Black Love Live | Getting Through Infidelity

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  • When ‘broken’ meets ‘broken’ it can affect everything surrounding it. "Hurt people, hurt people," and when the game starts it can be difficult to put it on pause. On this clip of Black Love Live we sit with couple Alicia & Todd to hear what it took to get to the core of their issues and turn their mess into a ministry. Have you dealt through infidelity? What's one thing you wish someone would have told you about it?
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ความคิดเห็น • 352

  • @19GENESE13
    @19GENESE13 4 ปีที่แล้ว +248

    I hope they stay together so that the rest of us remain a little safer

    • @allin3940
      @allin3940 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      😆 Fix it Jesus. Jokes aside them just seeing it as something they had to get through and not a disaster of a marriage is what is most concerning. We made it through it!!! But at what cost? 🥴 would either of them want their children or other loved ones to endure decades of relationship trauma and stds because you know there were std’s and pregnancy scares and everything else that comes with cheating especially multiple times.

    • @mimigirl01
      @mimigirl01 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂😂😂😂 right because we would be in trouble.

    • @PharmacyTechLessons
      @PharmacyTechLessons 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I’m glad they went through it and got it right…. Restoration is beautiful.

    • @MaroonTiger
      @MaroonTiger 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I was watching like “struggle love.. 🤦🏾‍♂️ “…. Like its not a badge of honor to destroy your marriage and rebuild it

    • @PharmacyTechLessons
      @PharmacyTechLessons 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@MaroonTiger true but this was their story and it can help someone who is struggling…and Also teach those who don’t want to struggle

  • @IS33U
    @IS33U 4 ปีที่แล้ว +338

    Sorry...know your worth. I will always love myself more than waking up to a cheater everyday. My vaginal and mental health are worthy of so much more

    • @Perfeccionista89
      @Perfeccionista89 4 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      Exactly. My husband would have been divorced. I told him before we were married. I am not to be messed with.
      Men always leave women if they cheat, so why are we staying?

    • @Perfeccionista89
      @Perfeccionista89 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Elyse George That could be America?
      I'm Jamaican so that statement is way off from I'm used to.
      Our men provide and take care of their families. The F**k boys don't, that's why you stay away from them.

    • @kpacshakur6969
      @kpacshakur6969 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ‼️‼️‼️

    • @listeningviayoutube7229
      @listeningviayoutube7229 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Preach!

    • @listeningviayoutube7229
      @listeningviayoutube7229 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Perfeccionista89 Preach!

  • @ramd1162
    @ramd1162 4 ปีที่แล้ว +264

    A councillor slept with my husband. She told him to take out an injunction on me in order to have my house, which I solely purchased. I divorced him and they only lasted 3mths, where we were married for 14 yrs.
    Be wise, check if your councillor has marital issues before sharing your story.

    • @renonyabuti7292
      @renonyabuti7292 4 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      Roseann Dunkley Well Damn! My sincerest apologies that’s fucked up

    • @polkadotteandglitterspots5367
      @polkadotteandglitterspots5367 4 ปีที่แล้ว +137

      Sounds like malpractice to me. She should be sued.

    • @leggs4113
      @leggs4113 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Roseann Dunkley and I’m sure he came running back to you.

    • @AKOS16
      @AKOS16 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Jesus !!!

    • @FaithandNova
      @FaithandNova 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      Wow I'm learning that most of the counseling, therapist need therapy themselves 😩😩

  • @morganreid2630
    @morganreid2630 4 ปีที่แล้ว +376

    I wish this couple would stop being featured on these Black Love channels. A woman was literally murdered as a result of an affair he had. Their marriage has bodies and negative energy.

    • @Aritul
      @Aritul 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Oh my! That's terrible! What woman?

    • @TheSomethingnew1
      @TheSomethingnew1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      That's why I'm confused as to why people are trying to justify this. Someone died. At the hands of infidelity. They should have separated.

    • @mylifeasme5791
      @mylifeasme5791 4 ปีที่แล้ว +75

      Shit the mistress and the person coming to help them. Damn this is sad all around. Talking about “I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy” but you put your WIFE through this!

    • @Ninapopwilliamschannel
      @Ninapopwilliamschannel 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Yeah that’s true, and then the Good Samaritan died too. This story is heartbreaking

    • @rrrj7816
      @rrrj7816 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      Yes, this is nothing to be proud about. These people are not superstars! Make it stop! Cheaters, murder, death and arson. Smh. Stop the struggle love!

  • @cocomo3141
    @cocomo3141 4 ปีที่แล้ว +225

    Do people go to counseling before marriage cause we need to make that the norm.😒

    • @amorerobinson4140
      @amorerobinson4140 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      A lot of catholic and Christian couples go to counseling before getting married. But unfortunately no one is ever TRULY ready for marriage.

