I am 41 and still not married. I had many opportunities to get married early, but I kept delaying, thinking that once things get a bit stable I would. I was so wrong ! All I have to say now is that learn science and technology from the West, but learn about relationships from the East. I am soon going to get married, but it's nothing how it would have felt had I married 15+ years ago.
Behroz and Batool you guys are intellectually deeper than many content creators but something seems to be missing to make it more interesting. But still keep it up, don’t give up, both of you have potential.
I got married at 39. Marriage only happens when Allah wills it. Not a day earlier or late. No matter how much hard we try it will only happen when He has written for you. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try but have faith Allah will make it happen iA. Alhamdulilah! I’m content with my married life and husband. Pray for a good spouse and in-laws. I’m lucky in this regard. . Believe me it makes a difference
I completely agre with most of your points. Most of the people dont look at soft traits like adaptability, aggression and others. During my marriage, i was 26, and my wife was 25, allowing us to mould and explore difficult and different situations.
TH-cam algorithm please please please share this video to more people feed. Very rarely I come by videos where I watch the video and feel it was time well spent.
Keep up the good work! If I must be honest, why this video hit harder was feeling the mutual connection. As in, it felt like I was getting well informed advice from my relatives on this topic.
I personally strongly believe that late marriage is better because marriage is not a luxury but huge responsibility. You need to enjoy independence in your life before jumping into making family. So for me based on my experience, later the better.
Excellent topic chosen! Assuming, any legitimate age below 28 yrs is EARLY AGE GROUP marriage and above 28 yrs is LATE AGE GROUP marriage. Assuming, the other factors and constants (biological, social and financial) are normal, if possible... Marriage must be accomplished in the EARLY AGE GROUP to achieve healthy family structure, biologically healthier children, better social relationship, stronger emotional bonding within the couple and the family, better personal + professional / financial growth. In the LATE AGE GROUP marriage, a person becomes more calculative and marriage becomes more like a DEAL and CONTRACT. All the Pros of LATE AGE GROUP marriage actually become Cons, later in life. Those Pros do more harm than they helped/contributed earlier. It is a wrong notion in society that marriage is a responsibility + liability and it hinders the personal+professional growth of individuals. Rather, with cooperation, couples can grow faster and higher than singles. Kids are the most precious asset of a couple. The scientific fact cannot be denied that healthy kids can be achieved only through the EARLY AGE GROUP marriage.
I was 25 and my husband was 38, arrange marraige. Never had ANY unusual issue.. if we compare we had the same struggle what my other cousins or friends had. We ALWAYS understood each other very smoothly Alhamdolillah...
What if when u turned to 30 and that time ur husband medically unfit to satisfy you?😅 Because when humans upto 40years they fall in medical complications.
@@malik666ba that’s just your narrative. Movie stars are always marrying young girls and guys both as per their own satisfaction. You want to set your own standards for everyone. Many young girls are happily married to older expats in Philippines and Thailand.
Seeing such an amazing content produced by our Pakistanis is so impressive. You guys deserve a million subscribers for this high level of intellectual content. Please keep it up and make more and more videos like these. Love from Pakistan ❤❤❤
I like your video,❤. Another big issue is children marriage in north america. They refuse lots of perposal and keep looking potential partners and rejecting each other for small things.
Yup.. we are still some time away from that… but see it happening around us too often… although I must admit I believe it’s the life most important decision ie who you marry and hence should not be taken lightly
ll the pros and cons in the video were revolving around materialism. There are two marital models: 1) Classic: The husband works and the wife takes care of the house and children. 2) Modern: Both the spouses work to meet both ends. In my opinion, it is best to mary a younger woman in the classic model since she could be groomed according to the husband flexibly. The top most thing while selecting a wife in classic setting is to guage her capabilities as a mother. In the modern setting, both of them should be of the same age group. There are two major advantages in marying early in both the settings: 1) More time can be spent together in terms of physical relationship. 2) Children will be able to see younger parents. Marriage is a distraction for materialistic people. They should pursue it after achieving their goals. One of the problem in South Asian culture is that we are not taught about maintaining relationships.
Best age for men to marry is between 35 and 40. Best age for women to get married is 25 to 28. Best age to finish women' education is before 25 (max. PhD). Best age for women to finish their first 2 deliveries is before 30.
😂 so until then men should be celibate? What a nut case 😅. And it gets harder to find a partner once you cross 25. Internet is unfortunately exposing young people to shit advice. Marry early folks 😉😁
its all about fate. Sometime you get sick, something happens that can never expect. God has decided the right time. even people try but they cannot make it happen.
