I can't believe some people think that periods are dirty. Like if periods are dirty then the whole world itself is dirty, we all were born because of periods.
The lining is shed if not pregnant. If pregnant same type of tissue would support the pregnancy. So yes, that unused tissue and the one used to produce you are same...
Exactly when I was a teen I went to the Ob Gyn because I had some irregular periods. All the pregnant ladies these gave me a sort of look..like “what is a young girl doing in here?”
@@itsthatonechickagaincallth7843 it's not that,it's that most people don't see the point of going to these doctors unless they have to ,kind of like a dentist you need to see a dentist every year but normally people only go when they have to....
Oh, I'm from India and I've heard that one a lot. The explanation they gave was there is some sort of negative energy associated with menstruating and food is affected by it. Imo it's bs but a lot of people still believe it
I’ve only heard it about tomatoes. My mom’s Sicilian family would grow and jar tomatoes every summer and they say that you can’t make them if you’re on your period or it would mess it up.
In my country, there's a myth that if you lay on the lap of a person menstruating, you're gonna go bald. I don't know where that came from but what a stupid myth
I’ve never understood period blood being “dirty.” A baby was potentially supposed to be surrounded by that lining that gets shed. A fetus would never be able to survive in a dirty environment. Yeah, you may view it as gross, but it’s not dirty.
It is dirty. Blood and dead cells are a very good place for microbes to thrive. Fetuses do not directly stick to the uterine walls but will be protected inside an amniotic sac inside the womb, and as soon as it is born the baby should be wiped clean after a bloody journey through the vaginal canal. Don't make it sound different than what it is. It is dirty. But very natural and should not be a taboo. The way other bodily excrements are, like poo and urine.
It IS gross, and it is dirty. Sorry, but if you have to wear a diaper to keep it from soiling your clothing, it is a source of filth. I really wish that I didn't have to be subscribed to Satan's waterfall every SINGLE month. Menopause cannot come soon enough for me.
@@rhaenyralikesyoutube6289 I think maybe people are interpreting this two different ways. Periods can soil our clothes and that's why we need to wear a pad or tampon. However periods are not a dirty THING. It's perfectly natural but society seem to hide it and treat it like a dirty thing, which is weird to me. Edit: i also can't wait for menopause but because I have my two children and don't want anymore.
@@arnavmazarine564 Well yeah blood is a bodily fluid, but I don’t think it’s even close to being as “dirty” as urine and feces are. And I personally don’t think of blood as being gross at all. But I guess some people just get scared/freaked out by blood in general?
Shitting, pissing and vomiting are also natural. They're dirty. Just because something is natural doesn't mean it's unhygienic by nature. It's bodily waste. Period. Also, it's a "stigma" to talk about it because it's a private matter. Do you advertise when you have explosive diarrhea or gas? No.
It’s strange how much misinformation is spread about periods, I have openly talked to my brother about periods so then if he ever gets a girlfriend he doesn’t think it’s weird or disgusting.
Thats great! I do the same with my sibling, they always ask me if I want anything when I'm on my period because we'd talk about it without shame or hush hush attitudes around it. Theyre so sweet about it
I used to have cramps so bad I’d pass out from the pain. I couldn’t drive, hold a job, attend school, or socialize. For the first ~3 days I was completely bed ridden. 3 Advil, hot pads, sleep(or trying to), dark chocolate, etc. nothing made it go away. At most I was barely functional. Then it would end and then I had 3 weeks off. I suffered like this for 8+ years before I finally found a doctor who truly understood it for the hormonal issue it was, and put me on birth control. I still can’t believe women live with this. I just pop Advil and I can go out🤯 Extreme pain is NOT normal. Please see a doctor❤️
did any doctor tell you what was wrong with you? Because I'm kinda in the same situation as you, they prescribed me birth control, but Ifeel that that's treating the symptoms but not the real cause :/
@@SuperAnttito never got a real diagnosis over than “severe dysmenorrhea” which is basically just really painful periods. She said I could spend a bunch of money to try and figure out the root cause, or just trial and error with meds (and guess from there). She just said that for me specifically, my right ovary is working harder yet not enough. -When I was 11 I had a germ cell tumor and had my left ovary removed. This was just as I was starting puberty so my body never got used to the hormones. I’m only now trying to figure out the root cause (next week I have a dr appointment🤞🏻) because drs are expensive. I would say to have a good talk with both your PCP/GP and your GYN about your symptoms, if you feel they aren’t listening, go somewhere else. Like I said, this is NOT normal and there is medicine to treat and figure out the root cause. I hope you can figure out what’s going wrong with your body and fix it🤍🤍
@@tinajsews2835 And.? What does that have to do with my comment or me. I’m Christian, I’m good. If you are implying that my pain was due to sin, you’re wrong. *Edit* I love that they deleted their comment after calling them out for saying my pain was from not believing in Jesus:)
@@SuperAnttito you could get checked for pcos. I have pcos and I had painful periods for like 5+ years. Then I was diagnosed with pcos and I'm being treated for it and the pain had reduced a lot
another myth would be "Using tampons will take away your virginity." My mom kinda banned me from using anything other than a pad for my periods bc of this
That's common in some cultures. It's an uphill struggle to get folks to be comfortable with their own bodies, even people who've been on this Earth longer than most.
Kinda same, I don't even know how to use a tampon because I wasn't taught and didn't manage to put it in when I tried once, now I don't know if I'm even capable of using it lol help I'm 18, supposed to be an adult
@@juliee593 There are quite a few good books written in the early days of modern feminism & the sexual rights movement that can help you learn to do self-examinations, and get familiar with - and comfortable in - your own body. "Our Bodies, Ourselves" and "Joy of Sex" are classics, but there may be newer ones, or ones more tailored to your culture/language.
I learned most of this stuff in the fifth grade with an actual health education class in 9th grade. I vividly remember a lot of classmates not being able to pay attention long enough or even be made to care. A lot of those people now also make similar statements as OP without realizing that they've squandered the education they were given for free. This is not exclusive to health topics though and also often extends to history, biology, and civics.
@@iamjackscompletelackofsurp5858 Keep in mind that in the US, health ed varies *a lot* by State & school district. Only a handful of states even require that the health ed material be based in science. Many places just tell the kids whatever some ignorant board of randos come up with.
@@mandisaw No I totally get that and it's unfortunate but that is also not the overwhelming status of education in the United States. Even in states that don't require science backed health education classes, counties and districts within those states can have a more thorough and fact- based health education curriculum.
@@iamjackscompletelackofsurp5858 Sadly, *can have* doesn't often translate to *does have*. Especially given that schools are slashing budgets and devoting heaps of time to standardized tests and STEM classes (with mixed results on all fronts), I'm afraid health ed / sex ed gets screwed more often than not. All you have to do is look at the stats on how many kids/teens state that they use p0rn or google as their primary source for health or sex/sexuality/puberty info. I think Vox and John Oliver each did segments on it in the past 3yrs or so.
My girlfriend had me watch this video, and I'm glad I did; learned a whole lot. More men should be educated on basic gynaecology. Lack of knowledge leads to fear and misunderstanding.
Lol, periods are "dirty" when they screw up your fav underwear/bottoms but thats about it. Kills me every time, one thing that sucks with flow irregularity.
I was waiting for them to dive deeper into irregular periods because I'm one of those and they didn't. Somewhat disappointing, but the info was still really helpful.
@@mehimtired1013 Irregular periods can have so many different causes/symptoms that each major "family" of issue could be its own segment - endometriosis, fibroids, cysts & polyps, PCOS, pituitary, thyroid, even secondary symptoms from other issues like diabetes or anorexia/eating disorders. And of course cancer of any part of female anatomy can mess with your period too.
Now that I know for sure that I have endometriosis, I'm happy I don't bleed anymore with my pill. But man that's really a pain in the bumbum ruining underwear, but don't throw it away, it can be saved!! Just handwash with cold water (to not "cook" the blood) and soap, neutral preferred. Clothing bleach is also good in small quantities, especially with softener to smooth the soiled fabric. I've saved so many precious lingerie sets this way! Just be patient and kind while washing.
@@mandisaw lol, they can make a short of it saying if your body isn't top knotch perfect condition you have a chance of irregularity😂😂 jk. I just laughed reading yours because I take AED (Anti Epilepsy Drugs) and those suckers screw mine hard. Adjust the dose- new day, add new medicine-two small pd of a month lol. So many things mess with flow like you said.
When I was in my last year of high school, one day I noticed all of the girls were queuing up at the girls' bathroom before our PE class. I had my period that day and so I asked if maybe I could go first to change my pad before the lesson started. Turns out all the girls were on their period and we were ALL taking turns to change our pads in the bathroom before PE 😂 It was weird, a little awkward (high school years, you know) but overall a funny thought that all of the girls in the class were menstruating at the same time 😂 From then on, there was this "girl code" between us that any of us could ask the others for a pad or a tampon. That's how we found out we shared very similar cycles, and well that's one hell of a coincidence!
not really, given number of girls, days of the month and length the cycle, and length of a period, it's totally _not_ unusual to happen. Too many overlaps.
yw it's a bit of confirmation bias at play, we (as a species) tend to recognize patterns and coincidences, and notice when some happens but don't when it's not there. When we say we're on our period and a friend says 'Oh, me too' we feel like we're connected. When we are but a friend is not, they don't say "Oh really, I'm not" /that would be unnecessary, even rude/ We empathize (that sucks, or whatever) in a different way then. So it's easy for our perception to get fooled, and assume something about the sync. IF it's not the situation that it really "is" _synced_ - ie Randomness put that at some point all menstruators who are in close proximity, who have identical, say 28 day, cycle start at same day, and they are not late or early for whatever reason for a long time) Rare events are never really that rare, given 🌍🌎🌏 population. "One in a milion" = not that rare, lol.Our minds just don't naturally grasp big numbers, or probabilities...
@@al.the. if someone is not on their Period and says that is, thats not empathy that's mirroring. Seems like a dumb thing to lie about. If you start working with other girls and you don't have any other girls you're hanging out with and your period starts to change like theirs to fit cicles that's one hell of a coincidence...
@@al.the. agreed. I'm my 7th grade class, there were 60 girls and one boy (don't ask me who messed up on that). Her class probably wasn't as big but there is a ton of room for overlap.
The belief that severe period pain is normal is so damaging. Only recently got diagnosed with PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) because I thought many of the symptoms, such as period pain so severe that I could barely move at all, must be normal.
I have PCOS too and was having very severe, long periods twice monthly. Had endometrial ablation a few months ago and haven't had one since. It was one day (same day) down time and I feel so.much better. You might want to talk to your doctor about options.
My new gynecologist recently told me that PCOS was not the reason for my severe period pain - she stated based on my pain and some other (non-PCOS symptoms), that it is likely from endometriosis. She stated that PCOS could affect how heavy or light a period would be (and obviously could cause menstrual irregularities), but that it wouldn't cause such severe pain.
@@ritaray5562 That may be true! Since the time of my original comment, I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's Disease; one of the symptoms is menstrual irregularities including severe pain.
I used to suffer so badly from my periods that I was incapacitated during 7-9 days each month, and I'm already anemic and anorexic and I always lost so much weight and would faint from blood loss, all because I thought it was normal, and nobody that heard my complaints took it seriously. I'm on birth control for both skin issues and hormonal imbalances and I have not had a period for over 2 years as a choice of mine. It turns out that for my situation and my body, there is absolutely no risk or very very little of not having a period that it's more benefitial for me being under regular medication than risking passing out and having seizures every month. I greatly recommend anyone that is bothered and their periods actually intervene with their life to go see a professional.
Birth control, man: Its a life saver 🤣 You can skip a month (lets say you have a trip/event and don't want to be bothered with a cycle), but I wonder what would happen if I never took my placebos...🤔
In adults, it's just sad. But I really feel for kids, who go through an already stressful time (adolescence sucks!!) often without real knowledge about what is and isn't "normal", as well as getting their heads filled with anything from moralizing nonsense to the p0rn-fueled garbage of their peers. It's enough to make you want to sit everyone down for a couple straightforward Health classes.
Yeah, like how women can have balls! It drives me crazy every time I hear it. We need real science taught in schools, not the fake politicized shit that ends up hurting real women
As someone with Turner Syndrome, my situation is a little unique. I don't have ovaries, but pretty much everything else is in tact. As a result of this, I don't have a natural cycle. Instead, I went through puberty as a result of a prescribed hormone when I was around 12, and because I don't have natural periods I didn't have my first one until I was 17. The reason I had one was because I take a hormonal birth control to trigger the same processes I would have long since gone through had I not been missing ovaries. My doctor and I decided on the hormone pills being prescribed continually because there are concerns if the hormones aren't there that my uterus would shrivel, leading to other health problems.
People swim close to sharks all of the time without even knowing it. Sharks do not stalk humans. Most bites happen to people participating in board sports and that's because they're in the natural habitat of sharks just flailing about looking like a bunch of seals. In 2020, the ISAF reported in the US a total of 3 fatalities from shark attacks in Hawaii, California and Maine.
