I was feeling like garbage after a 7 year relationship break up. Your videos crack me up with your old school simple comparisons that really makes sense. Thank you. You're like an Uncle with good advice.
Hello Suzanne, I am delighted that the videos have been helpful to you and bring clarity to you, ready to go out there and build your life and happiness to your life through efforts to accomplish yourself and make you proud of you for the way you handle life. :) We often have live talks on YouTUbe and we just had one for 3.5 hours today as well. The next one will be tomorrow around 12.30 Vancouver time zone. Find out the time difference between Vancouver and where you are tuning in from and join in and ask your questions and concerns if you still have any. Here below is some information about how to join in or book a Skype appointment should you need it to find your way and get back to your happy life. Be good to yourself always, Mehran How to join the live talks: You can join my live talks on Vancouver ( Pacific ) Time zone), Always on TH-cam channel: th-cam.com/users/MD007ish or On some days of the week ( Same Time Zone) on my Facebook page: This is how the post looks like for the Live Talk on Saturdays or Sundays which I will post it on my FB page: ( facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ ) a day or a few hours or minutes prior to the Live Talk: LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life. With Mehran D (Author) Unlock Your Mind & Move On! Usually on Friday, Saturday and Sunday 12.30 AM Vancouver time (Pacific), 3.30 PM (Atlantic), 1.30 after midnight (India), (but it could be earlier in the day), Right here on this link: th-cam.com/users/MD007ish www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com For Skype consultation: If you would like us to address the certain specific situation you might be faced with, then please visit my site www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com and click on the " Talk to me for consultation " button and see which one of the appointment options are suitable to your needs. I will receive the request through the system and will confirm one of the 3 time and date choices you may choose and will confirm it through e-mail or the Skype address of yours.
Hi Mehran, Last night, in my usual evening of crying I stumbled across your videos. I am a bit older than (much) than some of the people who comment on your videos. I left a year and a half relationship at the end of December and it was not just a relationship, but an emotionally abusive one. I have tried so many things to stop the horrible pain I've been experiencing, but listening to your calm voice and advice has brought a completely new perspective to my situation. Your analagies are wonderful. Although it was just a year and a half, at my age, I actually thought he was the one; I was never more wrong. This time, I picked a full blown narcissist. I keep remembering the fun (which were few and far between). I was devalued and discarded, which is the M.O. of Narcissists. There's fear involved too that I will never find anyone again. People in my age range are boring and most are very old looking. Anyway, I'm alone, found a great apartment that I love, am freelancing since my job was downsized (fear), living off of what I accumulated for retirement and miss my 2 cats I had to leave with him because my place is too small to keep them. A large amount of my things are still there and I haven't yet the funds to have them moved and stored somewhere. So many things are triggers that set me off. Sorry for rambling, but I want you to know that in just a few videos, you have made be start to think differently and I want to thank you for that. I sbscribed to your channel. Regards to you!
Teri Reagan Hi Teri, it is not the end of the world dear, we all have had shit in our lives, bad decisions, challenges, fears and all the rest of it, but life is not limited to any of the problems and it is big enough with all kinds of hopes and possibilities that catapults us far away from the problems when we realize the power life has to offer by the mere existence of possibilities and the fact that life has continued for far worst situations in life and history of man from millions of years ago and yet we are still continuing and our species is here and going forward, so compare to all the real problems, dangers and devastations human being has gone through and still got through it all and is here and going forward then what we are facing is definitely manageable and can do with out it and surely can go forward and build another and a better , far better situation and condition of life and surrounding for ourselves. So dear think of your abilities and possibilities rather than the temporary situation that you need to walk over and pass. I am certain that you can handle this specially at your wise and experienced time of your life. Please watch the following and see if they spark something enjoyable and worthwhile to ponder on. :)and you are welcomed to add me to your Skype and connect with me to chat about it. My Skype address is md.trading1 please let me know where you are watching my channel from and your name dear. th-cam.com/video/guMDhsmVNHA/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/DtKhD75769s/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/QtOhy5Y8uGU/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/fsijLzDK3tA/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/L_TGS96y8gA/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/K0tbb64mPko/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/RYEdB5jkRew/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/QAtTNWv1D2I/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/gTD0KMvMZ2c/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/b_X2mTygCIQ/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/8YQ96cxfL-g/w-d-xo.html On fear : th-cam.com/video/5vclmWpP39o/w-d-xo.html
Mehran Dadbeh . Hi...I Live in New Jersey, near Philadelphia USA, my Name is Teri. Thank you so much for your reply. I am certainly going to watch the videos tonight. Not having much of a social life at the moment, but like you said, I guess there are far worse things that could happen. Will definitely touch base on Skype! Teri
Sure , don't worry about social life as the best and most important is to be able to socialize with life and that includes you yourself , to know your consciousness and how to see life as it's actuality is, and what you like and connection with nature and am sure you know lots to be active in and love doing them. :)
I feel blessed to have met you and for your reply! I didn't think you would answer to me but as I can see you are very humble and the real deal! Thank you a million my friend and I hope I can get over the woman I have loved so much!
You can for sure get over this emotion. These emotions are result of thoughts you have about the image you have created in your mind about yourself being in a relationship with your ex. you are thinking that this image make you more than you are. These emotions are thoughts motivated and you are reacting to the emotions these thoughts create in you. These thoughts come from your memory, the memory of the good and pleasant and pleasurable moments, time and experiences you had with your ex but you need to allow the problems of the relationship to accompany the "lovey dovy" thoughts of the relationship you focus on to come to your focus ( at the same time )as well. However when you watch and understand the videos (Now you have over 900 videos) they will help you move out of these thinkings and understand why you think this way and by understanding it then you will not entertain thoughts as if they mean anything or if they have any power as they are just thoughts, thoughts about pleasure and we all like pleasure and then you miss the pleasure and emotions you had in that relationship and not "the girl" in a relationship that obviously was not working ( hence it is broken up and you guys are no longer together ). Once you understand thoughts can be in different content and carry different images than you perceive them to be then you will be on your way to move on further and enjoy every day free from missing what did not work! :) If you need to talk to me one on one then go to my site www.mindthatsekkstruth.com and make a Skype consultation appointment and we will explore it further. Live your life, don't let your thoughts decide and live your life for you!
Dear Mr. Dadbeh, I am in the same situation, but it ended after 9 years. I am almost 27, she was my first ever love. After 3 months now being alone and don't know how to continue my life, sometimes I have terrible thougths... I threw away all of my interests (sports, watching series, etc), I became a couch potato and eat a lof of junk. I am thinking about her every minute, seriously, and crying a lot.
1durant1 Com on dear , stop that , that is not becoming of you. We all have emotions and get sad and disappointed , lost girlfriends, cried .... but too much of it simply means we do not have any respect for life, nature, universe as we seem to think of life as something small and unworthy that one person or one relationship could describe the whole life ! :) so what, she does not want to be with you, soooo what, go on and find others who do want to be with you and stop this feeling sorry for yourself thing and get off your ass and treat yourself with respect . So may lovely and wonderful girls/ women in the world, you can get your act together and make something out of yourself and go find new friends and offer something valuable to them which is you and your ability to build a life for them and bring certainty and psychological security to them which is what they all are looking for and find yourself a wonderful girl and enjoy your life. So there is nothing else you should be thinking about. Unless you get off from the couch and stop eating the junk and take good care of yourself, you can not expect to get anything let alone a nice girlfriend. so the question is this, do you prefer to sit on the couch and eat junk and become unhealthy and get no where for sure, or get yourself worthy and build yourself and prepare yourself and your life for the girl who will be looking for you and hopefully you will be ready and not still on the couch as you will then never have a chance to meet her. :)
I also came out of a 4 year relationship a few months ago, this and many of your other videos have helped me immeasurably, thank you for making them and putting them out for free.
You are welcomed dear, make sure to visit my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and share it and the videos you like on your social media if you could so others will also get to know about my work :) Be good to yourself , Mehran
Thank you so much for saying this. My ex broke up with me after a 6 year live-in relationship, shed no tears & is already seeing someone else & has cut off contact w/ me. Meanwhile I'm crying daily & people keep telling me to just move on like it's that easy. I wish I didn't have these emotions it's like I'm the one who has to carry this heartbreak. I'm praying time will heal. Thank you for your insight.
nelless813 You are very welcomed dear. Keep your chin up you have lost nothing as it is better to see the length and strength of the commitment now than much later. So consider it your lucky day dear. :) Go to my face book page " Mind That Seeks Truth " and like it if you wish. I will announce on it when my books will come out too. All will be fine I am certain of it just keep busy with normal day to day things and associate with positive and active people. Find more and more good and suitable friends and then you will feel much much better. :) Please watch these as well and see if it makes things more clear for you : th-cam.com/video/QtOhy5Y8uGU/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/fsijLzDK3tA/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/L_TGS96y8gA/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/b_X2mTygCIQ/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/RYEdB5jkRew/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/guMDhsmVNHA/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/AexOYlUPrgc/w-d-xo.html
Got to the third video and it hit home. I became what he wanted me to be and then he complained that I changed. It was a no win situation and horrible. It's so true how you lose yourself in a relaitonship. Getting back is the hard part especially when you've lost so much more than the relationship. Long story...will have to tell you about it. Nights are the hardest, trying to get back to my normal sleep patterns is hard. Going to make some tea and try to crash. I'll watch the rest tomorrow. Thanks,Teri
Teri Reagan You are no worst than you were before this relationship and you were surviving, so ? nothing major has happened and you are intact back to yourself :) watch the "New order " video th-cam.com/video/QtOhy5Y8uGU/w-d-xo.html ) . It will make new sense :) good night dear. It will all be just fine and I assure you, you will be better than before when you find yourself again. :)
Dear Mehran Thank you for this video, I've been married 28 yrs and it has ended 4 months ago He is overseas working and living. I'm finding it really hard to come to terms with all of this What you say makes sense and I hope I will get stronger in time? I love to watch your videos, you are a very intelligent man and love your quirky way xx
Dear Lainie, Glad you find the videos helpful. We now have over 1300 videos on this channel and I am certain"CERTAIN" that by watching a bunch of them you will be on your way to enjoy a confident and balanced life. Knowing about your own psyche and why you feel the way you do, act and react the way you do and the role of thought, consciousness, conditioning you have received since childhood, your desires, ego and fear will help you to never again think that you must feel this way while you are going through such times in your life relating to relationships and your emotional needs and challenges. I am always a Skype chat away. If you are ok in finances, then go to my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and make an appointment with me for Skype consultation and we will together explore what is that you are going through and get you moving out of the pit you may have found yourself in and find that strong and confident outlook in life. Otherwise, watch the videos and click on the bell so you will be notified when I go live. Be good to yourself always, Mehran Below I attached my standard response to all new friends who happened to stumble on my channel! :) It contains some information in regards to my live talks, how to join in when I have a live talk on TH-cam and where to see my site and one on one Skype consultation packages. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page: facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know which country you are watching the videos from and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran P.S. How to join the live talks: You can join my live talks on Vancouver ( Pacific ) Time zone), Always on TH-cam channel: th-cam.com/users/MD007ish or On some days of the week ( Same Time Zone) on my Facebook page: This is how the post looks like for the Live Talk on Saturdays or Sundays which I will post it on my FB page: (facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/) a day or a few hours or minutes prior to the Live Talk: LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life. With Mehran D (Author) Unlock Your Mind & Move On! (Today or the day of the week) 11.30 AM Vancouver time (Pacific), 2.30 PM (Atlantic), 12.30 after midnight (India) Right here on this link: th-cam.com/users/MD007ish www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com For Skype consultation: If you would like us to address the certain specific situation you might be faced with, then please visit my site www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com and click on the " Talk to me for consultation " button and see which one of the appointment options are suitable to your needs. I will receive the request through the system and will confirm one of the 3 time and date choices you may choose and will confirm it through e-mail or the Skype address of yours.