Most of what you said probably applies to people (guys/gals) grown up in Pakistan or maybe India. The perceptions and outlook to life of 2nd generation (kids borne and raised here in the USA) are different than what you think. Anyway, good discussion.
If life = 3 Hours , then @ the age of 20 years old best.then go up to 40 year then 60 then after life is a bonus ?Who knows who cares go up to 100 ?Minimum Budget to enjoy life simple ways .
@@NorthAmerican-Desi Thank you, that's the difficult part to find someone, finding content person is difficult now a days when we are so much materialistic
But if we get married early, then we have to born kids in upcoming 2-3 years.In Asian context, people have kids just after 1-2 years(females tend to do compromises and sacrifices in most of the cases).
Anyone answering me ! may abhi tak itna settle b nai hua k may Pakistan may electricity bill day sakn nd my age is 28 nd salery is 40,000 mery khyall may mujhy nai krni chaiyay jb tak may settle nai hojata
Kuch log to 70 saal tak bhi mature mahi hote or shadi 25 mai lerlete hain sari zindagi rote bilakte apni zindagi bhi. kharab kerte haun or apne spouse ki bhi.or kuch log by birth mature hote hain.immature ko to kisi age mai bhi shadi nahi kerni chahiy
I think, seeing the condition of Parenting model in Pakistan, one should never marry before the age of 25. Before 25, it's all drama and emotional immaturity.
You forget, marriage is optional. Just because our culture in west or east says to marry, does not mean its necessary. For some its better not to marry.
I think marry early is really good for all the points that you raised, but one thing must be kept in consideration while marrying early is not to have kids. This issue needs to addressed to the potential couples considering marriage.
Behroz and Batool you guys are intellectually deeper than many content creators but something seems to be missing to make it more interesting. But still keep it up, don’t give up, both of you have potential.
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The simple answer is when you get matured physically and mentally. Now it depends on environment and relation aware
I am 41 and still not married. I had many opportunities to get married early, but I kept delaying, thinking that once things get a bit stable I would. I was so wrong ! All I have to say now is that learn science and technology from the West, but learn about relationships from the East. I am soon going to get married, but it's nothing how it would have felt had I married 15+ years ago.
Marrying in early 20s is the best, for all times
Behroz and Batool you guys are intellectually deeper than many content creators but something seems to be missing to make it more interesting. But still keep it up, don’t give up, both of you have potential.
I got married at 39. Marriage only happens when Allah wills it. Not a day earlier or late. No matter how much hard we try it will only happen when He has written for you. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try but have faith Allah will make it happen iA.
Alhamdulilah! I’m content with my married life and husband. Pray for a good spouse and in-laws. I’m lucky in this regard. . Believe me it makes a difference
Not a day earlier or late, Whether one time or four.
Beshak
Lol😂.
I completely agre with most of your points. Most of the people dont look at soft traits like adaptability, aggression and others. During my marriage, i was 26, and my wife was 25, allowing us to mould and explore difficult and different situations.
💯 same has been true for us…
TH-cam algorithm please please please share this video to more people feed. Very rarely I come by videos where I watch the video and feel it was time well spent.
Many thanks for your support
Keep up the good work! If I must be honest, why this video hit harder was feeling the mutual connection.
As in, it felt like I was getting well informed advice from my relatives on this topic.
Many thanks 🙏
I personally strongly believe that late marriage is better because marriage is not a luxury but huge responsibility. You need to enjoy independence in your life before jumping into making family. So for me based on my experience, later the better.
At the end of the day there is no right or wrong answer… there are simply pros and cons… thanks for your perspective
Excellent topic chosen!
Assuming, any legitimate age below 28 yrs is EARLY AGE GROUP marriage and above 28 yrs is LATE AGE GROUP marriage.
Assuming, the other factors and constants (biological, social and financial) are normal, if possible...
Marriage must be accomplished in the EARLY AGE GROUP to achieve healthy family structure, biologically healthier children, better social relationship, stronger emotional bonding within the couple and the family, better personal + professional / financial growth.
In the LATE AGE GROUP marriage, a person becomes more calculative and marriage becomes more like a DEAL and CONTRACT. All the Pros of LATE AGE GROUP marriage actually become Cons, later in life. Those Pros do more harm than they helped/contributed earlier.
It is a wrong notion in society that marriage is a responsibility + liability and it hinders the personal+professional growth of individuals. Rather, with cooperation, couples can grow faster and higher than singles.