    • @kay22100
      @kay22100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yep my husband and I did pre-engagement and premarital counseling. Extremely beneficial. It matters who you do it with as well. We did our counseling with couples in the church who had been married a while. One couple about 30 years and they other almost 50 years

    • @lsucollegelife
      @lsucollegelife 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I peep that flag🤗🇧🇸

    • @artoriacunningham9246
      @artoriacunningham9246 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      They should and some churches or pastors require it.

    • @cocomo3141
      @cocomo3141 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@lsucollegelife ayyyyyyyy🇧🇸🇧🇸🇧🇸🇧🇸

  • @pammyb6136
    @pammyb6136 4 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    Yhoo guys!! Normalise going to therapy, healing, helping your own self BEFORE going into a relationship. Cheating should not be something you get used to, can we start building healthy relationships?!!!

    • @Spokentruths725
      @Spokentruths725 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      No one wants to do the self work just get into a relationship so they aren’t alone.

  • @thatobaloyi6194
    @thatobaloyi6194 4 ปีที่แล้ว +189

    Lmao "My mom died so I'm gonna be so toxic,disrespectful and cheat on my my wife"

    • @abawitx
      @abawitx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      exactly lol. What a joke. the pain wives go through smh.

  • @RC-iq2hh
    @RC-iq2hh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +199

    Why do these black love shows keep popping up and the common theme is the man keeps cheating and the woman stays ,
    Then 10-20 years later they worked it out? Can we see some where the men don’t cheat otherwise I’ll pass.

    • @obimalope8154
      @obimalope8154 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Eish 😥

    • @ineedhoez
      @ineedhoez 4 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      Exactly. I'm tired of being told to expect struggle love. This is nothing but narcissism and Codependency

    • @kryptonyte9260
      @kryptonyte9260 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      YESSS!! I think people are already aware that marriage/relationships are "hard." Cheating and struggle relationships are already rampant in the community. So, people actually need GOOD examples to aspire to.

    • @polkadotteandglitterspots5367
      @polkadotteandglitterspots5367 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      Thank you for saying it! One more time for the people in the back! Cheating is serious! Especially if you watch your best friend die of brain lesions caused by Aids because her husband liked hookers. Church people too. They always want to talk about God being the reason they stay. I’m pretty sure God didn’t want your spouse tippin out in the first place. These conversations keep some people in bondage because they think they’ve failed God because they don’t want to stay when in reality it is the cheating spouses failure.

    • @RC-iq2hh
      @RC-iq2hh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Polka Dotte And Glitter Spots right! Terrible ! That’s how I look at it , a cheating man could cost you your life and in our community it seems as if it’s the most normal thing to get over it. I don’t get it. And it’s usually happens to most loyal and “god fearing “ type of women too.

  • @Sirnicksalot813
    @Sirnicksalot813 4 ปีที่แล้ว +122

    So y'all were both trying to fill voids and had a toxic relationship of which a person lost her life due to infidelity? Wow...

  • @9jaization
    @9jaization 4 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    "he has had a lot of affairs" ...are we just gonna.... hell no

  • @KCelyce
    @KCelyce 4 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    No respect for this foolishness

  • @HIWWPI_2024
    @HIWWPI_2024 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I appreciate them even willing to get up here and share their story/testimony with the world. You never know what couples go through behind closed doors. I think every one is always so focused on thinking marriage is supposed to be perfect 24/7 365 days a year. It isn’t always rainbows and sunshine. Don’t judge this couple and further more be careful saying it could never be you because it honestly could be you one day.

  • @artoriacunningham9246
    @artoriacunningham9246 4 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    They are telling their story so others won't make the same mistakes....these comments 🙄 I don't get how some people feel they're promoting toxicity. This is their story and it's TRUE when you're broken, you attract broken. Heal yourself first.❤💯

  • @chronicles6065
    @chronicles6065 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    This is so damn toxic can they please stop portraying struggle love relationships as normal because this nonsense is not Ok!! and I do not want black women thinking this is what you have to deal with in order to have a man. No!!!! Ladies always remember "You should never have to suffer in order to receive love" If a man disrespects you or harm you leave they ass immediately and find someone else. You can do bad all by yourself.

  • @nottoday4656
    @nottoday4656 4 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    You know this is real life. A lot of married couples cheat on each other, damage other people and then get back together like nothing ever happened. IDK what to think about marriage. I NEVER want to get married and go through infidelity. I hope my man has done whatever he needed to before he even meets me. PERIOD!!!!!

    • @lilouliving
      @lilouliving 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's unrealistic

    • @lilouliving
      @lilouliving 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Chanel Wafuana theres infidelity in EVERY relationship. You don't know what your partner is doing when they're not with you. No relationship is perfect. Sorry but the Cinderella story doesn't exist in real life.

