trying to lose weight and get back in shape at the same time I was trying to conceive (TTC) is what caused my EPL at roughly 4-6 weeks gestation. When I do this, I go hard on the GNC workout products, push myself to walk/run faster for longer periods of time and longer workout sessions, and restrict my diet to very few breads, 2 meals a day, and eating only the healthiest of meals (some phases skipping meals or eating very little food at meal times). I was in the middle of this when I found out I was pregnant then stopped. I fell on ice once and a few days later I started spotting. I wonder if any combination of falling, my "get back in shape" routine, or me not immediately going to the OBGYN at the first signs of bleeding caused EPL. I very much wonder if I went in (my very first appointment with a new OBGYN office was 3 weeks out), my baby could have been saved. It's hard not to blame myself for that. The caring medic at the ER helped me process short term. My caring sister in law also helped bring peace ("Only God can give life so only God can take it away." - She's experienced several miscarriages due to something wrong with her uterus. She got treatment and is now a healthy mother of three.) The doctors here help me process that experience. We also have a rainbow baby who was conceived 2 months after the EPL and she's now a healthy 3 month old as of this post. Thanks for debunking these myths. I'll still analyze and wonder what part my (in)actions may have caused it but being told this by random strangers helps.
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm just another internet stranger but EPLs are so so common that early on, they can happen to anyone, in any circumstances, at any activity level. I don't think the doctor could have done anything once the spotting started either. You are absolutely not to blame, sometimes these things just happen and it can make it easier and harder to know there was no rhyme or reason to it.
As soon as I heard folates a light switched in my tiny brain: "Dang it! Go take your prescribed vitamins now! Go take your folic acid now that you still have coffee for the pill." I did remember to take my lactase to eat a traditional Italian Easter dessert but not my vitamins.
I wish they would have covered how to find a specialist. My googling fails me and sends me in circles. I've been trying for a kid for years and I can not find a specialist for the life of me and it's getting so depressing...
How to find a specialist? You can ask your PCP or OBGYN for a referral to a fertility specialist called a “Reproductive Endocrinologist” aka an “REI”. Note: they are not just regular endocrinologists, but specialize in fertility & the hormones that affect it. My OBGYN referred me to an infertility center & I was seen by a reproductive endocrinologist. She did a Transvaginal ultrasound, bloodwork (such as AMH, thyroid panel, prolactin, free testosterone levels, DHEA, etc) asked family history & we discovered the cause of my infertility. Good luck on your journey & feel free to message if you have additional questions. 👍🏽
Where do you live? I live in MI and have a great one I can refer you to. I would recommend going to your primary care doctor (or any doctor you normally see for your yearly checkups, which I hope you do) and have him/her refer you to an OBGYN. You will normally start there. I hope you find help!
@@sairachiodini I live in Texas. Sadly I don't have a primary doctor, never found one that felt worth my time and currently don't have insurance anyway. After years of trying for a child with no luck, we're just going to adopt at this point.
Yeeeaaahhhh In my late 30s, I believed that it was so hard to get pregnant because I listened to these myths… so we started before the wedding. Had to return my wedding dress for a maternity dress… it only took one time. Super stoked of course!
Congratulations! My husband and I just started trying & we’re both 31. We want to have more than just one child so this makes me feel better. Thank you
She didn't say fertility decline with age is a myth, it is statistically true, but there are exceptions. Medicine is not an exact science and fertility is very complex. I'm pregnant at 35 and it happened right away, we were shocked. But I know I'm an exception to the rule, my experience doesn't redefine everything we know about human biology
I wouldn’t say lying with your eyes closed is the same but I used to do it on my over nights or double shifts at the nursing home when I didn’t have time to sleep. It def helped get me through. But didn’t replace.
Curious does the taking of Plan B once or multiple times in a short period of time have a long term or short term effect on the ovaries or female reproductive system?
Anecdotally, my friend was in an abusive relationship when she was 18. Plan B was her only form of birth control for a variety of reasons related to the abuse. She got pregnant in her 30s without issue.
Plan B has a high concentration of hormones, sort of like taking several birth control pills at once. Not sure if long term effects, but short term it could affect your menstrual cycle and have other side effects, especially if taking them multiple times in a short period.
It seriously comes down to how healthy you are. If you live a healthy life style and eat healthy not fast or junk food or drugs and alcohol use, exercise, it’ll be much easier for you to get pregnant even at an older age and healthy baby too.
Something i always wanted to know... I've been on birth control since the birth of my son 8 years ago i went straight back on the combined birth pill but then switched to the Mini pill in 2017 because my periods have stopped while on the mini pill i do sometimes get the period like aches and pains now and again but what happens to the eggs that us women are meant to shed each month? What will happen if i wanted to come off the mini pill ? will i get a ton of heavy blood loss not 100% sure. Thank you
Kinda surprised how a video about fertility with a reproductive endocrinologist comes up & not one question was related to PCOS. Considering that 70% of infertility related issues that make it to a fertility center from women are due to PCOS. At least the mention of it to spread awareness would have helped spread awareness.