Kids are the most precious asset of a couple. The scientific fact cannot be denied that healthy kids can be achieved only through the EARLY AGE GROUP marriage.
Thanks for your builds - and great perspective on this topic…
I was 25 and my husband was 38, arrange marraige. Never had ANY unusual issue.. if we compare we had the same struggle what my other cousins or friends had. We ALWAYS understood each other very smoothly Alhamdolillah...
That’s wonderful… may you long years of happy life together…
You married to father aged man😂
What if when u turned to 30 and that time ur husband medically unfit to satisfy you?😅 Because when humans upto 40years they fall in medical complications.
@@NorthAmerican-Desi when she turned 30yo her husband is not more young as she in 30. So many medical complications can be happening to 40+men women
@@malik666ba that’s just your narrative. Movie stars are always marrying young girls and guys both as per their own satisfaction. You want to set your own standards for everyone. Many young girls are happily married to older expats in Philippines and Thailand.
Thanks for sharing this in my early 20s had a lot of clarity from this
Glad to know you found it valuable
Seeing such an amazing content produced by our Pakistanis is so impressive. You guys deserve a million subscribers for this high level of intellectual content. Please keep it up and make more and more videos like these. Love from Pakistan ❤❤❤
Thanks please do keep supporting the channel with your views and likes 👍
I like your video,❤. Another big issue is children marriage in north america. They refuse lots of perposal and keep looking potential partners and rejecting each other for small things.
Yup.. we are still some time away from that… but see it happening around us too often… although I must admit I believe it’s the life most important decision ie who you marry and hence should not be taken lightly
ll the pros and cons in the video were revolving around materialism.
There are two marital models:
1) Classic: The husband works and the wife takes care of the house and children.
2) Modern: Both the spouses work to meet both ends.
In my opinion, it is best to mary a younger woman in the classic model since she could be groomed according to the husband flexibly. The top most thing while selecting a wife in classic setting is to guage her capabilities as a mother.
In the modern setting, both of them should be of the same age group.
There are two major advantages in marying early in both the settings:
1) More time can be spent together in terms of physical relationship.
2) Children will be able to see younger parents.
Marriage is a distraction for materialistic people. They should pursue it after achieving their goals.
One of the problem in South Asian culture is that we are not taught about maintaining relationships.
Mashallah guys u guys r Awsm . Very intellectual topics. Keep it up.
Thanks a lot
I think divine blessings plays instrumental role when it comes to marriage.
دل ناامید تو نہیں ناکام ہی تو ہے"
لمبی ہے غم کی شام مگر شام ہی تو ہے
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You are gorgeous, Batol!! Beautiful couple MA❤
Enjoyed the video
Best age for men to marry is between 35 and 40. Best age for women to get married is 25 to 28. Best age to finish women' education is before 25 (max. PhD). Best age for women to finish their first 2 deliveries is before 30.
😂 so until then men should be celibate? What a nut case 😅. And it gets harder to find a partner once you cross 25. Internet is unfortunately exposing young people to shit advice. Marry early folks 😉😁
But considering people don't make enough money back in Pakistan to own a separate house. They're going to live in a joint setup and this doesn't work.
Here it is critical that both spouse are working so they can start and fund the new life
its all about fate. Sometime you get sick, something happens that can never expect. God has decided the right time. even people try but they cannot make it happen.
Most of what you said probably applies to people (guys/gals) grown up in Pakistan or maybe India. The perceptions and outlook to life of 2nd generation (kids borne and raised here in the USA) are different than what you think. Anyway, good discussion.
Yes and no… some / most of the things are universal… they do apply question is still which one do you weigh as more important of a factor….
I am 27 seven and i want to get married at 29 in 2026 winter
What will you suggest about this.
either it is late or early
Girls get mature early is not the reason, man need more time to get settle to provide well That is the reason I guess.
Some good points
Loved this video
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Thought full discussion 👍
Thanks
Allah apko or sab ko khush rakhe Ameen , i also want to have my life just like your's in coming time Inshallah😊
Thanks
No one wanted to marry my but then when I got my visa at 38 then suddenly har aik ka istikharah bhi green ho gya.
Hahaha I hear ya…
Same but abhi visa lgna hn bs 😢
@@Sainto0 bass inshAllah phir larki walon ko bhi jawab acha aayega khwab main.
24, 25 is the Best Age !
Could’ve covered the content in 15 minutes. There was redundancy in the content.