    • @PHE-nomenon
      @PHE-nomenon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@lilouliving NO. infidelity is NOT present in every relationship. Some people don't cheat at all.

    • @lilouliving
      @lilouliving 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@PHE-nomenon yeah okay if you say so

    • @lilouliving
      @lilouliving 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Bari Vule no but you did

  • @livelife5947
    @livelife5947 4 ปีที่แล้ว +125

    That man is demonic, if this is black love I don’t want it.

    • @nobodyimportant4092
      @nobodyimportant4092 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      exactly

    • @PharmacyTechLessons
      @PharmacyTechLessons 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      🤦‍♀️ smh they got it right….. that’s the beauty in it. LISTEN and LEARN instead of digging up evil that he did in his past. He is beyond it and sharing is mishaps with others to help them. If you can’t benefit from it then keep it to yourself and allow others to get help.

  • @615BlackBarbie
    @615BlackBarbie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    "Broken meets Broken" then, you have broken this, that and the other. That's a word sis. I thank them for their honesty. I take age and family background into consideration. I heard growth and *God* . They'll be blessed

  • @six6goddess214
    @six6goddess214 4 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    The men do it because they know we won't leave. See that big beautiful house? She can't afford that on her own plus when your over 40 or 50 it will be harder to find a mate. 50 old men WILL always find another desperate woman. There's lots of them

  • @stephaniemiller5165
    @stephaniemiller5165 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    I feel as adults me and my husband sat down and was 100% honest with each other. How he felt how I felt. And we with the help of God we made it through and are happy 17 years in.

  • @MsChinaMo
    @MsChinaMo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    Toxic marriage. She should have left you. This type of mess is not good. It’s tragic. I reject this...

    • @sesayida
      @sesayida 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think he cheated too

    • @biv1174
      @biv1174 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That why u still single

    • @nobodyimportant4092
      @nobodyimportant4092 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      something wrong with them

    • @tatianadaniel3569
      @tatianadaniel3569 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@biv1174Because she doesn't want to be cheated on?

  • @millyfee3529
    @millyfee3529 4 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    Lmao This goofy ish. Bw please leave once the loyalty is shown to be false. We are free !!

  • @ineedhoez
    @ineedhoez 4 ปีที่แล้ว +145

    Black love and infidelity in the same sentence? Can you block and delete a whole channel?

    • @polkadotteandglitterspots5367
      @polkadotteandglitterspots5367 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      Thank you. This mess is what keeps people in bondage. This is nothing to look up to.

    • @RC-iq2hh
      @RC-iq2hh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      This is why I don’t watch any of it, it’s literally all the same

    • @AngelasTravelAdventures
      @AngelasTravelAdventures 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Did you listen to their story? Marriages are not perfect you go through stuff.

    • @RC-iq2hh
      @RC-iq2hh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Angela's Travel Adventures yeah but why does it always have to be a ton of cheating as the stuff they are went through . Cheating can affect peoples lives and it’s usually women disproportionately being affected. No thanks!

    • @f.-j.j.5738
      @f.-j.j.5738 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@AngelasTravelAdventures Yes, you go through stuff. You get sick, or lose loved ones. You lose jobs. You get in accidents, kids get sick or have behavior issues. You lose patience and can argue. Those are the things you go through in a marriage and should overcome. Cheating is a straight up deal breaker no one should ever tolerate.

  • @Gullah_Geechee_Tarot
    @Gullah_Geechee_Tarot 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I'm myself dealt with infidelity in my 13yr marriage (currently going through a divorce) during my self healing I realized that we were 2 broken people. I tried to swept my hurt under the rug & my ex acted his out (I'm an introvert he's a extrovert). I didnt realize but I was trying to be everything for him while giving myself nothing. He's a marine so catering to him and his career I got didnt recognize myself I had no identity. Once I started working the infedility continued it became a norm. But we all have that breaking point and it was then that I realized I couldnt continue down this path & grow. I took 2yrs to dig in that nasty suppressed pit, acknowledge my pain, validate it, heal (from marriage & childhood traumas), forgive and release. Though this is a transition (I've been with him since I was 16 am now 33) I know that I will be just fine. I have since met a beautiful being. And the difference now, is that the bag lady I use to be is no longer weighing me down. I wish healing and immense blessings to you all!!!

  • @TheZogie
    @TheZogie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I think it's so important to hear/ see these stories. Marriage is not easy, we need guidance and support and when you don't have what you need within your circle its okay to look for what you need from professionals.

  • @DowntownMeganBrown
    @DowntownMeganBrown 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Toxic culture will say YOURE wrong for being upset/judge mental with this mess. Demand better!!!