Just wanted to give a special thanks to you, for your videos Mr. Dadbeh. You seem like a very kind man, and your videos are really helping me get through a super tough time. My cold keeps returning, and I keep recovering... and it keeps coming back.lol And it's just really difficult. But I know eventually I won't catch anything more after a while. And I'll fully recover. It's just a very, very painful process. Thanks so much for all you do/speak about in your videos. It's a big help.
Dear Jenn, Thank you for your kind comments. I am glad they are helpful. Yes they will eventually come to end and no more cold ! :) in the meantime remember to do all the positive activities you need to do and don't stop your day to day duties and responsibilities and know for sure that everything in this life ( world ) has a duration and this too will meet the end of it's duration and you will be free :) Enjoy getting to know other pebbles in the meantime ! :)
EILEEN WALKER Dear Eileen, You are welcomed dear. I am happy that the videos are helpful to you. Keep going forward. Be active to your fitness level, mingle with positive and productive people, enjoy doing your normal day to day duties and responsibilities, this too will pass and you will be as good as new, I am certain of that. Eat good food, drink good water,sleep enough and understand that life is much bigger than one person or one relationship and it has lot more to offer :) Enjoy watching these if you have not already : th-cam.com/video/K0tbb64mPko/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/fsijLzDK3tA/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/L_TGS96y8gA/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/RYEdB5jkRew/w-d-xo.html
You were exactly on target concerning this top. It had to me. I was alright. Thank you for the word of encouragement. Looking forward to hearing from you. You really help me.
I received the message you sent to me. I am learning how to learn from decisions and relationships in my life some time you do have to look back at past relationships to find out if they are worthy of holding on too. Also let the other person know you are not in the relationship to bow down to them because of money or because their education. You have to let some people know you have morals and integrity. Sometime you go back to let them know you have changed and you can see they have not. If they are not willing to except you have changed I have to cut them off. If it is the will of God. I am a believer and I believe that all things work together for the good for all those who are called for the purpose of God and He wants the best for all of this people. It hurt but we must learn to go forward until we reach our destiny.
How are you I have not heard from you for a long time. I am really learning who I am. Thru my church and others I associate with. They are more positive people.
Thanks for your videos sir. My girlfriend broke up with me 3 months ago and it's been hard. But your videos bring me some sense of solace and I know I'll be alright in the end. Keep up the great work my friend
Glad that the videos are helpful to you. Participate in my live talks, click on the bell to be notified and ask your questions at the live talk. Promote the channel as you can! :)
For me, after a 20 year marriage not only do I have the loss of my house and my wife, I may end up moving back to the midwest which also means finding a new job. My whole life has been uprooted with an unclear outcome. For someone who likes routine and “normalcy” this is really, really hard. I feel like a pin ball being slapped around not knowing what’s next. What I do know is this: I’m going to push past this and get better. It might be a slow and ugly process but it will get better. I think the quote is: “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”.
I am proud of you and your maturity in what life is and how to bend it rather than letting it break you. You are bigger than life's challenges as this is the only way. Patience, pondering, balance and perseverance will bring the results you expect and the outcome will be in favour of you even though if it does not look like it will ever be now! Focus on your children if you have any and be the best father you can be for them, time will reward you! We have live stream on Saturdays at 1 PM Vancouver time and again at 9 PM Vancouver time. You are welcomed to join us. Let me know your age and which country you are watching the videos from. Click on the subscribe button and the bell so hopefully you will be notified ( by TH-cam) when I go live!
thank you. I am at peace and happy. you should talk about noticing signs this relationship is not going to last. as it did to me, I just blow it off as nothing.
Yes sometimes partners milk it as long as it is possible and ignore any signs of incompatibility, division or trouble. This is often due to having become used to the order of things and the "benefits" ( companionship, economics comfort, service, convenience ..... ) of the relationship including and possibly specially the pleasure of intimacy.
I sort of disagree with you a little bit about being in a "short term" relationship and still keeping in contact vs a "long term" relationship. My relationship ended about a year and a half in, we were working towards long term when obviously things changed and I felt this deep connection with this person, no matter what I will always love and care for this person, no matter what if they need help with anything and I am available to help, I will. What makes the value of the short term relationship any less valuable than a long term one of long term was the goal in the first place? In terms of keeping in contact...
Hello, Thank you for your videos, I am struggling at the moment after a 8month relationship. Suddenly things changed, he was always so pleased to be in the relationship proclaimed how wonderful we were together and I felt that too, I thought it was very special. Suddenly within about 2 week he changed,he ended it with no reason, he seemed the same, then just gone, I heard from him everyday for all this time, believing we had something lovely. Now I dont recognize what has happened and how can he be the same person, it cant have been what I thought or he would not have just gone. Wondering wether it was all false and not able to believe that either. Struggling with no answers. Thank you for your videos x
StrawberryFlower2009 Don't look for answers, it does not matter what the reason was or if there was any reason. Just know that it was not normal of some one to behave in this way. So good to know now than later. Just move on and don't look for answers or why this or why that. We don't ask why a donkey pee in the street, because it is a donkey and that is his behaviour but has no logical reason for it so simply don't look for a reason and see it as his bad behaviour as a donkey or other humans or animals do obnoxiois things and we need no answer to why they did or behaved this way, we just move on and distance ourselves from their behaviour. :) There is nothing wrong with you and that is not your problem, you are not responsible for other people's problems or behaviour dear.
Thank you so much for your reply! I really needed to hear this. Much thanks to you, your videos are really helping me, and you are right I cant spend my time trying to figure it out, I have nothing to go off except memories, and I feel like I am trying to solve a puzzle with pieces missing. Thank you again x :)
I am glad you find them helpful Luciano. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
Dear Mast, Thank you for your comment and I am glad that you have been enjoying the videos and that they have been helpful. I have uploaded a new segment in respond to your question/ comment and I hope it will bring more assurances and tranquility to your day or night and clear up your head a little bit more. Please let me know your age and the area from which you are watching my channel. I also like to ask you if I may use your first name when I use your comment as the question to the response I will give in the book I am writing. With warm regards, Mehran
Thank you for the respond. I am 25 and my relationship was for about 4 years. The biggest problem is that it is really difficult to go on... and when I say go on, I mean for everything! University, job and life. Trying but.... Call me Dimitri and I am from Greece. :)
Mast Orakos hi Dimitri, my Skype is md.trading1 in the mean time please watch the following segments : th-cam.com/video/sMUeBw3xYLc/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/guMDhsmVNHA/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/r2zc7ooY8s0/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/psQNy7DYeJ4/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/dSxNnEso8eM/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/aBWe5ewZ4H4/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/AexOYlUPrgc/w-d-xo.html
HI ,Thank you for your videos its really helping me to understand what's going on in my head after brake up, and that my ego what's hurt more than anything else , my unfulfilled dreams what actually wasn't reality. I start to deal with it now....but I hawed some questions about people around ,like his family and friends. I don't feel comfortable to see them because it calls back all the memories, because I had an issue with his family, his mother wanted to get involved too much's , not giving me space with raising our son, she just derived me crazy and made me feel like I m not enough good mother....she would want get involved in every decision, and Is hard because we where different nationality's and I had different thoughts how to raise my son and also first time mother ,even I do mistakes I wanted to do my own mistakes and learn from it......But the big question is what to do now, She wants to stay friends (She is saying because of my son)Wouldn't mind that, but I know she wants to be in controlee of his life, like she did with his son, but I don't want that. So by staying close friends I feel that it will happen again. And the fact I'm away from my country and my family.Zanda
Zanda I understand what you mean but I need lot more info to be able to attempt an elaborate advice. If you can make her understand that you will be fine with her to stay friends for the benefit of your son to interact with grand parents... but your motherhood and final say and preferences must be observed and respected. Consultation and help is welcomed but domination and control is not. Hope this will do for now and if more discussion is necessary then I would suggest for you to visit my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and schedule a Skype consultation as I have no idea when and which time slots are open for a discussion as all my appointments are done through the system automatically. Be good to yourself always. Mehran
Thank you weary much for you're reply, this situation is really bothering me, because I feel week and don't want hurt anyone's feelings, just want to live and make my one mistake and I hope I will get chance to schedule a consultation with You Mr.Mehran Again thank you for your reply.Zanda
Ok dear. in the meantime relax and try to allow family to help if you needed it and according to your needs. let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age group you belong to. With regards, Mehran
This is my exact situation.. I do have a question... We have been together 3 years and been apart one year but we have been seeing each other once a month, keeping each other a company. I decided to cut it off because he doesn't want to be committed but says he's in love with me and wants to be close. When he says that makes me sad because I love him so much... So what am I to do?? I want to date others but somehow I always want him and think of him knowing he just "uses" me when he's lonely..
Hello Nerma, do what makes you happy. Communicate your feelings to him clearly and then see what decision is in harmony with what you feel and make your decision logically.
My relationship was three years old and she broke up with me ,started seeing a new guy already, it has been difficult because we are in the same school,same area, and same house complex. It been too hard for me to move on try moving but keep on getting back.. .. When am nice to her sometimes she said I still do love u blah blah blah.. But am tired with the emotional pains. Am happy for your video it has help me so much,even though am struggling with the letting go part it hard ...
Don't wait for her to make a decision of being nice to you or come back to you and anything like that, you make the decision that you do not find her qualified any more and you carry on with your life knowing that whatever she could offer you is available through other relationship with other women and there is nothing unique about her any more. It is just the time and energy you invested in her that you are following and the idea that somebody else might seem better than you now that she is going out with that someone else! But that is not true, if she changes her mind on something, that something does not become less and if she chooses something that something does not become more, it is all the illusions and ideas that you have because of how we have always been compared with others in life since childhood and now you think that someone's choices have anything to do with your worth and value, IT DOES NOT. Move on it is not difficult once you see it clear that she is just a woman and nothing more, she is not a solution to your life, she does not pay the rent, she does not bring food, she does not help you learn your studies, she does not build your future, she does not bring your salary when you get a job, she is just a relationship, pleasure, sex...and nothing more. You can have all this and more with someone more suitable when the time comes and you get to know that new person. Stop seeing her as someone better than you, she is not, only your desire for intimacy and feeling to be more than you make you think that she is. It is all you and if you are whatever you are is because of the way you think and not because of her choosing you or not choosing you. Now you see her as "all that she is" and "all that she is not" and simply move on and build your life and prepare for the next girl that you will meet and have a great time and life and connection with that one. :)
My story is quite complicated, but I only struggle with one thing. My ex broke up with me a year ago, since then she would contact me from time to time trying to small talk and then she would disappear again for a month or two. I never wrote her first and I never begged or cried so she would take me back. I don't have a problem not talking to her, but I do have a problem stalking her social media everyday, it turned out to be a normal routine which sometimes would ruin my day and bring up many questions in my mind that I don't really need the answer to. I unfollowed her on Facebook and unfriended her on instagram, but her profile on Instagram is public so I end up watching her pictures,comments,likes. She is dating a new guy as well. Its so hard for me not to check up on her even tho I don't want her back. I try to move on and do things to improve myself, but when I see a picture of them or anything on her profile I get this anxiety inside my chest and it really ruins my mood and my day. The only way for me is to man up and block her everywhere, I know that, but I'm more curious why its hard for me to move on, why am I searching for new questions about the past that I can't have the answer to, or don't want the answer because it might be too painful and destructive for me? Human mind is really interesting and weird in its own ways. I love your videos mister Mehran, you talk in calm and positive vibe! Thank you for your effort to try and help people!