Though I otherwise 100% support your info, I wouldn't say reports from 2020 mean anything because who was going to the beach in 2020 besides people who don't believe in Covid/don't care if they or people around them get sick? No one. 😆
They smell blood. If you leak through the tampon yes!! I live in Miami we see sharks all the time sweetie. But ummm that's just nasty don't go in the water when you on it .
@@misshglady4lyfe in the pool, may be nasty. In the ocean..or even lake? Fish and every other living thing is peeing and pooping in there. You're not making it worse by swimming in your period. Saying this as a man who just understands ecological situations. And the water dispersant will dilute it. its morally wrong to piss and shit everywhere especially where others are immediately swimming. However, people go in with cuts. We still sweat in the sun and then get in that water. The lotions we use for sunblock is in that water as well. You swimming in period is fine
Lots of stupid people in this world. I had a coworker claim a kidney stone to be worse than giving birth. 😂 I told him women have periods worse than that. He didn’t believe me.
@@ratty5, actually, they done scientific studies and shown that kidney stone are indeed the worst pain. Both for men and women. I've seen it on QI and elsewhere.
@@CalLadyQED Your private parts tearing from one to the other seems more painful. You can die from blood loss giving birth. Watching my boyfriend have kidney stones was about as bad as my regular period.
Come to the caribbean where most doctors are black. You guys sound passive aggressive with the "love" and "hun" btw. But in the Caribbean and Africa, we'd see black people in the media all the time. It's sad that it's not so in America. When I think of doctor, I think of a black woman with mini twists or locks. So we find it amazing that this isnt normal to you. I hope one day it is. These women are great.
But... I get severe period cramps. Almost every period I have it becomes hard to even walk or stand. I get nauseous and fatigued, I can barely eat. The pain is unbearable and i can’t focus in class when I’m on it. I’ve had men tell me that they can take periods which bothers me because they are trying to put their gender above ours, when they don’t even know the excruciating pain that comes with it. It’s so ignorant and makes me feel oppressed.
Please see a doctor. Severe period pain is not normal and could be a sign of something else. Was recently diagnosed with PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) and placed on birth control, which should help fix my severe period pain in the long run. I hope you have similar success ❤️
Girl please go see a specialist, don't waste anymore time suffering ! You maybe have endometriosis, and that usually takes a long time to get diagnosed
Trans man here who went through something similar before just..not dealing with it anymore. You shouldn't be in that much pain-even though it is normal for you, it's not something you should have to deal with. If it won't make you dysphoric, I recommend talking to your doctor about birth control pills or other options to help with this issue. BC pills help me a lot with these issues, but it's definitely NOT easy to deal with. If you aren't comfortable with birth control, there is also hormone blockers which may help-but there are also special pain meds that may help dull that pain. I'm gonna be honest, I've found they never really fully curb the pain, but it does help make it more manageable if you don't feel comfortable with the other options or don't have access to them.
I had extreme period pains, cramps that caused fever, diarrhea and nausea - I even passed out a couple of times. I have lived like this 15years+ until I was put on birth control. My quality of life got so much better, my periods are now much shorter and pretty much painless. Best decision of my life. Please go see a doctor if you live in pain every month. I regret it took me so much time to get help since I actually thought it's normal...
Problem is the pill doesnt solve the cause. It only supresses the aftereffects of some desease. Search for what is causing the pain, hormones, polycystic ovaries, endometriosis, other...
@@jarkachalmovianska7812 I have none of these issues and my period is the same as described. My gynaecologist said that some women are just unlucky and have very severe period pains and there’s nothing we really can do about it other than suppress it with ibuprofen for the rest of our lives.
I have two day periods due to PCOS and let me tell you, it ain't fun. The short periods don't make up for the hirsutism, cyst ruptures and depression. I'd gladly go back to my 7-day periods.
@@kemizehabib-mohammed8791 PolyCystic Ovarian Syndrome. Like (seemingly) everything related to women's health it's extremely understudied and the description is quite vague, so it's hard to explain here. For that reason, many women don't know they have it. Plus, any pain a woman has is often not taken seriously "because periods", so three OBGYNs (!) didn't even properly look into it, until I found a proper one. You should read about it, perhaps you're one of us cystic-sisters :)
good on you for educating yourself! and agreed, I think every person who doesn't have a period should educate themselves atleast a little bit for those that do. I've seen some people think so many outrageous things about periods and our bodies in general
As a woman suffering from PCOS, I actually look forward to having eriods. For years I was on birth control pills to normalize my cycles, only recently after weightloss and exercise I've been able to wean off of them completely and have been having normal periods for the first time in my 18 years of life. Side effects of PCOS are horrible, i wish it upon no one. Thankfully, I haven't been on birth control since a year and am having periods normally. And I'm so so grateful. Girls, with regular periods, you all are so blessed. I hope all women suffering from different issues throughout their reproductive stages find the right treatment and if possible, a cure
And further, they mention that everyone’s cycles have differing lengths, so logic would say that, yes, they can line up, but then go back out of sync (like when you compare your turn signal speed with the car in front of you at a stop light).
Ooo, I like the turn signal analogy. I always think of it like when you're side by side with someone on a swing set, and sometimes your swinging seems like it's syncing up for a little bit, but eventually separates again.
Yes her answer for this one was a little silly. If one person has a 28 day cycle and someone has a 29 day cycle, they will match up every once and while.
@@starofgalaxies one of my auties moved in with us...within 3 months she changed to my schedule....I have also had coworkers who had cycles changed...I didn't mean to be so powerfully influential, lol
I told my male doctor I was getting very painful and unbearable periods to the point I couldn’t move, work or breathe and he didn’t believe me! He looked at me like “yeh right”. This needs to be more spoken about
I liked it until the fetishizing of the turban. Phrases with “fever” in it are historically terrible and damaging. I welcome the research of things like Jungle Fever and the associated trauma.
When I first learned about period in 6th grade, my friend told me that period is 'bad blood' leaving your body...and I thought the period blood was dirty for a long time...I just hope that there's more informative sex education in the future
Unfortunetly, my mom thinks it’s “disrespectful” when you let know another man especially a stranger or your father. I mean, I’m not going to announce to the whole world I’m on my period, but girls shouldn’t be ashamed of that.
Preach! Tell that to Orthodox men...they are not allowed to look a woman in the eyes in case she is menstruating and thus dirty. I am sure it is not the only female-oppressing religion that believes that.
@@aiai-j7i literally every religion oppressed women because they were lead by old sexist men who created stupid rules & standards, and those sexist ideologies still exist.
@@aiai-j7i Pretty sure it’s the culture not religion because my mom believes it’s very disrespectful and creepy to let a man know especially your relatives you are on your period.
i couldn't breathe from the pain i got from my first day of period and always got in the ER but the docs only gave me some calcium gluconate and i dont remember what, it was long ago. when i finally turned 18 and could go to the doc by myself, i went to a gynaecologist and it turned out i had PCOS and two 4cm cysts which caused the pain and also caused the worst kind of acne that was disfiguring me. since i got the prescribed birth control i feel like i am finally living. no pain, no disfiguring acne, just struggling with the scars and occasional pimples on my chin a few days before i finish my pills
I'm in Europe and here you can't come to the doctor without parents if you are under 18 unless it's a life and death emergency and you have to go to the ER. i just needed a gynaecologist and was too shy to have my mom inside and staring at me and my V while the doctor was doing her business inside😅
and while i was going to the ER i had to wait for my mom to come from work and sign some papers otherwise i couldn't leave the hospital. and it's funny that they never did and echo or tried to send me to a gynaecologist :(
@@ducksandcats i am in Germany and here it's possible. There are different guidelines regarding the patient's age, eg. It makes a difference whether your 14 or 16 and how mature you are read to be and how the doctor evaluates the situation. I can just say that I have gone to doctors by myself from an early age and my parents only knew because I told them. I am sorry to hear your situation was so challenging. Health unfortunately depends on so many outside factors.
3:11 THANK YOU- I’ve been trying to explain to my parents that being in so much pain to the point where I literally cannot eat/sleep/move is NOT normal. It’s gotten to the point where I have to fast for a few days prior, and during my period just to feel okay because of all the nausea/regurgitation. They always brush it off, (especially my mom) saying that it’s normal and that I have to get used to it and stop letting it interfere with things.
Honestly, I've learnt more in this one video about menstruation than I ever did in Sex Ed back in high school. This needs to be part of school curriculum.
PMS is definitely a thing. Ever since I had my first period I had experienced it. My symptoms are usually stomache cramps, fatigue, bloating, anxiety, stress, and nausea, this always happens 2-3 days before I get my period. Sometimes I think I have the elevated one because sometimes it's so bad I just want to lay in bed. It's also gotten worse since quarantine. People that don't experience this are probably one of the luckiest human beings alive.
The best menstrual cup is the one that works for you. Not the one with coolest hype. Although, if the cool hype gets you to at least try it’s not a total loss.
I'll never forget this one time in health class. Learning about periods the teacher (woman) says "girls I'm sorry to single you out but raise your hands when you're on your period and tell us what day you are on". Me and four other girls raised our hands. The guys looking at us looked shocked and terrified. Looking back it was funny.
Only one I didnt realize was a myth was the syncing one. I've had my period just up and change by weeks at a time after moving in with a female roommate and its always exactly when they have theirs. If it's a coincidence it's a friggin weird one for sure 🥴
Same...i was in the army and during training bunked in the sane barracks with 39 other girls. ALL of our periods were messed up. By the 3rd month we ALL had ours at the same time....
I don't believe it's a myth. Even if they say so, I still stick to my personal experience. I'm like you. I don't sync like I start when they start. I start later when theirs are ending which implies mine is a bit weak and theirs is a bit strong. The hormone.
@@kimkat5705 because cycles are NOT the same length and they're NOT ONE DAY long so they can CONVERGE and then DIVERGE, there can be a lot of overlap, it's so simple, and can be mathematically proven to be nothing other than pure chance
As a person from Eastern Europe, from a country that suffered from communism and their imposed quotas, I find this kind of comments hilarious. Especially the one from fiona fiona. This is an informative video; please don’t make it about race. Please appreciate someone’s knowledge and not the race.
@@Momonne It's not like quotas make graduates good at anything they do and sending anyone who manages to get a certain GPA into medicine/people unlucky enough to graduate in certain years farming isn't the point. These women have had huge challenges at their level of melanin and shouldn't be reduced to the intersection of job and "race" like English dose to the extend that Obamas mother, private school and exceptional work history aren't mentioned either!
@@Momonne YES 🙌 people complain about racism and then refer to people by their race. It doesn’t even make sense! As good as it is to see representation of people that don’t have light skin, the first step to achieving equality is forgetting race. Let there be no black, white or brown people, just humans.
Love this conversation! I have to say though, my period definitely synched up to my oldest daughter within three months of her getting her first period. It was drastic. Then, we BOTH synced up two years later when my youngest daughter got her first period. It was a crazy thing to witness. And now 11 months later, we all three start within 12 hours of each other. It may not be proven scientifically, but it's definitely a thing in my house. Thank you ladies, for making this video! I could watch y'all talk all day!
The biggest thing I’ve learned as an adult is that PMS happens before the period. I think we learned this in health class, but then we talk as if all symptoms happen during the period. I’ve been interested to note what my body and emotions do at different times of month. It’s so helpful to be able to say, “okay, my hormones are probably contributing to this” or “no, this feeling isn’t related to my cycle, and I need to pay closer attention to what’s happening in my life right now.”
Actually it's way more likely for me to have the so called PMS symptoms when I'm already on my period than before it starts like it's supposed to. But then again I have PCOS which means my hormones are all over the place. I've been taking a supplement for my condition this last couple of months and I haven't bitten anyone's head off or cried myself silly while on my period lately so I think it's somewhat helping 😅
The inclusivity here is great, and I really needed to hear "It does not define womanhood...by any means" and "It's okay not to have a period if you choose not to" and I had no idea I needed that validation. Thank you. I think maybe I have PMDD on top of gender dysphoria, and it's a lot to deal with. But I've definitely had people make me feel invalid for choosing to not. They'll tell me it should be empowering or I'm harming myself or whatever else.. But they don't realize how awful I felt. It's..really nice to see professionals who do get that.
My best friend recently came out to me as non-binary, and they've also experienced gender dysphoria. Periods definitely don't help with that! If your doctor says it's fine to take birth control pills or other hormones to stop your period, go for it!
I identify as cisgender, but I definitely have some hormonal irregularities that give me some mildly intersex features. I passionately hate having periods above all else on the planet. Like, I’d rather have another tooth extracted without anesthesia than have periods. Sometimes I get really intense dysphoria when I have a period. Intense to the point where I have once in a while had a few fleeting thoughts about self-harm during my period. I really, really, really like the stability of taking a long-cycle birth control pill. It’s so much easier for me to deal with having a period once every three months. The other part is that without a hormonal pill, don’t necessarily bleed every month. It’s probably got something to do with my testosterone level being excessively high. However, what I hated the most was that I could totally have all of the emotional, dysphoric symptoms of pms, and not have any bleeding. Hated that passionately. So much nicer for me to be able to schedule having a period and be able to know when it’s coming and plan around it. Plus with the pills I also know for sure when it will be over. Without any birth control, I never quite knew if I would have a period or worse, how long it might last. I’ve had low level bleeding that lasted for months on end. I like my pills, ok?
