I just did around 15 minutes and I feel much better. I will make this a practice every single day. Just escaped a NARCISSIST/PSYCHOPATH and this is really helped me calm my thoughts down to more productive thinking.
@@ildikoedit9110 look up schema therapy (which actually helps with NPD unlike the BS claims of so called experts) and do the questionnaire on the website...you'll have a bunch of schemas and this will help you identify which ones to focus EMDR upon. I'll be launching schemahypnotherapy shortly to help people in narcissistic relationships. EMDR has its roots in Hypnosis ... but I personally prefer the systemic framework of Schema Therapy and EMDR together. Combining these with a few hypnotic techniques and lives change very quickly.
This seems like the perfect pace - I use this in between sessions of ART with my therapist and it really seems to work. If anyone wants some tips on how to use this, this is what my therapist does: You're going to split your viewing into sessions of 30 seconds each. I'm going to be referring to my trauma as an image, but this will work if you only have feelings to work with. Eventually you will likely get some images that come to mind even if they don't seem to make sense to you or have much meaning. All that matters is that the emotion is tied to them. 1) Think about the upsetting image. Just go over it and talk yourself through it while watching the ball for 30 seconds. Stop and verbalize what that image was and what it means to you. You need to verbalize it. This is important. 2) Start with that image, and decide how you are going to change it. Some people view the ball as erasing it, some imagine how they would change the situation/image. The last one I did, I imagined Jesus picking me up and taking me out of the image before it was erased over with the ball. I created a new image with myself as a child because that felt like what I wanted to do. Stop and verbalize that part as well. If you need more time, go in for another 30 seconds, but only on the positive ones. Don't feel like you need to rush through. You can come back to the image in a few days and see what remains. You need to be gentle with yourself in order for healing to happen. Make sure you are watching on a screen big enough to get your eyes moving back and forth far enough. I find this isn't as good on my phone. Keep pressing on, you will be victorious. 2 Corinthians 4:8 We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; 9 persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. 10 We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body.
I had about 5 irl EMDR sessions and it really helped me. The doctor told me to think about what's bothering me and keep that thought in mind while visualizing the moving object. Some other thoughts (that'll first seem not related to the first issue) will pop up, keep thinking about this new topic cuz it may not look like but it is relevant to the main subject, keep doing that (new topic pops up, keep thinking about that topic) until the session is over
And when thinking about your issue first begin with negative affirmations you'd like your brain to rewire: like "I'm not good enough" "I am trapped in this situation" "I can't deal with this situation" "I'm guilty" etc. And notice in what part of your body you most feel the emotion that comes with those thoughts. I can guarantee you it will help.
this works for me best if I verbally talk through certain memories as if someone else is listening. The plus side of doing this alone, is that I can better focus on the particular subject that's bringing up negative feelings without overexplaining too much unnecessary context (a bad habit for this scenario, but social norm)
I tried this for the first time last night, just before sleep. After 3 months of PTSD my symptoms are getting better throughout the day, but I still have intrusive thoughts of trauma every nights that wake me up with an intense pain in my stomach. This morning I woke up with a lingering feeling of uneasiness, but no pain. It gives me hope. Thank you for sharing this.
@@EerybodyIsAnnoying Sorry for the late answer. I'm good most days, no more pain or difficult symptoms except for anxiety. EMDR helped so much but I believe I stopped too soon and had relapses. The good thing is I am now able to feel emotions instead of being numb, and trying to grieve and find closure to move fowards. Continuing sessions by myself to ease anxiety and replace upsetting thoughts and feelings by positive ones. How about you?
@@pauline3218 I am glad it has helped you! I did self EMDR only for a few days in a row, but after that I also did vigorous exercise and nervous system re-regulating techniques (which have to do with stimulating the vagus nerve) and I do feel better now.
I woke up and started the day with emotional flashbacks. It was horrible, I had no chance to think something positive and be happy about that thought, because it was false, I didn't feel human. With EMDR I stopped the physical sensations and thoughts, I still have flashbacks, but I am able to study for 30 concentrated minutes. It's normal to relapse, especially if you have active contact with someone who hurt you.
Sound off or very low, and it becomes more and more soothing over time. Hypnotic. I'm learning this really is lovely. As soon as I start noticing recurring awful thought, I use this to identify the thought and replace it with something more positive. It makes me feel in better control of my thoughts. What a relief!
First, people made up gods to explain why it rained and where the sun went at night. Then, they made up gods that offered protection and eternal life. Then, they made up gods to validate their bigotry and violence. There were never any gods.
Cannot thank you enough. i had an unsatisfactory session with a registered emdr therapist . Probably for the best as then i turned to utube and this is just fantastic. And i can do it any time. In my own time. At my own pace. it is helping me so much. I just work on bite size pieces of the many traumas in childhood that stay embedded as someone said to one day become a 'people pleaser" A 'never good enough". A inner feeling that 'i musn't expect to have my needs met', that my needs dont matter. Thank you sooooooooooo much.
First time trying this. I actually feel a lot calmer now. Honestly didn't think I'd get through all 20 minutes, but now that I did, it feels like barely any time has gone by at all. Thank you. I'll try to come back to this regularly.
I like hearing how others use this and how it works for them. As for me, I don't focus on one particular thing to start but after about 5 minutes things start coming up and I focus on those things. Getting through 20 minutes is no problem. It flies by. I believe it is helpiing and am surprised at the buried memories that come up. I'm only about a week into it so will continue daily and see how it goes.
I didn't think about using it that way. That sounds brilliant! That way you can tackle each issue as it arises so If you can't remember then until your triggered your now using it as the target memory. I love it. Thanks for the idea. Will be using this.