1- It is hard for you to move on and not check her page any more because you have been doing it so often that it has now become part of the order of your day to day life, you have condition yourself to do this and strengthened the bridges between the neurones and created a certain level of expertise in doing that and the more you do it the more you feel bad if you don't do it as if you become addicted to doing this! So just bloody stop doing this shit. :) th-cam.com/video/UvUTJBp5_CI/w-d-xo.html 2- You go into your memory look for the one that you used to be with and both liked each other and that gives you that certain illusive psychological security that you can not find by considering her as she is today so you go into your memory to find that version of her when in the past you liked and things ( her character...) was to your liking. 3-She is the last girl you slept with that you actually liked/ loved and since then even if you have slept with any other girl you still will have your ex's pictorial files come up when you think of someone that you want to have sex with and that needs to be updated with how she is today and how she behaves today and what she is engaged in doing today and how much you dislike her because of it. By seeing her as she really is today you will stop seeing her with the eye of the past and will begin to see her as she is today and not as she used to be when you two were together and things were good. So your affinity to follow her on her FB or instagram page is to the old girl which you still think she is. once you begin to see her without the mask you have put on her character by perceiving her from what you have of her in your memory and instead see her as she really is today and how she behaves then you will be free of your perceptions and able to stop this checking on her habit knowing that what you are checking up on is no longer her, you are not actually seeing her, what she does and who she goes out with... this girl today is not that girl that was your gf, so you do not need to check on her as the one you liked is still as it was when she was who you knew her to be and that was only special to you and for you at that time of her life and then. That girl no longer exist today so no need to see how she is doing as she is not the one you used to know! She may look similar or the same but her consciousness, behaviour, how she has evolved to be is no longer your ex, so don't be sensitive about her or seeing her with any one else as whom ever you see and whatever she does is not done by the girl you used to go out with and if you can see this then you will not feel anxious or pissed if you see any picture of hers doing whatever the heck she does as this girl is not the girl you used to know. Relax and go on with your life and drop this nonsense, life is much bigger than one relationship or one woman. Go on and enjoy your life , every minute of it. :) th-cam.com/video/PC262p7zzew/w-d-xo.html Be good to yourself always, Mehran
I watched the videos you posted in your comment and they should help me with my last thing that I struggle with. When i started to watch your videos I had many issues and I couldn't change everything over night, but I really managed to best myself and become better in the ways that i needed to, all thanks to you! This was the only thing that I struggled with, the bitter sweet memories that pulled me back to her. I am confident that I'll move forward and overcome this issue as well. Thank you again and I wish you all the best and I hope one day your TH-cam channel gets a lot more views and attention that it deserves, because all the information you share is so important and valuable, its pure gold! :)
Good glad the videos have been helpful and doing what they have been designed to do. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran P.S. How to join the live talks: You can join my live talks on TH-cam th-cam.com/users/MD007ish or on my Fb Page: facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ This is how the post looks like for the Live Talks which I will post it on my FB page: (facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/) a day or a few hours or minutes prior to the Live Talks which could be held either on Face book or TH-cam channel. ( Most often these days will be on TH-cam and the post will provide the link to it: LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life. With Mehran D (Author) Unlock Your Mind & Move On! Vancouver time (Pacific), Right here on this link:: th-cam.com/users/MD007ish Then with some additional information on my site or events www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com
Hello sir. I have the same kind of problem. My ex broke up after 4 years of the relationship.It has been more than a year but m not recovering well yet. My studies are all messed up by this feeling and i cannot see a better future too..even after this much of time it was very hard for me, so i called and met her a week before which caused me more pain. today i got to know that she is seeing a new guy who is more successful than me. i just want to get recovered from this mental and make my future but i am not being able to concentrate on my studies because of this matter. please help me.
I am glad you find them helpful Alfred. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran P.S. How to join the live talks: You can join my live talks on TH-cam th-cam.com/users/MD007ish or on my Fb Page: facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ This is how the post looks like for the Live Talks which I will post it on my FB page: (facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/) a day or a few hours or minutes prior to the Live Talks which could be held either on Face book or TH-cam channel. ( Most often these days will be on TH-cam and the post will provide the link to it: LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life. With Mehran D (Author) Unlock Your Mind & Move On! Vancouver time (Pacific), Right here on this link:: th-cam.com/users/MD007ish Then with some additional information on my site or events www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com
Sir! Firstly thank you so much for existing your videos are helping me alot but I'm still suffering... there is a girl who left me but i still miss her there is thought that i might forget her in future that scares me. Sir i want you to know my whole story than give me a suggestion if you can please! I think im suffering from nice guy syndrome. This girl whom i was committed with more than a year ,firstly we were friends with benefits but i started having feelings for her our relationship was great we both were forgiving for each other's we used to meet every week. But when we completed our one year anniversary things started changing she keep ignoring me finding reasons to fight...her one dialogue was keep hurting me that she doesn't love me as much i do. I even told her my personal problems that i had with my family how i was dealing with stress but even so her nature for me was not changed, one night she said i can't see future of us together etc bullshit i could not control my self and abused her. But i felt bad next day we meet i beg on her feet to forgive me she said she can forgive but will never come in relationship with me. After that i still try to convinced her but everytime i called her she gave me different excuse before this time in past we also had fight but she never show this side of her that she is happy without me she ,i was begging and she was talkingike nothing happened casually with me.i was depressed i thought talking revage will help me but that didn't also, im confused what should i do now as all day i keep thinking of her and she is living normal happy life without me. In my mind also have a fear that i might forget her in futute that Also scares m! - love from India♥️
You must never ever raise a hand on a woman or abuse her physically or mentally. Make sure this never happens again with any woman ever Ayushman. Now focus on the fact that there is no honour for any man to want to be with a woman who does not want to be with him. So go on living your life, and it is not a sin to forget her and find someone more suitable to you and live your life. Catch me on one of my live streaming and we will talk about it more.
My girl left me after 9 years. We never fought, we got along and had fun on the weekends etc. We moved to Florida not knowing anyone here, once she made new friends, she left me. It seems that she's moved on but it's taking me a lot longer to move on. We have to stay in touch because we own a home (she ileves in it with two of her friends!) I agreed to a buyout but now i feel vindictive and want to tell her to pound salt because i want to sell. But i still love her
Hi Donnie, I understand how you might be feeling about it all. This needs an interactive discussion Donnie. Perhaps it would be good to go on my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and make a Skype chat booking with me and we can explore it in detail one on one and figure out why you feel this way and how best to handle this and move on.
I lost the woman of four years that i loved because i went through a phase where i didnt show as much affection because of slight depression. i was a jerk and she thinks im a totally different person because of 2 months and she thinks ill always be that. i think she is talking to someone else and it hurts so bad. I do love her and it hurts that i cant get the chance to show her what i really am about because she wont give me the time of day. i miss her and constantly want to talk to her but she just gets angry with me because im bothering her. ill give her time and ill try to heal and if its meant to be then she will miss me and come back. it hurts so bad.
Feel you brother, I have kind of the same situation right now, it would be really helpful if you tell me what happened next and how are you feeling now.
clockwrkornge It hurt so bad for months, agony. but eventually you realize that if it didn't work, it didn't work for whatever reason, that you two just weren't on the same page and if it was meant to be, that if it was really a good match then this wouldn't have happened
clockwrkornge In not saying it doesn't hurt sometimes but I really recommend you watch mehran a lot because out of everything I think he helped the most, everything he said was just so true and another wise man told the hardest thing to do is be truly honest with yourself. in my case I had to be honest with myself and dig deep and realize she wasn't the one for me or else it wouldn't have happened. I hope you're doing well man don't tear yourself down. if you need any advice let me know I have a bunch of resources that helped me
jake sanders Thanks a lot, I think one of the toughest thing to me right now is just accepting that she wasn't for me, i still believe in everything I did when we were together, I just can´t accept the fact that she doesn't want to be with me, and sadly I´m still waiting for her to change her mind, the last time I saw her we were supposed to talk and break up for good but after hours of talking about it and getting real close again, we kissed a lot and had sex, she said that she really loved me and that she wanted to get back together again (for the second time in a 3 week period-since it all started) but I told her that it wasn't´t a good idea, that she needed time to get her ideas together, it´s been two weeks since that and I haven´t hear anything from her, I don´t know what to do next or how should I feel.
Thank you for your videos, they are helping me. Short background, my wife of 12yrs left me, i thought it was because we fighting alot, 1 month after seperation i find out she has a boyfriend and she brought our 2 so s to meet him, i see now that she was cheating for a long time...each new information i would find out over the course of 8 months would cut me deep , i would start to feel a little better , then new info i wouls hear would bring me back down..it seems to be these small cuts that hurt the most, then i seem to start the healing again...but now its like im kind of giving up , like it wont ever go away. I could use any wisdom you could share with me. Thank you
+Richard Arocho Why would you want to pay attention to what bothers you, what is not of your approval and what does not meet your standards and requirements in a person? When you can see that what she does ...bothers you , this means that what she does or how ever she lives is not meeting the standards you have for an acceptable ex relationship/ girlfriend which means then let it go and don't spend your time focusing on some one who obviously is not up to your standards, then who cares what she does, let her live her life the way she wants and you focus on building a life that you approve and enjoy and like. Why should you worry about what you do not like or enjoy ? :) That is because you think just because she has chosen to be with some one else then that make that person better than you, and that is just rubbish as your quality and your value or how you are or are made and your standards and qualities does not change due to the choices of some one else ( your ex ). You are you and nothing can bring this quality and value of yours down. So are you telling me that if some one drives a Lamborghini and then due to what ever reason, ( affordability or sophisticated technology of it or the sound of the engine or any thing else ) decides to buy a chevy or a truck or a Hyundai... then that makes the Lamborghini less of a great car that it is ? People's choice has nothing to do with the value of the others and so the same with you, no matter what she does or who she kisses or whatever else , does not in a million years take anything away from you and it only means that she could not handle, appreciate, meet your standards or be qualified to be with you and that is all. So relax and enjoy your life every moment and you and how and who you are is never dependent on who is with whom or any other matter other than your own mentality, life style and contribution to your life and what you do for being a positive member of society and being a good dad for your children and build a good life for yourself and yours ... :)
About every night I watch one of your videos. Helped me a lot and really thank you for that. Although is really difficult for me to forget and let behind my "relationship". How someone stop loving you? How someone tell that the relationship made a circle and there isn't something else to try and give? Do you have an email? Not to disturb you, just for a second opinion! Thank you!