As a trans masc who just started hormones and had to deal with constant (expected conservative Asian patriarchal sexism to AFAB people) I wished I could give you a big hug.
Don't worry, other pokémon fan^^ I take the pill every evening fo rover a year and don't get my period either^^ No one should care about it, except you! That is personal and your personal choice! If you don't want them, then... don't! I am with you, girl
I never understood the syncing thing. Like do you not have female relatives that you live with? If not do you not have female friends? Have you ever noticed them sync up? I mean sometimes they can overlap at the same time but since everybody has a different number of days between each periods that's bound to happen at some point.
@@anitachandra2030 ☹️ yea.. for the longest I couldn’t put 2 and 2 together, cause the symptoms would come DAYS before my period. Insomnia, mood swings, anxiety, constipation, fatigue, the random sadness, ughhhh I hate it I hate it
Uh...I think that's why it's called _pre_ menstrual syndrome. A lot of the symptoms come from a gradual drop off in progesterone in the last few days of your luteal phase.
@@harringt100 I noticed the “pre” part in PMS. But I guess before I didn’t know symptoms would start as far back as 14 days before my period. That’s why it was hard to put 2 and 2 together. And my symptoms wasnt as strong in my teen years. I would just get cramps and that would happen on the first day on my period, it never use to effect me mentally. I even went to the doctors asking them what’s wrong with me, and they didn’t even mention that pms could be the cause, just had me fill out a depression paper and once I was clear ... that was it 🙄
I’m feeling super lucky that my period doesn’t bring me any kind of pain or discomfort whatsoever. Most of the time, I wouldn’t even know it until I saw the blood. I don’t take that for granted.
Same. My period is easy and very regular which is why i dont want to take any hormonal birth control as birth control can change things alot. Especially for those who may not have any reproductive issues like endo or pcos. I had a copper iud and i bled for 2 months straight and was in terrible pain. Now i just use condoms.
When I first got my period, I didn't feel any kind of pain whatsoever. It wasn't until I had been getting them for about a year that I started to experience pain but it was pretty mild. Now there are some times when it gets pretty bad.
I have awful cramps the day before, the day before my first period my mom who is a nurse thought my appendix was bursting or whatever they do, and i can not stand the pain i have to take so much medicine and it usually doesn't even work and i havr to take sleep medicine and pass out so i don't experience the pain anymore at like 5 pm and then try to sleep as long as possible the next day but i usually can't sleep fir more then 6 hours without a lot of pain and blood, it feels like the week after my period ends is happy and i can do stuff but after that its so stressful and the next 2 weeks is just preparing myself for when my period comes and i hate it it ruined my life i wish I was infertile this is going to ruin my childhood and ill never will be able to have any fun, i wish i did more before I got my first period like fun stuff but now i can't and now nothing will be the same
I have said this in other vids in this series and am gonna say it again: it is so awesome to see such diversity in these vids! Thanks for the education!
I'm disturbed by the lack of the use of "woman/women" by these _medical_ professionals. I'm less inclined to take doctors like this seriously when they refuse to use terms that assert biological truth and instead tiptoe around, afraid of offending so they use vague terms that could apply to anyone when speaking about a subject or condition that only affects a certain section of the population.... in this case things related to pregnancy and childbirth.
Stumbled on this and love it! My co-leader and I are working with our Girl Scouts (high school) on their Women’s Health badge, and I’ll definitely use this video as a springboard for conversation. Thank you!!
Thank you for debunking some of these harmful myths and for normalizing discussing periods and vaginal health! It's so important, everyone deserves to understand their body and not be shamed for it.
I ADORED this videoo!! And as a med student, these incredible doctors inspired me so much to irradiate passion, empathy and patience when educating patients just as they did, thank you SO much!!!
In my teens, I had cramps so severe where the first 3 days I'd shiver uncontrollably and sweat profusely despite my environment being cool/cold. I would crawl on all fours to the bathroom and cling to the toilet trying not to pass out (I wasn't always lucky). I wouldn't be able to sleep. Speaking was probably the hardest as I'd suddenly develop shortness of breath if I dared to expel that much energy. As a young girl I'd be so fearful of what could potentially happen, but wouldn't have the physical strength to even cry out. Man, I dreaded those first 3 days and would give anything for the "regular" cramps I now have.
Must be nice no never bleed through your pants spontaneously without a heads up 😂 and then the walk if shame to the nurses office 😬 mine was across the school & I happened to see some former teachers who witnessed my misery 🤦♀️
@@alyssashoemaker3414 I have to say call me simp or what but girls face much more problems then boys and each and every time I see these situations,i feel proud and full of respect and there is nothing of shame its a type of blessing every girls have.
Very true. So if you're friends with someone who menstruates, remember to be supportive and kind to them when they're on their cycle--offer to get them their favorite treat and you'll be one less thing for them to worry about (and you might even be a brighter point in their week!).
Am I the only one who's never heard the myth that menstruating leads to spoiling food you prepare? The thought that my food would spoil while I was making it on my period has never crossed my mind before...
This is so incredible! Thank you for your knowledge and wisdom! I grew up in a family that told me next to nothing about it and I've been at a loss with how to explain it to my daughter. Now I have this to show her, so just really, thank you. So much.
For those interested in why some people may think periods are dirty (or where the cultural context is coming from), look up the book Purity and Danger by sociologist/anthropologist Mary Douglas. It’s all about how there is a difference between “dirt” and what makes something “dirty.”
i have pmdd! i also have many other mental health issues too so its only amplified by my cycle. im luckily on birth control. best decision i ever made was finding a doctor who actually listened to me.
Omg same! I’ve always dealt with depression but just managed on my own but it intensified to a scary point. Did some research which led me to PMDD went to my gyno she put me on meds for it and now I’m good thankfully!
About the pregnant while on you're period part I want to mention that some people might have ovulation very soon after their period, or even overlapping a bit with their period. Uncommon (because of how the hormone levels regulate the menstrual cycle), but it does happen.
My periods are irregular (either once every 3 months or 2 in one month) and I have an abnormal growth inside my vagina but my GP (female from NHS) told me it's because I'm stressed 🙃 Wish we had more doctors like these two who seem to care about women's healthm
I've never tried getting help for my fanny but I will say that I've never had any sort of help from any GP in my life (I'm chronically ill), if you can try to convince them to refer you or see if you can self refer to a gynecologist I think that might help you out. I know GP is first point of contact but clearly they're shit and you need help. I'm sorry you're going through this
ooo... I'm a woman who has tended to imply that PMS is a myth or overblown, because I don't know that I experience it, and when I "do," what I experience might just be purely coincidental/something I attribute falsely to PMS (eg, no, I'm not extra sad because my period's coming, I'm just a little sad about something today). That said, my experiences are not everyone's experiences, and my own derision of the idea of PMS is probably an inappropriately applied reaction to people who use PMS as a tool to "other" women/people who have a menstrual cycle, or dehumanize us. So, PMS happens - it's wrong to say it's a myth. But, PMS does not imply that women are illogical beings who deserve to be treated differently - it doesn't need to be a myth for people to treat women and people with a menstrual cycle as human. (edited for mixed up phrasing and to rephrase - in other words, existence of PMS doesn't excuse treating people with menstrual cycles like they're crazy. That'd be illogical!) Thanks for checking me, Dr.s GM and K! c:
Not a doctor, but I interned on a PMS psychological & pharmacological study over 20yrs ago. Symptoms vary from none at all to severe physical impairment to mental impairment (possibly related to the distraction of pain). Some women were very aware of their symptoms, others were not - part of our job running the study was to do both quantitative & qualitative symptom tracking. All that to say, PMS definitely exists. Fun facts - you might exhibit PMS symptoms before, during, or after any bleeding period, and some women have symptoms of PMS, but never actually *bleed*. Also, from my own much later-in-life experience, I will say that infertility treatments push any PMS symptoms into overdrive, plus the expected stress & emotional upset. Being a human female is hard, yo
As someone with pmdd... I've been around other women who don't get much in the way symptoms. In all honesty, each month I get suicidal thoughts and have self harmed on one occasion. ALWAYS in the week before my period. Its awful and I wouldn't wish this on anyone else. I'm glad that most women don't get this extreme. I thank you for listening and understanding that even though you don't feel it, doesn't mean its not real.
@@Mimi-cq4bg Thank you for sharing your experience so that others and I can learn from you. I'm sorry to hear how bad your experience with PMDD is though - that's tough :( I understand to some degree how bullshit depression can be, so my heart goes out to you for what you deal with with PMDD. While it doesn't make it any easier to deal with those feelings in the midst of feeling that way, in the very least I'm glad you've identified the pattern of your mental health, and know that PMS/PMDD is a cause/contributor. That's another great reason to eliminate the myth that PMS/PMDD doesn't exist, and to correct people like me; downplaying PMS/PMDD probably makes it harder for people to identify patterns in their mental health struggles, or can make it harder to deal with those changes. Again, thank you for sharing, and in doing so, helping to correct and educate me + others. I admire your strength, as well as the kindness and understanding you showed in your comment
@@mandisaw Thanks for sharing! Your comment shows me that I have a lot more to learn about PMS beyond my rudimentary understanding of "mood changes." It seems like we're giving more and more attention to PMS in academic/scientific realms, so it's cool to hear about the study you worked on. Your comment makes me remember - I took a physiology course in college, and I want to say that PMS was mentioned, but in like one line... I don't remember that course really talking about it as much of a thing at all - more in terms of correlation to general hormonal changes that happen during menstrual cycles... hmmm... hopefully future generations will get better, more comprehensive education on issues like this. Time for me to look for more academic sources on PMS...!
@@Mimi-cq4bg that sounds awful, is there anything you can do about it? I personally noticed when I lost too much weight in a month or my iron deficiency is stronger, I get depressed for at least a day or two before my period. So I'm doing my best to supplement iron, but that I only noticed when I talked to my psychiatrist (I have adhd), he knows my symptoms are stronger when I'm deficient in certain vitamins. I also noticed that it helps to inform the people around me. I worked with a lot of guys and they actually notice when I'm having my period and I once explained that it's my period, I definitely hate them today and I mean it, but they should not take it personally, if they find me intimidating, I will spare them for bringing me chocolate. My male coworkers have adapted to give me chocolate once a month, it's amazing they don't meed to understand it in order to handle it and they use this information on their girlfriends too!
There is of course such a thing as a "retained tampon", where one gets stuck and more or less hidden somewhere within the vagina. You mentioned that briefly at the end of that myth discussion. I once went to a gynecologist with this. He did a vaginal ultrasound and found nothing. At the last moment he decided to do one further scan, and there it was. Afterwards he was bemusedly saying, "How come I couldn't see this earlier?" I had no answer for that, of course, but I was glad he'd found it and removed it -- I could half-feel that it was there, and I definitely felt better when it was gone.
Feel like most of times i go to gp the doctors will disregard my pain or complains. Everything that has to do with vagina they just don't care. I was told to change sex position, pain is in my head, change to pill, change to implant change back to pill 🙄 and from the comments it looks like women's health is many times ignored
My period is 2 days. And done. But my cramps are HELL. Pure hell. When I was in high school I missed school because of cramps. I used to vomit and could hardly stand. I was thrilled when I grew out of that. There were 3 of us women that worked together in a pharmacy during the day, full time, and our periods were synced for years. We spent more time together than with our families some weeks because how much we worked. Holy beans you both are so beautiful. I need the color of red the Doctor on the left is wearing. Love it.
I always believed the thing about cycles syncing. When I was in middle school I had my period right before a trip with my school, I didn’t take any products because my period had ended just days before the trip. I slept in a cabin with my friends and by the end of the week my period had started and it was the heaviest period I’d ever experienced up until that point. The other girls had all started their periods as well. I honestly wouldn’t trust that study because it’s not tracking all of the women they encountered, only the people on the app or in the dorm
my periods stopped for a few years after I gained considerable weight. I went to my gyn and she had me get bloodwork done and ultrasounds performed to ensure everything was okay - it turned out to be fine. after I lost some weight, my (historically inconsistent) periods returned. i think the way human bodies can do weird shit like this without being in trouble is cool
I have always been nervous about talking about my periods or body in general, out of fear of being abnormal. (I have some anxiety about doctors) this video made me feel so much better. Thank you 😊
Lots of helpful information! I was a little disappointed that they didn’t mention breastfeeding. I had no idea how much breastfeeding could affect my cycles and felt so lost and alone. I’d love to hear that talked about more!
I'm glad you get into the menstrual cycle synching myth. Drives me bananas. I've had physicists misappropriate this myth to discussions of spontaneous synchrony, which, just.... is a fundamental misunderstanding of spontaneous synchrony (or of physiology). OOF is it cathartic to have you two go into the research that caused, but also that seems to debunk the myth! :D
There was literally a woman in Australia who suffered major complications from a tampon that was still in her a month later, because she had lost the string and didn't realise it was still in, because she was a busy mum and once she accidentally put in another tampon without realising she already had one. She almost died from complications. So no, tampons getting lost is NOT a myth.