I haven't cried in a long time during a session. Started this back in the late 1990s under the care of a doctor. EMDR helped me through so much trauma. I'm so happy I found this. I need it more now than ever. Thank You
@Sparky the Rottweiler It's just you. If understood how EMDR works/works you wouldn't be asking or judging... If you're in a horrific auto accident and your body Is ejected from the vehicle leaving you with the broken bones & cuts. There's always a remembrance of a scars. Do they go away¿ Does the pain you've suffered just go away.
I'm 18 plus years in therapy and I just started EMDR for Complex Trauma. Yes, this seems to work. I'm absolutely fasciated, so now I'm doing this self-administered style in addition to weekly sessions.
I am with you @worldandwhy I am hitting 20+ and have only recently discovered this in the last 2 years with my newest therapist and as hard as it is to heal, this works so much better than a tablet and anything else i have tried in the past. take it slow and the flowers will blossom. Best of luck on your journey.
@@JT-ty9qv oh man. I hate to hear that. I hope and wish you well. I'm sorry for whatever happened, but at least you are facing and healing the situation.
Felt like doing emotional heavy lifting. But for the right reasons obviously. Thank you for uploading this video. I use it in between EDMR therapy, when stuff comes up. I can then talk through it with the pro, and do more guided EDMR.
The commercial that comes on when the video ends is very jarring. Consider adding some silence at the end to give the heads up that a loud commercial is about to play. Other than that, this video is fantastic, thanks!!
Oh my gosh, thank you so much for this! I had to stop my in-office EMDR because I started having seizures from the lights. So...this is a God send. Now, all I have to do is force myself to "go there". Much love and light to you and everyone!!!
Please be careful pushing to go there and make sure you have that grounding place if you are doing it out of session. I am so glad it is helpful. EMDR is a godsend!
I never used EMDR visually but only acoustically. Works the same and is much easier to 'follow' - you just need to use a headset and a video where the sound is really partitioned to left and right. I would recommend closing the eyes while doing it this way. And for the skeptics out there: I did it this way from the beginning while I was in therapy. Now I still use it when there is a pesky feeling coming up. Just trust the process. I stop when I feel it is over. My therapist thought it might be dangerous to self administer EMDR - I don't see why. I am glad this approach was discovered in the early 1980s. My therapist helped me through the biggest mess with it and now I am a very good way to total healing. Healing is a process - be patient.
For anyone using this to self-administer EMDR, please ensure you have the right grounding tools to help bring you back into the present moment. If you are someone who ruminates quite a bit like i do, make sure you lock that memory up in chained up box, or a safe, or at the bottom of the lake where you can forget about it until your next session. If you find yourself thinking about it excessively and don't have the time to do a quick session, it can be a great tool to 'park' a thought so it can't take hold.
Same. I do get obsessed. Especially if I enjoyed something. Yes lock my brain until the next session. And keep it to myself. Sometimes I have a sensitive view on persons opinion when sharing something special.
I had a really hard day with my anxiety and needed something visual to watch for a bit to settle down. I watched without the sound since im not in a good place to do EMDR and I relaxed and fell asleep. I look forward to using the full potential of this video soon
Heya sour patchy, i am sorry to hear that you are having a rough time at the moment. my unsolicited advice would be having someone you trust around if you are thinking of attempting this alone. It can be triggering and pull you into the memory. I do not want to scare you away because i live by EMDR and it is the best thing to come through for trauma processing for myself. Even if you have them to ground you and bring you back to the present. No one wants to get stuck, especially after a massive day at work when you may already be exhausted. Best of luck with it and take a few deep breaths. You got this!
ok, now I have validation! I listen to most things at 1.5 or is the quality is good enough 2x's speed. My wife cannot understand but it literally helps me focus more to be more challenged receipt of the delivery. I'm am glad to know that I am not alone!
@@friscokitty consider it though... One cannot FIGHT trauma by fighting you allow it a place to stand, affirming it as a powerful enemy, giving it a home inside of you.. allow it to fall away by letting go. Imagine you have a hot coal in your hand and there you stand in pain TRYING to let it go... As opposed to simply dropping it and allowing it to fall away. You are experiencing your thoughts, you are not them. All of the love. Be free.
@@consciousnessinabody But how does someone let it go? What if you hand is so cramped that your muscles won't relax and let the coal go..? 😔 I don't know how to let go. My mind goes back to the traumatic event, and I didn't fight it, but it doesn't fix things. Mind ming will not let it go, no matter how many times i go there.... I feel hopeless..
@@elianneheijstek9276 I'd ask what needs are you meeting by holding on to the trauma? Everyone on earth has six basic human needs that need met one way or another.. Healthy or otherwise.. Consciously choose to embrace the fact that you can change the MEANING of the event, thereby changing NOW and every moment thereafter. A new soul, reborn in a new moment, a new life free from the past. Love is the the answer to *e v e r y t h i n g * and life is happening FOR you to know the many facets of that diamond...through the grace of suffering. What you allow yourself to focus on is what you feel, and what you find.