Omg, I m doomed. Everyone is talking in 'months' of not being recovered from break up. I left 2 and half years ago, and still not healed. I met him when I was 20 and I m 39!! After 14 years of marriage I found out so many lies and deception. I can't even afford to divorce him. Just when I think I m moving forward, something pops up in memory and I m back to that shit. I even started study and I enjoy it so much, but it is not a solution. I can feel it. Help!!!!!
hi i was with my wife for 16 years and have 2 kids with her, so how can you just move on.we have been parted for six weeks now, i do not like talking to her as it up sets me. but i have to because of the kids. its so hard to let go when you have kids.
I know how you mean. It is upsetting for sure, specially when you have been a good man, a caring father and a husband doing what you could for the good of your family. These are two videos I made a few years back ( links below) and I am certain that they could be of some help in this part of the journey! :) Hope you will find them helpful. Wishing you a relaxing new year and hope you will be good to yourself always. It will all be ok eventually and you would not even remember how bad you felt, I assure you. Just be patient and adage this chatter of life too! :) Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. With thanks, Mehran th-cam.com/video/w1TcJCTp9FI/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/RQJo8AYNaHs/w-d-xo.html
UK I am my 50s, i think the point i was trying to say is ,in your video you say 3 months is ok if you have been with some one for 4 years so do you think that if you were with some one for 16 years it would take 12 months to get over them are should it be sooner ,what do think. yours steve . happy new year to you also.
Steve there is no precise formula in regards to the length it takes to recover or move on after a breakup. It all depends on how you re-organize you life and able to re-condition your psyche and get used to the new order of things in your new life. You see it is all in our heads, how we react to such situations or developments per our conditioning which has been at work since our infancy.! :) So it takes a bit of deep thinking and ability to understand the relationship between our ego, desire, fears, thoughts and our consciousness and how it has been put together and conditioned and how much of it we are able to catch and notice that it is the conditioning and not necessarily the way it should be or the way we should react to it ( whatever the circumstance maybe). Perhaps if you make some time and watch many more of the videos or even go on my site and see if any of the books I have written ( sample chapter on each book is available on site to read) could be helpful in such understanding of the connections between the components of our psyche and then get the e-book version of it and leisurely when you feel like it spend some time and see if they could be of some help clarifying what is happening with our inner psyche. The two videos I sent you are very simple and they themselves could be of some help without getting into the psyche stuff. With best wishes, This too shall pass Steve and you will be fine as every one else who has experienced such stage of life has come out of it perfectly ok and eventualy found tranquility, new orders and happiness. Be certain of that! :)
Doctor you are really good. To be honest I feel the pain leaving me pretty fast. 3 weeks ago I could barely breathe without a half bottle of whiskey in my stomache. Now I am already eating better, sleeping better, and to be transparent I think I am already falling in love with a Woman that is 10 times better than the one that dumped me (well I dumped her 3 times before, but she got the final dump).
Hello JT, delighted to hear that you are good again and seeing clear :) and that the videos are helpful to you. You are not hurt by her not being with you, you were hurt because of your position you had created by having had broken up with her previously in 3 different occasions and got used to having that image and now focusing on how can a woman that I did not want and broke up with so many times, breaking up with me! It's like a bit of an Ego hurt than anything else, certainly a relationship that you turned down few times before does not seem to be offering anything that you should feel disappointed if it finally has freed you from being involved in it. All the reasons that caused you to break up with her previously still exists so your feelings of hurt was not like as if she was great and you miss the quality, but only that you missed your image of you as you had it in your mind about you and shocked by that order that was formed through that image of you in your mind now being changed! So move on as you have nothing interesting to look back or miss! :) By the way JT, I am not a doctor, my research is elaborate and deep in such matters of movement of mind and the ingredients of our psyche and how they affect our centre, our persona, our life, but I am not a doctor of any kind! :) So there would be no misunderstanding. Here is my standard info for the new subscribers to my channel JT. There are over 1,200 videos on my channel now and I am certain that they will be helpful beyond expectations! :) The secret to manage a break-up and to be able to move on to a happy life is to understand how you are put together and why you feel, act and react the way you do in life. Such knowledge is provided on this channel through numerous discussions ( in videos ), or when live streaming and exploring people's questions and concerns after a breakup, from around the world. You will be perfectly fine once you get to know yourself a lot better! :) Hope you have subscribed and clicked on the bell so you will be notified when I go live. Below is my standard E-mail respond which contains some information in regards to my live talks, how to join in when I have a live talk on TH-cam and where to see my site and one on one Skype consultation packages. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page: facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know which country you are watching the videos from and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran P.S. How to join the live talks: You can join my live talks on Vancouver ( Pacific ) Time zone), Always on TH-cam channel: th-cam.com/users/MD007ish or On some days of the week ( Same Time Zone) on my Facebook page: This is how the post looks like for the Live Talk on Saturdays or Sundays which I will post it on my FB page: (facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/) a day or a few hours or minutes prior to the Live Talk: LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life. With Mehran D (Author) Unlock Your Mind & Move On! Usually on Friday, Saturday and Sunday 11.30 AM Vancouver time (Pacific), 2.30 PM (Atlantic), 12.30 after midnight (India), (but it could be earlier in the day), Right here on this link: th-cam.com/users/MD007ish www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com For Skype consultation: If you would like us to address the certain specific situation you might be faced with, then please visit my site www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com and click on the " Talk to me for consultation " button and see which one of the appointment options are suitable to your needs. I will receive the request through the system and will confirm one of the 3 time and date choices you may choose and will confirm it through e-mail or the Skype address of yours.
@@MehranDadbeh Senor (I dont know what to address you as if no doctor), You are AWESOME. Many thanks. Now I feel guilty (being raised Catholic) that I have the right to fall in again so fast with a Super Woman that is a Doctor and looks like Jay Lo. Blessings to you sir for your service to humanity.
@@MehranDadbeh Oh well I have a dear friend who is my Motorcycle Gang club and he is a psychiatrist and after my own mother (who is a licensed nurse) also said maybe I need some anti-depressants. Well I spent 48 hours on Cymbalta - so well that lasted 2 days and I got the hell off of that vile recommendation. So I am doing the 4 ways to progress: 1) strenuous physical exercise, 2) surrounding myself with friends and family, 3) drinking lots of vodka or whiskey and 4) dating again - I have gone so far thru at least 300 women with "likes" down to one actually. Respect.
@@jtoneal3344 LOL, all is good but the drinking too much part. Exercise is awesome, eating right and dating are all good but date with good and positive women to enjoy the experience rather than possibly adding to unnecessary stress. Everything in moderation and not extream. Otherwise keep up the exercise, some Brazilian nuts and good water hydration and sleep well and be balanced. You are what gave value to that ex and not she was not valuable on her own, so give this value and attention to another as you are the architect of your happiness and it is definitely your worth and value is not up to her or anyone else by giving you their attention, body or thoughts before you feel good about yourself. It is all in you by you and for you, you are it. So respect yourself and live positively and be appreciative to yourself, be aware of your independence as far as your confidence and worth and value go. Respect others but respect yourself as well it is all centred around your conditioning, your consciousness and how you think!
Thank you for putting out these great videos, you mentioned if their relationship was meant to be that they would still be together so how do you explain people who end up getting back together??
Hello Emma, yes they do sometimes get back together and that is because they communicate and resolve their concerns and try to make it work but after having done all that and then they see it does not work or one of them decides that it is not working for him/her then it is concluded that if it was meant to be it would have worked and they would be still together. One does try to resolve issues through communication and twiging things and yet if it does not work then life goes on and it is not the end of life . Life can not be summed up in one relationship as it has lot more to offer. So let see what other experiences are coming our way and try to learn from the past experiences and make betfer selection and see how best we can interact and build new experiences when one relationship is no longer salvagable! We can not be stagnated and yet still feel alive and building fresh. Life is a movemen and we must try to move with it as much as possible as nothing is changed without movement and with stagnation. we must create energy and movement and flow to fuel life to advance through life and not so easily for a relationship that stopped being a positive experience stop our movement with life. Be good to yourself always , Mehran
11 years for me. 2 months into life post breakup. Horrific. Worse thing is my ex shrugged it off and said “you’ll get over it, you don’t know you might find some else in 6 months”. I found that disrespectful. She’s no Clue, never been dumped herself.
11 years is too too long to be still struggling with a break up "airIndiana", it is just not right. Why? no one can be of that importance or be that precious, to be missed just because she broke up with you. It is something that you have to make a decision on and move on with your life. No one is that important to be able to keep you where you are for so long. See it clear and wake up and move on, your life worth a lot more and has a lot more to offer you than what you may think it does. Think it through and sort it out and just move on and be happy. Be good to yourself always. With kind regards Mehran
Break Up Cures & You Break Up Cures & You thanks so much for the reply. It’s my poor explanation, the rele was 11 years long not 11 years since we broke up. Its been 2 months since I was dumped. Feel really bad. Thanks for the supporting words, I’ll keep them in mind.
LOL ok, that makes more sense. So it is not too late and you can get back to your life and build a good one and don't get stuck in the past relationship and move on. No such things are ever worth losing your precious day to day life quality. So do not let it be that way and remember how silly and unreasonable you thought it would be if you had lost 11 years struggling after a breakup so it will feel the same later on when you are no longer stuck in such feeling of after a breakup So make sure it will not take long as you will never think the sadness was worth it. So now that you know later you will think the sadness was not worth it and you should had recovered and moved on much sooner, then do just that and move on and do your best to move on and enjoy your life as these things are no indication of your worth and value or the quality or your ability to have a good and happy life. So go and make your life full of hope and happy by focusing on life and accomplishing your tasks and plans. :)
Yes you can love her but no longer more than yourself and the children! Be good to her and support her and be the best father you can be for the children and provide for them as best as you can, but build your life and do not beg for her attention. Move on and focus on your life, duties and responsibilities. You will be fine. :)
I am glad you find them helpful Gopal. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran P.S. How to join the live talks: You can join my live talks on Saturdays (At 11.30 AM Vancouver ( Pacific ) Time zone.) on Fb Page: facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ or on Sundays ( Same time ) on Fb Pagefacebook.com/AmazingThingsInTheWorld/ This is how the post looks like for the Live Talk on Saturdays or Sundays which I will post it on my FB page: (facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/) a day or a few hours or minutes prior to the Live Talk: LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life. With Mehran D (Author) Unlock Your Mind & Move On! Sunday 11.30 AM Vancouver time (Pacific), 2.30 PM (Atlantic), 12.30 after midnight (India) Right here on this link: facebook.com/AmazingThingsInTheWorld/ th-cam.com/users/MD007ish www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com
It's been 2 days for me and I'm hurting myself alot because those memories and feelings doesn't leave me and it's becoming harder and harder, I'm not feeling hungry at all , but he's totally fine . I really don't know how bring myself together and I really want to die
You want to die? Are you sure that will solve the problem? How could you even allow such insult to the greatest gift a human being can ever receive ( being born , being aide, living and experiencing, life ) come out of your thoughts girl? :) All these are temporary ( no matter how long it might take) experiences based on some psychological need for security, affirmation, pleasure and nothing else although it might seem everything to you but it is all a need based on your thoughts and not a real threat or an actual survival need! They are just emotions and emotions like water moves and moves away when we stop holding it! Naturally will dissipate. Be patient and don't turn some one from whom you can get some emotion need and pleasure to some god of some kind! :) Many can become an instrument to make you feel the same way (given the same time and circumstances). You have made the guy a significant anomaly while it is what your mind / thoughts has made him to be but in reality of life he is a needy human being who has his own many shortcomings like any one else. Watch this and a few other videos about why you miss your ex and you will be clear as to why you feel the way you do and move on dear. th-cam.com/video/4kSqtW_kgjo/w-d-xo.html
That is what break up makes you feel like. You can always check with your doctor to be sure if your health for good measures while this is how breakup feels like often.