Sharks are actually hardly interested in human blood. I saw a video of it somewhere, where they were about as interested in it as in saltwater. However, the same experiment showed they are very very sensitive to fishblood. So good thing you're not a fish 😁
As a man with no vagina or uterus, this video was awesome! Just good conversation about absolutely normal things that people with uterus go through. Thanks :)
My sister died as a result of an infection caused by a tampon that was lost inside of her. It had to be surgically removed from the wall of her cervix. So yes, things CAN be "lost" up there. If you suspect something is in there that should not be, have your Gyn check on things just to be sure.
Further proof doctors are not God. Hanging on their every word is idol worship and dangerous. Trust God alone. He knows. Oh yea women are the only ones that can menstruate. And a man will never be a woman
People will say that menstruation is dirty and then have no problems with unprotected sex like… if you’re not worried about stds I don’t really know what you’re worried about in period blood
feel like we need Mythbusters for the "are sharks attracted to period blood?" since sharks try to smell for specific amino acids (also note : sharks bite because they're either territorial or have mistaken people for seals, we don't taste good to sharks)
I'm so glad they mentioned PMDD. It definitely isn't talked about and can seriously impact the lives of people who have it. I didn't know I had it until I was 25 and was wondering what the hell was wrong with me. Why I'd have such severe mood swings and be so irritable and cranky for about half of the month or more. It's absolutely awful and can really damage your quality of life all around. Nice to see it mentioned here.
My many years of "menstrual" pain turned out to be a dairy allergy. When I stopped eating dairy, my periods were almost pain-free. Wish I'd known that back when I was 12!
I have really painful periods that leave me bawling and wailing for hours. My last period was like half a year ago and my grandmother came to my room to slap me and tell me to shut up.
God, that's horrible ! I hope this video could at least reassure youabout your pain And man I get the delay thingy, it happens to me too! I dunno if you're of age to see a specialist because having to suffer that much, both emotionally and physically, is not acceptable and not healthy at all !! Do you know the few things to do to calm your period pains?
@@kaku7398 I’m glad I’m not alone but it sucks that anyone has to deal with it. I’m 22 so I could probably see a specialist but I’m not insured and I don’t have the money for it. I have quite a few physical and mental health issues that keep me from working but without a proper diagnosis I can’t get the help I need through disability and Medicaid but in order to get help I need to work and it just feels like I’m completely stuck in a loop. It’s exhausting. Need to work to solve my problems, can’t work because of my problems. And no one in my life cares enough or can afford to help me. They’re the kind of people to just tell you to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and tell you it’s not so bad when they don’t even know what it’s like. And I don’t really have any ways to control the pain other than your typical Tylenol and heating pad. I kind just lay in bed and kick my legs for hours. Just have to wait it out.
@@Pompazour Oh wow :0 That's... A lot ! Your health is the most important thing you have and you should have it as your first priority. If you can spare a bit of money in the near future, that's perfect. Have a plan on all the things you would want to talk about to a specialist, and work on it slowly. About your mental health, I don't know what illnesses/disorders you might have, or to which degree, but I believe that by taking action, moving forward and not letting yourself stay still (not literally, but if you tend to overthink or stop moving because of overthinking, it's better to prioritize taking actions over "useless thinking), you will manage them better (seeing a phychologist/psychiatrist might be the ultimate solution though...). It might take a few months, heck a few years, but taking it step by step, even the smallest and slowest ones, are still an improvement. And I'm sad to hear that you have not much support in your surroundings :( Having someone to talk about your issues, even about the smallest things or the deepest insecurities, is essential for you. Never stop surrounding yourself with people you can trust. Your situation is extremely difficult, but not uncommon. I really wish you will get the help you deserve to get back on your feet. Just know that you're not a lost cause and that you absolutely can reach your goals
@@Pompazour I don't think my periods are as bad as yours at all. And to be honest, medication has never been a very good solution to my pain, despite it not being very intense :0 What I usually do is very light exercise to stretch my back, hips, shoulders and legs and avoid staying sit for too long. I just want my blood to flow better. Letting your muscles stay inactive for too long is gonna increase the chance of cramps so yeah.. Also I roll myself in a blanket, lay down or just get comfy on a couch, get a hot drink and play videogames. Distracting yourself is very useful, and a videogame is perfect for that. I'm sorry if those don't work perfectly for you, I think your solution is medication but because you can't access them at the moment there are only the alternatives left.
I lived with 4 other girls at college and we never synced. Once in a while it would seen like we did, but it was only for a month or two and it wasn't exact. We were still a few days off. I see it as a live if cars with their turn signals on, they're all blinking at different rates but every now and again it'll look like some will be blinking at the same rate, but then they differ again. I can't get people to believe science in this issue no matter how many scientific videos and articles I share.
Yeah they said it was just pure coincidence. Which makes sense because their are 4 weeks in a month. There obviously will be a huge chance of syncing up with someone within that month like 1/4 chance. And also if you already sync with that person, the next time you guys have a period then of course it would be about the same time. There's no actual scientific proof that shows if you hang out with them more you will eventually sync up.
I admire these doctors for being generous with the information, and for handling the topic with compassion and grace. You know you’re in good hands with them.
Ever since my period started, it has never been regular. It comes whenever it wants to. I can go 3-5 months in between bleeding. But one year I had my ‘period’ for almost 3 whole months. The doctor I was seeing couldn’t have been bothered. I think she should have referred me to a gynecologist but when I asked she said I was too young. Fun times.
Hey there, so did you get the irregular periods checked out in the end? I too have irregular periods since I first got them. Like yours, mine comes every few months and when they do, they don't last very long.... Like 3 - 5 days tops. Oh, and more often than not, I am bed ridden for the first 1.5 days. I went to a normal physician when I was younger but she told me it's normal because I was young. Fast forward ten years, it's still irregular
Is it because, as it turns out, even women can be misogynistic to other women? Because I experienced that from many doctors, both male and female. Misogyny in medicine is real and allowed me to suffer with progressively worse ER-level pain from cramps (and durung the cycle as well) getting worse and worse for 22 years before they could do anything... after me screaming and yelling and begging for hysterectomy after asking for it in a civil and nice way for years while I'm having ER level pain every month: I finally said I'm just going to start showing up to the ER every single month so if you all don't like that and think that's a waste of taxpayer money maybe give me the hysterectomy that I clearly need because I'm obviously not having children and would like to not be in pain for several days complete days every month for decades out of my life for literally no reason that I'm not having children and I said this always very plainly and was always treated like garbage. I don't know how civil I'm supposed to be when literally I'm putting up with pain 7+ days on end, things that a man could not tolerate for 5 minutes, severe pain in the pelvis and groin for hours and days at a time. Obviously this ruined my life and maybe if medical professionals actually listen to me and didn't let this go on for 22 years I could have, like, made a living. so I'm always open to job leads that I am still at disabled person now I'm always open to donations because we literally starve disabled people and I've had depressed wages for the last couple of decades. but literally maybe I could have gotten my life back literally years earlier if people could have believed me, people who were alleged medical professionals if they could have been bothered to believe my pain and be remotely sympathetic and do the tests and work instead of just like saying I needed to put up with it for hypothetical future children that I never wanted and that I openly said I didn't want.
I can't believe some people think that periods are dirty. Like if periods are dirty then the whole world itself is dirty, we all were born because of periods.
Yup
Actually, when you get conceived periods stop, so...
The lining is shed if not pregnant. If pregnant same type of tissue would support the pregnancy. So yes, that unused tissue and the one used to produce you are same...
A lot of cultures unfortunately still think that.
Or lack thereof 🤣🤣
Another myth we need to debunk ‘Seeing an OB-GYNs meant that you are pregnant’ 😒
So true!!!!
Never heard that one.
Exactly when I was a teen I went to the Ob Gyn because I had some irregular periods. All the pregnant ladies these gave me a sort of look..like “what is a young girl doing in here?”
@@lavendermelon7889 do people not know what pap smears are...?
@@itsthatonechickagaincallth7843 it's not that,it's that most people don't see the point of going to these doctors unless they have to ,kind of like a dentist you need to see a dentist every year but normally people only go when they have to....
"A person who is menstruating can spoil food by preparing it." I'm sorry... WHAT??
Some orthodox religious cultures believe that one - Old Testament type stuff, along with not mixing cotton & silk...
Oh, I'm from India and I've heard that one a lot. The explanation they gave was there is some sort of negative energy associated with menstruating and food is affected by it. Imo it's bs but a lot of people still believe it
My mum learned this at school in the 80s... in Switzerland!
@@chaotically_organised4678 I m from india too,I haven't heard it ever
I’ve only heard it about tomatoes. My mom’s Sicilian family would grow and jar tomatoes every summer and they say that you can’t make them if you’re on your period or it would mess it up.
In my country, there's a myth that if you lay on the lap of a person menstruating, you're gonna go bald. I don't know where that came from but what a stupid myth
I hate myths like that, they're purposefully made to make people feel bad about their periods and make others fear people on periods.
Lol what country? Just curious.
I think that's more superstition than myth. Myths are false ideas or beliefs, superstitions are irrational beliefs based on paranoia
@@misshglady4lyfe I assume it’s India or something
lmaoooo my mom also said that. I'm now realizing tho that it was an excuse to get me to stop lying on her when she had cramps lol
I’ve never understood period blood being “dirty.” A baby was potentially supposed to be surrounded by that lining that gets shed. A fetus would never be able to survive in a dirty environment. Yeah, you may view it as gross, but it’s not dirty.
It is dirty. Blood and dead cells are a very good place for microbes to thrive.
Fetuses do not directly stick to the uterine walls but will be protected inside an amniotic sac inside the womb, and as soon as it is born the baby should be wiped clean after a bloody journey through the vaginal canal.
Don't make it sound different than what it is. It is dirty. But very natural and should not be a taboo. The way other bodily excrements are, like poo and urine.
It IS gross, and it is dirty. Sorry, but if you have to wear a diaper to keep it from soiling your clothing, it is a source of filth. I really wish that I didn't have to be subscribed to Satan's waterfall every SINGLE month. Menopause cannot come soon enough for me.
@@rhaenyralikesyoutube6289 I think maybe people are interpreting this two different ways.
Periods can soil our clothes and that's why we need to wear a pad or tampon. However periods are not a dirty THING. It's perfectly natural but society seem to hide it and treat it like a dirty thing, which is weird to me.
Edit: i also can't wait for menopause but because I have my two children and don't want anymore.
@@arnavmazarine564 Well yeah blood is a bodily fluid, but I don’t think it’s even close to being as “dirty” as urine and feces are. And I personally don’t think of blood as being gross at all. But I guess some people just get scared/freaked out by blood in general?
Shitting, pissing and vomiting are also natural. They're dirty. Just because something is natural doesn't mean it's unhygienic by nature. It's bodily waste. Period. Also, it's a "stigma" to talk about it because it's a private matter. Do you advertise when you have explosive diarrhea or gas? No.
It’s strange how much misinformation is spread about periods, I have openly talked to my brother about periods so then if he ever gets a girlfriend he doesn’t think it’s weird or disgusting.
that is very good! parents don’t educate their sons enough, neither do schools.
Thats great! I do the same with my sibling, they always ask me if I want anything when I'm on my period because we'd talk about it without shame or hush hush attitudes around it. Theyre so sweet about it
That's great! You are doing his future girlfriends a favor😅
Yes, men should learn about the other half of the population in facts instead of speculation and stereotypes. It's 2021.
@@KitC916 fr, we ain’t myths or theories Lmaoo
I used to have cramps so bad I’d pass out from the pain.
I couldn’t drive, hold a job, attend school, or socialize. For the first ~3 days I was completely bed ridden.
3 Advil, hot pads, sleep(or trying to), dark chocolate, etc. nothing made it go away. At most I was barely functional. Then it would end and then I had 3 weeks off. I suffered like this for 8+ years before
I finally found a doctor who truly understood it for the hormonal issue it was, and put me on birth control.
I still can’t believe women live with this. I just pop Advil and I can go out🤯
Extreme pain is NOT normal. Please see a doctor❤️
did any doctor tell you what was wrong with you? Because I'm kinda in the same situation as you, they prescribed me birth control, but Ifeel that that's treating the symptoms but not the real cause :/
@@SuperAnttito
never got a real diagnosis over than “severe dysmenorrhea” which is basically just really painful periods.
She said I could spend a bunch of money to try and figure out the root cause, or just trial and error with meds (and guess from there).
She just said that for me specifically, my right ovary is working harder yet not enough. -When I was 11 I had a germ cell tumor and had my left ovary removed. This was just as I was starting puberty so my body never got used to the hormones.
I’m only now trying to figure out the root cause (next week I have a dr appointment🤞🏻) because drs are expensive.
I would say to have a good talk with both your PCP/GP and your GYN about your symptoms, if you feel they aren’t listening, go somewhere else. Like I said, this is NOT normal and there is medicine to treat and figure out the root cause.
I hope you can figure out what’s going wrong with your body and fix it🤍🤍
@@tinajsews2835
And.? What does that have to do with my comment or me. I’m Christian, I’m good.
If you are implying that my pain was due to sin, you’re wrong.