Dear EMDR Therapy, thank you for this magick track! Found it 2 days ago and finding it utterly amazing using sound-only via headphones. You're a LEGEND 🥰
Hi @@salasala5418 Thanks for reaching out. I guess you could watch the ball and/or listen to the sound via headphones while thinking of your issue. There are EMDR session demos on YT if you want to watch one for ideas. Read other comments on this YT video, so many useful tips! Professional sessions are currently out of my price range. PLEASE NOTE I'm not trained, just experiment to see what works for me. My hometown had high crime rate, horrific stuff. Hard to pinpoint what to focus on. I've had great results falling asleep to this EMDR track playing low on my headphones. The first night, I had 2 intense dreams that became lucid. A lot of nasty past stuff came up. Blew my mind. On subsequent nights, sensations in my body woke me up, jolts of energy that released stress. In dreams, I confronted terrors which previously I ran from. This trend has stuck. Esp this year, hugely noticeable result. Perhaps this will encourage you to try. If you do, I'd love to hear how you get on. Good luck & thrive!! 🥰❤🔥🔥✨
I got humiliated by my twin's friend circle, they used to laugh at my helpness situation, mocked at me. I want to release those trauma,may i recover soon.
This is an incredible video, first time every trying self-administered emdr therapy, bumbled my way through it but the tears came. Awesome, thank you for posting this.
Thank you it’s perfect! I watched a quick video on how it works and I went through it saying out loud the trauma (burglers in my home) and I expressed the fears I have now coming back home or going to sleep at night! The fear of being rape by them as In a woman etc… And after 5 minutes others little traumas showed up ! It’s magical thanks will keep doing it for a White ! i refuse to live through fear! ❤
@@robbieanderson227 I still use it bro. I’ve been through a lot of trauma that started really young. I got molested by a same sex family member an shortly after I started getting smacked around an beat by an adult at 6-7. My real dad abandoned me my mom an step dad abandoned me, I started abusing heavy drugs as well as sex an porn in my teens heavily to cope, I went to war in Iraq as a US Army Infantry Mortarman an than I decided to have a child with a narcissist all in the span of 20 something years just to give you a brief description/short summary of my life’s saga.
@@marynlyn Indeed, but yes, very much like the swinging pendulum that sends you into a trance. EMDR here does carry you into deeper levels of mind measurable
As it has already been said, the left and right audio channel are flipped. They change back though, at 14:02. So even if you already put on your headphones the other way round, you'll have to interrupt and do it again. Is there a way to fix this? Otherwise, a very helpful video 👌 Many thanks!
this is delightful. however i had to turn my headphones around in order to get the sides to line up correctly. as soon as i switched ears, it all synced up perfectly and was significantly more relaxing
For most part, it is started with a therapist but for the basics. You can think of a specific memory and think about how it makes you feel. You can choose to write this down or not (I do not), once you feel you have really felt the emotions of that memory, you can start to add positive thoughts to it. So for instance you are struggling to get through a break up because there was no closure. Might have someone feeling abandoned, untrusting, sad. You would tell yourself thing like, i wasn't abandoned not all relationships last, whilst this person broke my trust not all people are going to do this, accept the sad but tell yourself that you will be happy and you do find bit of happiness. Over time you will be able to talk or think about these memories and have a neutral or positive perception of the memory rather than it taking you back to the day things happened and changed your brain chemistry. I think a lot of others on here watch and think. I am unsure on how process or if their brains take them where their brain would like to go but for cptsd, ptsd and things like that, i would recommend the above with a therapist if in a position to and if you aren't PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE have someone around to help bring you back to the moment in case one gets stuck in the memory.
@@paulasullivan4284in the method I use, your supposed to say the things that have been bothering you, out loud, while watching the ball. Let your mind get rid of the thoughts that are repeating then at the end ask your self- what was the first thought I started with. That accesses a different part of your brain and completes the treatment. You’ll notice that thought doesn’t bother you as much when you say it this time.
WOW!!! Thank you. This really helped me in the first use. I’m excited to live this day, usually I dread waking up. I love the sound you choose. At first, when the bumping sound changed, it caused a slight stress response, but as you listen you learn that the tempo interruption is OK and becomes expected. How did you make this? I’d love to be able to watch this on my phone and iPad when I don’t have internet coverage. Bless you for sharing this powerful tool.
@VISUAL MEDITATION THERAPY I do like this. I am using PT for balance issues due to having Stiff Person Syndrome, though my history does have trauma - what the therapist is having me do is playing ping pong, takes me a bit to "relax" because of SPS I feel my muscles tighten up which signals my brain to get anxious, sort of a double edge sword, because then I go back to the eye on the ball. Wondering why there is a paypal link.
Your video stopped at 16 minutes and I was bombarded with ads then it switched to a new video with similar beats. I can’t relax with this anymore Moving on
@ just like you recall an old memory… but create a beneficial new memory… what does that memory give you? Freedom, joy, wealth, safety? Then focus on that feeling while your eyes move. I imagined myself in my new house… it felt warm, safe, and secure. So I focused on how it made me feel while doing the exercise. It will rebuild neuropathways.
what is the most effective way to utilize this? do you breathe deeply and just clear your mind while following it like hypnosis? like a tool for meditation to just clear your mind and calm you ?
How do i use these ? Please can somebody guide me ? Do i follow the object during thinking about my trauma or stress or anxiety , fear or whatver comes up ? How do i install the positive believe then ? Is it after the emotion or feeling completey dissepears or neutralised ? How do i change my destructive believes about life and money because i live in utter distress with money and dont know what to do about it !!!
i think that's a feature of this particular video. if you think a version on the same side would fit your needs better, there's others with that on YT 😎🤙
У меня тревожное расстройство. Просто из ниоткуда "накрывает" так, что не знаешь куда бежать и что делать. Слезы, страх, паника -обычные спутники. Начала использовать ее как только чувствую, что "накрывает" и не могу контролировать уже. Проходит. Опять начинается и снова технику вк
I came to watch it for exactly same reason as you! First time I've driven on my own today for five years had mega panic attack at the red lights had to pull in calm myself down. Hope this works for both of us! Xx I think you have to focus on the fear and feelings you have think about it. Xxx
Lol, I understand. I usually have to pull over and step out and shake things off. I am a whole lot better than I was. I just don't understand where this comes from.