Glad you found what you needed to see. Hope you have subscribed and will join in the live streaming on Saturdays at 1 PM Vancouver time and ask your questions or just watch answer to other questions.
That is not so easy but still needs your attention to facts of the relationship as all the videos explain. Nothing changes when you live together it is just more physically present and challenging as the reference to the way it was is more apparent and recurring. Focus on your life and separate on consciousness level to have your physical body to follow and lose interest in trying to get her back. Focus on the points discussed in how to get over the ex just as if you were not living together but it will throw you a curve ball when she comes home late or goes out.... so best to separate domains as soon as possible to focus on life and a quality relationship after breakup,( if children are involved) otherwise, gear up to go far ( mentally I mean) when you guys start living separately as well as mentally! Bring this topic up at one of the live streamings I have every week ( Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays)
I was feeling like garbage after a 7 year relationship break up. Your videos crack me up with your old school simple comparisons that really makes sense. Thank you. You're like an Uncle with good advice.
Hello Suzanne, I am delighted that the videos have been helpful to you and bring clarity to you, ready to go out there and build your life and happiness to your life through efforts to accomplish yourself and make you proud of you for the way you handle life. :) We often have live talks on YouTUbe and we just had one for 3.5 hours today as well. The next one will be tomorrow around 12.30 Vancouver time zone. Find out the time difference between Vancouver and where you are tuning in from and join in and ask your questions and concerns if you still have any. Here below is some information about how to join in or book a Skype appointment should you need it to find your way and get back to your happy life.
Be good to yourself always, Mehran
How to join the live talks:
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LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life.
With Mehran D (Author)
Unlock Your Mind & Move On!
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Hi Mehran, Last night, in my usual evening of crying I stumbled across your videos. I am a bit older than (much) than some of the people who comment on your videos. I left a year and a half relationship at the end of December and it was not just a relationship, but an emotionally abusive one. I have tried so many things to stop the horrible pain I've been experiencing, but listening to your calm voice and advice has brought a completely new perspective to my situation. Your analagies are wonderful. Although it was just a year and a half, at my age, I actually thought he was the one; I was never more wrong. This time, I picked a full blown narcissist. I keep remembering the fun (which were few and far between). I was devalued and discarded, which is the M.O. of Narcissists. There's fear involved too that I will never find anyone again. People in my age range are boring and most are very old looking. Anyway, I'm alone, found a great apartment that I love, am freelancing since my job was downsized (fear), living off of what I accumulated for retirement and miss my 2 cats I had to leave with him because my place is too small to keep them. A large amount of my things are still there and I haven't yet the funds to have them moved and stored somewhere. So many things are triggers that set me off. Sorry for rambling, but I want you to know that in just a few videos, you have made be start to think differently and I want to thank you for that. I sbscribed to your channel. Regards to you!
Teri Reagan Hi Teri, it is not the end of the world dear, we all have had shit in our lives, bad decisions, challenges, fears and all the rest of it, but life is not limited to any of the problems and it is big enough with all kinds of hopes and possibilities that catapults us far away from the problems when we realize the power life has to offer by the mere existence of possibilities and the fact that life has continued for far worst situations in life and history of man from millions of years ago and yet we are still continuing and our species is here and going forward, so compare to all the real problems, dangers and devastations human being has gone through and still got through it all and is here and going forward then what we are facing is definitely manageable and can do with out it and surely can go forward and build another and a better , far better situation and condition of life and surrounding for ourselves. So dear think of your abilities and possibilities rather than the temporary situation that you need to walk over and pass. I am certain that you can handle this specially at your wise and experienced time of your life. Please watch the following and see if they spark something enjoyable and worthwhile to ponder on. :)and you are welcomed to add me to your Skype and connect with me to chat about it. My Skype address is md.trading1 please let me know where you are watching my channel from and your name dear.
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Mehran Dadbeh . Hi...I Live in New Jersey, near Philadelphia USA, my Name is Teri. Thank you so much for your reply. I am certainly going to watch the videos tonight. Not having much of a social life at the moment, but like you said, I guess there are far worse things that could happen. Will definitely touch base on Skype! Teri
Sure , don't worry about social life as the best and most important is to be able to socialize with life and that includes you yourself , to know your consciousness and how to see life as it's actuality is, and what you like and connection with nature and am sure you know lots to be active in and love doing them. :)
I feel blessed to have met you and for your reply! I didn't think you would answer to me but as I can see you are very humble and the real deal! Thank you a million my friend and I hope I can get over the woman I have loved so much!
You can for sure get over this emotion. These emotions are result of thoughts you have about the image you have created in your mind about yourself being in a relationship with your ex. you are thinking that this image make you more than you are. These emotions are thoughts motivated and you are reacting to the emotions these thoughts create in you. These thoughts come from your memory, the memory of the good and pleasant and pleasurable moments, time and experiences you had with your ex but you need to allow the problems of the relationship to accompany the "lovey dovy" thoughts of the relationship you focus on to come to your focus ( at the same time )as well. However when you watch and understand the videos (Now you have over 900 videos) they will help you move out of these thinkings and understand why you think this way and by understanding it then you will not entertain thoughts as if they mean anything or if they have any power as they are just thoughts, thoughts about pleasure and we all like pleasure and then you miss the pleasure and emotions you had in that relationship and not "the girl" in a relationship that obviously was not working ( hence it is broken up and you guys are no longer together ). Once you understand thoughts can be in different content and carry different images than you perceive them to be then you will be on your way to move on further and enjoy every day free from missing what did not work! :) If you need to talk to me one on one then go to my site www.mindthatsekkstruth.com and make a Skype consultation appointment and we will explore it further. Live your life, don't let your thoughts decide and live your life for you!
Dear Mr. Dadbeh,
I am in the same situation, but it ended after 9 years. I am almost 27, she was my first ever love.
After 3 months now being alone and don't know how to continue my life, sometimes I have terrible thougths...
I threw away all of my interests (sports, watching series, etc), I became a couch potato and eat a lof of junk.
I am thinking about her every minute, seriously, and crying a lot.
1durant1 Com on dear , stop that , that is not becoming of you. We all have emotions and get sad and disappointed , lost girlfriends, cried .... but too much of it simply means we do not have any respect for life, nature, universe as we seem to think of life as something small and unworthy that one person or one relationship could describe the whole life ! :) so what, she does not want to be with you, soooo what, go on and find others who do want to be with you and stop this feeling sorry for yourself thing and get off your ass and treat yourself with respect . So may lovely and wonderful girls/ women in the world, you can get your act together and make something out of yourself and go find new friends and offer something valuable to them which is you and your ability to build a life for them and bring certainty and psychological security to them which is what they all are looking for and find yourself a wonderful girl and enjoy your life. So there is nothing else you should be thinking about. Unless you get off from the couch and stop eating the junk and take good care of yourself, you can not expect to get anything let alone a nice girlfriend. so the question is this, do you prefer to sit on the couch and eat junk and become unhealthy and get no where for sure, or get yourself worthy and build yourself and prepare yourself and your life for the girl who will be looking for you and hopefully you will be ready and not still on the couch as you will then never have a chance to meet her. :)
always keep in your mind your not the only one this happens to everyone keep going find someone better man
It’s normal to feel this way. It gets better in due time trust. Keep yourself busy and focus on yourself. You’ll be okay.
I also came out of a 4 year relationship a few months ago, this and many of your other videos have helped me immeasurably, thank you for making them and putting them out for free.
You are welcomed dear, make sure to visit my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and share it and the videos you like on your social media if you could so others will also get to know about my work :) Be good to yourself , Mehran
Thank you so much for saying this. My ex broke up with me after a 6 year live-in relationship, shed no tears & is already seeing someone else & has cut off contact w/ me. Meanwhile I'm crying daily & people keep telling me to just move on like it's that easy. I wish I didn't have these emotions it's like I'm the one who has to carry this heartbreak. I'm praying time will heal. Thank you for your insight.
nelless813 You are very welcomed dear. Keep your chin up you have lost nothing as it is better to see the length and strength of the commitment now than much later. So consider it your lucky day dear. :)
Go to my face book page " Mind That Seeks Truth " and like it if you wish. I will announce on it when my books will come out too.
All will be fine I am certain of it just keep busy with normal day to day things and associate with positive and active people. Find more and more good and suitable friends and then you will feel much much better. :)
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+Atracción Real yes I'm feeling much better now. I still have moments of loneliness but they don't hit me as hard or last as long. thanks for asking.
Got to the third video and it hit home. I became what he wanted me to be and then he complained that I changed. It was a no win situation and horrible. It's so true how you lose yourself in a relaitonship. Getting back is the hard part especially when you've lost so much more than the relationship. Long story...will have to tell you about it. Nights are the hardest, trying to get back to my normal sleep patterns is hard. Going to make some tea and try to crash. I'll watch the rest tomorrow. Thanks,Teri
Teri Reagan You are no worst than you were before this relationship and you were surviving, so ? nothing major has happened and you are intact back to yourself :) watch the "New order " video th-cam.com/video/QtOhy5Y8uGU/w-d-xo.html ) .
It will make new sense :) good night dear. It will all be just fine and I assure you, you will be better than before when you find yourself again. :)
Dear Mehran
Thank you for this video, I've been married 28 yrs and it has ended 4 months ago
He is overseas working and living.
I'm finding it really hard to come to terms with all of this
What you say makes sense and I hope I will get stronger in time?
I love to watch your videos, you are a very intelligent man and love your quirky way xx
Dear Lainie,
Glad you find the videos helpful. We now have over 1300 videos on this channel and I am certain"CERTAIN" that by watching a bunch of them you will be on your way to enjoy a confident and balanced life. Knowing about your own psyche and why you feel the way you do, act and react the way you do and the role of thought, consciousness, conditioning you have received since childhood, your desires, ego and fear will help you to never again think that you must feel this way while you are going through such times in your life relating to relationships and your emotional needs and challenges. I am always a Skype chat away. If you are ok in finances, then go to my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and make an appointment with me for Skype consultation and we will together explore what is that you are going through and get you moving out of the pit you may have found yourself in and find that strong and confident outlook in life. Otherwise, watch the videos and click on the bell so you will be notified when I go live. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
Below I attached my standard response to all new friends who happened to stumble on my channel! :)
It contains some information in regards to my live talks, how to join in when I have a live talk on TH-cam and where to see my site and one on one Skype consultation packages.