I love the inclusive language. 💙 These small considerations really help the mental health of trans people, without sacrificing clarity or medical accuracy.
What about us, biological women? Should we sacrifice all that feminism has fought on behalf of women so that trans person can be mentally stable? Be trans woman and be happy but don’t erase biological women. Show some respect.
@@dianagarcia7042 do u you oh like being called uterus owner or menstruater. Misogynist call women menstruaters or bleeders. It’s demeaning and not to mention disrespectful. This is not what original feminists fought for. Disgusting.
of course he didn’t mean that the trans woman gets pregnant. a trans woman can (if wanted) impregnate a person with a uterus with her sperm, or even freeze her sperm beforehand if she has bottom surgery to use on another person
What i wish I had known before: not everyone can get IVF. If you don't have enough follicles, or other issues, you are not a candidate for IVF. I thought so long as you ovulate, it was an option. It is not.
Sometimes during implantation of the embryo bleeding occurs, which can be easily mistaken for period, because implantation usually happens at the same time when the next menstruation would began
About the 35 year mark. It's plain stupid. My mom had me at age 30 and I'm a mess. I had already something like 5 surgeries. 3 in my first three years of life and two in my teenage years for flat feet. And these surgeries were there to treat physical conditions from birth. Like reflux: not classic easy to treat reflux. I couldn't eat properly, I was getting that reflux into my lungs and they found out at the hospital my esophagus was abnormally large and that was the issue. First surgery didn't go well, had to a second one. Then I got hepatitis from the medical staff performing a blood test in my leg. Which led to me having gallbladder stones because of the medication I was on. And I still have issues. Like my knees aren't straight. I have pectus excavatum and I've been skinny since birth. And my mom was 30. Then my brother was born when mom was 27 and he's the depiction of a healthy man. No issues really. So 35 or not these things can happen earlier or later. It depends a lot in genetics.
Do you understand how stats work? Did she say that having kids young guarantees fertility and health? Or do you think you're the center of the universe and your life should be used as the only data needed to study medicine and biology?
If T1D is hereditary, don't be so cruel as to have a child, especially in a country where insulin is insanely overpriced and nobody helps you. GFM is a sad joke unfortunately
I’m 20 and my husband is 21 we’ve been “trying” (having unprotected sex) for over a year now. Not sure if we’re having fertility issues or if we haven’t been tracking ovulation correctly but we both feel as though we should be pregnancy by now 😂 gonna start actually trying 2024 but we low key kinda expected to have a mini me by now
I try to stay out of trans issues. There aren't that many trans people in the USA and they certainly have a difficult path to follow. Better to give them space to live their lives.
My Sister in law's gynecologist prohibit her to get the covid 19 vaccine since it "could affect her fertility " we are talking about a swiss gynecologist. Is that true?
Women are born with a limited egg supply that progressively declines with age. This results in a measurable decline in fertility that begins in the mid-20’s and becomes progressively steeper in the mid-30’s. After the mid-40’s the chance of a successful live birth with a woman’s own eggs is extremely low.
Why do they need to explain it? Did they say it was impossible? People really need to learn how to interpret stats and the difference between possibility and probability
Hey! Many thanks for this video and the others. as usual super interesting. However, since i am not a native in english. could you maybe write out (or have a note with a quick explenation) the abbreviations? would be really nice tho 😅
Why bother trying to have a child? Having and nurturing a child from birth to adulthood and till the time they get a job is too much of a responsibility.
As a 38 yr old women with no children yet, this was both enlightening and depressing.
@@carrie893 we've been trying. Had a miscarriage last year.
Don't worry. You will
Women are having kids later & later. Being under the age of 40 is on your side. Just keep trying.
Don’t panic, women get pregnant in their 30’s and 40’s. I’m 38 pregnant with my first. It can happen.
I’ve heard of people above the age of 50 becoming pregnant, either naturally or through IVF even when they are supposedly in menopause or post-menopausal. Record age of pregnancy is 74 years old.
My mom had me at 38 and my sister at 41 with no complications. There is hope
My nom had me at 38 and I'm pretty amazing 💅🏻 and my lil bro at 40. He's alright. Not as amazing as me tho.
My mum had me at 39 & I was c section (breech & late) but otherwise no issues! I am 33 & still have hope.
@@fkgabbana c sections are perfectly safe and not a failure. Normal births have a danger of pudendal neuralgia
My mom had me at 41 and on top of that, she looked amazing too!
Would be great if you guys can make a video on PCOS
Important!
