Hi 😊 I’m 35 and things have come to a head in terms of the amount of worrying I do about what people think of me. I’ve done this basically my whole life, it’s obviously very common. Anyway, I’m glad I just found your channel. I really needed to hear your wise words. I do not want to spend any more of my precious life worrying about all these things. Totally pointless. Thank you. Have subscribed. Have a lovely day ☀️ From cold wintry New Zealand 🇳🇿
I wasted too much time on all of these things too. I’ll be 65 this month and it took me until I was in my 50’s to stop caring what other people thought. Such a waste of time.
I’m 59 yrs old and don’t care anymore what people think of me, I certainly did when I was younger and wasted so much time and energy into it. I recently ended a very long term friendship because I was always the one reaching out, I realized she was just a very selfish person and got sick of it. I had to go to a therapist about it because it was a very difficult decision, but the right one for me. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I am also a very boring person but that’s the way I want to live my life. My husband and children and friends love me just the way I am 😊
I agree it can be hard to end friendships even though we know it's the right decision. I'm glad you've been able to let go of what other people think ☺️
Another great video, thanks! I prefer to use the word 'content' to 'boring'. There's a lot to be said for contentment - it's countercultural, it's not always easy, but it's a good place to be.
Yep! Pretty much all of these…in my 40’s and everything has changed. I really do brush it off now and am way more philosophical about everything. The best one was deciding not to have children and boy does everyone think they can comment on this! 😂
I think my inner imposter will always be hanging around to some degree. I think it's more about how we manage it, because we can set ourselves up for disappointment if we feel we have to totally get rid of it.
Thanks for this video. It is so good to see other people with similar experiences and mindsets and to perhaps encourage others to embrace simplicity and their own authentic self worth. I'm in my mid sixties and like many others in the comment, I stopped worrying so much about what people think sometime in my 50's. Perhaps by this time we have gained a certain level of knowledge about our own tastes and traits and have achievements of worth. I have worked hard at letting go of the need to fit in and follow the crowd. One thing I have struggled with though is that the simple life I lead seems boring to some friends and family members, and it is often difficult to be involved in their conversations. The love of my family and a few like-minded friends is really enriching and fulfilling in ways that fitting in with the crowd never was.
Yes, some people in my life can't understand why I prefer quiet time in the countryside as opposed to going out in a big city. The way I think about it is that we're all different. People don't have to understand my preferences in order to make them valid. They can have their opinions and criticisms but I know what makes me happy 😊
What is boring anyway? What is boring to one person, would be so interesting to another. I have always been afraid to stand up for myself, and speak my mind, as I am a people pleaser, and do not want to upset the apple cart as they say. But this means I have been walked over by others, and this is still happening to me, I seem unable to put my point across because I am scared of making things worse. xxx
Exactly - boring is subjective ☺ It can be difficult to put boundaries in place when we're used to pleasing others. I found that I had to do it a bit at a time to start making changes.
I found this list quite interesting:especially things we may do when we aren’t true to ourselves. When my kids were young , and during growing up, I felt such immense peer pressure (other parents and my own dumb insecurities) to be just like them: look like them, have as much money, do the same trendy things. It was so tedious and eventually unbearable and I ditched them all. And I gave up trying to keep up. I just couldn’t live up to those “ideals.” Now I laugh at how inept I was! and at last saw sense. Being true to oneself is just more honest and healthy.🩷🐇
If you want to find out about the benefits of living a 'boring' life, watch this video th-cam.com/video/QxdJsImeMfk/w-d-xo.html
I saw it, completely describes me
Hi 😊 I’m 35 and things have come to a head in terms of the amount of worrying I do about what people think of me. I’ve done this basically my whole life, it’s obviously very common. Anyway, I’m glad I just found your channel. I really needed to hear your wise words. I do not want to spend any more of my precious life worrying about all these things. Totally pointless.