If you earnestly look for therapy and contact therapists you will eventually find one that will be willing to work with what funds and possibly even do it for free.
I can't do therapy because some of my trauma is related to therapy. Make sure you have various grounding techniques well established and start of very slow. Always come back to a good thought/memory at the end or if things start getting to be too much. 1% EMDR 99% looking after yourself and practicing focusing on good stuff.
Not sure if it’s on purpose but when I slowed down the video I noticed the ear noises are on the opposite side to where the ball is tapping could someone explain this if it’s on purpose ?
The game of the narcissist is over when I assimilate the insight that everything narcissists say or do is intended to manipulate me. Accordingly, I am only concerned with questions of purpose--not validity--in regards to the narcissist.
Is there anything im supposed to do while watching the ball go back n forth? I just left a abusive relationship w a narcissist very sociopath. Tried to keep me in his house n his neighbors kept tabs on me. She called my job to see if i was working there. N she harassed me. Anyways im trying to heal now. Please help. I wasn’t like this b4
I just did around 15 minutes and I feel much better. I will make this a practice every single day. Just escaped a NARCISSIST/PSYCHOPATH and this is really helped me calm my thoughts down to more productive thinking.
Me too
How are you nowadays? I'm also trying to heal from a narcissistic relationship. It's so hard sometimes. I hope you are doing fine.
@@ildikoedit9110 I can't heal. I have these horrible pains all over my body that I never had before. Like my insides are all twisted up.
@@ildikoedit9110 look up schema therapy (which actually helps with NPD unlike the BS claims of so called experts) and do the questionnaire on the website...you'll have a bunch of schemas and this will help you identify which ones to focus EMDR upon. I'll be launching schemahypnotherapy shortly to help people in narcissistic relationships. EMDR has its roots in Hypnosis ... but I personally prefer the systemic framework of Schema Therapy and EMDR together. Combining these with a few hypnotic techniques and lives change very quickly.
Hope your safe It looks like it’s erasing things in the brain 🧠
This seems like the perfect pace - I use this in between sessions of ART with my therapist and it really seems to work.
If anyone wants some tips on how to use this, this is what my therapist does:
You're going to split your viewing into sessions of 30 seconds each. I'm going to be referring to my trauma as an image, but this will work if you only have feelings to work with. Eventually you will likely get some images that come to mind even if they don't seem to make sense to you or have much meaning. All that matters is that the emotion is tied to them.
1) Think about the upsetting image. Just go over it and talk yourself through it while watching the ball for 30 seconds.
Stop and verbalize what that image was and what it means to you. You need to verbalize it. This is important.
2) Start with that image, and decide how you are going to change it. Some people view the ball as erasing it, some imagine how they would change the situation/image. The last one I did, I imagined Jesus picking me up and taking me out of the image before it was erased over with the ball. I created a new image with myself as a child because that felt like what I wanted to do.
Stop and verbalize that part as well.
If you need more time, go in for another 30 seconds, but only on the positive ones. Don't feel like you need to rush through. You can come back to the image in a few days and see what remains. You need to be gentle with yourself in order for healing to happen.
Make sure you are watching on a screen big enough to get your eyes moving back and forth far enough. I find this isn't as good on my phone.
Keep pressing on, you will be victorious.
2 Corinthians 4:8 We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; 9 persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. 10 We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body.
Estoy haciendo EMDR sola sin terapeuta por la economía gracias por tu ayuda 😊 asi me puedo guiar más
@@magni1522 de nada 💃
Your comment was so helpful ❤ Thank you for sharing your technique 🙏🏽
@@amberd5318 You're welcome!
Thank you!
I had about 5 irl EMDR sessions and it really helped me. The doctor told me to think about what's bothering me and keep that thought in mind while visualizing the moving object. Some other thoughts (that'll first seem not related to the first issue) will pop up, keep thinking about this new topic cuz it may not look like but it is relevant to the main subject, keep doing that (new topic pops up, keep thinking about that topic) until the session is over
And when thinking about your issue first begin with negative affirmations you'd like your brain to rewire: like "I'm not good enough" "I am trapped in this situation" "I can't deal with this situation" "I'm guilty" etc. And notice in what part of your body you most feel the emotion that comes with those thoughts. I can guarantee you it will help.
yeah i did that without even realizing my mind kept drifting to other things & i’m like oop thats a lot of traumaaa
@@Lia.56SNthis really helps: I realized when thinking about a fear of mine/a negative thought, that it came from my stomach.
Thank you so much, you are so kind
I sort-of understand the concept of EMDR but I'm struggling with how it actually helps you release trauma
this works for me best if I verbally talk through certain memories as if someone else is listening. The plus side of doing this alone, is that I can better focus on the particular subject that's bringing up negative feelings without overexplaining too much unnecessary context (a bad habit for this scenario, but social norm)
thank you for the god tipp
So glad you suggested to talk out your experience. I did that and it helped so much 👍
re: overexplaining too much unnecessary context ( a bad habit, but social norm ) what do you mean?
💯
talk while you are watching the ball?
I tried this for the first time last night, just before sleep. After 3 months of PTSD my symptoms are getting better throughout the day, but I still have intrusive thoughts of trauma every nights that wake me up with an intense pain in my stomach. This morning I woke up with a lingering feeling of uneasiness, but no pain. It gives me hope. Thank you for sharing this.
How are you doing a month later?