I've suffered from PCOS for 4 years and yes more awareness of it is so so important because not only do young women like me go undiagnosed for a long time but we prolong our recovery by making mistakes in the treatment when we subscribe to myths around PCOS.
as a 17 that has had it basically for most of the time they have been menstruating i rlly want to know abt some of its myths and just abt it bc its just complex to me
That video would never be made. She’s a fertility PhD and MD (not a gynaecologist) and he’s a urologist. PCOS is definitely not their expertise, so all the lady doc could do is briefly talk about how PCOS can make it harder to get pregnant, and to go to your gynaecologist for treatment.
@@frankiefavero1666 thats not true many women with pcos go to fertility specialist for treatment a common fertility meds prescibed for pcos is clomid a fertility specialist is someone u go to after trying unsuccessfully for a year which happens alot to women with pcos so its very common to get treatment through a fertility specialist
I'm pregnant with my first--it was about 6 months after I turned 36 & he's due this February! Don't get hung up on the numbers; your individual health is what matters way more.
And as for the every other day thing, that definitely works: we'd been trying to get our timing right & we did it every other day over the course of 6 days, centered around two weeks out from my period (which is what my doctor said when I asked for advice about timing) and it worked the first time we did it that way! I'm not saying it'll work for *everyone*, especially not the very first time, we clearly were lucky. I'm just saying that that method can be successful.
YES!!! I had 31-35 day cycles my whole life. After three months of not getting pregnant using the traditional 14 day ovulation method (trying days 12-16)the fourth month we instead delayed it by a couple days and tried days 15-19 and got pregnant!!! I tell everyone that it is really very important to customize your attempt at fertility to your own unique, specific cycle. It worked for us!
Oh yes this is a common misconception. Ovulation usually happens 14 (±1) days BEFORE your mentstruation not 14 days after your menstruation, this makes a big difference in people with longer than 28 day cycles.
@@murielwetter7065 No, I didn’t ever start the count after menstruation. I think (or at least I hope) women understand that you start counting your 14 days from the FIRST day of your last period, NOT from the last day of your last period. If women don’t know that, I attribute that to the HUGE problem with the (purposely) severely lacking basic biological and sexual health education 😩
@@NativeNYerChicHK wise words here. Listen to this, people of the Internet
@@murielwetter7065 we have got to do better. HONESTLY. We should collectively demand better from our education system. Unfortunately people’s religious beliefs poison the conversation. In some parts of this country, props like a piece of chewed up gum is used to represent what a young girl becomes if they let a boy touch them before marriage and THAT is all the sexual health education they get. They’re not taught the basic biological process of their own bodies, because that would inform them on how to control their own bodies and lead into the family planning conversation, and there are power that be in some areas that refuse to allow that EDUCATION to be taught. It’s so disgustingly insulting. 🤬🤬🤬 I’m both horrified and heartbroken that is still allowed to happen in this day and age 😢💔🤬
@@NativeNYerChicHK what country are we talking 'bout? But other than that, I too think that religion as an institution is horribly sexist in the worst way
Watching this as a 36 year old who’s had a tubal ligation, ovarian cancer , a unilateral oophorectomy and partial oophorectomy of the remaining ovary who’s pregnant with her fifth child.
Hearing this extremely serious and scientific doctor say “no fap” was not how I expected to start my morning
I spotted in the first 3 months of each of my pregnancies and I really appreciated my doctors science-backed brutal honesty. I asked if I should immediately slow down or even go on bed rest? The first thing he did was take a look with a Transvaginal ultrasound where he found everything progressing normally and then told me that this early in the pregnancy I’d miscarry whether I standing or sitting, so no. Don’t let it consume you, if it stays light spotting just try to live your life, only if it got heavier should I call him and go to an ER. And I put my trust in him, being he is the expert, and so I did what he said and my pregnancies continued both times.
Having A- blood type has a chance to lose the baby, had to get a shot to keep my body's immune system from attacking the baby
Can you guys talk about the side effects of the pill, hard party drugs, and previous history of smoking/drinking on later fertility
A negative effect has been observed with a lot of party drugs
Question for follow-up videos: if you have been on birth control since adolescence, how will that impact your fertility by the age of 25 to 30?
My gyno said it wouldn't affect anything
As far as I know (not a specialist, just someone who was curious about it at some point) the birth control itself should have no effect - regardless of how long you take it. However, birth control may be masking other problems, which may go undetected until you get off birth control and then have an impact when you attempt to get pregnant.
PCOS is a pretty common example - about 1 in 4 or 5 women have PCOS to varying degrees and may show no symptoms at a younger age, especially when they are slimmer. Symptoms tend to worsen when we gain weight, which tends to happen past our teenage years. Many hormonal birth control methods also lessen the symptoms of PCOS (and are thus often prescribed for specifically that), which may then become increasingly apparent once birth control is gone. People with PCOS tend to have longer cycles, fewer ovulation periods, and just overall a bunch of issues that can make getting pregnant more challenging.