Please feel free to visit and like my FB page: facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know which country you are watching the videos from and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
P.S.
How to join the live talks:
You can join my live talks on Vancouver ( Pacific ) Time zone), Always on TH-cam channel:
th-cam.com/users/MD007ish
or
On some days of the week ( Same Time Zone) on my Facebook page:
This is how the post looks like for the Live Talk on Saturdays or Sundays which I will post it on my FB page: (facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/) a day or a few hours or minutes prior to the Live Talk:
LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life.
With Mehran D (Author)
Unlock Your Mind & Move On!
(Today or the day of the week) 11.30 AM Vancouver time (Pacific), 2.30 PM (Atlantic),
12.30 after midnight (India) Right here on this link:
th-cam.com/users/MD007ish
www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com
For Skype consultation:
If you would like us to address the certain specific situation you might be faced with, then please visit my site www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com and click on the " Talk to me for consultation " button and see which one of the appointment options are suitable to your needs. I will receive the request through the system and will confirm one of the 3 time and date choices you may choose and will confirm it through e-mail or the Skype address of yours.
You are an amazing human being truely blessed with your videos and wisdom.
Just wanted to give a special thanks to you, for your videos Mr. Dadbeh. You seem like a very kind man, and your videos are really helping me get through a super tough time.
My cold keeps returning, and I keep recovering... and it keeps coming back.lol And it's just really difficult. But I know eventually I won't catch anything more after a while. And I'll fully recover. It's just a very, very painful process.
Thanks so much for all you do/speak about in your videos. It's a big help.
Dear Jenn, Thank you for your kind comments. I am glad they are helpful. Yes they will eventually come to end and no more cold ! :) in the meantime remember to do all the positive activities you need to do and don't stop your day to day duties and responsibilities and know for sure that everything in this life ( world ) has a duration and this too will meet the end of it's duration and you will be free :) Enjoy getting to know other pebbles in the meantime ! :)
You are really making me feel better. Thank God for you..
EILEEN WALKER Dear Eileen, You are welcomed dear. I am happy that the videos are helpful to you. Keep going forward. Be active to your fitness level, mingle with positive and productive people, enjoy doing your normal day to day duties and responsibilities, this too will pass and you will be as good as new, I am certain of that. Eat good food, drink good water,sleep enough and understand that life is much bigger than one person or one relationship and it has lot more to offer :)
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You were exactly on target concerning this top. It had to me. I was alright. Thank you for the word of encouragement. Looking forward to hearing from you. You really help me.
I received the message you sent to me. I am learning how to learn from decisions and relationships in my life some time you do have to look back at past relationships to find out if they are worthy of holding on too. Also let the other person know you are not in the relationship to bow down to them because of money or because their education. You have to let some people know you have morals and integrity. Sometime you go back to let them know you have changed and you can see they have not. If they are not willing to except you have changed I have to cut them off. If it is the will of God. I am a believer and I believe that all things work together for the good for all those who are called for the purpose of God and He wants the best for all of this people. It hurt but we must learn to go forward until we reach our destiny.
How are you I have not heard from you for a long time. I am really learning who I am. Thru my church and others I associate with. They are more positive people.
EILEEN WALKER how are you?
Thanks for your videos sir. My girlfriend broke up with me 3 months ago and it's been hard. But your videos bring me some sense of solace and I know I'll be alright in the end. Keep up the great work my friend
Glad that the videos are helpful to you. Participate in my live talks, click on the bell to be notified and ask your questions at the live talk. Promote the channel as you can! :)
For me, after a 20 year marriage not only do I have the loss of my house and my wife, I may end up moving back to the midwest which also means finding a new job. My whole life has been uprooted with an unclear outcome. For someone who likes routine and “normalcy” this is really, really hard. I feel like a pin ball being slapped around not knowing what’s next.
What I do know is this: I’m going to push past this and get better. It might be a slow and ugly process but it will get better.
I think the quote is: “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”.
I am proud of you and your maturity in what life is and how to bend it rather than letting it break you. You are bigger than life's challenges as this is the only way. Patience, pondering, balance and perseverance will bring the results you expect and the outcome will be in favour of you even though if it does not look like it will ever be now! Focus on your children if you have any and be the best father you can be for them, time will reward you!
We have live stream on Saturdays at 1 PM Vancouver time and again at 9 PM Vancouver time. You are welcomed to join us. Let me know your age and which country you are watching the videos from. Click on the subscribe button and the bell so hopefully you will be notified ( by TH-cam) when I go live!
I appreciate for pointing out the reality
I made progress! Haven't cried for a week now! But I am still thinking of her every day and every hour...will it stop by the time?
Thank you so much for doing this videos Sir!!
thank you. I am at peace and happy. you should talk about noticing signs this relationship is not going to last. as it did to me, I just blow it off as nothing.
Yes sometimes partners milk it as long as it is possible and ignore any signs of incompatibility, division or trouble. This is often due to having become used to the order of things and the "benefits" ( companionship, economics comfort, service, convenience ..... ) of the relationship including and possibly specially the pleasure of intimacy.
I sort of disagree with you a little bit about being in a "short term" relationship and still keeping in contact vs a "long term" relationship. My relationship ended about a year and a half in, we were working towards long term when obviously things changed and I felt this deep connection with this person, no matter what I will always love and care for this person, no matter what if they need help with anything and I am available to help, I will. What makes the value of the short term relationship any less valuable than a long term one of long term was the goal in the first place? In terms of keeping in contact...
Hello, Thank you for your videos, I am struggling at the moment after a 8month relationship. Suddenly things changed, he was always so pleased to be in the relationship proclaimed how wonderful we were together and I felt that too, I thought it was very special. Suddenly within about 2 week he changed,he ended it with no reason, he seemed the same, then just gone, I heard from him everyday for all this time, believing we had something lovely. Now I dont recognize what has happened and how can he be the same person, it cant have been what I thought or he would not have just gone. Wondering wether it was all false and not able to believe that either. Struggling with no answers. Thank you for your videos x
StrawberryFlower2009 Don't look for answers, it does not matter what the reason was or if there was any reason. Just know that it was not normal of some one to behave in this way. So good to know now than later. Just move on and don't look for answers or why this or why that. We don't ask why a donkey pee in the street, because it is a donkey and that is his behaviour but has no logical reason for it so simply don't look for a reason and see it as his bad behaviour as a donkey or other humans or animals do obnoxiois things and we need no answer to why they did or behaved this way, we just move on and distance ourselves from their behaviour. :) There is nothing wrong with you and that is not your problem, you are not responsible for other people's problems or behaviour dear.
Thank you so much for your reply! I really needed to hear this. Much thanks to you, your videos are really helping me, and you are right I cant spend my time trying to figure it out, I have nothing to go off except memories, and I feel like I am trying to solve a puzzle with pieces missing. Thank you again x :)
You are amazing and I want to thank you so much.
I am glad you find them helpful Luciano. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
Thank you for this video
Glad the videos are helpful to you Maimouna.
Dear Mast, Thank you for your comment and I am glad that you have been enjoying the videos and that they have been helpful. I have uploaded a new segment in respond to your question/ comment and I hope it will bring more assurances and tranquility to your day or night and clear up your head a little bit more. Please let me know your age and the area from which you are watching my channel. I also like to ask you if I may use your first name when I use your comment as the question to the response I will give in the book I am writing. With warm regards, Mehran
Thank you for the respond. I am 25 and my relationship was for about 4 years.
The biggest problem is that it is really difficult to go on... and when I say go on, I mean for everything! University, job and life. Trying but....
Call me Dimitri and I am from Greece. :)
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HI ,Thank you for your videos its really helping me to understand what's going on in my head after brake up, and that my ego what's hurt more than anything else , my unfulfilled dreams what actually wasn't reality. I start to deal with it now....but I hawed some questions about people around ,like his family and friends. I don't feel comfortable to see them because it calls back all the memories, because I had an issue with his family, his mother wanted to get involved too much's , not giving me space with raising our son, she just derived me crazy and made me feel like I m not enough good mother....she would want get involved in every decision, and Is hard because we where different nationality's and I had different thoughts how to raise my son and also first time mother ,even I do mistakes I wanted to do my own mistakes and learn from it......But the big question is what to do now, She wants to stay friends (She is saying because of my son)Wouldn't mind that, but I know she wants to be in controlee of his life, like she did with his son, but I don't want that. So by staying close friends I feel that it will happen again. And the fact I'm away from my country and my family.Zanda
Zanda I understand what you mean but I need lot more info to be able to attempt an elaborate advice. If you can make her understand that you will be fine with her to stay friends for the benefit of your son to interact with grand parents... but your motherhood and final say and preferences must be observed and respected. Consultation and help is welcomed but domination and control is not.
Hope this will do for now and if more discussion is necessary then I would suggest for you to visit my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and schedule a Skype consultation as I have no idea when and which time slots are open for a discussion as all my appointments are done through the system automatically. Be good to yourself always. Mehran
Thank you weary much for you're reply, this situation is really bothering me, because I feel week and don't want hurt anyone's feelings, just want to live and make my one mistake and I hope I will get chance to schedule a consultation with You Mr.Mehran Again thank you for your reply.Zanda
Ok dear. in the meantime relax and try to allow family to help if you needed it and according to your needs. let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age group you belong to. With regards, Mehran
This is my exact situation.. I do have a question... We have been together 3 years and been apart one year but we have been seeing each other once a month, keeping each other a company. I decided to cut it off because he doesn't want to be committed but says he's in love with me and wants to be close. When he says that makes me sad because I love him so much... So what am I to do?? I want to date others but somehow I always want him and think of him knowing he just "uses" me when he's lonely..
Hello Nerma, do what makes you happy. Communicate your feelings to him clearly and then see what decision is in harmony with what you feel and make your decision logically.
My relationship was three years old and she broke up with me ,started seeing a new guy already, it has been difficult because we are in the same school,same area, and same house complex. It been too hard for me to move on try moving but keep on getting back.. .. When am nice to her sometimes she said I still do love u blah blah blah.. But am tired with the emotional pains.
Am happy for your video it has help me so much,even though am struggling with the letting go part it hard ...
Don't wait for her to make a decision of being nice to you or come back to you and anything like that, you make the decision that you do not find her qualified any more and you carry on with your life knowing that whatever she could offer you is available through other relationship with other women and there is nothing unique about her any more. It is just the time and energy you invested in her that you are following and the idea that somebody else might seem better than you now that she is going out with that someone else! But that is not true, if she changes her mind on something, that something does not become less and if she chooses something that something does not become more, it is all the illusions and ideas that you have because of how we have always been compared with others in life since childhood and now you think that someone's choices have anything to do with your worth and value, IT DOES NOT. Move on it is not difficult once you see it clear that she is just a woman and nothing more, she is not a solution to your life, she does not pay the rent, she does not bring food, she does not help you learn your studies, she does not build your future, she does not bring your salary when you get a job, she is just a relationship, pleasure, sex...and nothing more. You can have all this and more with someone more suitable when the time comes and you get to know that new person. Stop seeing her as someone better than you, she is not, only your desire for intimacy and feeling to be more than you make you think that she is. It is all you and if you are whatever you are is because of the way you think and not because of her choosing you or not choosing you. Now you see her as "all that she is" and "all that she is not" and simply move on and build your life and prepare for the next girl that you will meet and have a great time and life and connection with that one. :)
Good analogy
Great video.