    • @queline213
      @queline213 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I don't think this couple is saying that it's okay to go through a toxic relationship. They made it known how it destroyed their lives. They are speaking on healing and growth. There are a lot of toxic couples out there that don't know how to turn things around for the better. This relationship gives someone hope if both parties in the relationship are willing to work through it. But no one should allow anyone to mistreat them. That's not the message that is being given. If the rest of us were perfect, then we wouldn't need a Savior.

  • @ShawneeETV
    @ShawneeETV 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    As a certified faith based clinical therapist, I hope to see more couples like this. Usually, the couples I have met can't get passed the idea that the infidelity is a symptom of a much deeper issue and those who do get that are fearful to go that deep. As counselor of any kind, it's our job to provide that safe space for revelation and healing to take place; a safe place for people to fall apart and to rebuild themselves.

    • @biancawilliams748
      @biancawilliams748 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Finally. I agree. I'd have left em but kudos for getting passed the drama

    • @Wewereneveryoung
      @Wewereneveryoung 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You want to see MORE couples like this??!

  • @RAPierce
    @RAPierce 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    We focus on quantity instead of quality of relationships in our culture. I would rather have five amazing years of a great marriage than to emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually, etc suffer for DECADES just to say "We've been together for 35+ years". If you're never happy and having to force/fake it for so long, it changes who you are as a person. Glad they are able to help others through this, but...🥴

    • @Msladyrae92
      @Msladyrae92 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      She could have divorced him 30 years ago and had a great marriage with someone else . 32 years of struggle love. Murders and heartbreak

  • @johannaingabire1122
    @johannaingabire1122 4 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    All these comments out here are petty and negative. People saying she should have left, this is a toxic marriage, this is messed up, but y'all have never stepped one foot into their shoes or their lives, so don't judge people unless you have been where they have been. To me this is a success story of true human life. This is what a lot of people go through, but never share in the public. This couple went through hell and came out of it alive. And they are giving God the Glory cause only God could take them out of that. So please be quick to understand and slow to judge! Not just on here but with your loved ones too! I bet you there is someone out there thanking God that they heard this testimony because they want to fight for their marriage instead of walking away like most people would!! Remember this, hurt people, hurt people! It doesn't make it right, but it makes it real! Get out of here with these negative comments man! Just saying, no one needs to respond lol!

    • @allin3940
      @allin3940 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I think everyone is of the mindset that you should work on and fix yourself before getting married. He did not and cheated on her multiple times during their marriage wasting years of both their lives. She then turns around and cheats on him after over 10 years of marriage. And they didn’t mention it here but if there were children involved, how effected were they? Because I guarantee you they were. I’ve seen the effects it has on children in my own family. And sleeping with multiple people while married puts you at risk for std’s and outside children. Nothing healthy about that. Even though they are saying it’s a ministry now, the fact of the matter is you should not purposely go into marriage with that much toxicity and that is why they are saying the marriage was/is toxic. Sounds sad and miserable when they could’ve put in the work beforehand and not wasted years with multiple people in and out their beds and business.

    • @godgift2earth
      @godgift2earth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Ummmmmm. How the hell being put at gun point with your own gun and you mistress get murdered right in front of you and your wife house get burned down not toxic?

  • @tamiliapatton563
    @tamiliapatton563 4 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    Happy they worked it out. Who am I to judge... Continue to be Blessed!

    • @equallyyoked1
      @equallyyoked1 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      WELL SAID...AMEN!!!

    • @KayDejaVu
      @KayDejaVu 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Its sad she stayed. Yes we can judge stupid behavior. 10 years to heal, a murder, a fire...girl please. . Only bw love this BS. Anything for a man right?

    • @lilouliving
      @lilouliving 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Elyse George they put up with bullshit they just dont tell you

    • @KhaosDancer
      @KhaosDancer 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lilouliving because they have enough sense to not air dirty laundry until divorce court

    • @faithandfavor7418
      @faithandfavor7418 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Amen

  • @jeanettebrown2414
    @jeanettebrown2414 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Love conquers all...God’s love is is untouchable...and when we don’t draw near to God...we’re left up to our own devices...which is not good...I’m glad y’all got Him..:and I’m glad that y’all made it 😇

  • @jazz7654
    @jazz7654 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Many obviously have not watched this channel. There is more than just cheating being discussed. It actually is very informative. You learn a lot if you're open to actually learning.

  • @SM-rj1zu
    @SM-rj1zu 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    at 1:17 when he puts the blame for his behavior on his friends SMH

  • @refiloendlovu6518
    @refiloendlovu6518 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I’m so shocked. Why would they put them on the same stage as Tamia and Grant. 🤢 Not the same lane

  • @MsEllee
    @MsEllee 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I get why everybody in the comments is feeling the way they are. Cheating is wrong and it’s very unfortunate that someone lost their life. I can’t judge their marriage because God knows I made mistakes of my own but I have learned that faithfulness whether to God or to another person is not the absence of mistakes but is the ability and determination to persevere through the mistakes and keep fighting for what matters most.