Basically, what I learned is that as long as you keep getting annual OBGYN checkups (as recommended on birth control) and keep an eye on your family's health history, e.g. history of PCOS and other pregnancy-affecting issues, which your doctor can check you for (like perform an ultrasound check on your ovaries to check for cysts - which most women have, for various reasons, most being absolutely harmless) - you should be fine.
This is just my experience, but I was put on birth control at 13... just a few months after getting my first period. I was able to stop taking the pill at 34 and got pregnant with no issue whatsoever.
Was on different kinds of birth control for almost 5 years and it took me little over a year to get my normal 28 to 30 day cycle back
Not true for me. I was on the pill from 14 to 22, then again from 22 to 25. Stopped taking it and fell pregnant within two months with both of my kiddos.
I scheduled an appointment with my GYN 4 months before my husband and I were going to start trying. I HIGHLY recommend it for anyone thinking about becoming pregnant. I learned what medications I could and could not take and when. Was shocked when my doctor said I should be taking pre-natal vitamins already. Also, she scheduled several tests for me. These included my immunity levels to chicken pox, measles, mumps, and rubella. Apparently your immunity can dip and she wanted to make sure if I needed to be vaccinated again, I could be before pregnancy.
I wish they addressed the myth that parents can only have a child with Down syndrome if the couple is middle aged. Parents in their 20s and 30s can also have children with Down syndrome. It’s just more likely when you get older.
Its more likely by so small. Example its .5% likely to have a downs kid but older than 40 its .10% yea its 50% more but its still not more than 1%
You are more likely to give birth to a kid with Downs under 35 as you are less likely to have genetic screening.
@@destinyruiz7666 you mean 0.05% instead of 0.5% because double 0.5% is 1%. Half of 0.10% is 0.05%.
My mothers second husband had his first born son (with DS) at 32
@@destinyruiz7666 are the numbers supposed to .05% and .1% or .5% and 1%?
My son's mom was on the depo shot for over 2½ years straight and still got pregnant 😳 o well we have a happy and healthy 9 year old that is amazing
Human error possible
Same for my friend, she never missed an appointment.
At [14:10] they talk about "You can't get pregnant right after stopping birth control" and she mentions that when you remove your IUD you can start working on getting pregnant the following month, but I feel like she only mentions this about the hormonal IUDs, and not the copper one (Paragard).
I had my Paragard taken out Feb 27, 2020, I was ovulating on March 13-14, and I was testing positive on my pregnancy test March 31. You can work on getting pregnant after removing your copper IUD. Always ask your healthcare provider if you have questions about your personal birth control choice! :)
I got pregnant 4 weeks after stopping the pill. I also got pregnant after having sex daily for 2 weeks (husband came home on r&r). Then I got pregnant on a mirena. No I'm not super fertile. I had 5 years of infertility.
She just said iuds, didn't specify. But it's true that most information out there is about the hormonal ones. I was told when I got my copper one put in that fertility should return immediately, which makes sense with how it works!
Why am I watching this as a 28 year old virgin who has never even dated or kissed a man 💀
It's good know this type of information. It can help you make well informed decisions about your life or you can even pass on what you learned to friends/family who may not know 😊
I was thinking the same and I was about to post it lmao
I didn't date, kiss, or have sex until I was 27. Met my husband and became pregnant immediately.
Hearing the myth that women can't get pregnant after 35 is so weird to me because my mom had me and my brother when she was 42.
The chances of getting pregnant decrease
My mother had me at 38 after a tubal ligation. Anything is possible.
Thanks
“Early pregnancy loss” seems like a ridiculously better alternative to “miscarriage”
"unintended abortion" sounds way more lovely
I think they both sound awful. I've never experienced it but I can't imagine a different term for it would make me feel any better.
They called mine "spontaneous abortion"
@@illusionist1244 I my mother language miscarriage is called a “natural abortion”
In my mother language it's called "fall of the fetus"
I do have a mostly 28 day cycle but that myth of highest fertility 14 days after period still doesn't apply to me. I ovulate late and I've been that way for years. Ovulation somewhere between 7-10 days before my next period is more typical than Day 14 for me, that's usually when I feel ovulation pain if I get it.
I feel the same sis. My cycle varies from 26 to 32 days and I ovulate somewhere between 10 to 17th day
I too have ovulation pain
Thank you! I find it very misleading that this doctor says "if your cycle is X days long you ovulate on day Y" - it doesn't work that way, we are not programmed robots. Cycle length and ovulation day are variing every month, for some more, for some less, but no one has always the same length.
plumquake So true. I trust my own pains more than any doctor as to when I ovulate in relation to my period. It’s how come I know that I am a late ovulator.