*Edit*
I love that they deleted their comment after calling them out for saying my pain was from not believing in Jesus:)
@@SuperAnttito you could get checked for pcos. I have pcos and I had painful periods for like 5+ years. Then I was diagnosed with pcos and I'm being treated for it and the pain had reduced a lot
That's why I went on birth control too! That and you know, birth control lol
This conversations is full with such a positive energy and personality, and I freaking LOVE it.
I'm So GLAD. We had fun doing this!
@@DrEveryWoman I HAD SO MUCH FUN WATCHING
Obviously. they'd get a lot of hate if shown this topic in not positive light
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@@Timurisoverhere There's nothing negative about this topic
Why the hell am I watching this as a grown ass man? I guess educating myself is not bad, great content :)
Nothing is wrong with learning about periods.
@@jadedflames2809 I know mate, but was a bit surprised when I ended up here
@@ThalonRamacorn fair enough, but as an afab, it's nice to get some education on how vagina owners' anatomy since schools kinda suck
Idk. Sum guys get periods but I'm guessing ur cis
@@sadc6033 I looked up this word and it doesnt make sense to me, Im a man :D
another myth would be "Using tampons will take away your virginity." My mom kinda banned me from using anything other than a pad for my periods bc of this
Also having a pelvic exam. My grandma was so worried about my hyman after my first exam.
That's common in some cultures. It's an uphill struggle to get folks to be comfortable with their own bodies, even people who've been on this Earth longer than most.
Oof, the myth of virginity would have to be a whole separate video! But yeah I definitely have heard this myth before.
Kinda same, I don't even know how to use a tampon because I wasn't taught and didn't manage to put it in when I tried once, now I don't know if I'm even capable of using it lol help I'm 18, supposed to be an adult
@@juliee593 There are quite a few good books written in the early days of modern feminism & the sexual rights movement that can help you learn to do self-examinations, and get familiar with - and comfortable in - your own body. "Our Bodies, Ourselves" and "Joy of Sex" are classics, but there may be newer ones, or ones more tailored to your culture/language.
More people need to be educated about this. It should be made a part of the curriculum in schools along with Sex education.
It used to be part of sex ed, at least in the States that have/had real sex education.
I learned most of this stuff in the fifth grade with an actual health education class in 9th grade. I vividly remember a lot of classmates not being able to pay attention long enough or even be made to care. A lot of those people now also make similar statements as OP without realizing that they've squandered the education they were given for free. This is not exclusive to health topics though and also often extends to history, biology, and civics.
@@iamjackscompletelackofsurp5858 Keep in mind that in the US, health ed varies *a lot* by State & school district. Only a handful of states even require that the health ed material be based in science. Many places just tell the kids whatever some ignorant board of randos come up with.
@@mandisaw No I totally get that and it's unfortunate but that is also not the overwhelming status of education in the United States. Even in states that don't require science backed health education classes, counties and districts within those states can have a more thorough and fact- based health education curriculum.
@@iamjackscompletelackofsurp5858 Sadly, *can have* doesn't often translate to *does have*. Especially given that schools are slashing budgets and devoting heaps of time to standardized tests and STEM classes (with mixed results on all fronts), I'm afraid health ed / sex ed gets screwed more often than not.
All you have to do is look at the stats on how many kids/teens state that they use p0rn or google as their primary source for health or sex/sexuality/puberty info. I think Vox and John Oliver each did segments on it in the past 3yrs or so.
My girlfriend had me watch this video, and I'm glad I did; learned a whole lot.
More men should be educated on basic gynaecology. Lack of knowledge leads to fear and misunderstanding.
Lol, periods are "dirty" when they screw up your fav underwear/bottoms but thats about it. Kills me every time, one thing that sucks with flow irregularity.
I feel that, I’ve lost many a cute pair of underwear to auntie flow lol.
I was waiting for them to dive deeper into irregular periods because I'm one of those and they didn't. Somewhat disappointing, but the info was still really helpful.
@@mehimtired1013 Irregular periods can have so many different causes/symptoms that each major "family" of issue could be its own segment - endometriosis, fibroids, cysts & polyps, PCOS, pituitary, thyroid, even secondary symptoms from other issues like diabetes or anorexia/eating disorders. And of course cancer of any part of female anatomy can mess with your period too.
Now that I know for sure that I have endometriosis, I'm happy I don't bleed anymore with my pill. But man that's really a pain in the bumbum ruining underwear, but don't throw it away, it can be saved!! Just handwash with cold water (to not "cook" the blood) and soap, neutral preferred. Clothing bleach is also good in small quantities, especially with softener to smooth the soiled fabric. I've saved so many precious lingerie sets this way! Just be patient and kind while washing.
@@mandisaw lol, they can make a short of it saying if your body isn't top knotch perfect condition you have a chance of irregularity😂😂 jk.
I just laughed reading yours because I take AED (Anti Epilepsy Drugs) and those suckers screw mine hard. Adjust the dose- new day, add new medicine-two small pd of a month lol. So many things mess with flow like you said.
When I was in my last year of high school, one day I noticed all of the girls were queuing up at the girls' bathroom before our PE class. I had my period that day and so I asked if maybe I could go first to change my pad before the lesson started.
Turns out all the girls were on their period and we were ALL taking turns to change our pads in the bathroom before PE 😂
It was weird, a little awkward (high school years, you know) but overall a funny thought that all of the girls in the class were menstruating at the same time 😂 From then on, there was this "girl code" between us that any of us could ask the others for a pad or a tampon. That's how we found out we shared very similar cycles, and well that's one hell of a coincidence!
not really, given number of girls, days of the month and length the cycle, and length of a period, it's totally _not_ unusual to happen.
Too many overlaps.
@@al.the. yes thank you, I was starting to get paranoid reading thoses comments about synced periods 🤣
yw
it's a bit of confirmation bias at play, we (as a species) tend to recognize patterns and coincidences, and notice when some happens but don't when it's not there.
When we say we're on our period and a friend says 'Oh, me too' we feel like we're connected.
When we are but a friend is not, they don't say "Oh really, I'm not"
/that would be unnecessary, even rude/
We empathize (that sucks, or whatever) in a different way then.
So it's easy for our perception to get fooled, and assume something about the sync.
IF it's not the situation that it really "is" _synced_ - ie Randomness put that at some point all menstruators who are in close proximity, who have identical, say 28 day, cycle start at same day, and they are not late or early for whatever reason for a long time)
Rare events are never really that rare, given 🌍🌎🌏 population.
"One in a milion" = not that rare, lol.Our minds just don't naturally grasp big numbers, or probabilities...
@@al.the. if someone is not on their Period and says that is, thats not empathy that's mirroring. Seems like a dumb thing to lie about.
If you start working with other girls and you don't have any other girls you're hanging out with and your period starts to change like theirs to fit cicles that's one hell of a coincidence...
@@al.the. agreed. I'm my 7th grade class, there were 60 girls and one boy (don't ask me who messed up on that). Her class probably wasn't as big but there is a ton of room for overlap.
The belief that severe period pain is normal is so damaging. Only recently got diagnosed with PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) because I thought many of the symptoms, such as period pain so severe that I could barely move at all, must be normal.
I have PCOS too and was having very severe, long periods twice monthly. Had endometrial ablation a few months ago and haven't had one since. It was one day (same day) down time and I feel so.much better. You might want to talk to your doctor about options.
@@TH-hy9kr good for you. Ablation is the way to go.
My new gynecologist recently told me that PCOS was not the reason for my severe period pain - she stated based on my pain and some other (non-PCOS symptoms), that it is likely from endometriosis. She stated that PCOS could affect how heavy or light a period would be (and obviously could cause menstrual irregularities), but that it wouldn't cause such severe pain.
@@ritaray5562 That may be true! Since the time of my original comment, I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's Disease; one of the symptoms is menstrual irregularities including severe pain.
@@quicksilverchaos4122 congrats on figuring out what it really was!
Glad to hear that periods don’t sync up. One of my friends claimed that other girls’ periods always sync up with hers because she’s “an alpha.” 😑
@@TS-oz3ec Indeed!
Girl's been reading too much wattpad
Yikes!
My period syncs to my sister. I'm not healthy so after hers start, I develop symptoms of pre mens.
Lmfao
Not having a period without risk of side effects would be amazing
IKR imagine just bleeding and only bleeding
I used to suffer so badly from my periods that I was incapacitated during 7-9 days each month, and I'm already anemic and anorexic and I always lost so much weight and would faint from blood loss, all because I thought it was normal, and nobody that heard my complaints took it seriously. I'm on birth control for both skin issues and hormonal imbalances and I have not had a period for over 2 years as a choice of mine. It turns out that for my situation and my body, there is absolutely no risk or very very little of not having a period that it's more benefitial for me being under regular medication than risking passing out and having seizures every month. I greatly recommend anyone that is bothered and their periods actually intervene with their life to go see a professional.
Birth control, man: Its a life saver 🤣
You can skip a month (lets say you have a trip/event and don't want to be bothered with a cycle), but I wonder what would happen if I never took my placebos...🤔
@@cd2747 I was on birth control pills that only had two days of placebos for a year. I didn't get my periods during that time and I was fine.
@@cd2747 I've been skipping placebos for over a decade. You'll be fine.
This is the type of education that we need in schools. You will be amazed what people still believe about women's bodies.😖
In adults, it's just sad. But I really feel for kids, who go through an already stressful time (adolescence sucks!!) often without real knowledge about what is and isn't "normal", as well as getting their heads filled with anything from moralizing nonsense to the p0rn-fueled garbage of their peers. It's enough to make you want to sit everyone down for a couple straightforward Health classes.
Yeah, like how women can have balls! It drives me crazy every time I hear it. We need real science taught in schools, not the fake politicized shit that ends up hurting real women
@@boodledemic6430 I agree
@@boodledemic6430 ew, a transphobe
@@boodledemic6430 12:50
As someone with Turner Syndrome, my situation is a little unique.
I don't have ovaries, but pretty much everything else is in tact. As a result of this, I don't have a natural cycle. Instead, I went through puberty as a result of a prescribed hormone when I was around 12, and because I don't have natural periods I didn't have my first one until I was 17. The reason I had one was because I take a hormonal birth control to trigger the same processes I would have long since gone through had I not been missing ovaries. My doctor and I decided on the hormone pills being prescribed continually because there are concerns if the hormones aren't there that my uterus would shrivel, leading to other health problems.
My sister has Turner Syndrome, I've never come across someone else with it.
@@Taneshasings There's a Turner Syndrome Society online. If your sister or you want to meet other people with the condition, maybe they can help?
@@EmilyS-gk3st thank you for the information, I will let her know 😊.
@@Taneshasings No problem! 😄
thanks for sharing
People swim close to sharks all of the time without even knowing it. Sharks do not stalk humans. Most bites happen to people participating in board sports and that's because they're in the natural habitat of sharks just flailing about looking like a bunch of seals. In 2020, the ISAF reported in the US a total of 3 fatalities from shark attacks in Hawaii, California and Maine.
this was informative. Thank you
Though I otherwise 100% support your info, I wouldn't say reports from 2020 mean anything because who was going to the beach in 2020 besides people who don't believe in Covid/don't care if they or people around them get sick? No one. 😆
They smell blood. If you leak through the tampon yes!! I live in Miami we see sharks all the time sweetie. But ummm that's just nasty don't go in the water when you on it .
@@misshglady4lyfe in the pool, may be nasty. In the ocean..or even lake? Fish and every other living thing is peeing and pooping in there. You're not making it worse by swimming in your period. Saying this as a man who just understands ecological situations.
And the water dispersant will dilute it.
its morally wrong to piss and shit everywhere especially where others are immediately swimming. However, people go in with cuts. We still sweat in the sun and then get in that water. The lotions we use for sunblock is in that water as well.
You swimming in period is fine
Fun fact! More people die every year pulling vending machines down on themselves.
Our uterus literally cries blood how come some people think that menstrual pain is a myth 🔪🔪🔪
Lots of stupid people in this world. I had a coworker claim a kidney stone to be worse than giving birth. 😂 I told him women have periods worse than that. He didn’t believe me.
@@ratty5, actually, they done scientific studies and shown that kidney stone are indeed the worst pain. Both for men and women. I've seen it on QI and elsewhere.
Men and doctors (of both sexes) historically downplay or ignore women's pain.
@@CalLadyQED Your private parts tearing from one to the other seems more painful. You can die from blood loss giving birth. Watching my boyfriend have kidney stones was about as bad as my regular period.
@@ratty5 some will say passing a stone is more severe
Yes I like seeing black OBGYNs! 🙌🏾
In Africa they're like 90% black love 😭😂😂
@@coolkid3728 I’m talking about in the media hun
Come to the caribbean where most doctors are black. You guys sound passive aggressive with the "love" and "hun" btw. But in the Caribbean and Africa, we'd see black people in the media all the time. It's sad that it's not so in America. When I think of doctor, I think of a black woman with mini twists or locks. So we find it amazing that this isnt normal to you. I hope one day it is. These women are great.
@@tfoprincess yup in America we don’t have any doctors that looks like us. 🤷🏽♀️ I hope so too
@@tinajsews2835 repenting only works if you're a Christian lol you're assuming everyone here follows the same religion as you.