    • @whoaskedforthisbs
      @whoaskedforthisbs 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Tell that to the woman who was murdered behind their bullshit.

  • @bplatonova
    @bplatonova 4 ปีที่แล้ว +126

    You cheat, I'm done

    • @stacyjd2759
      @stacyjd2759 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      You may end up being "done" alot in your lifetime! 🤣🤣

    • @bplatonova
      @bplatonova 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@stacyjd2759 or you cheat, I cheat.. I can have an entanglement.lol

    • @mssweets6119
      @mssweets6119 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      On God mane

    • @n.b.0212
      @n.b.0212 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Okay! I told my husband early on cheating and beating is a deal breaker. Celebrated 30 years in July. We've never and still don't have these issues!

    • @bplatonova
      @bplatonova 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @Jason u kidding?

  • @SophiaGoodThings
    @SophiaGoodThings 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    So he's promiscuous in the marriage and she's ok with it. None of this is love. They are committed to staying together no matter what. That's not love.
    They have millions of excuses for why he was constantly unfaithful. She feels triumphant for staying in an unhealthy, abusive, unsafe public/community marriage.
    Y'all?!

  • @KayDejaVu
    @KayDejaVu 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    This is more than just infdelity. That first couple had too much going on. Nothing for us to learn from. Avoid these men at all costs.

  • @4bfam
    @4bfam 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    So glad they were able to get counseling and work through it. Also happy to hear him say what he did about people telling people God took their loved one. That shouldn't be a go to statement to tell people.

  • @jasmines.9918
    @jasmines.9918 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    YOUR COMMITMENT AND COURAGE ARE BEAUTIFUL. Yes I am shouting because your honesty and love are worthy of celebration. Thank you for modeling marriage.

  • @opennant
    @opennant 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This story should make people think before they cheat . Don't play with people heart it can cost u ur life

  • @goodgirlvicki
    @goodgirlvicki 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Struggle love at its best!

  • @lifewithnicks4904
    @lifewithnicks4904 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I appreciate this couple for being honest, transparent and open. Marriage is HELLA messy. It’s so easy to say “they’re toxic” when your on the outside looking in. Obviously, adultery isn’t to be condoned or taken in an lackadaisical manner. And YES, they rightfully could have chosen to quit! ( Tbh, I would’ve left🥴) But this is THEIR story, so who are we to throw stones? 😒
    They DECIDED to make the decision to reconcile, change, and NOT stay in malfunction. And now they are using their story to help other couples struggling. 🙌🏾
    I applaud this couple for CHOOSING to fight for their marriage. 🥺🥺🥺 “Love conquers all.” 💕

  • @kimaparks2592
    @kimaparks2592 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    👀. I dont know what to make of this. If this couple is ok with blaming it on spiritual attacks and absolving full responsibility then who are us... but this is wow 👀. I don’t feel empowered after watching this. I don’t see them as a success story. I see trauma bonding won out over self preservation and common sense.

    • @goldblack3910
      @goldblack3910 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      True

    • @BigReddSouthernGal25
      @BigReddSouthernGal25 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      This is not love and nothing to aspire to whatsoever.

    • @ErinMBlack
      @ErinMBlack 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I agree that cheating at any level is wrong, but they made a commitment to one another. Despite the bad, they continued to follow that original commitment. Now, yes it was broken along the way, but they seem to have repaired it. The beauty in this conversation is that they have grown through it enough to share their testimony with others and prevent some of the heart break they endured. That’s the bigger picture that most people are missing.

  • @teecharee6069
    @teecharee6069 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's great to see a couple overcome toxicity and infidelity through the grace of God. This cam help alot of people if they can understand the message

  • @southernbell106
    @southernbell106 4 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    People can be so judgemental. The purpose of their marriage testimony is to share how they made it through THEIR storm. Y'all need to stop it in these comments

    • @tracyoneal7857
      @tracyoneal7857 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Facts!!

    • @adannamats294
      @adannamats294 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      no❤️

    • @MsDeongi
      @MsDeongi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Girl Boo

    • @mahoganysqueeze
      @mahoganysqueeze 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Had anyone read the actual news story about this? The death is considered suspicious because he said he was set up by her but she is the one who died. Furthermore, there are plenty of struggles in relationships that have nothing to do with serial infidelity, arson and murder and it is not inspiring that she stayed with a man whose actions caused this type of trauma. 🙄

    • @biv1174
      @biv1174 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Fact

  • @qamarmood1157
    @qamarmood1157 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    It’s crazy how we make bad decisions and mistakes in life and yet some people feel as if marriage will be isolated from these things ... people are unrealistic IMO .. no need to judge them learn from them

    • @tatianadaniel3569
      @tatianadaniel3569 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      would you stay if your wife cheated on you for 2 years?