It also seems that even if you ovulate by the 14th or 15th day,the menses may still be delayed
I was thought that after ovulation it takes 2 weeks till you have your menstruation. It has to do with the time it takes for the uterus linings coming off (and start the menstruation). 7 days is quite a short time to get from "there is no fertilized egg nesting in the linings" to the actual menstruation.... maybe you are feeling PMS 🤷🏼♀️. (I know I DO 10 to 7 days prior to my menstruation)
Very useful information. God bless everyone with a healthy baby 👶❤
So is it possible that most unwanted pregnancies besides lack of contraceptives, is due in part to not knowing the length of one's ovulation cycle?
technically you're right, but it is not possible to "know" the length beforehand. You can only track if your ovulation already happened (temperature and cervical mucus) and after that you can't get pregnant until the next period. If you're interested in this topic, just google "natural family planning" = NFP
@@plumquake6838 appreciate that
Yes. I also wish they had covered more. There’s more to it than “your cycle is this long, so you ovulate on this day”. It’s not that simple. That’s making the assumption that the woman’s follicular phase (the time between ovulation and the next period) is 14 days, when it isn’t always, depending on health status. Mine is only 9 days (which means I will lose a pregnancy if I achieve it). So if my cycle is 28 days, I actually ovulate on day 20. My cycles are all over the place though. I only know how long my phase is because I use NFP.
My cycles vary from 21 to 31 days but never 27-29 days. Oddly in winter they are longer. Anyway I got pregnant with my daughter in winter.
I think the simplest answer would be instead of trying to figure out when you ovulate is just to be on birth control and give it time to work (abstain from sex till birth control is effective)🤷♀️
Trying to pinpoint ovulation is obviously a lot more complicated than just being diligent and taking BC(and taking it correctly)
Thanks for an informative video. I bet few people would want to ask a doctor in person and looking all these up would be a pain. So many comments here are so Trash.
Key to much of this is to talk to your specialist and/or doctor. We learned that my husband had motility issues before we got pregnant the first time (and he'd had a child before with his first marriage) and a for a bit after that pregnancy ended. We got help starting before the first pregnancy and now thanks to the help we've received we not only got pregnant the first time, but we're pregnant again. The only way to know if there is or isn't hope for you and/or your partner's fertility is to go find out about your body from a specialist and find out what you're options are. Videos like this can be helpful, but self diagnosis through the Internet usually isn't.
Yes, everyone's body and circumstances are different. A lot of these myths are untrue because they are supposed to apply to everyone. Almost no advice or wisdom could apply to everyone!
Excellent video, straight to the point! I love the inclusive language used too.
My wife is 46, I'm 33, is it realistic to think we could have a kid?
I am not a doctor but I do know a few women who have had babies in their 40s. It’s definitely possible. From what I have heard, there’s just more risks and it’s harder for the egg to be fertilized.
Go for it! "Adam ruins everything" has a great episode on the exaggarated risks concering age and having children
if shes not gotten her menopause then yall are good to go good luck :D
If you look at statistics, chances are decreased, but it is not impossible. Depends... Does she still have regular menstrual cycles for example? Regarding her age, there is also higher risk of certain birth defects, but a perfectly healthy baby can be born. Nobody is guaranteed a pregnancy or a healthy baby in the end. Luckily there is prenatal care.
Try for 6 months then go to a fertility doctor.
This made me incredibly anxious. I’m afraid that I’ll never be able to have kids because I’m getting older.
I had my first at 37, conceived at 36, and it was almost right away. Easy pregnancy, easy and quick birth, healthy, happy child 🙂. Trying for our 2nd, I'm now 42 and it's taking some time... I feel your anxiety, but at the same time I'm still very hopeful! Sending baby dust your way 🥰
@@Trilingualeks wow. Thank you so much. I just hope I find a life partner helpmate before then. I’ll say a family prayer for you. Thank you again.
Talk to you GYN. They can answer a lot of questions and run tests if needed.
@@pigpjs thanks. Good idea. Even though I’m not married yet, I guess it is a reasonable thing to get checked out.
@@DaddysBoyOtis excellent question. I personally grew up with both parents and I know I would really benefit from a partner who would be a father figure to the children. Maybe it shall happen in the next decade, InshaAllah.
This video & topics should be shown in high school ‼️✅💡
Having sex every other day for 7-8 months didn’t help me, once we started doing it everyday i got pregnant right away. Not sure if its a coincident but thats what happened with my story.
My period always skips a month so I have about a 50 day cycle. I was on medication for a month bc a doctor told me my prolactin hormone was very high. And while I was on that medication for a month my cycle was shorter. But I couldn't afford the refills so I stopped taking it and they went back to skipping a month.
Is having a 50 day cycle considered abnormal even thought it still comes and goes like normal? I'm not a particularly heavy or light bleeder and it lasts for 5 days. Cramps have gotten better with age. And I do notice that I ovulate and have discharge. Should I be worried about being infertile?