But... I get severe period cramps. Almost every period I have it becomes hard to even walk or stand. I get nauseous and fatigued, I can barely eat. The pain is unbearable and i can’t focus in class when I’m on it. I’ve had men tell me that they can take periods which bothers me because they are trying to put their gender above ours, when they don’t even know the excruciating pain that comes with it. It’s so ignorant and makes me feel oppressed.
Yeah I always get severely ill on the first and sometime second day.. feel you
Please see a doctor. Severe period pain is not normal and could be a sign of something else. Was recently diagnosed with PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) and placed on birth control, which should help fix my severe period pain in the long run. I hope you have similar success ❤️
Girl please go see a specialist, don't waste anymore time suffering ! You maybe have endometriosis, and that usually takes a long time to get diagnosed
Trans man here who went through something similar before just..not dealing with it anymore. You shouldn't be in that much pain-even though it is normal for you, it's not something you should have to deal with. If it won't make you dysphoric, I recommend talking to your doctor about birth control pills or other options to help with this issue. BC pills help me a lot with these issues, but it's definitely NOT easy to deal with. If you aren't comfortable with birth control, there is also hormone blockers which may help-but there are also special pain meds that may help dull that pain. I'm gonna be honest, I've found they never really fully curb the pain, but it does help make it more manageable if you don't feel comfortable with the other options or don't have access to them.
You sound like me. I have an auto immune disease
I had extreme period pains, cramps that caused fever, diarrhea and nausea - I even passed out a couple of times. I have lived like this 15years+ until I was put on birth control. My quality of life got so much better, my periods are now much shorter and pretty much painless. Best decision of my life. Please go see a doctor if you live in pain every month. I regret it took me so much time to get help since I actually thought it's normal...
Problem is the pill doesnt solve the cause. It only supresses the aftereffects of some desease. Search for what is causing the pain, hormones, polycystic ovaries, endometriosis, other...
@@jarkachalmovianska7812 I have none of these issues and my period is the same as described. My gynaecologist said that some women are just unlucky and have very severe period pains and there’s nothing we really can do about it other than suppress it with ibuprofen for the rest of our lives.
2 day people how does it feel to be God's favorite 😔😂😂
Great 😊😊😊
I have two day periods due to PCOS and let me tell you, it ain't fun. The short periods don't make up for the hirsutism, cyst ruptures and depression. I'd gladly go back to my 7-day periods.
@@breakfast_burrito2405 sorry you have to deal with that
@@breakfast_burrito2405 oh wow, I wouldn't have expected that...seems we must suffer one way or the other🙂 What's PCOS?
@@kemizehabib-mohammed8791 PolyCystic Ovarian Syndrome. Like (seemingly) everything related to women's health it's extremely understudied and the description is quite vague, so it's hard to explain here. For that reason, many women don't know they have it. Plus, any pain a woman has is often not taken seriously "because periods", so three OBGYNs (!) didn't even properly look into it, until I found a proper one.
You should read about it, perhaps you're one of us cystic-sisters :)
Thank you for this ladies. As a Father,Husband, son, father, friend this is great info lol 😂
This warms my heart. I'm glad you liked it!!!
@@DrEveryWoman I loved it honestly very important information. I believe all males need to hear.
I would also reccomend, if you don't already, @MamaDoctorJones she is also an OGBYN here on YT.
good on you for educating yourself! and agreed, I think every person who doesn't have a period should educate themselves atleast a little bit for those that do. I've seen some people think so many outrageous things about periods and our bodies in general
thank you for watching!! as someone who gets a period, it means so much to us.
As a woman suffering from PCOS, I actually look forward to having eriods. For years I was on birth control pills to normalize my cycles, only recently after weightloss and exercise I've been able to wean off of them completely and have been having normal periods for the first time in my 18 years of life. Side effects of PCOS are horrible, i wish it upon no one. Thankfully, I haven't been on birth control since a year and am having periods normally. And I'm so so grateful. Girls, with regular periods, you all are so blessed. I hope all women suffering from different issues throughout their reproductive stages find the right treatment and if possible, a cure
And further, they mention that everyone’s cycles have differing lengths, so logic would say that, yes, they can line up, but then go back out of sync (like when you compare your turn signal speed with the car in front of you at a stop light).
Ooo, I like the turn signal analogy. I always think of it like when you're side by side with someone on a swing set, and sometimes your swinging seems like it's syncing up for a little bit, but eventually separates again.
You do that too? :D
Yes her answer for this one was a little silly. If one person has a 28 day cycle and someone has a 29 day cycle, they will match up every once and while.
I’m really glad that menstruation myths are clearing up menstruation myths
Explain?
@@emmamimmo1124 the title
Wow I’m stupid
@@emmamimmo1124 Don't worry, I didn't notice either! 😄 The comments enlightened me.
So Glad You Enjoyed!!!
Everyone talking about their cramps and stuff and im here wondering who's the lucky person with a 2 day period.
People like my ex that had the nerve to act like they were dying from that two days.
My sister Hass 3 day period, no cramps, pain or other PMS.
Meee! But my cycle is 25 days so I feel like I am always either ovulating, PMS-ing or having my period...so, not that lucky!
@@91getoverit What a hateful comment. Of course one can be in pain...
@@aiai-j7i didn’t say they didn’t.
My poor dad had 4 teen girls and a wife and we all were completely synced up.
Us too but not totally sync its just that when my sister or my mother have their period i know that mine is coming too
I've synced with my coworkers, you just have to spend enough time together.
I always feel like I sync up with girls and women around me, it's like the reason why my menstruation is irregular sometimes
My roommate in college hated me because even though she was on the pill she still synced up to me
@@starofgalaxies one of my auties moved in with us...within 3 months she changed to my schedule....I have also had coworkers who had cycles changed...I didn't mean to be so powerfully influential, lol
I'm a scuba diver and have dove with sharks and I am still alive. Woman can swim on their periods 😂. Just wear a tampon, menstrual cup, or disc.
@@rm-sh same
@@rm-sh Its basically a menstrual cup but it's disc shaped
@@rm-sh Flex company makes one. I like them better than a cup. Its large but really comfortable.
Yeah but my sisters advised me not to because “I’m young and a virgin” like bruh it’s not like the tampon gonna take my virginity
You mean i can't go free bleed near jaws?
I told my male doctor I was getting very painful and unbearable periods to the point I couldn’t move, work or breathe and he didn’t believe me! He looked at me like “yeh right”. This needs to be more spoken about
He has no business being a doctor then
Are we going to ignore the fact that the yellow turban looks so good on the doc?! It's giving me turban fever🤗😚😚
I liked it until the fetishizing of the turban. Phrases with “fever” in it are historically terrible and damaging. I welcome the research of things like Jungle Fever and the associated trauma.
Is that a turban? Just looks like a run of the mill head wrap to me.
@@mirandapanda5439 I thought she just came out of the shower before filming this
Turban/head wrap/head scarf, whatever the name it is gorgeous and suits her so well!
She looks creepy and her foundation is the wrong shade.
When I first learned about period in 6th grade, my friend told me that period is 'bad blood' leaving your body...and I thought the period blood was dirty for a long time...I just hope that there's more informative sex education in the future
That is what is normally told by our grandma's or mammas but then you grow up and then realize and then go researching
Well technically it's useless blood leaving your body, you're not pregnant so the build walls are useless and leave(are kicked out of) the body
I feel like im the only one who has known abt periods most of my life.. I mean not in feel detail but still
So men just keep collecting bad blood inside? ;P
End the thought that periods are dirty. People should not have to put so much effort hiding it. Periods are not shameful
Unfortunetly, my mom thinks it’s “disrespectful” when you let know another man especially a stranger or your father. I mean, I’m not going to announce to the whole world I’m on my period, but girls shouldn’t be ashamed of that.
@@vin7202 Ik like i really wish periods werent a thing bc they’re so painful and smelly
Preach! Tell that to Orthodox men...they are not allowed to look a woman in the eyes in case she is menstruating and thus dirty. I am sure it is not the only female-oppressing religion that believes that.
@@aiai-j7i literally every religion oppressed women because they were lead by old sexist men who created stupid rules & standards, and those sexist ideologies still exist.
@@aiai-j7i Pretty sure it’s the culture not religion because my mom believes it’s very disrespectful and creepy to let a man know especially your relatives you are on your period.
i couldn't breathe from the pain i got from my first day of period and always got in the ER but the docs only gave me some calcium gluconate and i dont remember what, it was long ago. when i finally turned 18 and could go to the doc by myself, i went to a gynaecologist and it turned out i had PCOS and two 4cm cysts which caused the pain and also caused the worst kind of acne that was disfiguring me. since i got the prescribed birth control i feel like i am finally living. no pain, no disfiguring acne, just struggling with the scars and occasional pimples on my chin a few days before i finish my pills
Are you in the US? Why couldn't you go see a doctor (alone) under 18?
I'm in Europe and here you can't come to the doctor without parents if you are under 18 unless it's a life and death emergency and you have to go to the ER. i just needed a gynaecologist and was too shy to have my mom inside and staring at me and my V while the doctor was doing her business inside😅
and while i was going to the ER i had to wait for my mom to come from work and sign some papers otherwise i couldn't leave the hospital. and it's funny that they never did and echo or tried to send me to a gynaecologist :(
@@ducksandcats when I was in the ER they also just treated some symptoms and sent me home. I feel you
@@ducksandcats i am in Germany and here it's possible. There are different guidelines regarding the patient's age, eg. It makes a difference whether your 14 or 16 and how mature you are read to be and how the doctor evaluates the situation.
I can just say that I have gone to doctors by myself from an early age and my parents only knew because I told them.
I am sorry to hear your situation was so challenging. Health unfortunately depends on so many outside factors.
Periods are messy but they're not dirty
I agree. The only time it gets gross is when it gets on your hands, but a period does not make someone dirty, unhygienic, or taboo.
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I’ve been trying to explain to my parents that being in so much pain to the point where I literally cannot eat/sleep/move is NOT normal.
It’s gotten to the point where I have to fast for a few days prior, and during my period just to feel okay because of all the nausea/regurgitation.
They always brush it off, (especially my mom) saying that it’s normal and that I have to get used to it and stop letting it interfere with things.
Yeah periods can be harsher for some due to multiple reasons. Hope you are getting proper medical support not for your periods.
these two doctors are the best!! please have them on again! lol
I started taking iron for low oxygen in my red blood cells, it ended up making the days leading up to my period/my period so much more bearable.
Honestly, I've learnt more in this one video about menstruation than I ever did in Sex Ed back in high school. This needs to be part of school curriculum.
PMS is definitely a thing. Ever since I had my first period I had experienced it. My symptoms are usually stomache cramps, fatigue, bloating, anxiety, stress, and nausea, this always happens 2-3 days before I get my period. Sometimes I think I have the elevated one because sometimes it's so bad I just want to lay in bed. It's also gotten worse since quarantine. People that don't experience this are probably one of the luckiest human beings alive.
Oh my gawd, SAME!!!!!
Ditto on the menstrual cups.
I tried the expensive ones and, I bleed right through them every time. Got a generic $5 on amazon and, never leaked once.
I got 2 for $12 from amazon & they even came in a nice pouch 3 yrs ago & I have not leaked 😁
@@tinajsews2835 thank you, friend. I’m happy to say I am a daughter of the One True King
The best menstrual cup is the one that works for you. Not the one with coolest hype. Although, if the cool hype gets you to at least try it’s not a total loss.
I'll never forget this one time in health class. Learning about periods the teacher (woman) says "girls I'm sorry to single you out but raise your hands when you're on your period and tell us what day you are on". Me and four other girls raised our hands. The guys looking at us looked shocked and terrified. Looking back it was funny.
Only one I didnt realize was a myth was the syncing one. I've had my period just up and change by weeks at a time after moving in with a female roommate and its always exactly when they have theirs. If it's a coincidence it's a friggin weird one for sure 🥴
Same...i was in the army and during training bunked in the sane barracks with 39 other girls. ALL of our periods were messed up. By the 3rd month we ALL had ours at the same time....
I don't believe it's a myth. Even if they say so, I still stick to my personal experience. I'm like you. I don't sync like I start when they start. I start later when theirs are ending which implies mine is a bit weak and theirs is a bit strong. The hormone.
@@myyou7335 that doesn't make any freaking sense
@@kimkat5705 because cycles are NOT the same length and they're NOT ONE DAY long
so they can CONVERGE and then DIVERGE, there can be a lot of overlap, it's so simple, and can be mathematically proven to be nothing other than pure chance
I mean stress can mess with them?
Um YES to these knowledgeable BLACK female doctors!!! I am living for this video!!
I don't want to be prejudiced but they are pretty pale and might still represent the inequalitys our society perpetuates.
As a person from Eastern Europe, from a country that suffered from communism and their imposed quotas, I find this kind of comments hilarious. Especially the one from fiona fiona. This is an informative video; please don’t make it about race. Please appreciate someone’s knowledge and not the race.
@@Momonne
It's not like quotas make graduates good at anything they do and sending anyone who manages to get a certain GPA into medicine/people unlucky enough to graduate in certain years farming isn't the point.
These women have had huge challenges at their level of melanin and shouldn't be reduced to the intersection of job and "race" like English dose to the extend that Obamas mother, private school and exceptional work history aren't mentioned either!