Good video. Felt like it was about my situation.
Glad the video was helpful to you. Mehran
Dear Sir, You are simply awesome.
Thank you , be well, be strong , all will be fine. Mehran :)
My story is quite complicated, but I only struggle with one thing. My ex broke up with me a year ago, since then she would contact me from time to time trying to small talk and then she would disappear again for a month or two. I never wrote her first and I never begged or cried so she would take me back. I don't have a problem not talking to her, but I do have a problem stalking her social media everyday, it turned out to be a normal routine which sometimes would ruin my day and bring up many questions in my mind that I don't really need the answer to. I unfollowed her on Facebook and unfriended her on instagram, but her profile on Instagram is public so I end up watching her pictures,comments,likes. She is dating a new guy as well. Its so hard for me not to check up on her even tho I don't want her back. I try to move on and do things to improve myself, but when I see a picture of them or anything on her profile I get this anxiety inside my chest and it really ruins my mood and my day. The only way for me is to man up and block her everywhere, I know that, but I'm more curious why its hard for me to move on, why am I searching for new questions about the past that I can't have the answer to, or don't want the answer because it might be too painful and destructive for me? Human mind is really interesting and weird in its own ways. I love your videos mister Mehran, you talk in calm and positive vibe! Thank you for your effort to try and help people!
Hello "Game called life" ! :) I will respond later as I am on my way out, but will respond later.
1- It is hard for you to move on and not check her page any more because you have been doing it so often that it has now become part of the order of your day to day life, you have condition yourself to do this and strengthened the bridges between the neurones and created a certain level of expertise in doing that and the more you do it the more you feel bad if you don't do it as if you become addicted to doing this! So just bloody stop doing this shit. :)
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2- You go into your memory look for the one that you used to be with and both liked each other and that gives you that certain illusive psychological security that you can not find by considering her as she is today so you go into your memory to find that version of her when in the past you liked and things ( her character...) was to your liking.
3-She is the last girl you slept with that you actually liked/ loved and since then even if you have slept with any other girl you still will have your ex's pictorial files come up when you think of someone that you want to have sex with and that needs to be updated with how she is today and how she behaves today and what she is engaged in doing today and how much you dislike her because of it. By seeing her as she really is today you will stop seeing her with the eye of the past and will begin to see her as she is today and not as she used to be when you two were together and things were good. So your affinity to follow her on her FB or instagram page is to the old girl which you still think she is. once you begin to see her without the mask you have put on her character by perceiving her from what you have of her in your memory and instead see her as she really is today and how she behaves then you will be free of your perceptions and able to stop this checking on her habit knowing that what you are checking up on is no longer her, you are not actually seeing her, what she does and who she goes out with... this girl today is not that girl that was your gf, so you do not need to check on her as the one you liked is still as it was when she was who you knew her to be and that was only special to you and for you at that time of her life and then. That girl no longer exist today so no need to see how she is doing as she is not the one you used to know! She may look similar or the same but her consciousness, behaviour, how she has evolved to be is no longer your ex, so don't be sensitive about her or seeing her with any one else as whom ever you see and whatever she does is not done by the girl you used to go out with and if you can see this then you will not feel anxious or pissed if you see any picture of hers doing whatever the heck she does as this girl is not the girl you used to know. Relax and go on with your life and drop this nonsense, life is much bigger than one relationship or one woman. Go on and enjoy your life , every minute of it. :)
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Be good to yourself always, Mehran
I watched the videos you posted in your comment and they should help me with my last thing that I struggle with. When i started to watch your videos I had many issues and I couldn't change everything over night, but I really managed to best myself and become better in the ways that i needed to, all thanks to you! This was the only thing that I struggled with, the bitter sweet memories that pulled me back to her. I am confident that I'll move forward and overcome this issue as well. Thank you again and I wish you all the best and I hope one day your TH-cam channel gets a lot more views and attention that it deserves, because all the information you share is so important and valuable, its pure gold! :)
Good glad the videos have been helpful and doing what they have been designed to do. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
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I'm 25, watching from Macedonia! I will check everything out for sure!
Thank u soo much im soo happy after seeing ur video i lost my depression
Delighted to hear that :)
thank you Mr.dadbeh !
You are welcomed dear :)
Hello sir. I have the same kind of problem. My ex broke up after 4 years of the relationship.It has been more than a year but m not recovering well yet. My studies are all messed up by this feeling and i cannot see a better future too..even after this much of time it was very hard for me, so i called and met her a week before which caused me more pain. today i got to know that she is seeing a new guy who is more successful than me. i just want to get recovered from this mental and make my future but i am not being able to concentrate on my studies because of this matter. please help me.
How do you feel now?
Thank you so much for your vlogs !
I am glad you find them helpful Alfred. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
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Sir! Firstly thank you so much for existing your videos are helping me alot but I'm still suffering... there is a girl who left me but i still miss her there is thought that i might forget her in future that scares me. Sir i want you to know my whole story than give me a suggestion if you can please!
I think im suffering from nice guy syndrome. This girl whom i was committed with more than a year ,firstly we were friends with benefits but i started having feelings for her our relationship was great we both were forgiving for each other's we used to meet every week. But when we completed our one year anniversary things started changing she keep ignoring me finding reasons to fight...her one dialogue was keep hurting me that she doesn't love me as much i do. I even told her my personal problems that i had with my family how i was dealing with stress but even so her nature for me was not changed, one night she said i can't see future of us together etc bullshit i could not control my self and abused her. But i felt bad next day we meet i beg on her feet to forgive me she said she can forgive but will never come in relationship with me. After that i still try to convinced her but everytime i called her she gave me different excuse before this time in past we also had fight but she never show this side of her that she is happy without me she ,i was begging and she was talkingike nothing happened casually with me.i was depressed i thought talking revage will help me but that didn't also, im confused what should i do now as all day i keep thinking of her and she is living normal happy life without me. In my mind also have a fear that i might forget her in futute that Also scares m!
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You must never ever raise a hand on a woman or abuse her physically or mentally. Make sure this never happens again with any woman ever Ayushman. Now focus on the fact that there is no honour for any man to want to be with a woman who does not want to be with him. So go on living your life, and it is not a sin to forget her and find someone more suitable to you and live your life. Catch me on one of my live streaming and we will talk about it more.
My girl left me after 9 years. We never fought, we got along and had fun on the weekends etc. We moved to Florida not knowing anyone here, once she made new friends, she left me. It seems that she's moved on but it's taking me a lot longer to move on. We have to stay in touch because we own a home (she ileves in it with two of her friends!) I agreed to a buyout but now i feel vindictive and want to tell her to pound salt because i want to sell. But i still love her
Hi Donnie, I understand how you might be feeling about it all. This needs an interactive discussion Donnie. Perhaps it would be good to go on my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and make a Skype chat booking with me and we can explore it in detail one on one and figure out why you feel this way and how best to handle this and move on.
Break-Ups, Life & Your Psyche, Mehran Dadbeh Thank you so much for the reply, i will definitely schedule a Skype with you, i need help.
Bringing up that example: Coming out of a exam, made me laugh, haha. It's probably the most accurate example concerning this topic.
Nice videos, just continue :)
I lost the woman of four years that i loved because i went through a phase where i didnt show as much affection because of slight depression. i was a jerk and she thinks im a totally different person because of 2 months and she thinks ill always be that. i think she is talking to someone else and it hurts so bad. I do love her and it hurts that i cant get the chance to show her what i really am about because she wont give me the time of day. i miss her and constantly want to talk to her but she just gets angry with me because im bothering her. ill give her time and ill try to heal and if its meant to be then she will miss me and come back. it hurts so bad.
Feel you brother, I have kind of the same situation right now, it would be really helpful if you tell me what happened next and how are you feeling now.
clockwrkornge It hurt so bad for months, agony. but eventually you realize that if it didn't work, it didn't work for whatever reason, that you two just weren't on the same page and if it was meant to be, that if it was really a good match then this wouldn't have happened
clockwrkornge In not saying it doesn't hurt sometimes but I really recommend you watch mehran a lot because out of everything I think he helped the most, everything he said was just so true and another wise man told the hardest thing to do is be truly honest with yourself. in my case I had to be honest with myself and dig deep and realize she wasn't the one for me or else it wouldn't have happened. I hope you're doing well man don't tear yourself down. if you need any advice let me know I have a bunch of resources that helped me
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jake sanders Thanks a lot, I think one of the toughest thing to me right now is just accepting that she wasn't for me, i still believe in everything I did when we were together, I just can´t accept the fact that she doesn't want to be with me, and sadly I´m still waiting for her to change her mind, the last time I saw her we were supposed to talk and break up for good but after hours of talking about it and getting real close again, we kissed a lot and had sex, she said that she really loved me and that she wanted to get back together again (for the second time in a 3 week period-since it all started) but I told her that it wasn't´t a good idea, that she needed time to get her ideas together, it´s been two weeks since that and I haven´t hear anything from her, I don´t know what to do next or how should I feel.
Thank you for your videos, they are helping me. Short background, my wife of 12yrs left me, i thought it was because we fighting alot, 1 month after seperation i find out she has a boyfriend and she brought our 2 so s to meet him, i see now that she was cheating for a long time...each new information i would find out over the course of 8 months would cut me deep , i would start to feel a little better , then new info i wouls hear would bring me back down..it seems to be these small cuts that hurt the most, then i seem to start the healing again...but now its like im kind of giving up , like it wont ever go away. I could use any wisdom you could share with me. Thank you
+Richard Arocho Why would you want to pay attention to what bothers you, what is not of your approval and what does not meet your standards and requirements in a person? When you can see that what she does ...bothers you , this means that what she does or how ever she lives is not meeting the standards you have for an acceptable ex relationship/ girlfriend which means then let it go and don't spend your time focusing on some one who obviously is not up to your standards, then who cares what she does, let her live her life the way she wants and you focus on building a life that you approve and enjoy and like. Why should you worry about what you do not like or enjoy ? :) That is because you think just because she has chosen to be with some one else then that make that person better than you, and that is just rubbish as your quality and your value or how you are or are made and your standards and qualities does not change due to the choices of some one else ( your ex ). You are you and nothing can bring this quality and value of yours down. So are you telling me that if some one drives a Lamborghini and then due to what ever reason, ( affordability or sophisticated technology of it or the sound of the engine or any thing else ) decides to buy a chevy or a truck or a Hyundai... then that makes the Lamborghini less of a great car that it is ? People's choice has nothing to do with the value of the others and so the same with you, no matter what she does or who she kisses or whatever else , does not in a million years take anything away from you and it only means that she could not handle, appreciate, meet your standards or be qualified to be with you and that is all. So relax and enjoy your life every moment and you and how and who you are is never dependent on who is with whom or any other matter other than your own mentality, life style and contribution to your life and what you do for being a positive member of society and being a good dad for your children and build a good life for yourself and yours ... :)
About every night I watch one of your videos. Helped me a lot and really thank you for that. Although is really difficult for me to forget and let behind my "relationship". How someone stop loving you? How someone tell that the relationship made a circle and there isn't something else to try and give?