If what you doctor prescribed improved your periods to 1 month, it means the prolactin hormone is responsible, Better to consult doctor before stopping meds., ask. For. Generic / cheaper alternatives from. Reputed brands. Will work, also 50 days period won't prevent pregnancy (if your eggs are ovulating normally ) but it's bad to have over 30.days periods, as your cycle maintains the body by flushing the materials over 30 days cycle, but better consult your doc. For anything as this should not be serious in future.
You have to understand why period exists first. Learn biology of period.
Normally upto 45 days period is considered max ok, but I would suggest try yoga (for periods) from 30 days, it might happen early by 35 - 40 days with yoga hopefully. Also do consult your gyanec. For generic medics (if money is issue).Also do follicle test to check your ovulation cycle & if you can have pregnancy. (Ask your gyanec. Doc.)
Plz have ashwagandha tabs .it is a natural hormone regulator. U can check out Dr Berg.
Pretty sure if it's regular you're fine. Mine are highly irregular with long cycles. My mom had 5 kids with a cycle similar to mine. Get different opinions, but I think you're fine.
3:45 - "Stress Causes Pregnancy Loss"
I had a Miscarriage/Early Pregnancy Loss (This being the first time I heard the term EPL). I still wonder if me trying to lose weight and get back in shape at the same time I was trying to conceive (TTC) is what caused my EPL at roughly 4-6 weeks gestation. When I do this, I go hard on the GNC workout products, push myself to walk/run faster for longer periods of time and longer workout sessions, and restrict my diet to very few breads, 2 meals a day, and eating only the healthiest of meals (some phases skipping meals or eating very little food at meal times). I was in the middle of this when I found out I was pregnant then stopped. I fell on ice once and a few days later I started spotting.
I wonder if any combination of falling, my "get back in shape" routine, or me not immediately going to the OBGYN at the first signs of bleeding caused EPL. I very much wonder if I went in (my very first appointment with a new OBGYN office was 3 weeks out), my baby could have been saved.
It's hard not to blame myself for that. The caring medic at the ER helped me process short term. My caring sister in law also helped bring peace ("Only God can give life so only God can take it away." - She's experienced several miscarriages due to something wrong with her uterus. She got treatment and is now a healthy mother of three.)
The doctors here help me process that experience. We also have a rainbow baby who was conceived 2 months after the EPL and she's now a healthy 3 month old as of this post. Thanks for debunking these myths. I'll still analyze and wonder what part my (in)actions may have caused it but being told this by random strangers helps.
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm just another internet stranger but EPLs are so so common that early on, they can happen to anyone, in any circumstances, at any activity level. I don't think the doctor could have done anything once the spotting started either. You are absolutely not to blame, sometimes these things just happen and it can make it easier and harder to know there was no rhyme or reason to it.
@@Christina-xc7on You are very right. Thanks for your words of kindness.
@@TisOnlyAScratch
As soon as I heard folates a light switched in my tiny brain: "Dang it! Go take your prescribed vitamins now! Go take your folic acid now that you still have coffee for the pill."
I did remember to take my lactase to eat a traditional Italian Easter dessert but not my vitamins.
I got pregnant after 3 margaritas and 1 dozen raw oysters while on vacation. 10/10 would recommend
Woof if you can send interviewers mics that would help the sound quality.
My mom had me at 30. I had my first child right after I turned 30 🙏🏻
Me too, and my grandmother had my mom at 30, but she was her 6th baby, different times lol
I do not recommend doing it every day.
I wish they would have covered how to find a specialist. My googling fails me and sends me in circles. I've been trying for a kid for years and I can not find a specialist for the life of me and it's getting so depressing...
How to find a specialist? You can ask your PCP or OBGYN for a referral to a fertility specialist called a “Reproductive Endocrinologist” aka an “REI”. Note: they are not just regular endocrinologists, but specialize in fertility & the hormones that affect it.
My OBGYN referred me to an infertility center & I was seen by a reproductive endocrinologist. She did a Transvaginal ultrasound, bloodwork (such as AMH, thyroid panel, prolactin, free testosterone levels, DHEA, etc) asked family history & we discovered the cause of my infertility.
Good luck on your journey & feel free to message if you have additional questions. 👍🏽
Where do you live? I live in MI and have a great one I can refer you to. I would recommend going to your primary care doctor (or any doctor you normally see for your yearly checkups, which I hope you do) and have him/her refer you to an OBGYN. You will normally start there. I hope you find help!
@@sairachiodini I live in Texas. Sadly I don't have a primary doctor, never found one that felt worth my time and currently don't have insurance anyway. After years of trying for a child with no luck, we're just going to adopt at this point.
Yeeeaaahhhh In my late 30s, I believed that it was so hard to get pregnant because I listened to these myths… so we started before the wedding. Had to return my wedding dress for a maternity dress… it only took one time. Super stoked of course!