  • @GoIggles92
    @GoIggles92 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I don't know these two personally but I get the sneaky suspicion that had the tables been reversed and had SHE had "a lot of affairs" and had SHE been living in the same house as the person she cheated with, they probably wouldn't even be anywhere near cuddled up on anybody's couch talking about a success story. But hey. What do i know? 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @PharmacyTechLessons
      @PharmacyTechLessons 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Smh that’s a negative assumption that probably doesn’t come from a HELPFUL place like their testimony did…

    • @tatianadaniel3569
      @tatianadaniel3569 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@PharmacyTechLessonsMost men make it very clear that they won't take a woman back even if she cheats ONCE...EVEN if they (the men) cheated first and/or multiple times prior to.

  • @leilou19
    @leilou19 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    They are too broken to get with anyone else. No one else would put up with the BS.

  • @valsly6676
    @valsly6676 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    That struggle love shit.... Black men expect black women to deal with this shit.

  • @ErickaWilliamsCC
    @ErickaWilliamsCC 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Hot mess. Our mess. Stoppppp

  • @kimangrum2576
    @kimangrum2576 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for sharing and keeping it real.. We need to hear it...💯❤

  • @PHE-nomenon
    @PHE-nomenon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The counselor was right. She should have left. They should never have gotten married. Both were broken people and should've healed before getting married.

  • @kay22100
    @kay22100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    It's so funny to me. Unbelievers call the church judgemental but will get on here and judge this couple because they decided to work it out lol . This is why ppl are afraid to be transparent

  • @rrrj7816
    @rrrj7816 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Yep, judge this hot mess all day and every day. He still don’t get it after all of that grief and trying to tell people not to judge.

  • @gigggiii
    @gigggiii 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I was reluctant to get married because of how my parents were but now I've made up my mind.

    • @mayaross9607
      @mayaross9607 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      So whatcha choose... curious minds wanna know 😊

    • @gigggiii
      @gigggiii 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@mayaross9607 no marriage. I'm good

    • @MsDeongi
      @MsDeongi 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      😅💯

  • @alwaysaccurate8725
    @alwaysaccurate8725 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Wow awesome insight from the husband!! Its all about growth💯💯💯

  • @MsDeongi
    @MsDeongi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    He had to reach for her..... she’s not healed from his bs.

  • @franslinem
    @franslinem 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    People are people, this is real life and people fuck up, they made it through and learned from their mistakes and NOW ARE HELP OTHER!

  • @rwaller2106
    @rwaller2106 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Blessings to all… Really grateful for being able to witness this couple’s story, here, and in-person. There are many comments on what should have been done before they got married… I AM gently offering the following: Work is an on-going, ever evolving process. While it is possible to “work on oneself before marriage,” doing so is only to a certain extent. None of us is perfect; therefore, regardless of “the work we do, or THINK we’re doing on ourselves,” we will have flaws. Marriage and other situations sometimes reveals “stuff” we weren’t aware of “while we were doing the work before we got married.” Also, after marriage, we have to (then) “be committed to working on US, while we’re still working on ourselves individually.” Again, work is an on-going, ever-evolving process. May we embrace it openly, learn to discern God in the process, and be grateful for the growth and joy that is possible for each of us. Continued peace and blessings 🙏🏾💞

  • @titibairfield
    @titibairfield 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My husband came with love and been nothing but love we talked about divorce one time because of my smoking but that was one day and I'm trying to stop smoking its hard but I'm trying

  • @diamondz4lfye313
    @diamondz4lfye313 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Fuck going through smh I would’ve had to leave. This is just too much to put someone through, too much for someone to go through 😔say no to struggle love.

  • @ErinMBlack
    @ErinMBlack 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Y’all are missing the point. It’s easy for us to judge them on the outside looking because we’re not in the thick of everything. However, they both made bad choices and have worked to correct those issues. Both sides have taken responsibility. We don’t have to glorify their infidelity, but let’s celebrate their testimony and how they are using it to help others. Of course their reality isn’t the most ideal, but look at the bigger picture. Who are we to judge them? We have accepted and done things that we shouldn’t have in relationships. Check yourself too!

  • @queeny8510
    @queeny8510 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Whew gosh these comments 🙄 judgemental and critical like yall have never been in relationships that had infidelity and toxic traits...at least they've owned it and healing from it... we've all tolerated and overlooked things in relationships.... yall need to realize things like this happen, hopefully yall never have to eat your own words.... throwing stones smh this is why people don't open up

  • @christaarmstead1989
    @christaarmstead1989 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Man lord knows I needed to hear this so much I've been dealing with alot with a break up and I keep goin back to when we both entertained others how dangerous it was to the relationship also he was my first real boyfriend and I can honestly say I didnt have a clue how to be with a man so everything he did to me i made sure I did it to him didnt solve anything but lesson learned

  • @LimaB30
    @LimaB30 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for sharing these with us, grateful

  • @whoaskedforthisbs
    @whoaskedforthisbs 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    "My grandparents have been married 76 years, this is why y'all women can't keep a man" .
    The Grandparents:

  • @tatadoubleds
    @tatadoubleds 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Y’all crazy for listening to these fools. This is toxic.