@@EerybodyIsAnnoying Sorry for the late answer. I'm good most days, no more pain or difficult symptoms except for anxiety. EMDR helped so much but I believe I stopped too soon and had relapses. The good thing is I am now able to feel emotions instead of being numb, and trying to grieve and find closure to move fowards. Continuing sessions by myself to ease anxiety and replace upsetting thoughts and feelings by positive ones. How about you?
@@pauline3218 I am glad it has helped you! I did self EMDR only for a few days in a row, but after that I also did vigorous exercise and nervous system re-regulating techniques (which have to do with stimulating the vagus nerve) and I do feel better now.
I woke up and started the day with emotional flashbacks. It was horrible, I had no chance to think something positive and be happy about that thought, because it was false, I didn't feel human. With EMDR I stopped the physical sensations and thoughts, I still have flashbacks, but I am able to study for 30 concentrated minutes. It's normal to relapse, especially if you have active contact with someone who hurt you.
@@EerybodyIsAnnoying what is the technique? I live with a narcissist, I recommend the book Pete Walker Ptsd. EMDR works, keep going!
Sound off or very low, and it becomes more and more soothing over time. Hypnotic. I'm learning this really is lovely. As soon as I start noticing recurring awful thought, I use this to identify the thought and replace it with something more positive. It makes me feel in better control of my thoughts. What a relief!
The best self administered EMDR therapy on TH-cam.
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted “
Amen Lord
First, people made up gods to explain why it rained and where the sun went at night.
Then, they made up gods that offered protection and eternal life.
Then, they made up gods to validate their bigotry and violence.
There were never any gods.
Cannot thank you enough. i had an unsatisfactory session with a registered emdr therapist . Probably for the best as then i turned to utube and this is just fantastic. And i can do it any time. In my own time. At my own pace. it is helping me so much. I just work on bite size pieces of the many traumas in childhood that stay embedded as someone said to one day become a 'people pleaser" A 'never good enough". A inner feeling that 'i musn't expect to have my needs met', that my needs dont matter. Thank you sooooooooooo much.
First time trying this. I actually feel a lot calmer now. Honestly didn't think I'd get through all 20 minutes, but now that I did, it feels like barely any time has gone by at all. Thank you. I'll try to come back to this regularly.
did it help you ?
Do you focus on what incident or let your thoughts wonder or what?
how are you now?
I like hearing how others use this and how it works for them. As for me, I don't focus on one particular thing to start but after about 5 minutes things start coming up and I focus on those things. Getting through 20 minutes is no problem. It flies by. I believe it is helpiing and am surprised at the buried memories that come up. I'm only about a week into it so will continue daily and see how it goes.
Good luck I think it will change your life :)
I didn't think about using it that way. That sounds brilliant! That way you can tackle each issue as it arises so If you can't remember then until your triggered your now using it as the target memory. I love it. Thanks for the idea. Will be using this.
Hi @pamsbirding, how is it going for you now? I find it very helpful, too : ).
I agree, its stirring up buried childhood memories, the sad ones we've blocked, but allowing us to become aware and then release
I haven't cried in a long time during a session. Started this back in the late 1990s under the care of a doctor. EMDR helped me through so much trauma. I'm so happy I found this. I need it more now than ever. Thank You
How is it going?
If you've been going to therapy since the 90s and using this technique, I'm failing to see how it worked...
But... maybe it's just me...
@Sparky the Rottweiler It's just you. If understood how EMDR works/works you wouldn't be asking or judging... If you're in a horrific auto accident and your body Is ejected from the vehicle leaving you with the broken bones & cuts. There's always a remembrance of a scars. Do they go away¿ Does the pain you've suffered just go away.
I'm 18 plus years in therapy and I just started EMDR for Complex Trauma. Yes, this seems to work. I'm absolutely fasciated, so now I'm doing this self-administered style in addition to weekly sessions.
I am with you @worldandwhy I am hitting 20+ and have only recently discovered this in the last 2 years with my newest therapist and as hard as it is to heal, this works so much better than a tablet and anything else i have tried in the past. take it slow and the flowers will blossom. Best of luck on your journey.
@@JT-ty9qv oh man. I hate to hear that. I hope and wish you well. I'm sorry for whatever happened, but at least you are facing and healing the situation.
Felt like doing emotional heavy lifting. But for the right reasons obviously. Thank you for uploading this video. I use it in between EDMR therapy, when stuff comes up. I can then talk through it with the pro, and do more guided EDMR.
The commercial that comes on when the video ends is very jarring. Consider adding some silence at the end to give the heads up that a loud commercial is about to play. Other than that, this video is fantastic, thanks!!
Agreed! It seems the jarring commercials would reestablish the past trauma 🤔 🤷♀️
I agree. The whole point just becomes overwhelming just getting to the video.
Man, that just happened to me. Like wow!
@@knowledgeeverything6890 Y2Mate 😉
I don't want to see it if there are jarring ads, for heaven's sake, to a meditation? Nnooo
Oh my gosh, thank you so much for this! I had to stop my in-office EMDR because I started having seizures from the lights. So...this is a God send. Now, all I have to do is force myself to "go there". Much love and light to you and everyone!!!
Please be careful pushing to go there and make sure you have that grounding place if you are doing it out of session. I am so glad it is helpful. EMDR is a godsend!
I never used EMDR visually but only acoustically. Works the same and is much easier to 'follow' - you just need to use a headset and a video where the sound is really partitioned to left and right. I would recommend closing the eyes while doing it this way. And for the skeptics out there: I did it this way from the beginning while I was in therapy.