I really like u guys 🎉 Pakistans top talent
Thanks 🙏
If life = 3 Hours , then @ the age of 20 years old best.then go up to 40 year then 60 then after life is a bonus ?Who knows who cares go up to 100 ?Minimum Budget to enjoy life simple ways .
What do you do when you have responsibilities from college life to take care of your sister and parents?
You should marry some one who is not a liability,… rather can share responsibility… so a working and earning spouse…
@@NorthAmerican-Desi
Thank you, that's the difficult part to find someone, finding content person is difficult now a days when we are so much materialistic
I agree it’s not easy…
But if we get married early, then we have to born kids in upcoming 2-3 years.In Asian context, people have kids just after 1-2 years(females tend to do compromises and sacrifices in most of the cases).
Having kids is and timing that is a different ball game all together… with its pros and cons a separate topic
@@NorthAmerican-Desi need a separate topic ❤❤
What should be the age difference between husband and wife to lead a satisfied life ( satisfaction on all the levels)?
I believe there are again pros and cons to that… there is no right or wrong answer…
Good
It is very difficult to get married or to find your spouse.
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For men 26-29. For women 18-22
Anyone answering me !
may abhi tak itna settle b nai hua k may Pakistan may electricity bill day sakn nd my age is 28 nd salery is 40,000
mery khyall may mujhy nai krni chaiyay jb tak may settle nai hojata
Hazrat Ali married when he had nothing, what if you will be in this situation till death?
Great job
Kuch log to 70 saal tak bhi mature mahi hote or shadi 25 mai lerlete hain sari zindagi rote bilakte apni zindagi bhi. kharab kerte haun or apne spouse ki bhi.or kuch log by birth mature hote hain.immature ko to kisi age mai bhi shadi nahi kerni chahiy
True
What if someone is not independent even at 30 years old?
I believe being independent is a pre requisite
Marriage should be done in adulthood. The advantage of getting married early is that your children become young in your youth.
I am 31 and single.
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wrong, marry early
I think, seeing the condition of Parenting model in Pakistan, one should never marry before the age of 25. Before 25, it's all drama and emotional immaturity.
You forget, marriage is optional. Just because our culture in west or east says to marry, does not mean its necessary. For some its better not to marry.
Agree it is optional… and I do subscribe to that…
It’s not optional. Islam asks us to get married.
@@inticfc7734 indeed these people are doing kufr by judging other than what Allah have revealed
لڑکیوں کی شادی زیادہ سے زیادہ 18 سال اور لڑکوں کی عمر زیادہ سے زیادہ 25 سال کی عمر میں کر دی جانی چاہئیے
Before starting you sey my personal experience.
And in video you used word research 5 to 6 time .
So sorry 😔😔😔
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She seems to be the one who likes to have the last word 😅
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Why is that with some people!?
Stable life and mature complete.bas
I think ye qismat ki bat hai... Hmare hath me ni h
Boys 25-29, girls 18-25
Ek kaam kro boys ka 35 above hi likh do na ... Ladkiyon ka career nhi hota I'm 27 not married and I don't want to marry until 35
@Priyanka-ov8nz I like that :)
Musalamaanon ko shariyat k mutabik jindgi gujarni chahiye
keep it up guys!! @BahrozNBatool
Thanks
I think marry early is really good for all the points that you raised, but one thing must be kept in consideration while marrying early is not to have kids. This issue needs to addressed to the potential couples considering marriage.
Yup having kids is what really changes things… so need to time it well..
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Sorry 😔 with respect
Your video not so much useful.
Sorry 😔 if you mind.
Sure… no worries
Very week statement s....
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@@NorthAmerican-Desi
Kuch bataty han .
Kia wakey hi AAP ko NAHI lag Raha AAP ki video time wast this.
@aliakramsialkot871 I guess it was such for you… thanks
For Boys the Best age of marriage is 28 and for girls the best age of marriage is 25.
Am 35 still single and happy
It depends on individuals
Agreed
@@umairiqbal2880yeah some are 45 abd divorced never judge your present happiness
Its subjective always
bro had more brighter forehead then my future.
just tzke it easy.
Fully agree to that..
👽👽👽👽parents decide our life partners usually uncles daughter👽👽👽👽
:)
Boring
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Behroz and Batool you guys are intellectually deeper than many content creators but something seems to be missing to make it more interesting. But still keep it up, don’t give up, both of you have potential.
Thanks … would love to know what you think can be done better… thanks for your support
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