Do you have an email? Not to disturb you, just for a second opinion!
Thank you!
Omg, I m doomed. Everyone is talking in 'months' of not being recovered from break up. I left 2 and half years ago, and still not healed. I met him when I was 20 and I m 39!! After 14 years of marriage I found out so many lies and deception. I can't even afford to divorce him. Just when I think I m moving forward, something pops up in memory and I m back to that shit. I even started study and I enjoy it so much, but it is not a solution. I can feel it. Help!!!!!
hi i was with my wife for 16 years and have 2 kids with her, so how can you just move on.we have been parted for six weeks now, i do not like talking to her as it up sets me. but i have to because of the kids. its so hard to let go when you have kids.
I know how you mean. It is upsetting for sure, specially when you have been a good man, a caring father and a husband doing what you could for the good of your family. These are two videos I made a few years back ( links below) and I am certain that they could be of some help in this part of the journey! :) Hope you will find them helpful. Wishing you a relaxing new year and hope you will be good to yourself always. It will all be ok eventually and you would not even remember how bad you felt, I assure you. Just be patient and adage this chatter of life too! :)
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UK I am my 50s, i think the point i was trying to say is ,in your video you say 3 months is ok if you have been with some one for 4 years so do you think that if you were with some one for 16 years it would take 12 months to get over them are should it be sooner ,what do think.
yours steve . happy new year to you also.
Steve there is no precise formula in regards to the length it takes to recover or move on after a breakup. It all depends on how you re-organize you life and able to re-condition your psyche and get used to the new order of things in your new life. You see it is all in our heads, how we react to such situations or developments per our conditioning which has been at work since our infancy.! :) So it takes a bit of deep thinking and ability to understand the relationship between our ego, desire, fears, thoughts and our consciousness and how it has been put together and conditioned and how much of it we are able to catch and notice that it is the conditioning and not necessarily the way it should be or the way we should react to it ( whatever the circumstance maybe). Perhaps if you make some time and watch many more of the videos or even go on my site and see if any of the books I have written ( sample chapter on each book is available on site to read) could be helpful in such understanding of the connections between the components of our psyche and then get the e-book version of it and leisurely when you feel like it spend some time and see if they could be of some help clarifying what is happening with our inner psyche. The two videos I sent you are very simple and they themselves could be of some help without getting into the psyche stuff.
With best wishes, This too shall pass Steve and you will be fine as every one else who has experienced such stage of life has come out of it perfectly ok and eventualy found tranquility, new orders and happiness. Be certain of that! :)
Doctor you are really good. To be honest I feel the pain leaving me pretty fast. 3 weeks ago I could barely breathe without a half bottle of whiskey in my stomache. Now I am already eating better, sleeping better, and to be transparent I think I am already falling in love with a Woman that is 10 times better than the one that dumped me (well I dumped her 3 times before, but she got the final dump).
Hello JT, delighted to hear that you are good again and seeing clear :) and that the videos are helpful to you. You are not hurt by her not being with you, you were hurt because of your position you had created by having had broken up with her previously in 3 different occasions and got used to having that image and now focusing on how can a woman that I did not want and broke up with so many times, breaking up with me! It's like a bit of an Ego hurt than anything else, certainly a relationship that you turned down few times before does not seem to be offering anything that you should feel disappointed if it finally has freed you from being involved in it. All the reasons that caused you to break up with her previously still exists so your feelings of hurt was not like as if she was great and you miss the quality, but only that you missed your image of you as you had it in your mind about you and shocked by that order that was formed through that image of you in your mind now being changed! So move on as you have nothing interesting to look back or miss! :) By the way JT, I am not a doctor, my research is elaborate and deep in such matters of movement of mind and the ingredients of our psyche and how they affect our centre, our persona, our life, but I am not a doctor of any kind! :) So there would be no misunderstanding.
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@@MehranDadbeh Senor (I dont know what to address you as if no doctor), You are AWESOME. Many thanks. Now I feel guilty (being raised Catholic) that I have the right to fall in again so fast with a Super Woman that is a Doctor and looks like Jay Lo. Blessings to you sir for your service to humanity.
@@jtoneal3344 You are welcomed JT, be good to yourself always and don't drink too much! :)
@@MehranDadbeh Oh well I have a dear friend who is my Motorcycle Gang club and he is a psychiatrist and after my own mother (who is a licensed nurse) also said maybe I need some anti-depressants. Well I spent 48 hours on Cymbalta - so well that lasted 2 days and I got the hell off of that vile recommendation. So I am doing the 4 ways to progress: 1) strenuous physical exercise, 2) surrounding myself with friends and family, 3) drinking lots of vodka or whiskey and 4) dating again - I have gone so far thru at least 300 women with "likes" down to one actually. Respect.
@@jtoneal3344 LOL, all is good but the drinking too much part. Exercise is awesome, eating right and dating are all good but date with good and positive women to enjoy the experience rather than possibly adding to unnecessary stress. Everything in moderation and not extream. Otherwise keep up the exercise, some Brazilian nuts and good water hydration and sleep well and be balanced. You are what gave value to that ex and not she was not valuable on her own, so give this value and attention to another as you are the architect of your happiness and it is definitely your worth and value is not up to her or anyone else by giving you their attention, body or thoughts before you feel good about yourself. It is all in you by you and for you, you are it. So respect yourself and live positively and be appreciative to yourself, be aware of your independence as far as your confidence and worth and value go. Respect others but respect yourself as well it is all centred around your conditioning, your consciousness and how you think!
Thank you for putting out these great videos, you mentioned if their relationship was meant to be that they would still be together so how do you explain people who end up getting back together??
Hello Emma, yes they do sometimes get back together and that is because they communicate and resolve their concerns and try to make it work but after having done all that and then they see it does not work or one of them decides that it is not working for him/her then it is concluded that if it was meant to be it would have worked and they would be still together. One does try to resolve issues through communication and twiging things and yet if it does not work then life goes on and it is not the end of life . Life can not be summed up in one relationship as it has lot more to offer. So let see what other experiences are coming our way and try to learn from the past experiences and make betfer selection and see how best we can interact and build new experiences when one relationship is no longer salvagable! We can not be stagnated and yet still feel alive and building fresh. Life is a movemen and we must try to move with it as much as possible as nothing is changed without movement and with stagnation. we must create energy and movement and flow to fuel life to advance through life and not so easily for a relationship that stopped being a positive experience stop our movement with life. Be good to yourself always , Mehran
11 years for me. 2 months into life post breakup. Horrific. Worse thing is my ex shrugged it off and said “you’ll get over it, you don’t know you might find some else in 6 months”. I found that disrespectful. She’s no Clue, never been dumped herself.
11 years is too too long to be still struggling with a break up "airIndiana", it is just not right. Why? no one can be of that importance or be that precious, to be missed just because she broke up with you. It is something that you have to make a decision on and move on with your life. No one is that important to be able to keep you where you are for so long. See it clear and wake up and move on, your life worth a lot more and has a lot more to offer you than what you may think it does. Think it through and sort it out and just move on and be happy. Be good to yourself always. With kind regards Mehran
Break Up Cures & You Break Up Cures & You thanks so much for the reply. It’s my poor explanation, the rele was 11 years long not 11 years since we broke up. Its been 2 months since I was dumped. Feel really bad. Thanks for the supporting words, I’ll keep them in mind.
LOL ok, that makes more sense. So it is not too late and you can get back to your life and build a good one and don't get stuck in the past relationship and move on. No such things are ever worth losing your precious day to day life quality. So do not let it be that way and remember how silly and unreasonable you thought it would be if you had lost 11 years struggling after a breakup so it will feel the same later on when you are no longer stuck in such feeling of after a breakup
So make sure it will not take long as you will never think the sadness was worth it. So now that you know later you will think the sadness was not worth it and you should had recovered and moved on much sooner, then do just that and move on and do your best to move on and enjoy your life as these things are no indication of your worth and value or the quality or your ability to have a good and happy life. So go and make your life full of hope and happy by focusing on life and accomplishing your tasks and plans. :)
Is it ok to still love my ex partner we have 3 children together and she says she doesn’t love me anymore and we been through so much?
Yes you can love her but no longer more than yourself and the children! Be good to her and support her and be the best father you can be for the children and provide for them as best as you can, but build your life and do not beg for her attention. Move on and focus on your life, duties and responsibilities. You will be fine. :)
thank you sir ..
I am glad you find them helpful Gopal. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
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It's been 2 days for me and I'm hurting myself alot because those memories and feelings doesn't leave me and it's becoming harder and harder, I'm not feeling hungry at all , but he's totally fine . I really don't know how bring myself together and I really want to die
You want to die? Are you sure that will solve the problem? How could you even allow such insult to the greatest gift a human being can ever receive ( being born , being aide, living and experiencing, life ) come out of your thoughts girl? :) All these are temporary ( no matter how long it might take) experiences based on some psychological need for security, affirmation, pleasure and nothing else although it might seem everything to you but it is all a need based on your thoughts and not a real threat or an actual survival need! They are just emotions and emotions like water moves and moves away when we stop holding it! Naturally will dissipate. Be patient and don't turn some one from whom you can get some emotion need and pleasure to some god of some kind! :) Many can become an instrument to make you feel the same way (given the same time and circumstances). You have made the guy a significant anomaly while it is what your mind / thoughts has made him to be but in reality of life he is a needy human being who has his own many shortcomings like any one else. Watch this and a few other videos about why you miss your ex and you will be clear as to why you feel the way you do and move on dear. th-cam.com/video/4kSqtW_kgjo/w-d-xo.html
Is that tea is the reason behind ur smiling face..what kind of tea is that..I want one 😀
Arunesh Srivastava lol, just a regular Asam with kardamom I think.
ordered assam tea ..and a packet of cardamom :P
lol, ok good, now days I drink herbal tea! :)
Then why does my heart feel like it's I'm a million pieces 😢
That is what break up makes you feel like. You can always check with your doctor to be sure if your health for good measures while this is how breakup feels like often.
You save my sanity
Glad you found what you needed to see. Hope you have subscribed and will join in the live streaming on Saturdays at 1 PM Vancouver time and ask your questions or just watch answer to other questions.
How can i get over her if we still live together?
That is not so easy but still needs your attention to facts of the relationship as all the videos explain. Nothing changes when you live together it is just more physically present and challenging as the reference to the way it was is more apparent and recurring. Focus on your life and separate on consciousness level to have your physical body to follow and lose interest in trying to get her back. Focus on the points discussed in how to get over the ex just as if you were not living together but it will throw you a curve ball when she comes home late or goes out.... so best to separate domains as soon as possible to focus on life and a quality relationship after breakup,( if children are involved) otherwise, gear up to go far ( mentally I mean) when you guys start living separately as well as mentally! Bring this topic up at one of the live streamings I have every week ( Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays)
Slowly passing through the shitty river bed haha
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i love you