Now I still use it when there is a pesky feeling coming up. Just trust the process. I stop when I feel it is over. My therapist thought it might be dangerous to self administer EMDR - I don't see why. I am glad this approach was discovered in the early 1980s. My therapist helped me through the biggest mess with it and now I am a very good way to total healing. Healing is a process - be patient.
Agreed,it doesn't help that the ticking sound in the video is on the opposite side from the ball
@@DewtbArenatsiz just don‘t watch it - only listen and relax
For anyone using this to self-administer EMDR, please ensure you have the right grounding tools to help bring you back into the present moment. If you are someone who ruminates quite a bit like i do, make sure you lock that memory up in chained up box, or a safe, or at the bottom of the lake where you can forget about it until your next session. If you find yourself thinking about it excessively and don't have the time to do a quick session, it can be a great tool to 'park' a thought so it can't take hold.
Good suggestion, I ruminate a lot
Same. I do get obsessed. Especially if I enjoyed something. Yes lock my brain until the next session. And keep it to myself. Sometimes I have a sensitive view on persons opinion when sharing something special.
Thank you for posting this. The other couple of EMDR videos I was using disappeared. I need this for my clients. I appreciate you putting this up!
Your videos are just perfect and I use them during my sessions, thanks alot
I had a really hard day with my anxiety and needed something visual to watch for a bit to settle down. I watched without the sound since im not in a good place to do EMDR and I relaxed and fell asleep. I look forward to using the full potential of this video soon
Heya sour patchy, i am sorry to hear that you are having a rough time at the moment. my unsolicited advice would be having someone you trust around if you are thinking of attempting this alone. It can be triggering and pull you into the memory. I do not want to scare you away because i live by EMDR and it is the best thing to come through for trauma processing for myself. Even if you have them to ground you and bring you back to the present. No one wants to get stuck, especially after a massive day at work when you may already be exhausted. Best of luck with it and take a few deep breaths. You got this!
I forgot I was in 2 times speed and was so confused how this could possibly help 😂
Omg thank you I have now realised I was on 1.5 speed 😂
Me too - gosh! Thanks to this comment while i was working myself up to stop the video!
@@7sevens 😂
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ok, now I have validation! I listen to most things at 1.5 or is the quality is good enough 2x's speed. My wife cannot understand but it literally helps me focus more to be more challenged receipt of the delivery. I'm am glad to know that I am not alone!
Thank you for this. The visual and audio are the best I've found for my own meditation.
For those w headphones the ball isn’t in sync w the sound until 14:02.
Thank you for this. I listen to it when I am going to sleep but fighting trauma memories.
Don't fight. Do. Or do not. There is no try
@@consciousnessinabody yes Yoda...
@@friscokitty consider it though... One cannot FIGHT trauma by fighting you allow it a place to stand, affirming it as a powerful enemy, giving it a home inside of you.. allow it to fall away by letting go. Imagine you have a hot coal in your hand and there you stand in pain TRYING to let it go... As opposed to simply dropping it and allowing it to fall away. You are experiencing your thoughts, you are not them. All of the love. Be free.
@@consciousnessinabody But how does someone let it go?
What if you hand is so cramped that your muscles won't relax and let the coal go..? 😔
I don't know how to let go.
My mind goes back to the traumatic event, and I didn't fight it, but it doesn't fix things. Mind ming will not let it go, no matter how many times i go there.... I feel hopeless..
@@elianneheijstek9276 I'd ask what needs are you meeting by holding on to the trauma? Everyone on earth has six basic human needs that need met one way or another.. Healthy or otherwise..
Consciously choose to embrace the fact that you can change the MEANING of the event, thereby changing NOW and every moment thereafter. A new soul, reborn in a new moment, a new life free from the past. Love is the the answer to *e v e r y t h i n g * and life is happening FOR you to know the many facets of that diamond...through the grace of suffering.
What you allow yourself to focus on is what you feel, and what you find.
So awesome! Not only did this help mentally, but you also brought to my attention that my speakers are set up backwards!! Thanks!!
They probably aren't - the channels are mixed up on my headphones which only go on one way so that I have to turn them XD Don't change your setup
@@Zendemic42 Same. I have headphones that have giant R and L in the ear and I had to turn them the "wrong" way to get the correct audio.
Thanks!
Thank you!!! ❤️
Dear EMDR Therapy, thank you for this magick track! Found it 2 days ago and finding it utterly amazing using sound-only via headphones. You're a LEGEND 🥰
Hi @@salasala5418
Thanks for reaching out.
I guess you could watch the ball and/or listen to the sound via headphones while thinking of your issue.
There are EMDR session demos on YT if you want to watch one for ideas.
Read other comments on this YT video, so many useful tips!
Professional sessions are currently out of my price range.
PLEASE NOTE I'm not trained, just experiment to see what works for me.
My hometown had high crime rate, horrific stuff. Hard to pinpoint what to focus on.
I've had great results falling asleep to this EMDR track playing low on my headphones.
The first night, I had 2 intense dreams that became lucid. A lot of nasty past stuff came up. Blew my mind.
On subsequent nights, sensations in my body woke me up, jolts of energy that released stress.
In dreams, I confronted terrors which previously I ran from. This trend has stuck. Esp this year, hugely noticeable result.
Perhaps this will encourage you to try. If you do, I'd love to hear how you get on.
Good luck & thrive!! 🥰❤🔥🔥✨
I got humiliated by my twin's friend circle, they used to laugh at my helpness situation, mocked at me. I want to release those trauma,may i recover soon.
Wow, that is interesting, will keep doing it for night terrors for narcissistic abuse recovery, thank you
Thank you! This is literally a life saver
I find this to be very unique and useful for mental focus. I like it,and will pass it along. Many thanks for sharing your mindfulness.❤
Thank you !😊
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This is an incredible video, first time every trying self-administered emdr therapy, bumbled my way through it but the tears came. Awesome, thank you for posting this.