Congratulations! My husband and I just started trying & we’re both 31. We want to have more than just one child so this makes me feel better. Thank you
She didn't say fertility decline with age is a myth, it is statistically true, but there are exceptions. Medicine is not an exact science and fertility is very complex.
I'm pregnant at 35 and it happened right away, we were shocked. But I know I'm an exception to the rule, my experience doesn't redefine everything we know about human biology
The guilt and stigma in missing to carry! Loss is definitely a euphemism...
Why am i watching this lol
@Random Internet your a disappointment to your country
@Random Internet excuse me?
@Random Internet the hell is your problem?
why am i here lol
Me here wondering why I'm watching too. ...😅🤣
I wouldn’t say lying with your eyes closed is the same but I used to do it on my over nights or double shifts at the nursing home when I didn’t have time to sleep. It def helped get me through. But didn’t replace.
Dr Sriram is so mindful of everyone
Curious does the taking of Plan B once or multiple times in a short period of time have a long term or short term effect on the ovaries or female reproductive system?
Anecdotally, my friend was in an abusive relationship when she was 18. Plan B was her only form of birth control for a variety of reasons related to the abuse. She got pregnant in her 30s without issue.
Plan B has a high concentration of hormones, sort of like taking several birth control pills at once. Not sure if long term effects, but short term it could affect your menstrual cycle and have other side effects, especially if taking them multiple times in a short period.
It seriously comes down to how healthy you are. If you live a healthy life style and eat healthy not fast or junk food or drugs and alcohol use, exercise, it’ll be much easier for you to get pregnant even at an older age and healthy baby too.
We needed this
Something i always wanted to know... I've been on birth control since the birth of my son 8 years ago i went straight back on the combined birth pill but then switched to the Mini pill in 2017 because my periods have stopped while on the mini pill i do sometimes get the period like aches and pains now and again but what happens to the eggs that us women are meant to shed each month? What will happen if i wanted to come off the mini pill ? will i get a ton of heavy blood loss not 100% sure. Thank you
Would love to see a video on PCOS... would be greatly appreciated.
What about the pull out method?
Yes, my daughter Brianna needs to be looking at this.
Very helpful information thank u so much🙏🙏❤
I am 30, childless and depressed after this video 😢
No need to be depressed
Same ..
Same. I'm 28 😢
@@arielrose6361 young!
I'm 30 and 4 months pregnant with my third child.
Thank you! I have a 25 day cycle
I wish they explained why holding legs up after sex doesn’t help with pregnancy
Because gravity doesn’t affect the sperms while the go towards the egg. What could affect their pathway is their motility. :)
Sperm don't really care for gravity.
I'd say same reason your blood doesn't all flow to your feet when you're standing up. Liquids and cells inside the body don't care about gravity.
This was so helpful and informative 👍🏼 thank you for sharing 🙋🏻♀️😇
Thank You 😊🙏
Kinda surprised how a video about fertility with a reproductive endocrinologist comes up & not one question was related to PCOS. Considering that 70% of infertility related issues that make it to a fertility center from women are due to PCOS. At least the mention of it to spread awareness would have helped spread awareness.
Interesting info! Thanks for using inclusive language
Lets gather money and buy a microphone for the doctor on the left side
I love the inclusive language. 💙 These small considerations really help the mental health of trans people, without sacrificing clarity or medical accuracy.
i was looking for this comment . im like i cant be the only one who appreciates this
What about us, biological women? Should we sacrifice all that feminism has fought on behalf of women so that trans person can be mentally stable? Be trans woman and be happy but don’t erase biological women. Show some respect.
@@eliannahankin2971 But they are not ignoring you. You are being mentioned every time they say the word "uterus".
@@dianagarcia7042 do u you oh like being called uterus owner or menstruater. Misogynist call women menstruaters or bleeders. It’s demeaning and not to mention disrespectful. This is not what original feminists fought for. Disgusting.
This is amazing!
I wish there was more funds allocated to researching women's health.
...did he say trans women can have children naturally? I didn’t hear anything after that.
Kamala H
of course he didn’t mean that the trans woman gets pregnant. a trans woman can (if wanted) impregnate a person with a uterus with her sperm, or even freeze her sperm beforehand if she has bottom surgery to use on another person
@@ABDELHADINDIF What do you mean?
I had a 25 day cycle. I got pregnant every time I tried. Had 4 children. Probably could have a a baby every year. I spaced my children too.
Our dumb selves have been using the pull out method successfully for 7 years lol I wouldn't recommend it though.
he did not say nofap
So nice to hear them be so gender-inclusive in their language ☺️🧡
What i wish I had known before: not everyone can get IVF. If you don't have enough follicles, or other issues, you are not a candidate for IVF. I thought so long as you ovulate, it was an option. It is not.
Is there possibility to see your period 2 weeks after sex and still become pregnant?