  • @divinelyblessedkb
    @divinelyblessedkb 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Great testimony!!! Blessings to ALL of the beautiful couples up there!!! New subbie here!

  • @candlecane
    @candlecane 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    1:18 Really, dude? So it's on your friends to tell you that you're a married man? WOW! No wonder his wife looks like a miserable corpse. Smh.
    ETA 9:46 Spiritual attack? 😂😂 I can't. I'm out. Smdh!

  • @ceeg4086
    @ceeg4086 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I’m glad it worked out, I just hate that it’s always the double standard and the women being in that position of hurt. Society does not equal the standard!

  • @rourinishein
    @rourinishein 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Is she ok? She's breathing too heavily on that seat.

  • @shantenorwood3505
    @shantenorwood3505 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I honestly think that before you get married you should have all that out your system before you truly commit to a person. Once you take them vows you have to take them seriously . You’re not just committing to your partner but also to God too.

  • @islandgirl8914
    @islandgirl8914 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    ♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️thank you for sharing your story.

  • @saundracohen4032
    @saundracohen4032 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Soooo she's bothered that a therapist asked what her plan b was?

    • @Msladyrae92
      @Msladyrae92 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Proves that they didn’t want a counselor they wanted someone to just agree with them. There’s nothing wrong with laying out your options.

  • @Lafilledlapluie
    @Lafilledlapluie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I don't even know what to say

  • @write2ap
    @write2ap 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Reading these comments I can see why so many people are miserable and single. "Brokenness" or whatever you want to call it is real in our community. We are not taught how to be husbands or wives. We are not taught how to recover from our mistakes or that we can recover. Most of all, we are not taught forgiveness.
    This couple worked through their problems. Sure they could have gotten a divorce and become another statistic but they decided to work on themselves and their marriage. Now they are counseling other couples. 32 years and after everything, you can still see their love and commitment to each other. Beautiful!😍

  • @MsHappy-xz2px
    @MsHappy-xz2px 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Turning your Mess into a Ministry!!!

    • @JamesCM86
      @JamesCM86 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      janelle henderson LOL 😂😂😂😂

  • @LimaB30
    @LimaB30 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love these short clips

  • @jackiealicea2268
    @jackiealicea2268 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Todd and Alicia I love you guys Can you guys please make a TH-cam or something y’all need your own show you guys would blow up I can’t get enough of u guys I watch this Over and over along with the other few clips

  • @minielaurent3285
    @minielaurent3285 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow awesome video… I pray that God will make their marriage wholesome.

  • @biancawilliams748
    @biancawilliams748 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    For better or Worse are the vows they took. Not justifying it at ALL but they honored it.

  • @MsDeongi
    @MsDeongi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Omg..... nobody worth going thru all that behind Damn 🙄🙏

  • @TheDivineOne187
    @TheDivineOne187 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Question? Why are all the women light skin?

    • @abawitx
      @abawitx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      finally, someone said it. This channel is fugazi af.

    • @nompumelelomdluli4730
      @nompumelelomdluli4730 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thats the struggle love trademark

  • @Godsbeau-t
    @Godsbeau-t 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel like sometime some people misunderstand God reasons just to make sense to there situations. I'm not saying things couldn't get better after the infidently and everyone has their own breaking point, but you don't have deal with infidently either..... it's a choice that you make. Once it happen you have every right to leave and be remarried (in biblical sense) now there story can probably help those who choose to stay after infidently has enter into their marriage.... but you also can leave with no regrets as well, you don't have deal with it.

    • @Msladyrae92
      @Msladyrae92 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Exactly. She was offended that the counselor asked her what she wanted to do as a plan b. There’s nothing wrong with running down your options. No therapist is going to
      Suggest divorce they are going to help you to see all the options when you’re unhappy in a situation. Changing counselors so many times is a red flag, they were looking for someone that was going to tell them
      What they wanted to hear as opposed to what they needed to hear .

  • @renonyabuti7292
    @renonyabuti7292 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    WowZer 🤩 how God can turn what the enemy meant for evil to good so that others might be blessed and glorified

  • @Msladyrae92
    @Msladyrae92 ปีที่แล้ว

    10:01 what’s wrong with that ? As a human you should have options instead of putting yourself through turmoil.