Do it ! It’s free and easy and for me life changing.
I went from 9/10 to 0/10 i was very happy and satisfied at the end, thank you for this video
Thank you it’s perfect! I watched a quick video on how it works and I went through it saying out loud the trauma (burglers in my home) and I expressed the fears I have now coming back home or going to sleep at night! The fear of being rape by them as In a woman etc… And after 5 minutes others little traumas showed up ! It’s magical thanks will keep doing it for a White ! i refuse to live through fear! ❤
Been using this one for months. I love it thank you. 🤙🏼
Months? How come so long?
@@robbieanderson227 I still use it bro. I’ve been through a lot of trauma that started really young. I got molested by a same sex family member an shortly after I started getting smacked around an beat by an adult at 6-7. My real dad abandoned me my mom an step dad abandoned me, I started abusing heavy drugs as well as sex an porn in my teens heavily to cope, I went to war in Iraq as a US Army Infantry Mortarman an than I decided to have a child with a narcissist all in the span of 20 something years just to give you a brief description/short summary of my life’s saga.
@@GrayMattr that’s a lotta stuff bud, you sound like an absolute superstar though, we’ll done 👏🏻 💪🏻
@@robbieanderson227 thanks bro. Glory to God man I wouldn’t be here without him.
Can you tell me how the process work brother ? Do I only have to watch the videos and thinking about trauma event ?
Bedankt
Yes this is the very best EMDR app I could find.
No doubt this works over time so miraculously.I call it, this EMDR, visual meditation.
The sound of bouncing ball makes me calm. Love it!
This is hypnotism, just like the swinging pendulum of the olden days
No, it is not the same as hypnotism. Hypnotism is a different (if somewhat related) process. Apples and oranges are both fruit.
@@marynlyn Indeed, but yes, very much like the swinging pendulum that sends you into a trance. EMDR here does carry you into deeper levels of mind measurable
The title caught my eye-- because it's missing a T, says Mediation.
Looking forward to spending time this week with this video. Thank you.
I guess it’s like taking the startled deer out of the headlights and back into equilibrium
This is a perfect description ❤️
Thanks for creating this.
Thank you so much for this !💗
As it has already been said, the left and right audio channel are flipped. They change back though, at 14:02. So even if you already put on your headphones the other way round, you'll have to interrupt and do it again. Is there a way to fix this?
Otherwise, a very helpful video 👌 Many thanks!
I am using my experience of narcissistic abuse to reevaluate my past experiences and to consciously change myself.
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Loved it the moment i played it. I am going to go with this and see what happens
best I've come across - thank you
“Anything worth doing is not easy”
this is delightful. however i had to turn my headphones around in order to get the sides to line up correctly. as soon as i switched ears, it all synced up perfectly and was significantly more relaxing
Glad I wasn't the only one who noticed! My headphones are fitted to left and right, so I had to turn my tablet upside down.
This is awesome! 🤩
Thank you so much! I need EMDR for my ptsd but I’m too young to drive so I have no way of getting there.
For any years I’ve used the ancient word for God, HU to heal & much much more. It’s free & amazing & at HU - God on YT.
I started to smell cigarettes İN MY NOSE! I live alone and it couldnt be coming from somewhere elese the heck?
I am not a doctor, but that sure sounds like a memory of that smell came up for you. Hope this helps.
Are you supposed to hear it opposite of where the ball hits or on the same side?
Author of this content had their headphones on backwards. The visual left and audio left don’t match
Are we supposed to stare straight or follow the ball w our eyes?
Follow the ball with your eyes.
Any instructions on how to do this?
For most part, it is started with a therapist but for the basics. You can think of a specific memory and think about how it makes you feel. You can choose to write this down or not (I do not), once you feel you have really felt the emotions of that memory, you can start to add positive thoughts to it. So for instance you are struggling to get through a break up because there was no closure. Might have someone feeling abandoned, untrusting, sad. You would tell yourself thing like, i wasn't abandoned not all relationships last, whilst this person broke my trust not all people are going to do this, accept the sad but tell yourself that you will be happy and you do find bit of happiness. Over time you will be able to talk or think about these memories and have a neutral or positive perception of the memory rather than it taking you back to the day things happened and changed your brain chemistry.
I think a lot of others on here watch and think. I am unsure on how process or if their brains take them where their brain would like to go but for cptsd, ptsd and things like that, i would recommend the above with a therapist if in a position to and if you aren't PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE have someone around to help bring you back to the moment in case one gets stuck in the memory.
Wow, I heard EMDR worked but I immediately felt calmer as I worked through some stuff
It works I have Congenital Heart Disease and Child Abuse it relax my amygdala.
Are you supposed to think about anything in particular while you watch this?
@@paulasullivan4284in the method I use, your supposed to say the things that have been bothering you, out loud, while watching the ball. Let your mind get rid of the thoughts that are repeating then at the end ask your self- what was the first thought I started with. That accesses a different part of your brain and completes the treatment. You’ll notice that thought doesn’t bother you as much when you say it this time.
WOW!!! Thank you. This really helped me in the first use. I’m excited to live this day, usually I dread waking up. I love the sound you choose. At first, when the bumping sound changed, it caused a slight stress response, but as you listen you learn that the tempo interruption is OK and becomes expected. How did you make this? I’d love to be able to watch this on my phone and iPad when I don’t have internet coverage. Bless you for sharing this powerful tool.
Trying this on my psychotic dog, and her eyes are following the ball.
Hope this isn't animal cruelty or something.