Yall gotta make everything about race when yall see a black person huh? Please grow up, it's kinda cringe
@@Momonne YES 🙌 people complain about racism and then refer to people by their race. It doesn’t even make sense! As good as it is to see representation of people that don’t have light skin, the first step to achieving equality is forgetting race. Let there be no black, white or brown people, just humans.
Love this conversation! I have to say though, my period definitely synched up to my oldest daughter within three months of her getting her first period. It was drastic. Then, we BOTH synced up two years later when my youngest daughter got her first period. It was a crazy thing to witness. And now 11 months later, we all three start within 12 hours of each other. It may not be proven scientifically, but it's definitely a thing in my house. Thank you ladies, for making this video! I could watch y'all talk all day!
The biggest thing I’ve learned as an adult is that PMS happens before the period. I think we learned this in health class, but then we talk as if all symptoms happen during the period. I’ve been interested to note what my body and emotions do at different times of month. It’s so helpful to be able to say, “okay, my hormones are probably contributing to this” or “no, this feeling isn’t related to my cycle, and I need to pay closer attention to what’s happening in my life right now.”
Actually it's way more likely for me to have the so called PMS symptoms when I'm already on my period than before it starts like it's supposed to. But then again I have PCOS which means my hormones are all over the place. I've been taking a supplement for my condition this last couple of months and I haven't bitten anyone's head off or cried myself silly while on my period lately so I think it's somewhat helping 😅
The inclusivity here is great, and I really needed to hear "It does not define womanhood...by any means" and "It's okay not to have a period if you choose not to" and I had no idea I needed that validation. Thank you. I think maybe I have PMDD on top of gender dysphoria, and it's a lot to deal with. But I've definitely had people make me feel invalid for choosing to not. They'll tell me it should be empowering or I'm harming myself or whatever else.. But they don't realize how awful I felt. It's..really nice to see professionals who do get that.
Sending you good vibes! I hope things'll get better for you, man
My best friend recently came out to me as non-binary, and they've also experienced gender dysphoria. Periods definitely don't help with that! If your doctor says it's fine to take birth control pills or other hormones to stop your period, go for it!
I identify as cisgender, but I definitely have some hormonal irregularities that give me some mildly intersex features. I passionately hate having periods above all else on the planet. Like, I’d rather have another tooth extracted without anesthesia than have periods. Sometimes I get really intense dysphoria when I have a period. Intense to the point where I have once in a while had a few fleeting thoughts about self-harm during my period. I really, really, really like the stability of taking a long-cycle birth control pill. It’s so much easier for me to deal with having a period once every three months. The other part is that without a hormonal pill, don’t necessarily bleed every month. It’s probably got something to do with my testosterone level being excessively high. However, what I hated the most was that I could totally have all of the emotional, dysphoric symptoms of pms, and not have any bleeding. Hated that passionately.
So much nicer for me to be able to schedule having a period and be able to know when it’s coming and plan around it. Plus with the pills I also know for sure when it will be over. Without any birth control, I never quite knew if I would have a period or worse, how long it might last. I’ve had low level bleeding that lasted for months on end.
I like my pills, ok?
As a trans masc who just started hormones and had to deal with constant (expected conservative Asian patriarchal sexism to AFAB people) I wished I could give you a big hug.
Don't worry, other pokémon fan^^ I take the pill every evening fo rover a year and don't get my period either^^ No one should care about it, except you! That is personal and your personal choice! If you don't want them, then... don't! I am with you, girl
I never understood the syncing thing. Like do you not have female relatives that you live with? If not do you not have female friends? Have you ever noticed them sync up? I mean sometimes they can overlap at the same time but since everybody has a different number of days between each periods that's bound to happen at some point.
My PMS happens early than my period. I really thought something was wrong with me for the longest. It’s just a horrible feeling
Same with me
@@anitachandra2030 ☹️ yea.. for the longest I couldn’t put 2 and 2 together, cause the symptoms would come DAYS before my period. Insomnia, mood swings, anxiety, constipation, fatigue, the random sadness, ughhhh I hate it I hate it
Uh...I think that's why it's called _pre_ menstrual syndrome. A lot of the symptoms come from a gradual drop off in progesterone in the last few days of your luteal phase.
@@harringt100 I noticed the “pre” part in PMS. But I guess before I didn’t know symptoms would start as far back as 14 days before my period. That’s why it was hard to put 2 and 2 together. And my symptoms wasnt as strong in my teen years. I would just get cramps and that would happen on the first day on my period, it never use to effect me mentally. I even went to the doctors asking them what’s wrong with me, and they didn’t even mention that pms could be the cause, just had me fill out a depression paper and once I was clear ... that was it 🙄
I have really bad PMDD and the medical field does not have help for it.
I’m feeling super lucky that my period doesn’t bring me any kind of pain or discomfort whatsoever. Most of the time, I wouldn’t even know it until I saw the blood. I don’t take that for granted.
Same. My period is easy and very regular which is why i dont want to take any hormonal birth control as birth control can change things alot. Especially for those who may not have any reproductive issues like endo or pcos. I had a copper iud and i bled for 2 months straight and was in terrible pain. Now i just use condoms.
Same, we're blessed.
When I first got my period, I didn't feel any kind of pain whatsoever. It wasn't until I had been getting them for about a year that I started to experience pain but it was pretty mild. Now there are some times when it gets pretty bad.
So lucky!
I have awful cramps the day before, the day before my first period my mom who is a nurse thought my appendix was bursting or whatever they do, and i can not stand the pain i have to take so much medicine and it usually doesn't even work and i havr to take sleep medicine and pass out so i don't experience the pain anymore at like 5 pm and then try to sleep as long as possible the next day but i usually can't sleep fir more then 6 hours without a lot of pain and blood, it feels like the week after my period ends is happy and i can do stuff but after that its so stressful and the next 2 weeks is just preparing myself for when my period comes and i hate it it ruined my life i wish I was infertile this is going to ruin my childhood and ill never will be able to have any fun, i wish i did more before I got my first period like fun stuff but now i can't and now nothing will be the same
I have said this in other vids in this series and am gonna say it again: it is so awesome to see such diversity in these vids! Thanks for the education!
I didn’t know that if you have really bad pain is not normal. I thought it was normal thanks for sharing
I'm disturbed by the lack of the use of "woman/women" by these _medical_ professionals. I'm less inclined to take doctors like this seriously when they refuse to use terms that assert biological truth and instead tiptoe around, afraid of offending so they use vague terms that could apply to anyone when speaking about a subject or condition that only affects a certain section of the population.... in this case things related to pregnancy and childbirth.
Exactly this video was such mindless propaganda so sad
@@yngclothing 🙌
@O85 yes, expressing concern over the erasure of women makes me a ❄️
Stumbled on this and love it! My co-leader and I are working with our Girl Scouts (high school) on their Women’s Health badge, and I’ll definitely use this video as a springboard for conversation. Thank you!!
So useful. Especially for the ones that have really bad pain on their periods 😪
my period is only 2 days, I'm so lucky
I dont even have a period
Bruh mine is 10 days
Mine is 5 days but it's heavy.
Same lol. But I don't understand the science behind it. Why would we bleed less compared to other women?
😑😑😑 congratulations to you
Lol 😂😂😂😂😂 but really that must be nice mine last about 5-10 days
Thank you for debunking some of these harmful myths and for normalizing discussing periods and vaginal health! It's so important, everyone deserves to understand their body and not be shamed for it.
As a father of two girls, I need to keep up with the right information!
I ADORED this videoo!! And as a med student, these incredible doctors inspired me so much to irradiate passion, empathy and patience when educating patients just as they did, thank you SO much!!!
In my teens, I had cramps so severe where the first 3 days I'd shiver uncontrollably and sweat profusely despite my environment being cool/cold. I would crawl on all fours to the bathroom and cling to the toilet trying not to pass out (I wasn't always lucky). I wouldn't be able to sleep. Speaking was probably the hardest as I'd suddenly develop shortness of breath if I dared to expel that much energy. As a young girl I'd be so fearful of what could potentially happen, but wouldn't have the physical strength to even cry out.
Man, I dreaded those first 3 days and would give anything for the "regular" cramps I now have.
All these things every girl faces, it makes me think how easy our lifes are as a boy!
No shit.
Must be nice no never bleed through your pants spontaneously without a heads up 😂 and then the walk if shame to the nurses office 😬 mine was across the school & I happened to see some former teachers who witnessed my misery 🤦♀️
@@alyssashoemaker3414 I have to say call me simp or what but girls face much more problems then boys and each and every time I see these situations,i feel proud and full of respect and there is nothing of shame its a type of blessing every girls have.
I'm a trans boy, I have to go through this things too!
Very true. So if you're friends with someone who menstruates, remember to be supportive and kind to them when they're on their cycle--offer to get them their favorite treat and you'll be one less thing for them to worry about (and you might even be a brighter point in their week!).
"what that cervix up to" "you Wana eat or not??" Lmao i these Doctors!
Am I the only one who's never heard the myth that menstruating leads to spoiling food you prepare? The thought that my food would spoil while I was making it on my period has never crossed my mind before...
We stan a queen who does her research and cites her sources
This is so incredible! Thank you for your knowledge and wisdom! I grew up in a family that told me next to nothing about it and I've been at a loss with how to explain it to my daughter. Now I have this to show her, so just really, thank you. So much.
For those interested in why some people may think periods are dirty (or where the cultural context is coming from), look up the book Purity and Danger by sociologist/anthropologist Mary Douglas. It’s all about how there is a difference between “dirt” and what makes something “dirty.”
Here while the title reads: OB-GYNs debunk 13 Menstruation Myths debunk 13 Menstruation Myths.
i have pmdd! i also have many other mental health issues too so its only amplified by my cycle. im luckily on birth control. best decision i ever made was finding a doctor who actually listened to me.
Omg same! I’ve always dealt with depression but just managed on my own but it intensified to a scary point. Did some research which led me to PMDD went to my gyno she put me on meds for it and now I’m good thankfully!
About the pregnant while on you're period part I want to mention that some people might have ovulation very soon after their period, or even overlapping a bit with their period. Uncommon (because of how the hormone levels regulate the menstrual cycle), but it does happen.
And sperm can live upto 5 days in your body
My periods are irregular (either once every 3 months or 2 in one month) and I have an abnormal growth inside my vagina but my GP (female from NHS) told me it's because I'm stressed 🙃 Wish we had more doctors like these two who seem to care about women's healthm
I've never tried getting help for my fanny but I will say that I've never had any sort of help from any GP in my life (I'm chronically ill), if you can try to convince them to refer you or see if you can self refer to a gynecologist I think that might help you out. I know GP is first point of contact but clearly they're shit and you need help. I'm sorry you're going through this
ooo... I'm a woman who has tended to imply that PMS is a myth or overblown, because I don't know that I experience it, and when I "do," what I experience might just be purely coincidental/something I attribute falsely to PMS (eg, no, I'm not extra sad because my period's coming, I'm just a little sad about something today). That said, my experiences are not everyone's experiences, and my own derision of the idea of PMS is probably an inappropriately applied reaction to people who use PMS as a tool to "other" women/people who have a menstrual cycle, or dehumanize us.
So, PMS happens - it's wrong to say it's a myth. But, PMS does not imply that women are illogical beings who deserve to be treated differently - it doesn't need to be a myth for people to treat women and people with a menstrual cycle as human. (edited for mixed up phrasing and to rephrase - in other words, existence of PMS doesn't excuse treating people with menstrual cycles like they're crazy. That'd be illogical!)
Thanks for checking me, Dr.s GM and K!
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Not a doctor, but I interned on a PMS psychological & pharmacological study over 20yrs ago. Symptoms vary from none at all to severe physical impairment to mental impairment (possibly related to the distraction of pain). Some women were very aware of their symptoms, others were not - part of our job running the study was to do both quantitative & qualitative symptom tracking.
All that to say, PMS definitely exists. Fun facts - you might exhibit PMS symptoms before, during, or after any bleeding period, and some women have symptoms of PMS, but never actually *bleed*. Also, from my own much later-in-life experience, I will say that infertility treatments push any PMS symptoms into overdrive, plus the expected stress & emotional upset.
Being a human female is hard, yo
As someone with pmdd... I've been around other women who don't get much in the way symptoms. In all honesty, each month I get suicidal thoughts and have self harmed on one occasion. ALWAYS in the week before my period. Its awful and I wouldn't wish this on anyone else. I'm glad that most women don't get this extreme.
I thank you for listening and understanding that even though you don't feel it, doesn't mean its not real.
@@Mimi-cq4bg Thank you for sharing your experience so that others and I can learn from you. I'm sorry to hear how bad your experience with PMDD is though - that's tough :( I understand to some degree how bullshit depression can be, so my heart goes out to you for what you deal with with PMDD.
While it doesn't make it any easier to deal with those feelings in the midst of feeling that way, in the very least I'm glad you've identified the pattern of your mental health, and know that PMS/PMDD is a cause/contributor. That's another great reason to eliminate the myth that PMS/PMDD doesn't exist, and to correct people like me; downplaying PMS/PMDD probably makes it harder for people to identify patterns in their mental health struggles, or can make it harder to deal with those changes.