Thank you. Have subscribed. Have a lovely day ☀️ From cold wintry New Zealand 🇳🇿
Welcome! I'm so glad the video was helpful. Greetings to you from a wet and cold (even though it should be warmer!) UK ☺
I wasted too much time on all of these things too. I’ll be 65 this month and it took me until I was in my 50’s to stop caring what other people thought. Such a waste of time.
It is...and so draining too ❤️
I’m 59 yrs old and don’t care anymore what people think of me, I certainly did when I was younger and wasted so much time and energy into it. I recently ended a very long term friendship because I was always the one reaching out, I realized she was just a very selfish person and got sick of it. I had to go to a therapist about it because it was a very difficult decision, but the right one for me. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I am also a very boring person but that’s the way I want to live my life. My husband and children and friends love me just the way I am 😊
I agree it can be hard to end friendships even though we know it's the right decision. I'm glad you've been able to let go of what other people think ☺️
Another great video, thanks! I prefer to use the word 'content' to 'boring'. There's a lot to be said for contentment - it's countercultural, it's not always easy, but it's a good place to be.
Yes, content is more appropriate ☺️
Yep! Pretty much all of these…in my 40’s and everything has changed. I really do brush it off now and am way more philosophical about everything. The best one was deciding not to have children and boy does everyone think they can comment on this! 😂
Same for me, and people like to make their feelings known! 😂
I agree will all of these points. I think I am still working on a few. But most of them I started letting go of in my early 40’s (55 now)
I think I’m having the hardest time letting go of #4
Yes, I think a lot of these things are a work in progress 😊
I think my inner imposter will always be hanging around to some degree. I think it's more about how we manage it, because we can set ourselves up for disappointment if we feel we have to totally get rid of it.
Thanks for this video. It is so good to see other people with similar experiences and mindsets and to perhaps encourage others to embrace simplicity and their own authentic self worth. I'm in my mid sixties and like many others in the comment, I stopped worrying so much about what people think sometime in my 50's. Perhaps by this time we have gained a certain level of knowledge about our own tastes and traits and have achievements of worth. I have worked hard at letting go of the need to fit in and follow the crowd. One thing I have struggled with though is that the simple life I lead seems boring to some friends and family members, and it is often difficult to be involved in their conversations. The love of my family and a few like-minded friends is really enriching and fulfilling in ways that fitting in with the crowd never was.
Yes, some people in my life can't understand why I prefer quiet time in the countryside as opposed to going out in a big city. The way I think about it is that we're all different. People don't have to understand my preferences in order to make them valid. They can have their opinions and criticisms but I know what makes me happy 😊
Thank you so much, this is just wonderful. I really needed reminding. ❤ Xxx
Thank you for watching ☺️
I clicked the like button as soon as I heard your first one, I work on that every single day and yes, I'm doing much, much better.
I'm glad to hear it ☺️
Really great video, thank you. Can relate to all those points! x
Thanks for watching ☺️
Really great life observations, thank you
Thanks for watching ☺️
What is boring anyway? What is boring to one person, would be so interesting to another. I have always been afraid to stand up for myself, and speak my mind, as I am a people pleaser, and do not want to upset the apple cart as they say. But this means I have been walked over by others, and this is still happening to me, I seem unable to put my point across because I am scared of making things worse. xxx
Exactly - boring is subjective ☺ It can be difficult to put boundaries in place when we're used to pleasing others. I found that I had to do it a bit at a time to start making changes.
Yep this sounds like me . I don't have much experience in dealing with conflict so I try to avoid it all together.
I found this list quite interesting:especially things we may do when we aren’t true to ourselves. When my kids were young , and during growing up, I felt such immense peer pressure (other parents and my own dumb insecurities) to be just like them: look like them, have as much money, do the same trendy things. It was so tedious and eventually unbearable and I ditched them all. And I gave up trying to keep up. I just couldn’t live up to those “ideals.” Now I laugh at how inept I was! and at last saw sense. Being true to oneself is just more honest and healthy.🩷🐇
I agree, it's tiring trying to be someone we're not ☺️