  • @Notyourjaye
    @Notyourjaye 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    They killed his mistress is what Twitter is saying

  • @Angelinoah8
    @Angelinoah8 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I failed to see the exemple and inspiration in this couple...this is a travesty and toxicity at its best. NOT (black) love 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @Msladyrae92
      @Msladyrae92 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m appalled that they mentor other married couples . I’d rather them get ahead of the infidelity and find out when
      Ppl turn to
      Cheating in the first place instead of just finding ways to pick up
      The pieces afterwards

  • @lstarsabb
    @lstarsabb 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yes people can grow from cheating, but trust is broken. Instead of working on your issues you chose to step out of your marriage. That's the issues a lot of people have. I don't think it right to judge people that choose to move past it, but he needs to stop acting like they didn't choose the easy way out first.

  • @sweetierobinson5321
    @sweetierobinson5321 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    All that are married hit like. I’m curious to know how many that are married are in the comments.

  • @dovetales3
    @dovetales3 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    WHOA! Alicia & Todd may be the strongest people on the planet! "for though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again, but the wicked stumble when calamity strikes." Prov 24:16 GOD BLESS THEM WITH CONTINUED SUCCESS!!!!

    • @stacyjd2759
      @stacyjd2759 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      They are strong indeed but cheating occurs in more marrigaes than society is willing to admit.....sad but true.

    • @dovetales3
      @dovetales3 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ap8009 oh wow!

  • @latisewilson4561
    @latisewilson4561 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    So glad to hear that the woman cheated ... these no good men

    • @clarkclarke
      @clarkclarke 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      They are still together ...woo woo!!!

    • @lovingme1st973
      @lovingme1st973 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂😂😂😂

  • @naimahx
    @naimahx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am not sure I could deal with being cheated on smh

  • @jmeiahburke5388
    @jmeiahburke5388 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    All these negative comments. It really is tragic that someone lost their life but don’t you guys know that God is a redeemer. ❤️ Don’t forget to remember what God did for David when he developed relations with Bathsheba.

  • @DowntownMeganBrown
    @DowntownMeganBrown 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    A man needs to disrespect me ONE time for me to 💨💨💨💨 Say something offbeat to me? 💨💨💨💨💨 you play me, you play yourself

    • @TheLunzDen
      @TheLunzDen 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ya say this but be disrespectful with no remorse

    • @nobodyimportant4092
      @nobodyimportant4092 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@TheLunzDen you making assumptions you seem hurt

    • @tatianadaniel3569
      @tatianadaniel3569 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​​@@TheLunzDenbro what? Were you in a relationship with that woman?

  • @TheLovelyTraveler
    @TheLovelyTraveler 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is the biggest crock of toxic bullshit I have ever seen. Your therapist isn't wrong just because they tell you things you don't want to accept. They should have divorced 25 years ago. Their poor kids.
    These people are not any kind of goals. #EndStruggleLove

  • @kirane8986
    @kirane8986 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Inspirational and beautiful couple.

  • @Msladyrae92
    @Msladyrae92 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    For everyone in the comments thinking that their story is a story of triumph. Please do your research. In addition to your research, ask yourself how did he call the cops if his hands were nailed to the wooden board ? 🤔

  • @leggs4113
    @leggs4113 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    A lot of us want to walk away when infidelity is involved and that’s ok. It was so nice to see a couple survive it. Many times we say leave him/her because there is no change, acceptance and willingness to make to work. These two put in the WORK and that’s why it’s work-ING.

    • @FaithandNova
      @FaithandNova 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Sorry but murder was also involved. There isnt enough therapy that would make me stay

    • @karenkirkwood4457
      @karenkirkwood4457 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you! Folks just going to conveniently skip over the killing of two people. Infidelity you can come back from, but a murder/death, not so much. Peace ✌🏾 out.

    • @cian2898
      @cian2898 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      And that’s the commitment that people say they’re looking for but not willing to accept that this is what comes along with it

    • @Nellyouattara
      @Nellyouattara 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That’s great, but how about we start doing right from the beginning till end so that there is no need for all the extra work. Just be right and do right by your partner.

  • @LG-kx8xl
    @LG-kx8xl 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Praise God that you didn't give up. People think its auto. over due to infidelity but its not God's plan IF the couple is willing to repent, work through it. God is glorified & the devil is shamed if healing, forgiveness & change can come to restore the marriage.

    • @tubailey2459
      @tubailey2459 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Only the cheater needs to repent, but I agree with the rest. People always ready to quit on marriage, but will stay in a negative work situation for years. Life isn’t always easy. Fight for what you want

    • @kbain04
      @kbain04 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      V.B Toxic af. Like you talking about infidelity doesn’t mean your marriage is over, no when 2 people died your marriage should have been over. Crazy.

    • @aprt23
      @aprt23 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      2 ppl died as a result of their infidelities. This shit is toxic.