Again, thank you for sharing, and in doing so, helping to correct and educate me + others. I admire your strength, as well as the kindness and understanding you showed in your comment
@@mandisaw Thanks for sharing! Your comment shows me that I have a lot more to learn about PMS beyond my rudimentary understanding of "mood changes." It seems like we're giving more and more attention to PMS in academic/scientific realms, so it's cool to hear about the study you worked on. Your comment makes me remember - I took a physiology course in college, and I want to say that PMS was mentioned, but in like one line... I don't remember that course really talking about it as much of a thing at all - more in terms of correlation to general hormonal changes that happen during menstrual cycles... hmmm... hopefully future generations will get better, more comprehensive education on issues like this. Time for me to look for more academic sources on PMS...!
@@Mimi-cq4bg that sounds awful, is there anything you can do about it?
I personally noticed when I lost too much weight in a month or my iron deficiency is stronger, I get depressed for at least a day or two before my period.
So I'm doing my best to supplement iron, but that I only noticed when I talked to my psychiatrist (I have adhd), he knows my symptoms are stronger when I'm deficient in certain vitamins.
I also noticed that it helps to inform the people around me. I worked with a lot of guys and they actually notice when I'm having my period and I once explained that it's my period, I definitely hate them today and I mean it, but they should not take it personally, if they find me intimidating, I will spare them for bringing me chocolate.
My male coworkers have adapted to give me chocolate once a month, it's amazing they don't meed to understand it in order to handle it and they use this information on their girlfriends too!
There is of course such a thing as a "retained tampon", where one gets stuck and more or less hidden somewhere within the vagina. You mentioned that briefly at the end of that myth discussion.
I once went to a gynecologist with this. He did a vaginal ultrasound and found nothing. At the last moment he decided to do one further scan, and there it was. Afterwards he was bemusedly saying, "How come I couldn't see this earlier?" I had no answer for that, of course, but I was glad he'd found it and removed it -- I could half-feel that it was there, and I definitely felt better when it was gone.
Feel like most of times i go to gp the doctors will disregard my pain or complains. Everything that has to do with vagina they just don't care. I was told to change sex position, pain is in my head, change to pill, change to implant change back to pill 🙄 and from the comments it looks like women's health is many times ignored
As a nonbinary person with a uterus and vagina, I appreciate yall addressing the whole vagina=woman=vagina myth
My period is 2 days. And done. But my cramps are HELL. Pure hell. When I was in high school I missed school because of cramps. I used to vomit and could hardly stand. I was thrilled when I grew out of that.
There were 3 of us women that worked together in a pharmacy during the day, full time, and our periods were synced for years. We spent more time together than with our families some weeks because how much we worked.
Holy beans you both are so beautiful. I need the color of red the Doctor on the left is wearing. Love it.
I always believed the thing about cycles syncing. When I was in middle school I had my period right before a trip with my school, I didn’t take any products because my period had ended just days before the trip. I slept in a cabin with my friends and by the end of the week my period had started and it was the heaviest period I’d ever experienced up until that point. The other girls had all started their periods as well. I honestly wouldn’t trust that study because it’s not tracking all of the women they encountered, only the people on the app or in the dorm
It must be you then. Every single women I have ever been around, my period never """synced""" to their own cucle
my periods stopped for a few years after I gained considerable weight. I went to my gyn and she had me get bloodwork done and ultrasounds performed to ensure everything was okay - it turned out to be fine. after I lost some weight, my (historically inconsistent) periods returned. i think the way human bodies can do weird shit like this without being in trouble is cool
I haven’t had periods for two years and it’s been awesome. They were so painful for me due to endometriosis.
I have always been nervous about talking about my periods or body in general, out of fear of being abnormal. (I have some anxiety about doctors) this video made me feel so much better. Thank you 😊
Lmao at one point in the video I was like yeah I should download an app to track my cycle, but i remembered I’m a man
Lots of helpful information! I was a little disappointed that they didn’t mention breastfeeding. I had no idea how much breastfeeding could affect my cycles and felt so lost and alone. I’d love to hear that talked about more!
I don’t know about others but my flow stops as soon as I go under water.
Mine too
I've read that it's possibly because of the pressure from the water on the uterus.
@@anant6778 Makes sense!
It doesn't for me😬 Am I weird?
@@majlordag1889 Not weird at all! Every body is different.
I'm glad you get into the menstrual cycle synching myth. Drives me bananas. I've had physicists misappropriate this myth to discussions of spontaneous synchrony, which, just.... is a fundamental misunderstanding of spontaneous synchrony (or of physiology).
OOF is it cathartic to have you two go into the research that caused, but also that seems to debunk the myth! :D
There was literally a woman in Australia who suffered major complications from a tampon that was still in her a month later, because she had lost the string and didn't realise it was still in, because she was a busy mum and once she accidentally put in another tampon without realising she already had one. She almost died from complications. So no, tampons getting lost is NOT a myth.
You got my attention with the shark thing. I have totally stayed out of the ocean because of my period! Thanks for all the good info!
Sharks are actually hardly interested in human blood. I saw a video of it somewhere, where they were about as interested in it as in saltwater. However, the same experiment showed they are very very sensitive to fishblood.
So good thing you're not a fish 😁
@@corneliahanimann2173 😆
As a man with no vagina or uterus, this video was awesome! Just good conversation about absolutely normal things that people with uterus go through. Thanks :)
The last section should be called "doctors try to avoid getting cancelled while still not outright BS-ing."
I wish either of these lovely doctors were in my area! Thank you both so much for doing this video!
My sister died as a result of an infection caused by a tampon that was lost inside of her. It had to be surgically removed from the wall of her cervix. So yes, things CAN be "lost" up there. If you suspect something is in there that should not be, have your Gyn check on things just to be sure.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Further proof doctors are not God. Hanging on their every word is idol worship and dangerous. Trust God alone. He knows. Oh yea women are the only ones that can menstruate. And a man will never be a woman
People will say that menstruation is dirty and then have no problems with unprotected sex like… if you’re not worried about stds I don’t really know what you’re worried about in period blood
feel like we need Mythbusters for the "are sharks attracted to period blood?" since sharks try to smell for specific amino acids
(also note : sharks bite because they're either territorial or have mistaken people for seals, we don't taste good to sharks)
I'm so glad they mentioned PMDD. It definitely isn't talked about and can seriously impact the lives of people who have it. I didn't know I had it until I was 25 and was wondering what the hell was wrong with me. Why I'd have such severe mood swings and be so irritable and cranky for about half of the month or more. It's absolutely awful and can really damage your quality of life all around. Nice to see it mentioned here.
Most shark bites are investigating bites. Once they work out that you're not a seal or other creature they actually eat, they'll leave you alone.
My many years of "menstrual" pain turned out to be a dairy allergy. When I stopped eating dairy, my periods were almost pain-free. Wish I'd known that back when I was 12!
I have really painful periods that leave me bawling and wailing for hours. My last period was like half a year ago and my grandmother came to my room to slap me and tell me to shut up.
That sucks!
God, that's horrible ! I hope this video could at least reassure youabout your pain
And man I get the delay thingy, it happens to me too! I dunno if you're of age to see a specialist because having to suffer that much, both emotionally and physically, is not acceptable and not healthy at all !!
Do you know the few things to do to calm your period pains?
@@kaku7398 I’m glad I’m not alone but it sucks that anyone has to deal with it. I’m 22 so I could probably see a specialist but I’m not insured and I don’t have the money for it. I have quite a few physical and mental health issues that keep me from working but without a proper diagnosis I can’t get the help I need through disability and Medicaid but in order to get help I need to work and it just feels like I’m completely stuck in a loop. It’s exhausting. Need to work to solve my problems, can’t work because of my problems. And no one in my life cares enough or can afford to help me. They’re the kind of people to just tell you to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and tell you it’s not so bad when they don’t even know what it’s like. And I don’t really have any ways to control the pain other than your typical Tylenol and heating pad. I kind just lay in bed and kick my legs for hours. Just have to wait it out.
@@Pompazour Oh wow :0 That's... A lot !
Your health is the most important thing you have and you should have it as your first priority. If you can spare a bit of money in the near future, that's perfect. Have a plan on all the things you would want to talk about to a specialist, and work on it slowly. About your mental health, I don't know what illnesses/disorders you might have, or to which degree, but I believe that by taking action, moving forward and not letting yourself stay still (not literally, but if you tend to overthink or stop moving because of overthinking, it's better to prioritize taking actions over "useless thinking), you will manage them better (seeing a phychologist/psychiatrist might be the ultimate solution though...).
It might take a few months, heck a few years, but taking it step by step, even the smallest and slowest ones, are still an improvement.
And I'm sad to hear that you have not much support in your surroundings :( Having someone to talk about your issues, even about the smallest things or the deepest insecurities, is essential for you. Never stop surrounding yourself with people you can trust.
Your situation is extremely difficult, but not uncommon. I really wish you will get the help you deserve to get back on your feet. Just know that you're not a lost cause and that you absolutely can reach your goals
@@Pompazour I don't think my periods are as bad as yours at all. And to be honest, medication has never been a very good solution to my pain, despite it not being very intense :0 What I usually do is very light exercise to stretch my back, hips, shoulders and legs and avoid staying sit for too long. I just want my blood to flow better. Letting your muscles stay inactive for too long is gonna increase the chance of cramps so yeah..
Also I roll myself in a blanket, lay down or just get comfy on a couch, get a hot drink and play videogames. Distracting yourself is very useful, and a videogame is perfect for that.
I'm sorry if those don't work perfectly for you, I think your solution is medication but because you can't access them at the moment there are only the alternatives left.
I knew the "periods sync" thing wasn't true! I've always lived with at least two other women at any given time and we've never synced.
I lived with 4 other girls at college and we never synced. Once in a while it would seen like we did, but it was only for a month or two and it wasn't exact. We were still a few days off. I see it as a live if cars with their turn signals on, they're all blinking at different rates but every now and again it'll look like some will be blinking at the same rate, but then they differ again. I can't get people to believe science in this issue no matter how many scientific videos and articles I share.
I don’t agree - I’ve experienced it before a few times
Yeah they said it was just pure coincidence. Which makes sense because their are 4 weeks in a month. There obviously will be a huge chance of syncing up with someone within that month like 1/4 chance. And also if you already sync with that person, the next time you guys have a period then of course it would be about the same time. There's no actual scientific proof that shows if you hang out with them more you will eventually sync up.
Me and my daughter's period synced
@@natalyaporter5730 me too. Mine is weak so I notice it often. When someone starts, I start a few days later. It's like their hormones trigger mine.
I admire these doctors for being generous with the information, and for handling the topic with compassion and grace. You know you’re in good hands with them.
Ever since my period started, it has never been regular. It comes whenever it wants to. I can go 3-5 months in between bleeding. But one year I had my ‘period’ for almost 3 whole months. The doctor I was seeing couldn’t have been bothered. I think she should have referred me to a gynecologist but when I asked she said I was too young. Fun times.
Are you ok now? That's a lot of blood koss
@@aathira741 I would assume so. I haven’t experienced bleeding for that long since then and that was a few years ago
@@ryn.999 Glad to hear that
Hey there, so did you get the irregular periods checked out in the end? I too have irregular periods since I first got them. Like yours, mine comes every few months and when they do, they don't last very long.... Like 3 - 5 days tops. Oh, and more often than not, I am bed ridden for the first 1.5 days. I went to a normal physician when I was younger but she told me it's normal because I was young. Fast forward ten years, it's still irregular
@@kywenmook284 Jeez I hope other physicians did not dismiss your pain. Did you consult some more doctors?
I went them to be my obgyn!! I’m 30 and I have yet to find one I truly like and feel super comfortable with!! 😭😭
Is it because, as it turns out, even women can be misogynistic to other women? Because I experienced that from many doctors, both male and female. Misogyny in medicine is real and allowed me to suffer with progressively worse ER-level pain from cramps (and durung the cycle as well) getting worse and worse for 22 years before they could do anything... after me screaming and yelling and begging for hysterectomy after asking for it in a civil and nice way for years while I'm having ER level pain every month: I finally said I'm just going to start showing up to the ER every single month so if you all don't like that and think that's a waste of taxpayer money maybe give me the hysterectomy that I clearly need because I'm obviously not having children and would like to not be in pain for several days complete days every month for decades out of my life for literally no reason that I'm not having children and I said this always very plainly and was always treated like garbage. I don't know how civil I'm supposed to be when literally I'm putting up with pain 7+ days on end, things that a man could not tolerate for 5 minutes, severe pain in the pelvis and groin for hours and days at a time. Obviously this ruined my life and maybe if medical professionals actually listen to me and didn't let this go on for 22 years I could have, like, made a living. so I'm always open to job leads that I am still at disabled person now I'm always open to donations because we literally starve disabled people and I've had depressed wages for the last couple of decades. but literally maybe I could have gotten my life back literally years earlier if people could have believed me, people who were alleged medical professionals if they could have been bothered to believe my pain and be remotely sympathetic and do the tests and work instead of just like saying I needed to put up with it for hypothetical future children that I never wanted and that I openly said I didn't want.