@VISUAL MEDITATION THERAPY I do like this. I am using PT for balance issues due to having Stiff Person Syndrome, though my history does have trauma - what the therapist is having me do is playing ping pong, takes me a bit to "relax" because of SPS I feel my muscles tighten up which signals my brain to get anxious, sort of a double edge sword, because then I go back to the eye on the ball. Wondering why there is a paypal link.
Your video stopped at 16 minutes and I was bombarded with ads then it switched to a new video with similar beats. I can’t relax with this anymore
Moving on
I do this every night for over 5 months now and no adds have ever shown, on my device, but can understand it would be a put off to be happening
Could you make an hour long version of this video please?
I am new to this. How do you use this please?
It's backwards for me, not sure if it's my phone but my headset is on right as it's a gaming headset with a stationary mic
What’s not discussed enough is that you can utilize this to create positive memories as well. It works both ways!
How do you do that?
@ just like you recall an old memory… but create a beneficial new memory… what does that memory give you? Freedom, joy, wealth, safety? Then focus on that feeling while your eyes move. I imagined myself in my new house… it felt warm, safe, and secure. So I focused on how it made me feel while doing the exercise. It will rebuild neuropathways.
@@Theraddiebaddie1981 thank you I will try that
Those help me so much when I dissociate while I don't have therapy
Is the audio supposed to be monaural or stereo (e.g., left - right - left - right, following the ball)?
This would be absolutely fantastic if the audio wasn't off (when the ball visually thumps right, the audio comes from the left side)
thank you for sharing
I wonder what the effects of consistent practice for years would be. In theory you could end up becoming a truly fearless person.
I will try to find out, doing it for at least an hour a day
what is the most effective way to utilize this? do you breathe deeply and just clear your mind while following it like hypnosis? like a tool for meditation to just clear your mind and calm you ?
Just started EMDR with my counselor. I think meditation to this may be helpful as well🙏🤞🧡
How do i use these ? Please can somebody guide me ? Do i follow the object during thinking about my trauma or stress or anxiety , fear or whatver comes up ? How do i install the positive believe then ? Is it after the emotion or feeling completey dissepears or neutralised ? How do i change my destructive believes about life and money because i live in utter distress with money and dont know what to do about it !!!
Yes, watch it whilst you are feeling the negative emotion until the emotion is no longer there 😊
Thank you so much
Is the audio meant to be the other way round? When my eyes go to the right the sound comes from the left.
Is the sound supposed to be on the opposite side of where the ball hits, or are my headphones just broken? 🤣
Switch them around???
@@jonrolston4909 but they only fit right in the order they're in 😅
@@mossiris816 dang...that ain't no good
i think that's a feature of this particular video. if you think a version on the same side would fit your needs better, there's others with that on YT 😎🤙
its actually very helpful
Muy bueno , gracias
У меня тревожное расстройство. Просто из ниоткуда "накрывает" так, что не знаешь куда бежать и что делать. Слезы, страх, паника -обычные спутники. Начала использовать ее как только чувствую, что "накрывает" и не могу контролировать уже. Проходит. Опять начинается и снова технику вк
So how do I use this for Driving anxiety? Panic attacks. I would love for this to help me!!!
Get in touch with the anxiety and let it surface and whilst you are feeling it then watch the video until it heals it 😊
I came to watch it for exactly same reason as you! First time I've driven on my own today for five years had mega panic attack at the red lights had to pull in calm myself down. Hope this works for both of us! Xx I think you have to focus on the fear and feelings you have think about it. Xxx
This is truly helpful advice! Thanks for your questions and responses. I can't wait for this to work for me when it comes to driving.
I want to jump out of the car! Lol
Lol, I understand. I usually have to pull over and step out and shake things off. I am a whole lot better than I was. I just don't understand where this comes from.
Can someone explain to me how to do this? Do I have to feel the trauma / event / negative event and then start following the ball?
Do you just watch the ball go back and forth?
Just watching this helps for some reason.
hi, what should you think about while watching the video?
I'm a little scared to do this on my own, but I can't afford therapy.
If you earnestly look for therapy and contact therapists you will eventually find one that will be willing to work with what funds and possibly even do it for free.
Usually state supported clinics and others have sliding scales. Check around. EFT tapping seems quite similar too.
look up fastereft
I can't do therapy because some of my trauma is related to therapy. Make sure you have various grounding techniques well established and start of very slow. Always come back to a good thought/memory at the end or if things start getting to be too much. 1% EMDR 99% looking after yourself and practicing focusing on good stuff.
@@sine8811 how would you able to find one at reasonable price so many expensive ones I'm trying to find one at the moment
My children may become narcissistic while under the influence of the other narcissistic parent.
Not sure if it’s on purpose but when I slowed down the video I noticed the ear noises are on the opposite side to where the ball is tapping could someone explain this if it’s on purpose ?
i almost cried
I am removing the need for external validation from my life.
I use this for studying 😻
The game of the narcissist is over when I assimilate the insight that everything narcissists say or do is intended to manipulate me. Accordingly, I am only concerned with questions of purpose--not validity--in regards to the narcissist.
I watch this while I am waiting for xanax to kick in, or to try avoid it all together and it helps a lot. Thanks ♥
Thank u
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there was a video with fast paced yellow ball, did you remove it?
Is there anything im supposed to do while watching the ball go back n forth? I just left a abusive relationship w a narcissist very sociopath. Tried to keep me in his house n his neighbors kept tabs on me. She called my job to see if i was working there. N she harassed me. Anyways im trying to heal now. Please help. I wasn’t like this b4
how does this work? just just watch the ball?