Sometimes during implantation of the embryo bleeding occurs, which can be easily mistaken for period, because implantation usually happens at the same time when the next menstruation would began
Really loving the inclusive language! 💚
About the 35 year mark. It's plain stupid. My mom had me at age 30 and I'm a mess. I had already something like 5 surgeries. 3 in my first three years of life and two in my teenage years for flat feet. And these surgeries were there to treat physical conditions from birth. Like reflux: not classic easy to treat reflux. I couldn't eat properly, I was getting that reflux into my lungs and they found out at the hospital my esophagus was abnormally large and that was the issue. First surgery didn't go well, had to a second one. Then I got hepatitis from the medical staff performing a blood test in my leg. Which led to me having gallbladder stones because of the medication I was on. And I still have issues. Like my knees aren't straight. I have pectus excavatum and I've been skinny since birth. And my mom was 30. Then my brother was born when mom was 27 and he's the depiction of a healthy man. No issues really. So 35 or not these things can happen earlier or later. It depends a lot in genetics.
Do you understand how stats work? Did she say that having kids young guarantees fertility and health? Or do you think you're the center of the universe and your life should be used as the only data needed to study medicine and biology?
I have hypothyroidism and type 1 diabetes so I was afraid of getting pregnant. Now I'm 31 and getting scared I might never have children.
If T1D is hereditary, don't be so cruel as to have a child, especially in a country where insulin is insanely overpriced and nobody helps you. GFM is a sad joke unfortunately
Dr. Eleswarapu leading the charge for patient education on a complex and nuanced topic WHILE looking all studly in his white coat!! 😉
What.
Your statement is as unclear as octopus ink.
Legends say no fap followers opened incognito after listening to 10:45
Surprised they didn’t talk about how you can get pregnant so soon after having a baby/while breastfeeding
I’m 20 and my husband is 21 we’ve been “trying” (having unprotected sex) for over a year now. Not sure if we’re having fertility issues or if we haven’t been tracking ovulation correctly but we both feel as though we should be pregnancy by now 😂 gonna start actually trying 2024 but we low key kinda expected to have a mini me by now
The worst myth ever is "if you give up on wanting a child/if you just relax, you will get pregnant."
So many myths around bruhh
Can you get pregnant after a pregnancy in your tube
Great video!!!
Look into Natural Family Planning (NFP) ✌
Dr Sriram is so mindful of everyone!
Prayer here when wanted loves ❤John 3:16-18
I love how inclusive the language is.
Hope you're joking
But then the woman backtracks and says the female genitalia or something. Well, she tried. The guy didn't really not sound inclusive ever.
Great video 😊
awwww he's inclusive cause trans women are not men they are women that makes my heart melt
I try to stay out of trans issues. There aren't that many trans people in the USA and they certainly have a difficult path to follow. Better to give them space to live their lives.
I am SOOOO grateful for the language in this video that's considerate of trans and nonbinary folks as well, thank you!!
It's sad that Transphobes are coming out of the woodwork in the comments section
My Sister in law's gynecologist prohibit her to get the covid 19 vaccine since it "could affect her fertility " we are talking about a swiss gynecologist. Is that true?
No it is BS.
I have colleagues that got pregnant after the vaccine and they are 40+ y.o. Some were trying, for others it was a surprise.
Women are born with a limited egg supply that progressively declines with age. This results in a measurable decline in fertility that begins in the mid-20’s and becomes progressively steeper in the mid-30’s. After the mid-40’s the chance of a successful live birth with a woman’s own eggs is extremely low.
How do they explain some women getting pregnant at late 30’s-early 40’s w/o any problem?
Age only decreases your chances of conceiving, but doesn't make it impossible
Why do they need to explain it? Did they say it was impossible? People really need to learn how to interpret stats and the difference between possibility and probability
Vasectomies can sometimed be reversed but its not always possible and doesnt always mean it will work. So dont believe that.
Why "miscarriage" is considered a bad word?!!!
It implies blame
@@ReplyGuy22345 oh...right...thanks for informing
men and women. * stop with the bs labels.
My Aunt had her 10th kid when she was 42
Excellent video, excellent information. I especially loved the dedication to accurate language surrounding gender!
For all men with erectile disfunction; watch the docu The Game Changers ;)
So much interesting! 😌
If only there was a single word for "people who produce sperm" or "people who ovulate". It would make communication so much easier!!!
Too bad there isn't, go cry about it.
I was able to understand everything they communicated... sad that it sounded so complicated to you...
Hey! Many thanks for this video and the others. as usual super interesting. However, since i am not a native in english. could you maybe write out (or have a note with a quick explenation) the abbreviations? would be really nice tho 😅
Did you type ivf in Google
So we don't have men and women any more?
I guess if you don’t have the surgery 🤔
Why bother trying to have a child? Having and nurturing a child from birth to adulthood and till the time they get a job is too much of a responsibility.